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Heal NPDWhat Narcissism Isn't: Clearing Up the ConfusionIn this Weekly Insight, Dr. Ettensohn addresses widespread misconceptions about narcissism by clarifying what the term does not mean. Drawing on clinical examples and years of engagement with public discourse, he explores how the label “narcissist” has become a cultural catch-all for behaviors that are often common, non-pathological, and only proximally related to Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD). This episode examines how actions such as setting a boundary, avoiding emotional intimacy, or disagreeing with someone’s interpretation of events are frequently misread as narcissistic - especially when filtered through shame, hurt, or interpersonal conflict. Dr. Ettensohn distinguishes these behavi...2025-07-0311 min

Heal NPDLive with Dr. Ettensohn 6-12-25Join Dr. Mark Ettensohn from Heal NPD for a live broadcast answering questions and responding to viewer comments. 2025-06-181h 43

Heal NPDDo Narcissists *Really* Lack Empathy?What does it mean to say that narcissists lack empathy? In this Weekly Insight, Dr. Ettensohn challenges the common assumption that low empathy is a fixed trait in narcissistic personality disorder (NPD). Drawing from psychoanalytic theory and clinical observation, he explores how empathy in NPD often collapses in response to internal threat, and how this collapse is due to defenses rather than intrinsic empathy deficits. The episode identifies three core processes that disrupt empathic functioning in NPD: paranoid anxiety, dissociated self-states, and shame-driven defenses against dependency. These processes help explain the inconsistency, withdrawal...2025-06-0613 min

Heal NPDWeekly Insights: Is Narcissism the New Moral Panic?In this Weekly Insight, Dr. Ettensohn examines the rise of moral panic within contemporary discourse about narcissism, particularly how popular online narratives have transformed psychological terms into tools of moral judgment. In this Weekly Insight, Dr. Ettensohn examines the rise of moral panic within contemporary discourse about narcissism, particularly how popular online narratives have transformed psychological terms into tools of moral judgment. Using a recent online interaction as a jumping-off point, the video traces how disagreement is increasingly reframed as harm, and how nuanced discussions of narcissistic personality structure are met with accusations of abuse, gaslighting, or...2025-05-2711 min

Heal NPDThe Birth of Sorrow | Part 2: Emotional Life in Neurotic-Level NarcissismLink to episode 1 in this series, on psychotic-level NPD: https://youtu.be/IoxUCbNUJUE Link to episode 2 in this series, on borderline-level NPD: https://youtu.be/Oz-C503q_9Y Link to part 1 of episode 3 in this series: https://youtu.be/vUsnambadIE This is the third episode of a four-episode series describing the narcissistic personality style across different levels of severity. Due to the length of the material, this episode has been divided into three parts. This is part two. In this part, Dr. Ettensohn explores the emotional consequences of the developmental shift...2025-05-2737 min

Heal NPDThe Birth of Sorrow | Part 1: Crossing into Neurotic-Level NarcissismLink to episode 1 in this series, on psychotic-level NPD: https://youtu.be/IoxUCbNUJUE Link to episode 2 in this series, on borderline-level NPD: https://youtu.be/Oz-C503q_9Y This is the third episode of a four-episode series describing the narcissistic personality style across different levels of severity. Due to the length of the material, this episode has been divided into three parts. This is part one. In this part, Dr. Ettensohn explores the developmental shift from borderline to neurotic-level personality organization, and how this shift transforms the inner life of individuals with narcissistic...2025-05-2717 min

Heal NPDWeekly Insights: The Myth of Hardwired NarcissismIn this video, Dr. Ettensohn examines the growing claim that Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) is almost entirely genetic, offering a critical, clinically grounded reflection on what the current science actually supports—and where it falls short. He discusses how genetic contributions to personality traits are often misunderstood, and why claims of “hardwired narcissism” oversimplify a profoundly complex developmental process. Drawing from empirical research, neurodevelopmental theory, and clinical observation, Dr. Ettensohn explores how narcissistic pathology emerges not simply from temperament, but from early relational experiences—especially chronic emotional neglect, inconsistent attunement, and conditional regard. He addresses how brain plastici...2025-05-2712 min

