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We Need To Talk With Kris Godinez07-30-2023 What You Need To Know About CourtThe court system is a whole culture unto itself! It has its own language and customs and procedures, and if you do not understand how the system works, that could hurt you in your divorce case. Kris breaks down what questions to ask when hiring an attorney all the way to what to do when in court. In this episode of We Need To Talk With Kris Godinez, Kris discusses the family court system and what questions to ask when you go to hire an attorney. The full transcript of this episode can be read on our...2023-08-091h 00

We Need To Talk With Kris Godinez07-23-2023 Bad Behavior in ParentingHave you ever had your parent’s voice come flying out of your mouth? Nine times out of ten that happened when you were stressed out, and it was a knee-jerk reaction. What can you do when that happens? Are you aware of all of the bad parenting that your dysfunctional family of origin gave you and how that plays out in your own parenting? In this episode of We Need To Talk With Kris Godinez, Kris discusses bad parenting that we experienced from our dysfunctional families of origin and the possible fleas that we picked up. Th...2023-08-0255 min

We Need To Talk With Kris Godinez07-16-2023 Healthy Family, Friends, PartnersFor many of us that came out of families of origin that were toxic, we truly do not know what healthy looks like. So what behaviors are healthy? What should we be looking for in family, friends, partners, or even co-workers? What does healthy actually look like? In this episode of We Need To Talk With Kris Godinez, Kris discusses what healthy family, friends, partners etc. look like. The full transcript of this episode can be read on our website. Resource/link mentioned in this episode: Six Characteristics of a Healthy Family 2023-07-2657 min

We Need To Talk With Kris Godinez07-09-2023 A Case of NervesWhen a person comes out of an abusive relationship, they almost inevitably have anxiety. When a person is stressed out and at survival the amygdala enlarges and the anxiety increases. The good news is that with mindfulness, the amygdala shrinks. In this episode of We Need To Talk With Kris Godinez, Kris discusses anxiety and why almost every single survivor of abuse has anxiety. She also discusses what you can do to help mitigate it. Link mentioned in this episode: Signs of Anxiety, PsychologyToday.com The full transcript of this episode can be re...2023-07-1954 min

We Need To Talk With Kris Godinez07-02-2023 When People Do NothingHave you ever wondered why the other parent did not protect you? Have you wondered why people just allow abuse to occur? What gets in the way of people acting to protect? These and many more questions will be answered in this weeks episode of We Need To Talk With Kris Godinez discussing When People Do Nothing! In this episode of We Need To Talk With Kris Godinez, Kris discusses why the other parent did not protect us and what might get in the way of by standers actually jumping in to help. The full transcript of...2023-07-1257 min

We Need To Talk With Kris Godinez06-25-2023 Dependent PersonalityHave you ever wondered why some people just cannot make a decision without asking everyone and anyone? What causes a person not to trust their own judgment? Have you ever met someone who just wanted to be taken care of to the point of clinginess? That would be someone with a dependent personality. In this episode of We Need To Talk With Kris Godinez, Kris discusses people with dependent personality. What it is, why it is, and what to do about it! The full transcript of this episode can be read...2023-07-0744 min

We Need To Talk With Kris Godinez06-18-2023 Why Smear?In this episode of We Need To Talk With Kris Godinez, Kris discusses the smear campaign, why they do it, how it “benefits” them, and who believes it. When a breakup with an abuser happens, have you ever wondered why they suddenly go on a rampage trying to discredit their former target of abuse? What does an abuser get out of such egregious behavior? Why do people believe them? What is a flying monkey anyway? These and many more questions will be answered in this week’s episode! The full transcript of this episode can be rea...2023-06-2856 min

We Need To Talk With Kris Godinez06-11-2023 Our Relationship With FoodDid you know that most survivors of abuse, either by the family of origin or by a significant other, have eating disorders or issues with food? Yeah! Yet another lovely side effect of abuse. Survivors of abuse are more likely to have anorexia, bulimia, binge/purge, or overeating issues. How to help yourself is to get with a damn good trauma therapist that understands eating disorders. Write and burn letters to the people who made food/weight/looks, etc., an issue. The full transcript of this episode can be read on our website. Links mentioned...2023-06-2159 min

