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BookBytesSecure Love by Julie MenannoIn this episode of BookBytes, we explore Secure Love: Create a Relationship That Lasts a Lifetime by Julie Menanno. Rooted in attachment theory and emotionally focused therapy, this book offers a transformative framework for building deep, lasting emotional bonds. Whether you’re in a long-term partnership or seeking a secure connection, Menanno provides the tools to break negative patterns and nurture real intimacy.
Key Takeaways – Insights from the Book:
Attachment Styles Shape Relationship Dynamics
• Early childhood experiences with caregivers form internal models of love and safety.
• The four attachment styles—sec...2025-06-0912 min
Coping With GhostingGhosting, Attachment Styles & The Path to Secure Love With Julie MenannoShould you get back together with the person who ghosted you? How can you build a secure relationship after being ghosted? Whether you're dating or single, Julie Menanno, MA, LMFT, LCPC, has answers. Julie is a therapist, author, and creator of The Secure Relationship, a community dedicated to helping people build secure, loving relationships. In this show, she offers powerful insights on building secure relationships after experiencing the pain of ghosting. Discover:• The four attachment styles: anxious, avoidant, disorganized, and secure• Essential inner work for preparing for healthy relationships after being ghosted• Managing triggers after b...2025-04-0650 min
I Do Podcast500: How To Heal Insecure Attachment With Julie Menanno
Joined by special guest, Julie Menanno, our hosts sit down to discuss self-awareness, emotional regulation, and developing a secure relationship with oneself. She emphasizes that attachment wounds manifest through self-abandonment, which leads to unhealthy relational patterns. Healing involves learning to sit with and process difficult emotions rather than seeking external reassurance, shifting from self-protection to self-support. In relationships, individuals must take turns being caregivers for one another, creating an attachment-friendly environment that fosters trust and security.
Listen to learn more about topics like:
Self-Abandonment as the Root Issue
Emotional Processing Over Quick Regulation
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Relationship AdviceHow To Heal Insecure Attachment With Julie MenannoJoined by special guest, Julie Menanno, our hosts sit down to discuss how to heal insecure attachment by focusing on self-awareness, emotional regulation, and developing a secure relationship with oneself. She emphasizes that attachment wounds manifest through self-abandonment, which leads to unhealthy relational patterns. Healing involves learning to sit with and process difficult emotions rather than seeking external reassurance, shifting from self-protection to self-support. In relationships, individuals must take turns being caregivers for one another, creating an attachment-friendly environment that fosters trust and security.Listen to learn more about topics like:
Self-Abandonment as t...2025-03-1258 minRelationship AdviceHow To Heal Insecure Attachment With Julie MenannoJoined by special guest, Julie Menanno, our hosts sit down to discuss how to heal insecure attachment by focusing on self-awareness, emotional regulation, and developing a secure relationship with oneself. She emphasizes that attachment wounds manifest through self-abandonment, which leads to unhealthy relational patterns. Healing involves learning to sit with and process difficult emotions rather than seeking external reassurance, shifting from self-protection to self-support. In relationships, individuals must take turns being caregivers for one another, creating an attachment-friendly environment that fosters trust and security.Listen to learn more about topics like:
Self-Abandonment as t...2025-03-1258 min
Enneagram & Coffee10 Things I Learned from Reading Secure Love by Julie MenannoToday, I'm sharing my top 10 takeaways from Secure Love by Julie Menanno—a powerful book on attachment and breaking negative relationship cycles. We’ve talked about attachment theory before, but this book made it feel so clear, applicable, and even relieving. Think of this episode as us having coffee while I excitedly overshare my favorite insights, from the "goodness of fit" concept to the 80/20 rule for secure relationships. Plus, I explore how attachment connects to the Enneagram and personal growth. Let me know what you think—text the podcast line at 828-338-9127!Call/Text Y...2025-02-2539 min
