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Around the Kinky Kampfire PodcastStop Calling It Talent When It’s Really Practice You’re Avoiding | S4 EP113Send us a textForget the superhero origin story. We’re getting real about talent versus skill—why one feels magical and the other does the heavy lifting—and how to stop using “natural ability” as a reason to avoid doing the work. Julius shares hard-earned lessons from podcasting without a mentor, stumbling through mic placement and camera setups, bombing on stage, and still showing up with a routine that compounds. It’s messy, honest, and a lot more useful than waiting for lightning to strike.We start by stripping talent of its myths. Yes, some people...
2026-01-2923 minAround the Kinky Kampfire PodcastWhy Dating As A Queer Switch Breaks When We Don’t Ask Clear Questions | S4 EP109Send us a textEver sit across from someone you’re wildly attracted to and realize you’re both waiting for the other to start? That’s the quiet chaos of dating as a queer switch—where presentation invites assumptions, desire doesn’t follow a clock, and the hottest scenes fizzle when roles aren’t clear. We open the campfire to talk about being “single” in non‑monogamy, the pressure of labels, and why curiosity—not mind‑reading—makes kink and relationships work.Julius and Shannon share real‑world stories from clubs, apps, and long‑term dynamics that stalled b...
2025-12-1843 minAround the Kinky Kampfire PodcastBelonging Is A Practice, Not A Door Policy | S4 EP107Send us a textEver walked into a new community and felt the room go quiet? Julius takes a match to clique culture and lights a clearer path to belonging, blending real talk, humor, and a little tequila to explain why groups can feel icy and how to melt the wall without losing yourself. We explore the tension between upbringing and chosen identity, the pull of religious guilt, and the liberating power of explicit consent and negotiation in kink and queer spaces. The big idea: most people aren’t gatekeepers by intent—they’re cautious, introverted, and watchi...
2025-12-0426 minAround the Kinky Kampfire PodcastFrom Burnout To Momentum: Libido As Life Energy | S4 EP106Send us a textReady to trade hesitation for momentum? Julius takes us to the edge of comfort and names the leap: escape velocity, the instant you decide to outgrow fear and become more. We reframe libido through a Jungian lens as life energy—motivation that fuels creativity, connection, and change—so you can stop waiting for inspiration and start generating it.I share how this show began: tired of yelling at the screen, I hit record, learned in public, and then stepped into teaching relationship anarchy. Along the way came the messy parts—awkward first...
2025-11-2026 minAround the Kinky Kampfire Podcast“Are we really STILL saying ethical non‑monogamy?”—Julius has thoughts | S4 EP 99Send us a textWe dig into how communication, boundaries, and honesty make non‑monogamy work, and why adding “ethical” to the label misses the point. Julius shares practical skills for active listening, handling jealousy, scheduling across partners, and repairing after mistakes.• reframing “ethical” non‑monogamy as skills and consent• core pillars of communication, boundaries, and truth• personal non‑negotiables and spoken expectations• context for hard talks and when to pause• active listening behaviors that signal care• transparency, vulnerability, and trust building• jealousy as a feeling, response as a choice• time management...
2025-10-0231 minAround the Kinky Kampfire PodcastFrom Crown to Kilt: Adventures of a Volunteer Supervisor at SmutLovers Con 2025 | S4 EP98Send us a textJulius shares his third year volunteering at Smut Lovers Convention 2025 while reflecting on the challenges and joys of being an introvert in social spaces. • Teaching an improv panel for writers to help them develop characters and scenes for their books• Supervising the convention registration area and demo dungeon while wearing a crown and kilt• Experiencing cognitive dissonance between personal presentation and upbringing• Observing the excitement of readers meeting authors and filling carts with books• Appreciating the respectful behavior of attendees during demonstrations• Finding value in volunteering as practice f...
2025-09-2533 minAround the Kinky Kampfire PodcastAnime, Kink, and Finding Your Community: My Weekend at Ecchi Expo Orlando 2025 | S4 EP96Send us a textJulius shares his experience performing and teaching at Ecchi Expo Orlando 2025, an adult anime convention combining anime fandom with alternative lifestyle education in a consent-focused environment.• Explaining what "ecchi" is – the middle ground between mainstream anime and explicit hentai content• Performing adult improv comedy on the main stage at the convention• Teaching panels on anime genres and relationship anarchy• Experiencing the unique blend of anime fandom and kink community• Learning about future events including Alt-Life Expo in Denver• Finding freedom in cosplay and expression in an adults-only sp...
