Shows
Conflict Decoded PodcastHospicing Modernity: Facing Humanity's Wrongs & Transforming Our Relationship with Conflict with Giovanna de Oliveira AndreottiThe daughter of Vanessa Andreotti (author of Hospicing Modernity: Facing Humanity’s Wrongs and The Implications for Social Activism), Giovanna de Oliveira Andreotti grew up facing the ongoing predicament of collapse.
In this episode, Giovanna shares how facing the reality of collapse no longer destabilizes her. Instead, the wisdom she’s gleaned—and her commitment to inquiry—are helping her to acknowledge reality, notice the ways it manifests within us, and do the hard work of choosing emotional sobriety, intellectual discernment, relational maturity, and responsibility in these times.
By acknowledging the ways modernity manifests in each of us, we can begin to...2025-07-211h 00
Conflict Decoded PodcastBreaking Free from the Victim Triangle with Heather PlettHeather Plett—facilitator, trainer, and author known globally for her work in holding space—and Katherine explore how activists often get sucked into the victim - rescuer - perpetrator vortex and how to break free.
This model supported Katherine, Heather, and many others to shift from white saviorism to a posture of more true solidarity.
Bio:
Heather Plett, is the author of the award-winning book The Art of Holding Space: A Practice of Love, Liberation, and Leadership and the recently released book, Where Tenderness Lives: On Healing, Liberation, and Holding Space for Oneself.
She is the co-founder of the Centre for...2025-07-0839 min
Conflict Decoded PodcastHow to Center Radical Love in Challenging Times with Shiree TengShiree Teng—community organizer, storyteller, and healer who believes that love and courage will lead the way towards our collective liberation—speaks with Katherine about how to center radical love in our work for change.
With a mixture of grace and conviction, Shiree offers guidance for how to align your life with your truth and a fierce love for yourself and others.
Without cultivating love for ourselves and each other, we risk only scratching the surface, endlessly circling around the work needed for our shared liberation. A commitment to radical love makes the work rigorous.
About Shiree Teng:
An immigrant kid...2025-06-2542 min
The Human GreenhouseSocial change - How not to burn outEffective social change means balancing activism with self-care and maintaining healthy relationships. Burnout in social movements often comes from difficult interpersonal dynamics and unresolved trauma, not just the workload itself.Sustainable change happens when we can acknowledge others' humanity and work together across differences, even with those we disagree with.Katherine Golub is a city counsellor and a coach who helps social change workers find more sustainable ways to continue their activism.This conversation will help youNavigate social change work without burning outBuild better relationships across political differences...2025-06-1751 min
Conflict Decoded PodcastThe Building Blocks of Secure Attachment with Carmen SpagnolaIf we are to survive the current and looming environmental and economic emergencies and grow communities in which we thrive, we need to be able to relate and work together across difference.
In this episode, Carmen Spagnola teaches the building blocks for cultivating secure attachment—the ability to help ourselves and others feel safe, seen, secure, and soothed—even with people we’re most challenged by.
About Carmen Spagnola:
Carmen Spagnola is a Le Cordon Bleu-trained chef turned trauma recovery practitioner, clinical hypnotherapist, and kitchen witch. She is author of Spells for the Apocalypse: Practical Magic for Turbulent Times and The Sp...2025-06-101h 03
Conflict Decoded PodcastHow to Build Collective Power: Good Organizing with Sulma AriasShow Notes
We have good reason to feel scared about what’s happening nationally and globally. And yet, as Sulma Arias, Executive Director of Peoples’ Action, reminds us in this week’s podcast, there are so many incredible opportunities for change in our own local communities.
Whether it’s removing lead from the school playground or installing a stop sign where the kids are playing, we often have the most power to create change at home. And when we build relationships with our neighbors, we also build the power to win the next fight and thrive together.
Sulma Arias brings a vision...2025-05-2638 min
Conflict Decoded PodcastHealing Intergenerational Trauma: Part Two with Francesca Mason BoringIn part two of our conversation with Francesca Mason-Boring, we explore how to help well and shore ourselves up for the work of social justice. We discuss how to release demonizing and patronizing ways of seeing each other and approach our work from a strong, clear place, disentangled from the traumas of the past.
This podcast is part two to a two-part episode. In Part One, Francesca introduced family systems constellations and its indigenous roots of this methodology. Part Two dives deeper into key principles for transforming conflict in movement work.
About Francesca Mason Boring:
Francesca Mason Boring, bicultural Western...2025-04-0947 min
Conflict Decoded PodcastHealing Intergenerational Trauma: Part One with Francesca Mason BoringFrancesca Mason-Boring, one of Katherine’s most beloved and influential teachers, introduces listeners to family systems constellations, a profound healing modality for transforming intergenerational trauma.
