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The SelfWork Podcast400 SelfWork: The Tragedy of Perfectly Hidden Depression: A Conversation with Penny GrayPerfectly hidden depression can end in tragedy.I don’t quite remember when Penny Gray and I first talked. It was after 2019 when PHD was published. But not long after.She’s the widow of a man, Dave, who tragically fit the rubric of perfectly hidden depression. She tells the story in this interview about how she happened upon the term "perfectly hidden depression" when she was seeking some kind of understanding about the “why” of her husband’s suicidal death. I am honored to share her story with you and could think of absolutely no better...2024-06-2844 minThe SelfWork Podcast400 SelfWork: The Tragedy of Perfectly Hidden Depression: A Conversation with Penny GrayPerfectly hidden depression can end in tragedy.I don’t quite remember when Penny Gray and I first talked. It was after 2019 when PHD was published. But not long after.She’s the widow of a man, Dave, who tragically fit the rubric of perfectly hidden depression. She tells the story in this interview about how she happened upon the term "perfectly hidden depression" when she was seeking some kind of understanding about the “why” of her husband’s suicidal death. I am honored to share her story with you and could think of absolutely no better...2024-06-2844 min
The SelfWork Podcast359 SelfWork: Talking About Sibling Sexual Abuse: A Conversation with TEDx Speaker Jane EpsteinTrigger Warning: We're talking about sibling sexual abuse in this episode. The links for sexual abuse hotlines are below. I’ve had so many guest interviews on SelfWork – really wonderful researchers and authors, therapists and thinkers. But there’s something very special about someone coming forth to share their message when they’ve learned something the hard way – and they want to help others either through what they went through or to avoid it in the first place. Jane Epstein is this kind of person. She tells her story in this episode about how her life was d...2023-09-1534 minThe SelfWork Podcast359 SelfWork: Talking About Sibling Sexual Abuse: A Conversation with TEDx Speaker Jane EpsteinTrigger Warning: We're talking about sibling sexual abuse in this episode. The links for sexual abuse hotlines are below. I’ve had so many guest interviews on SelfWork – really wonderful researchers and authors, therapists and thinkers. But there’s something very special about someone coming forth to share their message when they’ve learned something the hard way – and they want to help others either through what they went through or to avoid it in the first place. Jane Epstein is this kind of person. She tells her story in this episode about how her life was d...2023-09-1534 min
The SelfWork Podcast357 SelfWork: How A Couple Can Destroy Their Relationship in Four Painfully Easy Steps... Or NotI was shocked to see this past week that I'd never done an episode on the four most well-researched communication patterns that can predict a couple will divorce or end their relationship. And I talk about them in couples therapy all the time! These four have been written about extensively by the well-known pair of researchers John and Julie Gottman – and I think their work is right on target, given what I sadly see on a regular basis in my office. And I’ll offer the most recent ways these four distinct behaviors can appear in the modern partnership. Sadly...2023-09-0129 minThe SelfWork Podcast357 SelfWork: How A Couple Can Destroy Their Relationship in Four Painfully Easy Steps... Or NotI was shocked to see this past week that I'd never done an episode on the four most well-researched communication patterns that can predict a couple will divorce or end their relationship. And I talk about them in couples therapy all the time! These four have been written about extensively by the well-known pair of researchers John and Julie Gottman – and I think their work is right on target, given what I sadly see on a regular basis in my office. And I’ll offer the most recent ways these four distinct behaviors can appear in the modern partnership. Sadly...2023-09-0129 min
The SelfWork Podcast356 SelfWork: What You Can Learn From Laughter and Fear: A Conversation with Dr. AND Comedian Priyanka WaliI’ve long been one to say to someone who’s paralyzed about the direction they see their lives going in or goals they want to achieve – experiences they want to have – to say, “Why not “and?” After they look at me kinda funny, I’ll explain. “Why can’t you be a plumber and a painter? A mother and an ad exec? That’s what this week's SelfWork guest has accomplished. She’s an internal medicine doctor and she’s a comic. A stand-up comic at that. Named by Refinery29 as one of the 50 Female Stand-Up Comedians...2023-08-2539 minThe SelfWork Podcast356 SelfWork: What You Can Learn From Laughter and Fear: A Conversation with Dr. AND Comedian Priyanka WaliI’ve long been one to say to someone who’s paralyzed about the direction they see their lives going in or goals they want to achieve – experiences they want to have – to say, “Why not “and?” After they look at me kinda funny, I’ll explain. “Why can’t you be a plumber and a painter? A mother and an ad exec? That’s what this week's SelfWork guest has accomplished. She’s an internal medicine doctor and she’s a comic. A stand-up comic at that. Named by Refinery29 as one of the 50 Female Stand-Up Comedians...2023-08-2539 min
The SelfWork Podcast355 SelfWork: How Five Types of Perfectionism Can Work For You: A Conversation with Katherine Morgan SchaflerWhen I received an email about this new book, I knew I wanted to talk with its author. The book? The Perfectionist's Guide to Losing Control. The author? Katherine Morgan Schafler, a psychotherapist and former on-site therapist at Google. She's worked with many high-achieving women who are told they need to find "balance" - as if they're doing something wrong! Katherine tells us instead that what's important is to learn about the five different types of constructive perfectionism so that it can work for you! As she says, "You can dare to want more without feeling greedy or ungrateful!"2023-08-1842 minThe SelfWork Podcast355 SelfWork: How Five Types of Perfectionism Can Work For You: A Conversation with Katherine Morgan SchaflerWhen I received an email about this new book, I knew I wanted to talk with its author. The book? The Perfectionist's Guide to Losing Control. The author? Katherine Morgan Schafler, a psychotherapist and former on-site therapist at Google. She's worked with many high-achieving women who are told they need to find "balance" - as if they're doing something wrong! Katherine tells us instead that what's important is to learn about the five different types of constructive perfectionism so that it can work for you! As she says, "You can dare to want more without feeling greedy or ungrateful!"2023-08-1842 min
The SelfWork Podcast354 SelfWork: Why Are New Moms Dying? A Conversation with Dr. Zenobia HarrisDuring my research on last week's episode on post partum, I learned that my own state of Arkansas holds the #1 spot in the US for maternal mortality rates. I'm interviewing Dr. Zenobia Harris today, whose accolades in this field are numerous to try to understand what's not happening in Arkansas that needs to happen - and what states are doing it right and how. Dr. Harris heads up the Arkansas Birthing Project, and is an incredible force and national advocate for health equity and for improvements to family, child, and maternal health. The program as well as the national...2023-08-1619 minThe SelfWork Podcast354 SelfWork: Why Are New Moms Dying? A Conversation with Dr. Zenobia HarrisDuring my research on last week's episode on post partum, I learned that my own state of Arkansas holds the #1 spot in the US for maternal mortality rates. I'm interviewing Dr. Zenobia Harris today, whose accolades in this field are numerous to try to understand what's not happening in Arkansas that needs to happen - and what states are doing it right and how. Dr. Harris heads up the Arkansas Birthing Project, and is an incredible force and national advocate for health equity and for improvements to family, child, and maternal health. The program as well as the national...2023-08-1619 min
