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MxnzplainBlack Tax: The Unseen Burden of SuccessBlack tax isn’t just about money, it’s about emotional expectations, silent obligations, and the weight of generational responsibility. In this thought-provoking episode of Mxnzplain, Lebo and Kabelo unpack what it really means to be the “one who made it” in a family, and how the pressure to give back can leave you empty.Whether you’re navigating family guilt, burnout, or just trying to make peace with your own success, this episode is your mirror.Subscribe to catch more honest, unfiltered conversations.Mxnzplain | A space for men to be. Follow @mx...
2025-07-0547 minMxnzplainWhen the Party Stops: Living with Addiction in SilenceIn this vulnerable and powerful episode of Mxnzplain, Lebo and Kabelo dive deep into the reality of addiction and substance abuse in Black families. Kabelo shares his personal journey with alcohol, denial, and recovery, offering a raw, honest look at what addiction really feels like behind closed doors. From generational silence to cultural shame and healing, this is a conversation we all need to hear.If you’ve ever wondered what recovery really looks like or why we don’t talk about addiction openly, this one’s for you.Subscribe, listen, and share.M...
2025-06-2151 minMxnzplainMidlife and the Myth of Arrival: What They Never Told UsWhat happens when you’ve done everything right, but still feel like something’s missing? In this emotionally resonant episode, Lebo and Kabelo open up about navigating midlife as Black professionals carrying family expectations, cultural pressure, and unspoken grief.From identity loss to redefining success, this episode holds space for anyone in their 30s or 40s wondering: “Is this it?” The most introspective episode of Mxnzplain yet.Mxnzplain | A space for men to be. Follow @mxnzplain on YouTube, Instagram, TikTok and Facebook.
2025-05-0344 minMxnzplainMy Brother’s Keeper: Balancing Accountability and Unconditional SupportIn this thought-provoking episode of Mxnzplain, Kabelo and Lebo explore the meaning behind the phrase “my brother’s keeper” and what it truly takes to support, guide, and hold each other accountable as men. They discuss how brotherhood goes beyond blood ties, emphasizing the importance of responsibility, trust, and deliberate connection. Through personal stories, they challenge listeners to reflect on the relationships that shape them, question toxic “bro code” expectations, and extend grace to those they call brothers. Join Kabelo and Lebo as they encourage men to create bonds that inspire growth, understanding, and authenticity.Mxnzplain | A space for...
2024-11-1644 minMxnzplainOvercoming Imposter Syndrome: How to Reclaim Your ConfidenceIn this episode of Mxnzplain, Kabelo and Lebo dive into the widespread issue of imposter syndrome and how it affects personal and professional growth. They explore the inner dialogue that leads to feelings of inadequacy, the pressure to meet external expectations, and the constant battle between self-worth and self-doubt. With personal insights and practical tips, they discuss how to overcome imposter syndrome, embrace your strengths, and unlock your full potential. Join the conversation for a guide to building confidence and thriving in any environment.Mxnzplain | A space for men to be. Follow @mxnzplain on YouTube, Instagram, TikTok...
2024-10-1444 minMxnzplainFrom Ego to Legacy: Men’s Evolving Relationship with Money and Collective WealthIn this episode of Mxnzplain, Kabelo and Lebo explore the evolving relationship men have with money, shifting from a pursuit of wealth for personal gain to building a lasting legacy for future generations. They dive deep into collective saving as a community, drawing lessons from models like the Royal Bafokeng and the Emirates, where long-term planning and shared resources lead to greater success. The discussion covers how men can shift away from transactional relationships, where economics drive interactions, and instead focus on building community wealth. Lebo, as the resident financial expert, offers invaluable advice on how men can create...