This podcast is part one to a two-part episode. In Part One, Francesca shares about the indigenous roots of this methodology, how it can support the healing of collective traumas that can make our work so challenging, and how we might reclaim our relationship with our ancestors.
Part Two dives deeper into key principles for transforming conflict in movement work.
About Francesca Mason Boring:
Francesca Mason Boring, bicultural Western Shoshone enrolled with the Shoshone Paiute Tr...2025-04-0947 min
The WorthPlace CollectiveThe WorthPlace Collective Podcast: Katherine Golub: A Dignity-BearerThis interview is so, so good — you're going to love listening to Katherine Golub. She’s a kind and thoughtful soul with a powerful story to share.In our conversation about worth and work, Katherine explores some deeply meaningful topics, including:A coaching framework she uses with her clients:What is your call?What are the gates in your life?Who are your allies?A profound reflection on living from a place of dignity. Her insights on dignity have stayed with me — I’m still pondering and wondering.I hope you’ll give this episo...2025-04-0548 min
Conflict Decoded PodcastHow to Make Decisions that Work for Everyone with Miki KashtanHow do we make decisions that honor everyone’s needs, even in high stakes situations? Katherine explores this question with Miki Kashtan, founder of the Nonviolent Global Liberation community and the creator of Convergent Facilitation.
In these times, we need new, revolutionary processes to help us get underneath the surface of our conflicts and listen for what is truly needed. Convergent Facilitation can help us widen the aperture of our imagination, hear the deeper needs beneath the strategies we argue for, and arrive at durable decisions that all coworkers, collaborators or coalition members can feel good about.
Miki’s Offerings:
Miki...2025-03-121h 00
Conflict Decoded PodcastHow to Address Harmful Impact with Nonviolent Communication with Roxy ManningHave you not known whether to speak up when hearing someone make a harmful comment?
Wondered how to center the impacted person without causing further harm?
Or what to say when you do speak up?
If so, I hope you’ll tune in to the latest episode of Conflict Decoded—How to Address Harmful Impact with Nonviolent Communication—with clinical psychologist and Nonviolent Communication trainer @RoxanneManning.
Nonviolent Communication (NVC) has been one of my closest allies in learning to speak up as a bystander to harm. This episode offers a basic primer on NVC and a practical exploration of how to use...2025-02-181h 18
Conflict Decoded PodcastThe Hidden Group Dynamics that Lead to Workplace Conflict with Tracy WallachPodcast Intro:
Earlier this year, I experienced a conflict in my role as a city councilor that was very hard for me to understand.
It was one of those moments that felt very confusing, like what was going on had way more to do with dynamics below the surface, in the group’s unconscious, than it had to do with the actual content we were discussing.
In an effort to make sense of things, I discovered the field of systems psychodynamics or group relations.
Learning about the topics we discussed in today’s episode—projections, projective identifications, valences, scapegoating, BART (bounda...2025-02-0454 min
Conflict Decoded PodcastStaying Soft With Each Other While Growing Strong Movements with Dara SilvermanEpisode Intro
Somatics practitioner and anti-racist trainer, Dara Silverman, reminds us this week that to build strong movements, those of us who are committed to bringing forth a world in which all peoples’ needs are met, will need to offer ourselves and each other softness in these times.
When we write people off, point fingers in blame, and narrow our tent, our movements grow smaller and lose.
To build movements with the capacity to win, we must call each other in with fierce compassion. We must build relationships around what we care about, day in and day out, not just du...2025-01-2159 min
Conflict Decoded PodcastHow to Deliver Hard-to-Hear FeedbackDoes someone in your workplace, community, or another realm of your life frustrate or disappoint you?
Do you want to know how to give them some feedback without damaging the relationship?
I recently found myself in a situation like this, and my podcast guest this week, Heather Younger, organizational culture strategist and leading expert on active listening at work, reminded me of exactly what I needed to hear—
When we invest attention in showing people we care about them and that we have their backs, they’re far more apt to listen when it comes time for us to tell them...2025-01-0754 min
Conflict Decoded PodcastHow to Stop Fighting Each Other and Start Fighting the SystemIn this episode of Conflict Decoded, I sit down with Denise Padín Collazo, a veteran leader in grassroots organizing and author of Thriving in the Fight: A Survival Manual for Latinas on the Front Lines of Change. Together, we dive into the heart of what it takes to build a better world without tearing each other down. Denise shares her insights on recognizing habitual responses to stress, setting boundaries, and the transformative power of rest for leaders committed to social justice.
