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Simply HumanBREAK THE WORRY SPIRAL: Simple Tools for Uncertain Times"Text us your thoughts and questions!"Your brain at 3 AM: “What if I lose my job? What if AI takes over? What if my retirement disappears?”Sound familiar? You’re not alone—and you’re not stuck. In this raw, honest episode, Karen Lynskey, Leadership & Self Trust Coach, shares the one question that’s been a lifeline for her clients (and herself): What can I do right now?🔗 Full episode below 👇In this deeply personal episode of Simply Human, Karen Lynskey, Leadership & Self Trust Coach gets vulnerable about the mental sp...2025-07-1906 min
Simply HumanSecret to Work Relationships: Attentiveness"Text us your thoughts and questions!"Imagine a workplace relationship secret that no one is talking about that is simple yet powerful.In this episode of Simply Human, we unpack the workplace secret of attentiveness: Observe ✚ Give a 💩 ✚ Act. This isn't how most people would define attentiveness. It's about showing up with genuine attention and strategic support. We explore: – Why genuine attentiveness in the workplace can be a gamechanger for work relationships– What to observe when colleagues are struggling and feeling overwhelmed (in-person and virtual) – Why "How can I help?" actually...2025-07-0507 min
Simply HumanYOU MISSED IT--AND THEY KNOW IT!!! Relationship Secret Sauce"Text us your thoughts and questions!"You do the dishes, take out the trash—but your partner still feels unseen. Why?In this episode of Simply Human, we explore what “attentiveness” really means in a relationship. Hint: It’s not about checking boxes. It’s about a three-part formula:Notice + Give a 💩 + Act.We discuss:– Why doing “the things” still isn’t enough– The emotional cost of being missed– How attentiveness fosters real safety and connection– Gendered patterns around emotional labor– What small, real-life moments of care look likeWheth...2025-06-2134 min
Simply HumanMASTERING RISK: Badass or Dumbass"Text us your thoughts and questions!"All of us ask risk situations in our life. What makes the difference between the badass who masters risk to achieve bold objectives and the dumbass who skates by on luck and bravado? Join us to explore the nature of risk taking.📖 Explore More: “Fine Lines: Life Lessons From Adventure Athletes” https://www.redbull.com/eu-en/films/fine-linesSERENITY PRAYER“God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, The courage to change the things I can, ...2025-06-0742 min
Simply HumanTHE INQUIRY TOOLKIT: Observing What Others Miss"Text us your thoughts and questions!"The secret to powerful communication is mastering the skill of switching from the content of the conversation to the process when “how” we are interacting with someone becomes more important than the “what” we are talking about.Join us as we continue to explore Edgar Schein's Inquiry framework by learning when taking time to engage in process-oriented inquiry helps to reveal the hidden interpersonal dynamics and currents that might be keeping you stuck. 📖 Explore More: “Humble Inquiry: The Gentle Art of Asking Instead of Telling” https://a.co/d/ey...2025-05-2433 min
Simply HumanTHE INQUIRY TOOLKIT: When to Diagnose vs When to Challenge"Text us your thoughts and questions!"Many of us like to tell our opinions, offer solutions, or give advice. But what if all that “telling” is actually shutting people down?Join us as we continue to explore Edgar Schein's Inquiry framework by learning when taking time to inquiry can help to diagnose a core problem and when confrontational or strategic inquiry can help to move a conversation forward. Learn practical techniques to create psychological safety, access others' wisdom, and transform challenging relationships through the subtle art of asking questions with genuine curiosity and humility.📖...2025-05-1027 min
Simply HumanHUMBLE INQUIRY: Harness Curiosity for Deeper Connection"Text us your thoughts and questions!"Most of us think we're good listeners, but what if the questions we ask are actually shutting down connection? Discover how Edgar Schein's Humble Inquiry framework reveals the hidden dynamics in our conversations. Learn practical techniques to create psychological safety, access others' wisdom, and transform challenging relationships through the subtle art of asking questions with genuine curiosity of not knowing the answer. 📖 Explore More: “Humble Inquiry: The Gentle Art of Asking Instead of Telling” https://a.co/d/eyPK2cdFor more on how styles...2025-04-2638 min
Simply HumanINTERPERSONAL TRUST: Gift Given or Reward Earned?"Text us your thoughts and questions!"Are you someone who gives trust freely or do you require that trust be earned? Explore the pros and cons of each style and strategies to mitigate the cons of your preferred style.📖 Explore More: For more on how to engage in inquiry and assert boundaries when you need to confront concerning behavior:Simply Human: “You Want to Stop Avoiding Conflict: Now What?” https://youtu.be/oPBId3fVLZoSimply Human: “Why Your Boundaries Don’t Work” https://youtu.be/5hqz3yFx-YgTHOUGHT QUESTION: What is your trust appro...2025-04-1937 min
Simply HumanTRUST & RESPECT: Relationships That Actually Matter"Text us your thoughts and questions!"In our most important relationships we want to cultivate and receive Trust and Respect. Join us to explore some of the neurological processes of trust and what behaviors and practices are essential to building trusting and respectful relationships.📖 Explore More: Chase Hughes YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@chasehughesofficialSpider @ The Behavioral Arts YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@TheBehavioralArtsBrene Brown:TED Talk - Power of Vulnerability https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iCvmsMzlF7oThe Power of Vulnerability: https://a.co/d/8o...2025-04-1237 min
