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Making Polyamory WorkIndividuation and Navigating Differences with Joli HamiltonWhat happens when exploring different relationship styles reveals uncomfortable differences between you and a partner? In this episode, Libby talks with Dr. Joli Hamilton about polyamory as a sacred process of individuation and grief.
Joli's website: https://www.jolihamilton.com/
The Year of Opening: https://www.jolihamilton.com/TYO
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2024-01-3029 min
Making Polyamory WorkSolo Polyamory with Crystal Byrd FarmerLong-requested, Libby discusses solo polyamory with Crystal Byrd Farmer, author, organizer, diversity consultant.. and solo polyamorist.
SHOW LINKS:
Crystal's website: https://crystalbyrdfarmer.com/
Crystal's book: https://newsociety.com/books/t/the-token
Solo polyamory: https://solopoly.net/2014/12/05/what-is-solo-polyamory-my-take/
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2024-01-2359 min
Making Polyamory WorkPolyamory and Neurodivergence with Alyssa Gonzalez Pt 2In this part 2, Libby and Alyssa talk through some of the challenges that can show up in nonmonogamy for people who are neurodiverse
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2024-01-0235 min
Making Polyamory WorkPolyamory and Neurodivergence with Alyssa Gonzalez Pt. 1Libby and Alyssa discuss being neurodiverse and how polyamory and being neurodiverse can complement each other beautifully.
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2023-12-2651 min
Making Polyamory WorkTriangulationTriangles show up in relationships all over the place. In this episode Libby discusses triangulation, what it is, common ways it can show up in polyamory, and whether triangulation can harm or help.
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2023-12-1929 min
Making Polyamory WorkWhen I Don't Use BoundariesLibby talks through when she personally does NOT opt for boundaries, and why boundaries are often the last move she will make in navigating relationship difficulties.
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2023-12-1222 min
Making Polyamory WorkWhat is a Boundary Violation? with Juliane Taylor ShoreLibby and Jules answer a listener who asks, "If boundaries are between you and you, then what is a boundary violation?" Jules also goes over her 6 steps to setting an external boundary.
Jules' Website: https://www.julianetaylorshore.com/
Jules Book, Setting Boundaries that Stick: https://bookshop.org/p/books/setting-boundaries-that-stick-how-neurobiology-can-help-you-rewire-your-brain-to-feel-safe-connected-and-empowered-juliane-taylor-shore/19642175
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2023-12-0548 min
Making Polyamory WorkYour Brain on Boundaries with Juliane Taylor ShoreLibby is joined by author and therapist Juliane Taylor Shore to talk about internal boundaries and how crucial they are (even though they are often not talked about or overlooked when people talk about boundaries.)
Jules' Website: https://www.julianetaylorshore.com/
Jules Book, Setting Boundaries that Stick: https://bookshop.org/p/books/setting-boundaries-that-stick-how-neurobiology-can-help-you-rewire-your-brain-to-feel-safe-connected-and-empowered-juliane-taylor-shore/19642175
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2023-11-2844 min
Making Polyamory WorkCodependenceThe word "codependent" comes up a lot in polyamory spaces, but so often it is misused that it's losing its meaning. Libby talks about her dislike of the term, how she thinks it often is used to shame and pathologize perfectly normal human needs, and how she likes to talk about codependence differently.
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2023-11-2123 min
Making Polyamory WorkBoundaries Aren't MagicA lot of people are talking about boundaries now. But as Inigo Montoya once said, "You keep using that word. I do not think it means what you think it means." In this episode Libby explains that boundaries are not a magic way to get people to do what you want them to do.
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2023-11-1422 min
Making Polyamory WorkDating as a CoupleNothing is a hot-button topic quite like a couple looking to date the same person. A lot of people have only one piece of advice, "Don't," often served with heaping portions of shame and ridicule. Yet, year after year, established couples seek to find a shared partner, and many folks also seek relationships with established couples. Is there something to this? In this episode, Libby offers some thoughts on why you might want to date as a couple (or date a couple) and some helpful ideas on how to do this well.
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2023-11-0742 min
Making Polyamory WorkPolyamory After an AffairIncreasingly, Libby hears from folks who are interested in polyamory to solve a problem: either they or their partner cheated, and they want to repair and stay together, and nonmonogamy seems like a solution. In this episode, Libby outlines why it's rarely that simple.
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2023-10-3143 min
Making Polyamory WorkThe Heart Wants What it WantsLibby offers an uncomfortable but necessary reality check: love alone doesn't conquer all.
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2023-04-2526 min
Making Polyamory WorkUhaulingMaybe you know the joke, maybe you don't, but showing up for a second date with a uhaul can be risky. In this episode, Libby goes over why she thinks cohabiting during the new relationship energy (NRE) phase might not be the best idea, and what to do instead.
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2023-04-1831 min
Making Polyamory WorkWhat’s Your Story?We all carry stories with us about who we are, our place in the world, how others will see us, and what's possible for our lives. Some of these stories are stories we like, some are stories we want to write a new ending to. But did you know that try as you might to change the story, there's an invisible force that may be acting on you that might sabotage your efforts? In this episode, Libby talks about how your very own brain can stop you from changing your story, and some ideas for what you can do...
