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Pause Purpose PlayPressure building up, so is the conflict in ND familiesIn this episode of the Pauses Purpose Play podcast, host Michaela Thomas discusses the challenges and tensions that arise during festive holidays and offers advice on maintaining compassion and connection with partners, especially in neurodivergent families. Michaela highlights the importance of self-compassion, meeting emotional needs, and understanding the dynamics of relationships. She talks about her book, 'The Lasting Connection,' and its accompanying online course, 'The Compassionate Couple,' which aims to help couples strengthen their bond. Michaela reflects on the book's release during the COVID-19 lockdown and expresses her desire to revive its message by engaging in more...
2025-12-2518 minPause Purpose Play
Pause Purpose PlayCalm the overwhelm at ChristmasAlready feeling stretched by the festive season? This episode is your invitation to slow down and protect your energy. In this solo episode of the Pause Purpose Play podcast, Clinical Psychologist Michaela Thomas explores why the holiday season can feel so overwhelming and draining, especially for women with busy brains, ADHD traits, or perfectionistic tendencies - and how to move through it with more intention and self-compassion. Michaela introduces the idea of balancing what drains you with what sustains you, and shares how using a visual schedule can help you manage energy more realistically, plan ahead...
2025-12-1820 minPause Purpose Play
Pause Purpose PlayWhat Happens Before, During and After an ADHD Assessment? If you’ve been wondering what actually happens in an ADHD assessment, or you’re thinking about booking one but feel unsure about the process, this solo episode walks you through everything you need to know.    Michaela breaks down what to expect before, during and after an adult ADHD assessment, based on her clinical process at her psychology practice The Thomas Connection.   Whether you’re exploring a diagnosis for yourself or supporting someone you care about, this episode brings clarity, reassurance and practical guidance.   In this episode you’ll learn: • What happens before the assessment  Why a clarity call can help you...
2025-12-1128 minPause Purpose Play
Pause Purpose PlayBlack Friday & ADHD - How to Avoid Impulsive SpendingBlack Friday is basically engineered to hijack an ADHD brain.  Countdown timers, flashing banners, urgency emails — it’s the perfect storm for impulsive buying and dopamine-driven decisions. In this short solo episode, Clinical Psychologist and ADHD specialist Michaela Thomas shares three quick, compassionate strategies to help you navigate Black Friday with intention, self-trust, and calm, rather than getting pulled into impulsive spending. You’ll learn how to pause before you buy, check your emotional state, and create a tiny, intentional “YES list” that keeps you grounded instead of overwhelmed. Whether you’ve overspent...
2025-11-2715 minPause Purpose Play
Pause Purpose PlayBurnout, business and ADHD, with Mother Cuppa Tea Candice MasonWhat happens when midlife hormones, ADHD traits, and the demands of running a business all collide? For many women, it’s the beginning of a powerful - and often messy - transformation and evolution. In this episode of the Pause Purpose Play podcast, Clinical Psychologist Michaela Thomas speaks with Candice Mason, founder of Mother Cuppa Tea, about the realities of female entrepreneurship, hormone upheaval, and navigating neurodivergence in midlife. Candice shares her candid journey through endometriosis, peri-menopause symptoms, and building a product-based business from the ground up. Together, Michaela and Candice explore the pr...
2025-11-201h 09Pause Purpose Play
Pause Purpose PlayBreakdowns, business freedom and permission slaps, with Jo HooperWhat if the way you’ve been taught to succeed is the very thing burning you out? In a world that glorifies overwork, perfectionism and endless productivity, it can feel almost radical to rest, slow down, or say “no”. But that is where your business freedom lies.  In this episode of the Pause Purpose Play podcast, Clinical Psychologist Michaela Thomas speaks with Jo Hooper, founder of the Me First Method, about the mental health impact of patriarchal and capitalist work cultures — and how to build a business that supports your wellbeing instead of sabotaging it. Jo...