The SelfWork Podcast352 SelfWork: How To Become A Startist: A Conversation with Becky BladesI wanted to offer you the advice and very creative teachings today of Becky Blades – she founded and sold an award-winning communications firm, she’s basically run from the board room to the home room, she’s an artist herself, and she’s an inspiring and highly creative author of two books; Her first book, Do Your Laundry or You’ll Die Alone, Advice Your Mom Would Give if She Thought You Were Listening, which she wrote and illustrated, was named a Best Books of 2014 and one of the Top 100 Indie Releases by Kirkus Reviews. It received the prestig...2023-08-0443 minThe SelfWork Podcast352 SelfWork: How To Become A Startist: A Conversation with Becky BladesI wanted to offer you the advice and very creative teachings today of Becky Blades – she founded and sold an award-winning communications firm, she’s basically run from the board room to the home room, she’s an artist herself, and she’s an inspiring and highly creative author of two books; Her first book, Do Your Laundry or You’ll Die Alone, Advice Your Mom Would Give if She Thought You Were Listening, which she wrote and illustrated, was named a Best Books of 2014 and one of the Top 100 Indie Releases by Kirkus Reviews. It received the prestig...2023-08-0443 min
The SelfWork Podcast349 SelfWork: Shrinks Are People Too: A Conversation with Shit Talking Shrinks Paulina and VictoriaWhen I was contacted by Paulina Siegel about being on her podcast, Shit Talking Shrinks, I was intrigued. She and her friend and colleague Victoria Aron are in Season Two of an hilarious, fresh challenge to the stereotype of the "therapist" - someone who's emotionally calm and somehow "above it all." So this is an expletive-filled SelfWork episode today - because guess what? Therapists can use colorful language as well! Yes, we offer our expertise in creating an emotionally safe space for you to risk your own healing and growth. But the old "immutable" therapist - the...2023-07-1437 minThe SelfWork Podcast349 SelfWork: Shrinks Are People Too: A Conversation with Shit Talking Shrinks Paulina and VictoriaWhen I was contacted by Paulina Siegel about being on her podcast, Shit Talking Shrinks, I was intrigued. She and her friend and colleague Victoria Aron are in Season Two of an hilarious, fresh challenge to the stereotype of the "therapist" - someone who's emotionally calm and somehow "above it all." So this is an expletive-filled SelfWork episode today - because guess what? Therapists can use colorful language as well! Yes, we offer our expertise in creating an emotionally safe space for you to risk your own healing and growth. But the old "immutable" therapist - the...2023-07-1437 min
The SelfWork Podcast348 SelfWork: Scrolling On The River: What's Real Fun and What's Depressing?Increasingly, I’ve noticed a trend in how people are describing “having fun” – and so much of that time, what they’re doing is scrolling thru TikTok or Instagram – Reddit or Quora – or any online communications app. Even people who are actively struggling with depression will tell me how the major way they “distract” themselves is through focusing on what they can find on their screens. This... despite all kind of studies showing that the more you interact or are “on” your phone, the more depressed you can become. I’m not advocating that anyone get rid of their phone. But… I do...2023-07-0726 minThe SelfWork Podcast348 SelfWork: Scrolling On The River: What's Real Fun and What's Depressing?Increasingly, I’ve noticed a trend in how people are describing “having fun” – and so much of that time, what they’re doing is scrolling thru TikTok or Instagram – Reddit or Quora – or any online communications app. Even people who are actively struggling with depression will tell me how the major way they “distract” themselves is through focusing on what they can find on their screens. This... despite all kind of studies showing that the more you interact or are “on” your phone, the more depressed you can become. I’m not advocating that anyone get rid of their phone. But… I do...2023-07-0726 min
The SelfWork Podcast347 SelfWork: The Risk and Fulfillment of Discovering Your Potential (And Here's My TEDx!)Today I’m offering something different for you. No commercials. Just me and you talking. I’ve said before on SelfWork that I’ve seen so many people become paralyzed in their decision -making about what course or direction they should follow. Hopefully, through my own story of discovering my own potential, you’ll get a taste of what I’ve learned works – which is to simply “go.” Go in a direction – any direction that puts itself in front of you. At least that’s healthy and productive. Learn from that. And keep going. Sometimes you have to pick yourself up from dis...2023-07-0512 minThe SelfWork Podcast347 SelfWork: The Risk and Fulfillment of Discovering Your Potential (And Here's My TEDx!)Today I’m offering something different for you. No commercials. Just me and you talking. I’ve said before on SelfWork that I’ve seen so many people become paralyzed in their decision -making about what course or direction they should follow. Hopefully, through my own story of discovering my own potential, you’ll get a taste of what I’ve learned works – which is to simply “go.” Go in a direction – any direction that puts itself in front of you. At least that’s healthy and productive. Learn from that. And keep going. Sometimes you have to pick yourself up from dis...2023-07-0512 min
The SelfWork Podcast344 SelfWork: A Daughter's Determination To Save Lives After Her Mother's Suicide: A Conversation with Donna's Law Creator, Katrina BreesThis interview focuses on suicide prevention so please listen carefully. Here are the international suicide prevention crisis numbers (USA is not 988). I want to read you the first part of the email I sent to our guest today for SelfWork. "Katrina good morning. I’m the host of The SelfWork Podcast and I just saw the CBS Sunday Morning interview about your mom, the way she died, and your actions since it happened. Let me say I’m so sorry about the struggles your mom had all her life and how her bipolar disorder could take...2023-06-1635 minThe SelfWork Podcast344 SelfWork: A Daughter's Determination To Save Lives After Her Mother's Suicide: A Conversation with Donna's Law Creator, Katrina BreesThis interview focuses on suicide prevention so please listen carefully. Here are the international suicide prevention crisis numbers (USA is not 988). I want to read you the first part of the email I sent to our guest today for SelfWork. "Katrina good morning. I’m the host of The SelfWork Podcast and I just saw the CBS Sunday Morning interview about your mom, the way she died, and your actions since it happened. Let me say I’m so sorry about the struggles your mom had all her life and how her bipolar disorder could take...2023-06-1635 min
The SelfWork Podcast343 SelfWork: What's Emotional Regulation? It's Both Self-Control and Self-ProtectionThere are a lot of mental illnesses that are characterized by intense emotion which then governs behavior, such as in bipolar disorder, major depression, or several personality disorders. But even it it’s a pattern, and not an actual mental illness, it may mean that you don’t have the skill to regulate your emotions – to have control over them instead of them over you. What does this look like? You get angry at a friend and you text them impulsively about your feelings instead of taking a minute to cool down. You get dumped by someone you're dating and yo...2023-06-0925 minThe SelfWork Podcast343 SelfWork: What's Emotional Regulation? It's Both Self-Control and Self-ProtectionThere are a lot of mental illnesses that are characterized by intense emotion which then governs behavior, such as in bipolar disorder, major depression, or several personality disorders. But even it it’s a pattern, and not an actual mental illness, it may mean that you don’t have the skill to regulate your emotions – to have control over them instead of them over you. What does this look like? You get angry at a friend and you text them impulsively about your feelings instead of taking a minute to cool down. You get dumped by someone you're dating and yo...2023-06-0925 min
The SelfWork Podcast323 SelfWork: When You Struggle With Intimacy: What Does Your Attachment Style Have to Do With It?Seeming coincidences happen to me often, and again this week, something synergistic got my attention. First, I listened to the Invisibilia podcast where they actually featured another NPR podcast, a show called Life Kit. Dr. Amir Levine was interviewed, who’s an expert on attachment theory – and he spoke on how your attachment style can help and/or hinder you from being able to achieve emotional intimacy. At the same time, I received a deeply thought-out question in an email from a listener who was trying to figure out how her identification with perfectly hidden depression and a struggle with...2023-02-0326 minThe SelfWork Podcast323 SelfWork: When You Struggle With Intimacy: What Does Your Attachment Style Have to Do With It?Seeming coincidences happen to me often, and again this week, something synergistic got my attention. First, I listened to the Invisibilia podcast where they actually featured another NPR podcast, a show called Life Kit. Dr. Amir Levine was interviewed, who’s an expert on attachment theory – and he spoke on how your attachment style can help and/or hinder you from being able to achieve emotional intimacy. At the same time, I received a deeply thought-out question in an email from a listener who was trying to figure out how her identification with perfectly hidden depression and a struggle with...2023-02-0326 min
