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Marcus & Esme O’Kayvius
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Crazy Together
35. Creating Sensory-Friendly Interior Spaces
Esme makes her glorious return to the recording studio to discuss how our environments and internal spaces (e.g., home, work, school, etc.) can impact neurodivergent people with sensory sensitivities. She and Marcus then share a few tips for making your home more comfortable for the neurodiverse in your lives, as well as considerations for advocating for accommodations in your workplace. ALSO: Marcus calls out the Guggenheim. Why? You’ll have to listen to find out. Visit our website: crazytogetherpod.com Support our show: Buy us a coffee at ko-fi.com/c...
2025-07-23
1h 21
Crazy Together
34. Is Capitalism Bad for Our Mental Health?
PROVOCTIVE TITLE WARNING! Content might be more nuanced than the title suggests. Listener discretion is encouraged. Visit our website: crazytogetherpod.com Support our show: Buy us a coffee at ko-fi.com/crazytogetherpod. Sources for this episode include: Zeira, Anna. "Mental Health Challenges Related to Neoliberal Capitalism in the United States." Community Mental Health Journal, vol. 58, no. 2, May 2021, pp. 205–212. PubMed Central, https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC8145185/. Our theme music: Midnight—Declan DP [Audio Library Release] Music provided by Audio Library Plus Watch: ...
2025-07-17
26 min
Crazy Together
33. Summer, Summer, Summertime
Marcus and Esme are on vacation this week, but they didn't want to leave you hanging. So they have compiled some of their favorite clips into one fun-filled episode. They will be back with a new episode next week. Enjoy! Visit our website: crazytogetherpod.com Our theme music: Midnight—Declan DP [Audio Library Release] Music provided by Audio Library Plus Watch: • Midnight — Declan DP | Free Backgroun... Free Download / Stream: https://alplus.io/midnight-declan-dp
2025-07-10
49 min
Crazy Together
32. Business Horoscopes: Part 2
Marcus and Esme continue their discussion about personality type assessments and explore the ways in which even more reliable tools like the Big Five or Five Factor assessment are being misused by employers and the developers of certain talent management platforms. They also close the book on the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator (MBTI), and share some pretty shocking details about Isabel Briggs Myers’ personal biases. Visit our website: crazytogetherpod.com Support our show: Buy us a coffee at ko-fi.com/crazytogetherpod. Sources for this episode include: Zárate-Torr...
2025-07-02
1h 18
Crazy Together
31. Business Horoscopes: Part 1
Marcus and Esme examine the super squishy pseudoscience behind personality type assessments such as the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator (MBTI). Visit our website: crazytogetherpod.com Support our show: Buy us a coffee at ko-fi.com/crazytogetherpod. Sources for this episode include: “The History of the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator.” The Myers-Briggs Company, https://eu.themyersbriggs.com/en/tools/MBTI/Myers-Briggs-history. Zárate-Torres, Rodrigo, and Juan C. Correa. “How Good Is the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator for Predicting Leadership-Related Behaviors?” Frontiers in Psychology, vol. 14, 2 Mar. 2023, article 940961, https://doi.org/10.3389/fpsyg.2023.940961. Stromberg, Joseph...
2025-06-25
1h 09
Crazy Together
30. Is There a Link Between Creativity and Mental Illness or Neurodivergence?
Marcus and Esme pay tribute to the lives and works of Sly Stone and Brian Wilson–two of the most wildly creative, innovative, and influential singer/songwriters the world has ever known. While sharing their illuminating, entertaining, and occasionally heartbreaking stories, Marcus and Esme also confront the classic trope of the “Tortured Artist” to determine if there is a connection between creativity and mental illness, mood disorders, and/or neurodivergence. Visit our website: crazytogetherpod.com Support our show: Buy us a coffee at ko-fi.com/crazytogetherpod. Sources for this epi...
2025-06-18
1h 27
Crazy Together
29. It Turns Out Everyone is All Up in Their Feelings
And when Marcus and Esme say “everyone,” they mean everyone. It turns out that human beings might not be the rational creatures we like to think we are. According to neuroscientist Antonio Damasio, it seems our decision-making abilities are guided and greatly influenced by our emotions. In this episode, Marcus and Esme discuss Damasio’s theories and how they might explain some of the philosophical and political differences in our county, and why so many of us are susceptible to misinformation and irrational decision-making. They also discuss how this research opens the door to potentially reachin...
