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Heal Your RelationshipsPseudo-Self vs. True Self.What if the goals you’re chasing aren’t really yours?Or have you ever felt like you’re pushing toward something you’re “supposed” to want—even if it doesn’t really light you up?Until you stop and look around and ask yourself—wait… is this really me?If this feels familiar, this week’s episode might really hit home.This week on the podcast, I’m diving into something I see so often (in myself and my clients): the difference between our t...2025-07-1717 minHeal Your RelationshipsThe I Statement S*it Sandwich and What to Do Instead!Are you using "I statements" as a cheat sheet to dump your feelings on your partner?If you’ve ever tried to communicate better in your relationship using “I statements,” you might be surprised to learn they can actually backfire when used the wrong way.Having the tool of owning your feelings only works if you use it properly – otherwise, it breaks something. In this episode, I offer a psychological insight for us all to snack on and ask if we are really using the "I statement" appropriately.We wil...2025-07-1011 minHeal Your RelationshipsThe Paradox of Instant Pleasure in Modern LifeHave you ever scrolled endlessly through your phone, eaten something “comforting,” or binged a show—only to feel emptier afterward?Do you ever wonder why, despite having so many conveniences at your fingertips, you still feel overwhelmed, scattered, or strangely unsatisfied?You’re not broken.There’s actually a reason behind this — and it has everything to do with your dopamine levels.In this week's episode I unpack the paradox of instant pleasure in modern life—why we’re more “comfortable” than ever and yet more anxious, distracted, and disconnected.2025-06-2619 minHeal Your RelationshipsLifelong Learning: The Art of Deepening, Not ArrivingHave you ever found yourself starting something with excitement… only to drop it a few weeks later?Or maybe you push yourself obsessively for quick results—only to burn out and walk away?You’re not alone. In this week’s episode, I unpack one of the most powerful books I’ve read on personal growth: Mastery by George Leonard.Through the lens of emotional mastery and relationships, I explore the 5 key lessons that transformed the way I think about progress, success, and why we give up too...2025-06-1919 minHeal Your RelationshipsThe 6 Phrases that Poison Relationships and What to Say InsteadHave the past few years been tough on your relationship? Have you found yourself in long, relentless arguments with your partner whereby you can no longer think compassionately? Not to worry, you’re not alone. In this episode, I unpack six of the most common phrases that poison relationships – and explore alternative responses that ultimately cause less hurt —without losing our truth.From “You always...” to “Whatever you want,” I will dive into what’s really going on underneath those hurtful patterns....2025-06-1216 minHeal Your RelationshipsI Was a Harvard Educated Psychiatrist and then I Quit - Why I LeftI want to share something deeply personal: my journey from traditional psychiatry to helping people heal at a foundational level.After losing my mother to suicide and stepping into a parenting role for my siblings at a young age, I had questions that shaped my life: Why do people suffer? Can we truly heal? These questions led me to psychiatry, but over time, I realized the system often felt like treating symptoms instead of the root cause.My own healing journey taught me a powerful truth: true recovery begins by reconnecting with our bodies, calming...2024-12-2621 minHeal Your RelationshipsFeeling NumbMany of our clients say they have lost themselves in the race to the top. A decade of busyness later, they look around at all the fancy things they have accumulated, and instead of feeling joy, they feel….numb.If you are in this boat too, please know you are not alone. It’s a good thing that you are pausing to notice your own boredom and exhaustion - it means you are waking up.The way back to your true nature - your unique joy, creativity, flow, courage and purpose - is two fold.2024-01-1820 minHeal Your RelationshipsInner Conflict Vs Outer ConflictI used to go through life in a trance.Feeling sad, flat, annoyed, empty, lonely and anxious….all the while running more and more frantically on the proverbial treadmill.This set up inner conflict, which spilled over into my life in all kinds of awful ways.In todays episode, I’ll share my process for knowing if YOU are out of alignment with who you truly are, and how to course correct, so you can wake up, and live a full, satisfying and purposeful life.FREE tools:Get FREE access to m...2024-01-1115 minHeal Your Relationships5 Questions to Make 2024 Your Best YearHappy New Year!! On today’s show, I share 5 questions that will help you create the most alive, nourishing, and fulfilling life in 2024. Grab a journal and pen, and let’s go!FREE tools:Get FREE access to my ‘Conflict Cure’ mini-course, plus weekly relationship tools delivered straight to your inbox —> https://bit.ly/RelationalIQ-NewsletterNeed more customized support? Apply for a Relationship Breakthrough Call with Dr. Kavetha Sun —> https://go.oncehub.com/BreakthroughCallwithDrKavethaSun2024-01-0423 minHeal Your RelationshipsEncore: The Paradox of Instant Pleasure in Modern LifeA few months ago, I did an episode called “What’s Your F Type?” that you all LOVED.We have been getting a lot of questions about those tools, so I’ve decided to do a LIVE training on them inside our free FB group next week (link below to join). Here is an encore, so you can come prepared with your own questions for our live session! Enjoy and see you soon!----------------------------------------------------How do you react when someone cuts you up in traffic?It’s annoying, right?!What about...2023-12-2819 minHeal Your RelationshipsPause and Presence in Your Relationships, with Dr. Jessie MahoneyThe older I get, the more I realize the power of pausing, slowing down and making conscious choices in the moment.It’s not easy. But if we want something new, we have to do something new, am I right?Lucky for us, Dr. Jessie Mahoney is an expert in pausing and bringing presence to our homes, workplaces, and day to day lives. And she shares so many pearls of wisdom in this conversation.As we head into the hustle and bustle of the holidays, this might be a perfect time to begin us...2023-12-2155 minHeal Your RelationshipsSelf-forgivenessIf you are holding on to something from the past - a memory, an incident, a relationship hurt - it’s likely impacting the way you show up until the present.Self-forgiveness is not about agreeing with your past decisions. It’s about processing the wound, so it can heal, instead of stay open and fester.In this episode, I will share 3 ideas and 3 tools that have most helped me on my own self-forgiveness journey.P.S: Reminder to register for our free “Relationship Success” seminar coming up soon (limited to 100 spots) —>...2023-12-1422 minHeal Your Relationships3 Things that Successful Couples Do DifferentlyAfter studying and helping people heal their relationships for over a decade, I’ve noticed THREE things that successful relationships have in common.No, they are not: compatible values, attraction or even shared goals.They are: Earned security, Micro-repairs and Inter-dependence.Tune in to learn what these are, and how to build them into your own life.Then, register for our FREE “Relationship Success Seminar” here.