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Cryin' & Tryin': The Comprehensive Guide to Cultivating Emotional Intelligence in a F*&%ed Up WorldS5E7 - Psychiatric Medication, Pt 2: Struggling with Med ChangesIn this continuation of the discussion on psych meds, Lex shares what changes they have made over the past few months and how it has affected them.
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These resources are for listeners in the US:
😭 Suicide Prevention Hotline: 988 or 1-800-273-8255, call or text
😭 Crisis Text Line: Text HOME to 741741
😭 NAMI National Warmlines (text lines and phone lines; not for crisis)
😭 RAINN Sexual Assault Hotline: 800-656-4673 (HOPE)
😭 LBTQIA+ Support: The Trevor Project
😭 Resources for Undocumented Immigrants and Families
😭 Mental Health Resources for Black communities
😭 Inclusive Therapists
😭 Resources for Gun Safety
😭 Resources for Reproductive Rights
😭 National Eating Disorders Association resources, text NEDA to 741741 for crisis help. Hours for phone and text lines at link
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Find us on social media! The pod is on IG: @cryinandtryin_pod...2024-06-1435 min
Cryin' & Tryin': The Comprehensive Guide to Cultivating Emotional Intelligence in a F*&%ed Up WorldS5E6 - Nobody Wants to WorkLexi and their friend Oliver explore the nuance behind the idea that "nobody wants to work." They talk about inhumane working conditions, how capitalism keeps us so busy it makes it difficult to do anything but work, and the idea that we are meant for more than a 40 hour work week.
These resources are for listeners in the US:
😭 Suicide Prevention Hotline: 988 or 1-800-273-8255, call or text
😭 Crisis Text Line: Text HOME to 741741
😭 NAMI National Warmlines (text lines and phone lines; not for crisis)
😭 RAINN Sexual Assault Hotline: 800-656-4673 (HOPE)
😭 LBTQIA+ Support: The Trevor Project
😭 Resources for Undocumented Immigrants and Families
😭 Mental Health Resources f...2024-04-261h 03
Cryin' & Tryin': The Comprehensive Guide to Cultivating Emotional Intelligence in a F*&%ed Up WorldS5E5 - EQ, Pt. 3: Recognizing and Noticing EmotionsIn this episode, Lexi reflects on an IFS therapy session in which they spent a lot of time noticing their emotions. They introduce an app, linked below, that is helping with these first steps of emotional regulation: recognizing and labeling the feelings.
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Resources from this episode:
😭 How We Feel App
😭 RULER Method
😭 Mood Meter for Kids
😭 Feelings wheel
These resources are for listeners in the US:
😭 Suicide Prevention Hotline: 988 or 1-800-273-8255, call or text
😭 Crisis Text Line: Text HOME to 741741
😭 NAMI National Warmlines (text lines and phone lines; not for crisis)
😭 RAINN Sexual Assault Hotline: 800-656-4673 (HOPE)
😭 LBTQIA+...2024-02-2348 min
Cryin' & Tryin': The Comprehensive Guide to Cultivating Emotional Intelligence in a F*&%ed Up WorldS5E4 - No Bad Parts (IFS Therapy), Pt. 3: Work Sucks, I KnowIn the continuation of the No Bad Parts mini-series, host, Lex, discusses a recent therapy session in which they and their therapist chose to treat work like a relationship. Lex shares what they have had difficulty with in regards to this specific metaphor and how this is only the beginning of their journey through Parts Work.
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These resources are for listeners in the US:
😭 Suicide Prevention Hotline: 988 or 1-800-273-8255, call or text
😭 Crisis Text Line: Text HOME to 741741
😭 NAMI National Warmlines (text lines and phone lines; not for crisis)
😭 RAINN Sexual Assault Hotline: 800-656-4673 (HOPE)
😭 LBTQIA+ Support: Th...2024-02-0939 min
Cryin' & Tryin': The Comprehensive Guide to Cultivating Emotional Intelligence in a F*&%ed Up WorldS5E3 - Psychiatric Medication, Pt. 1: Being Biochemically Content w/ Sam AlmeidaIn this episode, Lexi and their bestie Sam discuss the basics of medication for depression and anxiety while sharing their personal medication journeys. The friends discuss how medication can help to strengthen neural pathways and how it can help dig you out of your hole.
Resources for this episode:
😭 Drug Treatment for Depression on WebMD
😭 Selective Serotonin Reuptake Inhibitors (SSRIs) by the Mayo Clinic
😭 Serotonin Norepinephrine Reuptake Inhibitors SNRIs by the Mayo Clinic
😭 Hashimoto's Disease by the Mayo Clinic
😭 Premenstrual Dysmorphic Disorder (PMDD) by Johns Hopkins Medicine
These resources are for listene...2024-01-261h 12
Cryin' & Tryin': The Comprehensive Guide to Cultivating Emotional Intelligence in a F*&%ed Up WorldS5E2 - Unburdening Myself, Pt. 2: Healthy Communication Doesn't Mean Perfect CommunicationIn this episode, Lex does some independent "parts work" regarding their communication patterns with their partner.
TW: Childhood sexual assault (CSA) and grooming mention at 21:50.
Resources for this episode:
😭 Machismo Definition
😭 Paper on Machismo and Negative Cognitive Emotional Factors
These resources are for listeners in the US:
😭 Suicide Prevention Hotline: 988 or 1-800-273-8255, call or text
😭 Crisis Text Line: Text HOME to 741741
😭 NAMI National Warmlines (text lines and phone lines; not for crisis)
😭 RAINN Sexual Assault Hotline: 800-656-4673 (HOPE)
😭 LBTQIA+ Support: The Trevor Project
😭 Resources for Undocumented Imm...2024-01-1649 min
Cryin' & Tryin': The Comprehensive Guide to Cultivating Emotional Intelligence in a F*&%ed Up WorldMinisode Mondays Ep10 - Menty B Mini #004, When it Rains It PoursIn this minisode, Lex reflects on how everything feels like it's hitting all at once. A lot of feelings come to the surface including anger, fear, and feeling overwhelmed as they process returning from time off, handling peak season, and physical health in addition to mental health difficulties.
If you or someone you know is having suicidal thoughts, please get help immediately. The resources below are for listeners in the US.
😭 Suicide Prevention Hotline: 988 or 1-800-273-8255, call or text
😭 Crisis Text Line: Text HOME to 741741
😭 NAMI National Warmlines (text lines and phone lines; not for crisis)
😭 RAINN Sexual Assault Hotline: 800-656...2024-01-1115 min
Cryin' & Tryin': The Comprehensive Guide to Cultivating Emotional Intelligence in a F*&%ed Up WorldS5E1 - No Bad Parts (IFS therapy) Pt. 2: Feeling Multiple Feelings and Survival ModeIn the season 5 opener, Lex reflects on a therapy session where they realized that they are in survival mode and escalated all the time, and how that makes it difficult for them to acknowledge and feel multiple feelings at the same time.
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Resources from this episode:
😭 No Bad Parts: Healing Trauma and Restoring Wholeness with the Internal Family Systems Model by Richard Schwartz (I've linked to a black owned bookstore!)
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These resources are for listeners in the US:
😭 Suicide Prevention Hotline: 988 or 1-800-273-8255, call or text
😭 Crisis Text Line: Text...2023-12-2948 min
Cryin' & Tryin': The Comprehensive Guide to Cultivating Emotional Intelligence in a F*&%ed Up WorldHealthy Communicationtbd
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Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/cryinandtryinpod/message2023-12-2052 minCryin' & Tryin': The Comprehensive Guide to Cultivating Emotional Intelligence in a F*&%ed Up WorldAnnouncement!Lexi shares a quick note about why they are on a break and when they expect to return.
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Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/cryinandtryinpod/message2023-12-0602 min
Cryin' & Tryin': The Comprehensive Guide to Cultivating Emotional Intelligence in a F*&%ed Up WorldS4E10 - The "Episode" Episode, Pt. 5: Feeling Your FeelingsIn this episode, Lexi breaks down their recent breakdown, AGAIN! Lately, they've been feeling overwhelmed and burnt out and their central nervous system is on overdrive, causing Lexi to be more reactive than usual. Lexi walks listeners through the experience, what they were feeling, and the reflection that followed, ultimately realizing that much of their emotional dysregulation comes from a lifetime of feeling guilty about their emotions.
