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Not Your TherapistWhy Friendships Feel Harder in Your 30s (And No One Talks About It)Send us Fan MailFriendships in your 20s felt easy.Friendships in your 30s? They can feel confusing, inconsistent… and if we’re being honest, a little harder than you expected.In this episode of Not Your Therapist, Kayla is breaking down why adult friendships shift — and why you might find yourself overthinking texts, questioning the vibe after a hangout, or wondering if you’re slowly drifting from people you care about.Because it’s not just you.We’re talking about: Why friendships require more effort in your 30s (a...
2026-04-2710 minNot Your TherapistResentment in Marriage: The Slow Build That’s Hurting Your RelationshipSend us Fan MailResentment in marriage doesn’t usually come from one big moment.It builds slowly… quietly… and often without you even realizing it.In this episode of Not Your Therapist, we’re talking about how resentment actually forms in relationships — and why so many couples find themselves feeling irritated, disconnected, and emotionally distant without fully understanding why.Because more often than not, it’s not about the dishes, the laundry, or the little things you’re arguing about.It’s about the pattern underneath.We’ll cover:...
2026-04-2012 minNot Your TherapistNarcissism 101: What It Actually Is (And What It Isn’t)Send us Fan MailEveryone is a narcissist these days… at least according to the internet.But what does narcissism actually mean? And more importantly — how do you know if you’re dealing with it in real life?In this episode of Not Your Therapist, we’re breaking down narcissism in a way that’s clear, grounded, and actually useful.Kayla starts with the original story of Narcissus and Echo — a myth that surprisingly mirrors modern relationship dynamics — before unpacking what narcissism looks like today, what’s happening underneath the surface, and...
2026-04-1314 minNot Your TherapistThe Parenting Trap That Creates Entitlement (Without You Realizing It)Send us Fan MailTantrums are one of the most triggering parts of parenting… and if we’re being honest, sometimes it feels easier to just give in and make it stop.In this episode of Not Your Therapist, we’re talking about what tantrums actually mean, why giving in backfires, and how well-meaning parents unintentionally reinforce entitled behavior without realizing it.Because here’s the truth: It’s not about the tantrum — it’s about what your child learns from your response to it.Kayla shares her own experience as a mom naviga...
2026-04-0613 minNot Your TherapistIt’s Not About the Puppies: Why You Overcommit When You’re Already DrowningSend us Fan MailYou’re overwhelmed. Your schedule is full. You’re already stretched thin……and somehow, you still say yes to more.In this episode of Not Your Therapist, we’re breaking down why people overcommit when they’re already drowning — and why this isn’t actually a time management problem.Using a real-life example (yes… including fostering puppies at the worst possible time), we dive into the deeper psychology behind overcommitment, people-pleasing, and the hidden belief that “I don’t matter.”Because the truth is: You’re not doing...
2026-03-3010 minNot Your TherapistWhy You Shut Down in ArgumentsSend us Fan MailDo you go quiet during conflict?Do you say “I’m fine” when you’re clearly not?Or do you suddenly feel overwhelmed and need to escape the conversation entirely?In this episode, we’re breaking down why people emotionally shut down in arguments — and what’s actually happening in your nervous system when conflict feels like too much.We’ll talk about:What shutting down feels like internally vs. how it feels to your partnerThe psychology of fight, flight, freeze, and fawn in relationshipsDif...
2026-03-2311 min
The Hustler FilesWHEN CLASS ACTION WINS OUT OVER RETALIATIONAccess to justice stops at the prison gates unless you happen to be incarcerated in one of the few states in the U.S. that has prisoner legal services available. For 9 plaintiffs and another 150 incarcerated men at the Souza-Baranowski Correctional Center in Massachusetts, legal help from Prisoner Legal Services and Hogan Lovells Law Firm was able to offer legal support, and won a $7 million landmark case, against the correctional center. In this episode of The Hustler Files, Lawyers of the Year, in Massachusetts, David Milton and Kayla Ghantous discuss the critical role of organizations dedicated to advocating for prisoners facing l...
2026-03-2227 min
The Hustler Files with Lisa Reilly - Stories That Challenge What You Thought You KnewWHEN CLASS ACTION WINS OUT OVER RETALIATIONAccess to justice stops at the prison gates unless you happen to be incarcerated in one of the few states in the U.S. that has prisoner legal services available. For 9 plaintiffs and another 150 incarcerated men at the Souza-Baranowski Correctional Center in Massachusetts, legal help from Prisoner Legal Services and Hogan Lovells Law Firm was able to offer legal support, and won a $7 million landmark case, against the correctional center. In this episode of The Hustler Files, Lawyers of the Year, in Massachusetts, David Milton and Kayla Ghantous discuss the critical role of organizations dedicated to advocating for prisoners f...