The SelfWork Podcast317 SelfWork: Lewis Howes Is (Again) Guest Host! With Dr. Margaret Is His Guest!2022 is coming to a close – and 2023 is on its way! So Happy New Year to all! So today’s SelfWork episode turns the tables on me – as I’m being interviewed by Lewis Howes on his incredibly successful podcast, School of Greatness. I listen almost every week to his interviews when I’m out walking, and learn so much from them. And since I was honored to be on (that story you can hear in last week’s episode…), I know what it feels like to talk with Lewis. He’s one of those people that can make yo...2022-12-3039 minThe SelfWork Podcast317 SelfWork: Lewis Howes Is (Again) Guest Host! With Dr. Margaret Is His Guest!2022 is coming to a close – and 2023 is on its way! So Happy New Year to all! So today’s SelfWork episode turns the tables on me – as I’m being interviewed by Lewis Howes on his incredibly successful podcast, School of Greatness. I listen almost every week to his interviews when I’m out walking, and learn so much from them. And since I was honored to be on (that story you can hear in last week’s episode…), I know what it feels like to talk with Lewis. He’s one of those people that can make yo...2022-12-3039 minThe SelfWork Podcast291 SelfWork: The Elephant In The Room: Five Tips On Caring For Someone Who Won't Help ThemselvesWhat's one of the most frequent questions I get from SelfWorkers? What do you do when you care about someone who’s depressed or destructive or anxious or ill and they don’t seem to be able to or even want to help themselves? Maybe from your perspective they’ve given up, are in denial, or are extremely defensive about how they’re living or how their struggles are impacting you, the family, them, their job – their entire life. Part of many mental and emotional problems – especially those that involve seeming distortions in thinking – are hard to recognize by the...2022-07-0826 minThe SelfWork Podcast291 SelfWork: The Elephant In The Room: Five Tips On Caring For Someone Who Won't Help ThemselvesWhat's one of the most frequent questions I get from SelfWorkers? What do you do when you care about someone who’s depressed or destructive or anxious or ill and they don’t seem to be able to or even want to help themselves? Maybe from your perspective they’ve given up, are in denial, or are extremely defensive about how they’re living or how their struggles are impacting you, the family, them, their job – their entire life. Part of many mental and emotional problems – especially those that involve seeming distortions in thinking – are hard to recognize by the...2022-07-0826 minThe SelfWork Podcast275 SelfWork: The Why, How, Who, What, When, and Where of Sharing Your Story This question came up in a couple of scenarios this week. So, I decided to go with the synergy of that and focus on the decisions surrounding self-revelation - or telling your story. Here's the question: “How do I talk to someone about what’s really going on with me? I’m scared they’ll feel like I’m dumping on them, I’m feeling sorry for myself. Or even worse, I’m scared they’ll take it on like it’s their problem.” I know some of you rarely if ever do that; some of you may do it too much. S...2022-03-2529 minThe SelfWork Podcast275 SelfWork: The Why, How, Who, What, When, and Where of Sharing Your Story This question came up in a couple of scenarios this week. So, I decided to go with the synergy of that and focus on the decisions surrounding self-revelation - or telling your story. Here's the question: “How do I talk to someone about what’s really going on with me? I’m scared they’ll feel like I’m dumping on them, I’m feeling sorry for myself. Or even worse, I’m scared they’ll take it on like it’s their problem.” I know some of you rarely if ever do that; some of you may do it too much. S...2022-03-2529 minThe SelfWork Podcast269 SelfWork: The Dangerous Twin Towers of Burnout and PerfectionismPerhaps the most poignant messages I receive are the ones from people who love someone who's becoming less and less “like’ themselves – and are frightened about what’s going on. This week I heard from a wife whose husband..."has always had an excuse for his extremely busy schedule. Over the past several months he has been acting very differently and has been more open about his unhappiness, and will admit to being depressed. He is also very confused. I came upon your podcast and book as I was searching... We started couples therapy... but he'll say things like" I don't t...2022-02-1127 minThe SelfWork Podcast269 SelfWork: The Dangerous Twin Towers of Burnout and PerfectionismPerhaps the most poignant messages I receive are the ones from people who love someone who's becoming less and less “like’ themselves – and are frightened about what’s going on. This week I heard from a wife whose husband..."has always had an excuse for his extremely busy schedule. Over the past several months he has been acting very differently and has been more open about his unhappiness, and will admit to being depressed. He is also very confused. I came upon your podcast and book as I was searching... We started couples therapy... but he'll say things like" I don't t...2022-02-1127 minThe SelfWork Podcast268 SelfWork: Ten Traits That Create Camouflage for Trauma: Perfectly Hidden DepressionI want to eagerly and deeply thank HealthLine for naming The SelfWork Podcast the "Best Overall Podcast for Depression!" Wow!! Thank you to my team and to you, the listeners! Talk about not being able to "do it without you"? We truly can't! So my gratitude to each and every listener... Today I'm going to catch you up on what I'm continuing to learn about perfectionism. And I’ll share my new understanding of what makes PHD-perfectionism different from others. It's trauma-based or trauma-induced. I"ll also explain how the mind actually disposes (or seems to dispose) of...2022-02-0426 minThe SelfWork Podcast268 SelfWork: Ten Traits That Create Camouflage for Trauma: Perfectly Hidden DepressionI want to eagerly and deeply thank HealthLine for naming The SelfWork Podcast the "Best Overall Podcast for Depression!" Wow!! Thank you to my team and to you, the listeners! Talk about not being able to "do it without you"? We truly can't! So my gratitude to each and every listener... Today I'm going to catch you up on what I'm continuing to learn about perfectionism. And I’ll share my new understanding of what makes PHD-perfectionism different from others. It's trauma-based or trauma-induced. I"ll also explain how the mind actually disposes (or seems to dispose) of...2022-02-0426 minThe SelfWork Podcast246 SelfWork: Building Everyday Compassion: A Conversation with LinkedIn's Scott ShuteEvery day I receive a bunch of emails from publicists, publishing houses, or teachers on every subject you could think of to suggest either themselves or their client to be a guest on SelfWork. It's a flattering problems to have. But some are very unique, like this one from LinkedIn's Scott Shute. "Hi Dr. Margaret, I hope this finds you in the middle of a smile." That got my attention. Scott has had a diverse career, but now leads LinkedIn's Mindfulness and Compassion Programs, which he describes as a rare and growing field. I...2021-08-2441 minThe SelfWork Podcast246 SelfWork: Building Everyday Compassion: A Conversation with LinkedIn's Scott ShuteEvery day I receive a bunch of emails from publicists, publishing houses, or teachers on every subject you could think of to suggest either themselves or their client to be a guest on SelfWork. It's a flattering problems to have. But some are very unique, like this one from LinkedIn's Scott Shute. "Hi Dr. Margaret, I hope this finds you in the middle of a smile." That got my attention. Scott has had a diverse career, but now leads LinkedIn's Mindfulness and Compassion Programs, which he describes as a rare and growing field. I...2021-08-2441 minThe SelfWork Podcast152 SelfWork (Second Time Around): Six Exercises to Build Resolve for ChangeAs I wrote the book Perfectly Hidden Depression, I included over sixty specific exercises that would make reading it more of an emotional challenge, rather than one more chance to analyze. There are both action-oriented and reflective exercises and hopefully, you'd come away with a journal full of fresh insights, guidance on effecting real change in your life and support for taking risks. So today, in this episode sponsored by Athletic Greens, I want to give you a taste of those exercises, so that you can get a sense of how this kind of change can be t...2021-07-0527 minThe SelfWork