2025-09-1135 minAround the Kinky Kampfire PodcastPrimal Play isn't just what I do—it's who I am | S4 EP94Send us a textJulius Marques dives into the wild world of Primal Play - the raw, instinctual expression of dominance and submission through animalistic behaviors. He shares his personal experiences and insights on this lesser-understood aspect of kink that revolves around instinct over structure.• Primal Play involves raw, instinctual expressions different from structured BDSM scenes• Distinguished from Pet Play - not focused on specific animals but on unleashing your inner beast• Typically involves Hunter and Prey dynamics with wrestling, biting, scratching, and mounting• Energy exchange is central - skin-to-skin contact creates powerful...
2025-08-2123 minAround the Kinky Kampfire PodcastThe Return (Again) of the Kinky Kampfire!! | Season 4 EP 92Send us a textJulius Marques returns to the podcast after a hiatus, introducing his new vision as a "relationship spotter" rather than a coach or therapist. He shares his journey through imposter syndrome and his plans to teach relationship anarchy with unconventional techniques.• Taking time away from podcasting after questioning qualifications despite being invited as a guest on another show• Developing educational content on relationship anarchy for in-person workshops• Introducing the concept of being a "relationship spotter" to help during difficult relationship transitions• Advocating for personalized "a la carte" approach to relation...
2025-08-0717 min
(Re)naturalizar PortugalDemocratizando o rewilding com Julius WenzelNeste episódio estamos à conversa com Julius Wenzel, fundador da Sylvester. Esta organização visa transformar terras abandonadas em santuários naturais através de um modelo coletivo e inovador. Ficaram curiosos? Descubram mais neste episódio!Link úteisSylvester:https://sylvester-rewilding.xyz/@sylvester_rewildingConhece um pouco mais sobre as iniciativas de rewilding em Portugal e na Europa em:https://rewilding-portugal.com/https://rewildingeurope.com/Se és jovem e tens interesse de participar ativament...
2025-04-2847 minAround the Kinky Kampfire PodcastThe Social Probation Period | Pillow Fort Sessions EP 42Send us a textJulius explores how different communities operate similarly despite their diverse interests and activities. He dives into his experiences navigating kink, board games, non-monogamy, geek culture, and improv communities, highlighting the universal patterns that emerge in each social group.• All communities have an approximately 90-day "probationary period" before truly accepting new members• People need to see you consistently show up before they open their inner circle • Bad actors and creepy people don't last long in any community regardless of focus• Finding your specific tribe within the larger community takes time but...
2025-04-1739 minAround the Kinky Kampfire PodcastPut Down Your Phone and Wash Your Ass: Dating Advice Nobody Asked For | Advice Line 2 | Pillow Fort Sessions EP 41Send us a textJulius explores the fundamental differences in how men and women communicate and the painful lack of education we receive about these differences before entering relationships.• Communication styles differ significantly between genders based on both biology and socialization• Men are typically raised to be solution-focused while women often communicate to process emotions• Active listening without trying to "fix" problems is a learned skill many men find physically uncomfortable• Social media and smartphones have worsened our ability to connect meaningfully face-to-face• Dating requires consistent effort and realistic self-presentation, not just swipi...
2025-04-1035 minAround the Kinky Kampfire PodcastBite-Sized Wisdom for a Full-Sized Life: Advice for Taboo Lifestylers | Pillow Fort Sessions EP 40Send us a textWe explore relationship anarchy's core principle that each relationship exists independently, challenging traditional hierarchies while emphasizing the importance of maintaining a healthy relationship with yourself first.• Relationship anarchy means treating each connection as independent from others, including your relationship with yourself• Growth happens through interaction with others, not in isolation – bringing trusted people into your process provides valuable perspective• Growth requires failure – you can't evolve without making mistakes and learning from them• Physical attributes like penis size or height matter far less than emotional intelligence and confidence• Sexual shame a...
