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Refocused: Loving God, Loving PeopleWhat really matters? Back here again…We are such a distracted bunch, focused and centered on serving ourselves and our insatiable desires, but this is not why we are here. We are not just here to get degrees, make money, buy houses, start families and die. We are here on purpose by purpose, and most importantly this Earth is not our home.I’m sorry for the rough intro, but I really want my life to count for Christ. I want to be focused on things that do matter, things of eternal value, sharing the gospel, loving and serving humanity fully. Maybe you can join me on...
2022-04-2323 minRefocused: Loving God, Loving PeopleYoung momma’s club Feat Irene MoyabaCan mothers truly have it all? On this episode co-hosted by the amazing Blessing Ibeafu and our incredible guest Irene Moyaba. We visited the young momma’s club as promised and we are serving the tea piping hot! Love always, Kuku & Blessing
2021-11-0835 minRefocused: Loving God, Loving PeopleYoung momma’s club Feat. Uche DaubryTo all the ladies who feel like their ovaries are running out of time... hold your horses! In this extremely hilarious yet very educative episode. We unpacked a lot of controversies surrounding pregnancy and motherhood. Some of the questions that centered the conversation include :--Is “snapback culture” purely motivated by vanity? -Is it just the young moms who get their bodies back after pregnancy? -Why are we so stressed about stretch marks, are they avoidable?-What happens with sex and intimacy post- partum? -Is it possible to maintain a healthy weight during pregnancy?On this episode co-hosted by the amazing Bles...
2021-10-2643 minRefocused: Loving God, Loving PeopleYoung momma’s club feat Mmabatho MphaleleDoes anything really prepare you for the transformable journey of pregnancy to the destination of motherhood…apparently not!On this episode co-hosted by the amazing Blessing Ibeafu and our incredible guest Mmabatho Mphalele. We visited the young momma’s club as promised and revealed many deep truths.This raw but extremely insightful episode lets us in on something deeper than the physical aspects of pregnancy and motherhood. The conversation was heavy on the emotional side, especially the connection with the child, and taking up a new identity as “mom”We highly recommend this episode for everyone…moms, moms to be, dads, dads...
2021-10-1642 minRefocused: Loving God, Loving PeopleTaking a break!I was away for over 2 months and life happened as usual, tune in to find out more, can’t believe I cried ewwww! Love always,Your resilient host,Kuku.
2021-09-3017 minRefocused: Loving God, Loving PeopleThe Skin Friend story | My Skincare Consultant Journey Feat PejuOften times we attribute the action of saving lives to Doctors, but they are many others who may not be at the frontline but are steady saving lives. The Skin friend saved mine, when acne left me with a bruised self esteem and an impaired skin barrier, she swept in with her hydration cape and saved the day. If you’re listening to this episode, I hope you reach out to her, I promise you she knows just exactly how to help. If you’re listening to this podcast, you are two steps away from an amazing give away. Peju and...
2021-06-1844 minRefocused: Loving God, Loving PeopleMy acne, My story Feat Khloe UmohOn this weeks episode, we are joined with Edidiong Khloe Umoh “K-Baby”, a lawyer and enjoyment connoisseur. In this very long and very raw episode, we share our stories and the parts of our lives scarred by acne. To many of you, it’s just a skin condition, to us it was so much more believe me. We were extremely vulnerable in this episode as we unpacked our insecurities, discussed our journey to finding beauty and self-worth amidst a broken skin barrier and a wounded self-worth. I love what Khloe always says “Acne may not contribute to your beauty, but it never...
2021-06-1148 minRefocused: Loving God, Loving PeopleMy acne, My story! Feat SubomiAlthough a great deal of women struggle with acne, many men do so too, but we rarely hear their perspective. On today’s episode we are joined with a good friend of mine, Olasubomi Abduakeeb shares his story on dealing with acne, the insecurities acne left him with and how he’s been overcoming them. He also shared a few skincare tips lol, you’ll have to listen to find out tho...this was a very fun and vulnerable episode. I hope you leave educated and enlightened, and if you’re struggling with acne, I see you, it gets better I promis...
