Look for any podcast host, guest or anyone
Showing episodes and shows of

Kristy Yee & Angie Yu

Shows

Shit We Don\'t Tell MomShit We Don't Tell Mom54. Breaking Away from "Asian" Parenting Styles ft. Vincci TsuiVincci Tsui, a mother of a three-year-old, balances her parenting knowledge from how she was raised with what she believes to be best for her daughter.  We discuss what we’ve learned from our parents and what has been taught to us from living in a western society. Which teachings to adopt and which to unlearn? What fears do we have as new parents? “This is something that's new for so many people, like not just from a cultural perspective or generational perspective […] we're not alone and we're probably not going to scar our kids for life if we're...2022-11-0649 minShit We Don\'t Tell MomShit We Don't Tell Mom53. Our Shit: What Happens After A Break Up?It’s official, Kristy is now single after a 6-year relationship. In this episode, we process the emotions after a breakup, recognize what is “overly independent”, and discuss fears of the future after losing a partner. Our Shit is a series where we update our lives with each other and how we cope with its challenges.“I felt like if we stayed together, we would've been living a compromised version of a life that neither of us really wanted” - Kristy YeeEpisodes Mentioned:Ep 45. Our Shit: What I Learned from Breaking Up a 6 Yea...2022-10-2352 minShit We Don\'t Tell MomShit We Don't Tell Mom52. How Do We Define Cheating in a Relationship?Angie has been cheated on. Kristy has done the cheating. Inspired by the recent events in the Try Guys, we chat about our own experiences with infidelity including physical cheating, emotional cheating, micro-cheating, work crushes, and how to move on. “You're not a cheater,  [...] you had cheated. But you’re not a cheater. It's not a identity thing, it's an action thing.” - Angie YuResources & Mentions:What Is an Emotional Affair? (Article)---- The best way to support this show is by listening and sharing...2022-10-091h 03Shit We Don\'t Tell MomShit We Don't Tell Mom51. The Joy and Grief of Adult FriendshipsKristy and Angie sit down to talk about adult friendships during Kristy's road trip across Canada. Analogies are made, lyrics are quoted, and tears are (almost) shed."I'm gonna hedge my bets if I have a lot of friends that are within the close circle. If a few of them left, then I'd be fine. As long as I keep filling this first ring, then it'll never be empty. And I think that was my protection mechanism." - Angie---- The best way to support this show is by listening and sharing with a...2022-09-2549 minShit We Don\'t Tell MomShit We Don't Tell Mom50. How to Heal from Childhood Trauma as a Vietnamese-American Daughter going into Motherhood ft. Tam TranTam is in the “middle generation”. The balance between talking about mental health with her parents and learning how to teach her son to be in tune with his mental well-being. We discuss:her parents talking her out of using therapypeople-pleasing tendencies as a survival tactichow to be there for other people but also set boundaries for your own emotionscreate space to process instead of suppressing your emotions childhood bullying trauma Bonus: Kristy and Angie get their Oracle cards read for the first time"I so much want to be the obedient good daughter to them...2022-09-111h 20Shit We Don\'t Tell MomShit We Don't Tell Mom49. Attachment Style…It Makes You Feel Some Type of WayWhat is your attachment style? Have you always wanted to do one but are not sure how it’ll go? We’ll do the quiz and narrate as we go and share some of our childhood memories and…well the answer may surprise you! Angie asked how understanding attachment helped in her current relationship and Kristy gave us a relationship update. As always, we discuss some deep shit.“I just cannot rationalize my emotions away. Like I have no control over my emotions and they take over my life.” - Angie”Well, the emotions are not logical...2022-08-2847 minShit We Don\'t Tell MomShit We Don't Tell Mom48. Dopamine, Distractions, and Depression (Re-release)We decided to share a popular episode from season 1 from the summer of 2020 about how we talked ourselves out of our depressive episodes. We share audio clips of our actual voice messages with each other to show our realistic experiences, thoughts, and feelings. We talk about potential coping methods and understanding the different drivers that keep us going."I just cannot rationalize my emotions away. Like I have no control over my emotions and they take over my life." - Angie"Well, the emotions are not logical, so you can't rationalize something that's... not logical."