Enneagram and MarriageBuilding Secure Love: Transforming Attachment Patterns with Julie Menanno, LMFTJoin us for this powerful conversation with Julie Menanno, LMFT (@TheSecureRelationship), whose work has helped millions transform their attachment patterns. From her national bestseller, Secure Love: Create a Relationship That Lasts a Lifetime, to her viral Instagram insights, Julie brings practical wisdom about creating lasting security in relationships via the attachment lens and her emotionally focused therapy couples work. Whether you're navigating anxious or avoidant patterns, or seeking to build deeper trust, this episode offers hope and concrete steps toward secure, lasting connection. Get ready to transform how you love right here! 🌟💫 Watch on YouTube: https://youtu.be/XAn7LnsM0o...2025-02-2445 min
I Don't Think We Talk Enough About...Episode 37 | Relationships: The Mini Edit (with Julie Menanno)Send us a textIn this mini edit from episode 8 with relationship therapist Julie Menanno we dive into what secure love really is and how we can achieve that feeling of safety in our relationships. Julie offers her wonderful expertise to show us all how to feel more secure with tips that will be so helpful for so many. For all show notes and the more in depth chat click here:https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/i-dont-think-we-talk-enough-about/id1749855543?i=10006632811582025-02-2421 min
Couples Therapy In Seven WordsCreating Secure Relationships: An Interview with Julie MenannoHow can EFT and attachment theory help couples develop secure, rewarding, lasting relationships? Our guest in this episode is Julie Menanno, a therapist, author, and Instagram creator with over 1.3 million followers. We talk about how she works with couples, and how Bruce’s seven words (“Be kind, don’t panic, and have faith”) map onto the concepts that guide her work.
Julie’s website is https://www.thesecurerelationship.com/. She can be found on Instagram at @thesecurerelationship.
Do you have ideas for topics or guests for our podcast? Go to https://ctin7.com and send us a messa...2025-02-1443 min
Biohack-itTransform Your Love Life: Expert Couples Therapy Tips from Julie MenannoIn this episode, we explore the intricacies of attachment theory and emotional intimacy with a trailblazing therapist and author Julie Menanno. Julie discusses her insights on relationships, emotional connections, and practical advice for couples and individuals looking to improve their emotional well-being and relationship dynamics.Research shows thatnearly 60% of married peopledescribe their marriage as “unhappy” or “just okay.” Julie Menanno, MA, LMFT, LCPC, is a trailblazing therapist, author, and educator specializing in Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) and attachment theory. As the founder of The Secure Relationship, she has transformed the way we u...2025-02-131h 17
Spiraling Higher92. Julie Menanno: Healing The Anxious-Avoidant Relationship CycleOur most highly anticipated guest from last year finally accepted our DM request to come on the pod and de-mystify the most common (and stressful) relational dynamic: ANXIOUS + AVOIDANT.Watch this episode on YouTube:https://youtu.be/CRxBxInFDfUIf you have ever been in a relationship, or supported someone in one, then you KNOW how distressing it is to deal with feeling like your partner doesn't care about your feelings OR as if their feelings are TOO MUCH. Unfortunately, these two types of people often attract each...2025-02-051h 21
The Learn to Love PodcastEp 150: Secure Love and Attachment Theory with Julie MenannoWhat does attachment theory say about how parents should raise their children? What are our adult attachment needs? How can couples break out of negative communication cycles?
Find out the answer to these questions and more in this week's episode of The Learn to Love Podcast, where your host Zach Beach interviews the therapist and author Julie Menanno on Secure Love and Attachment Theory.