Podcast152 SelfWork (Second Time Around): Six Exercises to Build Resolve for ChangeAs I wrote the book Perfectly Hidden Depression, I included over sixty specific exercises that would make reading it more of an emotional challenge, rather than one more chance to analyze. There are both action-oriented and reflective exercises and hopefully, you'd come away with a journal full of fresh insights, guidance on effecting real change in your life and support for taking risks. So today, in this episode sponsored by Athletic Greens, I want to give you a taste of those exercises, so that you can get a sense of how this kind of change can be t...2021-07-0527 minThe SelfWork Podcast154 SelfWork (Second Time Around): Four Steps To Kickstart Your MotivationDepression can steal your sense of vitality. Your "get up and go" or your motivation to reach goals that mean something to you can disappear. It's called anhedonia -- basically the lack of pleasure in (or motivation for) activities that used to mean something to you or to try on new challenges. But you don't have to be depressed for this to happen. Plain old insecurity can morph into passivity. And the dream of attaining certain goals can seem so far out of reach that you don't know how to become who you want to be. 2021-07-0126 minThe SelfWork Podcast154 SelfWork (Second Time Around): Four Steps To Kickstart Your MotivationDepression can steal your sense of vitality. Your "get up and go" or your motivation to reach goals that mean something to you can disappear. It's called anhedonia -- basically the lack of pleasure in (or motivation for) activities that used to mean something to you or to try on new challenges. But you don't have to be depressed for this to happen. Plain old insecurity can morph into passivity. And the dream of attaining certain goals can seem so far out of reach that you don't know how to become who you want to be. 2021-07-0126 minThe SelfWork Podcast183 SelfWork Second Time Around: Clearing Up Confusion About Perfectly Hidden DepressionDuring the last week of June 2021 and first full week of July, we’re taking a bit of vacation – my awesome engineer has a fabulous move to make – and I’m getting ready to teach my first course on PHD to therapists! In fact, if you’d like to sign up for this power-packed CEYou! conference, and get 15% of the whole thing – you can use this link and the coupon code “PresenterRef” – at least up until the day of the conference which is July 6th, 2021. I’ll be providing research and information on perfect hidden depression – both things that are in the book and th...2021-06-3023 minThe SelfWork Podcast183 SelfWork Second Time Around: Clearing Up Confusion About Perfectly Hidden DepressionDuring the last week of June 2021 and first full week of July, we’re taking a bit of vacation – my awesome engineer has a fabulous move to make – and I’m getting ready to teach my first course on PHD to therapists! In fact, if you’d like to sign up for this power-packed CEYou! conference, and get 15% of the whole thing – you can use this link and the coupon code “PresenterRef” – at least up until the day of the conference which is July 6th, 2021. I’ll be providing research and information on perfect hidden depression – both things that are in the book and th...2021-06-3023 minThe SelfWork Podcast229 SelfWork: Careers That Kill: Could Your Vet Be At Risk?Dr. Kristina Kiefer reached out to me recently. Her email was simple and to the point. "I’m in vet med and veterinarians are in trouble." I was intrigued and looked up some statistics on my own. Nearly 400 veterinarians died by suicide between 1979 and 2015, according to a CDC study published in January that analyzed more than 11,000 veterinarian death records in that timeframe. The study also found that female veterinarians are up to 3.5 times more likely to kill themselves than members of the general population. She then introduced me to her friend and colleague, Dr. Kimberly Pope-Robinson who has...2021-04-3040 minThe SelfWork Podcast229 SelfWork: Careers That Kill: Could Your Vet Be At Risk?Dr. Kristina Kiefer reached out to me recently. Her email was simple and to the point. "I’m in vet med and veterinarians are in trouble." I was intrigued and looked up some statistics on my own. Nearly 400 veterinarians died by suicide between 1979 and 2015, according to a CDC study published in January that analyzed more than 11,000 veterinarian death records in that timeframe. The study also found that female veterinarians are up to 3.5 times more likely to kill themselves than members of the general population. She then introduced me to her friend and colleague, Dr. Kimberly Pope-Robinson who has...2021-04-3040 minThe SelfWork PodcastSelfWork You Get the Gist (YGTG): Why Exactly Did I Write A Book?Writing a book is the hardest and most labor-intensive task I've ever accomplished. And sometimes, while I was deep in the throws of its creation, I would wonder why I was doing it, even though I was so passionate about its message. What did I really hope would happen as a result? Well, two things have happened this week that remind me of why the topic of perfectly hidden depression is vital for our mental health culture- and you - to understand. The first was from a conversation I had with psychologist Lindsay Weisner, who was interviewing me and...2021-02-1006 minThe SelfWork PodcastSelfWork You Get the Gist (YGTG): Why Exactly Did I Write A Book?Writing a book is the hardest and most labor-intensive task I've ever accomplished. And sometimes, while I was deep in the throws of its creation, I would wonder why I was doing it, even though I was so passionate about its message. What did I really hope would happen as a result? Well, two things have happened this week that remind me of why the topic of perfectly hidden depression is vital for our mental health culture- and you - to understand. The first was from a conversation I had with psychologist Lindsay Weisner, who was interviewing me and...2021-02-1006 minThe SelfWork Podcast146 SelfWork (Second Time Around): Your Questions About Perfectly Hidden Depression and My AnswersToday is the first anniversary of Perfectly Hidden Depression's publication and I'm honored to tell you that it's being translated into seven more languages, including Korean, Hungarian, and Russian. So in this episode, sponsored by BetterHelp, and when we're on a bit of vacation, I'm reposting your questions and my answers about PHD. The first is from a writer who is losing her battle between creativity and perfectionism; the second from a wife and mother who is busy all day, but feels “blah” at night. A young woman used the SpeakPipe feature of the podcast (see below..) and a...2020-11-0128 minThe SelfWork Podcast146 SelfWork (Second Time Around): Your Questions About Perfectly Hidden Depression and My AnswersToday is the first anniversary of Perfectly Hidden Depression's publication and I'm honored to tell you that it's being translated into seven more languages, including Korean, Hungarian, and Russian. So in this episode, sponsored by BetterHelp, and when we're on a bit of vacation, I'm reposting your questions and my answers about PHD. The first is from a writer who is losing her battle between creativity and perfectionism; the second from a wife and mother who is busy all day, but feels “blah” at night. A young woman used the SpeakPipe feature of the podcast (see below..) and a...2020-11-0128 minThe SelfWork Podcast194 SelfWork: How To Make Change StickI had a patient say to me the other day, not in a complaining way, but sort of in a “can’t believe it” kind of way – “I’ve been in therapy with you now for a year. I thought I’d be here for maybe a couple of months.” I want to share a bit of his story as well as others who’ve used therapy not to simply make immediate changes in the direction they’ve wanted or needed - but to make lasting change. Change that sticks. There are certainly problems like eating disorders, complex trauma and c...2020-08-2128 minThe SelfWork Podcast194 SelfWork: How To Make Change StickI had a patient say to me the other day, not in a complaining way, but sort of in a “can’t believe it” kind of way – “I’ve been in therapy with you now for a year. I thought I’d be here for maybe a couple of months.” I want to share a bit of his story as well as others who’ve used therapy not to simply make immediate changes in the direction they’ve wanted or needed - but to make lasting change. Change that sticks. There are certainly problems like eating disorders, complex trauma and c...2020-08-2128 min
Behavioral Grooves PodcastCovid-19 Crisis: Margaret Robinson Rutherford, PhD on Perfectly Hidden DepressionMargaret Robinson Rutherford, PhD, is a clinical psychologist in private practice with more than twenty-five years of experience treating individuals and couples for depression, anxiety, and relationship issues.