2026-03-2227 minThe Hustler Files with Lisa Reilly - Stories That Challenge What You Thought You KnewWHEN CLASS ACTION WINS OUT OVER RETALIATIONAccess to justice stops at the prison gates unless you happen to be incarcerated in one of the few states in the U.S. that has prisoner legal services available. For 9 plaintiffs and another 150 incarcerated men at the Souza-Baranowski Correctional Center in Massachusetts, legal help from Prisoner Legal Services and Hogan Lovells Law Firm was able to offer legal support, and won a $7 million landmark case, against the correctional center. In this episode of The Hustler Files, Lawyers of the Year, in Massachusetts, David Milton and Kayla Ghantous discuss the critical role of organizations dedicated to advocating for prisoners f...
2026-03-2227 minNot Your TherapistPerfectionism Is Making You Miserable (And You Call It ‘Standards’)Send us Fan MailYou don’t think you’re a perfectionist. You just “have high standards.”You care. You’re driven. You like things done right.So why are you exhausted?In this episode, we’re unpacking the psychology of perfectionism — what it actually is, why it develops, and how it quietly fuels anxiety, burnout, procrastination, and relationship strain.Perfectionism isn’t about excellence. It’s about fear.We’ll explore:The difference between healthy ambition and fear-based performanceHow perfectionism is linked to shame and conditio...
2026-03-1611 minNot Your TherapistWhy You’re Attracted to Emotionally Unavailable PeopleSend us Fan MailWhy do emotionally unavailable people feel magnetic?Why does the hot-and-cold person spark chemistry… while the consistent, emotionally available one feels “boring”?If you keep finding yourself attracted to partners who pull away, avoid vulnerability, or struggle with emotional intimacy — this episode is for you.Today we’re breaking down the psychology behind attraction patterns, attachment styles, and why your nervous system can confuse anxiety with chemistry.We’ll talk about:What “emotionally unavailable” actually meansWhy inconsistency creates emotional intensityThe difference between activation and compatibilityHow...
2026-03-1010 minNot Your TherapistWhy You Overthink EverythingSend us Fan MailDo you replay conversations before bed? Rewrite texts multiple times before sending? Second-guess decisions long after they’re made?You’re not alone — and you’re not “just anxious.”In this episode, we’re breaking down the psychology of overthinking and rumination, especially in high-functioning adults navigating careers, leadership, relationships, and big life decisions.Overthinking isn’t insight. It’s anxiety trying to create certainty.We’ll explore:Why your brain replays conversations and decisionsThe difference between thoughtful processing and ruminationHow fear of...
2026-03-0210 minNot Your TherapistTOOLBOX: The Ladder Method to Beat Procrastination & Task ParalysisSend us Fan MailDo you ever stare at a task for 30 minutes… and still can’t start?In this ADHD Toolbox episode, I’m walking you through a simple, practical strategy you can use immediately when you feel stuck, overwhelmed, or frozen: The Ladder Method.If you struggle with ADHD paralysis, procrastination, executive dysfunction, or perfectionism, this tool will help you lower the activation energy required to begin. Because here’s the truth: ADHD is not a motivation problem — it’s a task initiation problem.In this episode, you’ll learn...
2026-02-2311 minNot Your TherapistADHD Treatment: Medication, Therapy & What Actually WorksSend us Fan Mailn this episode, we break down what really works when it comes to ADHD treatment — and why it’s not about fixing your personality or forcing yourself to “try harder.”You’ll learn:The surprising story of how ADHD medication was discovered (it was accidental)Why stimulants calm the ADHD brain instead of hyping it upThe difference between stimulant and non-stimulant medications — and how they work differently in the brainWhy ADHD medication has one of the strongest research track records in psychiatryWhat medication can help with — and what it absolutely cannot doHow t...
2026-02-1715 minNot Your TherapistADHD vs. Anxiety: Why They Feel So SimilarSend us Fan MailDo you have anxiety… or ADHD… or both?If you’ve ever felt constantly overwhelmed, distracted, restless, or stuck in procrastination — this episode is for you.ADHD and anxiety can look almost identical from the outside. Trouble focusing. Racing thoughts. Avoidance. Irritability. Sleep issues. Chronic overwhelm.But the why underneath is very different.In this episode, we break down:Why ADHD and anxiety share so many symptomsThe key neurological difference between executive dysfunction and threat responseHow avoidance driven by fear is different from avoidance driven b...
