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Surviving BPD Relationship BreakupsThe BPD Love ParadoxThe BPD Love ParadoxWhy does someone with Borderline Personality Disorder crave deep love—only to sabotage and destroy it when it arrives? In this episode of Surviving BPD Relationship Breakup Podcast I explore the heartbreaking paradox at the center of BPD. From BPD self-fulfilling prophecies, the acting out of unconscious BPD repetition compulsions, and defensive splitting to the tragic pattern of testing love until it breaks, A.J. Mahari compassionately unpacks why intimacy feels both irresistible and terrifying to those with BPD. Whether you're loving someone with BPD or navigating the disorder yourself, th...
2025-08-0626 min
How I Crushed ItMahari Hay - Director at Lloyds Bank Group and CEO & Co-Founder of the CCC AwardsBorn in Kingston, Jamaica, Mahari Hay has been at Lloyds Bank for nearly 20 years and has risen from working in the call centre to now being one of their Directors. In 2025 he and is business partner launched the CCC Awards which aims to recognise and celebrate those that contribute to the development and success of others in the community. In 2025 he was also awarded the Freeman of the City of London.
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2025-06-3057 min
Pondering AIRegulating Addictive AI with Robert MahariRobert Mahari examines the consequences of addictive intelligence, adaptive responses to regulating AI companions, and the benefits of interdisciplinary collaboration. Robert and Kimberly discuss the attributes of addictive products; the allure of AI companions; AI as a prescription for loneliness; not assuming only the lonely are susceptible; regulatory constraints and gaps; individual rights and societal harms; adaptive guardrails and regulation by design; agentic self-awareness; why uncertainty doesn’t negate accountability; AI’s negative impact on the data commons; economic disincentives; interdisciplinary collaboration and future research. Robert Mahari is a JD-PhD researcher at MIT Media Lab and th...
2025-04-1654 min
Surviving BPD Relationship BreakupsBorderlines Don't Make You Sacrifice YourselfBorderlines Don't Make You Sacrifice YourselfBorderlines (or a BPD/NPD person) doesn't make you sacrfice yourselves as Codependents. A.J. Mahari adds in her experience on breaking free from her BPD/NPD Ex. Do you blame your BPD or BPD/NPD Ex for everything? What you need to know about your own personal responsibility that is necessary for healing change. You are not to blame for what a BPD or BPD/NPD did to you. But blaming them for your missed choice points that absolutely feel impossible won't help you break free of the betrayal...
2024-11-2542 min
Surviving BPD Relationship BreakupsBPD Relationship Dynamics - Codependents Not Taking It Fighting BackBPD Relationship Dynamics Codependents Staying But Not Taking It and Fighting BackBPD relationships dynamics with codependents who are staying in the relationship "not taking it" and are fighting back thinking that this isn't codependent and that somehow it means you are not still getting very hurt and negatively impacted by all that people with BPD do that wounds those closest to them. What does fighting back look like and what is the result of it when on is doing that but still staying in a BPD relationship? The betrayal bond dynamics in relationships...
2024-06-2427 min
Black RiseHow To Transform Your Unique Skills into Career Assets - With Mahari HayHave you ever wondered how to transform your unique skills into a powerful asset for your career? Join us in this inspirational episode of the Black Rise podcast as we sit down with Mahari Hay, a seasoned leader in the financial services sector and Director in the Innovation and Transformation team at Lloyds Bank Group. Mahari's journey from Kingston, Jamaica to a successful career in the UK is nothing short of remarkable, and he shares his insights on leveraging diverse abilities to propel your professional journey.From humble beginnings to leadership, Mahari's story is a testament to the...
