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Mary's Cup of Tea: the Self-Love Podcast for Women#261: 5 Signs You Struggle with Self-Confidence (Encore)A lack of self-confidence doesn’t always scream at you—sometimes it whispers in the background of your day. Today, Mary shares 5 not-so-obvious signs that your self-confidence might be quietly taking a hit… signs she’s personally working through, too.These confidence red flags are common, especially amongst women. From seeking validation in the wrong places to constantly doubting your decisions, exploring self-confidence struggles can also help you shift them. If you’re ready to stop second-guessing yourself and start trusting your own inner wisdom, this episode is for you.You will learn how to... stop tryin...2025-07-3126 minMary's Cup of Tea: the Self-Love Podcast for Women#256: 3 Subtle Ways Women Sabotage Their Self-Love, Self-Worth, and Inner PeaceLet’s dive into some unconscious ways us women tend to sabotage our self-love—especially in times of collective stress, societal pressure, and emotional overwhelm. In a world that constantly demands more from women—more productivity, more perfection, more performance—it’s no wonder we struggle to stay connected to our own self-worth.If you’ve ever felt reactive, rushed, or stuck in regret, this conversation will give you the mindset shifts and grounding reminders you need to return to yourself.You will learn how to...Stay rooted in self-worth when the world feels like it’s on...2025-06-2629 minMary's Cup of Tea: the Self-Love Podcast for Women#254: Feeling Lost After ED Recovery and Befriending Like-Minded Women (Mary Gets Interviewed)What if a little bit of delusion might be exactly what you need to boost your confidence? As the kids these days say: “being delulu is the solulu!” Mary shares 4 mindset shifts– that some might consider “delusional”– but will do wonders for your confidence. You will learn how to... - lie to yourself in an empowering way lol - stop comparing yourself to others with one very simple mindset shift - break free from external validation and derive your confidence from within - balance self-trust with consistent, confident action-taking - release perfectionism...2025-06-121h 03Mary's Cup of Tea: the Self-Love Podcast for Women#253: Small Acts of Self-Care That Help Nurture a Positive MindsetA personal solo episode where I (Mary) share my “small joys” i.e. little acts of self-care that have made a big difference. Each one has become a gentle anchor, a little nudge to remember who I am and what I need. And through them, I’m realizing how the act of keeping promises to myself—no matter how small—has become a declaration of self-worth.You will hear about... 6 teeny tiny self-care practices that have made a big difference in my mental healththe books I’ve been reading lately (including my unpopular opinion about The Women by Kris...2025-06-0527 minMary's Cup of Tea: the Self-Love Podcast for Women#251: Delusional Mindset Shifts that Will Instantly Boost Your ConfidenceWhat if a little bit of delusion might be exactly what you need to boost your confidence? As the kids these days say: “being delulu is the solulu!”Mary shares 4 mindset shifts– that some might consider “delusional”– but will do wonders for your confidence. You will learn how to... - lie to yourself in an empowering way lol - stop comparing yourself to others with one very simple mindset shift - break free from external validation and derive your confidence from within - balance self-trust with consistent, confident action-tak...2025-05-2237 minMary's Cup of Tea: the Self-Love Podcast for Women#249: 5 Self-Love Shifts to Get Your Spark Back If You’ve Lost ItFeeling stuck in a rut? Like you've lost your spark? You’re not alone. Many women experience moments where motivation seems to slip through their fingers, leaving them questioning their worth and purpose.Using a balance of mindset shifts and practical advice, Mary will guide you to reigniting your sense of self-worth. Tune in to hear small self-love shifts will help you get your spark back.You will learn how to... - release perfectionism and stop fantasizing about an unrealistic version of perfection - build confidence that is NOT based on exte...2025-05-1038 minMary's Cup of Tea: the Self-Love Podcast for Women#242: 10 Things ED Recovery Taught Me (Encore)This episode is for my ED warriors. Let’s reflect on lessons learned in eating disorder recovery and how this journey is a gateway to spiritual awakenings and deeper self-awareness. You will learn... - Mary’s favorite mantras for getting through recovery and any hard times - Why chasing happiness is futile (and what to do instead) - How to stop beating yourself up and practice self-compassion Remember: This too, shall pass. Both the bad and the good. If you enjoyed this episode, share it with your friends to spread the gift o...2025-03-1351 minMary's Cup of Tea: the Self-Love Podcast for Women#239: My Unfiltered Opinions on Marriage, Dating, and LoveMary shares her candid thoughts on modern dating, relationships, marriage and how to approach romantic love with self-love. From the age-old debate about who should pay for the first date to the importance of embodying the qualities you seek in a partner, this episode is filled with honest reflections and thought-provoking insights. Mary challenges traditional relationship narratives, encourages self-reflection, and reminds us that love is not the only path to a fulfilling life.You will hear about...who should pay on the first date?!?!?the unseen emotional and energetic labor women contribute to relationshipsthe importance of...2025-02-2037 min
Mary's Cup of Tea: the Self-Love Podcast for Women#237: 7 Self-Love Lessons I’m Taking Into My 27th BirthdayFor her 27th birthday episode, Mary shares 7 lessons she’s taking into her late-20s. Tune in for learnings on self-acceptance, self-awareness, confidence, joy and self-love as a whole. Hopefully these lessons will change your perspective on what it means to love yourself.You will learn about...the dual nature of self-lovethe surprising secret to discovering your strengthsa powerful mindset shift that will help you embrace joy—even in the midst of struggleRemember: Self-love comes not from overcoming our insecurities, but rather from embracing them. We must be-friend our demons and invite all parts of o...2025-02-0650 min
Mary's Cup of Tea: the Self-Love Podcast for Women#235: Dear Mary, how do I deal with a fatphobic friend?(Trigger Warning: Talk of EDs & Fatphobia)
Dear Mary,
How do I navigate friendship with a very fatphobic and generally-judgmental friend?
She is someone I met when I had anorexia. A lot of what we bonded over was the understanding of restrictive eating, because she had struggled with that as well. She is former military and has a lot of military influences to the way she views health and fitness, as well as having parents who engrained fatphobia into her. They would literally sit in the car outside grocery stores and make fun of f...2025-01-2325 min
Mary's Cup of Tea: the Self-Love Podcast for Women#228: Dear Mary, should I stay friends with my ex?Dear Mary,
I would love some of your wisdom in relation to my ex.
Things fell apart for reasons that are complicated and awful. But we tried to remain friends. I feel I made an effort, I kept messaging, I asked him about his life, I organized a catch up. I still had lots of feelings to process but I put them aside because I wanted to maintain a friendship.
I backed off a bit while he was on holidays and when he came back and messaged me, I was in a bad...2024-11-2813 min
Mary's Cup of Tea: the Self-Love Podcast for Women#223: Dear Mary, how do I know if I’m on the right path?I feel two paths diverging in my life and I feel drawn to one, but it’s more practical and potentially easier and less expensive to do the other, yet, my heart years for more. How do I know if I’m on the right path?
Tune in to hear Mary’s advice on choosing the right path for you.
Submit your questions: pod@maryscupoftea.com
Get Mary’s self-love books:
The Gift of Self-Love, an interactive workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself.
...2024-10-2419 min
Mary's Cup of Tea: the Self-Love Podcast for Women#218: Introducing Dear Mary: "How do I get my confidence back?”We are starting a new series on Mary’s Cup of Tea! “Dear Mary” is your new self-love advice column where Mary answers YOUR questions.