2026-02-1713 minNot Your TherapistWhy You Feel Like a Fraud (Even When You’re Doing Well)Send us Fan MailYou got the promotion. You built the business. You stepped into the new role. You’re doing well.So why do you secretly feel like a fraud?In this episode, we’re unpacking imposter syndrome — why it shows up during success, why it’s so common in your late 20s, 30s, and early 40s, and what’s actually happening in your brain when self-doubt creeps in.Spoiler: Imposter syndrome isn’t proof you’re unqualified. It’s a nervous system response to growth.We’ll...
2026-02-0909 minNot Your TherapistWhy You Feel Like a Fraud (Even When You’re Doing Well)Send a textYou got the promotion. You built the business. You stepped into the new role. You’re doing well.So why do you secretly feel like a fraud?In this episode, we’re unpacking imposter syndrome — why it shows up during success, why it’s so common in your late 20s, 30s, and early 40s, and what’s actually happening in your brain when self-doubt creeps in.Spoiler: Imposter syndrome isn’t proof you’re unqualified. It’s a nervous system response to growth.We’ll talk abo...
2026-02-0909 minNot Your TherapistADHD 101: Why Life Feels Harder Than It ShouldSend us Fan MailEver wonder why everyday tasks feel exhausting, overwhelming, or harder for you than they seem for everyone else? In this episode, we’re breaking down ADHD in a way that actually makes sense — especially for adults who’ve spent years thinking something was “wrong” with them.As a therapist, I see so many clients who feel scattered, behind, emotionally reactive, or inconsistent despite trying really hard. In this episode, we talk about what ADHD actually feels like in real life, the brain science behind why motivation and focus can be so unpredicta...
2026-02-0229 minNot Your TherapistTOOLBOX: Create Your Container — An Emotional Regulation Skill for OverwhelmSend us Fan MailWhen emotions feel overwhelming, it can be hard to focus, think clearly, or stay present. This TOOLBOX episode teaches you how to create your container, a simple, EMDR-informed emotional regulation skill designed to help your nervous system feel safer and more organized.In this guided episode, you’ll be walked through how to create a mental container that can safely hold difficult thoughts, feelings, or memories when they feel too big to manage all at once. This skill is often used in trauma-informed therapy to support emotional regulation without av...
2026-01-2611 minNot Your TherapistTOOLBOX: Using Your Container — An Emotional Regulation Skill for OverwhelmSend us Fan MailWhen emotions spike, it’s easy to feel flooded, anxious, or unable to focus. This TOOLBOX episode teaches you how to use your container—a simple, EMDR-informed emotional regulation skill—to manage overwhelming thoughts and feelings without suppressing them.If you’ve already created a container, this episode shows you how to use it in real-life moments: when anxiety rises, intrusive thoughts loop, or emotions feel too big to hold. If you haven’t, you can still follow along and learn how containment works as a nervous-system regulation tool.In th...
2026-01-2614 minNot Your TherapistWhy Grieving Feels Harder Today: The Loss of Ritual and How to HealSend us Fan MailGrief feels heavier today—and it’s not just because loss is painful.In this episode, we explore how the loss of ritual in modern life has made grieving harder, lonelier, and more confusing than it used to be. For centuries, religion and culture provided structured grief rituals—like funerals, shiva, memorials, prayer, and communal mourning—that helped people process loss in a contained, supported way.Today, more people identify as non-religious, and many of those rituals have quietly disappeared. What’s left is unstruc...
2026-01-1917 minNot Your Therapist4 Minutes a Day to a Better RelationshipSend us Fan MailWhat if improving your relationship didn’t require therapy homework, long talks, or weekly date nights?In this episode, we’re breaking down how just 4 intentional minutes a day can dramatically strengthen your relationship—using principles from attachment theory that apply to marriage, parenting, and family life.You’ll learn about the four key moments every day that matter most for emotional connection:When you wake upWhen you separate for the dayWhen you reuniteWhen you g...
2026-01-1311 minNot Your Therapist3 Ways to Set Better Boundaries This YearSend us Fan MailIf setting boundaries is on your New Year list… but you already feel guilty just thinking about it, this episode is for you.In this episode, I break down 3 realistic ways to set better boundaries this year — without over-explaining, people-pleasing, or blowing up your relationships.We’ll explore why boundaries feel so hard, what’s actually happening in your nervous system, and how to create boundaries that feel sustainable instead of exhausting.This podcast is meant to be a conversation — not a lecture. 🖤Have though...