2024-06-1659 min
Merging MindsTransformative AI in Translation & Legal Services (with Robert Mahari)As we explore a brave new world, can we seize the opportunities, address the challenges, and ultimately shape a future where #technology empowers us all? In today's episode, we're exploring the transformative potential of #AI in the realm of #translation and #legal services. Beyond the buzzwords and the fears of AI job replacements, we're striving to uncover a nuanced landscape where human expertise remains paramount. Gabriel’s special guest, Robert Mahari, a Ph.D. student in the MIT Human Dynamics Group and a J.D. candidate at Harvard Law School, joins us to share invaluable insights into how...
2024-03-2651 min
Everyday LeadershipOpportunities Born from Sacrifice: A Journey with Mahari HayGuest: Mahari Hay - Director | Lending, Trade & Working Capital at Lloyds BankIn this episode, Sope Agbelusi interviews Mahari Hay, a director at Lloyd's, about his journey and the impact he has on others. Mahari shares his background growing up in Jamaica and his childhood aspirations.He discusses the importance of role models and the power of communication and authenticity. Mahari also talks about his transition from Jamaica to the UK and his decision to pursue a career in banking. He shares his experiences with setbacks and rejections...
2024-03-051h 04
Surviving BPD Relationship BreakupsBPD Silent Treatment vs BPD GhostingBPD Silent Treatment vs BPD GhostingA commenter on my Youtube channel asked if BPD silent treatment is the same as BPD ghosting or similar or are they different. Great question. For some people your person with (most often quiet) BPD may well have silent treatment patterns and this is the best way you can ascertain the difference between the silent treatment and BPD ghosting. I also talk about the internal differences in what's happening for the Quiet Borderline.Sessions with A.J. Mahari - https://ajmahari.ca...
2023-09-2113 minSurviving BPD Relationship BreakupsBPD Idealization to Devaluation To Rumination & Ruination - Get Off The BPD RollercoasterBPD Idealization to Devaluation To Rumination & Ruination Get Off The BPD RollercoasterBPD idealization is the beginning of the intense fast-paced relationship and it is also unconsciously for both the Borderline and the person dating or in love with this person, the start of the ending of all you believe you have found and can continue to build on. People in these relationships with (untreated) Borderlines go from idealization, shockingly, to devaluation on to be ghosted, discarded, or you breakup with the Borderline and then rumination is overwhelming and if...
2023-09-1517 minSurviving BPD Relationship BreakupsBPD Idealization Devaluation Cycles "Get-Away Closer" BPD Push/PullBPD Idealization Devaluation Cycles - "Get-Away Closer" BPD Push/PullBPD idealization is not as real as BPD devaluation. Both result from the core relational impairment of the Approach Avoidance Conflict in BPD - It's the push-pull "get-away closer" that cannot and will not ever change until and unless each person with BPD has 8-16 years of successful treatment.Without that treatment Borderlines have no hope of learning object constancy and object permanence. Borderline Approach/Avoid (push/pull) is the absence of object constancy. This relational deficit in people with BPD is...
2023-09-0215 min
Sach Mal - Gespräche über Bücher und den Mensch dahinter#23: Die Dating Bibel | Aron MahariIn dieser Folge spreche ich mit Aron Mahari vor allem über Dating. Denn Aron Mahari hat vor kurzem zusammen mit Florian Höper das Buch "Die Dating Bibel" herausgebracht. Und warum dieses Buch nicht nur etwas für Singles ist, erfährst du in dieser Folge.Hier bekommst du das Buch:https://amzn.to/3KP0aYaHier kannst du Aron Mahari erreichen:https://aronmahari.de/https://www.instagram.com/aronmahari/
2023-08-231h 04Surviving BPD Relationship BreakupsBorderlines are Drowning Emotionally Want Your Ex Back You May Drown In the Relation-SHIPBorderlines are Drowning Emotionally Go *No Contact* Don't Drown With The Relation - SHIPBorderlines (untreated) are drowning emotionally go no contact don't drown with the Relationship. Borderline emotional dysregulation and the major defense mechanism of splitting leave many partners, Ex's, On/Off again "partners" playing the role of a life preserver.If you approached a person actually drowning in a pool or lake who was panicked and freaking out they often pull rescuers under who then drown as well.Sessions with A.J. Mahari - ajmahari.ca/sessions
2023-08-1921 minSurviving BPD Relationship BreakupsWhat Do Borderlines Need? 9 Red Flags You Can't Help Them & Why You Will Be Punished For CaringWhat Do Borderlines Need? 9 Red Flags You Can't Help Them & Why You Will Be Punished For CaringPeope with Patterns of BPD or diagnosed and not extremely well treated and on their way to BPD Recovery (for real) need from a partner or anyone close to them interpersonally. Why you really can't give them what they need. 9 Red Flags why helping a borderline and meeting their needs is impossible and how you will be punished for caring, loving them, and trying to meet their needs and walk on all those eggshells.
