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Caregiving Philosophyfrustrated by a narcissistic mother with MelissaIt's difficult to watch a parent die. It's much more frustrating when the doctor says your parent has been cured from cancer, but they decide to give up on living anyway.
"She didn't want to be helped. And then to watch somebody, like, give up like that was just really hard." Melissa
Listen in as we discuss
How parent's can be selfish when it comes to caregiving
The different way siblings react
Putting off one's life to wait for parents to die
The one thing you wish your mother would do on h...2024-01-3033 min
Happy Life Story11. Why You Should Stop Trying to be Happy"Desiring a positive experience is itself a negative experience. And the acceptance of a negative experience is itself a positive experience." I got this great quote from Mark Manson. I saw on this YouTube video the other day.And, I think that's totally true. If you keep trying to be happy, you keep desiring to be happier than you are, then that's a negative experience. Lani: Caregiving Philosophy Melissa: Wandering Missy - Start Living the Life You Want. How to find Joy + Purpose in your Life. 2023-02-2221 minHappy Life Story10. How to Change Your PerspectiveLearn about a tool called The Model that lets you see how your thoughts and feelings lead to your actions and the results you create in your life.Often it only takes a small change in perspective to make a large change in your life. Lani: Caregiving Philosophy Melissa: Wandering Missy - Start Living the Life You Want. How to find Joy + Purpose in your Life. 2023-02-1527 minHappy Life Story9. Why it's Hard to be HappyThe reason it's difficult to be happy is because our brain is programmed to listen to the Motivational Triad:seek pleasureavoid painconserve energyLearn how our primitive brain affects our decisions in today's modern world.Here's the book we mention in this episode; The Pleasure Trap by Doug Lisle. Lani: Caregiving Philosophy Melissa: Wandering Missy - Start Living the Life You Want. How to find Joy + Purpose in your Life. 2023-02-0820 minHappy Life Story8. 3 Steps to Begin to Change Your LifeDo you ever think, "I really want to create more happiness in my life, but I feel stuck. I just can't get going. I want things to be different, but I have no idea where to begin. I want positive change, but I feel like I'm in a rut. What should I do?" Listen to hear Melissa's three steps to begin to change your life. Lani: Caregiving Philosophy Melissa: Wandering Missy - Start Living the Life You Want. How to find Joy + Purpose in your Life. 2023-02-0114 minHappy Life Story7. Client Question: How to Handle Self Doubt?Today, we're going to answer a listener question. She says, Every time I get involved inan activity, something in me takes over saying that I'm not good enough, or something is wrong in the way I'm doing it. Then I immediately stop and start wondering where I made the mistake. When I continue. All I can see are mistakes. There are so many projects. I've abandoned because of this. And it makes me feel like a failure. How do I get rid of my self doubts?We can all see ourselves in this person.2023-01-2515 minHappy Life Story6. The Importance of Social SkillsThe 5th Component of Emotional Intelligence: Social Skillsdo not let other people's emotions rub off on yousomeone who has stronger emotional intelligence tends to be happieryou have to understand yourself first to be able to understand everybody elseremember you have no idea what someone else is going throughAnd it all circles back to self awareness! Lani: Caregiving Philosophy Melissa: Wandering Missy - Start Living the Life You Want. How to find Joy + Purpose in your Life. 2023-01-1807 minHappy Life Story5. Why Empathy is a Key Ingredient of Emotional IntelligenceThe fourth part of emotional intelligence is Empathy. The definition that we have for empathy as it relates to emotional intelligence is having a high EQ, versus an IQ, meaning being able to understand what others may be feeling and are going through and responding kindly and thoughtfully. You have no idea what someone else is going through, what is going on their world. Approaching conversations and interactions with empathy, with a mutual respect, putting yourself in some one else's shoes shows a depth of understanding and maturity. Lani: Caregiving Philosophy...2023-01-1108 minHappy Life Story4. What Motivation can Teach You about YourselfToday we are talking about another core part of Emotional Intelligence: Motivation.The definition for motivation is: emotionally intelligent people are motivated by things beyond money, fame or success. They're also able to understand and desire the need to fulfill their own inner needs and goals. What do you think about this? What motivates you?What can you learn about yourself as you uncover the role motivation plays in your life? Lani: Caregiving Philosophy Melissa: Wandering Missy - Start Living the Life You Want. How to find Joy + Purpose in yo...2023-01-0406 minHappy Life Story3. How Self Regulation can Change your LifeHow Self Regulation can Change your LifeThere's 5 different components that make up the broader definition of Emotional Intelligence. Today we are talking about #2, Self Regulation. Definition: being able to regulate and manage the emotions you are feeling while waiting for the appropriate time and avenue on how to express them. Self Regulation starts when you recognize after what you did before, so that you can change it the next time or try to get at least a little bit better the next time. Self Regulation can be trying to s...2022-12-2706 minHappy Life Story2. Why Self Awareness is Critical to your HappinessWhy Self Awareness is Critical to your HappinessToday we are talking about Emotional Intelligence. A very big topic. What is emotional intelligence? It is the ability to perceive, interpret, demonstrate, control and use emotions to communicate with and to relate to others effectively and constructively. But why are we talking about this?There's 5 different components that make up the broader definition. In this episode we will start with the first component: Self Awareness. What it is and why it is critical to your happiness. Lani...2022-12-2009 minHappy Life Story1. Intro to Happy Life StoryWelcome to Happy Life Story, I’m Melissa. And I’m Lani. We’re discussing how to create your Better Life Story.In our first episode, we discuss what is your happy life story. What is happiness to you? And what story do we tell ourselves about our own sense of being happy? And did you realize that you are in complete control of how you think? Exercise:Describe yourself in three sentences. And then later, look at what you wrote down? Did you pick the three best things about yourself? Did you pi...2022-12-1314 min