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EMPOWERED POLYEp 42: Lola Phoenix The Anxious Person's Guide to Non-monogamyJoin us, Leanne & Greg Million, Certified Relationship Coaches as we chat with Lola Phoenix, the delightful author of "The Anxious Person's Guide to Non-monogamy" and "The Non-monogamy Journal"!We spoke to Lola about the concept of "anchor" as a grounding tool for navigating non-monogamy, especially for anxious individuals. She shared her struggles as an introvert and in trying to find community in polyam, as well as emphasizing that understanding one's nervous system and reframing anxiety as a protective response rather than an enemy can be helpful. She suggests treating anxious thoughts as a part of oneself that needs comfort...2025-03-301h 05
Nope! We're Not MonogamousThe Anxious Person's Toolkit for Successful Non-Monogamous Connections with Lola PhoenixSend us a textAre you navigating the emotional landscape of non-monogamy? In this episode, I chat with Lola Phoenix, author of "The Anxious Person's Guide to Non-Monogamy", "The Non-monogamy Journal", and host of the "Non-Monogamy Help" podcast. We chat about the complexities of open relationships and how to build a toolkit for managing the intense emotions that often arise.Key Insights:The importance of having a personal "anchor" in non-monogamous relationshipsCreating a self-care emergency protocol for challenging emotional momentsWhy traditional advice like "just go on a date night" might not always...2025-02-1347 min
The Latina AdvocateHow Love Turned Into a Business: The Story of the Phoenix CoquiIn this episode, Lola sits down with the founders and owners of the Phoenix Coqui, the famous Puerto Rican restaurant in the Southwest. Owners Alexis Carbajal and Juan Alberto Ayala's business success starts as a love story. Alexis, the Phoenician with Mexican roots found himself in Puerto Rico for a break from the corporate world and to his surprise, wound up falling in love. The two decided they wanted to merge their strengths and create a business, and from there the Phoenix Coqui was born. If you'd like to learn about starting a business that brings cultural diversity to a...2022-12-2346 min
Non-Monogamy HelpEpisode 91 - Hierarchies and EthicsSome people think having a “primary” partner is always an unethical decision but isn’t prioritising a long term marriage logical? That's what's on this week's episode of Non-Monogamy Help.
Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website.
Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com!
Email nonmonogamyhelp@gmail.com with your question.2022-09-2333 minNon-Monogamy HelpEpisode 90 - Breakup NewsMentioning that you’re going through a breakup is not an expectation of emotional support to new partners, friends or anyone else. That's what's on this week's episode of Non-Monogamy Help.
Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website.
Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com!
Email nonmonogamyhelp@gmail.com with your question.2022-09-0217 minNon-Monogamy HelpEpisode 89 - Mismatched DrivesWill opening a relationship help if one partner expects spontaneous sex but the other is dealing with a stressful job and anxiety medication? That's what's on this week's episode of Non-Monogamy Help.
Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website.
Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com!
Email nonmonogamyhelp@gmail.com with your question.2022-08-1929 minNon-Monogamy HelpEpisode 88 - One Rule to Rule Them AllSometimes making a rule causes the exact problem that the rule is designed to prevent. That's what's on this week's episode of Non-Monogamy Help.
Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website.
Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com!
Email nonmonogamyhelp@gmail.com with your question.2022-08-0520 minNon-Monogamy HelpEpisode 87 - Showering RulesWhen having strict rules makes you feel controlled, coming to a compromise with a partner who wants a specific thing can seem impossible. That's what's on this week's episode of Non-Monogamy Help.
Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website.
Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com!
Email nonmonogamyhelp@gmail.com with your question.2022-07-1518 min
Non-Monogamy HelpEpisode 86 - No Exes as FriendsYour new partner demands, during a period of grief, that you stop being friends with an ex and now might not be the best time to push back on the ultimatum. That's what's on this week's episode of Non-Monogamy Help.
Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website.
Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com!
Email nonmonogamyhelp@gmail.com with your question.2022-07-0823 min
Multiamory: Rethinking Modern RelationshipsThe Anxious Person's Guide to Non-Monogamy with Lola PhoenixToday, Lola Phoenix rejoins us to discuss their new book, "The Anxious Person's Guide to Non-Monogamy," which was published June 21st, 2022. Lola Phoenix is an American born writer living in Stockholm, working within digital marketing while trying to find an agent to represent their science fiction work. The last time they were on the show was in 2019 for episode 225. Join our amazing community of listeners at multiamory.supercast.com. We offer sliding scale subscriptions so everyone can also get access to ad-free episodes, group video discussions, and our amazing Discord community. Multiamory was created...2022-06-281h 03Non-Monogamy HelpEpisode 85 - Insecurity and ComparisonsYou want to be non-monogamous but you can’t stop feeling a way about your partner commenting or liking pictures of others. How do you deal? That's what's on this week's episode of Non-Monogamy Help.
Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website.
Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com!
Email nonmonogamyhelp@gmail.com with your question.2022-06-2425 min
Fifty Shades of Gender83. LOLA PHOENIX: agender, non-binary, queerLola Phoenix is a writer, podcaster, and author of the recently published book The Anxious Person's Guide to Non-Monogamy. Lola's pronouns are they/them, and they are agender, non-binary, and queer. Find out what that means to Lola in this episode. We also talk about being accidentally gender non-conforming, not relating to normative experiences, prioritising action over language, the power in choosing our response, what we do versus who we are, the similarities between an unconventional gender journey and exploring alternative relationship styles, solidarity and the need to unite, the importance of understanding and regulating our nervous system, and...2022-06-231h 26Non-Monogamy HelpEpisode 84 - Disclosure and OutingYou’re in a not so open minded city. How do you tell people you want to date that you’re currently in a polyamorous or open relationship? That's what's on this week's episode of Non-Monogamy Help.
Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website.
Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com!
Email nonmonogamyhelp@gmail.com with your question.2022-06-1020 minNon-Monogamy HelpEpisode 83 - Recycled DatesWhat happens when you’re trying non-monogamy for the first time, but you and your partner can’t come to an agreement on things like not going to the same places they’ve taken a metamour? That's what's on this week's episode of Non-Monogamy Help.
Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website.
Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com!
Email nonmonogamyhelp@gmail.com with your question.2022-05-2735 minNon-Monogamy HelpEpisode 82 - Dating MetamoursWhen your shared partner is making you both feel like you’re a triad when you’ve never agreed to that… it can get a little awkward. That's what's on this week's episode of Non-Monogamy Help.
Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website.
Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com!
Email nonmonogamyhelp@gmail.com with your question.2022-05-1315 minNon-Monogamy HelpEpisode 81 - Just FOMOThinking about the things you might be missing out on doesn’t, in fact, make you a jerk. That's what's on this week's episode of Non-Monogamy Help.
Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website.
Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com!
Email nonmonogamyhelp@gmail.com with your question.2022-04-2918 minNon-Monogamy HelpEpisode 80 - Trying to ConvinceIf you’re trying to convince your partner to be polyamorous, you may not be able to “fix” them wanting monogamy. That's what's on this week's episode of Non-Monogamy Help.
Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website.
Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com!
Email nonmonogamyhelp@gmail.com with your question.2022-04-0815 minNon-Monogamy HelpEpisode 79 - Outside VetoThis week's episode is about what happens when a mutual friend is unhappy with the relationship building happening between you and someone else. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on our website.
Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com!
Email nonmonogamyhelp@gmail.com with your question.2022-04-0119 minNon-Monogamy HelpEpisode 78 - Not Good EnoughSometimes when your partner wants non-monogamy you can be left feeling like you’ve failed or not done enough. That's what's on this week's episode of Non-Monogamy Help.