2023-04-1135 min
Making Polyamory WorkDon't Ask, Don't Tell with Jessica Fern (Part 2)In Part 2, Polysecure author, Jessica Fern and Libby talk about a very specific arrangement that relates to privacy/secrecy: the Don't Ask, Don't Tell (DADT) relationship. Together they discuss why you might want a DADT arrangement, when it can work, and when it might not.
Polysecure books: https://bookshop.org/p/books/the-complete-polysecure-bundle-jessica-fern/19677933
Southwest Lovefest (use code 'go slow' for 10% off): https://www.swlovefest.com/events/southwest-love-fest-2023
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2023-03-2125 min
Making Polyamory WorkPrivacy, Secrecy, and Transparency with Jessica Fern (Part 1)Polysecure author, Jessica Fern joins Libby to talk about a much-asked for topic, Privacy, Secrecy and Transparency. Together they share their own experiences, what they've learned, and how they advise people to handle sharing information. It can be tricky, but there are ways to make it easier!
Polysecure books: https://bookshop.org/p/books/the-complete-polysecure-bundle-jessica-fern/19677933
Southwest Lovefest (use code 'go slow' for 10% off): https://www.swlovefest.com/events/southwest-love-fest-2023
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2023-03-1430 min
Making Polyamory WorkThe Ladder of AccountabilityLibby shares one of her favorite tools for owning your ish when you mess up with someone you care about.
Southwest Lovefest (use code 'go slow' for 10% off): https://www.swlovefest.com/events/southwest-love-fest-2023
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2023-03-0721 min
Making Polyamory WorkWhat if We Don't Have Sex? With Chaneè Jackson KendallChaneè and Libby answer a question from a listener who identifies as asexual who asked about non-sexual polyamorous relationships. Chaneè identifies as almost-megasexual, Libby identifies as greyace/demisexual, so you can imagine that it is a RICH conversation. They talk about nonsexual partnerships, chosen family, grief, vulnerability and choosing the love that you want for your life. This one is not to be missed!
Amatonormativity: https://elizabethbrake.com/amatonormativity
Relationship Smorgasbord: https://www.instagram.com/p/CS9n8mqL4ys/?hl=en
Southwest Lovefest (use code 'go slow' for 10% off):
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2023-02-2845 min
Making Polyamory WorkRelational Privilege with Akilah Riley-Richardson Part 2In part 2 of Libby's conversation with Akilah Riley-Richardson, Akilah shares her PRIDE model for supporting couples who are working to create safety and resilience in their relationships.
Akilah's website: https://akilahrileyrichardson.com/
Relational Privilege and Sytemic Trauma Course: https://therapywisdom.com/relational-privilege-and-systemic-trauma/
Resmaa Menekem: My Grandmother's Hands: https://bookshop.org/p/books/my-grandmother-s-hands-racialized-trauma-and-the-pathway-to-mending-our-hearts-and-bodies-resmaa-menakem/6454227
Eduardo Duran: Healing the Soul Wound: https://www.goodreads.com/en/book/show/1200619
Southwest Love Fest (use code "goslow" for 10% off!): https://www.swlovefest.com/
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2023-02-2133 min
Making Polyamory WorkRelational Privilege with Akilah Riley-Richardson Part 1In this episode, Libby talks with couples therapist and trauma specialist Akilah Riley-Richardson about relational privilege and how essential it is to create safety in order to find intimacy. (Part 1 of 2)
Akilah's website: https://akilahrileyrichardson.com/
Relational Privilege and Sytemic Trauma Course: https://therapywisdom.com/relational-privilege-and-systemic-trauma/
Resmaa Menekem: My Grandmother's Hands: https://bookshop.org/p/books/my-grandmother-s-hands-racialized-trauma-and-the-pathway-to-mending-our-hearts-and-bodies-resmaa-menakem/6454227
Southwest Love Fest (use code "goslow" for 10% off!): https://www.swlovefest.com/
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2023-02-1441 min
Making Polyamory WorkValues and Belonging, Part 2In Part 2 of this episode, Libby shares her journey to getting clear on her values, figuring out how to act within her integrity and how that led her to find her way to true belonging.
Braving the WIlderness by Brene Brown
Southwest Love Fest (Use code "GOSLOW" for a 10% discount)
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2023-02-0938 min
Making Polyamory WorkValues and Belonging, Part 1Libby introduces a new season of Making Polyamory Work with a very personal reflection on belonging, fitting in, values and integrity.
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2023-02-0736 min
Making Polyamory WorkComing Out To Your KidsLibby and Catherine of Expansive Connection answer a listener question about coming out to older kids.
https://www.expansiveconnection.com/
https://www.expansiveconnection.com/enm
https://www.instagram.com/expansive.connection.coaching/
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2022-12-061h 13
Making Polyamory Work[Replay] The Holiday MinefieldLibby reviews some of the biggest challenges that can show up around the holiday season when you're non-monogamous and how to navigate them without exploding an already stressful season.