Heal NPDWeekly Insights: Healing Without a TherapistIn this Weekly Insight, Dr. Ettensohn shares an adapted preview from his upcoming video on narcissism at the neurotic level of personality organization. He reflects on what it means to move toward psychological integration, emotional complexity, and the capacity for self-reflection - especially for those doing this work without a therapist. Drawing from clinical understanding and developmental theory, Dr. Ettensohn discusses how self-acceptance, mindfulness, and the capacity to tolerate imperfection are crucial aspects of healing. He emphasizes the importance of allowing history to be real, recognizing and managing splitting, and loosening rigid self-perceptions that often emerge from...2025-05-2711 min

Heal NPDWeekly Insights: It Feels Real...But It's Not - Grandiosity in NPDIn this Weekly Insight, Dr. Ettensohn explores the nature of grandiosity in pathological narcissism and Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD), emphasizing that grandiose self-states are distortions that mask underlying vulnerability. He examines how these states emerge, why they are so compelling, and how they become self-reinforcing through positive feedback loops. Dr. Ettensohn also discusses the hidden instability beneath grandiosity, the interpersonal consequences of maintaining a distorted self-image, and the trauma-based origins of grandiose narcissistic armor. Drawing on the work of Ernst Wolf and real-world examples, he offers a compassionate yet clear-eyed look at how grandiosity functions as both...2025-05-2709 min

Heal NPDWeekly Insights: The Hidden Fear Behind NPD - Being OrdinaryIn this Weekly Insight, Dr. Ettensohn explores the deep existential conflict at the heart of pathological narcissism and NPD: the fear of being ordinary. Drawing from a recent presentation by psychiatrist and psychoanalyst Dr. Salman Akhtar, he examines how the pressure to be extraordinary—instilled early in life—becomes a defining and isolating feature of the narcissistic identity. Dr. Ettensohn discusses the paradox of extraordinariness: how the very thing that promises acceptance and recognition instead fosters loneliness and disconnection. He explores why admiration and envy are poor substitutes for love and how healing involves letting go of an i...2025-05-2708 min

Heal NPDWeekly Insight: Do Narcissists Seek Therapy?In this weekly insight, Dr. Ettensohn addresses the common misconception that individuals with Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) never seek therapy—and the even more misleading idea that simply wondering whether you have NPD means that you don’t. This episode explores the origins of these myths, explaining how they stem from a misunderstanding of personality disorders and the role of insight. While NPD often involves rigid, maladaptive patterns of thinking and an egosyntonic sense of grandiosity, it also frequently includes periodic self-esteem collapses, during which individuals experience deep distress, depression, and anxiety. It is in these moments that...2025-05-2709 min

Heal NPDWeekly Insights: The Cycle of Narcissistic DehumanizationThe "Weekly Insights" series is for paid members of Dr. Ettensohn's Heal NPD Youtube channel. In the short-term, Dr. Ettensohn is posting all even-numbered episodes free of charge. If you would like access to the full series, please follow this link: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHeT5kujD1JqHRAi-x8xD-w/join In this weekly insight, Dr. Ettensohn explores how cycles of narcissistic wounding and dehumanization develop and perpetuate across relationships and even generations. He discusses the origins of pathological narcissism, the defenses formed in response to early emotional injuries, and how these patterns manifest in adult relationships a...2025-01-3010 min

Heal NPDWeekly Insights: Reflections on Dichotomous ThinkingThe "Weekly Insights" series is for paid members of Dr. Ettensohn's Heal NPD Youtube channel. In the short-term, Dr. Ettensohn is posting all even-numbered episodes free of charge. If you would like access to the full series, please follow this link: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHeT5kujD1JqHRAi-x8xD-w/join In this weekly insight, Dr. Ettensohn discusses the limitations of polarized or dichotomous thinking, particularly when it comes to self-experience. Inspired by viewer responses to a previous episode on the false self, Dr. Ettensohn discusses why concepts like “true” and “false” self can be misleadin...2025-01-3008 min

