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Birth Trauma Training for Birth WorkersEpisode 38: Parenting through Birth Trauma with Mama Manon DepreThe interview with my guest today took about a year to coordinate! This happens a lot on this podcast because babies get born, we get sick, there’s the whole parenting and home schooling in a pandemic thing. There are times when I feel like I can barely run a bath let alone run a podcast, so if you’re feeling frazzled, know you are not alone! If you are interested in trauma informed parenting, then you may have heard of the lovely Mama Manon. No matter how much we cognitively know how we want to p...2020-07-141h 02
Mama ManonHow to deal with a 2yo who THROWS FOOD all over the floor? #AskMamaManonMy toddler throws his food on the floor when he's finished eating, how can I handle that?
#AskMamaManon2019-12-2503 minMama ManonHow does PEACEFUL PARENTING work?How do we discipline kids without punishments (including time-out), rewards, bribes or threat?
There is so much more to be said to fully answer this question, but this is the core of it...
Peaceful Parenting means that we respect each other.
From respect comes trust.
From trust comes deep connection.
When our kids feel deeply connected with us, when they feel that we trust them, when we respect them on a daily basis, they're NATURALLY willing to follow our guidance, so we don't need any punishment, rewards, bribes, etc.
...2019-12-2503 minMama ManonHow to REDUCE TANTRUMSTantrums are a signal that our child is overwhelmed and/or angry because some of his needs are not met.
By playing as little as 5 minutes a day of "Attachment Play" type games, we can fill up his need for connection and dramatically reduce the likeliness of tantrums.
I know we're all busy... but let me ask you, lovely Mamas and Papas:
Do you feel that you could fit 5 minutes of Attachment Play a day, knowing that it could avoid a 30min tantrum?
"Attachment Play" type games are the games I...2019-12-2502 minMama ManonWhy DO kids become AGGRESSIVE?In our society, we keep telling our children to "be nice" all the time 😇 to not express any sign of frustration...
But let's be real: no-one can be nice all. day. long. every day.
Sometimes we're angry 😤
Anger is a normal and healthy emotion to have, just like joy or sadness.
When we have a healthy way to express frustration, we don't hold onto it... and we're more relaxed.
👉 It's true for our kids too: if they have a healthy outlet for their frustration, they'll tend to be less aggressiv...2019-12-2502 minMama ManonAre you PARENTING with RESPECT?This is who I am,
This is how I raise my daughter every day,
This is what my work is based on.
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No "tricks", no punishments, no rewards, no bribes, no threat.
Instead:
Nurturing, deep trust, mutual respect, guidance and honest communication.
Is it easy to do?
No, because most of us haven't been raised this way... but we can learn how to do things differently.
Do you resonate with this approach lovely Mama?
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#AwareParenting #ConsciousParenting #GentleParenting #RespectfulParenting #AttachmentPlay #NoPunishment #Parenting...2019-12-2501 minMama ManonHow EMOTIONS affect our children's BEHAVIOURChildren are little humans.
When they're frustrated, they're more likely to become aggressive, just like we do.
In those moments, they need help to negotiate those big feelings without hurting anyone...
Sending you and your little humans lots of Love xx
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#AwareParenting #AttachmentPlay #EmotionsAffectBehaviour #SelfAwareness #SomaticExperiencing #ConsciousParenting #Misbehaviour2019-12-2501 minMama ManonHow can I TEACH my toddler NOT TO HIT#AskMamaManon: How can I teach my toddler not to hit?
#AwareParenting #AttachmentPlay #ConsciousParenting #GentleParenting #AttachmentParenting #Toddlers #ParentingStruggles #ParentingCoach #PeacefulParenting #ConsciousMothers #AggressiveBehaviour #ChildrenHitting #NoPunishments #MeetingNeeds #SomaticExperiencing #TraumaHealing #ItsOKtoCry2019-12-2510 minMama ManonThree reasons why our children BEHAVE UNPLEASANTLYFrom the work of Aletha Solter, founder of Aware Parenting <3
#AwareParenting #AttachmentPlay #ConsciousParenting #GentleParenting #NoPunishment #NoTimeOut #ChildrenAreBornGood2019-12-2505 minMama ManonA BEDTIME GAME to help you and your child RELAXA bedtime game to help you and your child relax <3
My daughter Ayo (4.5yo) is joining me for this video!
#AwareParenting #AttachmentParenting #SomaticExperiencing #BedTimeStruggles #AttachmentPlay #ConsciousParenting #CoSleeping #GentleParenting #NoPunishment #AwareMamasAndPapasMovement #Parenting #NervousSystemHealth2019-12-2505 minMama ManonTANTRUMS: What happens when we STAY and LISTEN?Tantrums are NOT, a type of "misbehaviour".
Through tantrums, children are expressing REAL emotions such as anger, frustration and despair.
Those emotions feel big to them and they need our support while they feel them so they can process them safely.
The best we can do when our child is having a tantrum, is to:
- stay with our child (leaving him alone will only increase his distress)
- stay as calm and grounded as possible ourselves (so his nervous system can co-regulate and calm down)
You've got this...2019-12-2501 minMama ManonShe's Mine: An Attachment Game For Busy ParentsA simple, fun and very cup-filling game for all the busy parents out there <3
Remember to "Love" & Share ;-) and have fun!
With Love xx
Manon
#AwareParenting #PeacefulParenting #GentleParenting #ConsciousParenting #AttachmentPlay #SomaticExperiencing #NoPunishment
2019-12-2503 minMama ManonWhy do babies CRY?I wish someone had explained that to me when my daughter was born...
Babies cry for two main reasons:
1. To meet their NEEDS ✨
We know that babies cry when they're hungry, cold or uncomfortable.
