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Q: Today, we’re tackling a question from a listener who acknowledges that they have negative beliefs about themselves that come from childhood and is asking where to go from that.
To help us answer this question, we are excited to welcome Larinda Horton, M.A., LPC, a Debra Fileta Counselors Network counselor, on today’s episode of our “Ask a Counselor” podcast series. Larinda is a licensed professional counselor with over ten years of experience in therapy and 20+ years in ministry.
Tune in now for today’s discussion!
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2023-10-3142 minTalk To Me: The Debra Fileta PodcastConflict in Marriage
Q: Today, we’re tackling a question from a couple who is struggling with constant conflict and seeking guidance on how to navigate this season in their relationship.
To help us answer this question, we are excited to welcome Allison Fisher, M.A., LPC, a Debra Fileta Counselors Network counselor, on today’s episode of our “Ask a Counselor” podcast series. Allison Fisher is a licensed professional counselor with over a decade of experience in the counseling field and nearly two decades of experience in ministry.
Tune in now for today’s discussion!
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2023-10-2430 minTalk To Me: The Debra Fileta PodcastClutter and Hoarding
Q: Today, we’re answering a question from a listener who asks how they can do a better job decluttering their home so that they can best take care of their mental health.
To best answer that question, we are being joined by Julie Lundy, EdS, NCC, LPC, a counselor from the Debra Fileta Counselors Network, for today’s episode of our podcast series, “Ask a Counselor”. Julie encourages her clients to adopt an attitude of openness and curiosity toward their experience and spiritual journey with the aim of helping to develop greater self-compassion and self-acce...
2023-10-0333 minTalk To Me: The Debra Fileta PodcastUnderstanding Attachment Styles
Q: Today, we’re answering a question from a listener that brings up a great question! What on earth is attachment style? What is it, why does it matter, and how does it affect our lives?
We are being joined by Melissa Crutchfield, M.A., LPC, one of the counselors at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network for today’s episode of our podcast series “Ask a Counselor”. Melissa has worked for eleven years with individuals from a variety of countries and cultures around the world. She encourages people to grow emotionally, spiritually, and relationally by discover...
2023-09-1950 minTalk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast10 Guys You Shouldn’t Date: How Can I Avoid Dating The Bad Boys?
Q: Hey Debra! I have a pattern of dating the bad boys. How do I recognize the type of guy I should date, from the type of guy I shouldn’t date?
When it comes to dating relationships, there is definitely such a thing as red flags in a relationship. The problem is, depending on our level of health and awareness – we can often either ignore the red flags or make excuses for them all together.
The reasons so many people find themselves drawn to toxic relationships is complex, and one that I woul...
2023-08-0819 minTalk To Me: The Debra Fileta PodcastAm I Going To Be Single Forever? Trusting God With The Unknowns
Does God want me to be single forever? How do I know whether or not I have the “gift” of singleness? How do I hold on to hope when the future seems so unknown and so unclear?
So many people are struggling with these questions as they look ahead at an unknown future and wonder whether or not God has marriage in their horizon.
Am I Going To Be Single Forever?
There are so many things in life where we just don’t know what God has planned. But there are some tr...
2023-08-0417 minTalk To Me: The Debra Fileta PodcastCan A Woman Make The First Move?
Can a woman make the first move in a relationship?
This is a question that’s always on my radar, because I know it’s going to come in about every single Q&A session I have – and let’s be honest, it’s a rather controversial topic. Truth be told, the answer to this question has changed over the years with the changing of culture and opinions and norms.
But it’s a topic that’s holding a lot of women back and it’s about time we had this conversation on the podcast.
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2023-07-2920 minTalk To Me: The Debra Fileta PodcastTop 10 Relationship Killers: Small Things That Cause Big Damage
These 10 relationships killers may seem small, but they’re deadly (if you ignore them). These things can slowly creep in and hurt our relationship.
Big marriage problems don’t start big.
They start with the little things that we neglect and ignore, that culminate into bigger things. That’s why it’s important for us to start recognizing these relationship killers – little things that can cause big damage – long before they start to impact your marriage.
Whether you’re single, dating, or marriage — there is something for you to take away from this episode...
2022-12-2031 minTalk To Me: The Debra Fileta PodcastJunk Food Relationships: Convenient but not Healthy
We’re talking junk food relationships. Relationships that are easy to get, but end up hurting you more than helping you.
Q: Why do I always end up in relationships that are convenient but not good for me?
That’s essentially the question from today’s caller on the hotline. She finds herself in relationships with guys who live nearby, but aren’t good for her. She’s wanting to break the cycle of convenience and pursue something different.
Just because a relationship is convenient, doesn’t mean it’s healthy.
We talk...
2022-12-1336 minTalk To Me: The Debra Fileta PodcastWhere are the Singles? Places To Meet Christian Singles. [Singles Panel Part 2]
Where on earth can you meet Christian singles these days?
Today we talk about great places — and not so great places — to meet Christian singles.
Our singles are back in Part 2 of our SINGLES PANEL SERIES. We’re getting into the minds of Christian singles from across the country, asking them all about the dating scene, the single life, and everything you wanted to know about the opposite sex but never wanted to ask over the next three episodes.
Today we’re talking about practical places to meet Christian singles, what has worke...
2022-11-2943 minTalk To Me: The Debra Fileta PodcastWhat’s Your Dating Mentality? What You Think Effects How You Date [Singles Panel Part 1]
What is your dating mentality? Because what you think effects how you date. Because your mentality is so important when it comes to dating.
It’s really mind over matter. Your thought life impacts your dating life. And sometimes, the thoughts are much more subtle than you realize.
I’m so excited to talk more about your dating mentality…and even more excited to have a panel of SINGLES (scroll down to meet them!) joining me for the next few episodes of the podcast in our SINGLES PANEL SERIES. We’re getting into the minds of...
2022-11-2245 minTalk To Me: The Debra Fileta PodcastHow Do I Let Go of “What Ifs” From Past Relationships?
Q: How do I let go of “what if’s” from my past relationships so I can move forward into future ones?
We’re taking all your questions on our new ASK A COUNSELOR series!! We’re doing this series because I wanted to introduce you to the Counselors from the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get to know them the way I’m getting to know them!
Today’s question comes from a woman who wants to know how to let go of the ruminating about the past — the what ifs. What if it would have...
2022-10-2531 minTalk To Me: The Debra Fileta PodcastHow Do I Get Over Rejection?
Q: How do I get over rejection and lacking the confidence to try again? — Joey from Texas
We’re taking all your questions on our new ASK A COUNSELOR series!! We’re doing this series because I wanted to introduce you to the Counselors from the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get to know them the way I’m getting to know them!