2023-08-0741 minSurviving BPD Relationship BreakupsBPD On/Off Relationship Recycling Limbo and Still Stuck Wanting Your BPD Ex Back? Why?BPD On/Off Relationship Recycling limbo and Still Stuck Wanting Your BPD Ex Back? Why?BPD on/off relationship recycling limbo and still stuck wanting your BPD Ex back is the situation that a lot of people are finding themselves in. What is keeping you stuck in these very unhealthy cycles? Why do so many keep betraying themselves? If you can relate what is your self-abandonment due to? Your relationship to an untreated person with Borderline Personality Disorder is a trauma bond. There is no healthy love in a trauma bond.
2023-08-0618 min
Surviving BPD Relationship BreakupsBPD Ex Diagnosed or Not Codependent Focus Wanting Your Ex BackA.J. Mahari responds to a Youtube viewers comments on a Youtube Video and talks aboutand explains the reality that people don't need to know if someoneis 100% diagnosable with BPD when you see in them and experiencefrom them all the BPD patterns and traits. Many people who couldbe diagnosed with BPD never will be. Why do you like so many still wantyour BPD Ex back? Codependent repetition compulsions make not gettingback with your Ex "feel impossible" even though you've lost yourself andbeen traumatized.So...
2023-02-251h 00Surviving BPD Relationship BreakupsBPD Ex Remember The Good Times?Does Your BPD Ex Remember The Good Times? A.J. Mahari's answer, the explanation and how staying invested in this answer is self-abandonment and going to increase your pain. What do you need to do to get past this question and false hope to start healing your pain?
2022-10-1828 minSurviving BPD Relationship BreakupsBorderline Inability To Communicate Part 2 Tennis Anyone?Borderline Inability To Communicate Part 2 Tennis Anyone? A.J. Mahari in Part 2 of the impossibility of communicating in BPD relationships to people with untreated BPD who have no logic and no self from which to communicate mutually rather than defend at all costs.
2022-09-1223 minSurviving BPD Relationship BreakupsBPD Splitting More Devaluation Less Idealization In BPD RelationshipsBPD Splitting More Devaluation Less Idealization In BPD Relationships - A.J. Mahari goes deep into BPD Splitting revealing that there is no continued cycle of idealization to devaluation but rather devaluation to its cessation temporarily to BPD base mood. People with BPD do not see or hear you for who you really are just as object other parent representation re-experiencing repetition compulsions cycles of childhood adverse experiences. These relationships are unhealthy and impossible.
2022-09-111h 09Surviving BPD Relationship BreakupsBorderline Idealization Phase Its Not Logical or TargetedA commenter to my Youtube channel left a comment as to his theory orbelief that there is so much more involved in and happening for people with suspected or untreated Borderline Personality in the initialIdealization Phase of beginning a relationship. A.J. Mahari points outhow and why this person's trying to apply perceived logic and rationalabout people with BPD isn't a part of the initial idealization phase
2022-09-1032 min
A Minute With MahariSuch A Fuckin’ LadyMariah Mahari finally gets Iesha Michele to kick it about her cosmetics empire “Pretty Cosmetics” & new ventures “That’s So Esh, Traveling with Esh & Self Care with Esh” accompanied by the lovely and intuitive Prittzy Onna and OG MEMber Tee Millie comes home.