For more on this episode click here: https://www.the-heart-center.com/ep-150-secure-love-and-attachment-theory-with-julie-menanno/
Learn more about your guest below:
Julie Menanno MA, LMFT, LCPC, is a therapist, author, and creator of The Secure Relationship, a community...2025-02-0246 min
From Mrs. to Ms.Ep | 76: Secure the Love: Building Stronger Relationships with Julie MenannoSend us a textOn this episode of From Mrs. to Ms., I’m joined by the incredible Julie Menanno—licensed marriage and family therapist, founder of The Secure Relationship Coaching, and Instagram powerhouse with over a million followers on @TheSecureRelationship. Julie has dedicated her career to helping couples strengthen their bonds through Emotionally Focused Therapy and secure attachment.We dive deep into what inspired Julie to specialize in Attachment Theory and why secure attachment is the foundation for healthy relationships. She breaks down the key traits of secure attachment styles, how to identify them earl...2025-01-2155 min
NotYourOrdinaryPartsS5 Episode 1: The Secure Relationship with Julie Menanno MA, LMFT, LCPCJulie Menanno is a trailblazing therapist, author, educator, a masterful interpreter of Attachment Theory, and an Architect of Emotional Connection who is continually working to bridge the gap between complex psychological concepts and everyday struggles. As a revolutionary force in the world of relationships, Julie’s work has transformed the way we understand emotional intimacy and human connection. Julie is the creator of The Secure Relationship, a platform that has reached millions worldwide, with a mission to dismantle the barriers that keep people from experiencing the joy of deeply connected, secure relationships. Julie’s groundbreaking work reveals the hidden patt...2025-01-171h 16
BizBlendBuilding Secure Connections: Attachment Theory, EFT, and Workplace Harmony with Julie MenannoEpisode Summary:
In this insightful episode, Reema sits down with Julie Menanno , a renowned therapist and author, to explore the transformative power of attachment theory and emotionally focused therapy (EFT). Julie delves into the science behind secure relationships and how understanding attachment styles can enhance both personal and professional connections. The discussion extends to applying EFT principles in workplace settings, fostering emotionally safe environments, and improving team collaboration. Julie also introduces her latest book, "Secure Love", and shares practical tips for nurturing authentic connections in an increasingly digital world. This episode offers a rich blend of psychological...2025-01-1525 min
Ple^sure PrinciplesBuilding Secure and Joyful Connections Through Understanding Attachment Styles and Emotional Vulnerability - Julie MenannoDiscover how understanding attachment styles can reshape your relationships with insights from licensed marriage and family therapist Julie Menanno. Learn how the complexities of anxious and avoidant attachments often fuel repetitive cycles of conflict, and how recognizing these patterns can lead to healthier, more secure connections. Julie sheds light on the emotional turmoil caused by feelings of unsafety, such as invalidation and misunderstanding, and provides guidance on breaking free from these negative loops. We promise to equip you with the tools needed to transform your interactions, not just in romantic partnerships but also in friendships and professional environments.
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Being Well with Forrest Hanson and Dr. Rick HansonAttachment Masterclass: Sue Johnson, Rick Hanson, Julie Mennano, and Elizabeth FerreiraWhy do some people navigate the social world with such ease while others feel like they're swimming upstream? In this special episode of Being Well, Forrest is joined by four leading experts for a masterclass on the science of attachment. Featuring conversations with Dr. Sue Johnson, Dr. Rick Hanson, Julie Mennano, and Elizabeth Ferreira, this carefully curated episode gives you a map to becoming more socially confident, emotionally intelligent, and authentically connected. Topics include:
The four fundamental patterns that influence how we show up in every social interaction.