2025-11-1346 minPause Purpose Play
Pause Purpose PlayADHD and High Performance in Sport and Exercise with Dr. Josephine PerryYou can be passionate about your exercise or sport, and still burn out from it. Have you ever pushed yourself so hard to “do better” or beat a personal best, that the joy disappeared? For many perfectionistic or ADHD minds, exercise can be too much of a good thing, so how to balance that is exactly what this episode unpacks. In this episode of the Pause Purpose Play podcast, Clinical Psychologist Michaela Thomas speaks with Dr. Josephine Perry, Chartered Sport and Exercise Psychologist, about the complex relationship between ADHD, high performance, and perfectionism in s...
2025-11-0649 minPause Purpose Play
Pause Purpose PlayWhat it really looks like to prioritise yourself(A compassionate nudge for busy, neurodivergent women and perfectionists) You know you should prioritise yourself — but what does that actually look like when you’re juggling ADHD, business, motherhood, and perfectionism? In this episode of Pause Purpose Play, Clinical Psychologist and ADHD specialist Michaela Thomas explores what real self-care looks like beyond bubble baths and quick fixes. She shares the three types of clients she sees — from those running on empty to those beginning to create balance — and how each can benefit from more compassion and support. You’ll also hear real success stories fr...
2025-10-3012 minPause Purpose Play
Pause Purpose PlayYou don't have to sacrifice to be successfulYou’ve seen the posts - “If you’re not up at 4am journalling and hitting the gym, do you even want success?” Michaela says: that's the pressure of perfection coming from the patriarchy - let that stuff go. In this short solo episode, Clinical Psychologist and ADHD specialist Michaela Thomas shares why you don’t need to burn out to build something brilliant. She unpacks how hustle culture is ableist, unsustainable, and particularly harmful for neurodivergent women and mums with ADHD, whose energy is already stretched thin. You’ll learn how to redefine suc...
2025-10-2312 minPause Purpose Play
Pause Purpose PlayWhat it really looks like to prioritise yourselfIn this episode of the Pause Purpose Play podcast, host Michaela Thomas discusses the importance of prioritizing self-care, especially for perfectionistic individuals and those with ADHD. She categorises her clients into three groups based on their progression in self-compassion and self-care and explains how each group can benefit from her Burn Bright program. Michaela provides real-life examples of women who have benefitted from prioritising themselves, setting boundaries, and managing energy, ultimately leading to a healthier and more sustainable lifestyle. She invites listeners to consider their needs and offers guidance on whether Burn Bright or therapy might be the best...
2025-10-1612 minPause Purpose Play
Pause Purpose Play"Can't stop, won't stop" vs "Can't start, can't finish" ADHD typesEver swing between unstoppable energy and complete inertia - buzzing with ideas one day and paralysed by overwhelm the next? In this episode, Michaela explores two sides of the ADHD experience she calls the Meerkat and the Sloth. One can’t stop, the other can’t start - and both are trying to help you. You’ll learn why these shifts aren’t inconsistency or failure, but signs of an ADHD brain managing energy and safety. Michaela shares how to move from shame to self-compassion, and find balance between overdrive and standstill. You’ll hear about...
2025-10-1612 minPause Purpose Play
Pause Purpose PlayAnother face of ADHD: 'High-Functioning' women over-functioning into burnoutAre you “too well” to get help for ADHD? In this solo episode, I shine a light on one of the most overlooked faces of ADHD — the women who look like they’re “coping” but are really over-functioning themselves into burnout. You’ll hear why being told you’re “too well” or “not struggling badly enough” can be just as invalidating and harmful as being dismissed entirely, and why support is still essential even if you appear to be managing. What you’ll learn in this episode: * "The many faces of ADHD" as the theme of ADHD Awarenes...
