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Breaking Free from Narcissistic Abuse
The Part No One Talks About: What It Really Takes to Heal from Narcissistic Abuse
Send us a textThis week, I’m pulling back the curtain on something few of us talk about—the emotional toll of surviving narcissistic abuse after the relationship ends. Healing is hard. Helping others heal while still navigating your own recovery? Even harder. In this episode, I share why I’m taking a short summer hiatus—and how you can still stay connected and supported during this time. 💌 For Paid Substack Subscribers: Here’s What’s Ahead This Summer -July 9th @ 5pm CT – Ask Me Anything: A Real Conversation with Dr. Kerry → RSVP Here (ht...
2025-06-02
09 min
Breaking Free from Narcissistic Abuse
What’s Wrong With Me? Why Abuse Victims Believe They're the Narcissist
Send us a textThis US holiday weekend, let’s revisit three of your favorite podcast episodes. Interestingly, they all have the same theme: why narcissistic abuse survivors initially think they’re the problem.Clip 1 is from Season 3 Episode 64: "How mad can I make you?" The Toxic Games Covert Narcissists Play”Video: https://youtu.be/pfU0y1ycgtgAudio: https://www.buzzsprout.com/2150391/episodes/15052505Clip 2 is from Seoson 3 Episode 57: “Am I The Narcissist? When Toxic People Accuse You of Being The Problem”Video: https://youtu.be/wwKnai4Gu2M
2025-05-26
25 min
Breaking Free from Narcissistic Abuse
Have Bad Taste in Partners? The Red Flags We Often Miss
Send us a textWhy do we pick bad partners? Is purely because of deception or are we missing early warning signs of a toxicity?This week, author and clinician, Mary Crocker Cook joins us to discuss the problems of early socialization and different expectation in the dysfunctional relationship.Looking for the Podcast Extra Interview with Mary Crocker Cook?🔹 Are you wondering how to exit a toxic relationship safely? Mary shares some powerful no-nonsense advice on how to prepare to leave. Subscribe to our Podcast Exclusive newsletter to hear the...
2025-05-19
25 min
Breaking Free from Narcissistic Abuse
How Your Relationship Changes When Your Partner Has Narcissism and ADHD
Send us a textCan someone be both narcissistic and neurodivergent?This week, ADHD coach and neurodiversity educator Sheila Henson joins Dr. Kerry to explore the nuanced overlap between narcissistic traits and ADHD. Together, they unpack how these two very different dynamics can sometimes co-exist—and what that means for the health of your relationship.Looking for the Podcast Extra Interview with Sheila Henson?🔹 Are you wondering if your narcissistic partner who’s struggling with ADHD can change? Sheila shares some powerful no-nonsense advice on how to assess the viabili...
2025-05-12
27 min
Breaking Free from Narcissistic Abuse
When Is It Really Over? The Top Signs a Dying Relationship
Send us a textIs your relationship displaying signs that it’s over? Maybe it’s on its last legs, and you wonder if it can be saved?In this episode, Dr. Becky Whetstone delves into the complexities of relationships, particularly focusing on the challenges faced during marriage crises. She shares her experiences and insights as a marriage therapist, emphasizing the importance of self-awareness and recognizing the signs of an unhealthy relationship.Looking for the Podcast Extra Interview with Dr. Becky Whetstone? 🔹 What do you know that your relationship is no lo...
2025-05-05
30 min
Breaking Free from Narcissistic Abuse
Are You an Over-Functioner? The Problem of Doing Too Much
Send us a textAre you living with a narcissist or a stressfully demanding person? These types of relationships often require us to step up with extra emotional labor without us even realizing it. This week, psychotherapist and author Terri Cole joins us to explore the hidden costs of high-functioning codependency. Learn why over-helping is often a trauma response, not a personality trait—and what to do if you're living with a boundary bully.Looking for the Podcast Extra Interview with Terri Cole? 🔹What should you do if you can’t...
2025-04-28
23 min
Breaking Free from Narcissistic Abuse
When Your Best Friend is a Narcissist: Cost of Toxic Female Relationships
Send us a textAre female friendships just as damaging as pathological love relationships?This week, Sabrina Kirberg, author of We Used to be Best Friends, joins us to discuss the harmful consequences of toxic women friendships. Learn why we often miss spotting toxic female relationships and their common harmful dynamics.Looking for the Podcast Extra Interview with Sabrina Kirberg?🔹Does your best friend fit one of the toxic female stereotypes? Learn the most common toxic women relationships when you subscribe to our Podcast Exclusive newsletter. Gain imme...
2025-04-21
24 min
Breaking Free from Narcissistic Abuse
The Shocking Psychological Cost of Living with a Narcissist: Interview with Lynn Strathdee
Send us a textLiving with a narcissistic or emotionally toxic person will wreak havoc on your personality or sense of self. This week, Lynn Strathdee, mental health therapist and expert, joins us today to discuss the effects of chronic exposure to narcissistic abuse. Learn how dysfunctional relationship shapes your personality, giving “echoistic” tendencies. Looking for the Podcast Extra Interview with Lynn Strathdee? 🔹Can the psychological damage done to our personality be repaired? Learn the practical steps Lynn recommends we take to heal from narcissistic abuse when you subscribe to our P...
2025-04-14
29 min
Breaking Free from Narcissistic Abuse
Why Betrayal Keeps Abuse Survivors Trapped in a Victim Mindset: Interview with Dr. Debi Silber
Send us a textAre you trying to heal from a betrayal? If you have survived a narcissistic relationship then you have experienced betrayal. Often repetitive, devastating breaches of trust.This week, Dr. Debi Silber joins us to discuss how to rebuild renewed confidence after betrayal. She outlines the five stages of betrayal recovery as well the common pitfalls that keep survivors stalled from fully healing after abuse. Looking for the Podcast Extra Interview with Dr. Silber?🔹Is your healing at risk of being stalled after surviving betray...
2025-04-07
25 min
Breaking Free from Narcissistic Abuse
Why Sex Goes Wrong in a Narcissistic Relationship: An Interview with Dr. Lisha Antiqua
Send us a textToxic relationships tremendously impact our emotional selves, but what about our sexual selves? Dr. Lisha Antiqua, an expert in sexual intimacy and soul psychology, joins us to discuss how common toxic dynamics in narcissistic relationships, such as objectification and transactional relationships, diminish our intimate connection with one another. She also defines the importance of healthy interpersonal and sexual boundaries. Looking for the Podcast Interview with Dr. Lisha Antiqua?🔹Is it ever abusive to say no to sex? Learn in this week's exclusive Podcast Extra...
2025-03-31
26 min
Breaking Free from Narcissistic Abuse
Is It Narcissism or Autism? When Neurodivergence Is Used as an Excuse
Send us a textIs it autism or narcissism? It’s become trendy lately to excuse toxic/abusive behavior as neurodivergence.Today, Erica Little-Herron, an expert/advocate on autism, joins us to discuss the key differences between narcissism and autism.Looking for the Podcast Interview with Erica Little-Herron?🔹Learn in this week's exclusive Podcast Extra interview why Erica Little-Herron thinks the autistic community is frequently targeted by narcissists when you subscribe to the Breaking Free from Narc Abuse newsletter. Gain immediate access to over 45 video...
2025-03-24
26 min
Breaking Free from Narcissistic Abuse
When It’s Necessary to Go No Contact With a Narcissistic Mother: A Conversation with Alex Anderson, FOG Movie
Send us a textGoing no contact with a parent, particularly when it’s your mother, is a gut-wrenching decision.Alex Anderson, an independent film-maker and writer joins me to discuss his timely movie, FOG, which explores a toxic mother-daughter dynamics. He describes how Fog-Obligation-Guilt drives this challenging relationship.Learn more about Alex and his work here: https://www.youtube.com/@alexanderson2467To watch the FOG trailer: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DacCvo7ngLASee the full movie of FOG here: https://youtu.be/aAknjJiYZJA?si=blSq5URg7RG...
