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ALL THERE ISShame, Secrets and Saving Our Own LivesWe give power to the difficult things in our lives by keeping them a secret and allowing shame to suffocate our truth. We keep ourselves in life or death situations with our silence. We must save our own lives. Tell your truth and Turn away. Take away the secret’s power.Maybe you don't have a secret but can be that safe person for someone to tell their secret shame to. If they do: Lean in. Listen. Love. Period. We have to save our own lives. Send us a...
2025-06-1927 minALL THERE ISKeep It Real with Pat Henneberry: The Power of Showing UpHave you ever found yourself living a life that looks completely different than, not only the one you had planned, but the one you'd been very happily living? For many of us, illness, trauma, death of a loved one, divorce, job loss, fill in the blank, can leave us reeling, feeling lost, and untethered. Join me in hearing from Pat Henneberry, author of My Soul Showed Up: Finding Hope and Resilience against all odds, as she shares how showing up has made all the difference as she recovers from eight different surgeries over a six-year span. Send u...
2025-03-1545 min
ALL THERE ISLoving Lavender Finch, a Story of Secrets, Shame and the Life-Changing Power of LoveLavender Finch is just a girl on the edge of the rest of her life when trauma shows up by the name of Travis. But it isn’t the trauma that almost ruins Lavender, it’s the shame she swallows when she keeps it a secret that threatens to choke the life out of her. Loving Lavender Finch is a coming-of-age-tale that explores the intricate dance between truth and vulnerability through the eyes of a seventeen-year-old girl struggling to find herself amidst trauma, endured and inherited. Throughout this story, readers are invited to explore the complexities of self...
2025-02-0316 min
ALL THERE ISMountain MoversWatching someone you love burn out or fade away is hard. It is not for the faint of heart and yet, we will all do it at some point. It is inevitable. I hope this episode will move you as much as it did me. Thanks for listening. Send us a textGet your copy of Loving Lavender Finch, Kelly's debut novel, at Amazon/Barnes & Noble. Visit www.kellybargabos.com to listen to all past episodes and/or connect with Kelly.
2025-01-2616 min
ALL THERE ISKeep It Real with Amy Christmas: Connection is the Christmas Miracle We All NeedIt was Victor Hugo who said something like, "There's nothing more powerful than an idea whose time has come," and in small town Camden, NY, the simple idea that Amy Christmas brought to life has "blown up" in ways she never imagined. Her idea, centered on Holiday-themed inflatables, has made neighbors out of strangers, turned sadness into smiles, and provided a way for her community to connect in a powerful and poignant way. A great lesson for all of us this Holiday Season--after all, Connection is the antidote to all the human suffering we experience and witness in this...
2024-12-0920 min
ALL THERE ISThe Way of Hope: A Conversation with Mark Haywood of Marvelous Ways InternationalWhat does it take to change the world? Hope. Marvelous Ways International, a nonprofit organization founded by Mark and Christin Haywood, is on a mission to give hope, to invest hope, to inspire hope and to lift the lives of kids who come from very dangerous and impoverished communities in developing nations around the world.They go where kids are in danger and address longstanding and complicated societal issues--which is no small task. MWI believes that we should not accept the current conditions that many young people face as "just the way it is," but i...
2024-12-0144 minALL THERE ISControl: I Don't Want to Rule the World, I Just Want to Run My LifeJanet Jackson said it best in 1986 in her song, Control. I don't want to rule the world, I just wanna run my life. (It's on Spotify if you've never heard it.) Lately I've been feeling disenchanted, disappointed and disgusted with this world, the election process, all of it. Remembering a lesson I learned a long time ago about the Circle of Control helped me put it in perspective again. Listen in to find out about the four concentric circles that make up our life and how to make sense of it all, and most importantly, how to z...
2024-10-1619 minALL THERE ISThe Ideal Candidate: Does Your Candidate Check These Leadership Boxes?So much conversation about the candidates--what they've done or not done, what they believe or don't believe...While those things are important considerations, what we really should be talking about is whether or not the candidate is an authentic leader. Do they provide Vision, Unity, Inspiration and Strength? Listen in to share in this conversation.Send us a textGet your copy of Loving Lavender Finch, Kelly's debut novel, at Amazon/Barnes & Noble. Visit www.kellybargabos.com to listen to all past episodes and/or connect with Kelly.
2024-07-2718 minALL THERE ISThe Ideal CandidateYou know that feeling when you're at a wedding reception, the bar has been open for three rounds too long, and Uncle Jim or Aunt Tonya are out on the dance floor singing along to Celine Dion for the third time? You scan the room looking to see if anyone else is noticing what's happening? Is it you? Is it them? What is going on? I've been feeling like that a lot lately and rather than disengage, let's talk about it.Send us a textGet your copy of Loving Lavender Finch, Kelly's...
2024-07-0716 minALL THERE ISThe Truth About CompassionCompassion is triggered when we encounter suffering. Also...it exists on a scale that ranges from sharing and witnessing that suffering first in our bodies, souls and minds, but then, for some it turns into taking action on an individual level or en masse. For some it becomes a burden, an obligation, a mission they take on. And for even fewer, it becomes something to solve permanently. But what happens when compassion is compromised in the process? It becomes cruel. Tune in to this episode as we break down compassion. Send us a text...
2024-06-1322 minALL THERE ISTime is a TrickTime is a mind trick. I don’t think our human brains can really comprehend the construct of time because we were never meant to. We've made it a human experience when it was never intended to be one. Tune in to share a human experience that recently blew my mind and just confirmed that the mind bender of time is one I will never fully understand...at least, not in this lifetime. Send us a textGet your copy of Loving Lavender Finch, Kelly's debut novel, at Amazon/Barnes & Noble. Visit www.kellybargabos.com to...
