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Untethering ShameShame & Body Confidence: How the Binge-Restrict Cycle Transfers to Work, Life, and Hustle Culture with Jemma HaythorneIn this conversation, Kyira Wackett and Jemma discuss the complex relationship between body confidence and shame, exploring personal journeys and societal influences. They delve into the importance of self-worth, the impact of societal standards on body image, and the journey towards body acceptance. Jemma shares insights on intuitive eating, the significance of body neutrality, and the challenges posed by hustle culture. The discussion emphasizes the need for empathy and understanding in addressing body image issues across all body types.TakeawaysBody confidence is a journey that requires self-trust and self-belief.Shame often stems...
2026-02-1556 min
Untethering ShameShame & Belonging: Growing Up Between Worlds and Coming Home to Yourself with Ingrid Hu DahlIn this conversation, Kyira Wackett and Ingrid Hu Dahl explore themes of identity, resilience, and the complexities of family dynamics. They discuss the importance of community, the journey of self-discovery, and the power of empathy in relationships. Ingrid shares her experiences of growing up mixed-race, navigating societal expectations, and the impact of her mother's influence on her life. The conversation emphasizes the significance of understanding and healing, both personally and collectively, as well as the importance of empowering young voices through shared experiences.TakeawaysNavigating personal challenges can be a privilege.Root systems in trees symbolize...
2025-12-1454 min
Untethering ShameShame & Conditional Love: How Childhood Scripts Shape Adult Relationships with Cassandra JohnsonIn this deeply honest and emotionally rich conversation, Kyira and returning guest Cassandra Johnson explore the intergenerational patterns that shape how we love, communicate, perform, protect ourselves, and experience shame.Together, they unpack how childhood conditioning — from emotional dismissal to unpredictability to inappropriate responsibility — wires us for compliance, self-blame, perfectionism, and fear of abandonment. Cassandra shares powerful stories from her own life, including formative experiences with parental volatility, childhood silencing, and sexual trauma, and how those shaped her patterns in adulthood — from people-pleasing to relationship dynamics to emotional over-functioning.The episode moves from insight to applicat...
2025-12-071h 08
Untethering ShameShame & Online Dating: From Self-Erasure to Self-Worth with Amanda Quinby, PhDIn this episode of Untethering Shame, Kyira sits down with psychologist Amanda Quinby, PhD, to explore one of the most shame-charged arenas of modern life: online dating. From crafting the “perfect” profile to surviving ghosting, Amanda breaks down how dating apps become a minefield of comparison, self-doubt, and performance — and how to move toward fit and authenticity instead of chasing approval.Together, they unpack the difference between dating to be chosen versus dating for alignment, and how slowing down, listening to your body, and treating your feelings as data can turn online dating into a powerful mirror for healing ra...
2025-11-2348 min
Untethering Shame🎙️Ask Me Anything – E28: When Your Brain Won’t Shut Off (Ruminating at Bedtime)In this week’s AMA, Kyira answers a listener question about nighttime rumination — that racing mind that won’t quiet down no matter how tired you are.Kyira unpacks why anxious thoughts spike at night, how shame and avoidance make it worse, and what it actually takes to create safety in your nervous system so rest feels possible. This episode explores practical tools for containment, self-compassion, and redefining rest — not as perfection, but as permission.💡 Key TakeawaysYour brain isn’t broken — it’s trying to process what it didn’t have space for earl...
2025-11-1707 min
Untethering ShameShame & Emotional Repression: The Hidden Cost of “Holding It Together” with Bronwyn SchweigerdtIn this episode, Kyira welcomes back Bronwyn Schweigerdt, licensed marriage and family therapist and self-described “anger expert,” for part two of their powerful discussion on emotional repression and radical self-integration.Together, they unpack what happens when we silence our emotions — and what it takes to finally listen to them. Bronwyn guides Kyira through an integration exercise that becomes an intimate exploration of abandonment, worthiness, and self-acceptance.Inside this episode, we’ll talk about:The difference between emotional suppression and repression — and how they shape our livesHow childhood conditioning teaches us to disconnect from anger and truthThe...
2025-11-1658 min
Untethering Shame🎙️Ask Me Anything – E27: When You Can’t Be There (Shame & Caregiving from Afar)In this week’s AMA, Kyira responds to a listener navigating the guilt and shame of loving a parent from afar after a serious health diagnosis. Despite knowing his dad doesn’t expect him to drop everything, he feels like a “bad son” for not being there in person.Kyira explores the tension between love, distance, and limits — and how shame often confuses grief with failure. This episode offers gentle reframes and grounding tools for redefining what it means to show up when you can’t be physically present.💡 Key TakeawaysPresence isn’t de...
2025-11-1005 min
Untethering ShameShame & The Healing Backslide: Why It’s Normal to Revisit Old Patterns with Sabrina TrobakKyira reconnects with Sabrina Trobak, registered counselor, clinical supervisor, and author of Not Good Enough, to explore what happens when healing isn’t linear. Together, they unpack the moments that feel like setbacks—when shame whispers, “I should know better”—and reframe them as invitations to deepen awareness and meet ourselves with compassion. They discuss core beliefs like “not good enough” and the ways we distract through busyness, anger, or perfectionism. Sabrina offers tools—emotions lists, curiosity over judgment, and boundaries—to help listeners move from self-criticism toward understanding and remember that healing unfolds layer by layer, not all at once.
2025-11-0952 min
Untethering Shame🎙️Ask Me Anything – E26: When Planning Steals the PresentIn this week’s AMA, Kyira answers a listener who’s realized their planning often comes at the cost of being present. Many of us over-plan not because we love control, but because control feels safe — it helps us avoid the shame of things going wrong.Kyira breaks down how to shift from planning as protection to planning as preparation, using simple mindset and body-based tools to help you stop over-orchestrating and start living the moments you work so hard to create.💡 Key TakeawaysPlanning is often a nervous system strategy for safety...
2025-11-0307 min
Untethering ShameShame & Money: Rewriting the “I’m Bad with Money” Story with Michelle WaymireIn this heartfelt and eye-opening conversation, Kyira sits down with Michelle Waymire, a queer, anti-capitalist financial advisor and founder of Young + Scrappy, to explore the deep intersection of shame and money.Together, they unpack the beliefs and stories we carry about money—stories often formed in childhood—that shape our self-worth, safety, and sense of control. Michelle shares her own early experiences with privilege and how they informed her journey toward more compassionate, values-based financial work.From the myth of being “bad with money” to the toxic narratives of hustle culture and financial perfectionism, Kyira and Michell...
2025-11-0252 min
Untethering Shame🎙️Ask Me Anything – E25: When It’s Not About You (But It Still Hurts)In this week’s AMA, Kyira answers a question from a listener who works in a job where they’re constantly being yelled at — not because they’ve done something wrong, but because they’re the one standing in front of people when things go wrong. Even when you know it isn’t personal, it can still feel personal. So how do you hold onto your empathy without letting shame or resentment take over?Kyira explores the tension between logic and emotion — why your nervous system reacts as if you’re under attack, even when your brain knows better — and...
2025-10-2709 min
Untethering ShameShame & Being Dangerous: The Revolutionary Act of Loving Yourself with The Tracy PiperA year after her first appearance, artist The Tracy Piper returns to Untethering Shame to talk about her evolution from loud advocate to deeply self-aware creator — and how being dangerous became her new form of love and resistance.In this powerful conversation, Tracy and Kyira explore how vulnerability, rest, and authenticity threaten systems that profit from our numbness. They unpack the “dangerous” act of taking up space, setting boundaries, saying no, and believing we are worthy — even when it challenges old stories, relationships, and cultural conditioning.Together, they invite listeners to rethink what it means to be dangerou...