Simply HumanFEAR LESS, DO MORE: The Situational Courage Blueprint"Text us your thoughts and questions!"Join us in our continued exploration of courage. Learn how to deal with situational challenges by cultivating the strategy of harnessing courage to move out of the “comfort zone” and into the “growth zone”📖 Explore More: Alex Honold TED Talk: “How I climbed a 3,000-foot vertical cliff -- without ropes”, April 2018https://www.ted.com/talks/alex_honnold_how_i_climbed_a_3_000_foot_vertical_cliff_without_ropes?utm_campaign=tedspread&utm_medium=referral&utm_source=tedcomshare“Free Solo” National Geographic Documentary Filmshttps://films.nati...2025-04-0540 min
Simply HumanCourage Beyond Labels: Choosing I/Thou in a World of I/It"Text us your thoughts and questions!"Join us in our continued exploration of courage and how we can use courage to sit in the uncertainty about another person without reaching for the quick label to avoid our discomfort. Learn about the concept of cultivating an I & Thou relationship rather than objectifying people into an I/It relationship. This requires sitting in uncertainty and our vulnerability, which requires we cultivate courage and curiosity.📖 Explore More: “I and Thou” by Martin Buber https://a.co/d/3MFj3dy🌐 Connect with Karen and Christina:Email...2025-03-2908 min
Simply HumanHEART OVER FEAR: Conquering Imposter Syndrome with Courage"Text us your thoughts and questions!"Join us in our continued exploration of courage and how we can tap into courage to combat imposter syndrome.📖 Explore More: Simply Human Imposter Syndrome Playlist: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLg_3lbIOBUhkXk5zG1g-TrVW6FWAmxsBvEXERCISE:Values Clarification Reflection:Think about a time when you felt the most comfortable, engaged, and purposeful. What was I doing when I felt most in integrity with myself? Focus on behaviors. How was I showing up?What would I stand up for even if I st...2025-03-1535 min
Simply HumanINTERPERSONAL COURAGE: Showing Up For Our Most Important Relationships"Text us your thoughts and questions!"Be it difficult times and ordinary times, we are often called on to face our fears and find our courage interpersonal relationships. Learn a new framework for confronting fear and learn how to turn fear into an invitation to encounter the courage within. 📖 Explore More: “The Power of Vulnerability: Teachings on Authenticity, Connection, and Courage” with Brené Brown. https://a.co/d/gp6HZpJ“10 Guideposts for Wholehearted Living” https://brenebrown.com/art/ten-guideposts-for-wholehearted-living-3/🌐 Connect with Karen and Christina:Email: simplyhuman.conne...2025-03-0838 min
Simply HumanPROFILE IN COURAGE: Zelenskyy vs The Goliaths"Text us your thoughts and questions!"This short commentary launches our 2nd year on YouTube and the beginning of a deep dive into the human capacity for Courage. Current events demand the spotlight on a profile in courage, President Volodymyr Zelenskyy as he defends himself and his country from an unprecedented ambush by the US President.🌐 Connect with Karen and Christina:Email: simplyhuman.connect@gmail.com👀 Watch us on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@SimplyHuman-connecthttps://kleeconnect.com (Professional/Organization Coaching)https://selftrustcoach.com (Personal Coaching)https://www.christ...2025-03-0211 min
Simply HumanSTOP DROPPING HINTS! Why Hidden Requests Lead to Conflict & Resentment"Text us your thoughts and questions!"Dropping hints and sideways comments might feel safe but actually these indirect communication strategies often result in conflict, resentment, and cognitive fatigue. Learn why we engage in hidden requests and how to start practicing being more direct.📖 Explore More: Simply Human Communication playlist: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLg_3lbIOBUhkJudK9yjf3FGZIdpxnatstSimply Human Boundaries playlist; https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLg_3lbIOBUhkBa_2SZ8gHCI4uo_4qgoLj🌐 Connect with Karen and Christina:Email: simplyhuman.connect@gmail.com👀 Watch us on YouT...2025-02-2237 min
Simply HumanLEARNING TO SIT WITH UNCERTAINTY: Finding Peace in Challenging Times"Text us your thoughts and questions!"Humanity continues to find itself facing more uncertainty and chaos than we have faced in a long, long time. Join us as we explore what the wisdom traditions can teach us on how to find peace in challenging times. 📖 Explore More: SERENTIY PRAYER"God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, courage to change the things I can, and wisdom to know the difference"Mindfulness link*10 Minute Guided Mindfulness Meditation with Jon Kabat-Zinn https://youtu.be/8HYLyuJZKno?si=QS...2025-02-1540 min
Simply HumanAMERICA'S EMPATHY CRISIS: How Schadenfreude Divides Us"Text us your thoughts and questions!"America continues to find itself more and more polarized as our we move into uncharted territory as a nation. A growing addiction to the emotion of Schadenfreude, the experience of pleasure in another person’s misfortune or harm, is threatening to erode our capacity for empathy, compassion, and common purpose. In this episode we explore how tribalism, polarization, cognitive biases, and media have supercharged the potential dark side of Schadenfreude and what we can do to protect our capacity for empathy and shared humanity.🌐 Connect with Karen...2025-02-0836 min