2025-03-17
23 min
Breaking Free from Narcissistic Abuse
The Disturbing Reasons Why Men Justify Violence Against Women: Interview with Chuck Derry, Co-Founder of Gender Violence Institute
Send us a textWhy do men abuse? How does this behavior benefit them?Today, Chuck Derry, the co-founder of the Gender Violence Institute, joins us to discuss the disturbing reasons for male violence and what community responses are needed to curb these toxic/dangerous behaviors.To learn more about the results of Chuck Derry’s study, visit: https://voicemalemagazine.org/abusive-men-describe-the-benefits-of-violence/Gender Violence Institute: https://www.genderviolenceinstitute.orgLooking for the Podcast Interview with Chuck Derry?🔹Learn what steps Derry thinks we need to take...
2025-03-10
22 min
Breaking Free from Narcissistic Abuse
When Your Ex’s New Life Looks Like a Dream After They Shattered Yours
Send us a textYou’re barely picking up the pieces, and your ex has already moved on—posting picture-perfect snapshots of their new, fabulous life. Meanwhile, you're left wondering: Were they always this happy, or is this just for show? In this episode, Dr. Kerry and Lisa Sonni dive into why narcissists and toxic personalities seem to seamlessly transition into a "perfect" new relationship. Is it real, or is it just another illusion? And if you’re struggling with the gut-punch of watching your ex’s highlight reel, we’ve got practical strategies to help you br...
2025-03-03
24 min
Breaking Free from Narcissistic Abuse
Could Your Partner Be Sadistic? Why We Excuse Cruelty in Relationships
Send us a textEver wondered if your partner’s cruelty is intentional? Do they know they’re being hurtful, or is it just thoughtlessness?This week, Dr. Kerry and Lisa Sonni expose a chilling but often-overlooked dynamic in toxic relationships: sadism.Learn what sadism really is, how it shows up in narcissistic partnerships, and why some toxic individuals seem to take pleasure in your pain. ➡️ Want to watch the Podcast Extra Interview? https://substack.com/@breakingfreenarcabuse🔹 Need support? Get expert insights and practical st...
2025-02-24
25 min
Breaking Free from Narcissistic Abuse
The Four Most Dangerous Personalities Types to Avoid: An Interview with Joe Navarro, Former FBI Special Agent
Send us a textWhat signs warn that we’ve met not just a toxic person, but someone dangerous?This week Joe Navarro, author and former FBI special agent joins us to discuss the four most dangerous personalities. Navarro is most well-known for his work as a body language expert. He’s authored several books, including What Every Body is Saying, Dangerous Personalities, Louder Than Words, and The Dictionary of Body Language.To Watch the Podcast Extra Interview▶︎ Get practical help on how to recognize and escape a dangerous situatio...
2025-02-17
28 min
Breaking Free from Narcissistic Abuse
When the Narcissist Says They Love You: Are They Lying?
Send us a textNarcissists often claim to love us. That they want the save the relationship; but do they?In this episode, Dr. Kerry and Lisa Sonni discuss the confusing dynamic of narcissistic partners claiming to be changing and addressing the relationship issues, only aren’t. Learn how survivors can tell the difference between genuine effort from sophisticated manipulation.Is it tricky to distinguish real from fake love? Be sure to check out this week’s podcast extra on how to spot someone lying about their intentions. Get immediate access to this exclu...
2025-02-10
28 min
Breaking Free from Narcissistic Abuse
Why Toxic Relationships Always Leave Us Traumatized and Confused: An Interview with Dr. Peter Salerno
Send us a textNarcissists know they are being abusive--that they're being manipulative and exploitative. This week, Dr. Peter Salerno is back to discuss his latest book, Traumatizing Cognitive Dissonance. He discusses with Lisa Sonni why abusive relationships with narcissists leave survivors feeling psychologically battered and confused. Are you looking for help battling the mental confusion caused by a narcissist? Dr. Salerno gives practical steps to reduce this mental confusion so that mental clarity and peace are possible again in this week's Substack Breaking Free Podcast Extra. Get immediate access to this and ot...
2025-02-03
26 min
Breaking Free from Narcissistic Abuse
Controlled by Guilt: A Popular Tool Narcissists Love to Use Against You
Send us a textNarcissists will use any means to control you, especially guilt.In this episode, Dr. Kerry and Lisa discuss the common reasons guilt is such a powerful weapon in the hands of a narcissist or toxic personality.For practical examples of common guilt phrases and how to break free from this toxic dynamic, join the Podcast Extra’s newsletter on SubStack for immediate access to this week’s exclusive video.Join here: substack.com/@breakingfreenarcabuse****************************************Stay in Touch with Us!Ke...
2025-01-27
26 min
Breaking Free from Narcissistic Abuse
Why Narcissists Are So Good At Disturbing Our Peace: Interview with Anna Runkle, Crappy Childhood Fairy
Send us a textHave you noticed how upset narcissists get? How they can't regulate themselves?Anna Runkle of the wildly popular Crappy Childhood Fairy YouTube channel joins me today to talk about the importance of learning how to regulate yourself, especially after living with a narcissist.Learn more about the role of psychological regulation plays in setting us free from the lingering effects of trauma and abuse.Want to know the first steps to gaining peace and control after an upsetting event? Find out Anna's recommendations when you become a...
2025-01-20
25 min
Breaking Free from Narcissistic Abuse
The Little Known Reasons Why Love-Bombing Works Every Time: Interview with Nadine Macaluso, Ex-Wife of the Wolf of Wall Street
Send us a textThere are powerful psychological reasons why love bombing works nearly every time. In this episode, Dr. Nadine Macaluso, the ex-wife of the Wolf of Wall Street shares what she’s uncovered about why we fall so easily spellbound for a toxic or narcissistic individual. What questions you have asked Dr. Nae about the movie, The Wolf of Wall Street? Find out ours when you subscribe to the Podcast Extra Substack newsletter. Unlock access here: http://substack.com/@breakingfreenarcabuseTo learn more about Dr. Nadine Macaluso (often known to...
2025-01-13
24 min
Breaking Free from Narcissistic Abuse
When You Return to the Abuse: Why It Takes 7 Tries to Leave a Narcissist
Send us a textVictims return to a narcissistically abusive relationship an average of seven times.In this episode, Lisa and I discuss why leaving a narcissist or toxic partner is so extremely difficult and share some thoughts on how to view leaving differently. Are you struggling to stay out of a toxic relationship? Does your partner’s emotional pleas or guilting convince you to stay? Learn practical steps to leaving a toxic relationship for good in this week’s Podcast Extra. Get immediate access by subscribing to Substack here: substack.com/@breakingfreenarcabuse
2025-01-06
26 min
Breaking Free from Narcissistic Abuse
How Narcissists' Use Breadcrumbs of Love to Create an Agonizing Confusion
Send us a textTrauma bonds are one of the most misunderstood yet powerful connections that narcissists and toxic individuals exploit to keep their partners trapped.These bonds create a confusing dynamic where the very person causing harm becomes the source of comfort—a cycle that is as addictive as it is painful.In this replay of a fan-favorite episode, Lisa Sonni joins me to break down the making and breaking of trauma bonds. Together, we uncover how these devastating ties form, why they’re so hard to escape, and what you...
2024-12-30
33 min
Breaking Free from Narcissistic Abuse
Everything You Need to Know About Narcissism from 3 Experts: Dr. Les Carter, Dr. Peter Salerno, and Bill Eddy
Send us a textToday you are in for a treat with a longer interview, featuring three of my favorite experts on narcissism: Dr. Les Carter, Dr. Peter Salerno, and Bill Eddy.In this episode, each of these men will describe what is narcissism, how narcissists view relationships, and why they behave as bullies.Instead of a podcast extra interview, this week I’m offering a holiday survival guide to help you get ready to spent time the very people you’ve probably tried to avoid all week.Learn how to mana...