Heal NPDWeekly Insights: Narcissism vs. Self Love: Understanding the DifferenceThe "Weekly Insights" series is for paid members of Dr. Ettensohn's Heal NPD Youtube channel. In the short-term, Dr. Ettensohn is posting all even-numbered episodes free of charge. If you would like access to the full series, please follow this link: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHeT5kujD1JqHRAi-x8xD-w/join What’s the difference between healthy self-love and pathological narcissism? In this week's episode of Weekly insights, Dr. Ettensohn discusses key differences, with recommendations for healing. 2025-01-3005 min

Heal NPDWeekly Insights: Try This Instead of GratitudeThe "Weekly Insights" series is for paid members of Dr. Ettensohn's Heal NPD Youtube channel. In the short-term, Dr. Ettensohn is posting all even-numbered episodes free of charge. If you would like access to the full series, please follow this link: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHeT5kujD1JqHRAi-x8xD-w/join In this episode of the members-only "Weekly Insights" series, Dr. Ettensohn reflects on the positives and negatives of gratitude as a therapy intervention, noting the potential for unintended enactments of invalidation or 'pressure to perform' in the therapy relationship. Things like gratitude journals invite us to r...2025-01-3005 min

Heal NPDThe False Self: A Tragic Survival StrategyIn this episode, Dr. Ettensohn explores the insights of Alice Miller regarding emotional abandonment and narcissistic use of the child, focusing on how these early dynamics shape pathological narcissism and Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD). Drawing from Miller’s groundbreaking work, Dr. Ettensohn examines how a child growing up in a narcissogenic environment learns to adapt by creating a false self—a facade designed to secure love and avoid rejection in a world where their authentic self is not welcome. The episode explores the function of grandiosity as a defense mechanism—an unconscious strategy to deny the pai...2024-12-2220 min

Clearer Thinking with Spencer GreenbergA conversation with a narcissist (with Jacob Skidmore)Read the full transcript here. Are narcissists born with narcissism? What are the core components of narcissism? To what extent do narcissists have their own personality that isn't shaped by what others think of them? Are narcissists overly confident or overly insecure? How are grandiosity and vulnerability related? Why might narcissists be offended by compliments? Would narcissists relinquish their narcissism if given the opportunity? Do most narcissists know that they suffer from Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD)? How long of a questionnaire is needed to diagnose NPD? In what professions are narcissists overly represented? How should people deal...2024-12-191h 31

Heal NPDWithout Emotional Skin: Understanding Borderline-Level NPDIn this episode, Dr. Ettensohn draws on psychodynamic dimensional models of personality development to describe narcissism and NPD at the borderline level. Characterized by identity diffusion, blurred boundaries, and disrupted internal experience, borderline personality organization represents an "in between" level where the perceptions of the self and others float in and out of clear focus. This episode reviews the important concepts of personality style vs. organization, helping the viewer to understand what a personality disorder actually is and why all personality disorders share common features. It discusses the developmental arrests thought to underlie borderline organization...2024-10-2540 min

Heal NPDLive with Dr. Ettensohn 7-25-24Dr. Mark Ettensohn answers questions and responds to viewer comments in a livestream broadcast from 7-25-24. 2024-08-071h 32

Heal NPDA Nameless Dread: Understanding Psychotic-Level NPDIn this episode, Dr. Ettensohn draws on psychodynamic dimensional models of personality development to describe narcissism and NPD at the psychotic level. Characterized by compromised reality testing, symbiotic object relations, low integration between parts of the self, and the use of reality-distorting defense mechanisms, psychotic-level NPD represents both the least developmentally mature and most severe form of the disorder. This episode explains the spectrum of personality development, from psychotic to healthy. It then explains the psychotic personality organization in detail, providing descriptions of specific defense mechanisms utilized at this level. Finally, psychotic-level NPD is described.2024-07-0529 min