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If you or someone you know is having suicidal thoughts, please get help immediately. The resources below are for listeners in the US.
😭 Suicide Prevention Hotline: 1-800-273-82...2023-10-0630 min
Cryin' & Tryin': The Comprehensive Guide to Cultivating Emotional Intelligence in a F*&%ed Up WorldS4E9 - The "Episode" Episode, Pt. 4: Activated CNS and ReactivityIn this episode, Lexi breaks down their recent breakdown! Lately, they've been feeling overwhelmed and burnt out and their central nervous system is on overdrive, causing Lexi to be more reactive than usual. Lexi walks listeners through the experience, what they were feeling, and the reflection that followed.
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If you or someone you know is having suicidal thoughts, please get help immediately. The resources below are for listeners in the US.
😭 Suicide Prevention Hotline: 1-800-273-8255
😭 Crisis Text Line: Text HOME to 741741
😭 NAMI National Warmlines (text lines and phone lines; not for crisis)
😭 RAINN Se...2023-09-2353 min
Cryin' & Tryin': The Comprehensive Guide to Cultivating Emotional Intelligence in a F*&%ed Up WorldS4E8 - Abolish For-Profit Healthcare**DISCLAIMER: The audio quality on this episode is less than stellar. We did an impromptu voice memo while it was raining on our camping trip. I have tried to clean up the audio as much as I can, so I apologize if it's difficult to understand. Will include a transcript as soon as I am able!**
While camping in the mountains with no service, Lexi and their best friend Sam talk about one reason why privatized healthcare is abhorrent. Sam is a nurse navigator for cancer patients and has to regularly tell patients with multiple health conditions that insurance...2023-09-1546 min
Cryin' & Tryin': The Comprehensive Guide to Cultivating Emotional Intelligence in a F*&%ed Up WorldS4E7 - Black Therapists Deserve BetterIn today's modern cancel culture, it seems the public is more willing to doxx marginalized folks, specifically Black people whom they disagree with, when white people saying similar things don’t receive nearly the same level of backlash. In this episode, Lexi highlights three specific instances over the past 6 months or so that involved a Black mental health care provider has been dog-piled after stating objective truths or setting personal boundaries and challenges listeners to reflect and attempt to respond to things that trigger us, rather than reacting.
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Resources from today’s episo...2023-09-0155 min
Cryin' & Tryin': The Comprehensive Guide to Cultivating Emotional Intelligence in a F*&%ed Up WorldMinisode Mondays Ep9 - Music Therapy Mini #004: "Nocturne" by Sufferer w/ ScoutIn the third installment of Scout’s breakdown of vis favorite tracks from Sufferer’s self titled EP, Lexi and Scout talk about track #7, “Nocturne.”
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Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/cryinandtryinpod/message2023-08-2111 min
Cryin' & Tryin': The Comprehensive Guide to Cultivating Emotional Intelligence in a F*&%ed Up WorldS4E6 - Unburdening Myself, Pt. 1: Communicating in RelationshipsIn this episode, Lexi reflects on the burdens that society has placed on their shoulders in regards to lifetime milestones. They struggle with feelings that they are unloved and a failure because they haven't checked the boxes of buying a house, getting married, and having kids. These feelings have come back with a vengeance around Lexi and Alex's 7 year anniversary, and Lexi shares a recent anecdote that brought them to the forefront.
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These resources are for listeners in the US:
😭 Suicide Prevention Hotline: 1-800-273-8255
😭 Crisis Text Line: Text HOME to 741741
😭 NAMI National Warmlines (text lines and phone lines; not for crisis)
😭 RAINN Sexual Assault Hotline: 800-656-4673...2023-08-1952 min
Cryin' & Tryin': The Comprehensive Guide to Cultivating Emotional Intelligence in a F*&%ed Up WorldS4E5: No Bad Parts (IFS therapy), Pt. 1Internal Family Systems is the modality of therapy that Lexi and their therapist use, and it's mantra is that all parts are welcome and there are no bad parts. In this episode, Lexi explores bringing attention to the different parts of their whole self and the feelings and emotions they bring with them. Lexi shares a poem that was impactful in their own healing, and shares a post-therapy session reflection after doing "parts work."
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Resources from today's episode:
😭 "The Guest House" by Jalaluddin Rumi
😭 No Bad Parts: Healing Trauma and Restoring Wholeness with the Internal...2023-08-1149 min
Cryin' & Tryin': The Comprehensive Guide to Cultivating Emotional Intelligence in a F*&%ed Up WorldMinisode Mondays Ep8 - Music Therapy Mini #003: "Ache" by Sufferer w/ ScoutThis music therapy minisode is a continuation of the last one, where Lexi and their friend Scout talk about, "Ache," the sixth track on Sufferer's self-titled album. This minisode ended up being an hour long as two autistic buds gushed about one of their favorite pieces of art. As a result, this is part of a minisode series.
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Would you like to be part of the show? Do you have a Menty B or some music therapy you want to share? Submit your own minisode idea at this link or send a voice message, email, or DM!
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Cryin' & Tryin': The Comprehensive Guide to Cultivating Emotional Intelligence in a F*&%ed Up WorldS4E4 - Emotional Abuse Case Studies, Pt. 1: Jonah Hill and Sarah BradyThe internet was in full debate mode recently when Sarah Brady, Jonah Hill's ex girlfriend, shared text message exchanges between her and Hill that she labeled as "emotionally abusive." A lot of people saw these texts as what they were and called it out as emotional abuse, while many others responded incredulously that this behavior was normal in a relationship.
In the episode, Lexi summarizes the text exchanges and highlights instances of manipulation and Hill trying to control his partner under the guise of "boundaries and healthy communication."
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These resources are for...2023-07-2848 min
Cryin' & Tryin': The Comprehensive Guide to Cultivating Emotional Intelligence in a F*&%ed Up WorldS4E3 - Capitalism Hates Poor People!!!!, Pt. 3: Predatory Student LoansCapitalism is designed to keep the poor poor, while making the rich richer. One of the tenets of capitalism is keeping the lower class in debt as a way to unequally distribute power. In America, wealth directly correlates to power, and when an entire generation is fed the lie that "going to college will make you successful," only to come out the other end in crippling student debt in a society where a Bachelor's degree is barely enough qualifications to make minimum wage.
In this episode, Lexi explores their own experience with predatory student...2023-07-2152 min
Cryin' & Tryin': The Comprehensive Guide to Cultivating Emotional Intelligence in a F*&%ed Up WorldS4E2 - Capitalism Hates Poor People!!!!, Pt. 2: I'm Always ExhaustedThere are so many things we should be doing to be considered successful adults: working, socializing, saving for the future, work on relationships, among other personal responsibilities. Personally, I'm trying to build some small businesses and get back in touch with what I want to be doing, not what society says I should be. But I am always exhausted. I work long days just to get home in time to eat quickly and go to bed. I'm spending all of my free time recuperating so I'm ready to go to work again. I'm never able to relax or find...2023-07-1446 min
Cryin' & Tryin': The Comprehensive Guide to Cultivating Emotional Intelligence in a F*&%ed Up WorldMinisode Mondays Ep7 - Music Therapy Mini #002: Sufferer's Self-Titled Album w/ ScoutIn this minisode, Lexi's friend Scout shares an album that holds a special place in vir heart - Sufferer's self titled album. This minisode ended up being an hour long as two autistic buds gushed about one of their favorite pieces of art. As a result, this will be a minisode series. In the first part, Scout and Lexi discuss the album in general.
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Would you like to be part of the show? Do you have a Menty B or some music therapy you want to share? Submit your own minisode idea at this link or send a voic...2023-07-1016 min
Cryin' & Tryin': The Comprehensive Guide to Cultivating Emotional Intelligence in a F*&%ed Up WorldMinisode Mondays Ep6 - Metacognition Mini #002: Working Through Feelings of InadequacyIn this minisode, Lexi explores feelings of inadequacy and demotivation when they're still depressed despite "doing all the right things" to help them get out of their funk.