2025-03-2737 minAround the Kinky Kampfire PodcastYou Can't Change Your Past, But Your Future Isn't Written Yet | Pillow Fort Sessions EP 39Send us a textStarting life on the back foot doesn't mean you're destined to stay there. This raw, vulnerable episode challenges the notion that our beginnings dictate our endings, offering a candid look at overcoming disadvantage and finding forward momentum when everything seems stacked against you.We dive deep into what it means to grow up with fewer advantages – whether economically, socially, or in terms of family stability – and how these early circumstances shape our relationship with possibility and progress. The psychological weight of constantly feeling "behind" others can be crushing, yet there are path...
2025-03-2039 minAround the Kinky Kampfire PodcastWhat Nobody Tells You About Dating When Sex Isn't Your Primary Attraction | Pillow Fort Sessions EP 38Send us a textNavigating the dating world as someone on the asexual spectrum comes with unique challenges that many dating platforms simply weren't designed to address. Drawing from decades of personal experience across various dating platforms, I'm pulling back the curtain on what it really means to date when sexual attraction isn't your primary motivation.The digital dating landscape often feels like it was built exclusively for those seeking immediate physical connections. For demi-attracted and asexual-spectrum folks who experience attraction primarily through emotional and intellectual connection, this creates a fundamental disconnect. How do you...
2025-03-1335 minAround the Kinky Kampfire PodcastEP 49 | Taboo talks with a new friend! | Melanie Carolyn from Mom's Unboxed podcastSend us a textJoin us for a riveting conversation at the Kinky Kampfire as we explore the kaleidoscopic experiences of kink, alternative lifestyles, and the colorful journey of non-monogamy. In this episode, we chat with Melanie Carolyn, the dynamic host of Moms Unboxed podcast, whose personal insights into bisexuality, swinging, and group play spark genuine and thought-provoking dialogues. Melanie candidly shares her journey of self-discovery and the thrills of exploring desires, illuminating the importance of communication and consent in every encounter.Navigating relationships can be tricky, especially when blending intimacy with autonomy. This episode...
2025-03-0651 minAround the Kinky Kampfire PodcastRejection: The Universal Struggle | Pillow Fort Sessions EP 37Send us a textHave you ever felt the sting of rejection? In this compelling episode of The Pillowfort Sessions, we dive into the complexities of rejection—the emotional turmoil it brings and why it affects us all. Our host shares relatable experiences and strategies for dealing with this very common, yet often painful, aspect of human interaction. Join us as we unravel physiological aspects behind why rejection hurts and explore its presence in various relationship forms. While most associate rejection primarily with romantic endeavors, we reveal its multifaceted nature and discuss how it permeates man...
2025-02-2732 minAround the Kinky Kampfire PodcastNavigating Tough Talks: Reimagining Communication, Gender Roles, and Vulnerability | Pillow Fort Sessions EP 36Send us a textEver found yourself tongue-tied when it comes to navigating the trickiest conversations in your relationship? We're tackling those moments head-on, from chatting about money woes to discussing whether or not kids are part of your future. Even while battling a stubborn flu, I’m diving into the art of open dialogue with partners, helping you to foster healthier, more fulfilling connections. Together, we’ll explore why many relationships stumble over these communication hurdles and how you can learn to handle such challenges with grace and confidence.Have you ever thought about the...
2025-02-2031 minAround the Kinky Kampfire PodcastUnderstanding Consent in Unique Community Gatherings | Pillow Fort Sessions EP 35Send us a textThis episode delves into the complexities of navigating the kink community, sharing personal reflections and observations regarding social dynamics, consent, and self-awareness. With a humorous yet candid approach, we explore the intricacies of adult gatherings, the importance of partners and community, and the challenge of addressing predatory behaviors while fostering a safe atmosphere for all.• Sharing personal experiences and insights from various kink events • Discussing the significance of partner dynamics in adult gatherings • Observing the community turnover and its impact on connection • Recognizing the efforts of community organizers and their c...
2025-02-0636 minAround the Kinky Kampfire PodcastIntroverted Networking and the Art of Self-Promotion: A Podfest 2025 Recap | Pillow Fort Sessions EP 34Send us a textIs your podcasting journey crossing into the realm of taboo topics, and where do we draw the line between fantasy and reality? Join me as I recount my experiences at PodFest 2025 in Central Florida, where the buzz of conversations was as vibrant as ever, even in the absence of a dedicated track for taboo discussions. Reflecting on these engaging interactions, I question the evolving landscape of taboo podcasting and its intersection with sex work. Could my own podcasting endeavors fall under this controversial category? Get ready for a deep dive into these provocative...
