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Whole Heart TransformationWhy you're not enough to make them STOP
Many partners of sexual addicts (or any addiction) believe that if they were enough their addicted partner would stop their addictive behaviors.
In this episode, I will discuss WHY you can't be enough and what you need to do instead.2024-09-2117 minWhole Heart TransformationWhy we try to escape ourselves.
Many of us didn't have the security in our upbringing to just be and be ok. Our parents (for most of us) didn't have the tools, skills or understanding of what children needed.
When our parents don't help us see the world in a connected healthy way, we have no other option but to split off from the shame we feel because of it.
Join me as I share a little more about this from the perspective of parts work and how we can get on...2024-09-0914 minWhole Heart TransformationWhat's stalling your ability to heal?Take a listen as I give real practical understanding of what could be stalling your healing and how to change it.
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Go to: https://identitylife.coach/contact2024-08-2116 minWhole Heart TransformationHang ups in marriageEver wonder why you keep dealing with the same issues in your marriage?
Here's some common reasons that you may not have known.
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Go here: https://identitylife.coach/contact2024-08-1424 minWhole Heart TransformationWhy you do things you don't want to do
Do you ever wonder why you have internal conflict? Does it seem like one part of you wants to do one thing and another part wants to do another?
Do you find yourself doing things that you hate and aspects of yourself that you hide from others?
Then this podcast today is for you. Join me as I talk about different parts of us, how these parts get exasperated and how to heal so we don't continue to do things we don't like.
2024-08-0821 minWhole Heart TransformationLies, Secrets, and the Path to Freedom
Today's special guest, Blaine Bartel shares his very HONEST and vulnerable story of a life involving secrecy, porn addiction to affairs.
While Blaine's story is heart breaking, his comeback story (after being told his likelihood to recover would be a shear miracle) is what has transformed the lives of many men, including my husband.
You'll hear not only Blaine's story but also, how Blaine was the first beacon of hope for us when my husband was in his darkest hours in his addiction.
2024-07-231h 13Whole Heart TransformationWhy we can't just snap out of our upbringingIt's a common thing I hear from people that because we are adults, we should act and think differently than what we were raised with.
The problem with this thinking is that it goes against how we are designed. We are designed to carry our parents with us internally. For security and safety. However, not everyone had a safe and secure childhood. The results remain the same. We carry our childhood with us good or bad. To heal, we have to do work to unravel this in our brain and body.
2024-07-0327 minWhole Heart TransformationWhy some people heal and some don't
Join me as I talk about why some people heal and some people don't.
Does this speak to you?
Are you ready to heal?
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for my coaching services.2024-06-1718 minWhole Heart TransformationHow to build secure attachment after betrayalJoin me today as my husband and I discuss some of our journey to secure attachment after betrayal.
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4 horsemen of the Apocalypse by the Gottman's:
1. Criticism
2. Contempt
3. Defensiveness
4. Stonewalling
https://counselinghuntsville.com/wp-content/uploads/2020/07/Repair-Checklist.pdf2024-06-0531 minWhole Heart TransformationHow did I get like this?
Ever wonder why you do the things you do? Or why you think the way you think?
Today I will be discussing some of the reasons we end up the way we do and what we can do about it.
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Join me today as I interview Shannon and Kendra as they share their story from addiction, betrayal and real transformation.
Shannon and Kendra have walked the fire of betrayal and recovery. After many failed attempts, they got healing and relief. This is their story and it's powerful! They are now a part of our Character Formation Coaching crew.
I am honored to have them share their story!
Want to get coaching with them?
Go to: https://www.feelinganddealing.coach/2024-05-1539 minWhole Heart TransformationHow could they do this?!Curious to understand how people can do destructive things and also have an aspect of themselves that did good things too?
Join me today as I unpack this and what I have learned about the, "How".
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Go to: https://identitylife.coach/contact2024-05-0917 minWhole Heart TransformationWhy you may not have capacity for life situationsWhen considering why we get triggered, can't empathize, people please, need to escape pain through numbing out behaviors (even ones that seem harmless) , or we just, "Can't!"
We are talking about internal capacity to handle the difficulties (or even joys) of life.
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Ever feel like you have so much love to give but the people you love can't receive it?
Or maybe you feel like something is wrong with you because they can't receive your love?
If you find yourself in this place, this will be such a helpful podcast to understand why and maybe why you take it personally.
