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Understanding children and teens by Judy BartkowiakApplying the NLP Beliefs of Excellence to ParentingThe NLP Beliefs of Excellence form the basis of Neuro Linguistic Programming and a guide for us as humans to help us live in a positive way. I find them essential as a parent and my first book ‘Be a happier parent with NLP’ goes into these beliefs in much detail along with all the other aspects of NLP that can help us communicate better with our children and teens, understand and support them through life. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonu...2025-08-0616 min
Understanding children and teens by Judy BartkowiakFree promo code for my first audiobook and shout out for reviewers of Early Years book.I want to give you a free promotion code for the audiobook of ‘Understanding children and teens’ and I would be hugely grateful for any parents of early years children, especially any starting reception in September to read even one chapter of my next book - Engaging NLP & EFT for Early Years. News too that the next audiobook will be from my first book ‘Be a happier parent with NLP’ so I’m going to share a chapter from there in my next podcast.Reminding you as well that if you have any bored young athletes a...2025-07-2812 min
Understanding children and teens by Judy BartkowiakFree Promo Code for AudiobookAlthough I’m clearly holding a book, this is a shout out for my first audiobook - ‘Understanding children and teens’. So if you are someone who enjoys listening to books then this is for you.It’s basically the content of the training course I deliver to students and it is essentially the Judy Bartkowiak method of working with children and teens so it is perfect foe anyone working as a professional - coaches, practitioners, counsellors, play and art therapists, social workers, teachers. I think it’s also perfect for the Home Ed market, those work...2025-07-2804 min
Understanding children and teens by Judy BartkowiakWhy does kids' football bring out the worst in parents?Illustration Gus Scott The GuardianThanks for reading Understanding children and teens by Judy Bartkowiak! This post is public so feel free to share it. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit judybart.substack.com/subscribe2025-04-2419 min
Understanding children and teens by Judy BartkowiakMy writing journey.....so far!Sharing my writing journey and decisions about publishing. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit judybart.substack.com/subscribe2025-04-1819 min
Understanding children and teens by Judy BartkowiakHow to give feedback to your children This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit judybart.substack.com/subscribe2025-04-0813 min
Understanding children and teens by Judy BartkowiakSports mindset for young athletesNo-one wins every game, every match, every point. Failure is part of the process of winning. It’s an important part because we learn from it. We learn what to do better next time. We learn about choosing other options, being flexible in our thinking, trying another approach. It makes us work harder, strive more.Through failing and working through it, we get stronger, more resilient, but it isn’t easy, especially when you’re young.Many young athletes want to make their parents proud, impress their coach and have their teammates cheer for them and ce...2025-03-0604 min
Understanding children and teens by Judy BartkowiakAnnouncing the birth of my latest book!I’m reading the Introduction where I ask you to ‘Control your controllables’ because it can be stressful for young athletes to feel responsible for winning when there are so many things you can’t control. I’m also asking you to think about all the benefits you get from your sport - confidence, resilience and managing feedback and emotions. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit judybart.substack.com/subscribe2025-02-2210 min
Understanding children and teens by Judy BartkowiakImprove communication with your child or teen This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit judybart.substack.com/subscribe2024-11-2515 min
Understanding children and teens by Judy BartkowiakExplaining NLP to your child or teenThis is how I explain to children how their mind works! I explain that something happens, which we call the activating event. We then send this through all our neuro - our mind thinks about when this last happened, what they believe about this thing and then what it means for them, their internal representation. Then this is expressed through words and body language - linguistic and this results in a behaviour which is the programme. If we want a different outcome we need to change the processing in our mind. We can control this. This...2024-09-1011 min
Understanding children and teens by Judy BartkowiakTalking about 'back to school' .....again This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit judybart.substack.com/subscribe2024-09-0111 min
Understanding children and teens by Judy BartkowiakArt Therapy for kids and teensI’ve been using creative approaches to understand children and teens and help them express how they feel for many many years. In this podcast I tell you how this started and how it has developed, what it is and what it isn’t. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit judybart.substack.com/subscribe2024-07-0720 min
Understanding children and teens by Judy BartkowiakHow to respond to your child or teen's angry outburstProbably the most useful lesson from my NLP training as a mum - how to better manage my teen's angry outbursts! This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit judybart.substack.com/subscribe2024-03-0617 min