2022-09-0635 minSurviving BPD Relationship BreakupsBPD Relationship Cycle - 7 Stages Of Rinse and Repeat ImpossibilityBPD Relationship Cycle 7 Stages Of Rinse and Repeat - The "Archetypal" stages and phases that continually repeat and re-occur in repetition compulsions unconscious ways for and with people with untreated BPD and those who try to love them - often people with Codependency. A.J. Mahari explains the BPD Relationship Cycle that is rinse and repeat until the partner or Ex partner gets into treatment to break the trauma bond and heal from the relationship and why NO CONTACT is essential to ending this incredibly painful toxic relationship cycle.
2022-09-0535 minSurviving BPD Relationship BreakupsInside BPD Idealization Does or Did the Borderline Love You?Inside BPD Idealization Does or Did the Borderline Love You? A.J. Mahari explains how you are not seen and heard in idealization either. The intense and fast relationship beginning with a person with BPD is creating a fantasy bond within a trauma bond. Untreated people with BPD can't love or attach to you. You are, to them, "Object Other Parent Representative within the unconscious repetition compulsion cycles of untreated borderlines.
2022-09-0129 minSurviving BPD Relationship BreakupsBorderlines and Narcissists - Codependent’s Focus On Cluster B's Is Not The Way of HealingBorderlines and Narcissists - Codependent’s Focus On Cluster B's Is Not The Way of Healing. A.J. Mahari explains why continuing to focus son a borderline or narcissist Ex and/or parent or friend is not the way to heal and in fact will block you getting into the action of a formal healing and recovery journey. Even when you are "out" of the relationship after leaving or being ghosted or discarded how do you emotionally and focus-wise heal and totally get out of the relationship, detach, and move forward without recycling.
2022-08-3127 minSurviving BPD Relationship BreakupsBorderline "Love" Why It Just EndsBorderline "Love" Why it Just Ends - A.J. Mahari explains why those for loved ones or Ex's of someone with Borderline Personality why their love can just abruptly end with no logical or understood reason. When a person with Borderline Personality untreated ghosts or discards you how does their "love" just end?
2022-08-2521 min
Surviving BPD Relationship BreakupsBPD Breakup Extreme Pain Of No ContactExtreme Pain of No Contact after a BPD Relationship Breakup - How to survive it by getting help to heal a nd not by trying to endure it. No contact is the way forward. No looking back, no getting the BPD Ex back. There's a difference between what you want and what you need. A.J. Mahari has 32 years experience helping people heal this extreme pain and agony after these most painful breakups.
2022-08-1923 minSurviving BPD Relationship BreakupsNarcissistic Abuse Codependency is Not The Flip Side of Pathological Narcissism in NPDNarcissistic Abuse - Healing from BPD or NPD AbuseCodependency is Not The Flip Side of Pathological Narcissism in NPD. A.J. Mahari discusses why people with Codeendency need to understand this difference and who is forwarding it online - mostly Cluster B's specifically Narcissists or a Narcissistic Psychopathic YouTuber. Codependency is not pathological narcissism and it isn't Narcissistic Personality Disorder either. Comparisons between Codependency and NPD are not accurate. Codependency is not a personality disorder.
2022-08-1326 minSurviving BPD Relationship BreakupsBPD NPD Relationships - What is Limerence? 12 Signs & 5 Traits - Codependency & LimerenceBPD NPD Relationships What is Limerence 12 Signs 5 Traits Codependents Limerence Triggered by a Borderline or a Narcissist. AJ Mahari focuses the definition and scope of Limerence in a way that is aimed specifically at people who are in or were in a relationship with a Borderline or Narcissist with Codependency many of whom will be experiencing Limerence.
2022-08-061h 25A Minute With MahariSmoke Session #1Mariah Mahari & Grant Chill welcome new co host Lenny Bordeaux with a smoke session.
