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The Devil You Don’t KnowWhy Trusting Your Gut Changes EverythingSend us a textMost people don't trust themselves, constantly seeking external validation and living unhappy lives despite trying to please everyone around them.• Self-trust means being comfortable with who you are rather than constantly seeking approval• When you don't trust yourself, you give up command of your life and surrender your agency• Setting boundaries aligns with self-trust and allows you to identify who respects you• Family relationships often challenge our self-trust when we're expected to compromise our needs• Trusting yourself leads to authentic relationships rather than people-pleasing interactions• The Three A's fo...2025-06-1447 minThe Devil You Don’t KnowThe Gravity of Unspoken Expectations: Why Your Partner Isn't a Mind ReaderSend us a textCleveland and Lindsay return after a long break to tackle the frustrating phenomenon of silent scripts in relationships and why expecting your partner to read your mind sets you both up for failure.• Silent scripts are unspoken expectations we have for our partners but never communicate directly• The absurdity of expecting mind-reading from partners when we'd never expect it in other relationships• Covert contracts create one-sided agreements where we expect something in return without expressing it• Authentic communication about needs and expectations is crucial from the very beginning of relat...2025-04-1358 minThe Devil You Don’t KnowSeparate and Unequal: America's School Segregation CrisisSend us a textEducational segregation in America has reached crisis levels, with schools more segregated today than in the 1980s, despite Brown v. Board of Education supposedly ending this practice decades ago. We explore how systemic issues including funding disparities, zoning policies, and power structures maintain educational inequality across racial and economic lines.• Shocking statistics reveal non-white school districts receive $23 billion less annually than white districts• The podcast "Nice White Parents" demonstrates how gentrification can lead to school takeovers that further marginalize existing students• Personal stories about navigating school choices in New York C...2025-03-0954 minThe Devil You Don’t KnowBuilding Connection Through Chaos: Finding Community in Unexpected PlacesSend us a textWhat happens when you blend the chaos of a kitchen flood with the warmth of a vegan Friendsgiving? Join us as we share our latest escapades, from Cleveland's ponderings of a PhD amidst his return to the office grind to Lindsay's unwavering resolve to steer clear of academia. Our Thanksgiving tales range from serene home-cooked vegan roasts to the bustling camaraderie of Friendsgiving, all while juggling Cleveland's quirky feats of knowledge and his hilarious domestic faux pas. Have you ever wondered how finding your "sangha" could transform your life? We explore t...2024-12-021h 01The Devil You Don’t Know60% In: The Struggle with Partial Commitments, Investing in Self Worth for Healthier ConnectionsSend us a textEver wondered why partial commitments can feel like a full-time strain? Join us as we crack open the emotional rollercoaster of half-hearted investments in relationships and the unique challenges faced by house husbands. Cleveland shares his candid experiences of maintaining a clean home while Lindsay spills the tea on her binge-worthy obsession with "Gilmore Girls" and her dreamy vacation plans to Nevis. Through humor and heartfelt conversations, we explore how these partial commitments impact mental health, self-esteem, and overall wellness, making a compelling case for the joys of feeling truly appreciated.2024-09-301h 03The Devil You Don’t KnowEmbracing Self-Awareness: The Power of Looking Inward for True FulfillmentSend us a textEver wondered why some people seem genuinely content while others constantly chase external approval? We kick off this episode reflecting on a quote from a silent retreat: "Who looks inside awakens, who looks outside dreams." This sets the stage for a profound exploration of the importance of internal validation, especially as social media and election year pressures mount. Cleveland shares a touching story about his child's decision to join a church, sparking discussions on how to support loved ones' beliefs while respecting personal boundaries. You'll laugh along as we recount a f...2024-09-171h 03The Devil You Don’t KnowWinding Roads and The Complexities of Growing UpSend us a textImagine navigating the winding, guardrail-less roads of Tortola, the landscape as thrilling