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From One Caregiver to Another109. Are Boundaries Selfish?In this episode, join host Kay Coughlin as she talks about the idea that boundaries are not, in fact, selfish (but it's still OK if you feel that way). Also, Kay gives an update on what's next for her creatively and why there's about to be a big pause for the podcast. As always, no judgment, no guilt and no pressure.
Find information on the Here4TheKids movement: Here4TheKids.com/
Learn about business coaching with Kay here: FacilitatorOnFire.net/Coaching/
Get the Boundaries Playlist here: FacilitatorOnFire.net/BoundariesPlaylist/
Find Kay's Sour...2023-07-0723 min
From One Caregiver to Another108. DeLon Canterbury - Medication Deprescribing and CaregiversIn this episode, join host Kay Coughlin and her guest, Dr. DeLon Canterbury, who is an expert on deprescribing and the difference it can make in the lives of family caregivers. As always, no judgment, no guilt and no pressure.
Find Dr. DeLon Canterbury at Geriatrx: www.geriatrx.org
Find Deprescribing.org at: deprescribing.org
Get full transcript here: FacilitatorOnFire.net/Episode108
Find information on the Here4TheKids movement and the gathering in Denver on June 5, 2023: Here4TheKids.com/
Learn about business coaching with Kay here: FacilitatorOnFire.net/Coaching/
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From One Caregiver to Another107. Altagracia Montilla - Awareness and ActionJoin host, white woman Kay Coughlin, as she welcomes a very special guest, Altagracia Montilla, professional change-maker and systems innovator, and BIPOC woman. In this episode, Kay and Altagracia talk about some very difficult topics, like racism, white supremacy and how a lot of people, including white folk, get wokeness wrong. They also talk about some of life’s greatest gifts and opportunities, like doing work that feeds your soul. As always, no judgment, no guilt and no pressure.
Find information on the Here4TheKids movement and the gathering in Denver on June 5, 2023: Here4TheKids.com/
Find...2023-05-0344 min
From One Caregiver to Another106. Self-Care Love NoteWhat happens when your life gets upended and you have to figure out how to keep up with your own needs and care, too? That’s what host Kay Coughlin talks about in this episode of the podcast. As always, no judgment, no guilt and no pressure.
Get full transcript here: FacilitatorOnFire.net/Episode106
Find information on the Here4TheKids movement and the gathering in Denver on June 5, 2023: Here4TheKids.com/
Episodes with author Kate Washington as mentioned in the podcast: 91 and 92
Find "Poison Spoon," Kay's new blog on confronting her own...2023-04-1915 min
From One Caregiver to Another105. Brittany Lamb, MD - Medical Planning for Dementia CaregiversMaking medical decisions for a person with dementia is a major source of confusion, stress and worry for family caregivers. Join host Kay Coughlin and ER physician Brittany Lamb, MD, for this discussion about Dr. Lamb’s work to help ease this burden on family caregivers. As always, no judgment, no guilt and no pressure.
Find Brittany Lamb, MD, here: blambmd.com/
Learn about business coaching with Kay here: FacilitatorOnFire.net/Coaching/
Get the Boundaries Playlist here: FacilitatorOnFire.net/BoundariesPlaylist/
Find Kay’s Sources page here: FacilitatorOnFire.net/Sources
Find the free Boundaries Community here: FacilitatorOnFire.mn.co/
Learn more about all of...2023-04-1231 min
From One Caregiver to Another104. Caregiver ShamingWhat is caregiver shaming, and how can you recognize it and put a stop to it? Join Kay Coughlin for this discussion of a difficult, very common and absolutely unnecessary aspect of having family caregiver responsibilities. As always, no judgment, no guilt and no pressure.
Full transcript available here: FacilitatorOnFire.net/Episode104
Learn about business coaching with Kay here: FacilitatorOnFire.net/Coaching/
Get the Boundaries Playlist here: FacilitatorOnFire.net/BoundariesPlaylist/
Find Kay’s Sources page here: FacilitatorOnFire.net/Sources
Find the free Boundaries Community here: FacilitatorOnFire.mn.co/
Learn m...2023-04-0527 min
From One Caregiver to Another103. Unsolicited Sales CallsJoin host Kay Coughlin to talk about why you, or maybe someone in your life, spend so much time letting unsolicited sales calls - on the phone or in person - waste so much of their time. And why you feel guilty when you hang up on them. As always, no judgment, no guilt and no pressure.
Full transcript available here: FacilitatorOnFire.net/Episode103/
Learn about business coaching with Kay here: FacilitatorOnFire.net/Coaching/
Get the Boundaries Playlist here: FacilitatorOnFire.net/BoundariesPlaylist/
Find Kay’s Sources page here: FacilitatorOnFire.net/Sources
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From One Caregiver to Another102. Shawn Moore - Caregivers for VeteransThis episode is for caregivers of military and veterans. Join host Kay Coughlin as she talks to Shawn Moore, LMSW, Program Manager, Financial Wellness, Elizabeth Dole Foundation & Founder, Caregivers on the Homefront. Shawn is a caregiver for a veteran and, when she couldn’t find any help for herself, founded an organization to care for people with caregiver responsibilities in military and veteran situations. As always, no judgment, no guilt and no pressure.
Content Warning: Brief discussion of suicidal ideation
Full transcript available here: FacilitatorOnFire.net/Episode102
Caregivers on the Homefront: https://caregivers-homefront.or...2023-03-0834 min
From One Caregiver to Another101. Adaptability and Human Giver SyndromeDoes it ever seem like you’re the one who adapts to everybody else - family, clients, colleagues and friends - but nobody bothers to accommodate you? In this episode, host Kay Coughlin talks about this aspect of Human Giver Syndrome, and how it can affect every part of your life. As always, no judgment, no guilt and no pressure.
Full transcript of the episode here: FacilitatorOnFire.net/Episode101
Learn about business coaching with Kay here: FacilitatorOnFire.net/Coaching/
Get the Boundaries Playlist here: FacilitatorOnFire.net/BoundariesPlaylist/
Find Kay’s Sources page...2023-03-0117 min
From One Caregiver to Another100. Celebrate Your WinsJoin host Kay Coughlin to talk about celebrating your wins! Why? This is episode 100 of the podcast, and Kay wants to celebrate with YOU! As always, no judgment, no guilt and no pressure.
Full transcript of the episode here: FacilitatorOnFire.net/Episode100
Learn about business coaching with Kay here: FacilitatorOnFire.net/Coaching/
Get the Boundaries Playlist here: FacilitatorOnFire.net/BoundariesPlaylist/
Find Kay’s Sources page here: FacilitatorOnFire.net/Sources
Find the free Boundaries Community here: FacilitatorOnFire.mn.co/
Learn more about all of this work at FacilitatorOnFire.net...2023-02-1520 min
From One Caregiver to Another99. Fayron Epps, PhD, RN - How to Include Dementia CaregiversJoin host Kay Coughlin as she talks to Fayron Epps, PhD, RN, about Fayron’s groundbreaking Alter Program. Alter was designed to bring people with dementia – and their caregivers – back to practicing faith. You’ll want to share this episode with your family and faith leaders! As always, no judgment, no guilt and no pressure.