Today’s question comes from Joey, who wants to know how to get over rejection especially when it stings. It’s hard to face rejection whether it be in dating or even in f...
2022-10-0430 minTalk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast#1 Most Downloaded: Don’t Always Believe Your Feelings- Emotional Health
We’re spending the last few reviewing our TOP 5 MOST DOWNLOADED episodes of the past year. And this one came in at #1. This episode was the most popular episode of the year and it comes from a four-part series we did about getting healthy from the inside out called the Are You Really OK? Book Series! where I tackled the four areas of health including emotional, spiritual, mental, and physical.
In today’s episode we’re talking about the three parts to emotional health, and why sometimes your New Year’s Resolutions end up falling flat by...
2022-09-2736 minTalk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast#2 Most Downloaded: Couples Therapy with Justin and Tracy
Emotional health. What is it, and how do you know if you’re emotionally healthy?
We’re spending the next few weeks reviewing our TOP 5 MOST DOWNLOADED episodes of the past year. And this one came in at #2. This episode was the most popular episode from the COUPLES THERAPY series we did in February, on-air counseling with couples from across the country.
Today’s couple, Justin and Tracy, have been married for 11 years and have two children. They find themselves stuck in an unhealthy pattern — she feels like he’s always pulling away, he feels l...
2022-09-201h 10Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast#3 Most Downloaded: Sex Tips and Tricks for Newlyweds (or Not-So-Newlyweds)
Q: My wife and I are newlyweds, and right now sex is a little bit of a struggle and seems forced. Any advice or suggestions?
We’re spending the next few weeks reviewing our TOP 5 MOST DOWNLOADED episodes of the past year. And this one came in at #3.
Friends – we’re talking about sex!
Gary Thomas, my co-author, is joining me as co-host for this Love & Relationships Podcast Series: All About SEX!
Today’s question comes from a newlywed couple looking for advice and sex tips to overcome some of the s...
2022-09-1335 minTalk To Me: The Debra Fileta PodcastEnneagram and Relationships
Q: What are the right ways, and wrong ways to use the Enneagram? And how can we use it to strengthen our relationships? – Rachel from PA
Welcome back to the Love & Relationship Podcast, a hotline style show where we tackle all your questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health — with short, bite-sized, practical answers.
Today on the podcast we’re talking about the Enneagram! You may have heard about the Enneagram before, or this could be your first glimpse — but either way, this conversation is really enlightening!
My co-host today tag-team...
2022-08-0950 minTalk To Me: The Debra Fileta PodcastDealing with Your Past
How do you deal with your past?
Welcome back to the Love & Relationship Podcast, a hotline style show where we tackle all your questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health — with short, bite-sized, practical answers.
Today on the podcast we’re talking all about dealing with your past. Today’s caller wants to know how to appropriately look back at her past and deal with some of the past baggage that she’s carrying today.
My co-host today tag-teaming this question is Mary Marantz! Mary has had to take some tim...
2022-07-2642 minTalk To Me: The Debra Fileta PodcastStop Freaking Out About Dating
Welcome back to the Love & Relationship Podcast, a hotline style show where we tackle all your questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health — with short, bite-sized, practical answers.
Today on the podcast we’re talking all about DATING. Jay from Maryland wants to know why he’s got so many worries and doubts about dating. He doesn’t want to marry the wrong person, so he freaks.
My co-host today tag-teaming this question is Dave Marvin! Dave pastors a huge gathering of young adults in Dallas called The Porch, and he loves th...
2022-07-1942 minTalk To Me: The Debra Fileta PodcastAvoiding Burnout (w/co-host Christy Wright)
Welcome back to the Love & Relationship Podcast, a hotline style show where we tackle all your questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health — with short, bite-sized, practical answers.
Today on the podcast we’re talking all about BURNOUT. Our question comes from a woman who is wondering how to balance ministry, and life, and work, and family and everything else we have going on without burning out!! There are so many expectations on our shoulders. Is it even possible to “do it all”? And if so, what does that even look like?
My co...
2022-07-1234 minTalk To Me: The Debra Fileta PodcastAttachment Styles: With Krispin Mayfield
Welcome back to the Love & Relationship Podcast, a hotline style show where we tackle all your questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health — with short, bite-sized, practical answers.
Today on the podcast we’re talking all about attachment styles — how they impact your relationship with others, as well as your relationship with God. I’m joined by Licensed Counselor and author Krispin Mayfield who just wrote a book all about Attachment.
The way you handle your emotions, interact with others, and your ability to connect all comes down to something called your att...
2022-07-051h 00Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta PodcastCouples Therapy with Justin and Tracy: Wounds from the PastWe’re starting a four part series through the month of February called Couples Therapy! I’ve invited four courageous couples to join me on the podcast for an on-air counseling session. We’re going behind the curtain of marriage, and giving you a sneak peek of all the things married couples are actually going through behind the scenes.
Because marriage takes work, and it’s important to understand that — but it’s also important to have the tools you need to do that work, and the hope you need to see that it’s always worth it in the end...
2022-02-011h 12Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta PodcastThought Change = Life Change: Mental HealthMental health involves three areas: Your thought life, your past experiences, your chemical makeup. In my book Are You Really OK? I discuss each of those in detail! But today we’re zooming in on your thought life, and how your thoughts impact your life.
We’re in the middle of a four-part series on emotional, mental, spiritual, and physical health — because there’s no better way to start the new year than by stopping to really take inventory of how you’re doing!
At the end of the series, I’m hosting a ARE YOU REALLY O...
2022-01-1124 minTalk To Me: The Debra Fileta PodcastAm I Toxic? What If I’m the Unhealthy One in the RelationshipAm I toxic? What if I’m the toxic one in the relationship? Because I think the problem is me. That was the unique question that came into the podcast hotline, and I knew I had to answer it right away.
Am I toxic? That’s a question people don’t often ask. It’s not common for someone to identify themselves as the person in need of change in the relationship, and I was so grateful for this man’s insight and willingness to listen to advice and consider next steps for change.
Am I toxic?
2021-12-1421 minTalk To Me: The Debra Fileta PodcastGetting Married Young with Dave and Ashley WillisWhen is the BEST age to get married? Is it getting married younger or older?
I get that question a lot. And if you know me, you know that my answer is this: It’s not about your age, it’s about your health.
But nonetheless, there are pros and cons to getting married young and there are pros and cons to getting married older. So, we’ll be talking to two sets of couples who got married at different stages, and hearing both the pros and the cons from their experience.
Today I want...
2021-04-0642 minTalk To Me: The Debra Fileta PodcastGetting Married Older with Sabrina and LeviWhen is the BEST age to get married? Is it getting married older or younger?