Question: “I’ve been second guessing myself so much and feeling my confidence and self-belief waver. How do I come back to feeling in my full power?”
Answer: tune in to hear Mary’s advice on how to get your confidence back.
Submit your questions: pod@maryscupoftea.com
If you like “Dear Mary,” please let us know by leaving a comment or review!
Mentioned In This Episode...2024-09-1925 min
Mary's Cup of Tea: the Self-Love Podcast for Women#216: You Are Extraordinary (A Pep Talk)You are extraordinary– here’s why.
Mary talks about…
the dual meaning behind the world “extraordinary”
why we should stop trying to be extraordinary
how to be a more interesting person
If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and tag @maryspodcast on social media!
Sign up for Mary’s newsletter for more self-love musings: https://maryscupoftea.myflodesk.com/emails
And make sure to get Mary’s books two on self-love:
The Gift of Self-Love: https://maryscupoftea.com/gift-of-self-love. This is a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, an...2024-07-2523 min
Mary's Cup of Tea: the Self-Love Podcast for Women#202: Dealing with CriticismIf you’re human, then you’ve probably received criticism. Though it can be quite unpleasant, your ability to encounter criticism and not let it affect you is directly proportionate to both your self-esteem and self-worth.
In this episode, you will learn...
the 2 different types of criticisms
what makes certain criticism hurt so badly (and how to not let it affect you)
3 questions to ask yourself before listening to other people’s opinions
Remember: don’t choose a stranger’s criticism over your intuition, your values, and your heart.
If you enjoyed this episode, s...2024-04-1827 min
Mary's Cup of Tea: the Self-Love Podcast for Women#196: Giving Up Fitness and Influencing (a Reverse Interview by Christy Harrison)Last year, Mary did an interview with Christy Harrison on her podcast, Rethinking Wellness. We are resurfacing that episode here, so you can listen to this “reverse interview” where Mary and Christy talk about how wellness culture coupled with social media algorithms creates a toxic environment for both consumers and creators.
Tune into this deeply personal conversation about...
Mary’s history as a bikini fitness competitor starting at age 16, and how it both triggered and exacerbated an ED
how social media algorithms drive us into more extreme diet and wellness content
why Mary thinking of quitting influe...2024-02-291h 04
Mary's Cup of Tea: the Self-Love Podcast for Women#195: The Most Underrated EmotionA solo episode where Mary talks about an emotion that’s underrated yet magnetic in other people + how you can channel this emotion to lead a more fulfilling life.
Mary talks about...
what’s different about this emotion vs. other positive feelings
how experiencing this feeling is also an act of feminism
ways to get out of a funk
how the show Love on the Spectrum is inspiring her
If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and tag @maryspodcast on social media! And make sure to get Mary’s books two on self-love:
The Gi...2024-02-2228 min
Mary's Cup of Tea: the Self-Love Podcast for Women#180: Detaching Self-Worth from ProductivityMary is trying to undo decades of attaching her self-worth to her productivity.
Which is HARD to say the least.
This episode explores our limiting beliefs about productivity, while helping you detach your worth from your output.
You will learn...
why productivity is a trap
how to embrace doing nothing and let yourself rest
2 book recommendations that’ll help you form a better relationship with time
practical tips for decoupling your sense of self-worth from how productive you feel
Remember: Who you are is not what you do. Your work is no...2023-11-0220 min
Mary's Cup of Tea: the Self-Love Podcast for Women#171: New Environment, New MindsetMary shares her lessons learned from traveling and talks about how putting yourself in a new environment is the best way to heal.
You will learn...
2 ways to get unstuck
how Mary healed her relationship with exercise
creative ways to shake up your environment
Remember: you cannot heal in the same environment that you got sick.
If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and tag @maryspodcast on social media! And make sure to get Mary’s books two on self-love:
The Gift of Self-Love: https://maryscupoftea.com/gift-of-self-love. This is a se...2023-07-2021 min
Mary's Cup of Tea: the Self-Love Podcast for Women#153: Eating Disorders Amongst Men with Bobby KasmireEating disorders amongst is not talked about enough so in this episode, Mary is joined by fellow content creator Bobby Kasmire who vulnerably shares about his struggles with disordered eating.
You will learn...
what it’s like struggling with Ed as a guy
Bobby’s brilliant “2-week” rule which has helped him ease food anxiety
how our Ed recovery is shaped and impacted by the internet
Remember: you are more than your Ed! There is a whole beautiful life waiting for you beyond recovery.
A recent college graduate who is currently creating content for over...2023-02-2348 min
Mary's Cup of Tea: the Self-Love Podcast for Women#151: 25 Things I’m Learning as I Make 25 Trips Around the SunHappy birthday to our host Mary Jelkovsky! In this solo episode, Mary shares 25 things she’s learning (key word!) about people, life, and self-love.
The best birthday gift is your listenership and being on this self-love journey together!
If you enjoyed this episode, please consider taking 60 seconds to rate the show on Spotify or leave a review on Apple. Your feedback means the world and helps the show grow.
And make sure to get Mary’s books on self-love and if you already have them, please leave a review on Amazon or wherever you...2023-02-0839 min
Mary's Cup of Tea: the Self-Love Podcast for Women#139: Creating a Career You Love with My Book Publishing Team: Lindsay & BrennaMary talks to Lindsay and Brenna from Blue Star press about book writing, paving your own path, and building a company. They talk about how their career didn’t follow a straight path, but rather, were carved out through curiosity, preparation, and a bit of luck.
You will learn about...
how to stay open-minded as you seek career opportunities
what to do if you don’t know what you want to do
how Mary’s publisher, Blue Star Press, started their company
We hope you enjoy this unique conversation with 2 people who helped bring both of Mar...2022-11-1046 min
Mary's Cup of Tea: the Self-Love Podcast for Women#138: Healing from HeartbreakThis one if for those who are going through a breakup or healing from heartbreak of any sort. You will hear from Mary and a few of her friends on what’s helped them heal their hearts after a break-up. Tune in for heartfelt advice, words of encouragement, and a dose of poetry.
You will hear from…
Mary (@maryscupofteaa) on leaving someone after experiencing trauma together and heavily relying on each other
Kelly (@_kellyu) on finding your own identity after leaving a toxic relationship
Julia (@fitfatandallthat) on letting yourself grieve the loss of a future
Whitney (@whit...2022-11-0340 min
Mary's Cup of Tea: the Self-Love Podcast for Women#137: Motivating Yourself with CompassionWant to know how to motivate yourself in a self-loving way? Tune into this episode to learn practical tools for finding and creating motivation through a lens of SELF-LOVE, of course!
You will learn how to...
Why you might be feeling de-motivated
Use a technique called “10 WHYs” to find intrinsic motivators
Employ self-discipline (but not in the way that you think…)
Remember: You don’t need to wait until you’re perfectly motivated to start taking action. Imperfect, messy, reluctant action will often be enough to prove to yourself that you CAN do it, that you DO hav...2022-10-2730 min
Mary's Cup of Tea: the Self-Love Podcast for Women#136: How to Be Body Positive AND Pursue HealthMary talks about 3 ways to balance body positivity with the pursuit of health. She hopes you will see that contrary to misconceptions on the internet, body positivity and health are actually one and the same.