...2022-08-1559 minShit We Don\'t Tell MomShit We Don't Tell Mom47. To Have or Not to Have Babies... and WhyAngie always imaged having babies. Kristy is on team no kids. But lately, they’ve both been having different thoughts. In this episode, we explore why we originally wanted/not wanted babies and why we are changing our minds. We also chat about endometriosis, discussing babies when dating, abandonment fears, trust issues, and mom’s guilt tripping us."Maybe the reason why I always wanted to have a baby is not why I should have a baby" - Angie Yu---- The best way to support this show is by listening and sharing with...2022-07-3150 minFundamentally HumanFundamentally Human#33: Finding Our Identities with Kristy Yee & Angie Yu (Shit We Don't Tell Mom)Throughout our 20s, we go through a number of transitions, whether it's attending post-secondary, finding a job, getting married, or experiencing loss...we find ourselves through each change. I'm joined by Kristy and Angie, the co-hosts of the Shit We Don't Tell Mom podcast, about how we've been forming our identities.  Find Kristy and Angie here: https://www.shitwedonttellmom.com/ | @shitwedonttellmom shirvin.ca | @helloshirvin | @therapywithshirvin | https://linktr.ee/shirvin Music: Faithful Mission by Artificial.Music --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/fundamentallyhuman/message2022-07-1851 minShit We Don\'t Tell MomShit We Don't Tell Mom46. Unlearning Internalized Sexism in Your Family and Learning Self-Validation ft. Shirvin Lee**Content Warning: Death, Depression, Suicide**We are joined by psychotherapist Shirvin Lee who gets vulnerable and shares her childhood traumas of facing sexism and insurmountable pressures from her family. We also learn how to process and understand emotions better.“Happiness is not the baseline.” - ShirvinResources/MentionsDopamine Nation (Book)Why Are Emotions So Important? And How to Address Them (Article)Dialectical Behavior Therapy - Self Validation (Article)Find Shirvin:Fundamentally Human by Shirvin Lee (Podcast)@therapywithshirvin (Instagram) ---- The best w...2022-07-1749 minWhat Kind of Asian Are You?What Kind of Asian Are You?Podcast Spotlight - Shit We Don't Tell Mom / Kristy Yee & Angie Yu / #73Send us a textToday's conversation features Kristy Yee & Angie Yu, co-hosts of the award-winning podcast called "Shit We Don't Tell Mom". The podcast, "Shit We Don't Tell Mom" is where two Millenials (Kristy and Angie) share vulnerable stories about how to improve one's well-being & relationship with oneself. In our conversation, we learn more about Kristy and Angie and their podcast along with their mental health journey and topics regarding therapy and feelings. A good one to check out if you love Asians talking about feelings. Don't forget to head over to...2022-07-141h 03What Kind of Asian Are You?What Kind of Asian Are You?Podcast Spotlight - Shit We Don't Tell Mom / Kristy Yee & Angie Yu / #73Send us a textToday's conversation features Kristy Yee & Angie Yu, co-hosts of the award-winning podcast called "Shit We Don't Tell Mom". The podcast, "Shit We Don't Tell Mom" is where two Millenials (Kristy and Angie) share vulnerable stories about how to improve one's well-being & relationship with oneself. In our conversation, we learn more about Kristy and Angie and their podcast along with their mental health journey and topics regarding therapy and feelings. A good one to check out if you love Asians talking about feelings. Don't forget to head over to...2022-07-141h 03Have We Made It Yet?Have We Made It Yet?Ep. 75 - Reminiscing w/ Kristy Yee (Podcaster)Hosted by actor Lucas Ng and comedian Josh Yang. Full ep on YouTube: https://youtu.be/9nKb1ne2hyk | This week, Vancouver based podcaster, Kristy Yee, joins us to share the origins of their award winning podcast, Shit We Don't Tell Mom, with co-host Angie Tian! From sharing personal stories amongst friends one night to creating a podcast that presents intimate stories of their lives managing anxiety, depression, and bipolar disorder, Kristy and Angie want to help provide the tools and personal experiences to normalize personal mental health and well-being. Tune in to hear more about the podcast and visit...2022-07-1346 minShit We Don\'t Tell MomShit We Don't Tell Mom45. Our Shit: What I Learned from Breaking Up a 6 Year RelationshipThis is an intimate story about my recent breakup with my partner of 6 years. I share my fear of judgment from friends, staying vs. leaving the relationship, the lessons learned, and how I plan to move forward. “I can’t just keep quitting every time something goes wrong in a relationship” - Kristy Resources/MentionsPaired - App for Couples ---The best way to support this show is by listening and sharing with a friend. If you would like to buy a coffee or bubble t...2022-07-0351 minShit We Don\'t Tell MomShit We Don't Tell Mom44. Turning Red: Nostalgia and Intergenerational Trauma (Season 3 Finale)Toronto. Teenhood. Puberty. Friendships. Filial Piety. Emotions! The movie Turning Red is about a 13-year-old girl who is torn between her duties to walk down the path paved by her ancestors and her desire to find her own path. Kristy and Angie, both of whom happen to have been 13-year-old girls in the early 2000’s, weigh in on the key themes like intergenerational trauma and loss of identity. Turning Red is a gift to the Asian-diaspora community delivered in a shimmery wrapping paper of hope and optimism. ---The best way to support this show is...2022-04-0344 minShit We Don\'t Tell MomShit We Don't Tell Mom43. How to Give Less F***s About Dating and Marriage & Find Your Own Happiness ft. Justine Ang FonteJustine shares stories of telling her Catholic Filipino parents about dating a black man, potentially not getting married, and potentially not having kids - even though she wants 4 of them. We explore why women tend to choose “fixer-uppers”, and why we are fixated on romantic relationships to bring us happiness. She's a recovering people pleaser, avid baker, and sex educator in New York City.