Full transcript of episode here: FacilitatorOnFire.net/Episode99
Find Dr. Fayron Epps and Alter Dementia here: Home – Alter (alterdementia.com)
Find next Alter Dementia monthly informational session (virtual) here: https://tinyurl.com/AlterProgram
Find Faith Village Research La...2023-02-0832 min
From One Caregiver to Another98. Power of the PauseHave you ever stopped to think about the difference between speed and haste? What would it mean for your work and life to be able to slow down and respond with thoughtfulness, instead of racing ahead and always rushing? Join jost Kay Coughlin for this episode about a free tool that’s available to all of us: the pause. As always, no judgment, no guilt and no pressure.
Full transcript of episode 98 is here: FacilitatorOnFire.net/episode98
See Episode 56, “Real Self-Care Actions,” for another Viktor Frankl quote reference.
Learn about business coaching with Kay he...2023-02-0122 min
From One Caregiver to Another97. Reclaim Your TimeHow do you reclaim some time for yourself when it means making some changes, and when there are people who are going to be unhappy with you for doing it? That’s what host Kay Coughlin is talking about in this episode of the podcast. Because reclaiming some time is one of the fastest ways to start taking better care of yourself. As always, no judgment, no guilt, and no pressure.
Learn about business coaching with Kay here: FacilitatorOnFire.net/Coaching/
Read the full transcript of this episode here: FacilitatorOnFire.net/episode97/
Get th...2023-01-1823 min
From One Caregiver to Another96. Kandis Draw - Real Life as a CaregiverJoin host Kay Coughlin and Kandis Draw, contributor to Caregiving.com and a member of the Illinois State Commission for Gynecological Cancers. Kandis talks about what it was like as a 30-year old to care for her mother, full-time, for 3 years. She shares her real-world thoughts on what caregivers really need while they are in their caregiving years. As always, no judgment, no guilt and no pressure.
Read the full episode transcript here: FacilitatorOnFire.net/Episode96
Learn about business coaching with Kay here: FacilitatorOnFire.net/Coaching/
Contact Kandis here: email, LinkedIn, Caregiving.com2023-01-1130 min
From One Caregiver to Another95. Priorities, Boundaries and New SeasonsIn this episode, host Kay Coughlin talks about how setting boundaries is a two-for-one deal: when you set boundaries, you’re also setting priorities. As always, there's no judgment, no guilt, and no pressure.
Learn about business coaching with Kay here: facilitatoronfire.net/coaching
Get the Boundaries Playlist here: FacilitatorOnFire.net/BoundariesPlaylist/
Find Kay’s Sources page here: FacilitatorOnFire.net/Sources
Find the Boundaries Community here: FacilitatorOnFire.mn.co/
Learn more about all of this work at FacilitatorOnFire.net/Links.
Full transcript can be found here: FacilitatorOnFire.net/e...2023-01-0415 min
From One Caregiver to Another94. Fatigued by the Holidays?The holidays are more exhausting for some people. If you’re one of those people, this episode is for you. Join host Kay Coughlin as she talks about how to use your fatigue as a tool to help you figure out what you need right now to reduce your load this season. As always, no judgment, no guilt, and no pressure.
Get the Boundaries Playlist here: FacilitatorOnFire.net/BoundariesPlaylist/
Find Kay’s Sources page here: FacilitatorOnFire.net/Sources
Find the Boundaries Community here: FacilitatorOnFire.mn.co/
Learn more about all of this...2022-12-2113 min
From One Caregiver to Another93. Q&A: "My Kids Won't Help Me"In this episode, host Kay Coughlin answers a question that comes up a lot in families, “Why won’t my adult kids help with anything over the holidays?” Listen as Kay shares how the solution starts with setting expectations and then deciding in advance what your boundaries are. As always, no judgment, no guilt and no pressure.
Get the Boundaries Playlist here: FacilitatorOnFire.net/BoundariesPlaylist/
Find Kay’s Sources page here: FacilitatorOnFire.net/Sources
Find the Boundaries Community here: FacilitatorOnFire.mn.co/
Learn more about all of this work at FacilitatorOnFire.net/Links...2022-12-1421 min
From One Caregiver to Another92. Kate Washington - On Caregiving and Burnout, part 2Join host Kay Coughlin for part two of her conversation with Kate Washington, author of Already Toast: Caregiving and Burnout in America. Kay and Kate talk about what it really feels like to be invisible, the conflicting emotions of asking for help, and how healing it is to be seen again. Listen to part one of the conversation here. As always, no judgment, no guilt and no pressure.
Find Kate Washington, author of Already Toast: Caregiving and Burnout in America, here
Find Kay’s Sources page here: FacilitatorOnFire.net/Sources
Find the Boundaries Com...2022-11-3023 min
From One Caregiver to Another91. Kate Washington - On Caregiving & Burnout, part oneJoin host Kay Coughlin for part one of her interview with Kate Washington, author of “Already Toast: Caregiving and Burnout in America.” Kay and Kate talk about what it’s like to feel erased as a family caregiver and why caregiver isolation is such a problem in our culture. As always, no judgment, no pressure and no guilt!
Find Kate Washington, author of Already Toast: Caregiving and Burnout in America, here
Find Kay’s Sources page here: FacilitatorOnFire.net/Sources
Find the Boundaries Community here: FacilitatorOnFire.mn.co/
Learn more about all of thi...2022-11-2225 min
From One Caregiver to Another90. Separating Forgiveness and Reconciliation“Forgive and forget.” Who hasn’t heard that a million times? The thing is, forgiveness is a complete act. Turns out, you don’t have to forget or reconcile after you forgive somebody. Join host Kay Coughlin to explore this radical way of looking at forgiveness that could free you from a lifetime of emotional baggage. As always, no judgment, no pressure and no guilt!
Read the full transcript here: FacilitatorOnFire.net/Episode90
Find Kay's Sources page here: FacilitatorOnFire.net/Sources
Find the Boundaries Community here: FacilitatorOnFire.mn.co/
Learn more about all...2022-11-1622 min
From One Caregiver to AnotherTrailer"From One Caregiver to Another" is NOT a podcast about how to be a better family caregiver. It's about remembering that you have your own identity as a person: you are more than a caregiver, and you can live your own life, too. After years of struggling to find the encouragement she needed to prioritize her own needs, Kay Coughlin created this podcast to help caregivers who can also relate to feeling ignored, judged or dismissed by their communities. Whether you are new to caregiving, in the middle of it (like Kay is now), or in your post-caregiving journey...2022-11-0304 min
From One Caregiver to Another89. Reducing Holiday Stress, part two (boundary scripts)In this episode, which is part two of “Reducing Holiday Stress,” host Kay Coughlin gives you the exact words to use so you can communicate your boundaries in three common stressful holiday situations. As always, no judgment, no guilt and no pressure.
