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Healing Childhood TraumaYou Can Be Smart, Self Aware, and Still Anxiously Attached [Ep 33]**Summer Offer** Book your single session Attachment Reset Learn more or book here.You can be incredibly self-aware. Journaling regularly, unpacking your childhood, recognising your triggers and still feel panicked when someone pulls away. Still overthink the last message. Still feel like you’re too much, or not enough.This episode is a reminder that insight alone isn’t the same as healing. And it’s not because you’re doing it wrong.In today’s conversati...2025-08-0720 minHealing Childhood TraumaWhy Self-Soothing Feels So Hard When You Have Anxious Attachment [Ep 32]If you’ve ever stared at your phone waiting for a reply, heart racing, telling yourself not to text again but feeling like you physically can’t relax until they do — this episode is for you.Self-soothing gets talked about a lot in the healing space… but for those with anxious attachment, it can feel almost impossible. In this episode, we unpack why that is — and what self-soothing actually looks like when you’re healing attachment wounds.👉🏽 If this hits close to...2025-07-3117 minHealing Childhood TraumaWhat are the coping mechanisms for adults who have Childhood Trauma [Ep 31]☀️**Summer Offer** Single Session Attachment Reset. Limited availability, book your session with Lizandra here Even if you don’t think about your childhood often, the patterns it shaped can still be running the show. In this episode, I’m unpacking powerful and often overlooked ways that childhood trauma continues to affect you in adulthood.This one’s especially for you if you’ve always felt like the high-functioning one, the strong one, or the one who holds everything together… but underneath it all, you’re tired, disconnected, or repeating the sam...2025-07-2423 minHealing Childhood TraumaSelf Boundaries, Attachment and Burnout [Ep 30]In this episode we explore how the quiet boundaries you don’t set for yourself lead to anxiety, burnout and attachment issues. Key pointsHow everyday boundary breakdowns feel normal because they've been normalisedWhy childhood trauma teaches us to abandon our needsWhat everyday boundaries look like Powerful reframes to change the way you think about boundaries Reflective questions to facilitate your self knowledge and healing USEFUL LINKS:Book a free 15 minute consultation with Lizandra**Did you enjoy this episode? Don’t forget t...2025-07-1726 minHealing Childhood TraumaThe Unspoken Childhood Trauma of Toxic Siblings [Ep 29]We don’t talk enough about the attachment trauma that comes from a toxic sibling.The jealousy, manipulation, betrayal — all brushed off as “normal” or “just sibling stuff.”In this episode, I’m unpacking the hidden trauma of sibling relationships shaped by toxic family dynamics. We’ll explore the roles we’re forced into, how it impacts your self-worth, and what healing might actually look like.If you’ve ever felt guilty for stepping back from a sibling, this one’s for you.Resources Toxic siblings post on Tiktok 7 Signs of...2025-07-1028 minHealing Childhood TraumaIs it Narcissism or Avoidant Attachment? [Ep 28] Ever wondered if someone’s avoidant or actually narcissistic? In this episode, I break down what sets avoidant attachment apart from narcissism, why they often get confused (especially in anxious-avoidant dynamics), and how understanding the difference can help you stop blaming yourself, start seeing patterns clearly, and move toward healthier relationships.Whether you’re trying to make sense of someone else’s behavior or reflecting on your own, this episode brings nuance, compassion, and clarity to a tricky but important topic.What I cover in this episode:Why avoi...2025-07-0323 minHealing Childhood TraumaA Trauma Informed Approach to a Realistic Morning Routine [Ep 27]When you're anxious or highly stressed, starting your day with a healthy morning routine for better mental health can help to support your emotional wellbeing. Some routines can feel daunting or another to-do but when you approach it from a place of being trauma informed and realistic, you can work with what you have the time and means to do. This episode gives you ideas to try, even when you are incredibly short on time. Did you enjoy this episode? Don’t forget to share and subscribe! Join the Fa...2025-06-2619 min
