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THE VIBRANT SURVIVOR -How to Identify a Narcissist, Narcissistic Abuse, Toxic Relationships, Trauma Healing, Health, Wellness100. 4 Indicators That It's Time to Walk Away from a Narcissistic FightHey, Survivor!
When is it time for you to walk away from a narcissistic fight? The pursuit of external justice for what has happened to you can compromise your health and well-being. So, proceed with caution, if you must. Your healing, growth and peace are priceless; and they can serve as a form of justice too.
If you, or someone you know, are caught in a narcissistic fight (directly or indirectly), this episode is for you.
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2024-11-0122 minTHE VIBRANT SURVIVOR -How to Identify a Narcissist, Narcissistic Abuse, Toxic Relationships, Trauma Healing, Health, Wellness99. Where's the Justice? 3 Ways to Find Closure After Narcissistic AbuseHey, Survivor!
How do you find closure, after narcissistic abuse? Let me count 3 ways. (See what I did there?) How often have you looked externally for justice to be served to the toxic people you’ve dealt with, only to be disappointed. Healing is a personal process; and you have to seek peace within.
If you, or someone you know, are looking for closure after narcissistic abuse, this episode is for you.
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💚Lesley
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2024-10-2509 minTHE VIBRANT SURVIVOR -How to Identify a Narcissist, Narcissistic Abuse, Toxic Relationships, Trauma Healing, Health, Wellness98. How to Love Your Skin for Vibrant HealthHey, Survivor!
What do you do to achieve healthy skin? In this episode, I’m sharing 6 ways you can love your skin for vibrant health inside and out. It’s easy to seek external validation and to fill up (in some cases literally) with products, goods and services. And social media sets the stage for quick purchases. But loving your skin is more of an inside job than you may think.
If you, or someone you know, need help achieving vibrantly healthy skin, this episode is for you.
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2024-10-1814 minTHE VIBRANT SURVIVOR -How to Identify a Narcissist, Narcissistic Abuse, Toxic Relationships, Trauma Healing, Health, Wellness97. 4 Healthy Ways to Navigate Your Narcissistic WorkplaceHey, Survivor!
How do you navigate your narcissistic workplace, in a healthy way? In this episode, I’m sharing 4 things you can do for your health and wellbeing. Toxic work environments can suck the life out of you, if you let them. But you can take back your power and build yourself up from the inside out, whether the toxic work culture changes or not - even if you eventually decide to leave.
If you, or someone you know, need help navigating narcissism at work, this episode is for you.
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2024-10-1110 minTHE VIBRANT SURVIVOR -How to Identify a Narcissist, Narcissistic Abuse, Toxic Relationships, Trauma Healing, Health, Wellness96. 7 Healing Reasons to Get Into Gardening After Narcissistic AbuseHey, Survivor!
How can gardening help you to heal, after narcissistic abuse? In this episode, you’ll learn 7 healing reasons to dig into it for your mental, physical and emotional health and wellbeing. Narcissistic and toxic relationships can suck the life out of you. So, it’s important to cultivate healthy relationships and hobbies that nourish your mind, body and spirit. Let’s GROW!
If you, or someone you know, want to tap into the healing power of gardening after narcissistic abuse, this episode is for you.
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2024-10-0411 minTHE VIBRANT SURVIVOR -How to Identify a Narcissist, Narcissistic Abuse, Toxic Relationships, Trauma Healing, Health, Wellness95. 3 Healthy Ways to Find Joy After Narcissistic AbuseHey, Survivor!
How can you find joy, after narcissistic abuse? In this episode, you’ll learn 3 healthy ways that can enhance your wellbeing and enrich the lives of others. It’s easy to focus on the narcissist, and what they said and did in your toxic relationship. But it’s important to cultivate community and tap into the healing power of healthy relationships. You can do this!
If you, or someone you know, need help finding joy after narcissistic abuse, this episode is for you.
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2024-09-2707 minTHE VIBRANT SURVIVOR -How to Identify a Narcissist, Narcissistic Abuse, Toxic Relationships, Trauma Healing, Health, Wellness94. Identifying and Navigating 7 Narcissistic Courtroom BehaviorsHey, Survivor!
How are you at identifying and navigating narcissistic courtroom behaviors? In this episode, I’m sharing 7 ways that the narcissist behaves in court; and offering strategies to help you respond, not react. Narcissistic and toxic courtroom drama is sad and stressful, which can compromise your health and wellbeing. It’s important to stay grounded and focused; and to have support in court.
If you, or someone you know, need help identifying and navigating narcissistic courtroom behaviors, this episode is for you.
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2024-09-2020 minTHE VIBRANT SURVIVOR -How to Identify a Narcissist, Narcissistic Abuse, Toxic Relationships, Trauma Healing, Health, Wellness93. 4 Ways That You're Hindering Your Narcissistic CoworkerHey, Survivor!
How are you hindering your narcissistic coworker on the job? In this episode, I’m explaining 4 ways; and offering strategies on navigating narcissism at work. Enabling narcissistic coworkers hurts you and hinders them. Tired, toxic narratives that you’ve been taught and trained to tolerate and perpetuate may be playing a role in this situation. Your health and wellbeing, personally and professionally, should be your number one priority!
If you, or someone you know, need help navigating narcissistic and toxic coworkers, this episode is for you.
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2024-09-1310 minTHE VIBRANT SURVIVOR -How to Identify a Narcissist, Narcissistic Abuse, Toxic Relationships, Trauma Healing, Health, Wellness92. 7 Healthy Responses When More Truths Are Revealed About Your Narcissistic FamilyHey, Survivor!
How do you respond when more truths are revealed about your narcissistic family? In this episode, I’m sharing 7 healthy responses. It’s painful when toxic relationships are normalized, especially among those who are supposed to love and protect you. And generational trauma can fuel PTSD and other mental health issues. So, you have to prioritize your health and wellbeing!
If you, or someone you know, need help responding - not reacting - when more truths are revealed about your narcissistic family, this episode is for you.
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2024-09-0611 minTHE VIBRANT SURVIVOR -How to Identify a Narcissist, Narcissistic Abuse, Toxic Relationships, Trauma Healing, Health, Wellness91. 8 Ways to Prepare Your Teen to Navigate Narcissism as an AdultHey, Survivor!
How are you preparing your teen to navigate narcissism as an adult? In this episode, I’m sharing 8 ways to do this. It’s normal to feel embarrassed about unhealthy relationships, not trusting your gut, and falling for the lies and manipulations of narcissists. However, you can still make a difference!
If you, or someone you know, need help showing teens how to cultivate healthy relationships and to navigate narcissism as adults, this episode is for you.
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2024-08-3013 minTHE VIBRANT SURVIVOR -How to Identify a Narcissist, Narcissistic Abuse, Toxic Relationships, Trauma Healing, Health, Wellness90. Struggling with Feelings of Inadequacy? 5 Tips to Help the Next Generation as a Narcissistic Abuse Survivor.Hey, Survivor!
Ever questioned whether or not you’ve done enough? If you are enough? In this episode, I’m sharing 5 tips to help the next generation, as a narcissistic abuse survivor. It’s normal to feel inadequate, after narcissistic abuse. Yet, it provides an opportunity to heal and help others.
If you, or someone you know, need help using your pain for something powerful, this episode is for you.
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💚Lesley
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2024-08-2311 minTHE VIBRANT SURVIVOR -How to Identify a Narcissist, Narcissistic Abuse, Toxic Relationships, Trauma Healing, Health, Wellness89. 5 Reasons Why Your Brain Feels Drained as a Narcissistic Abuse SurvivorHey, Survivor!
Does your brain feel drained, after narcissistic abuse? In this episode, I’m giving 5 reasons why, and tips on how to heal. It’s normal to feel mentally drained from toxic relationships. And it’s important to give yourself grace, as you reclaim your energy and mental wellbeing.
If you, or someone you know, need help identifying, navigating and healing from the brain drain fueled by the narcissist, this episode is for you.
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2024-08-1609 minTHE VIBRANT SURVIVOR -How to Identify a Narcissist, Narcissistic Abuse, Toxic Relationships, Trauma Healing, Health, Wellness88. 3 Reasons Why the Narcissist Goes DarkHey, Survivor!
Do you ever wonder why the narcissist goes dark? In this episode, I’m breaking down 3 reasons for this behavior and how to navigate it. Regardless of the nature of the toxic relationship, I’ve seen this pattern play out. When this happens, it’s important to set and reinforce healthy boundaries; and focus on your mental health and wellness.
If you, or someone you know, need help understanding and navigating when the narcissist goes dark, this episode is for you.