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2022-11-2234 min
Making Polyamory WorkThere's Nothing to FearLIbby talks about how important it is to talk about fears with our partners. How we respond when our partner shares a fear with us can make a tremendous difference in how we tend to them and ourselves.
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2022-11-1713 min
Making Polyamory WorkNew Information ShockLibby describes the phenomenon known as New Information Shock and how to handle it when you encounter it in your relationships.
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2022-11-1519 min
Making Polyamory WorkThe Most Important Step of RepairIf you want to make a good repair, there's one step that Libby wishes people prioritized more.
Mia Mingus - The Four Parts of Accountability & How To Give A Genuine Apology: https://leavingevidence.wordpress.com/2019/12/18/how-to-give-a-good-apology-part-1-the-four-parts-of-accountability/
Repair Episode: https://www.makingpolyamorywork.com/episodes/slow-down-to-break-up?rq=repair
Are You Checking Out or Checking In?: https://www.makingpolyamorywork.com/episodes/are-you-checking-in-or-checking-out?rq=checking
Taming Your Whoosh: https://www.makingpolyamorywork.com/episodes/taming-your-whoosh
Dan Siegel Integrated Brain: https://www.successpodcast.com/show-notes/2019/1/9/the-simple-20-minute-exercise-that-rewires-your-brain-for-happiness-with-dr-dan-siegel
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2022-10-1824 min
Making Polyamory WorkAgreements Are GreatLibby talks about why she likes agreements, what purpose they serve in relationships, and some things to watch out for when making them with your partners.
Why Predicting Future feelings is So Difficult: https://www.bbc.com/future/article/20200825-why-predicting-our-future-feelings-is-so-difficult
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2022-10-0436 min
Making Polyamory WorkWhere Is This Going?Libby speaks about the Relationship Escalator, and talks about some ways she has found to step off it.
Stepping Off the Relationship Escalator: https://offescalator.com/
Solo Poly: https://solopoly.net/
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2022-09-2744 min
Making Polyamory WorkHow Do I Know if I'm Polyamorous?Libby is joined by Multiamory's Dedeker Winston to answer a listener who asks two questions: How do I know if I'm polyamorous? And, how should I go about dating if I'm not sure?
Dedeker Winston: https://www.dedekerwinston.com/
Multiamory: https://www.multiamory.com/
Kathy Labriola's Jealousy Workbook: https://bookshop.org/books/the-jealousy-workbook-exercises-and-insights-for-managing-open-relationships/9780937609637
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2022-09-2046 min
Making Polyamory WorkFoodLibby names the 10th relationship of a modern marriage: Food.
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2022-09-1515 min
Making Polyamory WorkLeave Room in a CrisisLibby talks about the costs of operating your time, energy, and attention at full capacity by default, and why it's worth considering intentionally having more downtime to recharge and also so that you have some room to push if there's a need or crisis.
Happiness is Other People: https://www.nytimes.com/2017/10/27/opinion/sunday/happiness-is-other-people.html
One Secret to Happiness: Relationships: https://www.thestatesman.com/lifestyle/75-year-harvard-study-1-scientific-secret-happiness-1503068121.html
Why Your Brain Needs More Downtime: https://www.scientificamerican.com/article/mental-downtime/
Fuck your Dig Deep Button: https://www.instagram.com/tv/Cci...
2022-09-1341 min
Making Polyamory Work9 Relationships of a Modern MarriageDid you know that marriage as conventionally practiced in the 21st century (in a lot of the world at least) is actually like... 9 different relationships. In this episode, Libby explains those 9 relationships, and how what marriage is trying to do is pack a whole village into one other person. She asks the question, what could we do instead that might work better?
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SHOW LINKS
Marriage, a History, by Stephanie Coontz: https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/291184/marriage-a-history-by-stephanie-coontz/
The Relational Nonmonogamy Circle: https://libbysinback.com/rnmc
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2022-04-1931 min
Making Polyamory WorkKnow Your PowerHow empowered are you in your relationships? Have you stopped to notice where you might be disempowered... or too empowered? In this episode, Libby talks about power dynamics and how important it is to name them if you want to have relationally-empowered partnerships.
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Libby is presenting at Southwest Lovefest Virtual Con April 24th! https://www.swlovefest.com/virtualcon22
Want help creating empowered relationships? Check out the Relational Nonmonogamy Circle. Next cohort starts April 25. https://libbysinback.com/rnmc/
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2022-04-1227 min
Making Polyamory WorkOn DropDo you know what drop is? In this episode, Libby explains drop, what it is, why it's rough, and what you can do to make it a little easier to deal with.
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2022-04-0515 min
Making Polyamory WorkVeto HappensThe relationship veto is a controversial topic in polyamory circles. Libby talks about what vetoes are, how they can happen without being called a veto, and how they aren't always a bad thing.
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2022-03-2931 min
Making Polyamory WorkYes Intent Does Matter"Intent doesn't matter." That statement has cropped up in multiple conversations online and in person over the years. In this epsiode, Libby shares why that simply isn't true, at least not when it comes to a valued relationship.
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2022-03-2228 min
Making Polyamory WorkFor Your MomIn this episode, Libby speaks to parents of adult polyamorous children who may be having a hard time with the idea.
