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Rigour & Flow with Aiwan and TamandaWhen Your Best Friend Resents You | Adult Friendship & JealousyWhere do you stand on choosing to fix a failing friendship, or deciding to let it go? Adult friendships are supposed to be the easy relationships.
No shared mortgage. No in-laws. No vows. Why then can they break you in ways that feel like such a fundamental failure? In this episode of Rigour & Flow, we open a conversation that surprised us both. Using a provocation from Lovette Jallow on friendship breakups and “outgrowing” people, we ask whether growth always calls for departure, or whether sometimes we lack the skills to repair what ruptured...
2026-02-241h 00
🎙️ Lov(ette) or Leave ItWhat Precolonial Africa Can Teach Us About Nonspeaking Autism and BelongingThe Colonial Demand for SpeechNonspeaking autistic children in Black families are often treated as risks rather than as people communicating differently.When Black families raise nonverbal autistic children, silence is treated as danger rather than communication, and fear becomes the engine of discipline, secrecy, and forced speech. - Lovette Jallow© Lovette Jallow. All rights reserved.This section is part of a protected and copyrighted body of work. It may not be reproduced, excerpted, adapted, or cited in academic, commercial, or derivative work without explicit permission. This is living, ancestral research r...
2026-02-0342 min
RebellingStretch & Repair: Finding Security in Connection with Jen AndrewI've been wondering...what if social security wasn’t just a government program, but something we build together with the people in and around our lives? In this episode of the Social Security series, Jen Andrew, a disability rights advocate, herbalist, and guest from The Myth of Knowing series, joins me to explore another reframe: relationships as a form of social security, and how showing up, stretching, and repairing can create the support systems we all need. Jen and I talk about the complex, confusing, gratifying, and very real work of connection: balancing self-responsibility with reciprocity, holding spa...
2026-01-191h 13
🎙️ Lov(ette) or Leave ItWhy Do People Make Promises They Don't Keep?Why Offers Without Follow-Through Plus Continued Interaction Is ExtractionTwo years ago, three people I had never met popped up and asked for my address. They wanted to send me postcards. Gifts. Little “thinking of you” tokens. I never asked. They offered, unprompted, and with the kind of enthusiasm that makes you assume they mean it. So I gave it to them. Naively. Because there is a part of me that still believes words are supposed to carry weight.Nothing arrived. Not once. No postcard. No envelope. No "hey I tried and it got...
2025-12-2118 min
🎙️ Lov(ette) or Leave ItThe Freelancer Who Weaponized Neurodivergence to Justify Taking Payment Without DeliveringWhen Scammers Pretend to Be Victims Davina Campbell’s DARVO Tactic and Narrative TheftThis is where the story begins: with evidence, not emotion.The screenshot speaks for itself. Davina Campbell of Digital Davina Designs, publicly presenting herself as the victim after taking full payment for work never delivered. The person who caused harm rewriting the story to claim it insteadThe Lovette Jallow Perspective is a reader-supported publication. To receive new posts and support my work, consider becoming a free or paid subscriber.I pa...
2025-11-0941 min
AuDHD Flourishing114 Queer! AuDHD! BIPOC! with TQTQ (they/them) is a queer, trans, physically disabled, AuDHD Chinese-Singaporean artist, author/host of the upcoming book/podcast Queer! AuDHD! BIPOC!, and community facilitator for other queer neurodivergent BIPOC.In true ND fashion, we range over many topics, including the importance of community and hearing your own stories as a person with multiple intersecting identities. You can pre-order a copy of their upcoming book for behind-the-scenes/early access to the interviews and writing! TQ's links & mentioned in episode:Support the Queer! AuDHD! BIPOC! book and podcastAll...
2025-09-271h 00
SOUL VibrantSpeak LOVE To MeLove is one of the most desired, misunderstood, and healing experiences that life has to offer. Noticing, throughout my healing journey, everything pulled me back to love. I developed a longing to live a love life and began questioning my own perceptions of it. Inspiring today's episode, I dive further into the conversation of decolonizing our thoughts of love. Influenced by the work of bell hooks, I explore the concepts of unconditional love, self-love, and socialized influences on love. Vulnerably sharing my own experiences, I'm curious about what true, authentic, real love is. Because don't you deserve a love...