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2024-08-0909 minTHE VIBRANT SURVIVOR -How to Identify a Narcissist, Narcissistic Abuse, Toxic Relationships, Trauma Healing, Health, Wellness87. 5 Reasons to Disconnect to Self-Regulate After Narcissistic AbuseHey, Survivor!
How do you begin to self-regulate, after narcissistic abuse? In this episode, I’m offering 5 reasons to disconnect from the narcissist or toxic situation. I’ve had to do this in various relationships for the sake of my health and wellbeing. It’s a powerful tool, and it can help you too!
If you, or someone you know, need help disconnecting to self-regulate after narcissistic abuse, this episode is for you.
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💚Lesley
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2024-08-0209 minTHE VIBRANT SURVIVOR -How to Identify a Narcissist, Narcissistic Abuse, Toxic Relationships, Trauma Healing, Health, Wellness86. 3 Things to Note About the Narcissist's SmirkHey, Survivor!
How do you handle the narcissistic smirk? In this episode, I highlight 3 things to note about this normal, yet negative, non-verbal cue. I’ve dealt with this recently, and I know that behind this toxic power play, there is defensiveness, insecurity, and a need to mask it. Don’t be fooled! And don’t sacrifice your mental health by giving the narcissist the satisfaction that they got to you!
If you, or someone you know, need help navigating the narcissist’s smirk, this episode is for you.
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2024-07-2607 minTHE VIBRANT SURVIVOR -How to Identify a Narcissist, Narcissistic Abuse, Toxic Relationships, Trauma Healing, Health, Wellness85. Considering a Peace Treaty with the Narcissist? Watch Out for These Red Flags!Hey, Survivor!
What are some red flags that you’ve noticed when the narcissist, or their enablers, propose a peace treaty? This episode includes 4 red flags and how to navigate them. I’ve been there, and I’ve learned that the narcissist needs you more than you need them; and there won’t be any peace. Don’t engage! You’re worthy of healthy relationships that are mutually edifying.
If you, or someone you know, need help navigating narcissistic red flags and proposed peace treaties, this episode is for you.
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2024-07-1908 minTHE VIBRANT SURVIVOR -How to Identify a Narcissist, Narcissistic Abuse, Toxic Relationships, Trauma Healing, Health, Wellness84. 7 Ways to Rise Above the Narcissist's BaitHey, Survivor!
How do you react, when the narcissist tries to bait you? This episode includes 7 ways to navigate the lies, false accusations, triangulation, projection, threats, and other toxic behaviors. The struggle is REAL! I’ve been there, and I’m here to help you prioritize your healing and healthy relationships. Don’t be fooled by the narcissist’s chaos and drama! You have the power!
If you, or someone you know, need help navigating narcissistic baiting, this episode is for you.
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💚Lesley
2024-07-1211 minTHE VIBRANT SURVIVOR -How to Identify a Narcissist, Narcissistic Abuse, Toxic Relationships, Trauma Healing, Health, Wellness83. Triggered by the Narcissist in Court? Try this!Hey, Survivor!
How have you been triggered by the narcissist in court? In this episode, I’m sharing 7 trauma-informed suggestions on how to navigate these intense moments. I’m sorry if this has happened to you, or is currently happening to you. And I encourage you to prioritize your mental and emotional health and wellbeing. You’re worthy, strong, and capable!
If you, or someone you know, need strategies to manage narcissistic triggers, while navigating the court system, this episode is for you.
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💚Lesley
2024-07-0518 minTHE VIBRANT SURVIVOR -How to Identify a Narcissist, Narcissistic Abuse, Toxic Relationships, Trauma Healing, Health, Wellness82. 6 Contactless Ways the Narcissist Tries to Hoover You!Hey, Survivor!
How has the narcissist tried to hoover you? In this episode, I’m sharing 6 contactless narcissistic hoover maneuvers. Hoovering sucks. And the toxic stress and drama that go along with it, aren’t worth sacrificing your health and wellbeing.
If you, or someone you know, need help navigating contactless hoover maneuvers, this episode is for you.
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2024-06-2811 minTHE VIBRANT SURVIVOR -How to Identify a Narcissist, Narcissistic Abuse, Toxic Relationships, Trauma Healing, Health, Wellness81. Struggling with Toxic Stress After Narcissistic Abuse? Watch for Signs of These 5 Bodily Responses!Hey, Survivor!
How has toxic stress impacted your body, after narcissistic abuse? In this episode, I’m sharing 5 bodily responses to toxic stress. Healing is a journey. And understanding how toxic stress affects your body is a powerful step forward.
If you, or someone you know, need help understanding how narcissistic abuse affects you physically, this episode is for you.
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2024-06-2112 minTHE VIBRANT SURVIVOR -How to Identify a Narcissist, Narcissistic Abuse, Toxic Relationships, Trauma Healing, Health, Wellness80. Struggling with Healing from Trauma? 3 Tips to Start Your Journey!Hey, Survivor!
What are you struggling with most, when it comes to healing from trauma? In this episode, I’m offering 3 tips to start your healing journey, after a breathing exercise. Healing is not a destination or a race. And the path isn’t linear. So, keep moving forward and treat yourself well.
If you, or someone you know, need help healing after narcissistic abuse, this episode is for you.
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2024-06-1411 minTHE VIBRANT SURVIVOR -How to Identify a Narcissist, Narcissistic Abuse, Toxic Relationships, Trauma Healing, Health, Wellness79. Frustrated with Toxic Leadership? 3 Strategies to Navigate Narcissistic City and Town Government Officials!Hey, Survivor!
How do you deal with narcissistic city and town government officials? In this episode, I’m sharing 3 strategies, after we self-regulate. Leaders should look out for their people. And you have to look out for your health and wellbeing, even as an engaged citizen.
If you, or someone you know, need help navigating toxic leadership, this episode is for you.
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💚Lesley
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2024-06-0712 minTHE VIBRANT SURVIVOR -How to Identify a Narcissist, Narcissistic Abuse, Toxic Relationships, Trauma Healing, Health, Wellness78. 10 Things to Do When Someone Asks You to Set Aside Your Differences with the NarcissistHey, Survivor!
What do you do when someone asks you to set aside your differences with the narcissist? In this episode, I’ll offer 10 solutions, after we calm our bodies and brains. You should consider the source of the request; and prioritize your well-being. Someone who’s fighting the discomfort of toxic relationship dynamics and struggles to set boundaries doesn’t have the capacity to care about your mental health. You’ve got to take care of yourself!
If you, or someone you know, need help navigating boundaries and self care, this episode is for you.
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2024-05-3116 minTHE VIBRANT SURVIVOR -How to Identify a Narcissist, Narcissistic Abuse, Toxic Relationships, Trauma Healing, Health, Wellness77. 3 Things to Say to Someone Who Tries to Invalidate Your Experience with a NarcissistHey, Survivor!
What do you say to someone who tries to invalidate your experience with a narcissist? In this episode, I’ll share 3, after we self-regulate. You may decide that it’s not worth addressing, and that’s okay too. Ultimately, you have to determine what’s best for your health and wellbeing. Mental health matters; and your peace of mind is priceless.
If you, or someone you know, need help addressing invalidating comments about the narcissistic abuse you’ve experienced, this episode is for you.
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2024-05-2408 minTHE VIBRANT SURVIVOR -How to Identify a Narcissist, Narcissistic Abuse, Toxic Relationships, Trauma Healing, Health, Wellness76. Frustrated When Others Can't See Red Flags in Narcissistic Behavior? DO THIS!Hey, Survivor!
How do you respond, when others can’t see the red flags in the narcissist’s behavior? After we self-regulate, I’ll share 3 strategies for unmasking narcissism around you. Whether you’re a whistleblower or a target (aka a source of narcissistic supply), identifying and confronting narcissistic behavior can be frustrating. Self-regulation, gentle guidance, and patience are key.
If you, or someone you know, need help unmasking narcissism around you, this episode is for you.
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2024-05-1713 minTHE VIBRANT SURVIVOR -How to Identify a Narcissist, Narcissistic Abuse, Toxic Relationships, Trauma Healing, Health, Wellness75. Disorder in the Court: Navigating the Narcissist's 2 Primary TacticsHey, Survivor!
How have you experienced disorder in the court, when it comes to narcissistic abuse? We’ll self-regulate, then I’ll share 2 primary tactics the narcissist uses in legal battles, along with some tactical tips. Navigating narcissistic and toxic relationship dynamics during legal proceedings can lead to chronic stress and compromise your health. So, prioritizing self-care is essential.
If you, or someone you know, need help navigating narcissism in legal settings, this episode is for you.