Listen to "Reducing Holiday Stress, part one" here: https://anchor.fm/kay-coughlin/episodes/87--Reducing-Holiday-Stress--Part-One-e1p9574/a-a8mja10
Read the full transcript here: FacilitatorOnFire.net/episode89
Links to more information on everything here: FacilitatorOnFire.net/links
Find Kay on LinkedIn here: http://www.linkedin.com/in/jkcoughlin
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From One Caregiver to Another88. Cathy Sikorski: Elder Lawyer & Caregiver Advocate88. Join host Kay Coughlin for this energetic discussion with Cathy Sikorski, longtime Elder Lawyer and family caregiver. Among many other topics, you’ll get a brief overview of the “big four” legal documents that are critical to have in any caregiving situation. Also, you’ll hear some of what Cathy has learned during her 30 years as a caregiver about how to make sure you get real self-care. As always, you can expect real talk with no judgment, no guilt and no pressure!
Register for Nancy’s House conference (Sat, Nov 5, 2022) here: FacilitatorOnFire.net/Events
Find Cathy Siko...2022-10-2640 min
From One Caregiver to Another87. Reducing Holiday Stress, Part OneIf holidays are a major source of stress for you, it’s time to take a new approach to your holidays. You can reduce your stress by getting ahead of it. In part one on this topic, your host Kay Coughlin guides you through how to think through your holidays to identify the stressful situations that are specific to you. As always, you'll find real talk with no pressure, no judgment and no guilt.
Read the full transcript of this episode here: https://facilitatoronfire.net/episode87/
Join the online membership for caregivers here: https://facilitatoronfire.ne...2022-10-1916 min
From One Caregiver to Another86. You Can Share ResponsibilitiesEver wonder why it’s so dang hard for you to share responsibilities with other people? And why you have so much trouble accepting help, even when you need and want it so much? In this episode, your host Kay Coughlin talks about the generations of women in her family who have struggled with this exact problem and how it shows up in her life today. And the good news is that Kay is finally breaking this pattern - and you can too!
Read the full episode transcript here: FacilitatorOnFire.net/Episode86
Join the free & op...2022-08-3119 min
From One Caregiver to Another85. Jenn Abbenhaus - Fresh Take on Caring for YourselfHealth and fitness coach Jenn Abbenhaus felt she already had an unusual sensitivity to the needs of her clients with family caregiver responsibilities - and then she became a caregiver for her own grandfather. In this episode, Jenn and host Kay Coughlin get real about taking care of yourself when there’s so much pressure to feel guilty if you’re not focusing 100% of your efforts on being a caregiver. As always, there's no judgment, no guilt and no pressure!
Read the full transcript of this episode here: FacilitatorOnFire.net/Episode85/
Contact Jenn Abbenhaus by email...2022-08-2434 min
From One Caregiver to Another78. Being Gentle with YourselfIn this episode, host Kay Coughlin talks about ways she is being gentle with herself. Even when our culture seems to be pushing in the opposite direction. Kay gets pretty honest here, in the hopes that something she admits will help you be more gentle with yourself, too.
Find the free Boundaries Community here: https://facilitatoronfire.net/. This community is open to everybody - you don't have to be a family caregiver to join!
Find the monthly membership for family caregivers here: https://facilitatoronfire.net/membership
Read the full transcript of the episode...2022-06-2922 min
From One Caregiver to Another74. How to RestOne of the main reasons we don’t rest is that we’re not taught how to do it. And even if we know how, we’re not encouraged to rest, either. Join host Kay Coughlin for this discussion of some tactics to build rest into your life - one of these only takes one minute! Throughout the episode, Kay references the guide she wrote called “How to Rest,” and you can get that in the Library area here or here. As always, you can expect to be guided with no judgment and no guilt!
Read the full episo...2022-06-0125 min
From One Caregiver to Another65. Beliefs about taking care of yourselfWhat do you believe about taking care of yourself right now? That’s going to show up in the way you actually take care of yourself (or not). Join Kay Coughlin for this episode about how to notice the beliefs and thoughts that are in your mind right now. So that you can choose what you really want instead. As always, there’s no guilt and no judgment here!
Register for "Prioritize You" here: https://facilitatoronfire.net/prioritizeyou/
Full transcript of episode is available here: https://facilitatoronfire.net/episode65/
Links to everything else here...2022-03-3019 min
From One Caregiver to Another64. How to stop listening to judging voicesIn this episode, host Kay Coughlin talks about how judging voices don’t have to control your life anymore. Whether the judging is coming from somebody else or from your own mind, you have a choice about how much power it has over you.
Full transcript of this episode can be found here: https://facilitatoronfire.net/episode64/
Register for Prioritize You here: https://facilitatoronfire.net/prioritizeyou/
Join the From One Caregiver to Another monthly membership here: https://facilitatoronfire.mn.co/landing/plans/198488
Learn more about all of this work and find a...2022-03-2319 min
From One Caregiver to Another63. How to reduce your stressFeeling stress is a normal human experience. If you’re tired of hearing unhelpful advice about how to manage it, listen to this episode as Kay Coughlin gives you practical, truly useful tips.
Register for "Prioritize You" here (begins April 11, 2022): https://facilitatoronfire.net/prioritizeyou/
Full transcript here: https://facilitatoronfire.net/episode63/
Get Kay's free "How to Rest" guide in the Library area here: https://facilitatoronfire.mn.co/
Join the free Boundaries Community here: https://facilitatoronfire.mn.co/
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From One Caregiver to Another62. Nice vs. kindIn this episode, Kay Coughlin talks about the important difference between being nice and being kind. As people with caregiver responsibilities, we often think we’re at the limits of what we can handle. That’s when a commitment to kindness can make all the difference. There are times for both niceness and kindness, but how do you know the difference?
Read the full show transcript here: https://facilitatoronfire.net/what-overwhelm-tells-you/
Register for Prioritize You workshop here: https://facilitatoronfire.net/events/
Learn more about all of this work at FacilitatorOnFire.net/Links
2022-03-0927 min
From One Caregiver to AnotherBonus: What overwhelm is trying to tell youIn this bonus episode, Kay Coughlin reads her article called "What overwhelm is trying to tell you." You can use your overwhelm as a source of data, so that you can ultimately reduce the overwhelm.
Read this article at FacilitatorOnFire.net/StopOverwhelm
Join the free Boundaries Community here https://facilitatoronfire.mn.co/
Get help with your mental health right away at NAMI.org (National Alliance on Mental Illness)
Register for "Prioritize You" workshop here FacilitatorOnFire.net/events/
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From One Caregiver to Another60. What are limiting beliefs?What is a limiting belief, anyway, and why does it matter to every human being? It’s especially important to understand if you want to make a change in your life, but then you feel terrible every time you think about changing anything. In this episode, host Kay Coughlin explains what a limiting belief is, how to see them showing up in your life, and how to process them so you can decide what you want instead.
Read the full transcript at FacilitatorOnFire.net/Episode60
Get the "Thought Download" for free in the Boundaries Community at...2022-02-2317 min
From One Caregiver to Another59. Ten New Thoughts for Family CaregiversJoin Kay Coughlin as she shares 10 new thoughts for family caregivers, sandwich family caregivers and parents to think. Why do we all need this? Well, we hear way too may old stories about living small, negative, limited and painful lives. What we need to hear instead is a set of new messages to encourage us and remind us that we don't have to live life the "old" way. Get the PDF of the 10 thoughts in the Library area of the Boundaries Community.