2025-10-2648 min
Untethering Shame🎙️Ask Me Anything – E24: Why Can’t I Keep It All Together Without Crashing?In this episode, I respond to a question from an anonymous listener who writes:“Kyira, I feel like I’m always running at 100%, sometimes even 110%, just to keep everything together. I tell myself I’m fine, but then one small thing tips me over and I completely crash. Why does this keep happening, and how do I break the cycle without feeling like I’m failing?”If you’ve ever lived on the edge of burnout, calling it “normal,” you know how exhausting and defeating that cycle can feel. We’re taught that giving our all means giving e...
2025-10-2007 min
Untethering ShameShame & Creative Inhibition: Unlearning the Fear of Making with Shannon MacFarlaneIn this episode of Untethering Shame, Kyira sits down with photographer, painter, and grief educator Shannon McFarland to explore the intersection of shame and creativity.Many of us grow up believing creativity is something we either have or don’t—a gift reserved for the “artistic.” Shannon challenges that belief, inviting us to see creativity as a practice of presence, process, and self-expression rather than performance or perfection. Together, she and Kyira unpack how early criticism, evaluation, and comparison can silence our creative voices, and how reclaiming that voice is one of the most powerful ways to reconnect with...
2025-10-121h 03
The Sparkle Project[Self-Care Snippet] Putting Self-Care Time On The Calendar with Kyira WackettThis is a Self-Care Snippet from Worthy Mother Podcast. As mothers, we need to prioritize our own care. Within this few-minute long episode, you will hear how our past guests prioritize their own self-care and some tips on how you can do the same. Tune in to the full episode How to Address Shame In Motherhood with Kyira Wackett.Like what you hear? Make sure you are subscribed to Worthy Mother Podcast wherever you like to listen. For more motherhood content and support, connect with me on Instagram @honestlyemilyrose. Follow the podcast on...
2025-10-1003 min
Untethering ShameShame, Food & All-or-Nothing Thinking with Renae SaagerIn this episode of Untethering Shame, Kyira sits down with coach Renae for a candid and powerful conversation about control, perfectionism, food, body image, and the cycles we often get stuck in when trying to “fix” ourselves.Together, they explore why so many high-achieving women find themselves trapped in all-or-nothing thinking—whether with dieting, work, relationships, or overcommitting—and how shame and self-doubt fuel these cycles. Renae shares her own experiences with food and body image, the dangers of living for external validation, and how real change begins when we learn to tolerate discomfort, let go of impossibl...
2025-10-0553 min
Untethering ShameShame & Self-Trust: Choosing Yourself Even When It’s Hard with Renee NelsonJoin the Boundaried & Brave Email SeriesSummaryIn this powerful conversation, Kyira sits down with longtime friend and colleague Renee Nelson to explore what it truly means to choose yourself, even when it’s hard. From walking away from a stable career and calling off an engagement to redefining what fulfillment looks like at different life stages, Renee shares the courage and self-trust it takes to let go of “fine” in order to thrive. Together, Kyira and Renee reflect on ambivalence, comparison, people-pleasing, and the shame that keeps so many of us from saying...
2025-09-2852 min
Untethering ShameShame, Religion & Ambiguity: The Courage to Not Know (Part 2 with Carl King)In Part 2 of Kyira’s conversation with Change Consultant Carl King, the focus shifts from breaking free of rigid religious systems to the long and often messy process of rebuilding life afterward. Carl reflects on the terror and liberation of walking away, the ongoing pull of shame and self-sabotage, and the importance of learning to sit with discomfort instead of rushing toward quick fixes. Together, Kyira and Carl explore themes of identity, ambiguity, and curiosity as tools for healing and growth, reminding listeners that change is less about having the “right” answer and more about experimenting with new ways of bei...
2025-09-2156 min
Untethering ShameShame & Suppression: Breaking the Cycle of AvoidanceIn this conversation, Kyira and Jennifer Ginty explore the deep connection between emotions, shame, and healing. Jennifer shares her personal journey of surviving childhood trauma, navigating Complex PTSD and depression, and ultimately creating My Moody Monster — a tool designed to help both children and adults externalize and regulate big emotions. Together, they discuss how society teaches us to suppress feelings, the generational cycles that keep us from emotional regulation, and why learning to face and integrate emotions is central to healing.Emotions are information, not problems. Every feeling serves a purpose, but judgment and suppression turn them into sourc...
2025-09-141h 01
Untethering ShameShame & Asking for Help with Avani PatelIn this thought-provoking episode, Kyira Wackett and Avani Patel delve into the societal pressures and standards that shape our lives. They explore the challenges of asking for help in a world that often equates vulnerability with weakness. Through personal stories and insightful discussions, they uncover how societal norms impact our sense of belonging and self-worth. Join them as they discuss the importance of reclaiming personal power and rewriting the narratives that no longer serve us. Tune in to discover how embracing vulnerability can lead to profound personal growth and stronger community connections.Societal Pressures and Standards: Exploring how...
2025-09-0745 min
Untethering ShameSummer Replay: Shame & The Shadow Self with Lena PapadopoulosSummer Re-Release SeriesWe’re taking a pause to rest and reflect—and sharing some of your favorite episodes in the meantime. These powerful conversations are worth revisiting, whether it’s your first time listening or a timely return. New episodes resume September 7th.Episode: Shame & the Shadow Self with Lena PapadopoulosIn this final episode of our summer re-release series, Kyira sits down with trauma-informed educator and leadership coach Lena Papadopoulos to explore the shadow self—the parts of us we hide, suppress, or reject because of shame and societal pressure. Together, they uncover how this suppre...
2025-08-3149 min
Untethering ShameSummer replay: Shame & Money with Kyle CaldwellSummer Re-Release SeriesWe’re taking a pause to rest and reflect—and sharing some of your favorite episodes in the meantime. These powerful conversations are worth revisiting, whether it’s your first time listening or a timely return. New episodes resume September 7th.Episode: Shame & Money with Kyley CaldwellMoney is one of the most emotionally charged topics in our lives—and shame is often hiding right underneath it. In this episode, Kyira and coach Kyley Caldwell dive deep into the complicated relationship between money, self-worth, and shame.Together, they explor...
2025-08-2458 min
Untethering ShameSummer Rerelease: Shame & Ambition with Andrea BarrSummer Re-Release SeriesWe’re taking a pause to rest and reflect—and sharing some of your favorite episodes in the meantime. These powerful conversations are worth revisiting, whether it’s your first time listening or a timely return. New episodes resume September 7th.Episode: Shame & Ambition with Andrea BarrIn this conversation, Kyira and certified coach Andrea Barr explore what it means to pursue ambition on your own terms. They unpack the pressures of perfectionism, premature identity foreclosure, and external expectations—and how shame weaves through each of these barriers. Together, they offer a...
2025-08-171h 06
Untethering ShameSummer Replay: Shame & Binge Eating with Jane PilgerSummer Re-Release SeriesWe’re taking a pause to rest and reflect—and sharing some of your favorite episodes in the meantime. These powerful conversations are worth revisiting, whether it’s your first time listening or a timely return. New episodes resume September 7th.Episode: Shame & Binge Eating with Kyira WackettIn this solo episode, Kyira shares her own story and lived experience with binge eating, breaking down the myths, stigma, and shame that so often accompany it. Rather than centering food itself, this conversation unpacks the emotional drivers beneath disordered eating behaviors—especially the role of...
