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ADHD RealitiesClean, Tired, and Touched Out: ADHD, Sensory Shutdown, and the Sex You Can’t AccessEver felt totally in the mood... until your clean skin, mental fatigue, or the idea of grabbing the lube made your brain shut down? In this intimate solo episode, Dr. Leann Borneman dives deep into the real life overlap of ADHD, executive function shutdown, sensory overload, and the confusing disconnect between wanting sex and being able to access it.
This isn’t about low libido, it’s about bandwidth, task sequencing, overstimulation, and the environmental mismatch so many ADHDers face in the bedroom. With raw honesty, relatable humor, and practical strategies, this episode validates the “WTF is happen...2025-06-1124 minADHD RealitiesRethinking Desire, Orgasms & the ADHD BrainIf sex has ever felt like a confusing chore, a pressure-filled performance, or just… not designed with your brain in mind, you are not alone. In this episode, Dr. Leann Borneman sits down with bestselling author and sex therapist Dr. Laurie Mintz (📚 Becoming Cliterate, A Tired Woman’s Guide to Passionate Sex) for a raw, hilarious, and deeply validating convo about orgasms, desire, and a little on how ADHD + sensory differences can shape our sexual experiences.
We tackle:
The orgasm gap and why it’s not your fault
The myth of "foreplay" and why it’s...2025-06-0347 minADHD RealitiesWhen Receiving Oral Feels Like a Task: ADHD, Sensory Overload, and the Pressure to “Just Relax”Why does receiving oral feel like work for so many vulva owners with ADHD? This episode unpacks it all: the sensory chaos, the internal monologue that won’t quit, the vulnerability overload, and the executive dysfunction that makes "just enjoy it" feel like a cruel joke.
I dive deep into:
How gender scripts, shame, and ADHD intersect in the bedroom
Why “let go and enjoy” is NOT trauma-informed advice
What overstimulation, masking, and delayed self-awareness look like during oral
Real talk on orgasm grief, communication challenges, and reclaiming your pleasu...2025-05-201h 27ADHD RealitiesStimulation Nation: ADHD, Self-Pleasure & the Shame We’re DitchingIn honor of National Masturbation Month, we're getting real about how self-pleasure, stimulation, and sensory seeking show up in ADHD brains. This isn’t just about orgasms — it’s about regulation, shame, curiosity, and reclaiming your body on your terms. Whether you’re navigating sensory overload, executive dysfunction, or internalized judgment around pleasure, this short episode breaks down why masturbation can be a form of self-care, not self-indulgence.
We’ll unpack the overlap between stimming and sexual touch, how ADHD impacts self-exploration, and why some of us struggle to even initiate solo time. If you’ve ever felt frustra...2025-05-0715 minADHD RealitiesIs It the Sugar or the ADHD? Debunking Nutrition Myths with Annika AngeloIn this hyperfocused, myth-busting deep dive, I’m joined by ADHD nutrition research expert Annika Angelo and we go all in. From sugar cravings and red dye panic to gluten, binge eating, and why sitting down for a full “balanced meal” might be working against our ADHD brains... this episode is packed with science, laughter, and so much validation. We explore: Why people with ADHD crave sugar (and why it’s not a moral failure) What the research actually says about food dyes, gluten, and dairy The real connection between binge eating and ADHD How nutrition is often set up throu...2025-05-061h 12
Crimes of the Heart: a love and dating podcastHow Does ADHD Impact Dating & Relationships feat. Leann BornemanIf you, or someone you love, has ADHD this is a MUST LISTEN TO episode!! I have Leann Borneman, a licensed therapist and sexologist who specializes in ADHD. She sees singles and couples and helps people navigate love, sex and dating while living with or loving someone who has ADHD. To follow Leann on Instagram click HERE and to learn more about her and her practice check out her website here: https://www.bornemancoaching.com/servicesFor video clips from this episode or to follow Rory on IG: @icouldbeblonder or TIKTOK: @roryuphold To suggest a topi...2025-04-291h 04ADHD RealitiesMapping Pleasure: ADHD, Yoni Massage, and Reclaiming Your BodyIn this episode, I sit down with somatic sexologist Sarah Silverstein to explore therapeutic yoni massage and its connection to ADHD, trauma, body awareness, and