Heal NPDLive with Dr. Ettensohn 4-26-24Dr. Mark Ettensohn answers questions and responds to viewer comments in a livestream broadcast from 4-26-24. 2024-06-261h 35

Heal NPDLive with Dr. Ettensohn 3-14-2024Dr. Ettensohn answers listener questions and responds to comments in a livestream broadcast from 3-14-24. 2024-04-291h 33

Heal NPDLisa Taylor-Austin’s Interview with Dr. EttensohnThis episode is the audio from an on-camera interview between licensed psychotherapist Lisa Taylor-Austin and Dr. Ettensohn. The video of this interview can be viewed on Lisa's youTube channel here: https://www.youtube.com/@LisaTaylor-Austin This audio recording is posted with Lisa's permission. This discussion covers numerous topics, from treating pathological narcissism, the diagnostic criteria for NPD, variation in narcissistic pathologies between siblings raised in the same family system, the use of defenses like splitting, and the ever-present stigma surrounding NPD.   Lisa runs the Taylor-Austin Group. Learn more at their website: https://thetayloraustingroup.com/ 2024-03-121h 12

Heal NPDDecoding NPD: The Critical Role of AttachmentIn this episode, Dr. Ettensohn draws heavily on his own research concerning pathological narcissism and attachment patterns, using attachment theory as a lens to focus explanatory power onto the often confusing dynamics of NPD. Beginning with a general overview of Bartholomew's four-prototype model of adult attachment, Dr. Ettensohn identifies the most common attachment patterns of individuals with NPD. He describes the relevant research on the development of these patterns and draws parallels with descriptions of early care deficits thought to cause pathological narcissism. Purchase Unmasking Narcissism: A Guide to Understanding the Narcissist in Your Life...2024-03-0822 min

Heal NPD5 Common Misconceptions about NPDIn this episode, Dr. Ettensohn addresses 5 common misconceptions about pathological narcissism and NPD: 1. NPD is not a mental illness 2. NPD is not treatable 3. Even if NPD is treatable, actual healing is impossible 4. All individuals with NPD are abusers 5. People with NPD change their behavior behind closed doors, so they can't be mentally ill Using authoritative mental health resources like the American Psychiatric Association, American Psychological Association, National Institutes of Health, and the Domestic Abuse Hotline; as well as reference to peer-reviewed literature, Dr. Ettensohn discusses each of...2023-11-1327 min

The Colin McEnroe ShowNarcissists, we bet you think this show is about you. You’re right, it isThere’s more to narcissism than meets the eye. This hour, we reflect on narcissism — our misunderstandings about it, its pervasiveness in our culture, and the personal, public, and political damage it wreaks. GUESTS: Mark Ettensohn: Clinical psychologist specializing in the treatment of narcissists Lee Hammock: “Self-aware” narcissist who shares his experience and insights on social media Pete Hatemi: Distinguished professor of political science at Penn State University The Colin McEnroe Show is available as a podcast on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Google Podcasts, Amazon Music, TuneIn, Listen Notes, or wherever you get your podcasts...2023-08-2950 min

Heal NPDBoundaries, Assertiveness, and NPDIn this episode, Dr. Ettensohn discusses the important topic of boundaries. He provides a definition of interpersonal boundaries, discusses the reasons why boundaries are important for mental health and healthy relationships, discusses the problems with boundaries that often occur in pathological narcissism and NPD, and provides some basic tips for assertive behavior. Purchase Unmasking Narcissism: A Guide to Understanding the Narcissist in Your Life here: https://amzn.to/3nG9FgH References: Hörz-Sagstetter, S., Caligor, E., Preti, E., Stern, B. L., De Panfilis, C., & Clarkin, J. F. (2017). Clinician-Guided Assessment of...2023-08-2724 min