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2024-05-1022 minTHE VIBRANT SURVIVOR -How to Identify a Narcissist, Narcissistic Abuse, Toxic Relationships, Trauma Healing, Health, Wellness74. Navigating Narcissistic Dynamics: 6 Tips for Calling Out the Narcissist!Hey, Survivor!
Are you considering calling out the narcissist? Let’s breathe together to self-regulate, then I’ll share 6 tips to help you out. Calling out narcissistic and toxic individuals can be stressful and compromise your health. And, in some cases, it can be dangerous. So, you should carefully consider how essential this is for you to heal.
If you, or someone you know, are contemplating a call-out and need help navigating narcissistic dynamics, this episode is for you.
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2024-05-0309 minTHE VIBRANT SURVIVOR -How to Identify a Narcissist, Narcissistic Abuse, Toxic Relationships, Trauma Healing, Health, Wellness73. Unmasking the Narcissist: 3 Manipulative Tactics They Use to Go Too Far!Hey, Survivor!
Has the narcissist gone too far with you? Let’s self-regulate, then talk about 3 manipulative tactics they use on you and others. When it comes to the brain, the body, trauma, and relationships, everything is connected. So, self-care, community, and boundaries are essential to your health and well-being.
If you, or someone you know, needs help navigating narcissistic manipulation, this episode is for you.
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2024-04-2608 minTHE VIBRANT SURVIVOR -How to Identify a Narcissist, Narcissistic Abuse, Toxic Relationships, Trauma Healing, Health, Wellness72. Struggling to Break Free from a Narcissistic Group? 5 Healing Tips That Will Help!Hey, Survivor!
Struggling to break free from a narcissistic or toxic group? After we self-regulate, I’ll share 5 healing tips to help you exit fearlessly. When it comes to dysfunctional relationships within groups, fear and past trauma can contribute to staying longer than you should.
If you, or someone you know, needs help leaving a toxic group, this episode is for you.
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2024-04-1911 minTHE VIBRANT SURVIVOR -How to Identify a Narcissist, Narcissistic Abuse, Toxic Relationships, Trauma Healing, Health, Wellness71. Tools of Engagement: 4 Manipulation Tactics the Narcissist Uses to Bait You Into a Fight!Hey, Survivor!
Are you being baited into a fight by the narcissist? Let’s self-regulate, then I’ll share 4 manipulative tactics they use to accomplish this. When dealing with toxic people, it’s important to identify and navigate these tactics, so you can prioritize your mental health and wellbeing, set boundaries, and pursue healthy relationships.
If you, or someone you know, needs help identifying and navigating social dominance games, this episode is for you.
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2024-04-1208 minTHE VIBRANT SURVIVOR -How to Identify a Narcissist, Narcissistic Abuse, Toxic Relationships, Trauma Healing, Health, Wellness70. The Narcissist is HASTY in their Behavior: 5 Red Flags You Can't Afford to Ignore!Hey, Survivor!
Is the narcissist being HASTY towards you and others? After we breathe together, I’m going to break down 5 red flags you can’t afford to ignore. When dealing with toxic relationships, it helps to SLOW down for the sake of your mental, physical, and emotional health. And I’ll use these two acronyms to show you how.
If you, or someone you know, needs help identifying and navigating narcissistic red flags, this episode is for you.
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2024-04-0511 minTHE VIBRANT SURVIVOR -How to Identify a Narcissist, Narcissistic Abuse, Toxic Relationships, Trauma Healing, Health, Wellness69. 4 Costs of Maintaining Your Toxic Relationship with a Benign NarcissistHey, Survivor!
How much is your toxic relationship with a benign narcissist costing you? Although these types of narcissistic individuals are considered harmless, you still have to pay to play. We’ll dive into this, after a breathing exercise. Regardless of the relationship, counting the costs of continuing is a way that you can prioritize your health and well-being.
If you, or someone you know, needs help understanding benign narcissistic relationships, this episode is for you.
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2024-03-2911 minTHE VIBRANT SURVIVOR -How to Identify a Narcissist, Narcissistic Abuse, Toxic Relationships, Trauma Healing, Health, Wellness68. Proximity Matters: How to Navigate When the Narcissist Manipulates!Hey, Survivor!
What do you know about the power of proximity, when it comes to narcissistic abuse? After self-regulating, with a breathing exercise, we’ll talk about how to navigate the narcissist’s efforts to control and manipulate you. As always, I encourage you to prioritize your health, well-being and self care, as you move forward on your healing journey.
If you, or someone you know, needs help identifying, navigating, and healing from their proximity to toxic relationships, this episode is for you.
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2024-03-2209 minTHE VIBRANT SURVIVOR -How to Identify a Narcissist, Narcissistic Abuse, Toxic Relationships, Trauma Healing, Health, Wellness67. Handling Triggers After Narcissistic Abuse: 3 Healthy StrategiesHey, Survivor!
What do you do when you’re triggered, after narcissistic abuse? In this episode, we’ll self-regulate with a breathing exercise. Then we’ll dive into 3 healthy ways to navigate triggers, so you can move forward on your healing journey. The focus should be on you, your health and well-being, not the narcissist!
If you, or someone you know, needs help navigating triggers, this episode is for you.
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2024-03-1512 minTHE VIBRANT SURVIVOR -How to Identify a Narcissist, Narcissistic Abuse, Toxic Relationships, Trauma Healing, Health, Wellness66. Healing When the Narcissist Faces JusticeHey, Survivor!
How do you react when the narcissist faces justice? In this episode, I’ll guide you through a breathing exercise, and share 6 steps to healing, when the narcissist gets theirs. The key is to prioritize your health and wellbeing, and connect with like-minded individuals in your community.
If you, or someone you know, needs healing help when justice is served to the narcissist, this episode is for you.
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2024-03-0808 minTHE VIBRANT SURVIVOR -How to Identify a Narcissist, Narcissistic Abuse, Toxic Relationships, Trauma Healing, Health, Wellness65. Raise Your Voice: Tactics Narcissists Use to Silence YouHey, Survivor!
How is the narcissist trying to silence you? This is happening in real-time, in my community, to a whistleblower who is helping to fill in details about Preston Lord’s murder. In this episode, I’ll help you self-regulate with a breathing exercise, and share a few silencing tactics that narcissists use. When you don’t disconnect from this toxic behavior and put your health and wellbeing first, the narcissistic individual in your life can rob you of your voice and choice.
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2024-03-0109 minTHE VIBRANT SURVIVOR -How to Identify a Narcissist, Narcissistic Abuse, Toxic Relationships, Trauma Healing, Health, Wellness64. 3 Steps to Self-Care as an Act of Self-Love, When it Seems Like the Narcissist is WinningHey Survivor!
You’re stressed, exhausted, at a loss for words, and feeling defeated. You think that the narcissist is winning and you’re wondering, “Where’s the justice?” If this is you, or someone you know, then this episode is a must-listen!
I’m sharing 3 steps to self-care, when it seems like the narcissist is winning. These simple steps will help you self-regulate, and take care of YOU!
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2024-02-2308 minTHE VIBRANT SURVIVOR -How to Identify a Narcissist, Narcissistic Abuse, Toxic Relationships, Trauma Healing, Health, Wellness63. Unmasking the Narcissist: How Perception Management Affects Your Healing JourneyHey, Survivor!
Have you considered how your healing journey is impacted, when the narcissist tries to manage perceptions? It’s triggering; and I’m seeing this play out in my community, as we work together to eradicate teen violence. In this episode, I’ll guide you through a breathing exercise, explain narcissistic perception management, and offer 4 ways to prioritize your health and well-being when this happens.
If you, or someone you know, needs help to overcome the detrimental effects of the narcissist’s perception management, this episode is for you.
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2024-02-1611 minTHE VIBRANT SURVIVOR -How to Identify a Narcissist, Narcissistic Abuse, Toxic Relationships, Trauma Healing, Health, Wellness62. Running into the Narcissist: 5 Tips to Protect Your Mental Health and BoundariesHey, Survivor!
Do you think you might run into the narcissist, after you’ve gone no or low contact? It’s possible, and it happened to me…recently. In this episode, I’m sharing 5 tips to protect your mental health and boundaries when you run into the narcissist in your life.
If you, or someone you know, need encouragement to prioritize their health and wellbeing, while navigating narcissistic encounters, this episode is for you.
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2024-02-0910 minTHE VIBRANT SURVIVOR -How to Identify a Narcissist, Narcissistic Abuse, Toxic Relationships, Trauma Healing, Health, Wellness61. 5 Reasons You Should Stop Communicating with the Narcissist, So You Can Heal!Hey, Survivor!
Are you compromising your health and healing by communicating with the narcissist? Help is on the way! In this episode, I give you 5 reasons to stop communicating with the narcissist.
