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Chaos to Connected - Helping Parents Navigate Challenging Behavior with Connection; Christian moms, behavior management, positive parenting, discipline, tantrums, aggression, biblical parentingOne of the biggest reasons you are getting triggered more easily by your child's behavior and what to do about it!I have been really deeply reflecting on my more challenging parenting days lately and even thinking back to when I was really struggling with my oldest to determine what is one of the main contributing factors to both. And what I've discovered is that in both instances I have had expectations that went unmet.
These expectations weren't inappropriate or unrealistic for my child's age, however, it was unattainable at the place we were currently at.
Today, I share the #1 way you can assess if your expectations are aligning with your child's current skill level/ability an...
2024-11-2215 minChaos to Connected - Helping Parents Navigate Challenging Behavior with Connection; Christian moms, behavior management, positive parenting, discipline, tantrums, aggression, biblical parentingFriday Fruit: My Top Recommended Faith Based Podcasts for KidsPodcasts are such a wonderful, free tool to utilize for ourselves as we are trying to learn different skills or information, but it is also a great option for our kids too! Sometimes it can be hard to make sure that the information and words are kids are hearing are appropriate and fruitful so today, I wanted to share some podcasts that my kids LOVE. They enjoy listening to podcasts during quiet time, when they just need some space and/or when they are doing some quieter play like puzzles or playdoh.
Here are some of our...
2024-11-1508 minChaos to Connected - Helping Parents Navigate Challenging Behavior with Connection; Christian moms, behavior management, positive parenting, discipline, tantrums, aggression, biblical parentingBribes vs Rewards + How to Implement EffectivelyI've shared my personal and professional recommendation not to use sticker/reward charts on a previous episode, but today I wanted to chat more about rewards. In this episode, we discuss:
*bribes vs rewards
*why I don't use bribes
*how I use rewards (with examples)
*how to utilize age/child appropriate expectations to decrease needing to rely on bribery or consequences to get the desired behavior
Ep 59: Have you ever wondered if a sticker chart would help "fix" your child's behavior? 4 reasons why I believe they are u...
2024-11-1415 minChaos to Connected - Helping Parents Navigate Challenging Behavior with Connection; Christian moms, behavior management, positive parenting, discipline, tantrums, aggression, biblical parentingFriday Fruit: who are you listening to?Today, I wanted to ask you a simple question to get you thinking about where you are going to for advice and guidance first. Coaches, teachers, podcasts, books, are all great resources, but there's only One who knows exactly what you need and can guide you in the direction that's best for you and your family. I hope this message blesses you!
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2024-11-0907 minChaos to Connected - Helping Parents Navigate Challenging Behavior with Connection; Christian moms, behavior management, positive parenting, discipline, tantrums, aggression, biblical parentingAre you struggling to manage your triggers with your child's behavior? Here's what you need to know!I am a part of a few business broadcast channels on IG and I got a message a couple weeks ago talking about the bare minimum or baseline standard for what you would do each day to keep your business moving forward, for establishing a consistent foundation. I thought this was also really pertinent to managing triggers...
‘if you don’t set a baseline standard for what you’ll accept in life, you’ll find it’s easy to slip into behaviors and attitudes or a quality of life that’s far below what you deserve." Anthony Robbins
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2024-11-0815 minChaos to Connected - Helping Parents Navigate Challenging Behavior with Connection; Christian moms, behavior management, positive parenting, discipline, tantrums, aggression, biblical parentingAdvice for a mom starting (or restarting) on this connection focused parenting journeyWhile this way of parenting has been completely transformative for me and my family in SO many ways, that doesn't mean it has always come easy. Sometimes the challenges we face can make us question if this way is really the best way. It can also be discouraging if we aren't seeing the results we are expecting at the rate at which we are expecting them.
Today, I wanted to share 5 pieces of advice I have, after practicing this style of parenting DAILY for 3 years in hopes it can be an encouragement to any mom (d...
2024-10-3115 minChaos to Connected - Helping Parents Navigate Challenging Behavior with Connection; Christian moms, behavior management, positive parenting, discipline, tantrums, aggression, biblical parentingFriday Fruit: do you really lose yourself in motherhood?I'm guessing you've heard people talk about and maybe even felt like you've lost yourself in motherhood. And while there can definitely be truth to that, today I want to share the perspective that we actually don't lose ourselves in motherhood. Instead, it can be the exact place where we find who we were created to be.
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2024-10-2512 minChaos to Connected - Helping Parents Navigate Challenging Behavior with Connection; Christian moms, behavior management, positive parenting, discipline, tantrums, aggression, biblical parentingDo you ever feel like you are constantly repeating yourself, yet your child continues to do the same things over and over again? A 5 question framework for consistent change!Most of the time we address the behavior we see; it's much easier and honestly, just comes naturally.
However, if we really want to see behavior shifts we need to get to the deeper rooted issue and find out what is really going on at a heart level so we can make consistent change.
Today, I wanted to share with you a question framework that will help you do this with your child, no matter the age! Well, they do have to have fairly good communication skills.
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2024-10-2512 minChaos to Connected - Helping Parents Navigate Challenging Behavior with Connection; Christian moms, behavior management, positive parenting, discipline, tantrums, aggression, biblical parentingFriday Fruit: Are you slow to make commands?Last weekend in church the pastor was talking about the 5th commandment: Honor your father and mother, that your days may be long in the land that the Lord your God is giving you.
He prompted us as parents to reflect on what we are commanding (or instructing) our kids....is it because the behavior truly needs to be corrected, a heart issue, or is it because we are getting frustrated or annoyed?
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2024-10-1909 minChaos to Connected - Helping Parents Navigate Challenging Behavior with Connection; Christian moms, behavior management, positive parenting, discipline, tantrums, aggression, biblical parentingFor the parent of a child who cries easily, over seemingly little things, and/or frequently + a step by step plan to help you through it!Do you have a child who cries frequently or who will go through days where he/she starts and stops all day long?? Then this is the episode for you!
Tune in as we chat through my favorite listening tool: Stay Listening
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2024-10-1816 minChaos to Connected - Helping Parents Navigate Challenging Behavior with Connection; Christian moms, behavior management, positive parenting, discipline, tantrums, aggression, biblical parentingFriday Fruit: What are you contributing to your child's behavior?Faith and my spiritual growth has a lot to do with how I am able to consistently incorporate this style of parenting. One of the things that has bothered me most is seeing christian influencers on IG share how this way of parenting is unbiblical. And while they, of course, are entitled to their own opinion, I think most often they don't truly understand what is behind. this way of parenting.
I have had a lot of feedback thanking me for sharing this unpopular opinion because others are feeling it too. I've also worked with se...
2024-10-1206 minChaos to Connected - Helping Parents Navigate Challenging Behavior with Connection; Christian moms, behavior management, positive parenting, discipline, tantrums, aggression, biblical parentingAre you ever having a tough or really challenging day? 5 tips for improving your mood and creating more peace and joy in your home!Do you ever find yourself struggling with your mood? Like you woke up on the wrong side of the bed? Or the day started off well but then you got triggered by something your child did or said?
You want to shift back into fun, joyful, playful, connection but it just feels hard...maybe even impossible.
Today, I share 5 simple ways you can create that shift AND do it with your kids - I don't know about you but I don't often have the opportunity to just have a lengthy break or leave the house...
2024-10-1016 minChaos to Connected - Helping Parents Navigate Challenging Behavior with Connection; Christian moms, behavior management, positive parenting, discipline, tantrums, aggression, biblical parentingAre you ever having a tough day and struggle to shift out of "a mood"? 5 simple ways that are fun, engaging, and create joy!Do you ever find yourself struggling with your mood? Like you woke up on the wrong side of the bed? Or the day started off well but then you got triggered by something your child did or said?
You want to shift back into fun, joyful, playful, connection but it just feels hard...maybe even impossible.
Today, I share 5 simple ways you can create that shift AND do it with your kids - I don't know about you but I don't often have the opportunity to just have a lengthy break or leave the house...