“Why are we giving so much credit to that one thing, one place, one person, to give us happiness” - Justine Ang FonteFind Justine:Website: https://www.justinefonte.com/ 2022-03-2057 minShit We Don\'t Tell MomShit We Don't Tell Mom42. How Do We Know If We're Loveable?Are we loveable? Insecurities can stem from so many different sources but how do we manage them and prevent them from ruining our current and future relationships? We dive into our experiences with our past and figure out how to notice our triggers and re-work our thinking so we can have healthier relationships.  **Content Warning: Death, Depression, Suicide**Takeaways:Don’t give up after the first time you seek professional help because it’s about the right fit and right timingWe inherit unhealthy emotional attachments from our famil...2022-03-0659 minShit We Don\'t Tell MomShit We Don't Tell Mom41. Living a Secret Double Life ft. Special GuestTeacher by day, gogo dancer by night. We discuss (rant) how we deal with nagging mothers, life as a gogo-dancer, struggling with body image, and how to make hard life decisions. "No one is really looking at you. They're so concerned about their own lives. They have no time to judge you. And even if they do, it's such a passing fleeting moment."- Special Guest Takeaways:Give less FsOur relationship with mom might never be perfectly healthy Some of us are still avoiding, and that’s where we need to be...2022-02-201h 02Shit We Don\'t Tell MomShit We Don't Tell Mom40. Hanging Out With Your Inner ChildInner child. Trauma. Reparenting. The Little Prince. In this episode, we sit down to talk about the first time that we confronted our inner child and how we rekindled that relationship. We dive into our definition of inner child and how we practice hanging out with our inner child. Angie also shares her experience with imaginary exposure therapy which exposed some of her deep inner child wounds.Takeaways:Connecting with your inner child can be done by interacting with a younger version of yourselfDon’t stop doing things you enjoyed doing as a childYou do...2022-02-0653 minShit We Don\'t Tell MomShit We Don't Tell Mom39. Using Witchcraft to Connect with Our Chinese Ancestry ft. Mimi YoungMimi Young is a spirit communicator. She left the corporate 9-5 world to invest in a relationship with the unseen. In this episode, we explore how Shamanism is a way to honor our ancestry, what is dream hygiene and how you can benefit, and how to get back in touch with your cultural roots that have been lost through migration and cultural revolutions. “When we can return to our roots, practices and customs, in the context of magic and spirituality, it is an act of decolonizing because then you are saying - I am Chinese, and this is...2022-01-2356 minShit We Don\'t Tell MomShit We Don't Tell Mom38. Experiences in the Psych Ward for Suicidal Ideations ft. Tanushree MazumdarAfter being hospitalized for a week, Tanushree gets diagnosed with dysthymia. Then things got messy. Unintentionally triggering friends. Fighting with parents about using medication. And what self-care looks like right now. Tanushree is a fellow mental health advocate in the South Asian community. She shares her experiences being forced into a psych ward and then learning how to manage her mental well-being. “When you talk about destigmatizing, you really have to talk about culture” - Tanushree ----Content Warning: suicidal ideations and self-harm Takeaways:S...2022-01-0948 minShit We Don\'t Tell MomShit We Don't Tell Mom37. Our Shit: Adult Friendships and How to Be a Better FriendAdult friendships. Confrontations. Empathy. Responsibilities. We confront our uncomfortable thoughts and compare our friendship and partnership to a romantic relationship. They talk about their mental health and how that has affected their time management and relationships.Takeaways:Having doubts about something does not mean you don’t want itAdult friendships need maintenance and check-ins from both sidesHealthy friendships mean you can share uncomfortable feelings with each otherConsistency and kindness is more important than frequency and big gesturesLife gets in the way and friendships require managing expectationsMe...2021-12-261h 00Shit We Don\'t Tell MomShit We Don't Tell Mom36. Negative Self-Talk and Equating Our Self-Worth with Productivity ft. Lucas NgSelf-shaming. Struggling relationship. Disappointing Chinese Christian parents. Lucas Ng, Canadian actor