We Need To Talk With Kris Godinez06-04-2023 Why They Crush DreamsHave you ever had someone either pooh, poo, or dismiss or actively destroy your dreams? Have you ever wondered what would possess someone to do such a heinous thing? What drives an abuser to stop their target of abuse from reaching their potential or from doing what they love? Well, wonder no more! Kris will break down what the payoff is for abusers who crush dreams! The full transcript of this episode can be read on our website.2023-06-141h 00

We Need To Talk With Kris GodinezThrowback Thursday: 12-05-2021 Dissociation, Unreality, and AvoidanceThis week on We Need To Talk With Kris Godinez, Kris talks about the trauma response of dissociation and unreality and pretty much normalizes that response for survivors of trauma. The full transcript of this episode can be read on our website.2023-06-0755 min

We Need To Talk With Kris GodinezThrowback Thursday: 12-12-2021 How To Stand Up For YourselfIn this episode of We Need To Talk With Kris Godinez Kris talks about standing up for your self to your narcissistic boss, disrespectful doctors and standing up to anyone else who is being a jackwagon! The full transcript of this episode can be read on our website.2023-05-3156 min

We Need To Talk With Kris Godinez05-14-2023 Anything You Say WILL Be Used Against You!When we have been unjustly accused of doing things we didn’t do, the desire to clear the air is strong. Now, if you were dealing with healthy people, clearing the air would be the right thing to do. You aren’t dealing with healthy people. Narcissists, Dark Triads, and the like LOVE to accuse the target of abuse of all sorts of things that THEY are themselves doing and then argue with or ignore the target of abuse when they try to defend themselves. It is a game where the rules are constantly changing and one in w...2023-05-241h 00

We Need To Talk With Kris GodinezThrowback Thursday: 10-03-2021 DEPENDENT VS CODEPENDENT In this episode of We Need To Talk With Kris Godinez, Kris discusses the difference between Dependent Personality Disorder and Codependency. The full transcript of this episode can be read on our website.2023-05-1757 min

We Need To Talk With Kris Godinez04-30-2023 Movies TV shows that send the wrong messageSo many of us have read romance novels or watched tv shows and movies, especially rom-coms, that send the wrong message. Messages like “You CAN change them!” “Stockholm syndrome is okay and will end well!” “Treat the partner like crap; they will love you more!” “Lose who you are in order to become what the partner wants!” Many of those novels, tv shows, and movies have normalized abuse in some form or another. Fairy tales are read to children, and they are particularly dysfunctional and have many themes of unrealistic relationships and abuse. Little ones grow up having those “But...2023-05-1047 min

We Need To Talk With Kris Godinez04-23-2023 Write It OutCBT works with mistaken thoughts and mistaken beliefs. One way to process said mistaken thoughts and beliefs is to JOURNAL! You probably didn’t like that suggestion and you are probably wondering why I and so many therapists recommend it. Well, it all has to do with the amygdala. Journaling, writing and burning letters, and making poetry out of our pain all take the trauma out of our heads and puts it in black and white on to paper. Some people resist journaling because they feel that it then makes the trauma “real”. Others are afraid of their...2023-05-0356 min

We Need To Talk With Kris Godinez04-16-2023 All The LiesHave you ever wondered why abusers seem to lie all the time, about, well, everything? I’m sure you’ve heard the term “pathological” liar. Did you know that personality-disordered abusers lie upwards of 20 plus times a day, compared to non-personality-disordered people? Did you know that they KNOW they are lying and that it is done on purpose to create confusion and cognitive dissonance in the mind of their target of abuse? Abusers use gaslighting, rewriting history, and denial all to create cognitive dissonance in which in coming information does not match what the victim of abuse had been...2023-04-2752 min

We Need To Talk With Kris Godinez04-09-2023 Games They Play i.e., Hurting ThemselvesDo abusers use the “self-harm” card to control and manipulate? How do you tell the difference between a real self-harm threat and one that is about manipulation? Do you have a working knowledge of the way abusers use verbal abuse and derail discussions about their behavior? Did you know that abusers often need a “harem” of supply and will often intentionally not introduce a target to family and friends so they don’t get caught two-timing? If you’ve ever been on the receiving end of a disrespectful eye roll and a dismissive “We’ve already talked ab...2023-04-1955 min