You will learn how to...
approach food with a non-diety, yet health-focused, mindset
think about movement in a way that isn’t body or weight loss focused
trust your body after years of trying to control it
Remember: accepting, loving, and caring for your body is the healthiest thing for you. Don’t let diet culture tell you otherwise!
Ma...2022-10-2034 min
Mary's Cup of Tea: the Self-Love Podcast for Women#134: How to Stop Struggling and Start LivingIn this episode, Mary talks about her struggles with... struggle.
You will learn about...
finding or having more meaning in our lives
enjoying life without trying to fix everything that is ”wrong with you”
lack of connection making us want to fill a void
Remember: You are enough, your life is enough and who you are at your core is totally okay.
If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and tag @maryspodcast on social media!
Mary is so excited to announce that her NEW BOOK, 100 Days of Self-Love, is now available for...2022-10-0621 min
Mary's Cup of Tea: the Self-Love Podcast for Women100 Days of Self-LoveMary shares the details about her new book, 100 Days of Self Love! It’s a journal that complements her first book, The Gift of Self Love, to help you continue to grow on your self love journey! There are 100 journal prompts accompanied by little musings by Mary to help guide you.
100 Days of Self Love is now available for pre-order! And if you pre-order now, Mary will send you a copy of the audiobook version for free as a special thank you gift!
Go to maryscupoftea.com/journal to pre-order and fill out the form by...2022-09-2103 min
Mary's Cup of Tea: the Self-Love Podcast for Women#131: Having a Bad Day? Listen to this.In today’s episode, Mary gives a little pep talk around what to do when you’re having a bad day.
You will learn how to...
shift your mood when you have a bad moment in your day
define what a bad day means to you and what is contributing to those feelings
define what a good day looks like for you
Remember: We need to work on untying and detaching our mood on external factors.
If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and tag @maryspodcast on social media! And make sure to get...2022-09-0827 min
Mary's Cup of Tea: the Self-Love Podcast for Women#127: Nervous About Your Purpose? Listen to this.Last week, Mary almost applied for a job at Trader Joe’s because she was feeling nervous about her purpose. If you’ve ever questioned your path in life, then this episode is for you.
You will learn...
the 2 scenarios that lead to questioning everything
how to create your purpose in a sea of possibilities
3 questions to ask yourself to gain clarity around your purpose
Perhaps it’s unwise to think about the future when there is so much for us to learn in the present…
If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and tag...2022-08-1134 min
Mary's Cup of Tea: the Self-Love Podcast for Women#126: Travel That Makes You a Better Person with Chelsea GlassAn incredibly rich conversation about how travel transforms your character. Mary interviews Chelsea Glass, owner of Heart of Travel, an organization that helps you learn about Latin American culture through Spanish classes and small group trips.
You will learn about…
how to travel ethically and truly support the country you’re visiting
the hardships of interracial and intercultural relationships
how to find your “home,” whether it’s the place you were born or somewhere abroad
Remember: travel can teach us so much about ourselves and the world around us. If done intentionally, travel transforms you.
Chel...2022-08-041h 11
Mary's Cup of Tea: the Self-Love Podcast for Women#125: Productivity for Self-LoversIn order to go after our goals and make our dreams come true, we must prioritize stuff that’s important over tasks that feel urgent. Mary will teach you how to use self-love to decipher between urgency and importance.
You will learn...
why it’s so hard to motivate yourself
the difference between urgency and importance, and why you must prioritize the latter)
how to replace FOMO (Fear of Missing Out) with JOMO (Joy of Missing Out)
Remember: accepting that we are finite creatures with infinite possibilities liberates us to do what we really want to...2022-07-2828 min
Mary's Cup of Tea: the Self-Love Podcast for Women#122: Your Self-Love Survival Guide for When Everything SucksMary shares her best advice for practicing self-love during difficult times.
You will learn...
the 3 components of self-compassion
how to know the difference between avoiding and coping
ways to process and move through heavy emotions
Remember: we must be protective and intentional with our energy. Self-care is important now more than ever.
If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and tag @maryspodcast on social media! And make sure to get Mary’s book, The Gift of Self-Love: https://maryscupoftea.com/gift-of-self-love. It’s a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your...2022-06-3038 min
Mary's Cup of Tea: the Self-Love Podcast for Women#121: A Quick Gratitude PracticeMary shares an easy, yet effective technique for tapping into more gratitude. You can do this anytime to instantly feel a little more motivated, happy, and grateful… (although you might find it annoying at first ha!).
Remember: changing your word choice can change your life.
If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and tag @maryspodcast on social media! And make sure to get Mary’s book, The Gift of Self-Love: https://maryscupoftea.com/gift-of-self-love. It’s a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself. Available in sto...2022-06-2311 min
Mary's Cup of Tea: the Self-Love Podcast for Women#119: 5 Signs of Emotional IntelligenceIn today’s episode, Mary takes a deep dive into emotional intelligence!
You will learn how to...
Understand emotional intelligence
How it can be supportive in your self-love journey
Find harmony in the world through your emotions
Remember: Self-love does not exist in a vacuum, so consciously work on yourself AND your relationships.
If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and tag @maryspodcast on social media! And make sure to get Mary’s book, The Gift of Self-Love: https://maryscupoftea.com/gift-of-self-love. It’s a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recogn...2022-06-0928 min
Mary's Cup of Tea: the Self-Love Podcast for Women#117: Your Summer Body (A Pep Talk)Mary gives you a body-image pep talk for embracing your summer body, knowing that it is perfect exactly the way it is. She talks about how to challenge negative body thoughts, deal with other people’s opinions, and find your personal clothing style for the summer.
Remember: Your job is not to look a certain way in a bikini or to impress people with your body. Your only job is to exist and hopefully, HAVE FUN. Make this the summer that goes beyond your body.
If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and tag @maryspodcast on...2022-05-2622 min
Mary's Cup of Tea: the Self-Love Podcast for Women#110: A Powerful Question to Ask YourselfIn this super-short solo episode Mary shares a powerful question to ask yourself while you’re journaling or find yourself resorting to old coping mechanisms. She also recommends a great book for exploring your emotions and shares some personal things going on in her life (as per usual!).
Sign up for the online retreat on April 13th: https://maryscupoftea.com/onlineretreat
If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and tag @maryspodcast on social media! And make sure to get Mary’s book, The Gift of Self-Love: https://maryscupoftea.com/gift-of-self-love. It’s a self-love workbook that w...2022-03-3113 min
Mary's Cup of Tea: the Self-Love Podcast for Women#109: Steps to Becoming a WriterWe are celebrating the 1-year birthday of The Gift of Self-Love! Today I thought I’d talk about how to become a writer because pursuing this craft has not only forwarded my career, but also helped me grow as a person.
You will learn...
the 5 steps for becoming a writer
different ways to make money as a writer
how Mary got this book deal and stuff to think about if you’re an aspiring author too!
Remember: there are no prerequisites for being a writer. To be a writer, all you have to do is... writ...2022-03-2430 min
Mary's Cup of Tea: the Self-Love Podcast for Women#107: An Intuitive Eating Mindset “Hack”In this episode Mary shares a new way to think about intuitive eating that will hopefully help you find a sense of freedom and peace with food. The words we use MATTER and if you start using this one word, your mindset around food will definitely change for the better.