2021-06-0528 minRefocused: Loving God, Loving PeopleMy acne, My story! Feat. Olotu FunkeWhen you have textured and acne-prone skin, do you ever fit into a world where glass skin has become a trend...To begin the docu-series on “my acne, my story” we are joined with the Olotu Funke. Funke started battling with textured skin at the early age of 11. She shares how much what we would deem, a simple skin condition shaped her life and her story. That little girl has grown and blossomed into a popular brand story teller and body positivist. This was an exciting and enlightening episode. And to those who have never known what it is to stru...
2021-04-1031 minRefocused: Loving God, Loving PeopleAll the juicy bits #uncut Feat. Boitumelo Mocheko x Miriam MichealOn the final episode of the #friendorfoe series and the very first time I’m putting out an uncut episode, we are joined with Boitumelo and Miriam Micheal, lol my name sake. We delved into some brow raising conversations. Like...📌 Is three a crowd in friendships.📌What to do when your friend copies your hustle.📌How to know your place in someone’s life.📌How to sustain long lasting and long distance relationships.I had so much fun in this episode, so many gems were dropped, although it’s super long so I recommend you listen in the shower or in the toilet if y...
2021-04-0149 minRefocused: Loving God, Loving PeopleWhy we stay in toxic friendships Feat. Stephanie x MmabathoThe subjective nature of the term “toxic” makes it difficult to define what is toxic and what is quite frankly just human.If no one is perfect, how then do we know what toxic is, do people even know they are in toxic friendships?The amazing Stephanie and Mmabatho touched on so many things that produce toxic effects even though they are done with the right heart, like “the mommy complex” “the messiah complex” we often want to save, fix and rescue lost causes and often find ourselves dragging dead weight!So why then do we stay? Have we been indirectly w...
2021-03-1834 minRefocused: Loving God, Loving PeopleNormalizing friendship breakups Feat Tinashe & BoitumeloIn the first episode of the “Friend or Foe” series, we discuss on the topic “Normalizing friendship breakups” Usually when we discuss breakups it’s often in the context of romantic relationships, but this very often happens in the context of friendships. Join Tinashe and Boitumelo as they talk about their friendship breakup experience and how that ultimately shaped their life and their friendships moving on!We also dabbled into rebound friendships, are they a thing? Can making a new friend heal the scar created by an old friend? Well you’ll have to listen to hear more of this tea. They al...
2021-03-1234 minRefocused: Loving God, Loving PeopleOn arranged marriages Feat. Lerit x R’jayHello refocused hun,The concept of “Arranged marriages” is not new at all. It’s part of a long standing tradition that has declined substantially during the 19th and 20th centuries. It is a super controversial topic loaded with many complex possibilities, pros & cons. On today’s episode we are joined with Lerit Nifesi: a married Wellness & Style Blogger and Joy Otegbayo, popularly known as R-Jay “a relationship enthusiast”They shared their stance on the chosen topic and uncovered a lot of areas not usually spoken about. The recording session was educative and exciting indeed.Anyways thanks for coming to the end of t...
2021-03-0235 minRefocused: Loving God, Loving PeopleIdolizing singleness vs Idolizing relationships Feat Sharon x SindiBy now we all know that idolizing relationships are a thing, but have we also begun to idolize singleness, have we over glorified the wait?On this amazing yet impactful episode, I was joined by Sharon Mohie (Creative, Blogger & Podcaster: Unashamed and Unafraid, Sport enthusiast) & Sindi Mcata, the heart behind “Devoted with Sindi” as she beautifully put it.We discussed healing, hurt, self-sufficiency, stability prior to a relationship, feminism, societal roles and how our faith intersects it all.I hope it brings you a lot of clarity and direction regardless of the season you’re in.Love always,Your very single...