2025-01-3032 minAround the Kinky Kampfire PodcastAn "Intro" to Julius: A Journey Through Non-Monogamy, Geek Culture, and Self-Discovery | Pillow Fort Sessions EP 33Send us a textWhat if stepping out of your comfort zone could lead to a whole new world of self-discovery and personal growth? Join me, Julius, as we kick off the new year with "Around the Kinky Kampfire, the Pillow Fort Sessions," a podcast episode that promises to take you on a journey through the intriguing realms of BDSM, queer culture, non-monogamy, and geeky interests. In this episode, I share my personal mission to challenge assumptions in relationships and provide honest opinions, all while blending humor with serious insights. Listen as I explore the importance of...
2025-01-2332 minAround the Kinky Kampfire PodcastShifting Perspectives on Adult Traffic Analysis | Pillow Fort Sessions EP 32Send us a textThis episode dives deep into the shifting landscape of kinks and porn searches in 2024, revealing surprising trends and insights about global traffic and viewer preferences. From the dominance of the U.S. in traffic rankings to the rising female viewership and generational differences in content preferences, we explore the fun and intriguing data surrounding pornography today.• Discussion of global porn traffic rankings and significant trends• Exploration of time spent per visit across different countries• Insights into female viewership and demographic shifts• Generational differences in porn preferences and kinks• An...
2025-01-1638 minAround the Kinky Kampfire PodcastState-by-State: A Playful Look at America's (and the World's) Unique Preferences | Pillow Fort Sessions EP 31Send us a textWe dive into 2024's most surprising porn search trends, exploring themes from regional favorites to unique kinks. This episode encourages listeners to reflect on their own preferences while unpacking what these trends reveal about societal views on sexuality. • Analyzing top porn searches by state (and other countries)• Exploring the popularity of milking and furry content • Discussing the significance of racial and body-type preferences • Examining unique kinks like foot jobs and homegrown porn • Reflecting on societal norms and individual exploration in adult content1/6/26 Got a burning ques...
2025-01-0938 minAround the Kinky Kampfire PodcastFinding Clarity in Conversations and Relationships | Pillow Fort EP 30Send us a textEver wondered how a chilled drink might actually warm you up in the brisk Florida weather? Join me, Julius, as I kick off 2025 with a curious blend of tequila, mezcal, and energy drink in our latest Pillow Fort Session. I'm diving headfirst into the world of assumptions versus expectations, challenging the common trap of accepting unverified beliefs as truths. This year, I'm excited to expand our podcast's realms, keeping BDSM, queerness, and non-monogamy at heart while exploring intriguing topics inspired by the media and my personal reflections on communication.Are assumptions...
2025-01-0235 minAround the Kinky Kampfire PodcastImpromptu Rant as the Year Comes to an End | Pillow Fort Sessions EP 29Send us a textEver wondered what makes the BDSM community tick? Imagine stepping into a world where consent is king and every knot tells a story. This episode promises to unravel the complexities of BDSM and kink, offering listeners a candid look at challenges creators face in an ever-changing digital landscape. Through my personal reflections, you'll gain insight into the nuances of bondage, discipline, sadomasochism, and impact play, and learn why consent and negotiation aren't just important—they're everything.Journey alongside me as I recount my path of sexual discovery, beginning with a fascination fo...
2024-12-0537 minAround the Kinky Kampfire PodcastRewiring Your Mind: The Science of Habit Formation | Pillow Fort Sessions EP 28Send us a textEver wondered what truly sets the successful apart from the rest? It might not be talent, but instead the powerhouse of consistent habits. Join us as we dissect the often subconscious world of habits, challenging the notion that talent is the golden ticket to mastery. With a blend of humor and heartfelt stories, we explore how anyone can break free from self-imposed barriers and utilize positive habits to conquer personal goals. Travel back to 1890 with us as we highlight William James's groundbreaking insights and trace the evolution of habits through various c...
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