She also offers her compassionate and commonsense therapeutic style to the general public through her popular blog and podcasts, with the goal of decreasing the stigma around psychological treatment. Her podcasts and shows on perfectly hidden depression (PHD) have reached thousands, as she sheds light on this overlooked presentation of the disease.
She is also the author of PERFECTLY HIDDEN DEPRESSION: How to Break Free from the P...2020-06-281h 08The SelfWork Podcast183 SelfWork: Clearing Up Confusion about Perfectly Hidden DepressionWow. Questions about perfectly hidden depression (PHD) are pouring in! And of course that gives me a thrill. But also there's understandable confusion. Perfectionism is supposed to be about anxiety, not depression, right? (The answer is yes and a definite no -- not all the time.) Is the depression that’s covered up by perfectionism the same as classic depression? And so many others. The questions come from all age groups and describe very different kinds of reasons or pathways on how they fell into needing to look perfect. Your questions deserve my time and attention. SelfWork is...2020-06-0524 minThe SelfWork Podcast183 SelfWork: Clearing Up Confusion about Perfectly Hidden DepressionWow. Questions about perfectly hidden depression (PHD) are pouring in! And of course that gives me a thrill. But also there's understandable confusion. Perfectionism is supposed to be about anxiety, not depression, right? (The answer is yes and a definite no -- not all the time.) Is the depression that’s covered up by perfectionism the same as classic depression? And so many others. The questions come from all age groups and describe very different kinds of reasons or pathways on how they fell into needing to look perfect. Your questions deserve my time and attention. SelfWork is...2020-06-0524 minThe SelfWork Podcast182 SelfWork: Filler or Fulfillment? Five Ways to Figure It OutToday we’re going to talk about staying busy – not the welcome kind of busyness where you’re actually doing things you love that bring you fulfillment, but the kind of busyness that basically serves as filler in your life. You couldn’t tell me why you’re doing it, or how you got started – other than to say that you’re scared to stop – because you fear a loss of control. I'll offer five tangible ways you can face your fears of change and figure out if too much of your life is spent filling time rather than risking true ful...2020-05-2927 minThe SelfWork Podcast182 SelfWork: Filler or Fulfillment? Five Ways to Figure It OutToday we’re going to talk about staying busy – not the welcome kind of busyness where you’re actually doing things you love that bring you fulfillment, but the kind of busyness that basically serves as filler in your life. You couldn’t tell me why you’re doing it, or how you got started – other than to say that you’re scared to stop – because you fear a loss of control. I'll offer five tangible ways you can face your fears of change and figure out if too much of your life is spent filling time rather than risking true ful...2020-05-2927 minThe SelfWork Podcast173 SelfWork: What's New with Perfectly Hidden DepressionJust because I’ve written a book about perfectly hidden depression (PHD) doesn’t mean that I’m through with learning about it. With each person that I’ve heard from, or has joined my practice because of my writing about PHD, or from the podcast hosts that have been generous enough to have me on, I keep learning. My first podcast (Episode 003) on it was so long ago -- I hadn't even started the book but only had a book proposal done. So we’ll take each of the ten traits of PHD and I’ll let you in on some un...2020-03-2724 minThe SelfWork Podcast173 SelfWork: What's New with Perfectly Hidden DepressionJust because I’ve written a book about perfectly hidden depression (PHD) doesn’t mean that I’m through with learning about it. With each person that I’ve heard from, or has joined my practice because of my writing about PHD, or from the podcast hosts that have been generous enough to have me on, I keep learning. My first podcast (Episode 003) on it was so long ago -- I hadn't even started the book but only had a book proposal done. So we’ll take each of the ten traits of PHD and I’ll let you in on some un...2020-03-2724 minThe SelfWork Podcast167 SelfWork: Is It OCD, GAD, Bipolar, BPD or Perfectly Hidden Depression (PHD)?There are certain diagnoses that may be co-occurring with perfectly hidden depression (PHD) or could be confused with PHD. And the last thing I want is for anyone to label themselves PHD or identify with PHD and stop there – when instead, you may need to recognize that you're experiencing another type of psychological issue that warrants understanding and even treatment. Those diagnoses are Bipolar II disorder, Obsessive Compulsive disorder, Generalized Anxiety Disorder and Borderline Personality Disorder. We'll talk today about what traits PHD and these other disorders have in common and what makes them distinct from one another. ...2020-02-2123 minThe SelfWork Podcast167 SelfWork: Is It OCD, GAD, Bipolar, BPD or Perfectly Hidden Depression (PHD)?There are certain diagnoses that may be co-occurring with perfectly hidden depression (PHD) or could be confused with PHD. And the last thing I want is for anyone to label themselves PHD or identify with PHD and stop there – when instead, you may need to recognize that you're experiencing another type of psychological issue that warrants understanding and even treatment. Those diagnoses are Bipolar II disorder, Obsessive Compulsive disorder, Generalized Anxiety Disorder and Borderline Personality Disorder. We'll talk today about what traits PHD and these other disorders have in common and what makes them distinct from one another. ...2020-02-2123 minThe SelfWork Podcast161 SelfWork: How Does Therapy Work?What happens in therapy that can be helpful? How does it work? These are basic questions that were brought to my attention during my recent interview with Lewis Howes on his podcast The School of Greatness. He and his team bring what they consider “great” ideas and ways of being to his listeners. And I was honored to be there. If you're interested in listening to his podcast, here it is! You can click here: LewisHowes.com. Upgrade Your Mental Health with Dr. Margaret Rutherford Ep 895. I was intrigued with some of his questions. I somet...2020-01-1027 minThe SelfWork PodcastSelfWork 160: The Sexless Marriage. Is There A Way Back?Welcome to 2020 and more SelfWork! First, thank you to everyone who’s purchased Perfectly Hidden Depression and left reviews. Those show up on Amazon as a verified purchase and are extremely important offering even more validity. So if you’ve been reading PHD, and when you’re done, two sentences on what you experienced would be extremely gratifying. Today we’re talking about the lack of sexual intimacy that so many couples are experiencing; in fact, research shows that 15 to 20% of committed relationships or marriages had become rarely if ever sexual. We’ll touch on ten of the m...2020-01-0324 minThe SelfWork PodcastSelfWork 160: The Sexless Marriage. Is There A Way Back?Welcome to 2020 and more SelfWork! First, thank you to everyone who’s purchased Perfectly Hidden Depression and left reviews. Those show up on Amazon as a verified purchase and are extremely important offering even more validity. So if you’ve been reading PHD, and when you’re done, two sentences on what you experienced would be extremely gratifying. Today we’re talking about the lack of sexual intimacy that so many couples are experiencing; in fact, research shows that 15 to 20% of committed relationships or marriages had become rarely if ever sexual. We’ll touch on ten of the m...2020-01-0324 minThe SelfWork PodcastSelfWork 159: When It's Over -- Healing Rejection and ReplacementCoping with rejection in a