We Need To Talk With Kris Godinez04-02-2023 Examples of ControlWhat is coercive control? How do abusers make their targets do what they want them to do? Did you know that trauma bonding using intermittent positive reward is coercive control? Gaslighting and hoovering, isolating the target, and controlling what the target wears or eats are all examples of coercive control. Coercive control starts early, as in you can see it in abusive relationships in middle school and high school. Abusers push the envelope slowly, they don’t come out of the gate being abusive. If you recognize any of these in your relationship or in a relationship tha...2023-04-1257 min

We Need To Talk With Kris Godinez03-26-2023 Chaos and DramaHave you ever noticed some people either create chaos and drama or chaos and drama seems to follow them where ever they go? Have you also noticed that as much as they claim not to like chaos and drama, they still seem to be at the center of said chaos and drama? Red flag alert! You are dealing with someone who is disordered. You may ask yourself, “Why? Why does this person blow up every relationship? Why does this person seem to enjoy the chaos and the drama? Why and who would want that in their lives?” Rest...2023-04-1159 min

We Need To Talk With Kris Godinez03-19-2023 When Mothers are NOT MomsWhat is the definition of a toxic mother? What causes women to turn on their own children? What does that kind of physical/verbal/emotional abuse do to a child, and how does that affect adult children of toxic mothers? Toxic mothers can present one way to the “public” and completely different behind closed family doors. Growing up with a toxic mother is a roller coaster. Sometimes the abuse is obvious, and sometimes, the toxic mother is subtle but deadly. Any parent who uses fear, obligation, or guilt to manipulate and control their adult children or any child...2023-03-301h 01

We Need To Talk With Kris Godinez03-12-2023 How to Deal With SiblingsDysfunctional family members are hard to deal with, and it is especially hard if that or those family members are your siblings. Siblings in healthy families are our first friends. In toxic families, dysfunctional families, they are often our first bullies or our worst enemies. Dysfunctional families encourage sibling rivalry and bullying, and they certainly do not teach the children how to draw boundaries or protect themselves from bullies whether they are siblings or not family. How do you deal with siblings who are abusive? I’ll give you a hint. If you were not related to th...2023-03-2255 min

We Need To Talk With Kris Godinez03-05-2023 Office ShenanigansIn this episode of We Need To Talk With Kris Godinez, Kris talks about disordered corporations, office bullies, cliques, backstabbers, screamers, and schemers and how you can either avoid working for a corporation like that altogether or have coping skills to deal with them. We’ve all been there, and done that, dealing with a disordered corporation that has the office bully, cliques, screamers, and schemers. No one ever teaches us what to look out for when we go to interview for a job or why it is important to read not just employee reviews like glassdoor.co...2023-03-1552 min

We Need To Talk With Kris Godinez02-26-2023 The Ultimate Control Why are dark triads so damn dangerous, vindictive, and violent? What is psychopathy? What makes them decide to kill themselves or others? In the first half of the show, Kris talks about what is a dark triad which is narcissism, psychopathy, and control, and what motivates them to the acts of stalking and or violence. In the second half of the show, Kris answers any questions that come up about the topic of dark triads or abuse. The full transcript of this episode can be read on our website. 2023-03-0854 min

We Need To Talk With Kris Godinez02-19-2023 Age Is Just A NumberIn this week’s episode of We Need To Talk With Kris Godinez, Kris discusses ageism in abuse, why they dump their partners for younger and younger models, and why they are so terrified of aging. Have you ever wondered why disordered people delight in telling you that you CAN’T do the very thing you want to do? Have you ever wondered why age is such a big deal? Why abusers tend to discard their partners as they age and replace them with younger and younger partners? And what the heck is up with their fear of a...2023-03-0157 min

We Need To Talk With Kris Godinez02-12-2023 B. E. T. R. A. Y. A. LIn this episode of We Need To Talk With Kris Godinez, Kris addresses the pain of betrayal trauma and how to effectively cope with the pain and the desire for revenge. Kris also discusses how the trauma may be affecting current and future relationships. In the second half of the show, Kris answers questions from listeners. Narcissistic abuse is all about betrayal. What exactly is betrayal trauma? How does betrayal trauma affect our current and future relationships? How do we cope with having been betrayed? Did you know that trusting others is actually deeply embedded in our b...2023-02-2256 min