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Would you like to be part of the show? Do you have a Menty B or some music therapy you want to share? Submit your own minisode idea at this link or send a voice message, email, or DM!
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If you or someone you know is having suicidal thoughts, please get help immediately. The resources below are for listeners in the...2023-07-1009 min
Cryin' & Tryin': The Comprehensive Guide to Cultivating Emotional Intelligence in a F*&%ed Up WorldS4E1 - WTF Are Boundaries, Pt. 3: Your Friends Aren't Free TherapistsWe all turn to friends for advice and venting. How do we discern when we've crossed the line, or are close to, and are relying on our friend solely for their free emotional labor? In this episode, Lexi and their best friend Sam discuss how they navigate being the "therapy friend" and setting boundaries while still helping their friends as much as possible.
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Resources from today's episodes:
😭 "How to Recognize Trauma Dumping and What To Do About It"
😭 Boundary Definition 1, 2 (DBSA Boundaries Resource)
😭 "Setting Boundaries with Yourself: An Essential Form of Self Care" by Sharon Martin
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Cryin' & Tryin': The Comprehensive Guide to Cultivating Emotional Intelligence in a F*&%ed Up WorldS3E30 - Plant Analogies for Mental HealthIn the Season 3 finale, Lexi shares some analogies that they've used to help change the way they look at their mental health and taking care of themselves.
Resources from today's episodes:
😭 Lexi's plant app
😭 "Emotional Growth: A Gardening Analogy" by John Mathews
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These resources are for listeners in the US:
😭 Suicide Prevention Hotline: 1-800-273-8255
😭 Crisis Text Line: Text HOME to 741741
😭 NAMI National Warmlines (text lines and phone lines; not for crisis)
😭 RAINN Sexual Assault Hotline: 800-656-4673 (HOPE)
😭 LBTQIA+ Support: The Trevor Project
😭 Resources for Undocumented Immigrants and Families
😭 Mental Health Resources for Black communities
😭 R...2023-05-1352 min
Cryin' & Tryin': The Comprehensive Guide to Cultivating Emotional Intelligence in a F*&%ed Up WorldS3E29 - Climate Anxiety, Pt. 1The world is dying, catastrophic weather events are happening constantly, and the future is scary. Even though climate change could be significantly impacted if major corporations did their part, they pass the buck to the individual over and over again. Over time, we start to internalize that it's our fault if the environment gets worse... but is that true? In this episode, Lexi shares how they combat climate anxiety by doing what they can, where they can to save our planet.
Resources from today’s episode:
😭 Zero Waste Store Referral
😭 Reel Referral Code code: lexihamsmith
😭 Lexi’s sustainabil...2023-05-0542 min
Cryin' & Tryin': The Comprehensive Guide to Cultivating Emotional Intelligence in a F*&%ed Up WorldMinisode Mondays Ep5: Metacognition Mini #001, Recognizing and Interrupting Unhelpful Thought PatternsIn this minisode, Lexi practices some metacognition in the moment when they have an intense reaction to a very mild response from their therapist.
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Would you like to be part of the show? Do you have a Menty B or some music therapy you want to share? Submit your own minisode idea at this link or send a voice message, email, or DM!
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If you or someone you know is having suicidal thoughts, please get help immediately. The resources below are for listeners in the US.
😭 Suicide Prevention Hotline: 988 or 1-800...2023-05-0311 min
Cryin' & Tryin': The Comprehensive Guide to Cultivating Emotional Intelligence in a F*&%ed Up WorldS3E28 - Autism Acceptance Month 2023, Pt. 3: Selective Mutism/Partially/Non-Verbal & Sensory OverwhelmIn this episode, Lex explores their experience with selective mutism and sensory overwhelm and shares responses from others about their experience with these phenomena, that many Autistic people experience.
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Resources from today’s episode:
😭 Communicating with someone nonverbal
😭 Autism and Selective Mutism Overlap
😭 Twitter post mentioned in episode
😭 Autistic Callum Post
😭 Autism Spectrum Circle Graphic
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😭 Suicide Prevention Hotline: 1-800-273-8255
😭 Crisis Text Line: Text HOME to 741741
😭 NAMI National Warmlines (text lines and phone lines; not for crisis)
😭 RAINN Sexual Assault Hotline: 800-656-4673 (HOPE)
😭 LBTQIA+ Support: The Trevor Project
😭 Resources for Undocumented Immigrants and Families
😭 Mental Health Resources...2023-04-291h 02
Cryin' & Tryin': The Comprehensive Guide to Cultivating Emotional Intelligence in a F*&%ed Up WorldS3E27 - Autism Acceptance Month 2023, Pt. 2: Overlap with Autism/Trans IdentitiesLex continues their discussion about Autism acceptance, focusing on the link between trans and gender non-conforming identities and Autism, as well as communication struggles that they've personally experienced due to their neurotype.
Resources from today’s episode:
😭 Article about link between autism and gender identity
😭 NPR article on trans link to autism
😭 Imani's Post
😭 Autism Spectrum Circle Graphic
😭 Embrace Autism (Online Autism Assessments)
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😭 Suicide Prevention Hotline: 1-800-273-8255
😭 Crisis Text Line: Text HOME to 741741
😭 NAMI National Warmlines (text lines and phone lines; not for crisis)
😭 RAINN Sexual Assault Hotline: 800-656-4673 (HOPE)
😭 LBTQIA+ Support: The Trevor Project
😭 Resources for Undocumented Imm...2023-04-2145 min
Cryin' & Tryin': The Comprehensive Guide to Cultivating Emotional Intelligence in a F*&%ed Up WorldMinisode Mondays Ep4: Menty B Mini #003, Mitigating a Menty B April '23In this minisode, Lexi reflects on how they have been preparing for the Menty B on the horizon. They know their warning signs and the patterns that they fall into, and knew this change in routine would be triggering for them. Sometimes you just have to ride the bleh out the best you can.
If you or someone you know is having suicidal thoughts, please get help immediately. The resources below are for listeners in the US.
😭 Suicide Prevention Hotline: 988 or 1-800-273-8255, call or text
😭 Crisis Text Line: Text HOME to 741741
😭 NAMI National Warmlines (text lines and phone lines...2023-04-1709 min
Cryin' & Tryin': The Comprehensive Guide to Cultivating Emotional Intelligence in a F*&%ed Up WorldS3E26 - Autism Acceptance Month 2023, Pt. 1: Late Self-DiagnosisOver the past few years, Lexi has been thinking they might be Autistic. They've followed Autistic accounts on social media, done online assessments, even read books and articles on the subject. After joining a number of neurodivergent communities, Lexi is confident they're Autistic and share how they came to that realization in this episode.
Resources from today’s episode:
😭 You Might Be Autistic Twitter Page
😭 Autistic Callum Post
😭 Autism Spectrum Circle Graphic
😭 Embrace Autism (Online Autism Assessments)
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😭 Suicide Prevention Hotline: 1-800-273-8255
😭 Crisis Text Line: Text HOME to 741741
😭 NAMI National Warmlines (text lines an...2023-04-1457 min
Cryin' & Tryin': The Comprehensive Guide to Cultivating Emotional Intelligence in a F*&%ed Up WorldS3E25 - Sexual Assault Awareness Month: Lexi's Experience with CSAApril is Sexual Assault Awareness Month. In this episode, Lexi shares details of their trauma history and their childhood sexual assault that spanned 5 years. Lexi urges us to believe victims and to be more mindful of those we interact with, as predators are most often the people we know and trust instead of a bogeyman drag queen.