2026-01-0514 minNot Your TherapistHormones & Mental Health: Why HRT Could Be a Game-ChangerSend us Fan MailWe talk a lot about anxiety and depression—but what if the root cause is your hormones? Hormonal imbalance is showing up earlier and more often than it did two decades ago, and it impacts everything from your sleep to your sex drive to your ability to feel joy.In this episode, I’m unpacking why hormone issues are becoming more common, how they can masquerade as mental health struggles, and why HRT (Hormone Replacement Therapy) can be such a powerful solution. I’ll also break down why some doctors hesitate to pre...
2025-09-0812 minNot Your TherapistTriggers 101: Understanding Your ReactionsSend us Fan MailYou’re having a normal day—coffee in hand, scrolling your phone—and suddenly your chest tightens, your heart races, and you’re spiraling. That’s a trigger. But what exactly does it mean to be “triggered”?In this episode, I’m breaking down what triggers really are (spoiler: they’re your nervous system’s way of trying to protect you), how to recognize when you’re in the middle of one, and practical tools to help you calm your body and regain control. I’ll share real-life examples from my work as a therapist—and...
2025-09-0112 minNot Your TherapistLikeability Isn’t Luck: Easy Tips to Boost Your CharismaSend us Fan MailEver met someone who just has it—that mix of confidence, warmth, and magnetism that makes people lean in? That’s charisma. And good news: it’s not some magical personality trait you’re either born with or not—it’s a skill you can actually practice.In this episode, I’m breaking down what charisma really is (hint: it’s equal parts warmth and competence), why it matters more than smarts when it comes to relationships and leadership, and simple ways you can start increasing your likeability today. We’ll cover science-back...
2025-08-2510 minNot Your TherapistEMDR Explained: What It Is and Who It’s ForSend us Fan MailEver wondered what EMDR actually is—or why everyone from trauma therapists to TikTok is talking about it? In this episode, I’m breaking down Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (aka EMDR) in plain English. We’ll cover how it works, what the science says, and who it’s really for. I’ll also share how EMDR has impacted me personally and what I’ve seen in my own clients—because spoiler alert: it’s powerful. Whether you’re a therapist curious about adding it to your toolkit or someone wondering if it could help yo...
2025-08-1916 minNot Your Therapist#29 Boundary Boot Camp: From People-Pleaser to Self-ProtectorSend us Fan MailThe word "boundaries" has become such a buzzword that many people throw it around without truly understanding what it means. But what exactly are boundaries, and why do so many of us struggle to set them effectively?Boundaries aren't about controlling others—they're guidelines for what you will and won't allow in your life. The key distinction lies in taking responsibility for yourself rather than trying to change someone else's behavior. A true boundary consists of identifying unacceptable behavior and determining what YOU will do if that boundary isn't respected.
2025-07-2817 minNot Your TherapistBONUS: Love Island UK Season 12 — A Therapist Breaks Down Harrison, Lauren & ToniSend us Fan MailEver found yourself drawn to someone who couldn't quite decide if they wanted you? The Harrison-Lauren-Tony love triangle from Love Island UK Season 12 offers a perfect case study in toxic relationship patterns that might feel eerily familiar.This captivating analysis breaks down the psychological dynamics at play when a charming but emotionally withholding person keeps multiple partners on the hook. Harrison's classic avoidant attachment style—complete with ambiguous feelings, surface-level connection, and an "I'm still deciding" approach—creates the perfect storm of manipulation. Through intermittent reinforcement (the same psychological principle that make...
2025-07-2108 minNot Your Therapist#28 Emotional Incest: When Parents Cross the LineSend us Fan MailHave you ever felt responsible for a parent's emotional wellbeing? Been called "the only one they can talk to" or "their rock"? That special closeness you felt might actually have been something therapists call emotional incest—a hidden form of boundary violation that shapes how we connect with others well into adulthood.Emotional incest occurs when a parent turns to their child to fulfill emotional needs typically reserved for adult relationships. Unlike physical or sexual abuse, it's often disguised as love, creating confusion for survivors who struggle to recognize its harmful ef...