relationship, whether it be a friendship or partnership or a marriage, can be very difficult. But to add to the hurt, you can also learn that your ex has moved on quickly -- or perhaps had moved on while still in a relationship with you. And that can lead to a feeling of being replaced. We'll talk about the feelings and thoughts this can create -- and something that can help you move through this grieving process. It's called redefinition or reinterpretation -- and although it takes time to heal, this idea will help y...2019-12-1323 minThe SelfWork PodcastSelfWork 159: When It's Over -- Healing Rejection and ReplacementCoping with rejection in a relationship, whether it be a friendship or partnership or a marriage, can be very difficult. But to add to the hurt, you can also learn that your ex has moved on quickly -- or perhaps had moved on while still in a relationship with you. And that can lead to a feeling of being replaced. We'll talk about the feelings and thoughts this can create -- and something that can help you move through this grieving process. It's called redefinition or reinterpretation -- and although it takes time to heal, this idea will help y...2019-12-1323 minThe SelfWork PodcastMaking Motivation Happen: SelfWork #154Depression can steal your sense of vitality. Your "get up and go" or your motivation to reach goals that mean something to you can disappear. It's called anhedonia -- basically the lack of pleasure in (or motivation for) activities that used to mean something to you or to try on new challenges. But you don't have to be depressed for this to happen. Plain old insecurity can morph into passivity. And the dream of attaining certain goals can seem so far out of reach that you don't know how to become who you want to be. 2019-11-0824 minThe SelfWork PodcastMaking Motivation Happen: SelfWork #154Depression can steal your sense of vitality. Your "get up and go" or your motivation to reach goals that mean something to you can disappear. It's called anhedonia -- basically the lack of pleasure in (or motivation for) activities that used to mean something to you or to try on new challenges. But you don't have to be depressed for this to happen. Plain old insecurity can morph into passivity. And the dream of attaining certain goals can seem so far out of reach that you don't know how to become who you want to be. 2019-11-0824 minThe SelfWork PodcastWhen Depression And A Need To Escape Become Self-Destructive: SelfWork #150Happy 150th Episode!! This is the last of the series on aspects of depression and today, we're talking about self-destructive habits and patterns. Depression is innately painful. It’s lonely. It’s dark. Sometimes you lose hope that you can find your way out. So, you can easily turn to self-destructive behaviors to gain some form of perceived control or escape. Our focus will be on six, although we're completely leaving out substance abuse, which of course, is huge. Those six are: spending/shopping, bingeing and purging, restricting food/dieting/compulsive exercise, cutting, having an affair, and over...2019-10-1127 minThe SelfWork PodcastWhen Depression And A Need To Escape Become Self-Destructive: SelfWork #150Happy 150th Episode!! This is the last of the series on aspects of depression and today, we're talking about self-destructive habits and patterns. Depression is innately painful. It’s lonely. It’s dark. Sometimes you lose hope that you can find your way out. So, you can easily turn to self-destructive behaviors to gain some form of perceived control or escape. Our focus will be on six, although we're completely leaving out substance abuse, which of course, is huge. Those six are: spending/shopping, bingeing and purging, restricting food/dieting/compulsive exercise, cutting, having an affair, and over...2019-10-1127 minThe SelfWork Podcast107 SelfWork: What Perfectly Hidden Depression Is Not Today we’re focusing again on Perfectly Hidden Depression, but this time we’re talking about what PHD is not. I received two emails in the same day this week and thought someone had sent theirs twice. But they were actually sent by two different people. Both of their first sentences were, “I think you may have […] The post 107 SelfWork: What Perfectly Hidden Depression Is Not appeared first on Dr. Margaret Rutherford. Our Sponsors:* Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code SELFWORK for a great deal: https://happymammoth.comAdvertis...2018-12-1417 minThe SelfWork Podcast107 SelfWork: What Perfectly Hidden Depression Is Not Today we’re focusing again on Perfectly Hidden Depression, but this time we’re talking about what PHD is not. I received two emails in the same day this week and thought someone had sent theirs twice. But they were actually sent by two different people. Both of their first sentences were, “I think you may have […] The post 107 SelfWork: What Perfectly Hidden Depression Is Not appeared first on Dr. Margaret Rutherford. Our Sponsors:* Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code SELFWORK for a great deal: https://happymammoth.comAdvertis...2018-12-1417 minThe SelfWork Podcast102 SelfWork: How Do You Feel Your Feelings? Many people have trouble with connecting with their feelings. I’ve talked a lot about PHD – and certainly those folks have many intense feelings well hidden away. But it’s not only in PHD that this can occur. Many times, I’ve watched someone on the verge of letting go, of allowing an emotion to surface – […] The post 102 SelfWork: How Do You Feel Your Feelings? appeared first on Dr. Margaret Rutherford. Our Sponsors:* Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code SELFWORK for a great deal: https://happymammoth.comAdvertising Inquiries: h...2018-11-0923 minThe SelfWork Podcast102 SelfWork: How Do You Feel Your Feelings? Many people have trouble with connecting with their feelings. I’ve talked a lot about PHD – and certainly those folks have many intense feelings well hidden away. But it’s not only in PHD that this can occur. Many times, I’ve watched someone on the verge of letting go, of allowing an emotion to surface – […] The post 102 SelfWork: How Do You Feel Your Feelings? appeared first on Dr. Margaret Rutherford. Our Sponsors:* Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code SELFWORK for a great deal: https://happymammoth.comAdvertising Inquiries: h...2018-11-0923 minThe SelfWork Podcast097 SelfWork: What Makes A Therapist Right For Me? How do you know a therapist is the right one for you? Do you need someone who’s suffered the same loss or trauma as you? Or does it matter? Based on a great question from a listener, Dr. Margaret will be looking into what you might want to consider when you make your choice. The […] The post 097 SelfWork: What Makes A Therapist Right For Me? appeared first on Dr. Margaret Rutherford. Our Sponsors:* Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code SELFWORK for a great deal: https://happymammoth.comAdve...2018-10-0517 minThe SelfWork Podcast060 SelfWork: Unmasking The Pain Of Perfectly Hidden Depression As promised, today’s episode is about peeling off the mask of Perfectly Hidden Depression (PHD). Thousands of you have listened to the episodes on PHD, and I’d love to hear from you personally. Email me confidentially so I can learn more from you! This episode covers basic steps of change, with specific examples and directions […] The post 060 SelfWork: Unmasking The Pain Of Perfectly Hidden Depression appeared first on Dr. Margaret Rutherford. Our Sponsors:* Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code SELFWORK for a great deal: https://happymammoth.comAdv...2018-01-2620 minThe SelfWork Podcast060 SelfWork: Unmasking The Pain Of Perfectly Hidden Depression As promised, today’s episode is about peeling off the mask of Perfectly Hidden Depression (PHD). Thousands of you have listened to the episodes on PHD, and I’d love to