*PLEASE BE ADVISED* Trigger Warning: Content may be explicit of nature and mentions potentially triggering topics such as Sexual Assault, Physical/Emotional Abuse, Suicide Attempts, Drug Use
Resources from today’s episode:...2023-04-071h 09
Cryin' & Tryin': The Comprehensive Guide to Cultivating Emotional Intelligence in a F*&%ed Up WorldMinisode Mondays Ep3 - Menty B Mini #002: April '23Join Lexi in real time as they experience and process a "Menty B" while physically ill, with a special guest appearance from their partner, Alex!
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If you or someone you know is having suicidal thoughts, please get help immediately. The resources below are for listeners in the US.
😭 Suicide Prevention Hotline: 988 or 1-800-273-8255, call or text
😭 Crisis Text Line: Text HOME to 741741
😭 NAMI National Warmlines (text lines and phone lines; not for crisis)
😭 RAINN Sexual Assault Hotline: 800-656-4673 (HOPE)
😭 LBTQIA+ Support: The Trevor Project
😭 Resources for Undocumented Immigrants and Families
😭 Mental Health Resources for Black communities
😭 Inclusive Therapists
😭 Resources for Gun Safe...2023-04-0318 min
Cryin' & Tryin': The Comprehensive Guide to Cultivating Emotional Intelligence in a F*&%ed Up WorldS3E24 - Self Care, Pt. 1: RoutinesLexi discusses a not-so-fun part of their self-care regimen: sticking to routines. It's not always fun or cool to have a consistent bedtime, to practice good sleep hygiene, and to set your day up for success. But over the past few years, Lexi has realized just how vital successful, productive routines are to their overall wellbeing.
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Resources from today’s episode:
😭 Lexi's MudWtr Referral
😭 Fitbit Premium
😭 Bearable App
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If you or someone you know is having suicidal thoughts, please get help immediately. The resources below are for listeners in the US.
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Cryin' & Tryin': The Comprehensive Guide to Cultivating Emotional Intelligence in a F*&%ed Up WorldMinisode Mondays Ep 2 - Music Therapy Mini #001: "SUPERBLOOM" by MisterWivesLexi shares one of their favorite songs and how it makes them feel. Join Lexi as they analyze how certain lyrics affect them, and even listen to the song! Send us an email or a DM if you have a song you want to share for the next Music Therapy Minisode!!!
Resources from today's episode:
😭 SUPERBLOOM by MisterWives (the album)
😭 "SUPERBLOOM" by MisterWives (the song)
😭 Lyrics for SUPERBLOOM
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If you or someone you know is having suicidal thoughts, please get help immediately. The resources below are for listeners in the US.
😭 Suicide Prevent...2023-03-2016 min
Cryin' & Tryin': The Comprehensive Guide to Cultivating Emotional Intelligence in a F*&%ed Up WorldS3E23 - Panic Attacks, Pt. 1People talk about "panic attacks" liberally, all the time, myself included. Many have said they've had panic attacks because they truly thought they had. But until you experience a true panic attack, it's difficult to discern between those and anxiety attacks. In this episode, Lexi breaks down their experience with a recent panic attack from the feelings in the moment, to the recovery.
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Resources from today's episode:
😭 "Do you Know the Difference Between Panic and Anxiety?" by McLean Hospital
😭 Panic Attacks and Panic Disorder from the Mayo Clinic
😭 "How to deal with panic attacks" from the NHS inform website
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Cryin' & Tryin': The Comprehensive Guide to Cultivating Emotional Intelligence in a F*&%ed Up WorldS3E22 - Capitalism Hates Poor People!!!!, Pt. 1Lexi reflects on how society views, treats, and talks about impoverished folks in a rant-filled episode. When we can stop applying inherent judgment to poverty and change attitudes around hustle culture, only then does it feel possible for us to start the impetus of change.
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If you or someone you know is having suicidal thoughts, please get help immediately. The resources below are for listeners in the US.
😭 Suicide Prevention Hotline: 1-800-273-8255
😭 Crisis Text Line: Text HOME to 741741
😭 NAMI National Warmlines (text lines and phone lines; not for crisis)
😭 RAINN Sexual Assault Hotl...2023-03-1030 min
Cryin' & Tryin': The Comprehensive Guide to Cultivating Emotional Intelligence in a F*&%ed Up WorldMinisode Mondays Ep1 - Menty B Mini #001: March '23Join Lexi in real-time as they experience and process a "Menty B!"
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Would you like to be part of the show? Do you have a Menty B or some music therapy you want to share? Submit your own minisode idea at this link or send a voice message, email, or DM!
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If you or someone you know is having suicidal thoughts, please get help immediately. The resources below are for listeners in the US.
😭 Suicide Prevention Hotline: 988 or 1-800-273-8255, call or text
😭 Crisis Text Line: Text HOME to 741741
😭 NAMI National War...2023-03-0716 min
Cryin' & Tryin': The Comprehensive Guide to Cultivating Emotional Intelligence in a F*&%ed Up WorldS3E21 - One Year of Cryin' & Tryin'HAPPY ONE YEAR OF CRYIN' & TRYIN'!!!
In this episode, Lexi reflects on how it doesn't feel like it's been a year of podcasting and all of the changes that have come in the past year. They share listener feedback on things they're grateful for and proud of themselves for, and share what's on the horizon for year 2.
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If you or someone you know is having suicidal thoughts, please get help immediately. The resources below are for listeners in the US.
😭 Suicide Prevention Hotline: 1-800-273-8255
😭 Crisis Text Line: Text HOME to 741...2023-03-0335 minCryin' & Tryin': The Comprehensive Guide to Cultivating Emotional Intelligence in a F*&%ed Up WorldAnnouncement!!! Anniversary Show Feedback FormHey hey hey listeners!
This Friday 3/3 is the one year anniversary of Cryin' & Tryin'!!! It wouldn't be my show without major procrastination and forgetting to plan appropriately, so sorry for the lack of notice. If you have any gratitude, struggles, or something else you wanna share with me, feel free to send feedback to this form, send me an email or DM, or send in an audio message!!
I don't know exactly what the anniversary episode will look like, and it will be shaped by YOUR participation! Can't wait to hear from y'all :)
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Cryin' & Tryin': The Comprehensive Guide to Cultivating Emotional Intelligence in a F*&%ed Up WorldMental Health check in with Talik | "Let's talk about it my brothers"I am stepping down for the month of February and instead elevating Black mental health podcasts. This week, I am elevating the show Mental Health check in with Talik, hosted by Talik Monroe. Talik brings guests on his show to discuss how their mental health is, without limits, and this is one of his favorite episodes. Please listen to this episode on Talik's channel, so his channel gets the traffic and ad revenue. If you like what you hear, consider following his work.
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"Men’s mental health chat with Andrew Lemon, Brian Thomas, Robert Mars...2023-02-241h 05
Cryin' & Tryin': The Comprehensive Guide to Cultivating Emotional Intelligence in a F*&%ed Up WorldDiversity Dish - Self Care, Black Women, Therapy, and More | Dr. Tiffany M. JenkinsI am stepping down for the month of February and instead elevating Black mental health podcasts. You'll remember Sedie from S3E10 when we discussed equity, inclusion, and social justice (one of my personal favorite episodes). This week, I am elevating Sedie's favorite episode from her own podcast, The Diversity Dish. Please listen to this episode on Sedie's channel, so her channel gets the traffic and ad revenue. If you like what you hear, consider following her work.
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"This is a DO NOT MISS episode for Black women, those who love them and those wh...2023-02-171h 05
Cryin' & Tryin': The Comprehensive Guide to Cultivating Emotional Intelligence in a F*&%ed Up WorldWine, Weed, and Whispers - Ep. 103 - Why Don't They Just Leave?I am stepping down for the month of February and instead elevating Black mental health podcasts. Please listen to this episode on Wine, Weed, and Whisper's channel, hosted by Taylor, Cass, Eleanor, and Erika, so their channel gets the traffic and ad revenue.