2024-10-1015 minChaos to Connected - Helping Parents Navigate Challenging Behavior with Connection; Christian moms, behavior management, positive parenting, discipline, tantrums, aggression, biblical parentingYou don’t actually need to know what’s wrong with your child in order to help him/her work through it! Here’s why + how to help them resolve big feelingsI think there are a lot of misconceptions we have as parents, many of them just because it is what society continuously tells us. Today, I dive into one of those...
Did you know you don't actually have to know what your little one is melting down about to help him/her resolve it?
Tune in as I share why you don't need to know and how you can help!
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2023-03-0319 minChaos to Connected - Helping Parents Navigate Challenging Behavior with Connection; Christian moms, behavior management, positive parenting, discipline, tantrums, aggression, biblical parentingAre timeouts really effective?Timeouts! Love them or hate them they are a frequent recommendation to modify a child's behavior.
Last week, as I was driving my son home from school, he said something so profound I had to share it. His statement confirms what I've always known but haven't heard a child specifically articulate.
Plus, bonus tips on how to transition away from timeouts while still creating opportunity for calming down and training as well as space for your emotions and need for space as a parent.
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2023-02-2417 minChaos to Connected - Helping Parents Navigate Challenging Behavior with Connection; Christian moms, behavior management, positive parenting, discipline, tantrums, aggression, biblical parentingHuxton’s Redemptive Birth StoryIn honor of Huxton turning 3 and my recent sharing of my older son, Myles' birth story I thought it was only fitting to share his.
I generally look back at Myles' birth and remember it as more traumatic for me while Huxton's birth was a beautiful story of redemption.
I am, of course, grateful for both as it brought me 2 of the most precious gifts, but knowledge is always more powerful, even if you end up making the same choice.
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2023-02-1716 minChaos to Connected - Helping Parents Navigate Challenging Behavior with Connection; Christian moms, behavior management, positive parenting, discipline, tantrums, aggression, biblical parentingDoes your child ever hit him/herself when upset? Here’s why and what to do about it!Has your child ever hit his/her head on the floor/bed/wall or hit him/herself?
Then today's episode is for you!
It's easy to assume your child has a big problem if this is occurring but there may be several reasons for it that aren't too difficult to correct. However, it will take effort.
Tune in as I chat how to recognize when it is a more significant problem and several ways to address the issue.
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2023-02-1118 minChaos to Connected - Helping Parents Navigate Challenging Behavior with Connection; Christian moms, behavior management, positive parenting, discipline, tantrums, aggression, biblical parentingDoes your child ever struggle with transitions? 3 simple ways to take away the frustration and move your child along!Does your child struggle with transitions? Maybe not every one Maybe only for a season. Maybe every one.
No matter which you relate to, there are simple things we can do as the parent to help ease the tension of transition. Today I share 3 of those with you in hopes to increase fun and connection all while decreasing the frustration and getting the job done!
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2023-02-0414 minChaos to Connected - Helping Parents Navigate Challenging Behavior with Connection; Christian moms, behavior management, positive parenting, discipline, tantrums, aggression, biblical parentingDoes your child have meltdowns when something doesn’t go as planned? 2 reasons why this happens and 3 ways to help!I like to post a question box occasionally on my IG account asking what behavior parents are struggling with most at the time. One person wrote in: "meltdowns as soon as something doesn't go his way...it can be the littlest thing."
I have heard this SO many times that I thought it would be a great opportunity to address it here on the podcast!
Tune in to hear 2 reasons why this happens and 3 things you can actually do about it!
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2023-01-2814 minChaos to Connected - Helping Parents Navigate Challenging Behavior with Connection; Christian moms, behavior management, positive parenting, discipline, tantrums, aggression, biblical parentingMyles’ birth story + what I learned from my traumatic experienceToday, I thought it would be fitting to share Myles' birth story since his birthday was this week.
It was definitely tougher than I thought it would be this far from the experience, it's been six years, but I think it's something I learned the very hard way and I hope if you're in a similar place, maybe not necessarily giving birth, but somewhere in your motherhood journey that it can be helpful for you too.
One of the biggest lessons I've learned in becoming a mother and learning this style of...
2023-01-2029 minChaos to Connected - Helping Parents Navigate Challenging Behavior with Connection; Christian moms, behavior management, positive parenting, discipline, tantrums, aggression, biblical parentingDo you ever find yourself triggered by the same situation over and over again? Check out this strategy to help!Do you ever find yourself getting triggered by the same situation over and over again and despite recognizing it you just can't seem to change it?
Join me today as I share with you one strategy I use in the moment to combat the rising frustration and inevitable automatic reactions that tend to follow in order to pause, take a minute to reflect, shift perspective, and react in a calmer, more patient way.
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2023-01-1710 minChaos to Connected - Helping Parents Navigate Challenging Behavior with Connection; Christian moms, behavior management, positive parenting, discipline, tantrums, aggression, biblical parentingParent check in time...Are you doing this?As a parent who is regularly dealing with a child's behaviors, especially if it is one child in particular, it can become really easy to get stuck in certain patterning or habits around our responses to said child. Often it becomes just an automatic response and without recognizing it we can be actually adding more stress and disconnection to our relationship with our child.
Tune in today to find out if this is something you've been unknowingly struggling with and start to increase your awareness to bring change! Plus, you'll get a peek inside to how this...
2023-01-1310 minChaos to Connected - Helping Parents Navigate Challenging Behavior with Connection; Christian moms, behavior management, positive parenting, discipline, tantrums, aggression, biblical parentingDo you ever feel like you are failing as a mom because of your child’s behavior? 10 reasons why it might actually be a blessing!It can be really hard to see the good in behavior, especially when society conditions us otherwise.
We are taught to ignore and punish the behavior we want to go away and reward the behavior we desire. But this often gets us stuck in a trap of always having to manage and manipulate the behaviors.
As I look back on our journey and the intensity of the behaviors plus the immense weariness, exhaustion, and overwhelm that I felt as a mom trying to figure out how to make changes and get the...
2023-01-1023 minChaos to Connected - Helping Parents Navigate Challenging Behavior with Connection; Christian moms, behavior management, positive parenting, discipline, tantrums, aggression, biblical parentingDo you want to gain more immediate obedience when you give your child a direction? Learn how to set and hold a limit with connection.Truthfully, I LOVE to use play to get cooperation from my kids, particularly when it is a task they don’t want to do or are struggling to accomplish (like brushing teeth, changing clothes, etc.) and/or when I have less energy, patience and capacity for a large meltdown.
However, there is one strategy I haven’t shared a lot on yet that I think is vital in the growing obedience of our children.
I have heard a lot of people dinging gentle parenting lately, and while I believe I share more c...
2023-01-0516 minChaos to Connected - Helping Parents Navigate Challenging Behavior with Connection; Christian moms, behavior management, positive parenting, discipline, tantrums, aggression, biblical parentingIs gentle parenting actually harming your kid(s)?Have you seen the opinions shared around social media on gentle parenting? If you have, then you know it's not pleasant.
I've heard things like, gentle parenting is unbiblical or kids who have been raised this way grow up to be disrespectful or have more difficulty obeying authority.
Today, I address this question because I think people often mistake gentle for passive and they are 2 completely different things. I also share with you 5 unique traits I think this style of parenting has to offer.
I'd love to hea...
2023-01-0309 minChaos to Connected - Helping Parents Navigate Challenging Behavior with Connection; Christian moms, behavior management, positive parenting, discipline, tantrums, aggression, biblical parentingDo you ever feel overwhelmed by the goals you have for your child’s behavior or your ability to remain calm? My best advice for you heading into the New Year!Since the New Year is upon us, most of us tend to think of resolutions or goals that we would like to accomplish in the new year.
This simple activity can often become overwhelming because it tends to snowball into several goals across multiple areas resulting in a lot to remember and try to cram in.
Today, I'm sharing some encouragement and advice so you can head into the new year feeling empowered to start making little steps of change with your child's behavior and/or your ability to stay calm du...
2022-12-3014 minChaos to Connected - Helping Parents Navigate Challenging Behavior with Connection; Christian moms, behavior management, positive parenting, discipline, tantrums, aggression, biblical parentingDoes your child ever get on your last nerve? 3 simple things to do about it that will save your sanity!As the holidays are wrapping up, kids are still home from school and the weather isn't the best (at least here in MN), it can create the perfect environment for kids to get on your last nerve...to push those exact buttons that trigger you into frustration and impatience.
