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Design and ReligionLook for the Helpers 3: Empathic WitnessIn this Look for the Helpers episode, Van and Pastor Nate sit down with researcher and social scientist Julie Krohner, who defines her work simply: helping people cultivate self- and other-empathy. Julie’s premise is: Safety and attention can create transcendence. When order enters the nervous system, it frees cognitive bandwidth. That’s when people feel expansion, unity, and source-connection. It doesn’t require supernatural causation to be sacred. There is only one “you,” and yet you share an emotional life with billions of others. Humans are far more alike than different And it requires...
2026-02-1657 min
What's NextLaunching Our Parents at the End of Their Lives (And Other Thoughts About Navigating the End and Healing)People often don’t realize how large of a stressor it is to help their parents transition at the end of their lives. There is a lot of community support and understanding when caring for children at the beginning of their lives, but not as many support structures for grown children caring for their dying parents. In today’s episode, host Liz Smith is joined in conversation with Karen Salama McCain, the Irish-Egyptian founder of GoHively, which helps implement interventions in healthcare settings, schools, and behavioral health organizations that improve communication and reduce stress.
Karen’s parent...
2022-06-2051 min
In Kind33. How To Release Family Heirlooms and Possessions - Guilt Free!Have you ever tried to get rid of things that someone else gave you? A piece of furniture. Or someone's favorite dishes or ring or artwork. These things carry emotional and energetic weight! This episode packages the most amazing, simple tactics on how to release these things from your life and not only lose the guilt, but gain energy and aliveness in the process! All brought to you eloquently and with a bit of cheek, by Cynthia - a downsizing pro who's learned to show herself and her things empathy while letting them go. Enjoy!
2021-07-271h 06In Kind32. How to Take IMperfect Action, and Own ItPerfectionism got you in its grips? My hand's up! And it's all of us to some extent - in fact this one's born from popular request. But what if we did the opposite? When we aim for imperfection, we get an immediate energy shift and a freedom like no other. This episode is a tactical one to help you approach situations, people and tasks differently. And it's another way to show yourself some empathy and compassion. Do it. Try it. And Enjoy!SHOW NOTES:Marie Forleo - Everything is Figureoutable [go straight...
2021-07-1318 minIn Kind31. Bringing Emotional Release for Men Into the Spotlight, with the Mankind ProjectWhere are we in 2021 on definitions of masculinity? Is there any difference between how men and women 'do' emotional release? Today I'm talking with Boysen Hodgson from the Mankind Project, an international men's community. They train men to be vulnerable, self-empathic and self-reflective. They're normalizing the emotionally intelligent man. We cover everything from 80s movies to women's reactions to men who 'overshare.' This is for anyone who has a man in their life - brother, son, father, partner, friend. It's a conversation that's so overdue, and we're having it! Enjoy. SHOW NOTES:Mankind...
2021-06-221h 03In Kind30. From Suicidal to Self-Love: Reframing I'm Not Enough, with EvanWhat do you do when you believe you're not good enough in ANY aspect of your life? Evan is here to tell you that you're not alone. He shares tons of tactics and practices that have helped him move through suicidal ideation, financial crisis, acceptance of an invalidating father, the death of a stillborn child, addiction, depression and anxiety. Though he still feels the uphill slog of succeeding in his obligations and desires, this is one refreshingly grounded human. Enjoy. SHOW NOTES:How to Win Friends and Influence People, Dale Carnegie (this is where t...
2021-06-081h 05In Kind29. Expert Hour, No Bad Parts! IFS founder Dr. Richard Schwartz Shows Us How to Empathically Lead Our Internal Family of SelvesIn this episode you’ll learn that we all have an entire family interacting inside of us! They are called parts. None of them are bad, and we can learn to become the leader and healer of our Self. Harvard Medical School Psychiatrist, founder of Internal Family Systems (IFS) psychotherapy, and author Dr. Richard Schwartz has decades of evidence to prove that human nature is inherently good. You’ll see how quickly you can access your parts, and develop empathy for them and the roles they play. You may even be able to release a part...
