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Not Your TherapistTOOLBOX: Create Your Container — An Emotional Regulation Skill for OverwhelmSend us a textWhen emotions feel overwhelming, it can be hard to focus, think clearly, or stay present. This TOOLBOX episode teaches you how to create your container, a simple, EMDR-informed emotional regulation skill designed to help your nervous system feel safer and more organized.In this guided episode, you’ll be walked through how to create a mental container that can safely hold difficult thoughts, feelings, or memories when they feel too big to manage all at once. This skill is often used in trauma-informed therapy to support emotional regulation without av...
2026-01-2611 minNot Your TherapistTOOLBOX: Using Your Container — An Emotional Regulation Skill for OverwhelmSend us a textWhen emotions spike, it’s easy to feel flooded, anxious, or unable to focus. This TOOLBOX episode teaches you how to use your container—a simple, EMDR-informed emotional regulation skill—to manage overwhelming thoughts and feelings without suppressing them.If you’ve already created a container, this episode shows you how to use it in real-life moments: when anxiety rises, intrusive thoughts loop, or emotions feel too big to hold. If you haven’t, you can still follow along and learn how containment works as a nervous-system regulation tool.In th...
2026-01-2614 minNot Your TherapistWhy Grieving Feels Harder Today: The Loss of Ritual and How to HealSend us a textGrief feels heavier today—and it’s not just because loss is painful.In this episode, we explore how the loss of ritual in modern life has made grieving harder, lonelier, and more confusing than it used to be. For centuries, religion and culture provided structured grief rituals—like funerals, shiva, memorials, prayer, and communal mourning—that helped people process loss in a contained, supported way.Today, more people identify as non-religious, and many of those rituals have quietly disappeared. What’s left is unstruc...
2026-01-1917 minNot Your Therapist4 Minutes a Day to a Better RelationshipSend us a textWhat if improving your relationship didn’t require therapy homework, long talks, or weekly date nights?In this episode, we’re breaking down how just 4 intentional minutes a day can dramatically strengthen your relationship—using principles from attachment theory that apply to marriage, parenting, and family life.You’ll learn about the four key moments every day that matter most for emotional connection:When you wake upWhen you separate for the dayWhen you reuniteWhen you g...
2026-01-1311 minNot Your Therapist3 Ways to Set Better Boundaries This YearSend us a textIf setting boundaries is on your New Year list… but you already feel guilty just thinking about it, this episode is for you.In this episode, I break down 3 realistic ways to set better boundaries this year — without over-explaining, people-pleasing, or blowing up your relationships.We’ll explore why boundaries feel so hard, what’s actually happening in your nervous system, and how to create boundaries that feel sustainable instead of exhausting.This podcast is meant to be a conversation — not a lecture. 🖤 Have though...
2026-01-0514 minNot Your TherapistHormones & Mental Health: Why HRT Could Be a Game-ChangerSend us a textWe talk a lot about anxiety and depression—but what if the root cause is your hormones? Hormonal imbalance is showing up earlier and more often than it did two decades ago, and it impacts everything from your sleep to your sex drive to your ability to feel joy.In this episode, I’m unpacking why hormone issues are becoming more common, how they can masquerade as mental health struggles, and why HRT (Hormone Replacement Therapy) can be such a powerful solution. I’ll also break down why some doctors hesitate to pre...
2025-09-0812 minNot Your TherapistTriggers 101: Understanding Your ReactionsSend us a textYou’re having a normal day—coffee in hand, scrolling your phone—and suddenly your chest tightens, your heart races, and you’re spiraling. That’s a trigger. But what exactly does it mean to be “triggered”?In this episode, I’m breaking down what triggers really are (spoiler: they’re your nervous system’s way of trying to protect you), how to recognize when you’re in the middle of one, and practical tools to help you calm your body and regain control. I’ll share real-life examples from my work as a therapist—and...
2025-09-0112 minNot Your TherapistLikeability Isn’t Luck: Easy Tips to Boost Your CharismaSend us a textEver met someone who just has it—that mix of confidence, warmth, and magnetism that makes people lean in? That’s charisma. And good news: it’s not some magical personality trait you’re either born with or not—it’s a skill you can actually practice.In this episode, I’m breaking down what charisma really is (hint: it’s equal parts warmth and competence), why it matters more than smarts when it comes to relationships and leadership, and simple ways you can start increasing your likeability today. We’ll cover science-back...
2025-08-2510 minNot Your TherapistEMDR Explained: What It Is and Who It’s ForSend us a textEver wondered what EMDR actually is—or why everyone from trauma therapists to TikTok is talking about it? In this episode, I’m breaking down Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (aka EMDR) in plain English. We’ll cover how it works, what the science says, and who it’s really for. I’ll also share how EMDR has impacted me personally and what I’ve seen in my own clients—because spoiler alert: it’s powerful. Whether you’re a therapist curious about adding it to your toolkit or someone wondering if it could help yo...