I get that question a lot. And if you know me, you know that my answer is this: It’s not about your age, it’s about your health.
But nonetheless, there are pros and cons to getting married young and there are pros and cons to getting married older. So for the next two weeks, we’ll be talking to two sets of couples who got married at different stages, and hearing both the pros and the cons from their e...
2021-03-3051 minTalk To Me: The Debra Fileta PodcastHow Do I Get Over Someone I Was NEVER With?How do you get over someone you were never with? Isn’t it crazy you can get so stuck on someone you were never in a serious relationship with?
But it’s for real, and it can happen. Our minds and hearts are powerful, and we can create connections with people we were never really connected to, to begin with!
Today’s caller wants to know how she can get over someone she was never really with. What’s the mental work that it takes to get to a healthier place? Are there practical steps?
Th...
2021-03-2315 minTalk To Me: The Debra Fileta PodcastHow Do You Handle Feedback After a BreakUp?How do you handle the feedback you get from an ex after a breakup?
What do you do with the information they tell you about “why” they broke up with you? How seriously are you supposed to take it? Especially from someone you won’t end up marrying?
That’s exactly what’s on Kenneth’s mind today when he called into the Love + Relationships hotline.
The Breakup
Today’s episode, we’re talking through what to do with that feedback after a breakup — and how to handle it with balance. It’s such a good c...
2021-03-1621 minTalk To Me: The Debra Fileta PodcastOpposite Sex Friendships: Do I Have Too Many?Today’s question comes from a young man who has too many women in his life — what?! Talk about a problem. He’s got more female friends than male friends….maybe some of you can relate? Maybe you have more opposite sex friendships vs. same sex friendships.
He’s wondering if the amount of ladies he’s friends with might end up causing a problem in the end, because none of them seem to fit the pattern of the type of woman he wants to marry.
We also take some time to explore family of origin issues...
2021-03-0918 minTalk To Me: The Debra Fileta PodcastLoving After HurtQ: Loving after hurt…is it even possible? How do you love again after you’ve been really hurt?
Today’s caller wants to know how he can open his heart to love again after he’s been hurt in a past relationship.
You may be wondering the same thing. Maybe you’re dealing with some residual wounds from a past relationship that let you down, blind-sided you, or broke your heart. How do you open your heart to love again? We’re going to give you some practical steps on loving after hurt.
Today, my...
2021-03-0242 minTalk To Me: The Debra Fileta PodcastSharing About Your Past: How Much Is Too Much?
When it comes to sharing about your past relationships…how much is too much?
Today’s question comes from Kristen from Indiana, who wants to know: what is important, or even healthy to share, with a boyfriend/girlfriend or fiancé about your past relationship?
I start off by putting the answer to sharing about your past into two different categories, because I think what you share with a boyfriend or girlfriend is going to look different than a fiancé.
“The level of sharing in a relationship has to coincide with the level of trust.”
2021-02-2312 minTalk To Me: The Debra Fileta PodcastSexting, Sex Appeal, and The Hook-Up CultureSexting, Sex Appeal, and The hook up culture. In a culture where women are praised for flaunting their bodies — as women (and men!), how do we balance caring about our appearance, but not catering to a culture that focuses SO much on physical looks and sex appeal?
Today’s question comes from Maggie from Pennsylvania…and it sparks an entire conversation about sex appeal, sexting, the hook up culture, and so much more.
How to handle sexting?
What do you do when he/she starts sexting or asking for/sending sexy pictures?
What d...
2021-02-1649 minTalk To Me: The Debra Fileta PodcastLong Distance Relationships: How Much Is Too Much?Today’s caller is asking a question about long distance relationships.
She’s trying to get to know her boyfriend, who lives across the country, and she’s wondering how much is too much when it comes to getting to know one another, specifically — spending time on the phone talking.
Her boyfriend’s roommates seem to think they talk “too much” — and she’s not so sure. So who is right in this situation? And how do you gauge it?
Long Distance Relationships
Check out today’s conversation about long distance relationships and ho...
2021-02-0916 minTalk To Me: The Debra Fileta PodcastThe Toxic Relationship with Chrystal Evans HurstHow do you recognize a toxic relationship? What do you do if you find yourself in one? What does it look like if you’re dating someone toxic? What about if you’re married to someone toxic?
Today, I talk with Chrystal Hurst Evans about how to identify a toxic relationship, as well as steps to take to move yourself away from them. Whether single, married, dating, or somewhere in between — there’s a lesson for you in this episode!
Tune in to this episode of the Love + Relationships Podcast and subscribe to the show by click...
2021-02-0258 minTalk To Me: The Debra Fileta PodcastGetting Healthy Standing Alone with Michelle WilliamsHealthy people = healthy relationships. And getting healthy is what today’s episode is all about.
If you’ve been following TrueLoveDates.com, my Instagram or Facebook page, or my podcast for any amount of time, you’ve likely heard this coin phrase time and time again.
If you want healthy relationships this year, you’ve got to start by becoming healthy standing alone.
Today on the podcast, I’ve got my new friend, Destiny’s Child’s very own Michelle Williams, sharing her deeply authentic story of her personal struggle with mental health, finally hittin...
2021-01-0547 minTalk To Me: The Debra Fileta PodcastMORE Relationship Questions (Q&A w/ Debra Fileta and Chad Johnson)Today we’re answering all your relationship questions in Part 2 of Q&A with Debra Fileta and Chad Johnson!
A few weeks ago on my Instagram Page @TrueLoveDates (let’s be IG friends!!!), I asked you to submit any relationship questions you had for us to tackle in a rapid-response Q&A session. SO MANY GOOD QUESTIONS came in!
My friend, and one of your favorite co-hosts, Chad Johnson is joining me for Part 2 to answer more of your AMAZING relationship questions from a his/her perspective!
So tune in for Part 2 of the Q...
2020-11-2432 minTalk To Me: The Debra Fileta PodcastYour Relationship Questions!! (Q&A w/ Debra Fileta and Chad Johnson)Today we’re answering all your relationship questions!
A few weeks ago on my Instagram Page @TrueLoveDates (let’s be IG friends!!!), I asked you to submit any relationship questions you had for us to tackle in a rapid-response Q&A session.
My friend, and one of your favorite co-hosts, Chad Johnson is joining me today to answer your relationship questions from a his/her perspective!
So tune in for Part 1 of the Rapid Response Q&A episode of the Love + Relationships Podcast and subscribe to the show by clicking on the button below...
2020-11-1737 minTalk To Me: The Debra Fileta PodcastI’m Waiting For Sex, and Proud of It.Today’s caller is waiting for sex and proud of it.