Remember: your relationship with food and your body is a reflection of how you lead your life. Do you want everything to be structured, rigid, and obsessive OR would you prefer a little more freedom, flow, and inner peace?
If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot...2022-03-1011 min
Mary's Cup of Tea: the Self-Love Podcast for Women#106: The Power of Mindless ActivitiesIn today’s episode, Mary shares about the power of mindless activities and how they can help you achieve a state of mindfulness.
You will learn how to...
Let go and allow ideas and new perspectives to come to you
Use your five sense to ground yourself
Do activities that give your mind a break
Remember: The priority at this moment is learning to find ease in your body and breath.
If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and tag @maryspodcast on social media! And make sure to get Mary’s book, The Gift...2022-03-0312 min
Mary's Cup of Tea: the Self-Love Podcast for Women#105: Tips for Self-Discovery (+ My Personal Identity Crisis)When you’ve been told who you ”should” be your whole life, sometimes it’s hard to figure out who you really are. Tune in for some advice on self-discovery and musings from Mary about what it’s like to go through an identity crisis. Maybe life is just one big long identity crisis, so how can you enjoy that journey?
If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and tag @maryspodcast on social media! And make sure to get Mary’s book, The Gift of Self-Love: https://maryscupoftea.com/gift-of-self-love. It’s a self-love workbook that will help you build...2022-02-2431 min
Mary's Cup of Tea: the Self-Love Podcast for Women#104: 5 Disordered Habits You’re Probably Still DoingIn this episode Mary addresses 5 disordered habits you’re probably still doing (despite knowing better) and how to stop doing them. These are things that we’ve been conditioned to do since childhood, so they won’t go away overnight. However, it’s important to become aware of them so that you can continue healing from diet culture and unsubscribing from beauty standards.
Which one of these 5 habits do you catch yourself doing? Take a moment to reflect and be honest with yourself because that’s always the first step.
If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot...2022-02-1727 min
Mary's Cup of Tea: the Self-Love Podcast for Women#101: Stop Judging YourselfIn today’s episode, Mary takes a moment to chat about self-judgment. Has judging yourself really brought you any good?
You will learn...
How to notice the ways you are judging yourself.
What’s really going on when you’re judging others.
Self-compassion is more productive than blaming, shaming or judging yourself.
Remember: The litmus test for self-judgment: would you judge someone else, like your sister or daughter or friend, for this same exact thing as harshly? You are doing the best you can.
Make sure to tag @m...2022-01-2724 min
Mary's Cup of Tea: the Self-Love Podcast for Women#100: 100 Ways to Love Yourself (Habits for Self-Love)We are celebrating our 2-year anniversary and 100th podcast episode today!! In this solo episode, Mary shares 100 tips for self-love, a list of things big and small that you can do to really take care of yourself and love up on yourself! The list touches on all 5 love language: physical touch, quality time, words of affirmation, gifts, and acts of service. What’s your self-love language?
If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and share it on social media! Make sure to tag @maryspodcast
And make sure to get Mary’s book, The Gift of Self...2022-01-201h 03
Mary's Cup of Tea: the Self-Love Podcast for Women#99: 10 Purchases Under $10 That Have Made My Life BetterThis is probably the most influencer-ish episode Mary’s ever released! She shares 10 items that were inexpensive, but made a huge difference in her health, happiness, and overall well-being. Visit the show notes for all the links!
Here’s a sneak peek of what she shares:
a movie that’s changed her perspective on consciousness
a book that Mary’s read 5 times (and assigns at her retreats)
a lightbulb that Boyfriend got for the bedroom ;)
more!
Remember: small investments can make a big difference!
If you enjo...2022-01-1321 min
Mary's Cup of Tea: the Self-Love Podcast for Women#97: Setting New Years IntentionsIn this episode, Mary will share with you a journaling exercise that is great for setting New Years intentions! This is actually a repost from last year because it’s a practice that is good to revisit so we hope you enjoy it going into 2022!
You will learn...
how to find your Word of the Year
a visualization/ meditation exercise to help you feel more aligned to your purpose
how to create a new belief system for yourself going into the new year
If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and share it on social me...2021-12-3037 min
Mary's Cup of Tea: the Self-Love Podcast for Women#96: How To Connect Deeper with Your Sibling(s)In this solo episode, Mary shares her advice for connecting with others, specifically your younger siblings. If you‘re getting together for the holidays or simply craving a little deeper connection with those around you, listen to this episode to learn...
3 tips for connecting more deeply with others
what Mary‘s therapist said that helped her create a healthier relationship with her little sister
how vulnerability, in the simplest of ways, will inevitably foster connection.
Remember: vulnerability breeds connection. If you want someone to open up to you, you have to open...2021-12-2323 min
Mary's Cup of Tea: the Self-Love Podcast for Women#95: My Cultural Identity (Being Russian & Jewish)In this personal episode, Mary talks about where her ancestors are from and how her cultural identity continues to evolve over time. She also touches on what being Jewish means to her and why she identifies more as Russian than Jewish (even though both are a big part of her). Although this episode has little to do with body-image or self-love, hopefully, this episode inspires you to embrace your life story too.
If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and share it on social media! Make sure to tag @maryspodcast
And make sure to get...2021-12-1628 min
Mary's Cup of Tea: the Self-Love Podcast for Women#92: Dealing with Holiday MealsIn this solo episode, Mary talks about how to deal with food/ body-image fears that may come up during holiday meals. If you’re nervous about Thanksgiving dinner with your family, this episode is for you!!
You will learn…
self-talk for getting yourself through holiday meals
what to say to your aunt/ grandma/ whoever if they comment on your eating
tips for intuitive eating and making peace with food
This is one of Mary’s FAVORITE solo episodes so it’s definitely worth a listen! And feel free to save it or send it to a friend...2021-11-1827 min
Mary's Cup of Tea: the Self-Love Podcast for Women#88: Asking for SupportA lot of people (wrongly) believe that asking for help means that you‘ve somehow failed... Like if you can‘t do everything on your own then you‘re somehow not good enough. But the truth is, you don‘t have to do everything yourself. It is strong and brave and worthwhile to ask people to support you.
In this episode, will Mary talks about...
how asking for help creates opportunities for both you and others
why asking for help strengthens relationships
mindset shifts to make that will help you feel more empowered
Remember: A strong i...2021-10-2123 min
Mary's Cup of Tea: the Self-Love Podcast for Women#87: Habits That Have Made Me a Better PersonIn this solo episode Mary shares 6 habits that are good for mental health and personal development AKA habits that might make you a better person!
Remember: take what you need and leave what you don‘t!
If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and share it on social media! Make sure to tag @maryspodcast
And make sure to get Mary‘s book, The Gift of Self-Love: https://maryscupoftea.com/gift-of-self-love. It’s a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself. Available in stores and on...2021-10-1430 min
Mary's Cup of Tea: the Self-Love Podcast for Women#86: Using Human Design for More Self-Love with Erin Claire JonesMary is joined by Human Design expert Erin Claire Jones to talk about how we can use this powerful spiritual tool to cultivate more self-love.
Human Design is a synthesis of ancient wisdom and modern science that sheds light on a person’s energetic makeup, as well as specific tools they can use to live at their happiest, healthiest, highest potential. It offers insight into what’s possible, and highlights the significance of understanding and living as the fullest expression of themselves.