Today, I chat about 3 simple things you can incorporate immediately to help save your sanity and give your kids what they are looking for!
If you have felt encouraged by this episode (or another one), I'd love if you'd be willing to ta...
2022-12-2713 minChaos to Connected - Helping Parents Navigate Challenging Behavior with Connection; Christian moms, behavior management, positive parenting, discipline, tantrums, aggression, biblical parentingQ&A: Picky eating, potty training, jealousy, and MORE!Today, I'm answering your most recent questions!
Topics include:
*jealousy
*picky eating
*potty training
*poor personal space/body awareness
*getting rid of the nuk
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2022-12-2336 minChaos to Connected - Helping Parents Navigate Challenging Behavior with Connection; Christian moms, behavior management, positive parenting, discipline, tantrums, aggression, biblical parentingHave you ever planned a really special day or outing for your child and it ended with a meltdown or some not so nice words? Perspective and strategies to bring with you into the holiday season.Have you ever planned a really special day or outing for your child and gotten to the end of the day and your child suddenly has a meltdown or starts saying things like "you don't even like me" or "this was the worst day ever"?
This is a NORMAL reaction to a burst of connection and safety.
Join me today as I talk about what is actually happening and what you can do about it as you prepare for all of the holiday parties and festivities.
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2022-12-0217 minChaos to Connected - Helping Parents Navigate Challenging Behavior with Connection; Christian moms, behavior management, positive parenting, discipline, tantrums, aggression, biblical parentingDoes your spouse have trouble managing their triggers? 5 strategies to help increase awareness of triggers and provide support following behaviorDoes it ever bother you how your spouse handles your child's behavior? Do you wish he/she would just stay calm instead of yell or lose their temper?
Today I chat through 5 ways we can help our spouse to begin to understand that they are being triggered and ways we, as their partner, can support them through the process of resolution.
Plus a few bonus points for you to consider if you are the spouse who is frustrated or upset at how your partner handles themselves during your child's behavior.
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2022-11-2925 minChaos to Connected - Helping Parents Navigate Challenging Behavior with Connection; Christian moms, behavior management, positive parenting, discipline, tantrums, aggression, biblical parentingAre you feeling exhausted or burnt out from your child’s behaviors? Why self-care isn’t the answer + 2 strategies to replenish and refuel!Have you ever felt burnt out as a mom? Or overwhelmed by the behaviors and big feelings? Or exhausted from the repetitive nature of training a child and the day to day tasks that need to be done?
Then today is for you, mama! Join me as I chat why self-care is actually not the answer and 2 steps to refueling and replenishing your soul to get out of that stuck cycle.
I hope this blesses and encourages you as you walk through the trenches. You got this!
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2022-11-2623 minChaos to Connected - Helping Parents Navigate Challenging Behavior with Connection; Christian moms, behavior management, positive parenting, discipline, tantrums, aggression, biblical parentingDoes it ever feel more difficult to connect with one of your children as compared to the other? 3 strategies to help!Do you ever notice it is more difficult to connect with one of your children as compared to the other? Do you struggle with more challenging behaviors with one of your children while the other one seems to listen or naturally have a more calm personality?
Maybe you've never thought about the differences in connection between you and each child.
Either way, today is for you! I share how to start evaluating your connection levels with each child and 3 strategies to implement if you're finding one child may be lacking OR re...
2022-11-2224 minChaos to Connected - Helping Parents Navigate Challenging Behavior with Connection; Christian moms, behavior management, positive parenting, discipline, tantrums, aggression, biblical parentingWhen giving choices is counterproductive and what to do insteadAs your child grows older, it is natural to give more choices. Allowing them to pick out their outfit or what fruit will be in their school lunch gives them more independence and it can be really fun to get a peak into their thought processes and preferences.
However, I think sometimes we inject more choices when there is increasing behavior and likelihood for a meltdown. In these situations, I believe adding more choices can actually be counterproductive.
Join me today as I chat through why that is and what you ca...
2022-11-1810 minChaos to Connected - Helping Parents Navigate Challenging Behavior with Connection; Christian moms, behavior management, positive parenting, discipline, tantrums, aggression, biblical parentingDo you ever get triggered by your child’s behavior? 2 questions to ask yourselfHave you ever been triggered by your kid's behavior?
If you said no, then you must not be a parent.
Today, I want to share with you 2 things I think about when I'm triggered/reflect on after I've been triggered that have helped me immensely to effectively stay calm during a meltdown.
Fair warning, it's a little tough love but I think it will bless you!
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2022-11-1510 minChaos to Connected - Helping Parents Navigate Challenging Behavior with Connection; Christian moms, behavior management, positive parenting, discipline, tantrums, aggression, biblical parentingDoes your child get frustrated easily? Here’s why + 3 ways to help them get regulated!Do you ever notice your child getting frustrated easily? Maybe even during a simple task or something that they've regularly done that doesn't usually result in frustration?
Today, I share why this is occurring and 3 ways to help your child get regulated. Our natural response is usually one of attempting to problem solve and reason with/for them and that can actually perpetuate the cycle of frustration and behavior.
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2022-11-1108 minChaos to Connected - Helping Parents Navigate Challenging Behavior with Connection; Christian moms, behavior management, positive parenting, discipline, tantrums, aggression, biblical parenting”choose your battles” = a fallback strategy that does you and your child a disservice. The 1 strategy I recommend instead!Have you ever heard the phrase "choose your battles"?
Today, I dive into why I think this is the wrong phrase to consider when deciding whether or not you are going to hold the limit with your child AND what you should really be choosing...
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2022-11-0919 minChaos to Connected - Helping Parents Navigate Challenging Behavior with Connection; Christian moms, behavior management, positive parenting, discipline, tantrums, aggression, biblical parentingDoes your child struggle with sharing? How your natural response could be increasing your child’s unwillingness to shareDoes your child find it difficult to share? Do you notice your child trying to hoard his/her toys whenever another child comes over? Do you brace yourself for meltdowns when all of the kids are together because of the challenge that is sharing?
Then you're going to want to listen to this! I share more about how our natural responses could actually be increasing our child's unwillingness to share and what to do about it!
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2022-11-0412 minChaos to Connected - Helping Parents Navigate Challenging Behavior with Connection; Christian moms, behavior management, positive parenting, discipline, tantrums, aggression, biblical parentingDoes your child ever cry for you when he/she is with your husband? 3 reasons staying where you are is beneficialHave you ever been in the position where you are with one of your children (or just in another room) and another child is screaming for you?? "Mommy, mommy, I want mommy."
And all you want to do is run in there and comfort them from whatever is causing them to cry?
Today, I want to chat about why we, as moms, should stay out of it - as long as we know our child is with a loving, supportive, calm and empathetic caregiver who can handle the big emotions.
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2022-11-0116 minChaos to Connected - Helping Parents Navigate Challenging Behavior with Connection; Christian moms, behavior management, positive parenting, discipline, tantrums, aggression, biblical parentingWhat we speak about our kids matters, whether they hear it or not. Here’s why...I see all too often people on the internet sharing the "ridiculous thing my toddler melted down over today" and asking others to join in.
If you've participated, no shame thrown your way. Just a new perspective. Your child's perspective.
It deeply matters what we speak about our child because those words can take root in our hearts, even if we are saying them completely innocently for "fun" or connection with other moms and impact our parenting.
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2022-10-2812 minChaos to Connected - Helping Parents Navigate Challenging Behavior with Connection; Christian moms, behavior management, positive parenting, discipline, tantrums, aggression, biblical parentingDo you like to use tickling as a form of play? What you may not know about ticklingDid you grow up being tickled as a child?
If so, it might be something you don't even think about. Today, I want to share a (possibly) new perspective on tickling.
Did you know the laughter from tickling is reflexive aka forced and not actual laughter?
Listen in as I give you 2 tips on how to proceed.
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2022-10-2514 minChaos to Connected - Helping Parents Navigate Challenging Behavior with Connection; Christian moms, behavior management, positive parenting, discipline, tantrums, aggression, biblical parentingDo you know what your triggers are but can’t figure out how to manage them? Try this!I have heard from so many of you that you understand what your triggers are but you still have difficulty managing them. And that makes complete sense. You know why?