2025-06-11
1h 13
Crazy Together
28. To Sleep Perchance to Pay Attention in School the Next Day
Like a lot of people with ADHD, Marcus and Esme have trouble falling asleep and sometimes even staying asleep. They share some of the challenges they’ve experienced, as well as some of the early challenges they’ve observed with their daughter. They also discuss some of the strategies and resources for falling asleep the O’Kayviuses have tried over the years and how they’re helping their daughter develop good sleep hygiene (even though Marcus hates that term). PLUS: we learn that Esme sometimes talks in her sleep. Not just the occasional mumble or murmur, mind you, but fully en...
2025-06-04
1h 21
Crazy Together
27. Unreliable Narrators
Marcus and Esme discuss the challenges caused by “unreliable narrators” – i.e., people and organizations who masquerade as reliable sources of information, but whose real purpose is to uncritically amplify content created by third parties with their own agendas. These unreliable narrators play a critical role in spreading misinformation, which has a tremendous impact on our mental health and well-being. Visit our website: crazytogetherpod.com Support our show: Buy us a coffee at ko-fi.com/crazytogetherpod. Sources for this episode include: Battle, Patricia. "Amazon CEO Gives Hard-Nosed...
2025-05-28
1h 35
Crazy Together
26. Love and Anxiety
Marcus and Esme fulfill a long-delayed promise by completing the Love and trilogy, and it only took them 23 episodes! Go back and listen to Love and ADHD (episode 2) and Love and Depression (episode 3) if you want to experience the full scope of their non-neurotypical love story. We promise it’s a better trilogy than the Godfather (but that’s mostly because Godfather part III was terrible). Support our show: Buy us a coffee at ko-fi.com/crazytogetherpod. Sources for this episode include: Mayo Clinic Staff. "Anxiety Disorders - Symptoms and Causes."...
2025-05-21
1h 18
Crazy Together
25. Are People with ADHD too Literal?
No, people with ADHD are not too literal. We’re not “too” anything. We’re glorious unicorns. That said, numerous studies have demonstrated that people with ADHD often have difficulties understanding and interpreting non-literal language. Marcus is skeptical of this claim. After all, he’s fluent in sarcasm and is always down for a little idiomatic wordplay. Fortunately, Esme talks him through the research and helps him recognize where his own thinking tends to be a little black and white. Support our show: Buy us a coffee at ko-fi.com/crazytogetherpod. Sources for thi...
2025-05-14
1h 20
Crazy Together
24. More Fun with SSRIs
Marcus and Esme pick up where they left off with last week’s discussion about Selective Serotonin Uptake Inhibitors (SSRIs). They begin with an overview of some of the more common myths and outright lies about SSRIs. Then, they discuss a study that demonstrates the impact of misinformation and conspiracy theories on peoples’ willingness to get the help they need. Finally, they close with an extended rant about HHS Secretary RFK Jr., because if ever a man existed who has not received enough negative reinforcement in his life, it’s that crackly-skinned son of a gun. Trigg...
2025-05-07
1h 28
Crazy Together
23. SSRIs, Stupidity, and Lies
Esme is back! This week, the Okayviuses discuss Selective Serotonin Uptake Inhibitors (SSRIs), the very common antidepressant that, for a variety of reasons, is the target of a lot of influencers and media members who make money by lying to their audiences. The Okayviuses are quick to acknowledge that the experience of going on SSRIs leaves a lot to be desired, but ultimately conclude that the experience is a lot better than the worst possible outcome for anyone who is suffering from depression. Trigger warning: This episode contains discussions about depression, anxiety, and suicidal ideation. Li...
2025-04-30
1h 06
Crazy Together
BONUS: Too Much Cough Medicine/ More with Will the Forester
Esme is still under the weather. Marcus is, too, but he’s all hepped up on cough and cold medicines. Let’s hope Esme is restored to good health in short order, or Marcus might continue to go rogue in the editing suite. Anywho . . . this very special bonus episode contains some additional content from the interview with Will the forester. Will shares a hair-raising tale about accidentally discovering an old mine shaft with his foot. He also discusses how the challenges and the demands of the job can impact foresters’ mental health, and why it’s so hard...