2021-02-2335 minRefocused: Loving God, Loving PeopleTo the six single people left in 2021 x Boitumelo MochekoHey Refocused family,I had so much fun recording this episode and I can only hope you enjoy it. Boitumelo and I shared on some reasons why people may still be single and what to take note of if you wanna get iced 💍 this 2021🤣. Anyways love you and take good care of yourself.Your single host,Kuku
2021-02-1729 minRefocused: Loving God, Loving PeopleShould black women be shamed for desiring white men x CaitlynIt’s the month of love and I’m sooo excited 💃🏻In this episode, our amazing guest Caitlyn shares her experience on interracial dating. She opens up about how her ethnic background and family experiences shaped her decision. We delved into colorism, and it’s effect on influencing who we choose to date, and how biracial features are so intensely fetishized in our modern society. So many questions where addressed such as: Is dating outside ones race considered an upgrade or downgrade?Is race a defining criteria for relationshipping?Are your motives central in determining the partners you choose?I hope this ep...
2021-02-0736 minRefocused: Loving God, Loving PeopleChristian men or whatever Feat. Sandra x LeratoHave you ever been with a religious person only to find out they actually not that religious. To identify as godly or religious is one thing however, to bear fruits worthy of this label is another. I mean no pressure and all, but where do we draw the line between expecting better from someone cause they are religious but also giving them room to fail because they are human? We talked about so much on this episode and I hope we can all learn a thing or two from it.
2020-11-1639 minRefocused: Loving God, Loving PeopleEndSARS : Keeping the story alive!Over the last few days, young Nigerians all over the country have come out to peacefully protest in the thousands, demanding an end to police brutality and the disbandment of the “Special Anti Robbery Squad”. On Sunday, The 11th of October 2020 the current DG of police released a statement claiming they were disbanding/dissolving SARS as a unit.First, this is nothing new. In 2015, 2017, 2018, and 2019, the same proclamations and declarations were made and nothing changed. These officials remained on the road; raping, beating, kidnapping and stealing from young Nigerians.Second, there is to be no reckoning according to the plans this...
2020-10-1538 minRefocused: Loving God, Loving PeopleIs Super spirituality a curse word? x Sindi Mcata & Sharon MohieWhat do we do with those who seem to be “super spiritual?” The ones who seem to pray more, praise louder, get more excited about God than we do? We all know people who even in a five-minute conversation will start giving us their favorite Bible verse or be quick to share a testimony of what they feel God just did or showed them in their lives. What kind of feelings do they arouse in you? Do they freak you out just a little bit? Or, perhaps, on the other hand, does a bit of jealousy emerge? Do you muse, “I wish...
2020-08-2536 minRefocused: Loving God, Loving PeopleFeminism in Africa, Middle East and Europe x Randa & AleksFeminism: One war, Different battles!On today’s episode, Aleks (Slovenian), Randa (Lebanese), expose the inequalities present in their societies. To understand the movement better, it’s important you realise that the fight for the equal rights of women transcends geographical location, ethnicity and race. Hence today’s episode will enlighten you and expose you to the reality of a woman across different spheres of life in Africa, Middle East and Europe.Love always,Refocused
2020-08-1739 minRefocused: Loving God, Loving PeopleRedefining Feminism/Femphobia Part 2 Ft Musa x Elizabeth x Ama x BrightThe plot thickens y’all.... Anyways today marks the end of the great debate, shoutout to our amazing panelists who aired their views amicably. In today’s episode we realized the biggest issue is not in the “reason” behind the movement, but in the “label”. Were the feminists able to win a panelist to their team, well you’ll have to listen to find out more. Love always, Kuku
2020-08-0933 minRefocused: Loving God, Loving PeopleRedefining Feminism/ Femphobia Part 1 Ft Musa x Elizabeth x Ama x Bright“Feminism” has become a very controversial movement and it’s time we start to educate ourselves right. This project is aimed at shedding light on what the movement is really about, areas where the definition/reason behind the movement has been construed, and why the movement is considered important or not so important to many. Love always, Kuku!