2025-08-1056 min
Untethering ShameSummer Replay: Shame & the Inner Child with Cassandra FloraSummer Re-Release SeriesWe’re taking a pause to rest and reflect—and sharing some of your favorite episodes in the meantime. These powerful conversations are worth revisiting, whether it’s your first time listening or a timely return. New episodes resume September 7th._________________In this conversation, Kyira Wackett and Cassandra Johnson discuss the importance of acknowledging and healing the inner child as a part of trauma recovery. They explore the concept of using fantasy and imagination as a tool for healing, and how creating a physical space that reflects childhood interests and comforts can pr...
2025-08-0358 min
Untethering ShameShame, Wasted Money, and the Myth of Perfect UseHave you ever felt guilty for throwing out food you forgot about, buying clothes you never wore, or needing to replace something you thought should have lasted longer? You’re not alone.In this episode, Kyira shares her own story of holding onto worn-out underwear (yes, really) and explores why so many of us feel shame about “wasting” money. Together, we’ll look at how these feelings come from scarcity beliefs, how they keep us stuck in avoidance and self-criticism, and how to start practicing radical acceptance when life doesn’t go as planned.
2025-07-3108 min
Untethering Shame🎙️Ask Me Anything – E12: Too Tired for SexIn this episode, I respond to a question from an anonymous listener who writes:“Hey Kyira, I could really use some perspective on something that’s been weighing on me. Lately, I’ve been feeling like I’m always disappointing my partner because I’m hardly ever in the mood for sex.It’s not that I don’t care about them or that I’m not attracted to them — I do. But it feels like no matter how much I try to psych myself up or convince myself it’ll be fine, I just can’t get there. By...
2025-07-2806 min
Untethering ShameSummer Replay: Shame & People Pleasing with Abby PayneSummer Re-Release SeriesWe’re taking a pause to rest and reflect—and sharing some of your favorite episodes in the meantime. These powerful conversations are worth revisiting, whether it’s your first time listening or a timely return. New episodes resume September 7th.___________________In this conversation, Kyira Wackett and Abby Payne explore the themes of self-worth, people pleasing, and the journey towards self-acceptance. They discuss the importance of recognizing one's own needs and emotions, the impact of societal expectations, and the roots of people pleasing behavior often stemming from childhood experiences. The dialogue emphas...
2025-07-2759 min
Untethering Shame🎙️Ask Me Anything – E11: Getting Stuck in the Same ArgumentsIn this episode, I respond to a question from an anonymous listener who writes:“Hi Kyira, my partner and I keep getting stuck in the same arguments over and over. It’s usually about small things — like how plans get communicated or whether someone followed through on something they said they’d do — but somehow it escalates every time into this big fight about feeling disrespected or not cared for.I know on some level these things aren’t worth all the energy we spend on them, but in the moment, it feels impossible to let it go. I...
2025-07-2104 min
Untethering ShameSummer Replay: Shame & Narcissism with Stacey SandersonSummer Re-Release SeriesWe’re taking a pause to rest and reflect—and sharing some of your favorite episodes in the meantime. These powerful conversations are worth revisiting, whether it’s your first time listening or a timely return. New episodes resume September 7th._______In this conversation, Kyira and Stacey discuss the topic of narcissism. They explore the definition of narcissism and how it is often misunderstood. They also discuss the development of narcissism and its relationship to trauma. Stacey explains that narcissism is a spectrum and that everyone has the capacity for narcissistic traits...
2025-07-2052 min
Untethering ShameWhen You’re Triggered: How to Recognize and Calm Your Inner Alarm SystemEver snapped at someone you love or shut down completely, only to wonder later, “Why did I react like that?”In this episode, Kyira unpacks what it really means to be triggered, why these intense reactions happen, and how you can learn to recognize and respond to them with more compassion.Using insights from Internal Family Systems (IFS), Kyira guides you through five common signs you’re triggered and offers practical steps to help you pause, reconnect with your body, and soothe the protective parts of you that are working so hard to keep you safe—eve...
2025-07-1709 min
Untethering Shame🎙️Ask Me Anything – E10: Learning to Care Less About What Others ThinkIn this episode, I respond to a question from Mark, who writes:“Hi Kyira, my name’s Mark, and I’m in my early 40s. For as long as I can remember, I’ve been obsessed with how people see me — whether they respect me, whether I’m coming across as competent or put together. On the outside, I think most people would describe me as confident, but inside I’m constantly worrying that I’m not enough or that I’m going to be exposed somehow.I feel like I’ve spent my whole life trying to live...
2025-07-1405 min
Untethering ShameSummer Replay: Shame & Co-Dependency with Jessica ParenteSummer Re-Release SeriesWe’re taking a pause to rest and reflect—and sharing some of your favorite episodes in the meantime. These powerful conversations are worth revisiting, whether it’s your first time listening or a timely return. New episodes resume September 7th.________In this episode, Jessica Parente joins us to discuss the topic of codependency and its connection to shame. Codependency is a psychological condition that intertwines a person's self-worth and identity with the needs and behaviors of others. The conversation explores the roots of codependency, its effects on our lives, and how br...
2025-07-1351 min
Untethering Shame🎙️Ask Me Anything – E9: Managing Grief and Judgment in SobrietyIn this episode, I respond to a question from an anonymous listener who writes:“Hi Kyira, I’m about six months into sobriety, and while I’m proud of myself, I’m also really struggling. I’ve lost a lot of friends because they don’t understand my decision, and some family members have made shaming comments like ‘You’re no fun anymore’ or ‘You think you’re better than everyone.’ It feels like I’m grieving an entire part of my life and community, and I’m so lonely sometimes I wonder if it’s worth it. How can I cope with this g...
2025-07-0704 min
Untethering ShameSummer Replay: Shame & Core Beliefs with Sabrina TrobekSummer Re-Release SeriesWe’re taking a pause to rest and reflect—and sharing some of your favorite episodes in the meantime. These powerful conversations are worth revisiting, whether it’s your first time listening or a timely return. New episodes resume September 7th._____________In this episode of the Untethering Shame podcast, Kyira and Sabrina Trobek delve into the intricate relationship between core beliefs, shame, and anxiety. They explore how core beliefs shape our self-perception and influence our behaviors, often leading to feelings of inadequacy. Sabrina explains the development of these beliefs, emphasizing the impact...
2025-07-0653 min
Untethering ShameIt’s Not Because I Couldn’t Do It: Shame and the Incomplete GoalWhat if letting go of a goal wasn’t a sign of weakness—but of growth? In this solo episode, Kyira challenges the shame narratives around quitting, shifting focus, and unfinished business. Whether you’ve outgrown a dream, changed your mind, or realized a goal was never truly yours, this conversation invites you to meet yourself with radical acceptance and release the pressure to prove your worth through completion.In this episode, Kyira dives into:Why we stay in misaligned goals out of fear, not fulfillmentThe role of shame in per...
2025-07-0306 min
Untethering ShameThe Problem Isn’t Your Standards—It’s the ContextIf you’ve ever been told your standards are “too high” or felt like backing off meant giving up, this episode is for you. In today’s conversation, Kyira unpacks the real issue behind perfectionism and burnout—not the ambition itself, but the context in which our standards are created. We’ll explore how shame, external validation, and scarcity shape our goals, and how radical acceptance can help you rewrite the script to live more aligned, sustainable, and whole.In this episode, Kyira explores:Why high standards aren't inherently badThe hidden cost of overfunct...