Heal NPDBoundaries, Assertiveness, and NPDIn this episode, Dr. Ettensohn discusses the important topic of boundaries. He provides a definition of interpersonal boundaries, discusses the reasons why boundaries are important for mental health and healthy relationships, discusses the problems with boundaries that often occur in pathological narcissism and NPD, and provides some basic tips for assertive behavior. References: Lingiardi, V., & McWilliams, N. (Eds.). (2017). Psychodynamic diagnostic manual: PDM-2 (2nd ed.). The Guilford Press. Mahler, M. S. (1972). Rapprochement subphase of the separation-individuation process. The Psychoanalytic Quarterly, 41(4), 487–506. 2023-08-2626 min

Heal NPDWhat Causes Narcissistic Rage?In this episode, Dr. Ettensohn explores the possible causes of narcissistic rage, referencing the work of Ernest S. Wolf, a close collaborator with Heinz Kohut and author of the book 'Treating the Self: Elements of Clinical Self Psychology." Dr. Ettensohn discusses the ways in narcissistic rage functions as a defense of the unbearably wounded self and results from implicit confusion between self and other rooted in traumatic early experiences of helplessness, humiliation, and shame. References: Crisp, H., & Gabbard, G. O. (2020). Principles of psychodynamic treatment for patients with narcissistic personality disorder. Journal of Personality...2023-07-0419 min

The Colin McEnroe ShowThe Nose looks at ‘Liz’ Holmes and ‘Bupkis’You don’t have to worry about this week’s Nose taking your phone and putting it in the bottom of a root beer float. On Sunday, The New York Times published an Amy Chozik profile of Elizabeth Holmes, who wants to go by Liz now, it turns out. The piece has been, let’s say, controversial. And: Bupkis is a somewhat autobiographical comedy series created by Pete Davidson with Judah Miller and Dave Sirus and executive produced by Lorne Michaels. Eight half-hour (!) episodes are available to stream on Peacock. Rebecca Castellani’s endorsem...2023-05-1249 min

Heal NPDDo Narcissists ”Know What They’re Doing?”In this episode, Dr. Ettensohn discusses the topic of self-awareness in NPD. Numerous commenters have shared their belief that narcissists "know what they are doing"...that they are fully aware of the harm caused by their behaviors. Centering the conversation in the idea of mental illness, Dr. Ettensohn discusses the faulty attributions, skewed perceptions, and interpersonal deficits often associated with pathological narcissism and NPD. The episode ends with an appeal to viewers to consume reasonable, moderate, nonpolarized perspectives on charged issues like NPD. Purchase Unmasking Narcissism: A Guide to Understanding the Narcissist in Y...2023-04-1114 min

Heal NPDWhy Narcissists Lack EmpathyIn this episode, Dr. Ettensohn outline 4 reasons why empathy may be impaired in pathological narcissism and NPD: 1. Lack of self awareness 2. Objectification of the self and others 3. A 'starvation mindset' 4. Avoidant attachment styles Dr. Ettensohn also discusses his disagreement with Dr. Ramani's ideas concerning empathy and NPD, as expressed in the following video on her channel: https://youtu.be/O7qxMu3nSLw Purchase Unmasking Narcissism: A Guide to Understanding the Narcissist in Your Life here: https://amzn.to/3nG9FgH LISTEN ON APPLE PODCASTS: https://rb.gy/cklpum 2023-03-2515 min

The DavenportNarcissism Unpacked: Understanding the Psychology of Narcissism, with special guest Kristy Gaisford, LCSWOn today's episode Jamie and Guy welcome a special guest (and longtime friend of Jaime) Kristy Gaisford LCSW to discuss narcissism. They discuss how being in a relationship with a narcissist can be incredibly difficult and damaging to one's mental and emotional well-being. Narcissists often exhibit clinical characteristics such as an inflated sense of self-importance, a lack of empathy, and a preoccupation with fantasies of success, power, and attractiveness. They may also exhibit manipulative and controlling behavior, gaslighting, and emotional abuse. The constant need for admiration and attention can leave their partners feeling emotionally drained and neglected. Additionally, because...2023-03-1453 min