2025-04-26
31 min
Crazy Together
22. Mental Health and the Power of Nature (both the tree kind of nature and the personality kind of nature)
Marcus and Esme welcome their very first guest to the podcast! Will the forester (not his official title) joins the O’Kayviuses to discuss the impact the natural world has on our mental health and wellness. They also discuss the very nature of what it means to have ADHD, and how sometimes the best “treatment” is not figuring out how to fit into society, but finding a place in this world that is the best fit for you. Visit our website: crazytogetherpod.com Support our show: Buy us a coffee at ko-fi.c...
2025-04-23
1h 15
Crazy Together
21. Overcoming Depression
Anyone who has struggled with depression is a tough SOB. Talk about survival skills! Even so, the prospect of undergoing treatment can be a little scary, particularly if it’s someone’s first attempt at getting help. The process is so filled with unknowns – it’s hard to know what to expect. That’s why Marcus and Esme have dedicated an episode to talking about what people can expect as they progress on the road to overcoming depression. Visit our website: crazytogetherpod.com Support our show: Buy us a coffee at ko-fi.com/c...
2025-04-09
1h 17
Crazy Together
20. There are so Many Ways to Fear Rejection
It feels like overkill, but there are so many ways to feel and fear rejection, particularly if you have ADHD. Marcus and Esme discuss three different ways in which those feelings can manifest: rejection sensitivity, Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria (RSD), and Complex Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (CPTSD). Spoiler alert: This topic will definitely be revisited in future episodes, so Marcus and Esme might just ask you to share your stories (if you feel comfortable with that sort of thing). Visit our website: crazytogetherpod.com Support our show: Buy us a coffee at ko...
2025-04-02
1h 08
Crazy Together
19. The World Happiness Report
Marcus and Esme explore the concept of happiness as defined by Sociology and Econ majors. They also try to figure out what makes the Finnish people so freaking happy, and come away impressed by their gritty determination to pursue general contentment in a cold, cruel world. Sisu! Visit our website: crazytogetherpod.com Support our show: Buy us a coffee at ko-fi.com/crazytogetherpod. Sources for this episode include: Wellbeing Research Centre at the University of Oxford, et al. World Happiness Report. 2025, https://worldhappiness.report/.. Tikkanen, Roosa, et al...
2025-03-26
1h 16
Crazy Together
18. Movie Night: Silver Linings Playbook
It’s movie night! Marcus and Esme discuss the 2012 film Silver Linings Playbook. Visit our website: crazytogetherpod.com Support our show: Buy us a coffee at ko-fi.com/crazytogetherpod. Sources for this episode include: National Institute of Mental Health (NIMH). Bipolar Disorder. U.S. Department of Health and Human Services, Revised 2025, https://www.nimh.nih.gov/health/publications/bipolar-disorder Watkins, Gwynne. "Ask a Psychiatrist: How Does Silver Linings Playbook Handle Mental Illness?" Vulture, Vox Media, 3 Dec. 2012, https://www.vulture.com/2012/12/ask-a-psychiatrist-how-does-silver-linings-playbook-handle-mental-illness.html Our theme musi...
2025-03-19
1h 51
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17. Managing Stress
Let’s talk about stress! Recent events have reminded Marcus and Esme that they need to be mindful of stress to protect their mental health. As such, they’ve decided to devote an episode to the concept of self-care. But first, Esme discusses her recent adventures in the field of bathroom design, and Marcus explains what a leprechaun hunt is and how it plays a critical role in his relationship with his daughter. Visit our website: crazytogetherpod.com Support our show: Buy us a coffee at ko-fi.com/crazytogeth...
2025-03-12
1h 29
Crazy Together
16. Masking, Part 2: Of Masks and Mirrors
Sickness descends on the O’Kayvius household again, this time in the form of a fever and sore throat that has laid Esme low. It’s up to Marcus to employ some editing wizardry to make sure a new episode goes up on time. Did he succeed? You make the call. Visit our website: crazytogetherpod.com Support our show: Buy us a coffee at ko-fi.com/crazytogetherpod. Sources for this episode include: Dupree, Dale. "How to Use Sales Mirroring to Build Stronger Customer Relationships." Salesforce, 18 June 2024, www.salesf...