Hello Therapy: Mental Health Tips For Personal Growth#66 Understanding Personal Boundaries in Relationships with Lizandra LeigertwoodAre unclear or weak boundaries creating tension in your relationships? In this essential conversation, I’m joined by psychotherapist Lizandra Leigertwood to unpack the role of personal boundaries in relationships and how learning to set them can transform your emotional wellbeing.We dive into the psychology of boundary-setting, including how childhood trauma, attachment styles, and family dynamics shape your ability to advocate for your needs. Lizandra offers practical tools to help you identify unhealthy boundaries, reconnect with your core val...2025-06-2429 minHealing Childhood TraumaUnlearning Shame, Reclaiming Pleasure: A Conversation on Sex & Attachment with Certified Sex Coach Lucy Rowett [Ep 26]If you’ve ever felt disconnected during sex, struggled to enjoy pleasure, or found yourself shutting down emotionally or physically, this episode is for you.This week, psychotherapist Lizandra is joined by certified sexologist Lucy Rowett for a deeply honest and empowering conversation about the links between trauma, attachment wounds, and female sexuality. We explore why so many women feel stuck in cycles of shame or numbness when it comes to intimacy, and what it actually takes to reclaim a felt sense of safety, desire, and connection in your body.2025-06-191h 02Healing Childhood TraumaAdverse Childhood Experiences Explained: The Link Between Trauma and Your Health [Ep 25]**Currently Accepting Clients** 📱Book your free 15 minute intro call with LizandraIn this episode, we’re diving into the science behind Adverse Childhood Experiences, or ACEs, and why your childhood experiences may still be impacting your mental, emotional, and even physical health today.If you’ve ever wondered why certain patterns keep showing up in your life—like anxiety, chronic stress, people-pleasing, or difficulty in relationships—this conversation offers a powerful lens to help you make sense o...2025-06-1220 minHealing Childhood TraumaNarcissist Fathers: Perfectionism, Over-achieving and Attachment [Ep 24]Many children of narcissistic fathers tend to have a core feeling of never being good enough. Feeling invaluable or invisible unless they are over-performing or over-achieving. This episode looks at the emotional and psychological impact of growing up with a narcissistic father and what steps you can take to start healing. Subscribe and watch the free training Stop Doing Relationships Like Your Parents**Currently Accepting Clients** 📱Book your free 15 minute intro call wi...2025-06-0523 minHealing Childhood Trauma8 Ways you are living in your stress response [Ep 23]**Currently Accepting Clients** 📱Book your free 15 minute intro call with Lizandra Connect on TikTokConnect on InstagramIn this episode, we're talking about something that so many people are living with daily—often without realising it: being stuck in the stress response.From a trauma-informed perspective, this isn’t just about feeling busy or overwhelmed. Living in the stress response means your nervous system is constantly on high alert—operating from fight, flight, freeze, or fawn. It’s what happens when your body ha...2025-05-2914 minHealing Childhood TraumaHere’s why you’re getting stuck in your healing journey [Ep 22]Have you been trying all of the things to move forward in your healing journey? Therapy, podcasts, reading, meditation but you still feel like you’re not getting anywhere? There are often reasons why you can plateau and feel like you are not making progress. This episode helps you to discover what they are so that you can stop being so hard on yourself and make the changes you’ve been working so hard to make. If you’re just getting started or you just need to refresh, listen to this episode on How to Be...2025-05-2215 minHealing Childhood TraumaWhy It’s So Hard to Communicate When You’re Triggered [Ep 21]🚨**LAST CHANCE TO BOOK YOUR SEAT Friday 17th May Midnight BST**👉Click here for your ticket 👈Ever found yourself freezing mid-conversation, overreacting to a small comment, or walking away from a talk thinking, “That didn’t come out how I meant it to”?You’re not alone. In this episode, we explore why communication feels impossible when you’re triggered—and how your attachment style, nervous system, and past experiences all play a role.If you’re tired of miscommunication, emotional spirals, or feeling misunderstoo...2025-05-1515 minHealing Childhood TraumaThe 3 Biggest Communication Mistakes you’re making if you have an Insecure Attachment Style [Ep 20]Let’s talk about the subtle ways we push people away - even when we don’t mean to.In this episode, I’m breaking down 3 communication habits that can quietly damage connection, especially if you’ve learned to protect yourself by not being fully honest about what you need.Here’s what we cover:Why over-explaining isn’t clarity - it’s a nervous system trying to feel safeHow emotional distance and avoidance can cause resentment and fuel conflictThe sneaky habit of expressing needs through small, surface-level complaints instead of saying what’s...2025-05-0811 minHealing Childhood Trauma5 Unhealthy Emotional Habits That Keep You Disconnected From Yourself [Ep 19]Healing Childhood trauma is back after a break! In this episode, I’m talking about five emotional