The only problem: she wants to know WHEN to share that fact that she’s waiting for sex with the person she’s dating. Especially with today’s trend of online dating. Do you come out and tell them you’re waiting for sex on the very first date, or do you ease into it?
And that’s exactly what we’re covering on the podcast today! So let’s just cut to the chase and talk through this.
Tune in this brand new episod...
2020-11-1013 minTalk To Me: The Debra Fileta PodcastWhen Should You Say I Love You?When should you say I love you?
Today’s caller was curious when is an appropriate time to tell someone you love them when you’ve been in a dating relationship. I know a lot of you have wondered the same thing, and questions in my inbox to prove it!
So today we’re tackling this important question!!!
We’re talking through some of the parameters behind When You Should Say I Love You, in today’s episode!
Tune in this brand new episode of the Love + Relationships Podcast and subscribe to the show...
2020-10-2715 minTalk To Me: The Debra Fileta PodcastEnjoying Singleness vs. Wanting MarriageIs it possible to enjoy singleness, all while really wanting marriage?
Today’s caller wants to know the answer to that question. How can you strike a balance between enjoying what you’re experiencing today in singleness, yet still hold on to the desire for marriage without letting in control your life? Is it possible to enjoy singleness AND want marriage simultaneously?
Enjoying Singleness
We’re talking through this important topic today….so if you feel like you’re having a hard time striking a balance between these two different places, this episode is for you...
2020-09-2914 minTalk To Me: The Debra Fileta PodcastDealing With Controversial Topics in DatingThere’s a lot of controversy these days. From wearing masks, to Covid, to politics, and everything in between. And when there’s a lot of controversial topics in life, there tend to be a lot of controversial topics that come up in conversations!
What do you do if these topics come up in dating? Should you bring them up, or not? Today’s caller wants to know how to handle these conversations and controversial topics in dating.
Tune in this brand new episode of the Love + Relationships Podcast and subscribe to the show by clickin...
2020-09-2214 minTalk To Me: The Debra Fileta PodcastShould A Woman Initiate? One Man’s Perspective with Chad JohnsonWhen it comes to dating, should a woman initiate?
You guys know what I think about this topic (it-s a non-issue, and it doesn’t matter who initiates as long as the relationship is made of give-and-take thereafter), but I decided to ask my friend, Chad Johnson, to give me his male-perspective on the issue in Part 2 of our conversation.
Should a Woman Initiate?
Let me just warn you, things go down in this podcast – because Chad and I certainly don’t agree on everything, and I even call him out on some of his...
2020-09-0140 minTalk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast#2 Most Downloaded: Casual Dating. What’s too casual?We’re taking the next few weeks here at the Love + Relationships Podcast to highlight the TOP 5 MOST DOWNLOADED EPISODES! Whether you need to re-listen to this episode, or you’ve never heard it before, I know it will challenge and encourage you as it has for so many others! Coming in at #2…..
There’s a lot of casual dating going on these days…and it’s starting to get confusing.
Is it okay to date casually? And if so, is there a limit to how casual you should be when interacting with the opposite sex.
2020-07-2119 minTalk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast#4 Most Downloaded: Healthy Dating with Ben StuartWe’re taking the next few weeks here at the Love + Relationships Podcast to highlight the TOP 5 MOST DOWNLOADED EPISODES! Whether you need to re-listen to this episode, or you’ve never heard it before, I know it will challenge and encourage you as it has for so many others! Coming in at #4…..
[Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Email debra@truelovedates.com with your voice memo question and you might be featured on Season 5!]
Q: What does healthy dating look like and what are the key ingredients to a healthy dating relationship?
A: Today...
2020-07-0738 minTalk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast#5 Most Downloaded: How Far is Too Far? Physical Touch Before MarriageWe’re taking the next 5 weeks here at the Love + Relationships Podcast to highlight the TOP 5 MOST DOWNLOADED EPISODES! Whether you need to relisten to this episode, or you’ve never heard it before, I know it will challenge and encourage you as it has for so many others! Coming in at #5…..
How far is too far when it comes to physical touch before marriage? I’m sure you’re not shocked to hear that it’s one of the most frequently asked questions I receive at my relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com.
How far is too far?
2020-06-3021 minTalk To Me: The Debra Fileta PodcastWomen Should Not Initiate (and other bad relationship advice)When it comes to relationships, have you ever heard the phrase, “women should not initiate”? This is all too common advice, and unfortunately, it’s advice that comes with a lot of controversy as well as negative repercussion. So should women initiate? And what does that look like in dating, as well as in marriage?
The bad relationship advice series continues at TrueLoveDates.com by unpacking this relationship advice and why it can actually wreak havoc on your relationship in the long run.
Should Women Initiate?
I’m joined by my friend and author, P...
2020-04-2137 minTalk To Me: The Debra Fileta PodcastHappy Wife = Happy Life (and other bad relationship advice)We’re continuing our bad relationship advice series with the bad relationship advice that says, “A happy wife makes a happy life”.
I can’t even tell you how many times I’ve heard this bad relationship advice. It’s advice that has been used as one of the most common approaches in relationships.
But why is this bad relationship advice, and what advice is actually BETTER when it comes to how we approach marriage?
Happy Wife Makes A Happy Life?
This short, 5-minute episode will offer you a counter perspective to this common...
2020-04-1412 minTalk To Me: The Debra Fileta PodcastA Single’s Guide To Thriving In QuarantineI’ve heard from so many singles over the past few weeks who are struggling and looking for some encouragement as they navigate this time of social distancing and quarantine.
So I invited my single friend, Lisa Anderson, to join me as we discuss ways to thrive during this hard time. Lisa is the director of the young adults ministry of Focus on the Family called Boundless, and she is a single woman who I consider as one who is THRIVING in what God has called her to do.
In this important episode, we cover:...
2020-04-1047 minTalk To Me: The Debra Fileta PodcastMarried Couples Need A Weekly Date Night Out (and other bad relationship advice)Married couples need a weekly date night out…you’ve heard that advice before, but is it good advice? The answer might surprise you!!
We’re starting the bad relationship advice series here at TrueLoveDates.com!!!
In this series, I’m bringing you all the BAD relationship advice that you’ve heard over the years, and maybe you even thought it was GOOD advice, but it’s advice that’s actually harmful and even ruining relationships.
The first bad relationship advice we’re starting with is so APPLICABLE for today!! I recorded this episode LONG bef...
2020-04-0114 minTalk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast10 Places To Meet Christian SinglesAre you looking for places to meet Christian singles? Why am I even asking – you must be. Because you’re here. Reading this article. And you’re in the right place!!
At TrueLoveDates.com (the #1 Faith-based relationship advice blog!) I surveyed thousands of people asking them WHERE they were meeting Christian singles…and today I’m sharing the Top 10 places to meet Christian singles.