We also tackle the often-overlooked role of anti-Blackness in social movements and explore how to approach conflicts constructively s...2024-12-1752 min
Conflict Decoded PodcastThe Benign Neglect of Teams (And What To Do About It) with Bennett BrattSHOW NOTES
Our teams arguably offer our biggest lever for social change.
And yet, teams are vastly ignored.
In our conversation this week, Bennett Bratt, a team coach with over thirty years experience supporting teams, shares his personal mission—reversing the benign neglect of teams.
If you find yourself struggling with frustration in your teams or a nagging sense that your team could be better—especially if you lead a team in your workplace or community—I hope you’ll listen in.
Our Guest: Bennet Bratt
Bennett Bratt is the founder and CEO of Team Elements, a coaching and consulting firm tha...2024-12-0358 min
Conflict Decoded PodcastWhite Women Cry & Call Me Angry: Book Talk with Jill PoklembaIn this episode, I’m joined by Jill Poklemba in an honest conversation inspired by Dr. Yanique Redwood’s White Women Cry & Call Me Angry. We get into the messy and uncomfortable realities of whiteness in social justice spaces—how it shows up in ways white people don’t always notice, and how terms like “progressive” can sometimes do more to mask internalized racism than reveal it.
Jill and I explore the ways white women unintentionally use vulnerability as a way to deflect, making it harder to be called out and, ultimately, to become effective accomplices. We also talk about reclaiming r...2024-11-121h 10
Conflict Decoded PodcastNavigating Difficult Leadership Decisions with Shalini BahlOne of the hardest things about being a leader is needing to make choices that will make someone you care about mad, no matter what you do. My guest for this week’s episode of Conflict Decoded, former Amherst, MA, town councilor and mindfulness teacher Dr. Shalini Bahl, knows this dynamic well.
As Shalini shares in our conversation, to make wise decisions and move through challenging dynamics in our workplaces and communities, we need practices that help us shift perspective. We need support to help us shift from feeling threatened to facing a place of calm, compassion, and curiosity within.
Wh...2024-10-2955 min
Conflict Decoded PodcastThe Social Change Ecosystem Map with Deepa IyerWith so many interlocking, overwhelming crises in the world today, it can be so hard to find our role. But when we try to do everything all at once or avoid what needs our attention, we can show up in ways that we later regret and burn ourselves out.
As long-time activist and Senior Director of Strategic Initiatives at Building Movement Project, Deepa Iyer, discovered through decades of organizing in the South Asian, Muslim, Arab, and Sihk communities, when people focus on their unique roles and capacities, they have a far easier time showing up for change without succumbing to...2024-10-2057 min
Conflict Decoded PodcastReweaving Kinship & Trust in Our Teams with Beth TenerConflict avoidance isn’t a personality flaw. It’s a survival strategy in the face of manufactured scarcity.
Of course, there is abundant potential for leadership, wisdom, and trust.
And yet, living in hierarchies, we perceive a scarcity of leadership. With expert-driven learning, we perceive a scarcity of wisdom. With separation culture, we perceive a scarcity of trustworthiness.
When we don’t trust that we'll be cared for, of course, we act in self-preservation rather than collaboration. Of course, we avoid talking about our disagreements and differences.
And yet, as Beth Tener shares in my most recent episode of Conflict Decode...2024-10-141h 03
Conflict Decoded PodcastCreating Equitable Workplaces: Embracing Difference with Minal BopaiahWhen we get into a disagreement, we often see the other person as the problem. But so often, our conflicts are rooted in systemic factors in our organizations and society, like pay structures and decision-making processes.
To create equitable workplaces and communities where peoples’ needs are met, we must stop butting heads against each other and zoom out to see the changes needed in our larger organization and communities.
With nearly twenty years helping leaders design equitable organizations, and author of Equity: How to Design Organizations Where Everyone Thrives, my guest today, Minal Bopaiah, is an expert in zooming out.
We...2024-10-0758 min
Conflict Decoded PodcastThe Neuroscience of Human Connection with Sarah PeytonSarah Peyton is a neuroscience educator, Nonviolent Communication trainer, and, as a good friend of mine calls her, “brain whisperer.”
Her live events, online courses, and bestselling books have transformed my coaching work and have helped my clients and me unstuck from many limiting personal and interpersonal patterns.
We talk about the neuroscience of blame, guilt, shame, rage, and demonization, the difference between left-hemisphere and right-hemispheric thinking and why it matters for resolving conflict, and how to heal our brains and our relationships with empathy guesses.
Sarah’s work has changed my life and my client’s lives, and I hope you...2024-09-301h 03
Conflict Decoded PodcastWelcome to Conflict Decoded!Hello and welcome to Conflict Decoded, where we explore the hidden dynamics that keep us stuck in conflict in our workplaces and communities and share practical guidance to help us break free.