2024-05-2109 min
ALL THERE ISThe Mother I'll Never KnowMother's Day is one of the craziest holidays...for many of us, it holds so much power...the potential for joy and gratitude and also pain and grief. This episode is dedicated to my mother-in-law who died way too young and left a hole not only in my husband's life, but also in mine. This short piece is to honor the man she raised with gratitude and thankfulness. Thanks for listening.Send us a textGet your copy of Loving Lavender Finch, Kelly's debut novel, at Amazon/Barnes & Noble. Visit www.kellybargabos.com to listen t...
2024-05-0807 min
ALL THERE ISAn Awkward StageAwkward stages aren't only for the young...they occur throughout our lives as we transition from one phase or stage of our life to another, They are also uncomfortable and....awkward...but with Grace & Compassion & Curiosity, they can be an opportunity as well. Tune in to learn how to navigate these temporary awkward stages of our life with Resolve & Resilience.Send us a textGet your copy of Loving Lavender Finch, Kelly's debut novel, at Amazon/Barnes & Noble. Visit www.kellybargabos.com to listen to all past episodes and/or connect with Kelly.
2024-03-1513 minALL THERE ISGo All In: You Be The LightCounterculture advice to leaders and non-leaders: Go All In. Just because corporate environments have an imperfect history or toxic track record doesn’t mean you should respond with an apathetic approach to your career. Of course you shouldn't tolerate hostile work environments, discrimination or harmful leaders. And yes, you can and should expect market-based pay in exchange for meeting work expectations and doing the job you were hired for. That is your baseline. Heading down the lazy, winding path of least resistance and fostering ambivalence about the work that you do will not ultimately lead to sat...
2024-02-2915 minALL THERE ISSeason 3 Teaser and ICYMI highlight reelSeason 3 is coming soon! To get ready, in this episode I share a highlight reel from the top five listened to Podcasts of season 2. Episode 69: The Way of Hope with Mark HaywoodEpisode 50: Homelessness in America in Scene and StoryEpisode 60: If Wishes Were EaglesEpisode 58: Thriving with chILDEpisode 47: Chasing the Merry-Go-RoundThanks for being such faithful listeners. Tune in. Share. Subscribe. Let's make Season 3 the best one yet. Send us a textGet your copy of Loving Lavender Finch, Kelly's debut novel, at Amazon/Barnes & No...
2024-02-2011 minALL THERE ISHomeless in America: Chasing the Merry-Go-RoundLife moves fast. Too fast for some. November is Homelessness Awareness Month. On any given night in America, more than 500,000 people are experiencing homelessness. 70% are individuals living on their own or in the company of other homeless adults. 30% are families with children. The great majority of homeless are men or youth boys, and almost half of the population is unsheltered and living in situations not fit for human beings. (“State of Homelessness Report 2021.” www.endhomelessness.org)The thing is, we know there is no silver bullet, no single answer or even two or three things that...
2023-11-1506 minALL THERE ISHomeless in America: Runaway TrainNovember is Homelessness Awareness Month. On any given night in America, more than 500,000 people are experiencing homelessness. 70% are individuals living on their own or in the company of other homeless adults. 30% are families with children. The great majority of homeless are men or youth boys, and almost half of the population is unsheltered and living in situations not fit for human beings. (“State of Homelessness Report 2021.” www.endhomelessness.org)In this episode I share my personal experience with homelessness when my brother ran away from home and lived on the streets for five years. S...
2023-11-0610 minALL THERE ISMy Hero at Grandfather MountainThe older I get the more I appreciate watching old people do just about anything. I think it's because I realize more and more how long and hard life is and if you have a certain number of years behind you and you still find a way to get up everyday, put one foot in front of the other, and still smile and connect with people you encounter...you are my hero.This episode is dedicated to the ones who keep going. The battle-scarred, the weary and worn, yet vibrant, alive and still finding a reason to...
2023-09-1810 min
ALL THERE ISThe Way of Hope: A Conversation with Mark Haywood of Marvelous Ways InternationalWhat does it take to change the world? Hope. Marvelous Ways International, a nonprofit organization founded by Mark and Christin Haywood, is on a mission to give hope, to invest hope, to inspire hope and to lift the lives of kids who come from very dangerous and impoverished communities in developing nations around the world.They go where kids are in danger and address longstanding and complicated societal issues--which is no small task. MWI believes that we should not accept the current conditions that many young people face as "just the way it is," but i...
2023-08-2144 minALL THERE ISLeave No One Behind: The Story of Deported VeteransLivier Lazaro is the first female Commander of the Don Diego VFW Post 7420. I met her in June 2023 on a random Thursday night and will never be the same. She opened my eyes to the issues affecting hundreds to thousands of US Military Veterans who have served our country, and then due to a series of circumstances, become deported and exiled from the Country they love so much they were willing to die for it. This ought not to be so. Tune in to find out what is happening so you can be informed and speak up on their...
2023-08-1525 minALL THERE ISHow to Find the Sweet Spot of Work Life BalanceIt's not what you think. Common misconceptions and stereotypes will tell you that all our teams want is more pay, less work, and more vacation time. But is that really what people want to find work life balance? Tune in to this episode to find out 3 ways you can find the sweet spot of work life balance for you and your teams.Send us a textGet your copy of Loving Lavender Finch, Kelly's debut novel, at Amazon/Barnes & Noble. Visit www.kellybargabos.com to listen to all past episodes and/or connect with Kelly.
2023-07-2019 minALL THERE ISDear Men: We Need Your LightAs we celebrate Father's Day and the men in our lives who've had impact and influence, let's be sure we let them know that we need them and the gifts and talents we bring to this world. Even and especially with all their cracks, for this is how the light gets in. And we need their light.Send us a textGet your copy of Loving Lavender Finch, Kelly's debut novel, at Amazon/Barnes & Noble. Visit www.kellybargabos.com to listen to all past episodes and/or connect with Kelly.