2025-10-0914 minPause Purpose Play
Pause Purpose PlayFrom “I Should” to “I Choose To”: Stop forcing yourself into burnoutIn this episode of the Pause Purpose Play podcast, host Michaela Thomas explores the concept of 'musturbation' and the harmful effects of forcing oneself to achieve goals out of obligation and fear. She highlights the importance of shifting from a mindset of 'should' to one of 'choose,' promoting self-compassion and conscious decision-making. Michaela encourages listeners to replace self-critical thoughts with intentional, value-driven choices, improving their mental well-being and productivity. The episode also includes practical exercises to reframe 'should' statements and an invitation to a free masterclass that Michaela is running on 9th October on...
2025-10-0214 minPause Purpose Play
Pause Purpose PlayRest - to create your best ideasIn this episode, clinical psychologist Michaela Thomas explores the connection between rest and creativity, challenging the hustle culture notion that constant productivity leads to success. She emphasises that great ideas often come during moments of relaxation, not while grinding away at tasks. Michaela delves into the neurological basis for why rest enhances creativity, especially for neurodivergent individuals. She offers practical tips for incorporating short breaks and restful activities into daily routines to foster creativity and maintain mental well-being. Listeners are invited to join 'The Reset,' a free seven-day program designed to help regulate the nervous system, ultimately fueling...
2025-09-1809 minPause Purpose Play
Pause Purpose PlayGoing through ADHD assessment in mid-life, with Georgina FullerHave you considered whether you're ADHD or whether it's just parenting in modern life, or if it's the perimenopause? Maybe you're struggling because you are affected by all of the above! In this heartfelt episode of Pause Purpose Play, Clinical Psychologist Michaela Thomas welcomes journalist Georgina Fuller, writer of the Telegraph article featuring the ADHD assessment she had with Michaela earlier this year. This is an honest conversation about the realities of being a neurodivergent woman raising neurodivergent children, and finding out your own diagnosis of ADHD in the midst of the chaos.  G...
2025-09-111h 02Pause Purpose Play
Pause Purpose PlayHow perfectionism and self-criticism impact ADHD women, with Kristin CarderEver felt weighed down by shame, self-criticism, or parenting guilt as a woman with ADHD? You’re not alone. In this vulnerable episode, Michaela welcomes Kristin Carder, host of the hit podcast “I Have ADHD,” for a frank and compassionate conversation about the hidden struggles of ambitious, neurodivergent women. Together, they discuss how ADHD shows up as internal chaos, why criticism and rejection hurt so much, and what it takes to forgive yourself and repair with your kids. If you battle perfectionism, loud inner criticism, or regret how you’ve parented in the past, th...
2025-08-2851 minPause Purpose Play
Pause Purpose PlayMum guilt vs mum shame, with Dr Tess BrowneYou want to be the best version of yourself for your kids. You want to do parenting “right.” But nobody told you about the pressure, the invisible comparisons, or the harsh self-talk that creeps in at the end of a long day. And no one ever told you it doesn’t have to be this way. In today’s episode, Michaela is joined by her friend and fellow clinical psychologist Dr. Tess Browne to get real about: * The difference between mum guilt and mum shame  * How comparison, social me...
2025-08-2153 minPause Purpose Play
Pause Purpose PlayADHD was there all along - even if nobody noticed the signsMaybe no one saw the signs when you were a child. Maybe you didn’t either - not until the burnout hit, the wheels came off, and everything started to feel unmanageable with the school admin, your next big work deadline and the brain fog of perimenopause. This episode is for the women who have spent years masking, pushing through, and wondering why life still feels so hard. You got the grades. You looked like you were coping. You held it all together on the outside. But in...
2025-07-0319 minPause Purpose Play
Pause Purpose PlayADHD, trauma, or both? with Dr Kara DaveyIn this episode of the Pause Purpose Play podcast, host Michaela Thomas interviews Dr. Kara Davey, an award-winning clinical psychologist, discussing the complex relationship between ADHD and trauma. They explore how trauma is both common in ADHD and can be distinguished from it, emphasising the importance of a thorough assessment. Dr. Davey shares her own experiences with late ADHD diagnosis following a traumatic stillbirth and how both personal and professional paths led to her passion for this field. They also discuss the challenges late-diagnosed adults face, especially women, and how postnatal periods can trigger or exacerbate ADHD symptoms. Michaela...