We Need To Talk With Kris Godinez02-05-2023 Special Guest Marcia DianeToday on We Need To Talk with Kris Godinez, Kris talks with special guest Marcia Diane about spirituality, karma and answers listener questions! Have you ever wondered about the role of spirituality in your recovery from abuse? Marcia Diane, and Kris discuss spirituality, karma, and energy in the recovery from abuse. We discuss the nature of karma, what it is, what it isn’t, and why waiting for someone to “Get theirs!” is a complete waste of time and energy. Marcia also discusses the 21 books she has written, the blogs she posts, and talks about her ma...2023-02-151h 05

We Need To Talk With Kris Godinez01-29-2023 The Hoover (Why we get pulled back in)In this episode of We Need To Talk with Kris Godinez, Kris talks about how we get pulled back into an abusive relationship, what a hoover is, and how not to fall for one! Have you ever wondered why a person who dumped you so brutally would ever try to contact you again? Or what type of abuser would try to pull you back into an abusive relationship? This episode explains what a Hoover is, who is likely to hoover and what you can do to make yourself bulletproof to said hoover. The second half...2023-02-0857 min

We Need To Talk With Kris Godinez01-22-2023 Down in the DumpsOn this episode of We Need To Talk With Kris Godinez, Kris Discusses situational vs. clinical depression, what to expect when leaving abuse and how to help mitigate the blues. The full transcript of this episode can be read on our website. 2023-02-0156 min

We Need To Talk With Kris Godinez01-15-2023 The Role of GratitudeIn This episode of We Need To Talk With Kris Godinez, Kris discusses the role gratitude takes in healing from abuse. Kris also discusses the murders in Idaho. The full transcript of this episode can be read on our website.2023-01-2557 min

We Need To Talk With Kris Godinez01-08-2023 No Couples Counseling Bad TherapistsIn this episode of We Need To Talk With Kris Godinez, Kris discusses why it is dangerous to go to couples counseling with an abuser and what to look for if you feel your counselor is bad. The full transcript of this episode can be read on our website. 2023-01-181h 02

We Need To Talk With Kris Godinez09-26-2021 - PLAYING KEEPAWAY IN DIVORCEIn this episode of “We Need To Talk With Kris Godinez” Kris discusses parental alienation, the hows and why’s of parental alienation and how that effects the kids, both the little kids and grown adult children. Why would a parent do such a thing? More importantly, how can you help your child if the ex starts trying to smear you and alienate you from your child’s affections. What therapies work with younger children? Kris answers the question of what kids of all ages really need from their parent. At around the half hour mark Kris answers listeners questions...2023-01-111h 00

We Need To Talk With Kris GodinezFrom 10-31-2021: EX IN LAWS, SIBLINGS, FAMILY HOLIDAY HOOVERSIn This Throwback Thursday episode of We Need To Talk With Kris Godinez, Kris discusses how to deal with the hoover season, guilt-tripping, and in-laws, ex-laws, and siblings oh my!! The full transcript of this episode can be read on our website. 2023-01-0453 min

We Need To Talk With Kris Godinez12-18-2022 Contrast and Compare Alcoholism vs NPDIn this week’s episode of We Need to Talk with Kris Godinez, Kris talks about the similarities and differences between addiction and personality disorders. The full transcript of this episode can be read on our website.2022-12-2858 min

We Need To Talk With Kris Godinez12-11-2022 Healing AttachmentIn this episode of We Need To Talk with Kris Godinez, Kris talks about healing from attachment wounds, and how the parents either actively abused or neglected you as an infant and child. And yes, you CAN heal attachments! The full transcript of this episode can be read on our website.2022-12-2158 min

We Need To Talk With Kris Godinez12-04-2022 Medical Events, Stuff and ThingsIn this episode of We Need To Talk With Kris Godinez, Kris discusses medical trauma and how to cope with that, along with how to handle arrogant and/or narcissistic medical staff. The full transcript of this episode can be read on our website.2022-12-1458 min