2025-03-05
57 min
Crazy Together
Masking (but not in a freaky, adult-themed party kind of way)
Marcus briefly confuses the concept of psychological masking with a more risque type of masking. Fortunately, Esme was able to explain the difference before any lasting misunderstandings were forged. Marcus and Esme then define what Masking is and how it impacts the lives of neurodivergent people – with special emphasis on autistic people and people with ADHD. Visit our website: crazytogetherpod.com Support our show: Buy us a coffee at ko-fi.com/crazytogetherpod. Sources for this episode include: Cuffman, Carrie. "What Is Masking?" Cleveland...
2025-02-26
1h 11
Crazy Together
14. A Happy ADHD Story
Marcus and Esme tell an honest to God happy story about ADHD. But first, Marcus expounds on the brilliance of a 1980s post disco classic, and Esme reveals yet another talent. Then, the O’Kayviuses set the stakes for their happy story by reviewing a recent study that revealed a link between ADHD and reduced life expectancy for adults. Then we get to the happy story. Afterwards, Marcus and Esme take a moment to discuss how closing the Department of Education and “school choice” tax credit programs could theoretically result in shortening the lives of boys an...
2025-02-19
1h 07
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13. Men, Mental Health, and Masculinity, Part 2
Marcus and Esme attempt to mend fences and sovereign borders with some proud, Canadian listeners. Then they continue their discussion from last week about issues impacting men’s mental health. Marcus describes his own experiences attempting to live up to the high and often unrealistic standards of traditional masculinity. Later, Marcus and Esme submit a few modest suggestions for reframing some of the best aspects of masculinity by making them more relevant for a contemporary audience. Visit our website: crazytogetherpod.com Support our show: Buy us a coffee at ko-fi.com/cr...
2025-02-12
1h 49
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12. Men, Mental Health, and Masculinity, Part 1
Marcus and Esme discuss issues impacting men’s mental health. And, while Marcus acknowledges that certain behaviors and traits associated with masculinity do appear to have an impact, he reveals that he doesn’t think the term “toxic masculinity” is very helpful. His rationale and his alternative solution are revealed in the couple’s most glorious rabbit hole to date (discussions about the magic of Tom Jones excepted, of course). Marcus and Esme also explore some of the ways in which the health care and mental health industries are struggling to meet men’s needs. And finally...
2025-02-04
1h 04
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11. All the Inattentive Ladies, All the Hyperactive Ladies (Put Your Hands Up)
The O’Kayviuses make their glorious return, and this time Esme is at the wheel. Esme identifies what she believes are the two biggest challenges facing women and girls when it comes to getting diagnosed with (and receiving treatment for) ADHD. Spoiler alert: they both suck. To be clear, it’s the challenges that suck and not Esme’s theories, which are supported by evidence. Naturally, Marcus takes the conversation down a few different rabbit holes. Sadly, none of them involve stories about soul music or its practitioners. Trigger warning: This episode contains reference...
2025-01-28
1h 11
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10. A Brief Pause
Marcus and Esme announce they are taking a short break to catch up on some work. They will return with a new episode in two weeks. Visit our website: crazytogetherpod.com Support our show: Buy us a coffee at ko-fi.com/crazytogetherpod. Our theme music: Midnight—Declan DP [Audio Library Release] Music provided by Audio Library Plus Watch: • Midnight — Declan DP | Free Backgroun... Free Download / Stream: https://alplus.io/midnight-declan-dp
2025-01-14
04 min
Crazy Together
9. Gratitude, but not in a woo-woo kind of way
Happy belated holidays to all! Marcus and Esme bounce back from a holiday season full of sinus infections and other complications to deliver their first episode of 2025. Yes, it was supposed to be their last episode of 2024 but cut them some slack. If they have been upfront with their audience about anything, it’s that they are by no means perfect. They’re just two crazy kids who love each other and all of you (particularly those “one-off” listeners in Germany, Norway, and Wales). Visit our website: crazytogetherpod.com Support our show: ...
2025-01-02
1h 04
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8. Isolation and Mental Health
Esme is, as always, amazing. Fortunately, Marcus already knew this. Trigger warning: This episode contains references to suicidal ideation. Listener discretion is advised. If you or someone you love is dealing with these issues, please know that hope and help is available. Contact the 988 Suicide and Crisis Lifeline if you are experiencing mental health-related distress or are worried about a loved one who may need crisis support. Call or text 988 Chat at 988lifeline.org Connect with a trained crisis counselor. 988 is confidential, free, and available 24/7/365. Visit the 988 Su...
