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Speaking of Phenomenal PodcastInnovation & Inclusion with Laura Jordan LeClairIn this episode of Speaking of Phenomenal, host Amy Boyle sits down with Laura Jordan LeClair, program director for Chicago Innovation, to unpack the power of mentorship and community in shaping careers and sparking innovation. If you're navigating career transitions, battling imposter syndrome, or seeking meaningful professional connections, this conversation is for you.Laura shares actionable insights on identifying personal values, leveraging mentorship opportunities, and creating support systems. You'll walk away with strategies to build authentic relationships, break through self-doubt, and embrace innovation at any stage of life.MUSIC (used with permission)WOMAN2025-03-0627 min
The Pineapple Express: A Millennial’s Guide to Love, Sex Positivity, Non-Monogamy, Polyamory & Swinging99: Hierarchical Polyamory, Big Feelings, and Demisexuality:An Open Conversation with Laura BoyleSend us a textIn this episode of The Pineapple Express, I sit down with my friend and non-monogamy expert Laura Boyle, creator of Ready for Polyamory. We dive into the provocative idea that “hierarchical polyamory is just demisexual swinging,” unpacking big feelings about different forms of polyamory and non-monogamy.We explore how labels and dynamics shape relationships, challenge stereotypes, and share our personal journeys—mine includes a surprising move toward monogamy with my new partner. This episode is full of laughs, heartfelt moments, and insights you won’t want to miss.🎧 Tune in now and...2025-02-211h 08
Wild & SublimeLiving in a throuple, quad, & more! with author Laura BoyleSend us a textDo you dream of living in a polyamorous pod? Do you have non-nesting partners? Kids? You might need to do your homework first. As part of our Polyamory In Depth season, author Laura Boyle (Monogamy? In this Economy?) talks through assumptions and expectations about polyam homelife. In this episode:Author and relationship coach Laura Boyle Host, sex educator, and energy worker Karen Yates Monogamy? In this Economy? – buy on Bookshop and support Wild & SublimeSix Recommended Books on Nonmonogamy - NY Times gift articleGet Say It Better in Bed, Karen...2025-02-061h 03
The Ready For Polyamory PodcastSeason 9 Episode 1: What's in A Name: Polyamorous JargonDo you hear words like "compersion" and "metamour" and cringe internally? Or are you someone who is excited to have in-group markers like talking about a Kitchen Table relationship? This episode talks about when these terms are useful, when they're less so, why we use them, and the definitions of some of the most common ones.
I maintain the most frequently cited Polyamory Glossary online, at https://www.readyforpolyamory.com/polyamor... but I am not an unconditional jargon booster - learn more in today's episode.
(and make sure you and your partners are on the...2025-01-2231 min
When are you coming home?When are you coming home, Laura Brennan?In this episode we have Laura Brennan, originally from Dublin and now living in London working in film and tv production, after a few years in both Vancouver and Glasgow. I chat to Laura about leaving home to move abroad at just 18 years old, teaching her English boyfriend Irish-isms and the time she ended up as an extra, front and centre in a Bollywood movie.You can follow and message the podcast on Tiktok and Instagram @Whenareyoucominghomepod, and don’t forget to rate and share the podcast with your expat friends! Ho...2024-11-161h 19
The PanelEpisode 011 - Cohabitating While Non-Monogamous w/ Laura Boyle of Ready for PolyamoryOriginally taped Sepbember 18, 2024 This month we dive into the nuts and bolts of cohabitating with your non-monogamous partners with Laura Boyle! Laura is an author and the wonderful mind behind the blog, Instagram account, TikTok channel and other platforms of “Ready For Polyamory”, and has published her newest book, “Monogamy? In This Economy?” (out now – order here! ) She just so happened to be in town when we were recording, so we took advantage of the kismet of her being in town to have her on as our special guest expert this month! Along with Diana, Gaines, Roxi and Harvey...2024-10-291h 10
Private Parts Unknown: Sex & Love Around the WorldThe Practicalities of Polyamory with "Monogamy? In this Economy?" Author Laura BoyleFor the 174th episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak welcomes Laura Boyle, author of Monogamy? In this Economy?: Finances, Childrearing, and Other Practical Concerns of Polyamory.In this interview, Laura Boyle shares her personal journey into polyamory, which began at age 19, and how she later became a relationship coach and educator on the topic. The conversation delves into the practical aspects of polyamorous relationships, including managing finances, child-rearing, and cohabitation—the subject of Boyle's latest book. Boyle highlights key findings from her research, such as the prevalence of three-adult households in polyamory and the challenges of...2024-09-1140 minThe Pineapple Express: A Millennial’s Guide to Love, Sex Positivity, Non-Monogamy, Polyamory & Swinging77: Monogamy? In This Economy? Unpacking Polyamory and Family Relationship Dynamics with Laura BoyleSend us a textWelcome back to another exciting episode of the Pineapple Express Podcast, where we dive into the multifaceted world of relationships, love, and everything in between. I’m your host, Kiley, and today we have an exceptional guest joining us—Laura Boyle, the brilliant mind behind the thought-provoking book *Monogamy? In this Economy?*.In this conversation, Laura shares her insights on polyamory, modern relationships, and the changing dynamics of love in today's society. We'll explore the ideas behind her book, discussing how people can navigate different types of relationships and the chal...2024-08-231h 13
Playing With Fire165 Monogamy, In This Economy? with Laura BoyleMoney, parenting, sharing space, schedules, rental agreements… these may not be the sexiest and most exciting aspects of non-monogamy, but they are important. In fact, they’re common stumbling blocks, and can cause big relationship issues when left unaddressed for long periods of time.
Here’s the problem: we rarely get to hear about how other polyamorous people are handling the practical details of their lives. That’s exactly what our guest today, author and coach Laura Boyle, is out to solve. Her new book, Monogamy? In this Economy? Finances, Childrearing, and Other Practical Concerns of Polyamory, is based...2024-08-1747 minThe Ready For Polyamory PodcastSeason 8 Episode 5: Post Non-monogamy and BeyondIn a conversation that ranges a little beyond both books, Laura and Andrea Zanin discuss:
What is Post-Non-Monogamy?
Does it matter whether non-monogamy is an identity?
What benefit can we glean from a post-non-monogamous identity?
What are some reasons one might be post-non-monogamous?
The flexibility of this concept and identity
More than two, second edition, and what parts of it Andrea is most proud of putting into the world, as well as the process of taking the ten year old book apart and putting it back together.
The future of...2024-08-1550 min
The Ready For Polyamory PodcastSeason 8 Episode 4: More Than Two, Second EditionEve Rickert, co-author of both editions of More Than Two, is on the show to discuss the process of creating More Than Two, Second Edition, what about it is different, why a second edition, and more.