pleasure. We dive into what yoni mapping actually is, how it can support nervous system regulation, and why it may be helpful, especially for my fellow ADHDers looking to reconnect with their bodies. ⚠️ Disclaimer: We discuss G-spot stimulation and internal orgasms. If that’s not part of your experience, you are not broken, everyone’s anatomy and pleasure responses are different. Much of this conversation is based on personal and professional experience and is not supp...2025-04-2252 minADHD RealitiesFrom Diagnosis to Identity: Rethinking ADHDWhat happens when you mix neuroscience, lived ADHD experience, and zero tolerance for shame? This episode. I sit down with Dr. Ludovico Saint Amour di Chanaz (neuroscientist, author, and ADHDer) to unpack the chaos of late diagnosis, burnout, identity grief, motivation struggles, and why self-compassion isn't just nice... it's necessary. We’re talking ADHD cycles, why routines feel impossible, the not so sexy truth about sleep, and how to stop hating yourself for having a human brain. If you're tired of “just try harder” advice then this one’s for you. Contact info for Dr. Ludovico Saint Amour di Chanaz...2025-04-1951 minADHD RealitiesPeople Pleasing in the Bedroom: Reclaiming Your Voice with ADHD LensPeople pleasing isn't just a personality quirk, it can be a deeply ingrained survival strategy, especially for ADHDers who grew up masking, over apologizing, or craving external validation. In this episode, we dive deep into how ADHD impacts people pleasing in the bedroom, where saying "yes" when we mean "maybe" or "no" happens more often than we realize. You'll gain a stronger ADHD informed lens on your sexual and emotional experiences, learn why your brain might default to over-accommodating, and discover practical, shame free ways to reconnect with your desires. We’re talking scripts, boundary setting tools, and communication sh...2025-04-191h 06ADHD RealitiesUnlocking Desire with Natassia MillerDesire is a powerful force in our intimate lives, and when you add ADHD into the mix, understanding it becomes even more crucial. In this episode, I sit down with Natassia Miller to dive deep into all things desire from what it is, the common misconceptions, and how hormones influence our experiences. We’ll also discuss the role of communication in navigating intimacy and explore creative ways to make playtime more inviting. Whether you have ADHD or love someone who does, this episode is packed with insights to help you better understand and embrace desire in your relationships. For mo...2025-04-1939 minADHD RealitiesADHD & BDSM: The Thrill of Sensation SeekingIn this episode, we’re diving into the fascinating connection between ADHD, BDSM, and sensation seeking. If you’ve ever wondered why your ADHD brain craves intensity, novelty, and deep sensory experiences, this one’s for you! We’ll explore how BDSM can provide the structure, stimulation, and dopamine rush that many ADHDers naturally seek, whether it’s through impact play, power dynamics, or sensory exploration. Shockingly, there is no published research directly examining the link between ADHD and BDSM....yet. My upcoming research could be the first to shine a light on this connection and what it means for ADHDer...2025-04-1944 minADHD RealitiesADHD. & Porn UseIn this episode of ADHD Realities, we’re tackling a topic that doesn’t get talked about enough; porn use, compulsive behaviors, and how ADHD plays a role. As ADHDers, our brains crave dopamine, and that can sometimes lead to patterns of porn consumption that feel hard to manage. We’ll break down the myths, explore how ADHD and impulsivity intersect with porn use, and discuss when it becomes a problem. Plus, we’ll talk about self compassion, healthy boundaries, and how partners can navigate this together.
2025-04-1927 minADHD RealitiesADHD & Sensory Issues During SexMany of us with ADHD experience sensory processing challenges, and these don’t simply switch off during playtime. This is a common theme not only in my personal life but also in my work with clients in my clinical practice. It’s important to remember that both ADHD and sensory processing exist on a spectrum, meaning experiences can vary widely from person to person. The goal of this episode is to provide insight and empowerment, helping you become more mindful of whether sensory processing challenges might be contributing to any disconnect in your playtime.