2022-07-2632 minSurviving BPD Relationship BreakupsBPD Breakup Will BPD Ex Come Back? The Uncertainty and Fear of No ContactBPD Breakup Will BPD Ex Come Back The Uncertainty and Fear of No Contact - A.J. Mahari provides in depth insight into the longing seemingly endless focus of so manyPeople who are now an Ex of someone with BPD. Wat codependents really need to know.
2022-07-2430 minSurviving BPD Relationship BreakupsBPD Breakup Men The "Man Up Be Tough" Has Nothing To Do With Breakup and Will Not Win Back BPD ExBPD Breakup Men The Man Up Be Tough Message Has Nothing To Do With the Breakup and Will Not Win The BPD Woman Back - Counsellor and Trauma Recovery Coach AJ Mahari
2022-07-0246 minA Minute With MahariThis Or That 💕Millennial Black Designers Quandell Wright & Lauren Chase join us to highlight Detroit Hustles Harder and choose this or that in terms of fashion, dating, breaking the law, etc. B Bad Ass & Tee Millie accompany Mariah Mahari this episode.
2022-05-101h 02A Minute With MahariNetflix & ChillThe Fellas join Mahari & B Bad Ass to talk about the real definition of “Netflix & Chill”
2022-03-2956 min
Surviving BPD Relationship BreakupsPt 2 of 3 Loving a Borderline is Impossible with Live Q&APart 2 of 3 Loving a Borderline is Impossible with a lot of questions from men and focus on many challenges that are more difficult for men in a relationship breakup with a Borderline Female and therapy is so important to healing codependency and from these relationship breakups.
2022-01-141h 37Surviving BPD Relationship BreakupsPT 1 of 3 Loving a Borderline is Impossible with Live Q & APart 1 of 3 Loving a Borderline is Impossible - From a Youtube Live Stream A.J. Mahari did January 12, 2022 Loving a Borderline is impossible. Surviving a BPD Relationship Breakup means coming to terms with this in therapy and healing your codependency.
2022-01-141h 40Surviving BPD Relationship BreakupsBPD and Secondary Psychopathy In Severe BPD Not All With BPDBorderline Personality and Secondary Psychopathy, not proven, but as conflicting studies indicate, it is not a reality for all with BPD but may well be for the most severe cases of BPD. Secondary Psychopathy in BPD does not mean a percentage of those with severe BPD are Psychopaths. It is also not (as A.P.A.) claims only in women with Severe BPD but Men with Severe BPD also. In my 31 years of working with clients approx 10% to 15% have experienced a person (Ex) in their life with Severe BPD and who likely had secondary psychopathy. What is it and what...
2021-11-281h 19
Šravanam Krišnův dvůrPřednáška Maháriši dás, RÁDHÁŠTAMÍ 2021 Krišnův dvůrPřednáška Maháriši dás, RÁDHÁŠTAMÍ 2021 Krišnův dvůr
2021-09-2253 minSurviving BPD Relationship BreakupsBPD Parents Partners Family Members Randi Kreger Interview on BPD and BPD NPD Co Morbidity and MoreA.J. Mahari Interview with Author and BPD Expert Randi Kreger who co-authored Stop Waking on Eggshells - Taking Your Life Back When Someone You Love Has Borderline Personality Disorder. Randi's books are in the podcast intro and she has 2 new books coming in 2022. Randi talks about BPD, what she has termed Conventional and Unconventional BPD, and BPD/NPD trait or Personality Disorder Co-Morbidity. Everyone can learn from Randi Kreger and in this interview no matter the relationship type you have or had with someone with BPD. Randi's website is https://stopwalkingoneggshells.com
2021-09-211h 50A Minute With MahariLit Spelling BeeMEMbers spell words through 3 rounds for a chance to produce their own episode in season 4.