In this episode, you will learn...
what Human Design is and how it c...2021-10-0747 min
Mary's Cup of Tea: the Self-Love Podcast for Women#85: Thoughts vs. Feelings vs. EmotionsToday Mary is talking about the difference between thoughts, feelings, and emotions. Once you know the distinctions, it becomes easier to manage your mind because you know exactly what you‘re thinking, feeling, or experiencing.
You will learn how to...
redirect your thoughts using positive self-talk
interrupt negative thought spirals and stop feeling like shit all the time
address emotions that stemmed from childhood in a self-compassionate way
P.S. If you are ready to talk to a licensed counselor or therapist, check out BetterHelp, an online therapy platform I‘ve been using for years. I ha...2021-09-3029 min
Mary's Cup of Tea: the Self-Love Podcast for Women#83: 5 Mantras to Get You Through Hard TimesIn this episode, Mary shares with you 5 mantras that have helped to support her through hard times. She also shares some tips to apply these mantras into your own life!
You will learn...
What are mantras? And where do they come from
How to work with your mindset to reframe your circumstances
How to manage your energy through choice
Remember: Everything is happening for you, not to you.
I‘m curious, which one of these affirmations resonated with you the most? Or do you have your own mantra that you love? Let me kn...2021-09-1634 min
Mary's Cup of Tea: the Self-Love Podcast for Women#79: Dealing with Overwhelm via Self-TalkIf you Google this topic, you'll find plenty of articles telling you how to check more things off your to-do list or organizing your planner for more productivity, and all types of advice which sure, could be helpful. BUT, they don't address the mindset behind overwhelm and the fact that your long to-do list is not necessarily the source of your overwhelm. Overwhelm is a MINDSET. And if you're stuck in that mindset for too long, then it can be detrimental to your mental health and well-being. In this episode, Mary shares self-talk tools for getting through overwhelm. These...2021-08-1931 min
Mary's Cup of Tea: the Self-Love Podcast for Women#77: Therapy Update + Thoughts on MarriageIn this personal episode, Mary shares some things she's learned in therapy and how it's helped her overcome childhood traumas. Part of why she started therapy in the first place was to conquer her fear of commitment, especially when it comes to marriage. Mary talks about...
why marriage used to terrify her
how her therapist helped her overcome those fears
other lessons learned in therapy including self-talk, self-trust, and self-empowerment
If you want an accessible and affordable way to see a therapist, check out BetterHelp! Full disclosure: I'm an affiliate because I LOVE their platform and have...2021-08-0526 min
Mary's Cup of Tea: the Self-Love Podcast for Women#76: Confidence Comes From ClarityIn this episode, Mary explains how confidence comes from CLARITY and how you can gain more clarity in your life. You will learn...
A trick to help you stop comparing yourself to others
3 questions to ask yourself to gain more clarity (and therefore, more confidence)
How to figure out what you really, really want in life
Remember: you don't need certainty in your life; you need clarity. Clarity is the root of self-confidence.
If you found this episode inspiring, make sure to take a screenshot and share it on your Instagram stories so we can...2021-07-2924 min
Mary's Cup of Tea: the Self-Love Podcast for Women#74: Afraid of Gaining Weight? Listen to this.In this solo episode Mary addresses 3 common fears (or myths) surrounding weight gain inlcuding:
"Gaining weight is unhealthy, and losing weight will make you healthier."
"If I gain weight, then I won't be attractive (and no one will like me and I'll die alone)."
"Gaining weight means you've 'given up on yourself,' 'let yourself go,' or 'gotten lazy.'"
These are not true and in this episode, Mary explains why.
Note: in this episode, Mary reads to you directly from her book, The Gift of Self-Love. If you want...2021-07-1524 min
Mary's Cup of Tea: the Self-Love Podcast for Women#70: Interviewing My Sister!This is an episode that's been a long time coming! Mary interviews her 13-year-old sister Ilana! In this heartfelt conversation, Mary and Ilana talk about...
Ilana's top 3 styling tips
how they maintain such a close relationship despite their 10-year age gap
how adults can support middle schoolers' mental health
their thoughts on Gen Zers
... and so much more!
If you are a sibling, auntie, parent, or gaurdian, we hope this conversation warms your heart and helps you remember what it was like to be 13!
And feel free to take a screenshot of the episode and...2021-06-1745 min
Mary's Cup of Tea: the Self-Love Podcast for Women#68: Overcome Negative Thoughts with This 2-Minute MeditationIn this 10-minute episode, Mary shares a mini meditation that will help you break any negative thought patterns. This evidence-based technique is especially helpful when it comes to bad body-image thoughts because it incorporates mindfulness, breathing and self-compassion.
Try this 2-minute meditation and let us know how it worked for you by tagging @maryspodcast in your IG stories!
And make sure to get Mary's book, The Gift of Self-Love: maryscupoftea.com/book. It’s a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself. It’s available in s...2021-06-0314 min
Mary's Cup of Tea: the Self-Love Podcast for Women#67: Advice for Finding Your Passion + Book RecommendationsLately there's been a lot of pressure on young people to find their "passion" which can be overwhelming, daunting, and discouraging to us. In this episode, Mary shares her unconventional advice for finding your passion by actually NOT focusing on passion...
You will learn:
what to focus on instead of "passion" (hint: it's not what you think)
5 tips for tapping into your creativity
a journal exercise that will help you discover your interests
book recommendations for self-discovery (these are books that changed Mary's life)
Remember: clarity comes from ACTION. Don’t spend all your time si...2021-05-2735 min
Mary's Cup of Tea: the Self-Love Podcast for Women#66: Dealing with Uncertainty, Fear, and DoubtUncertainty, fear, and doubt can show up in every area of our lives... our jobs/ businesses, weight fluctuations, body changes, relationships... literally everywhere. In this episode, Mary gives her in-depth advice for managing the fear of uncertainty and learning to embrace it as a part of life.
You will learn...
mindset tools for calming stress and anxiety
ways to see uncertainty as your friend and actually learn to embrace it
how to tell the difference between important intuition and unwarranted worry
Remember: uncertainty, doubt, and anxiety are there to protect you. We don't need to...2021-05-2039 min
Mary's Cup of Tea: the Self-Love Podcast for Women#62: How to Support Someone with an Eating Disorder: Warning Signs, What To Say, and How to HelpSomething I get asked all the time is "How do I support a loved one who's showing signs of an eating disorder?" In this episode, I answer that question by talking about the major warning signs of an eating disorder and how to address them. If you're a parent, caregiver, teacher, or someone who is close to someone who's exhibiting these signs, please talk to them and encourage them to reach out for help.
You will learn...
The major warning signs, symptoms, and personality traits of someone with an eating disorder
How to talk to them...2021-04-2241 min
Mary's Cup of Tea: the Self-Love Podcast for Women#61: Stop Trying to Be Happy (and Do This Instead)In this solo episode I talk about why “being happy” is not that great of a goal. Chasing happiness might leave you feeling empty because happiness is a fleeting feeling. Instead, I invite you to let go of the expectation that you must be happy all the time, and instead, focus on creating MEANING in your life.
You will learn...