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If you or someone you know is having suicidal thoughts, p...2023-02-101h 08
Cryin' & Tryin': The Comprehensive Guide to Cultivating Emotional Intelligence in a F*&%ed Up WorldRelatively Normal - S4 - Ep81 - The Uncommon Strength of Black Women with Danese WrightI am stepping down for the month of February and instead elevating Black mental health podcasts. Please listen to this episode on Marc Paisant's channel so his channel gets the traffic and he gets his ad revenue. You can listen to the episode on his page here: S4 - Ep81 - The Uncommon Strength of Black Women with Danese Wright
"We all carry around stress. We all have inner demons that we have the hide under the guise that everything is alright. We all have to pick our times to be vulnerable while putting on a strong ac...2023-02-0349 min
Cryin' & Tryin': The Comprehensive Guide to Cultivating Emotional Intelligence in a F*&%ed Up WorldS3E20 - The "Episode" Episode, Pt. 3: Depression and Anxiety After Rationing MedicationMany people in the US are having difficulties obtaining their medication for a variety of reasons. Lexi had to ration their anxiety medication through most of January '23. In this episode, Lexi reflects on the difficulties with not having medication refilled when needed and how they are adjusting their daily life to accommodate for the side effects of medication withdrawal.
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If you or someone you know is having suicidal thoughts, please get help immediately. The resources below are for listeners in the US.
😭 Suicide Prevention Hotline: 1-800-273-8255
😭 Crisis Text Line: Text HOME t...2023-01-2724 min
Cryin' & Tryin': The Comprehensive Guide to Cultivating Emotional Intelligence in a F*&%ed Up WorldS3E19 - Coping Skills, Pt. 3: Moving Away From Judging How we Cope w/ MaxHumans like to put things into categories: good and bad, healthy and unhealthy. While categorizing helps inform us, it also lends itself to bias. When we label the things we do as "bad" or "unhealthy" it's only natural for us to feel guilty for engaging in those behaviors, even when those very behaviors are the only things helping us to survive. Lexi and guest Max share their thoughts on judging our coping mechanisms and how this can ultimately harm us in our journey to healing.
Resources from today's episode:
😭 Episodes on Coping Skills: Part 1 and Part 2
😭 IG post...2023-01-2250 min
Cryin' & Tryin': The Comprehensive Guide to Cultivating Emotional Intelligence in a F*&%ed Up WorldS3E18 - Spiritual Ascension by Cherie Amour w/ Trey Miller, Pt. 2In part 2 of the interview with Trey Miller, lead singer of nu-punk band Cherie Amour, continue their discussion of how music has impacted their mental health. Trey reflects on the nuances of being a Black man in the rock scene and the pair discusses the impact of music on the individual and how it connects us all.
Resources from today's episode:
😭 Cherie Amour's Website
😭 Cherie Amour on Equal Vision Records
😭 Listen to Spiritual Ascension NOW!
😭 Trey's playlist from his interview on VIPlaylist
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If you or someone you know is having suicidal thoughts, please get he...2023-01-1449 min
Cryin' & Tryin': The Comprehensive Guide to Cultivating Emotional Intelligence in a F*&%ed Up WorldS3E17 - Spiritual Ascension by Cherie Amour w/ Trey Miller, Pt. 1Lexi and vocalist from nu-punk band Cherie Amour, Trey Miller, discuss how music has helped us to heal, build community, and connect with others. The discussion starts with the themes of mental health and spirituality in the band's debut EP, Spiritual Ascension. Trey and Lexi commiserate over how capitalism has affected our mental health and how we both feel happiest divesting from late stage capitalism and following our passions.
Resources from today's episode:
😭 Cherie Amour's Website
😭 Cherie Amour on Equal Vision Records
😭 Listen to Spiritual Ascension NOW!
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If you or someone you know is h...2023-01-0655 minCryin' & Tryin': The Comprehensive Guide to Cultivating Emotional Intelligence in a F*&%ed Up WorldS3E16 - Coping Skills, Pt. 2: Establishing a Gratitude PracticeA gratitude practice has been vital to maintaining peace and wellness for Lexi. It may seem silly, but challenging ourselves to find things to be appreciative of actually changes the neural pathways in our brains. By starting a gratitude practice, you're giving yourself permission to view the world through a new lens. Lexi shares their experience with gratitude and how it has helped change their perspective.
Resources from today's episode:
😭 The Gratitude Jar: A Simple Guide to Creating Miracles by Josie Robinson
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If you or someone you know is having suicidal thoughts, pleas...2022-12-3039 min
Cryin' & Tryin': The Comprehensive Guide to Cultivating Emotional Intelligence in a F*&%ed Up WorldS3E15 - F Capitalism, Pt 1: Therapy is a Band-Aid SolutionWhile therapy can be beneficial, and in some cases necessary, the root of the problem is that we continue to uphold oppressive systems by pathologizing normal reactions to living under late stage capitalism.
Resources from today’s episode:
😭 @WhatRadicalizedYou twitter thread
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If you or someone you know is having suicidal thoughts, please get help immediately. The resources below are for listeners in the US.
😭 Suicide Prevention Hotline: 1-800-273-8255
😭 Crisis Text Line: Text HOME to 741741
😭 NAMI National Warmlines (text lines and phone lines; not for crisis)
😭 RAINN Sexual Assault Hotline: 800-656-4673 (HOPE)
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Cryin' & Tryin': The Comprehensive Guide to Cultivating Emotional Intelligence in a F*&%ed Up WorldS3E14 - It's Okay to Be... Okay?"It's okay not to be okay" is something we hear all the time. This phrase helps people who are struggling to stop berating themselves for being a human being. However, for those of us who have been struggling for an extended period of time, being OKAY and well is uncomfortable. We are so used to being in fight or flight mode and hyper vigilant of our surroundings. Or we’ve accepted that we will always feel numb and flat. So when the pain and depression subside, we don’t know what to do with ourselves. This episode is a refl...2022-12-1641 min
Cryin' & Tryin': The Comprehensive Guide to Cultivating Emotional Intelligence in a F*&%ed Up WorldS3E13 - Eating Disorders, Pt. 3: Tips to Improve Your Relationship with Food w/ Laura KilclineRegistered Dietician, Laura Kilcline, is back to talk eating disorders with Lexi. The discussion touches on mindset, habits, and how society impacts our ideas around fueling our bodies. Laura also shares some of her tips and tricks for improving how you approach your relationship with food and nutrition.
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Resources from today’s episode:
😭 Laura’s Nutrition Business
😭 Laura’s Podcast - The Rhode to Fueling Better
😭 NEDA Helpline & Resources
😭 NEDA Eating Disorders Screening Tool
😭 Eating Disorder Warning Signs and Symptoms from NEDA
😭 10 Steps to Positive Body Image from NEDA
😭 Laura's pod episode on quick fixes and nutrition red...2022-12-0948 minCryin' & Tryin': The Comprehensive Guide to Cultivating Emotional Intelligence in a F*&%ed Up WorldS3E12 - Eating Disorders, Pt. 2: Clinical Perspective w/ Laura KilclineLexi brings Registered Dietitian and friend Laura Kilcine on to continue the discussion about nutrition, eating disorders, and mental health. Laura has always been a foodie and loves that her professional life involves helping people to improve their relationship with food. In this episode, Laura explains what exactly EDs are in clinical terms, what work with her clients can look like, and how one might start treating an ED.
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Resources from today’s episode:
😭 Laura’s Nutrition Business
😭 Laura’s Podcast - The Rhode to Fueling Better
😭 NEDA Helpline & Resources
😭 NEDA Eating Disorders Screening Tool
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Cryin' & Tryin': The Comprehensive Guide to Cultivating Emotional Intelligence in a F*&%ed Up WorldS3E11 - Intro to Trauma w/ Therapist Karen RobinsonTrauma is complex, and healing from trauma can seem impossible. This week’s guest, Karen Robinson, is both a survivor and a trauma recovery expert. She shares her perspective on different trauma treatments, explains how community is vital to heal, and provides some resources for listeners to begin their own healing process.