2025-06-261h 04Pause Purpose Play
Pause Purpose PlayJournaling for ADHDers, with The Evolve JourneyIn this episode of the Pause Purpose Play podcast, host Michaela Thomas welcomes the founders of the Evolve Journal, Sam and Freddie Titcombe. They discuss the development of the Evolve Journal, a tool designed to help people live with more intention, clarity, and consistency by focusing on manageable progress rather than perfection. Sam and Freddie share insights on building healthy journaling habits, the importance of self-kindness, and the value of stoicism in daily life. The conversation highlights the balance of emotional reflection with practical goal-setting, addressing how to manage ADHD traits and the challenges of maintaining consistency. They also...
2025-06-051h 03Pause Purpose Play
Pause Purpose PlaySquirming at praise: Can you take a compliment?In this solo episode, Michaela explores the discomfort many of us feel when receiving compliments - especially when we’re wired for self-criticism, perfectionism, or modesty. Sharing a personal story from LinkedIn, she unpacks why our inner critics hate being seen and how we can respond with compassionate curiosity instead of avoidance. This episode is for anyone who’s ever cringed at being praised and wants to learn how to receive kindness more fully - without shame or self-doubt. You’ll hear about: Why compliments can trigger our inner critic How upbrin...
2025-05-2912 minPause Purpose Play
Pause Purpose PlayWhen you can't "just do it": Motivation, self-discipline or self-compassion?When You Can’t “Just Do It”: Motivation, Self-Discipline & Self-Compassion You want to do the thing. You care. You’ve got the vision, the list, the intention, and proof that you have done stuff like this before, because you DO achieve things. And still… nothing. You get stuck procrastafaffing with some irrelevant stuff until you've nearly run out of time. Maybe even feeling ashamed of how hard it feels to "just" start. If you’ve ever found yourself saying, “Why can’t I just do it?”, then this episode is for you.   Ins...
2025-05-2216 minPause Purpose Play
Pause Purpose PlaySoftening anxiety and growing on your own termsIn this episode of the Pause Purpose Play podcast, host Michaela Thomas explores the themes of anxiety, permission, and growth, particularly for those navigating compassion, ADHD, and perfectionism. Michaela stresses the importance of honouring one’s energy and sensitivity while addressing anxiety gradually and compassionately. Using an example from Polly Lavarello's journey, Michaela illustrates how embodying leadership and facing anxiety can lead to significant growth. The episode also touches on Michaela’s Burn Bright coaching program, aimed at helping neurodivergent women grow without burning out. She encourages listeners to pursue growth gently and at their own pace.
2025-05-0815 minPause Purpose Play
Pause Purpose PlayEmpowering ADHD Parents with Lauren O'CarrollIn this episode of the Pause Purpose Play podcast, host Michaela Thomas talks with Lauren O'Carroll, an ADHD parenting coach, founder of Positively Parenting, and a mom of two. Lauren discusses the challenges of ADHD parenting, sharing her experiences and expertise on navigating executive dysfunction as both a parent and individual. She emphasises the importance of self-compassion, acceptance, and trusting oneself as a parent. The conversation delves into emotional regulation, the impact of neurodivergence on family life, and the need for community support. Lauren also touches on her upcoming book and membership program aimed at helping neurodivergent families thrive.
2025-05-0151 minPause Purpose Play
Pause Purpose PlayHaving another child as a highly sensitive or neurodivergent person, with Natalie BrunswickDo you want another baby, but not sure if you can cope with it all again? Perhaps you're highly sensitive, or neurodivergent, and it was all too much first time? In this episode of the Pause Purpose Play podcast, host Michaela Thomas is joined by Natalie Brunswick, a trauma and perinatal therapist, to discuss the complexities of deciding whether to have another baby after experiencing a difficult first journey - especially if being highly sensitive and neurodivergent. They delve into fears rooted in past trauma, the balancing act of desire to have another child...