2021-08-3058 min
Šravanam Krišnův dvůrMaháriši dás, povídání o Pánu Balarámovi, Balarám Púrnimá 2021 Krišnův dvůr.Maháriši dás, povídání o Pánu Balarámovi, Balarám Púrnimá 2021 Krišnův dvůr.
2021-08-2236 minA Minute With MahariMotor City Showcase Part 1Mariah Mahari interviews upcoming musical artists from Detroit Sacks Fifth & visiting from Miami, Shark of Shark Enetrprise
2021-07-1326 minSurviving BPD Relationship BreakupsBPD and Codependent Trauma Bonds Not Rooted in Addiction Rooted in TraumaBorderline Personality and Codependent's Trauma Bonds are Not Rooted in Addiction But are rooted in Trauma - A Deep Dive to help you understand the Trauma Bond, it's underpinnings for those with BPD and for those with Codependency. It's not addiction that makes a trauma bond so difficult to break yet it can feel like that.
2021-07-071h 24
Strayt Talk With Strayhand61 | Interview with Models Inc Model Mahari Strayhand!!!Models Inc model Mahari Strayhand joined me to discuss how she got in the industry, what she loves about it and talks about her experiences working on projects with the likes of a.b.c kidswear and beautiful mixed kids! She also shared with us her hobbies, her love for outreaches(including feeding the homeless), her other passions and goals that she has for the future! You don’t want to miss this adorable episode filled with great entertainment, value and content!
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2021-07-0621 min
Surviving BPD Relationship BreakupsWhat Is Codependency And Why Do you Need To KnowCounsellor and Trauma Recovery Coach, A.J. Mahari, answers the question: "What is Codependent"What is Codependency and why is it so important to understand more about Codependency for those who have are in a relationship with someone with Borderline Personality or Narcissistic Personality or who is in the pain of Surviving the BPD or NPD Relationship Breakup? Follow A.J. Mahari's Codependency Recovery Podcast as well as this one.
2021-07-061h 01Surviving BPD Relationship BreakupsPart 2 My BPD NPD Co-Morbid Alcoholic Ex A.J. Mahari's ExperienceBPD NPD Co-Morbid Alcoholic My Ex Part 2 A.J. Mahari's Experience I am out here to work with you if I resonate with you. I have lived experience with this Ex a BPD NPD Comorbid Mother and a Dark Triad Father both of whom were alcoholics. BPD or NPD relationship recovery and Codependency recovery. Breaking the trauma bond.
2021-07-0641 minSurviving BPD Relationship BreakupsA.J. Mahari on Her BPD NPD Co-Morbid Ex How The Relationship BeganA.J. Mahari on Her BPD NPD Co-Morbid Ex - How The Relationship Began Groomed By a BPD/NPD social worker.
2021-07-0640 minSurviving BPD Relationship BreakupsBPD Relationships BPD Ex Carlos On His Experience Dating and Breaking UpSurviving BPD Relationship Breakups - BPD Ex Carlos On His Experience Dating and Breaking Up with a woman with Borderline Personality. Carolos has some very empowering and positive experience to share near the end of this episode. If you want to be interviewed and/or share your story please go to https://ajmahari.ca/contact and email A.J. Mahari.
2021-06-161h 12Surviving BPD Relationship BreakupsBPD Ex A Man Beaten Abused Discarded and in Legal Appeal To See His SonA.J. Mahari interviews a man who was in a relationship and marriage with a Borderline woman. He was beaten, raged at, discarded, and is currently appealing a court ruling that has left him without seeing his son for over 2 years. He divorced the BPD wife, now Ex, there was a brief relationship recycle try and as all-too-many men know the courts most of the time do not understand untreated BPD and its psychological and or physiological impact and even danger to children.
2021-06-151h 47Surviving BPD Relationship BreakupsBPD Male Instant Trauma Bond Dynamics With Codependent Woman Mary's StoryCounsellor and Trauma Recovery Coach A.J. Mahari shares insight into BPD Male Instant Trauma Bond Dynamics With Codependent Woman Mary who shares her story and experience with a man with BPD and her Codependency.. Many people ho are or were in a relationship with someone with BPD have Codependency.