Resources from today’s episode:
😭 The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma by Bessel Van der Kolk
😭 What My Bones Know: A Memoir of Healing from Complex Trauma by Stephanie Foo
😭 Heal, Thrive, Dream (Karen’s company)
😭 Karen’s Hope Tool
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Cryin' & Tryin': The Comprehensive Guide to Cultivating Emotional Intelligence in a F*&%ed Up WorldS3E10 - Equity, Inclusion, & Social Justice w/ Sedie MaruskaDEI is one of the latest buzzwords (buzzphrases?) in the corporate world. It seems like almost all companies are trying to fill diversity quotas, but they’re missing the mark on actually making the workplace equitable and inclusive. In this episode, Lexi chats with social justice and equity, inclusion, and diversity consultant, Sedruola (Sedie) Maruska about how we can really begin to move towards a more inclusive and equitable society, by starting to take care of ourselves.
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Resources from today’s episode:
😭 Equity vs. Equality Picture
😭 Sedie’s Website
😭 Sedie’s Podcast - Diversity Dish
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Cryin' & Tryin': The Comprehensive Guide to Cultivating Emotional Intelligence in a F*&%ed Up WorldS3E9 - Intro to Cognitive Distortions w/ Kim Watson"I'm the stupidest person in the world!" You always ignore me." "Everybody is looking at me and thinks I look weird." We all experience cognitive distortions, a negative way of thinking our brains default to, on a daily basis that impact the way we view the world. But what exactly are they? And what can we do about them? Lexi and their friend Kim share a list of 15 common cognitive distortions that our brains often use to trick us on a daily basis. Are there certain distortions you tend to utilize the most?
Resources from today’s ep...2022-11-1153 min
Cryin' & Tryin': The Comprehensive Guide to Cultivating Emotional Intelligence in a F*&%ed Up WorldS3E8 - Race, Body Image, & Mental Health, Pt. 2 w/ Marc Paisant of the Relatively Normal podcastIn this continuation of S3E7, Lexi and Marc continue their discussion about race and body image. This episode touches on topics of self-acceptance, self-judgment, and thanking past versions of ourselves for doing the best we could.
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Resources from today’s episode:
😭 Marc’s Podcast, Relatively Normal
😭 Seeing White from Scene On Radio (the podcast that Lexi mentioned about the history of racism in America)
😭 “The 10 R’s of Talking About Race: How to Have Meaningful Conversations” by Dwight Smith
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If you or someone you know is having suicidal thoughts, please get...2022-11-0437 min
Cryin' & Tryin': The Comprehensive Guide to Cultivating Emotional Intelligence in a F*&%ed Up WorldS3E7 - Race, Body Image, & Mental Health, Pt. 1: Sitting in Discomfort w/ Marc Paisant of the Relatively Normal podcastLexi chats with friend and host of the Relatively Normal podcast, Marc Paisant about race, mental health, and sitting with discomfort in this episode. This is the first part of a series exploring Marc’s experience as a Black man in America who is managing his mental health. Lexi & Marc begin by discussing the relationship between Black and white communities today and how to approach unlearning racism and having tough, uncomfortable conversations in order to grow.
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Resources from today’s episode:
😭 Marc’s Podcast, Relatively Normal
😭 Seeing White from Scene On Radio (the podcast that...2022-10-2842 min
Cryin' & Tryin': The Comprehensive Guide to Cultivating Emotional Intelligence in a F*&%ed Up WorldS3E6 - EQ, Pt. 3: The RULER Method ExampleRegulating our emotions & expressing them appropriately is one of the keys to cultivating emotional intelligence (EQ) & improving our daily lives. In the second episode, Lexi introduced the RULER Method of emotional regulation & some tools for identifying emotions, & In this continuation of the EQ series, Lexi walks through how they used the RULER method to navigate a personal conflict.
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Resources from today’s episode:
😭 RULER Method
😭 Mood Meter for Kids
😭 Mood Meter app
😭 Feelings wheel
😭 Writing For Emotional Balance: A Guided Journal to Help You Manage Overwhelming Emotions by Beth Jacobs
😭Start Where You Are: A Journal for Se...2022-10-2123 min
Cryin' & Tryin': The Comprehensive Guide to Cultivating Emotional Intelligence in a F*&%ed Up WorldS3E5 - Intro to Coping Skills w/ John RosenbergerHow do you cope with stressful situations and unexpected life changes? How do you handle the stressors of everyday life and things out of your control? In this episode, Lexi and friend John Rosenberger discuss these questions and more! They explore different categories of coping skills, their own go-to strategies, and pros and cons of different classes of coping strategies.
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Resources from today’s episode:
😭 Coping Skills Definition
😭"Stress: Coping with Life's Stressors"
😭 Coping Skills Handout
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If you or someone you know is having suicidal thoughts, please get help immediately...2022-10-1952 min
Cryin' & Tryin': The Comprehensive Guide to Cultivating Emotional Intelligence in a F*&%ed Up WorldS3E4 - Traumatic Brain Injuries & Inclusive Fitness Practices w/ Gabby BrostLexi interviews Gabby Brost, a triple strength sports athlete and inclusive & trauma-mindful strength and fitness coach about her traumatic brain injury and neuropsychological evaluation that followed. They discuss how life has changed since Gabby’s TBI, medication and symptom management, and what inclusive fitness really means and looks like.
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Resources from today’s episode:
😭Neuropsychological Evaluation FAQ by UNC Med School
😭 Gabby’s “Fitness and Neurodivergence” post
😭 Gabby’s “Self-Sabotage vs. Willpower” post
😭 Gabby’s “Health is more than physical” post
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If you or someone you know is having suicidal thoughts, please get help...2022-10-071h 12
Cryin' & Tryin': The Comprehensive Guide to Cultivating Emotional Intelligence in a F*&%ed Up WorldS3E3 - It's My Birthday and I'll Cry If I Want ToIt's Lexi's 30th birthday! They share some reflection on why birthdays have been difficult historically and how they are taking back the power in celebrating your life.
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Resources from today’s episode:
😭 Donate to the Black Trans Coalition for Lexi's birthday
😭 Donate to the Black Trans Alliance for Lexi's birthday
😭 Donate to WRAPP (Reproductive Justice) for Lexi's birthday
😭 Donate to the Amazon Labor Union for Lexi's birthday
😭 90s baby playlist
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If you or someone you know is having suicidal thoughts, please get help immediately. The resources below are for listeners in the...2022-09-3026 min
Cryin' & Tryin': The Comprehensive Guide to Cultivating Emotional Intelligence in a F*&%ed Up WorldS3E2 - Navigating Social Security Disability w/ Spencer BishinsIf you’re disabled and unable to work, the process for obtaining disability benefits (SSDI) is difficult to navigate and many get denied multiple times. Spencer Bishins, attorney and the author of Social Security Disability Revealed: Why it’s so hard to access benefits and what you can do about it, was a decision writer within the Social Security Administration. He shares information about the process of securing benefits, what to know before you apply, and also his perspective on how we can fix this broken system.
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Resources from today’s episode:
😭 Spencer’s Website
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Cryin' & Tryin': The Comprehensive Guide to Cultivating Emotional Intelligence in a F*&%ed Up WorldS2E13: The "Episode" Episode, Pt. 3: Aug '22 AnxietyBody
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Cryin' & Tryin': The Comprehensive Guide to Cultivating Emotional Intelligence in a F*&%ed Up WorldS3E1 - Suicide Awareness is not Suicide PreventionIn the Season 3 premiere, Lexi shares an update on their current mental state and their own experience with suicidal ideations. They also acknowledge that as a society, just sharing a post or having a ribbon is not suicide prevention. Rather, that real fundamental change of the oppressive capitalistic regime in which we live is the only true path to liberation and suicide prevention.
TRIGGER WARNING: This episode heavily discusses suicidal ideation and suicide attempts.
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Resources from today’s episode:
😭 "988 is not friendly" IG post by Liz Wins
😭 "Social media posts warn people not...2022-09-0141 min
Cryin' & Tryin': The Comprehensive Guide to Cultivating Emotional Intelligence in a F*&%ed Up WorldS2E12 - The "Episode" Episode, Pt. 2: Aug '22 DepressionIn their first solo episode, Lexi shares about their current depressive episode, the things they are struggling with, and some analogies helpful to them about riding the wave of emotions instead of fighting them.