Join the free Boundaries Community here: https://facilitatoronfire.net/links/
Link to full...2022-02-1620 min
From One Caregiver to Another58. Breaking the cycle of lonelinessIn this episode, Kay Coughlin talks about how to break the cycle of loneliness and isolation. Because Kay is seeing that loneliness is slowly breaking way too many of us. As always, if you prefer to read, the full transcript is available on the show page here: https://facilitatoronfire.net/episode58.
Find the free boundaries community here: https://facilitatoronfire.net/boundaries/
Other episodes mentioned: 32 and 38.
Get more information on everything here: https://facilitatoronfire.net/learnmore/
Follow Kay on Instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/facilitatoronfire/ and on LinkedIn here: http://www...2021-11-1720 min
From One Caregiver to Another57. Should you become a family caregiver?Should you become a family caregiver? That’s what Kay Coughlin discusses in this episode. Kay gives the ten questions that she asked herself before she decided to become a caregiver. Whether you are a caregiver already or not, these questions can help you get un-stuck, and get the help you need immediately.
Get the ten questions and join the free boundaries community here: https://facilitatoronfire.net/boundaries/
Read the full transcript here: https://facilitatoronfire.net/episode57/
Get more information about all of this work here: https://facilitatoronfire.net/learnmore/
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From One Caregiver to Another56. Real self-care actionsIn this episode, Kay Coughlin talks about what real self-care looks like and discusses 10 true self-care actions. These will work for all humans. Whether you like bubble baths or not.
Join free Boundaries community here: https://facilitatoronfire.net/boundaries/
Full transcript of episode can be read here: https://facilitatoronfire.net/episode56
Find the "between stimulus and response" graphic and follow Kay on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/facilitatoronfire/
Learn more about all of the work here: https://facilitatoronfire.net/LearnMore
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From One Caregiver to Another55. Toxic positivity vs. forced positivityThe term "toxic positivity" has been heard more often in pop culture lately. But what if positivity can't be toxic? What if the problem is forced positivity - and even forced gratitude? Kay Coughlin explores why this idea can actually make positivity hurtful, and how to break the cycle of forced positivity.
Find the boundaries community (free) here https://facilitatoronfire.net/boundaries/
Books mentioned in the episode: "The Gratitude Factor" by Charles Shelton. "Emotional Agility" by Susan David.
More information here: https://facilitatoronfire.net/learnmore/
Read full transcript here: https://facilitatoronfire...2021-10-2722 min
From One Caregiver to Another54. One year laterIn this episode, Kay Coughlin talks about the year that has gone by since she wrote “From One Caregiver to Another - Overcoming Your Emotional Grind.” If you are suffering at all from the way guilt controls your life, or if you feel like you don't have any choice about what your life looks like as a person who has caregiver responsibilities, you will definitely want to listen to this! Read the full transcript here: http://facilitatoronfire.net/episode54.
Get the book here: https://facilitatoronfire.net/books/.
Listen to chapter one here: https://facilitatoronfire.net/learn...2021-10-2014 min
From One Caregiver to AnotherSix: Busting the Myths of BoundariesThis is the audio recording of message six in Kay Coughlin's 6-email "Stop the Overwhelm - Set Boundaries" series. In this message, Kay talks about why the idea of boundaries can strike so much fear in our hearts, and she busts some of the most common myths about boundaries. The other episodes of the podcast Kay references in this message are 40, 49 and 50.
To leave a comment or read the messages, go here: http://facilitatoronfire.net/stopoverwhelm/
Register for "Boundaries & Holidays" workshop here: https://facilitatoronfire.net/bh21/
To sign up to receive encouraging message...2021-10-1410 min
From One Caregiver to Another53. Breaking up with dramaIf you’ve ever had to live or work with somebody who is constantly stirring up drama, you know how exhausting it can be. How do you manage to stop the drama so it doesn’t control you? That’s what this podcast episode is all about.
Register for the “Boundaries & Holidays” workshop here. https://facilitatoronfire.net/boundaries/
Get Kay Coughlin’s book, “From One Caregiver to Another - Overcoming the Emotional Grind” here. http://facilitatoronfire.net/books/
Join the free community to talk about boundaries here. https://facilitatoronfire.net/boundaries/
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From One Caregiver to AnotherFive: Set boundaries to stop the overwhelmThis is audio version of message five in Kay Coughlin's 6-email "Stop the Overwhelm - Set Boundaries" series. This message is about learning to recognize when you might need to set a boundary to reduce your overwhelm. To leave a comment of read the messages, go here: http://facilitatoronfire.net/stopoverwhelm/
Register for "Boundaries & Holidays" workshop here: http://facilitatoronfire.net/bh21
To sign up to receive encouraging messages about overwhelm and boundaries, or to send an email to Kay, go here: http://facilitatoronfire.net/stopoverwhelm/
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From One Caregiver to AnotherFour: Decide what to do instead of feeding the overwhelmThis is the audio version of message four in Kay Coughlin's 6-email "Stop the Overwhelm - Set Boundaries" series. This message is about deciding what you want to do instead of continuing to feed your overwhelm.
To leave a comment or read the message series, sign up to receive encouraging messages about boundaries and overwhelm, or to email Kay, go here (http://facilitatoronfire.net/stopoverwhelm/).
Register for "Boundaries & Holidays" workshop here (https://facilitatoronfire.net/bh21/).
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From One Caregiver to AnotherThree: Get curious to stop the overwhelmThis is the audio version of message three in Kay Coughlin's 6-email "Stop the Overwhelm - Set Boundaries" series. This message is about skill #2, which is to get curious. To leave a comment or read the message series, sign up to receive encouraging messages about boundaries and overwhelm, or to email Kay, go here (http://facilitatoronfire.net/stopoverwhelm).
Register for "Boundaries & Holidays" workshop here (https://facilitatoronfire.net/bh21/)
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Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kay-coughlin/message2021-10-1108 min
From One Caregiver to AnotherTwo: Choose one thing - stop the overwhelmThis is the audio version of message two in Kay Coughlin's 6-email "Stop the Overwhelm - Set Boundaries" series. This message is about skill #1, which is to choose just one thing to focus on. To leave a comment or read the message series, sign up to receive encouraging messages about boundaries and overwhelm, or to email Kay, go here (http://facilitatoronfire.net/stopoverwhelm).
Register for "Boundaries & Holidays" workshop here (https://facilitatoronfire.net/bh21/)
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From One Caregiver to AnotherOne: Stop the Overwhelm, Set BoundariesThis is the audio version of message one in Kay Coughlin's 6-email "Stop the Overwhelm - Set Boundaries" series. To leave a comment or read the message series, sign up to receive encouraging messages about boundaries and overwhelm, or to email Kay, go here (http://facilitatoronfire.net/stopoverwhelm).
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From One Caregiver to Another52. OverfunctioningIn this episode, Kay Coughlin confesses to being an overfunctioner, and explains what overfunctioning is and when it might be a problem for caregivers. Importantly, when a caregiver overfunctions for a care receiver, it might be keeping both people in that relationship from improving their own health and well-being.