2025-06-1905 min
Untethering ShameThe Unshaming Way with David BedrickJoin Kyira Wackett and David Bedrick as they explore the intricate relationship between shame and healing. Their conversation covers mental health, emotional processing, and the concept of 'unshaming' - particularly in relation to addiction and eating disorders. They discuss how shame affects relationships, parenting, and power dynamics, while emphasizing the importance of compassion, curiosity, and authentic connections in the healing journey. The dialogue concludes by examining codependency, self-discovery, and the process of understanding personal needs in relationships.We covered:Understanding and accepting shame is crucial for healingEmotions need understanding rather than pathologizingSomatic experiences and self-expression aid...
2025-06-151h 16
Untethering ShameShame as a TeacherIn this conversation, Kyira Wackett and Elizabeth Kipp explore the complex relationship between shame, recovery, and self-compassion. They discuss the impact of shame on addiction, the importance of breathwork in healing, and the role of inner child work in understanding our emotional responses. The dialogue emphasizes the need for radical acceptance and the power of self-discovery in overcoming shame and fostering resilience. Elizabeth shares personal experiences and insights from her journey in recovery, highlighting the significance of compassion and the innate healing capabilities within each individual.Takeaways:Shame is a significant barrier in addiction recovery.Turning...
2025-06-0848 min
Untethering ShameHow a Small Change in Self-Talk Leads to Big HealingEver catch yourself thinking, “I’m such a failure” or “I’m so fat”? These thoughts might seem harmless—or even true—but they’re often rooted in shame and distorted beliefs. And here’s the truth: the way we talk to ourselves matters.In this solo episode, host Kyira Wackett unpacks the transformational power of shifting from “I am” to “I feel.” This simple change can help us stop identifying with our shame and start practicing compassion and curiosity instead.If you’re ready to break the cycle of harsh inner dialogue and reconnect with your true worth, this episo...
2025-06-0505 min
Untethering ShameShame, ADHD & NeurodivergenceIn this episode, Kyira Wackett and Shane Thrapp discuss neurodiversity, exploring misconceptions, diagnosis impacts, and parenting challenges. Shane shares personal insights about navigating neurodivergent parenting, dealing with imposter syndrome, and processing trauma. The conversation emphasizes support, acceptance, and celebrating individual strengths while promoting a compassionate approach to neurodiversity and personal growth.We covered:Neurodiversity includes all brain types and ways of functioningCommon misconceptions lead to stigma and unhelpful "normal" standardsADHD and autism diagnoses don't mean children are "broken"Education systems need better neurodivergent accommodationParents struggle with shame and need permission to parent differentlyLate-life...
2025-06-0147 min
Untethering ShameShame & Coming Out: From Suppression to Self-AcceptanceIn this episode of the Untethering Shame podcast, host Kyira Wackett engages in a profound conversation with Juliana Allen, a queer breath and somatic coach. They explore themes of self-discovery, authenticity, and the courage it takes to live unapologetically. Juliana shares her journey of coming out as a lesbian in her mid-thirties while navigating motherhood and societal expectations. The discussion delves into the impact of trauma, eating disorders, and the healing power of somatic practices. Together, they unpack the complexities of identity, shame, and the path to self-acceptance. In this conversation, Juliana Allen and Kyira Wackett explore the themes...
2025-05-2553 min
Untethering ShameWhy Burnout Keeps Coming Back (And What to Do Instead)Feeling completely drained no matter how much rest you get? You might be experiencing burnout—but it’s not just about being overworked or overwhelmed. In this solo episode, host Kyira Wackett dives deep into the truth about burnout and reveals the hidden force driving it: shame.We explore how shame-based expectations push us beyond our limits, tricking us into believing we need to “do it all” to be worthy. But real recovery doesn’t come from crossing another task off your list—it comes from changing how you respond to stress and stepping out of shame-driven cycles.
2025-05-2205 min
Untethering ShameShame & The Loss of Self in ParenthoodIn this episode of the Untethering Shame podcast, host Kyira Wackett and guest Markella Kaplani delve into the complexities of parenthood, particularly the loss of self that many caregivers experience. They discuss the overwhelming emotions that come with parenting, the societal pressures to be perfect, and the clash between masculine and feminine energies. The conversation emphasizes the importance of acknowledging grief in the transition to parenthood and the need for self-compassion and acceptance. In this conversation, Kyira Wackett and Markella Kaplani explore the complexities of parenthood, identity, and the emotional challenges that arise during this transformative journey. They discuss...
2025-05-181h 12
Untethering ShameShame & The Law of Attraction with Veronica WeedonIn this expansive and thought-provoking episode, Kyira Wackett and Veronica Weedon dive deep into the intersection of mindset, healing, and personal responsibility. The conversation begins with an exploration of the law of attraction, energy, and vibration—unpacking how our internal state shapes the people and experiences we draw into our lives. Veronica shares personal insights and tools for raising our vibration, including mindfulness and slowing down negative thought patterns.As the dialogue unfolds, Kyira and Veronica challenge common misconceptions about the law of attraction, emphasizing that it’s not about bypassing life’s hardships but about taking owners...
2025-05-111h 03
Untethering ShameFeeling Your FeelingsEmotions don’t disappear — no matter how hard we try to ignore or suppress them. In this episode of Untethering Shame, Kyira talks about the importance of emotional intelligence and how understanding our feelings can transform our well-being. She breaks down the layers of our emotions, explains why they often show up in complex ways, and offers actionable steps to navigate them with compassion. If you're ready to build a healthier relationship with your emotions, this episode is for you.Ready to take the next step?Download the FREE handout, "5 Things Shame Resilient Peopl...
2025-05-0806 min
Untethering ShameShame & Complicated Grief: Moving With, Not OnIn this conversation, Kyira Wackett and Reese explore the complexities of grief, emphasizing its individual nature and the misconceptions surrounding it. They discuss the emotional journey of grieving, including anticipatory grief, sudden loss, and the struggle to feel a range of emotions, including joy and shame. The dialogue highlights the importance of vulnerability and the need to embrace one's feelings as part of the healing process. In this conversation, Reese and Kyira explore the complexities of grief, particularly complicated grief, and the journey towards healing through art and writing. They discuss the importance of connection and vulnerability in sharing...
2025-05-0449 min
Untethering ShameShame & Human Trafficking: A Survivor's JourneyIn this episode of Untethering Shame, host Kyira Wackett engages in a profound conversation with Taylor Owens, a human trafficking survivor and advocate. They explore the intricate relationship between shame, trauma, and the societal perceptions surrounding human trafficking. Taylor shares her personal journey, highlighting the complexities of grooming, the impact of silence and shame, and the importance of advocacy and healing. The discussion emphasizes the need for open conversations about human trafficking to foster understanding and support for survivors. In this conversation, Taylor Owens shares her profound journey through trauma, human trafficking, and the path to healing. She discusses...
2025-04-2748 min
Untethering ShameJealousy: The Ego, Comparison & ShameIn this episode of Untethering Shame, Kyira dives into the tricky world of ego, comparison, and shame. She explores how the ego tries to protect us by pushing us into comparison mode, making us feel either inferior or superior. Kyira shares how to recognize these patterns, shift from judgment to curiosity, and build resilience through self-awareness. Tune in for practical tips on how to break free from the comparison trap and reclaim your sense of self-worth.Ready to take the next step?Download the FREE handout, "5 Things Shame Resilient People Do Every Day" a...