Simply HumanHIDDEN EXPECTATIONS: When Silence Speaks Volumes"Text us your thoughts and questions!"In this episode we diver deeper into how the “hidden” parts of our awareness, specifically Hidden Expectations. Hidden expectations can contribute to more, not less, stress and discontent in relationships. We will continue to work with the JOHARI window as the model for brining what is “hidden” into the “open” domain.📖 Explore More: Learn more about the JOHARI Window in our episode - “Blind spots, secrets, and the unconscious: JOHAR Window, Paths to being more Open.”https://youtu.be/rAD5RvexdH8From “Can you?” To “Willing to?”...2025-02-0137 min
Simply HumanTHE HIDDEN HEART: Revealing Your Emotional Truth"Text us your thoughts and questions!"In this episode we diver deeper into how the “hidden” parts of our awareness, specifically Hidden Feelings and Emotions. Hidden feelings and emotions can contribute to feeling drained, anxiety, and strain in relationships. We will continue to work with the JOHARI window as the model for brining what is “hidden” into the “open” domain.📖 Explore More: Learn more about the JOHARI Window in our episode - “Blind spots, secrets, and the unconscious: JOHAR Window, Paths to being more Open.”https://youtu.be/rAD5RvexdH8Brené Brown “Atl...2025-01-2532 min
Simply HumanWHEN BLAME BECOMES A SHIELD: Understanding Our Response to Trauma"Text us your thoughts and questions!"Nine days after the historic devastation of the Los Angeles wildfires that destroyed over 12,000 homes and structures, we explore the psychological instinct to “Blame” as a response to trauma, the hidden costs of blame as an act of protection, and how to bring compassion and awareness to the moment.📖 Help With the Recovery: With threats of withholding aid coming from the soon-to-be installed national leadership, we are grateful to all the people who have stepped forward to help our citizens and communities start the long road to recovery...2025-01-1821 min
Simply HumanHIDDEN THOUGHTS: When Avoiding "Rocking the Boat" Sinks the Relationship"Text us your thoughts and questions!"In this episode we diver deeper into how the “hidden” parts of our awareness, specifically Hidden Thoughts” can contribute to more, not less, stress and discontent in relationships. We will continue to work with the JOHARI window as the model for brining what is “hidden” into the “open” domain.📖 Explore More: Learn more about the JOHARI Window in our episode - “Blind spots, secrets, and the unconscious: JOHAR Window, Paths to being more Open.”https://youtu.be/rAD5RvexdH8On how the Hidden contributes to conflic...2025-01-1135 min
Simply HumanFrom 'Can you?' to 'Willing to?': A Game-Changing Ask"Text us your thoughts and questions!"We continue our exploration of why it feel so hard to get needs met and how to be more skillful in having needs-request conversations. In this episode we diver deeper into how the language you use can help or interfere with getting your needs met. Learn the language of Willingness and why it is so effective in encouraging helping behavior.📖 Explore More: The Hidden Reasons You Aren’t Getting Your Needs Met https://youtu.be/dwB1rSfJ364Language of Willingness STEPS:Share what you are str...2025-01-0431 min
Simply HumanThe Hidden Reasons Your Needs Aren't Being Met"Text us your thoughts and questions!"Having needs is human. So why does it feel so hard to get needs met and why are needs often the source of interpersonal conflict? In this episode we explore the hidden yet common reasons why people have difficulty getting their needs met, the relationship between getting needs met and effective boundaries, common traps like expecting mind reading, and what you can do to be a better advocate for your needs.📖 Explore More: Blind Spots, Secrets, & the Unconscious: JOHARI Window - Paths to being More Open https://yout...2024-12-2839 min
Simply HumanBLIND SPOTS, SECRETS, &THE UNCONSCIOUS: JOHARI WINDOW - PATHS TO BEING MORE OPEN"Text us your thoughts and questions!"All people have blind spots, things we hold back and keep secrets, and parts that are hidden in our unconscious. This episode introduces the JOHARI Window model on how to be more open by 1) being open to feedback, and 2) voluntarily disclosing. Learn how to use the JOHARI Window in your professional and personal life to cultivate greater openness and awarenes.📖 Explore More on YouTube: Communication Playlist: https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PLg_3lbIOBUhkJudK9yjf3FGZIdpxnatst&si=pgTyUmeU9t8HMOxThe Behavioral Arts Channel: https://youtu.be/p...2024-12-2146 min
Simply HumanSTOP MAKING BAD DECISIONS! 4 Secrets to Evaluate the Whole Picture"Text us your thoughts and questions!"In this short episode we pull together what we have learned over the past four episodes about Carl Jung’s “Judging” cognitive function and apply it to a holistic decision-making model called “The Z Model”📖 Explore More: Z-Model for Data Collection and Decision Making: https://www.christinacarophd.com/s-projects-basicStart with the four Judging Functions episodes to this series:“Structured Impact: The Extroverted Thinking Brain” https://youtu.be/sclVYpx_Qjg“Inner Algorithms: The Introverted Thinking Brain” https://youtu.be/n6uFQou0rq4“Connected Ha...2024-12-1417 min