SHOW LINKS:
It's Called Polyamory: https://thorntreepress.com/its-called-polyamory/
When Someone You Love is Polyamorous: https://thorntreepress.com/when-someone-you-love-is-polyamorous/
The Coffee Break Primer on Polyamory: https://adapowers.medium.com/the-coffee-break-polyamory-primer-6c64b4dc53de
This Heart Holds Many, My Life as the Nonbinary Millennial Child of a Polyamorous Family: https://thorntreepress.com/thisheartholdsmany/
The Polyamorists Next Door on Psychology Today: https://www.psychologytoday.c...
2022-03-1529 min
Making Polyamory WorkAre you Checking Out or Checking In?One of the most important things in relationship is to act with intention rather than reactivity, but if we're so busy and distracted all the time, it's really hard to slow down enough to do anything but react when we're upset. Libby invites you to ask yourself this question, "Are you checking out or checking in?"
Show Links:
Your Smartphone is Making you Stupid: https://www.theatlantic.com/technology/archive/2017/08/a-sitting-phone-gathers-brain-dross/535476/
Proactive vs. Reactive: https://www.entrepreneur.com/article/307309
Smartphone addiction: https://sitn.hms.harvard.edu/flash/2018/dopamine-smartphones-battle-time/
Tara Brac...
2022-03-0822 min
Making Polyamory WorkDoing It in a GroupIn this epsiode, Libby gives you her best tips for having awesome sexytimes with groups of 3 or more.
CN: NSFW. Mature content, including explicit mentions of sexual behaviors in this episode. So um, you may want your headphones in.
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2022-03-0144 min
Making Polyamory WorkThe Still FaceLibby talks about the effect withdrawal patterns can have on our nervous systems, and how to navigate that if it is showing up in your relationship.
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2022-02-2233 min
Making Polyamory WorkAsking Needs To Be Okay"How could she ask for that?" is a phrase I have heard before. It's a phrase I've even said. But I firmly believe, it's okay to ask for whatever you want. The problem lies in whether or not your partner feels like they can say no.
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2022-02-1521 min
Making Polyamory WorkThis May Be a Bitter PillSometimes in our relationships we reach a point where something needs to change or it just won't work for us. But is that even possible? Or do you have to break up? Libby goes over two losing strategies that a lot of people try when they want something different from their partner than what they're getting, and offers what she believes is a better way to get what you want.
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2022-02-0853 min
Making Polyamory WorkWhen is it Okay to Have a One P*nis Policy?By listener request, Libby talks about the one p*nis policy and why it's not a great idea (and the one time it's okay.)
CN: language. Libby uses several words for the male genitalia on this episode.
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RECOMMENDED READING For the Love of Men by Liz Plank
The Will to Change by bell hooks
I Don't Wanna Talk About It by Terrence Real
Playing Fair by Pepper Mint
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2022-01-2533 min
Making Polyamory WorkGetting ClosureIn her recent workshop Break Up Better, Libby answers a question from a participant: "How can I get the other person to own their part to help with closure [after a breakup]?"
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2021-12-1414 min
Making Polyamory WorkThe Great Divide with Terry RealLibby has special guest Terry Real join her on the show to talk about how patriarchy does its work on our relationships, even for those of us who choose to do things differently.
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Terry Real's website: https://terryreal.com
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2021-11-2922 min
Making Polyamory WorkA Rule is just a Bad AgreementLibby blows up the idea that there is any difference between rules and agreements and offers some alternative ways to communicate and negotiate needs in polyamorous relationships.
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Break Up Better Workshop on November 30 at 7:30 PM: https://libbysinback.com/break-up-better/
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2021-11-2327 min
Making Polyamory WorkComing OutLibby shares her best tips for coming out as polyamorous, mostly hard won through her own coming out mishaps.
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Break Up Better Workshop on November 30 at 7:30 PM: https://libbysinback.com/break-up-better/
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2021-11-1524 min
Making Polyamory WorkWho's it for?In this episode, Libby outlines 3 different scenarios in which it's unclear who is the giver and who is the receiver, and how to use a magical tool called the Wheel of Consent to help answer this question.
Betty Martin's website: https://bettymartin.org/
The Wheel of Consent: https://bettymartin.org/videos/
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2021-11-0831 min
Making Polyamory WorkThe Holiday MinefieldLibby reviews some of the biggest challenges that can show up around the holiday season when you're non-monogamous and how to navigate them without exploding an already stressful season.
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Kathy Labriola on Polyam Holidays: https://www.kathylabriola.com/articles/poly-holiday-tips
Elisabeth Sheff on not coming out during the holidays: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-polyamorists-next-door/201612/poly-the-holidays
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2021-11-0131 min
Making Polyamory WorkMy Partner is Having a Mental Health CrisisOn this episode, Libby is joined by Mel Cassidy of Radical Relationship Coaching to discuss a question from a listener about how to navigate polyamory when a partner is struggling with their mental health.
Visit Mel on the web: http://radicalrelationshipcoaching.ca/
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2021-10-2539 min
Making Polyamory WorkResponding to Shitty FeedbackIn this episode, Libby talks about how to respond when someone you love gives you feedback from a hurtful, attacking or otherwise unhelpful place.