Full transcript available here (https://facilitatoronfire.net/episode52/)
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From One Caregiver to AnotherBonus: Holidays and boundaries - workshop!Kay Coughlin's "Boundaries and Holidays" workshop starts Tuesday, October 19! How do you know this 4-week online workshop might be right for you? If you are struggling with feelings of dread or resentment about any upcoming traditions (like Thanskgiving) or celebrations (like an invitation to a destination wedding), or if you feel forced to participate in family events, this workshop will help you get the skills you need to say "no" to what you don't want. So you can say "yes" to what you'd rather do instead! More information and registration information is at FacilitatorOnFire.net/LearnMore.
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From One Caregiver to Another51. Being a sandwich family caregiverIf you are raising kids and caring for an adult at the same time, you’re what’s known as a “sandwich family caregiver.” In this episode, Kay Coughlin talks about her personal experience being a sandwich family caregiver. She describes the range of life experiences (like having to deal with piles of unsolicited advice) that are common to sandwich family caregivers and that make this group unique. URGENT: 85% of family caregivers in the U.S. say they are struggling with mental health, which makes it an epidemic! If you are a family caregiver, you do NOT have to go throug...2021-09-2921 min
From One Caregiver to Another50. Boundaries and guilt, part two50. In this episode, Kay Coughlin gets right to heart of one of the most important reasons we don’t like to set boundaries: guilt. Is it possible to stop the cycle of guilt so that it doesn’t control your life and hold you back any more? Yes, it is. Also listen to part one on boundaries and guilt (episode 49) to learn about the critical difference between guilt and shame, and to learn why it actually IS polite to tell people about your boundaries.
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From One Caregiver to Another49. Boundaries and Guilt, part oneIn this episode, Kay Coughlin starts to tackle the tough and sensitive topic of why we feel so guilty when we set boundaries. Listen to this episode (49) to learn about the critical difference between guilt and shame, and to learn why we have a misconception that telling people about our boundaries is not polite. In the next episode (50) Kay will talk directly about how to handle the guilt that is so common and normal when we set and hold boundaries.
Link to full transcript. https://facilitatoronfire.net/episode49/
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From One Caregiver to Another48. The post-caregiver stageIn this episode, Kay Coughlin talks about some of the most common experiences of being a post-caregiver. What is a post-caregiver exactly? It’s the last of the four stages of being a caregiver. This is the stage that you enter when your family caregiver duties end, whether it’s by choice or because the person you were caring for gets better or passes away. Full transcript of episode is here (FacilitatorOnFire.net/episode48/). Find out about the upcoming workshop on boundaries and the holidays, or get a link to the From One Caregiver to Another community, here (FacilitatorOnFire.net...2021-09-0819 min
From One Caregiver to Another47. Long-term stage of caregiver responsibilitiesIn this episode, Kay Coughlin talks about what it’s really like to be in the long-term stage of caregiver responsibilities. If you’ve been taking care of someone for any length of time and especially if you are feeling exhausted or burned out, this will be a great episode for you, because Kay gives a list of seven specific action steps you can take right now to improve your own life. Full transcript of episode is here (FacilitatorOnFire.net/episode47). Find out about the upcoming workshop on boundaries and the holidays, or get a link to the From One...2021-09-0120 min
From One Caregiver to Another45. What it's like to be in the early stage of caregiver responsibilitiesIn this episode, Kay Coughlin talks about what it’s like to be an early-stage caregiver, including her own experiences with her family. Kay has identified four stages of caregiver responsibilities - early-stage, short-term or acute, long-term or more stable and post-caregiver - and has recorded an episode about the caregiver experience in each stage. Over the next four weeks, you can listen to whichever episodes in the mini-series are most useful to you. And you can also help a friend who needs help understanding what they are going through by recommending the episode that could be most useful fo...2021-08-1817 min
From One Caregiver to Another44. My 10 extra pounds and Human Giver SyndromeIn this episode, Kay Coughlin gets real about the 10 extra pounds she’s put on lately and how her thoughts about her weight are all tied up with the Human Giver Syndrome culture. Why does it matter so much that we are expected to appear a certain way to make other people comfortable and to help them accept us? That's Human Giver Syndrome - and it doesn't have to be that way. Read the full transcript of the show (FacilitatorOnFire.net/episode44). For more information about Kay's next webinar or workshop on boundaries and Human Giver Syndrome, or to find th...2021-08-1116 min
From One Caregiver to Another43. The difference between boundaries and wallsIn this episode, Kay Coughlin talks about the difference between emotional walls and boundaries, why it matters, and why you might need both at some point in your life and relationships. Read the full transcript of show at FacilitatorOnFire.net/episode43/. For more information about Kay’s next webinar on boundaries or Human Giver Syndrome, or to find the new “From One Caregiver to Another” Facebook group, go to FacilitatorOnFire.net/LearnMore. For daily doses of straight talk for family caregivers, follow Kay on Instagram (@FacilitatorOnFire).
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From One Caregiver to Another42. How to stop pretending everything is OKIn this episode, Kay Coughlin talks about her lifetime of memories of pretending to be OK so that the people around her wouldn’t have to worry about her. And she talks about how to stop pretending and develop compassion for yourself - so that you can dare to live your own life instead. Link to full transcript of show here (FacilitatorOnFire.net/episode42). For more information about Kay’s webinars or coaching practice, or to download the free Thought Download Guide or learn more about Human Giver Syndrome, go to FacilitatorOnFire.net/LearnMore. Join Kay's free community to lear...2021-07-2814 min
From One Caregiver to Another41. What it looks like to dare to live your own lifeDaring to live your own life sounds great, right? But what exactly does that look like? In this episode, Kay Coughlin talks about what could be possible for you - even things like saying “no.” And once you believe in these possibilities, you can begin to really truly dare to live your own life. Even when you are a person with caregiver responsibilities. Read the full show transcript here: https://facilitatoronfire.net/episode41. Follow Kay on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/facilitatoronfire/. Links to everything mentioned in this show can be found here: FacilitatorOnFire.net/LearnMore. Find out more about Huma...2021-07-2112 min
From One Caregiver to Another40. You can't hurt somebody else's feelingsHave you ever heard, “You can’t hurt somebody else’s feelings” and then did a double-take? Because there’s no way that could possibly be true, right? In this episode, Kay Coughlin explains why it really is true and how this knowledge can help you get free from worrying about hurting another person's feelings. Full transcript available here. Join Kay's free community to learn about boundaries at FacilitatorOnFire.net/Boundaries. To register for the next webinar on Human Giver Syndrome, or to download the guide, go to FacilitatorOnFire.net/LearnMore. Follow Kay on Instagram (@FacilitatorOnFire). Get more information about all...2021-06-0227 min
From One Caregiver to Another39. How to dare to live your own lifeWhen you’re a caregiver, it can be really hard to remember that you’ve got a life of your own, too. But how do you learn what you really want and figure out a way to dare to live it? Kay Coughlin knows it is possible for anyone to do because she uses a 3-step process in her own life and with her clients. It works, even for caregivers, and that’s what you’ll hear about in this episode. Full transcript available here. To register for the next webinar on Human Giver Syndrome, or to download the guide, g...2021-05-2614 minFrom One Caregiver to AnotherTrailer"From One Caregiver to Another" is NOT a podcast about how to be a better family caregiver. It's about remembering that you have your own identity as a person: you are more than a caregiver, and you can dare to live your own life, too. After years of struggling to find the encouragement she needed to prioritize her own needs, Kay Coughlin created this podcast to help caregivers who can also relate to feeling ignored, judged or dismissed by their communities. Whether you are new to caregiving, in the middle of it (like Kay is now), or in your...2021-05-2403 min
From One Caregiver to Another38. Emotional safety - what it is and why you need itWhat the heck is emotional safety and why is it so important? In this episode, Kay Coughlin talks about it and how she creates it. One amazing benefit you can expect over time is that you will actually be able to practice it in your own everyday life. And that means you’ll be able to do things that are important to you, no matter how difficult they are. Full transcript can be found here. Download "7 Costly Habits of Human Giver Syndrome" guide or register for next Human Giver Syndrome webinar here. Follow Kay on Instagram (@FacilitatorOnFire). Get more in...2021-05-1914 min
From One Caregiver to Another37. The difference between therapy and coachingIn honor of Mental Health Awareness Month, this episode is meant to help you understand the difference between therapy and coaching. Kay Coughlin talks about when the difference matters, and when should you ask for help. Full transcript of episode available here. Information about Kay's professional association, the International Coach Federation, is here. Download the "7 Costly Habits of Human Giver Syndrome" guide here and register for the next webinar on Human Giver Syndrome here. Follow Kay on Instagram (@facilitatoronfire). Get more information about all of this work at FacilitatorOnFire.net/LearnMore.