hear from you personally. Email me confidentially so I can learn more from you! This episode covers basic steps of change, with specific examples and directions […] The post 060 SelfWork: Unmasking The Pain Of Perfectly Hidden Depression appeared first on Dr. Margaret Rutherford. Our Sponsors:* Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code SELFWORK for a great deal: https://happymammoth.comAdv...2018-01-2620 minThe SelfWork Podcast057 SelfWork: The Real Voices Of Perfectly Hidden Depression Perfectly Hidden Depression (PHD) is a topic I’ve been researching and writing about for over three years, and many people have written me about their own experience with the syndrome. In this episode, you’ll here directly from them about their struggles with perfectionism — putting up a constant front of success, while simultaneously never satisfying […] The post 057 SelfWork: The Real Voices Of Perfectly Hidden Depression appeared first on Dr. Margaret Rutherford. Our Sponsors:* Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code SELFWORK for a great deal: https://happymammoth.comAdvertisi...2018-01-0519 minThe SelfWork Podcast057 SelfWork: The Real Voices Of Perfectly Hidden Depression Perfectly Hidden Depression (PHD) is a topic I’ve been researching and writing about for over three years, and many people have written me about their own experience with the syndrome. In this episode, you’ll here directly from them about their struggles with perfectionism — putting up a constant front of success, while simultaneously never satisfying […] The post 057 SelfWork: The Real Voices Of Perfectly Hidden Depression appeared first on Dr. Margaret Rutherford. Our Sponsors:* Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code SELFWORK for a great deal: https://happymammoth.comAdvertisi...2018-01-0519 minThe SelfWork Podcast055 SelfWork: An Anniversary Of Grief And Gratitude. In this special edition of SelfWork, Dr. Margaret launches a new website and podcast design in celebration of her fifth anniversary of taking a risk and beginning to blog. It’s somewhat bittersweet, as she also honors the deaths of her parents on the same day. Join her as she thanks readers and listeners for all […] The post 055 SelfWork: An Anniversary Of Grief And Gratitude. appeared first on Dr. Margaret Rutherford. Our Sponsors:* Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code SELFWORK for a great deal: https://happymammoth.comAdvertising Inqu...2017-12-1709 minThe SelfWork Podcast054 SelfWork: How To Learn From A Mistake “Always be humble and kind” was a huge country hit last year, and Dr. Margaret talks in this episode about making mistakes and learning from them. How do you actually do that? She offers five pragmatic ideas of accepting mistakes, and specific questions to ask so that you may be less likely to make them […] The post 054 SelfWork: How To Learn From A Mistake appeared first on Dr. Margaret Rutherford. Our Sponsors:* Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code SELFWORK for a great deal: https://happymammoth.comAdvertising Inquiries: https...2017-12-1520 minThe SelfWork Podcast050 SelfWork: Is Perfectly Hidden Depression Real? Could you be functioning well -in fact “perfectly” in many ways — and underneath it all, be hiding pain, loneliness or even suicidal thoughts? Dr. Margaret’s term for this is Perfectly Hidden Depression (PHD), a syndrome of behaviors that can lead to a way-too-manicured persona out there for the public to see, while below the […] The post 050 SelfWork: Is Perfectly Hidden Depression Real? appeared first on Dr. Margaret Rutherford. Our Sponsors:* Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code SELFWORK for a great deal: https://happymammoth.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.2017-11-1719 minThe SelfWork Podcast050 SelfWork: Is Perfectly Hidden Depression Real? Could you be functioning well -in fact “perfectly” in many ways — and underneath it all, be hiding pain, loneliness or even suicidal thoughts? Dr. Margaret’s term for this is Perfectly Hidden Depression (PHD), a syndrome of behaviors that can lead to a way-too-manicured persona out there for the public to see, while below the […] The post 050 SelfWork: Is Perfectly Hidden Depression Real? appeared first on Dr. Margaret Rutherford. Our Sponsors:* Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code SELFWORK for a great deal: https://happymammoth.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.2017-11-1719 minThe SelfWork Podcast049 SelfWork: Honoring Your Rituals And You During The Holidays You can hear the pressures beginning to mount in people’s voices, as we all approach the holiday season. Dr. Margaret offers her own personal story of her parents’ deaths the week before Christmas of 2007, and how giving herself options was key in balancing the meaning of rituals with her grief. Rituals can be incredibly […] The post 049 SelfWork: Honoring Your Rituals And You During The Holidays appeared first on Dr. Margaret Rutherford. Our Sponsors:* Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code SELFWORK for a great deal: https://happymammoth.comAdvert...2017-11-1317 minThe SelfWork Podcast048 SelfWork: The Apology. The Good, The Bad And The Ugly Apologizing, saying “I’m sorry,” is quite difficult for many people. Yet a sincere heartfelt apology can make a world of difference in a relationship. Dr. Margaret adds to a list of good and not so good apologies that appeared in The Wall Street Journal (written by Elizabeth Bernstein), including the contingency apology, the passing the […] The post 048 SelfWork: The Apology. The Good, The Bad And The Ugly appeared first on Dr. Margaret Rutherford. Our Sponsors:* Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code SELFWORK for a great deal: https://happymammoth.com2017-11-0319 minThe SelfWork Podcast047 SelfWork: If You Love (Or Have Loved) A Narcissist Narcissism has been a hot topic for the past few years, with many people writing about their fate — being attracted to and trying to love someone with narcissistic traits. Dr. Margaret talks clearly about what narcissism is and what it’s not, as well as offering five recognitions about your own role in the furor […] The post 047 SelfWork: If You Love (Or Have Loved) A Narcissist appeared first on Dr. Margaret Rutherford. Our Sponsors:* Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code SELFWORK for a great deal: https://happymammoth.comAdvert...2017-10-2725 minThe SelfWork Podcast046 SelfWork: How A Woman Feels Around A Harvey Weinstein If you haven’t heard about Harvey Weinstein, you may have been living under a rock the last couple of weeks. He’s been accused of sexual harassment and assault by multiple women. Dr. Margaret relays an incident in her own history with sexual harassment, and how it made her feel. She also focuses on human’s normal […] The post 046 SelfWork: How A Woman Feels Around A Harvey Weinstein appeared first on Dr. Margaret Rutherford. Our Sponsors:* Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code SELFWORK for a great deal: https://happymammoth.com2017-10-2019 minThe SelfWork Podcast045 SelfWork: Self-Compassion. What It Is And Why It’s Vital Dr. Margaret received a fascinating question from a listener recently. “How do I learn to feel my feelings, when I’ve been suppressing them for years?” The key is self-compassion, and it’s vital in healing from depression, anxiety or what I term perfectly hidden depression. Dr. Margaret focuses on self-compassion, giving examples from her own patients […] The post 045 SelfWork: Self-Compassion. What It Is And Why It’s Vital appeared first on Dr. Margaret Rutherford. Our Sponsors:* Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code SELFWORK for a great deal: https://happymammoth.com2017-10-1426 minThe SelfWork Podcast045 SelfWork: Self-Compassion. What It Is And Why It’s Vital