If you, or someone you know, need encouragement to stop communicating with the narcissist, this episode is for you.
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2024-02-0207 minTHE VIBRANT SURVIVOR -How to Identify a Narcissist, Narcissistic Abuse, Toxic Relationships, Trauma Healing, Health, Wellness60. 6 Trauma Healing Self Care PracticesHey, Survivor!
Looking for ways to incorporate self-care on your healing journey, after narcissistic abuse? I’ve got you covered. In this episode, I’m covering 6 healthy lifestyle practices that you can do, or have someone arrange for you.
If you, or someone you know, need some self-care tips, this episode is for you.
Know who you're dealing with. Know who you are.
💚Lesley
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2024-01-2608 minTHE VIBRANT SURVIVOR -How to Identify a Narcissist, Narcissistic Abuse, Toxic Relationships, Trauma Healing, Health, Wellness59. 7 Things You Need to Know About the Narcissist's ThreatsHey, Survivor!
Are you being threatened by the narcissist in your life? This is a textbook narcissistic tactic to gain, or regain control of a situation. I’m literally watching upstanders in my community go through this as they seek justice for Preston Lord. Truth is being exposed, darkness is coming to light, and narcissistic individuals are scrambling to save face. In this episode, I’m sharing 7 things you need to know about the narcissist’s threats.
If you, or someone you know, need to say, “No!” to this toxic behavior, this episode is for you.
Kno...
2024-01-1910 minTHE VIBRANT SURVIVOR -How to Identify a Narcissist, Narcissistic Abuse, Toxic Relationships, Trauma Healing, Health, Wellness58. Got ACEs? 4 Things You Can Do for Your Health and Wellness.Hey, Survivor!
What do you know about ACEs, or Adverse Childhood Experiences? This trauma can lead to more health issues, later in life, if not addressed. I’m seeing this play out in my community, after the senseless fatal assault of 16-year-old Preston Lord. Teen violence has escalated; and there are some common threads among the perpetrators and their families. In this episode, I’m sharing 4 things you can do to create healthy relationships, safety and stability in your community, and make an impact.
If you, or someone you know, need information about ACEs, this episode i...
2024-01-1210 minTHE VIBRANT SURVIVOR -How to Identify a Narcissist, Narcissistic Abuse, Toxic Relationships, Trauma Healing, Health, Wellness57. 6 Narcissistic Behaviors and Gems for Navigating Toxic Relationships from the Katt Williams InterviewHey, Survivor!
Have you listened to the Katt Williams interview that aired this week? I did. And whether he intended to, or not, he exposed some narcissistic behaviors from his experience in the entertainment industry. He also dropped some gems that can help you to navigate toxic relationships. In this episode, I’m sharing 6 behaviors that Katt mentioned, and tying them to trauma. I’ve also paired them with 6 of his quotes from the conversation.
According to Katt, 2024 is the year for truth-tellers and exposure. And I’m here for it!
If you, or someone you...
2024-01-0513 minTHE VIBRANT SURVIVOR -How to Identify a Narcissist, Narcissistic Abuse, Toxic Relationships, Trauma Healing, Health, Wellness56. Don’t Pet the Elephant in Your Narcissistic Family. Do THIS Instead!Hey, Survivor!
Are you forced to pet the elephant in the room, in your narcissistic family? It’s hard, especially when you don’t have language to describe what has happened, or is happening, to you. Or you feel pressure to suck it up and keep forging ahead, through chaos and confusion. This episode offers healthy hacks, so you can stop swimming in denial.
It’s sad, when the elephant in the room becomes the family pet. Stop feeding the beast, and take your power back!
If you, or someone you know, are dealing with...
2023-12-2908 minTHE VIBRANT SURVIVOR -How to Identify a Narcissist, Narcissistic Abuse, Toxic Relationships, Trauma Healing, Health, Wellness55. 7 Benefits of Hiring a Private Investigator, After Narcissistic AbuseHey, Survivor!
Have you considered hiring a private investigator, after narcissistic abuse? It may sound extra; but it’s not. Actually, it can help to reveal the truth about who and what you’re dealing with. This episode offers several benefits of hiring a PI, so that you can focus on your health and wellbeing.
Narcissists love to create chaos and drama, then leave you dazed, confused, and angry. When you calm your body and brain, you will have the clarity to determine your next best step in dealing with your narcissistic relationship. And you’ll figure ou...
2023-12-2208 minTHE VIBRANT SURVIVOR -How to Identify a Narcissist, Narcissistic Abuse, Toxic Relationships, Trauma Healing, Health, Wellness54. 4 Myths About TraumaHey, Survivor!
Are you ready to tackle some myths about trauma? At one point or another, we’ve all shamed and blamed ourselves for our body’s reaction to what has happened to us. So, this episode is dedicated to helping you better understand what has happened to you, so that you don’t assist the narcissist in your life in making you feel bad so they can feel better.
Trauma is the result of more internal and external change than your body can handle. And I’ve had my own body turn against me, as a result...
2023-12-1506 minTHE VIBRANT SURVIVOR -How to Identify a Narcissist, Narcissistic Abuse, Toxic Relationships, Trauma Healing, Health, Wellness53. Is the Narcissist Trying to Ruin Your Special Occasion? 4 Ways to Navigate Narcissistic Sabotage AttemptsHey, Survivor!
‘Tis the season for special events. And, for narcissists, special events can evoke sabotage attempts. This could include: holiday parties, family gatherings, weddings, and more. What should be a joyous occasion can easily become a stressful or traumatic situation that compromises your health and wellbeing.
When I got married 26 years ago this week, my dad almost ruined my special day. His toxic behavior included a hotel room “lockdown,” smear campaign, and threats against me and my husband. If I had known then who and what I was dealing with, I could have prepared for the cha...
2023-12-0816 minTHE VIBRANT SURVIVOR -How to Identify a Narcissist, Narcissistic Abuse, Toxic Relationships, Trauma Healing, Health, Wellness52. 3 Ways to Express Gratitude After Narcissistic AbuseHey, Survivor!
After narcissistic abuse, expressing gratitude can boost your body and brain health.
As a survivor, it can be hard to give thanks, after dealing with a narcissist. That said, being grateful is a healthy way to turn your attention away from narcissistic or toxic relationships that are robbing you of your precious resources (i.e. time, energy, attention, and money). In this episode, I share 3 ways to give thanks.
If you, or someone you know, need help with gratitude on your healing journey, this episode is for you.
Know who...
2023-12-0111 minTHE VIBRANT SURVIVOR -How to Identify a Narcissist, Narcissistic Abuse, Toxic Relationships, Trauma Healing, Health, Wellness51. 3 Ways That I Experienced the Healing Power of Music, After Narcissistic Abuse, at a Bucket List ConcertHey, Survivor!
Last week I talked about how to tap into the healing power of music, after narcissistic abuse. This week, I'm sharing how I just put this into practice on my own healing journey. I don't just talk about it...I am about it.
I just returned from Vegas, where I checked a top childhood trauma healing concert off of my bucket list: Johnny Mathis. I had a full-circle experience with an artist, who's music was a big portion of the soundtrack of my dysfunctional upbringing. It was wonderful, wonderful!
If you, or s...
2023-11-2413 minTHE VIBRANT SURVIVOR -How to Identify a Narcissist, Narcissistic Abuse, Toxic Relationships, Trauma Healing, Health, Wellness50. How to Tap Into the Healing Power of Music, After Narcissistic AbuseHey, Survivor!
Trauma responses can be intense after narcissistic and toxic relationships. And there may be certain songs that you associate with that period in your life. In today's show, I’m sharing ways to tap into the healing power of music, after narcissistic abuse.
Music can calm your nerves, empower you, and set you up to co-regulate with others through shared experiences. So, consider how you can use music to support your health and wellbeing.
If you, or someone you know, needs help tuning out the narcissist, this episode is for you.
Know who you...
2023-11-1710 minTHE VIBRANT SURVIVOR -How to Identify a Narcissist, Narcissistic Abuse, Toxic Relationships, Trauma Healing, Health, Wellness49. Is the Narcissist Trying to Hoover You? 8 Tactics, Plus Tips for Setting Healthy BoundariesHey, Survivor!
I know how painful, distressful, scary, and annoying it can be, when the narcissist tries to hoover you. In today's show, I’m sharing 8 hoovering tactics, plus tips for setting healthy boundaries, after narcissistic abuse. The goal isn’t to trigger others. It’s about helping you to triumph over trauma, by stopping the abuse.
Once you have language to describe what has happened to you, it can help to provide clarity, so that you can take your next best step towards healing. Do the best you can with what you have to execute a drama...