2025-04-1930 minADHD RealitiesADHD: A Woman's Desire & Perimenopause/Menopause I am feeling all the feels this week as I reflect all the workI am doing with my clients and the continued work on my research. On this episode I take the opportunity to just spew my thoughts in a chaotic way (leaning into my ADHD loud and proud). I go over the impact of desire discrepancies in our relationships and how perimenopause/ menopause can make things harder when we are not empowered with the knowledge and support to help set our relationships and playtime up for success. Dr. Laurie Mintz- Becoming Cliterate: https://www.amazon.com/Becoming-Cliterate-Orgasm-Equality-Matters/dp/0062664557/r...2025-04-1939 minADHD RealitiesADHD & HypersexualityI’ve noticed that hypersexuality can be a hot topic, but unfortunately, it’s often misunderstood. There’s actually quite a bit of research out there about ADHD and its connections, but I’m concerned about how ADHD is sometimes unfairly blamed for hypersexuality. So, I’d love for you to join me in this 20-minute episode as I dive into what we know about ADHD and hypersexuality, and share some of my thoughts and concerns on the matter. Here is a link to a recent 2024 article used as a source to the information discussed in this video: https://www.scienc...2025-04-1921 minADHD RealitiesADHD &Intimacy- How Expectations Play a Role!In this episode, I'm excited to chat about something that’s been causing quite a stir in our community: the difference between intimacy and sex, and the frustrations professionals have around it. Intimacy is such a vital part of our relationships, and it’s super important for us ADHD women to feel empowered and confident in expressing our needs, especially during playtime. A lot of folks might not stop to think about how expectations can shape our experiences especially when we talk about ADHD, but I’m here to share why they’re so crucial for our satisfaction in intimacy...2025-04-1921 minADHD RealitiesADHD & Female PleasureLet't get into how ADHD plays a role in playtime and some steps to help you make playtime more enjoyable again.
2025-04-1918 minADHD RealitiesADHD & Low DesireEpisode 1: Let's chat about something really important, ADHD and low desire. We all know that living with ADHD can come with its own set of challenges, and I want to share some common stressors that I've noticed among my clients dealing with low desire.
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Shameless Sex#408 Getting Neurospicy: ADHD and Sex (and Relationships) - with Leann BornemanWhat is ADHD, and how would someone know if they have it? How does ADHD show up in sex and relationships? What are the common struggles, challenges, and superpowers? What about kink and ADHD? Why is setting up an ideal environment so important for sexual and relational success? How can people with ADHD become more sexually empowered? And why is there very little research on ADHD and sex?About our guest: Leann Borneman is a sexologist and certified sex therapist who specializes in the intersection of ADHD and sexuality. As an individual with ADHD, Leann brings a...2024-11-1959 min
Different Spectrums Podcast ™️Big Mouth: Let's Talk about S*x Education and What Brings Pleasure [Ft. Leann Borneman]In today’s episode, we’re diving into the raunchy and hilarious Netflix show Big Mouth with our special guest, therapist Leann Borneman! 🎉 Leann is a certified sex therapist and ADHD expert, here to break down the world of sex education.
We’ll chat about how sex ed often fails, especially for women, focusing on anatomy rather than pleasure 😕. Leann sheds light on why this is a problem and how parents can better support their kids in these awkward but important conversations.
We also get into topics like body image, the "...2024-10-172h 11
Seggs Talk Radio26 - Leann Borneman, LCSW CST: ADHD in the BedroomIn this episode of Seggs Talk Radio, Leann Borneman shares her journey of being diagnosed with ADHD and her focus on ADHD and sexuality. The conversation explores the link between ADHD and sexual behavior, highlighting the challenges and sensory issues that arise in intimate relationships. Leann and the host discuss strategies for setting up a successful relationship environment, the importance of communication, and the use of behavioral therapy. They also address the impact of hormonal cycles like PMDD and menopause on ADHD, emphasizing the need for awareness, creativity, and adaptability in enhancing sexual experiences and connection. This e...2024-08-091h 33
Big Dating EnergySex, Intimacy, and ADHD with Leann BornemanThis week, Jeff is joined by Leann Borneman, LCSW, CST. Leann is a licensed psychotherapist, sexologist, and certified sex therapist who specializes in ADHD and sexuality. She talks with Jeff this week about how women with ADHD can feel empowered when it comes to sex, intimacy and their relationships.Listen to Jeff's podcast Problem Solved here: https://wavepodcastnetwork.com/Follow Leann on Instagram: @bornemanpsychotherapyLearn more about working with or learning from Leann: bornemancoaching.comOrder your copy of Big Dating Energy Available now!2024-08-0158 min
yourfavepsychotherapist's shortcast@Leann Borneman, LCSW CST #mentalheath #mentalwellness #tiktoktherapy #therapytok #copingskills #...@Leann Borneman, LCSW CST #mentalheath #mentalwellness #tiktoktherapy #therapytok #copingskills #childtherapy #thoughtsfromatherapist2024-04-3001 min