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Shame keeps out love.
Take a listen today as I share more and give insight on how this can impact individuals and relationships.
Looking for help? Go to: https://identitylife.coach/contact2024-02-1417 minWhole Heart TransformationKeys to a better marriage with Brandon DoerksenJoin me today as I had the honor of interviewing Brandon Doerksen. He's leading the way in helping men into healthy masculinity and healthy marriages.
His insight on emotional health is so powerful! I hope you gain wisdom and hope as you hear him share his story and how he's currently impacting others.
Want to join his men's community? You can join here: https://app.groundedmen.co/checkout/grounded-mens-community-membership?via=melissa
Want more resources from Brandon? Click here: https://linktr.ee/brandontalksmarriage?utm_source...2024-02-0738 minWhole Heart TransformationHow explosive ANGER (or frozen) is most likely unprocessed grief
Anger is a part of the grief process. When we are not in touch with anger or if it has become our first emotional response, there is most likely a place where anger was the safest emotion to express rather than deep sadness.
On the opposite side, frozen anger ( when we aren't even connected to it) could reveal that we aren't even in touch with grief in many ways. Which means we could be disconnected from reality.
Listen as I shared further about this on today's...2024-01-3119 minWhole Heart TransformationHow to stop passing generational traumaHere's some key steps to awareness of how generational pain and trauma gets passed down and how to stop passing it.
Interested in my coaching? Go to: https://identitylife.coach/contact2024-01-1716 minWhole Heart TransformationWhat's the cost of avoiding grieving?Grief is a part of life. Many of us weren't taught how to grieve. Science is revealing the deeper harm that is caused to ourselves when we don't process emotions, but not only does it cost us, it costs future generations as well.
Take a listen as I share how avoiding grief is harmful and what you can do about it.
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2024-01-1021 minWhole Heart TransformationHow to get to the root of our issuesMany times when we attempt to deal with the issues we are facing whether that is overeating, not working out, addictions, inability to stop yelling at our kids or whatever else we could put on the list, we need to get to the root. All the behaviors are just symptoms of soil and root issues and not the problem itself.
Most of the work I see people attempt to do is behavioral management. This doesn't get to the roots. It's cutting off the fruit. Which means that eventually the old fruit will be produced...2023-12-2019 minWhole Heart TransformationHow can we change the real issues within church culture?Join me today as I talk with my good friend and coaching colleague Annie Perkins as we discuss very real issues within church culture. And some of our ideas to be healthier as a church and bring transformation instead of judgement and aloneness.
If you’d like to learn more about Annie’s service you can go to http://Charactergrowthcoaching.com or Charactergrowthcoaching@gmail.com2023-12-1344 minWhole Heart TransformationWhy do I keep having the same problems?
Wondering why you are going back to the same things and having the same problems?
Today I will be talking about the "why" and how to change PERMANENTLY.
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2023-12-0617 minWhole Heart TransformationThe benefits of facing emotional painMany of us want to avoid emotional pain. We will do anything not to sit with it and avoid it at all costs.
But in order to heal grow and change, we have to face it. Without facing the pain head on, we will find ourselves repeating painful cycles.
Join me today as I share how to face the pain and what to expect on the other side.
Interested in my coaching? You can contact me here: https://identitylife.coach/contact2023-11-2925 minWhole Heart TransformationHow to gain joy after betrayal and hardshipHave you gone through hardships that have left you joyless?
Has betrayal hit your relationship and you feel as if you're sinking in grief with no way out?
Join me today as I address what happens to our brain when we aren't getting the proper chemical in our brain and body that give us joy and how to gain joy back even in the midst of grief.
Want support that is transformational? Contact me here: https://identitylife.coach/contact2023-11-1532 minWhole Heart Transformation2 main components to healingThere are 2 main components to getting our healing process started. Without these 2 components, we won't even begin the process of healing.
Take a listen as I share these components and next steps!
Want support? Go to www.identitylife.coach to connect with me and my coaches.2023-11-0119 minWhole Heart TransformationHow attachment deficits are damaging your relationships (and what to do about it)Attachment is the very foundation of our beginning as a human. If that foundation isn't developed properly in childhood, we will be left with attachment deficits in adulthood.