We Need To Talk With Kris Godinez11-27-2022 You ARE Your Own HeroIn This episode of We Need To Talk With Kris Godinez, Kris talks about how there is no one outside of YOU that is truly going to save you. You are, in fact, your own hero, and things you can do to help yourself! The full transcript of this episode can be read on our website.2022-12-0757 min

We Need To Talk With Kris Godinez11-20-2022 Surviving the HolidazeIn this episode of We Need To Talk With Kris Godinez, Kris discusses strategies for dealing with toxic family during the holidays. The full transcript of this episode can be read on our website.2022-11-3050 min

We Need To Talk With Kris Godinez11-15-2022 Holier Than ThouIn This Episode of We Need To Talk With Kris Godinez, Kris discusses the communal Narcissist. The full transcript of this episode can be read on our website.2022-11-2359 min

We Need To Talk With Kris Godinez11-06-2022 Its Complicated and ComplexIn this episode of “We Need To Talk With Kris Godinez” Kris talks about grief and PTSD. Why one is complicated, and the other is complex! The full transcript of this episode can be read on our website.2022-11-1658 min

We Need To Talk With Kris Godinez10-30-2022 You Are Not the UN. Stop Peace Keeping.In this episode of We Need To Talk With Kris Godinez, Kris discusses how “Peace Keeping” is not only a co-dependent response, it is, in fact, a trauma response! The full transcript of this episode can be read on our website.2022-11-091h 03

We Need To Talk With Kris Godinez10-23-2022 Over Sharing!In this episode of We Need to Talk With Kris Godinez, Kris talks about why survivors of abuse overshare and why oversharing can be detrimental. The full transcript of this episode can be read on our website.2022-11-0259 min

We Need To Talk With Kris Godinez10-16-2022 Mindfulness Get Out Of Your StoryIn this episode of We Need To Tall With Kris Godinez, Kris talks about being mindful of what you say and what you think and not believing everything you think! The full transcript of this episode can be read on our website here.2022-10-2632 min

We Need To Talk With Kris Godinez10-09-2022 Managing Your TimeOn this episode of We Need To Talk With Kris Godinez, Kris talks about time management and why survivors of abuse universally struggle with time. The full transcript of this episode can be read on our website.2022-10-1949 min

We Need To Talk With Kris Godinez11-14-2021 When The Parent Is The EnablerIt's throwback Thursday, and we've got an episode from the archives for you from November 2021. In this episode of We Need To Talk With Kris Godinez, Kris talks about when a parent is the enabler to the abuser, why they do it, what to do and how to heal after getting away. The full transcript of this episode can be read on our website.2022-10-1253 min

We Need To Talk With Kris Godinez11-21-2021 Friend Frienemy Or FoeIt's throwback Thursday, and we've got an episode from the archives for you from November 2021. In this episode of We Need To Talk With Kris Godinez, Kris discusses what true friends are and how they behave, how frienemies behave and how foes behave and how to let them go! The full transcript of this episode can be read on our website.2022-10-0559 min

We Need To Talk With Kris Godinez09-18-2022 ProcrastinationIn this episode of We Need To Talk With Kris Godinez, Kris discusses why we procrastinate, what purpose it serves and how to break the habit of putting things off. The full transcript of this episode can be read on our website.2022-09-281h 03

We Need To Talk With Kris Godinez09-11-2022 Adult Kid Drama and CollapseIn this episode of We Need To Talk With Kris Godinez, Kris talks about what to do if the adult child is the one causing drama in the family, what narcissistic collapse looks like, and why not to fall for it! The full transcript of this episode can be read on our website.2022-09-2159 min

We Need To Talk With Kris Godinez09-04-2022 Adult Kids and Family DramaIn this episode of We Need To Talk With Kris Godinez, Kris discusses how to help your adult kids navigate family drama. The full transcript of this episode can be read on our website.2022-09-1458 min

We Need To Talk With Kris Godinez08-28-2022 Power and ControlIn this week’s episode of We Need To Talk With Kris Godinez, Kris discusses how abusers are all about power and control and how to take back your own power!! The full transcript of this episode can be read on our website.2022-09-0759 min

We Need To Talk With Kris Godinez08-21-2022 Why Aren't I Over Them?In this episode of We Need To Talk With Kris Godinez, Kris talks about why a breakup with an abuser lingers, how we get through complicated grief and how to help yourself heal. The full transcript of this episode can be read on our website.2022-08-3158 min