2021-05-251h 12In Kind28. Three Thoughts: How to Get Better at Being a BeginnerBeing a beginner happens ALL the time, whether you're 5 or 95! Beginnings are things like speaking up at a meeting, asking someone on a date, learning how to use new technology, becoming a parent and grieving the loss of a parent. We experience things with a degree of newness any time we don't feel like an expert - which means most of the time! We may feel 100% confident speaking with our team colleagues, and the opposite asking a question in a painting class. Context matters. Learning to be a beginner while showing empathy for yourself is a life skill extraordinaire. He...
2021-02-2323 minIn Kind27. How to Stop Measuring Your Self Worth by Your Productivity, with TessieThis is so common! We've lost touch with our intrinsic value and we look to others to assign value to us. Tessie talks about her own experience of how this fallacy developed, how it can turn into physical illness and depression, and - drum roll... - how the cycle can be broken. She has a few strong tactics to share that anyone can try right now. Wouldn't it be nice to live by your own standards instead of someone else's? There's so much to learn from Tessie. SHOW NOTES:The Gifts of Im...
2021-02-0957 minIn Kind26. Three Thoughts: Happy Birthday In Kind!Today I'm celebrating In Kind's first birthday by reflecting on what I've learned about myself and humanity in the last year. I talk about experimenting with another form of letting go, specifically time. I've been experiencing 'time-free' days lately, and it's been insanely liberating! It's hard to express the depth of my gratitude for the guests, experts and listeners who've been bold enough to have meaningful conversations with me. Thank you for your courage, candor, support, feedback and humor. Cheers to global empathy, and to In Kind's evolution in 2021!
2021-01-2621 minIn Kind25. Expert Hour, Neurotheologist Dr. Andrew Newberg on the Religion-Brain-Empathy ConnectionNeurotheology? That's not a word you hear often. It's an emerging field that studies what's happening in the brain when people are in deep spiritual practice. We know that the more we use certain neural pathways the stronger they get...but studies using brain imaging show that prayer, meditation, mindfulness, and affirmations can change our wiring. It takes awareness and practice. Dr. Newberg says our conscious selves need to help our unconscious brain to shift - it’s a partnership. He gives us two simple, powerful tactics to start (use the Chapters to jump to them), and advises us to “...
2021-01-121h 04In Kind24. Three Thoughts: I Am Becoming - A Self in ReviewWhat do you do every day that lights you up? What pulls you down? If you're like me, you probably have meager accurate awareness of how you actually spend your hours. Instead of focusing on what we failed to do this year, and making the same promises (aka resolutions) next year, we'll look at who we became over the the last twelve months. They key to that is to decide how each of our daily actions makes us feel, and to do more of the ones that make us feel most alive. However 2020 treated you...
2020-12-2923 minIn Kind23. Part II Escaping a Cult at 30, with J.Have you answered the question from last episode - what ratio of who you are is of your own design? Think about it as you listen to J reform her identity in her 30s. She gives us lots of golden nugget resources and tools for anyone - cult or no cult - to learn how to love and empower ourselves. Now...for the escape!SHOW NOTESWorkshops on Relational PowerTake the Risk by Ben CarsonArticle on recognizing signs...
2020-12-2244 minIn Kind22. Escaping a Cult at 30 - Learning to Live as a 'Wordly,' with J.‘Worldlies’ is what the cult calls those who live on the outside. Never feeling like she fit in, and unable to express herself, J erased her identity to survive into her 30s. In Part I, we get into her self-talk, how she developed a fear of being the other woman in her relationships and what it took to finally escape. Having no idea how to live apart from the cult, J’s ability to develop her adult self with empathy and compassion is astounding.[Part II drops next Tuesday]Show NotesTo learn...