You can get More Than Two, Second Edition anywhere books are sold, with the official release date Sept 2, but preorder from the links provided by Thornapple Press here to support them: https://thornapplepress.ca/books/more-than-two/
You can follow MTT 2nd Edition on IG here: https://www.instagram.com/mttbook/
Laura and Ready for polyamory have a...2024-08-0938 min
Nope! We're Not MonogamousMonogamy? In this Economy? With Author Laura BoyleSend us a textLet’s explore the complexities of living in polyamorous relationships with relationship coach Laura Boyle, author of Monogamy? In this Economy?Finances, Childrearing, and Other Practical Concerns of Polyamory. We discuss the challenges and triumphs of shared living, finances, and parenting in multi-partner households.From cohabitation logistics and financial planning to co-parenting strategies and managing breakups, Laura offers practical advice and candid insights. We also dig into the social stigmas and legal challenges faced by polyamorous families.Discover how real people are navigating the intricacies of polyamory and creating fu...2024-08-0852 minThe Ready For Polyamory PodcastSeason 8 Episode 3: Change is the only Constant"In Parable of the Sower, Octavia Butler has that affirmation, change is the only constant - and I think that's an important way to look at these life transitions. We can't be trying to stop change from happening, for us or for our kids."
Libby Sinback of Making Polyamory Work sits down with Laura in this episode to discuss big life changes this week, and how they affect us, as polyamorous folks - especially through the lens of the two of us as polyamorous parents. Much is made, often, of trying to minimize changes in our lives...2024-05-1650 minThe Ready For Polyamory PodcastSeason 8 Episode 2: Asexuality in PolyamoryLaura sits down with Evie Lupine to discuss kink, asexuality, and non-monogamy and polyamory and how these intersect for Evie as well as the larger community.
Evie shares her experience as an asexual person who finds that a lot of nonmonogamous dating includes "the social dance where people expect the first date to be a nicety they must complete to get to the sex"; and "even folks who express a lot of understanding verbally and have other partners can seem confused or disappointed when it remains that I'm asexual several months into a relationship." We talk a...2024-04-011h 06The Ready For Polyamory PodcastSeason 8 Episode 1: EntwinedLaura sits down with Alex Alberto, author of Entwined to discuss the new memoir, polyamorous media representation, storytelling, and more.
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Check out Laura's upcoming [events](readyforpolyamory...2024-03-2342 minThe Ready For Polyamory PodcastSeason 7 Episode 8: A Polyamory DevotionalEvita Sawyers has been polyamorous for over a decade and is a relationship coach who is well known for creating the instagram series "Today's Polyamory Reminder." Her book "A Polyamory Devotional," out October 20 from Thornapple Press, is 365 daily prompts for thinking through different issues and angles of interpersonal relating, filtered through a lens of nonmonogamy.
On today's episode she discusses with Laura how the same issues of nonmonogamy that drive these reflections can drive self-knowledge that serve all our relationships, as well as discussing her work with Chanée Jackson-Kendall on the Metamour's Bill of Rights, and g...2023-10-1948 minThe Ready For Polyamory PodcastSeason 7 Episode 7: Living in Small SpacesSo much of polyamorous cohabitation advice implies that space is easy to come by - that you just have a guest room, or that it's simple to have silence or an extra floor to go to. But for many polyamorists this isn't the case, logistically. In cities and apartment living especially, space, distance, and existing parallel to your partners' relationships can feel like imaginary concepts that maybe other people get to have. Laura and Gabrielle Noel (@gabalexa on social media) discuss the practical and emotional realities of living in small spaces in today's episode.
Follow Gabrielle everywhere...2023-10-121h 00The Ready For Polyamory PodcastSeason 7 Episode 6: PolysaturationPolysaturation is the state of realizing you have enough relationally - that more would be too much. This can be a really beautiful, welcome thing - or a really challenging one. It can make folks feel like they've done something wrong and that's why their internal warning lights about energy or capacity to handle issues with partners are going off. The answer is seldom simple - these are people we care for and are relating to, we aren't going to "get rid of" them - but often, there are times in life when we need to recalibrate in order...2023-09-281h 03
The Ready For Polyamory PodcastSeason 7 Episode 5: Mom Rage"Matrescence - the process of becoming a mother - is something we only talk about in the most glorified tone culturally, and it is in fact really difficult and isolating and kind of awful - and holding that duality can be enormously challenging and shameful for moms who already lack support."
"I talk about non-monogamy in the book both because I’m from the Bay Area and it’s everywhere but also because I wanted to examine social changes and social frameworks that might be available as alternatives to just straight policy changes that can build some of t...2023-09-2138 minThe Ready For Polyamory PodcastSeason 7 Episode 4: Polyamory and D/s"Both these dynamics - D/s and polyamory - are emotional edgeplay, are like peeling a layer of your skin back, and there’s so much growth and power to be found in continuing to engage there."
Writing Spicy registration closes October 5, 2023, and runs October 6 - November 19, 2023 - More information & register at - http://writingspicy.com/
On September 19, Laura is teaching Negotiation for Edgeplay at Wicked Grounds - More info and tickets here: https://forbiddentickets.com/events/wicked-grounds/2023-09-19-online-bottoming-safety-201-negotiating-edgeplay-safely-as-a-bottom-or-submissive
On September 26, Sinclair is leading The Vulnerable Dominant online workshop through Wi...2023-09-151h 12The Ready For Polyamory PodcastSeason 7 Episode 3: Polyamory in Media 2023"I need to have a word with the people at Netflix about teasing polyamory"
"Books are just leaps and bounds ahead of tv in representation, so my standards are way higher"
In today's episode, Laura and Abbie of PolyAnarchy discuss polyamorous representation in various tv properties and books.
Their favorites include the book To Shape a Dragon's Breath and they universally pan what they term "all the Netflix reality shows that use the word throuple and don't give us one." Special Guest: Abbie K.2023-09-0745 minThe Ready For Polyamory PodcastSeason 7 Episode 2: Microscripts with Multiamory"You need the self-awareness and the meta-communication to make using the tools easier for you. It's about waking up to doing it intentionally."
"In my romantic relationships and my friendships, I feel so empowered in my communication - we have so many tools we can turn to."
The new book from Dedeker, Emily and Jase of Multiamory is a tool kit for communication in relationships of all kinds. In today's podcast episode we focus on one in particular that they delve into - microscripts - but we also range through topics like conflict resolution, our...2023-09-0141 min
The Ready For Polyamory PodcastSeason 7 Episode 1: PolyWiseLaura speaks with Jessica Fern and David Cooley about their new book, PolyWise, paradigm shifts for folks making changes in non monogamous relationships, and restorative rather than punitive views of conflict.
They discuss why the authors included so many different psychological modalities and approaches in their book, the value of different tools for folks encountering big transitions in relationships, and more.
"It's about intentionality - being willing to lead with your feelings, hearing when your partner does as well, and keeping in mind that healing and relating are verbs."
"Paradigms were an important...2023-08-2446 min
The BV: from the heart of DorsetAntiques Road Trip in Sherborne, Robert Boyle and all the lettersThe June BV Podcasts begin, as every month, with this month’s letter from the editor and all the latest reader’s letters. Next historian Roger Guttridge talks to Jenny about Stalbridge's most famous resident, and Terry has a chat with local antiques dealer Craig Wharton about the time TV's Antiques Road Trip came to town.