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2023-10-1128 minWhole Heart TransformationMy secret sauce methods to healingJoin me today as I share some of the most powerful and impact ways to heal2023-10-0426 minWhole Heart TransformationHow our body remembers what our brain forgets
Our body carries our story more so than our brain. When we become curious with the signals our body is attempting to point us to we can begin to heal as a we discover what it is trying to say. When we avoid curiosity, we stop the healing process and stifle our growth.
Join me today and I talk about examples from my own healing journey and some of my clients who have overcome with simple curiosity for what is happening inside.2023-09-2025 minWhole Heart TransformationHealing requires self reflection skillsSelf reflection is a skill we learn in childhood. If we aren't able to self reflect, we won't be able to discover how to heal and change. Listen, as I share how I help my kids learn to self reflect and how you can learn to even if you didn't gain the skills in childhood so you can grow and heal too.2023-09-1325 minWhole Heart TransformationWhy your betraying partner can't heal youThere is a real need to heal when betrayal hits your life. Here are some reasons why looking for healing from your betraying parter won't heal the deep pain.2023-09-0630 minWhole Heart TransformationHow your childhood attachment affects your adult relationshipsMany people believe that once you become an adult that your childhood experiences are no longer an excuse or reason for how you show up as an adult. Unfortunately nothing could be further from the truth. Join me as I share my journey and the journey of supporting others in their process to healthy, secure attachment.2023-08-3021 minWhole Heart TransformationWhy we fill loneliness with false connectionFalse connection is a fleeting experience. It is not sustainable but we do this because it appears that it will make us feel better and fill the deep hole inside.
Hook culture is breeding avoidant attachment and leaving many people more lonely than ever before. It's a real concern. Take a listen as I share more about the concerns and what can be done to change and heal.2023-08-2324 minWhole Heart TransformationHow infidelity shatters the soul and the process to healHow infidelity shatters the soul and the process to heal.2023-08-1138 minWhole Heart TransformationEmbodied beliefs keeping you stuck?Embodied beliefs are what we experience as beliefs in our whole body. The only way to heal these beliefs is to feel them all the way through. Listen for how in todays podcast.2023-08-0327 minWhole Heart TransformationHow your childhood shapes youOur childhood either prepares us to be healthy adults, or it leaves us to grow up with deficits and unable to deal with difficult situations. 2023-07-2627 minWhole Heart TransformationWhy you may not be experiencing real transformationWhy you may not be experiencing real transformation and how to get there.2023-07-1925 minWhole Heart TransformationHow to recognize emotionally safe peopleEver wonder if you can/should share your emotions or experiences with people, and later regret sharing because of how they respond?
I will share 7 signs of emotionally safe people so you can understand what to look for when leaning in to share. And so you can understand for yourself if you are an emotionally safe person.2023-07-1223 minWhole Heart TransformationHow being emotionally deficient shows up in adulthoodIn order to mature in emotional intelligence, you have to recognize where you are deficient.2023-06-1417 minWhole Heart TransformationBad anger versus good angerAnger is good! Many of us were taught that it was bad or we witnessed out control anger so we don't know how to express it at all or we don't know how to express it in a healthy way. I will discuss these facets of anger and how to heal.2023-06-0723 minWhole Heart TransformationEmpathy, Sympathy, Empaths, none and how to know the differenceEmpathy, Sympathy, Empaths and none is the topic of discussion for today. If you find yourself wondering why you may fall into any of these categories, here's some reasons why.2023-05-3128 minWhole Heart TransformationThe root of unwanted behaviorsThe root is the fruit of all behaviors that we don't want or like. And that root is always disconnection and aloneness. Join me today as I talk in depth on why this is the root and how to heal. 2023-05-2427 minWhole Heart Transformation4 ways complaining points to unmet needs or longingsNotice that you complain more than you like? Or that you complain attempting to be heard but don't get the needs met that you were hoping to be met?Take a listen to why you might be doing this and what's underneath the complaints and how to change it.2023-05-1929 minWhole Heart TransformationWhy reality is so hard to face and how facing it leads to healingStruggling with facing difficult realities? In this podcast I will share why we struggle and how to start facing reality so you can heal.2023-05-1118 minWhole Heart TransformationCrucial steps to heal from betrayal traumaBetrayal leaves you isolated and alone internally. The trauma of these events happen based on the reality of feeling completely disconnected from the primary person in our lives. Many partners share how the betrayal left them feeling isolated and even disconnected from God and other people because why would God allow this to happen to them, and the shame of sharing with others what has happened. In order to heal we have to go to the places that have been isolated and alone and undo aloneness. It is truly the only way to heal.2023-05-0626 minWhole Heart TransformationWhat does the ideal growing environment for transformational change look like?Check out today's podcast on what type of environment for transformational change looks like.2023-04-1923 minWhole Heart TransformationHow addiction, coping mechanisms and avoidance tactics keep you immature.Avoiding life and our reality keeps us from being present with what's really happening inside us and the world. It completely stops all character growth to the point where we HAVE to use an unhealthy means to get through life instead of thriving in it.