How hedonic adaptation gets in the way of our happiness, no matter how much we achieve or accomplish in life
Why searching for happiness is NOT good for body-image
Tips for creating more meaning in your ever...2021-04-1538 min
Mary's Cup of Tea: the Self-Love Podcast for Women#60: Diet Culture in Your Romantic RelationshipsIn this solo episode, Mary shares with you her tips on how to navigate diet culture within your romantic relationships. You will learn valuable communication tools to express to your partner how to be less "diety." Mary also shares how her boyfriend has learned to have a better relationship with body image and how to do a "safety check" before embarking on a serious conversation about body image in your own relationships!
Pre-order The Gift of Self-Love by Mary Jelkovsky here: maryscupoftea.com/book
If you enjoy the Mary's Cup of Tea Podcast, could you...2021-04-0835 min
Mary's Cup of Tea: the Self-Love Podcast for Women#59: My Best Friend Interviews Me! On Book Writing, Marriage, Adult Friendships, and Boob Sweat?!The tables have turned and this time, Mary is the one being interviewed by her best friend, Dahli Durley (@hellodahlibaby). Mary and Dahli met back in 2018 and have been really close friends ever since (although much of their friendship has been long distance!). In this insightful and entertaining conversation, Mary and Dahli talk about...
What it's really like to write and publish a book
How to make friends as an adult
Navigating dating, ghosting, marriage, and divorce
Boob sweat, foot fetishes, skittles and more!
If you haven't already, make sure to order Mary's new book, The Gift...2021-03-251h 37
Mary's Cup of Tea: the Self-Love Podcast for Women#58: Reminders for Recovery with Imogen BarnesIn this episode, Mary is joined by Imogen Barnes, an Eating Disorder Recovery Advocate. Imogen shares an honest recount of her journey with her own eating disorder and what has helped her in the recovery process. In this episode, you will learn:
How living with an eating disorder creates anxiety around food and other areas of your life.
Imogen's journey with OCD and how it contributed to her eating disorder.
Tips to help with recovery.
Things Mentioned:
Imogen's IG post: What if I miss my eating disorder?
Follow Imogen on Instagram:
...2021-03-1844 min
Mary's Cup of Tea: the Self-Love Podcast for Women#57: Why Affirmations Don't Work (and What To Do Instead)Have you ever Googled "self-love affirmations" hoping that they'll help you with self-love, but almost feeling like they... didn't work?
Affirmations sounds nice as an Instagram caption or on a Pinterest quote, but they can often leave us feeling like we're soooo far away from our goal. In this episode, Mary explains the psychology behind why affirmations don't work and what you can do instead that will really help you in your self-love journey.
Note: if affirmations work for you, then that's great! Do what's best for you. But try this other practice too and...2021-03-1123 min
Mary's Cup of Tea: the Self-Love Podcast for Women#55: 10 Things My Eating Disorder Taught MeIn this solo episode Mary shares life lessons she learned from her eating disorder recovery journey.
Although Mary's life lessons are a byproduct of recovery, you'll love this episode even if you don't relate to having an eating disorder.
You will learn...
Mary's mantra for getting through difficult times
Why "being happy" is not a good goal (and what to strive for instead)
How to stop beating yourself up and practice self-compassion
Things Mentioned:
Episode #2: How To Fall in Love with Yourself
Episode # 52: The F*ck It Diet with Caroline Dooner2021-02-2555 min
Mary's Cup of Tea: the Self-Love Podcast for Women#54: 5 Questions to Ask Yourself for More Self-LoveIn this episode, Mary shares 5 questions to ask yourself for more self-love. These are questions that you can either journal about or simply ponder in your head. They are proven to help you create more peace, joy, and (self) love in your life. Here's a little sneak peek of the 5 questions:
Who would I be if didn't ?
What is the ___ that could happen if I _?
How can I create more _ in my life? (This one is arguably THE most important question to ask yourself!!)
If this was __, what would it ___?
2021-02-1829 min
Mary's Cup of Tea: the Self-Love Podcast for Women#53: Money, Abundance, and Alignment with Melyssa GriffinToday Mary is interviewing her business coach Melyssa Griffin! The past 6 months, Mary was in Melyssa’s business mastermind called the Aligned Abundance Mastermind which you can learn more about at alignedabundancemastermind.com.
Melyssa Griffin is a former school teacher turned entrepreneur who believes that the best way to grow a thriving business is to heal the leader behind the scenes. She coaches entrepreneurs back to their inner truth so that they can create abundance without self-abandonment. Together, we’ll reprogram the limiting beliefs and patterns that are keeping you stuck so that you can create unapologetic success and...2021-02-1151 min
Mary's Cup of Tea: the Self-Love Podcast for Women#52: The F*ck It Diet with Caroline DoonerEight years ago, Caroline Dooner started a blog called The Fuck It Diet. She was trying to heal her relationship with food, and she needed a place to share everything she was learning about the dark side of dieting. What she learned about food and weight changed my life, and now you can read the book The Fck It Diet. If you struggle with your relationship with food, the Fuck It Diet is for you.
In this episode, Caroline and Mary talk about... - What the Fuck It Diet is and how it's different from intuitive eating - Wh...2021-02-0455 min
Mary's Cup of Tea: the Self-Love Podcast for Women#50: How To Let Go of Control & PerfectionismPerfectionism shows up in many areas of our lives, but especially when it comes to food and our bodies (i.e. trying to control what we eat and/or what we look like). In this solo episode Mary talks about ways to let go of control and perfectionism and embody surrender and flow instead.
In this episode you will learn...
Where perfectionism really comes from, how it operates, and why it leaves us feeling bad
4 practical ways to practice letting go of control
Self-talk to practice when you feel perfectionism creeping in Remember: anything you can't control...2021-01-2130 min
Mary's Cup of Tea: the Self-Love Podcast for Women#49: Eating Disorder Recovery with Jessica FlintIn this episode, Mary is joined by Jessica Flint who shares her personal journey with eating disorder recovery and how spirituality has helped her in the healing process. Mary and Jessica also chat about:
Perfectionism
The importance of finding support during recovery
Resilience and courage
Fear of gaining weight
Learning to surrender/ trust the process
The differences between fate and destiny
Jessica Flint is the founder of Recovery Warriors and CEO of True Warrior. Both platforms exist to educate, inspire, and empower people to make transformational changes in their life. Forbes r...2021-01-1449 min
Mary's Cup of Tea: the Self-Love Podcast for Women#48: How To Have a Healthy Relationship with ExerciseIn this solo episode Mary talks about how to have a healthy relationship with exercise. You will learn how to use movement as a natural part of your life and redefine the way you see exercise. She also shares some tips that will help you:Find a way of moving your body that you enjoyAsk yourself, “Is this activity going to energize me?”Lower your threshold of what you consider a good workoutExpand your awareness of what a fit body really is If you enjoy Mary’s Cup of Tea Podcast, would you please consider leaving a short review on App...2021-01-0723 min
Mary's Cup of Tea: the Self-Love Podcast for Women#47: A Journal Exercise for Self LoveIn this solo episode Mary talks shares her approach to setting intentions for the New Year. Many of us find that we set resolutions only to find ourselves back to where we started by February. Mary uses journaling and digging deep within yourself to create gentler, long lasting habits that you can carry with you through the whole year.