Dr. Sue Johnson's guide to having deeper, more m...2024-12-232h 01
The Secure Love Podcast with Julie MenannoUnpacking the Journey: A Live Q&A with Melissa, Drew, and JulieIn this special live Q&A episode, Melissa, Drew, and Julie reflect on their transformative journey through 20 sessions of couples therapy. Hear why Melissa and Drew chose to take part in this experience, their initial anxieties, and what they gained along the way. They share insights into their progress, areas they’re still working on, and moments that didn’t make it onto the podcast. Julie also dives deeper into the principles of Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), explaining why her approach avoids conflict during sessions and fosters healing and connection instead. With thoughtful audience questions from the comm...2024-12-031h 20The Secure Love Podcast with Julie MenannoThe Journey Toward a Secure Love (Season Finale) In this episode of the Secure Love Podcast, Julie works with Drew and Melissa in their final therapy session, focusing on Drew's shame and self-acceptance. The session aims to help Drew accept himself even when his anxieties lead to imperfect behavior. Julie explains that self-acceptance—recognizing one's worth despite mistakes—is crucial for breaking the cycle of shame, which can trigger avoidant behavior and emotional withdrawal from Melissa. Julie starts by helping Drew see the positive intentions behind his need for order, acknowledging that his perfectionism is not all negative. By celebrating this strength, Julie helps Drew open u...2024-11-261h 12
Skyla-OsakiPdf Read Secure Love: Create a Relationship That Lasts a Lifetime BY Julie Menanno in Englishstart Download or Read ebook Secure Love: Create a Relationship That Lasts a Lifetime Written by Julie Menanno PDF Visit Link Bellow You Can Download or Read Book online for free Read Here 👉 https://plotbooklibs.blogspot.com/id/1668012863 Available versions: EPUB, PDF, MOBI, DOC, Kindle, Audiobook, etc. Summary : Create a lasting and loving attachment with the help of the expert couple?s therapist behind the popular Instagram account @TheSecureRelationship.What does a healthy relationship look like?A good question, in theory, but expert couple?s therapist Julie Menanno wants you to what does a securely attached relationship feel like?The...2024-11-2300 min
Jazlynn-Saito(PDF DOWNLOAD) Secure Love: Create a Relationship That Lasts a Lifetime BY Julie Menanno in Kindlestart Download or Read ebook Secure Love: Create a Relationship That Lasts a Lifetime Written by Julie Menanno pdf Visit Link Bellow You Can Download or Read Book online for free Get Book Here 👉 https://plotbooklibs.blogspot.com/id/B0C7RM6R82 Available versions: EPUB, PDF, MOBI, DOC, Kindle, Audiobook, etc. Summary : Discover how to create an authentic relationship with your partner with the essential and empowering guidance of expert psychotherapist Julie Menanno Drawing on years of experience as a couples counseller, Julie Mennano shares all the skills you need to build a securely attached romantic relationship. Filled with...2024-11-2200 minThe Secure Love Podcast with Julie MenannoDo You Think That He Can Love This Anxious Part of You?This week on the Secure Love Podcast the focus continues on Melissa’s experience as the anxious partner and her journey toward self-acceptance. The episode explores Melissa’s struggle to believe she can be loved—even with her fears and imperfections. Guided by Julie, Melissa begins to understand that true love, both from herself and from Drew, must include even the most anxious parts of who she is. Julie delves into the connection between Melissa’s childhood attachment wounds and her past relationship patterns, which have fueled her fears and perfectionism. As Melissa works on self-regulation and self-comp...2024-11-201h 12The Secure Love Podcast with Julie MenannoPerfectionism to Self-Regulation: The Anxious Partner's JourneyIn this episode of The Secure Love Podcast, host Julie Menanno focuses on Melissa’s anxious attachment style, exploring her emotional regulation challenges and the roots of her people-pleasing tendencies. Julie addresses Melissa’s need to create ideal family experiences, illustrated by her high expectations for a recent Halloween outing. Drew’s contrasting laid-back parenting style sparked conflict, revealing Melissa's struggle when he doesn’t match her enthusiasm. Julie encourages Melissa to reflect on how her anxiety may contribute to Drew’s disengagement, pushing her to recognize and take ownership of her role in their relationship dynamics. Julie chal...2024-11-121h 18The Secure Love Podcast with Julie MenannoThe Anxious-Avoidant Conflict ResolutionIn this revealing episode of the Secure