Here's some deeper insights into these tactics and how to start the process of healing.2023-04-1228 minWhole Heart TransformationHow unprocessed grief keeps you stuckIf we are experiencing a regular pattern of feeling and being stuck, we most likely have unprocessed grief. 2023-04-0522 minWhole Heart TransformationKnow yourself better by becoming curiousCuriosity opens the door to discovering what is really going on beneath the surface.2023-03-2929 minWhole Heart TransformationMy shame is harming my relationship! How do I make it stop?!Shame is a part of the human experience. The issue is when shame is not being processed through and leaving us alone and isolated. When shame isn't shared we go in a toxic loop of disconnection. Here's some tips to get out of the loop.2023-03-2226 minWhole Heart TransformationWhy do I keep having the same things happen to me?!Ever wonder why you may have the same things happen in different places, with different people or circumstances? It could be that there is some unfinished parts in your story that could use healing. Take a listen!2023-03-0823 minWhole Heart TransformationHELP!!! My spouse triggers me!!Ever been triggered by your spouse? Here's some possible reasons why.2023-03-0119 minWhole Heart TransformationWhy when we avoid difficult emotions, we stop the healing process.Take a listen to why staying with difficult emotions until they are safely processed through is important for us to heal properly.2023-02-2228 minWhole Heart TransformationStruggling to be an efficient adult? Here's some reasons why.
Adulthood is something that is built in childhood, believe or not. It is based on capacities to be in reality growing up. Here's some basic understanding of why. 2023-02-0130 minWhole Heart TransformationAwareness is only the starting line to transformational changeLast week I shared the importance of awareness. This week I am bringing a deeper understanding into transformational change.2023-01-2524 minWhole Heart TransformationHow to build more self awarenessMany of us didn't get the emotional support we needed as kids. A parent would have needed to attune to us and respond to our emotional needs in order for us become self aware. When we didn't get the skills growing up, we have 2 options..... We can stay unaware of what we are experiencing and have difficulty in our relationships or we can grow and have healthier and more fulfilling relationships. In today's podcast I share some tips on how to bring more self awareness. 2023-01-2022 minWhole Heart TransformationWhat is attunement?Attunement is vital to empathy. If we didn't get it, we won't know what it is and why its important to healthy living and loving relationships.2023-01-1129 minWhole Heart TransformationWhy it may be difficult to receive from othersMany times people may be bid for connection with us and we can't receive it. Regardless, connection is the need all humans have for health and well being. Without connection we cannot develop healthy relationships and we can't become the healthier version of ourselves that we long to be. Listen to understand more.2023-01-0424 minWhole Heart TransformationWhat we don't heal, passes to the next generation.When you think about the pain, trauma and grief you've experienced in your own life, could you imagine being able to heal yourself and the generations after you? That's what I am discussing today. You can be the catalyst for healing in your family.2022-12-2830 minWhole Heart TransformationWhy verbalizing your experience is vital to healingMany times we only tell the story of what happened to us without realizing that we are disconnected from it. When we can tell others who are safe, what's happening IN us in the moment, based on what has happened in the past, we can move into healing. Take a listen to understand more.2022-12-2118 minWhole Heart TransformationWhat does it mean to have connection with others?Many of us long for deep connection but have no concept of what it is or how to obtain it. I will be discussing what it is and what its not. Enjoy!2022-12-0730 minWhole Heart TransformationHow does real transformational change occur? with Aaron EggmanToday I had the honor of bringing in the founder of Character Formation Coaching, Aaron Eggman to share. Aaron created CFC out of his own need and longing for real transformation. After years of searching and his own deep work, he founded CFC. He has been my personal coach and mentor for the last year and I have adopted his coaching modality because it is REALLY transformative!