My name is Katherine Golub. I’m a coach, mediator, city councilor, activist, mother, and the founder of the Center for Callings & Courage. I live on the ancestral lands of the Pocumtuck people, recently known as Greenfield, Massachusetts.
In this first episode, I want to share with you what called me to create this podcast and what you can expect from it.
SHOW NOTES
Why I Decided to Cre...2024-09-3008 min
Between Breath and AirRadical Discernment: Activism with Sensitive SoulsIn this episode, Dana and Katherine Golub embark on a journey through activism and self-care, viewed through the lens of sensitivity. Katherine, lifelong activist and seasoned leadership coach, dives deep into the transformative power of aligning personal values with professional goals. These logophiles get into the profound impact of language, examining terms like "discernment" and "radical," and how the conjunction "and" can liberate us from binary thinking. Listeners will uncover the power of somatic methods in cultivating self-awareness and emotional balance, and gain fresh perspectives on authentic self-nurturing and the profound impact of holding space with presence. 2024-06-1344 min
Conflict Decoded PodcastOn Holding Conflicting Values & RealitiesHave you ever heard a self-help teacher or friend say the words—Don’t should yourself…? As if should were a nasty word?
If so, what do you think about this phrase?
For a long time, I’d hear people admonishing themselves for saying the word should, and it would rub me the wrong way, but I didn’t quite know why.
Then I discovered that the English word should comes from the same root as the Dutch and German word schuld, which means both guilt and debt.
According to YourDailyGerman.com:
“(For) some two thousand years, Schuld was simply about a sort...2024-02-2810 minConflict Decoded PodcastHow to Set Right-Sized Commitments to YourselfWould you love a dedicated practice of proactively setting clear goals, priorities, and commitments to yourself? If so, I wrote this for you.
Most of my clients don’t have a practice like this when they first come to me. Many spend their days putting out fires and reacting to the next request/demand that comes their way. Others are in the habit of prioritizing other peoples’ needs while rarely checking in with themselves about their own.
And yet other clients come to me feeling called to make a big change in their lives—either in terms of contributing more to the...2024-02-1411 min
Conflict Decoded PodcastHow to Set Right-Sized Commitments to YourselfWould you love a dedicated practice of proactively setting clear goals, priorities, and commitments to yourself? If so, I wrote this for you.
Most of my clients don’t have a practice like this when they first come to me. Many spend their days putting out fires and reacting to the next request/demand that comes their way. Others are in the habit of prioritizing other peoples’ needs while rarely checking in with themselves about their own.
And yet other clients come to me feeling called to make a big change in their lives—either in terms of contributing more to the...2024-02-1411 min
Conflict Decoded PodcastHow to Feel Your Fear Without Getting Sucked InA client of mine recently discovered that she’s pregnant and shared this question with me this week:
“I really hope that everything is safe and sound with my pregnancy. I’m trying my best to stay positive, but I have moments of anxiety.
I am wondering how to feel my fears while not being consumed by them and how to remain positive while not getting sucked into worst case ‘what-if’ scenarios. Suggestions?”
Now, you might not be pregnant with a new baby (though, congratulations if you are!), but if you’re like most of my clients, you’re working hard to bring so...2024-02-0711 min
Conflict Decoded PodcastHow to Quiet Comparison-itis & Start Feeling Better About YourselfThis week, a client in my mentorship program who’s leading the development of a brand-new community center, shared that while things are going really well, she’s also noticing a lot of uncomfortable feelings coming up in response to the work.
She wrote:
“Things are good, and I have waves of self-doubt and fear that make me anxious - Like, how can I possibly actually do this?
Often it comes in the form of a negative self-comparison to an imaginary other person who would be doing all this better.
What practice could I engage in to keep me out of com...2024-01-3111 min
Conflict Decoded PodcastTime Management is Grief WorkWhat most people call time management or setting boundaries, I call the work of crossing through little gates.
Gates are moments where we say no to one thing in order to say yes to something else.
Gates don’t always take the shape of doors, however. Sometimes, they look like thresholds, portals, crossroads, moments of truth, healing crises, or emergencies. When I’m approaching a big gate, I sometimes imagine myself walking through a landscape. My gates have looked like mountain cliffs, raging rivers, neverending deserts, grassy fields, and windy roads.
Beside each gate lives a gatekeeper.
In the old stor...2024-01-2410 min
Conflict Decoded PodcastFor When All the Gates Feel LockedSometimes along the journey through life, we come to a place where it feels like we’re pounding on a locked door.
Maybe we come really close to getting our dream job, but they hire someone else. Or our partner leaves us unexpectedly. Or we pour our hearts into a campaign and lose.