Letter from the Editor - Laura Hitchcock gladly welcomes June's wooing ways, and celebrates being an overweight middle-aged mum kickboxer.
This month's readers letters include some disgruntled locals unhappy at the coun cil mowing glorious verges during No Mow May
Local historian Roge...2023-06-1945 min
The Ready For Polyamory PodcastSeason 6 Episode 11: Breakups vs De-escalations"The relationship they need to feel secure is not always the one you need to deescalate to the 'good parts' of your relationship with them."
"It can be really triggering to watch someone greive so outwardly about someone else and their relationship while you're still with them."
Leanne Yau of PolyPhiliaBlog guests on this week's episode to discuss her recent breakup and breakups in general, and when they end up being necessary over de-escalations, with Laura. We talk about breakups when you're 6 degrees of Kevin Bacon or less from your former partners by staying in...2023-04-1354 min
The Noobie And The DoobieLaura Connelly | Pot Head Plant Mind | The Noobie and The Doobie Podcast | OTS #23We're back! After a 10-month "sabbatical" we're FINALLY releasing the last 6 episodes of Season 2. They roll out (pun intended) weekly starting Fri Mar 23 and ending with back2back episodes on Thu Apr 20. #Happy420Enjoy these amazing conversations. Thanks for your patience.On this episode we spoke with LAURA CONNELLY (formerly Ginger Ganja Goddess)*Original Upload Date: June 29, 2022CONNECT WITH LAURA CONNELLY (New Instagram) ========================PODCAST INFO AND...2023-04-131h 06The Ready For Polyamory PodcastSeason 6 Episode 10: The Relationship Anarchy Book"Start the revolution from your affections is an imperfect translation, but it's as close as we could get to the idea that we don't want freedom from our bonds, we want freedom made by our bonds"
"Relationship Anarchy is essentially the everyday decision to make visible and question all of the presumptions that underlie all our relationships."
If you find discussions of Relationship Anarchy to be dismissive, surface level, or fail to explain what the political anarchist principles that are being applied to relationships ARE, this book may be for you. We discuss the idea...2023-04-061h 02The Ready For Polyamory PodcastSeason 6 Episode 9: Abuse in Polyamory Part 3 Survivorship in CommunityContent Warning: we discuss abusive relationships, and (without details) sexual assault and the process of reporting and discussing such incidents in community and with organizations that were around us at that time. Folks should use their discretion in deciding if this is an episode they can listen to and when they should do so.
"A lot of survivors get given the impression they can't be non-monogamous. That isn't necessarily true."
"Trauma-informed non-monogamy and non-monogamous spaces can be harder to find than we want them to be."
Sydney Rae Chin is a chef, pleasure...2023-03-3047 minThe Ready For Polyamory PodcastSeason 6 Episode 8: Abuse in Polyamory Part 2"The definition I prefer to use is that abuse is a pattern of behavior with the design, intent, or consequence of making someone unable to leave a situation."
"We need to expand our conceptions of abuse because so many support systems are using methods of understanding that are heteronormative and based entirely on married people, much less mononormative."
CW: this episode speaks about patterns of behavior and harm that can comprise abusive relationships, and while it strives not to be explicit, it may be triggering for some survivors of abuse. Use your discretion for if...2023-03-2343 min
The Ready For Polyamory PodcastSeason 6 Episode 7: Abuse in Polyamory Part 1Content Warning: throughout this episode, we speak frankly of forms of emotional, financial, and physical abuse. There is no particularly graphic content and the episode is "safe for work" in a traditional sense, but it may be triggering to some listeners and begins with a similar audio content warning. Listen at a time and in a place when you have the capacity to care for yourself, especially if you are a survivor of abuse.
"There are several conversations our community should be having about abuse but the first step should be to acknowledge it happens in polyamorous...2023-03-1647 minThe Ready For Polyamory PodcastSeason 6 Episode 6: Swinging and PolyamoryNon-monogamy is a big umbrella! polyamory isn't the only thing that falls under it. Often, folks can be a little Holier-than-thou (polier-than-thou?) about their nonmonogamy, implying that polyamory is more evolved than other kinds of consensual non-monogamy or being decidedly sex-negative when they learn that folks entered their nonmonogamous journey from opening to swinging or being "monogamish" instead of polyamorous. So on today's episode we're going to talk about the kind of middle spaces that many folks actually continue to exist in (eg, polyam people with ongoing relationships who also have casual encounters or attend sex parties, or swingers...2023-02-1647 min
Playing With Fire87 Is polyamory practical? with guest Laura BoyleSure, it sounds fun, but is polyamory actually practical? And what if you have kids-- it's already tough to find time-- how can this work? What about STIs? Unplanned pregnancy? Or what if we find out we aren't a good fit anymore? When these big questions loom its helpful to hear from people who've been there, done, got the t-shirt.
If you're new to polyamory this interview is especially well-suited for you!
Laura Boyle, the author of Ready for Polyamory joins us to talk about how this all really works.
Watch this episode on...2022-11-1959 min
The Ready For Polyamory PodcastSeason 6 Episode 5: Non-binary Polyamorous Experience"It's really just a matter of making sure people really see me, Ebony, and me includes non-binary identity as well as the experience of Black womanhood."
"It's been one thing to have issues in dating, but more than wrong pronouns or disrepect from partners, it's been metamours seeing me as a woman because of shared partners."
In response to listener questions about non-binary experience in a polyamorous relationship landscape, Laura sits down with Ebony of Marjani Lane to gain first person perspective on this issue. Ebony shares their perspective on the ways being non-binary can...2022-10-061h 02
The Ready For Polyamory PodcastSeason 6 Episode 4: Hierarchy and Change"My relationship structure now is significantly less hierarchical than it was when my partner and I came back to polyamory with one another."
"Dangling possibilities for years is just so much worse than admitting 'this is a thing that I cannot offer."
Laura and Amy discuss the practical applications of hierarchy - whether strictly applied or tacitly existing, and ways that it can be both positive and negative depending on treatment, in this week's episode. They also make some commentary on the most common issues they see brought up online in large polyam groups and...2022-09-2259 min
The Ready For Polyamory PodcastSeason 6 Episode 3: Polyamory on TV"It's just been wild to see the explosion of representation of polyamory on tv the last few years."
"When I started my polyamory in media series there were like 2 movies and me digging for 30 year old comics and 60 year old books, and now there is so much available."
Laura and Abbie sit down to talk about recent tv series portraying polyamory (and other nonmonogamy and how the two get conflated in media), as well as the proliferation of content referencing these shows in a positive way, and casual mentions of polyamory in "non-polyam" tv becoming...2022-08-181h 00
Podcasts of Timmy BauerInside the Life of a Publishing House Art Director w/ Laura BoyleCompany website: Dundurn.com
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The Ready For Polyamory PodcastSeason 6 Episode 2: Asking for Wants and Needs“I find that minimizing other relationships doesn’t do what people think it will- you have to move through discomfort anyway.”