2025-07-2116 minNot Your Therapist#27 The Only Child – Mature, Independent… and Maybe a Little Emotionally OverloadedSend us Fan MailWere you the only child who was “so mature for your age”—but never really got to be a kid? In this episode, we dive into what it’s really like growing up without siblings and how that shapes your identity, relationships, and emotional habits as an adult.Drawing from birth order psychology and Family Systems Theory, we explore how only children miss the sibling subsystem—your first environment for social learning—and what happens when you become the emotional container for your entire family. From hyper-independence to emotional overload, th...
2025-06-3020 minNot Your Therapist#26 The Youngest Child – Fun, Free-Spirited, or Forever the Baby?Send us Fan MailAre you the youngest child who’s always been seen as “the fun one”—but never quite taken seriously? In this episode of Not Your Therapist, we’re breaking down the psychology of the youngest child: how being the “baby” of the family shapes your personality, relationships, and sense of identity.We explore how youngest kids often become the entertainer or escape artist, the impact of being underestimated, and how this birth order role can lead to charm, deflection, and hidden pressure to prove yourself in adulthood. It’s not all fun and...
2025-06-2319 minNot Your Therapist#25 The Middle Child – Chameleon, Peacemaker, or Just Forgotten?Send us Fan MailWere you the middle child—the one who stayed out of the way, kept the peace, and quietly handled your own emotional needs? You’re not alone. In this episode of Not Your Therapist, we dive deep into the psychology of middle child syndrome, emotional distancing, and why so many middle children become chronic people-pleasers or “distancers” in adulthood.We’ll talk about how middle children are shaped by their role in the family, what happens when your needs are ignored, and how that invisibility can turn into emotional walls late...
2025-06-1622 minNot Your Therapist#24 The Eldest Child – CEO in Training or Resentful Parent #2?Send us Fan MailAre you the firstborn and secretly exhausted? You’re not alone. In this episode, we dive deep into the eldest child experience—how being the “responsible one” often leads to perfectionism, people-pleasing, burnout, and emotional overfunctioning in adulthood.If you were basically a third parent growing up, this one’s for you. We’ll talk about parentification, high-achiever syndrome, and how to start setting boundaries with the roles you’ve outgrown.Keywords: eldest child traits, birth order psychology, parentified child, high-achiever burnout, therapy podcast, perfectionism, family dynamic...
2025-06-1022 minNot Your Therapist#23 Why Birth Order Actually Matters (Yes, Even If You’re 35 and Over It)Send us Fan MailDid your family birth order shape your personality? Spoiler: yep. In this episode, we explore how birth order influences your identity, temperament, and adult relationships. Whether you're the eldest child, middle child, youngest, or only child, this episode helps you understand how your role in the family still shows up in your life today.You’ll learn the psychology behind birth order, what patterns to look for, and how to break free from the expectations you never asked for.This podcast is meant to be a conversation — not...
2025-06-0417 minNot Your Therapist#22 Why Rest Feels Impossible: Understanding Your Productivity AddictionSend us Fan MailEver feel like you're constantly running on a productivity treadmill, unable to step off without experiencing overwhelming guilt and anxiety? You're not alone. What looks like ambition and high achievement might actually be anxiety masquerading as motivation – and over time, it can evolve into something more concerning.In this revealing episode, we explore how childhood messages about productivity and worth create deeply ingrained neural pathways that follow us into adulthood. When our parents or caregivers unconsciously taught us that our value comes from what we accomplish rather than who we are, we...
2025-05-1915 minNot Your Therapist#21 Validate Yourself in 3 Steps and Build ConfidenceSend us Fan MailEver hit a milestone and still feel... kinda hollow? Or find yourself needing everyone else’s opinion before you can trust your own? Been there. And spoiler alert: It’s not because you’re broken.It’s because most of us were raised in homes where self-validation wasn’t modeled—so now we second-guess everything from our feelings to our freaking lunch order. In this episode, I’m breaking down why learning to validate yourself is the foundation for real confidence, calm, and clarity.We’ll talk about:Why “o...
2025-05-1214 minNot Your Therapist#20 Emotional Invalidation: Why You Feel Small In Your Own FamilySend us Fan MailThe quiet dismissal of your feelings? That sh*t cuts deeper than yelling ever could.When someone avoids eye contact, scrolls their phone mid-convo, or chuckles at your story like it’s a joke—they might not say anything cruel, but your nervous system still gets the memo: You don’t matter here.After a recent family visit left me feeling invisible and low-key spiraling, I had to unpack the slow-burn pain of emotional invalidation. If you grew up in a family where your feelings were ignored, mocked, or met wi...