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2021-10-1811 min
Making Polyamory WorkThe Most Important Phase of a RelationshipIn this episode, Libby discusses the 6 phases of relationships, and the one that she thinks is the most important, and most often overlooked.
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2021-10-1134 min
Making Polyamory WorkDiscovering Your QueernessLibby invites her best friend Mara on the podcast to answer a listener who recently discovered they were queer. Libby and Mara what it was like for them to realize you're queer later in life.
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MORE READING FOR YOU:
Bisexual vs. Pansexual: https://www.minus18.org.au/articles/what's-the-difference-between-bisexual-and-pansexual
Does Being Polyamorous Mean that You're Queer Belong: https://medium.com/polyamory-today/polyamory-and-the-lgbt-community-3a8a52debbc3
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2021-05-2841 min
Making Polyamory WorkBeing Asked to Step BackThis episode welcomes a special guest, Mary Thuell, to answer a listener question about being asked to put her relationship on pause so her partner can work things out in their nested relationship. Mary and Libby share their thoughts and experiences with this situation.
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She's a Polyamorous Sunday School Teacher: https://www.washingtonpost.com/lifestyle/magazine/shes-a-polyamorous-sunday-school-teacher-one-of-those-things-bothered-her-date/2019/04/08/394a1096-4a64-11e9-b79a-961983b7e0cd_story.html
Emily Dickenson's Letter to Mary Bowles: http://archive.emilydickinson.org/correspondence/mbowles/l262.html
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2021-05-0629 min
Making Polyamory WorkSay Thank You to Your JealousyLibby shares one way she likes to handle jealousy - say thank you to it?
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OTHER GREAT RESOURCES ON JEALOUSY
The Jealousy Workbook: Insights and Techniques for Managing Open Relationships by Kathy Labriola
The Jealousy Survival Guide by Kitty Chambliss
Bird by Bird by Anne Lamott
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2021-05-0223 min
Making Polyamory WorkWhat if My Partner's Other Relationship is Abusive?Libby invites Shannon Perez-Darby to answer a listener question about what to do when you're in a relationship with someone who is in what appears to be an abusive relationship. CN: abuse, domestic violence
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National Domestic Violence Hotline: https://www.thehotline.org/ (or call 1-800-799-SAFE)
Shannon Perez-Darby: https://www.shannonperezdarby.com/
Resources for Accountability and Transformative Justice and Supporting Safer Communities: https://transformharm.org/
Friendship as Social Justice Activism: https://press.uchicago.edu/ucp/books/book/distributed/F/bo26275235.html
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2021-03-2940 min
Making Polyamory WorkNobody Wants to Be a Wet BlanketIn this episode, Libby introduces an unusually effective tool for combatting overconfidence without ruining the fun when you're in the throes of new relationship energy.
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Freakonomics Episode on Failure: https://freakonomics.com/podcast/failure-is-your-friend-a-new-freakonomics-radio-podcast/
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2021-03-1814 min
Making Polyamory WorkWill the Kids Be Alright?Finally an episode on polyamorous parenting. Libby shares her take.
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How to Talk so Kids Will Listen & Listen so Kids Will Talk: https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/769016.How_to_Talk_So_Kids_Will_Listen_Listen_So_Kids_Will_Talk
Untamed: https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/52129515-untamed
On Disruption: https://anchor.fm/makingpolywork/episodes/When-Life-is-Turned-Upside-Down-ecpob2
Slow Down to Break Up: https://anchor.fm/makingpolywork/episodes/Slow-Down-to-Break-Up-edjjsa
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2021-02-0839 min
Making Polyamory WorkDid You Miss Me?In this episode, Libby talks about the gift of time apart.
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Esther Perel: Sex Needs Space - https://www.huffpost.com/entry/sex-needs-space_b_136540
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2021-01-1436 min
Making Polyamory WorkWhat's WonderfulIn this episode, Libby offers ways to create a culture of appreciation within your relationship, and why that is important, but also how it can sometimes be hard.
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The Gottman Institute on a Culture of Appreciation: https://www.theatlantic.com/health/archive/2014/06/happily-ever-after/372573/
I Appreciate... Exercise: https://docs.google.com/document/d/1ofEdpMG8KqhPvS0vj6hWWucTfEZdxqHvvJkydmbVuJU/edit?usp=sharing
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2020-12-0230 min
Making Polyamory WorkGot a Problem? Don't Solve ItIn this episode, Libby talks about issues that seem to have no clear good solution. Her suggestion? Understanding the problem is more important than solving it
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Dreams Within Conflict Worksheet
No Advice, Please (how to hold space)
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2020-11-2319 min
Making Polyamory WorkLibby Plus One: The Trap of EasyOn this episode, Libby is joined by her partner Kyrr to talk about why it's important to acknowledge the truth about change.
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Giving Kickass Feedback (and When Not To): https://anchor.fm/makingpolywork/episodes/Giving-Kickass-Feedback-and-When-Not-To-ego34v
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2020-11-1622 min
Making Polyamory WorkStress in RelationshipsLots of tips in this episode! Libby talks about techniques to manage stress and why it's so important for you and your relationships.