Heal NPDIllness Anxiety and NPDIn this episode, Dr. Ettensohn explores the connection between illness anxiety and pathological narcissism. This episode explores how illness anxiety in NPD can be disguised anxiety about loss of self or psychological disintegration. Purchase Unmasking Narcissism: A Guide to Understanding the Narcissist in Your Life here: https://amzn.to/3nG9FgH LISTEN ON APPLE PODCASTS: https://rb.gy/cklpum LISTEN ON GOOGLE PODCASTS: https://rb.gy/fotpca LISTEN ON AMAZON MUSIC: https://rb.gy/g4yzh8 VISIT THE WEBSITE: https://www.drettensohn.com/ References: Segal, H. (1957). Notes o...2023-02-2510 min

Heal NPDA Real Definition of Narcissistic AbuseThe term ‘narcissistic abuse’ has been, itself, heavily abused. Is has largely been a pop-psychology term that means different things depending on how and where it is used. It is often used to demonize individuals with pathological narcissism and NPD, who represent an at-risk population for depression, self-harm, and suicide. In this episode, Dr. Ettensohn provides a new definition for narcissistic abuse - one that is *actually* specific to pathological narcissism and NPD. This new definition is based on the psychodynamics of the disorder itself, and describes an inter-generational chain of emotional mistreatment that creates narcissistic pathology in ch...2023-02-0810 min

Heal NPDWhy Narcissists Feel Empty InsideIn this episode, Dr. Ettensohn discusses the emptiness that individuals with pathological narcissism and NPD often experience using the concept of ‘Self as Object.’ Individuals with pathological narcissism and NPD often report having been treated as an object for someone else’s gratification in childhood. This early exploitation can cause profound disconnect from emotional authenticity, because it necessitates the development of false self adaptations to protect against overwhelming shame, envy, and rage. Purchase Unmasking Narcissism: A Guide to Understanding the Narcissist in Your Life here: https://amzn.to/3nG9FgH SUBSCRIBE HERE: https://rb.gy/kb...2023-01-2813 min

The Colin McEnroe ShowNarcissists, we bet you think this show is about you. You’re right, it isThere’s more to narcissism than meets the eye. This hour, we reflect on narcissism — our misunderstandings about it, its pervasiveness in our culture, and the personal, public, and political damage it wreaks. GUESTS: Mark Ettensohn: Clinical psychologist specializing in the treatment of narcissists Lee Hammock: “Self-aware” narcissist who shares his experience and insights on social media Pete Hatemi: Distinguished professor of political science at Penn State University The Colin McEnroe Show is available as a podcast on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Google Podcasts, Stitcher, or wherever you get your podcasts. Subscribe and never miss an...2023-01-2648 min

Heal NPDSocial Anxiety and NPDIn this episode, Dr. Ettensohn discusses the relationship between social anxiety and pathological narcissism and NPD, focusing on underlying fears of shame and humiliation, loss of self, and the legacy of relational trauma. The second half of the episode discusses general strategies for addressing social anxiety. References: Sartre, J.P. (1964). Nausea. New Directions Publishing Corp. 2022-12-1713 min

Heal NPDMalignant NarcissismIn this episode, Dr. Ettensohn clarifies the concept of Malignant Narcissism, drawing on the model developed by theorist Otto Kernberg. Common misconceptions are dispelled. Object Relations Theory is used to discuss the origins of both NPD and Malignant Narcissism, highlighting developmental differences between each disorder. Two meaning of malignant narcissism are discussed: 1. Malignant narcissism is a combination of narcissistic personality, antisocial traits, ego-syntonic sadism, and paranoid thinking that represents its own personality constellation distinct from Narcissistic Personality Disorder. 2. Malignant narcissism represents a phase or episode of narcissistic pathology in which repressed or split-off...2022-11-1923 min

Heal NPDGetting IntegratedIn this episode, Dr. Ettensohn discusses the topic of integration. Pathological narcissism is a disorder in which different parts of the self are not well-integrated, creating large disparities and discontinuities in identity, self-image, and perception of others. This phenomenon is sometimes called "splitting," and is thought to be partly due to chronic relational trauma and neglect in early childhood. Dr. Ettensohn explains how this occurs and provides suggestions for beginning to approach life more wholistically. 2022-10-2017 min