Simply HumanINNER COMPASS: The Introverted Feeling Brain (ISFP, INFP, ESFP, ENFP)"Text us your thoughts and questions!"This is the 8th of 8 episodes covering different “Perceiving” and “Judging” (or decision-making) cognitive functions as observed by Carl Jung. These differences have a significant impact on our personality and how we operate in the world. Episode 8 in the series explores the Inner Compass “Judging” function of Feeling in the Introverted (or inward) orientation. 📖 Explore More: “Personality Type: An Owner’s Manual” by Lenore Thomson https://a.co/d/ih9AOhz“Personality Types: Jung’s Model of Typology” by Daryl Sharp https://a.co/d/7sNTyfm“Psychological Ty...2024-12-0843 min
Simply HumanCONNECTED HARMONY: The Extroverted Feeling Brain (ESFJ, ENFJ, ISFJ, INFJ)"Text us your thoughts and questions!"This is the 7th of 8 episodes covering different “Perceiving” and “Judging” (or decision-making) cognitive functions as observed by Carl Jung. These differences have a significant impact on our personality and how we operate in the world. Episode 7 in the series explores the Connected Harmony “Judging” function of Feeling in the Extroverted (or outward) orientation. Follow along with the exercises to get the most out of the episode.📖 Explore More: “Personality Type: An Owner’s Manual” by Lenore Thomson https://a.co/d/ih9AOhz“Personality Types: Jung’s Model of Ty...2024-11-2333 min
Simply HumanINNER ALGORITHMS: The Introverted Thinking Brain (ISTP, INTP, ESTP, ENTP)"Text us your thoughts and questions!"This is the 6th of 8 episodes covering different “Perceiving” and “Judging” (or decision-making) cognitive functions as observed by Carl Jung. These differences have a significant impact on our personality and how we operate in the world. Episode 6 in the series explores the Inner Algorithms “Judging” function of Thinking in the Introverted (or inward) orientation. Follow along with the exercises to get the most out of the episode.📖 Explore More: “Personality Type: An Owner’s Manual” by Lenore Thomson https://a.co/d/ih9AOhz“I’m Not Crazy, I’m Just Not Y...2024-11-1648 minSimply HumanSTRUCTURED IMPACT: The Extroverted Thinking Brain (ESTJ, ENTJ, ISTJ, INTJ)"Text us your thoughts and questions!"This is the 5th of 8 episodes covering different “Perceiving” and “Judging” (or decision-making) cognitive functions as observed by Carl Jung. These differences have a significant impact on our personality and how we operate in the world. Episode 5 in the series explores Structured Impact “Judging” function of Thinking in the Extroverted (or outward) orientation. Follow along with the exercises to get the most out of the episode.📖 Explore More: “Personality Type: An Owner’s Manual” by Lenore Thomson https://a.co/d/ih9AOhz“I’m Not Crazy, I’m Just Not You...2024-11-0933 min
Simply HumanStop Making Bad Decisions! 4 Secrets to See the Whole Picture | Z Model Pt.1"Text us your thoughts and questions!"In this short episode we pull together what we have learned over the past four episodes about the Jungian “Perceiving” cognitive function and apply it to a holistic data-collection and decision-making model called “The Z Model”📖 Explore More: Z-Model for Data Collection: https://www.christinacarophd.com/s-projects-basic“Personality Type: An Owner’s Manual” by Lenore Thomson https://a.co/d/ih9AOhz“Please Understand Me: Character and Temperament Types” By David Keirsey.https://a.co/d/bPSRl7Z“Personality Types: Jung’s Model of T...2024-11-0213 min
Simply HumanInner Vision: The Introverted iNtuitive Brain (INTJ, INFJ, ENTJ, ENFJ)"Text us your thoughts and questions!"This is the 4th of 8 episodes covering different “Perceiving” and “Judging” (or decision-making) cognitive functions as observed by Carl Jung. These differences have a significant impact on our personality and how we operate in the world. Episode 4 in the series explores the Inner Vision perceiving function of iNtuition in the Introverted (or inward) orientation. Follow along with the exercises to get the most out of the episode.📖 Explore More: “Personality Type: An Owner’s Manual” by Lenore Thomson https://a.co/d/ih9AOhz“I’m Not Crazy, I’m Just N...2024-10-2643 min
Simply HumanLimitless Possibilities: The Extroverted iNtuitive Brain (ENTP, ENFP, INTP, INFP)"Text us your thoughts and questions!"This is the third of 8 episodes covering different “Perceiving” and “Judging” (or decision-making) cognitive functions as observed by Carl Jung. These differences have a significant impact on our personality and how we operate in the world. Episode 3 in the series explores the Limitless Possibilities perceiving function of iNtuition in the Extroverted (or outward) orientation. Follow along with the exercises to get the most out of the episode.📖 Explore More: “Personality Type: An Owner’s Manual” by Lenore Thomson https://a.co/d/ih9AOhz“I’m Not Crazy, I’m Just N...2024-10-1943 min
Simply HumanMEMORY IN MOTION: The Introverted Sensing Brain (ISTJ, ISFJ, ESTJ, ESFJ)"Text us your thoughts and questions!"This is the second of 8 episodes covering different “Perceiving” and “Judging” (or decision-making) cognitive functions as observed by Carl Jung. These differences have a significant impact on our personality and how we operate in the world Episode 2 in the series explores the Memory in Motion perceiving function of Sensing in the introverted (or inward) orientation. Follow along with the exercises to get the most out of the episode.📖 Explore More: “Personality Type: An Owner’s Manual” by Lenore Thomson https://a.co/d/ih9AOhz“I’m Not Crazy, I’m J...2024-10-1238 min