2023-11-1016 minTHE VIBRANT SURVIVOR -How to Identify a Narcissist, Narcissistic Abuse, Toxic Relationships, Trauma Healing, Health, Wellness48. 5 Ways to Disconnect from a NarcissistHey, Survivor!
I know how hard it is to disconnect from narcissistic and toxic relationships. In today's show, I’m sharing 5 ways to disconnect from this dysfunction. This isn’t about punishing anyone. It’s about creating space for you to begin a long-lasting journey of healing.
As tempting as it is to state your position loudly and proudly, I cannot emphasize enough the importance of moving in silence. Anything you say can and will be used by the narcissist to manipulate you. And going back and forth with a narcissist is stressful and draining. So, go for a dram...
2023-11-0307 minTHE VIBRANT SURVIVOR -How to Identify a Narcissist, Narcissistic Abuse, Toxic Relationships, Trauma Healing, Health, Wellness47. 10 Tips for Healing After a Narcissistic RelationshipHey, Survivor!
The struggle is REAL, when it comes to dealing with narcissistic or toxic relationships. In today's show, I’m sharing 10 healing tips to add to your toolbox. One size does not fit all. Healing is a journey that’s as unique as you are.
Regardless of the nature of the relationship, narcissists will drain you of your time, energy, attention, money, and other resources, in an effort to get their needs met. And it can be hard to find others who are able or willing to validate your experience and offer support. The fear and lonel...
2023-10-2715 minTHE VIBRANT SURVIVOR -How to Identify a Narcissist, Narcissistic Abuse, Toxic Relationships, Trauma Healing, Health, Wellness46. Learn to Read Food Labels and Identify a Narcissist in 4 StepsHey, Survivor!
Do you know what food labels and narcissists have in common? In today's show, I’m sharing 4 steps to learning how to read food labels and identify a narcissist. There are correlations between the two that can impact your health, for better or worse.
With all of the food confusion out there, knowing how to read labels is a must. As a consumer, you deserve to know exactly what you’re getting. Considering the chaos that the narcissist creates, this skill can help to sharpen your discernment when it comes to narcissistic and toxic relationsh...
2023-10-2009 minTHE VIBRANT SURVIVOR -How to Identify a Narcissist, Narcissistic Abuse, Toxic Relationships, Trauma Healing, Health, Wellness45. 4 Ways to Help Your Child Set Boundaries and Break Generational Cycles of TraumaHey, Survivor!
Are you triggered by toxic traditions that involve inappropriate behavior towards children? In today's show, I’m offering 4 ways to help your child set boundaries and break generational cycles of trauma. The same principles can apply to you, regardless of the nature of your relationship.
As difficult as it may be, trauma-reinforcing encounters can spark crucial conversations with your child that can be healing, and set them up for life as adults. No opportunity, institution, program, or person is worth sacrificing your health and wellbeing!
If you, or someone you know, have experienced so...
2023-10-1311 minTHE VIBRANT SURVIVOR -How to Identify a Narcissist, Narcissistic Abuse, Toxic Relationships, Trauma Healing, Health, Wellness44. When the Narcissist Dies: 3 Tips for Handling and Accepting the Death of a Narcissist Close to You, Part 2Hey, Survivor!
In today's show, I’m sharing 3 tips for handling and accepting the death of a narcissist close to you. When the narcissistic or toxic individual in your life is gone for good, it takes a toll on your physical, emotional, and mental health. Clean-up is messy. But you don’t have to do everything yourself, or white-knuckle it.
You can tap into the healing power of a community - even if you don’t associate with them on a regular basis or consider them “your people.” Under the circumstances, people are more willing to accommodate you th...
2023-10-0613 minTHE VIBRANT SURVIVOR -How to Identify a Narcissist, Narcissistic Abuse, Toxic Relationships, Trauma Healing, Health, Wellness43. When the Narcissist Dies: 4 Tips for Handling and Accepting the Death of a Narcissist Close to You, Part 1Hey, Survivor!
In today's show, I’m sharing 4 tips for handling and accepting the death of a narcissist close to you. It’s easy to get caught in fight, flight, or freeze mode OR stuck ruminating over your toxic relationship. When this happens, you can lose sight of the fact that both the narcissistic relationship and the narcissist have expiration dates.
So many emotions come up, when the narcissist in your life dies. And you may feel pressure, internally and externally, to get over it and move on. That’s not healthy for you, nor does it help o...
2023-09-2910 minTHE VIBRANT SURVIVOR -How to Identify a Narcissist, Narcissistic Abuse, Toxic Relationships, Trauma Healing, Health, Wellness42. Are You the Narcissist? 4 Things to ConsiderHey, Survivor!
In today's show, I’m providing 4 things for you to consider, if you're questioning, "Am I the narcissist?" Narcissism is a spectrum, and we're all on it together. Ideally, like many things in life, you want to avoid the extremes of selfishness or selflessness. Somewhere in the middle is just right.
Highly narcissistic individuals aren't in their bodies, lack self-awareness, and use other people to meet their basic needs. And they're unable to sustain healthy relationships, although they may fake it in the short term.
If you, or someone you know, have questi...
2023-09-2211 minTHE VIBRANT SURVIVOR -How to Identify a Narcissist, Narcissistic Abuse, Toxic Relationships, Trauma Healing, Health, Wellness41. 3 Key Ingredients in Narcissistic Word SaladHey, Survivor!
In today's show, I’m highlighting 3 key ingredients in narcissistic word salad. Word salad is a specialty that the narcissist serves up to their targets; and it is not made with love. It comes from a place of fear. Simply put, it’s not healthy.
Narcissistic and toxic individuals use word salad to manipulate and exert control over situations, narratives, and other people. It’s confusing, draining, and used to protect their fragile ego when they feel threatened. And these “threats” could be real or perceived, past or present.
If you, or someone you know...
2023-09-1512 minTHE VIBRANT SURVIVOR -How to Identify a Narcissist, Narcissistic Abuse, Toxic Relationships, Trauma Healing, Health, Wellness40. You Were Right About the Narcissist! 4 Ways to Support the Survivor in Your LifeHey, Survivor!
In today's show, I share 4 ways to support another narcissistic abuse survivor, who may not have listened when you tried to warn them about their toxic relationship. Oftentimes, you can see someone else's situation more clearly than you can see your own.
Narcissists use charm, mirroring, lies, future-faking, and trauma bonding to draw you in, trick you into falling in love with yourself, and keep you stuck in an abusive relationship, so they can get their needs met. If you know, you know. And sometimes, these relationships can last for years, leaving you drain...
2023-09-0809 minTHE VIBRANT SURVIVOR -How to Identify a Narcissist, Narcissistic Abuse, Toxic Relationships, Trauma Healing, Health, Wellness39. 3 Steps to Overcoming Narcissistic Triangulation with Your SiblingsHey, Survivor!
In today's show, I provide 3 steps to overcoming narcissistic triangulation with your siblings. Narcissistic parents, who pit their children against one another, create unhealthy relationship dynamics and can set future generations up for failure.
At the root of it all, narcissistic and toxic individuals triangulate in order to boost their own egos and mask their deeply-rooted insecurities. Some may even get a sick sense of satisfaction from creating a competitive environment among their children, without doing the deeper work of nurturing them as individuals and encouraging healthy connections and camaraderie among their offspring.
...
2023-09-0112 minTHE VIBRANT SURVIVOR -How to Identify a Narcissist, Narcissistic Abuse, Toxic Relationships, Trauma Healing, Health, Wellness38. 5 Things Narcissistic Enablers Say or Do When You Challenge the Narcissist’s BehaviorHey, Survivor!
In today's show, I list 5 things that narcissistic enablers say or do, when you challenge the narcissist’s behavior. Enablers appear in all types of relationships; and they can be just as difficult to deal with as the narcissist in your life.
At the end of the day, narcissistic enablers try to avoid the social discomfort that exists in narcissistic relationship territory, in order to continue to get their needs met by the narcissist. They see the narcissist’s toxic behavior, rationalize it within themselves and to others, in order to avoid conflict and bein...
2023-08-2507 minTHE VIBRANT SURVIVOR -How to Identify a Narcissist, Narcissistic Abuse, Toxic Relationships, Trauma Healing, Health, Wellness37. 3 Ways Narcissistic Females and Fake Friends Try to Appear Supportive While They’re Seething with Jealousy and RageHey, Survivor!
In today's show, I highlight 3 ways that narcissistic females and fake friends try to appear supportive, while they’re seething with jealousy and rage. These ladies could be part of a friend [or other social] group, business associates, or your relatives. Regardless of the nature of the relationship, they’re fakin’ while they’re hatin’; and I’m going to tell you how.