2024-12-23
51 min
Breaking Free from Narcissistic Abuse
Why "Just Leave" is Terrible Advice: How Narcissists Keep You Trapped
Send us a textHave you been told that you should just leave? In this episode, Lisa Sonni and I discuss why this advice severely misses the mark. Why exiting a narcissistically abusive relationship is difficult and even dangerous for most abuse survivors. Resources Mentioned in the EpisodeThe Gift of Fear by Gavin de BeckerCharacter Disturbance by George SimonDangerous Personalities by Joe NavarroThe Passionate Marriage by Dr. David SchnarchAre struggling to figure out what you should do in that toxic...
2024-12-16
25 min
Breaking Free from Narcissistic Abuse
Could This Be Right for You? New Help and Hope for Narcissistic Abuse Survivors
Send us a textNarcissistic abuse often leaves devastating consequences to the survivor’s confidence and self-esteem.Today, Kristin Arden, DNP, APRN, PMHNP-BC, Mindbloom’s Clinical Director, and Shari Botwin, LCSW, trauma counselor, join me to discuss the use of ketamine therapy as a new alternate treatment option for trauma survivors.If you would like to learn more about Mindbloom or ketamine therapy, please see https://mindbloom.com/kerrym100. To take advantage of the $100 off total of your first two treatments, use discount code “kerrym100.”Did you know the brain is malleabl...
2024-12-09
28 min
Breaking Free from Narcissistic Abuse
Brainwashed & Spellbound: How Narcissistic Abuse is Really a Cult of Two
Send us a textHave you considered that a narcissistically abusive relationship is actually a cult of two?Daniella Mestyanek-Young, author of Uncultured and expert in cult dynamics, joins us to discuss the similarities between cult leaders and narcissists.Be sure to follow Daniella!TikTok - @knittingcultladyWebsite: Uncultureyourself.comAnd get a copy of her book, Uncultured: https://amzn.to/3CDhFcYCould you be in a coercively controlling relationship? In this week’s podcast extra, Daniella tackles how to wake up to toxic and covert manipulation and co...
2024-12-02
24 min
Breaking Free from Narcissistic Abuse
Being Taken for Granted? How to Protect Your Big-Heartedness from Toxic People's Manipulation
Send us a textAs a nod to this week’s holidays, let’s revisit three of my favorite episodes that discuss how to handle being too big- or kind-hearted.We at the Breaking Free from Narcissistic Abuse podcast hope you have a wonderful Thanksgiving holiday!Are you interested in the Podcast Extra Interviews?Get immediate access by subscribing to the Breaking Free from Narcissistic Abuse Substack newsletter. Every Podcast Extra interview can be found inside the weekly newsletter. You’ll also get helpful tips, explanations, and strategies for dealing with troubl...
2024-11-25
28 min
Breaking Free from Narcissistic Abuse
The High Cost of Toxic Relationships on Health, Wealth, and Peace of Mind
Send us a textNarcissistic relationships are parasitic in nature. Toxic personalities often drain others of their time, money, attention, and resources.In this podcast, Lisa Sonni joins me to discuss the high and sometimes hidden cost of narcissistic relationships.Reference: The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel Van de Kolk: https://amzn.to/3AtGt6zReady to heal from narcissistic abuse? Join Lisa and my upcoming Healing Strong live group coaching. Groups limits to 8 and the next group begins Jan 9, 2024. Secure your spot here! Looking for direction on...
2024-11-18
25 min
Breaking Free from Narcissistic Abuse
Feeling Confused? How Toxic People Keep Us Baffled and Stuck
Send us a textHave you noticed that when you’re finally ready to leave, your toxic or narcissistic partner suddenly does something amazing? Do they keep you off balance and confused about the state of the relationship?In this episode, Lisa Sonni joins me to discuss how narcissists and other toxic people use emotional manipulation to keep their partners and loved ones psychologically stuck in a bad relationship.And, in this week’s Podcast Extra, Lisa and I discuss one listener’s struggles to leave. Learn what helpful suggestions and strategies we sugges...
2024-11-11
26 min
Breaking Free from Narcissistic Abuse
When You Can't Leave or Stay: How to Recognize a Trauma Bond
Send us a textThere comes a point when you know you need to leave, but you can’t. The connection with your loved one is too powerful. In this episode, Rossana Faye joins me to discuss the signs and symptoms of a late-stage trauma bond. If you think you’ve been trauma bonded, become a subscriber today and get immediate access to the exclusive podcast extra interview on the first steps to finding enough strength to save yourself. Subscribe here: https://breakingfreenarcabuse.substack.com/ Did you know you don't need to wa...
2024-11-04
23 min
Breaking Free from Narcissistic Abuse
When You've Been Driven Mad and Snap: The Power of Reactive Abuse
Send us a textHas someone driven you to the breaking point? When you just lose it and snap? This week, Rossana Faye joins me to discuss the destructive power of reactive abuse. Victims often feel terribly guilty afterward, yet they’ve been deliberately provoked into reacting.To learn how to stop reactive abuse, subscribe for immediate access to the practical steps on this week’s Podcast Extra. Join here: https://substack.com/@breakingfreenarcabuseDid you know you don't need to wait a week for your next podcast fix? For only $5/mont...
2024-10-28
24 min
Breaking Free from Narcissistic Abuse
Is it Just the Silent Treatment or Really Rejection? Why Stonewalling is Harmful
Send us a textIs it Just the Silent Treatment or Really Rejection? Why Stonewalling is HarmfulSilence occurs for many reasons, but sometimes it’s intentionally used as punishment.Rossana Faye joins me in this podcast episode to discuss why stonewalling is so painful. Silence can be weaponized to send powerful messages of rage and rejection.Are you struggling to recognize stonewalling? Maybe your partner is just emotionally overwhelmed. In this week’s Podcast Extra, Ro and I discuss the differences between being emotionally flooded and giving someone the silent trea...
2024-10-21
24 min
Breaking Free from Narcissistic Abuse
Why is My Partner a Narcissist? Which is it—A Nature or Nurture Problem?
Send us a textAre narcissists born or made? And why does this question matter, considering the terrible toll of narcissistic abuse?This week, psychotherapist Dr. Peter Salerno joins me to discuss the root causes of narcissism along with the common misunderstandings about Narcissistic Personality Disorder. Learn the importance of understanding the underpinning of this character makeup when it comes to healing and recovery.Follow Dr. Peter Salerno on social media: @drpetersalernoLearn more about him: https://www.drpetersalerno.comCheck out his new book, The Nature and Nurture of N...
2024-10-14
24 min
Breaking Free from Narcissistic Abuse
Does Childhood Abuse Leave a Lasting Legacy in Adult Relationships: An Interview with Nia Renee
Send us a textWhat is the impact of childhood abuse on adult relationships? Can children overcome early trauma?Nia Renee joins me this week to discuss the lasting legacy of abuse. She describes the impact of chronic gaslighting and neglect on her later relationships. Learn what role resiliency and determination played in helping break the abuse cycle.Could your child be showing signs of trauma? Learn how to spot early signs of distress in this week’s Podcast Extra. Become a paid subscriber and get weekly exclusive interviews along with helpful healing ti...
2024-10-07
23 min
Breaking Free from Narcissistic Abuse
How Narcissistic Abuse Could Cost You Your Identity: The Dangers of Echoism
Send us a textAre you speaking up less? Fawning more? There’s a high cost to living with a narcissist, and it could be your identity.This week, Lynn Strathdee, psychodynamic therapist, joins me to discuss echoism, the true opposite personality style to narcissism. She shares how fawning could result in a loss of our very self.To learn more about Lynn’s work:Website: https://www.echoismrecovery.comTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theechochamber?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pcLynn Strathdee is a ded...