2020-12-1541 minIn Kind21. Three Thoughts: Empathy to Action - It Starts with OurselvesDid you know that empathy is a learnable communication skill? It's not a personality trait - something we either have in spades or are void of. To understand and practice meaningful [actionable] empathy, some fog must be lifted. Definitions, semantics and misperceptions of the word have caused confusion and I clear them up today. With a few foundational pieces in place, you'll soon see that empathy isn't only about feelings. It's a powerful compassion tool that you can wield for yourself and others with a little training and practice [even seasoned empaths need practice, daily]. ...
2020-12-0820 minIn Kind20. Living Joyfully On Death Row: Cultivating Self and Other Empathy, with GeorgeWhat would happen if we abandoned the pursuit of happiness, in favor of joy? How are they so different? Artist, author and death row inmate George first came on the show to let go of perfectionism, but we pivoted in the last 60 seconds of our call when he said, "I'm happier now than I've ever been in my life." I asked for elaboration, and received an impassioned essay two weeks in the making titled, The Joy Paradox. In this interview we highlight a few of the aha's, illuminating self and other empathy in new ways. I'm honored t...
2020-11-2641 minIn Kind19. Three Thoughts: Self-Talk, Meet EmpathyDo you recognize when you talk to yourself? If I asked you in a crowded room to raise your hand if you believe you are empathic... would you hesitate? This episode is about the relationship between how you talk to yourself and your capacity for empathy [hint: they are mates for life], and how to get better at both. Nobody is born empathic and we certainly aren't taught to speak to ourselves with loving kindness. But these are learnable communication skills just like any other. When you develop a practice to nurture this partnership, the result is astounding inner...
2020-11-1024 minIn Kind18. An Out of Body Experience Sparks a Spiritual Journey, with KatePerfect timing for this episode. Kate is a deep thinker and a spiritual light. But this was hard-won. Her paranormal encounter was invalidated, and having her truth dismissed became a theme in her life - one that landed her three months in a psych hospital, death threats from angry blog followers, and ultimately her path to a new life as a spiritual healer. If you've been misunderstood (who hasn't?) there's a lot to learn from Kate. And don't miss the intro to shadow work towards the end - I'll be doing her burning ritual on Halloween night. Join me...
2020-10-2750 minIn Kind17. Three Thoughts: Comparison & Ways to Fend It OffCalling out comparison today and exposing it for what it is - an energy-stealing force that has no seat at the empathy table. It’s a Harry Potter boggart-style beast that's fond of bursting out and putting us face to face with our greatest fears. On my path to formalize the construct into a book, I thought it would be useful for you to learn along with me. We ALL spar with comparison but there are ways to wrangle it back into the trunk. This is part one of an ongoing series - much to unpack. Join me to le...
2020-10-1323 minIn Kind16. The Importance of Validating a Child's Feelings, with MinnieMinnie grew up in what she calls a hostile environment, with narcissistic parents incapable of creating a safe or nurturing home. She spent years longing for her mother to take care of her, instead of the other way around. Along the way she learned many techniques to retain her self-worth and to live a happy life. This episode is intensely painful, and a reminder that we are born with an equal chance to have our basic needs met - safety, shelter, love. When one or more is compromised, it’s an uphill battle to establish peace and positivity. What wi...
2020-09-291h 03In Kind15. The Softspoken Badass: Tackling Fears and Uncovering Your Hidden Wisdom, with JeremyDo you know what your hidden wisdom is? Most of us don't. Jeremy is a self-described introverted communicator. Although he's built and sold several businesses, he works with major anxiety around public speaking and being a strong communicator even among peers in the entrepreneurial world. By leaning into his fears and edges, he found a way not only to work on these skills, but to do it while maintaining his soft spoken personality. He didn't become someone else in the process. Instead, he found what he calls hidden wisdom - the special offering we all possess - and kept...