Our brain operates largely from our subconscious so until we bring intentionality to how we manage them nothing will change. Today, I dive into one of the strategies I have used successfully to change my habits surrounding behavior triggers.
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2022-10-2123 minChaos to Connected - Helping Parents Navigate Challenging Behavior with Connection; Christian moms, behavior management, positive parenting, discipline, tantrums, aggression, biblical parentingHave you ever wondered if a sticker chart would help ”fix” your child’s behavior? 4 reasons why I believe they are unnecessary and ineffectiveHave you ever wondered if a sticker chart would help "fix" your child's behavior?
You aren't alone! It is becoming more and more popular to implement charts and stickers to encourage kids to do the things and change certain behaviors.
However, I have 4 reasons I want you to consider.
What if, instead of putting so much energy into making the sticker chart, purchasing the reward, and constant reminders/threats/bribes for the daily sticker, you used that time to create connection.
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2022-10-1814 minChaos to Connected - Helping Parents Navigate Challenging Behavior with Connection; Christian moms, behavior management, positive parenting, discipline, tantrums, aggression, biblical parentingDoes your child use a nuk or suck his/her thumb to self-soothe? How it might be causing more behaviors...Does your child use a nuk or suck his/her thumb to self-soothe?
There is absolutely nothing wrong with utilizing these strategies, however, it is important to understand how and when to implement them. Often we are using them immediately upon crying or any type of dysregulation, which is blocking the release of emotions or feelings.
If this is the case, your child is likely exhibiting more behaviors. Listen in to learn how to utilize this regulating strategy in the optimal way!
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2022-10-1414 minChaos to Connected - Helping Parents Navigate Challenging Behavior with Connection; Christian moms, behavior management, positive parenting, discipline, tantrums, aggression, biblical parentingDoes your child struggle with self-regulation? Why self-regulation programs aren’t the answer.You've probably become more familiar with self-regulation programs recently (zones of regulation, how does your engine run, etc) because it isn't only utilized in therapy anymore; a lot of schools are also using it.
There is nothing wrong with using these programs and I think they can be helpful, however, if you are expecting this program to teach your child to learn to self-regulate, it won't.
Hear me out...there are 2 other things that need to happen first. Today, I dive deep into sensory processing/regulation, self-regulation programs, and the missing lin...
2022-10-1128 minChaos to Connected - Helping Parents Navigate Challenging Behavior with Connection; Christian moms, behavior management, positive parenting, discipline, tantrums, aggression, biblical parentingDo you have a child that purposefully does the opposite of what you ask? Here’s what they really need!It's easy to see your defiant child as just that, defiant.
But what if I told you there was so much more going on under the surface. That the defiance is merely a mask. The "I hate you" and the "get out of my room" and the "leave me alone" is really a cry for connection.
Did you know connection is as vital to a child is air, food, and water? Yet, society has conditioned us to do the opposite when our child misbehaves.
Tune in today to r...
2022-10-0708 minChaos to Connected - Helping Parents Navigate Challenging Behavior with Connection; Christian moms, behavior management, positive parenting, discipline, tantrums, aggression, biblical parenting”I don’t want to mess up my kids.”Have you ever said or thought "I don't want to mess my kids up"?
Tune in as I give you 3 keys to help lessen the weight of trying to be the "perfect" parent.
Special Time ebook & Tame Your Triggers Audio have both been upgraded to MELTDOWN MANAGEMENT Mini Training! Get it here → https://view.flodesk.com/pages/64406aa91df9ae473e5a55e3
If you are struggling to find strategies that help correct the challenging behaviors you are walking through and are ready to establish a Behavior Bluep...
2022-10-0411 minChaos to Connected - Helping Parents Navigate Challenging Behavior with Connection; Christian moms, behavior management, positive parenting, discipline, tantrums, aggression, biblical parentingDo you find yourself getting extremely frustrated when your child isn’t listening? Stop commanding, start trainingIt is really easy to get in the habit of shouting commands at our kids when they are behaving in a way that we don't like. But kids often need more direction than we are naturally inclined to give. What if we take it a step further and actually train them in what to do instead?
Special Time ebook & Tame Your Triggers Audio have both been upgraded to MELTDOWN MANAGEMENT Mini Training! Get it here → https://view.flodesk.com/pages/64406aa91df9ae473e5a55e3
If you are struggling to find...
2022-09-3007 minChaos to Connected - Helping Parents Navigate Challenging Behavior with Connection; Christian moms, behavior management, positive parenting, discipline, tantrums, aggression, biblical parentingI have a question for you...Did you know that the way your child learns most is through observation??
That also means that the saying "do what I say, not as I do" doesn't actually work.
So I have a question for you...what are you modeling for your child?
Unfortunately, it is often our natural inclination to respond to a behavior in a way that's actually reinforcing the behavior we don't want.
Listen in as I chat through what exactly that looks like and what you can do to sh...
2022-09-2708 minChaos to Connected - Helping Parents Navigate Challenging Behavior with Connection; Christian moms, behavior management, positive parenting, discipline, tantrums, aggression, biblical parentingDoes your child ever shut down before they even start the thing? Here’s how to create a just right challenge for your child’s emotional developmentHave you ever noticed that your child engaged in an experience but before he/she even got into it, he/she shut down?
Today, I want to talk with you about the concept of the 'just right' challenge and how we can implement this to help our child progress emotionally, especially when they have some stuck hurts or traumas.
If you struggle with managing your own triggers while listening to crying, this is an episode you don't want to miss!
Special Time ebook & Tame Your Triggers Audio have...
2022-09-2318 minChaos to Connected - Helping Parents Navigate Challenging Behavior with Connection; Christian moms, behavior management, positive parenting, discipline, tantrums, aggression, biblical parentingDo you turn down opportunities because your child has difficulty separating from you? 4 strategies to help prepare your child if you will be gone for a longer amount of timeHave you ever had to go on a work trip? Or wanted to go on a girls' trip? A vacation with your husband? Or maybe you just had to be out of town for the day.
Separation can be hard for our children, but there is a way that we can proactively prepare them and utilize connection strategies to help them process big feelings and emotions to help them resolve anything that gets triggered or comes up for them before you leave and after you come back.
Tune in as I cha...
2022-09-2012 minChaos to Connected - Helping Parents Navigate Challenging Behavior with Connection; Christian moms, behavior management, positive parenting, discipline, tantrums, aggression, biblical parentingAre you struggling to get your kids to listen to you the first time? Why counting to 3 isn’t working in your favor.One of the most widely used behavior modification and management strategies I've heard is the method in which you count to 3 (hoping not to make it to 3). The idea is that your child will get the hint that the behavior needs to change and offer him/her additional time before the consequence comes when you say "3".
I heard once that delayed obedience is still disobedience and it shifted how I thought about a lot of things in life.
Today, I dive into what I believe this method is training our kids to...
2022-09-1615 minChaos to Connected - Helping Parents Navigate Challenging Behavior with Connection; Christian moms, behavior management, positive parenting, discipline, tantrums, aggression, biblical parentingHave you ever felt pressure to mother/parent a certain way?Have you ever felt pressure in your parenting? Maybe it's in the food you give your child(ren). Maybe it's the way you manage his/her behaviors. Maybe it's spending money you don't have so your child(ren) can have the next newest thing.
Whatever it is, you aren't alone in it. Today, I share the biggest way I've learned to overcome any judgment or pressures I feel on this motherhood journey.
Special Time ebook & Tame Your Triggers Audio have both been upgraded to MELTDOWN MANAGEMENT Mini Training! Get it here → http...
2022-09-1310 minChaos to Connected - Helping Parents Navigate Challenging Behavior with Connection; Christian moms, behavior management, positive parenting, discipline, tantrums, aggression, biblical parentingDo your kids struggle to get along? 6 simple shifts to build sibling relationshipsDo your kids struggle to get along???
Mine have for the LONGEST time! I know there will always be some sibling rivalry there, but it was far beyond that. Let's just say that the first year of my second son's life was not welcomed with a lot of love from my oldest. I truly believe I had a bigger part to play in that, then I even realized at the time.