2024-09-30
24 min
Breaking Free from Narcissistic Abuse
How Relationships Become Dangerous: The Slow Shift from Toxic to Deadly
Send us a textDangerous relationships rarely begin physically abusive. Initially, you think you’ve met a fantastic partner, but slowly, the toxicity turns into something more insidious and lethal.Trigger warning: this week, Lisa Sonni and I share vulnerable details of how we missed the early signs of danger in our narcissistic relationships.IF YOU ARE A RISK of immediate danger or abuse, please get in touch with the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 800-799-7233.References: Why Does He Do That? by Lundy Bancroft https://amzn.to/4e505fw
2024-09-23
24 min
Breaking Free from Narcissistic Abuse
If You're in a Narcissistic Relationship, Why Couples Therapy is a Bad Idea
Send us a textWhen there’s trouble in a relationship, most couples are urged to seek couples counseling.In today’s episode, Lisa Sonni joins me to talk about why this suggestion is a terrible idea if your partner is a narcissist. Too many couples therapists lack the education to identify narcissistic abuse, and narcissistic and toxic partners are highly sophisticated at manipulating the therapeutic process.For help breaking a trauma bond, see Lisa’s resources: https://strongerthanbefore.caIn the Subscriber's Edition, Lisa and I discuss alternative strategies to couple...
2024-09-16
25 min
Breaking Free from Narcissistic Abuse
Why Narcissists Have Problems with Being Securely Attached to You
Send us a textWhat’s the connection between attachment styles and narcissism? This week, Dr. Erin Leonard, a practicing psychotherapist, joins me to discuss the common problems narcissists have with emotional intelligence and creating secure connections with others. She’s recently authored How to Outsmart a Narcissist, where she describes the best ways to protect ourselves from narcissists’ efforts to manipulate and exploit. More about Dr. Leonard: BOOK- How to Outsmart a Narcissist: Use Emotional Intelligence to Regain Control at Home, at Work, and in Life by Erin Leonard: https://amzn.to/3z32yrI WEBSITE- https...
2024-09-09
25 min
Breaking Free from Narcissistic Abuse
Dr. Carter's Best Advice About Narcissists That Every Survivor Needs to Know
Send us a textHave you wondered what a narcissist was thinking? Why would they do what they do? Do they intentionally know they were being cruel?This week, I’m going to re-release an interview I did with Dr. Carter in 2023. In it, he gave a unique perspective on the narcissist’s mindset and explained their worldview and defensiveness. Learn how they so effectively turn the tables on us, making us think we’re the crazy ones. Stay safe this week! I look forward to having you back for our new episode featuri...
2024-09-02
29 min
Breaking Free from Narcissistic Abuse
Why Family Court Too Often Takes the Side of the Narcissistic Abuser
Send us a textHave you noticed that too off family court becomes just another battle ground for the narcissist? Lisa Sonni joins me this week to discuss post-separation of abuse. Most of us passionately want to protect our children from our toxic ex only to experience more helplessness in the mediation and courtrooms. To learn how to tip the scales in your favor legally, join me for the Podcast Extra interview by becoming a paid subscriber. Learn the common mistake too many parents make, and what to do instead. Get immediate access...
2024-08-26
24 min
Breaking Free from Narcissistic Abuse
Why Most People, Including the Victim, Fail to Recognize Narcissistic Abuse
Send us a textAre you being abused and don’t know it? Not only is society blind to narcissistic abuse, but so are most victims. In this episode, Lisa Sonni joins me to talk about why narcissistic abuse is so difficult to spot, even to the victims, and the role this plays in the difficulty of getting help.To learn how to break your silence and society’s denial in this week’s podcast extra interview with Lisa. You get access to this resource along with twenty other amazing interviews with experts like D...
2024-08-19
29 min
Breaking Free from Narcissistic Abuse
Bill Eddy's Best Advice For Dealing with Narcissistic Bullies
Send us a textEvery person who has dealt with a narcissist has been bullied. This week, expert and author Bill Eddy joins me to discuss what we get wrong about bullying behavior and the practical steps we all should take to better protect ourselves from antagonistic and vindictive people. To learn more about Bill Eddy and his work, visit: https://highconflictinstitute.comAnd be sure to check out his latest book, Our New World of Adult Bullies: How to Spot Them - How to Stop Them: https://amzn.to/3Abr0...
2024-08-12
28 min
Breaking Free from Narcissistic Abuse
Why Sometimes It Feels Wrong or Immoral to Leave a Narcissist
Send us a textLeaving is a moral choice. Often, breaking up or divorce is viewed as a personal choice, but it has ramifications and is character-defining. Rossana Faye joins me this week to discuss why sometimes it becomes a moral dilemma to leave our narcissistic partner. Deciding to divorce is often not as clear-cut for many of us. Did you know you don't need to wait a week for your next podcast fix? For only $5/month, sign up for weekly podcast extras! Join me on Substack! Follow Dr. McAvoy!
2024-08-05
23 min
Breaking Free from Narcissistic Abuse
When Your Partner is a Narcissist, Why the Term "Narcissistic" Matters
Send us a textThese days, it seems like everyone is a narcissist. Is the label of narcissist or narcissistic harmful or helpful? This week, Lisa Sonni joins me to discuss the importance and impact of identifying narcissistic abuse and dysfunctional relationship dynamics. Did you know you don't need to wait a week for your next podcast fix? For only $5/month, sign up for weekly podcast extras! Join me on Substack! Follow Dr. McAvoy!YouTube: @kerrymcavoyphdInstagram: @kerrymcavoyphdFacebook: @kerrymcavoyphdE-mail: hello@kerrymcavoyphd.comNewsletter: https://breakingfreenarcabuse.substack.com/ Website: https://www.break...
2024-07-29
25 min
Breaking Free from Narcissistic Abuse
Best Advice for Divorcing a Narcissist Without Losing Your Sh*t: Interview with The Dirty Laundry Podcast
Send us a textDivorcing a narcissist often ends up a contentious battle. Victims come into court shaken up and traumatized, whereas their toxic ex appears poised and confident. Today, two Toronto legal mediators, Amanda Silver and Alex Howard, are joining me. They are also the co-hosts of the Dirty Laundry Podcast. They are going to share how to protect your interests better when leaving a narcissist. To learn more about Amanda and Alex, please see: Podcast: https://dirtylaundry.buzzsprout.comYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCJxM73RNPkuk5doIOcqelWA
2024-07-22
28 min
Breaking Free from Narcissistic Abuse
When You Can't Leave: How to Survive a Narcissistic Relationship
Send us a textWhat if you're not going to leave a narcissist? What if leaving isn't possible? Is there a way to survive a toxic relationship? Sometimes, leaving a toxic relationship isn't possible due to complex reasons. Lisa Sonni joins me this week to discuss why some victims find themselves trapped in a bad partnership and what to do if this describes your situation. Resources Referenced:Should I Stay or Should I Go? Surviving a Relationship with a Narcissist by Dr. Ramani Durvasula: https://amzn.to/4cx4cAe...
2024-07-15
26 min
Breaking Free from Narcissistic Abuse
Stop trauma dumping on me! How to know if you're trauma dumping vs. trauma reprocessing
Send us a textHave you heard of trauma dumping? It’s become a new way to attack victims for talking about their narcissistic abuse experiences. Rossana Faye joins me as this week’s special guest to explore the importance of sharing your trauma and the role it plays in helping you heal from abuse. And you don’t want to miss this week’s Podcast Extra where Ro and I discuss the differences between trauma reprocessing and trauma dumping. For this exclusive interview, subscribe here: substack.com/@breakingfreenarcabuseReference: Betrayal...