Simply HumanIN THE NOW: The Extroverted Sensing Brain (ESTP, ESFP, ISTP, ISFP)"Text us your thoughts and questions!"This is the first of 8 episodes covering different “Perceiving” and “Judging” (or decision-making) cognitive functions as observed by Carl Jung. These differences have a significant impact on our personality and how we operate in the world Episode 1 in the series explores the “Here and Now” perceiving function of Sensing in the extroverted (or outward) orientation. Follow along with the exercises to get the most out of the episode.📖 Explore More: “Personality Type: An Owner’s Manual” by Lenore Thomson https://a.co/d/ih9AOhz“I’m Not Crazy, I’m Just...2024-10-0534 min
Simply HumanMYTH BUSTER: Introversion & Extroversion"Text us your thoughts and questions!"We bust three common myths related to introversion and extroversion and explore how understanding how these traits influence our interpersonal relationships can improve our partnerships, friendships, and work experiences.🔥 Why Listen To This Episode?✅ Myth Buster 1: Introverts are antisocial or shy✅ Myth Buster 2: Extroverts are outgoing and confident✅ Myth Buster 3: We are either Introverted or Extroverted (instead of both/and)📖 Explore More: “Quiet: The Power of Introversion in a World That Won’t Stop Talking” by Susan Cain“The best busines...2024-09-2842 min
Simply HumanDREAMS: Ego-free Insight"Text us your thoughts and questions!"Join us as we delve into the world of dreams and introduce dreamwork as an important tool for personal growth and discovery.🔥 Why Listen to This Episode?✅ Learn how to gain wisdom when your ego is off-line✅ Learn how nightmares can bring critical insight✅ Explore universal dream symbols📖 Explore More: For excellent resources on individual and group dreamwork, visit Jeremy Taylor’s website athttps://jeremytaylor.comFor beginners, start with the following books by Jeremy TaylorDream work: Tec...2024-09-2144 min
Simply HumanBi-Racial Experience: We Don't "Change""Text us your thoughts and questions!"Join us as we explore Christina’s unique experience as a second-generation bi-racial Asian-Caucasian (Filipino - European) for an opportunity to understand better how people hold more than one ethnic or racial identity as a “both-and” construct rather than “either-or”. 🔥 Why Listen To This Episode?✅ You are not familiar with the concept of “mixed race”✅ You are bi- or multi-racial yourself and interested in shared experiences✅ Someone in your family or close to you is mixed-race and you want to be a better ally.📖 Explore More: Que...2024-09-1630 min
Simply HumanChallenging People: Guilt Slingers"Text us your thoughts and questions!"What do you do when you have a guilt slinger or guilt tripper in your life? Learn 6 effective strategies for staying grounded and dealing with this kind of difficult person skillfully and with integrity.🔥 Why Listen to This Episode?✅ Guilt slingers are challenging people to deal with.✅ You want to be more effective in handling a guilt slinger.✅ You are feeling drained by the guilt slinger in your lfe.📖 Explore More: Why Your Boundaries Don’t Workhttps://youtu.b...2024-09-0731 min
Simply HumanChallenging People: Blamers"Text us your thoughts and questions!"Do you struggle with dealing with chronic blamers and blame-shifters in your life? Or are you a blamer? Learn to recognize the toxic signs of chronic blaming and review six best practices for moving from blame to accountability. 🔥 Why Listen To This Episode?✅ Learn 6 strategies for dealing with blamers.✅ Learn why people engage in blame and blame-shifting✅ Lead your relationship or organization towards accountability and compassion📖 Explore More: Inner Critic“Unmasking Imposter Syndrome: Embrace Mistakes”...2024-08-3134 min
Simply HumanChallenging People: Passive-Aggressive Jujitsu (Part 2)"Text us your thoughts and questions!"In Part 2 of our series on dealing with passive-aggressive behavior, we'll uncover the subtle signs that can help you identify these challenging dynamics. We'll also share SIX powerful strategies to help you stay composed, grounded, and foster accountability, leading to more constructive and effective interactions.📌 Timestamps:00:00 - Introduction01:53 - Why Passive-Aggressive Jujitsu?04:50 - Quick review of passive-aggressive behaviors06:14 - Quick review passive-aggressive dynamic07:25 - P-A to Expressive-Aggressive Spectrum08:08 - Recognizing the signs of P-A15:10 - Strategies for responding to P-A15:30 - 1...2024-08-2437 min
Simply HumanChallenging People: Passive-Aggressive Behavior"Text us your thoughts and questions!"Welcome to the first part of our deep dive into passive-aggressive behavior. In this episode, we’ll break down what passive-aggressive behavior really looks like and why it’s more common than you might think. From backhanded compliments to silent treatment, we’ll explore the subtle clues that often go unnoticed. We’ll also dig into the psychological drivers behind this behavior, helping you understand why some people resort to it and how it can impact your relationships. Stay tuned as we uncover the hidden layers of passive-aggression and set the stage fo...2024-08-1737 min
Simply HumanREFRAME: Don't Get Stuck In One Frame"Text us your thoughts and questions!"Reframing is a core skill for gaining personal mastery in your professional and personal life. In part 2 of Reframe, Karen will take you through three easy steps to go from a frame that may be over personalizing to a frame that has a broader, more curious perspective. In future episodes we will cover other reframing strategies. 🔥 Why Watch This Episode?✅ You tend to over-personalize.✅ You get stuck in thinking its must be me, me, me.✅ You want to develop more flexibilit...2024-08-1035 min