—>See you there.FREE tools:Get FREE access to my ‘Conflict Cure’ mini-course, plus weekly relationship tools delivered straight to your inbox —> ...2023-12-0717 minHeal Your RelationshipsHow to Find Your North StarAnything that’s worth having is going to require persistence and motivation.But how do we keep up motivation when life gets in the way? It’s so easy to give up, or get distracted, right?The solution is to find your North Star.This is your deepest reason for being on the journey.The thing that lights you up.The WHY that will keep you going even when you stumble, or feel discouraged.Tune in today to learn how you can find your North Star.So...2023-11-3017 minHeal Your RelationshipsGratitude: How to Make it CountHappy Thanksgiving to all who celebrate!Thanksgiving is about family, good food, and gratitude.But most people get the gratitude part wrong.Gratitude is not just about remembering events or people that you are thankful for. When done right, it can be a powerful way to heal our whole nervous system. In this episode, I will share the most important part of gratitude, and a simple exercise you can do (and teach your kids!) that turns this cliche into an act of healing, connection, and growth.Enjoy!2023-11-2313 minHeal Your RelationshipsAm I Overreacting, or Am I Right? How to Tell the Difference.When someone hurts our feelings, how can we know if our response is justified, or… if we are overreacting?I used to spend hours ping-ponging between blaming someone else for being selfish/rude Vs. blaming myself.If you can’t decide whether you are being taken advantage of by someone, or overreacting because of your own triggers….tune in.This episode will show you how to discern the answer once and for all.P.S.: Want access to my 5+ hour course to end repetitive conflicts in your marriage? Join our free FB gro...2023-11-1610 minHeal Your RelationshipsHow to Shift Your Mood (Plus an Invite to a Free Training with Dr. Sun!)Your emotions are not a result of what's happening around you. They are an interpretation of what's happening around you.Tune in to hear me explain this concept, plus a simple way you can use it to shift your mood anytime.P.S.: Want to learn more about how you can use this to SOLVE ARGUMENTS?? Come join us for the free training! Register here --> https://bit.ly/ConflictCureChallengeFREE tools:Get FREE access to my ‘Conflict Cure’ mini-course, plus weekly relationship tools delivered straight to your inbox —> https://bit.ly/Re...2023-11-0912 minHeal Your RelationshipsWhich Argument Should a Couple Focus on First?Inside our “Heal Your Relationships” program, we promise to help you eliminate at least 2/3 of the recurrent, repetitive arguments in your marriage, in less than 90 days. So, what are those repetitive arguments? There are 8 of them:· Sex· Money· Parenting· Chores· Affection/time spent together· Extended family· Past hurts· TrustEvery marriage has 2 to 3 of these that keep coming up over the years, slowly causing resentment and hopelessness. What most couples’ therapists miss though, is that the details of the argument itself does not matter.What matters is...2023-11-0211 minHeal Your RelationshipsEncore: What's Your F Type?A few months ago, I did an episode called “What’s Your F Type?” that you all LOVED. We have been getting a lot of questions about those tools, so I’ve decided to do a LIVE training on them inside our free FB group next week (link below to join). Here is an encore, so you can come prepared with your own questions for our live session! Enjoy and see you soon!----------------------------------------------------How do you react when someone cuts you up in traffic?It’s annoying, right?! What about...2023-10-2619 minHeal Your RelationshipsIt's Time to Talk about StonewallingStonewalling can wreak havoc on a relationship. I have been on both ends of this, and know how hopeless it can feel. I want you to know there are simple steps you can take, whether you are the one stonewalling, or on the receiving end, that can begin to shift things.In today’s episode, I will go over:What stonewalling is and why it happens. The two types of stonewalling, and3 Tips for solving this dynamic, even if you or your partner have been stuck in it for years. Come and join the conv...2023-10-1919 minHeal Your RelationshipsAre You a Hailstorm or a Turtle?Are you a Hailstorm or a Turtle?Hailstorm = one who brings up complaints; Turtle = the one who shuts down/gets defensive and/or walks on eggshells.To the turtle, the hailstorm seems like someone who is needy, clingy, demanding, and critical. --> "I can never satisfy her, so why try?"To the hailstorm, the turtle seems like he/she doesn't care, is defensive, is not a team player, and maybe even selfish. --> "I'm on my own."When we don't understand what is happening in someone's inner world, we jump to...2023-10-1118 minHeal Your RelationshipsThe 3 Layers of Emotional IntimacyRaise your hand if you sometimes want your spouse to stop giving you solutions and instead just listen?! 🤚Ugh, so frustrating, right? Why does this happen? Because most of us are not taught about the 3 layers of Emotional Intimacy. We operate only on the INFORMATIONAL level - which is useful, but if that's your only level of relating to others, you end up feeling lonely and insecure. On this week's podcast, I share the 3 levels of emotional intimacy, and how to get to the deeper levels without compromising who you are. This w...2023-10-0518 minHeal Your RelationshipsEmotional SobrietyEmotional sobriety, a phrase frequently used in AA meetings, holds a special place in my heart. It's not just a phrase; it's a state of being – a state where clarity reigns, where nothing muddles your thoughts or numbs your senses.In this state of clarity, you're fully present, unburdened by the weight of your fears or any substances that might dim your light. It's in this space that your relationships can truly flourish.Whether wrestling with substance abuse or not, having an insecure emotional attachment style can be similar to an...2023-09-2821 minHeal Your RelationshipsWhat’s Your Attachment Style?Understanding your attachment style is like turning on the light in a dark room. It gives you the kind of clarity that also brings relief because you grasp your behaviors and your partner's behaviors more deeply.Going through life in the dark about your attachment style is like taking a road trip with no GPS, no roadmap, and no clue about your destination. Trust me, I've spent three decades on that chaotic journey, replaying the same old mistakes repeatedly.Attachment styles can broadly be categorized into two buckets: secure and insecure.2023-09-2126 minHeal Your RelationshipsCommunication Is Not the Problem! Do This Instead to Fix Your Marriage in 10 WeeksI've been down that road before, dragging my ex-partners into couples therapy, hoping it would work like