We Need To Talk With Kris Godinez08-14-2022 Mood and More The Vagus NerveIn this episode of We Need To Talk With Kris Godinez, Kris Discusses the Vagus nerve and how to help heal this very important nerve in your journey of recovery from CPTSD. The full transcript of this episode can be read on our website.2022-08-2451 min

We Need To Talk With Kris Godinez08-7-2022 Being In The Spotlight/Accepting ComplimentsIn this episode of We Need To Talk With Kris Godinez, Kris talks about that awful feeling of being judged and watched all the time and how to start living your life free of fear and accepting compliments. The full transcript of this episode can be read on our website.2022-08-1755 min

We Need To Talk With Kris Godinez10-17-2021 DEALING WITH PARENTS IN LAWS AND EX LAWSThis week on We Need To Talk With Kris Godinez, Kris covers the topic of narcissistic parents/inlaws/exlaws and finds she runs out of time and will have to do another episode on inlaw/exlaws. She answers your questions about dealing with difficult in-laws and parents. The full transcript of this episode can be read on our website.2022-08-101h 08

We Need To Talk With Kris Godinez10-24-2021 IN LAWS AND EX LAWSIt's throwback Thursday, and we've got an episode from the archives for you from October 2021. This week on We Need To Talk With Kris Godinez Kris discusses In-Laws, Ex-Laws, and how to help your spouse who is the adult child of a Narcissist. The full transcript of this episode can be read on our website.2022-08-0358 min

We Need To Talk With Kris Godinez07-17-2022 Reconnecting With Yourself (Meditation Self Care)In this episode of We Need To Talk With Kris Godinez, Kris teaches meditation techniques for sleep and for getting in touch with your inner child. The full transcript of this episode can be read on our website.2022-07-2756 min

We Need To Talk With Kris Godinez07-10-2022 Don't React - Don't Feed The BearThis week on We Need To Talk With Kris Godinez, Kris talks about why not rising to the bait is important and when to use or not use the technique of “grey rock”. The full transcript of this episode can be read on our website. 2022-07-2051 min

We Need To Talk With Kris Godinez07-03-2022 When Medical Is Used HIPAAIn this episode of We Need To Talk With Kris Godinez, Kris discusses who owns medical records and what to do when an abuser tries to use your medical history in a smear campaign. The full transcript of this episode can be read on our website. 2022-07-1356 min

We Need To Talk With Kris Godinez06-26-2022 Becoming an IndividualIn this episode of We Need To Talk With Kris Godinez, Kris discusses the importance of overcoming fear and mistaken beliefs, and mistaken thoughts. The full transcript of this episode can be read on our website.2022-07-0655 min

We Need To Talk With Kris Godinez05-23-2021 ENMESHMENTIt's throwback Thursday, and we've got an episode from the archives for you from May 2021. In this episode of We Need To Talk With Kris Godinez, Kris discusses the dangers of an enmeshed relationship. What it is, what to expect when you decide to end it and how to cope. The full transcript of this episode can be read on our website.2022-06-2956 min

We Need To Talk With Kris Godinez06-12-2022 Weird ThinkingIn this episode of We Need To Talk with Kris Godinez, Kris discusses ego defenses and magic thinking. The weird ways abusers think. The full transcript of this episode can be read on our website.2022-06-2254 min

We Need To Talk With Kris Godinez06-05-2022 Healthy ParentingIn this episode of We Need To Talk with Kris Godinez, Kris discusses Healthy Parenting vs. Unhealthy Parenting and what you can do to be the parent to yourself that you never had! The full transcript of this episode can be read on our website.2022-06-1558 min

We Need To Talk With Kris Godinez05-29-2022 Stop ApologizingIn this episode of We Need To Talk With Kris Godinez, Kris discusses over-apologizing and what you can do instead. 2022-06-081h 04

We Need To Talk With Kris Godinez05-22-2022 An Eye For An Eye Not A Good IdeaIn this episode of We Need To Talk With Kris Godinez, Kris talks about the futility of revenge and how it won’t get you what you think you want. The full transcript of this episode can be read on our website.2022-06-0156 min