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Emotional Mindfulness Exercise: https://docs.google.com/document/d/10WSyLRGERQLtlFJ8uU-3BQ8kIQUwQNYaRK7KAeA-J8Y/edit
Box Breathing Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AOL3isokmY4
Burnout by Emily and Amelia Nagoski: https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/592377/burnout-by-emily-nagoski-phd-and-amelia-nagoski-dma/
Taming your Whoosh: https://anchor.fm/makingpolywork/episodes/No-Advice--Please-eb1pbg
No Advice, Please: https://anchor.fm/makingpolywork/episodes/No-Advice--Please-eb1pbg
2020-11-0340 min
Making Polyamory WorkHinges, Let's TalkThis episode is for you if you're a hinge or the point in a "vee." There's a very common trap that many hinge partners fall into that you must avoid if you don't want to be a sucky hinge. Want to know more? Listen to Libby to learn the most essential hinging skill.
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2020-10-2626 min
Making Polyamory WorkLibby Plus One: Mono-Poly and NRELibby is joined by a plus one in this special bonus episode. In it Libby and her guest provide advice to an anonymous post on Reddit in r/polyamory. This post is both about NRE and also being in a mono-poly hierarchical partnership.
Original r/polyamory post: https://www.reddit.com/r/polyamory/comments/ilmvuk/hi_guys_just_need_to_get_this_off_my_chest_and/
MPW post on NRE: https://anchor.fm/makingpolywork/episodes/How-to-NRE-eka8c1
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2020-10-1836 min
Making Polyamory WorkHow to NREIs the thought of a new relationship exciting -- or terrifying? In this episode, Libby goes into what happens when you're in a new relationship and all wrapped up in its energy, and offers some practical tips on how to navigate it.
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Casual Love, by Carsie Blanton: https://www.carsieblanton.com/blog/post/82149148832/casual-love
Science on the brain in love: https://www.eurekalert.org/pub_releases/2005-05/aps-lai053105.php and https://neuro.hms.harvard.edu/harvard-mahoney-neuroscience-institute/brain-newsletter/and-brain/love-and-brain
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2020-09-2930 min
Making Polyamory WorkIntentional vs. Incidental TimeLove is infinite, but time is not, and the struggle is real. In this episode, Libby offers a frame for looking at time that may be at the root of some of your challenges around time, and some creative ideas how to navigate time limitations by looking at not just the amount, but the type of time you're spending with the people you love.
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2020-09-1824 min
Making Polyamory WorkIt's Business TimeBut like, serious business.
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Listen Up Episode: https://anchor.fm/makingpolywork/episodes/Listen-Up-e9bv84
Rock the Boat Episode: https://anchor.fm/makingpolywork/episodes/Stand-Up-and-Rock-the-Boat-e9e5mf
Multiamory's RADAR: https://www.multiamory.com/radar
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2020-09-1127 min
Making Polyamory WorkGiving Kickass Feedback (and When Not To)Libby discusses feedback in greater depth: what it is, what it isn't, and how to do it exceptionally well.
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The Feedback Fallacy (from the Harvard Business Review)
The Engaged Feedback Checklist (pdf download)
The Feedback Wheel (infographic)
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2020-07-1437 min
Making Polyamory WorkIn a Crisis, Find Your RingLibby explains Ring Theory and how it can help people know what to say and to whom in a moment of crisis. Content note: this episode will talk about the outcry against police violence toward Black people and how Ring Theory can help white people respond and support the movement for Black lives.
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How Not to Say the Wrong Thing by Susan Silk and Barry Goldman
Stacey Patton on White Women's Tears and Social Media
Didi Delgado's Podcast and Facebook and Patreon
Kate Anthony: 5...
2020-06-1219 min
Making Polyamory WorkRepair and Repair AgainIn this episode, Libby talks about repair, how essential it is to having secure relationships, and outlines the steps for how to make a good repair.
*From Libby: to my listeners who have been following this podcast for awhile, this is to replace the episode "If You Break if, Fix It" - which was pulled, because it didn't say what I wanted it to say. I'm much much happier with this version, which is VERY different.
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Ed Tronick's Work on Repair
Study of Parents and Preschoolers a...
2020-05-1937 min
Making Polyamory WorkSlow Down to Break UpLibby shares her most important advice for people who are breaking up or on the brink (and even if you're not) -- slow down.
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Breaking up on Valentine's Day
Normalizing Non-monogamy interview on Relationship Transitions
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2020-05-0522 min
Making Polyamory WorkHave Better Sex With This One Weird TrickLibby gives some sex advice for your long-term relationships. It's good. Just listen.
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Watch the Movie: Friend with Benefits
7 Ways To Make Practicing Affirmative Consent Sexy
27 Alternatives to Asking "Is This Okay?"
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2020-04-2440 min
Making Polyamory WorkWhen Life is Turned Upside DownIn this episode, Libby talks about disruption and offers a 5 step process to move through it more easily.
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MORE READING
3 Vital Skills for the Age of Disruption
How to Find Meaning in Suffering
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2020-04-1533 min
Making Polyamory WorkTaking My Own MedicineA quick update on why Libby took down last week's episode on repair, and what she'll be doing instead.