a magic fix. But honestly, it often felt like taking two steps forward and then three steps back. It was like slapping a band-aid on a deep wound.Sure, the couples therapy sessions were helpful while we were in them. We'd talk, share, and sometimes even find moments of clarity.Then, we'd return home, and like clockwork, we'd slip back into the same old cycles. The same arguments, just now, with an extra l...2023-09-1417 minHeal Your RelationshipsUnconditional Love Requires Unconditional FreedomUnconditional love is only possible if you give your loved one unconditional freedom to be exactly who they are. If you constantly judge yourself, criticize how you act, and only see your limitations, then you're shooting yourself. And how you treat yourself often spills over into your interactions with the world. You may judge how others should act, what's right or wrong, and what they should or shouldn't be doing.Judgment is a futile exercise. It's a quiet form of violence, a way we harm ourselves and others. But here's the tru...2023-09-0713 minHeal Your Relationships3 Sneaky Beliefs That Hurt RelationshipsCertain beliefs in relationships are like undercover agents, quietly wreaking havoc beneath the surface. They slip in, often unnoticed, yet their impact can be profound.Have you ever noticed how convincing yourself about what your partner is thinking can be astonishingly deceptive? It's one of those sneaky things we do. The romanticization of relationships we're bombarded with through the media has convinced ourselves that mind-reading is not only desirable but possible.But mind-reading isn't an option. It's more like a setup for disappointment and resentment. The mental gymnastics we perform to de...2023-08-3122 minHeal Your Relationships3 Easy Steps to Become Best Friends With Your Spouse (Even if You’re the Busiest Family in the Block)For the longest time, I held onto the notion that genuine connections required a substantial amount of time. I convinced myself we needed to sit down for hours, sipping on a cup of coffee and simply being present for each other. And since I didn't have that time available, I inadvertently placed it on the back burner.Back then, I crafted many excuses. "Once X, Y, and Z fall into place, I'll prioritize my romantic relationship." This mantra echoed endlessly, a clever trick to delay som...2023-08-241h 00Heal Your Relationships4 Boundary Myths and Their AntidotesGrowing up, I got a firsthand taste of the two contrasting flavors of boundaries.On one side, there were those who let boundaries be loosey-goosey, while on the flip side, I encountered folks who constructed walls so formidable it felt like you needed a passcode to get through.As we journey into emotional adulthood, a pivotal step is realizing when it's time to embrace the art of healthy boundaries. Get this right, and those relationships that once hung by a thread can bloom into something spectacular.But hey, s...2023-08-1743 minHeal Your RelationshipsTwo Big Boundary MistakesHow do I get my needs met in a relationship? This is a question that I hear time and time again from my clients. Sometimes they don't even know what their partners need, and they also need to learn how to get their own needs met. One of the things I have figured out is that we often conflate and confuse boundaries with needs. And when we misdiagnose, the solutions we implement don't work, and we end up feeling more frustrated and hopeless. Some people may be good with boundaries but...2023-08-1028 minHeal Your RelationshipsMindful Self-Compassion [Part 2]I used to think about self-compassion in a "one and done" approach. But I was so wrong.Only in recent years, I have discovered that there are many steps and nuances inside self-compassion. As you practice it, you realize the parts where you need extra support, talk to someone or join a community of people who can help you. So I'm glad we spend so much time discussing this important topic on the podcast. Today, in Part 2 about mindful self-compassion, Dr. Erica Bove and I shar...2023-08-0345 minHeal Your RelationshipsMindful Self-Compassion [Part 1}Mindful self-compassion is the container of all the emotional work that we do. It contains multitudes and holds sacred space within you to heal yourself and your relationships. But sometimes, it doesn't come easy to us. It may be easy to be compassionate, in the general sense, with the world, the Earth, and the people in your life. However, it may be challenging to be self-compassionate and release our inner critic's domineering power. Learning to be more self-compassionate is a process. We have to learn how to be good friends for ourselves and not jus...2023-07-2737 minHeal Your RelationshipsSelf-trustSelf-trust is a topic that I have been grappling with in my own life. Then, I started noticing it everywhere, and many clients have asked me about it. How do I trust myself? How do I trust other people? How do I let go of resentment? So today, I want to offer a framework so we can discuss this topic. Self-trust is one of three different layers of trust. The other two are trust in other people and trust in the world (or the universe.)Duri...2023-07-1923 minHeal Your RelationshipsDealing with Emotional and Practical OverwhelmYou're juggling multiple priorities, deadlines are looming, and your emotions are running wild. It's easy to feel stuck in a whirlwind of chaos. You are overwhelmed. But is this emotional or practical overwhelm? They are different, and the tactics to deal with them are also different. Emotional overwhelm occurs when you feel overloaded or unable to cope with the intensity of your feelings. Common signs of emotional overwhelm include feeling anxious, stressed, frustrated. Sometimes, emotional overwhelm emerges when you're avoiding something big in your life. It c...2023-07-1324 minHeal Your RelationshipsHow To Argue BetterArguments and misunderstandings in relationships are inevitable. Their occurrence doesn't mean that the relationship is wrong or doomed or tainted or that you made a mistake by choosing this person, be it a romantic partner, friend, or colleague.They are inevitable. Even if the relationship was blessed by the heavens and meant to be. So let's get this out of the way. You need to stop being surprised every time you disagree with someone. Whether you argue a lot (but badly, which hurts the relationship) or have given up and ju...2023-07-0633 minHeal Your RelationshipsParenting MythsDuring the summer, parenting can become even more challenging. We, as adults, can't take the whole summer off. We still need to work and pay our bills. In addition, now we have to entertain our kids while they are not attending school. Since buttons get pushed, and we may feel overwhelmed, we sign them up for this, that, and the other thing. While some activities are wonderful, others are exhausting because they add commuting and stress to our already crammed to-do list. So how do we id...2023-06-2931 minHeal Your RelationshipsProtecting Each Other’s Raw SpotsKnowing and protecting your loved ones' raw spots is valuable. And what do I mean by that? When you identify something that stresses your loved ones out or makes them uncomfortable, you