TRIGGER WARNING: This episode discusses suicidal ideation at 21:40. Sorry about the audio quality!
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If you or someone you know is having suicidal thoughts, please get help immediately. The resources below are for listeners in the US.
😭 Suicide Prevention Hotline: 988 or 1-800-273-8255, call or text
😭 Crisis Text Line: Text HOME to 741741
😭 NAMI National Warmlines (text lines and phone l...2022-08-2640 min
Cryin' & Tryin': The Comprehensive Guide to Cultivating Emotional Intelligence in a F*&%ed Up WorldS2E11: Using Nature to Soothe Your Soul w/ Sam AlmeidaFor the past four summers, Lexi and their best friend Sam have camped in the White Mountains, New Hampshire. This annual trip has become a necessity, and the besties explain why it’s a vital part of their self care and why getting outside should be part of yours too.
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Resources from today’s episode:
😭 Spend Time in Nature to Reduce Stress and Anxiety
😭 Nature and Mental Health:
😭 What On Earth is “Grounding” and is it good for you?
😭 Relate: One Human to Another by Tucker K. Sullivan
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Cryin' & Tryin': The Comprehensive Guide to Cultivating Emotional Intelligence in a F*&%ed Up WorldS2E10 - Eating Disorders, Pt. 1: Lived Experience w/ Jennifer BrennanLexi talks to their friend Jennifer Brennan about her lived experience with disordered eating, something that is still a daily struggle. Jen is a Certified Personal Trainer & health coach who has dedicated her life to helping people feel good & strong in their bodies, without the added shame and guilt society puts on us.
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Resources from today’s episode (if you think you have an ED, please seek help from licensed professionals including therapists, doctors, and registered dieticians):
😭 National Eating Disorders Association
😭 What are Eating Disorders? From American Psychiatric Association
😭 NASM Personal Trainer Guidelines on Nutrition...2022-08-121h 18
Cryin' & Tryin': The Comprehensive Guide to Cultivating Emotional Intelligence in a F*&%ed Up WorldS2E9 - Acute Partial Hospitalization Programs (APHP), Pt. 2: How Partial Changed Our Lives w/ Larissa MaidenIn this continuation of the APHP series, Lexi and Larissa, discuss the day-to-day in their respective programs, what they got out of the program, and ultimately how partial changed their lives for the better. Discussions also include difficult aspects about putting your mental health first. Curious about the skills you might learn or what group therapy settings look like? Take a listen!
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Resources from today's episode:
😭 Lexi’s APHP (Carney Hospital in Boston, MA)
😭 Larissa’s APHP (Beckett Springs Changes in Dayton, OH)
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If you or someone you know is having sui...2022-08-0559 min
Cryin' & Tryin': The Comprehensive Guide to Cultivating Emotional Intelligence in a F*&%ed Up WorldS2E8 - Acute Partial Hospitalization Programs (APHP), Pt. 1: Deciding to Go w/ Larissa MaidenWhat should you do if you need extra support measures but do not want to be inpatient/committed? Acute partial hospitalization programs (APHP) are an excellent option! Larissa joins Lexi once more as they discuss what lead up to them both deciding a partial program was right for them and what their experiences looked like.
TRIGGER WARNING: This episode discusses being suicidal and suicidal ideations.
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😭 Lexi’s APHP (Carney Hospital in Boston, MA)
😭 Larissa’s APHP (Beckett Springs Changes in Dayton, OH)
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If you or someone you know is having suicidal...2022-07-2934 min
Cryin' & Tryin': The Comprehensive Guide to Cultivating Emotional Intelligence in a F*&%ed Up WorldS2E7: Men's Mental Health, Pt. 2: Starting a Peer Program w/ Chris LalaveeThis week’s guest Chris Lalavee is the founder of the International Union of Operating Engineers (IUOE) Local 825 Members Assistance Program out of New Jersey. Chris shares his story of struggling with his mental health as a construction worker and tells us how his lived experience helped him create positive change within his community.
TRIGGER WARNING: This episode discusses suicide at 18:18, 24:21, 36:02, 51:33, and 1:06:13. There are also discussions of substance abuse and overdoses throughout.
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Resources from today’s episode:
😭 Dr. Sally Spencer
😭 IUOE 825
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If you or someone you know is having...2022-07-221h 15
Cryin' & Tryin': The Comprehensive Guide to Cultivating Emotional Intelligence in a F*&%ed Up WorldS2E6 - Compassion Fatigue w/ Sam AlmeidaLexi welcomes Sam back to the podcast to discuss something every empath experiences: compassion fatigue. We discuss our experience in caretaking fields where burnout is so high, and some of our tips for coping when you’re numb to every new tragedy.
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Resources from today's episode:
😭 Skimm This Podcast
😭 The Cost of Caring: 10 Ways to Prevent Compassion Fatigue
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If you or someone you know is having suicidal thoughts, please get help immediately. The resources below are for listeners in the US.
😭 Suicide Prevention Hotline: 988 or 1-800-273-8255, call or text...2022-07-151h 13
Cryin' & Tryin': The Comprehensive Guide to Cultivating Emotional Intelligence in a F*&%ed Up WorldS2E5 - Men's Mental Health, Pt. 1 w/ Chris Cogswell of the Mad Scientist PodcastChris Cogswell, co-host of The Mad Scientist Podcast joins Lexi to discuss his mental health experience as a man in America, and barriers to mental health care for men & how we can begin breaking those down.
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Resources from today’s episode: (feel free to add anything you reference in notes or think would be helpful
😭 Chris’ The Mad Scientist Podcast
😭 5 Minute Guide to Men’s Mental Health
😭 Mental Health by the Numbers
😭 Movember
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If you or someone you know is having suicidal thoughts, please get help immediately. The resources below are for liste...2022-07-081h 14
Cryin' & Tryin': The Comprehensive Guide to Cultivating Emotional Intelligence in a F*&%ed Up WorldS2E4 - Stepping Into Your Identity, Pt. 4: Going No Contact w/ ChenniIn this continuation from S2E3, Chenni tells us what lead to her cutting out a toxic family member. She shares how her mental health was affected leading up to and after making that choice, and celebrates the freedom that came with it.
TRIGGER WARNING: There is talk of suicide/narcissistic abuse at timestamp 9:30. This entire episode briefly comes back to narcissistic abuse.
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Resources from today’s episode:
😭 The Ultimate No Contact Guide by Matt Fox
😭 Going No Contact with a Parent: What to Expect and More by Rena Goldman
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Cryin' & Tryin': The Comprehensive Guide to Cultivating Emotional Intelligence in a F*&%ed Up WorldS2E3 - Stepping Into Your Identity, Pt. 3: Coming Out with Unsupportive Family w/ ChenniHappy Pride!!! This episode’s guest, Chenni, shares her coming out journey. Lexi and Chenni discuss how leaning into your authentic self can be difficult, but how there is nothing more freeing than living your truth (even if it means going no contact with a loved one).
TRIGGER WARNING: We discuss narcissistic abuse at 9:51, 21:00, talk of euthanizing gay people at 31:35, and suicidal ideation at 35:37 in this episode.
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Resources from today’s episode:
😭 The Coming Out Handbook
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If you or someone you know is having suicidal thoughts, please get hel...2022-06-2447 min
Cryin' & Tryin': The Comprehensive Guide to Cultivating Emotional Intelligence in a F*&%ed Up WorldS2E2 - Stepping Into Your Identity, Pt. 2: Societal Impacts on Identity w/ Larissa MaidenLarissa returns for part two of the last episode. Lexi and Larissa discuss how politics and religion can play into gender identity, how misgendering affects us, and some feel good stories about navigating our new identities.
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Resources from today’s episode:
😭 “The history of non-binary genders is longer than you know” by Meg Leach on The Tempest
😭 Information on Pronouns and How to Use Them
😭 How to Get Better at New Pronouns by @tai.draws on instagram
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If you or someone you know is having suicidal thoughts, please get help immediatel...2022-06-1740 min
Cryin' & Tryin': The Comprehensive Guide to Cultivating Emotional Intelligence in a F*&%ed Up WorldS2E1 - Stepping Into Your Identity, Pt. 1: Coming Out as Nonbinary w/ Larissa MaidenHappy Pride!!! This episode’s guest, Larissa Maiden, will share their experience with changing identities, coming out, and how living your truth can impact your mental health, for better or worse.