2025-04-2406 min
Untethering Shame🚨 NEW PODCAST SEGMENT ALERT! 🚨You asked, I listened. Starting in May, I’ll be diving into YOUR questions every Monday — unfiltered, raw, and real. Whether you're navigating shame, battling self-doubt, struggling with boundaries, or just wondering "How do I even start?"—this is your space to ask.Nothing is off-limits (well, almost nothing). If you’ve ever thought “I wish I could ask Kyira this…”—now’s your chance.💡 Here’s How It Works:✔ Submit your anonymous (or named) question using the link below.✔ Each week, I’ll pick one (or more!) to answer on t...
2025-04-2101 min
Untethering ShameShame & The "Self": Inner Child HealingIn this conversation, Kyira Wackett and Bronwyn Schweigerdt explore the themes of authenticity, healing, and the importance of connecting with one's core self. They discuss the challenges of modern life that distract individuals from their true selves, the significance of inner child work, and the impact of shame on emotional well-being. The dialogue emphasizes the necessity of self-approval and the journey towards reclaiming emotions to foster a more fulfilling life. In this conversation, Bronwyn Schweigerdt and Kyira Wackett explore the complexities of trauma, shame, and the healing process. They discuss how neglect can lead to feelings of shame, the...
2025-04-2053 min
Untethering ShameShame & Money: Healing Our Financial WoundsIn this episode of Untethering Shame, host Kyira Wackett and guest Kyley Caldwell explore the deep emotional ties between money and shame. They discuss how societal structures like capitalism, racism, and patriarchy shape our financial perceptions, often intertwining with personal traumas and self-worth. Kyley shares her journey of transforming money from a source of fear to one of empowerment, highlighting the role of internal healing and compassion. The conversation delves into the cyclical nature of financial struggles, the impact of childhood experiences, and cultural pressures on women and marginalized identities. Ultimately, they encourage listeners to reframe their relationship with m...
2025-04-1358 min
Untethering ShameConditional vs. Unconditional LoveIn this episode of Untethering Shame, Kyira Wackett explores the impact of conditional versus unconditional love and how many of us have been conditioned to believe that love must be earned. Drawing on the work of Bell Hooks and personal reflection, she unpacks how these beliefs shape our relationships, fuel shame, and keep us stuck in a cycle of proving our worth. Through awareness, self-compassion, and intentional boundary-setting, Kyira offers actionable steps to break free from this cycle and reclaim the truth that we are worthy of love—just as we are.Ready to take...
2025-04-1007 min
Untethering ShameShame & Brainspotting: The WHAT, WHY & HOWIn this conversation, Kyira Wackett and Jess Parente explore Brainspotting. The conversation delves into Brainspotting's effectiveness in addressing generational trauma, the importance of therapeutic safe spaces, and how childhood memories and attachment patterns influence personal growth. They examine the complexities of deep emotional work and discuss how underlying issues manifest in daily life, emphasizing the transformative potential for both personal relationships and self-discovery.Throughout their discussion, Wackett and Parente share insights about the therapeutic journey, exploring how moments of connection and isolation emerge during treatment. They emphasize the vital roles of self-compassion and shame resilience, while acknowledging...
2025-04-061h 12
Untethering ShameShame & The Shadow SelfIn this episode, Kyira Wackett and Lena explore the shadow self - those parts of ourselves we suppress due to shame and societal pressure. Through their discussion of personal and collective experiences, they examine how this suppression affects identity formation, emotional responses, and broader social dynamics. The conversation covers the importance of compassion in shadow work, the impact of cultural narratives and historical trauma, and the journey toward authentic self-expression and collective healing.We covered:The shadow self represents hidden parts of our identity.Shame plays a crucial role in shaping our self-concept...
2025-03-3049 min
Untethering ShameCognitive RehearsalIn this episode, Kyira Wackett explores cognitive rehearsal, a powerful mental tool that helps you navigate fear, self-doubt, and tough situations before they happen. By mentally rehearsing conversations and decisions, you can break free from worst-case-scenario thinking, build confidence, and create a plan for success. Tune in to learn how this practice can help you shift from feeling stuck in uncertainty to taking intentional action in your life.Ready to take the next step? Download the FREE handout, "5 Things Shame Resilient People Do Every Day" and start making those daily shifts to break t...
2025-03-2705 min
Untethering ShameShame & Self-ExpressionIn this engaging conversation, Kyira Wackett and Emily explore the themes of self-expression and authenticity. They discuss the importance of letting go of self-censorship, the role of community in fostering self-discovery, and the challenges of navigating fear and shame. The dialogue emphasizes that self-expression is unique to each individual and that true connections arise from vulnerability and authenticity. The conversation serves as a guide for listeners to embrace their true selves and cultivate deeper relationships. In this conversation, Kyira Wackett and Emily Rose Utter explore the themes of shame, authenticity, and emotional depth. They discuss the importance of releasing...
2025-03-2346 min
Untethering ShameShame & Kids "Falling Behind" in SchoolIn this conversation, Kyira and Amy discuss the pressing issue of children feeling like they are falling behind in education, particularly in the wake of the COVID-19 pandemic. They explore the origins of this fear, the impact of systemic issues in education, and the importance of understanding children's behavior as a form of communication. The discussion emphasizes the need for individualized learning approaches, the detrimental effects of labeling children, and the importance of changing mindsets around education and parenting. They advocate for a more supportive and understanding educational environment that recognizes each child's unique needs and experiences. In this...
2025-03-1650 min
Untethering ShameWhose Story Are You Living In?Have you ever walked into a room, and it suddenly felt silent? Or caught someone’s gaze and wondered what they were thinking? Maybe you texted someone and didn’t hear back for days. What was your immediate reaction—was it personal? In today’s solo episode, host Kyira Wackett explores how our brains often make us the central hub of every story, assuming that everything is about us. We’ll dive into how this thinking distances us from our authentic selves and how to shift focus back to living in our own stories.
Key Takeaways:
The Brai...
2025-03-1304 min
Untethering ShameShame & The College-Or-Bust MentalityKyira Wackett and Karin Klein discuss the societal pressures surrounding college education, examining its historical context and the evolving job market. They explore how parental expectations, school systems, and counselors influence students' choices, often reinforcing the notion that college is the only path to success. The conversation emphasizes the need for a cultural shift toward valuing diverse educational and career pathways, recognizing the significance of all professions, including those that do not require a degree. Klein highlights the importance of fostering curiosity, experiential learning, and practical skills, while Wackett underscores the value of process over output in personal growth...
2025-03-021h 00
Untethering ShameThe Productivity Trap: How to Stop Feeding a Broken SystemIn this episode, Kyira Wackett challenges the cultural obsession with productivity and the shame-driven pressure to do it all. She explores how to shift from a mindset of doing to one of being by prioritizing intention and connection over perfection. Listen in to learn how to protect your time, energy, and well-being by investing in yourself thoughtfully and with purpose.
Ready to take the next step?
Download the FREE handout, "5 Things Shame Resilient People Do Every Day" and start making those daily shifts to break that shame cycle that's keeping you stuck in...