2023-06-1617 min
ALL THERE ISDesperate for Freedom: The Ultimate Sacrifice. The Ultimate Privilege.As we commemorate and remember all those who paid the ultimate sacrifice on this Memorial Day, let's also consider those outside our country who are so desperate for Freedom, they too are willing to pay the ultimate sacrifice for them and their families. As Americans, we have the ultimate privilege of not experiencing the same desperation for freedom as some from other countries. But freedom is freedom. Could I convince you to listen all the way to the end and take a moment to consider these questions? Send us a textGet your copy of L...
2023-05-2715 minALL THERE ISNERVES: A Mother's Day PerspectiveMother's Day is one of those days filled with power and the potential for joy and celebration as well as pain, sadness, regret and longing. As women, we are all somewhere on the motherhood spectrum...we have mothers, some of us are biological, step or god mothers to children, some of us care for and nurture four-legged fur balls, and some of us nurture and mother our friends or co-workers.I don't know much or even close to everything I should, but I do know this: your motherhood status, whatever it may be or whatever state it i...
2023-05-1207 min
ALL THERE ISKeep It Real: A Woman Looks At 80As we age, we tend to focus on how our body and appearance is changing with a negative perspective, forgetting all that our bodies have done for us throughout our lives. What if we could change that narrative and remember all the work, all the pleasures, all that we have survived? What if we could realize that no matter what we look like on the outside, the same spirit that got us this far, is still there? In this episode I talk to my mom who is turning 80 on May 7th and have her read one of m...
2023-05-0720 minALL THERE ISEpilogue 2.0: How is Bobby after Chasing the Merry-Go-Round?One of the major themes of Chasing the Merry-Go-Round was the idea of home and Bobby's lifelong dream to own his own place. Unfortunately, for so many years, we all thought it was going to be out of reach for him. Until now. Sometimes things happen that you never saw coming and it creates opportunity and answers that you asked for so long ago you forgot you ever asked. When I first published this story, Bobby asked me to buy him his own house if and when the book "went platinum." Of course, I always agreed that yes, we'd g...
2023-04-3020 minALL THERE ISRevolution, a short storyRevolution is a short story based on the longer work, Flower Power. Flower Power is a one-act social commentary that explores greed and our lust for money, versus our right to live. Follow the main character, Charlie Miller, as she is forced to choose between her career and the parents who've been there for every moment of her life. https://www.sandiego.gov/decameronSend us a textGet your copy of Loving Lavender Finch, Kelly's debut novel, at Amazon/Barnes & Noble. Visit www.kellybargabos.com to listen to all past epi...
2023-04-1908 min
ALL THERE ISIf Wishes Were EaglesInspired by the Scottish proverb and nursery rhyme, “If wishes were horses, beggars would ride,” If Wishes Were Eagles is a daydream brought to life with lyrical and vivid words. My intention is for it to be a picture book illustrated by the one and only Craig Anderson, artist and husband of mine. If Wishes Were Eagles is filled with timeless messages and lessons of hope and possibility. The reader/listener enters a wondrous world full of beauty, marvel and mysteries, and learns that when you’re in trouble, you fly high, and when you’re lonely, you reach...
2023-04-1507 min
ALL THERE ISHippie Jesus FreaksMaybe it’s because I was born in the summer of love, 1967, but I’ve always envied hippies and sometimes wondered if it was too late to become a Hippie? I think what I was really asking was, can I become a person who is free-spirited and unencumbered by what others think or societal norms and expectations?I recently saw the new movie, Jesus Revolution, which not only brought up my fascination with Hippies, but also reminded me of the time when the Jesus Revolution saved my family.To me it makes perfect sense...
2023-03-3018 min
ALL THERE ISKeep It Real: Thriving with Children's Interstitial Lung Disease - A conversation with Renee FarrellBreathing is something that most of us take for granted on a daily basis as our body automatically does what it was designed to do. However, for babies and children with chILD, the struggle to breathe can require so much physical exertion that they often fail to thrive without medical interventions. Tune in to hear this mother's journey and how she fights every day to give her children the opportunity to live their best lives through medical interventions, community, finding joy in the little things and protecting her kid's feelings, hope & dreams along the way. "When you se...
2023-02-2834 minALL THERE ISNow I KnowLife changes in a moment. A match is lit and tossed, falling just right on the combustible rubble we ignored. And as it burns, everything we thought we knew, counted on, waited for, believed in—shifts. Just enough to let us know we knew nothing. Tune in to share this human experienceSend us a textGet your copy of Loving Lavender Finch, Kelly's debut novel, at Amazon/Barnes & Noble. Visit www.kellybargabos.com to listen to all past episodes and/or connect with Kelly.
2023-02-2205 min
ALL THERE ISDIVORCE: The Five Stages of Losing My HusbandSuccessful career woman by day, more Bridget Jones at night, Kelly is determined to carry on as if nothing has changed when everything has. After her husband of almost twenty years walks out of their home leaving behind his slippers, toothbrush and a closet full of clothes, Kelly navigates her out-of-the-ordinary stages of grief using a new mantra along with, beer & nachos, crown royal & Mad Men, red wine & rom-com movies, as she confronts her new reality and the closet/life her husband left behind.Send us a textGet your copy of Loving Lavender Finch...
2023-02-1523 min
ALL THERE ISThe Love of Your LifeValentine's Day is looming along with all the pressure we put on the day, our loved ones and ourselves. But what if, instead of waiting, wishing, hoping for someone else to love us like we long for, what if we could be the love of our own life?Send us a textGet your copy of Loving Lavender Finch, Kelly's debut novel, at Amazon/Barnes & Noble. Visit www.kellybargabos.com to listen to all past episodes and/or connect with Kelly.
2023-02-0810 min
ALL THERE ISThe 3 Ps of Finding PEACEThe quest for Peace in all (most) of us drives so much of our behavior, whether we realize it or not. What is peace? What does it look and feel like? More importantly, how do we get it? In this episode you'll find the three things you need in order to get that Peace.Send us a textGet your copy of Loving Lavender Finch, Kelly's debut novel, at Amazon/Barnes & Noble. Visit www.kellybargabos.com to listen to all past episodes and/or connect with Kelly.