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From One Caregiver to Another36. Why it's so hard to change - your brain can be a real jerk sometimesOur brains act like jerks about change! But why is that? Listen to this “explainer” episode to help those of us who aren’t neuroscientists understand what’s going on in our heads when we are faced with the idea of changing anything. And why we can get so exhausted when we do confront change. Full transcript of episode available here. Download Kay Coughlin's "7 Costly Habits of Human Giver Syndrome" guide here. Register for the next Human Giver Syndrome webinar here. Follow Kay on Instagram (@facilitatoronfire). Get more information about all of this work at FacilitatorOnFire.net/LearnMore.
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From One Caregiver to Another35. The Human Giver SystemIn this episode, Kay Coughlin talks about what she calls the “Human Giver System,” which is the system that relies on countless unpaid human caregivers to sacrifice everything for the sake of the system itself. Kay talks about how her family’s wishes during her father’s last days of life went against a hospital’s Human Giver System, and how to notice the toxic glue that holds the System together. Full episode transcript can be found here. Register for the next “Human Giver Syndrome” webinar here. Follow Kay on Instagram. Get more information about all of this work at Facilitator...2021-04-2824 min
From One Caregiver to Another34. People can change at any ageIn this episode, Kay Coughlin explores two truths about change and growth: that it can happen at any age, and that you only have control over the change and growth of one person, and that’s you. You can’t force anybody to change (including your care receiver), but you do have the power within you to change yourself. Even when you are a caregiver. Full episode transcript can be found here. Register for next “Human Giver Syndrome” webinar here. Follow Kay on Instagram (@FacilitatorOnFire). Get more information about all of this work at FacilitatorOnFire.net/LearnMore. Learn about the new...2021-04-2121 min
From One Caregiver to Another32. Why it's so hard to let people helpWhy in the world is it so hard to let people help us? Rejecting help when people offer it is a habit that drains us of precious energy, time, sleep and so many other critical things. In this episode, Kay Coughlin reveals some common reasons we struggle with this, talks about how to heal from it so we can be mentally and physically healthy, and admits how difficult this work has been for her. Full transcript of this episode available here. Register for the next Human Giver Syndrome webinar at FacilitatorOnFire.net/Events. Get the book, "From One Caregiver to...2021-04-0721 min
From One Caregiver to Another31. Human Giver SyndromeHuman Giver Syndrome is the belief that some people (the givers) are supposed to exist mainly to put their energy into creating comfort and success for other people, and to be attractive and available, physically and emotionally, at all times while doing it. In this episode, Kay Coughlin talks about how this syndrome can afflict you as a family caregiver (including if you are a parent), whether or not you think of yourself as a people-pleaser. If you are intrigued by what you hear in this episode and you want to learn how to begin to recover from it...2021-03-3122 min
From One Caregiver to Another30. How to Feel Better as a CaregiverIn this episode, Kay Coughlin talks about how to feel better as a family caregiver right away. It might surprise you, because it doesn’t require a lot of time or energy, and it doesn’t rely on making any changes to your life or your situation. You don’t even have to tell anybody that you are doing it. All you need is courage and a little bit of knowledge. It’s not easy to do, but it is a simple step you can take. That’s what this episode is all about. Full transcript of this episode is availab...2021-03-2422 minFrom One Caregiver to Another29. It's OK to want to be seen for who you areIn this episode, Kay Coughlin talks about another radical idea: that it’s OK for caregivers to have identities and lives that don’t revolve around our role as caregivers. Kay explains that it’s normal and healthy to have individual needs and desires - and why it can be so hard to do that it seems laughable or even impossible. But it is possible to be seen for who we are, even if it’s not related at all to our caregiving responsibilities. Full transcript of this episode is available at FacilitatorOnFire.net/episode29. You can find Kay’s book, “F...2021-03-1719 minFrom One Caregiver to Another28. It's hard to decide where to startIn this episode, Kay Coughlin talks about why the overwhelming experience of being a caregiver can keep you stuck, unable to make changes to situations, relationships, beliefs and emotions. The good news is that you don’t have to change everything all at once. You can choose just one starting point. Kay reminds us we all have permission to be stuck - it’s a totally normal human condition - and helps caregivers figure out how to pick a starting point. Full transcript of this episode is available at FacilitatorOnFire.net/episode28. You can find Kay’s book, “From One Care...2021-03-1011 minFrom One Caregiver to Another27. What if judgment had no power over you?In this episode, Kay Coughlin talks about judgment in the life of a family caregiver. It is very painful to be judged by others, and even to handle the the judgment that comes from within yourself. But it is possible to live a life where judgment doesn’t hold you back any more - yes, even as a caregiver. The full transcript of this episode can be found at FacilitatorOnFire.net/episode27. Follow Kay on Instagram for near-daily doses of encouragement for folks who are tired of trying to be a “good” caregiver. If you are looking for Kay’s book...2021-03-0317 min
From One Caregiver to Another26. The story family caregivers are "supposed to" step into, even if they feel trapped by itThere are powerful stereotypes that family caregivers inherit when we agree to become caregivers. We don’t realize how strong they are until our lives become something we didn’t ask for. And then we wake up one day and don't recognize ourselves any more. In this episode, Kay Coughlin names some of the biggest caregiving stereotypes that she has identified. Why? Well, she wishes somebody would have given her this language when she was getting started as a caregiver. She could feel the stereotypes all around her and could feel the pressure to perform, but just couldn’t put a...2021-02-2419 min
From One Caregiver to AnotherMessage 25 - You can write your own story. I believe in you.In this last episode of the season, Kay Coughlin talks about her wish for all caregivers: that we would know and believe that we can write our own story. We don't have to accept the definition of being a "good" caregiver that somebody else chose for us. This season was created in January of 2021 to help family caregivers who feel trapped by the traditional definition of being a caregiver. If you would prefer to read the messages form this season, go to FacilitatorOnFire.net/January2021 and sign up to receive the emails any time. You can also connect with...2021-01-3006 min
From One Caregiver to AnotherMessage 24 - Possibility Mindset: Persistence, Patience and PeaceIn this episode, Kay Coughlin talks about what it looks like to have a possibility mindset and cultivate persistence, patience and peace. This season of short episodes was created in January of 2021 to help family caregivers who are tired of trying to fit into thte traditional definition of being a "good" caregiver. If you would prefer to read these messages, go to FacilitatorOnFire.net/January2021 and sign up to receive the emails any time. you can also connect with Kay there or on Instagram (@FacilitatorOnFire). If you are looking for Kay's book "From One Caregiver to Another - Overcoming...2021-01-2909 min