2020-08-0429 minRefocused: Loving God, Loving PeopleDay 7: Any regrets?Welcome the the seventh session of the 7-day guided meditation challenge. I pray God gives you the stillness Ed’s you desire!
2020-07-2814 minRefocused: Loving God, Loving PeopleDay 6: Solo MeditationWelcome to the sixth day of the 7-day guided meditation challenge. I pray God gives you the stillness you deserve!
2020-07-2514 minRefocused: Loving God, Loving PeopleDay 5: Never Enough!Welcome to the fifth day of the 7-day guided meditation session, I pray God gives you the stillness you deserve.
2020-07-2415 minRefocused: Loving God, Loving PeopleDay 4: The joy thief!Welcome to the fourth session of the 7-day guided meditation challenge. I pray God gives you the stillness you desire.
2020-07-2311 minRefocused: Loving God, Loving PeopleDay 3: A trip to the beach!Welcome to the third day of the 7-day guided meditation challenge. May God give you the stillness you deserve🤍
2020-07-2110 minRefocused: Loving God, Loving PeopleDay 2: What report will you give?Welcome to the second session of the 7-day guided meditation challenge, I pray God gives you the stillness you desire.
2020-07-2111 minRefocused: Loving God, Loving PeopleDay 1: Who am I?Welcome to the first day of the 7-day guided meditation challenge. I pray this brings you the stillness you desire, Love always x
2020-07-1910 minRefocused: Loving God, Loving PeopleGetting married young x Kgomi & Shaun (Part 2)Meet the Carvahlos’s!!! #Part 2Last week we ended the conversation talking about culture shock, Shaun told us on how he had been gifted with a moisturiser from a very loving friend and Kgomi couldn’t understand why her mother-in-law didn’t have hand lotion “handy” 🤣In today’s episode and the final episode of the getting married young series😭. We discussed their parent’s take on their decision to get married young, what to do, if you have strict or unsupportive parents.The change in their friendship dynamic as well as the importance of building healthy friendships outsides their marriage.Space is a...
2020-07-1250 minRefocused: Loving God, Loving PeopleGetting married young x Kgomi & Shaun (Part 1)Meet the Carvahlos’s!!! #Part 1On today’s episode on getting married young, we are joined with Kgomi married at 22 and Shaun married at 25. They have been married for 2 years and 5 months. Today they share their rich and impactful experience with us on this controversial topic. They nailed so many questions and honestly I’ll recommend listening with a pen and paper, from:--Meeting the ONE!-Did they rush things? -Money talks, pre-marriage, bride price, wedding hacks and dealing with money in marriage.-Their take on pre-marital counselling-Culture shock in an interracial marriages Y’all had so many questions, it was sooo...
2020-06-2852 minRefocused: Loving God, Loving PeopleGetting married young x Tola & YomiI’ve not laughed this hard during a segment in a very long time, I learned so much too. Getting married young is quite a controversy in the 21st century, while some desire it cause they think it’s trendy, others are more concerned with building themselves completely before taking in someone else. Tola (23) & Yomi (33) have been married for about 4 months now, Tola describes the experience as a “learning curve”, while Yomi describes it as getting to know each other deeper. Join them in this amazing episode to discover everything from first dates, to meeting the parents, to mental preparation, to alter...
2020-06-2133 minRefocused: Loving God, Loving PeopleDisplacing gender roles Featuring Tinashe x Bright x AbangSo we have come to the episode finale of patriarchy unmasked, it was indeed a pleasure to be in the man cave with my amazing friends. I’m this episode we discussed:-💡What gender roles are!💡What the most controversial gender roles are!💡If women should propose!💡If men should be stay home dads!💡Why men feel threatened by the displacement of gender roles!💡How then we should dissolve these gender roles!Tune in to enjoy, Love always,Kuku
2020-05-3134 minRefocused: Loving God, Loving People“Be a man” they said... Featuring Bright x Tinashe x Hlonee x AbangThe statement “ Be a man” has had one of the most powerful yet toxic influence on men. What does that even mean? In this amazing episode, we address the loss of identity commonly seen in men. Do they know who they really are, or has the society dictated a man’s identity? So therefore, what is a man is supposed to look like, sound like, dress like, act like etc. My amazing friends brought so much heat and insight to this podcast. Remember you were human before you were a man, I hope after this you realise what being a man tr...