2023-01-2427 minALL THERE ISFinding Harmony: Spirit, Soul and BodyIn this episode we discuss finding that state of harmony and peace within ourselves through feeding our Spirit, nourishing our Body and tending our Soul.Send us a textGet your copy of Loving Lavender Finch, Kelly's debut novel, at Amazon/Barnes & Noble. Visit www.kellybargabos.com to listen to all past episodes and/or connect with Kelly.
2023-01-1027 minALL THERE ISDon't Waste the MagicLet's talk about GARBAGE! Generating waste is part of the human condition. It is unavoidable. But how long we hold onto it is up to us. Keep your waste container small and empty it often. That's where the magic is. A life-changing truth to embrace as we face another new year.Visit www.kellybargabos.com to listen to all past episodes and/or connect with Kelly.Send us a textGet your copy of Loving Lavender Finch, Kelly's debut novel, at Amazon/Barnes & Noble. Visit www.kellybargabos.com to...
2022-12-3109 min
ALL THERE ISExtra Feels For The HolidaysDo you like to say Merry Christmas? or Happy Holidays? Holiday greetings have become controversial and polarizing and I get it...but perhaps we're just struggling to find the right way to express all the extra feelings we experience during the holiday season. Listen in to this brief episode to explore with me. Send us a textGet your copy of Loving Lavender Finch, Kelly's debut novel, at Amazon/Barnes & Noble. Visit www.kellybargabos.com to listen to all past episodes and/or connect with Kelly.
2022-12-2009 min
ALL THERE ISALL THERE IS: Homelessness in America in Scene and Story by Craig Anderson and Kelly BargabosIn this episode, Kelly and her artist husband Craig, launch their collection or original artwork paired with stories that were designed to raise awareness, inspire empathy, provoke action and most importantly give a voice to the homeless in America. The episode was recorded in video format and is available on YouTube. See this link:https://youtu.be/99a4xhfFQyMAll original artwork and prints are available at www.craigandersonfineart.com.The collection of artwork and stories is available for $25 on Amazon and at this link:https://www.amazon.com/A...
2022-11-2835 minALL THERE ISHomeless in America: John DoeIn this episode I share a hermit crab essay that was inspired by a real event when a man was found dead outside my home on a cold winter night. The story of his death was never told and I never found out his name. As we take this month of November to build awareness about the homelessness crisis in America, we can pause and remember all the people who have died on the streets and we never knew their name. Send us a textGet your copy of Loving Lavender Finch, Kelly's debut novel, a...
2022-11-2707 minALL THERE ISHomeless in America: All There IsWhen was the last time I went a day without food? What must it be like to not know where your next meal would come from? To not know the next time you would be full? What is it like to know hunger? My personal experience inspired me to volunteer at our city's Rescue Mission and serve Sunday lunch to hungry people. This personal essay was originally published on www.merliterary.com in April 2020. November is Homelessness Awareness Month. On any given night in America, more than 500,000 people are experiencing homelessness. 70% are individuals living on their own...
2022-11-2105 minALL THERE ISHow To Be President Part 3: From Stonewall to SEE-throughElection season is upon us, which has me thinking about all the things I want to say to the next President. When it comes to discussing difficult topics, we're taught from a young age to avoid those that hold a lot of power and passion for us at all costs. Polarizing topics like race, politics, religion...All this avoiding has left us with a significant gap in the skills we need to really share this human experience and SEE each other. Often when these topics come up we stonewall in defense to a perceived threat. We avoid...
2022-10-2629 minALL THERE ISHow To Be President Part 2: What the World Needs NowWhat the World Needs Now, is Leadership, sweet Leadership, it's the only thing that there's just too little of....Election season is upon us, which has me thinking about all the things I want to say to the next President. In this episode we explore why we need leadership in the first place. What do leaders provide and why do we need them?Authentic Leaders provide Vision, Unity, Inspiration and Strength, and we all know it when we see it.Send us a textGet your copy of Loving Lavender...
2022-10-1018 min
ALL THERE ISHow To Be President Part 1: The Sanctity of Life and FreedomElection season is upon us, which has me thinking about all the things I want to say to the next President. In this episode we explore The Sanctity of Life and Freedom and how we can balance those two ideals in our lives and culture in a way that is informed, educated, gracious and brave.Send us a textGet your copy of Loving Lavender Finch, Kelly's debut novel, at Amazon/Barnes & Noble. Visit www.kellybargabos.com to listen to all past episodes and/or connect with Kelly.
2022-10-0524 minALL THERE ISA Crossover Event: HERE TO LEAD, the bookTune in to an episode from my other podcast, Here to LEAD. Leadership is an art and like most artists, our craft is a life-long study of trying different techniques that evolve with our experience, our situations and our culture. What works today may not work tomorrow. But the important thing is that we have tools, resources and examples to access when we need them. HERE TO LEAD: Mastering the Art of Leadership in Order to Execute Strategy, Advance Change and Drive Results includes four anchors along with insight, exercises, tools, guardrails, time in the seat...
2022-09-2721 minALL THERE ISShineOur worst fear is not that we are inadequate, our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, 'Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented and fabulous?' Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God; your playing small doesn't serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you. We were born to make manifest the glory of God within us. It is not just in some of us...
2022-08-1516 minALL THERE ISSisterhood of the Traveling SheetsIt is fascinating that we remember so little of all the days of our lives, but the random things we do hold onto often have such clarity and detail. Sisterhood of the Traveling Sheets is a memory from my childhood that always brings a smile to my face. I hope it causes you to smile and remember a sweet memory of your own. Send us a textGet your copy of Loving Lavender Finch, Kelly's debut novel, at Amazon/Barnes & Noble. Visit www.kellybargabos.com to listen to all past episodes and/or connect with K...