Today, I want to help you uncover things you are saying or doing that might be unintentionally creating some distance be...
2022-09-0919 minChaos to Connected - Helping Parents Navigate Challenging Behavior with Connection; Christian moms, behavior management, positive parenting, discipline, tantrums, aggression, biblical parentingDo you ever need your child to stay in one place AND be somewhat quiet? 2 essential components for success!Do you ever need your child to stay in one place AND be somewhat quiet?? Seems like quite the feat!
But it is possible! And it's possible without bribes and punishment/threats of consequences. Today I wanted to share 2 components that I think are essential to be able to support your child so they can be successful and you don't feel like you're pulling your hair out!
Special Time ebook & Tame Your Triggers Audio have both been upgraded to MELTDOWN MANAGEMENT Mini Training! Get it here → https://view.flodesk.com/pages/64406aa91...
2022-09-0616 minChaos to Connected - Helping Parents Navigate Challenging Behavior with Connection; Christian moms, behavior management, positive parenting, discipline, tantrums, aggression, biblical parentingHave you ever heard the saying, ”play is the work of the child”? 1 simple way to make play more connectingHave you ever heard the saying, "play is the work of the child"?
Play is such an important part of our jobs as parents - and one I definitely have to work at.
Join me today as I share with you one simple way to uplevel play with your child that brings more connection and laughter!
Special Time ebook & Tame Your Triggers Audio have both been upgraded to MELTDOWN MANAGEMENT Mini Training! Get it here → https://view.flodesk.com/pages/64406aa91df9ae473e5a55e3
2022-09-0208 minChaos to Connected - Helping Parents Navigate Challenging Behavior with Connection; Christian moms, behavior management, positive parenting, discipline, tantrums, aggression, biblical parentingWhat to do when your child says ”leave me alone!”Have you ever been in the middle of a conversation with your child or disciplining/training a child and suddenly they start shouting "leave me alone"...
Today, I want to offer a new perspective on what your child is actually communicating and how you can respond in a different way that builds connection, helps your child with emotional recovery, and decreases the unwanted behavior.
Special Time ebook & Tame Your Triggers Audio have both been upgraded to MELTDOWN MANAGEMENT Mini Training! Get it here → https://view.flodesk.com/pages/64406aa91df9ae473e5a5...
2022-08-3009 minChaos to Connected - Helping Parents Navigate Challenging Behavior with Connection; Christian moms, behavior management, positive parenting, discipline, tantrums, aggression, biblical parentingDo you feel like you have to peel your child off whenever it’s time to separate? 4 tips for a smoother transitionDoes your child have trouble separating from you? Does it take a toll on your emotions too? Are you wondering if there's actually anything you can do that will help support your child through it besides going through the same feelings of hoping it'll be different each day and then the peel off when it isn't, walking out the door leaving your child in tears? Maybe it even feels like it's getting worse...
Then join me today as I talk through 4 tips to help your child navigate separation anxiety. Just a reminder, this is part o...
2022-08-2617 minChaos to Connected - Helping Parents Navigate Challenging Behavior with Connection; Christian moms, behavior management, positive parenting, discipline, tantrums, aggression, biblical parentingMy Story & the creation of Chaos to ConnectedI realized last week that I've shared bits and pieces of our journey sprinkled throughout different episodes but I never really laid it all out there. So today, you're getting the full story of how Chaos to Connected came to be!
Where we started, what we walked through, and how we came out on the other side transformed, forever changed, and eternally grateful.
If you're in a tough season of motherhood, navigating challenging behaviors, and feeling like there is no hope, I want you to know that there is! I have bee...
2022-08-2327 minChaos to Connected - Helping Parents Navigate Challenging Behavior with Connection; Christian moms, behavior management, positive parenting, discipline, tantrums, aggression, biblical parentingDo you feel bad when your child cries? Or like it’s your job as a mom to make it stop?For the majority of my life, I thought crying was "bad" and something to be stopped; that it was my job as a mom to make the crying go away.
But what I actually learned while on this motherhood journey...crying is a natural recovery process and it is NEEDED.
If you feel uncertain or bothered or like it is your responsibility to help stop the crying, then this episode is for you.
Does your child have difficulty crying outside of getting hurt? Does your child have a l...
2022-08-1929 minChaos to Connected - Helping Parents Navigate Challenging Behavior with Connection; Christian moms, behavior management, positive parenting, discipline, tantrums, aggression, biblical parentingAre you in search of a parenting method that finally gets rid of your child’s behaviors?No matter what behavioral method, strategy, or parenting style you lean toward, so many of us choose it because it "promises" to help get rid of the behaviors.
The truth is, that's not true.
Behaviors will always be around because our children will always have feelings. They are continually developing impulse control and self-regulation skills as they grow, but these areas of the brain aren't matured until well into their twenties. It is unrealistic for us to expect our child to obey and control their impulses a majority of the time....
2022-08-1614 minChaos to Connected - Helping Parents Navigate Challenging Behavior with Connection; Christian moms, behavior management, positive parenting, discipline, tantrums, aggression, biblical parentingDid you know, the same reason your child has behaviors is the same reason you struggle to keep your cool during them?Today, I wanted to take a deeper dive into what is actually happening in your child's brain when he/she is triggered/disconnected.
I also walk you through a real time experience that will allow you to gain more empathy and understanding when you are supporting your child through his/her big feelings, that sometimes also includes more challenging behavior, and will also increase your awareness of the similarities of what it's like when you are triggered.
Special Time ebook & Tame Your Triggers Audio have both been upgraded to MELTDOWN MANAGEMENT Mi...
2022-08-1213 minChaos to Connected - Helping Parents Navigate Challenging Behavior with Connection; Christian moms, behavior management, positive parenting, discipline, tantrums, aggression, biblical parentingLIVE COACHING: Behavior Blueprint session (behavior is communication)Join me for a Behind the Scenes look into what a Behavior Blueprint coaching session looks like. This episode is focused on fear, separation anxiety, and aggressive behavior. You will be able to see the progression of behavior and connecting the dots back to experiences that were a catalyst to some of these big feelings and expressions of hurts. You will also get to hear how simple shifts in what you say and do can make a profound impact on your child's ability to heal those hurts vs keep them contained and continue to carry them.
2022-08-0956 minChaos to Connected - Helping Parents Navigate Challenging Behavior with Connection; Christian moms, behavior management, positive parenting, discipline, tantrums, aggression, biblical parentingHave you ever needed a break from your kid(s)?Behaviors can be challenging for a number of reasons, but I think one of the biggest reasons is that it can lead us to feel overwhelmed or exhausted which further plays into the challenge of wanting and desiring connection.
Connection is a basic necessity and is the #1 way to decrease unwanted behaviors.
Join me as I chat about how you can start connecting when it feels most challenging.
Special Time ebook & Tame Your Triggers Audio have both been upgraded to MELTDOWN MANAGEMENT Mini Training! Get it here → https...
2022-08-0514 minChaos to Connected - Helping Parents Navigate Challenging Behavior with Connection; Christian moms, behavior management, positive parenting, discipline, tantrums, aggression, biblical parentingLIVE COACHING: Behavior Blueprint Coaching Session (separation anxiety)Join me for a Behind the Scenes, sneak peek into what a Behavior Blueprint coaching session looks like. This episode is focused on strategies to work through separation anxiety that has resulted in intense, almost constant aggressive and impulsive behaviors.
We cover listening partnerships and more in depth about special time and how to incorporate it into a routine that doesn't feel overwhelming, while also providing the child with the connection that is needed to improve behaviors.
We also discuss what happens when you've gone through occupational therapy and participated in re...
2022-08-0232 minChaos to Connected - Helping Parents Navigate Challenging Behavior with Connection; Christian moms, behavior management, positive parenting, discipline, tantrums, aggression, biblical parentingSPECIAL GUEST: One of the foundational building blocks to managing your triggersJoin me as I talk with Caitlyn Martinez, Nutritional Therapy Practitioner and thyroid extraordinaire all about the building blocks of our health.