2025-08-3038 min
🎙️ Lov(ette) or Leave ItWhy Small Talk Exhausts Autistic and ADHD PeopleWhy Small Talk Feels Like Work for Autistic and ADHD PeopleSmall talk is never just small…For autistic and ADHD people, the discomfort you feel around it is valid because others use it to quietly gather information you may not even realize you’re giving, simply because you don’t see the world that way.Think of the common scripts:* “How are you?” - but they don’t want the real answer, only the performance of “fine.”* “Where are you from?” - and when you answer, they push for the “r...
2025-08-1711 min
🎙️ Lov(ette) or Leave ItHow Black Matriarchies defined Polyamory as Structure, Not SexualityNot All Polyamory Is About Dating Partners. Some of Us Build It Through FriendshipRaised in a matriarchy, I don’t wait for romantic love to build a life. I do it with friends, we co-parents, legal partners, and chosen family.This Pride, I watched people talk about polyamory like it only involved romantic partners, a calendar full of dates, a shelf of partners, or a rotation. But some of us don’t practice polyamory through dating at all. Some of us practice it through structure, through who we build with, protect, and grow...
2025-08-0123 min
🎙️ Lov(ette) or Leave ItWhen Anti-Racism Becomes Degradation Kink for White PeopleHow White Guilt Hijacks Anti-Racism WorkIf your shame demands to be held but nothing is given up, it’s not justice. It’s extraction. - Lovette JallowWe’ve all seen it. Comments saying, “I’m so ashamed of being white.” Tearful Instagram Lives declaring, “I’m disgusted with my ancestors.” DMs to Black educators begging, “Please tell me I’m not like them.After 2020, this dynamic exploded into an entire economy. White participants flocked to anti-racism spaces not to shift power, but to confess. They seek scolding strong enough to feel absolved, but...
2025-07-1416 min
🎙️ Lov(ette) or Leave ItWhen White People Use Autism to Justify Their RacismBeing Diagnosed Autistic as a Black Woman Across Three ContinentsI didn’t get to self-diagnose and be believed. I had to prove myself on three continents.I know what it costs to be taken seriously as autistic. Not the aesthetic of autism. Not the neurodivergence they romanticize when they want to look interesting. The formal, clinical, contested, pathologized label that shapes every institutional encounter after it lands on your file.I didn’t get the luxury of self-diagnosing and having people believe me at my word. I had to fight for...
2025-07-1323 minRebellingWho Do You Think You Are?I’ve been sitting with some big questions about identity for what feels like my whole life—what we call ourselves, what’s been put on us, what we outgrow, and what still feels like home. I read three things this week (linked below), that cracked me open, especially around the language of neurodivergence, the limits of diagnosis, and how easy it is to forget who we were before the world started naming us. After reading the first two (they are linked in order of how I read them), I got uncomfortable with calling myself neurodivergent- not because I am asha...
2025-06-3028 min
🎙️ Lov(ette) or Leave ItWhy We Don’t Know How to Repair Relationships AnymoreWhy We Fail at Repairing Relationships and CommunitySome parents didn’t teach us how to love, they taught us how to punish. I pay attention to people, and one thing I’ve learned is that in so many households, rupture was met with silence, withdrawal, or threats. Repair wasn’t a process, it was a power play. Conflict meant someone had to disappear, someone had to beg, someone had to lose.I spent years as a child being the one who repaired. The one who told my mother she was hurtin...
2025-06-2724 min
🎙️ Lov(ette) or Leave ItThe Psychology of a Hater: How Their Obsession Built My GrowthThe Hidden Lessons: How Critics and Enemies Sharpened My GrowthThere are moments in life when feedback arrives wrapped not in kindness, but in hostility.Sometimes, the most honest feedback comes laced with hostility—delivered by those rooting for your failure, whether out of envy, resentment, or their own woundedness. And yet, what they offer, often unknowingly, is something far more useful than a friend’s well-meaning silence: a truth you might otherwise overlook.It took me time to see it clearly.Criticism from those who disliked me o...