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2020-04-0606 min
Making Polyamory WorkThe Autonomy ProblemIn this episode, Libby gets real about what COVID-19 means for polyamorous people, but how it's also teaching all of us an essential lesson about our relationships - which is that autonomy is an illusion. We need that lesson right now. But we also always did.
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2020-03-2438 min
Making Polyamory WorkPolyamorous in a Pandemic Part 1: Remember LoveThings look pretty different in the world today than they did two weeks ago. Libby has a message for everyone as we face down new and challenging circumstances.
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2020-03-1729 min
Making Polyamory WorkLook Where You're GoingIn this episode, Libby talks about keeping your attention and energy toward what's really important.
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Kimchi Cuddles
The comic I referenced
Download the Relationship Vision Worksheet
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Atlanta Poly in Atlanta, February 29, 2020
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2020-03-0622 min
Making Polyamory WorkWhen Your Meta Don't WannaIn this episode Libby talks about how to navigate things when metamours don't want to be friends.
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Atlanta Poly in Atlanta, February 29, 2020
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2020-03-0352 min
Making Polyamory WorkNo Advice, PleaseLearning to hold space for people you love is an essential relationship skill. In this episode, Libby breaks down what holding space is, why it's important, and how to practice it.
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What it Means to Hold Space for Someone by Heather Plett
11 Ways to Hold Space for Someone by Reaca Pearl
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Atlanta Poly in Atlanta, February 29, 2020
Southwest Love Fest in Tucson, April 3-5, 2020
RelateCon in Boise, April 24-26, 2020
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2020-02-2722 min
Making Polyamory WorkThe Art of Time OutsTaking a time out is so important when things get heated or uncomfortable. However, there are more useful and less useful ways to take a time out. In this episode, Libby lays out how to take a time out in a way that enhances, rather than disrupts, connection.
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Black Poly Pride: June 4-7, 2020 in Washington, DC
Terry Real's 10 Commandments of a Time Out
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2020-02-2024 min
Making Polyamory WorkTaming your WhooshThe most essential skill to having healthier relationships.
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Atlanta Poly in Atlanta, February 29, 2020
Southwest Love Fest in Tucson, April 3-5, 2020
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2020-02-1836 min
Making Polyamory WorkFingers CrossedIn this episode, Libby offers an idea on making upcoming difficult situations smoother, easier and more connecting.
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Winter Poly Wonderland in West Virginia, February 13-16, 2020
Atlanta Poly in Atlanta, February 29, 2020
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2020-02-1215 min
Making Polyamory WorkCouple Privilege and PowerLibby answers a listener question about navigating sharing a home and sharing that home with other partners.
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Couple Privilege: having it doesn't necessarily make you an asshole (but it might) by Amy Gahran
5 Reasons Couple Privilege Doesn't Exist by Lola Phoenix
'why do couples stop having sex?' is the wrong question by Emily Nagoski
Navigating Difficult Conversations
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PolyLiving in Philadelphia, February 7-9, 2020
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2020-02-0634 min
Making Polyamory WorkAttachment Styles and YouLibby explains the theory of attachment styles and what they might mean for your relationships.
(All of this stuff is Googleable, y'all, if you want to know more. )
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2020-01-2823 min
Making Polyamory WorkHow Could You Think That of Me?Libby talks about what to do when we don't feel seen by the people we love.
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Feeling Understood — Even More Important Than Feeling Loved? https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/evolution-the-self/201706/feeling-understood-even-more-important-feeling-loved
Neural Bases of Being Understood and not Understood: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4249470/
On Feeling Understood and Feeling Well: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC2652476/
Loneliness: a disease? https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3890922/
Brené Brown and True Belonging: https://ide...
2020-01-2129 min
Making Polyamory WorkDisclosure AfterthoughtsLibby answers her first listener question on the show, where a listener asks, does it always make sense to disclose potential dealbreakers before the first date?
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Page Turner on Ambiamory: https://www.kinkly.com/youve-heard-of-polyamory-but-what-about-ambiamory/2/17832
Dating with HIV: https://www.redbookmag.com/love-sex/relationships/a48131/dating-with-hiv/
I'm a Sex Worker and Dating is Awkward: https://www.huffpost.com/entry/im-a-sex-worker-and-dating-is-awkward_b_6770650
So You're Dating a Sex Worker: https://rewire.news/article/2017/11/27/youre-dating-sex-worker-heres-not/
What It's Like to Date Online as a Trans Person: https://www.huffpost.com/entry/what-its-really-like-to-online-date-as-a-trans-person_n_5b848aace4b0cf7b002e467b
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2020-01-1616 min
Making Polyamory WorkWhen Should I Tell People?Libby talks about when you should tell potential partners that you're polyamorous or nonmonogamous.
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PolyLiving in Philadelphia, February 7-9, 2020
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2020-01-1422 min
Making Polyamory WorkGhostingIn this episode, Libby talks about ghosting, what it is, why it sucks, when it's justified, and how to cope. Libby also offers a kinder alternative to ghosting.