2022-08-0507 min
ALL THERE ISExtra Feels For The HolidaysDo you like to say Merry Christmas? or Happy Holidays? Holiday greetings have become controversial and polarizing and I get it...but perhaps we're just struggling to find the right way to express all the extra feelings we experience during the holiday season. Listen in to this brief episode to explore with me. Send us a textGet your copy of Loving Lavender Finch, Kelly's debut novel, at Amazon/Barnes & Noble. Visit www.kellybargabos.com to listen to all past episodes and/or connect with Kelly.
2021-12-2209 minALL THERE ISWonder WomanPrayer can mean different things to different people. To me, it is a powerful force necessary in the spiritual realm of our lives and is one component of living a well-rounded, three-part human existence with our spirit, soul and body. It can be a super power that helps you navigate, kind of like the Hollywood version of Wonder Woman but better, believe it or not. Tune in and listen for yourself. Available on Apple, Spotify and all the other podcast platforms.Send us a textGet your copy of Loving Lavender Finch, Kelly's debut novel...
2021-12-1517 min
ALL THERE ISKeep It Real: Babies Born too Soon - A conversation with Diana SeymourNovember is Preemie Awareness month and November 17th is World Prematurity Day. 1 in 10 babies in the US are born too soon, which is before 37-40 weeks. Premature babies fight for their very survival and are at risk for significant short-term and long-term health challenges.The health equity gap in our health care system puts women and babies of color at the greatest risk, with racial and ethnic differences in preterm birth rates. In 2020, the rate of preterm birth among non-Hispanic black women was about 50% higher than the rate of preterm birth among non-Hispanic white women or Hispanic w...
2021-11-1741 minALL THERE ISWhy Art MattersThat urge or compulsion to document, to capture, to witness, to share, because some thing or moment touches you so deeply, is at the core of being human. This is what separates us from other creatures and living things on the earth. Art separates us. Art is the vehicle we use to capture moments like these. Art is created when a moment, an experience, a sunset, a landscape, a person, overwhelms your senses and compels you to capture the feeling, the emotion, the connection to other humans, in whatever your medium is—words, paint, music, theater, film, pictures, poetry, voi...
2021-11-0409 min
ALL THERE ISGrow DreamsDivorce, Death, a Diagnosis, Disappointment...these are the four big Ds that kill dreams. Perhaps you never felt permission to dream or were intimidated by the gatekeepers...the good news is that WE CAN GROW DREAMS with intention and expectation. We can plant the seeds of our own dreams, give them love and water and light, and then let them grow!Send us a textGet your copy of Loving Lavender Finch, Kelly's debut novel, at Amazon/Barnes & Noble. Visit www.kellybargabos.com to listen to all past episodes and/or connect with Kelly.
2021-10-2727 min
ALL THERE ISThe Silence of DrowningThose who struggle with mental health issues and/or suicidal thoughts can also do so silently. We need to be on the lookout and extend a hand if we can.Drowning can sneak up on you. In movies and television, drowning people are obvious. Screaming, flailing arms waving in the air, someone hears their cries and jumps in to rescue them, just in time. In real life, people drown silently. Because they cannot breathe, they cannot make a sound. Their body shuts down, not allowing their arms to raise high above the water. Lifeguards and other experts a...
2021-10-2020 minALL THERE IS"Almost Time To Lock Her Up" and Other Careless Things We Say...We say a lot of things we don't always mean literally. But words have power. Power to marginalize and devalue people, as well as perpetuate outdated cultural behaviors. Can we challenge ourselves to listen more closely to what we say to those around us and be more intentional with our words?Send us a textGet your copy of Loving Lavender Finch, Kelly's debut novel, at Amazon/Barnes & Noble. Visit www.kellybargabos.com to listen to all past episodes and/or connect with Kelly.
2021-10-1319 minALL THERE ISShame, Secrets and Saving Our Own LivesWe give power to the difficult things in our lives by keeping them a secret and allowing shame to suffocate our truth. We keep ourselves in life or death situations with our silence. We must save our own lives. Tell your truth and Turn away. Take away the secret’s power.Maybe you don't have a secret but can be that safe person for someone to tell their secret shame to. If they do: Lean in. Listen. Love. Period. We have to save our own lives. Send us a...
2021-10-0626 min
ALL THERE ISThe Time Is NowHave you ever experienced that phenomenon where you catch yourself seeing the same number over and over again? What does it mean? Who knows, right? But perhaps we can find meaning in the message the universe is sending. For me, the message is, WHAT ARE YOU WAITING FOR? THE TIME IS NOW!Send us a textGet your copy of Loving Lavender Finch, Kelly's debut novel, at Amazon/Barnes & Noble. Visit www.kellybargabos.com to listen to all past episodes and/or connect with Kelly.
2021-09-2907 minALL THERE ISIt's All BeautifulIn this kick-off episode of Season 2, we discuss the beauty that surrounds in this world and in this human experience. Yes, there is ugliness, sadness, tragedy and really hard things, but there is beauty to be found in all of it. Whether you are witnessing a sunrise over the ocean or a sunset, whether you are just starting out and entering the final phase of your life on this earth, it is all beautiful. Join us on this journey in season 2 as we look to find and share the beauty in our human experiences.Send us a...
2021-09-1512 minALL THERE ISNever More SureEleanor Roosevelt said, "You must do the thing you think you cannot do." Overcoming fear, intimidation, procrastination and ambivalence and doing the things that scare us the most builds courage, confidence, strength and hope. Challenging ourselves to do the things we think we can't, is the very thing that will help us go the distance in this life. These are the things that will convince us of our beauty and our strength, until we are never more sure. What is that for you? What is that thing you think you cannot do? The thing that nags at y...
2021-07-0824 min
ALL THERE ISKeep It Real: Postpartum OCD and True Joy—A Conversation with Lindsey SpragueIn this episode, Lindsey asks, "Has that ever happened to you? You don’t even know how far you’ve gotten away from yourself? Have you ever gone months without feeling true joy? Months with your growing, healthy, happy babies…without feeling true joy? Fear and panic taking over your every thought? So much so that you don’t even realize it anymore? It’s just become the norm."Most of us are familiar with the struggles mothers can experience during pregnancy and during the postpartum period. We’ve heard about the baby blues, postpartum depression, postpartum anxiety, etc...