2025-02-2806 min
Untethering ShameShame & The Mirrors Kids Hold UpIn this episode of Untethering Shame, host Kyira Wackett and parenting expert Suzie Forbes explore how childhood trauma impacts parenting styles and emotional regulation. Through practical strategies and personal insights, they discuss breaking free from shame cycles, building self-awareness, and creating deeper parent-child connections. Learn evidence-based approaches for emotional regulation, setting healthy boundaries, and fostering resilience in both parents and children.We covered: Unresolved trauma impacts parenting decisions Shame and inadequacy affect parenting confidence Community support and seeking help are vital Values guide intentional parenting choices Self-care and emotional regulation matter Connection and validation foster healing...
2025-02-2353 min
Untethering ShameShame & The Breastfeeding DilemmaIn this episode, Kyira Wackett and Angel Wilburn discuss the shame and judgment surrounding breastfeeding. They explore the pressure faced by new mothers to breastfeed and the feelings of failure that can arise when breastfeeding is not possible. They also discuss the challenges of C-sections and the impact of medication on breastfeeding. The conversation highlights the need for support, education, and open dialogue to address the shame and stigma associated with breastfeeding. This conversation explores the challenges and pressures of the breastfeeding journey, particularly in the face of medical complications and societal expectations. Angel shares her personal experience of...
2025-02-1650 min
Untethering ShameShame & Psychedelic Assisted PsychotherapyIn this conversation, Kyira Wackett and Paige Bond explore the nuances of psychedelic assisted psychotherapy, discussing its potential benefits, the importance of intention, and the roles of medical and therapeutic teams. They address common misconceptions, the significance of dosage, and the therapeutic journey's impact on clients, particularly those labeled as treatment resistant. The discussion also delves into the emotional aspects of therapy, including shame and hope, and how these factors influence the healing process. In this conversation, Kyira Wackett and Paige Bond delve into the complexities of mental health treatment, particularly focusing on psychedelic-assisted therapy. They discuss the importance...
2025-02-1050 min
Untethering ShameShame & Binge EatingIn this episode of the Untethering Shame podcast, Kyira Wackett and Jane Pilger delve into the intricate relationship between shame and binge eating. They explore how binge eating is often misunderstood as a failure or self-sabotage, when in fact it can be a form of self-protection. Jane outlines the eight common reasons for binge eating, emphasizing the importance of compassion and understanding in addressing the root causes. The conversation also touches on the societal normalization of binge eating, the difference between subjective and objective experiences of bingeing, and the significance of community support in recovery. In this conversation, Kyira...
2025-02-0255 min
Untethering ShameShame & A 20-Year Old Identity CrisisThe conversation explores the pressure and expectations placed on individuals to have their lives figured out, particularly in the context of career and personal development. It delves into the challenges of navigating uncertainty, external validation, and the cultural norms that dictate success and fulfillment. The discussion highlights the struggle to balance personal exploration with societal expectations and the impact of privilege on the ability to explore and make choices. The conversation explores the pressure to conform to societal expectations and the struggle to find meaning and fulfillment in a culture that values individual success over collective well-being. It delves...
2025-01-2651 min
Untethering ShameShame & BinariesIn this conversation, Don Mamone and Kyira Wackett explore how societal binaries and expectations shape our identities and choices. Through personal stories, they discuss embracing authenticity, navigating family dynamics, and the transformative power of self-acceptance. The dialogue emphasizes the importance of creating safe spaces for self-expression and highlights how embracing our differences can become a source of strength.
Key Takeaways
Binaries limit our perspectives while authenticity expands them
Fear and judgment protect outdated systems that no longer serve us
Self-discovery is nonlinear and requires embracing vulnerability
Family dynamics and beliefs shape our identity journey
Living authentically...
2025-01-191h 04
Untethering ShameShame, Religion and PerformanceIn this episode of Untethering Shame, host Kyira Wackett and guest Carl King delve into the complex relationship between shame and religion. They explore how religious expectations can create a performance-based identity, leading to feelings of shame and disconnection from one's true self. Carl shares his personal journey of navigating these challenges, highlighting the impact of childhood experiences and the struggle for authenticity in a rigid religious environment. The conversation emphasizes the importance of questioning authority and seeking personal truth in the face of societal and religious pressures. In this conversation, Carl King shares his journey from being deeply...
2025-01-1254 min
Untethering ShameShame & The Compliant Child: The Illusion of Control in ParenthoodIn this engaging conversation, Kyira Wackett and Aly Pain explore the complexities of parenting, emotional healing, and the societal pressures surrounding perfectionism. They discuss the importance of acknowledging and processing emotions, the impact of generational trauma, and the need for unconditional love in parenting. The dialogue emphasizes the significance of embracing imperfection and the messiness of life, ultimately advocating for a more compassionate and understanding approach to raising children. In this conversation, Kyira Wackett and Aly Pain explore the complexities of parenting, particularly the importance of allowing children to experience failure as a means of growth. They discuss the...
2025-01-0555 min
Untethering ShameShame & People PleasingIn this conversation, Kyira Wackett and Abby Payne explore the themes of self-worth, people pleasing, and the journey towards self-acceptance. They discuss the importance of recognizing one's own needs and emotions, the impact of societal expectations, and the roots of people pleasing behavior often stemming from childhood experiences. The dialogue emphasizes the need for balance in life, the distinction between kindness and people pleasing, and the significance of unconditional love in fostering a healthy sense of self. In this conversation, Abby Payne, RN, discusses the profound effects of chronic stress on the body and the importance of reconnecting with...
2024-12-2958 min
Untethering ShameShame & Core BeliefsIn this episode of the Untethering Shame podcast, Kyira and Sabrina Trobek delve into the intricate relationship between core beliefs, shame, and anxiety. They explore how core beliefs shape our self-perception and influence our behaviors, often leading to feelings of inadequacy. Sabrina explains the development of these beliefs, emphasizing the impact of childhood experiences and cultural norms. The conversation highlights the significance of setting boundaries, taking responsibility for our emotions, and navigating relationships that reinforce our core beliefs. Sabrina shares her four pillars of change and emphasizes the need for self-compassion and gradual growth in the journey towards emotional...
2024-12-2252 min
Untethering ShameShame & Unpacking Marital Conflict: The Hidden TruthsIn this conversation, Kyira Wackett and David Lea explore the complexities of marital conflict, emphasizing that the root of many issues lies not in the partner but in unprocessed childhood trauma. They discuss the concept of trauma bonds, the cycle of need and resentment, and the importance of parts work in healing. The dialogue highlights the necessity of personal responsibility and the process of rupture and repair in relationships, ultimately advocating for a deeper understanding of oneself and one's partner. In this conversation, David Lea and Kyira Wackett explore the concept of 'parts work' in relationships, emphasizing the importance...
2024-12-1551 min
Untethering ShameShame & Losing A ChildIn this episode of Untethering Shame, host Kyira Wackett engages in a heartfelt conversation with Lisa Boehm, a certified grief educator and author, about the profound and isolating experience of child loss. Lisa shares her personal journey of navigating grief after the sudden death of her daughter, Katie, and discusses the societal misconceptions surrounding grief. The conversation explores the complexities of living with grief, the importance of community support, and the possibility of finding joy amidst sorrow. Lisa emphasizes that grief is not a linear process and that it is possible to honor a loved one while also embracing...
2024-12-0849 min
Untethering ShameShame & Creativity: A Space to Be SeenIn this conversation, Kyira Wackett and Tracy Piper explore themes of authenticity, mental health, and the power of art as a means of self-expression and healing. Tracy shares her journey from feeling unseen and unworthy to embracing her identity as an artist and community builder. They discuss the importance of vulnerability, the impact of personal struggles on creativity, and the significance of finding support and connection in a world that often feels isolating. The conversation emphasizes the beauty of imperfection and the necessity of self-love and acceptance.