10 Places To Meet Christian Singles…actually 11 including this:
And make sure to listen to the VERY end…because I have a very practical #11 place — an opportunity for you to meet Christian Sin...
2020-02-2520 minTalk To Me: The Debra Fileta PodcastSummer is When Things Get HOT: On Intimacy in RelationshipsSummer is the season of intimacy, and it’s when things get hot in a relationship.
I can’t wait to share all about Summer in today’s podcast episode, but I just want to share with you that my new book, Love In Every Season, officially launched TODAY!!! You can get a copy anywhere you get your books. There’s so much I wanted to share with you on these episodes of the podcast, but of course the majority of the information on each of these seasons will be found in the pages of this new book! Ch...
2020-01-1421 minTalk To Me: The Debra Fileta PodcastSpring: Is Your Relationship Growing?We are just ONE WEEK away from the release of my new book, Love In Every Season. So today’s question couldn’t have come at a better time.
We’re digging deep into the four seasons of a relationship starting with the season of Spring!
Spring is the season of growth, it’s the season when attraction is blossoming and emotions are blooming. It’s the season of planting the right seeds and taking out the weeds.
While there’s so much I could cover in the season of Spring (becoming friends before lover...
2020-01-0727 minTalk To Me: The Debra Fileta PodcastHow to Make 2020 The Year of Better Relationships!Do you want better relationships in 2020? Because that is absolutely possible!!
It’s time to do things better this coming year, and expect better things!
Especially when it comes to our relationships. Because the quality of your relationships impacts the quality of your life!
Tune into this extra special New Years Eve Podcast episode for some hope, encouragement, and motivation to make better, healthier, stronger relationships this coming year – and why it’s so important to know where you’re going in order to find someone who can join you on that journey.
Cli...
2019-12-3123 minTalk To Me: The Debra Fileta PodcastDating Someone Who Is DivorcedQ: What advice do you have on dating someone who is divorced?
Dating someone who is divorced is a topic that has come up more and more over the years. With the age of divorce getting younger, and the number of divorces getting higher over the years – it makes sense that dating someone who is divorced is a topic that keeps coming back around during my question and answer time.
I have clients, friends, and family members who are divorced, and with that in mind, I wanted to make sure to answer this question in a...
2019-12-2415 minTalk To Me: The Debra Fileta PodcastLeadership, Submission and Headship in Marriage with Tim + AnneToday on the podcast, my friends Tim + Anne join me to talk about headship in marriage.
If you’ve ever wrestled with the concept of leadership, submission, or headship in marriage than you don’t want to miss this episode.
I have LOVED Tim + Anne’s biblical approach to marriage, and their views and ideas have put into words in a way that no one else has, the way that John and I do marriage. We’re a team…and we do life together.
Together: Co-Leadership In Marriage
I invited Tim + Anne to jo...
2019-12-1739 minTalk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast15 Get To Know You QuestionsLooking for some good get to know you questions? What are some questions to ask when you’re trying to get to know someone of the opposite sex?
Today’s podcast episode is a fast and furious trip through 15 questions you can ask as you’re starting the process of getting to know someone and wanting to learn how to break the ice.
I hear from so many people how difficult it can be to break the ice when you’re trying to interact with someone of the opposite sex, and I hope these questions will be...
2019-12-1010 minTalk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast3 Ways To Show Her You’re InterestedLast week we talked about some things a woman can do to show a man she’s interested in him.
Today we’re hitting up the flip side for the man who asks: what are some ways I can show her interest? Is there anything I can do to let her know that I’m into her?
I surveyed women of all ages, and the consensus was the same. And today, we’re revealing what they said on this brand new episode of the podcast!
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2019-12-0308 minTalk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast3 Ways You To Show Him You’re InterestedI’m always getting asked by women what they can do to show interest in a man without being too obvious or seeming desperate.
Today’s episode I’m talking you through THREE things the men said a woman can do to show him she’s interested in him! I interviewed and surveyed all kinds of men to get you these answers, and they’re so much more simple than you would imagine.
Showing interest is something that often looks a little different too each gender, so next week- we’re covering the flip side!
Click...
2019-11-2610 minTalk To Me: The Debra Fileta PodcastIs It Possible To Fall In Love With the Wrong Person?Is it possible to fall in love with the wrong person, or is falling in love the ultimate goal?
What is that feeling that we call “falling in love” and is it possible to choose someone based on pure emotion rather than choosing someone who is a good match for our lives?
And then what happens if you feel like you’ve fallen in love with the wrong person?
Falling in Love With the Wrong Person
Today I’m giving you my opinion about falling in love and whether or not it’s possib...
2019-11-1912 minTalk To Me: The Debra Fileta PodcastWalking Away From Toxic Relationships: With Gary ThomasToday we’re talking toxic relationships both in dating and in marriage.
Q: When it comes to general relationships, how do you know when a relationship is worth working on, and how do you know when it’s time to walk away?
A: When it is time to walk away from an unhealthy relationship? That’s a question we’re diving in to today.
Christians tend to really struggle with the idea of walking away from relationships, even when they get to a place where they’re harmful or even dangerous.
I’m joined...
2019-11-1246 minTalk To Me: The Debra Fileta PodcastCompatibility in Relationships: How To Know You’re A Good MatchCompatibility is key.
Just because you’re a Christian, and just because someone else is a Christian – doesn’t mean you’re going to be a good match when it comes to being in a relationship.
Compatibility is a huge piece to the puzzle of relationships, and it’s one that often get’s ignored or overshadowed in the conversation of what makes a healthy relationships.
When it comes to understanding compatibility in a relationship, there are certain things that have to “fit together” well, just like putting a puzzle together. This isn’t about finding an e...
2019-11-0514 minTalk To Me: The Debra Fileta PodcastShould Obesity Be a Deal Breaker in Dating?Today’s question about obesity in dating comes from Will who asks:
Q: Hi Debra. I’m feeling conflicted that a woman being overweight or obese has become a dealbreaker for a relationship.
I do my best to eat well and exercise to keep a healthy weight for myself, especially since I’m at risk for Type II diabetes, and obesity is the number one risk factor. It seems that marrying someone who also has the discipline to maintain a healthy weight is the best way for us to live a long and healthy life together.
2019-10-2913 minTalk To Me: The Debra Fileta PodcastHealthy Dating Looks Like This: With Ben StuartQ: What does healthy dating look like and what are the key ingredients to a healthy dating relationship?
A: Today’s question comes from Kim in Ohio, who is wondering what healthy dating actually looks like…is it even a thing?