2024-07-08
29 min
Breaking Free from Narcissistic Abuse
Aren't all relationships tough? Why We Struggle to Spot Narcissistic Abuse
Send us a textIn celebration of the upcoming holiday, this episode features three of our listeners’ favorites. Listen in as Tara Blair Ball and I discuss:1. How narcissistic abuse is different from emotional abuse2. Why covert narcissists are difficult to spot3. If it's true that narcissists make good loversListen to the full episodes here:S2 EP 33: Were you emotionally abused or narcissistically abused? Why the differences matterS2 EP 38: Are you trapped by a covert narcissist? The top reasons why you're not spotting covert na...
2024-07-01
26 min
Breaking Free from Narcissistic Abuse
I desperately love and fear them: The Terrifying Power of a Trauma Bond
Send us a textCould you be trauma-bonded to a narcissist? Are you battling a strange mix of love and fear? Lisa Sonni joins me this week to discuss trauma bonds--an intense connection to another person that is very difficult to break. We think we feel love when it's based on fear. Learn more about how to recognize if you're trauma-bonded and why it's so difficult to leave. Become a subscriber and get the Podcast Extra exclusive conversation about WHY identifying and breaking a trauma bond is so difficult. substack.com...
2024-06-17
30 min
Breaking Free from Narcissistic Abuse
Why Can't I Leave? The Crazy Confusion from Late-Stage Cognitive Dissonance
Send us a textHave you asked yourself, "Why can't I leave?" You know you should. You've even started hiding the ugly truth of what's really going on behind closed doors. In this episode, Lisa Sonni joins me to discuss late-stage cognitive dissonance. Learn the underlying cause of the agonizing confusion that paralyzes the victim from acting in their own best interest. Find out what it took for us to break free from its terrible grip.To learn more about cognitive dissonance, become a Podcast Extra Subscriber. This week, Lisa and I deconstruct...
2024-06-10
26 min
Breaking Free from Narcissistic Abuse
Feeling duped and conned? Why We Miss the Signs of a Covert Narcissist: An Interview with Eleni Sagredos
Send us a textHave you left a relationship feeling duped? Not just betrayed, but conned? You’ve likely met a covert narcissist.In this episode, Elena Sagredos, author of But They’re So Nice, joins me to talk about the deceptiveness of covert abuse. We often miss the signs we’ve met a covert narcissism behind their guise of niceness, only later to discover their extreme duplicity. To learn more about Eleni, you can follow her here:TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@nonarcsenseInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/no_narcsense
2024-06-03
25 min
Breaking Free from Narcissistic Abuse
Is my partner a narcissist? Highlights from Dr. Kerry's 3 Favorite Interviews
Send us a textRelationships with narcissists can be confounding, confusing, and incredibly frustrating. Join Dr. Kerry for this holiday episode when she revisits the highlights of her three favorite interviews. Hear Dr. Les Carter’s explanation of why narcissists are so tricky, Lisa Sonni’s three steps to breaking a trauma bond, and Dr. Robin Stern’s disturbing description of gaslighting’s power. To listen to these full episodes: Dr. Les Carter: https://www.breakingfreenarcissisticabuse.com/podcast/s2-ep25-why-do-narcissists-have-to-make-life-miserable-dr-les-carter-explains-narcissism/Lisa Sonni: https://www.breakingfreenarcissisticabuse.com/podcast/s2-ep27-wh...
2024-05-27
25 min
Breaking Free from Narcissistic Abuse
"We're just trying to help!" How to Manage Toxic In-Law Drama
Send us a textAre you battling toxic in-law drama? Is your mother-in-law or father-in-law intruding into your relationship or family?This week, Rossana Faye joins us to discuss common toxic in-law drama, particularly when it involves a narcissistic mother- or father-in-law. This week's self-help tip is the importance of strengthening your couple's boundaries over time. Question for you: Is your toxic mother-in-law ruining your marriage or partnership? In this week's Podcast Extra, Ro and I dive into this particularly toxic match-up. Learn how to defeat toxic in-laws by...
2024-05-20
28 min
Breaking Free from Narcissistic Abuse
"How mad can I make you?" The Toxic Games Covert Narcissists Play
Send us a textDo you find yourself exasperated or angry at your partner, but you aren’t sure why? Do they put you into no-win binds?Covert narcissists love to play subtle, often hidden mind games. They are masterful at twisting the truth, hiding exploitative agendas, and playing the victim, enraging their partners and families while keeping them in the dark. In this episode, Lisa Sonni joins to discuss the common mind games covert narcissists use. This week's self-help tip is how to use your emotional reaction and personal history to identify tox...
2024-05-13
27 min
Breaking Free from Narcissistic Abuse
"You're trying to control me!" Why Managing Boundaries with Narcissists Fails
Send us a textHave you noticed managing boundaries with narcissists always fails? That they find some tricky way to evade limit setting? Suddenly, you’re being accused of being too controlling or sensitive, or they can’t understand what you're asking. In this podcast, Lisa Sonni joins me to discuss the problems of managing boundaries with narcissists. We'll explore this issue from a narcissist's perspective: why they find boundaries threatening. The self-help tip is the importance of evaluating both partners' investment in the relationship as a measure of a healthy relationship. ...
2024-05-06
28 min
Breaking Free from Narcissistic Abuse
"You’re not taking my babies from me!" How Jessica Kent Escaped Abuse
Send us a text(Trigger Warning: This episode contains graphic descriptions of abuse.)This week, Jessica Kent, a wildly popular social media figure, joins me to share her story of escaping abuse. Jessica reveals how covert narcissistic abuse can go from subtle to violent, especially when victims leave the relationship. Jessica Kent is best known for prison reform advocacy. To learn more about her and her work:YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/JessicaKentInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/jesken12/?hl=enTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@jesken12?lang...
2024-04-29
29 min
Breaking Free from Narcissistic Abuse
How Could I Have Not Known? How Devastating Betrayals Blind Us
Send us a textSometimes, the truth can be right in front of you, but you still can't see it. Rossana Faye joins me this week to discuss a concept Dr. Jennifer Freyd, in her book Blind to Betrayal, calls “betrayal blindness.” Some truths can be so devastating that they are difficult to face. And, the self-help tip is the importance of listening to what feels off, uncomfortable, or wrong to recognize signs you may be missing critical details in your relationship or family.Blind to Betrayal: Why We Fool Ourselves When We Aren...
2024-04-22
27 min
Breaking Free from Narcissistic Abuse
Why I'd Snoop Again: How this Toxic Behavior Sometimes Provides Closure and Safety
Send us a textIs it ever okay to go through your partner's phone? I've been guilty of snooping and might consider doing it again.Narcissists and toxic personalities are masters at creating ambiguity. My ex used to readily offer me his credit card after we first started dating. He'd send photos of broken machinery and take me on company runs, all as a way to build trust so that I couldn't tell real company crises from manufactured ones. I later learned he'd created this elaborate ruse to hide a double life.
2024-04-15
28 min
Breaking Free from Narcissistic Abuse
I Think My Pet is Being Hurt! The Danger Narcissists Pose to Our Animals
Send us a textAn all-too-common problem is narcissists and pets. Toxic people often pose a serious danger to our beloved animals. In this podcast, Lisa Sonni and Dr. Kerry discuss the relationship toxic people often have with their family pets. Narcissists will often shower animals with love and attention only to harm the pets in private. The self-help tip includes some important boundaries to consider when beginning a relationship with someone new. Now, you don't need to wait a week for your next podcast fix. For only $5/month, sign up for weekly...