2025-08-1916 minNot Your Therapist#29 Boundary Boot Camp: From People-Pleaser to Self-ProtectorSend us a textThe word "boundaries" has become such a buzzword that many people throw it around without truly understanding what it means. But what exactly are boundaries, and why do so many of us struggle to set them effectively?Boundaries aren't about controlling others—they're guidelines for what you will and won't allow in your life. The key distinction lies in taking responsibility for yourself rather than trying to change someone else's behavior. A true boundary consists of identifying unacceptable behavior and determining what YOU will do if that boundary isn't respected.
2025-07-2817 minNot Your TherapistBONUS: Love Island UK Season 12 — A Therapist Breaks Down Harrison, Lauren & ToniSend us a textEver found yourself drawn to someone who couldn't quite decide if they wanted you? The Harrison-Lauren-Tony love triangle from Love Island UK Season 12 offers a perfect case study in toxic relationship patterns that might feel eerily familiar.This captivating analysis breaks down the psychological dynamics at play when a charming but emotionally withholding person keeps multiple partners on the hook. Harrison's classic avoidant attachment style—complete with ambiguous feelings, surface-level connection, and an "I'm still deciding" approach—creates the perfect storm of manipulation. Through intermittent reinforcement (the same psychological principle that make...
2025-07-2108 minNot Your Therapist#28 Emotional Incest: When Parents Cross the LineSend us a textHave you ever felt responsible for a parent's emotional wellbeing? Been called "the only one they can talk to" or "their rock"? That special closeness you felt might actually have been something therapists call emotional incest—a hidden form of boundary violation that shapes how we connect with others well into adulthood.Emotional incest occurs when a parent turns to their child to fulfill emotional needs typically reserved for adult relationships. Unlike physical or sexual abuse, it's often disguised as love, creating confusion for survivors who struggle to recognize its harmful ef...
2025-07-2116 minNot Your Therapist#27 The Only Child – Mature, Independent… and Maybe a Little Emotionally OverloadedSend us a textWere you the only child who was “so mature for your age”—but never really got to be a kid? In this episode, we dive into what it’s really like growing up without siblings and how that shapes your identity, relationships, and emotional habits as an adult.Drawing from birth order psychology and Family Systems Theory, we explore how only children miss the sibling subsystem—your first environment for social learning—and what happens when you become the emotional container for your entire family. From hyper-independence to emotional overload, th...
2025-06-3020 minNot Your Therapist#26 The Youngest Child – Fun, Free-Spirited, or Forever the Baby?Send us a textAre you the youngest child who’s always been seen as “the fun one”—but never quite taken seriously? In this episode of Not Your Therapist, we’re breaking down the psychology of the youngest child: how being the “baby” of the family shapes your personality, relationships, and sense of identity.We explore how youngest kids often become the entertainer or escape artist, the impact of being underestimated, and how this birth order role can lead to charm, deflection, and hidden pressure to prove yourself in adulthood. It’s not all fun and...
2025-06-2319 minNot Your Therapist#25 The Middle Child – Chameleon, Peacemaker, or Just Forgotten?Send us a textWere you the middle child—the one who stayed out of the way, kept the peace, and quietly handled your own emotional needs? You’re not alone. In this episode of Not Your Therapist, we dive deep into the psychology of middle child syndrome, emotional distancing, and why so many middle children become chronic people-pleasers or “distancers” in adulthood.We’ll talk about how middle children are shaped by their role in the family, what happens when your needs are ignored, and how that invisibility can turn into emotional walls late...
2025-06-1622 minNot Your Therapist#24 The Eldest Child – CEO in Training or Resentful Parent #2?Send us a textAre you the firstborn and secretly exhausted? You’re not alone. In this episode, we dive deep into the eldest child experience—how being the “responsible one” often leads to perfectionism, people-pleasing, burnout, and emotional overfunctioning in adulthood.If you were basically a third parent growing up, this one’s for you. We’ll talk about parentification, high-achiever syndrome, and how to start setting boundaries with the roles you’ve outgrown.Keywords: eldest child traits, birth order psychology, parentified child, high-achiever burnout, therapy podcast, perfectionism, family dynamic...
2025-06-1022 minNot Your Therapist#23 Why Birth Order Actually Matters (Yes, Even If You’re 35 and Over It)Send us a textDid your family birth order shape your personality? Spoiler: yep. In this episode, we explore how birth order influences your identity, temperament, and adult relationships. Whether you're the eldest child, middle child, youngest, or only child, this episode helps you understand how your role in the family still shows up in your life today.You’ll learn the psychology behind birth order, what patterns to look for, and how to break free from the expectations you never asked for.This podcast is meant to be a conversation — not...