If you know anything about me and this ministry, you know that my main message is that healthy people make healthy relationships. But how do you know that your relationship is healthy? What are some things to be on the lookout for when it comes to your interactions with the opposite sex?
Healt...
2019-10-2234 minTalk To Me: The Debra Fileta PodcastTime = Love: A Conversation with My Husband (Part 3)Time is everything. In fact, it’s one of the most valuable things you have to give to the people around you…because it’s the only thing you can never get back.
The past two episodes, we’ve been talking about how we protect our marriage.
We started with talking about our emotions in episode 39, our interactions in episode 40, and today we’re talking about our time.
Time is your most valuable commodity. But with the lures of social media, iPhones in every pocket, a dozen texts and emails to answer, and a stream o...
2019-10-1525 minTalk To Me: The Debra Fileta PodcastBoundaries With The Opposite Sex: A Conversation With My Husband (Part 2)Boundaries with the opposite sex may not be something we’re comfortable talking about, but it’s a necessary conversation.
It’s easy to say we should have boundaries in a marriage, but then actually talking through the specifics of what those boundaries look like is something most couples don’t actually sit down to do.
A few years ago in the media, a political leader who talked about his boundaries with the opposite sex sparked a fury of heated conversations around the country. In fact, an article about this very topic on my blog sparked...
2019-10-0821 minTalk To Me: The Debra Fileta PodcastOur Secret Sauce To Marriage: A Conversation With My Husband!
How do you protect your marriage?
What do you and your husband do to keep your marriage strong?
What’s your secret sauce to marriage?
Are there things you do to keep connected in your marriage?
These are some of the questions that came in over the past few months, and I am so glad say that I can finally answer them, because Season 3 of the Love + Relationships Podcast is officially here!!!! And you guys are going to be so excited about this highly anticipated guest on the podcast…
I can’...
2019-10-0131 minTalk To Me: The Debra Fileta PodcastCasual Dating: How casual is too casual?There’s a lot of casual dating going on these days…and it’s starting to get confusing.
Is it okay to date casually? And if so, is there a limit to how casual you should be when interacting with the opposite sex.
Today’s question comes from a young woman who is struggling with the latest trend of casual dating where a guy can hang out with as many girls as he wants (or vice versa) in the name of “casual dating”.
Casual Dating Can’t Stay Casual
The problem is that people te...
2019-05-1416 minTalk To Me: The Debra Fileta PodcastSpiritual Warfare & Relationships: Is it a relationship problem or a spiritual attack?Spiritual warfare isn’t something we discuss too often in the context of our day- to-day lives, much less in the context of our relationships.
But by not having this conversation, what if we’re missing something?
Because what if there are forces unseen at work, waging war against our hearts and against our relationships?
Spiritual Warfare in Relationships
According to scripture, “our battle is not simply against flesh and blood…but against the powers of this dark world…and against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realm” (Ephesians 6:12).
Accord...
2019-05-0728 minTalk To Me: The Debra Fileta PodcastHow To Guard Your Heart Without Being Too Guarded“Guard your heart”.
That’s pretty much sums up the relationship advice you get when you ask someone within the Christian culture for dating advice.
But what does it mean to guard your heart, and how do you guard your heart without appearing too guarded?
How To Guard Your Heart
Guarding your heart really comes down to protecting your heart…because your heart is the most important part of who you are, and so it’s worth protecting.
We’ve got to learn to protect our heart by setting spiritual, ph...
2019-04-3018 minTalk To Me: The Debra Fileta PodcastJust Say NO: How Doing Less Is More w/ Jeff Bethke.Are you the type of person who has a hard time saying no? Because if so, the inability to say no is likely going to start impacting your health, as well as the health of your relationships.
If you’re anything like the average American, you’re probably feeling burned-out and spread thin. We live in a society that has absolutely no margin. We’re so caught up in the rat race of life that we’ve lost our ability to rest, to breathe, to think, to pray, and to have space in our life to do the only...
2019-04-1632 minTalk To Me: The Debra Fileta PodcastFaith & Romance: Attracted to a Non ChristianHave you ever found yourself attracted to a non Christian? Someone who is living out a different belief system, or isn’t spiritually in tune with where you’re at with your faith?
What do you do when you find yourself drawn to someone with whom you are spiritually out of sync? How much does faith matter in the context of a healthy relationship?
Attracted To a Non Christian
Today’s episode answers a question from Sarah from Boston who is wondering what to do when you’re attracted to someone who is not a Ch...
2019-04-0918 minTalk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast5 Differences That Add STRESS To MarriagePersonality differences, age differences, cultural differences.
We often come to relationships with a set of differences; things that set us apart and give us a unique role in the relationship we’re in. We come from different families, different experiences, and different lifestyles. And each of those differences can be an asset to our romantic lives.
Differences add spice to a relationship. But let’s be honest, they also add stress.
From Age Differences to Faith Differences
In today’s episode, our caller wrote in specifically asking the question of age differ...
2019-03-2618 minTalk To Me: The Debra Fileta PodcastBiblical Dating: Camels, Arranged Marriage, and Starbucks.What does it look like to pursue biblical dating? You might be surprised to know.
Being a Christian who also happens to be a Licensed Professional Counselor, I’m often asked to speak about the topic of biblical dating.
How does a person date in a biblical way?
What does the bible actually say about dating?
How can a Christian manage the world of dating with a God-honoring perspective?
Which concepts of dating can you take from the “world” and which should you take from the bible?
I wrote...
2019-03-1909 minTalk To Me: The Debra Fileta PodcastReady to Wed: When you’re ready to marry but your parents say no.What happens when you think you’re ready to wed – but your parents want you to wait?
That’s the dilemma faced on this week’s episode of the podcast.
“We’re ready to get married, but our parents want us to wait.”
It can be really tricky learning how to manage the expectations of what you feel called to in your love live, versus what other trusted friends and family believe. But it’s all important and it’s all part of the equation.
So when do you take into consideration when...
2019-03-1209 minTalk To Me: The Debra Fileta PodcastMe, You, and Jesus: What A Christ Centered Relationship Really Means.
“I just want to have a Christ centered relationship.”
In the Christian dating culture, the term “Christ centered relationship” is a familiar one….one that I’ve heard time and time again.
Any Christian couple will tell you they want to keep Jesus at the center of their relationship, but what on earth does that actually mean?
Does it mean you pray together and do devotions? Does it mean you go to church together on Sundays? Or could there be more than that? Are there ways you can cultivate your relationship with God as a couple...
2019-03-0508 minTalk To Me: The Debra Fileta PodcastLet’s Talk About SEX Drive In Marriage: Dealing With The Ups and Downs of Drive
Let’s talk about sex drive in marriage. Because there are a lot of false expectations out there about what sex in marriage is going to look like.