Dr. Margaret received a fascinating question from a listener recently. “How do I learn to feel my feelings, when I’ve been suppressing them for years?” The key is self-compassion, and it’s vital in healing from depression, anxiety or what I term perfectly hidden depression. Dr. Margaret focuses on self-compassion, giving examples from her own patients […] The post 045 SelfWork: Self-Compassion. What It Is And Why It’s Vital appeared first on Dr. Margaret Rutherford. Our Sponsors:* Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code SELFWORK for a great deal: https://happymammoth.com2017-10-1426 minThe SelfWork Podcast044 SelfWork: Is Your PTSD, Depression Or Anxiety Being Triggered By The Last Vegas Tragedy? If you have already experiencing depression, anxiety or even Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD), you may be being triggered by the horrific massacre in Las Vegas. In this special edition of SelfWork, Dr. Margaret offers some important ideas on how to process your thoughts and emotions if your symptoms have re-emerged or are worsening. Please […] The post 044 SelfWork: Is Your PTSD, Depression Or Anxiety Being Triggered By The Last Vegas Tragedy? appeared first on Dr. Margaret Rutherford. Our Sponsors:* Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code SELFWORK for a great deal: https://ha...2017-10-0911 minThe SelfWork Podcast043 SelfWork: When Friendships End Friends. They’re often your “family of choice.” They can be wonderfully satisfying, intellectually challenging, and just plain fun. But what happens when one friend backs out of the friendship? How do you understand it, grieve the loss and move on? Dr. Margaret speaks again of her own experience with being “ghosted” by a friend, and […] The post 043 SelfWork: When Friendships End appeared first on Dr. Margaret Rutherford. Our Sponsors:* Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code SELFWORK for a great deal: https://happymammoth.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands2017-10-0725 minThe SelfWork Podcast042 SelfWork: How To Fall Back In Love (Or Make Sure You Stay) “I’m not in love with you anymore.” These are words that can bring pain, confusion — a total feeling of rejection and emotional abandonment. How do couples try to prevent this from happening? What do you need to do to stay connected and committed? What’s the one question you heed to ask yourself? Dr. Margaret […] The post 042 SelfWork: How To Fall Back In Love (Or Make Sure You Stay) appeared first on Dr. Margaret Rutherford. Our Sponsors:* Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code SELFWORK for a great deal: https://happymammoth.com2017-09-2822 minThe SelfWork Podcast036 SelfWork: The Shame No One Talks About After Sexual Abuse In today’s podcast, Dr. Margaret talks about a certain type of shame that’s rarely revealed after sexual abuse. What is that shame? It’s the result of your body responding with arousal during the actual abuse itself. What’s vital to understand is that arousal doesn’t reflect consent — not in any way. Dr. Margaret describes conditions […] The post 036 SelfWork: The Shame No One Talks About After Sexual Abuse appeared first on Dr. Margaret Rutherford. Our Sponsors:* Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code SELFWORK for a great deal: https://happymammoth.c...2017-08-1919 minThe SelfWork Podcast036 SelfWork: The Shame No One Talks About After Sexual Abuse In today’s podcast, Dr. Margaret talks about a certain type of shame that’s rarely revealed after sexual abuse. What is that shame? It’s the result of your body responding with arousal during the actual abuse itself. What’s vital to understand is that arousal doesn’t reflect consent — not in any way. Dr. Margaret describes conditions […] The post 036 SelfWork: The Shame No One Talks About After Sexual Abuse appeared first on Dr. Margaret Rutherford. Our Sponsors:* Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code SELFWORK for a great deal: https://happymammoth.c...2017-08-1919 minThe SelfWork Podcast021 SelfWork: The Ten Traits Of Perfectly Hidden Depression If you’re an expert at hiding emotional pain, and do it almost perfectly, then this episode is likely to speak to you. Dr. Margaret has been researching and writing about a syndrome she calls Perfectly Hidden Depression for three years. Listen in as she outlines the ten major traits of PHD in the detail that […] The post 021 SelfWork: The Ten Traits Of Perfectly Hidden Depression appeared first on Dr. Margaret Rutherford. Our Sponsors:* Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code SELFWORK for a great deal: https://happymammoth.comAdve...2017-05-1024 minThe SelfWork Podcast021 SelfWork: The Ten Traits Of Perfectly Hidden Depression If you’re an expert at hiding emotional pain, and do it almost perfectly, then this episode is likely to speak to you. Dr. Margaret has been researching and writing about a syndrome she calls Perfectly Hidden Depression for three years. Listen in as she outlines the ten major traits of PHD in the detail that […] The post 021 SelfWork: The Ten Traits Of Perfectly Hidden Depression appeared first on Dr. Margaret Rutherford. Our Sponsors:* Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code SELFWORK for a great deal: https://happymammoth.comAdve...2017-05-1024 minThe SelfWork Podcast004 SelfWork: Perfectly Hidden Depression Pt. 2This podcast is the second in a series of two on what Dr. Margaret calls “Perfectly Hidden Depression.” PHD isn’t a diagnosis, but a syndrome, or group of characteristics that are found together, and serve to help you deny or ignore depression that’s kept far underneath the surface. Your life looks perfect. You’re active and […] The post 004 SelfWork: Perfectly Hidden Depression Pt. 2 appeared first on Dr. Margaret Rutherford. Our Sponsors:* Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code SELFWORK for a great deal: https://happymammoth.comAdvertis...2016-11-2123 minThe SelfWork Podcast004 SelfWork: Perfectly Hidden Depression Pt. 2This podcast is the second in a series of two on what Dr. Margaret calls “Perfectly Hidden Depression.” PHD isn’t a diagnosis, but a syndrome, or group of characteristics that are found together, and serve to help you deny or ignore depression that’s kept far underneath the surface. Your life looks perfect. You’re active and […] The post 004 SelfWork: Perfectly Hidden Depression Pt. 2 appeared first on Dr. Margaret Rutherford. Our Sponsors:* Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code SELFWORK for a great deal: https://happymammoth.comAdvertis...2016-11-2123 minThe SelfWork Podcast003 SelfWork: Perfectly Hidden Depression Pt. 1 Are you struggling with loneliness, exhaustion, even depression but no one knows it but you? Do you have trouble admitting vulnerability? Do you keep a facade of having it all together, when you realize at some level there’s something wrong? If so, this podcast is for you. Perfectly Hidden Depression (PHD) isn’t a diagnosis, but […] The post 003 SelfWork: Perfectly Hidden Depression Pt. 1 appeared first on Dr. Margaret Rutherford. Our Sponsors:* Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code SELFWORK for a great deal: https://happymammoth.com2016-11-0621 minThe SelfWork Podcast003 SelfWork: Perfectly Hidden Depression Pt. 1 Are you struggling with loneliness, exhaustion, even depression but no one knows it but you? Do you have trouble admitting vulnerability? Do you keep a facade of having it all together, when you realize at some level there’s something wrong? If so, this podcast is for you. Perfectly Hidden Depression (PHD) isn’t a diagnosis, but […] The post 003 SelfWork: Perfectly Hidden Depression Pt. 1 appeared first on Dr. Margaret Rutherford. Our Sponsors:* Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code SELFWORK for a great deal: https://happymammoth.com2016-11-0621 min