habits that might seem harmless—or even polite—but are actually signs you’re disconnected from your emotional needs.These patterns are common if you grew up in a home where your emotions weren’t welcomed or validated, and they often show up in the way we relate to ourselves and others as adults.We’ll cover:Why constantly invalidating your own experience feels “normal”How over-apologising chips away at your sense of self...2025-05-0124 minHealing Childhood TraumaThe Anxious - Avoidant Trap in Relationships [Ep 18]In this episode of healing childhood trauma, the anxious and avoidant attachment style dynamic is explored. It’s why the relationships that seem to make sense in the beginning, often end up in frustration and dissatisfaction. In this episode you’ll understand where anxious and avoidant attachment begins How these patterns show up in the early stages of a relationship Why people with anxious attachment are drawn to people with avoidant attachment Why people with avoidant attachment can appear to be secure in the early stages of a relationshipand...2025-03-2728 minHealing Childhood TraumaWhat to do when you feel Emotionally Overwhelmed [Ep 17]Lizandra is a trauma informed psychotherapist who works with relational trauma in adults. Healing Childhood Trauma is a mental health podcast about healing from the past, breaking unhealthy patterns and becoming secure, so you can have the best relationships.This podcast is for you if you find yourself asking questions such asHow do I heal from Trauma? Can I change my attachment style? Why am I a people pleaser? How do I get over my fear of being alone? Why do I feel triggered by my part...2025-03-2017 minHealing Childhood TraumaThe Father Wound in Daughters [Ep 16]In this episode we explore the root cause of an insecure attachment and father wounds in daughters.Attachment is often related to romantic relationships but the patterns of abandonment and rejection are often much deeper. As a therapist that works with childhood relational trauma, psychotherapist Lizandra offers insights from clinical practice and experience. Key learnings: How to consider your safety when working with trauma so that you don't feel overwhelmed. When happens when you are the daughter of the emotionally absent or critical fatherWhy do you feel...2025-03-1323 minHealing Childhood TraumaRed Flags in Unhealthy Relationships and Dating [Ep 15]Join psychotherapist and relationship therapist Lizandra for this real talk episode that unpacks red flags in relationships and dating. Do you ignore the early warning signs in relationships? Ever wish you could have spotted the signs of a toxic relationship early on? In this episode you'll discover how we repeat relationship patterns we've learned from our parentsThe early signs to spot problematic and narcissistic behaviours you shouldn't ignoreWhy we normalise toxic behaviours in relationshipsand The patterns of behaviour that indicate a lack of boundaries 2025-03-0619 minHealing Childhood TraumaHow to not Lose Yourself in Relationships when you have an Anxious Attachment [Ep 14]In this episode, we dive deep into the struggles of maintaining your sense of self in relationships when you have an anxious attachment style. If you find yourself constantly overthinking, people pleasing, or feeling like you’re "too much," this episode is for you. We’ll explore why anxious attachers often lose themselves in relationships, how childhood trauma plays a role, and practical steps to regain self-worth and emotional independence.Key Takeaways:Understanding anxious attachment and why it leads to self abandonment in relationships.How early attachment wounds from childhood create patterns of overdependence and f...2025-02-2717 minHealing Childhood Trauma7 Signs of a Narcissistic Mother [Ep 13]What do you do when the most toxic person you know is your mother?It’s hard dealing with a narcissist. It's even harder when that person is your mother. In this episode we explore the dynamic of mother daughter relationships and the traits that narcissist mothers have with their daughters. Find out the seven signs of a narcissistic motherWhat this means about your own attachment style How this can impact your friendships, romantic relationships and how you parentand A sur...2025-02-2128 minHealing Childhood TraumaAn Integrative Approach to Managing Anxiety and Regulating your Nervous System [Ep 12]Do you get anxiety about having anxiety?In this episode we explore the mind and body approach to working with the physical and mental signs of anxiety. Experienced psychotherapist Lizandra discusses an integrative approach from clinical practice that helps clients to recognise their signs of overwhelm and stress to feel calmer. This episode also includes anxiety strategies that help to regulate your nervous system and why there can be a benefit to experiencing anxiety. The Anxiety