2024-04-08
25 min
Breaking Free from Narcissistic Abuse
Did the Church Groom Me for Abuse? When Spiritual Leadership Becomes Toxic
Send us a textHave you been a victim of spiritual abuse? It's not just interpersonal relationships that can be toxic, but also group systems and leaders. Many are stepping forward to expose toxic church leadership and oppressive and abusive spiritual belief systems. This week, Natalie Hoffman, author of Is it Me? Making Sense of Your Confusing Marriage: A Christian Woman's Guide to Hidden Emotional and Spiritual Abuse and her latest book, All the Scary Little Gods: a Memoir, joins me to discuss this sensitive topic. To learn more about Natalie, you can...
2024-04-01
29 min
Breaking Free from Narcissistic Abuse
Am I The Narcissist? When Toxic People Accuse You of Being The Problem
Send us a textHave you ever wondered, "Am I the narcissist?" Have you been accused of being the problem? In this podcast episode, Rossana Faye joins me to discuss how to know who's creating the chaos. Narcissists are notorious for never seeing themselves as the root cause, but how do we know that the issue isn't us? And the self-help tip is how to use your history to identify dysfunctional relationship patterns. Please join me for the weekly Podcast Extra! For just $5 a month, get key takeaways, helpful psychological insights and...
2024-03-25
30 min
Breaking Free from Narcissistic Abuse
Is It Really Abuse If I Can't Do What I Want? What is Coercive Control?
Send us a textIs being overly controlling a form of abuse? In this podcast episode, Lisa Sonni joins me to discuss the subtleties of coercive control. Learn how to recognize the common control tactic of this insidious form of abuse. And this week's self-help tip is to assess how your partner's feelings and demands affect you. Are you doing less and becoming increasingly isolated to please them?Would you like to learn more about this topic? Be sure to become a subscriber for the weekly Podcast Extra. Get a jam-packed...
2024-03-18
28 min
Breaking Free from Narcissistic Abuse
When Stonewalling Is Used Against You: How to Disarm Toxic Interactions
Send us a textStonewalling or giving someone the silent treatment is one of the nastiest forms of unfair fighting. When we ignore or reject another person's bid for a connection more than thirty percent of the time, the likelihood the relationship won't make it dramatically increases. In this episode, Lisa Sonni joins me to discuss why stonewalling is such a popular toxic behavior and what to do if it's happening to you. A big thank you to this podcast's sponsor, GettheTea.com. Check out their supplements and teas and get better health t...
2024-03-11
28 min
Breaking Free from Narcissistic Abuse
What's wrong with me? The Power of Gaslighting to Confuse and Control: Interview with Dr. Robin Stern
Send us a textHave you wondered what's wrong with me? This could be a sign of gaslighting. Dr. Robin Stern, psychoanalyst, author, and expert on gaslighting, joins me to discuss the underlying dynamics of a toxic or narcissistic relationship. She delves into the hidden motivations of both the gaslighter as well as the gaslightee. •Learn more about Dr. Stern: https://robinstern.com•The Gaslight Effect Podcast: https://robinstern.com/podcast/about-the-gaslight-effect-podcast/•My Interview with Dr. Stern on The Gaslight Effect Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/032-breaking-chains-dr-kerry-mcavoys-triumph-over-marital/id1645322193?i=1000637507698•T...
2024-03-04
32 min
Breaking Free from Narcissistic Abuse
When Fear of Change Keeps You from Leaving: How to Say Goodbye to a Toxic Life
Send us a textLeaving often brings along with it a fear of change. We might dread how change will affect our kids or our friendships. Maybe we're concerned about how leaving could disrupt life as we know it. In this podcast episode, Tara and Dr. Kerry discuss the fears of change they faced and how they overcame them to leave. Tara also is leaving the show and shares about her future plans. The self-help tip is the power of letter writing to find closure after leaving a toxic relationship. Jo...
2024-02-26
30 min
Breaking Free from Narcissistic Abuse
Could Your Relationship be Making You Sick? The High Cost of Living With a Narcissist
Send us a textCould living with a narcissist be making you sick? Are you struggling with more illnesses? Maybe you even have an autoimmune disease.In this podcast episode, Tara Blair Ball and Lisa Sonni discuss the invisible impact of living with a narcissist on our health. Learn how narcissists and other toxic people not only sabotage our self-care but also impact our physical and mental health. Resources: The Body Keeps the Score by Dr. Bessel Van Der Kolk- https://amzn.to/3Sh06nc ***************Did you know you don't need to wait a wee...
2024-02-19
29 min
Breaking Free from Narcissistic Abuse
Don't Trust Yourself? How Self-Doubt Keeps Us Stuck in a Bad Relationship
Send us a textAre you stuck in a bad relationship? Are you wondering if you have good enough reasons enough to leave? In this podcast episode, Rossana Faye, Rollercoaster of Love, joins to me to discuss how self-doubt can trap us in a bad relationship. How we can get stuck in our own heads, which only adds to the confusion we already feel in narcissistic relationships. And the self-help tip is the power of finding forgiveness for ourselves through acceptance and love.You don't need to wait a week for your next...
2024-02-12
27 min
Breaking Free from Narcissistic Abuse
Time to Leave? Top Dos and Don'ts When Divorcing a Narcissist: Interview with Kate Anthony
Send us a textAre you considering divorcing a narcissist? Wondering how to do it safely?In today's podcast, Kate Anthony, a High-Conflict Divorce Coach and author of The D Word, joins me to discuss how to become our own best advocate when leaving a narcissist. She covers the top dos and don'ts to exiting these challenging and even dangerous relationships. Kate Anthony: https://kateanthony.comThe D Word: Making the Ultimate Decision About Your Marriage: https://amzn.to/3HDbTHhDid you know you don't need to wait a week...
2024-02-05
28 min
Breaking Free from Narcissistic Abuse
Feeling knocked down? Defeated? Here's Kerry's secret on how to become an overcomer
Send us a textIn this episode, Tara flips the script and interviews Kerry. Dive in as Kerry reveals a hidden gem that's been her shield against tough times. Tune in to discover how you too can stand tall against the shadows of narcissistic harm.Links: How He Gets Into Her Head by Don HennesseySupport Us:Become a supporter of the show here. Get in Touch:YouTube: @breakingfreefromnarcabuseInstagram: @breakingfreefromnarcabuseFa...
2023-08-14
28 min
Breaking Free from Narcissistic Abuse
Ready for the holidays? My three top tips for dealing with difficult relatives and in-laws
Send us a textNarcissist and other difficult people love to ruin the holidays. They will find some way to make it harder on you.In this episode I’m going to offer three of my favorite tips on how to manage this year’s holiday season so that it’s more manageable and meaningful.I'll be back next year for season 2!Register now to 6 Steps to Reclaiming Inner Peace and Confidence. Group coaching with Trey de la Torre and Dr. McAvoy. Next six sessions start January 7th.Follow me on...
2022-12-22
26 min
Breaking Free from Narcissistic Abuse
I've lost my sense of self after narcissistic abuse. How do I reclaim it?
Send us a textNarcissistic abuse damages our sense of self because our sense of self is constantly in flux. An exchange of psychological influence occurs between us and those around us.This episode will look closely at this process and how abuse impacts it as well as outline some ways to begin healing self-esteem after abuse.Get early bird tickets to How Could He Do That? Live Interview with Lundy Bancroft. Watch the webinar live and have some of your questions answered. Ticketholders will also get a recording of the webinar.
2022-12-19
22 min
Breaking Free from Narcissistic Abuse
Why does every issue turn into an argument? My partner says I'm the problem
Send us a textHave you noticed how narcissists can take a seemingly straightforward decision and turn it into an exhausting, nonsensical circular argument? The constant conflict can mess with us and make us think we’re the problem.In this episode, we will explore this common dynamic, including how to determine who’s creating the problems.Register now to 6 Steps to Reclaiming Inner Peace and Confidence. Group coaching with Trey de la Torre and Dr. McAvoy. Next six sessions start January 7th.Join our community for support after narcissistic abuse? Beco...