One of the biggest things I hear from moms is that it is really difficult to manage their own triggers. Your brain works all day to manage and hold in feelings, some hurts we don't even realize we are carrying. When your brain is working on overdrive because you haven't eaten in 6 hours or you skipped lunch altogether or your blood sugar is out of whack, it has a ripple effect on your p...
2022-07-2936 minChaos to Connected - Helping Parents Navigate Challenging Behavior with Connection; Christian moms, behavior management, positive parenting, discipline, tantrums, aggression, biblical parentingLIVE COACHING: Behavior Blueprint Coaching Session (aggressive behaviors)Join me for a Behind the Scenes, sneak peek into what a Behavior Blueprint coaching session looks like. This episode is focused on strategies to work through aggressive behavior.
Special Time ebook & Tame Your Triggers Audio have both been upgraded to MELTDOWN MANAGEMENT Mini Training! Get it here → https://view.flodesk.com/pages/64406aa91df9ae473e5a55e3
If you are struggling to find strategies that help correct the challenging behaviors you are walking through and are ready to establish a Behavior Blueprint with a step by step plan of exac...
2022-07-2636 minChaos to Connected - Helping Parents Navigate Challenging Behavior with Connection; Christian moms, behavior management, positive parenting, discipline, tantrums, aggression, biblical parentingDo you ever find yourself comparing your motherhood journey to another mom’s?Do you ever find yourself comparing your motherhood journey to another mom's? Maybe it's a friend, a family member, or even someone you follow on IG.
When you are struggling with behaviors, it can be difficult to get out of the mindset that they somehow manage to have it all figured out and they aren't dealing with the same behavioral issues as you are.
The truth is...behavior is NORMAL and should be expected. We only see a small snapshot of people's lives. Plus, if they aren't utilizing connection strategies in th...
2022-07-2217 minChaos to Connected - Helping Parents Navigate Challenging Behavior with Connection; Christian moms, behavior management, positive parenting, discipline, tantrums, aggression, biblical parentingDo you struggle to stay calm when your child is misbehaving? 3 keys to help you manage your triggersIn order to manage our child's behavior, we first have to manage our own ....and this can definitely be a challenge. Our child's behavior can re-stimulate our own triggers which is what stirs up those feelings that bubble over and lead us to yell or shame or punish and further that mom guilt we feel.
Today, I cover 3 things to remind yourself of when you encounter another tantrum or meltdown that will help you manage your own emotions so you can support your child through his/hers.
Special Time ebook & Tame Yo...
2022-07-1914 minChaos to Connected - Helping Parents Navigate Challenging Behavior with Connection; Christian moms, behavior management, positive parenting, discipline, tantrums, aggression, biblical parentingDo you ever feel guilty for allowing your child to have screen time? 4 ways to transform screen timeHave you ever noticed that your child has more behaviors after screen time?
What if I told you there is a reason for these behaviors beyond being overstimulated?
Screen time is naturally disconnecting if you don't know what to do to make it a time of connection. Disconnection leads to our child's signaling, otherwise known as behavior, and often more frustration for us.
Today, I share 4 ways to bring connection back into screen time and reduce the increase of behaviors.
Special Time ebook & Tame Your Triggers Audio have both be...
2022-07-1509 minChaos to Connected - Helping Parents Navigate Challenging Behavior with Connection; Christian moms, behavior management, positive parenting, discipline, tantrums, aggression, biblical parentingDoes your child have a calming space? Important factors to consider when creating oneWelcome back to part 2 of this Calming Spaces series!
If you haven't listened to the previous episode (part 1), go back and listen first. We cover what I really think about calming spaces and what I believe is most important when thinking about creating one.
HINT: If you are struggling with behaviors, managing them with a calming space or strategies is not the first step!
Today, we are talking about a few factors I think are important to consider when you're ready to start implementing calming strategies, plus some additional tips on different ways y...
2022-07-1219 minChaos to Connected - Helping Parents Navigate Challenging Behavior with Connection; Christian moms, behavior management, positive parenting, discipline, tantrums, aggression, biblical parentingDid you know your child doesn’t actually need all of the calming strategies and spaces to learn to regulate?As a pediatric occupational therapist, I am keenly aware of how often we are utilizing calming spaces to solve our child's behavioral issues. In fact, it was a big part of my role as an outpatient provider.
While I don't think there is anything wrong with calming spaces and strategies, after all they are needed sometimes, I do think there is one major thing that we are missing.
Listen in as I discuss what that is and how you can utilize it the next time you are finding yourself amidst the beh...
2022-07-0814 minChaos to Connected - Helping Parents Navigate Challenging Behavior with Connection; Christian moms, behavior management, positive parenting, discipline, tantrums, aggression, biblical parenting”Parents don’t really go on vacation, they just take care of their kids in a different city.” 3 strategies to help with behaviors while on vacationHave you ever seen the meme, "parents don't really go on vacation, they just take care of their kids in a different city"?
Isn't that so accurate??
Today, we chat 3 tips and strategies for what to do to be proactive as well as when you encounter behaviors while on vacation.
Special Time ebook & Tame Your Triggers Audio have both been upgraded to MELTDOWN MANAGEMENT Mini Training! Get it here → https://view.flodesk.com/pages/64406aa91df9ae473e5a55e3
If you are struggl...
2022-07-0514 minChaos to Connected - Helping Parents Navigate Challenging Behavior with Connection; Christian moms, behavior management, positive parenting, discipline, tantrums, aggression, biblical parentingDo you feel like all you say to your child is ”no”, ”stop”, or ”don’t do that”? 3 keys to creating your ”yes” environmentJoin me today as we talk about how to create an environment filled with more yes than no.
The more you can say "yes" to your child, the more weight your "no" will have.
Tune in as I talk through 3 keys to creating a yes environment that leads to more connection with your child and ultimately better behavior.
Special Time ebook & Tame Your Triggers Audio have both been upgraded to MELTDOWN MANAGEMENT Mini Training! Get it here → https://view.flodesk.com/pages/64406aa91df9ae473e5a55e3
If...
2022-07-0110 minChaos to Connected - Helping Parents Navigate Challenging Behavior with Connection; Christian moms, behavior management, positive parenting, discipline, tantrums, aggression, biblical parentingAre you saying these 3 words/phrases? Here’s how to remove them from your vocab to benefit your child’s emotional and physical health.There are a lot of things we could debate about when it comes to what we should or shouldn't say in front of your children.
Today, I want to share with you 3 words/phrases that I think are important to be aware of and remove as much as possible from your vocabulary to help improve overall development and mental health as your child ages.
Plus, I give you examples of how to shift those words/phrases into something that can provide emotional benefit to them in a variety of situations and environments.
2022-06-2811 minChaos to Connected - Helping Parents Navigate Challenging Behavior with Connection; Christian moms, behavior management, positive parenting, discipline, tantrums, aggression, biblical parentingDo you feel like you are constantly bombarded with parenting advice and struggle to know what to follow?There is so much advice and so many expectations placed on us as moms/parents.
What if I told you there is 1 main thing I think is most important to be consistent with in your parenting??
Listen in as I aim to take some of the overwhelm off your shoulders and give you one tangible strategy to focus on this week!
Special Time ebook & Tame Your Triggers Audio have both been upgraded to MELTDOWN MANAGEMENT Mini Training! Get it here → https://view.flodesk.com/pages/64406aa91df9ae473e5a55e3
2022-06-2411 minChaos to Connected - Helping Parents Navigate Challenging Behavior with Connection; Christian moms, behavior management, positive parenting, discipline, tantrums, aggression, biblical parentingDo you ever have more than one child vying for your attention? Here’s a guide for how to respondHave you ever been in between 2 (or more) kids who all want your attention and you felt overwhelmed with what to do and who to help or attend to first?
I find this to be one of the bigger challenges of motherhood, especially if both are crying and screaming for you! How do you possibly choose?? And when you do choose the other child(ren) make it seem like you've made the wrong choice!
Today, I give you a few tips on how to determine who needs you the most in those moments and how...
2022-06-2116 minChaos to Connected - Helping Parents Navigate Challenging Behavior with Connection; Christian moms, behavior management, positive parenting, discipline, tantrums, aggression, biblical parentingSPECIAL GUEST: Tools and tips to becoming a kingdom mother to parent kids in the ways of the kingdom, the way God parents us!Have you ever wondered what it looked like to be a kingdom focused mother? Or felt completely overwhelmed by trying to train your child up in the Lord?