Find the full audio transcription of this episode on our website.
Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com!
Email nonmonogamyhelp@gmail.com with your question.2022-03-1121 minNon-Monogamy HelpEpisode 77 - Making the LeapIf non-monogamy is a no go, should you say goodbye to a five year relationship on a hunch? That's what's on this week's episode of Non-Monogamy Help.
Find the full audio transcription of this episode on our website.
Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com!
Email nonmonogamyhelp@gmail.com with your question.2022-02-2516 minNon-Monogamy HelpEpisode 76 - No Way OutIf you feel you’re between crushing emotions and a family breakdown, you might feel like there’s no way out. That's what's on this week's episode of Non-Monogamy Help.
Find the full audio transcription of this episode on our website.
Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com!
Email nonmonogamyhelp@gmail.com with your question.2022-02-1128 minNon-Monogamy HelpEpisode 75 - OverreactingYour short term partner is snapping and says it’s a joke and your long term partner says you’re overreacting. How do you deal?
That's what's on this week's episode of Non-Monogamy Help.
Find the full audio transcription of this episode on our website.
Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com!
Email nonmonogamyhelp@gmail.com with your question.2022-01-2816 min
Friends in Your EarsJen Rozenbaum and Lola PhoenixIn this special episode of FIYE, Kathy, Jen, and Lola discuss it all, from cancer to non-monogamy, the real housewives, and of course, our favorite subject, podcasts! Theme Music by Christopher and Adelaide Breen Edited by Dear Podcast Incomparable Memberships!: Sign up, help support this show, and get some fun bonus material. Kathy Campbell with Jen Rozenbaum and Lola Phoenix.2022-01-1417 minNon-Monogamy HelpEpisode 74 - Dating FamilyIn starting out in polyamory, most people want to make rules — like no dating friends or family. It’s worth thinking more about that rule.
That's what's on this week's episode of Non-Monogamy Help.
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Non-Monogamy HelpEpisode 73 - Caveat EmptorIt’s easy to think you might be interest in non-monogamy, but what if you have some conflicting feelings when theory becomes practice?2022-01-0119 min
Non-Monogamy HelpEpisode 72 - Problematic PedestalWhen you put one partner on a pedestal, it can cause a lot of constant anxiety. That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help.2021-12-1722 min
Non-Monogamy HelpEpisode 71 - Feelings and FriendsWe create rules sometimes about what our partners can do because we’re afraid of losing them, but sometimes the rules we make don’t actually change anything.2021-12-0319 min
Non-Monogamy HelpEpisode 70 - Half GhostingWhat happens when your mutual partner ghosts you, but not your partner? Rejection sucks, but this feels a bit different. That's what's on this week's episode of Non-Monogamy Help. Discussion Topic - What happens when your partner and your best friend don’t get along?2021-11-1219 min
Non-Monogamy HelpEpisode 69 - Self-Sacrificing Too MuchIf you’ve given a partner 10 years in monogamy, but they expect you to be happy and feel compersion after deciding to be polyamorous, you might be self-sacrificing a little too much. That's what's on this week's episode of Non-Monogamy Help. Discussion Topic - What’s one major way your values have changed in the last 10 years?2021-10-2925 min
Non-Monogamy HelpEpisode 68 - Mismatched IdealsIf your partner is polyamorous but you are non-monogamous is your relationship doomed? That's what's on this week's episode of Non-Monogamy Help. Discussion Topic - What is your ideal polyamory or non-monogamy set-up?2021-10-1521 min
Non-Monogamy HelpEpisode 67 - Temporary MonogamyCan an aversion to non-monogamy come from relationship anxiety and trauma? Discussion Topic - What have you changed your mind about in terms of how you want to live your life?2021-10-0134 min
Non-Monogamy HelpEpisode 66 - Hidden MetamourEven if you have confusing boundaries and you’re not “official”, lying by omission can still feel like cheating. Discussion Topic - What is a non-monogamous setup that wouldn’t work for you?2021-09-1715 min
Non-Monogamy HelpEpisode 65 - No Longer PrimaryHow do you force yourself out of apathy if you feel the partner you want to settle down with is slipping away? Discussion Topic - How has your ideal lifestyle changed over time?2021-09-0320 min
Non-Monogamy HelpEpisode 64 - What Rules to HaveWill the rules you want to put in place prevent what you think they will prevent? That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website.
Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com!
Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question.2021-08-2018 min
Non-Monogamy HelpEpisode 63 - Visualising Your PartnerWhat if you can’t see your partner with someone else in your head without feeling terrible? That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website.
Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com!
Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question.2021-08-0622 min
Non-Monogamy HelpEpisode 62 - More Metamour ToxicityYour partner’s partner’s partner doesn’t seem like they’re good for your metamour, but what can you actually do? That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website.
Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com!
Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question.2021-07-2318 min
Non-Monogamy HelpEpisode 61 - PTSD and PolyamoryA previous abusive experience of a polyam relationship is causing floods of emotions on your second try. Should you stop? That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website.
Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com!
Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question.2021-07-0927 min
Non-Monogamy HelpEpisode 60 - Temporarily OpenCan opening your relationship temporarily work to address an incompatibility? That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website.
Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com!
Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question.2021-06-1822 min
Non-Monogamy HelpEpisode 59 - Feeling DisconnectedIf COVID caught a relationship when it was just forming, is it worth picking back up again if you’re feeling disconnected? That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website.
Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com!
Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question.2021-06-0418 min
Non-Monogamy HelpEpisode 58 - Sexual IncompatibilityAfter more than a decade, your partner wants to open up because he’s not happy, but you think things are going too fast. What do you do? That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website.
Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com!
Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question.2021-05-2125 min
Non-Monogamy HelpEpisode 57 - Begging For TimeYou’ve started in a new triad but you’re feeling like the third wheel and no one is spending time with you. What do you do? That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website.
Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com!
Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question.2021-05-0721 min
Non-Monogamy HelpEpisode 56 - Escalating Past a MetamourYour partner is escalating your relationship and it’s making your metamour jealous. What can you do? That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website.
Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com!
Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question.2021-04-2317 min
Non-Monogamy HelpEpisode 55 - How Much is Too MuchHow much is too much to know about your partner’s other relationships? Where is the line? That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website.
Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com!
Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question.2021-04-0925 min
Non-Monogamy HelpEpisode 54 - Sacrificing Too MuchWhen you're trying your best with polyamory but it feels like if you don't get it right, you may get divorced. That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website.
Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com!
Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question.2021-03-2631 min
Non-Monogamy HelpEpisode 53 - Forgiving MistakesYou have a metamour who thinks someone you're dating is a bad person. What do you do? That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website.
Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com!
Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question.2021-03-1228 min
Non-Monogamy HelpEpisode 52 - Anxious After MarriageAnxiety that's so overwhelming can make you feel like non-monogamy isn't for you at the time. That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website.
Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com!
Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question.2021-02-2620 min
The Breakup Monologues with Rosie WilbyThe Future of Breakups - with Mia Levitin, Shazia Mirza and Lola PhoenixRosie investigates the future of breakups. She speaks to author of The Future of Seduction and cultural critic Mia Levitin, who re-entered the dating game after divorcing in her thirties... and found that dating really had become a game. They discuss ghosting, the paradox of choice, video dating and robot companions. Rosie also chats to award-winning comedian Shazia Mirza about the near-future possibility of taking an ‘anti-love drug’ to forget a bad breakup and how long-term relationships are impacted by a pandemic. Finally she speaks to creator of the blog and podcast Non-Monogamy Help, Lola Phoenix, about how polyamory chan...2021-02-261h 12
Non-Monogamy HelpEpisode 51 - Conversion TherapyWhen you don't want to be polyamorous anymore and you're considering therapy to convert yourself back. That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website.
Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com!
Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question.2021-02-1220 min
Non-Monogamy HelpEpisode 50 - What Is Love?Your partner expects you to commit to monogamy eventually but you're not sure if you've ever been in love. That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website.
Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com!
Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question.2021-01-1520 min
Non-Monogamy HelpEpisode 49 - Wanting MonogamyA partner comes to you asking if you'd consider monogamy and then changes their mind later on, but you're still stuck on wanting it. What do you do? https://anchor.fm/dashboard/episode/e1s4f462021-01-0120 min
Non-Monogamy HelpEpisode 48 - Too Much NREIs 18 months enough time to give someone to decide if they want polyamory? That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website.
Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com!
Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question.2020-12-1833 min
Non-Monogamy HelpEpisode 47 - Harem BoyShould you judge a guy who says that all men want a harem of submissive women? That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website.
Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com!
Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question.2020-12-0429 min
Non-Monogamy HelpEpisode 46 - STI RisksHow worried should you be about STI risk as an immunocompromised person? That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website.
Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com!
Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question.2020-11-2032 min
Non-Monogamy HelpEpisode 45 - Sex Work and PolyamoryWhat resources are available for someone who asks about dating a sex worker? That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website.
Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com!
Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question.2020-11-0615 min
Non-Monogamy HelpEpisode 44 - You Don't Need 5 PartnersWhat happens when you struggle to find partners but your domestic partner does not? That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website.
Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com!
Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question.2020-10-2317 min
Non-Monogamy HelpEpisode 43 - What if It Ends?What happens when our biggest fear is losing our current relationship? That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website.
Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com!
Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question.2020-10-0926 min
Non-Monogamy HelpEpisode 42 - The Dreaded VetoWhen you've conceded to many rules but your partner demands you dump another, what do you do? That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website.
Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com!
Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question.2020-09-2532 min
Non-Monogamy HelpEpisode 41 - No Rules Just WrongIn trying establish rules, does that make you less "ready" for non-monogamy or polyamory? That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website.
Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com!
Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question.2020-09-1131 min
Non-Monogamy HelpEpisode 40 - Polyam is ValidWhat if you're struggling to see the relationship you have as valid if they're married to someone else? That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website.
Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com!
Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question.2020-08-1416 min
Non-Monogamy HelpEpisode 39 - Multiple EscalatorsIs it possible to build a new primary relationship on top of an existing, serious secondary relationship? That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website.
Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com!
Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question.2020-07-3118 min
Non-Monogamy HelpEpisode 38 - Is Polyamory Part of Me?Is polyamory an inherent part of who you are or is it something you can learn to be. That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website.
Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com!
Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question.2020-07-1723 min
Non-Monogamy HelpEpisode 37 - Don't Want to ShareWhen you and your partner are dating the same person and you're tired of sharing. That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website.
Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com!
Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question.2020-07-0314 min
Non-Monogamy HelpEpisode 36 - Last Ditch AttemptShould you go with polyamory to keep someone in your life? That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website.
Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com!
Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question.2020-06-1921 min
Non-Monogamy HelpEpisode 35 - Primary ResponsibilityDo titles matter when one partner asks for exclusive time? That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website.
Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com!
Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question.2020-06-0511 min
Non-Monogamy HelpEpisode 34 - Afraid of LossYour partner doesn't want to try polyamory because they are afraid to lose you. How do you move forward from that? That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website.
Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com!
Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question.2020-05-2217 min
Non-Monogamy HelpEpisode 33 - Stuck in the MiddleWhat happens when you feel stuck in the middle of your partner and their metamour? That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website.
Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com!
Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question.2020-05-0818 min
Non-Monogamy HelpEpisode 32 - Dating a ColleagueIf you fell for someone at work and they're now off limits, should you keep pushing it? Is your partner giving you an unfair veto? That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website.
Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com!
Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question.2020-04-2422 min
Non-Monogamy HelpEpisode 31 - So UncomfortableIf you've replaced your partner's primary, how do you stop caring that you'll be replaced too? That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website.
Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com!
Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question.2020-04-1020 min
Non-Monogamy HelpEpisode 30 - How to Not CareIf you've replaced your partner's primary, how do you stop caring that you'll be replaced too? That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website.
Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com!
Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question.2020-03-2025 min
Non-Monogamy HelpEpisode 29 - Preventing CheatingCan opening a relationship prevent cheating from ever happening? That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website.
Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com!
Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question.2020-03-0623 min
Non-Monogamy HelpEpisode 28 - Unhealthy or IncompatibleWhat do you do if your partner wants no restrictions but you need reassurance that what you have means something? That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website.
Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com!
Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question.2020-02-2132 min
Non-Monogamy HelpEpisode 27 - Signs of SeriousnessHow do you know your relationship is 'serious'? Is asking about it going to bug your partner too much? That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website.
Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com!
Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question.2020-02-0726 min
Non-Monogamy HelpEpisode 26 - Flirting or CheatingWhat if your partner has always flirted in a way you define is cheating and now they want to be non-monogamous. That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website.
Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com!
Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question.2020-01-2425 min
Non-Monogamy HelpEpisode 25 - First Time JittersIf your first foray into non-monogamy is cheating - but it's not sexual - are you doomed? That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website.
Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com!
Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question.2020-01-1022 min
Non-Monogamy HelpEpisode 24 - Rules Won't Save YouCan you make enough rules to prevent your partner from leaving you? That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website.
Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com!
Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question.2019-12-2740 min
Non-Monogamy HelpEpisode 23 - Abusive MetamoursYour partner is trapped in what you think is a psychologically abusive relationship. Can you get them to leave? That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website.
Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com!
Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question.2019-12-1328 min
Non-Monogamy HelpEpisode 22 - Backup WifeA husband asks a wife to open their relationship after cancer, with some troubling caveats. That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website.
Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com!
Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question.2019-11-2927 min
Non-Monogamy HelpEpisode 21 - Walking on EggshellsA metamour's temper has this individual walking on eggshells. Is it because they aren't doing enough? That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website.
Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com!
Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question.2019-11-1526 min
Non-Monogamy HelpEpisode 20 - Ethical Non-MonogamyYour marriage doesn't have passion but a new friendship does. How do make what's been unethical ethical? That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website.
Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com!
Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question.2019-10-1827 min
Non-Monogamy HelpEpisode 19 - Is Polyamory Lazy?Is polyamory just an easy way to go from person to person to get what you want. Or is there more to it than that? That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website.
Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com!
Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question.2019-10-0422 min
Non-Monogamy HelpEpisode 18 - Monster of a MetamourYou don't get along with your metamour and what's more -- you think they might be unhealthy for your partner. What do you do? That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website.
Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com!
Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question.2019-09-2028 min
Non-Monogamy HelpEpisode 17 - Delaying The InevitableYour partner has agreed to open your relationship, but you're afraid to make the first leap. Should you wait until they have a date first? That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website.
Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com!
Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question.2019-09-0630 min
Non-Monogamy HelpEpisode 16 - Just Deal With ItYour partner has told you that they want to sleep with other people and expects you to just deal with it. That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website.
Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com!
Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question.2019-08-2317 min
Non-Monogamy HelpEpisode 15 - Fancying An ArtistYour partner has never been too keen on non-monogamy, but you have an appointment with an artist you can't resist. That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website.
Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com!
Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question.2019-08-0914 min
Non-Monogamy HelpEpisode 14 - To Open or Not To OpenShould you end a marriage with kids just because your partner wants to be explore? Or just wait it out? That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website.
Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com!
Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question.2019-07-2931 min
Non-Monogamy HelpEpisode 13 - I Wanna Ruin Our FriendshipYou've fallen for your (very monogamous) best friend. Should you take the plunge and 'ruin' your friendship? That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website.
Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com!
Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question.2019-07-1219 min
Non-Monogamy HelpEpisode 12 - Needing To Be TouchedWhen your partner feels like they can’t touch anyone any more, are cheating or polyamory your only options? That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website.
Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com!
Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question.2019-06-2819 minMultiamory: Rethinking Modern RelationshipsReal Relationship Talk with Lola PhoenixWe're joined by writer Lola Phoenix to talk about common non-monogamy advice and how it can sometimes miss the mark. Lola (pronoun: they) is a queer, non-binary disabled American living in the UK. Lola writes and produces a weekly advice column and podcast called Non-Monogamy help and has been previously published in Violet Blue’s Best Women’s Erotica. Lola also writes personal essays and articles on a variety of topics on social justice issues from gender to disability to poverty in publications like Talk Poverty, The Huffington Post, XO Jane, INTO, Pink News, Gay Star News, The Esta...2019-06-181h 04
Non-Monogamy HelpEpisode 11 - Long Distance LamentYour relationship has moved to long distance and your partner has a new partner... and is now ignoring your needs. What do you do? That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website.
Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com!
Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question.2019-06-1425 min
Non-Monogamy HelpEpisode 10 - Forced into PolyamoryYour partner wants to open your relationship, but you don't. And you have kids. What now? That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website.
Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com!
Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question.2019-05-1728 min
Non-Monogamy HelpEpisode 9 - Winning Gold MedalsAre you giving your partner a gold medal for doing something they should be doing anyway? That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website.
Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com!
Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question.2019-05-0322 min
Non-Monogamy HelpEpisode 8 - Polyamorous and PregnantWhen a baby's on the way should you close the relationship if you feel you can't trust your partner? That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website.
Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com!
Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question.2019-04-1927 min
Non-Monogamy HelpEpisode 7 - PolyagonyTired of juggling partners, living in polyagony, and ready to throw in the towel. That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website.
Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com!
Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question.2019-04-0530 min
Non-Monogamy HelpEpisode 6: Polyam in the MiddleWhen an attempt at kitchen table polyamory goes awry and two of your loves can't see eye to eye. That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website.
Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com!
Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question.2019-03-2224 min
Non-Monogamy HelpEpisode 5: Tricky Triangles and BPDWhen is a good time to try and see if you are non-monogamous? And how can borderline personality disorder impact it? That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website.
Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com!
Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question.2019-03-0834 min
Non-Monogamy HelpEpisode 4: Getting Married As a TriadIs it possible to get married to both of the loves of your life? That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website.
Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com!
Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question.2019-02-2217 min
Non-Monogamy HelpEpisode 3: Shouldn't this be easier if I've cheated?What if you've tried non-monogamy because you cheated, and it's not working out as well as you thought? That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website.
Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com and the art was made by Dom Duong at domduong.com!
Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question.2019-02-0824 min
Non-Monogamy HelpEpisode 2: STIs Don't Care About FeelingsWhat happens when your partner is fluid bonded with others but you want them to be fluid bonded to you instead? That's what's on this week's episode of Non-Monogamy Help. Full audio transcript can be found on Patreon. More about Non-Monogamy Help: https://nonmonogamyhelp.com https://www.patreon.com/lolaphoenix https://twitter.com/NonMonogamyHelp Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question.2019-01-2534 min
Non-Monogamy HelpEpisode 1: Thruple TroubleWhat do you do when you start dating a couple and things don't seem to be going right... but that's actually going according to plan? That's what's on this week's episode of Non-Monogamy Help. More about Non-Monogamy Help: https://nonmonogamyhelp.com https://www.patreon.com/lolaphoenix https://twitter.com/NonMonogamyHelp Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question.2019-01-1119 min
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