“If you can’t talk about a kind of sex or a relationship style with the people you want it with, you may not be ready to have it.”
On today's podcast, Laura sits down with Yana Tallon-Hicks, LMFT, to discuss the comforts and complications of polyam relationship networks when it comes to communicating our needs and wants, especially regarding our sex lives. From communicating with partners and polycule members about STI status to changes in r...2022-08-1154 min
The Ready For Polyamory PodcastSeason 6 Episode 1: High Standards and Low Expectations"We don't automatically or invisibly put expectations on each other - that leads to resentment and conflict."
"To heck with the hyper independent BS - community and the autonomous individual existing together is where it's at."
Laura and Michelle Hy of Polyamorous While Asian chat about solopolyamorous dating, creating symbolism in your relationships, and the cocreation of expectations within a relationship. Learn about Mchelle's dating approach of "High standards, low expectations," ideas about community focus and coregulation in relationships while maintaining autonomy, and the possible radical and anticapitalist applications of polyamory as a framework for...2022-08-0441 min
American Girl WomenThe Care and Keeping of AG Women (with Emily Boyle)Listener Emily Boyle joins Laura and Lindsey to talk about her sweet AG memories that fostered closeness with the women and girls in her family. Plus the gals talk about some favorite AG items such as Samantha's desk, the millennium outfit, and the unproportionable AG animals.2022-08-021h 12
The ShiftDonor Baby with Laura HighComedian and donor baby Laura High chats with me all about the lack of laws around donating sperm, the problems with anonymity of biological parent, drs who replaced donor sperm with their own and how easy it is for donors and/or clinics to lie about medical history. Video on Patreon: www.patreon/theshiftpodcast.com @katieboylecomicFollow Laura @Laurahigh5Email: contacttheshift@gmail.comEnjoy xx Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.2022-07-051h 04
The Ready For Polyamory PodcastSeason 5 Episode 10: Polyamory and Parenting (Part 2)"Sometimes a particular adult's involvement ebbs and flows but there isn't the kind of sudden disappearance or 'revolving door' that serial monogamists imagine with polyamorous dating because we've built a lot of community."
"We were really anxious about coming out to the kids, and did, and asked if they had questions, and one of them, very in character for him, said 'Yes - can I have another hamburger?'"
In today's episode, Laura sits down with her friends Jim Miles and Shanon Murray to talk about what it's like being the polyamorous parents of five...2022-06-0950 min
The Ready For Polyamory PodcastSeason 5 Episode 9: Compersion & Jealousy"Acknowledging compersion isn't denying our jealousy. You can have a lot of different emotional 'foods' on your 'plate' at once."
"We shouldn't beat ourselves up if we don't feel compersion the first day, just like we don't beat up our gardens for not sprouting the day we first plant and water the seeds."
Laura and Dr. Liz Powell talk about how to interpret your jealousy, use it as information to keep yourself moving toward your values even when it's hard, and to see compersion as a non-required but aquirable skill that you can work on...2022-06-0249 min
The Ready For Polyamory PodcastSeason 5 Episode 8: De-escalations"I really think we could de-escalate the use of de-escalation as a term. Let's talk about transitions and changes maybe instead. It's more accurate."
"De-escalating literally implies stepping down, a level lower, that something is less or worse, but often what is happening is a re-calibration so that relationships suit the needs of the people rather than preferencing a label over the humans using it."
Many polyamorous and other nonmonogamous people (as well as some monogamous folks, especially separating coparents) are beginning to refer to major relationship changes or ends as de-escalations, regardless of the...2022-05-2650 min
The Ready For Polyamory PodcastSeason 5 Episode 7: Polyamorous Pride"The purpose of a pride flag is unification and visibility for the represented group - and the current polyamory flag does neither."
"If you say polyamory or kink or leather can't be at pride 'for the kids,' then it's your choice where to bring them, not our responsibility to celebrate differently for your comfort."
In today's episode, Laura talks to Kristian of Polyamproud, the not-for-profit tryign to update polyamory's pride flag, about the polyam flag, pride parades, the purpose of pride, history behind different Pride events, and why any of this is important in...2022-05-1947 min
The Ready For Polyamory PodcastSeason 5 Episode 6: Solo Polyamorous Living"Solopolyamory flies in the face of this idea that if you love someone you'll want to be with them 24/7. It's just not true. We're here in defiance of it."
"it's about this extreme representation of maintaining your personhood within relationships and re-inforcing that with your lifestyle choices."
Today, the podcast discusses solo polyamory - what is it? How do solopolyam people live? What are some of the equivalent changes and balances in a space to accomodate partners that solopolyam partners can make, like the accomodation of partners discussed in our polyam cohabitation episode from Season 4...2022-05-1247 min
The Ready For Polyamory PodcastSeason 5 Episode 5: Mono Plus Polyam Relationships"In this structure now, I have been able to figure out who I am and what I want. That isn't to say I haven't gone on dates - I've tried it - but my polysaturation point really is 1, and this way I have time for myself."
"A lot of the time, people don't know what they will want yet - and they say and ask for what makes them feel safe. So it can make sense to not want to date a monogamous person if you're polyam. But also, give each other a chance to see how...2022-05-0552 min
The Ready For Polyamory PodcastSeason 5 Episode 4: Polyamory and KinkToday's episode contains frank discussion of sexuality and kink dynamics, listener be aware.
"I feel like no one really talks about the ins and outs of intimacy that involves marks and BDSM dynamics, and it's worth talking about."
Laura sits down with Annie Undone to talk about kink dynamics, polyamory from both sides of the slash, the pros and cons of kitchen table and parallel polyam dynamics when combined with kinky relationships, and the changes that shifts in these dynamics can cause within a polycule.
To read more of Laura's takes on kink...2022-04-281h 07
The Ready For Polyamory PodcastSeason 5 Episode 3: Change and Balance in your CNM Ecosystem"Nothing I do ever goes viral, but one of my posts that did pretty well recently said 'I want my polyamory to be less about compersion and more about compassion,' and I think that applies here."
The only certainty in any relationship is that there will absolutely be change. Laura's guests this week are polyamorous event coordinators and educators who recognize that from their own experience as well as seeing it in the community they've built online. She sits down with Lea and Shai of Leveled Up Love to talk about changing polycule structures and relationship...2022-04-2141 min
The Ready For Polyamory PodcastSeason 5 Episode 2: Polyamory Advice Is Relationship Advice"I'm relationship style agnostic - I don't think there's one right way to do relationships, but gosh are there a lot of really crappy ways to do relationships."
On today's episode, Laura and Dr. Joli Hamilton, a certified sex educator and jealousy researcher whose writing focuses on couples for whom nonmonogamy works for some phases of their lives but not all phases, discuss what lessons nonmonogamy can teach people who decide to intentionally pursue monogamy instead. This is the episode you can share with your sister, cousin, or monogamous friend who wants to "get it" but isn't...2022-04-1459 min
The Ready For Polyamory PodcastSeason 5 Episode 1: Polyamory & Parenting (Part 1)"You have to take the space to take care of yourself and notice if you haven't made space for yourself outside of parenthood in a long time - because making space for your non-parent identity is important."