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Resources from today’s episode:
😭 Information on Pronouns and How to Use Them
😭 The Coming Out Handbook
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If you or someone you know is having suicidal thoughts, please get help immediately. The resources below are for listeners in the US.
😭 Suicide Prevention Hotline: 988 or 1-800-273-8255, call or text
😭 Crisis Text Line: Text HOME to 741741
😭 NAMI National Warmlines...2022-06-1047 min
Cryin' & Tryin': The Comprehensive Guide to Cultivating Emotional Intelligence in a F*&%ed Up WorldS1E10 - Support Networks, Pt. 1: How to Support A Loved One Who's StrugglingHow do you respond if someone discloses trauma or needs support as they navigate their mental health? We wish the answer was simple, but it isn’t one size fits all. In this episode, we share some tips and strategies for how to support a loved one and things to avoid. Thank you, Luke, for this topic suggestion!
FYI - Ally has since left the show and Lexi is now the sole host.
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Resources from today’s episode:
😭 Tips for How to Help a Person with Mental Illness from NAMI
😭 How to Support...2022-05-2049 min
Cryin' & Tryin': The Comprehensive Guide to Cultivating Emotional Intelligence in a F*&%ed Up WorldS1E9 - Therapy 101, Pt. 2: Modalities of TherapyIn this continuation of the Therapy 101 mini-series, Ally & Lexi give brief overviews of some common types of therapy in the mental health sphere today. They share their own experiences using different modalities & discuss pros/cons of each.
TRIGGER WARNING: Brief mention of sexual abuse @24:52. Brief mention of self-harm, disordered (binge) eating @38:40.
FYI - Ally has since left the show & Lexi is now the sole host.
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Resources from today’s episode:
😭 CBT: Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT)
😭 Dialectical Behavioral Therapy (DBT)
😭 Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR)
😭 Internal Family Systems (IFS)
😭 No Bad Parts: Heal...2022-05-0650 min
Cryin' & Tryin': The Comprehensive Guide to Cultivating Emotional Intelligence in a F*&%ed Up WorldS1E8 - Autism: Acceptance and Controversy in the CommunityApril is Autism Acceptance month. Ally works with many autistic people on a daily basis and will be taking the lead to help us understand what autism is and some controversial topics within the community.
Resources from today’s episode:
😭 "Autism Speaks Facts" from Autistic Advocacy
😭 “The biggest autism advocacy group is still failing too many autistics” by Sara Luterman
😭 "The Problem with the Autism Puzzle Piece" by Richard Coffey
😭 "Why the Puzzle Piece Symbol for Autism Awareness Doesn’t Do It For Me" by Lauren Jordan
😭 "Ableist history of the puzzle piece in autism" by Cassandra Crosman
😭 "Is...2022-04-291h 04
Cryin' & Tryin': The Comprehensive Guide to Cultivating Emotional Intelligence in a F*&%ed Up WorldS1E7 - The "Episode" Episode, Pt. 1: April '22Lexi gets vulnerable and shares their feelings during and how they were able to get out of a recent depressive episode.
FYI - Ally has since left the show and Lexi is now the sole host.
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Resources from today’s episode:
😭 Safety Plan
😭 “The Golden Child” post by @the.holistic.psychologist
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If you or someone you know is having suicidal thoughts, please get help immediately. The resources below are for listeners in the US.
😭 Suicide Prevention Hotline: 988 or 1-800-273-8255, call or text
😭 Crisis Text Line: Text HOME to 74174...2022-04-2543 min
Cryin' & Tryin': The Comprehensive Guide to Cultivating Emotional Intelligence in a F*&%ed Up WorldS1E6 - WTF are Boundaries? Pt. 2: Work & Family w/ Sam AlmeidaSam returns to the pod to continue discussing what makes boundaries, especially those with work and family, so challenging to set and stick to, and why tahini is so important.
FYI - Ally has since left the podcast and Lexi is now the sole host.
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Resources from today's episode:
😭 DBSA Boundaries Resource
😭 "Setting Boundaries with Yourself: An Essential Form of Self Care" by Sharon Martin
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If you or someone you know is having suicidal thoughts, please get help immediately. The resources below are for listeners in the US.2022-04-1156 min
Cryin' & Tryin': The Comprehensive Guide to Cultivating Emotional Intelligence in a F*&%ed Up WorldS1E5 - Therapy 101, Pt. 1: Ally & Lex's JourneysIn this episode, Lexi and Ally break down where you start if you’re interested in trying therapy. They discuss their own therapy histories as well as some of their advice for finding the “right fit” therapist for you! TRIGGER WARNING: We discuss suicidal ideations at 6:45, sexual assault at 17:07, and self harm at 31:08.
FYI - Ally has since left the show and Lexi is now the sole host.
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Resources from today’s episode:
If you want to check out Laura, Nikki, or their podcasts you can find them at @balanced.fueling...2022-04-0652 min
Cryin' & Tryin': The Comprehensive Guide to Cultivating Emotional Intelligence in a F*&%ed Up WorldS1E4 - WTF are boundaries? Pt. 1: Self & Others w/ Sam AlmeidaAlly, Lexi, and their best friend Sam contemplate the question: “What the F are boundaries and why do we need them?” They discuss why boundaries are so difficult and some tips for setting your own with yourself.
FYI: Ally has since left the show and Lexi is the sole host.
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Resources from today's episode:
😭 Boundary Definition 1, 2 (DBSA Boundaries Resource)
😭 "Setting Boundaries with Yourself: An Essential Form of Self Care" by Sharon Martin
😭 The Life-Changing Magic of Not Giving a Fuck Journal by Sarah Knight (boundaries work guided journal)
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If you or s...2022-04-0151 min
Cryin' & Tryin': The Comprehensive Guide to Cultivating Emotional Intelligence in a F*&%ed Up WorldS1E3 - EQ Pt. 2: Tools for Identifying EmotionsAlly and Lexi dive deeper into understanding emotional intelligence with some real life examples of how to utilize the RULER method. This episode's focal question is "how can I actually use the RULER method?" They also introduce two tools often used for recognizing emotions: the mood meter and the feelings wheel.
FYI - Ally has since left the show and Lexi is now the sole host.
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Resources from today’s episode:
😭 RULER Method
😭 Mood Meter for Kids
😭 Mood Meter app
😭 Feelings wheel
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If you or someone you know is having...2022-03-2844 min
Cryin' & Tryin': The Comprehensive Guide to Cultivating Emotional Intelligence in a F*&%ed Up WorldS1E2 - Intro to EQ: The RULER MethodThis week, Lexi and Ally discuss the fundamental question “What is the key to understanding the self, improving communication, and having healthy relationships?” We explore emotional intelligence, one method you can use to strengthen this skill, and discuss barriers to accessibility for implementing this across society.
FYI - Ally has since left the show and Lexi is the sole host.
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Resources from today’s episode:
😭 RULER Method
😭 Teaching Emotion Regulation in Schools: Translating Research Into Practice With the RULER Approach to Social and Emotional Learning by Hoffman et. al.
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If you...2022-03-1843 min
Cryin' & Tryin': The Comprehensive Guide to Cultivating Emotional Intelligence in a F*&%ed Up WorldS1E1 - Get to Know Us!Lexi and Ally introduce who they are and set the stage for the podcast. We ask the fundamental question: Why are we here and why should you listen to us?
FYI - Ally has since left the show and Lexi is the sole host.
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If you or someone you know is having suicidal thoughts, please get help immediately. The resources below are for listeners in the US.
😭 Suicide Prevention Hotline: 988 or 1-800-273-8255, call or text
😭 Crisis Text Line: Text HOME to 741741
😭 NAMI National Warmlines (text lines and phone lines; not for c...2022-03-0334 min