It's literally impossible to love someone and be jealous of them, or rage-filled, at the same time. And you can feel the discomfort in your body, as narcissistic women in your life try to...
2023-08-1809 minTHE VIBRANT SURVIVOR -How to Identify a Narcissist, Narcissistic Abuse, Toxic Relationships, Trauma Healing, Health, Wellness36. 3 Triangulation Tactics of a Narcissistic ParentHey, Survivor!
In today's show, I breakdown 3 triangulation tactics of a narcissistic parent. This manipulative tactic is very damaging. And it, among other toxic behaviors, undermines what could otherwise be healthy relationships.
You may have missed this tactic when you were growing up. However, it's one of the narcissist's go-to's. And children suffer most, when the narcissist behaves this way.
If you, or someone you know, have experienced the relational strangulation that accompanies narcissistic triangulation, this episode is for you.
Know who you're dealing with. Know who you are.
💚Lesley
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2023-08-1106 minTHE VIBRANT SURVIVOR -How to Identify a Narcissist, Narcissistic Abuse, Toxic Relationships, Trauma Healing, Health, Wellness35. 6 Tips to More Effectively Engage with the Narcissist’s Other SupplyHey, Survivor!
In today's show, I share 6 tips to more effectively engage with the narcissist's other supply. While engaging with other sources of supply is often discouraged, you may choose to do it anyway. And, if you're going to do it, you should have some tools, so you can be successful.
There are many different types of narcissistic relationships; and no two are the same. If you can safely and successfully engage with other sources of supply, then be prepared.
If you, or someone you know, have already decided to engage with the narci...
2023-08-0406 minTHE VIBRANT SURVIVOR -How to Identify a Narcissist, Narcissistic Abuse, Toxic Relationships, Trauma Healing, Health, Wellness34. 7 Boundary-Busting Narratives That You’ve Been Told and Sold, Which Led You to Tolerate Narcissistic AbuseHey, Survivor!
In today's show, I highlight 7 narratives that you've been told, sold, and forced to uphold for most of your life, that compromised your boundaries, and led you to tolerate narcissistic and toxic relationships. If you come from a narcissistic family, you know the struggle.
It's time to ditch these outdated narratives, set strong boundaries, and change the course of your family history!
If you, or someone you know, are tired of tolerating toxicity and ready to shake your family tree, this episode is for you.
Know who you're dealing with...
2023-07-2807 minTHE VIBRANT SURVIVOR -How to Identify a Narcissist, Narcissistic Abuse, Toxic Relationships, Trauma Healing, Health, Wellness33. Looking for Closure Through Exposure? 7 Things That Can Happen When You Expose a NarcissistHey, Survivor!
Today's show is about exposing a narcissist. I know how tempting it can be to call out their bad behavior publicly. But it can be very tricky, backfire on you, and disrupt your healing process. And you've already suffered enough. I share 7 things that can happen, plus a bonus, so you can count the costs.
If you, or someone you know, is seeking "exposure closure," after narcissistic abuse, this episode is for you.
Know who you're dealing with. Know who you are.
💚Lesley
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2023-07-2114 minTHE VIBRANT SURVIVOR -How to Identify a Narcissist, Narcissistic Abuse, Toxic Relationships, Trauma Healing, Health, Wellness32. 7 Things You Can Do for Better Poop After Narcissistic AbuseHey, Survivor!
Today's show is loaded with TMI, as I give you some scoop on poop. I know how stressful it can be to deal with a narcissist, especially a narcissistic parent. I'm being gut-level honest about some unpleasant ways that narcissistic abuse can affect your health and wellbeing. I had to go there!
If you, or someone you know, is feeling anxious and is doubled-over with a "funny tummy," after narcissistic abuse, this episode is for you.
Know who you're dealing with. Know who you are.
💚Lesley
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2023-07-1407 minTHE VIBRANT SURVIVOR -How to Identify a Narcissist, Narcissistic Abuse, Toxic Relationships, Trauma Healing, Health, Wellness31. 4 Things You Need to Know About Trauma, as a Narcissistic Abuse SurvivorHey, Survivor!
In today's show, I'm talking about 4 things you need to know about trauma. I know how traumatic narcissistic abuse can be, regardless of the nature of the relationship. And from a historical and societal standpoint, it's bigger and deeper than many people realize. Whatever has happened or is still happening to you, it's important to not let the trauma define you; and to approach it from a position of strength.
If you, or someone you know, is feeling sad, stressed, disappointed, depressed, and lonely, after narcissistic abuse, this episode is for you.
Know...
2023-07-0707 minTHE VIBRANT SURVIVOR -How to Identify a Narcissist, Narcissistic Abuse, Toxic Relationships, Trauma Healing, Health, Wellness30. Should You Screen Future Relationships? Permission to Do These 6 Key Preventative Health Screenings, as a Narcissistic Abuse Survivor!Hey, Survivor!
In today's show, I share 6 preventative health screenings that you can do to level-up your health and wellbeing, as a narcissistic abuse survivor. I know how detrimental to your health narcissistic abuse can be. I grew up in a narcissistic family; was raised by a narcissistic parent; and experienced narcissistically abusive relationships as an adult. Narcissists often don't take care of their health; and they'll engage in reckless, toxic coping behaviors that can compromise their health and yours. By taking some preventative steps with your health, you can truly go on to live your best life...
2023-06-3013 minTHE VIBRANT SURVIVOR -How to Identify a Narcissist, Narcissistic Abuse, Toxic Relationships, Trauma Healing, Health, Wellness29. Sick of the Narcissist’s Smear Campaign? Try These 4 Things!Hey, Survivor!
In today's show, I share 4 things you can do right now to side-step the narcissist's smear campaign. I know how messy a narcissistic smear campaign can be. I've experienced this directly and indirectly from a narcissistic parent and from a covert malignant female narcissist. The smear campaign is a control tactic and it will reveal who your real friends and supporters are. So, take notes! And remember, the narcissist will act out based on the trauma that they have been through. So, distancing yourself from their toxic behavior can help you to avoid the chaos and dr...
2023-06-2310 minTHE VIBRANT SURVIVOR -How to Identify a Narcissist, Narcissistic Abuse, Toxic Relationships, Trauma Healing, Health, Wellness28. 3 Reasons to Stop Suffering in Silence After Narcissistic AbuseHey, Survivor!
In today's show, I give 3 reasons to stop suffering in silence, after narcissistic abuse. I know how shameful and painful it can be to fall for the lies and manipulations of the narcissist. I fell for future-faking, got conned, and have been scammed by narcissistic and toxic people, over a long period of time. As a result, I struggled with toxic shame. However, I decided to use my trauma to help others. When we normalize talking about trauma, more healing can happen.
If you, or someone you know, need encouragement to share their story...
2023-06-1606 minTHE VIBRANT SURVIVOR -How to Identify a Narcissist, Narcissistic Abuse, Toxic Relationships, Trauma Healing, Health, Wellness27. Struggling with Insomnia, After Narcissistic Abuse? Get More Sleep with These 12 Healthy Lifestyle Changes and Healing RemediesHey, Survivor!
In today's show, I share 12 healthy lifestyle changes and healing remedies to help you deal with insomnia, after narcissistic abuse. I know how disruptive the trauma and drama that the narcissist creates can be to your ability to get a good night's sleep. And it goes beyond just setting a bedtime. You need to set yourself up to go to sleep. A good night's sleep will help you to wake up more refreshed and clear on how to navigate narcissistic behavior.
If you, or someone you know, need help overcoming insomnia, this episode is fo...
2023-06-0918 minTHE VIBRANT SURVIVOR -How to Identify a Narcissist, Narcissistic Abuse, Toxic Relationships, Trauma Healing, Health, Wellness26. Considering New Relationships? 6 Things to Look for When Vetting People in Your LifeHey, Survivor!
In today's show, I talk about 6 things to look for, when vetting people in your life. I know how hard it feels to muster the courage and take time out of your busy schedule to do fact checking and background checking, especially when you've already engaged with someone new. Really? No one has time for that! But the reality is that we're living in desperate times, and the internet provides a lot of access to any and everyone. And narcissists and toxic people know this. Whether the relationship is personal or professional, you need to do you...
2023-06-0209 minTHE VIBRANT SURVIVOR -How to Identify a Narcissist, Narcissistic Abuse, Toxic Relationships, Trauma Healing, Health, Wellness25. 3 Ways to Make Your Spa Time Safer, After Narcissistic AbuseHey, Survivor!
In today's show, I'm sharing 3 ways to make your spa time safer. As a former massage therapist, self-proclaimed spa maven, and narcissistic abuse survivor, I know how hard it can be to open up about your triggers and express your needs going into a session. Dealing with narcissists is stressful; and you just want to relax and enjoy some YOU time. Trauma runs deep; and depending on where you are on your healing journey, a spa session could set you back. However, when you communicate your needs, you can enhance your wellbeing with a healing trea...