2021-06-3039 minALL THERE ISLife UnfilteredThanks to technology, filters are everywhere we need them. Virtual backgrounds, touch-up appearance options, studio edits and filters help us hide things, help us pretend, help us have fun. Filters are not a new phenomenon either...they've been around since the beginning when Adam hid his nakedness with a fig leaf. But what if I told you that alcohol is a filter? A filter that helps distract us and others from the things we don't want to look at. A filter to hide our mess behind. A filter that helps us have fun no matter what we're doing.
2021-06-2324 min
ALL THERE ISButterflyExamining alcohol and its place in our life can be challenging and polarizing. We tend to be very black and white about it--you are either an alcoholic and need to get/be sober, or you are fine, which means you drink when you're supposed to and only then. Tune in to this short episode, to hear a poem I wrote about the prison of addiction. Send us a textGet your copy of Loving Lavender Finch, Kelly's debut novel, at Amazon/Barnes & Noble. Visit www.kellybargabos.com to listen to all past episodes and...
2021-06-1605 minALL THERE ISThe War Within: Party Girl vs. Peace of MindExamining alcohol and drinking can be polarizing in our current party culture. In this episode we have an honest discussion about my journey with drinking & alcohol, what it means, what it doesn't mean and how I've tried to give it the appropriate place and power in my life.Send us a textGet your copy of Loving Lavender Finch, Kelly's debut novel, at Amazon/Barnes & Noble. Visit www.kellybargabos.com to listen to all past episodes and/or connect with Kelly.
2021-06-0925 min
ALL THERE ISGoal Weight: Getting rid of diets, last days and life-stealing belief systemsI was almost ten years old when I started my first diet and began the cycle of believing that I'm either gaining or losing, and that my weight was worthy of taking front and center in my life and all of its events. Reaching my goal weight hung over me--a dark, looming presence that kept me unhappy and unsatisfied with who I was. I believed that I needed to achieve this goal in order to be okay. Those days are gone! I'm committed and determined to unpack and dismantle belief systems that never served me and were always dysfunctional...
2021-05-3028 min
ALL THERE ISKeep It Real: The Work of Changing the World—A Conversation with Afua BoaheneKeep It Real: The Work of Changing the World—A Conversation with Afua BoaheneReal people. Real stories. Real life."The world is not really changed by what you say, the world is changed by what you do."What is ACTIVISM? Alice Walker once said, “Activism is the rent we pay for living on the planet.” Archbishop Desmond Tutu said, “If we are neutral in situations of injustice, we have chosen the side of the oppressor.”In this episode of All There Is, Afua Boahene explains that activism is the work w...
2021-05-1249 minALL THERE ISLucky Me: A look at Mother's DayMother's Day is one of those days filled with power and the potential for joy and celebration as well as pain, sadness, regret and longing. As women, we are all somewhere on the motherhood spectrum...we have mothers, some of us are biological, step or god mothers to children, some of us care for and nurture four-legged fur balls, and some of us nurture and mother our friends or co-workers. Regardless of the choices we've made or where we're at in our journey, let's take this Mother's Day to support, encourage and be kind to each other. Happy Mother's D...
2021-05-0513 min
HERE TO LEADGuardrail: Reduce The Noise So Your Message Is Heard!In order to influence our leadership teams and our organization like we need to, it is critical that our messages are heard above all the NOISE. In this episode, we discuss practical ways to reduce the NOISE so our message is heard. N - need to knowO - own your messageI - look in the mirrorS - speak their languageE - eliminate noise when you canVisit www.kellybargabos.com to listen to all past episodes and/or connect with Kelly.
2021-04-1639 minHERE TO LEADThere Is No Leadership Hack!If you're like me, you love a good life hack. Whether it is a shortcut on how to peel garlic or open a beer bottle, hacks save us time, hard work and often times they provide a solution when we don't have everything we need to accomplish the task at hand. Unfortunately, there is no leadership hack.In Season 1 of Here To L.E.A.D., we've learned the four anchors necessary to bring our leadership to life on a daily basis. The practical tools and advice consistently applied will transform our leadership from a static idea...
2021-04-0417 min
ALL THERE ISLife Is Like A Week At The BeachLife has been compared to a bowl of cherries, a box of chocolates, a race...I've decided that for me, life is like a week at the beach. Send us a textGet your copy of Loving Lavender Finch, Kelly's debut novel, at Amazon/Barnes & Noble. Visit www.kellybargabos.com to listen to all past episodes and/or connect with Kelly.
2021-03-3113 minHERE TO LEADDrive Results: Engage Your AudienceThe ABCs of Driving Results-Assign-Beware-CommunicateThe final key to success for us as leaders in driving results is to COMMUNICATE. Communication is a powerful, dynamic, two-way force that is vital and necessary. The life of your organization, your team, and your success depends on it. Communication sets the tone, determines culture, it can motivate and tear down, it can lift up and destroy, it can be productive or destructive. Most importantly, communication drives engagement.
2021-03-2442 minALL THERE ISWhen I Look In The Mirror At EightyAs we age, we tend to focus on how our body and appearance is changing with a negative perspective, forgetting all that our bodies have done for us throughout our lives. What if we could change that narrative and remember all the work, all the pleasures, all that we have survived? What if we could realize that no matter what we look like on the outside, the same spirit that got us this far, is still there? Send us a textGet your copy of Loving Lavender Finch, Kelly's debut novel, at Amazon/Barnes & Noble. V...
2021-03-2407 min
ALL THERE ISAll She Needs To KnowIf you could spend a night with your seventeen-year-old self, what would you tell her? What do you wish you knew then? Do you ever wonder if you would make the same choices in your life if you knew at 17 what you know now? Have you spent a lifetime attaching your value to external things like other people, how much money you make, what you do or what you have? Tune in to share and witness these themes that we all struggle with at some point in our life.All She Needs To Know.