2022-12-15
24 min
Breaking Free from Narcissistic Abuse
Is the abuse harmful to children? Two survivors share their personal experiences
Send us a textDoes abuse affect children the same way as the adult partner? Today, I’m joined by Bri Peterson of Abuse is Abuse. Both of us experienced emotional or narcissistic abuse as children and adults.In this episode, we will explore the differences between both types of abuse. Was the cognitive dissonance the same? How did that affect our sense of self?Watch the replay of the webinar with Dr. Sandra L. Brown "How Could I’ve Fallen for a Dangerous Man?"Get early bird tickets to How Coul...
2022-12-12
43 min
Breaking Free from Narcissistic Abuse
Why can't I find a therapist who knows something about narcissistic abuse?
Send us a textAnyone looking for a mental health clinician with expertise in narcissistic abuse knows this is challenging. What makes this so difficult?In this episode, we’ll explain why finding a therapist is difficult and give tips on how to vet a potential one.Watch the replay of the webinar with Dr. Sandra L. Brown "How Could I’ve Fallen for a Dangerous Man?"Get early bird tickets to How Could He Do That? Live Interview with Lundy Bancroft. Watch the webinar live and have some of your ques...
2022-12-08
28 min
Breaking Free from Narcissistic Abuse
I think I'm trauma bonded. Now what? How do I start my healing?
Send us a textTrauma bonds are painful connection with another person that is based on fear. There’s an addictive quality making them very hard to break.In this episode, we will briefly define a trauma bond and then identify the initial steps to breaking one.Get early bird tickets to How Could He Do That? Live Interview with Lundy Bancroft. Watch the webinar live and have some of your questions answered. Ticketholders will also get a recording of the webinar. Follow me on Tiktok, Instagram, Youtube and Facebook! @kerrymcavoyphd...
2022-12-05
28 min
Breaking Free from Narcissistic Abuse
Is it healthy to obsess over my past narcissistic partner and what happened to me?
Send us a textIt’s become popular to spend time thinking about psychopathic and narcissistic abuses—for us to obsess over what’s happened to us.In this episode, we’ll explore whether this way of thinking is good for us and how to tell if we’re falling into unhealthiness as we try to make sense of the past.Sandra L. Brown Webinar Video Replay. How Could I've Fallen for a Dangerous Man? Watch it here.You don't have to stay locked in the emotional prison from narcissistic abuse. Join this...
2022-12-01
29 min
Breaking Free from Narcissistic Abuse
How do I combat my partner turning every issue into a "me" problem?
Send us a textHave you heard of the acronym DARVO? It’s a nasty type of gaslighting that flips the script and attacks us when we bring up an issue.In this episode, we will address the underlying dynamic of this abusive practice along with the three steps to combatting it effectively.Sign up for the online course! First Steps to Leaving a Narcissist. Are you looking for community support after narcissistic abuse? Become a member of Dr. Kerry McAvoy's exclusive Facebook group, Toxic-Free Relationship Club! Want to re...
2022-11-28
18 min
Breaking Free from Narcissistic Abuse
How do I rebuild trust in myself after surviving narcissistic abuse?
Send us a textIt’s tough when you first leave a narcissistically abusive relationship. Your partner has made most of the decision, and over time, you’ve given up more and more of yourself, betraying yourself and your sense of safety. How is trust rebuilt?In this episode, we will examine why reclaiming our self-integrity and relying on our intuition is challenging, along with a few practical steps to begin your healing. The interview with Sandra L. Brown, mentioned several times, went fantastic. If you missed it, the replay video is now available for purc...
2022-11-21
30 min
Breaking Free from Narcissistic Abuse
What people don’t understand about abuse and why it’s hard to leave a toxic relationship
Send us a textThe most common, useless advice given to victims is just to leave. Why do we say this when we know it’s hurtful and probably, not useful?In this episode, we will examine the underlying biases and assumptions about abuse and abuse victims. Why there’s a cultural blindness to victims’ plight and how it leads us to neglect this most vulnerable group.Follow me on Tiktok, Instagram, Youtube and Facebook! @kerrymcavoyphdSign up for the online course! First Steps to Leaving a Narcissist. Are you lo...
2022-11-17
28 min
Breaking Free from Narcissistic Abuse
Should we blame victims for not spotting the signs they've met a dangerous person?
Send us a textI recently started reading a book that’s been around a while—Neil Strauss’ book called The Game, though he’s since come out against the practices described in it. It’s all about his experiences of learning how to manipulate women sexually through post-hypnotic suggestions and other psychologically manipulative strategies. Despite knowing there are online resources and groups encouraging predatory behavior, we tend to hold victims responsible for the abuse.In this episode, we will take a closer look at the dynamics of abuse and the responsibility for the abusive & predatory be...
2022-11-14
22 min
Breaking Free from Narcissistic Abuse
How could I be so stupid to have missed the red flags?
Send us a textWhy did we miss the early warning signs that we've met a toxic person? It's common to blame ourselves for this mistake. Most of us, however, don't think to analyze a person's ego strength, but maybe we should. Let's take a closer look at issue in this episode of TikTok live replay.Want to know what the 12 areas of ego strengths are? Check out this video!Are you looking for community support after narcissistic abuse? Check out Dr. McAvoy's Toxic-Free Relationship Club! Want to read a true...
2022-06-17
24 min
Breaking Free from Narcissistic Abuse
Is it my fault that I'm trapped in a narcissistic abusive relationship?
Send us a textAre victims to blame for getting trapped in a narcissistic abusive relationship. And why do we struggle to hold healthy boundaries? These are a couple of the issues addressed in this podcast episode.Are you looking for community support after narcissistic abuse? Check out Dr. McAvoy's Toxic-Free Relationship Club! Want to read a true story of narcissistic abuse?LOVE YOU MORE: The Harrowing Tale of Lies, Sex Addiction, & Double CrossAvailable here at the following online stores.And be sure to...
2022-06-13
27 min
Breaking Free from Narcissistic Abuse
What should I do if my children are protective of the toxic ex-parent?
Send us a textIn this episode we will review Dr. Milstead's definition of narcissistic abuse along with address how to handle the tricky situation of co-parenting with a toxic parent. Are you looking for community support after narcissistic abuse? Check out Dr. McAvoy's Toxic-Free Relationship Club! Want to read a true story of narcissistic abuse?LOVE YOU MORE: The Harrowing Tale of Lies, Sex Addiction, & Double CrossAvailable here at the following online stores.And be sure to sign up for Dr. McAvoy's 50 free Surviving Narcissism...
2022-06-06
22 min
Breaking Free from Narcissistic Abuse
Am I a narcissist if I want to be special? To have others understand me?
Send us a textHow do we find support when we come from a narcissistic home? Is it wrong to want to be seen as special? These are the types of questions addressed in this podcast episode.Are you looking for community support after narcissistic abuse? Check out Dr. McAvoy's Toxic-Free Relationship Club! Want to read a true story of narcissistic abuse?LOVE YOU MORE: The Harrowing Tale of Lies, Sex Addiction, & Double CrossAvailable here at the following online stores.And be sure to sign up...
2022-06-03
25 min
Breaking Free from Narcissistic Abuse
Could this friendship be narcissistic or does abuse only happen in love relationships?
Send us a textDoes narcissistic abuse only happen in love relationships or can it happen in other kinds of relationships or communities? Dr. McAvoy tackles this question in this episode.Are you looking for community support after narcissistic abuse? Check out Dr. McAvoy's Toxic-Free Relationship Club! Want to read a true story of narcissistic abuse?LOVE YOU MORE: The Harrowing Tale of Lies, Sex Addiction, & Double CrossAvailable here at the following online stores.And be sure to sign up for Dr. McAvoy's 50 free Surviving Narcissism...