2023-05-2608 minTHE VIBRANT SURVIVOR -How to Identify a Narcissist, Narcissistic Abuse, Toxic Relationships, Trauma Healing, Health, Wellness24. 12 Things the Narcissist Will Never Tell YouHey, Survivor!
In today's show, I share 12 things the narcissist in your life will never tell you. I know how confusing it can be, when you come out of the fog and the narcissist's lies become apparent. You've wasted your precious time energy, money, and attention propping up someone who has lied by commission and omission, while you did the heavy lifting in the relationship. Trauma fuels a lot of narcissistic behavior...and it works both ways. However, if you're willing to face the truth and do the work, you can disconnect from the narcissist, clarify the chao...
2023-05-1909 minTHE VIBRANT SURVIVOR -How to Identify a Narcissist, Narcissistic Abuse, Toxic Relationships, Trauma Healing, Health, Wellness23. Afraid the Narcissist Will Ruin Mother’s Day? 3 Things You Can Do to Help Save the Day!Hey, Survivor!
Happy Early Mother's Day! In today's show, I share 3 things you can do to help save the day, despite the narcissist's behavior. I know how sad, frustrating, and exhausting it can be, when the narcissist tries to ruin your special day. And with Mother's Day coming up, I thought we should talk about it. You may not have been taught how or why to set boundaries. As a result, you may have been exposed to the stress of special occasion sabotage attempts by the narcissists in your life. I was...on many occasions.
If you...
2023-05-1206 minTHE VIBRANT SURVIVOR -How to Identify a Narcissist, Narcissistic Abuse, Toxic Relationships, Trauma Healing, Health, Wellness22. Struggling to Speak Up for Yourself After Narcissistic Abuse? 4 Things You Can Do to Build Your Confidence!Hey, Survivor!
In today's show, I share 4 things you can do to build your confidence, when it comes to advocating for yourself after narcissistic abuse. Childhood trauma, toxic relationships and environments can make it very hard to speak up for yourself - even as an adult. And the fear of retaliation or backlash is REAL! It's not about creating drama, or getting anyone into trouble. It's about recognizing and responding when relationships are causing you to compromise your core values, tolerate disrespect, and deteriorate mentally, physically, emotionally and spiritually. Regardless of your situation, you can grow through what...
2023-05-0515 minTHE VIBRANT SURVIVOR -How to Identify a Narcissist, Narcissistic Abuse, Toxic Relationships, Trauma Healing, Health, Wellness21. 4 Ways to Disconnect from the Narcissist in Your LifeHey, Survivor!
In today's show, I share 4 ways to disconnect from the narcissist in your life. Regardless of the nature of the relationship, narcissistic and toxic individuals will use and abuse you, in order to get their needs met, for as long as you allow them to. You may not be able to easily get away physically or relationally from a narcissist, especially a co-worker or a family member. However, you can create space, despite the chaos that narcissists create, to gain clarity, put healthy boundaries in place, prioritize your health and wellbeing, and give yourself closure. It's...
2023-04-2810 minTHE VIBRANT SURVIVOR -How to Identify a Narcissist, Narcissistic Abuse, Toxic Relationships, Trauma Healing, Health, Wellness20. What is a Narcissist?Hey, Survivor!
In today's show, I share my definition of a narcissist. The DSM-5 offers a list of diagnostic criteria for narcissistic personality disorder, including: lack of identity or sense of self, grandiosity, a sense of entitlement, lack of empathy or compassion, lack of intimacy, antagonistic, attention-seeking, inability to self-regulate. There's some overlap with other personality disorders, like borderline. This is based on a pathological, or disease-based model, as opposed to a holistic, or salutogenic model. Everyone has a back story, including the narcissist in your life, which can provide more insights into why they behave the way...
2023-04-2108 minTHE VIBRANT SURVIVOR -How to Identify a Narcissist, Narcissistic Abuse, Toxic Relationships, Trauma Healing, Health, Wellness19. 5 Narcissistic Workplace Red Flags from a Retail Executive’s Review FeedbackHey, Survivor!
In today's show, I share 5 narcissistic workplace red flags, based on feedback that a retail executive received during a recent review. Where there is hard work required and a high standard of excellence, narcissists will always take the shortcut. Specifically, they will try to get you to lower your standards, so that they can feel more comfortable and competent.
If you, or someone you know, is being asked to dim your light on the job, this episode is for you.
Know who you're dealing with. Know who you are.
💚Lesley
2023-04-1409 minTHE VIBRANT SURVIVOR -How to Identify a Narcissist, Narcissistic Abuse, Toxic Relationships, Trauma Healing, Health, Wellness18. 8 Ways the Narcissist Punishes YouHey, Survivor!
In today's show, I share 8 ways the narcissist punishes you. When the narcissist feels hurt, they will react by punishing whoever they feel is responsible. They do this in an attempt to protect their fragile ego and regain control of a situation, so they can feel better. This can happen with a narcissistic co-worker or boss, friend, neighbor, a narcissistic parent, in a toxic marriage with a narcissistic partner, or other romantic relationship. You may not even realize that the narcissist is hurt because their behavior takes center stage, replacing clear communication
If you...
2023-04-0708 minTHE VIBRANT SURVIVOR -How to Identify a Narcissist, Narcissistic Abuse, Toxic Relationships, Trauma Healing, Health, Wellness17. 10 Signs of a Narcissist at WorkHey, Survivor!
In today's show, I share 10 signs of a narcissist at work. Dealing with narcissistic co-workers or bosses can be tricky to identify, navigate, and heal from. Office politics, bullies, pressure to produce and perform, and your ongoing exposure to the stress of the professional playground games they play, can threaten your health and well-being.
If you, or someone you know, needs validation or help identifying a narcissist at work, this episode is for you.
Know who you're dealing with. Know who you are.
💚Lesley
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2023-03-3110 minTHE VIBRANT SURVIVOR -How to Identify a Narcissist, Narcissistic Abuse, Toxic Relationships, Trauma Healing, Health, Wellness16. Workplace Culture Destruction: How Your Narcissistic Boss is Wreaking Havoc on the JobHey, Survivor!
In today's show, I talk about how your narcissistic boss is wreaking havoc on the job. You can find the article that I referenced here. Dealing with narcissistic leaders in your workplace can be stressful, draining, hinder your productivity, and threaten your ability to support yourself and your family. Limited options and layoffs can further complicate your situation, during an economic crisis.
If you, or someone you know, needs a description of the damage that narcissistic leaders cause in your organization, this episode is for you. It validates your experience, and offers some solu...
2023-03-2409 minTHE VIBRANT SURVIVOR -How to Identify a Narcissist, Narcissistic Abuse, Toxic Relationships, Trauma Healing, Health, Wellness15. How to Heal Emotionally from Narcissistic AbuseHey, Survivor!
In today's show, I talk about ways to heal emotionally from narcissistic abuse. Dealing with the emotional fallout from the abuse can be challenging, especially if you were taught and trained to suppress your emotions in your family of origin or other relationships.
If you, or someone you know, needs emotional healing from narcissistic abuse, this episode is for you. It validates your feelings, and offers several ways of healing.
Know who you're dealing with. Know who you are.
💚Lesley
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2023-03-1711 minTHE VIBRANT SURVIVOR -How to Identify a Narcissist, Narcissistic Abuse, Toxic Relationships, Trauma Healing, Health, Wellness14. Communication Breakdown: How to Respond to Red Flags with Healthy Boundaries After Narcissistic AbuseHey, Survivor!
In today's show, I use an email communication breakdown to show you how you can identify and respond to red flags with healthy boundaries, after narcissistic abuse. ACEs (Adverse Childhood Experiences) and other traumas in your life can contribute to ignoring red flags, not trusting your gut, and engaging with people who don't have your best interests at heart.
If you, or someone you know, needs to sharpen their discernment and develop strong boundaries, this episode is a must. It validates your need to prioritize yourself and your wellbeing, as you navigate personal and...
2023-03-1013 minTHE VIBRANT SURVIVOR -How to Identify a Narcissist, Narcissistic Abuse, Toxic Relationships, Trauma Healing, Health, Wellness13. 6 Benefits of Changing Your Phone Number After Narcissistic AbuseHey, Survivor!
In today's show, I call out 6 benefits of changing your phone number after narcissistic abuse. Narcissists use you to get attention, approval, and/or admiration, in an effort to regulate their emotions. When you figure out who and what you're dealing with, and disconnect from the relationship or situation, they will blow up your phone to try to regain control and get their needs met. This can further traumatize you, keep you stuck in the past, and ultimately compromise your health and wellbeing.