will know how to show up to help them. Maybe your spouse's raw spot is that they are slow to wake up in the morning. They don't think very clearly in the morning and like to take their time before discussing bills or holidays. If you know that to be true, you can show...2023-06-2219 minHeal Your RelationshipsBoundaries That WorkSetting boundaries is one of my favorite topics because it took me forever to figure out how to do it right. So I enjoy sharing with you the perspectives that have worked for me. There're some questions that come over and over whenever I'm working with new clients. How do I deal with someone who doesn't honor my boundaries? How do I set up boundaries in the first place since I'm a people pleaser? How do I do it if no one taught me about this? To...2023-06-1517 minHeal Your RelationshipsWhere Sexual Intimacy and Emotional Intimacy Meet With Dr. Sadaf LodhiSexual health is still taboo in many circles. Even for physicians. Many of us didn’t get enough sexual education when we were studying. Surprisingly, this also applies to OBGYNs. This is the reason why today’s guest, Dr Sadaf Lodhi, decided to become a sexual coach. She noticed a massive gap in her knowledge and took the matter into her own hands. Dr Sadaf Lodhi is a board-certified OBGYN and executive coach for women based in New York. She graduated from the University of Michigan with honors, receiving a Bachelor of Science in Bioc...2023-06-0859 minHeal Your RelationshipsBonus: Free Communication WorkshopLife is short. Are you focusing on what matters most? Or do misunderstandings, hurts, and rumination consume your precious time and energy?In this bonus episode, I share why being intentional with your relationships is important and how you can learn practical ways to stop arguing for good. Tune in and register for the free 5-Day Marriage Communication Challenge that runs June 5th - June 9th, 2023. Click here to register for the free 5-Day Marriage Communication Challenge: https://drkavetha.com/communication-challengeFREE tools:Get FREE ac...2023-05-3011 minHeal Your Relationships4 Steps to Making Big Decisions With ClarityHow to make big decisions? This theme has come up over and over in my sessions with clients. People who struggle to make big decisions are immersed in confusion and hesitation. Besides, they may be waiting for something to happen before making these big decisions. And they also think that they are not brave enough and that some other people are wired to jump, but they simply can’t do it. It doesn’t work like that. Everyone has the same design in their brain. It’s not that t...2023-05-2553 minHeal Your RelationshipsWhen Breath Becomes Air - 4 Lessons From Paul KalanithiWhen Breath Becomes Air, the book written by Dr. Paul Kalanithi, moved and inspired me. Many of you said you enjoy my takeaways about a particular book. So today I want to share some lessons from this piercing work. Recently, I read this book for the third time and got more from it this time than ever. I think the reason is that I’m older and have had more experiences. Some of them have been exhilarating. Others have been soberin...2023-05-1829 minHeal Your RelationshipsParenting Your Sensitive Child With Dr. Ceara DenoParenting a sensitive child could be difficult. Especially when they come from sensitive parents who are thoughtful and want to acknowledge their emotions while, at the same time, establishing the appropriate boundaries. Many of us, as healers, whether physicians or coaches, want to help our clients heal in a wholesome way. This also applies to our children. We may fumble with finding how to help our children when they struggle with the same problems we had when we were younger. It is true that we heal ourselves through each...2023-05-1151 minHeal Your RelationshipsHelp! My relationship feels….boringOur relationships could feel boring or distant. We may think that we no longer have much in common with the other person. We may not even know if we find the other person interesting or exciting. Believe me, you are not the only human being in the world who has doubts about their relationships. And I'm not only speaking about romantic connections. Every relationship has its seasons, also the ones that you have with your parents, your coworkers, your friends, other members of your family, or even with yourself. So how...2023-05-0424 minHeal Your RelationshipsHow to Get to the Root of What’s Bothering YouSometimes what bothers us is not actually what bothers us.There is something underlying our angst, discomfort, emptiness. But what's at the bottom of these feelings? It could be many things. And it's hard to pinpoint the reasons. At the same time, there is a method that helps us identify all of these reasons. In today's episode, I share this method. Undoubtedly, it will help you discover the core of what you have to shift to get the feeling you are chasing NOW. 2023-04-2717 minHeal Your RelationshipsHow to Move through an Upsetting Moment or EventWriting down the situations when you feel triggered is an excellent exercise to get to know yourself more. Besides jotting down these moments, you must write the feelings that come up in every instance. Not the thoughts. Not the stories you tell about it. Just the FEELINGS. Anger, disappointment, overwhelmed, confusion, fear, happiness, worry, rage. Whatever it is, write it down. In today’s episode, I will help you look for the patterns emerging in those upsetting moments or events. You wil...2023-04-2007 minHeal Your RelationshipsHow to Stop Ruminating with Dr. Kristi AngevineRumination is not just thinking repeatedly about something. This is introspection. Instead, rumination is persevering on distressing ideas. It is an intrusive and obsessive act rather than a deep reflection. In fact, rumination is our go-to place when things are uncomfortable. Someone may have said something upsetting to you. And then you repeat that conversation in your head. Five million times. So ruminating is tough. On the one hand, it gives you a sense of power...2023-04-1349 minHeal Your RelationshipsHow To Rebuild Trust In A RelationshipMany people get stuck in the process of rebuilding trust in a relationship after experiencing disappointment or betrayal. Most of them want to reconcile quickly and go to the past, to the relationship dynamic before the betrayal or the deception took place. But let me tell you this - that time is not coming back. And it shouldn't. Because the relationship wasn't working for any of you back then. (Obviously!)You have to create a new normal. And trust me - you want to create a new normal. A m...2023-04-0617 minHeal Your RelationshipsA New Way To Approach ConflictA conflict bothers us, drains our energy, and makes us feel scattered and without focus. We cannot enjoy any moment when we are worrying about an argument. The reason behind this is that we are ruminating. We are not present. At the same time, how we think about the problem also worsens the relationship.However, conflicts are not destructive. Shocking, right? If fact, if you are experiencing conflicts with your partner, this means that the relation...2023-03-3036 minHeal Your Relationships1. Welcome to Emotional Mastery