2025-05-0516 min
Not Your Therapist#19 Divorced But Not Damaged: What NOT to Do If You Don’t Want to Mess Up Your Kids with Dr. Larry WaldmanSend us Fan MailDr. Larry Waldman brings decades of forensic psychology experience to this raw, insightful conversation about the hidden casualties of divorce – the children caught in the crossfire between warring parents. Drawing from twenty years as the expert judges called on during high-conflict custody battles, Dr. Waldman exposes the psychological damage inflicted when parents prioritize their hurt feelings over their children's wellbeing."Kids are born naked and naive. What they see in their home, as far as they're concerned, is their reality," Dr. Waldman explains. When that reality fractures during divorce, children experience pr...
2025-04-2854 min
Not Your Therapist#18 Career Burnout Is Real—Here’s How to Bounce Back with Dr. Jesseca TigheSend us Fan MailAre you staring at your calendar wondering how you'll face another workday? That crushing exhaustion isn't just tiredness—it's burnout, and it's reached epidemic levels among high-achievers and caregivers.In this eye-opening conversation with psychologist Dr. Jessica Tai, we dive into the science behind workplace burnout, revealing why it's now an official diagnosis with three distinct types that affect us differently. From the frenetic burnout that drives us to check emails during family dinner to the worn-out burnout that makes everything feel urgent, we unpack the hidden symptoms our culture has no...
2025-04-2130 min
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2025-04-1800 min
Not Your Therapist#17 Struggling to Be Heard? How to Improve Communication in Love + Life with Erin DardenSend us Fan MailEver wondered why it's so hard to simply ask for what you need in relationships? Former attorney turned emotional intelligence coach Erin Darden brings clarity to this struggle, revealing how societal expectations, fear of rejection, and our own internalized guilt create barriers to honest communication."You can't pour from an empty cup, but women do it all the time," Erin observes, highlighting how many women see advocating for their needs as selfish rather than essential. Through our conversation, she unpacks the psychological and social factors that keep women silent, offering practical...
2025-04-1443 min
Not Your Therapist#16 Emotional Intimacy in Long-Term Relationships: What You’re Missing and How to Get It Back with Amy Phillips LCSWSend us Fan MailStruggling to feel close to your partner in a long-term relationship? Tired of fighting about the same things over and over—like dishes, chores, or who's doing bedtime? You’re not alone—and the issue probably isn’t what you think it is.In this episode of Not Your Therapist, I sit down with couples and individual therapist Amy Phillips, one of our seasoned clinicians at Evolution Wellness in Wilmington, NC. We dive deep into what drives emotional intimacy in long-term relationships, why couples often feel disconnected over time, and what to do wh...
2025-04-0739 min
Not Your Therapist#15 Where’s the Manual? Navigating Motherhood & Finding Community with Amanda Hofmann, The Wilmington MomSend us Fan MailWhen Amanda Hofmann became a mom in January 2020—just as the world shut down—her life took a wild turn. A seasoned event planner suddenly found herself navigating new motherhood, postpartum anxiety, and total isolation. So what did she do? She strapped her baby into a stroller, started walking the parks of Wilmington, NC… and accidentally created one of the most loved parenting resources in the area: The Wilmington Mom.In this episode, Amanda and I get real about what it actually feels like to become a mom—and how n...
2025-03-3137 min
Not Your Therapist#14 Self-Worth, Diet Culture, and Breaking Free from Food Guilt with Emma TownsinSend us Fan MailYour Body Isn’t the Enemy—It’s Fighting for YouDiet culture has fed us a lie: that thinness equals health, worth, and discipline. But what if everything you’ve been taught about food and your body is wrong? Specialist eating disorder dietitian Emma Townsin is here to flip the script on restrictive diets, emotional eating, and why your body isn’t sabotaging you—it’s actually trying to keep you alive.From childhood, we absorb sneaky messages linking thinness to morality—through cartoons, movies, casual co...
2025-03-2436 min
Not Your Therapist#12 Therapists Spill the Tea: What We Wish Clients Knew with Darrian Pelkey MSW, LCSWASend us Fan MailEver wonder what your therapist really thinks about you? 🤔 In this episode of Not Your Therapist Podcast, licensed therapist Darrian Pelkey, MSW, LCSWA, joins me to spill the tea on what goes on behind the scenes in therapy.We’re pulling back the curtain on the things therapists wish clients knew—from common misconceptions about therapy to what we actually think when you apologize for crying in session. If you’ve ever worried about being a “bad” client, overthought what you said after a session, or wondered if your thera...
2025-03-1735 min