Simply HumanREFRAME: It's Not Always About You"Text us your thoughts and questions!"Reframing is a core skill for gaining personal mastery in your professional and personal life. In this Quick Hit, Karen will take you through three easy steps to go from a frame that may be over personalizing to a frame that has a broader, more curious perspective. In future episodes we will cover other reframing strategies. 🔥 Why Listen To This Episode?✅ You tend to over-personalize.✅ You get stuck in thinking its must be me, me, me.✅ You want to develop more flexibility in how you vi...2024-08-0314 min
Simply HumanEMPOWER US: 6 KEYS TO TEAM & COMMUNITY RESILIENCE"Text us your thoughts and questions!"When confronted with trying and stressful times, be a leader in your team, family, organization, or community by learning how to plan and prepare for group resilience. We will cover six keys to start you off in planning for team and group success.🔥 Why Listen to This Episode?✅ You're feeling stressed by events going on in the world.✅ You want to feel empowered to contribute to your group.✅ You want help in starting a plan to help your team or community develop resilience.📖 EX...2024-07-2635 min
Simply Human6 Secrets to Resilience"Text us your thoughts and questions!"Have you invested in your “bounce back” capacity? In this episode we dive into six core secrets to resilience—those powerful, often overlooked strategies that enable us to bounce back from life's toughest challenges. From cultivating a growth mindset to harnessing the power of community, we'll explore practical tips and inspiring stories that will help you build the inner fortitude to not just survive, but thrive. Join us as we reveal how to turn adversity into opportunity and unlock your full potential. ***Unhelpful Trigger Warning1*** Example of random act of viol...2024-07-2035 min
Simply HumanTRIGGERED!"Text us your thoughts and questions!"In this episode of "Triggered," we dive into the psychology behind what happens when we're triggered. Triggers are emotional responses often rooted in past experiences, and they can suddenly evoke intense feelings, whether it's anger, fear, or sadness. We explore how these automatic reactions manifest in our minds and bodies and discuss practical strategies to build resilience. 🔥 Why Listen To This Episode?✅ Trying to tell people to stop triggering you isn't working.✅ "Trigger Warnings" are not reducing your anxiety.✅ You want to be more skill...2024-07-1340 min
Simply HumanStop Getting Steamrolled!"Text us your thoughts and questions!"Viewer question: What do you do when someone won't take "No" for an answer? Everyone has been in this situation at one time or another. This is a quick-hit video pulling together and applying everything we have covered on boundaries, self-trust, curiosity, and managing conflicts.🔥 Episode Key Points:✅ A.. Get clear on all three parts of your boundary.✅ B. Align with a value on honesty and truthfulness.✅ C. Commit to being someone YOU trust.✅ D. Adopt a curiosity frame.✅ E. Meet the person's zealous advocacy of their...2024-07-0631 min
Simply HumanBoundary Buster: Guilt Vulnerability"Text us your thoughts and questions!"Are you constantly feeling guilty when you try to set limits? In this eye-opening episode, we unravel why we experience guilt and how excessive guilt can sneakily sabotage your personal boundaries, leaving you overwhelmed, anxious, and stretched too thin. Discover the secrets to recognizing unhelpful guilt and unlearning the stories and beliefs that interfere with your ability to reclaim your right to say "no" without the weight of remorse. Tune in to learn how to protect your peace and stand firm with confidence!🔥 Why Listen to Thi...2024-06-3045 min
Simply HumanBoundary Buster: Fitting In"Text us your thoughts and questions!"Why do we have a burning desire to FIT IN? For most of us, our brains are wired that way. In this episode, we tackle the truth about fitting in and the shifts you can make to overcome its emotional and psychological costs that is adding to your exhaustion. 🔥 Why Watch This Episode?✅ Learn how to “fitting in” often leads to erosion of boundaries.✅ Discover how internal drive and external factors, like culture, create a subconscious pressure to fit in. ✅ Understand the emotional and psychological costs of fitting in.2024-06-2247 min
Simply HumanBoundary Buster: People Pleasing"Text us your thoughts and questions!"Viewers have reached out and asked for additional ideas on how to improve interpersonal boundaries when they self-identify as being a “people pleaser.” Karen and I will review what people-pleasing traits are most problematic, what influences development of these traits and behaviors, how these behaviors interfere with effective boundaries, and what practices can get you on a better path.🔥 Why Listen to This Episode?✅ Learn to recognize People Pleasing in yourself.✅ Develop “cognitive dissonance” to motivate behavior change.✅ Refresher on the three parts of effective bound...2024-06-1549 min
Simply HumanDodging Monkey Poo & Avoiding Chum (Conflict Skills Mastery Series)"Text us your thoughts and questions!"Join us for the latest installment of “Conflict Mastery Skills” as we tackle the challenge of how to avoid getting pulled into conflict due to projection and baiting. Despite our best intentions, we all can get drawn into a conflict when we are dealing with people who fling monkey poo (project) and toss chum (bait us into reactivity). Learning how to recognize when these dynamics are present and what you can do instead will help you stay calm, confident, and able to deal with conflict provoking people.🔥 Why Listen to This...2024-06-0838 min