I know this to be true, because I surveyed over 1,000 singles, and 1,000 married people to get their views on sex and sex drive in marriage. And the EXPECTATIONS of what sex people thought would be like, compared to the REALITY of what sex actually looked like in marriage, were drastically different. (Check out the full survey with the interesting results in my book, Choosing Marriage.)
Our expectations of...
2019-02-2635 minTalk To Me: The Debra Fileta PodcastSingle in Your 30s: How To Hold On To Hope
What do you do when you find yourself single in your 30s – your mid 30s, in fact – with no prospect of love in sight?
“I never imagined I’d be single in my 30s”.
Today’s caller is looking for some encouragement and trying to assess whether or not she should continue to hold on to hope when she finds herself single at an age she never imagined.
I’m not gonna lie, there are so many times when our life turns out different than we expected. Whether it’s with singleness, marriage, fertility issues...
2019-02-1926 minTalk To Me: The Debra Fileta PodcastPractical Oneness in Marriage: The Reality of Two Becoming OneOneness in marriage. What does it look like for two people to practically become one?
When we talk about oneness in marriage, we often focus on the deep spiritual and physical connection of two becoming one.
But what about the practical stuff? The house? The decorations? The furniture? The bed? The closet?
We often forget that there’s actually sacrifice and selflessness involved in the practical, day-to-day aspects of becoming one that people overlook.
Oneness in Marriage
Today’s caller is wondering how to make her future husband feel at hom...
2019-02-1212 minTalk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast10 Girls You Shouldn’t Date: How To Avoid Heart BreakHeart break doesn’t have to be the norm…if you know what to avoid, that is.
In this episode of the LOVE + RELATIONSHIPS PODCAST, we turn the tables on last weeks popular episode, 10 Guys You Shouldn’t Date by introducing you to the 10 Women You Shouldn’t Date.
Avoiding Heart Break
These 10 ladies will string you on…drag you down…and break your heart. But it doesn’t have to be that way, because you can learn what to look for. Each of them possesses certain traits that we’re going to throw in the red...
2019-02-0525 minTalk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast10 Guys You Shouldn’t Date: How Can I Avoid Dating The Bad Boys?Q: Hey Debra! I have a pattern of dating the bad boys. How do I recognize the type of guy I should date, from the type of guy I shouldn’t date?
When it comes to dating relationships, there is definitely such a thing as red flags in a relationship. The problem is, depending on our level of health and awareness – we can often either ignore the red flags or make excuses for them all together.
The reasons so many people find themselves drawn to toxic relationships is complex, and one that I would encourage you...
2019-01-2916 minTalk To Me: The Debra Fileta PodcastBirth Order & Your Love Life: How Birth Order Impacts Your RelationshipsQ: “Hey Debra, I’d love to hear your thoughts about if and how birth order impacts a relationship”.
A: Are you the oldest child, middle child, or the baby of your family?
Believe it or not, how you answer that question will actually have a significant impact on the type of person you turn out to be – as well as how you do relationships.
Your birth order can have a significant impact on your love life, so it’s important to understand the dynamics that are at play.
In this episode of the...
2019-01-2231 minTalk To Me: The Debra Fileta PodcastBreak Up Advice: 10 Ways To Heal After A Break UpYou just got out of a relationship that you thought was going somewhere – and you’re looking for some break up advice. Trust me, I know…your heart feels like it’s never going to heal.
They say breaking up is hard to do. And they’re right.
Maybe you are the one that ended the relationship. Maybe things were going well and you got blind-sided. Or maybe, you were slowly starting to drift apart…and this was the inevitable next step.
Whatever it is, breaking up is hard to do. Dealing with a break up is...
2019-01-1517 minTalk To Me: The Debra Fileta PodcastCommunication In Marriage: How To Stop The DriftWhen you think about communication in marriage, what comes to mind?
When I was gathering data for my book, Choosing Marriage, I asked singles to tell me how much time they thought married couples spend in quality communication each week. Then, I surveyed married couples asking them how much time they spend in quality communication each week…and the different answers that came in were almost laughable (I tell you all about the stats it in this episode and why married couples aren’t actually talking!)
There was such a drastic difference between what singles thou...
2019-01-0833 minTalk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast5 Ways To Build Trust In A RelationshipHow do you build trust in a relationship? Do you give trust right away, or do you hesitate to trust?
How does your past influence how you trust in the present? And what if you’ve been burned in your past?
We are back with the first episode of season 2 of the Love + Relationships Podcast, answering this important question!
To Trust, or Not To Trust: Three Types of Trust Personalities
In today’s episode, I’m answering an important question from Danny from St. Louis who finds himself feeling burned from trusti...
2019-01-0118 minTalk To Me: The Debra Fileta PodcastAm I Going To Be Single Forever? Trusting God With The UnknownsDoes God want me to be single forever? How do I know whether or not I have the “gift” of singleness? How do I hold on to hope when the future seems so unknown and so unclear?
So many people are struggling with these questions as they look ahead at an unknown future and wonder whether or not God has marriage in their horizon.
Am I Going To Be Single Forever?
There are so many things in life where we just don’t know what God has planned. But there are some truths and pr...
2018-11-2015 minTalk To Me: The Debra Fileta PodcastThe Only Three Dating Rules You Need: Know Your Reds, Greens, and Yellows.Dating rules and advice can change with the passing of time.
(Hence, I Kissed Dating Goodbye in 1990 vs True Love Dates in 2018- which is $1.99 on Kindle right now for all you bargain hunters out there )
But there are a few concepts about dating and relationships that won’t change no matter what’s going on in our culture.
Today’s caller is looking for some dating advice. She’s wondering how to know if she’s giving a relationship enough time to play out, or if she’s ending the relationships too early.
...
2018-11-1323 minTalk To Me: The Debra Fileta PodcastCan A Woman Make The First Move? On Women InitiatingCan a woman make the first move in a relationship?
This is a question that’s always on my radar, because I know it’s going to come in about every single Q&A session I have – and let’s be honest, it’s a rather controversial topic. Truth be told, the answer to this question has changed over the years with the changing of culture and opinions and norms.
But it’s a topic that’s holding a lot of women back and it’s about time we had this conversation on the podcast.
Who Should...
2018-11-0618 minTalk To Me: The Debra Fileta PodcastTop 10 Relationship Killers: Small Things That Cause Big Relationship ProblemsIt’s not usually the big things that cause relationship problems…it’s the small things.
It’s the little things that go unaddressed and add up with time that end up causing more damage in a relationship than anyone ever expects.
So how do you avoid them? You start by recognizing them.