Today, join Emily, from @kingdommotherhood, and I as we talk about it all!
Emily is a mom of 3 who has truly learned to rely on the Lord for guidance on how to parent her kids from a biblical perspective. We cover:
*prayer: how to pray for our kids and how to start incorporating prayer more into your daily routines and...
2022-06-1756 minChaos to Connected - Helping Parents Navigate Challenging Behavior with Connection; Christian moms, behavior management, positive parenting, discipline, tantrums, aggression, biblical parentingWhat about the ”good” kids?? Are no tantrums really better??Have you ever sat through a long day of tantrums and behaviors and thought I wish he/she could just be "good?"
Or do you have a child that follows directions, never pushes back, and always does the "right" thing?
Today, we dive into whether or not that truly is better and something to be desired from your child.
Special Time ebook & Tame Your Triggers Audio have both been upgraded to MELTDOWN MANAGEMENT Mini Training! Get it here → https://view.flodesk.com/pages/64406aa91df9ae473e5a55e3
2022-06-1413 minChaos to Connected - Helping Parents Navigate Challenging Behavior with Connection; Christian moms, behavior management, positive parenting, discipline, tantrums, aggression, biblical parentingDo you and your spouse disagree on behavior management strategies?One of the biggest challenges in parenting can be the blending of two different perspectives learning how to come together and figure out a plan for discipline. This can create even more tension when one parent has a preference for connection focused strategies and the other parent doesn't.
Join me as I chat about perspective shifts, strategies and some encouragement if your spouse isn't quite as excited about connected parenting as you are.
Special Time Podcast Episode: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/chaos-to-connected/id1609008872#episodeGuid=kjzeiher.podbean.com%2F54e66b4...
2022-06-1011 minChaos to Connected - Helping Parents Navigate Challenging Behavior with Connection; Christian moms, behavior management, positive parenting, discipline, tantrums, aggression, biblical parentingDo you find yourself in the middle of what feels like a losing battle with your child? My top tip to gain compliance in frustrating situationsDo you find yourself in the middle of what feels like a losing battle with your child?
You get frustrated and in attempts to regain control the tantrum grows and the cycle continues.
What if there was one simple shift you could make to help lessen the conflict and gain obedience?
Check out today's episode to hear my top tip!
Special Time ebook & Tame Your Triggers Audio have both been upgraded to MELTDOWN MANAGEMENT Mini Training! Get it here → https://view.flodesk.com/pages/64406aa91df9ae473e5a55e3
2022-06-0706 minChaos to Connected - Helping Parents Navigate Challenging Behavior with Connection; Christian moms, behavior management, positive parenting, discipline, tantrums, aggression, biblical parentingAre you really ok with the crying? 3 ways you might be unintentionally stopping your child(ren) from releasing big feelingsThere is so much depth to our reactions to the behaviors we encounter. It can be extremely difficult to see the patterning that we have developed from our upbringing and the molding that has occurred from society.
Today, I share with you 3 ways we unintentionally stop our child from expressing and releasing their feelings. This is always helpful for me in the middle of meltdowns to be more aware of to help change my natural patterning.
Which one do you struggle with or tend to rely on the most?
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2022-06-0310 minChaos to Connected - Helping Parents Navigate Challenging Behavior with Connection; Christian moms, behavior management, positive parenting, discipline, tantrums, aggression, biblical parentingSPECIAL GUEST: How to transform your motherhood and create life balance without having to choose between your family, priorities, and yourself.Do you struggle to find balance in motherhood? Or wonder if there is such a thing? Have you felt like you've lost yourself in motherhood or are finding it really challenging to prioritize taking care of yourself and managing all the things?
Today, I have the pleasure of chatting with Jenna, creator of The Balanced Mom Method, mom of 2 who set out on a journey to help other moms find balance in motherhood following her struggles during the fourth trimester with her first born. She has a passion for showing moms how to create life b...
2022-05-3151 minChaos to Connected - Helping Parents Navigate Challenging Behavior with Connection; Christian moms, behavior management, positive parenting, discipline, tantrums, aggression, biblical parentingDoes ignoring behavior actually work?With my background as a pediatric occupational therapist and working in an outpatient clinic, I came across recommendations of ignoring behavior as a behavioral modification strategy, frequently.
At the time, I honestly didn't think much of it because I didn't know any different.
However, I'd like to offer you a fresh perspective on whether or not ignoring your child's behavior actually helps and why! Check it out!
Special Time ebook & Tame Your Triggers Audio have both been upgraded to MELTDOWN MANAGEMENT Mini Training! Get it here → https://view.flodesk.com/pages/64406aa9...
2022-05-2710 minChaos to Connected - Helping Parents Navigate Challenging Behavior with Connection; Christian moms, behavior management, positive parenting, discipline, tantrums, aggression, biblical parentingDo you have a child that hits/kicks/bites? 5 Tips to Understand and Manage Aggressive Behavior.Does your child ever lash out when he/she is upset and hit, kick, bite, or pinch?
Did you know this is actually a NORMAL response to stored up fear and anger?
Want to know why the punishments and time outs aren’t working to get rid of the behavior?
Because it’s perpetuating the cycle of disconnection and the inability for your child to think logically. It also dampens the child’s ability to learn through co-regulation.
Obviously we don’t want our children...
2022-05-2022 minChaos to Connected - Helping Parents Navigate Challenging Behavior with Connection; Christian moms, behavior management, positive parenting, discipline, tantrums, aggression, biblical parentingDo you ever go to bed at night feeling guilty about the time and/or attention you couldn’t give to your child?In the busyness of life or the challenge of the season of motherhood you're in, it can be extremely difficult to feel connected to your child.
Do you ever go to bed at night feeling guilty about the time you had, whether not enough or not used in the way you wished it would have been?
Does your child have some challenging behaviors?
I have the solution for both! CONNECTION.
When our child feels disconnected, the brain is hard wired to signal us for...
2022-05-1311 minChaos to Connected - Helping Parents Navigate Challenging Behavior with Connection; Christian moms, behavior management, positive parenting, discipline, tantrums, aggression, biblical parentingAre you feeling overwhelmed by your child’s big feelings or challenging behaviors?If you are struggling or feeling overwhelmed by emotions or behaviors, then find 10 minutes in your schedule for some encouragement!
Reminder: our goal here isn't to remove behaviors completely, but to feel equipped to handle them; both in our response but also in our understanding.
We can do all the things connected and there may still be behaviors. Repeat after me....behaviors and emotions are NORMAL.
You got this!
Special Time ebook & Tame Your Triggers Audio have both been upgraded to MELTDOWN MANAGEMENT Mini...
2022-05-0608 minChaos to Connected - Helping Parents Navigate Challenging Behavior with Connection; Christian moms, behavior management, positive parenting, discipline, tantrums, aggression, biblical parentingSPECIAL GUEST: The Highly Sensitive Mom/The Highly Sensitive ChildJoin me as I chat with Kelsey; wife, mom of 3, and speech language pathologist with a passion for positive parenting through the highly sensitive lens.
We chat:
- what it means to be highly sensitive
-how to determine if you or your child is
-tips if you’re a highly sensitive mom, have a highly sensitive child, or both
-calming spaces, counseling and/or off-loading your own emotions, when to seek out help, and so much MORE!
Special Time ebook & Tame Your Triggers Audio...
2022-05-0350 minChaos to Connected - Helping Parents Navigate Challenging Behavior with Connection; Christian moms, behavior management, positive parenting, discipline, tantrums, aggression, biblical parentingHave you ever given your child exactly what they wanted and they still had a meltdown? 1 Simple Strategy to help you through it!Have you ever had this experience:
Parent: “Do you want the red or blue cup with your lunch?”
Child: “I want the red cup.”
Parent: gives child the red cup
Child: melts down and wants the blue cup
If it has, then today’s episode is for you! Join me as we dive into a simple strategy that you can implement and why it is so important!