If you, or someone you know, needs to change their num...
2023-03-0307 minTHE VIBRANT SURVIVOR -How to Identify a Narcissist, Narcissistic Abuse, Toxic Relationships, Trauma Healing, Health, Wellness12. 10 Things That Happen When You Disconnect from a NarcissistHey, Survivor!
In today's show, I share 10 things that happen when you disconnect from a narcissist. Narcissists take you through an abusive cycle of love-bombing, devaluation, discarding, and hoovering. When you figure out who and what you're dealing with, and remove yourself from the situation, it triggers a traumatic response in the narcissist. Simultaneously, it sets you up to start healing from the abuse.
If you, or someone you know, has disconnected, or needs to disconnect from a narcissistically abusive relationship, this episode is a must. It provides a heads-up on what to expect.
Kn...
2023-02-2407 minTHE VIBRANT SURVIVOR -How to Identify a Narcissist, Narcissistic Abuse, Toxic Relationships, Trauma Healing, Health, Wellness11. 3 Ways Narcissists Can Use Funerals to Their AdvantageHey, Survivor!
In today's show, I share a few ways that narcissists can use funerals to their advantage. Whether it's an individual or a family, narcissists' difficult personalities can turn a time of mourning into a manipulative mess. And if you've kept your distance from this type of behavior in your family, then you may get sucked back in and shamed for your stance.
If you, or someone you know, have witnessed narcissistic behavior around funerals, this episode is a must. It highlights some examples where grieving can be deceiving.
Know who you're dea...
2023-02-1709 minTHE VIBRANT SURVIVOR -How to Identify a Narcissist, Narcissistic Abuse, Toxic Relationships, Trauma Healing, Health, Wellness10. 4 Signs That It’s Time to Disconnect from the Narcissist’s DysfunctionHey, Survivor!
In today's show, I share signs that it's time for you to disconnect from the narcissist and their dysfunctional behavior. While their behavior may be the result of trauma that they've endured, your repeated engagement with them, personally or professionally, is traumatizing for YOU! And your health and wellbeing may be compromised in the process. The body keeps the score.
If you, or someone you know, are feeling the effects of dealing with a narcissist's behavior, this episode is a must. It highlights some physical, mental, and spiritual compromises involved in engaging with toxi...
2023-02-1008 minTHE VIBRANT SURVIVOR -How to Identify a Narcissist, Narcissistic Abuse, Toxic Relationships, Trauma Healing, Health, Wellness09. 7 Ways That Narcissists Can Present Around BirthdaysHey, Survivor!
In today's show, I share ways that narcissists can present around birthdays. This can vary, based on their place in society and their past experiences. However, the behavior is rooted in insecurity.
If you, or someone you know, have experienced bad birthday behavior from a narcissist, this episode is a must. It highlights a variety of scenarios, and contributing factors.
Know who you're dealing with. Know who you are.
💚Lesley
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2023-02-1013 minTHE VIBRANT SURVIVOR -How to Identify a Narcissist, Narcissistic Abuse, Toxic Relationships, Trauma Healing, Health, Wellness08. 6 Signs of a Grandiose Female Narcissist and Other Fake FriendsHey, Survivor!
In today's show, I share how to spot a grandiose female narcissist and other fake friends. This illustrates the importance of context, along with patterns of behavior over time. If you grew up in a narcissistic family, where boundaries weren't taught or respected, and you weren't shown how to pick a friend, then you may have [unknowingly] allowed this toxic behavior in your life.
If you, or someone you know, are evaluating your friends, this episode is a must. It highlights the narcissistic abuse cycle, the lack or depth and maturity over time, and t...
2023-02-1021 minTHE VIBRANT SURVIVOR -How to Identify a Narcissist, Narcissistic Abuse, Toxic Relationships, Trauma Healing, Health, Wellness07. Can You Identify a Narcissist in Your Life? 12 Signs in a Communication Breakdown of a Grandiose Narcissistic FemaleHey, Survivor!
In today's show, I break down some communication that I received after going no contact with a grandiose female narcissist, who I was acquainted with for several years. In addition, I highlight 12 key elements of this communication that helped to validate my experience. This illustrates the insidious aspect of narcissistic abuse that often goes unchecked; that many people dismiss, don't see, don't believe, and use to gaslight you. To make matters worse, you're often left to "just handle it" alone, whether it occurs in a personal or professional setting. You and I know that you can...
2023-02-0323 minTHE VIBRANT SURVIVOR -How to Identify a Narcissist, Narcissistic Abuse, Toxic Relationships, Trauma Healing, Health, Wellness06. Afraid to Air Your Dirty Laundry? 9 Characteristics of Narcissistic FamiliesHey, Survivor!
In today's show, I share 9 characteristics of narcissistic families. This is the not-so-presentable side of family that often gets denied, or goes undealt with. But it's key to your healing; and provides clues about your willingness to put up with narcissistic abuse, or your inability to navigate these toxic relationships outside of your family.
If you, or someone you know, are a truth-teller in your family, this episode is a must. It highlights some tell-tale signs of narcissistic families, validates your experience, and helps to light a path to your healing, so that you...
2023-01-2709 minTHE VIBRANT SURVIVOR -How to Identify a Narcissist, Narcissistic Abuse, Toxic Relationships, Trauma Healing, Health, Wellness05. My Story of How I Identified Narcissistic Abuse in My Family of OriginHey, Survivor!
In today's show, I share my story of how I identified narcissistic abuse in my family of origin. Although it was overwhelming and painful, this bombshell reveal was an answer to prayer and helped to set me free. It helped me to understand why I allowed narcissistic and toxic people into my life; and why I tolerated their abusive behavior. This, in turn, helped me to set boundaries going forward.
If you, or someone you know, are struggling to figure out how and why you're allowing narcissistic and toxic people into your life, and...
2023-01-2006 minTHE VIBRANT SURVIVOR -How to Identify a Narcissist, Narcissistic Abuse, Toxic Relationships, Trauma Healing, Health, Wellness04. What Could Happen When Narcissistic Abuse Turns ViolentHey, Survivor!
In today's show, I share an example, from my personal experience, of what could happen, when narcissistic abuse turns violent. I'll admit, it's extreme. However, I think it's important to share, so that you can get to know me better; and so that you can learn from my mistakes, regardless of your situation.
If you, or someone you know, are evaluating new relationships, personally or professionally, this episode is a must. It provides examples of how appearances can be deceiving; red flags to take seriously; and it emphasizes the importance of trusting your gut...
2023-01-1311 min
THE VIBRANT SURVIVOR -How to Identify a Narcissist, Narcissistic Abuse, Toxic Relationships, Trauma Healing, Health, Wellness03. What to Do When Narcissists TriangulateHey, Survivor!
In today's show, I talk about what to do when narcissists triangulate. I describe what this dynamic looks like, how it feels, and how to handle it.
Anyone who triangulates should not be in your circle. So, don't edify the narcissist by participating in this ego-boosting game.
Whether you're being tried with triangulation, or you know someone else who is, this episode is a must. It provides ideas and examples of ways to overcome this toxic threesome.
Know who you're dealing with. Know who you are.
💚Lesley
2023-01-0314 min
THE VIBRANT SURVIVOR -How to Identify a Narcissist, Narcissistic Abuse, Toxic Relationships, Trauma Healing, Health, Wellness02. 6 Healthy Distractions After Narcissistic AbuseHey, Survivor!
In today's show, I share healthy distractions after narcissistic abuse. I emphasize the importance of not being mindlessly distracted; but being intentional about it.
Healthy distractions should include pillars of wellness, such as: lifestyle, exercise, attitude, and nutrition. And the best practices are the ones that you will do consistently.
Whether you're looking for healthy distractions, or you know someone else who needs to reset and refocus, this episode is a must. It provides ideas and examples of ways to shift your focus from the narcissist, and prioritize your health and wel...
2023-01-0314 min
THE VIBRANT SURVIVOR -How to Identify a Narcissist, Narcissistic Abuse, Toxic Relationships, Trauma Healing, Health, Wellness01. 5 Reasons to Decline the Narcissist’s HooverHey, Survivor!
In today's show, I share reasons to decline the narcissist's hoover. I talk about the whys, the ways, and issue warnings about this manipulative tactic.
How you choose to navigate a hoover may depend on the nature of your relationship with the narcissist in your life. You have to find a solution that works best for you and your circumstances.
Whether you're being hoovered, or you know someone else who is "under siege," this episode is a must. It helps you to identify this tactic, navigate accordingly, and set boundaries to pro...
2023-01-0311 min