Top 10 Relationship Problems
There’s a few big picture things that can really mess with your relationship and with your marriage. The problem is, most people don’t know about these things. They aren’t on the lookout. And then they c...
2018-10-3028 minTalk To Me: The Debra Fileta PodcastOversharing in Relationships: 10 Things NOT To Talk About Too SoonHave you ever found yourself oversharing in a relationship?
You know what I mean, right? I’m talking about those conversations where you find yourself saying WAY too much, WAY too soon? Have you ever walked away from a conversation thinking, why on earth did I say all that?
Or maybe you know someone, someone who you’re in a relationship with, who tends to overshare.
What is it about oversharing, and why do we do it? How can we draw the line between being authentic, but also not saying way more than we nee...
2018-10-2334 minTalk To Me: The Debra Fileta PodcastDoes God Have One Person Out There For Me To Marry? 3 Things You Need To Know About The OneIs there such a thing as “the one”? Do you believe that there’s only one person out there for you to marry? And if so, how does that impact your relationship choices?
Today I’m talking through this issue, and telling you all about how my husband and I had completely different experiences when we first met.
At the end of the day, whether you take my side, or my husband’s side on the issue – it doesn’t really matter, because no matter what you believe about the one, you’ve still got to do the work of...
2018-10-1615 minTalk To Me: The Debra Fileta PodcastHow Far Is Too Far? Physical Touch Before MarriageHow far is too far when it comes to physical touch before marriage? I’m sure you’re not shocked to hear that it’s one of the most frequently asked questions I receive at my relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com.
How far is too far?
On today’s mini-episode (18 minutes!) I’m answering just that! In this quick episode, I’m offering some practical, bite-sized advice for anyone who has ever wondered where to draw the line with physical touch before marriage.
I’m going to talk you through the 12 stages of physical touch...
2018-10-0919 minTalk To Me: The Debra Fileta PodcastYou Don’t Have To Like Being Single: 10 Ways To Survive SinglenessYou don’t have to like being single. Yes, even you, Christian person. It’s okay to struggle with being single!
It really is. I’m giving you – reading this post – permission to go ahead and feel those feelings. And in this episode, I’m going to tell you exactly why.
On this episode of the Love + Relationships Podcast, I’m talking to a young woman who is struggling with singleness. She’s just not feeling content.
How can you survive singleness in a world that seems to revolve around marriage?
How can you keep...
2018-10-0232 minTalk To Me: The Debra Fileta PodcastThe Ultimate Date: Date Ideas From First Dates to Married DatesWhat are some fun date ideas and practical suggestions for a successful first date?
On the other end of the spectrum, what are some practical suggestions for married couples who want to carve out some special time each week to date?
Dating looks different today than it did 20 years ago. Scratch that, dating looks different today than it did LAST YEAR. In this episode, we are talking through ins and outs of a date in 2018.
My caller today wants to know some practical suggestions to making the first date a success. So I t...
2018-09-2526 minTalk To Me: The Debra Fileta PodcastSex Drive & The Single Life: Controlling Your Lust Before It Controls YouWhat do I do with my raging sex drive while I’m single?
I get that question a lot. But the problem is: not too many Christians are teaching about this subject. I can’t recall when I heard a sermon about sexual struggles on a Sunday morning, can you? But dealing with your sex drive is a problem that singles have to face on a regular basis….one that will ultimately have an impact on their future marriages as well, because learning to “tame the drive” is something you’re going to deal with after you’re married as...
2018-09-1843 minTalk To Me: The Debra Fileta PodcastWhen Life Doesn’t Go As Planned: Grief, Loss & Remarriage w/ Daniel and Brittany Price BrookerHave you ever been through a hard time in your life where you thought to yourself, “This is not what I wanted my life to look like. This is NOT what I expected.”
What happens when life doesn’t turn out how you planned? How do you navigate those hard times of hopelessness and discouragement, when you feel stuck in a life that you never expected.
Maybe your hard time is that you just went through the heartbreaking loss of a failed or broken relationship.
Maybe you’re single, and your hard time is that...
2018-08-2841 minTalk To Me: The Debra Fileta PodcastJunk Food Relationships: Healthy Relationships AREN’T ConvenientThere’s a reason junk-food is so popular.
It makes you feel good for a little while, it’s quick, and most of all – it’s convenient. But at the end of the day, it destroys your health and expands your waist-line. And we ultimately end up regretting it.
The same thing kind of goes for “junk food relationships”.
We all say we want healthy relationships, but in reality, most of us tend to go for what’s easy and convenient rather than what’s good for us.
Today I’m chatting with a wom...
2018-08-1331 minTalk To Me: The Debra Fileta PodcastOnline Dating Tips: Up Your Odds of Finding A Good MatchIf you’re single, I know you’re looking for online dating tips. Because, ugh, online dating? It’s a love-hate relationship for sure…especially when it comes to being a Christian and trying to date online.
From the Christian singles I’ve interacted with: they are online because there seems to be no other way to meet other Christian singles.
So you give it a try, but like today’s caller – you aren’t loving it.
On today’s episode, I talk to a 36-year-old woman who comes from small town in the middle of nowhere...
2018-08-0638 minTalk To Me: The Debra Fileta PodcastThe One Sided Relationship: What It Tells Me About YouHave you ever found yourself in one sided relationship where you are doing ALL the work? Where you are giving, and giving, and giving – and getting little to nothing in return?
Why do you find yourself one way relationships again, and again, and again? The simple answer is this:
You attract the type of relationship you think you deserve. (Tweet it!)
So how do you change that narrative? How do you start believing that you’re worth more? How do you block out the lies that tell you you’re not capable, able, deserv...
2018-07-3038 minTalk To Me: The Debra Fileta PodcastJust Not That Into You: 10 Signs To Look ForHow do you know if someone is just not that into you?
“You should never have to convince someone that you’re worth loving.” (Tweet it!)
That’s exactly what I told the caller on today’s episode of the show.
After getting burned by a lady he’s been getting to know, he finds himself wondering how on earth is a person supposed to read the opposite sex and find out whether or not someone is interested? Are there signs to be on the lookout for?
Why, yes…yes there are. 10 differen...
2018-07-2626 minTalk To Me: The Debra Fileta PodcastTrust Issues: Is the problem in your relationship or is the problem in you?We’ve all got demons that we carry into relationships; experiences from our past that can impact the way we do relationships in the present. Our past doesn’t define us, but it can certainly have an impact on the kind of relationships we find ourselves drawn to. It can have an impact on who we choose to open up to, and trust.
“But absolutely nothing in your life is beyond God’s redemption” (TWEET IT!)
If you find yourself struggling with trust issues in a relationship, you might find yourself asking:
How do you det...
2018-07-2629 min