The time I most felt like I was standing at a locked gate, unable to open it, were the long years we spent applying for my son’s dad’s visa.
We were married, had a child, made the best argument possible to prove our hardship, gathered every...2024-01-1706 min
Conflict Decoded PodcastSoothing the Voice of DoubtWhen facing a big decision or life transition, have you ever heard a voice in your head saying any of the following?:
What if you’re not ready?
What if you regret your decision?
What if you have no time left for anything else?
What if it wrecks your relationship(s)?
What if you burn bridges?
What if you never find something as good as what you have now?
What if things turn out shitty like they’ve always been?
What if your calling isn’t a calling after all but just an old habit speaking?
What if you're just repeat...2024-01-1014 min
Conflict Decoded PodcastA Simple Practice to Release Limiting BeliefsOn Valentine’s Day 2013, at a small community center in New Hampshire, I attended a workshop with Dr. Lewis Mehl-Madrona, Lakota-Cherokee shaman and narrative psychiatrist. The workshop began with a talking circle in which each of the forty or so participants shared a personal story about love.
At the beginning of the day, I was excited. I’d read all of Dr. Mehl-Madrona’s books, and I was eager to learn everything I could. But as the time passed, I got bored. There were no limits to how long people could talk, and by lunchtime, we were only part way throug...2024-01-0309 min
Conflict Decoded PodcastWhy We Get Stuck & How to Shift PerspectiveI invite you to imagine that you are a great big bus driving through life and that all the passengers are different parts of yourself—the part who wants everyone else to like you, the part who just wants to be left alone, the part who is excited about your big goals, the part who just wants to do nothing, and so many other subpersonalities with their own desires and beliefs about the world.
Sometimes, you’re driving along the path through life, aligning with your values, reaching your goals, navigating the twists and turns smoothly.
And, other times, you arri...2023-12-2014 min
Conflict Decoded PodcastHow to Complete the Stress CycleImagine that you’re an antelope.
You're grazing on the savanna, minding your own business, when suddenly, out of the shadows, bounds a lion straight toward you. You can’t fight the lion, so you leap into action, running as fast as you can. You run, run, run, and miraculously, you escape.
Then, once the lion is gone, you do something that most mammals do after surviving a threat—You shake.
As the antelope, escaping the lion is key to surviving, of course. But shaking after you escape is surprisingly important for your survival, too.
That’s because, as Emily and Amel...2023-12-1310 min
Conflict Decoded PodcastFor When Your Heart Feels DespairI invite you to pick up an imaginary rubber band.
Hook one end of the rubber band around your right forefinger and the other around your right thumb, with your palm facing away from you. Your forefinger represents the world and the life that you long for. Your thumb represents your current reality.
Imagine pulling the rubber band between your forefinger and thumb and feeling the tension.[1]
I call this inevitable chasm between where we are right now and where we long to be the Gap of Longing. This gap can become a Gap of Despair or a Gap of...2023-12-0709 min
Conflict Decoded PodcastHow & Why to Name Your StrengthsDespite all of the evidence of your abilities and intelligence, does part of you believe that you’ll never be enough?
When someone congratulates you or compliments you, does a voice in your head immediately start naming a litany of reasons why you don’t deserve it, telling you things like…
Yeah, but that was just random luck. I didn’t work hard enough. It could have been better. I probably won’t be able to do it again. They didn’t really mean it. I shouldn’t brag. That really wasn’t anything special. Anyone could do that. What if someone finds...2023-11-2207 min
Conflict Decoded PodcastSatisfaction Scaling- How to Choose Your Next ExperimentYour Next Experiment
“Caminante no hay camino. Se hace el camino al andar.”
—Juan Manuel Serrat sings this in Cantares, one of my all-time favorite songs.
In English, the quote is translated as:
“Traveler, there is no path. We make the path by walking.”
This quote is attributed to many sources, including the First Peoples of Australia.
I invite you to ask yourself a question:
What parts of your life do you love the most?
This might be a child, a partner, a pet, a job, a creative pursuit, or something else.
Then, ask yourself: How did this person or thing that...2023-11-1510 min
Conflict Decoded PodcastMy Wake-Up Call, Attachment Wounds, & What You Really NeedWhat You Really Need
“We have been raised to fear . . . our deepest cravings.
And the fear of our deepest cravings keeps them suspect,
keeps us docile and loyal and obedient, and leads us to settle for . . .
many facets of our own oppression.”[1]
—Audre Lorde, The Uses of the Erotic
I used to think it was indulgent and selfish to acknowledge my needs and desires, especially when so many people in the world suffer so much more than I do.