"Why would we stop doing the things that make us happy and make us better as humans if we're trying to raise good people, a task that means we need to show up as our best selves?"
To open season 5 of the podcast, Laura and Jessica Levity Daylover of Remodeled Love sit down to talk about being polyamorous...2022-04-0753 min
The Ready For Polyamory PodcastSeason 4 Episode 9: Polyamory in FictionLaura and her friend Abbie K. (Tiktok's @Polyanarchy) talk about a variety of fiction they've read that contains CNM &polyamorous relationships, trends they see in polyamorous literature, and favorite books with polyam relationships.
When Abbie (she/they) isn't writing, reading or creating content for TikTok(@Polyanarchy), she hangs out with her polycule and her two crazy dogs or helps with direct action in her community. They have been polyamorous for 4 years and practice non-hierarchical Kitchen Table Polyamory.
Laura's post on Polyam in Fiction: https://www.readyforpolyamory.com/post/polyamory-in-fiction
Laura's review of I...2022-01-2856 minThe Ready For Polyamory PodcastSeason 4 Episode 8: Polyamorous Cohabitation"Once or twice a year hotels are an adventure... more than that it just becomes an expense"
Laura and her friend Corwin met because they both were cohabiting polyamorous people who went to a meetup for polyam families. They have a conversation about the various pros, cons and considerations of polyamorous cohabitation.
The literal book on polyam cohabitation is "the polyamorous home" by Jess Mahler https://www.amazon.com/dp/B01N3KT3E2/ref=dp-kindle-redirect?_encoding=UTF8&btkr=1
Laura and Corwin will both be teaching at Tethered Together in March; find tickets...2022-01-211h 01
PMO Strategies130: Cultural Impacts on the Project Delivery Process with Michael BoyleWelcome to the PMO Strategies Podcast + Blog, where PMO leaders become IMPACT Drivers!
PMI Talent Triangle: Business Acumen (Strategic and Business Management)
Hey there, IMPACT Driver!
Every day, organizations are challenged with learning how to operate on a global scale while learning how to effectively incorporate a wide variety of cultural norms and experiences. This cultural diversity greatly influences the project delivery process and ultimately the results you can achieve. How might effectively embracing this diversity help you achieve even better project outcomes?
Our guest today, Michael Boyle, has several years of experience dealing precisely with this subject and will...2021-12-2029 min
PMO Strategies130: Cultural Impacts on the Project Delivery Process with Michael BoyleWelcome to the PMO Strategies Podcast + Blog, where PMO leaders become IMPACT Drivers!
PMI Talent Triangle: Business Acumen (Strategic and Business Management)
Hey there, IMPACT Driver!
Every day, organizations are challenged with learning how to operate on a global scale while learning how to effectively incorporate a wide variety of cultural norms and experiences. This cultural diversity greatly influences the project delivery process and ultimately the results you can achieve. How might effectively embracing this diversity help you achieve even better project outcomes?
Our guest today, Michael Boyle, has several years of experience dealing precisely with this subject and will...2021-12-1900 minThe Ready For Polyamory PodcastSeason 4 Episode 7: Unicorn Hunters"There's a great series on TikTok by Claire of PolyPages comparing unicorn hunter bios to tech startup ads and I think that says a lot."
In today's episode, Laura disambiguates the terms "unicorn" and "Unicorn Hunters" and talks about the differences between unicorn hunting and simply dating in a triad dynamic. She talks about challenges of the triad dynamic, how power imbalances exist and can be mitigated or not, and how choices around those power imbalances define the unicorn hunting dynamic.
Some related blog posts:
https://www.readyforpolyamory.com/post/triad-questions
https://www...2021-12-0127 minThe Ready For Polyamory PodcastSeason 4 Episode 6: Kitchen Table and Parallel PolyamoryAssuming that, broadly speaking, polyamory is what you want out of a consensually non-monogamous relationship - that you want multiple, loving relationships - there is still so much ground to cover in terms of how to do that. In the days of old, (ok, that’s enough dramatic old lady voice for me - until the last year or two) we only talked about Kitchen Table and Parallel Polyamory. These are still the most commonly used terms and categories, and can be used as kind of umbrella terms for these structures. So. What is kitchen table polyamory? Different people us...2021-11-2553 minThe Ready For Polyamory PodcastSeason 4 Episode 5: Couple's PrivilegeIn this episode, Laura examines the cultural reality of couple's privilege - the ways in which pair-bonding is encouraged and rewarded in our mono-normative culture - and the ways that folks sometimes unthinkingly or out of additional cultural conditioning work to uphold that privilege by enforcing hierarchies and prioritizing relationships over the needs of individuals. This episode looks at which parts of that are avoidable or mitigatable in our present society, which parts need "working around," and offers some options for folks who choose to stay within largely couple-based and hierarchical frameworks as well as those who prefer to...2021-11-1729 min
The Creative Productive PodcastSupporting Each Other in Business With Laura HolmesIn this episode I sit down with Laura Holmes from Mindful Confidence to talk all about supporting each other in business. Laura and I 'met' through Instagram and since then we've acted as each others unofficial cheerleaders, often catching up every few months for a coffee to talk about all the ups and downs in our business. So we decided to record a conversation talking about what it means to have someone else supporting you and how it can actually have a really positive impact on your own attitude in your business. Laura and I are both big...2021-11-1533 minThe Ready For Polyamory PodcastSeason 4 Episode 4: Religion and Polyamory Part 2In this examination of various ways religion and spirituality may impact people's practice of polyamory, Laura discusses the topic with guests from several different backgrounds to see how the processes of coming out as polyamorous, unpacking mono-normativity and purity culture, partner selection, and inhabiting the normative culture vary based on their early and ongoing religious experiences.
In part 2, Laura converses with a person of devout Christian belief who explains how he holds his polyamory to be compatible theologically but not always logistically with his faith & everyday life as an active member of his church.
As...2021-11-1033 min
The Ready For Polyamory PodcastSeason 4 Episode 3: Religion & Polyamory Part 1In this two-episode examination of various ways religion and spirituality may impact people's practice of polyamory, Laura discusses the topic with guests from several different backgrounds to see how the processes of coming out as polyamorous, unpacking mono-normativity and purity culture, partner selection, and inhabiting the normative culture vary based on their early and ongoing religious experiences.
In the first part, we hear from Purity to Polyamory, a podcaster/instagrammer/educator who is trying to create community for other ex-vangelicals, about her transition from 19-year-old bride in a purity culture to 30-something nonmonogamist. You can find her...2021-10-2946 minThe Ready For Polyamory PodcastSeason 4 Episode 2: CodependenceWhat does it mean to be codependent? Does the pop culture usage and the polyamorous culture usage match, and should we throw the term around? Laura analyzes the way the term gets used in general vs the medicalized and popular history and suggests an alternative lens to view relationships often vilified as 'codependent.'