With Dr. Erica BoveWelcome to Episode 1 of the Emotional Mastery Show! Today, I speak with Dr. Erica Bove about what emotional mastery is exactly, and how quickly life can change when you learn the tools that we (sadly) aren't taught in school. Erica first learned about the tools I have created in 2020, and since then, her whole life has changed in so many wonderful ways. She has become the master of her fate and the captain of her soul. And today, she is here to share what these tools are, and just how simple, straightforward, and effective they can be. ...2023-03-2344 minHeal Your RelationshipsThe 3 ConversationsThere are three conversations within every conversation. But what does this mean? We can identify three different conversations whenever we have any interaction, even the most mundane ones. In the first place, a whole world is happening inside of you. When talking, you bring up your past experiences, identity, values, belief systems, and feelings. At the same time, the other person does the same. They, too, bring their whole world when arguing or discussing an issue with you. 2023-03-1618 minHeal Your Relationships19. Are You Unknowingly Triggering These Two Toxic Emotions In Your Child?Two toxic emotions are painful for everyone. Children and adults alike. But unfortunately, some parents trigger these emotions in their own kids. Despite being well-meant, intelligent, and loving parents, they still cause emotional havoc in their children. As I have said, they are painful for everyone. But especially for children because they are dependent on adults, and they have to tolerate what we, as adults, do to them. So, how can we teach our children how to handl...2023-03-0924 minHeal Your Relationships18. Building Family ValuesModern life often has us juggling balls, frantically rushing from one activity to another, until we collapse into bed, exhausted, only to wake up and do it all again.No wonder we struggle with emptiness and disconnection!One way that we have found to infuse our family life with a sense of purpose, belonging, meaning, and connection, is to create a family creed.Listen in as I share the 7 values that we have included in our family creed. And how we bring them to life in every...2023-03-0223 minHeal Your Relationships17. RelationTIP: Dream TogetherDream together if you want your relationship to thrive and not only to survive. This advice applies to EVERY type of relationship. Not only romantic ones. So with this introduction, I welcome you to my first relationTIP. On this occasion, the relationTIP is to dream together. We generally talk about handling conflict or getting more connected in our relationships. Still, we need to actually dream and make each other's dreams come true. Sometimes, we are so focused on fixing the past or nego...2023-02-2314 minHeal Your Relationships16. Valentine's Day PitfallsFor many years in my own life, I didn't enjoy Valentine's Day. During my first ten years in America, I struggled in my relationships. I experienced many problems that I now know were very common. Still, no one told me that back in the day, not even when I was training to be a Psychiatrist. However, I have LOVED Valentine's Day for the last ten years. And the reason behind this is that the other days are just as good. Valentine's Day alone will not fix anything in...2023-02-1612 minHeal Your Relationships15. 3 Reasons We Stay In Toxic RelationshipsThere is a lot of discourse about toxic relationships and why we stay in them. And I have seen the same pattern many times. This pattern comes and goes in waves. In a specific season, I have friends who struggle in their relationships. Most times, the people involved in these relationships are good people with good intentions. But they don't have the necessary tools or perspectives to navigate a connection. Luckily, these problems are easy to fix if you know what...2023-02-0923 minHeal Your Relationships14. How to Change Any Habit Your Brain on TraumaIn This Episode:Today I want to talk about change. Usually, we start the beginning of every year with a lot of gusto about what we need to be better at and all the habits that we need to change. And then, by mid-January, things start to fizzle out. For a long time, I thought this happened because of a lack of prioritization or discipline. But the truth is that we have a lot of discipline for the things that TRUL...2023-02-0216 minHeal Your Relationships13. The Unanswerable QuestionSome days are smooth and easy. You wake up, and the weather seems to be working on your behalf. You don't know why or how, but things seem OK. And there are other days when all the lights are red, everyone seems to be in a bad mood, and things are just…crabby. We are going to have both kinds of days. A LOT of both types of days during our lifetime. So I want to offer you some...2023-01-2614 minHeal Your Relationships12. Therapy Vs CoachingHave you ever wondered what the difference is between therapy and coaching?It can be hard to understand what each one entails, especially when you are wondering which one might be right for you.Some therapists say that coaching is unhelpful, even dangerous, and there are coaches who say that therapists are stuck in the dark ages.The truth is, there is no clear right or wrong, despite what proponents in each might tell you.YOU get to pick up the tool...2023-01-1925 minHeal Your Relationships11. What is Your “F” Type?How do you react when someone cuts you up in traffic?It’s annoying, right?!What about when they ignore you or roll their eyes at something you said?How do you respond when somebody hurts your feelings or rejects your ideas?The way you respond when you get poked or triggered is called your “F” type.And knowing your “F” type is a kind of awareness that can be life-changing.In this episode, I’m diving deeper into what triggers are, why they elicit a reaction from you, an...2023-01-1220 minHeal Your Relationships10. The 6 Phases of Healing From the PastI firmly believe you cannot heal on your own. Believe me, I tried. For many years.We need community and people around us. This is just one of 6 phases that I believe are truly essential if we want to heal from our past.Almost everybody I have witnessed going through a journey of healing – including myself – experiences these 6 phases, and with them, is able to start showing up differently and have better relationships.In this episode, learn what each of these 6 phases looks...2023-01-0522 minHeal Your Relationships9. No More Band-Aids: A Model for Permanent HealingSo many of us think that permanent healing is not available to us.We think that we are stuck feeling how we feel forever, and there is nothing we can do about it.But my friends, this is not true.Permanent healing is possible for you.But to access it, you need to stop sticking Band-Aids on to temporarily fix the problem, and start focusing on the deeper work.Sticking Band-Aids on the problem won’t help, in...2022-12-2928 minHeal Your Relationships8. Toxic Hope and the Messy MiddleWe generally talk about hope as something that is positive, lovely, and healing.But hope is only a good thing if it is encouraging you to take personal responsibility and action in your life.So what about when it doesn’t?What about when hope is actually toxic?Relying on hope alone is one of the biggest reasons for suffering in this world. It’s a copout.And the sooner you understand this, the sooner you can appr...2022-12-2225 minHeal Your Relationships7. 