From One Caregiver to AnotherMessage 23 - Self-care is selfish. What if that's OK?In this episode, Kay Coughlin challenges the idea that it's wrong to be selfish and want self-care. Even caregivers are allowed to believe in having self-care. This season of short episodes was created in January of 2021 to help family caregivers who are tired of trying to fit into the traditional definition of being a "good" caregiver. If you would prefer to read these messages, go to FacilitatorOnFire.net/January2021 and sign up to receive the emails any time. You can also connect with Kay there or on Instagram (@FacilitatorOnFire). If you are looking for the "Thought Download Cheat Sheet"...2021-01-2806 min
From One Caregiver to AnotherMessage 22 - What if you're not behind?In this episode, Kay Coughlin challenges the conventional idea that we are "behind." What if that's just a thing we say, and what if it's in the way of seeing possibilities? This season of short episodes was created in January of 2021 to help family caregivers who are tired of trying to fit in the traditional defintion of being a "good" caregiver. If you would prefer to read these messages, go to FacilitatorOnFire.net/January2021 and sign up to receive the emails any time. You can also connect with Kay there or on Instagram (@FacilitatorOnFire). If you are looking for...2021-01-2704 min
From One Caregiver to AnotherMessage 21 - "You can't teach old dogs new tricks." Right? Wrong!In this episode, Kay Coughlin talks about the harmful myth of believing you - or any human - is too old to learn and grow. This season of short episodes was created by Kay in January of 2021 to help family caregivers who are tired of trying to fit in the traditional definition of being a "good" caregivers. If you would prefer to read these messages, go to FacilitatorOnFire.net/January2021 and sign up to receive the emails any time. You can also connect with Kay there on or Instagram (@FacilitatorOnFire). If you are looking for the free "Thought Download...2021-01-2605 min
From One Caregiver to AnotherMessage 20 - 15 Things to Say to Encourage YourselfIn this episode, Kay Coughlin gives a list of 15 very short and meaningful things you can say, any time you need encouragement. This season of short episodes was created by Kay in January of 2021 to help family caregivers who are tired of trying to fit into the traditional definition of being a "good" caregiver. If you would prefer to read these messages, go to FacilitatorOnFire.net/January2021 and sign up to receive the emails any time. You can also connect with Kay there or on Instagram (@FacilitatorOnFire). If you are looking for Kay's book "From One Caregiver to Another...2021-01-2502 min
From One Caregiver to AnotherMessage 19 - What if your so-called issues are really just your starting points?In this eposide, Kay Coughlin takes some of the fear out of having "issues." All humans have them, and what if learning to notice them can be a powerful tool to help you live the life you really want to live? This season of short episodes was created by Kay in January of 2021 to help family caregivers who are tired of trying to fit into the traditional defintion of being a "good" caregiver. If you would prefer to read these messages, go to FacilitatorOnFire.net/January2021 and sign up to receive the emails any time. You can also connect...2021-01-2306 min
From One Caregiver to AnotherListen to Chapter One from "From One Caregiver to Another - Overcoming Your Emotional Grind"In this special episode, Kay Coughlin narrates chapter one of her book, "From One Caregiver to Another - Overcoming Your Emotional Grind." Kay has a passion for helping caregivers who want to set boundaries, get some rest, and dare to live their own life, too. You can connect with Kay at FacilitatorOnFire.net/LearnMore or on Instagram (@FacilitatorOnFire).
If you would like to purchase Kay's book, you can find it here: https://facilitatoronfire.net/books/
If you are looking for the "2020 Caregiving in the U.S." report cited in the chapter, click here.
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From One Caregiver to AnotherMessage 17 - What if there's more than one right choice?In this episode, Kay Coughlin goes on a little bit of rant about how believing there's only one right choice teaches us not to see possibilities. This series of short episodes is recordings of an email series Kay created in January 2021 to help family caregivers who are tired of trying to fit into the traditional definition of being a "good" caregiver. If you would prefer to read these messages, go to FacilitatorOnFire.net/January2021 and sign up to receive the emails there any time. You can also connect with Kay there or on Instagram (@FacilitatorOnFire). If you are looking f...2021-01-2106 min
From One Caregiver to AnotherMessage 16 - How to have hope againIn this episode, Kay Coughlin talks about the truth of where hopelessness comes from, and how to turn it into hope. This series of short episodes is recordings of an email series Kay created in January 2021 to help family caregivers who are tired of trying to fit into the traditional definition of being a "good" caregiver. If you would prefer to read these messages, go to FacilitatorOnFire.net/January2021 and sign up to receive the emails any time. You can also connect with Kay there or on Instagram (@FacilitatorOnFire). If you are looking for Kay's book that was mentioned...2021-01-2004 min
From One Caregiver to AnotherMessage 15 - It's OK to feel whatever you're feeling. Really.In this episode, Kay Coughlin tells the truth about feelings: they are all OK to have and to feel. This series of short episodes is recordings of an email series Kay created in January 2021 to help family caregivers who have dreams that go beyond their caregiving responsibilities. If you would prefer to read these messages, go to FacilitatorOnFire.net/January2021 and sign up to receive the emails any time. You can also connect with Kay there or on Instagram (@FacilitatorOnFire). If you are looking for Kay's book that was mentioned in the episode, From One Caregiver to Another...2021-01-1904 min
From One Caregiver to AnotherMessage 14 - Everybody thinks they know what you can and can't do. They are wrong.In this episode, Kay Coughlin shares the second part of the story about recovering from her car accident. Her doctor tried to tell her that she was going to walk with a limp for the rest of her life, and Kay confused him by answering, "I don't do limitations." This series of short episodes is recordings of an email series Kay created in January 2021 to help family caregivers who have dreams that go beyond their caregiving responsibilities. If you would prefer to read these messages, go to FacilitatorOnFire.net/January2021 and sign up to receive the emails any time...2021-01-1606 min
From One Caregiver to AnotherMessage 13 - Don't Judge the Size of Your Dreams, Big or Small, They All MatterIn this episode, Kay Coughlin shares part of her story about how recovering from a car accident meant having "small" dreams. Judging the size of our dreams holds caregivers back from living a fulfilling life! This series of short episodes is recordings of an email series Kay created in January 2021 to help family caregivers who have dreams that go beyond their caregiving responsibilities. If you would prefer to read these messages, go to FacilitatorOnFire.net/January2021 and sign up to receive the emails any time. You can also connect with Kay there or on Instagram (@FacilitatorOnFire). If you are looking...2021-01-1507 min
From One Caregiver to AnotherMessage 12 - Choose What You Feed With Your EnergyWe all have to make choices about what we give our energy to every day. In this episode, Kay Coughlin talks about how these choices feed the rest of your life. This series of short episodes is recordings of an email series Kay created in January of 2021 to help family caregivers who have dreams that stretch beyond their caregiving responsibilities. If you would prefer to read these messages, go to FacilitatorOnFire.net/January2021 and sign up to receive the emails any time. You can also connect with Kay there or on Instagram (@FacilitatorOnFire). If you are looking for Kay's free "...2021-01-1404 min