In other words, when they have a NEED that needs to be met.
And it's important to do everything we can to meet their needs as soon as possible so they feel better (and they stop crying).
But there is another reason why babies cry:
2. To express their FEELINGS or to release so...2019-12-2502 minMama ManonWhy do we get TRIGGERED?Why do we get TRIGGERED?
It's NOT in your head.
You are not crazy.
You are not alone.
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#SomaticExperiencing #Triggers #PhysiologicalResponse #SurvivalEnergy #TraumaHealing #YoureNotCrazy #ItsNotInYourHead #NervousSystemHealth #NervousSystem #SympatheticCharge #Ivebeentheretoo #AwareParenting #ConsciousMothers #ConsciousParenting2019-12-2506 minMama ManonShould we be CONSISTENT with our children?Should we be consistent with our children?
Yes... but being consistent doesn't mean being rigid in our rules!
Here is my concept of consistency <3
Enjoy xx
#AwareParenting #AttachmentPlay #ConsciousParenting #GentleParenting #AttachmentParenting #Toddlers #Kids #ParentingStruggles #ParentingCoach #PeacefulParenting #ConsciousMothers #NoPunishment #Consistency #ListentoYourBody #BodyWisdom #EmbodiedParenting #SomaticExperiencing #GutFeelings2019-12-2504 minMama ManonIs your child "just looking for ATTENTION"?Is your child "just looking for attention"?
Please watch this.
#AwareParenting #ConsciousParenting #LookingForAttention #NoPunishment #AwareMamasAndPapasMovement #Parenting
2019-12-2504 minMama ManonMELTDOWN after a fun day?Has your child ever had a meltdown at the end of a fun time with you?
Do you feel like he's spoiling the day?
I invite you to listen to this video to understand what might actually be happening for your child in that moment <3
With Love xx
Manon
#AwareParenting #ConsciousParenting #AttachmentParenting #GentleParenting #ListeningtoChildrensFeelings #StayListen #NoPunishment #RespectfulParenting #LittlePeopleBigEmotions #Tantrums #ChildMeltdown 2019-12-2506 minMama ManonFive steps to REPAIR the RELATIONSHIP after you got ANGRY at your childIt doesn't feel good to anyone involved when we get angry, and our relationship with our child can get a little damaged.
Taking the time to repair afterwards ensures that our bond with our child stays strong (and becomes even stronger!).
Here are 5 steps you can take towards repair.
#AwareParenting #RepairRelationship #AngryMum #Ivelostit #ConsciousParenting #RespectfulParenting #AttachmentParenting #Yelling #mumsguilt #guilt #AttachmentPlay2019-12-2505 minMama ManonIs your child PRETENDING to be a BABY?It can be so frustrating when our big kids pretend to be a baby... yet, just like any other behaviour, there is a reason for it.
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#AwareParenting #AttachmentPlay #RegressionGames #HealingTrauma #SomaticExperiencing #PlayingBaby #BigBrother #bigSister #ConsciousParenting #ConsciousMothers #GentleParenting2019-12-2504 minMama ManonSharing Toys, happens in our child's nervous system?Sharing toys: What happens in our child's brain and nervous system when we force them to share their toys? ✨
Video 2/2 on sharing toys.
Make sure to watch the previous video if you haven't yet <3
With Love xx
Manon
#AwareParenting #AttachmentPlay #ConsciousParenting #GentleParenting #AttachmentParenting #Toddlers #ParentingStruggles #ParentingCoach #PeacefulParenting #ConsciousMothers #SharingToys #NervousSystem #MeetingNeeds #SomaticExperiencing #TraumaHealing #Safety2019-12-2511 minMama ManonShould we teach our children to SHARE their TOYS?Should we force our children to share their toys?
#AskMamaManon
My answer is No.
Here is video 1/2 explaining why ✨
With Love xx
Manon
#AwareParenting #AttachmentPlay #ConsciousParenting #GentleParenting #AttachmentParenting #Toddlers #ParentingStruggles #ParentingCoach #PeacefulParenting #ConsciousMothers #SharingToys #MeetingNeeds #SomaticExperiencing #TraumaHealing2019-12-2507 minMama ManonWhat happens to US when our baby/child is CRYING?What happens to us when our baby/child is crying?
Babies and children, just like us adults, can be holding onto some stress, sadness or grief.
It's important that we take the time to hold space for our baby's and children's cries when they're sad or discharging some stress.
Staying with them, listening to them with compassion and reassuring them with our calm presence can only benefit them.
But it's NOT EASY to stay calm and to hold that...2019-12-2502 minMama ManonA self-regulation exercise to CALM DOWN before bedA Self-Regulation & Co-Regulation Exercise to calm down before bedtime (and anytime during the day!) <3
How is this exercise for you, lovely Mamas?
What are you noticing after doing it? How is it for your child?
I'd love to hear from you all <3
#SomaticExperiencing #SelfRegulation #CoRegulation #CalmDown #DeStress #NervousSystem #NervousSystemHealth #GHIAexercise #SomaticHealing #ParaSympathetic #Polyvagal #Bedtime #ConsciousParenting #AttachmentParenting #GentleParenting #ConsciousMothers #SlowDown2019-12-2509 minMama ManonTwo things you can do when your child is ANGRY✨ Two things you can do when your child is angry 😤
It is essential for our kids to have a safe outlet for their frustration/anger.
Anger is a natural and healthy response when their needs are not met or when something doesn't feel right to them.
If our kids don't have any safe outlet to express their anger, they will "keep it in".
With time, the angry feelings will accumulate in their body, so much that they'll become aggressive towards their friends or us...2019-12-2502 min