Understanding children and teens by Judy BartkowiakHow can NLP help you with your sport?This is the introduction to NLP for Sport, the 10th book in the Engaging NLP series of workbooks. This book focuses on the sports' mindset and is for children and teens and also for adults. I hope you'll find it helpful for any sport and also for fitness and gym work. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit judybart.substack.com/subscribe2023-10-1808 min
Understanding children and teens by Judy BartkowiakHow does NLP compare with other therapies? This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit judybart.substack.com/subscribe2023-06-2317 min
Understanding children and teens by Judy BartkowiakAn introduction to NLP for parentsHow can NLP help us as parents, what are the concepts from Gestalt, TA, CBT and Jung? This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit judybart.substack.com/subscribe2023-04-2520 min
Understanding children and teens by Judy BartkowiakHow has your own upbringing affected your parenting?An exercise to guide you through journaling on aspects of your own childhood experiences to better understand how that has affected you as a parent. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit judybart.substack.com/subscribe2023-03-2011 min
Understanding children and teens by Judy BartkowiakCoping with overwhelm This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit judybart.substack.com/subscribe2023-03-0312 min
Understanding children and teens by Judy BartkowiakUnderstanding how your child or teen processes This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit judybart.substack.com/subscribe2022-11-2120 min
Understanding children and teens by Judy BartkowiakTake a chance. Make a change. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit judybart.substack.com/subscribe2022-11-0918 min
Understanding children and teens by Judy BartkowiakBack to school for your kinaesthetic child This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit judybart.substack.com/subscribe2022-09-0410 min
Understanding children and teens by Judy BartkowiakWhat if you are already good enough? This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit judybart.substack.com/subscribe2022-07-2308 min
Understanding children and teens by Judy BartkowiakEmpower your kids this summer! This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit judybart.substack.com/subscribe2022-07-1216 min
Understanding children and teens by Judy BartkowiakConfidence for Kids This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit judybart.substack.com/subscribe2022-06-2611 min
Understanding children and teens by Judy BartkowiakCrystals and kids - podcast This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit judybart.substack.com/subscribe2022-06-2416 min
Understanding children and teens by Judy BartkowiakLearning styles and why they matter This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit judybart.substack.com/subscribe2022-05-0117 min
Understanding children and teens by Judy BartkowiakReading a children's story about angerLeo has just joined Dreamland International. He’s angry and feels alone because his family have moved and he has left all his friends. Zafar has been asked to be his buddy and help Leo settle in but he soon gives up because Leo is so angry. He asks his sister Azeezah and her friends Wuraola and Nneka to help. They remember the anchoring technique from a school visit by Judy Bartkowiak(!) (read about it in Queens of Africa Learn Confidence) and teach it to Leo. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss th...2022-02-2113 min
Understanding children and teens by Judy BartkowiakHelping children with their learning struggles This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit judybart.substack.com/subscribe2022-01-2017 min
Understanding children and teens by Judy BartkowiakMore about friendship This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit judybart.substack.com/subscribe2022-01-0912 min
Understanding children and teens by Judy BartkowiakTalking about friends with your children This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit judybart.substack.com/subscribe2021-12-0717 min
Understanding children and teens by Judy BartkowiakWhat if happiness is inside us? This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit judybart.substack.com/subscribe2021-11-0909 min
Understanding children and teens by Judy BartkowiakYou are enough This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit judybart.substack.com/subscribe2021-10-0616 min
Understanding children and teens by Judy BartkowiakWhat do therapists mean by 'trauma'?This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit judybart.substack.com/subscribe2021-09-1519 min
Understanding children and teens by Judy BartkowiakEmbracing failure and vulnerability This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit judybart.substack.com/subscribe2021-09-0313 min
Understanding children and teens by Judy BartkowiakChange is a processContinuing the Logical Levels of Change and how to work with your child to consider making changes in order to fully align themselves to whatever goal they have in mind. Do the exercise on perhaps a minor goal first so they get the idea and then apply it to one that might be more important. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit judybart.substack.com/subscribe2021-07-2415 min