From One Caregiver to AnotherMessage 11 - "Don't take the help unless you really need it" is an idea that holds us backIn this episode, Kay Coughlin talks about the very common belief that tells us "Don't take the help unless you really need it" and how this belief keeps caregivers from living a fulfilling life. This series of short episodes is recordings of an email series Kay created in January of 2021 to help family caregivers. If you would prefer to read these messages, go to FacilitatorOnFire.net/January2021 and sign up to receive the emails any time. You can also connect with Kay there or on Instagram (@FacilitatorOnFire). If you are looking for Kay's free "Thought Download Cheat Sheet" for...2021-01-1306 min
From One Caregiver to AnotherMessage 10 - Living a "Balanced" Life is a MythThe idea that we can live a balanced life - and that it's something we should strive for - is a pop culture darling. But it's a myth. In this episode, Kay Coughlin opens up about her own battle with balance, and how spending time working on balance keeps us from taking action toward our dreams. This series of short episodes is recordings of an email series Kay created for family caregivers in January of 2021. If you would prefer to read these messages, sign up to receive the series any time at FacilitatorOnFire.net/January2021. You can also connect with...2021-01-1206 min
From One Caregiver to AnotherMessage 9 - Jumping to Conclusions is Our Favorite Exercise, and It's Also Our Favorite Blocker of PossibilitiesWhat's the big deal about jumping to conclusions? In this episode, Kay Coughlin uses a story about a farmer, her son, and their horse, to talk about why our brains like to jump to conclusions, and why that's not really very helpful. This series of short episodes is recordings of an email series Kay created for family caregivers in January of 2021. If you would prefer to read the text of these messages, sign up any time at FacilitatorOnFire.net/January2021. You can also connect with Kay there or on Instagram (@FacilitatorOnFire). If you are looking for Kay's free "Thought...2021-01-1104 min
From One Caregiver to AnotherMessage 8 - Guilt. Rinse. Repeat? Stop The Cycle!One of the biggest issues for family caregivers is guilt. In this episode, Kay Coughlin talks about why you don't have to feel guilty for feeling guilt, and how you get to choose whether or not it controls you and your life. This series of short episodes is audio recordings of an email series Kay created for family caregivers during January of 2021. If you would prefer to read the text of these messages, you can sign up any time at FacilitatorOnFire.net/January2021. You can also connect with Kay there. In this episode, Kay refers to her free "Thought...2021-01-0904 min
From One Caregiver to AnotherMessage 7 - Judgment is the Number One Blocker of PossibilitiesIt can be painful to take a good look at our lives because we have such a strong tendency to judge ourselves for what we find. Which makes judgment the number one possibility blocker of all. This series of short episodes is audio recordings of an email series Kay Coughlin created for family caregivers in January of 2021. If you would prefer to read the text of these messages, you can sign up any time at FacilitatorOnFire.net/January2021. You can also connect with Kay there. If you are looking for Kay's free "Thought Download Cheat Sheet" to help you begin...2021-01-0805 min
From One Caregiver to AnotherMessage 6 - What to Unlearn So You Can See PossibilitiesWhat are the things you need to unlearn before you can once again see possibilities? And where do you even start? In this episode, Kay Coughlin shares how to begin to notice your "possiblity blockers." This series of short episodes is audio recordings of an email series Kay created for family caregivers during January of 2021. If you would prefer to read the text of these messages, you can sign up any time at FacilitatorOnFire.net/January2021. You can also connect with Kay there.
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From One Caregiver to AnotherMessage 5 - Fear is loud, but it's a liarFear isn't usually an encouraging emotion, so why are we talking about it in this series? Becuase if you choose to be encouraged and see possibilities, it's highly likely that's going to bring up some fear for you. In this episode, Kay gives you two encouraging thoughts to know about fear, and reassures us that fear is normal. This series of short episodes is actually recordings of an email series Kay created for family caregivers during January of 2021. If you would prefer to read the text of these messages, please sign up at FacilitatorOnFire.net/January2021. You can also...2021-01-0604 min
From One Caregiver to AnotherMessage 4 - Need Permission to See Possibilities? You Have It.It's hard to see possibilities if you haven't given yourself permission to do it! In this message, Kay Coughlin talks about what she calls "possibility blindness" and how you can begin to get through it. This series of short episodes is actually recordings of an email series Kay created for caregivers during January of 2021. If you would prefer to read the text of these messages, please sign up at FacilitatorOnFire.net/January2021. You can also connect with Kay there.
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From One Caregiver to AnotherMessage 3 - Super Easy Tip to See PossibilitiesIt can be hard to remember that you can see possibilities, especially if you are a caregiver. In this message, Kay Coughlin tells you about one very quick way to remind yourself. And this isn't about being a better caregiver - you are already doing a good job with that! This is about YOU and seeing possibilities so you can be who you want to be in every area of your life.
This series of short episodes is actually recordings of an email series Kay is creating for family caregivers during January, 2021. If you would prefer to...2021-01-0404 min
From One Caregiver to AnotherMessage 2 - When Positivity Feels Too Far Away, Try Seeing PossibilitiesThe research on positivity and gratitude is real and it works. But what do you do when it feels forced to you? In this message, Kay Coughlin talks about the power of seeing possibilities instead.
This series of short episodes is actually recordings of an email series Kay is creating for family caregivers during 2021. If you prefer to read these messages, please sign up to receive the emails at FacilitatorOnFire.net/January2021.
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Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kay-coughlin/message2021-01-0206 min
From One Caregiver to AnotherMessage One - Resolutions Aren't EncouragingWelcome to the “January Encouragement for Caregivers” series. Host Kay Coughlin is also a family caregiver, as well as a life coach for family caregivers. You can subscribe receive these messages in email format at FacilitatorOnFire.net/LearnMore. Or browse through all the messages at FacilitatorOnFire.net/January2021.
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Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kay-coughlin/message2021-01-0105 min
From One Caregiver to AnotherJanuary Encouragement for Caregivers - TrailerThis is “January Encouragement for Caregivers” with Kay Coughlin. During the month of January, 2021, Kay is going to be publishing these recordings of an email series she created to help family caregivers.
Kay is a caregiver too, and a life coach for caregivers, and she has learned that caregivers have a hard time seeing possibilities. There’s a big set of expectations people have, and a lot of assumptions people make, about caregivers. Mostly, these beliefs are that caregivers don’t have a lot of options - but they do have a lot of limitations. This boxes caregivers into living these lu...2020-12-2901 min