Takeaways
Authenticity is crucial in both art and life.
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2024-12-0153 min
Untethering ShameShame & Teaching: An Emotional Roller CoasterIn this episode of Untethering Shame, host Kyira Wackett and guest Diane Manser delve into the emotional complexities of teaching. They discuss the often-overlooked emotional load that teachers carry, the challenges they face in the classroom, and the importance of self-awareness and emotional regulation. Diane shares her personal experiences and insights from her 19 years in education, emphasizing the need for support and understanding within the teaching community. The conversation highlights the impact of expectations, the role of self-care, and the importance of creating a supportive environment for both teachers and students.
Key Takeaways:
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2024-11-2454 min
Untethering ShameShame & AmbitionIn this conversation, Kyira Wackett and Andrea Barr discuss the topic of ambition. They explore their personal definitions of ambition and how it has evolved over time. They also delve into the challenges and fears associated with pursuing ambitious goals, including the fear of failure and the fear of judgment from others. They touch on the concept of premature identity foreclosure, where individuals feel pressured to choose one path and stick to it, potentially leading to unhappiness and a lack of exploration. They also discuss the importance of informing others about their ambitions and not seeking permission or approval...
2024-11-1757 min
Untethering ShameShame & Blame: Breaking the CycleIn this episode of Untethering Shame, Kyira Wackett and Margie Breault delve into the intricate dynamics of shame and blame, exploring how these emotions intertwine and affect our lives. They discuss the importance of accountability in healing and the necessity of breaking free from the cycles of shame that can trap individuals in a narrative of suffering. Margie shares her personal journey of healing from a childhood filled with emotional abuse and the lessons learned through energy medicine. The conversation emphasizes the power of choice in reshaping our narratives and the importance of recognizing the dualities in life, such...
2024-11-1058 min
Untethering ShameShame & Self-LoveIn this episode of Untethering Shame, host Kyira Wackett and guest Jennifer Walter delve into the intricate relationship between shame and self-love. They explore the societal misconceptions surrounding self-love, emphasizing that it is not merely about positive affirmations but involves deep emotional healing and confronting past traumas. The conversation highlights the challenges of self-love, particularly in the context of relationships and parenting, and the importance of setting boundaries. They discuss the impact of generational patterns on emotional regulation and the necessity of breaking free from toxic dynamics to foster genuine self-acceptance.
Takeaways
Self-love...
2024-11-031h 04
Untethering ShameShame & Rewiring the BrainIn this conversation, Kyira Wackett and Lyndsey Getty discuss the importance of thoughts and how they impact our lives. They explore the concept of overthinking and how it can be unproductive. They also discuss the role of core beliefs and how they shape our thoughts and behaviors. The conversation highlights the need for self-awareness and self-compassion in managing our thoughts. They emphasize the importance of focusing on thoughts and having conversations about them to improve mental well-being. Overall, the conversation provides insights into the power of thoughts and the impact they have on our lives. In this conversation, Lyndsey...
2024-10-2854 min
Untethering ShameShame & The Scale: Our Atrocious Relationship with Weight & Body ImageIn this episode, host Kyira Wackett and guest Bri Wilkerson discuss shame in relation to body image and weight. They share their personal experiences and explore the societal pressures and messages that contribute to body shame. They also discuss the importance of self-acceptance and the ongoing work of shame resilience. The conversation touches on topics such as control, achievement, and the impact of motherhood on body image. Overall, the episode highlights the need to challenge societal norms and cultivate a positive relationship with our bodies. In this conversation, Brianna and Kyira discuss their struggles with body image and the...
2024-10-2056 min
Untethering ShameShame & NarcissismIn this conversation, Kyira and Stacey discuss the topic of narcissism. They explore the definition of narcissism and how it is often misunderstood. They also discuss the development of narcissism and its relationship to trauma. Stacey explains that narcissism is a spectrum and that everyone has the capacity for narcissistic traits at times. They also talk about the challenges of working with individuals with narcissistic personality disorder in therapy and the importance of focusing on patterns and self-awareness in healing from narcissistic relationships. In this conversation, Stacey and Kyira discuss the importance of setting boundaries and taking care of...
2024-10-0651 min
Untethering ShameShame & Emotional EatingIn this episode, host Kyira Wackett and guest Lisa Goldberg discuss the connection between shame, emotional eating, and our bodies. They explore the roots of shame, the impact of emotional eating, and practical strategies to break free from its grip. The conversation highlights the importance of understanding emotional eating as a coping mechanism that often stems from childhood experiences and learned behaviors. They also address the dieter's mindset and the false beliefs around weight loss that contribute to the shame cycle. Ultimately, they emphasize the need to go deeper and uncover the root causes of emotional eating to create...
2024-09-2248 min
Untethering ShameShame & Performing: Our Hidden RealitiesIn this episode, Kyira Wackett and Janice Holland explore the theme of hiding and the pressure to perform in society. They discuss the origins of this pressure and how it perpetuates shame and inauthenticity. They also delve into the hidden realities we often keep to ourselves and the toll it takes on our well-being. The conversation highlights the importance of breaking free from oppressive expectations and embracing authenticity and self-acceptance. The episode emphasizes the need to untangle ourselves from shame and live our truth. In this conversation, Kyira Wackett and Janice Holland discuss the challenges of breaking free from...
2024-09-1554 min
Untethering ShameShame & TraumaIn this episode, host Kyira Wackett and guest Stacey Urig explore the intricate world of shame and trauma. They discuss the different types of trauma, how it manifests, and the profound impact it has on individuals and society. Stacey shares her journey with trauma and how she found healing through therapy and hypnosis. They emphasize the importance of changing the narrative around trauma and reframing the interpretation of past experiences. The conversation offers hope and guidance for individuals seeking healing and liberation from trauma. In this conversation, Kyira Wackett and Stacey Uhrig discuss the work of healing and the...
2024-09-0855 min
Untethering ShameShame & Healing from a CultIn this conversation, Kyira Wackett interviews Sandra Huitt, who grew up in a cult. They discuss the challenges of leaving a cult and the process of healing and finding oneself after leaving. Sandra shares her experience of feeling othered and struggling to fit in after leaving the cult. She also talks about the difficulties of opening up to her parents about her struggles and the anger she developed towards them later on. Sandra found solace and a sense of belonging in underground raves and electronic music events. Sandra Huitt shares her experience growing up in a cult and her...
2024-09-0147 min
Untethering ShameShame & Finding Fulfillment: Exploring AuthenticityIn this episode, Kyira Wackett and guest Amy Holder discuss the pressure to conform to societal expectations and the pursuit of external validation. They explore the idea that checking off boxes and achieving milestones does not necessarily lead to fulfillment and happiness. They share their personal experiences and observations from working with clients who have also felt the disconnect between societal expectations and their own desires. The conversation highlights the need for self-discovery and the courage to question and redefine one's identity and purpose. In this conversation, Kyira Wackett and Amy Holder discuss the importance of exploring one's identity...
2024-08-2552 min
Untethering ShameShame & The Perfect Parenting MythSummary
In this episode, host Kyira Wackett and guest Emily Hardy delve into the 'good child' concept and its unrealistic expectations of mothers. They discuss how societal narratives lead mothers to strive for perfection, impacting their self-worth and parenting. The conversation highlights the challenges of meeting societal standards, external validation's role, and self-compassion's importance. They advocate for shifting from shame-driven to values-driven parenting and the power of modeling imperfection. Emily shares insights on mom guilt, reframing thoughts, and unlearning societal conditioning, emphasizing open conversations and seeking support for positive change in future generations.