2024-09-1443 minMxnzplainNavigating Dual Realms: Anele Siswana on Spirituality and MasculinityIn this episode, Lebo and Kabelo engage with Anele Siswana, a distinguished psychologist and spiritual healer, who shares his transformative journey of embracing his spiritual calling. Anele discusses the complexities of balancing masculinity with spirituality and how his identity has impacted his professional life, leading to the loss of clients and business. Despite these challenges, he has emerged stronger, finding renewed purpose in offering his unique expertise to those who seek authentic healing and guidance. This conversation delves deep into the intersection of mental health, spirituality, and the evolving understanding of masculinity.Mxnzplain | A space for men...
2024-08-3158 minMxnzplainMark Modimola's Journey: A Black man exploring masculinity, art and the unknownIn this insightful episode of Mxnzplain, hosts Kabelo and Lebogang sit down with renowned African visual artist Mark Modimola. Mark shares his inspiring journey of leaving a comfortable job at a top agency to pursue a path as a self-employed creator whose work deeply resonates with him and brings purpose to the world. The discussion delves into the challenges of being Black in the arts, especially the complex support dynamics from Black parents. Mark also explores the concept of masculinity in his life and work, highlighting the strength in authenticity and the importance of diverse expressions of masculinity, much...
2024-08-1046 min
MxnzplainRedefining Masculinity | Breaking Stereotypes and Embracing ChangeIn this episode of Mxnzplain, hosts Kabelo and Lebogang explore the evolving concept of masculinity, emphasising being the best version of oneself rather than conforming to societal expectations. Kabelo shares his journey of changing to fit traditional masculine norms, while Lebo discusses the impact of his father's "normal masculinity" on their household. They delve into the roots and effects of toxic masculinity in South Africa, how it extends to men devaluing other men, and its link to men's mental health and high suicide rates. Tune in for personal stories, expert insights, and practical advice on embracing a more holistic...
2024-07-2650 min
MxnzplainMen Embracing Vulnerability | Courage in VulnerabilityIn this powerful episode of Mxnzplain, hosts Lebo and Kabelo bravely tackle the topic of male vulnerability. They redefine vulnerability as an act of courage, sharing personal stories about the pressures and situations where they had to be open and honest. This episode addresses the alarming suicide rates among men and highlights the benefits of therapy. Lebo and Kabelo also examine whether society and relationships allow men to be vulnerable or if this vulnerability is often weaponised. They reflect on the traditional role of men as work oxen and advocate for recognising men as holistic human beings. Tune in...
2024-07-1242 minMxnzplainFatherhood Uncovered | Navigating Identity and LegacyIn this episode of Mxnzplain, hosts Lebogang and Kabelo dive into the complexities of fatherhood. From growing up with or without a father to forming identities through father figures, mentors, and society. They explore the profound impact of a present father and unpack how this generation of men can navigate the challenges of modern life to become good fathers.Mxnzplain | A space for men to be. Follow @mxnzplain on YouTube, Instagram, TikTok and Facebook.
2024-06-2541 min
MxnzplainBack to Source | Exploring the Original Man's Purpose, Duty and SpiritualityIn this episode of Mxnzplain, we attempt to go "Back to Source," uncovering the fundamental essence of the original Man. Join us as we explore the pivotal role of spirituality, the sense of duty, and the concept of men as stewards. Discover the timeless principles that shaped early human existence and how they can inspire today's world. Tune in for a thought-provoking discussion on the foundations of manhood and spiritual stewardship.Mxnzplain | A space for men to be. Follow @mxnzplain on YouTube, Instagram, TikTok and Facebook.
2024-06-1045 min
FelsTED TalksRevd Kabelo Motlhakane - Chaplain and Head of Transformation and Inclusion at St Peter's College in Johannesburg.Revd. Motlhakane joined the College as a chaplain on secondment from St Stephens Anglican church, where he served as assistant priest. Before St Peter's he served as Chaplain at Johns College Houghton and Before that, he served as a youth pastor for 10 years within the Diocese of Johannesburg. Revd. Motlhakane is passionate about Africa and is a thought leader in Afro-centric theology. The core of his work is around youth and community advancement and social justice consciousness. His theology is undergirded by African consciousness, a non-polarizing idea of God, and living an inclusive gospel. W...
2022-08-1937 min