2021-03-1712 minHERE TO LEADDrive Results: BewareThe ABCs of Driving Results-Assign-Beware-CommunicateThe next key to success in driving results is for us as leaders to BEWARE. Any good driver knows that you need to keep your eyes on the road. Why? So that we can see what’s coming and be on the lookout for any flying mattresses or other debris, danger, weather (hail, snow, ice or tornado funnel) and the signs that would alert us to a change in speed limit, or...
2021-03-1629 min
ALL THERE ISKeep It Real:Let's Get Streakin' with Stu SlombergReal people. Real Stories. Real Life. A "Keep It Real" Interview with Stu Slomberg.Stu Slomberg has completely transformed his life through grit, determination and consistency. Stu hasn't missed a day of exercise in more than two years and was able to reverse a type-2 diabetes diagnosis, lower his blood pressure and improve his health in all areas. More importantly, he addressed his mental health as well and has never felt better. Tune in to hear Stu's story of how he hit rock bottom in his late fifties and found his way to a new life through con...
2021-03-1035 minHERE TO LEADDrive Results: AssignThe ABCs of Driving Results-Assign-Beware-CommunicateAs leaders, we can do a great job at developing vision, setting strategy, figuring out what needs to be done, and then leaving the details to our staff while we move on to something more worthy of our time and amazing leadership skills. We can view this level of detail as below our pay grade. As a leader, it is your job to make sure this detailed work gets d...
2021-03-0936 minALL THERE ISJust Us: Longing For The Time Of Our LivesI love my life and the age I'm at, but still...every once in a while I find myself longing for a simpler, more carefree time. Do you come from a big family and long for when it was just you and your siblings? Or is it just me? Tune in to share the human experience of longing, reminiscing and family.Send us a textGet your copy of Loving Lavender Finch, Kelly's debut novel, at Amazon/Barnes & Noble. Visit www.kellybargabos.com to listen to all past episodes and/or connect with Kelly.
2021-03-0313 minHERE TO LEADDrive Results: Are You In The Driver's Seat?We’ve developed our elevator pitch and have a better understanding of who we are as a leader, we’ve learned what it takes to execute strategy and affect change. You’d think that the hard work is done and now the results, the outcomes, the goals we were trying to achieve, should just come naturally as a by-product of all that work. Unfortunately, that’s not how it works. The word “drive” means to cause and guide the movement of an automobile or an animal. In our context, it means to cause and guide the movement of your team, y...
2021-03-0225 minALL THERE ISAnd So Went My YouthWe don't like to talk about it, but aging, mortality, loss--our own and our parents--is a very real weight we all must bear. But maybe sharing it with each other makes it a little easier to find peace with it. This essay explores things that were lost with youth being one of many. Send us a textGet your copy of Loving Lavender Finch, Kelly's debut novel, at Amazon/Barnes & Noble. Visit www.kellybargabos.com to listen to all past episodes and/or connect with Kelly.
2021-02-2411 minALL THERE ISWorld-changing, Life-saving, Mind-bending Power of LoveThe world-changing, life-saving, mind-bending power of love can be hard to understand and make sense of. Just like gravity, love is a powerful, invisible force that exists in our world. It is constantly working and pulling us toward each other and we don’t even realize it is happening. We can’t explain it, we don’t know how it works, or why it works, but we know that it does. Send us a textGet your copy of Loving Lavender Finch, Kelly's debut novel, at Amazon/Barnes & Noble. Visit www.kellybargabos.com to listen to all...
2021-02-1715 minHERE TO LEADA Crossover Event: What the World Needs NowTune in to an episode from my other podcast, All There Is, for some relevant thoughts on leadership and why it is the thing we need most right now. Authentic Leaders provide Vision, Unity, Inspiration and Strength, and we all know it when we see it.What the World Needs Now, is Leadership, sweet Leadership, it's the only thing that there's just too little of....Visit www.kellybargabos.com to listen to all past episodes and/or connect with Kelly.
2021-02-1616 minALL THERE ISThe Love Of Your LifeValentine's Day is looming along with all the pressure we put on the day, our loved ones and ourselves. But what if, instead of waiting, wishing, hoping for someone else to love us like we long for, what if we could be the love of our own life?Send us a textGet your copy of Loving Lavender Finch, Kelly's debut novel, at Amazon/Barnes & Noble. Visit www.kellybargabos.com to listen to all past episodes and/or connect with Kelly.
2021-02-1011 minHERE TO LEADAdvance Change: GuardrailsLeading your teams through Change is a daunting task. Tune in to discover some suggestions on how to make it a successful endeavor.It is a powerful thing to have your team use their own words to describe how they feel about their work, what they value, and how they want to be seen and known by others. This is a great starting point for implementing change.Visit www.kellybargabos.com to listen to all past episodes and/or connect with Kelly.
2021-02-0922 minALL THERE ISWhat the World Needs Now...What the World Needs Now, is Leadership, sweet Leadership, it's the only thing that there's just too little of....Authentic Leaders provide Vision, Unity, Inspiration and Strength, and we all know it when we see it.Send us a textGet your copy of Loving Lavender Finch, Kelly's debut novel, at Amazon/Barnes & Noble. Visit www.kellybargabos.com to listen to all past episodes and/or connect with Kelly.
2021-02-0316 minHERE TO LEADAdvance Change: Give It TimeHow long will it take to advance the change I need? Well that depends. In the context of advancing change, we need to understand two things:1) That Time is RelativeJust like boiling a pot of water...it depends on the temperature you're beginning at, the size of the pot, and how intense the flame is. 2) We must be willing to Go The DistanceWhat does “Go the distance” mean? Well if you’re a boxer, it means you last the entire fight or 15 rounds. If you’re a major league baseball pitcher, it means y...
2021-02-0224 minALL THERE ISChange Is...Change is opportunity and potential, new beginnings and better versions, exciting and dangerous. It is also, hard work, often associated with loss and will force me to give up something I like or love very much, or at the very least have grown very comfortable with. It is human nature to dislike change and to avoid it at all costs. Regardless of human nature, change is a necessary reality and without it, crisis will occur.Change is the intersection of discernment, discovery and determination, or said another way:Change = Discernment + Discovery + Determination...