Understanding children and teens by Judy BartkowiakIdentity - who am I?Becoming a parent is a huge change in identity just as children experience changes in their identity as they move through the school years, noticing how their skills develop, how their values become more established and how they become their own person. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit judybart.substack.com/subscribe2021-07-2416 min
Understanding children and teens by Judy BartkowiakHelping children cope with changeDoes your child or teen struggle with change? Do you wonder why one of your children can cope with change and another can’t?Would you like to know some good things to say in these circumstances? This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit judybart.substack.com/subscribe2021-07-0916 min
Understanding children and teens by Judy BartkowiakTwo great exercises to manage low self-esteemWhat is low self-esteem, how do we know when we have it and how can we use simple morning affirmations to start our day in a positive mindset, then track and monitor changes through the day by recognising when we catastrophise, generalise or distort what happens. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit judybart.substack.com/subscribe2021-07-0516 min
Understanding children and teens by Judy BartkowiakNLP Modelling - you already have the skills....Modelling in NLP is the process by which we can acquire new skills either by observing how someone else does them with excellence or how we do it, maybe in another area of our life. It is based on the premise that we already have the skills we need and this is fundamental to how we coach. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit judybart.substack.com/subscribe2021-06-2521 min
Understanding children and teens by Judy BartkowiakIntroduction to NLPApplying NLP to parenting, why learning some NLP tools and techniques can enhance your existing parenting skills. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit judybart.substack.com/subscribe2021-06-0411 min
Understanding children and teens by Judy BartkowiakUsing metaphor to get your children talking about their feelingsChildren find it difficult to explain how they feel yet we want to help them. Learn how to use their imagination and creativity to describe how they feel so you can better help them. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit judybart.substack.com/subscribe2021-04-2813 min
Understanding children and teens by Judy BartkowiakHow to question your thoughts for help with anxietyYour thoughts are not facts yet we react to them as if they are. What if, you took control of them, rather than them taking control of you? This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit judybart.substack.com/subscribe2021-04-2012 min
Understanding children and teens by Judy BartkowiakExam Stress This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit judybart.substack.com/subscribe2021-04-1312 min
The Sue Atkins Parenting Show Podcast SeriesWhy is outdoor play important? Pandemic Parenting: The Pressure-Cooker Effect on Families & How to Ease It Teaching Kids the Mick Jagger Principle: You Can’t Always Get What You Want! Plus Sue is in Conversation with Judy Bartkowiak Author of ‘Empower your Kids! A Coaching Guide for Parents’2021-04-0637 min
The Sue Atkins Parenting ShowWhy is outdoor play important?Pandemic Parenting: The Pressure-Cooker Effect on Families & How to Ease It Teaching Kids the Mick Jagger Principle: You Can’t Always Get What You Want! Plus Sue is in Conversation with Judy Bartkowiak Author of ‘Empower your Kids! A Coaching Guide for Parents’2021-04-0637 min
The ParentverseExpert - Judy Bartkowiak2021-04-0626 min
Understanding children and teens by Judy BartkowiakIf you always do what you've always done, you'll always get what you've always got This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit judybart.substack.com/subscribe2021-03-2515 min
Understanding children and teens by Judy BartkowiakHow to use the Anger Onion exercise with children This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit judybart.substack.com/subscribe2021-03-2411 min
Understanding children and teens by Judy BartkowiakDo you have a child who struggles with sleep issues? This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit judybart.substack.com/subscribe2021-03-1212 min
Understanding children and teens by Judy BartkowiakDo you feel heard? This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit judybart.substack.com/subscribe2021-03-0506 min
Understanding children and teens by Judy BartkowiakHow to have a positive mindset in parenting - applying the NLP beliefs of excellence This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit judybart.substack.com/subscribe2021-02-2513 min
Understanding children and teens by Judy BartkowiakNLP Metaprogrammes - more about how your children process and learn most effectivelyThis is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit judybart.substack.com/subscribe2021-02-2312 min
Understanding children and teens by Judy BartkowiakUnderstand your child's preferred way of communicatingThis extract is taken from ‘Empower your kids! A coaching guide for parents’. You can get your signed copy from the bookshop on my website or from your own bookshop, Amazon or The Book Depository. Look out for the next part which is about the NLP Metaprogrammes which adds a further level of complexity which will be really helpful. Bookshop This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit judybart.substack.com/subscribe2021-02-2209 min
Understanding children and teens by Judy BartkowiakListen to me talking about how I came to write and coachThis is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit judybart.substack.com/subscribe2021-02-1011 min