2024-08-1853 min
Untethering ShameShame & Death: Finding ClosureIn this episode, host Kyira Wackett and guest Cait Pearson discuss the profound impact of loss and the expectations and pressures society imposes on the grieving process. They explore the loneliness and fear that often accompany grief, as well as the need for a safe space to process emotions. They also touch on the challenges of holding space for others while dealing with their own grief, and the importance of setting boundaries and honoring one's own needs. The conversation highlights needing a more authentic and individualized approach to grief and loss. In this conversation, Cait and Kyira discuss the...
2024-08-111h 04
Untethering ShameShame & Intuitive Eating: Why Don't We Trust Our Body?In this episode, Kyira Wackett and Lara Days discuss intuitive eating and body image. They explore the challenges of shame surrounding food and the journey towards intuitive eating. They also delve into the pitfalls of diet culture and the importance of challenging fat phobia. The conversation highlights the physiological and psychological reasons why we struggle with intuitive eating and offers insights into shifting internal beliefs about body size. The episode emphasizes the importance of self-acceptance, self-compassion, and body liberation. In this conversation, Lara and Kyira discuss body trust and intuitive eating. They explore the factors that impact body size...
2024-08-0453 min
Untethering ShameShame & Work-Life RhythmsThe conversation covers relationships, career flexibility, and personal growth. It examines relationship evolution, communication, and the impact of children. Career flexibility, the courage to explore new paths, and the significance of choosing one's own adventure are discussed, along with upbringing's influence on career choices and the value of personal growth. The conversation addresses balancing career aspirations with personal responsibilities, societal expectations, and the desire to be present in both work and family life. It also explores self-preservation, intentional time away from loved ones, authenticity, external approval, and balancing striving with being. Topics include charging for services, struggles with money...
2024-07-281h 07
Untethering ShameShame & "The Work"In this episode, Alicia Jacobson and Kyira Wackett discuss the relentless impact of shame and the challenges of navigating daily life while contending with shame and trauma. They explore the compounding effect of shame and the importance of finding respite in music. They also delve into the universality of shame and the process of unpacking and recognizing personal shame. The conversation highlights the need to reevaluate success and worthiness and emphasizes the continuous journey of healing and shame resilience. The conversation explores the process of starting and not being afraid, practicing gratitude and balancing the good and the bad...
2024-07-1448 min
Untethering ShameShame & The Inner ChildIn this conversation, Kyira Wackett and Cassandra Johnson discuss the importance of acknowledging and healing the inner child as a part of trauma recovery. They explore the concept of using fantasy and imagination as a tool for healing, and how creating a physical space that reflects childhood interests and comforts can provide a sense of safety and control. They emphasize the need for radical acceptance and validation of past experiences, and the importance of reparenting oneself in order to heal and break patterns. They also address the shame and stigma that can be associated with trauma and the fear...
2024-07-0758 min
Untethering ShameShame & Co-DependencyIn this episode, Jessica Parente joins us to discuss the topic of codependency and its connection to shame. Codependency is a psychological condition that intertwines a person's self-worth and identity with the needs and behaviors of others. The conversation explores the roots of codependency, its effects on our lives, and how breaking free from these patterns can help us reclaim our sense of self and reduce the burden of shame. The guests share personal experiences and insights, highlighting the importance of understanding and healing codependency. In this conversation, Kyira and Jess discuss the challenges of setting boundaries and the...
2024-06-3052 min
Untethering ShameShame & FatnessIn this episode, Kyira Wackett and Jennifer Walter discuss body image and fatness. They explore society's obsession with narrow beauty standards and the shame and self-criticism that can result. They emphasize the importance of creating safe spaces for open dialogue and living authentically rather than performing for approval. The influence of media and cultural standards on body image is also examined. The conversation highlights the challenges of facilitating discussions on body image and the need to address perceptions and biases in these conversations. This conversation explores the complexities of body image, health, and medical discrimination. It highlights the nuances...
2024-06-2355 min
Untethering ShameShame & Eating DisordersIn this conversation, Kyira Wackett and Erika Malm discuss the barriers to embracing eating disorders and why they are not talked about enough. They explore the misconceptions and myths surrounding eating disorders and the need for validation and empathy. They also discuss the role of control and the underlying pain that drives disordered eating behaviors. The conversation highlights the importance of addressing the emotional needs underlying eating disorders and the need for a compassionate and understanding approach. In this conversation, Kyira Wackett and Erika Malm discuss the deep emotional and psychological aspects of eating disorders. They explore the importance...
2024-06-1658 min
Untethering ShameShame & VeganismWhat a powerful and open dialogue with my dear friend, Austin Kayser on what is often a very polarizing and difficult topic to explore - Veganism. We covered so much in this episode. Here are some of my favorite points:
How Austin became introduced with veganism
The number one thing that closes us off to new ideas
How to figure out when and how gray areas can exist
How perfection becomes the enemy of the good
The ways we use a wrongdoing as an excuse to not uphold other moral obligations
How to use binaries in supportive ways...
2024-03-3158 minThe Sparkle ProjectHow to Address Shame In Motherhood with Kyira WackettShame is a complex feeling that shows up often for so many mothers - and yet it's not something we can just do away with. This week, I'm joined by licensed mental health therapist Kyira Wackett to explore the link between shame and motherhood and how we can work to develop shame resilience to live a more values-driven life.In the episode, Kyira and I discuss:The function of shame, and why the goal is not to eliminate shame all togetherExploring where our shame comes fromHow shame shows up specifically in motherhoodShifting from shame-driven to values-driven...
2024-03-1955 min
Untethering ShameShame & Identity Burnout: The Problem with Role Over-IdentificationWhew I loved everything about getting to talk with Nic Scholtysik about her work in identity burnout and really diving deep into the connect most important to a full life. Some of my favorite takeaways included:
What makes hard conversations difficult and why they are important
What is identity related burnout?
The loneliness and overwhelm that can come with the “expat” experience
The impact of over identification — both when chosen and when transposed onto you
How Nic’s skillset ultimately put her out of business
How your home design tells us everything about our sense of joy and fulfillm...
2024-02-181h 04
Untethering ShameShame 101: An OverviewIn this inaugural episode of "Untethering Shame," we lay the groundwork for our podcast journey by exploring the multifaceted world of shame. Host Kyira Wackett guides us through a comprehensive overview, helping us grasp the essence of shame and its far-reaching impact on our lives. With insights drawn from psychology, personal anecdotes, and expert interviews, we shed light on the complexities of this universal yet often hidden emotion.
Understanding shame is the first step towards untangling its grip on our lives. Join us as we embark on a mission to uncover the layers of shame, challenge its...
2023-09-1709 min
Just Between CoachesNavigating Shame (Kyira Wackett)Special "Business Revenue Leak Checklist" offer free at http://www.mrse.co/leak.Kyira Wackett is a licensed mental health therapist specializing in shame and anxiety and the owner of Adversity Rising.In this episode, Melinda and Kyira discuss:Kyira’s distinction between therapist, counselor, and coachHer definition of shameThe different layers of shameAssessing shame as a narrative in your coaching clientsDetermining when you need to pause coaching and refer out to a counselor or therapistStriking a balance between validating emotions and helping clients regulate themShame resilience“Sham...
2023-09-1335 min