2025-04-2911 min
🎙️ Lov(ette) or Leave ItAre You Practicing Feminism or Just Gynarchy? | Matriarchy vs Patriarchy ExplainedFeminism, Gynarchy, or Matriarchy? Lov(ette) or Leave It — Episode 4: This episode is drawn from a recorded expert lecture on matriarchal governance, patriarchal systems, and feminist theory, originally delivered to researchers, policy advisors, and institutional leaders across three continents.It challenges the growing misuse of “matriarchy” in Western feminist discourse and clarifies why true matriarchal systems reject hierarchy rather than rebrand it through optics.Why Gynarchy Isn’t Matriarchy: Misreadings in Feminist DiscourseWhat many label “matriarchy” today isn’t liberation, it’s gynarchy: patriarchy repackaged in different attire.In this episode...
2025-04-2225 min
🎙️ Lov(ette) or Leave ItSelf-Care That Works for Autistic and Neurodivergent Women | Love(tte) or Leave It – Ep. 3Self-Care That Makes Sense for Autistic and Neurodivergent WomenI’m Lovette Jallow, autistic, ADHD, and committed to sharing tools that center self-respect, not self-optimization. I write for those of us who live at the intersection of sensory overwhelm, survival planning, and emotional nuance.This series offers short-form strategies rooted in lived experience, disability awareness, and autonomy designed for autistic and neurodivergent women who are tired of generic advice.Take what works (Love it/Love(tte), you get it). Adapt what fits. Leave the rest (Leave it).It’s not about perf...
2025-04-2108 min
Walter Rhein PodcastDiscussing Culture, Diversity, and the Challenges We Face With Guest Zuri StevensHello Everyone!I always appreciate having a chance to talk with Zuri Stevens. She has a wonderful perspective and, as you’ll hear in this talk, she’s lived all over the world. I’ve always found that people who have experienced many cultures are always kind and wise, and you’ll see that with Zuri.She writes We Need A Black Woman In Charge and it’s worth checking out. I probably need to get a better phone, my video is always kind of sketchy—maybe it’s just me.Also, at one point I mi...
2025-03-0700 min
🎙️ Lov(ette) or Leave ItUnderstanding Autistic Loneliness: When You’re Surrounded But Still AloneUnderstanding Autistic Loneliness: When You’re Surrounded But Still AloneI’m Lovette Jallow, an award-winning author, speaker, and consultant specializing in neurodiversity, intersectionality, and human rights. As a Black Autistic woman with ADHD (AuDHD), I know what it’s like to exist in spaces that don’t offer the same curiosity, care, or reciprocity that I extend to others.Autistic loneliness isn’t about being physically alone—it’s about being surrounded by people who don’t really see you. If you’ve ever felt drained by one-sided relationships, exhausted by the constant expectation of emotional labor...
2025-01-2723 min
Our Man In StockholmOMIS - Lovette Jallow on #Swedengate Taking Over Social MediaThis week social media was on fire as the hashtag #Swedengate gave the nation's carefully-cultured image a bit of a shoeing over some its cultural curiosities. An innocent story of a kid left alone while their friend went to eat dinner in a different room was met with gentle criticism and mockery - that in turn was met with outright racism as many people of colour shared their experiences of being excluded in other social settings.
The woman behind the #Swedengate hashtag is author, academic and activist Lovette Jallow, and she kindly came on the podcast to explain...
2022-06-0323 min
Our Man In StockholmOMIS - Lovette Jallow on #Swedengate Taking Over Social MediaThis week social media was on fire as the hashtag #Swedengate gave the nation's carefully-cultured image a bit of a shoeing over some its cultural curiosities. An innocent story of a kid left alone while their friend went to eat dinner in a different room was met with gentle criticism and mockery - that in turn was met with outright racism as many people of colour shared their experiences of being excluded in other social settings.
The woman behind the #Swedengate hashtag is author, academic and activist Lovette Jallow, and she kindly came on the podcast to explain the reasons...
2022-06-0323 min
Nyhetsveckan med Ingrid&MariaNyhetsveckan 189 – Magdas meltdown, polisens kollaps, SwedengateNär Sverigedemokraterna i går väckte misstroendevotum mot justitieminister Morgan Johansson, drabbades statsminister Magdalena Andersson av en rejäl härdsmälta. Hon kallade till presskonferens där hon skakade av ilska och fräste åt journalisterna att om Mogge avsätts så avgår hela regeringen. Frågan är om hon har tappat det eller ägnar sig åt sedvanlig fokusförflyttning? Ingrid&Maria talar i dag också om löjliga Swedengate, om polisens katastrofala misslyckande med gängkriminaliteten och om att WHO inte får blir världsregering riktigt ännu.Stötta vårt arbete viaBG: 831-4742
2022-06-031h 10
Martina Thun”Även om du behöver viska - ska du aldrig vara tyst”Lovette Jallow – en av de starkaste rösterna mot rasism pratar om nya boken ”Främling i vita rum” och berättar om sin uppväxt och sina upplevelser som svart kvinna i Sverige
2021-01-2010 min
Monday Morning Manager#40: Marcos Fuentes - Head of Content Operations, Amuse“What is an “artist-friendly” distribution service?”