Take a listen to what he shares so you can get an idea of what we offer here at Whole Heart Transformation.2022-11-3046 minWhole Heart TransformationHow do I even adult?This week I discuss the character structure of adulthood/authority. You might find it insightful to know what some of the deficiencies look like and some examples of why they might have taken place in your own story. I hope you enjoy! 2022-11-2330 minWhole Heart TransformationWhy do I talk to myself like that?We've been discussing different Character structures over the past couple weeks. Today I will be talking about the Character structure of Integration. Deficiencies in this show up as a lack of capacity for negative realities. As we dive into it today, I hope it brings YOU more aware of the places in you that may need some strengthening. 2022-11-1628 minWhole Heart TransformationWhat the F*#% is attachment and why it affects everythingAttachment. What does it look like and how do you do get your attachment needs met when you grow up in a home where normal needs are dismissed?
Today I discuss this on a deeper level, even beyond attachment styles and more as a character deficiency that can change, grow and heal.2022-11-0926 minWhole Heart TransformationThat part of you that don't like, is your key to healingHealing requires us to get face to face with the very parts of us we don't like. Without that, we just won't experience the healing and wholeness we long for. Today I will deep dive further into why we need to work towards moving into curiosity and grace with the parts of us we don't like or want others to know about so healing can take place.2022-11-0227 minWhole Heart TransformationWhy can't I stop taking on other peoples emotions?Ever wonder why you take on other people's emotions or choices? Today I will be discussing some of the ways we do this and how this is linked to the character deficiency of Separation. You may relate more than you think! Take a listen and let me know what you think.2022-10-2629 minWhole Heart TransformationWhat I’ve learned from walking through betrayalMy world blew up 3 years ago from my husbands secret sex addiction. Little did I know that there were gifts along the way of this healing journey that were completely unexpected. Today I am sharing what those gifts are in hopes that you'll be encouraged.2022-10-1921 minWhole Heart TransformationWhy we don't move forward in healingWhy is it that we get stuck in our process to healing? Today I will be unpacking some of the reasons and how to move forward in the healing process.2022-10-1222 minWhole Heart TransformationYou can't be fully loved without being knownBeing known is the only way we will know if we can fully be loved. The problem is that most of us are too afraid to be known for many different reasons. What if being known is there very thing you need in order to have the love you always wanted?
In this short podcast today I will be sharing more about this.2022-10-0620 minWhole Heart TransformationHow to know when you've truly forgivenForgiveness is regularly a hot topic. Many people believe that forgiveness is a matter of will power and surrender. But what if forgiveness requires us to take a different route than mere will power? And what if there was a real way to know whether you forgave or not?
I will be going over this topic today and providing a path to knowing how to forgive for good and to know when there needs to be more work.2022-09-2830 minWhole Heart TransformationPart 2 of "Did I choose the right spouse?"Part 2 of Did I choose the wrong spouse and what I wish my momma would have would've taught me.2022-09-2129 minWhole Heart TransformationDid I choose the right spouse? What I wish my momma would've taught me.Today I discuss the many things I feel would been helpful to have known about marriage and choosing a life partner. I believe this discussion can be helpful for any state of your relationship status, whether married or single.2022-09-1430 minWhole Heart TransformationYou are not your traumaWhen the overwhelming feelings of trauma hit our body, many things happen. We can go against our values, feel out of control, freeze etc etc
But, ultimately you are NOT your trauma. Trauma is what happened to you, not who you are. I discuss in depth about who you really are and how to get through the trauma.2022-09-0725 minWhole Heart TransformationIf you've betrayed your partner, this will absolutely help heal your marriageWhen we've betrayed the person we love the most, it's important to understand that by you helping them, it is the only way to heal the marriage. When a betraying partner is reactive and not RESPONSIVE this puts the threat level in the body of the betrayed at an all time high. If you want the marriage to heal then you absolutely have to learn how to be there for your partner who has been traumatized by the rupture you created in the relationship.
In this podcast I give specifics that I believe will he...2022-08-3130 minWhole Heart TransformationPart 2 of Malachi's storyPart 2 of Malachi's story.2022-08-2442 minWhole Heart TransformationPart 1: Malachi's story: From sex addiction, duplicity and secrecy to transparency and freedomAs promised, my husband Malachi shares his story of what led him into a life of duplicity, sex addiction and secrecy as a child. His attempts to get free and the unraveling of his secret life.
You don't want to miss this episode!!!