2021-06-081h 03Surviving BPD Relationship BreakupsBPD Relationships and Breakups Man with 6 BPD Breakups InterviewedCounsellor and Trauma Recovery Coach, A.J. Mahari, Interviews Mikael, a man who has been in 6 relationship with 6 different Borderline Women and has Survived 6 BPD Breakups. He is currently aware he has codependency and is 60 days full no contact from his last BPD Ex.
2021-06-051h 13A Minute With MahariThe Friend Zone#MEMbers discuss The Friend Zone in dating featuring Ericka Elyse & Mitch
2021-05-311h 20A Minute With MahariKittyKorner💕😈🐾In response to previous male segment #W2TDP, the ladies discuss their perspective on the same dating issues.
2021-05-172h 03A Minute With Mahari#Welcome2TheDogPound🐾The official first episode of our new segment focused on the dark side of dating we don’t really want to discuss, this time from the fellas perspective.
2021-05-101h 46
Stanford Computational AntitrustEpisode 3: Time for a New Antitrust Era (Mahari, Lera & Pentland)In this episode 3, Thibault Schrepel discusses Stanford Computational Antitrust's newest article, "Time for a New Antitrust Era: Refocusing Antitrust Law to Invigorate Competition in the 21st Century", with its co-authors, Robert Zev Mahari, Sandro Claudio Lera & Alex Pentland.
2021-05-0339 minSurviving BPD Relationship BreakupsBPD & Mental Health Challenges Mother's Day Movie Writer Director Travis Carlson InterviewBPD & Mental Health Challenges "Mother's Day" Writer Director Travis Carlson Interview. Travis Carlson talks about his movie and his experiences with his mother and Mental Health Challenges. This movie is a must-see!
2021-04-191h 14Surviving BPD Relationship BreakupsBPD Mother Adult Child Codependent Independent Movie Must See Interview Coming and More on The MovieBPD Mother Codependent Son and the pain in between Independent Movie All Will Relate to "Mother's Day" and his experience. A son trying to help his mother see her impulsive decisions and a Mother who thinks all black or all white and who needs to be parented. A mother who is fear based and can't even train her dog properly. A mother struggling - it it BPD?
2021-04-1544 min
A Minute With MahariMini MemoThe ladies of The Mob introduce mini shows.. “Welcome 2 The DogPound”
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2021-04-1337 minA Minute With MahariHealingThe Mob begins the healing process. joined by Author Jay Mainstrip & Danni Bee of BCG.
2021-04-131h 18Surviving BPD Relationship BreakupsBPD Relationship Dynamics with Codependents Projection and IntrojectionBPD Relationship Dynamics with Codependents Projection and Introjection is explained more in depth and A.J. Mahari has a course coming that goes even more in depth designed for people with Codependency needing to break the trauma bond with a person with BPD and who will benefit from their own healing and recovery journey. Included Melanie Klein's Phantasy that addresses the beginning of life in an Object Relations lens, projective identification of those with BPD and the inter-play between people with BPD - their introjections & projections and the introjections and projections of people with Codependency.
2021-04-0952 minSurviving BPD Relationship BreakupsBorderline Communication ImpossibilityIt is next to impossible to communicate with a person with untreated BPD in any and all attempts to seek closure and reparation of any BPD Episode. BPD communication impossibility ends up in accruing pain and confusion for loved ones or Ex's and often leads to the "J.A.D.E. Conversation".
2021-03-3022 minA Minute With MahariMillennial Dating Part 3The gang discusses the latest in celebrity Millennial Dating..