Love Podcast, host Julie Menanno explores the intricate balance of emotional engagement and self-regulation in relationships through the lens of real-life couple Melissa and Drew. This session represents a significant breakthrough for the couple, as the conflict surrounding their differing emotional responses has been at the center of their negative cycle. The episode revolves around a recent incident involving their son, who exhibited a behavioral tic during dinner. This situation prompted contrasting reactions: Melissa sought immediate emotional validation and support from Drew, while Drew took a more measured approach, suggesting...2024-11-051h 27The Secure Love Podcast with Julie MenannoWhat the Anxious Partner Needs vs What the Anxious Partner CommunicatesIn this episode of The Secure Love Podcast, Julie Menanno explores the complex communication patterns between Melissa, the anxious partner, and her husband Drew. Melissa’s deep-rooted anxieties about Drew’s desire to be social resurface, causing her to feel as though he’s choosing connections outside of their family over her and the kids. Julie guides Melissa through understanding how past moments, such as when Drew was emotionally unavailable during difficult times, have shaped her current fears and triggered a recurring negative cycle whenever Drew appears distant or seeks social time apart. As Melissa unpacks her need f...2024-10-301h 11The Secure Love Podcast with Julie MenannoWhat Happens When the Avoidant Partner Faces Their Anger?In this episode of The Secure Love Podcast, couples therapist Julie Menanno focuses on Drew, the avoidant partner in his relationship with Melissa, as they continue working through disconnection issues in their marriage. The episode highlights a recurring tension between Drew’s desire to spend time with friends and Melissa’s longing for him to connect with her and their children first. As the primary caretaker, Melissa finds it difficult to step away from her responsibilities and struggles with accepting different parenting styles within the relationship. This tension often leads to frustration and resentment on her part. Drew...2024-10-221h 17The Secure Love Podcast with Julie MenannoFear, Frustration and the Other Side of the Protest In this episode of The Secure Love Podcast, host Julie Menanno continues working with Melissa and Drew, building on their previous session. The couple reflects on a recent incident during their vacation where Melissa’s bid for connection at dinner went unanswered, triggering a familiar negative cycle and leading to her protest behavior. This episode focuses on Drew’s perspective. He shares how the disconnect at dinner, combined with Melissa's protest, led him into his own negative cycle of frustration and fear of prolonged disconnection. Drew describes the emotional and physical toll of the situation, referring to a "kno...2024-10-151h 26The Secure Love Podcast with Julie MenannoA Protest for Love: Fighting to be SeenIn this episode of The Secure Love Podcast, Julie explores the challenges Melissa and Drew face during their anniversary trip. Despite overall enjoyment, the couple encounters difficulties in connecting, highlighting the complexities of transitioning from daily responsibilities to relaxation. Melissa struggles to unwind and feels disconnected from Drew, who seems more at ease. As listeners, we might consider: How do we handle the shift from our usual routines to moments of leisure with our partners? Do we find ourselves, like Melissa, struggling to relax, or like Drew, easily disconnecting from daily stressors? The episode delves into the...2024-10-081h 19The Secure Love Podcast with Julie MenannoThe Social Shift: When Motherhood Redefines Marriage DynamicsIn this episode, host Julie Menanno delves into the evolving dynamics of Melissa and Drew's marriage as they navigate the life-altering effects of parenthood. After 12 therapy sessions, the couple has made strides in breaking free from negative communication patterns, but challenges still arise around their differing needs for social time. Melissa, a stay-at-home mom, opens up about the insecurities and frustrations that come with her role, feeling like her personal sacrifices go unnoticed as she devotes herself to their family. When Drew mentions his desire to hang out with friends and potentially take trips—like one to Ve...2024-10-021h 17The Secure Love Podcast with Julie MenannoThe Shame That Blocks ConnectionIn this episode of The Secure Love Podcast, Drew confronts his deep-seated feelings of shame, tracing their roots back to childhood experiences, including a pivotal moment at a baseball game when his father left him. This incident instilled a belief of inadequacy that