2022-08-1738 minWhole Heart TransformationWhy you may not have boundaries and why they are essential to healthy relationshipsBoundaries are essential to health and healthy relationship. In order to understand the benefits we have to have had them established in our upbringing. If we didn't get those skills as kids then we have to learn them as adults. Which can be really hard because we don't understand the gift they are to us. In today's episode I explain boundaries in a way for you to understand so you can start the journey to implementing them. 2022-08-1030 minWhole Heart TransformationHow pornography and sex addiction affect our ability to securely attach, attune & connect.Pornography is at an all time high. And we have never been a more disconnected people.
Today I discuss the affects of porn and sex addiction and how this relates to attachment. What we long for is security in our relationships and to know that we are truly loved despite our imperfections. If we have no concept of secure attachment growing up, we have to go to something to attempt to get that need met. Pornography seems to meet this need, but quickly comes up short and empty. Especially after each use. I share how this affects how we interact relatio...2022-08-0323 minWhole Heart TransformationHow our body informs us of areas that need healingOur body has an incredible alert system to let us know whether or not we have experienced healing and forgiveness or not. If our body still has reactions to things that are not healed we know we need to give more attention to that area. When we can come at this with openness, love and grace, we can heal. 2022-07-2726 minWhole Heart TransformationMisconceptions of marriage in my story. Part 3There are many misconceptions around marriage that I personally found damaging. In today's podcast I discuss some of those misconceptions and how they affected me personally.
******WARNING******* This is MY personal experience. I am not saying that this applies to everyone. This is my experience and what I learned and had to unlearn.
Scripture references:
1 Corinthians 7:4
The wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does; and likewise also the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does.
1 Corinthians 6:19-20
Or do you not know that your body is a temple of...2022-07-2530 minWhole Heart TransformationMy story part 2If you haven't heard part one of "My Story" then go back and take a listen.
In todays episode I talk about my failed boundaries and how I had to learn to incorporate them after betrayal. Even if you haven't encountered a marital betrayal, I believe you can benefit from my story and how to grow in intimate relationships. 2022-07-1230 minWhole Heart TransformationMy storyI am finally ready to share more details of my story of betrayal, sex addiction, boundaries, a grueling process to healing and finally hope. 2022-07-0630 min
Whole Heart TransformationI bet you don't know how to do this....GrievingGrieving. Many of us were taught that grieving was only for when someone passed away. But grieving is much more than that! Our body needs to grieve the losses no matter what they are. I discuss how grief should have been taught in childhood and reasons why we may not be able to grieve as adults. I think it might blow your mind!2022-06-2929 minWhole Heart TransformationVerbalizing our emotions is a must for healingUsing words to describe emotions seems as though it won't have an affect on how we heal. However, new research shows that emotions that are not expressed are a part of the missing link for healing. Whether thats with ourselves or in relationships. I unpack the reason for this and why it's so important to start sharing these felt emotions whether you are a male or female. I hope you gain a new perspective on emotions and their purpose. 2022-06-2219 minWhole Heart TransformationSEX!!! The way we truly long for itWhat if sex could be so much more than what you are currently experiencing? Sex within the context of marriage is one incredible union. We are taught that in order to have amazing sex that we need to perform, wear outfits, lights off, candles on etc. and that will create amazing sex. What if I told you that NONE of those things make sex incredible, in fact it can becoming boring, and none of those things build the connection and deep intimacy we crave.
Intimacy and connection needs to start BEFORE sex. But many of u...2022-06-1524 minWhole Heart TransformationYou've been lied to about beautyOur society is based on beauty. All you have to do is drive down the street, see a billboard, an advertisement on your phone, a commercial on tv, magazines etc. The list is endless on how to obtain beauty. What if I told you that what you've been taught about beauty is wrong? I will be discussing this in today's podcast. My hope is to bring a new perspective so real change can happen in our culture that is seemingly crumbling.
Links:
https://www.drdougweiss.com/2022-06-0927 minWhole Heart TransformationDo our dreams really mean something?Ever wonder if your dreams have any meaning? And why is it that we dream anyways?
In today's episode I interview my friend Pam who has one tremendous gift of interpreting dreams. Her perspective is refreshing and helpful to understanding the process to interpreting dreams. She comes from a biblical perspective with the understanding that our dreams can be complex in nature but, by being curious with another person about them is so important.