2020-05-2529 minRefocused: Loving God, Loving PeopleThe financial burden society places on men! Featuring Abang x Nash x HloneeThe fact that the society puts an immense pressure on men to be financially stable is not new to any one of us. So how does this make them feel?How does it feel to bear the pressure of providing?Is the term providing defined by the zeros in his bank account?How do they handle being tasked with the job of providing financial security?When all is said and done, does money really matter? How does this impact the self- esteem of men especially? How do they cope with this burden they didn’t choose?Did we digress ofcourse lo...
2020-05-1733 minRefocused: Loving God, Loving PeopleJust friends, no strings attached? Featuring Hen x Tumi x Steph x ElodieWelcome to the new series titled “Conversations with Kuku”. On this first episode, we speak about the dynamics in a heterosexual friendship, and if strings are really attached? We tackle issues from why a heterosexual friendship is important, how feelings start developing in such friendships, if catching feelings for a friend is totally normal, if the relationship dynamic changes once feelings starts to surface and many more. Trust us not to leave you hanging 😉 , we also discussed how to deal with the feelings you may be having for your friend! I thoroughly enjoyed recording this and can’t wait for next week...
2020-04-1933 minRefocused: Loving God, Loving PeopleThe father fix x Bright MunyatiThe daddy issues series started as a result of discovering that we all have “daddy issues“. This is because nobody’s earthly father is God, hence nobody’s father was or is perfect. We all have “daddy issues” to some degree.All good and emotional things come to an end,this episode marks the end of the “Daddy issues” series, and join us as we unpack how to trade all our daddy issues for a father fix. In this episode you’ll discover what a father fix is and why it’s important that we all have a father fix. It all boils down to...
2020-04-1131 minRefocused: Loving God, Loving PeopleTo all the fathers who chose everything but us...Growing up with both parents is a luxury we often take for granted. Our amazing guest speaker takes the lead in this deeply moving episode. Her mother did an amazing job at parenting, and although her dad was absent, this was never a major concern to her until she met him. Now we expect a fairy tale twist, but things took a more painful turn, after they met. In this episode, she opens up about how this affected her life in every single aspect, from the deep psychological wounds to her choice in romantic partners. “No one should ever beg fo...
2020-04-0133 minRefocused: Loving God, Loving PeopleTo all the fathers that left too early...Death is one of the most difficult things to come to terms with, especially when you’re dealing with the loss of someone who was so closely knitted to you. I’m deeply grateful to Abang and Rere who joined me in this deeply emotional segment as they share about their fathers who left too early. Not only do they share their fondest and most precious memories with their dads, they also come clean about how they dealt with this deeply consuming grief. Now we understand that time doesn’t necessarily all wounds! To all those in quarantine in the compan...
2020-03-2540 minRefocused: Loving God, Loving PeopleTo all the fathers who abused us (II) Finding healing & redefining identityOn today’s episode of finding healing and redefining your identity. Elizabeth and I shared very practical steps in order to find healing after rape/sexual abuse. What made her discover that she was being raped so late in life? We then proceeded to tackle issues centred around raising awareness and educating children at early life stages. We tackled other questions like:-How rape/sexual abuse affect your relationship? Why do rape victims stay silent?Why speaking up is so powerful?Hence, we also shed light on the importance and power of speaking up, as well as conquering guilt, shame an...