2022-05-31
27 min
Breaking Free from Narcissistic Abuse
What’s wrong with me that I can’t leave this toxic relationship?
Send us a textWhy is it so hard to leave a toxic relationship? What does a trauma bond have to do with it? Dr. McAvoy addresses this issue in this episode. Are you looking for community support after narcissistic abuse? Check out Dr. McAvoy's Toxic-Free Relationship Club! Want to read a true story of narcissistic abuse?LOVE YOU MORE: The Harrowing Tale of Lies, Sex Addiction, & Double CrossAvailable here at the following online stores.And be sure to sign up for Dr. McAvoy's 50 free Surviving...
2022-05-27
27 min
Breaking Free from Narcissistic Abuse
Could I be the one with the problem? Maybe I'm overreacting.
Send us a textDo you wonder if you're being too sensitive? Maybe you're overreacting to your partner's behavior. Perhaps you're the one with the problem. In this episode, Dr. McAvoy answers these and TikTok listeners' other questions about narcissism and narcissistic abuse.YOU MIGHT ALSO BE INTERESTED INAre you looking for community support after narcissistic abuse? Check out Dr. McAvoy's Toxic-Free Relationship Club! Want to read a true story of narcissistic abuse?LOVE YOU MORE: The Harrowing Tale of Lies, Sex Addiction, & Double CrossAvailable...
2022-05-23
1h 03
Breaking Free from Narcissistic Abuse
My narcissistic partner says they're working hard to change. Am I silly to believe them?
Send us a textDo narcissists change? What realizable expectations should we have? In this episode, we will address this question along with other listener-related concerns.Are you looking for community support after narcissistic abuse? Check out Dr. McAvoy's Toxic-Free Relationship Club! Want to read a true story of narcissistic abuse?LOVE YOU MORE: The Harrowing Tale of Lies, Sex Addiction, & Double CrossAvailable here at the following online storesAnd be sure to sign up for Dr. McAvoy's 50 free Surviving Narcissism tips & exercises!...
2022-05-20
1h 01
Breaking Free from Narcissistic Abuse
Help! My ex is using the legal system to abuse me!
Send us a textNarcissistic abuse doesn't end when the relationship is over. Many narcissistic exes find new ways to abuse their former partners, including using the legal system. In this episode of a TikTok live replay, we will explore how to protect yourself better, along with addressing other listeners' questions. Are you looking for community support after narcissistic abuse? Check out Dr. McAvoy's Toxic-Free Relationship Club! Want to read a true story of narcissistic abuse?LOVE YOU MORE: The Harrowing Tale of Lies, Sex Addiction, & Double CrossAvailable h...
2022-05-16
54 min
Breaking Free from Narcissistic Abuse
I’m stressed and overwhelmed--is this cognitive dissonance?
Send us a textWhat is cognitive dissonance? Victims of narcissistic abuse complain that they are in agonizing pain due to this psychological state. In this episode, we'll take a closer look at this psychological concept along with answering other TikTok audiences' questions. Are you looking for community support after narcissistic abuse? Check out Dr. McAvoy's Toxic-Free Relationship Club! Want to read a true story of narcissistic abuse?LOVE YOU MORE: The Harrowing Tale of Lies, Sex Addiction, & Double CrossAvailable here at the following online stores.
2022-05-13
59 min
Breaking Free from Narcissistic Abuse
Am I co-dependent if I've fallen for a narcissist?
Send us a textHave you wondered what's wrong with you for falling for a narcissist? Listen as we discuss this along with other topics related to narcissistic abuse.Are you looking for community support after narcissistic abuse? Check out Dr. McAvoy's Toxic-Free Relationship Club! Want to read a true story of narcissistic abuse?LOVE YOU MORE: The Harrowing Tale of Lies, Sex Addiction, & Double CrossAvailable here at the following online stores.And be sure to sign up for Dr. McAvoy's 50 free Surviving Narcissism tips...
2022-05-09
1h 08
Breaking Free from Narcissistic Abuse
Who's more narcissistic: men or women?
Send us a textIn this episode, we will explore the gender differences among NPD, define what is a narcissistic discard, and identify the early signs of grooming. Are you looking for community support after narcissistic abuse? Check out Dr. McAvoy's Toxic-Free Relationship Club! Want to read a true story of narcissistic abuse?LOVE YOU MORE: The Harrowing Tale of Lies, Sex Addiction, & Double CrossAvailable here at the following online stores.And be sure to sign up for Dr. McAvoy's 50 free Surviving Narcissism tips & exercises!
2022-05-06
1h 10
Breaking Free from Narcissistic Abuse
Is this “thing” I feel what's called a trauma bond?
Send us a textIn this episode, we take a closer look at trauma bonds as well as explore several excellent resources on understanding the ins & outs of toxic relationships. Are you looking for community support after narcissistic abuse? Check out Dr. McAvoy's Toxic-Free Relationship Club! Want to read a true story of narcissistic abuse?LOVE YOU MORE: The Harrowing Tale of Lies, Sex Addiction, & Double CrossAvailable here at the following online stores.And be sure to sign up for Dr. McAvoy's 50 free Surviving Narcissism tips & e...
2022-05-02
1h 08
Breaking Free from Narcissistic Abuse
Is this relationship asking too much of me?
Send us a textWhat's reasonable to expect from a relationship? How do you know when you're giving too much of yourself or doing too much for another person? Listen in as we explore these and other questions in today's episode. A replay of the April 6th webinar How to Recognize and Overcome Narcissistic Abuse is now available here!Are you looking for community support after narcissistic abuse? Check out Dr. McAvoy's Toxic-Free Relationship Club! Want to read a true story of narcissistic abuse?LOVE YOU MORE: The H...
2022-04-29
57 min
Breaking Free from Narcissistic Abuse
Why can't I relax after surviving narcissistic abuse?
Send us a textAre you struggling to slow down, unwind, and relax? Are you easily startled? These are signs of an overexcited nervous system and common after narcissistic abuse. Are you looking for community support after narcissistic abuse? Check out Dr. McAvoy's Toxic-Free Relationship Club! Want to read a true story of narcissistic abuse?LOVE YOU MORE: The Harrowing Tale of Lies, Sex Addiction, & Double CrossAvailable here at the following online stores.And be sure to sign up for Dr. McAvoy's 50 free Surviving Narcissism tips & e...
2022-04-25
55 min
Breaking Free from Narcissistic Abuse
What? I have basic emotional rights?
Send us a textDid you know you have basic emotional rights? Today, we explore an emotional Bill of Rights created by Dr. Lindsay Gibson. You can find a copy of those rights in her book called Self Care for Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents. Are you looking for community support after narcissistic abuse? Check out Dr. McAvoy's Toxic-Free Relationship Club! Want to read a true story of narcissistic abuse?LOVE YOU MORE: The Harrowing Tale of Lies, Sex Addiction, & Double CrossAvailable here at the following online s...
2022-04-22
1h 08
Breaking Free from Narcissistic Abuse
Are you being groomed by a narcissist?
Send us a textIn this episode Dr. McAvoy addresses many issues, including the process of how narcissists groom their next victim.Are you looking for community support after narcissistic abuse? Check out Dr. McAvoy's Toxic-Free Relationship Club! Want to read a true story of narcissistic abuse?LOVE YOU MORE: The Harrowing Tale of Lies, Sex Addiction, & Double CrossAvailable here at the following online stores.And be sure to sign up for Dr. McAvoy's 50 free Surviving Narcissism tips & exercises! Hosted on Acast. See...
2022-04-18
1h 20