A blog post about the type of relationship for which this term gets used in polyamorous circles: https://www.readyforpolyamory.com/post/independence-is-important
As always, our music is provided by the talented Vince Conaway who you can find at www.vinceconaway...2021-08-0723 minThe Ready For Polyamory PodcastSeason 4 Episode 1: Guarding Yes and Saying NoToday's episode is a discussion of when saying "no" is healthier for us as people, especially in interpersonal relationships, and why we generally are conditioned to say "yes" anyway.
We cover:
Reasons it's hard to say no.
Signs we may need to be saying 'yes' less often in particular relationships
How this applies to polyamory in particular
How this applies to relationships and sexual situations
How to stop owning others' emotional and physical "stuff" and focus on our own through "no" and its substitutes
How ask v. guess culture may play into our ability to receive...2021-07-3139 minThe Ready For Polyamory PodcastSeason 3 Episode 10: Podcastiversary"Pear...Fruit...technology...devices!"
There were some live video technical difficulties during this livestreamed episode (in video! too!) so I'm releasing the audio now and fixing the video up after some more coffee (it's too early Saturday morning) so there was a little bit of my very android partner cursing all my fruit based technology but not wanting to get me in trouble with one of the biggest podcast hosts. It was adorable.
It is our podcastiversary! Last year, S1 E1 of the Ready For Polyamory Podcast released. So we did a kind of silly...2021-06-1239 minThe Ready For Polyamory PodcastSeason 3 Episode 9: Practical Solutions for Jealousy and FOMOJealousy is presented as the mind-killer in polyamory a lot of the time, but it's a presentation of all kinds of other emotions and dealing in a practical way with some of those underlying causes is going to be the best way to get through or past it. While everyone's individual expressions of jealousy will be unique and include their own personal blend of different issues that need to be explored, there are a few strategies that are broadly applicable or transferrable.
We look at those in today's episode - strategies for communication before and after activities...2021-06-0531 minThe Ready For Polyamory PodcastSeason 3 Episode 8: Labels"You're nesting- like little birds!"
Laura this week examines labels for relationships (rather than labels for self-identity) and how they reflect our narratives of relationship and self, and what those have to do with how we identify our polyamorous relationships in particular versus monogamous relationships and relationship escalator style relating. What does it mean to be a partner? What terms do we use for our partners? Are we lovers? boy/girl/joyfriends? Something different?
One of the points she examines is the use of connotation in language - primary partner vs. nesting partner, vs. anchor...2021-05-2937 minThe Ready For Polyamory PodcastSeason 3 Episode 7: Early Relationship Agreements"I don't remember exactly what I was scared of, but I'm pretty sure it was younger, blonder, and prettier than me, at least."
In today's episode, Laura tells the story of two of her earliest non-monogamous relationships as a frame for explaining ways to make relationship agreements (and some really good examples of ways not to). You can get out some popcorn and enjoy the spectacle of her insecure and underinformed early 20s in between listening to excellent advice.
Here are some resources she wishes she'd had (or had already read) before several short-lived relationships...2021-05-2247 minThe Ready For Polyamory PodcastSeason 3 Episode 6: Polyamorous Breakups"So, you know, I have to watch out for standard bad coping mechanisms like drinking too much and getting under someone to get over someone, AND poly dominoes."
This week, Laura discusses the ways polyamorous breakups share traits with and differ from monogamous ones, both from her own perspective and using the framework laid out by Kathy Labriola in The Polyamory Breakup Book: Causes, Prevention, and Survival.
Spoilers: most breakups are caused by the same basic reasons as monogamous relationship breakups, but there are some addendums and caveats, and we'll go through them here.
2021-05-1541 minThe Ready For Polyamory PodcastSeason 3 Episode 5: FWB and Play Partners"You know, flowers and... I don't know, what's like a flower? Rose colored glasses?"
As an expansion of last week's podcast, Laura discusses how to apply the ideas of consensual non-monogamy, polyamory, and relationship anarchist theory to friends with benefits and play partner relationships - and the ways each differ and combining them complicate one another.
The idea that these relationships can be part of polyamorous folks' networks and shouldn't be dismissed as 'only' anything because they can be rich and fulfilling relationships that create important friendships and connections features, as highlighted in this post...2021-05-0831 minThe Ready For Polyamory PodcastSeason 3 Episode 4: Relationship Anarchy"I feel like you're telling me a true story here-"
Laura and David answer the important questions about application and theory of Relationship Anarchy in this week's episode. So what is Relationship Anarchy? In the most basic and technical sense it’s the application of political anarchy theory to relationships. It’s anti-hierarchy, anti-government intervention in relationships, pro-autonomy, pro-community interdependence, and anti-monogamy. Generally, this is compatible with non-hierarchical forms of polyamory, but we'll talk a little about the places where you might get hung up and why.
We also talk a little about Andie Nordgren's Rela...2021-05-0247 minThe Ready For Polyamory PodcastSeason 3 Episode 3: Emotional Processing"Externally, I haven't changed much - I'm always going to be a possum in goth makeup - but internally I'm very different than just a few years ago and learning these coping skills is a lot of it."
This week, Laura and Orphne sit down and discuss how people process difficult emotions and conflicts, and talk particularly about processing through externalizing problems and working through them with others (partners, friends, therapists) versus working through them internally or with physical coping mechanisms.
Just as last time she was on, Orphne can't promote her personal projects because...2021-04-2435 min
The Ready For Polyamory PodcastSeason 3 Episode 2: Attachment Theory"I just want to note, after giving so many lectures the past few months and being asked a lot about being a 'good poly person' - there isn't one - the points don't matter."
This week, Laura sits down with Jessica Fern, author of Polysecure , to discuss attachment theory, trauma, and secure relating in polyamorous networks. Their conversation roams across the book and the topic. If you aren't at all familiar with attachment theory, there's a post on the Ready for Polyamory blog with more information to help clarify the concepts: www.readyforpolyamory/post/why-attachment , and if...2021-04-1740 min
The Ready For Polyamory PodcastSeason 3 Episode 1: Polyamory, Disability & Accessibility"No, no, no - I really like orgasms. We need to bring those back."
To kick of Season 3 of the podcast, Rachael Rose of [Hedonish](hedonish.com) is here to talk about sex education, event planning, disability, accessibility, and how her polyamorous journey has been shaped by the conjunction of all of these.
We discuss the ways the pandemic has impacted everyday accessibility of certain spaces and activities, and how eager but cautious we are to get back to in person events; how polyamory in general has been a very understanding community for accomodations for...2021-04-1054 minThe Ready For Polyamory PodcastSeason 2 Episode 12: Insecurity and PolyamoryThis week, in the last episode of season 2, I talked with Seva about different ways that polyamory can serve as a format to work through personal insecurities. Obviously, this is a subject everyone approaches in their own way, and we primarily speak through the lens of personal experiences and a little bit through theory in this episode.