and co-host of “Have We Made It Yet” podcast, shares how he got fired from his job triggered a cascade of endless negative self-talk, thoughts of self-harm, and eventually going to therapy 5 years later. **Content Warning: Self Harm**Takeaways:Traumas can resurface years after they happenedCan’t expect your partner to be your everything A constant need for control might actually be your own denial of your mental health struggles Talk with your younger self with compassion and love 20s is when...2021-12-1256 minShit We Don\'t Tell MomShit We Don't Tell Mom35. The Financial, Physical, and Mental Costs of Our PeriodsIUDs. Sex during periods. Pain. Discomfort. The tampon tax and all the other costs associated with our menstruations. Kristy and Angie tackle some burning questions about the ever so enduring, unbelievably persistent, biological event we unwillingly go through - our periods. We hit up our male friends and asked them to tell us something they know about menstruation and then ask something they want to know about menstruation.Takeaways:We need men to do the work to normalize periods for everyonePeriods are expensive, and pads and tampons are just the tip...2021-11-2853 minShit We Don\'t Tell MomShit We Don't Tell Mom34. I Dated A Narcissist For 6 YearsWhat is it like to date a narcissist? What happens when you get triggered by other people’s breakup? Living with depression and bipolar, we sometimes wonder if we are the “bad” person in a relationship. So when a narcissist who seems like the “perfect” person comes along and gaslights you, you might end up believing them. Angie shares how she felt during her 6-year relationship with a narcissist and how she was triggered by a famous YouTube couple that recently broke up. Takeaway:Narcissistic people will always portray themselves as "perfect" so other ppl will be...2021-11-1440 minShit We Don\'t Tell MomShit We Don't Tell Mom33. Forgiveness and Gratitude From a Queer Chinese Daughter ft. Xixi WangXixi Wang, founder of Asians for Sex Positivity, discusses what sex positivity means for Xixi and her relationship with her immigrant parents as a queer Asian. We discuss mental health stigma and finding gratitude for our parents as we get older.**CONTENT WARNING: Suicidal thoughts**   Takeaway:Sex positivity is not about whether sex is good nor bad, it is about owning your body and your choicesWe need to unlearn suppressing our emotional and mental health struggles just to avoid disappointing our parentsRelationships with parents are complicated because th...2021-10-3143 minShit We Don\'t Tell MomShit We Don't Tell Mom32. Our Shit: How to Process and Manage AnxietyKristy discusses coping mechanisms for anxiety. What helps us vs. what makes it worse. Moving to a new city is not turning out to be the way she expected and she feels incredibly overwhelmed. She sits down with Angie to talk about her experience, and about coping mechanisms for anxiety and what helps us versus what prolongs the impact of it on our day-to-day life. Takeaway:Let yourself feel the physiological effects of anxiety rather than finding ways to suppress it because prolonged suppression of anxiety will magnify its impactBreaking down a...2021-10-1736 minMx. Asian AmericanMx. Asian American49 - Shang-Chi with Shit We Don't Tell Mom (Angie Yu and Kristy Yee)In this episode, I invited Angie Yu and Kristy Yee, who are the hosts of Shit We Don’t Tell Mom podcast, to chat about Shang-Chi and the Legend of the Ten Rings. We go through the actors, the plot, the language, and cultural implications of the movie. Check out Louis Cha or Jin Yong! Connect with Shit We Don’t Tell Mom: https://www.shitwedonttellmom.com/ @shitwedonttellmom Connect with us: @mxasianamerican mxasianamerican@gmail.com2021-10-101h 02Shit We Don\'t Tell MomShit We Don't Tell Mom31. Our Shit: Parenting Guilt and Living For Our Own HappinessKristy and Angie are back for a new season and they update everyone on what has been going on in their lives. Angie talks about (puppy) parenting guilt and Kristy talks about living her new life in another city. Angie reflects on a childhood incident that had impacted her deeply. Kristy reflects on pursuing an experience for herself and not for filial piety obligations. **Content warning: Death, childhood traumaTakeaway:We begin to understand our parents more when we step into parental rolesWe are not responsible for the h...2021-10-0359 minShit We Don\'t Tell MomShit We Don't Tell Mom30. Friendship, Forgiveness, and Childhood Trauma (Season 2 Finale)Angie and Kristy go through the 36 Questions to Fall in Love questions to get to know each. Do they fall in love? Listen now to find out. Winky face. This episode was recorded on IG Live on the day of our 1 year podversary!   **Content Warning: Child Abuse Highlights:  Kristy’s experience running away from home  Angie’s experience as a new immigrant  Kristy and Angie fall in love at question #22  Kristy cries three times and Angie made her cry two of the times  Friendship means loyalty, trust, and healthy supp...2021-08-081h 12