6 conversations that changed my lifeHave you ever had a conversation with somebody that left you instantly moved?Maybe it gave you a new way of seeing things or explained why somebody behaves in a certain way.Maybe it gave you a different perspective that you would never have otherwise considered.We have so many conversations throughout our lives, but only a select few truly stay with us.Only a select few have the power to change our entire way of being and showing up in the...2022-12-1534 minHeal Your Relationships6. No White LiesWhite lies. We’re surrounded by them and people telling them.Our loved ones do it, our workplaces do it, our kids do it, and we do it.We think they’re harmless.But are they really?White lies can often feel like the easier, and sometimes more kind, ethical option. Trust me – I know. I used to be the queen of white lies.But then I realized they were a problem.In thi...2022-12-0818 minHeal Your Relationships5. The Downside to Unconditional SupportMost of us have been exposed to the upside of unconditional support.It feels fuzzy, lovely, and warm; it’s ideal.But as much as I’m a huge fan of creating safety in relationships, I am NOT a fan of unconditional support.What?!Why would I believe in emotional safety, but not unconditional support?There was a time in my life when I had unconditional support, but it actually hindered my growth and healing journey.2022-12-0118 minHeal Your Relationships4. Power of LanguageDid you know that the language you use affects your entire experience and perception of life?Well, my loved ones, it does.Whether it’s the self-talk you have running in the background of your mind or the things you say to other people, the words you use can have a profound effect on your journey.So ask yourself, is the language you are using serving you and your relationships?It has been proven that making just one simple shift in the la...2022-11-2419 minHeal Your Relationships3. My (Imperfect and Ongoing) Healing JourneyI have been on a healing journey for quite a while now, and it is still ongoing. I have a unique way of approaching relational healing and it has come through a lot of trial and error.Honestly? I’d say it’s been a lot more error than trial.I love Psychiatry, but it did not teach me all the tools I needed for my healing journey.I had to find those for myself.It took me a long time to find the right tools and integrate them in the righ...2022-11-1737 minHeal Your Relationships2. Your Complaints Are a Doorway to Your HealingIn traditional therapy, you complain about something to your therapist. She/he supports and validates you and then you both brainstorm for a way to fix the issue. Right? Right. The problem is, another annoying thing happens next week, and then again next month....it's a never-ending cycle. I also use complaints in my work with clients. BUT....we use them to powerfully and FULLY heal, so you never have to suffer with that issue again. Listen in to find out how.FREE tools:Get FREE access to my ‘Co...2022-11-1118 minHeal Your Relationships1. 3 Signs of Unresolved Childhood TraumaWelcome to episode #1 of “Your Brain on Trauma” Podcast!We begin by asking, How do you know if the past is still clouding your thinking?After all, maybe you’ve done therapy or coaching about past issues. How do we know if it’s complete, or if there are more layers to uncover, and heal?IMHO, there are 3 telltale signs. Tune in to see if you recognize any of them in your own life.FREE tools:Get FREE access to my ‘Conflict...2022-11-0316 minHeal Your Relationships33. BIG ANNOUNCEMENT: Your Brain On TraumaLife is a series of transformations and becomings.As you become more of who you are, you let go of the parts that are not in alignment with this newer, expanded version of you.So what does that have to do with this week’s podcast?Well, I have a big, juicy, beautiful announcement to make.The podcast is undergoing an upgrade!You heard that right. The podcast is going to experience a directional shift and will become something that is more authentically me.With this change, th...2022-10-2720 minHeal Your Relationships32. A Novel Way to Find Calm in Your Daily LifeIn This Episode:We’ve all experienced feeling frustrated, hurt, irritated, or angry by something that occurs in our day-to-day lives.Maybe it’s someone cutting in front of you in traffic.Maybe it’s your boss rolling their eyes at your suggestion, or your child having ANOTHER tantrum.Whatever it is that triggers you, it is important to deal with those moments in an effective way.So how do we stay calm in situations where we feel triggered and then go on to maintain this sense of calm in our...2022-10-2032 minHeal Your Relationships31. 3 Tools to Remove Limiting Beliefs From Your Subconscious MindA message that was always passed down to me was that money is hard to come by. You have to work yourself to the bone and sacrifice EVERYTHING else in your life – including your closest relationships – in order to succeed.This limiting belief affected me for a long time.But then I learned how to shift it, and everything changed.Last week we talked about limiting beliefs, what they are, where they come from, and how they hold you back. I gave you the foundations of this work because without knowing what your limi...2022-10-1328 minHeal Your Relationships30. 3 Ways to Uncover Your Hidden Limiting BeliefsIn This Episode:Do you feel stuck in your life?Do you want something else, but for some reason just can’t stop doing what you’ve always done and getting the same old results you’ve always had? You’re not alone, and there is a reason for it: your limiting beliefs could be holding you back.Whether you’re struggling with a goal you’ve set at work, stuck in a job you don’t want to be in, or struggling with something in your parenting or relationships, these subconscious bel...2022-10-0622 minHeal Your Relationships29. Where Do Triggers Come From, The Answer May Surprise You…In This Episode:For so long, I didn’t know that those things called triggers existed. I was so fused with thoughts and emotions that I would just react to things, without ever giving them a second thought. It felt like one minute I was happily riding an elephant without a care in the world and then – BAM – just like that, the elephant was overriding me and throwing me off. But then something happened that changed EVERYTHING. I learned to see triggers as gifts. If there’s one...2022-09-2919 minHeal Your Relationships28. Use your Imagination to Renew Your Mind Using These 4 Inner ResourcesSo, you gave yourself the pep talk about calmly reacting to difficult people and difficult situations and it worked.PSYCHE. It only lasted a couple of days! No matter the communication tactics, pep talks, or your deep desire, you find yourself overreacting and not being able to control your emotions. Well, today, I’m going to let you in on a little secret……you probably need to heal your “Inner Child”Heard of