2025-06-0417 minNot Your Therapist#22 Why Rest Feels Impossible: Understanding Your Productivity AddictionSend us a textEver feel like you're constantly running on a productivity treadmill, unable to step off without experiencing overwhelming guilt and anxiety? You're not alone. What looks like ambition and high achievement might actually be anxiety masquerading as motivation – and over time, it can evolve into something more concerning.In this revealing episode, we explore how childhood messages about productivity and worth create deeply ingrained neural pathways that follow us into adulthood. When our parents or caregivers unconsciously taught us that our value comes from what we accomplish rather than who we are, we...
2025-05-1915 minNot Your Therapist#21 Validate Yourself in 3 Steps and Build ConfidenceSend us a textEver hit a milestone and still feel... kinda hollow? Or find yourself needing everyone else’s opinion before you can trust your own? Been there. And spoiler alert: It’s not because you’re broken.It’s because most of us were raised in homes where self-validation wasn’t modeled—so now we second-guess everything from our feelings to our freaking lunch order. In this episode, I’m breaking down why learning to validate yourself is the foundation for real confidence, calm, and clarity.We’ll talk about:Why “o...
2025-05-1214 minNot Your Therapist#20 Emotional Invalidation: Why You Feel Small In Your Own FamilySend us a textThe quiet dismissal of your feelings? That sh*t cuts deeper than yelling ever could.When someone avoids eye contact, scrolls their phone mid-convo, or chuckles at your story like it’s a joke—they might not say anything cruel, but your nervous system still gets the memo: You don’t matter here.After a recent family visit left me feeling invisible and low-key spiraling, I had to unpack the slow-burn pain of emotional invalidation. If you grew up in a family where your feelings were ignored, mocked, or met wi...
2025-05-0516 min
Not Your Therapist#19 Divorced But Not Damaged: What NOT to Do If You Don’t Want to Mess Up Your Kids with Dr. Larry WaldmanSend us a textDr. Larry Waldman brings decades of forensic psychology experience to this raw, insightful conversation about the hidden casualties of divorce – the children caught in the crossfire between warring parents. Drawing from twenty years as the expert judges called on during high-conflict custody battles, Dr. Waldman exposes the psychological damage inflicted when parents prioritize their hurt feelings over their children's wellbeing."Kids are born naked and naive. What they see in their home, as far as they're concerned, is their reality," Dr. Waldman explains. When that reality fractures during divorce, children experience pr...
2025-04-2854 min
Not Your Therapist#18 Career Burnout Is Real—Here’s How to Bounce Back with Dr. Jesseca TigheSend us a textAre you staring at your calendar wondering how you'll face another workday? That crushing exhaustion isn't just tiredness—it's burnout, and it's reached epidemic levels among high-achievers and caregivers.In this eye-opening conversation with psychologist Dr. Jessica Tai, we dive into the science behind workplace burnout, revealing why it's now an official diagnosis with three distinct types that affect us differently. From the frenetic burnout that drives us to check emails during family dinner to the worn-out burnout that makes everything feel urgent, we unpack the hidden symptoms our culture has no...
2025-04-2130 min
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Not Your Therapist#17 Struggling to Be Heard? How to Improve Communication in Love + Life with Erin DardenSend us a textEver wondered why it's so hard to simply ask for what you need in relationships? Former attorney turned emotional intelligence coach Erin Darden brings clarity to this struggle, revealing how societal expectations, fear of rejection, and our own internalized guilt create barriers to honest communication."You can't pour from an empty cup, but women do it all the time," Erin observes, highlighting how many women see advocating for their needs as selfish rather than essential. Through our conversation, she unpacks the psychological and social factors that keep women silent, offering practical...
2025-04-1443 min
Not Your Therapist#16 Emotional Intimacy in Long-Term Relationships: What You’re Missing and How to Get It Back with Amy Phillips LCSWSend us a textStruggling to feel close to your partner in a long-term relationship? Tired of fighting about the same things over and over—like dishes, chores, or who's doing bedtime? You’re not alone—and the issue probably isn’t what you think it is.In this episode of Not Your Therapist, I sit down with couples and individual therapist Amy Phillips, one of our seasoned clinicians at Evolution Wellness in Wilmington, NC. We dive deep into what drives emotional intimacy in long-term relationships, why couples often feel disconnected over time, and what to do wh...