Heal NPDRecognizing Resiliency in NPDIn this episode, Dr. Ettensohn discusses the importance of recognizing the resiliency of those who struggle with NPD and pathological narcissism. Each person's psychology is a story of survival. In our focus on deficits and pathologies, we often overlook the strength of the individual and the sometimes surprising and ingenious ways that they have found to survive. References: Rogers, C. (1980). A way of being. Houghton Mifflin. Music: www.bensound.com 2022-10-0710 min

Heal NPDAnswering Questions About Therapy for NPDIn this episode, Dr. Ettensohn addresses common questions about therapy for NPD, discussing the current lack of competent therapists, where to find therapists who understand narcissism, and why it isn't effective to treat NPD on your own. References: Blagys, M.D., & Hilsenroth, M.J. (2000). Distincitve activities of short-term psychodynamic-interpersonal psychotherapy: A review of the comparative psychotherapy process literature. Clinical Psychology: Science and Practice, 7, 167-188. Johnson, S. M. (1987). Humanizing the narcissistic style. New York: W.W. Norton & Co. Shedler, J. (2010). The efficacy of psychodynamic psychotherapy. American Psychologist, 65(2), 98-109 Ulberg, R., & Ha...2022-09-2018 min

A Well Cared For Human: self-love strategies for transforming your pain into powerSo you love a narcissist?Narcissistic Personality Disorder: what is it? how does it destroy our relationship with ourselves. Kory shares her take as someone with a narcissistic parent and what you can do if you are in a narcissistic relationship. 💜 Please leave a review of the show and recommend the show to your friends. 💜 Suggested Reading “Children of the Self-Absorbed: A Grown-Up’s Guide to Getting Over Narcissistic Parents by Nina Brown. “Unmasking Narcissism: A Guide to Understanding the Narcissist in Your Life.” by Mark Ettensohn. Lee Hammock: https://www.youtube.com/c/MentalHealness...2022-09-1129 min

Heal NPDThe Role of the False Self in NarcissismDr. Ettensohn discusses the protective false self, highlighting its origins in childhood relational trauma and its role in maintaining narcissistic grandiosity. He also discusses important related issues including the role of grief in reconnecting with authentic self experience. References: Johnson, S. M. (1987). Humanizing the narcissistic style. New York: W.W. Norton & Co. Kernberg, O. F. (1970). Factors in the psychoanalytic treatment of narcissistic personalities. Journal of the American Psychoanalytic Association, 18, 51-85. Kernberg, O. F. (1974). Further contributions to the treatment of narcissistic personalities. International Journal of Psychoanalysis, 55, 215-240. Miller, A. (1979). Depression and grandiosity as...2022-07-2915 min

Heal NPDThe Legacy of Relational Trauma in NPDNarcissistic individuals are often hypersensitive to feeling criticized, rejected, or humiliated. In this episode, Dr. Ettensohn traces the roots of interpersonal hypersensitivity in narcissism, giving special focus to a particular constellation of relational trauma thought to contribute to NPD. In addressing these issues, he discusses the here-and-now strategy of pairing self-compassion with personal responsibility. Music: www.bensound.com References: Ettensohn, M. D. (2013). The relational roots of narcissism: Exploring relationships between attachment style, acceptance by parents and peers, and measures of grandiose and vulnerable narcissism. Dissertation Abstracts International: Section B: The Sciences an...2022-07-0715 min

Heal NPDThe Power of AcceptanceAcceptance is one of the most powerful tools in healing and recovery from almost any mental illness. In this episode, Dr. Ettensohn discusses what acceptance means, why it is so important, and how it applies to healing from pathological narcissism and NPD. This episode also includes instructions for practicing acceptance in the form of mindfulness meditation. Music: www.bensound.com 2022-04-2210 min