2020-09-1557 minIn Kind14. Expert Hour, Self-Talk Author Dr. Shad Helmstetter on Overcoming 140k No's, Ignoring Second-Hand Self-Talk and Cleaning Your Mental ApartmentHave you ever stopped to listen to the things you say to yourself? Out loud or in our heads, we hear thousands of messages a day and sadly - most of them are hurtful and keep us stuck in our limiting beliefs. Self-talk is one of the main topics on In Kind, and changing it is one of the most powerful things you can do to improve your life. Today you can learn from Dr. Shad, the leading author on self-talk. There are some serious a-ha's in this one. Enjoy and tweet me what you're trying @julieinkind!
2020-08-251h 45In Kind13. A Modern Immigrant's Identity Crisis, Sliding Doors & The Power of a Team Jersey, with NoamNoam is an Israeli born to British parents, living in Silicon Valley. Growing up, he promised himself he'd never live apart from his family. But now his children are born in the US and he finds himself between three cultures - but belonging nowhere. We talk about the irony of how being an 'ungrounded' explorer creates belonging and connectedness for him, and how he's found new avenues to create his own community. If you've ever asked yourself the Who Am I question, Noam's journey will spark your thinking in ways you may not have imagined. Show...
2020-08-181h 21In Kind12. Moving Through a Decade of Imposter Syndrome, with M.This is the most universal of episodes. Who hasn't felt like an imposter? M is a music and orchestra teacher who still feels it heavily in her work after nearly a decade. We talk about one of the cruelest mind tricks of all - believing that we're faking it even in the face of evidence to the contrary. M explains what's working for her as she gets closer to managing it in a healthy way. This episode is for anyone struggling with the feeling that you're not enough, and wanting to place external judgment to the side where it...
2020-08-1157 minIn Kind11. Perfection, Porn Addiction and Positively Reframing Childhood, with TobiTobi felt invisible growing up. He managed his parents’ marital problems as a teen to keep them from divorcing, and his siblings from more chaos. After becoming a father himself and seeing how family patterns played out in his adult life, he went on a knowledge quest to make changes. From Sex Addicts Anonymous (SAA) to Co-Dependents Anonymous (CoDA) and more, he did a ton of work to define his issues and start reframing his past. He learned how to set healthy relational boundaries and that asking for help makes him stronger - not weaker. This is for anyone st...
2020-08-041h 11In Kind10. Expert Hour, Holistic Healer Kacey DeGuardia Leads Us In a Metta-MeditationHow often do you look yourself in the eyes and really see who you are? For most of us, it’s rarely-to-never. Kacey is an incredibly gifted healing force, and today she’s leading us through a reflective practice called metta-meditation. When the goal is self/other empathy, I can’t think of a better way to practice loving kindness than to actually look in the mirror. It’s intense and yes, a bit uncomfortable, but worth every second. I did the practice in her in-person class, first looking at myself, then seated in front of another class member (that I d...
2020-07-2125 minIn Kind9. Breaking a Relationship Addiction with T.T. is in her late 40s, transitioning out of marriage when she meets a guy on a dating app and as she says - kaboom - madly in love. She thinks it’s heading toward a Brady Bunch melding of families but instead one of her older sons saves her life after this new man cheats and gaslights her, then beats her in her own home on Mother’s Day Weekend. She’s here to release herself from the guilt of still being connected with him, and to apologize to her kids for exposing them to it all. She’s made in...
2020-07-141h 23In Kind8. Letting Go of Guilt Around Not Wanting to Be a Mother, with KarenKaren spent years wondering if her ex husband loved her enough to have kids with her, when a suggestion from her gynecologist turned into a wake-up call - "Time to talk about freezing your eggs" she said. And Karen's first thought was, "The cost of that could get me a bunch of trips to new countries I've never visited!" Truth was, Karen had a different trajectory for her life. When it came to having kids, she felt it's not a hell yes, it should be a no. After years of therapy, meditation and pranic healing she stopped listening to...