them?Everyone has an inner child that reflects ou...2022-09-2217 minHeal Your Relationships26. The I Statement S*it Sandwich and What to Do Instead!Are you using "I statements" as a cheat sheet to dump your feelings on your partner?Having the tool of owning your feelings only works if you use it properly – otherwise, it breaks something. In this episode, I offer a psychological insight for us all to snack on and ask if we are really using the "I statement" appropriately. We will look at how to talk without triggering each other, and the difference between owning your personal feelings effectively and simply using the sh*t sandwich that can be the "I statement" to project your fee...2022-09-0813 minHeal Your Relationships24. The Paradox of Instant Pleasure in Modern LifeHave you felt more comfortable than ever in recent times but still find yourself unhappy? Is your instant gratification laced with a lining of anxiety that pervades your day-to-day? In this episode of Wise-ish, Dr. Kavetha Sundaramoorthy explains why the misuse of dopamine has become the biggest culprit for causing our societal dis-ease. This fascinating insight into how we’ve used dopamine to move towards cooperative living explains the ‘pleasure/pain paradox’ and how we can achieve better equilibrium in our levels of contentment by abstaining from some pleasures and welcoming some pain. “I firmly believe that the peopl...2022-08-2524 minHeal Your Relationships23. How To Be A Good StudentWhat do you want to be a lifelong student of? Is it a relationship, a craft, a mission project? What are you truly committed to? In this episode of Wise-ish, Dr. Kavetha Sundaramoorthy shares the insights on learning that she gained from reading George Leonard’s book, Mastery. Peppered with her own experience, Kavetha unpacks why taking a lifelong approach to learning will help you to frame purpose and meaning in your life. It’s all about finding beauty and joy in simple processes so that you end up not wanting the process to end. “If you are tru...2022-08-1822 minHeal Your Relationships22. The 6 Phrases that Poison Relationships and What to Say InsteadHave the past few years been tough on your relationship? Have you found yourself in long, relentless arguments with your partner whereby you can no longer think compassionately? Not to worry, you’re not alone. In this episode, I unpack six of the most common phrases that poison relationships – and explore alternative responses that ultimately cause less hurt. Let us look at what is underneath the hurt and resentment, and explore how our feelings shut down when we become emotionally overwhelmed. “Keep your cool, hold onto your truth, and don’t just take on your partner’s...2022-08-1136 minHeal Your Relationships21. 5 Boundary Myths That Hurt RelationshipsBoundaries are essential to a good relationship. But when you don’t have enough boundaries, or you have very rigid boundaries, your relationships will be damaged. There are several myths around boundaries that hurt relationships, and in this week’s episode, I’m sharing 5 of them with you and showing you how to see where you are perpetuating them in your own relationships. Learn how deconstructing these myths will help you have thriving, connected relationships, and how to overcome them to create a framework to protect and nourish your relationships instead of hurting them. Are you rea...2022-08-0417 minHeal Your Relationships20. Secure Attachment in MarriageWe’re all attached to something or someone. But, how do we tell if this attachment is healthy or on the borderline of being clingy? Join me in this episode of WISEish as I delve deeper into this topic. I will share how secure attachment differs from insecure attachment, and what could happen if insecure attachment is carried on to adulthood. Find out how learning about your attachment style impacts your marriage and your relationships. Mastery is open for enrollment!Mastery is our monthly membership program, where we take the tools I teach and help yo...2022-07-2930 min
Heal Your Relationships19. The Emotional Freedom FormulaLearning how to change your core beliefs and identity is the key to unlocking everything that you want in your life. You can become whoever you want, no matter what habits, relationships, or behavioral patterns you developed over time. By shifting your “thermostat” you will find yourself achieving emotional freedom without having to work so hard at it.Enter the Podcast Giveaway… everyone's a winner!!! To enter, all you have to do is follow the show, listen to an episode (or 2), take a screenshot of your favorite episode and leave it as a comment on my Fac...2022-07-2122 min
Heal Your Relationships18. How to Raise a Secure and Happy ChildWhat is the correct way to raise a child? It looks different for everyone, but in today’s episode, I am going to explain how to set your child up for success in the future. Parenting is a controversial topic with many mixed opinions, but one thing we can all agree on, we want to prepare our children for the real world so that they can make it on their own. Join me as I take you through the steps of secure attachment and why it’s so important.Mastery is open for enrollment!Mastery is o...2022-07-1518 minHeal Your Relationships17. Emotional Immaturity: Signs and SolutionsWe have all been in difficult situations, what differentiates us is how we deal with them. In today’s episode, I will explain the 3 ways we immaturely deal with feelings, and how to fix this. Typically, as humans, we believe we either have to swallow our emotions or blurt them out, but this is not the answer. Listen as I explain why you should be processing and spending time with your emotions before reacting to them immaturely.Mastery is open for enrollment!Mastery is our monthly membership program, where we take the tools I teach an...2022-07-1517 minHeal Your Relationships16. 4 Conscious Communication Tools You Need to Better Any RelationshipBad communication equals bad relationships. Today, we’re learning the importance of communication and my framework for the best communication skills. One of the basic needs of any human being is to feel understood, and when they do, you will know. It’s reassuring to know that you’re not alone in any situation, so help others feel that. Tune in today as I explain the 4 C’s of communication, how to use them, and understand them.Mastery is open for enrollment!Mastery is our monthly membership program, where we take the tools I teach and help...2022-07-1419 minHeal Your Relationships15. 3 Signs You are Struggling with Hidden Trauma and 6 Ways to Begin Healing TodayBy the time we turn 30, we have all experienced some trauma in our life. The question is, have you healed from that trauma? In today’s episode, I will explain how trauma has affected my life and how it affects yours too. Although it appears you have worked on your trauma from the outside, you need to look at yourself from the inside and understand that is where the healing process begins.Join me today as I walk you through the signs of your hidden trauma and how to start healing.Mastery is...2022-07-1427 min