2021-01-2722 minHERE TO LEADAdvance Change: Courageous DecisionsChange is necessary. And hard. It takes Courageous Decisions to ignite change, but the small, day by day choices are the fuel that keep the fire of change burning.Courageous Decisions are achieved with these three steps:1) Decisions: Make the right decision to begin with. Quality decision-making is a skill that must be developed at the leadership level.2) Choices: The choices you make on a daily basis will either compromise or protect the decision you just made.3) Pivot: Be willing to walk away if necessary, know when to fold 'em.
2021-01-2641 minALL THERE ISFrom Stonewall to SEE-throughWhen it comes to discussing difficult topics, we're taught from a young age to avoid those that hold a lot of power and passion for us at all costs. Polarizing topics like race, politics, religion...All this avoiding has left us with a significant gap in the skills we need to really share this human experience and SEE each other. Often when these topics come up we stonewall in defense to a perceived threat. We avoid it because we don’t know HOW to do it in a way that is respectful, loving, kind and productive.
2021-01-2028 minHERE TO LEADAdvance Change: Operational Excellence (Pull the Weeds)OPERATIONAL EXCELLENCEWhat is it? Why do I need it? How do I get it?We’ve established that change is often a reaction to internal or external forces. But it can also be purposeful and intentional and part of the culture of the organization, department or team. The term operational excellence by itself sounds abstract and lofty. Here’s how I define it: Operational Excellence is a way to create intentional change before it becomes a crisis or barrier to executing strategy, growth or bus...
2021-01-1946 minALL THERE ISConsider the ElephantConsider the Elephant. Often, we keep ourselves tethered to other people's ideas of who we should be and what we should be doing, not realizing that we have the power within to pull up the stake and cord that holds us and create our own path. Send us a textGet your copy of Loving Lavender Finch, Kelly's debut novel, at Amazon/Barnes & Noble. Visit www.kellybargabos.com to listen to all past episodes and/or connect with Kelly.
2021-01-1304 minHERE TO LEADAdvance Change: Why is it so hard?What does Change mean to you?Change is one of those words, like leadership, that has many different definitions depending on who is discussing it and the context around it. For me, I’ve come to realize that Change is the intersection of discernment, discovery and determination, or for my accountant friends, Change = Discernment + Discovery + Determination.It is human nature to dislike change and to avoid it at all costs. Regardless of human nature, change is a necessary reality and without it, crisis will occur. Not only do our tea...
2021-01-1224 minALL THERE ISFinding Harmony: Spirit, Soul and BodyIn this episode we discuss finding that state of harmony and peace within ourselves through feeding our Spirit, nourishing our Body and tending our Soul.Send us a textGet your copy of Loving Lavender Finch, Kelly's debut novel, at Amazon/Barnes & Noble. Visit www.kellybargabos.com to listen to all past episodes and/or connect with Kelly.
2021-01-0627 minHERE TO LEADExecute Strategy: Guardrails for Quality Decision MakingThe Red Light Green Light Decision Matrix and the Crossroads 2 x2 graph are practical and useful guardrails for quality decision making and will help you and your team execute strategy. These tools will give you the courage, the platform and the support you need when the answer is no, and they will also give you the confidence and courage you need when your answer is yes. Visit www.kellybargabos.com to listen to all past episodes and/or connect with Kelly.
2021-01-0520 minHERE TO LEADExecute Strategy: Do The Right ThingsWhen it comes to executing strategy, one of the challenges or road blocks we can encounter is that we spend our precious time and resources doing the wrong things. How does this happen to good leaders? 1) We get distracted by good ideas2) We are often unwilling or unable to pull the plug when a project isn't performing like we thought it would3) We get off-track and aren't sure how to find our way backVisit www.kellybargabos.com to listen to all past episodes and/or connect with Kelly.
2020-12-2925 minALL THERE ISDon't Waste The MagicLet's talk about GARBAGE! Generating waste is part of the human condition. It is unavoidable. But how long we hold onto it is up to us. Keep your waste container small and empty it often. That's where the magic is. Send us a textGet your copy of Loving Lavender Finch, Kelly's debut novel, at Amazon/Barnes & Noble. Visit www.kellybargabos.com to listen to all past episodes and/or connect with Kelly.
2020-12-2311 minALL THERE ISNarcolepsy Is No JokeIn this episode, listeners will learn about Narcolepsy. Often, this neurological disease is undiagnosed and misunderstood. Its impact can be crippling to those who are diagnosed with it. Send us a textGet your copy of Loving Lavender Finch, Kelly's debut novel, at Amazon/Barnes & Noble. Visit www.kellybargabos.com to listen to all past episodes and/or connect with Kelly.
2020-12-1620 minALL THERE ISInvisible DisabilitiesHelping others with ID through awareness, understanding and acceptance.Send us a textGet your copy of Loving Lavender Finch, Kelly's debut novel, at Amazon/Barnes & Noble. Visit www.kellybargabos.com to listen to all past episodes and/or connect with Kelly.
2020-12-0919 minALL THERE ISChasing The Merry-Go-RoundTrue story of what it's like to live in a world that moves too fast.Send us a textGet your copy of Loving Lavender Finch, Kelly's debut novel, at Amazon/Barnes & Noble. Visit www.kellybargabos.com to listen to all past episodes and/or connect with Kelly.
2020-12-0228 minHERE TO LEADIntro: You're a leader, so what?What good are leadership skills if they are not applied consistently on a daily basis to execute strategy, advance change, and drive results? What good are you to yourself or anyone else if you are not effective in getting things done?This first episode introduces the podcast HERE TO LEAD as well as the host, Kelly Bargabos.Visit www.kellybargabos.com to listen to all past episodes and/or connect with Kelly.
2020-11-2815 min