I personally believe that getting curious with our dreams is a pathway into healing and understanding ourselves and oth...2022-06-0148 minWhole Heart TransformationHealing yourself from being a victim so you don't become a victimizerThe harsh reality for many is they have been victimized. When we push that harsh reality away and carry on without healing the result may very well be that others become victims of our unhealed pain. I give many examples in this podcast (including some of my own story) how some scenario's play out. I invite you into this conversation of how unhealed victimized parts of us can also hurt others and how to take responsibility for your healing. 2022-05-2524 minWhole Heart TransformationThe reasons why betrayal hurts so badIf you have experienced betrayal or know someone who has then this episode is for you. Sexual betrayal is one of the most painful experiences in a persons life. Words to describe this type of betrayal are often described as shattering, destroyed, gut wrenching pain, broken and my personal description, whatever is after dust thats how I felt I was. Sexual betrayal is obliterating. But why? In this episode I will give a clear description of why this happens so you can feel less alone in your process to healing.2022-05-1824 minWhole Heart TransformationWhy pushing away difficult emotions keeps you stuck and how to get out of the cycleNone of us enjoy the cycle of unresolved emotions within ourselves. Most of us believe that if that if we stay busy, avoid or just pray these uncomfortable emotions away that eventually they will disappear. I have news for you, they don't! When difficult emotions or feelings in the body arise and we don't address them we get stuck in a cycle of 'Avoi-dance". Instead of doing the dance of avoidance and staying stuck, I will discuss how we got to this place, how others contributed to it, and how to change.2022-05-1129 minWhole Heart TransformationWhy pushing away difficult emotions keeps you stuck and how to get out of the cycleNone of us enjoy the cycle of unresolved emotions within ourselves. Most of us believe that if we stay busy, avoid or just pray these uncomfortable emotions away that eventually they will disappear. I have news for you, they don't! When difficult emotions or feelings in the body arise and we don't address them we get stuck in a cycle of "avoi-dance". Instead of doing the dance of avoidance and staying stuck, I will discuss how we got to this place, how others contributed to it, and how to change.2022-05-1129 minWhole Heart TransformationHow family of origin plays out in our adult relationships and parentingYou may have heard the common saying to leave and cleave to your spouse when you get married. Yet you find yourself saying and doing things like you did in your family of origin in your relationship. Or maybe you vowed to never do or say the things that your parents did or said and yet you find yourself doing those exact same things.
I will be discussing why this is a factor and how to start the process of change in your adult relationships.
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It didn't start with you...2022-05-0426 minWhole Heart TransformationDoes a lack of emotional awareness cause identity issues?What if lack of emotional awareness is why you are dealing with the issues in your identity? How would you know how to handle emotions or body sensations if they were never allowed before?
I will be discussing WHY lack of emotional awareness is linked to identity issues and HOW to start the process to change and build healthy identity.
***When we know ourselves we know our needs and can create healthy boundaries***2022-04-2726 minWhole Heart TransformationWhat does it take to really change?The topic of change can be a really sticky subject. A lot of people believe that change isn't really possible. However, there is so much science that proves that change is absolutely possible! In this podcast I discuss some of the ways I experienced change personally and some important tools you can use to take steps towards change as well.
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Characterformationcoaching.weebly.com2022-04-2029 minWhole Heart TransformationUsing Triggers as a Pathway to HealingTriggers are rarely something we enjoy. Instead of trying to run from the pain we experience in triggers, what if instead you got curious with them and find out the messages they are attempting to send to you? What if triggers are a pathway to healing? In this podcast I am raw and real (as I always am!) about how triggers were affecting me and how I allowed myself to heal using curiosity instead of pushing away pain.
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https://jay-stringer.com/book/2022-04-1323 minWhole Heart TransformationDisney Porn?In a world where the Disney fairytale has had such relational influence, its become the standard for many. Just like porn has set an unhealthy standard for men and women, I believe these fairytales have also influenced unhealthy relational standards. In this podcast I will discuss what I call "Disney porn", pornography, their influence and how their standards have led us into unhealthy relational dynamics. As we unpack this my hope is that you'll experience some eye opening realities, plus some tools to change these unhealthy view points.2022-04-0623 min
Whole Heart TransformationHealthy Sexuality for WomenMost of us have no clue what healthy sexuality looks like or how it should be experienced. In this episode I will be discussing what I see as our current issues in our sexuality and how to create new healthy perspectives.2022-03-3118 min