“What is Content Operations?”
“What is a licensing deal?”
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This week’s guest is Marcos Fuentes, Head of Content Operations at Amuse.
Our first international guest, patching in from Stockholm, Sweden (where Amuse is based), Marcos joins us to share his take on today’s landscape from his unique perspective as Head of Content Operations. Born in 2017, Amuse is one of the most artist-friendly music distribution platforms out there, and the first with a mobile-first offering (and also happens to be the birthplace of none o...
2020-10-2242 min
PoddRadio OrgNej Tack till Publik National Teater RadioJag går igenom vad som har hänt sedan senaste avsnittet och lovar publicera ett avsnitt i månaden, i framtiden. Det pratas om demonstrationer, statyer, åsiktskorridorer, piltavlor, Palmemordet, med mera.Shownotes:NationalteaternNational Public Radio (npr)GlobalistTea Party Media podcastNationaldagshelgFourth of July - Independence DayFrekvensPodgeek 2 årJoe Rogan - For The Record (Spotify)EGO NetCast, episode 106Lyceum Bulletin, issue 21"Darrande Carl von Linné statyer"BITTE ASSARMO: För Lovette Jallow är avlägsnandet av svenska statyer detsamma som rättvisa - Det Goda SamhälletEtt slags försvarstal - Mats SkogkärMörkermän och Tors Hammare på Tors...
2020-06-1111 min
StilNaomi Campbell – den bråkigaste banbrytaren i mode(ll)världenNaomi Campbell har hållit sig kvar i mode- och modellvärldens absoluta toppskikt i över trettio år. Senare i år kommer hon att tilldelas det brittiska moderådets ärorika utnämning Fashion Icon Award. Lyssna på alla avsnitt i Sveriges Radios app. Naomi Campbell uppmärksammas inte bara för sitt arbete som fotomodell, utan priset går till personer i modevärlden som ”har använt sin plattform till positiva förändringar”.
När priset tillkännagavs i början av sommaren sade Naomi Campbell att hon med sina ord och handlingar: ”alltid...
2019-09-1355 min
Allt vi inte pratar om6. SPECIAL: Myten om den farliga bruna mannenProducenten Tanvir blir rasprofilerad på en flygplats i USA. Han blir upprörd för att han är den enda som väljs ut på förhör, när han är den enda som inte är vit. Så han spelar in hela förhöret, i hemlighet! Han vill veta varför icke-vita killar ofta ses som våldsamma och aggressiva. Thor utforskar vad det beror på – och lär sig om kolonialismens historia. Han pratar med två ordningsvakter om varför ordningsvakter får använda våld. Och vad innehåller den 10 dagar korta utbildningen som krävs för att bli ordnings...
2019-08-131h 23
Oscar Zia i P3Midsommar med Lovette Jallow!Kvinnan bakom instagramkontot Black Vogue, Lovette Jallow, är vår fantastiska gäst. Vi pratar även om huruvida midsommar kanske är vår den mest promiskuösa högtid?
2018-06-2200 min
Beauty For Real by NordicFeel12. Sminktips för mörka hudtonerI dagens avsnitt ger Lovette Jallow, grundaren av Facebookgruppen Black Vogue, sina bästa sminktips! Varför är det viktigt att känna till din underton när du ska välja foundation och hur får du till en snygg contouring? Dessutom berättar hon varför hon startade gruppen och vilka förändringar hon vill se i skönhetsbranschen.
2017-03-2917 min
VerklighetenSminkrevolutionen: "Som att vi inte finns"Lovette Jallow startade forumet Black Vogue som en reaktion på svårigheten att få tag på smink för svarta i Sverige. Men det handlar om mer än bara smink hon kallar det en revolution. Lyssna på alla avsnitt i Sveriges Radio Play.
2015-11-1818 min