2020-07-0750 minIn Kind7. Expert Hour, Author Dr. Benjamin Hardy on Why Personality Isn't Permanent, and How to Rewrite (any aspect of) Who You AreI'm fired up to bring you a super fresh expert hour about how personality is fluid, evolves over time and is within our control to change. In fact, we can and must change our personality throughout life in order to become our best self. I've been reading Dr. Benjamin Hardy's writing on Medium for years, and he's now a bestselling author. What I love about him is how he flips the script on old psychological concepts and gives us clear, actionable new ones that help us make massive progress on what we want out of life. The content is...
2020-06-1658 minIn Kind6. Change Your Life's Blueprint with LeeThe 1.5 mile rule, 'learning to read' in her 30s, and forgiving her 20-year-old self for not doing all of it sooner - Lee tells me how it took years to get the courage to leave an amazing husband, house and job when she realized she was living the wrong blueprint. She moved thousands of miles away, lost 85 pounds, did not purchase a TV and is happier now than ever in a tiny studio apartment on the west coast. I was blown away by the simple but incredibly intentional (and often uncomfortable) ways she's decided to live life. Want encouragement...
2020-06-021h 07In Kind5. Expert Hour, Life Coach Stephanie Marino on Whentality Mentality, Should'ing All Over Yourself, How to Drop Into Your Body and Much MoreOnce a month on In Kind, it's Expert Hour. Life Coach Stephanie Marino talks to me about how to challenge a damaging belief system, stop should'ing all over ourselves, and spot a Whentality Mentality. She also shares the details of her spiritual awakening at the age of 17. Show Notes BooksThe Hidden Messages in Water, Masaru EmotoEverything is Figureoutable, Marie ForleoNatural Cures They Don't Want You to Know About, Kevin Trudeau A New Earth: Awakening to Your Life's Purpose, Eckhart TolleThe Empowered Woman Series Book 4, Jolie Dawn/Stephanie Marino et alInfluences
2020-05-191h 13
In Kind4. Thirty Years of Regret About Not Coming Out To Someone I Loved, with WillWill avoided contacting Alta Marjorie Stephenson - a central figure in his life - before she died, for fear she wouldn’t accept him as a gay man. He encourages us not to assume the people we're close to will always be there - better to have some urgency than to go to our own grave carrying a missed opportunity.
2020-04-2841 min
In Kind3. From Regret to Gratitude with Patrick27-year-old Patrick takes us through a painfully embarrassing moment in college when he spoke at a fellow student's memorial service having had too much to drink. He carried assumptions and fear about what people thought of him for 9 years. Today he lets it go, and replaces his hurtful story with one of self-gratitude and love.Show NotesBooks - Jim Dethmer 15 Commitments of Conscious Leadership; Thich Nhat Hanh The Miracle of Mindfulness, Being Peace; Jon Kabat Zinn Full Catastrophe Living; Marie Forleo Everything is Figureoutable; Susan Jeffers Feel the Fear and Do It...
2020-03-0357 min
In Kind2. Navigating Shame with TillieIt's election night, 2016. Tillie sits across from her long-time employers whom she considers friends, when one points at her and blurts out a racist comment. Tillie freezes in the moment, then goes through years of self shame for not responding. Hear how she has learned to grapple with this manipulative emotion, replace it with self love, and come out stronger.Show Notes:Books - Jen Sincero You Are a Badass; Candace Pert Molecules of EmotionPodcasts - The Black Joy Mixtape https://www.instagram.com/blackjoymixtape/?hl=en
2020-02-1151 min
In Kind1. Introducing In KindWelcome to In Kind, where it's my job to help the world scale global empathy. As a social scientist, I'm on a mission to raise emotional issues to the species level by leading guests through the letting go of something they've held inside for years - often decades. Guests experience profound, long-lasting healing, and listeners gain the courage to start their own brave conversations. You'll quickly see that wherever we live, whatever our circumstances, we're all navigating a similar path as humans. Help spark conversations around the world by being part of the movement to scale global empathy.
2020-01-2201 min