Workbook referenced in the...2025-02-1321 minHealing Childhood TraumaRecognising the Signs of Dismissive Avoidant Attachment: Key Traits and Behaviours [Ep 11]This episode is all about understanding the dismissive avoidant attachment style. This attachment style is often misunderstood so in this episode we unpack:Where dismissive avoidant attachment comes from What to look out for when identifying avoidant attachment How this attachment style can negatively impact your relationships if you don’t address your childhood wounds and lots more to understand if you or your someone you know has avoidant attachment traits in relationshipsWant to know more a...2025-02-0522 minHealing Childhood TraumaCo-Regulation and Female Friendships in Healing Attachment Trauma [Ep10]We have often been conditioned to focus on romantic love when healing from anxious attachment or avoidant attachment. Whether you’re single or in a relationship, prioritising your friendships and your own identity is the key to developing your sense of self and having healthy reciprocal relationships.This episode explores how female friendships and friendships in safe spaces can support you in healing from an insecure attachment. Even if you’ve been conditioned to see your value in being chosen and finding ‘the one’ by our very patriarchal standards in society. You’ll learn how friendship can support...2025-01-2318 minHealing Childhood TraumaTherapist Tips on Having Hard Conversations and Dealing with Conflict [Ep 9]In any relationship it’s impossible to avoid hard conversations. Many people think of conflict as a negative thing that destroys relationships. When you change how you approach conflict and how to have difficult conversations with someone you love, you can build a stronger connection. These tips apply to any kind of relationship with someone you care about. In this episode you’ll learn:Why conflict arises Techniques for managing challenging conversations Things to let go of when...2025-01-1522 minHealing Childhood TraumaWhat is better for Trauma: Therapy vs Coaching [Ep 8]In this episode, we dive deep into the role of therapy and coaching in healing from childhood trauma. Whether you're new to therapy or exploring coaching options, we’ll break down what to expect from your first session and the therapeutic process. You’ll discover how therapy differs from simply talking to a friend and why many people struggle with feeling 'good enough' to begin their healing journey.We also discuss the role of coaching in trauma work and explore whether you can benefit from both approaches. Is therapy or coaching better for you? You’ll lear...2025-01-0824 minHealing Childhood TraumaDeveloping Secure Attachment when you've Experienced Childhood Trauma [Ep 7]Are you stuck in a pattern of unhealthy relationship dynamics? This episode is all about secure attachment and what it takes to have healthier relationships when you’ve experienced childhood trauma. Secure attachment is how we form stronger relationship patterns with ourselves but there is also one other relationship that significantly gets overlooked. Join me as we discuss what secure attachment looks like in relationships, if it’s possible to change your attachment style and some little known truths about attachment. Download the free...2024-12-1912 minHealing Childhood Trauma12 Practical Tips to Survive Christmas with a Dysfunctional Family [Ep 6]In this episode we discuss dysfunctional family and how it can be challenging to return to your family of origin at Christmas time. Christmas can be a stressful time when you've experienced childhood trauma. We can't always change family dynamics, but we can find ways that we can prepare and preserve our emotional wellbeing and mental health. You'll find practical tips that will help you to plan ahead for this festive season and years to come. If you enjoy this episode please rate and subscribe. It helps others to find the show too. ...2024-12-1222 minHealing Childhood TraumaWhat Causes People Pleasing Behaviour [Ep 5]Are you someone who says yes and then regrets it and feels resentful later?Do you find it hard to identify and ask for what you need? Are you constantly overthinking about whether people like you or worry if you say the wrong thing? People pleasers gather here.In this episode you’ll learn: The one thing that all people pleasers needHow to recognise if you are a kind person or if you are a people pleas...2024-12-0318 minHealing Childhood TraumaHow to begin your healing journey [Ep 1]Welcome to the very first episode of Healing Childhood Trauma. This episode is an introduction to the podcast and host therapist Lizandra Leigertwood and how to start your own personal journey of healing. Whether you've had therapy before or your just curious about what your next steps should be to heal and process the past, you'll get practical insights to