Special Time ebook & Tame Your Triggers Audio have both been upgraded to MELTDOWN MANAGEMENT Mini Training! Get it here → https://v...
2022-04-2909 minChaos to Connected - Helping Parents Navigate Challenging Behavior with Connection; Christian moms, behavior management, positive parenting, discipline, tantrums, aggression, biblical parentingDoes your child need help learning how to regulate? 5 fun and simple activities to implementIt took me a while to understand why taking deep breaths, and teaching your child how to actually do it, can be one of the simplest, yet most impactful, strategies in your tool belt. Breathing is actually the only automatic function we can also control!
Join me as we dive into the vagus nerve and its impact on our ability to remain in the rest and digest/calm state.
Plus, we chat about 5 different FUN strategies that will encourage deep breathing = more time in the chill zone along with 2 BONUS strategies to get you everything y...
2022-04-2217 minChaos to Connected - Helping Parents Navigate Challenging Behavior with Connection; Christian moms, behavior management, positive parenting, discipline, tantrums, aggression, biblical parentingDo you want to know the difference between punishment and discipline??Today is the day we are talking all things punishment and discipline. PLUS we go deep into your child’s brain.
Do you want to know why your child is behaving in a less than preferred way?
Do you want to understand the ins and outs of the foundation of his/her emotions?
Do you want to understand the difference between punishment and discipline?
Then join us as we uncover the heart behind the behavior.
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2022-04-1519 minChaos to Connected - Helping Parents Navigate Challenging Behavior with Connection; Christian moms, behavior management, positive parenting, discipline, tantrums, aggression, biblical parentingDid you know inconsistent connection leads to more behavior? The #1 way to decrease unwanted behaviorsI have been sharing a lot about how connection is vital and a daily, even hourly need (or more depending on your child) but I wanted to take some time to help you actually establish a connection plan.
For every other vital necessity, and even things that aren’t necessary to actually maintain life, we have a plan. We even have a plan for connecting with others, even though we aren’t necessarily thinking in those terms.
Unfortunately, when it comes to our kids we have been continually trained in many circum...
2022-04-0818 minChaos to Connected - Helping Parents Navigate Challenging Behavior with Connection; Christian moms, behavior management, positive parenting, discipline, tantrums, aggression, biblical parentingIs your child afraid of going to the doctor or the dentist? 5 tips for difficult appointmentsIs your child afraid of going to the doctor or the dentist? Is it a struggle to get them into the car or into the office to be seen? Do you find yourself hesitating or trying to decide when to tell him/her to get the least emotional response??
A mom messaged me with a question re: dentist/doctor visits with children and how to go about navigating the behaviors and feelings that come up. So today, I am diving all in! We are going to talk about 5 areas to focus on when preparing to b...
2022-04-0522 minChaos to Connected - Helping Parents Navigate Challenging Behavior with Connection; Christian moms, behavior management, positive parenting, discipline, tantrums, aggression, biblical parentingDo you ever feel like the whining, back talk, and arguing is constant? 5 simple strategies to get out of meltdown modeDo you ever feel like the whining, the back talk, the arguing is constant??
It can be easy to get trapped in meltdown mode, especially with full schedules and limited time left for connection.
Today, we are diving into 5 simple ways to pull your child out of meltdown mode and get things back on track!
Special Time ebook & Tame Your Triggers Audio have both been upgraded to MELTDOWN MANAGEMENT Mini Training! Get it here → https://view.flodesk.com/pages/64406aa91df9ae473e5a55e3
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2022-04-0107 minChaos to Connected - Helping Parents Navigate Challenging Behavior with Connection; Christian moms, behavior management, positive parenting, discipline, tantrums, aggression, biblical parentingDo you find it challenging to keep your calm during meltdowns? 5 game changing tipsDo you find it challenging to keep your calm amongst the chaos? The constant meltdowns? The yelling? The whining? More than one child crying at a time? All the things??
I get it! I went through a major season of overwhelm and walked through some really challenging behaviors with my spirited child. During that time, I discovered 5 things that were game changers for me as I was sanctified over and over and grew in ways that allowed us to bust through the behaviors in a more effective way.
Figure out your triggers and...
2022-03-2517 minChaos to Connected - Helping Parents Navigate Challenging Behavior with Connection; Christian moms, behavior management, positive parenting, discipline, tantrums, aggression, biblical parentingDo you want to know the secret to better behavior?Have you ever typed in a google search bar…”how do I get my child to stop crying?” or “why is my child crying so much?”
Today we are diving into the crying. What it means, why it’s beneficial, and how you can support your child through it to build your connection. And if you’re new, or you’ve forgotten, more connection = better behavior.
Here are a few key takeaways to help you understand more about your child as they work through a meltdown/tantrum/emotional expression…
Their prefrontal cortex de...
2022-03-1814 minChaos to Connected - Helping Parents Navigate Challenging Behavior with Connection; Christian moms, behavior management, positive parenting, discipline, tantrums, aggression, biblical parentingDoes your child need 50 things before bedtime? 2 Strategies that will help you transform your bedtime routine!Do you envision this peaceful bedtime routine that is quick and easy but you end up with 3 trips to the bathroom, 5 drinks of water, 10 more hugs and kisses, begging for more stories and the repeated tucking and re-tucking in??
Today we dive into why this is and the 2 key strategies you can be implementing today to prevent the battle of the bedtime routine.
The constant requests and attempts to control what is happening is due to the buildup of feelings and emotions just under the surface that the body naturally tries to...
2022-03-1110 minChaos to Connected - Helping Parents Navigate Challenging Behavior with Connection; Christian moms, behavior management, positive parenting, discipline, tantrums, aggression, biblical parentingDid you know naming feelings actually stops your child from working through them? 3 reasons you don’t need to label emotionsIn today's episode we are talking all about labeling a child's feelings in the moment of a meltdown.
DID YOU KNOW....
Research actually shows naming feelings pulls children away from feeling their feelings?? The effort it takes to transition from what their brain was created to do (expel negative feelings/energy/experiences) to either agreeing or disagreeing with us actually stops them from focusing on releasing that feeling.
Plus, we could be labeling incorrectly!
You may be wondering, okay, then what am I supposed to do??
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2022-03-0413 minChaos to Connected - Helping Parents Navigate Challenging Behavior with Connection; Christian moms, behavior management, positive parenting, discipline, tantrums, aggression, biblical parentingHave you ever been in the midst of a tantrum, whining, or sibling fights and found yourself at a loss of what to do?Have you ever been in the midst of a tantrum, whining, sibling fighting and found yourself at a loss of what to do?
All of the obvious things don’t necessarily yield the results you are wanting and it leaves you feeling more guilty than relieved?
Today, we are talking all about the #1 strategy I use to gain compliance or obedience during anything that is not a full blown meltdown….PLAY LISTENING.
Play is truly the work of the child and every time I have intentionally utilized it durin...
2022-02-2527 minChaos to Connected - Helping Parents Navigate Challenging Behavior with Connection; Christian moms, behavior management, positive parenting, discipline, tantrums, aggression, biblical parentingHave you ever used the phrases the ”terrible twos” or ”threenager” to describe your child? Here’s why you should reconsider"For the mouth speaks what the heart is full of." Matthew 12:34
Have you ever heard the phrases the "terrible twos" or "threenager"? In this episode I'm diving into why we do this and why we should reconsider. The words we speak over our children (whether they are present or not) not only impacts them, but it affects the lens to which we view their behaviors.
Behaviors are either a heart issue or in this case, most likely, a developmental progression. When we can shift our words to more positive descriptors it can truly help us...
2022-02-1816 minChaos to Connected - Helping Parents Navigate Challenging Behavior with Connection; Christian moms, behavior management, positive parenting, discipline, tantrums, aggression, biblical parentingAre you struggling with your child’s behaviors?Do you struggle with behaviors on a regular basis? There is SO much advice out there - time outs, different punishments and consequences, rewards, bribes, sticker charts, the list goes on!
But what if there was one simple thing you could do each day that didn’t require any of that?! Introducing SPECIAL TIME! In today’s episode I dive deep into what special time is (it’s different than 1:1 time) and how you can implement it into your routine no matter what season of life you are in! This tool has transformed our lives and I have r...
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