Heal Your Relationships14. A Simple Tool to Reduce Anxiety and Stress in 90 SecondsStress is normal! And, it’s not always bad. Welcome to another episode of WISEish, today we’re talking about what causes stress and how to deal with it. As humans, we don’t encounter life or death situations daily, meaning our chronic stress is low grade and under the surface. Tune in to learn why low-grade stressors lead to chronic stress and how to reduce it.Mastery is open for enrollment!Mastery is our monthly membership program, where we take the tools I teach and help you ap...2022-07-1413 min
Heal Your Relationships13. A New Way to Resolve Repetitive ArgumentsDo you tend to argue about the same stuff over and over again? I know how frustrating that is, because I struggled with it too. And when those topics come up, it often leads to circular arguments and hurt feelings.In today’s episode, I will show you a NEW way to approach these conversations. This is an excerpt from a talk I gave recently to a group of several thousand women physicians. If you apply these 3 tools, I guarantee there will be a big SHIFT in the conversation….…AND in the relati...2022-06-3031 min
Heal Your Relationships12. How To Be Confident In Any SituationWelcome to Episode 12! What do people-pleasing, social anxiety, self-doubt, perfectionism, imposter syndrome, rumination, procrastination, and fear all have in common? They stem from lack of confidence in yourself.Confidence is an essential skill to master if we want to live a meaningful life and do things that matter. In today’s episode, I share the 4 types of confidence, and how to develop each one. This framework has changed my life, and 10Xed my confidence in the last few years.It will do the same for you if yo...2022-06-2321 min
Heal Your Relationships11. How to Become the Master of Your FateWelcome to Episode 11! Huge announcement - Mastery program is now open!Mastery is our monthly membership program, and it’s THE best place on the planet to help you accomplish 3 things:1. Master your emotions, 2. Heal your relationships, and3. Pass on a legacy you are proud of.In today’s episode, I will give you a sneak peek into all the tools inside Mastery, plus how we surround our students with support, resources, coaching and fun.If this work call...2022-06-1616 min
Heal Your Relationships10. What is Life Without Death? 5 Lessons From Viktor FranklWelcome to Episode 10! WISE-ish is growing up! We are so grateful for your support on this journey. Today, we look at the top 5 lessons from Viktor Frankl, who was an Austrian neurologist, psychiatrist, philosopher, writer, and Holocaust survivor.His writings and the model of therapy he created, called Logotherapy, have deeply influenced my life. I am certain that if you take the time to ponder on the 5 concepts I share in this episode, your life too will be made richer, wiser, and more meaningful. FREE tools:Get...2022-06-0927 minHeal Your Relationships9. How to Use Triggers to Reduce SufferingThe things (people, memories or events) that trigger you are merely messengers. And they come bearing a gift. The gift is the potential to heal past wounds. In today’s podcast, I share the 3 ways we block healing when we are triggered, and step-by-step process to using triggers as the gifts they are intended to be. This is one you don’t want to miss. FREE tools:Get FREE access to my ‘Conflict Cure’ mini-course, plus weekly relationship tools delivered straight to your inbox —> https://bit.ly/Relational...2022-06-0236 minHeal Your Relationships8. How to Feel Better in 3 StepsWhat do we do when people hurt our feelings? Or when things don’t go as planned? Or when we try hard and still fail? Or when we had trauma in our past and those memories and thoughts keep coming up in our current lives? In short, how do we not suffer so much? THAT is the topic of today’s episode.I will show you the ONE natural law that if we ignore or violate, will cause suffering for you and everyone around you.And finally, I re...2022-05-2626 minHeal Your Relationships7. How to Make Decisions You Won’t RegretEvery day, we are faced with hundreds of decisions. Starting from what to do when the alarm goes off, to how much sugar to add to our morning coffee, the list is endless.Most of the time, what we decide doesn’t matter all that much because the consequences aren't life changing. But what if you are deciding whether to move, or take that job, or leave that relationship, or have that child, some decisions like these CAN indeed be life altering.[Sometimes, we are so scared of the potential consequences that we...2022-05-1924 min
Heal Your Relationships6. How to Reverse Your Miserable ThinkingHave you heard of the psychological hack called “Inversion Thinking”?It’s one of the best ways to make sure you get the result that you want, in any area of your life.In today’s episode, we will learn how to use inversion thinking to live the most joyful, wise and fulfilled life you can……by studying the 6 ways you can make your life more miserable!That’s right. Once you know these 6 steps to add more suffering in your life,2022-05-1226 min
Heal Your Relationships5. What Are Feelings and How to TRULY Let GoWelcome to step 5 in getting unstuck!Today, we bring it all together my friend. We’re gonna pick an issue you feel stuck in, and I will show you how to use all 5 tools together so you can “Get Unstuck” for good.Ready for emotional freedom? Come on in!Ready to take it to the next step and APPLY this to your own life? Click here to download a FREE PDF that will walk you through the 5 steps to getting unstuck today! --> https://drkavetha.com/freepdf4sdag2o...2022-05-0943 min
Heal Your Relationships4. Find the Exit Door Out of SufferingWelcome to step 4 in getting unstuck!So, in step 3 you learned how to drive a school bus. Good for you! But what if the kids in the bus are loud, angry, crying or demanding?This tool will instantly give you a way to manage them safely, calmly and compassionately. Ready? Let’s GO!Ready to take it to the next step and APPLY this to your own life? Click here to download a FREE PDF that will walk you through the 5 steps to ge...2022-05-0824 min
Heal Your Relationships3. How To Think About Your Thinking (and stay connected to who you truly are)Welcome to step 3 in getting unstuck! When I teach our clients step 1 and 2, the next question they often ask, “So how do I stay connected with who I really am?”If you are thinking that too, this episode is for you. Let me introduce you to the school bus between your ears.Confused? Bear with me. It will make complete sense when you listen to this episode. And it will become your favorite mindset tool.Ready to take it to the...2022-05-0719 min
Heal Your Relationships1. Five steps to getting unstuck, from ANYTHINGHi everyone! Welcome to WISEish.Our first topic is about the 5 steps to getting unstuck, from ANYTHING.Maybe right now you feel stuck in your relationships, or work, or your fitness…..whatever it may be, if you listen and apply what I share with you over the next 5 days, you will have a breakthrough. I promise.Shall we dive in? Today, we are going to uncover how the human brain works, and why it acts like quicksand at times, sucking us deeper and deeper into loops of suffering. Once you tr...2022-05-0523 min