help you. Join the private Facebook Community https://www.facebook.com/groups/becomingsecureFollow for more on IG and Tiktokhttps://www.instagram.com/newframetherapy/https://www.tiktok.com/@ne...2024-11-2513 minHealing Childhood Trauma4 Attachment Styles in Relationships [Ep 2]In this episode Lizandra explains attachment and the four main attachment styles in relationships. Learn why your relationships have challenges and how it relates to your attachment style and patterns from childhood. There's also a tip on taking the attachment quiz that most people don't know to get more accurate results. If your relationships have followed the same unhealthy patterns and you would like to know why and how to break unhelpful patterns, this episode is for you. Join the private Facebook Community https://www.facebook.com/groups/becomingsecure...2024-11-2522 minHealing Childhood TraumaBoundaries in Relationships [Ep 3]S1 Ep 3 This episode is all about boundaries in relationships.In this episode we cover: Why is it so difficult to set boundaries? The real meaning of what boundaries are How setting boundaries can transform your relationships What happens when you don’t set boundariesAnd so much more If you’ve experienced childhood trauma, it’s likely that you didn’t h...2024-11-2518 minHealing Childhood TraumaHow to Heal from Anxious Attachment [Ep 4]Attachment is the blueprint for how we have relationships based on our earlier experiences in childhood. This episode explains what an anxious attachment is and where it comes from. You’ll learn: How anxious attachment impacts your romantic relationships, friendships and how you feel about yourself.A 14 point checklist on signs of anxious attachment A mindset shift for your own attachment style to empower you on your healing journey.How your childhood and how you were parented can still impact your relati...2024-11-2519 minHealing Childhood TraumaTrailerHealing Childhood Trauma for Millenial Women is the podcast helping you to understand yourself better, heal from the past and start unlearning the behaviours that keep you stuck. If you've been in a cycle of people pleasing, high functioning anxiety and trying to figure out what your next steps are for healing, this is for you.Together we'll look at understanding why we think, feel and behave the way that we do. Through understanding how the past impacts the present, you can transform your relationships and most importantly, how you feel about you.When we...2024-11-1901 min
Do good and Do Well054 Marketing without social media with Viv GuyIn this episode, I talk to marketing mentor Viv Guy about running a business without using social media. In this conversation: Viv shares her story of running businesses and how she came off social media We also talk ways to connect and grow your community off of social media particularly through collaboration The challenges of social media and it's impact on small businesses Using social media intentionally Marketing Archetypes Slowing down and connecting with people Viv shares some tips if you're thinking about s...2023-02-2048 min
Do good and Do Well046 Boundaries in life and work, with psychotherapist Lizandra LeigertwoodIn this episode Lizandra and I explore boundaries and what that means for us at work and in life. We talk about types of boundaries, the myths that stop us all from setting healthy boundaries, how to set boundaries and a whole load of other stuff. we're wired for connection and safety Lizandra is a psychotherapist for individuals and couples focusing on childhood trauma, anxiety and relationships. Contact Lizandra: Website: www.newframetherapy.co.uk Instagram: www.instagram.com/newframetherapy Tik Tok: https://www.tiktok.com/@newframetherapy Contact m...2022-12-0536 min
Real You, Real Money with Ray DoddCoaching, therapy and everything in between with Lizandra LeigertwoodI’m so excited to have Lizandra Leigertwood on the podcast today to bring some amazing perspective on the relationship between therapy and coaching! Lizandra talks about her experience as a psychotherapist and relationship therapist, and some of the challenges she sees when people are either considering or entering therapy.
We both notice that the amount of people who quickly look for therapy after starting their own business is huge! Lizandra and I start to unpack this, looking at the ways that opening up different parts of yourself can be beneficial and freeing for both you...2022-11-0242 min
iLive Radio UKTalks Honest presents (Black Women's Wisdom) Ep. #6 Health & Well-being | 02.08.2020Episode #6 - (Health & Well-being)
Guests: Miss Mode, Miss D, Miss B and Lizandra Leigertwood (Counsellor & Psycho Therapist)
TALKS HONEST hosted by Miss Law. A talk show platform and an opportunity to express yourself and discuss topics never spoken but, often thought of.
Every Sunday on iLiveUK2020-08-0300 min