Simply HumanBoost Team Dialogue: 8 Game-Changing Behaviors!"Text us your thoughts and questions!"Are your team meetings a snooze fest, unproductive, or disengaged? Discover how to transform your team meetings into powerful decision-making sessions. In this episode, we dive into eight essential behaviors that promote effective dialogue and lead to better decisions. Whether you're a team leader or a participant, these strategies will help you foster a more collaborative and productive meeting environment. 🔥 Why listen to this episode?✅ You are ready to take your team to the next level.✅ You want to facilitate collaboration and innovation.✅ You want concrete skills to...2024-06-0146 min
Simply HumanStuck in One Style: Are you Turning Conversations into Conflict?"Text us your thoughts and questions!"Imagine reducing conflict just by shifting your communication style! In this episode, discover your dominant communication style and learn about other powerful Advocacy with Inquiry communication styles . By intentionally and genuinely using these styles at the right times, you can immediately transform any conversation into being meaningful and productive. 🔥 Why Watch This Episode?✅ Learn about four common communication styles using the Advocacy and Inquiry model✅ Learn how getting stuck in one style contributes to conflict✅ Explore how to expand your comfort with other styles✅ See h...2024-05-2554 min
Simply HumanYou Want to Stop Avoiding Conflict - Now What?"Text us your thoughts and questions!"Imagine having the inner wisdom and skill to turn “conflict” into a productive conversation. In this episode, we share a game changing interpersonal skill called Advocacy with Inquiry.🔥Why Watch This Episode:✅ You are ready to change your relationship with “conflict” conversations. ✅ Understand how to engage differently to shift the outcome.✅ Explore how one’s tone of positive intention is the cornerstone.✅ Provides tips to ensure your inquiry is genuine.✅ Learn the art of sentence stems to rapidly build this skill.Read more: https://t...2024-05-1844 min
Simply HumanASSUMING: The Killer of Curiosity"Text us your thoughts and questions!"Are your or other people’s stories about what is REALLY happening causing you unnecessary stress? Join us as we explore how our brains are wired to create stories based on assumptions to protect us until we intentionally create a new habit of openness and exploration🔥 Why Watch This Episode?✅ Understand how early negative experiences lead to curiosity-killing assumptions.✅ Learn how to introduce curiosity and inquiry into your decision-making. ✅ Explore the cost of allowing your assumptions to cloud your judgment. ✅ Consciously help yourself and others foster mindsets...2024-05-1146 min
Simply HumanConflict Avoidance: The Cost of Pretend Harmony"Text us your thoughts and questions!"Are you or someone you love a habitual conflict avoider? Is this strategy creating hurt feelings, anxiety, damaging your credibility, or just pissing people off? Join us for the first of several episodes focusing on foundational awareness and conflict engagement skills to feel more confident showing up authentically and courageously for yourself and others.🎙️ Why Listen to this Episode?✅ Learn how to spot the behaviors of conflict avoidance✅ Understand the consequences of conflict avoidance✅ Gain direction on how to start preparing to change conflict av...2024-05-0446 min
Simply HumanFear of Feedback: What Everyone Gets Wrong"Text us your thoughts and questions!"Does the word "feedback" make you want to run for the hills? In this episode we explore why we have such a negative association with getting feedback and discuss how to reframe the process and approach to create a more positive, learning, and supportive experience. 🔥Why Listen to This Episode?✅ Understand how early experiences with criticism can trigger fear of feedback✅ Explore how foundation skills help you move beyond fear✅ Discover the art of dialogue as an alternative to feedback✅ Be the change you want to see in the...2024-04-2744 min
Simply HumanBeing Authentic When You Don't Agree"Text us your thoughts and questions!"Learn how to bring wisdom and integrity to difficult situations where you have to "go along" when you don't agree. This episode is targeted mainly for leaders of all types as well as individual contributors in a work environment. It assumes that the organization is overall a good company but difficult decisions are being made and you, as a leader or individual contributor, need to navigate your feelings of disagreement to stay in your integrity.These skills also can be applied in any situation where you feel your integrity is on t...2024-04-2046 min
Simply HumanIt Isn't Always Procrastination!"Text us your thoughts and questions!"Is it possible that your habit of waiting until the last minute isn't procrastination? Have you tried strategies to "fix" your procrastination but nothing works? In this episode we invite you to bring curiosity to your experience to explore if you really are procrastinating or do you have a particular pressure prompted trait that has never been understood.🔥 Why Listen To This Episode?✅ Challenges the common understanding of "procrastination"✅ Share alternative explanations of this behavior pattern✅ Focuses on the much overlooked gifts of being pressure prompted✅ Pro...2024-04-1340 min