In this episode, you will learn…
a journal activity to help you establish your “Word of the Year”
how to visualize a time when you embodied your word
the tools to help you shift your min...2020-12-3131 min
Mary's Cup of Tea: the Self-Love Podcast for Women#46: Dealing with Holiday Weight GainIn this solo episode, Mary shares how to reframe how you think, see, and feel about weight gain. Most of us gain some weight during the holidays, whether that's due to a decrease in activity levels or an increase in food- and that's all fine and dandy! But we shouldn't be so worried about our weight that it ruins our mood. In this episode, you will learn... - a journal activity that will help you reframe how you feel about weight gain - tips that will help you approach weight gain with self-compassion - how to improve your body-image...2020-12-2429 min
Mary's Cup of Tea: the Self-Love Podcast for Women#45: Sierra Schultzzie on Body Confidence, Finding Balance, & Being an InfluencerIn this episode Mary is joined by Sierra Schultzzie who asks the question where do you draw your value — your power, your confidence and your worth? Sierra and Mary dive deep into what it means to full embrace who you are and what it means to be authentic. In this episode, Sierra explains how to:
Look at the influences in your life
Understand how valuable you are in spite of how you look
Understand the influence diet culture has on growing up
See what a gift pregnancy is from the body
Find balance wit...2020-12-1757 min
Mary's Cup of Tea: the Self-Love Podcast for Women#44: Navigating Holiday Eating & Change in RoutineThe holidays and a change in routine can often bring up various struggles like food guilt, stress eating, and binge eating. In this episode, Mary shares her advice for navigating holiday eating and letting go of food anxiety.
You will learn... - how to prevent a binge especially during holiday parties - how to challenge diet culture when faced with negative thought patterns - how to embrace changes in routine and not let them stress you out
Let Mary know how you liked this episode by taking a screenshot and posting it on your Instagram stories!
2020-12-1036 min
Mary's Cup of Tea: the Self-Love Podcast for Women#43: Radical Belonging with Lindo BaconIn this episode, Mary is joined by Dr. Lindo Bacon who discusses finding their true self to gain a better sense of belonging and creating a safe space for others to feel fully accepted as they are. Dr. Bacon also talks about what it means to challenge ideas around social identities. In this episode, you will learn about:
How everything we’re taught in mainstream culture with regards to our bodies and image is predicated on a lie, not science.
Owning our personal stories and finding out what makes us unique.
How to open up to othe...2020-11-2648 min
Mary's Cup of Tea: the Self-Love Podcast for Women#42: Communicating with ConfidenceIn this solo episode, Mary shares her tips for communicating with CONFIDENCE. As a TEDx talk speaker and someone who's life revolves around communicating to spread a message, Mary has learned a lot about speaking in a way that inspires people.
In this episode you will learn...
which words to STOP using in order to come across more self-assured
mindset tips for feeling more calm, connected, and confident while speaking
the secret to looking and feeling more confident while speaking, whether it's to a friend, to your partner, or in a public setting
Let Ma...2020-11-1928 min
Mary's Cup of Tea: the Self-Love Podcast for Women#41: Why Self-Love is Not Selfish with Shannon KaiserIn this episode, Mary is joined by Shannon Kaiser. Shannon is an author, life coach, speaker and retreat leader. Shannon gives an honest recount of her own journey with anxiety, depression, addiction and eating disorders and what led her to learn how to truly love herself. In this episode, Shannon discusses…
Approaching self-love as an experiment.
Making the choice to love yourself.
The importance of gratitude and self-care.
Being enough as you are.
Loving yourself as the greatest act to help the world.
Shannon Kaiser is the bestselling author of five book...2020-11-1251 min
Mary's Cup of Tea: the Self-Love Podcast for Women#40: Diversity, Equity, & Inclusion with Beth RuffinIn this episode Mary is joined by Beth Ruffin. Beth is an author, speaker and coach that works with organizational consulting and one on one coaching focusing on inclusion in the workspace.
In this episode you will learn how to...
explore your own biases
be more inclusive in your day to day life
use language that embodies inclusivity
build a brand/business that is focuses on diversity, equity, and inclusion
and so much more!
Beth spent 20 years in Corporate America before realizing her dream of entrepreneurship, opening her own boutique consulting firm, The Ev...2020-11-0547 min
Mary's Cup of Tea: the Self-Love Podcast for Women#39: How To Stop Caring What Others Think of YouIn this solo episode Mary talks about how to stop caring about OPO (other people’s opinions), OPE (other people’s expectations) and OPA (other people’s agendas). You will learn how to truly live for yourself, not other people, and what it means when you’re feeling “stuck” in life. She also shares some tips that will help you learn what your core values are, find the right support system and recognize negative projections.
Books and Links Mentioned:
Codependent No More by Melody Beattie
betterhelp.com/mcot
If you enjoy Mary’s Cup of Tea Podca...2020-10-2938 min
Mary's Cup of Tea: the Self-Love Podcast for Women#35: How to Set Boundaries with Diet CultureIn this solo episode, Mary shares her 5-step process for setting boundaries with diet culture. These 5 steps will help you speak up to that friend who keeps talking about diets or your family who keeps commenting on your body. Setting boundaries is important in ANY relationship, but especially when it comes to those people who are triggering you back into diet culture.
You MUST tell them that certain things are not okay and Mary's here to help you do that. Happy boundary-setting!
If you enjoy Mary’s Cup of Tea Podcast, could you leave a review on Ap...2020-10-0121 min
Mary's Cup of Tea: the Self-Love Podcast for Women#33: Interviewing My Boyfriend!!The episode we've all been waiting for! The one where Mary interviews her boyfriend! Mary and her boyfriend talk about their relationship by answering some of YOUR questions! Here are the questions Mary and her boyfriend answer in this episode:
How have you grown since being in a relationship with Mary?
Why do you think your relationship worked out so well even though it seemed to move very quickly?
What's your favorite thing about each other?
What was the moment you both "knew" you were each other's person?
What's different about this relationship than past relationships?
How d...2020-09-1748 min
Mary's Cup of Tea: the Self-Love Podcast for Women#32: Tools for Self-Compassion with Dr. Kristin NeffIn this episode, Mary interviews the pioneer of self-compassion research: Dr. Kristin Neff. Although our society puts much focus on building self-esteem, Dr. Kristin explains why self-compassion is a much more useful and impactful place to focus on. From soothing symptoms of depression and anxiety to helping us be kinder to others, self-compassion is key to greater well-being, especially for women. Dr. Kristin generously shares tips and tools that will help you be kinder to yourself during difficult times.
In addition to writing numerous academic articles and book chapters on self-compassion, Dr. Kristin is author of the book...2020-09-1052 min
Mary's Cup of Tea: the Self-Love Podcast for Women#31: Introducing Mary's Cup of Tea Podcast 2.0!Introducing Mary’s Cup of Tea Podcast 2.0! We are relaunching the podcast which means it’ll be better than ever! We’ll be introducing more diverse guests, a fresh look and feel of the show, and our new Instagram account @maryspodcast. In this episode, Mary talks about her vision for the podcast moving forward and what we’re doing to make this show the most supportive place for your self-love journey.
If you enjoy Mary’s Cup of Tea Podcast, would you please consider leaving a short review on Apple Podcasts/iTunes? It takes less than a minute, and it rea...2020-09-0313 min
Mary's Cup of Tea: the Self-Love Podcast for Women#28: Why I'm Off Social MediaMary is currently taking a break from Instagram and here's why. She shares all her thoughts and feelings about social media and when/how she is planning to come back. Mary has a few BIG projects coming up that she's been keeping a secret, and we can't wait to share them with you!