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Comic on Ghosting by Hell is Other Women: https://www.facebook.com/hellisotherwomen/posts/557199481702112
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PolyLiving in Philadelphia, February 7-9, 2020
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2020-01-0737 min
Making Polyamory WorkThe Practice of GentlenessUsing a real, raw story from her own life, Libby talks about the day-to-day, minute-to-minute practice of gentleness in relationships.
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Harvey: https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0042546/
My favorite article about Fred Rogers: https://www.nytimes.com/2019/11/19/magazine/mr-rogers.html
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2019-12-3122 min
Making Polyamory WorkThe Two Magic Relationship RatiosLibby talks about the two magic relationship ratios uncovered by scientific research conducted by the Gottman Institute and some implications for polyamorous relationships.
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The Magic Conflict Ratio: https://www.gottman.com/blog/the-magic-relationship-ratio-according-science/
About the 20:1 Ratio: https://psyedges.wordpress.com/2014/06/22/51-2/
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2019-12-2615 min
Making Polyamory WorkMore Compassion, More LoveHoliday bullsh*t getting you down? Libby makes the case for how a little self-compassion can go a long way.
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Mapping Your Love Workshop in DC: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/mapping-your-love-tickets-77746210007
Winter Poly Wonderland: https://cfnc.us/winterpoly/
Poly Living: https://www.lovingmorenonprofit.org/conferences/polyliving/philadelphia/
The Gottman Institute on Contempt: https://www.gottman.com/blog/this-one-thing-is-the-biggest-predictor-of-divorce/
The Harvard Business Review on Self-Compassion: https://hbr.org/2018/09/give-yourself-a-break-the-power-of-self-compassion
About the Carleton University Study on Self-Compassion and Procrastination: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/dont-delay/200903/self-forgiveness-reduces-procrastination
Kristin Neff's Website on Self-Compassion: https://self-compassion.org/
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2019-12-2417 min
Making Polyamory WorkBeyond the 5 Love LanguagesIn this episode, Libby talks about love languages and how understanding your love language and the love languages of those that you love can transform your relationships for the better and help everyone love and appreciate each other more fully.
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Mapping Your Love Workshop in DC: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/mapping-your-love-tickets-77746210007
Winter Poly Wonderland: https://cfnc.us/winterpoly/
Poly Living: https://www.lovingmorenonprofit.org/conferences/polyliving/philadelphia/
Love Languages Graphic: https://theladiescoach.com/wp-content/uploads/2016/05/How-to-speak-your-partners-Love-Language.png
Love Languages Quiz: https://www.5lovelanguages.com/quizzes/
2019-12-1927 min
Making Polyamory WorkCompersion Isn't MandatoryIn this episode, Libby talks about compersion, what it is, where it comes from, and makes the case that we don't have to feel it to be good polyamorous people, and what to do when we don't.
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Mapping Your Love Workshop in DC: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/mapping-your-love-tickets-77746210007
Winter Poly Wonderland: https://cfnc.us/winterpoly/
Poly Living: https://www.lovingmorenonprofit.org/conferences/polyliving/philadelphia/
More about the Karista Commune: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Kerista
Mudita: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mudita
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2019-12-1729 min
Making Polyamory WorkStand Up and Rock the BoatLet's talk about why it's so important to be willing to put things on the line in your relationships, to stand up for what you want, and confront issues - before they get too big to deal with.
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Brené Brown's TED Talk on Vulnerability: https://www.ted.com/talks/brene_brown_the_power_of_vulnerability
Daring Greatly: https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/1592408419
Domestic Violence Hotline and Website: https://www.thehotline.org/help/
Solvable vs. Perpetual Problems: https://www.gottman.com/blog/managing-conflict-solvable-vs-perpetual-problems/
2019-12-1032 min
Making Polyamory WorkThe Other Half of Good CommunicationLearning how to listen better is so important to being a great partner, friend, parent, child, coworker, etc. In this episode, Libby offers some advanced tips on how to be an awesome listener.
Show notes:
How Curiosity Makes You a Better Partner: https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/item/why_curious_people_have_better_relationships
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2019-12-0516 min
Making Polyamory WorkHow to Not Take Responsibility for Other People's EmotionsIn this episode, Libby shares concrete steps for creating a healthy emotional boundary between you and your partner, so that you don't react to, take on, or take responsibility for your partner's difficult feelings.
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2019-11-2815 min
Making Polyamory WorkThe Other Skipped Step in Opening UpWhy is it that some monogamous couples who open upend up blowing up their existing relationship while others don’t? Libby offers one idea that you might not have heard.
Show links:
The Most Skipped Step when Opening Up a Relationship [https://medium.com/@PolyamorySchool/the-most-skipped-step-when-opening-a-relationship-f1f67abbbd49]
John Bowlby and Attachment Theory [https://www.simplypsychology.org/attachment.html]
The Gottman Institute on "Turning Towards" [https://www.gottman.com/blog/want-to-improve-your-relationship-start-paying-more-attention-to-bids/]
The Science of Conflict Resolution [https://www.gottman.com/blog/repair-secret-weapon-emotionally-connected-couples/]
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2019-11-2634 min