2024-12-18
1h 07
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7. Toxic Positivity, part 2
Marcus prepares Esme and himself for their upcoming re-evaluation of Yacht Rock. Then, Marucs and Esme continue their discussion about Toxic Positivity (go back and listen to episode 5 for part 1) by sharing excerpts from journalist, author, and activist Barbara Ehrenreich’s 2009 book, Bright-sided: How the Relentless Promotion of Positive Thinking has Undermined America. Visit our website: crazytogetherpod.com Support our show Buy us a coffee at ko-fi.com/crazytogetherpod. Sources for this episode include: Yildirim, Ece. “Harvard-trained psychiatrist: Everyone needs these 3 new skills to succeed in today’s w...
2024-12-10
1h 14
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6. Where ADHD, Shame, and Calamity Meet
On this very special and completely unintended episode, Marcus and Esme describe the role their ADHD played in a recent set of events that included (among other things) the cataclysmic failure of a home heating system, the disruption of their production schedule, sequestration in a hotel suite, and the internal processing of a great deal of shame. Visit our website Support our show Buy us a coffee at ko-fi.com/crazytogetherpod. Sources for this episode include: Saline, Sharon, Psy.D.. “Stop Dodging That Dreaded Task! 9 Ways to Halt...
2024-12-04
37 min
Crazy Together
5. Toxic Positivity, part 1
Marcus shows Esme an article that set him off recently, which leads to a lengthy discussion about why we are encouraged to maintain a positive attitude, even while things are breaking down all around us. Visit our website Sources for this episode include: Yildirim, Ece. “Harvard-trained psychiatrist: Everyone needs these 3 new skills to succeed in today’s workplaces.” CNBC.com. December 15, 2023. https://www.cnbc.com/2023/12/15/harvard-trained-psychiatrist-new-skills-you-need-for-the-workplace.html#:~:text=In%20short%3A%20To%20succeed%20in,at%20employee%20coaching%20platform%20BetterUp. “Resilience.” apa.org. https://www.apa.org/topics/resilience Ozcelik, H., & Barsade, S. G. (2018). No employee a...
2024-11-26
59 min
Crazy Together
1. Impostor Syndrome
Ever since the pandemic it seems like everyone has been (informally) diagnosed with impostor syndrome at one time or another. But what does it mean if everyone thinks they’re a fraud? And what do these feelings have to do with the increasingly vague standards we’re being held to at work? (Spoiler alert: Possibly a lot) Visit our website Sources for this episode include: Huecker MR, Shreffler J, McKeny PT, et al. Imposter Phenomenon. [Updated 2023 Jul 31]. In: StatPearls [Internet]. Treasure Island (FL): StatPearls Publishing; 2024 Jan-. Available from: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/book...
2024-11-19
58 min
Crazy Together
2. Love and ADHD
It’s a tale as old as time. Two people meet, fall in love, get married, and get diagnosed with matching neurodevelopmental disorders. Their love remains strong, but how can their relationship function amidst so much executive dysfunction? Find out this week as Marcus and Esme attempt to answer the question: What does it take to make a relationship work between two people with ADHD? Visit our website Sources for this episode include: "ADHD and Relationships." PsychologyToday.com. https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/adhd/adhd-and-relationships#does-it-matter-which-partner-has-adhd Our theme music: Midnight—Declan DP...
2024-11-19
1h 05
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3. Love and Depression
Marcus and Esme have a remarkably frank discussion about the impact depression has had on their relationship. They discuss their respective experiences with chronic depression, and how each has attempted to help the other through these depressive episodes. But first, Marcus shows Esme a video of an iconic musical performance, which he believes to be “a cultural artifact of tremendous sociological import.” In reality, he just demonstrates the various twists and turns his ADHD brain takes while going down a rabbit hole. Trigger warning: This episode contains discussions about depression, anxiety, and suicidal ideation. Listener discretion is advi...
2024-11-19
1h 33
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4. Post-election mini episode
Marcus unveils his grand plan for saving democracy but acknowledges he might be a little late. Then, Marcus and Esme briefly discuss their feelings and outlook following the 2024 election. Visit our website Our theme music: Midnight—Declan DP [Audio Library Release] Music provided by Audio Library Plus Watch: • Midnight — Declan DP | Free Backgroun... Free Download / Stream: https://alplus.io/midnight-declan-dp
2024-11-19
07 min
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