Make sure to follow us on Instagram @maryspodcast to be a part of this podcast community and stay updated on new episodes.
And if you want to support this podcast, leave us a review on iTunes! Just scroll to the bottom and let us...2020-08-1326 min
Mary's Cup of Tea: the Self-Love Podcast for Women#27: How To Stop Comparing Yourself To OthersThe title says it all! In this episode Mary shares tips for overcoming comparison whether you're comparing yourself to someone on social media or someone you know in real life. It can be quite exhausting to constantly feel like you're not enough because you see other people doing more than you. But there is soooo much you don't know about other people's lives! So don't compare your behind the scenes to someone else's highlight reel.
We apologize for the poor audio quality on this episode. Mary's microphone wasn't working but the message is still there! Thank you f...2020-07-3028 min
Mary's Cup of Tea: the Self-Love Podcast for Women#25: Beauty Standards, Self-Talk, and Social MediaThis episode is a turning of the tables where Mary was interviewed on the Rawring Twenties Podcast! This is a wide-ranging and relatable conversation that you don't want to miss!
Be sure to check out the Rawring Twenties Podcast and their hosts Brenda (@balancewithbrenda) and Julia (@jbtolch).
And if you're interested in joining Mary's program, Beyond Body, here is the link to sign up: https://maryscupoftea.com/beyond-body-sign-up
Beyond Body is an online retreat for healing body-image struggles, building confidence, and learning to love yourself. It will start on July 26th so make sure to register...2020-07-1657 min
Mary's Cup of Tea: the Self-Love Podcast for Women#24: Self-Worth in RelationshipsIn this solo episode, Mary shares her personal journey of finding self-worth in her romantic relationships. As someone who has been in many tumultous, toxic relationships, Mary wants you to know that you are worthy of healthy, romantic love. She shares some tips that will help you realize your worth and stop settling for less than you deserve.
If you're interested in joining Mary's program, Beyond Body, here is the link to sign up: https://maryscupoftea.com/beyond-body-sign-up
Beyond Body is an online retreat for healing body-image struggles, building confidence, and learning to love yourself. It will...2020-07-0931 min
Mary's Cup of Tea: the Self-Love Podcast for Women#22: Why I'm In TherapyA solo, personal episode with Mary where she shares her reasons for going to therapy. Unfortunately, there is a big stigma around getting mental health support unless there's something "wrong" with you. Mary talks about why she was afraid to start therapy in the first place and what made her finally commit to it for the past 2 months.
Getting support for your mental health shouldn't be something that's shameful- it shoud be a natural part of preventative mental health! Like taking your vitamins, eating veggies, and getting enough sleep- things we do to support our health BEFORE we...2020-06-2535 min
Mary's Cup of Tea: the Self-Love Podcast for Women#20: A Meditation for Self-LoveIn this episode, Mary shares a Buddhist self-love meditation that will help you feel more at peace with yourself. This practice is especially helpful to those who identify as empaths because us empaths pick up on other people's emotions and often try to help them at the expense of ourselves. Instead, Mary wants you to focus on stepping into a higher frequency of self-love so that you can help others without sacrificing yourself. Do this meditation anytime you're feeling sad, overwhelmed, or when you need a self-love pick-me-up.
Mary also touches on anti-racism and the importance of fighting...2020-06-0421 min
Mary's Cup of Tea: the Self-Love Podcast for Women#19: How to Have a Healthy Mindset About Health and RecoveryThis episode is a turning of the tables where Mary gets interviewed by Gabby Male (@gabbymale on IG). Gabby asks Mary questions like…
How do you have a healthy mindset with exercise?
What is health at every size?
How to deal with friends/ family who don’t understand your self-love journey?
What are some tips for recreating your identity during recovery?
Gabby is a non-diet health coach who helps women find balance and feel more empowered in their bodies. She has her own show called the Evolve Your Life Podcast where she talks about...2020-05-2851 min
Mary's Cup of Tea: the Self-Love Podcast for Women#14: How to Stop Dieting, Restricting, and Binge Eating for GoodDiet culture is a vicious enemy that makes you believe that something is wrong with YOU if you don’t successfully lose weight. Being stuck in the diet cycle makes you spend every second of every day thinking about food and your body, which is no way to live your one precious life. Mary explains how dieting, restricting, and binge eating are all different sides of the same coin, so once you stop dieting and restricting, you will stop binge eating too.
In this episode, Mary shares how to end the diet-restrict-binge by reframing your mindset around food...2020-04-2339 min
Mary's Cup of Tea: the Self-Love Podcast for Women#9: Q&A with MaryQ&A with Mary- ED Recovery, Social Media Business, Life Goals, & More!
Mary answers YOUR questions about everything from starting a business on social media, recovering from an eating disorder, and overcoming codependency. Here are the questions Mary answers:
Has being so open on social media affected your own eating disorder recovery? If so, how?
Your life goals! Career? Kids? Marriage?
How did you know you were ready to speak up and share your journey online?
How did you deal with your codependency?
Was one of your goals of ED recovery to...2020-03-121h 10
Mary's Cup of Tea: the Self-Love Podcast for Women#7: Mary Gets Interviewed! How to be Healthy without DietingToday’s episode is a little different, a turning of the tables where Mary gets interviewed on someone else’s podcast! Mary talks about her experience with binge eating, how she went viral on Instagram, and how to balance health with self love. Mary also shares how she changed her mindset and started accepting her body, weight gain and all! You’ll probably want something to take notes with while you listen!
This episode was originally for the Positively Selfish Podcast by Robyn Lee so go check it out when you get a chance! Let us know how you...2020-02-271h 09
Mary's Cup of Tea: the Self-Love Podcast for Women#5: How to Feel Sexy and Confident in the BedroomWhen you feel good in your body and embrace your sexual side, you show up in a more empowered, confident way. Welcome to this special “V-Day” edition of Tea Time with Mary. In this episode, Mary discusses ways that have personally helped her to be more confident in the bedroom. What happens when you use sex to seek validation? And what can you do to show yourself a little more love? As Mary states, your body is for YOU and feeling pleasure in your body is not shameful, it’s natural and needs to be embraced more by women everyw...2020-02-1341 min
Mary's Cup of Tea: the Self-Love Podcast for Women#2: How to Fall in Love with Yourself“We often think of self love as a noun…” a thing we want more of. “In reality, love is a verb…” something inside of us and something that we do; not something we possess. In this episode, Mary talks about the paradox of thinking that if we only have more things to do what we want to do then we can achieve self love. “If you want to have self love, start with the be.” We also hear more about Mary’s personal journey with body image and take a look at how it has affected her relationships in the past, from jud...2020-01-2333 min
Mary's Cup of Tea: the Self-Love Podcast for Women#1: Get to Know Mary!Welcome to Tea Time with Mary. Our host, Mary Jelkovsky, is a bikini fitness model turned self love advocate. In this episode, Mary gives us a bit of background on her struggles with eating disorders and body image. From a young age, Mary felt the pressures to "be smart, be pretty and be thin." We also learn about what initially sparked her to make a change and begin the journey to heal herself and learn what self love is all about.
It's a new year and Mary's word of the year is CREATIVE. And podcasting will be on...2020-01-1626 min