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Healing HerSeason 2 - Episode 7: Lament - Crying Out to God in GriefWe are ending this season of The Healing Her Podcast by learning about Lament. God is our Comforter, Healer, Strong Tower, and Provider. We know that in grief we sometimes turn away from God and feel that God is not present in our pain. But God is not uncomfortable with our grief or grieving. We want to share a Biblical way to cry out to God in our grief because we believe HE is the answer to it! We want to encourage our listeners to keep praying through pain.
What is Lament
...2024-10-1531 minHealing HerSeason 2 - Episode 6: How to Show Up for a Friend who is GrievingThe Do’s and Don'ts - What to Say and What NOT to Say to Someone in Grief
The Don’ts
1. DO NOT SILVER LINING THE LOSS!!
Do not say
“God needed another angel”
“They are in a better place”…
“You will have more children”
“At least you have….”
You can find another job…
DO NOT utter a sentence that starts with AT LEAST...
2. Do Not Ghost your friend - Keep checking in- It is common for a grieving person to hav...2024-10-0824 minHealing HerSeason 2 - Episode 5: Growing Up With a Mentally Ill Mother - Donna’s StoryIn this episode, Donna shares her experience growing up with a mother who has a mental illness. Since most people will be in a relationship with someone who has a mental illness, we wanted to provide information, empathy, and tools for dealing with this delicate topic.
From the National Association of Mental Illness website- https://www.nami.org/
A mental illness is a condition that affects a person’s thinking, feelings, behavior, or mood. These conditions deeply impact day-to-day living and may also affect the ability to relate to others.
2024-10-0123 minHealing HerSeason 2 - Episode 4: There's SO Much To DO!In this episode of Healing Her Grief we share tips and tools on how to manage many of the tasks that have to be done when someone passes, as well as thoughts on how to think through special dates and anniversaries.
Things To Do:
Plan the service
Arrange for death certificates
Locate the will
Gather photos of the loved one for the service
Write the obituary
Make phone calls
Tools
Talk to aging parents and a...2024-09-2414 minHealing HerSeason 2 - Episode 3: Am I Normal?We don't feel or act like ourselves when we experience loss, leaving some people asking, am I normal? This episode of Healing Her Grief focuses on some normal things people experience in loss. We also discuss tools to use to help you cope.
Relief
If someone has been sick for a long time, it is normal to experience relief when they pass. This doesn't mean you didn't love them. It just means you can see they were suffering and are grateful it has ended.
TOOL - Hold space for… I wis...2024-09-1724 minHealing HerSeason 2 - Episode 2: Symptoms of GriefWays we see grief in the Resurrection Story from John 20 NIV
Mary Magdalene, in her grief, needs to do something. She goes to anoint and prepare Jesus' body. She finds the tomb empty and hurries to tell the disciples—John and Peter race to the tomb.
Peter rushes in to see the clothes and still thinks they have stolen Jesus' body. (maybe he’s in denial)
Mary stays back and isolated in her grief crying, she even speaks to Jesus, it's not until he calls her name that her grief allows her to see...2024-09-1018 minHealing HerSeason 2 - Episode 1: Stages of GriefHealing Her Grief
The stages of grief are common experiences that people notice when they go through loss. Some people will experience all the stages, some will only experience a few stages, but often we don't recognize what is going on with us. By understanding what you are going through and knowing that you are normal you can practice self compassion and patience with yourself. Sometimes just putting words to what we feel brings relief. It will also help you be equipped to show kindness and compassion to your friends and family when they have loss.
...2024-09-0230 minHealing HerSeason 1 - Episode 5: Grief Is The Cost Of LoveIn this episode Christi and Donna discuss the VERY NORMAL challenges that show up when kids become adults. Parents have loved their children through infancy, preschool, elementary school years, and finally high school. There is often a tension between wanting to continue to protect them and knowing they must make their own decisions, and figure out how to function in the adult world.
Normal changes that need to take place:
Treat them like adults by allowing them to have more responsibility, do their own laundry, manage money, etc.
Advice giving. If they ask for advice give it. If they...2024-02-1419 minHealing HerSeason 1 - Episode 4: Chaos To CalmIn this episode Donna and Christi discuss the valuable tools of going to breath and practicing mindfulness during anxiety or panic attacks.
A panic attack is a sudden experience of fear and anxiety with physical symptoms. The symptoms often include feeling like you can't breathe as well as shaking or thinking you are having a heart attack.
To interrupt a panic attack
1. push feet into the floor
2. breathe in through your nose and out through your mouth
3. and say “the floor is strong enough to hold me”
4. continue breathing
5. focus on the feeling of your bottom on the chair and...2024-02-1433 minHealing HerSeason 1 - Episode 3: Staying Calm When You Feel Like ExplodingIn this episode of The Healing Her podcast Christi and Donna discuss emotion regulation, the process of staying calm and grounded when you feel like exploding. Everyone gets upset from time to time. But losing your temper can damage relationships and cause disconnection with people you love. Here are some tools for staying calm when you feel upset.
Regulate yourself first
Donna shares a story of getting angry when her teenager yells at her. Instead of yelling back she regulates her own emotions by going to another room and breathing until she feels calmer.
Hit the Pause Button- you...2024-02-1417 minHealing HerSeason 1 - Episode 2: Lies In My HeadIn this episode Christi shares her story of expecting marriage to make her world perfect. She wanted to belong to someone. But when her husband's job took him away from home every week, Christi was alone with her two young sons and spiraling thoughts.
What helped? Beth Moore's bible study Breaking Free and the gift of a Mentor.
She learned to examine her thoughts through the filter of what God says.
“My truth + the enemies lies = bondage”
“My truth + God's truth = Freedom”
What did change look like? “As I began unraveling the lies that I believed, I was able to see mys...2024-02-1420 minHealing HerSeason 1 - Episode 1: PTSD to PeacePTSD is a part of Donna’s story beginning when she was 32 years old. Donna and Christi explore Donna’s story of working through Post Traumatic Stress Disorder after her son experienced a health crisis.
What is PTSD? PTSD is a mental condition that results in a series of emotional and physical reactions in individuals that have either witnessed or experienced a traumatic event. The difference between trauma and PTSD is the length of time a person experiences symptoms after the event. When symptoms last longer than a month traumatic symptoms are diagnosed as PTSD.
A short definition of trau...2024-02-1430 min