I grew up with few models of self-love and care, and I was painfully aware of my white privilege from an early a...2023-11-0823 min
Conflict Decoded PodcastHow to Soothe Stress & Access Inner Guidance
What You Feel
“White supremacy has used the suppression of feelings to hold down communities.
If you block the pain, you’ll likely block the feelings needed to fight back against oppression.”
—Patrisse Cullors, co-founder of the Black Lives Matter movement
Your body is your compass.
I invite you to imagine that you’ve just been dropped into the middle of a vast wilderness.
What do you want to make sure you have in your backpack?
Sure, water, snacks, and bear/snake/tiger...2023-11-0121 min
Conflict Decoded PodcastHow to Soothe Stress & Access Inner GuidanceWhat You Feel
“White supremacy has used the suppression of feelings to hold down communities.
If you block the pain, you’ll likely block the feelings needed to fight back against oppression.”
—Patrisse Cullors, co-founder of the Black Lives Matter movement
Your body is your compass.
I invite you to imagine that you’ve just been dropped into the middle of a vast wilderness.
What do you want to make sure you have in your backpack?
Sure, water, snacks, and bear/snake/tiger repellant would be great, but your number one tool, by far, is a compass. Without it, you’d wander in c...2023-11-0121 min
Conflict Decoded PodcastSix Steps to Self-ResonanceSelf-Resonance: How
“When people change the way they speak to themselves,
they change the way their brain works.” - Sarah Peyton
In the last episode, I introduced the concept of resonance—that experience of relaxation we feel when we’re accompanied and truly understood by another—and I shared how self-resonance lays the soil in which all the other practices of radical discernment can take root. When we accompany ourselves with warm, precise attunement, it becomes so much easier to soothe our fear and pain, decipher our bodies’ messages, and chart a path that honors our needs and our values.
In this podca...2023-10-2522 min
Living LoveAnswering the Call to Change with Katherine Golub and Nancy GabrielThis first episode of Season 2 explores how we navigate the change when we are called to leave the status quo. Sometimes the need to change arises from exhaustion or heartache, other times it’s your choice. Katherine Golub of the Center for Callings and Courage and Nancy Gabriel talk with Beth Tener about the tensions of making the decision to make a big change, the big callings and the little gates of small steps, and listening to your inner guidance amidst the waters of self-doubt.Resources and links: Kinship: A Hub to Amplify the...2023-10-2450 minConflict Decoded PodcastHow Self-Resonance Heals the Brain & Helps Us DiscernSelf-Resonance
“We are all rather like tree rings and shell patterns
in that what has happened to us leaves a permanent record.
The goal of trauma work, therefore, as I see it,
is not to erase or cure but rather to expand and include and
grow larger than whatever has happened to us.”[1]
– Francesca Mason Boring
It Feels Good to be Heard
One day when my son, Kai, was six, he and his friend were playing with a balloon at a birthday party. Suddenly, Kai’s friend’s three-year-old sister, let’s call her Gabi, ran crying out of the room.
A few...2023-10-1818 min
Conflict Decoded PodcastReparenting Ourselves with the HALT(S) PracticeI invite you to ask yourself this question:
When you feel hungry, angry, lonely, tired, sore, stressed, or sad, how do you respond?
Do you ignore how you feel, bypass your body's signals, continue to power through your day, or lecture yourself about what you should be doing differently to feel better?
Or do you approach your uncomfortable feelings as a cue to pause, get curious about what you need, and choose a step toward meeting your needs?
Or do you do some of each, sometimes tending to how you feel and sometimes ignoring yourself?
In Episodes Six and Seven...2023-10-1108 min
Conflict Decoded PodcastConscious CalendaringA few years back, I took a course on organization with one of my favorite business coaches, George Kao.
Until then, I had a constant sense of living for tomorrow, always hoping I’d have time to enjoy my life once I finished the current project. But seeing George’s schedule inspired me and, in retrospect, changed my life.
After seeing George’s calendar, I changed my calendar from a default monthly view to a weekly view, scheduled time for breaks, a weekly review practice, responding to emails, bigger projects and goals, exercise, and friends, and color-coded each type of activi...2023-10-0416 min
Conflict Decoded PodcastCentered Responsibility: Letting Go of What's Not Yours to HandleMy clients are often burned out high-achievers who come to me because they realize that they’ve been doing too much for too many people, taking responsibility for more than what is theirs to handle, and struggling to say no or make clear requests of others to step up. They long for a sense of balance so that they can continue making a contribution without sacrificing themselves.
Sound familiar?
If so, I’m excited to share with you the concept of centered responsibility.