2025-04-241h 05Pause Purpose Play
Pause Purpose PlayNavigating Neurodiversity and Hormonal Challenges: An Interview with Jess RadIn this episode of the Pause Purpose Play podcast, host Michaela Thomas interviews Jess Rad, an award-winning speaker and advocate for gender equity and neurodiversity in the workplace. The conversation delves into the intersectionality of neurodivergence, hormonal imbalances, and perimenopause, particularly for women business owners and parents. Jess shares her personal journey, including her late diagnosis of neurodivergence, the impact of premature menopause, and her experience as a parent carer. They discuss the importance of self-awareness, self-compassion, and self-advocacy, as well as the need for allyship and systemic change. The episode also highlights Jess's initiatives like the Womenhood, a...
2025-03-2753 minPause Purpose Play
Pause Purpose PlayThe consequences of your executive dysfunctionIn this episode of the Pause Purpose Play podcast, host Michaela Thomas explores the consequences of executive dysfunction, inspired by a humorous yet insightful experience involving buying a pin that reads 'Well, well, well, if it isn't the consequences of my own executive dysfunction.' Michaela shares personal anecdotes about managing ADHD, perfectionism, and everyday mishaps, such as locking herself out of the house. Through stories of handling emergencies and finding humor in chaos, Michaela emphasizes the importance of self-compassion and practical strategies to mitigate the impact of executive dysfunction. She also highlights the value of seeking support and...
2025-03-2018 minPause Purpose Play
Pause Purpose PlayVulnerably showing the behind the scenes of your neurodivergent businessIn this episode of the Pause Purpose Play podcast, Michaela Thomas, a clinical psychologist and expert on ADHD, compassion, and perfectionism, challenges herself to create an 11-minute solo podcast episode before her next coaching call. Michaela openly discusses the exuberance associated with ADHD and her encounter with Jessica Chivers, a chartered coaching psychologist. They shared their experiences and the importance of vulnerability in discussing the realities of running a business. Michaela emphasises that success isn't solely measured by income but by sustainable practices that allow freedom and flexibility. She highlights the need for support systems, self-compassion, and strategic decision-making...
2025-03-1311 minPause Purpose Play
Pause Purpose PlayGo easy on yourself when life is hardIn this solo episode of the Pause Purpose Play podcast, host Michaela Thomas discusses the importance of self-compassion and resilience when life gets tough, particularly as a neurodivergent parent and businesswoman. Michaela shares personal struggles following her eldest child's diagnosis and emphasises the need to build supportive systems that allow flexibility in balancing professional and personal responsibilities. She highlights the challenges of parenting neurodivergent children and the pressures of running a business. Michaela also mentions future podcast topics and guest appearances, urging listeners to go easy on themselves and providing resources for further support.   00:00 Welcome B...
2025-03-0616 minPause Purpose Play
Pause Purpose PlayUnderstanding your brilliant brain, with Dr Amber JohnstonIn this episode of the Pause Purpose Play podcast, host Michaela Thomas interviews Dr. Amber Johnston, a specialist in clinical health, pain management, and neuropsychology. Together, they explore common questions about the brain, debunk myths such as the '10 percent brain usage' theory, and discuss the differences between ADHD, neurodivergence, and giftedness. They delve into the science behind synaptic growth, neuroplasticity, and how individual experiences shape our brains. The episode provides insights on maintaining brain health through good habits, managing stress, and the importance of novelty for cognitive growth. The conversation also highlights the significance of compassion in addressing...