We Need To Talk With Kris Godinez05-15-2022 Mini Me The Golden OneIn this episode of We Need To Talk With Kris Godinez, Kris discusses family roles, specifically, the golden child. Why the abuser needs the roles and how those roles affect the family members. The full transcript of this episode can be read on our website.2022-05-2559 min

We Need To Talk With Kris Godinez05-08-2022 Games They PlayIn this episode of We Need To Talk With Kris Godinez, Kris talks about the mind games that abusers play, specifically the covert narcissist. Kris also covers the overt and the communal narcissists games in this episode. The full transcript of this episode can be read on our website.2022-05-1859 min

We Need To Talk With Kris Godinez05-1-2022 When Friends and Family Show You Who They AreIn this episode of We Need To Talk With Kris Godinez, Kris discusses flying monkeys (people who side with the abuser) and how to handle them. The full transcript of this episode can be read on our website.2022-05-1159 min

We Need To Talk With Kris Godinez04-24-2022 Too Dependent When Helping HurtsIn this episode of We Need To Talk With Kris Godinez, Kris talks about Co-Dependency and when helping actually hurts. The full transcript of this episode can be read on our website.2022-05-0456 min

We Need To Talk With Kris Godinez04-17-2022 Contrast and CompareIn this episode of We Need To Talk With Kris Godinez, Kris discusses healthy behaviors vs unhealthy behaviors. Kris also discusses the differences between NPD and BPD. The full transcript of this episode can be read on our website.2022-04-2758 min

We Need To Talk With Kris Godinez04-10-2022 Future Faking OurselvesIn this episode of We Need To Talk With Kris Godinez, Kris discusses how we keep ourselves unhappy living in “I’ll be happy when...” as opposed to enjoying the current moment! The full transcript of this episode can be read on our website.2022-04-2055 min

We Need To Talk With Kris Godinez04-03-2022 How to heal from Emotional NeglectIn this episode of We Need To Talk With Kris Godinez, Kris discusses what emotional neglect is, why it happens, and how to heal from it! The full transcript of this episode can be read on our website. 2022-04-1357 min

We Need To Talk With Kris Godinez03-27-2022 Wills, Inheritance, Aging and Power PlaysIn this episode of We Need To Talk With Kris Godinez, Kris discusses how abusers (Narcissists in particular) are terrified of aging and dying and how they try to control from the grave with wills and inheritance. The full transcript of this episode can be read on our website.2022-04-061h 01

We Need To Talk With Kris Godinez03-20-2022 Kids as PawnsIn this episode of We Need To Talk With Kris Godinez, Kris breaks down why abusive/neglectful parents bother having kids and what job they have decided that child has even before they are born! The full transcript of this episode can be read on our website.2022-03-3058 min

We Need To Talk With Kris Godinez03-13-2022 Imposter Syndrome ExplainedIn this episode of We Need To Talk With Kris Godinez, Kris discusses that horrible feeling of being a fraud and why universally almost all survivors of abuse have that mistaken thought. The full transcript of this episode can be read on our website.2022-03-2353 min

We Need To Talk With Kris Godinez03-06-2022 You Know You're Growing When...In This episode of We Need To Talk With Kris Godinez, Kris discusses the signs that therapy is working and that you are growing. The transcript of this episode can be found on our website.2022-03-1554 min

We Need To Talk With Kris Godinez02-27-2022 Munchausen by ProxyIn this episode of We Need To Talk With Kris Godinez, Kris discusses how abusers use fake medical conditions to gain attention and sympathy by forcing their kids through unnecessary surgery and medications. You can read the transcript of this episode on our website.2022-03-0956 min

We Need To Talk With Kris GodinezFrom 05-09-2021 RECOGNIZING TRAUMA RESPONSESWe didn't record on Sunday, February 20th, so we've got an episode from the archives for you. In this episode from May of 2021, Kris discusses the trauma responses and explains why we have them. Fight, flight, freeze, fawn. The transcript of this episode can be found on our website.2022-03-0259 min

We Need To Talk With Kris Godinez02-13-2022 Emotional SafetyIn this episode of We Need To Talk With Kris Godinez, Kris discusses how to feel and have emotional safety. Spoiler alert! It doesn’t come from another person!! The full transcript can be found on our website.2022-02-261h 02