To get a sense of what I mean by centered responsibility, I invite you to experiment for a mo...2023-09-2719 minConflict Decoded PodcastThe Key to Habit ChangeI invite you to think of a habit you’d like to transform—either an old one you’d like to let go of or a new one you’d like to cultivate. A habit is any behavior we engage in semi-unconsciously, one that feels like it arises almost automatically or effortlessly within us.
For example, you might want to stretch your body after you wake up in the morning, breathe deeply when your child says something that activates you rather than screaming, close the computer at 5pm, or turn off the lights at an hour that supports you to wake up...2023-09-2013 minConflict Decoded PodcastHow to Stop Reacting Unconsciously & Start Choosing ConsciouslyWe’ll start today with a quote from Tara Brach and her book, Radical Acceptance.
Brach writes:
It is believed that in the midst of a bullfight, a bull can find his own area of safety in the arena. There he can reclaim his strength and power. This place and inner state are called his querencia.
As long as the bull remains enraged and reactive, the matador is in charge. Yet when the bull finds querencia, he gathers his strength and loses his fear.
From the matador’s perspective, at this point, the bull is truly dangerous, for he has tapp...2023-09-1315 min
Conflict Decoded PodcastShoy & Bragitude: Why We Must Celebrate TogetherNearly ten years ago, I trained as a clinical hypnotherapist.
I wanted to help my clients break free from long-standing, limiting patterns like workaholism and people-pleasing and to help them access the freedom to honor their inner wisdom.
In our first weekend workshop, my teacher gave us an instruction that surprised me in its simplicity and that, in retrospect, shaped me into a far more confident person.
He told us—From now on, when someone gives you a compliment, say thank you.
That’s it. Don’t diminish the compliment, tell them about all the mistakes you’ve made, or project...2023-09-0607 min
Conflict Decoded PodcastWhen You Feel Guilty About Feeling Good: A Permission SlipToday, I want to invite you to reflect on the stories you tell yourself that limit your joy and to invite you to consider a new story.
I use the word stories to refer to beliefs, opinions, assumptions, and other thoughts we tell ourselves, often without even noticing them. When our stories go unnoticed, they often hold us back from feeling good and making the choices that honor our needs. But when we shine light on our stories and bring them to our conscious awareness, they begin to lose their power and we gain more freedom to choose how we...2023-08-3011 min
Conflict Decoded PodcastHow to Stop Waiting for the Other Shoe to DropIn the last two episodes, I shared three practices to help you nourish your joy—Tracking Glimmers, Orienting, and Taking in the Good.
These practices can make it easier to honor our needs because they help us notice when our needs are well-met, imagine a life in which our needs are well-met, and detect otherwise hidden opportunities to honor our needs.
But sometimes, it still can feel really vulnerable to feel or express joy. And if so if you do ever feel hesitant or nervous to really savor feelings of goodness, I created this episode for you.
Let’s start by d...2023-08-2314 min
Conflict Decoded PodcastHow to Develop a Habit of Joy with the Neuroscience of Habit ChangeI invite you to imagine that you’re living thousands of years ago.
You and your family are hanging out around the fire, telling stories, having a good time, when suddenly, out of the corner of your eye, you spot a moving shadow.
The first thought that enters your mind is, Tiger.
You don’t know whether it’s a real tiger or not, so what do you do? Do you go investigate the shadow? Or run and hide with your family?
If you hide, you miss out on the opportunity to discover what the shadow was.
But, if you check...2023-08-2119 min
Conflict Decoded PodcastHow to Find Delight Today (& Every Day)I began my first coaching session in January 2013 with the question, “What’s new-and-good?”[1]
Since then, this question—What’s new and good?—has become an integral part of my life. I’ve started nearly every session since then with the same question, and most nights at the dinner table, my son, my partner, and I—and our friends when they join us—take turns asking each other what’s new and good.
I invite you to try asking yourself this question now, and think of something both new and good.
Now, you might think of something immediately. And if so, that’s awesome...2023-08-1611 min
Conflict Decoded PodcastIntro: Cultivating the Capacity for Impact & Joy. Welcome!Hello, and welcome to the inaugural episode of The Inner Work of Changemaking, where we will share practical guidance to help you cultivate the capacity for impact and joy.
I’m your host Katherine Golub, joining you from the unceded, ancestral lands of the Pocumtuck people, colonially known as Greenfield, Massachusetts.
This podcast is a love letter to those of us who have heard the call of these times, those of us who believe that a better world is possible and who are committed to doing our part to bring forth that world.