2025-02-1347 minPause Purpose Play
Pause Purpose PlayCelebrating 205 Episodes: Michaela’s Podcast Journey and Overcoming ImperfectionIn this special episode of 'Pause Purpose Play,' Michaela is interviewed by her friend Dr. Claire Plumley as they celebrate the podcast surpassing 200 episodes. Michaela discusses the inception of her podcast during the COVID-19 pandemic, the impact it has had on listeners, and her motivations for starting it. The conversation explores Michaela's journey, her experiences with ADHD, and the challenge of balancing planning with spontaneous creativity. They talk about Michaela's various projects, including Burnbright, her associate practice, and other ventures. Moreover, Michaela shares personal anecdotes, reflections on her favourite episodes, and strategies she employs for self-care and emotional...
2025-01-2341 minPause Purpose Play
Pause Purpose Play"Sleeping Well: Dr. Ranj Singh on Anxiety, Wellbeing, and Self-Compassion"Having trouble sleeping? Join for some useful tips as Clinical Psychologist Michaela Thomas chats with the brilliant Dr. Ranj Singh - NHS Doctor, Furniture Village Sleep and Wellness Ambassador and TV presenter - about sleep, anxiety and wellbeing.  Discover how sleep is linked with hormone regulation, anxiety, stress, burnout - and even ADHD.    Dr. Ranj shares his top tips for better sleep hygiene, managing stress, and sprinkling some self-compassion into your daily routine. Plus, hear how Dr Ranj handles criticism from social media trolls with grace, and why dancing like nobody's watching mig...
2025-01-1653 minPause Purpose Play
Pause Purpose PlayPermission to play - unapologetically as you are, with Jade CookIn this episode of the Pause Purpose Play podcast, host Michaela Thomas interviews Jade Cook, founder and lead facilitator of Spectrum Community Arts.  The conversation explores Jade's experiences with her neurodivergent brain while running a business, the significance of formal diagnoses, and the importance of self-compassion. Michaela discusses the benefits of diagnosis beyond self-identification, including access to support, and provides resources for those considering the assessment process.   https://thethomasconnection.co.uk/adhd/
2025-01-0916 minPause Purpose Play
Pause Purpose PlayNew Year pressures don't work for ADHDersIn this New Year 2025 episode of the Pause Purpose Play podcast, host Michaela discusses the challenges neurodivergent individuals face with New Year's resolutions. She encourages listeners to set intentions that prioritise well-being and self-care over traditional achievement goals. Michaela shares her yearly themes and advises balancing effort and ease, being realistic, and surrendering to one's unique needs. She invites listeners to reflect on their intentions and emphasises the importance of compassionate, sustainable practices for lasting change.
2025-01-0212 minPause Purpose Play
Pause Purpose PlayWhy compassion is the answer to the ADHD shame spiralIn this episode of the Pause Purpose Play podcast, host Mikayla Thomas, a clinical psychologist specializing in compassion, ADHD, and perfectionism, delves deep into the concept of shame, particularly among individuals with ADHD. Thomas explains how shame, often external and stemming from societal judgment, exacerbates the struggles of those with ADHD. She discusses the importance of self-compassion in breaking the 'shame spiral' and offers practical advice on how to manage shame and adopt a more understanding and supportive approach towards oneself. Thomas also emphasises the need for compassionate assessments and provides various strategies to counteract shame and create sustainable...
2024-12-2614 minPause Purpose Play
Pause Purpose PlayHow ADHD Assessment Can Improve Mental Health —Why It’s All ConnectedIn this episode of the Pause Purpose Play podcast, host Michaela Thomas, a clinical psychologist, discusses the intersection of ADHD and mental health. Michaela explains the importance of authentic self-representation and her approach to ADHD assessments. She addresses the link between ADHD and challenges such as anxiety, depression, perfectionism, and burnout. Michaela explains why obtaining an ADHD diagnosis can be beneficial, how it can provide clarity, and how it helps in understanding one’s strengths, challenges, and necessary accommodations. The episode emphasizes the importance of compassionate ADHD assessments and offers an insight into Michaela's unique approach, including both in-person an...