We Need To Talk With Kris Godinez2-6-2022 Aftermath; Friends, Family, ExesIn this episode of We Need To Talk With Kris Godinez, Kris discusses what to expect from friends, family, and exes when the target of abuse decides to leave the abuse. The full transcript of this episode can be found on our website.2022-02-1659 min

We Need To Talk With Kris Godinez01-30-2022 Do NOT Ignore These BehaviorsIn this episode of We Need To Talk with Kris Godinez, Kris discusses the definitions in the DSM 5 of the Cluster B personality disorder and goes into depth about how those behaviors present themselves.2022-02-0857 min

We Need To Talk With Kris Godinez01-23-2022 Warning Signs and Red FlagsIn this episode of We Need To Talk With Kris Godinez, Kris talks about the warning signs of abuse from dating all the way through to the devalue and discard. The full transcript can be found on our website.2022-02-0555 min

We Need To Talk With Kris Godinez01-16-2022 Lies That Keep Us StuckIn this episode of We Need To Talk With Kris Godinez, Kris discusses all of the different lies abusers tell their targets, that keep the target stuck either in living for the times the abuser is nice or living in hope. The full transcript can be found on our website.2022-01-2657 min

We Need To Talk With Kris Godinez01-09-2022 Throwing Terms AroundIn this episode of We Need To Talk With Kris Godinez, Kris talks about psychological terms and how abusers love to throw them around (without actually understanding what they are or what they mean). The full transcript can be found on our website.2022-01-1955 min

We Need To Talk With Kris Godinez01-02-2022 Energy VampiresIn this episode of We Need To Talk With Kris Godinez, Kris talks about energy vampires, the Colin Robinson's of the world, what they do and how to deal with them! The full transcript can be found on our website.2022-01-131h 02

We Need To Talk With Kris Godinez12-19-2021 When The Adult Kids Don't Come BackIn This Week's episode of We Need To Talk With Kris Godinez, Kris discusses the very real occurrence of parental alienation. She discusses what to look for, the red flags and how to combat it. The full transcript can be found on our website.2022-01-131h 00

We Need To Talk With Kris Godinez04-25-2021 THE SUBTLE SIGNS ACTIONS AND BEHAVIORSThis week We Need To Talk With Kris Godinez goes over the subtle signs of abuse. Those red flags that may have not caught your attention, but that you need to be on the lookout for!! 2021-12-0359 min

We Need To Talk With Kris Godinez04-11-2021 IF THEIR LIPS ARE MOVINGIn this episode of We Need To Talk With Kris Godinez, Kris walks us through the confusing world of pathological lying. Why do abusers lie? Do they know that they are lying? Do they care that they are lying? This and many, many more questions will be answered!2021-12-0258 min

We Need To Talk With Kris Godinez04-04-2021 AFTER YOU LEAVE CPTSDThis week on We Need To Talk with Kris Godinez, Kris discusses PTSD and CPTSD symptoms and basically what to expect once you leave the abuse. 2021-12-0257 min

We Need To Talk With Kris Godinez03-07-2021 THE DRAMA AND COMMUNICATION TRIANGLEIn This episode of We Need To Talk With Kris Godinez, Kris discusses the dreaded drama triangle (Villain, Victim, Hero) and the dreaded triangulation of communication. She goes over how to step out of both sets of dysfunctional triangles and how to stay out!2021-12-021h 01

Break the Cycle with DSDDenial is deadly ft. Kris GodinezKris Godinez from We Need To Talk With Kris Godinez comes back to the show to talk about how denial of your situation can put you in a dangerous stop!2020-12-231h 00

Modern ArizonaPersonality disorders that affect your divorceSend us a textIn this episode, Kris Godinez, licensed professional counselor, unwraps the mysteries of the most common personality disorders that can affect your divorce and what you should do about it. Host Billie Tarascio, attorney with Modern Law in Mesa, AZ, talks with Kris about all of the different types of problem ex's: drama queens (and kings), covert, overt, and communal narcissists, and the emotional dysregulation of borderline personality disorder. Divorcing someone with any of these issues can mean big problems for the other party, but in this conversation you'll learn about how to d...2020-12-1743 min