Understanding children and teens by Judy BartkowiakCan you say 'no'?As women, we find it hard to say ‘no’, don’t we? We want to be helpful, oblige others, be friendly and likeable. We genuinely want to say ‘yes’ but we can end up saying yes yes yes yes until we get overtired, ill, have headaches and maybe end up having to say ‘no’ from a place of weakness simply because we really can’t do whatever it is. What if we developed our ‘inner knowing’ such that we could check in with ourselves and ask the question, “is this something I want to do?”, “is th...2020-10-0706 min
Understanding children and teens by Judy BartkowiakHow to really listenThis is me talking about how to use clean language and why we need to add this tool to our parenting bag of tricks. It comes to an abrupt end as I was on my ‘writing hour’ at the time! I’m not clever enough to do any editing or add to it and in any case I’d really made my main points. One of the things I feel about what I do is to be authentic so here it is warts and all! This is a public episode. If you'd like to...2020-10-0706 min
Understanding children and teens by Judy BartkowiakGoing into school thinking of everything that could go wrongAnother of the NLP metaprogrammes is ‘towards and away from thinking’. When we focus on what we want to happen, what we want more of, how we want to be, this is ‘towards’. If we focus on what we don’t want, what we want less of and how we don’t want to be, this is called ‘away from’. Our mind wants to know what we want and finds it hard when we tell it “I don’t want to be worrying about what other people say”, “I don’t want to feel left out and anxious”. The words it hea...2020-09-2307 min
Understanding children and teens by Judy BartkowiakDo we always need to give our child a choice?You may be familiar with VAK - visual, auditory and kinaesthetic but do you know the NLP metaprogrammes? I’m going to do a series of mini podcasts on them and this is the first - choices and process. Which are you? Which is your child? This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit judybart.substack.com/subscribe2020-09-1704 min
The You, Me & Anxiety Podcast#7 Neuro-Linguistic ProgrammingDon't let the fancy title of this week's podcast put you off! Dan sits down with Judy Bartkowiak, a family-focused therapist who uses a wide range of tools including Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) and Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT). She talks about these two approaches and provides practical, straight forward advice for parents, teenagers and adults when it comes to dealing with anxiety, stress, depression and more.For more information on Judy visit her website: www.nlpfamily.com2019-12-0247 min
NLP Techniques To Help Tweens Become Independent, Responsible & ResourcefulNLP For Tweens is part of the Engaging NLP Series, it is a follow-on from NLP for Children, fitting neatly before the Engaging NLP For Teens workbook. Engaging NLP for tweens covers the key issues and challenges facing 8-12 year olds. Children need to become independent, responsible and resourceful because they spend most of their time away from home and the family. They need to be equipped with confidence, motivation and good communication skills. This book will teach the “tween” NLP techniques to manage: transition into secondary school onset of puberty growth of personal responsibility relationships with boys/girls, schoolwork and...2018-08-1800 min
The NLP View: NLP Techniques To Help Tweens Cope With PubertyNLP For Tweens is part of the Engaging NLP Series, it is a follow-on from NLP for Children, fitting neatly before the Engaging NLP For Teens workbook. Engaging NLP for tweens covers the key issues and challenges facing 8-12 year olds. Children need to become independent, responsible and resourceful because they spend most of their time away from home and the family. They need to be equipped with confidence, motivation and good communication skills. This book will teach the “tween” NLP techniques to manage: transition into secondary school onset of puberty growth of personal responsibility relationships with boys/girls, schoolwork and...2016-12-0300 min
NLP Techniques To Teach Tweens How To EngageNLP For Tweens is part of the Engaging NLP Series, it is a follow-on from NLP for Children, fitting neatly before the Engaging NLP For Teens workbook. Engaging NLP for Tweens covers the key issues and challenges facing 8-12 year olds. Children need to become independent, responsible and resourceful because they spend most of their time away from home and the family. They need to be equipped with confidence, motivation and good communication skills. This book will teach the “tween” NLP techniques to manage: transition into secondary school onset of puberty growth of personal responsibility relationships with boys/girls, schoolwork and...2016-06-1100 min
Life Coach Radio NetworkNIKA ANNON INTERVIEWS JUDY BARTKOWIAK, NLP KIDS COACH & AUTHORCreate Your Bliss w/Nika Annon (www.nikaannon.com) interviews NLP Kids Coach & Author, Judy Bartkowiak. Judy is the Owner of NLP Kids, a specialist coaching company that works with parents, teachers, children and teens to help them be the best they can be. Neuro Linguistic Programming has a number of quick and easy ways to help us understand how we can get a different result and achieve what we want in life. Judy has written a number of books about this subject and a series of accompanying workbooks to enable readers to experience more hands-on learning and application of t...2015-04-1057 min