We focus on:
-the concept of security vs insecurity in general;
-how meeting metamours to not build them up into personifications of our insecurities can be helpful;
-the process of growing in individual relationships over time and...2021-03-1340 minThe Ready For Polyamory PodcastSeason 2 Episode 11: Legal Hypotheticals"I'm definitely not a lawyer, but even if I were, you'd give better legal advice than me" - a line I edited out, but Ken did say. Just so you all know. Even his ego has limits. He's only a fake doctor.
In today's episode, we examine real legal progress made by polyamorous people and relationships in the USA, and how hypothetical additional progress might work out. Content Warning: There's a little language because Ken struggles with not using blue language and I don't mind it, in appropriate context.
We examine the possibilities of how...2021-03-0657 minThe Ready For Polyamory PodcastSeason 2 Episode 10: Polyamory and Power Exchange"This episode might have different Venn diagram of listeners than my class usually does."
Content warning for allusions to BDSM and sexual interaction, but there is not explicit sexual content in this episode.
Laura gives a personal account plus theory discussion of boundary setting and considerations folks might want to take when engaging in power exchange relationships and polyamory at the same time. She's done this a couple times, and has friends who have too, and has some advice and ideas.
As always, the blog is at www.readyforpolyamory.com, the patreon at...2021-02-2734 minThe Ready For Polyamory PodcastSeason 2 Episode 9: Love and Apology LanguagesWhy We Fight and How We Make Up
"What if your partner made you a bouquet of spoons?"
This week on the Ready for Polyamory Podcast, Laura talks with Orphne Sicarius, an awesome person who keeps their internet presence pseudonymous because their in-person work as coordinator and clinician for a county-wide Forensic Nurse Examiner Program for living victims of violent sexual trauma requires a certain amount of delicate handling. They've been polyamorous and out in all areas of their life for about five years and were happy to lend their perspective on interpersonal conflict and...2021-02-201h 10The Ready For Polyamory PodcastSeason 2 Episode 8: Coming Out Part 2"Isn't that cat toes?"
Today, in the second half of their conversation, our heroes from last week continue on their epic Quest For Answers About Coming Out.
...Wait, wrong genre.
They do have a nice conversation including a bunch of strategies for how to handle situations where folks have negative or shocked reactions to information on polyamory, as well as some funny stories about people getting things Very Wrong because the monogamous programming is strong with them. (that's where the cat's toes come in.)
Regardless of whether you come out often...2021-02-131h 01The Ready For Polyamory PodcastSeason 2 Episode 7: Coming Out"Did we really need to know this? We knew you were weird."
On today's episode, the first half of a really great roundtable discussion on coming out between my metamour Daniel GreenWolf and a group of my friends, Seva, Corwin, Jami, and Brian, moderated by your stalwart host. We try to show a variety of experiences with the process of coming out as polyamorous, altered by sexual orientation, family reaction, age we came out, and other circumstances through our conversation.
...Of course, we're a bunch of chatterboxes who are all friends so we talked for...2021-02-0649 min
The Creative Productive PodcastLaura Holmes Life & Confidence CoachToday I have an interview with Laura Holmes who is a life and confidence coach working from beautiful Bali. Laura has a background in psychology and came to life coaching fairly recently after working with her own coach to figure out what her ideal career was and what she was meant to be doing!We had a really great chat about life coaching, being labelled as academic rather than creative, the rewards of building a community as part of a business, getting out of the trap of being 'busy and dealing with the 'shiny magpie' trap of productivity! 2021-02-0138 minThe Ready For Polyamory PodcastSeason 2 Episode 6: Boundaries"When you step in dog shit, you don't throw your shoes out, you clean the shit off."
Laura and guests, Gina, Sarah, Corwin, and Ken (all friends of the Ready for Polyamory blog, some previous guests of the podcast) discuss the importance of being aware of your own personal boundaries and the multitude of shapes those can take in this week's episode.
All of our relationships are shaped by the interplay of different people's boundaries, so this topic is really important, and depending on your own socialization, whether because of gender, race, class, or simply...2021-01-301h 29The Ready For Polyamory PodcastSeason 2 Episode 5: Polyamory: Married and Dating"Remind me not to go to any of YOUR soirées."
In today's episode Laura and Corwin tear apart the tropes and stereotypes in the second half of season 1 of Showtime's Polyamory: Married and Dating. If you'd like to watch along, anywhere you can stream showtime shows, be it an individual app or adding the channel to Amazon or Hulu accounts, will get you access. We're discussing episodes 4-7 today; you can hear our take on episodes 1-3 in Season 1, Episode 6 of this podcast.
We talk about what looks faked and real in this prime e...2021-01-231h 21The Ready For Polyamory PodcastSeason 2 Episode 4: Off Escalator Relationships"I mean, really I just want to scream it from the rooftops that I love these humans - that's my important thing."
The Relationship Escalator (https://www.readyforpolyamory.com/post/the-relationship-escalator) is a strong cultural imperative even beyond monogamous culture to make sure your relationship keeps "going somewhere"- that you go through all the steps of dating, "getting serious," getting engaged, getting married, having kids, getting a house, and being together forever til death do you part at that pinnacle. Polyamory inherently assumes that not all relationships must do this; in fact, that no relationships need...2021-01-1644 min
The Creative Productive PodcastLaura Corillon Potter at DwaalmakerEpisode 8 of the Creative Productive Podcast is with Laura Corillon aka Dwaalmaker a potter from South Africa currently living in Liverpool. I met Laura on an online course and after I messaged her on Instagram we became firm friends. She's a wonderful creative person and so many amazing insights and things to talk about on the topics of creativity and productivity from that love hate relationship you have with your craft, finding a community of creatives with the same passion who you can learn from, that glowy feeling you get when you buy from a small business to finding...2021-01-1146 min
The Ready For Polyamory PodcastSeason 2 Episode 3: Love in the Time of Covid"PS: I FOUND THE GUY!"
2020 has been defined, in large part, by the COVID-19 pandemic and precautions the population at large has taken to prevent its spread. How have these affected polyamorous relationships and networks? Have there been greater numbers of breakups? Have lockdown orders strengthened some relationships and weakened others?
Our guest this week is a polyamorous event organizer in his local area and ran the New England Poly Prom event for 4 years (it would have been 5, but 2020 happened). His household came up with carefully defined, science-based, case-number per population guidelines for seeing their...2021-01-091h 04The Ready For Polyamory PodcastSeason 2 Episode 2: Hierarchy"Look, let's use an example that has nothing to do with polyamory - Let's talk about TERFs."
Laura talks with Dr. Liz Powell (despite the best efforts of the local cable internet monopoly to make it impossible to do so) about hierarchies in polyamorous networks. They touch on reasons people often enter their polyamorous journies with prescriptive hierarchies in place, and what the distinction of using these terms descriptively rather than prescriptively means, as well as situations where hierarchies might appear by surprise or "sneakily." Some of the conversation turns a little 'blue,' and is frank...2021-01-0256 minThe Ready For Polyamory PodcastSeason 2 Begins: Polyamory as a Catch-all for Ethical Non-monogamy"One of those is your boyfriend, one of those is your husband, one is your best friend, and one has been your lover for the last 15 years"
Kimota Tigerlily and Laura discuss different forms of ethical non-monogamy, how polyamory has become a catch-all term for all of them, the ways this is good and bad for polyamorous visibility, and how our guest could have four relationships all called best friend that an outsider describes with that tagline.