Because our work is hard, and we de...2023-08-1610 min
The Fertile FeministKatherine Golub, Coming Alive to Our Callings and Meeting Our Needs, A ConversationKatherine Golub, founder of the Center for Callings and Courage, talks with Sam about the journey of coming alive, feminism versus social justice, how motherhood changes us, claiming labels for ourselves, and being an activist. Having brought herself out of habits of workaholism, she shares her wisdom on meeting our needs, the power of relationships, what it means to accompany others, and radical discernment. Listen in on this conversation for nuggets on being in the body, how Katherine guides leaders, and what it means to be an organizer. This is the first in a series of conversations with people...2022-11-0349 min
The Zennurgy PodcastRadical Discernment- Episode 100Join me for an insightful conversation with Katherine Golub. She sums herself up this way, "I coach leaders who are committed to social justice to make lasting impacts without burning out.Through thousands of hours of coaching people like you, I’ve found that you really can have both: you can be extraordinarily effective while still enjoying your life. The same skills that make an impact also lead to joy.Whether you receive my Saturday Love Letter or join my free course or engage my services in a more in-depth way, it is my honor to...2022-09-2458 min
The Book Marketing Action PodcastThe Book Launch Process Part II: Katherine Golub Interviews Becky RobinsonThis episode is the second part in a mini-series where Katherine Golub–Career, Leadership, and Executive Coach for Nonprofit Leaders and People Committed to Social Justice–interviews Becky about the book launch process. Katherine, who is working on her first book, continues asking Becky all of her most pressing questions about developing a book marketing plan, generating a launch team, starting a podcast, and more so that she can reach the biggest possible audience with her message. During the episode, Becky and Katherine share:How many books an author should realistically expect to sell in the first year of l...2022-07-2622 minThe Book Marketing Action PodcastThe Book Launch Process: Katherine Golub Interviews Becky RobinsonThis episode is part of a mini-series where Katherine Golub–Career, Leadership, and Executive Coach for Nonprofit Leaders and People Committed to Social Justice–interviews Becky about the book launch process. Katherine, who is working on her first book, asks Becky all of her most pressing questions about the time, effort, resources, and connections needed to successfully launch a book and reach the biggest possible audience. During the episode, Becky and Katherine share:About themselves and how they met.Some of the necessary steps that can be taken in order to cultivate an effective launch team.How an auth...2022-06-2844 min
Releasing Trauma; a Survivor's PodcastHow to Get Unstuck, With Katherine GolubIf you’re feeling burned out, overwhelmed, and uncertain about what’s next in your life, this episode is for you. You know you need to make a change, say no to obligations that hold you back, and finally say yes to what is calling you next. In this episode, work-life coach, Katherine Golub, will share why we get stuck, what that has to do with trauma, and how to finally get unstuck so that you can create a work-life you love.2021-08-0121 min
Elevate Women PodcastDiscovering Your Steps to Clarity with guest, Katherine Golub, MBA, PCCKatherine Golub, MBA, PCC, work/life coach, Center for Callings & Courage, offers specific ideas about facing overload, burnout, and anxiety. You can dissolve these negatives and live your life fully and with joy. Learn more about my guest at www.linkedin.com/in/katherinegolub, www.instagram.com/katherinegolub,www.facebook.com/CenterforCallingsandCourage, and you can find her free introductory course, The Orientation Practice: Seven Steps to Clarity, at her website, callingsandcourage.com. To learn about Elevate Womxn Collaborative go to elevatewomxn.com.Visit us at Elevate Women Collaborative where you can read angel messages, learn...2021-07-0826 min
The New Stack PodcastDecentralization Returns the Internet to its RootsThe internet's fabled history includes such milestones as the Advanced Research Projects Agency's (ARPA) development of packet switching (ARPANET), paving the way for today's modern infrastructure, or Tim Berners-Lee’s research that culminated in the explosive adoption of the World Wide Web (WEB) in the 1990s. Today, as microservices, Kubernetes and distributed environments and connections become more prevalent, the use of the Internet is becoming more decentralized as well.In this episode of The New Stack Makers podcast hosted by Alex Williams, founder and publisher of TNS, Storj Labs' Ben Golub, chairman and interim CEO, and Katherine Joh...2021-07-0725 min
The Energy Matters PodcastKatherine Golub, Professional Coach Talks About The Container of SupportOn today’s show, Caroline sits down with professional coach Katherine Golub. Katherine discusses how to shift from the mentality of struggle to fun, how she offers a container of support, why she works with activist and purpose-driven folks, and how working for herself has impacted her family life.
2020-04-1350 min
Sex, Love & Superpowers on the Superpower NetworkSLSP – Radical Self Love and the Entrepreneur JourneyKatherine Golub joins host Tatiana Berindei as they dive into radical self love and its relationship with the entrepreneur journey. Katherine coaches purpose-driven entrepreneurs and community leaders who want to make a bigger impact in the world. Listen in and she and Tatiana talk about the importance of self love, the twists and turns of [...]2018-01-1024 min