as it is breathtaking. In this episode of "The Devil You Do Not Know," we share our exhilarating Caribbean adventure, from Cleveland's keen interest in U.S. politics to Lindsay's delightful exploration of local cuisine and literature. The journey to Lindsay's parents' cottage adds a layer of excitement, comparing the unique driving challenges of Tortola to those of Barbados, turning a relaxing island vacation into an unexpected thrill ride.Transitioning from our island escapades, we tackle the nuanced journey...2024-07-2348 minThe Devil You Don’t KnowFrom the Ashes: Embracing Failure for GrowthSend us a textWhat if failure wasn't something to fear, but something to celebrate? Discover how embracing failure can be the key to unlocking success in both your personal and professional life. Join us as we share inspiring stories, including Lindsay’s triumphant journey to becoming a licensed psychotherapist and our adventurous escapade in the Catskills, complete with a quirky wood-fired hot tub and an unexpected encounter with a black bear.Dive into the wisdom of Jack Kornfield, a revered meditation teacher and former Buddhist monk, who believes that failure is essential for personal gr...2024-07-0255 minThe Devil You Don’t KnowBeyond the Horizon: Unpacking the Transformative Power of VacationSend us a textEver wondered how a week of basking under the Barbadian sun could rejuvenate your soul? Cleveland and I, Lindsay, are back from our indulgent escape to the Sugar Cane Club, ready to share how sinking our toes into the sandy beaches and savoring vegan delights helped us unwind and unplug. From the secluded luxury of our resort to the culinary treasures at Tides and Lone Star, we relive every tranquil sunset and mouthwatering meal that left us more connected and content than ever.This episode isn't just about the bliss of...2024-04-2354 minThe Devil You Don’t KnowIf You Don't Believe It Why Are You Crying?Send us a textEver brushed off a cutting remark with a quick smile, only to feel the sting hours later? This episode peels back the layers of that age-old saying about sticks, stones, and words to reveal the surprising heft words carry in our emotional lives. Cleveland and I dissect why many, especially men, don the armor of indifference against verbal barbs, exploring the societal pressures that coax us into silence and the toll it takes on our health and relationships. We delve into the often invisible battle lines drawn between emotional resilience and vulnerability, sharing...2024-04-161h 03The Devil You Don’t KnowNavigating the Quagmire: Triumphing Over Toxic Work Cultures and Their Echoes in LifeSend us a textAs Cleveland and I sank our teeth into the spicy gochujang tofu at Archie's, little did we realize this culinary delight would be the perfect segue into our latest podcast episode. With the wisdom of Gabor Maté's Compassionate Inquiry ringing in our ears, our conversation unravels the hidden impact of our childhood 'holes' on professional and personal spheres.Wade through the murky dynamics of unhealthy workplaces alongside us, where similarities to dysfunctional families are too close for comfort. As we recount stories of favoritism and the downfall of poor management, th...2024-03-261h 07The Devil You Don’t KnowThe Art of Self-Mastery Overcoming the Victimhood MindsetSend us a textHey there, Cleveland and Lindsay, checking in!Ready to pivot from feeling like the world's punching bag to becoming the heavyweight champ of your own life? Do you ever get that nagging feeling that someone's just shirking responsibility and pawning it off as a perpetual victim? We've been there, and we're spilling the tea on how much this mindset can throw a wrench in everything from missed appointments to devouring vegan calamari. Strap on your seatbelts because we're about to get real with some Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy wisdom...2024-03-0544 minThe Devil You Don’t KnowHeartache and Healing: Embracing Grief, Accepting Death, and Finding Joy After LossSend us a textThe table was set with jackfruit nachos, an unexpected yet delightful twist in our health-conscious journey when the conversation took a profound turn. This week's episode is a heartfelt exploration of grief prompted by the personal story of my father's passing from COVID-19. Together, we traverse the emotional landscape of loss, from the strains of family dynamics to the solace found in accepting the inescapable reality of death, revealing the profoundly varied ways my family and I have navigated our sorrow.Through candid discussions and introspection, this episode serves as a...2024-02-1348 min