resurfaces in his present-day struggles, particularly regarding anxiety about new work conditions. Drew expresses fears of needing to "reprove" himself, which amplifies his feelings of failure and shame. Under Julie's guidance, Drew begins to articulate these emotions and recognizes the importance of being vulnerable with Melissa, despite his tendency to avoid such discussions. This...2024-09-241h 33Being Well with Forrest Hanson and Dr. Rick HansonHow to Build a Securely Attached Relationship with Julie MenannoForrest sits down with marriage and family therapist Julie Menanno to explore one of the most crucial aspects of healthy relationships: secure attachment. They discuss the impact of anxious, avoidant, and secure attachment patterns, and provide practical advice on identifying and communicating attachment needs, fostering emotional safety, and addressing the common anxious-avoidant partner dynamic. Julie highlights the importance of emotional validation and recommends strategies for communicating from the heart. Forrest and Julie then talk about what we can learn from how securely attached couples navigate conflict and repair. This episode is perfect for anyone looking to strengthen t...2024-09-231h 10
The Invigor Medical PodcastBuilding Secure Relationships: A Conversation with Julie Menanno on Attachment Styles and Her New Book Secure LoveJulie Menanno, a top Marriage and Family Therapist and author of "Secure Love," discusses attachment theory and its impact on relationships. She explains that secure attachment is characterized by low fear and easy connection, while anxious attachment involves high fears of abandonment and aggressive attempts to reconnect. Avoidant attachment involves shutting down emotions to avoid failure. Disorganized attachment, often stemming from traumatic childhoods, is unpredictable and intense. Julie emphasizes the importance of understanding and addressing these attachment styles to foster secure relationships. She also highlights the role of body intelligence in identifying and managing emotions.00:00 Introduction and...2024-09-191h 03The Secure Love Podcast with Julie MenannoUnderstanding the Anxious Partner In this episode of The Secure Love Podcast, host and couples therapist Julie Menanno focuses on Melissa, the anxious partner in her relationship with Drew. Melissa feels an overwhelming sense of "getting it wrong" in her interactions with him. As Melissa navigates these vulnerable feelings, Julie guides her out of intellectualizing emotions and into truly experiencing them. Through the session, Julie points out how Melissa's tendency to process feelings in her head can act as a defense mechanism against deeper pain, stemming from a fear of rejection and loneliness. As Melissa opens up, Julie reassures Drew's presence, en...2024-09-121h 41
The CLS Experience with Craig SiegelAttachment Theory With Julie MenannoLet’s talk about the secrets to creating more secure, empathetic, and resilient relationships. On this week's electrifying episode of The CLS Experience, we’re diving deep with the extraordinary Julie Menanno, THE licensed marriage and family therapist, who’s about to drop some serious wisdom on how attachment theory can revolutionize your relationships. From understanding anxious and avoidant attachments to practical strategies that deepen emotional connections, this conversation is packed with game-changing insights. Let’s get into it!On today's episode of The CLS Experience we have a very romantic treat. She's not just a licensed marriage...2024-09-1055 minThe Secure Love Podcast with Julie MenannoChoosing Each Other: Finding Connection Amidst Family PressureIn this episode, Drew and Melissa share the challenges they faced during a 10-hour road trip to a family beach vacation with their three kids. Surrounded by 30 family members, they found themselves under constant scrutiny. While trying to ensure their kids had a good time, they also struggled with unsolicited comments that made them question their parenting skills. Melissa felt the sting of disconnection when Drew chose to escape the stressful situation by spending time with less challenging family members. This left her feeling unsupported, leading her to question her worth and effectiveness as a parent. The couple grappled with w...2024-09-041h 24The Secure Love Podcast with Julie MenannoFacing the Inner Critic: Moving from Shame to VulnerabilityIn this episode, Drew, the avoidant partner in his relationship with Melissa, begins to confront his deep-seated feelings of inadequacy and shame. Drew's inner critic, which has driven him to seek perfection and self-improvement, also caused emotional pain and isolation. As he starts to unravel these complex feelings, he struggles to articulate them but makes significant progress in acknowledging their impact on his life and relationship. Julie’s guidance helps Drew understand that these negative beliefs don’t define him and encourages him to be vulnerable, even if it’s not perfectly expressed. This shift is crucial for Dr...2024-08-211h 11