2021-03-2157 minSurviving BPD Relationship BreakupsBPD Breakup Codependency Trauma Bond Not Caused or Resolved By Focusing on Attachment StylesA commenter on a video on my Youtube Channel (as a few have recently) asked about Attachment Style vs Codependency. It is Codependent denial to think that the trauma bond with a borderline was caused by or can be resolved by a focus on the non-borderline's attachment style. Also explained in this episode is the impossibility of a relationship with someone with untreated Borderline Personality Disorder.
2021-03-2052 minSurviving BPD Relationship BreakupsBPD Relationship Breakups and Recycling 5 ReasonsSurviving a BPD Relationship Breakup means not re-cycling the relationships one or more times as many people do. 5 Reasons why BPD Ex's re-cycle back into these relationships. Codependency makes it even more challenging to break the trauma bond.
2021-03-0738 minSurviving BPD Relationship BreakupsBPD Breakup Codependent Protective Patterns Inhibit RecoveryBPD Breakups Codependent Protective Patterns Inhibit Your Recovery - From a Live Stream on A.J. Mahari's Youtube Channel. Codependency recovery is painful as is recovery from the BPD Breakup.
2021-03-071h 59Surviving BPD Relationship BreakupsBorderlines Playing the Victim Are Borderlines Professional VictimsDo Borderlines play the victim? Are Borderlines professional victims. Where that victim mentality comes from and how it more often than not is an unconscious repetition compulsion. What does this mean if you have been abused by someone with BPD?
2021-03-0751 minSurviving BPD Relationship BreakupsBPD and Codependency defined and explainedUnderstanding BPD and a definition of Codependency that helps people understand the trauma bonds of these unhealthy relationships. Why people with Codependency need to heal in therapy to survive a BPD Relationship Breakup.
2021-02-1455 minSurviving BPD Relationship BreakupsBorderline Magical Thinking ExplainedCounsellor and Trauma Recovery Coach A.J. Mahari explains Borderline Magical Thinking
2021-02-0625 minSurviving BPD Relationship BreakupsBorderline Behavior and Abuse No Shared Objective RealityWhy do people with Borderline Personality especially untreated behave like they often due, abuse you, not ever take responsibility for that. Another relational impossibility is that people with BPD until and unless significantly treated cannot share objective reality with you.
2021-02-0138 min
Surviving BPD Relationship BreakupsBPD Ex's Codependents Needing Next Relationship after BPD Without Recovery Not HealthyToo many BPD Ex's Codependents Need To Rush To Next Relationship Before Recovery which is not healthy, practical or wise. It is often many people with Codependency continuing to avoid their own needed healing and recovery and continuing to abandon themselves.
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Machshavah LabIbn Ezra's Introduction to Torah (Part 3 of 3) PLUS Mahari Kara on Pshat vs. DrashHave any questions, insights, or feedback? Send me a text!In tonight's Chumash Methodology shiur (given at YBT on 11/11/20) we concluding learning the Ibn Ezra's introductions to Chumash. After reviewing the first four methods, learning the fourth one inside the text his "Shitah Acheres" commentary, we read his presentation of the fifth method - HIS method. In addition to describing his procedure for learning, the Ibn Ezra also made it very clear what little regard he has for the Masoretes' explanations of orthographical anomolies and what high regard he has for Targum Onkelos. We concluded the evening...
2020-11-1258 min
Surviving BPD Relationship BreakupsIn Search of Intimacy with A BorderlineIn search of intimacy with an untreated person with Borderline Personality proves to be relationship ending one way or the other sooner if not later. People with BPD untreated are not capable of emotional intimacy.
2020-11-0422 min2020-09-2854 minA Minute With MahariTimelineMahari & Mark are joined by Aja, Joslin & Johnnie Earl as we go over Timeline Awards contestants & winners
2020-09-1231 minA Minute With MahariMessyThe Gang welcomes Ari & Tee Millie back as we get messy discussing personal lives & social media
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A Minute With MahariThe Memo Morning ShowOur 3rd monthly morning show celebrating our brother & co host Fat Mark’s birthday
2020-04-0759 min