Simply HumanStop Self-Betraying by Earning Self-Trust"Text us your thoughts and questions!"🧳 Gain understanding about how we self-betray through self-censorship, failure to understand our needs and boundaries, and responding to old fear-based stories.🔑 Learn core principles of cultivating enduring self-trust through faith, inner-work, and making the choice to act on your values, needs, and boundaries.👀 Watch us on YouTube: https://youtu.be/sM5SeyYJwCY⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐Help us reach more people by leaving a 5 star review on the Podcast page and please share with anyone who might benefit.😄 Share your comments and ideas to help us grow the channel and addres...2024-04-0636 min
Simply HumanWhy Your Boundaries Don't Work"Text us your thoughts and questions!"People hear all the time that they should have "boundaries." But few truly understand what that means let alone how to implement effective boundaries. Christina and Karen walk you through a simple and time-tested approach to finally master interpersonal boundaries.📖 Explore More:“Personal Power: An Unorthodox Guide to Success: by H.B. Karl. https://www.abebooks.com/servlet/BookDetailsPL?bi=31770297911&searchurl=an%3Dkarp%26sortby%3D17%26tn%3Dpersonal%2Bpower%2Bunorthodox%2Bguide&cm_sp=snippet-_-srp1-_-title1Love & Logic Parentinghttps://www.loveandlogic.com/pages/parents2024-03-3046 min
Simply HumanUnmasking Imposter Syndrome Pt. 4: Embrace Mistakes"Text us your thoughts and questions!"In Part 4 of "Unmasking Imposter Syndrome," we focus on strategies to embrace mistakes and reframe internal trigger words, essential steps in reclaiming your authentic identity. 📖 Explore More:“The Power of Vulnerability” with Brene Brown. Available on Audible“The Power of Vulnerability” TEDx Talk with Brené Brown. https://www.ted.com/talks/brene_brown_the_power_of_vulnerability?utm_campaign=tedspread&utm_medium=referral&utm_source=tedcomshare“Multipliers: How the Best Leaders Make Everyone Smarter: by Liz Wiseman http...2024-03-2446 min
Simply HumanUnmasking Imposter Syndrome Pt 3: Curiosity, Humility, & Humor"Text us your thoughts and questions!"In part 3 of our deep dive in to overcoming Imposter Syndrome, we challenge the coping strategy of perfectionism by turning to the skill of curiosity, humility, and humor. 👀 CuriosityWe share insights on how fostering a curious mindset can shift your perspective, allowing you to embrace challenges, learn from mistakes, and navigate the complexities of Imposter Syndrome with resilience.🌱 Embracing Humility:Humility becomes a powerful ally in the journey to unmasking Imposter Syndrome. Learn how humility can create space for self-reflection, growth, and authenticity. We provide...2024-03-1744 min
Simply HumanUnmasking Imposter Syndrome Pt 2: Values & Authenticity"Text us your thoughts and questions!"If you've ever questioned your accomplishments or felt like a fraud, you're not alone. Imposter Syndrome is a common challenge that many face, where feelings of inadequacy and self-doubt persist despite evidence of competence. In part 2 of this 4 part series we will explore the game-changing impact of aligning with your personal values and avoiding dependence on external validation. We explore how understanding and embracing your values can serve as a powerful anchor, providing clarity, purpose, and a genuine sense of self. Learn why connecting with your values is a key step...2024-03-1041 minSimply HumanUnmasking Imposter Syndrome Pt 2: Values & Authenticity👺 Understanding Imposter Syndrome:If you've ever questioned your accomplishments or felt like a fraud, you're not alone. Imposter Syndrome is a common challenge that many face, where feelings of inadequacy and self-doubt persist despite evidence of competence. In part 2 of this 4 part series we will explore the game-changing impact of aligning with your personal values and avoiding dependence on external validation. We explore how understanding and embracing your values can serve as a powerful anchor, providing clarity, purpose, and a genuine sense of self. Learn why connecting with your values is a key step in building authentic confidence and...2024-03-0941 min
Simply HumanUnmasking Imposter Syndrome"Text us your thoughts and questions!"Take a deep dive into the challenge of Imposter Syndrome in this first of a four-part deep dive into transcending imposter syndrome! 🧠 Discover the underlying cognitive and social causes, triggers, and deep change strategies to move beyond coping to cultivate lasting self-trust. 🌱🤔 What is Imposter Syndrome?Imposter Syndrome is a pervasive feeling of self-doubt and inadequacy, despite external evidence of competence. We will demystify this phenomenon and share real-world examples that many can relate to. Gain a deeper understanding of how Imposter Syndrome manifests and the toll...2024-03-0558 min
ADHDAFBonus Blether: ADHD Events, Ableist Media & the next chapterSURPRISE Bonus Blether ahead of Season 2 in which we reunite The Too Much Tour Trio at Edinburgh's Royal Scots Club & are blessed by Comedian Lee Brophy's dulcet Irish tones. We're tired having partied like it's 1776 with Nicole but couldn't pass the chance for a chinwag!Topics include: plans for next season, upcoming ADHDAF events, our Anti Ableist ADHD Media Coalition, Nicole's Fringe Show, The Most ADHD Thing in real time & a plea to vote for us in The British Podcast Awards. PLEASE! CLICK HERE TO VOTE: type ADHD As Females (NOT ADHDAF) votes will not be counted unless y...2023-07-1044 min