2025-04-0739 min
Not Your Therapist#15 Where’s the Manual? Navigating Motherhood & Finding Community with Amanda Hofmann, The Wilmington MomSend us a textWhen Amanda Hofmann became a mom in January 2020—just as the world shut down—her life took a wild turn. A seasoned event planner suddenly found herself navigating new motherhood, postpartum anxiety, and total isolation. So what did she do? She strapped her baby into a stroller, started walking the parks of Wilmington, NC… and accidentally created one of the most loved parenting resources in the area: The Wilmington Mom.In this episode, Amanda and I get real about what it actually feels like to become a mom—and how n...
2025-03-3137 min
Not Your Therapist#14 Self-Worth, Diet Culture, and Breaking Free from Food Guilt with Emma TownsinSend us a textYour Body Isn’t the Enemy—It’s Fighting for YouDiet culture has fed us a lie: that thinness equals health, worth, and discipline. But what if everything you’ve been taught about food and your body is wrong? Specialist eating disorder dietitian Emma Townsin is here to flip the script on restrictive diets, emotional eating, and why your body isn’t sabotaging you—it’s actually trying to keep you alive.From childhood, we absorb sneaky messages linking thinness to morality—through cartoons, movies, casual co...
2025-03-2436 min
Not Your Therapist#13 Desire Disasters: What Kills Your Sex Drive & How to Get It Back with Shie Benisti LCSWSend us a textStruggling with low libido? Feeling disconnected from your partner? You're not alone. In this episode of Not Your Therapist Podcast, licensed sex therapist Shie Benisti, LCSW, CST, joins us to break down the real reasons why sexual desire fluctuates—and what you can do to bring intimacy back.We dive into the mental, emotional, and relational blocks that impact desire, including the role of stress, hormonal changes, and the mental load that disproportionately affects women. Shie also shares practical, no-BS strategies to...
2025-03-1739 min
Not Your Therapist#12 Therapists Spill the Tea: What We Wish Clients Knew with Darrian Pelkey MSW, LCSWASend us a textEver wonder what your therapist really thinks about you? 🤔 In this episode of Not Your Therapist Podcast, licensed therapist Darrian Pelkey, MSW, LCSWA, joins me to spill the tea on what goes on behind the scenes in therapy.We’re pulling back the curtain on the things therapists wish clients knew—from common misconceptions about therapy to what we actually think when you apologize for crying in session. If you’ve ever worried about being a “bad” client, overthought what you said after a session, or wondered if your thera...
2025-03-1735 minNot Your TherapistShrink Shots: Therapy Terms 101 – Emotional Regulation – How to Stop Flipping Out (Even When They Deserve It)Send us a textEver feel like your emotions hijack your brain before you even have a chance to think? Emotional regulation is the key to handling stress, frustration, and overwhelm without exploding (or shutting down). In this quick Shrink Shots episode, we’re breaking down what emotional regulation actually means, why it’s so hard sometimes, and how to stop flipping out—even when someone totally deserves it.💡 What You’ll Learn:✔️ What emotional regulation is (and what it isn’t)✔️ Why your brain struggles to stay calm under stress✔️ S...
2025-03-1307 minNot Your TherapistShrink Shots: Therapy Terms 101 – Emotions – What the Hell Are They & Why Do We Have Them?Send us a textEver wondered why you have emotions—or why they sometimes feel like they’re running your entire life? In this quick Shrink Shots episode, we’re breaking down the science behind emotions, what they’re actually trying to tell you, and how to deal with them without letting them take over. Spoiler alert: Your emotions aren’t the enemy—they’re data. You just need to know how to read them.💡 What You’ll Learn:✔️ What emotions really are and why they exist✔️ Why some emotions feel way too intense✔️ How...
2025-03-1108 minNot Your Therapist#11 Rethinking Health: How to Ditch All-or-Nothing Thinking and Make Wellness Work for You with Liz RodriguezSend us a textEver feel like you’re either all in on health—meal prepping, intense workouts, cutting out everything fun—or completely off the wagon? That all-or-nothing mindset is exhausting, unsustainable, and (spoiler alert) not the key to long-term health.In this episode, I sit down with health coach Liz Rodriguez to reframe what real wellness looks like. We’re ditching the toxic perfectionism around food and fitness and learning how to create a healthy lifestyle that actually fits into your life.💡 What You’ll Learn:✔️ How...
2025-03-1039 minNot Your TherapistShrink Shots: Therapy Terms 101 – Reparenting – Giving Yourself the Childhood You Wish You HadSend us a textDid your childhood leave you with some emotional gaps? Enter reparenting—the process of giving yourself the love, support, and validation you may not have received growing up. In this quick Shrink Shots episode, we break down what reparenting is, why it matters, and how you can start healing old wounds by becoming the nurturing, compassionate parent you needed. Learn practical strategies to soothe your inner child, set healthier boundaries, and rewrite the messages that still impact your self-worth today.💡 Topics Covered:✔️ What is reparenting, and why does...
2025-03-0610 min