They touch on this being a re-recording of an episode intended to close Season 1 (guess who only has half her...2020-12-2640 minThe Ready For Polyamory PodcastEpisode 11: Polyamory in the MediaYou all may remember that Laura wrote a bit of a screed against polyamorous representation in media on the blog on April 20 called "Advertising Polyamory" because she was getting annoyed at white FFM triads getting all the press. You may recently have read Ken's post about positive news media on polyamory this week, ["In the News: How the media Perception of Polyamory is good, actually." ](www.readyforpolyamory.com)
So, we sit down and have a nice conversation about whether polyamorous representation is a good thing. (We got the fight out the first 5 times, the benefit of being...2020-08-2239 minThe Ready For Polyamory PodcastEpisode 10: Kitchen Table and Parallel PolyamoryToday's guests are my metamours Daniel Greenwolf and Vanessa/Bella Greenwolf, discussing the relationship spectrum of parallel to kitchen table polyamory, how relationship definitions get slippery, why they think that makes them kind of useless for most people, and why the semantics are, in my opinion, kind of important anyway, because both agreeing you're "kitchen table polyamorous" and meaning two different things can cause huge problems down the line. In a polycule like ours, where things are kind of organically shifting and part kitchen table part parallel anyway (see this post from way back when everyone wanted me using...2020-08-1544 minThe Ready For Polyamory PodcastEpisode 9: Community and Finding Your PeopleThis episode was meant to be centered on finding local community, meeting people near you, integrating into new polyamorous social circles, and so on - and went rather off the rails because I invited a very old friend to do it with me. Talya recently re-relocated (she was kind of migratory for a while) to Mexico City, and is exploring polyamory in that cultural context in a more serious way for the first time, which colored the conversation.
Current events colored the conversation.
Familial interruption colored the conversation.
So, I've cut you a...2020-08-0845 minThe Ready For Polyamory PodcastEpisode 8: Relationships With MetamoursLaura and Seva discuss the good, the bad, and the meh, as regards relationships with metamours. Mostly an interview of Seva and discussion of the past.
The ladies largely agree that 80-90% of metamour relationships are good to "meh", and bad relationships are few and farther between, as well as often being initiated by partners or "partner problems, rather than meta problems." Small content warning: allusions to adult/sexual activity content, no explicit descriptions. If you're looking for encouragement that good metamour relationships, or at least better ones, are coming, skip the nine to ten minutes after...2020-08-0139 minThe Ready For Polyamory PodcastEpisode 7: AmbiamoryLaura and her friend Olivia discuss Ambiamory, the ability to go between polyamory and monogamy as a matter of choice rather than orientation.
(Giving full credit where credit is due, the term seems to have been coined by Page Turner of Poly.Land)
Olivia is not out in all aspects of her life and all her projects as ambiamorous and pansexual, and so she isn't sharing her project links, but would love it if you donated to Planned Parenthood.
My wonderful metamour Daniel Greenwolf provided a small statement on why Polyamory is an...2020-07-2541 minThe Ready For Polyamory PodcastEpisode 6: Polyamory- Married and DatingWarning: discussion of some adult situations as portrayed on an explicit television show. If frank discussion of human sexuality or its misuse by a television network for cheap entertainment offends you, do not listen to this episode.
Corwin and Laura take apart all the ways the 2012 Season 1 Episodes 1-3 of Polyamory: Married and Dating portray polyamory negatively, or as a stereotyped joke, while noting that this was pretty much the heyday and high point of scripted/not scripted "reality tv" and that if you missed this then, you might still find equal parts enjoyment and anger in...2020-07-181h 15The Ready For Polyamory PodcastEpisode 5: CompersionCompersion is typically defined in the polyamorous community as happiness at the happiness of one's partner with their other partner(s). Some people go so far as to use the phrase "the opposite of jealousy." Laura discusses the concept, the possibility of broadening this definition to "positive empathy for one's partner" and whether that waters down the concept too far (and if so, if we need the concept) - with Kimota Tigerlily and Seva.
Related blog posts to today's podcast include:
https://www.readyforpolyamory.com/post/compersion-is-not-mandatory
https://www.readyforpolyamory.com/post/hard-won-compersion
...2020-07-1138 minThe Ready For Polyamory PodcastEpisode 4:JealousyJealousy is a very human emoition, and one that doesn't go away just because you decide that you're polyamorous. This week, we examine it, reasons one might feel it, and ways to cope with it, in two conversations with an old friend and a metamour of mine, both polyamorous for between 6 and 7 years.
On the [blog](www.readyforpolyamory.com), you can find resources on jealousy under the "Jealousy" post tag, or a start in the "But Don't You Get Jealous?" entry under Start Here.
Seva's current project is helping build Upline Rope studio which can...2020-07-0330 minThe Ready For Polyamory PodcastEpisode 3: Triads, Why They're Hard, and Why People Want Them AnywayPolyamorous triads are an occasionally contentious topic within the community because they're many people's entry point in but often also challenging - and, as people's entry point, much like high school sweethearts, it often doesn't work out, but for a select few it does. Today's guest is one of those select few.
Daniel GreenWolf joins Laura Boyle for a discussion of triad relationships, their challenges, their positives, and how he's landed in two of them at once without meaning to. You can find more information on this topic in the blog post “New Triads: Relationships on Hardmode,” from...2020-06-2738 minThe Ready For Polyamory PodcastEpisode 2: Relationship AgreementsToday Laura gets to have a lovely conversation about relationship agreements, the basis of ethical non-monogamy, and somehow, today, the basis for giving her a lot of shit. This may be because our guest is her boyfriend.
Ken Briodagh is a storyteller, writer and editor. He's been my partner for more than 4 years and polyamorous for some years more than that. He is the creator of StoryPhoenix, which you can visit at www.StoryPhoenix.com, facebook.com/StoryPhoenixes/, Twitter @StoryPhoenix . You can follow Ken @AtlasWriter on Twitter and youtube.com/user/atlaswriter. He’s been a cook, te...2020-06-2044 minThe Ready For Polyamory PodcastEpisode 1: Polyamory 101Today's episode is the only one this season without specific guests in conversation with our charming host.
Basic information on polyamory can be found under the "Start Here" posts tag on the blog, and the February 24 post "What is Polyamory, Anyway?" covers most of this territory at: www.readyforpolyamory.com/post/what-is-polyamory-anyway; the immediately following post, A Brief History of Polyamory, may interest you as well. You can find many more definitions at the site's Polyamory Glossary
The Ready for Polyamory blog can be found at www.readyforpolyamory.com
You can become a patron...2020-06-1323 min