The Sabrina Zohar Show92: What It Actually Means To Be In A Secure Relationship With Julie Menanno
Julie Menanno is on the show today, sitting down with Sabrina to talk about the interplay of attachment and relationships. Julie emphasizes that healthy relationships aren't about accommodating each other's insecurities or avoiding triggers but about engaging in mutual growth and healing. She and Sabrina challenge the narrative that one must lower their expectations or avoid partners who trigger them. Instead, they advocate for using those triggers as opportunities for personal and relational growth. A crucial part of building a secure relationship involves self-work—being emotionally balanced, recognizing and regulating your own emotions, and being able to reach out for su...2024-08-1656 min
Fabulous Over 50From an Anxious to Secure Relationship: Expert Tips from Julie MenannoHello Fabulous! Jen here, and do I have a treat for you today! I just had an absolutely enlightening chat with the fabulous Julie Menanno. If you don’t already know her, she’s a relationship guru specializing in emotionally focused therapy (EFT), attachment theory, and the fine art of turning relationship chaos into secure love. Discover more at jenhardy.net Julie broke it down for us: Most of her couples—about 90%—fall into this “anxious-avoidant” tango. One partner’s basically a golden retriever, desperate for constant affection, while the other is a turtle, retrea...2024-08-1533 minThe Secure Love Podcast with Julie MenannoWhat Happens When Shared Fears Aren’t Communicated?In this week’s episode of the Secure Love Podcast, Melissa and Drew face the ongoing challenge of truly understanding each other’s emotional states. Although the couple has acknowledged they've made tremendous progress, they still have their moments of disconnect. While Drew claims he’s happy, Melissa senses something off in his body language and expressions, stirring doubts rooted in past misunderstandings. Ever felt like you and your partner were just not on the same page despite reassurances? Melissa’s struggle with trusting Drew’s assurances highlights a deep-seated fear of disconnect that many couples may find famil...2024-08-131h 09
The Dude TherapistLove, Depth and Connection w/ Julie MenannoJulie Manano, a licensed marriage and family therapist, specializes in working with couples using emotionally focused therapy for couples. She focuses on attachment styles, particularly the anxious-avoidant dynamic. A healthy relationship is defined by compatibility, shared values, and effective conflict management. Conflict is an opportunity for growth and bonding but must be managed with emotional safety. Change in attachment style can happen within a relationship, but it requires awareness, understanding, and time. The deeper questions to ask in a relationship involve exploring fears, views of self, and shame. Love languages are not enough to replace emotional bonding. In this...2024-08-0748 minThe Secure Love Podcast with Julie MenannoMoving Towards a Positive Cycle & Understanding the Avoidant PartnerIn this week's episode of the Secure Love Podcast, Melissa and Drew recount a transformative moment from their Fourth of July weekend. Picture this: amidst the typical holiday stress, a disagreement escalates in front of their kids. Instead of spiraling further, they pause and ask each other, "Hey, can we try this again?" It's a simple question, but one that marks a significant milestone in their journey. This episode not only celebrates Melissa and Drew's progress but also takes a deeper dive into Drew's role as the avoidant partner. Why focus on Drew? Because avoidant partners often s...2024-08-0655 minThe Secure Love Podcast with Julie MenannoUnraveling the Roots of the Negative Cycle Pt. 2This week's episode of The Secure Love Podcast opens with Drew reflecting on the early years of their marriage. His reflection leads to a heartfelt apology to Melissa for not showing up the way she needed, eliciting both an emotional reaction and a tremendous sense of relief for her. This moment of understanding and Drew's willingness to own his part in their past disconnect highlights his growth, yet Julie points out that this is still within the bounds of their 'negative cycle'. Drew's efforts, though well-intentioned, stem from a partial grasp of the underlying issues, including his unprocessed grief...2024-07-301h 06