2020-03-1543 minRefocused: Loving God, Loving PeopleTo all the fathers that abused us x Elizabeth MarlinOn today’s episode of Daddy issues, we are joined with an amazing guest, who shares her story on being abused by a father figure in her life. She is real, transparent and candid with the psychological scars it left on her, but not only does she share her vulnerability with us, she also shares her newly found hope, opening up about how she conquered and is still in the process of overcoming her bruised past. Sexual abuse is a monster we all have to collectively fight, we digressed into feminism, rape culture, consent, upbringing, the me-too movement and all ot...
2020-03-1133 minRefocused: Loving God, Loving PeopleA healthy compromise x Boitumelo MochekoIn today’s episode we tackled the general question often asked in relationships, “how does one achieve a healthy compromise” if at all compromise can ever be healthy. Also we addressed if one must always lower their standards in order to achieve a healthy compromise!And we finally deconstructed the difference between tolerance and compromise. I hope you enjoyed the segment as much we enjoyed recording it. Love always, Kuku
2020-03-0137 minRefocused: Loving God, Loving PeopleBecoming Mrs Right! X Idorenyin UdosenWhat are you bringing to the table???Last week we spoke about the ideal qualities we ladies love to see in a man. This week’s episode is a hard to swallow pill for us ladies, as often times we desire people’s sons to measure up to a standard that we fail to live up to! How can we be better? How can we end the double standards we’ve created? No! we are not perfect, neither are we trying to be. However it’s okay to be a master piece, and still a work in progress. So let this mes...
2020-02-2528 minRefocused: Loving God, Loving PeopleMy ideal man x Stephanie MonekeJoin I and Stephanie in this educative episode, that will assist you in your choice for an ideal partner. What is an ideal man? What are the top qualities we look for in a partner? Why do our “types on paper” and our “types in reality” often lack correlation? Why do we settle for the men we choose? When all is said and done, what really matters in choosing an ideal man... Love always, Your amazing host Kuku!
2020-02-0936 minRefocused: Loving God, Loving PeopleShoot your shot!Shooting your shot has become a real trend nowadays, however what are the common misconceptions around this topic? Why should you shoot your shot and why should you absolutely not try it. Well I’ll be sharing my personal experience as well as lessons I learned and common misconceptions about the art of shot shooting 🤣 So Grab your popcorn and enjoy ❤️#love #shootyourshot #confusethedevil #nomoreclownery #valentines #stillsingle
2020-02-0330 minRefocused: Loving God, Loving PeopleSelf-evaluation: January 2k20The new year resolution culture is not new to any one, we all get hyped and aim to achieve set goals for the new year, but how well do we do in reaching our targets? Join Boitumelo Mocheko and I as we go through the year, regularly reviewing our goals every month. This may be the fool proof accountability system you never thought you needed in order to achieve your goals. Love always, Refocused x
2020-01-0523 minRefocused: Loving God, Loving PeopleInsecurities and Relationships x Boitumelo MochekoIn this episode, we are joined with one of the most amazing people I’ve ever met, Boitumelo Mocheko. We deconstruct the societal standards of beauty, and encourage you to establish unique and healthy standards. We are transparent with what we struggle with and how we conquer certain insecurities. How insecurities impact a relationship is also discussed, with tips on how to better your relationship and uplift each other. Please pardon the quality, love always xx
2019-12-0830 minRefocused: Loving God, Loving PeopleNever enough!This segment highlights the differences between the lack/scarcity mindset and the abundance mindset, it explains the importance of perspective and focus and empowers listeners with steps on how to view a life filled with scarcity and lack in an abundant manner. I hope you enjoy xx
2019-12-0115 minRefocused: Loving God, Loving PeopleWhat are you grasping on to?This is a brief introduction of what this podcast is about and what to expect from it. Today I shared lessons I learned last week on what’s worth holding on to, what’s not worth holding on to “ and the courage to know the difference. I also remember I didn’t get to say what I heard from the pastor, lmao he said “self control is not the ability to control one self, but the opportunity to choose who will control you” So what are you holding on to so tightly, and what have you awarded the power and authority to...
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