2024-12-1915 minPause Purpose Play
Pause Purpose PlaySupport, systems and self-compassion for sustainable successHow do you balance your business and life with an ADHD brain? In this episode of the Pause Purpose Play podcast, host and Clinical Psychologist Michaela Thomas, returns from a podcast break to discuss the importance of clarity and self-care to have balance between work and life, prioritising family right now. Michaela explores themes of compassion, perfectionism, and ADHD, sharing personal insights on balancing family life and professional responsibilities. She introduces a framework for sustainable success, focusing on support, systems and self-compassion. You’re also invited to catch a replay of a masterclass on...
2024-07-1817 minPause Purpose Play
Pause Purpose PlaySnacking well with ADHD - avoiding crashes and bingesWelcome back to the Pause Purpose Lay podcast with me, Michaela Thomas. In this episode, we explore how to snack well with ADHD by understanding interoceptive cues, common sugar cravings, and the importance of self-compassion. We discuss the challenges ADHD individuals face with food, the impact of ignoring hunger signals, and practical tips to avoid energy crashes and binges. Additionally, I explain how to give yourself permission to snack and manage your energy levels. For those interested, I am offering access to my recent workshop recording on this topic. Join us as we navigate snacking strategies and move away...
2024-06-1316 minPause Purpose Play
Pause Purpose PlayPerfectionism and Generational Trauma, with Zoe BlaskeyIn this episode, we explore how generational trauma and self-criticism is ‘handed down’ from our parents as a blueprint for how we then parent ourselves. I talk to transformational coach and host of the Motherkind podcast, Zoe Blaskey, about her recovery journey from perfectionism and alcohol. We discuss how inherited patterns aren’t our fault, but it IS our responsibility to notice and become aware of them. With gentle, compassionate noticing of our self-critical thoughts and perfectionistic behaviours, we have a choice of which thought to believe in and which action to then take. We also let go of the pr...
2024-05-2354 minPause Purpose Play
Pause Purpose PlayPassion and purpose through pain and rebellion, with Holly MatthewsThis episode features a deep and personal conversation with Holly Matthews, a TV actress turned self-development coach, about the themes of bravery, authenticity, and dealing with grief. Holly shares her journey, starting with her early career in television, her approach to living with bravery and courage rather than confidence, and how writing a bold letter as a child kickstarted her acting career. She discusses the importance of having awkward, gray-area conversations, embracing life's nuances, and how she challenges herself to live boldly. Holly also opens up about the impact of her husband Ross's death from brain cancer on her...
2024-05-021h 07Pause Purpose Play
Pause Purpose PlaySinging for Joy and Mental Health - Not Perfection with Rachel MaloyThis podcast episode features a heartwarming conversation between myself and Rachel Maloy, a facilitator of Singing Mamas groups. We discuss the profound impact that singing can have on mental health and well-being, especially for mothers. Rachel shares her personal journey of battling severe anxiety and depression after her son's birth and how discovering Singing Mamas became a pivotal moment in her recovery. She emphasizes the importance of singing as a form of emotional release, community building, and self-care. The episode also includes snippets of Rachel singing, along with a discussion about the benefits of singing for both adults and...
2024-04-2556 minPause Purpose Play
Pause Purpose PlayFrom Burnout to Brilliance: The Burn Bright ExperienceToday's episode was a live conversation between host Michaela and her guest, Kylie, discussing the impactful journey and benefits of investing in one’s well-being through the BurnBright program. Kylie shares her initial hesitations, the significance of building trust through engaging with Michaela’s content, and how making a substantial investment in the program led to personal and professional growth. They delve into the advantages of group coaching over individual sessions, highlighting the community support and the value of shared group experiences. Kylie's transformation from a corporate role to becoming a business owner underscores the program’s pivotal role in hel...
2024-04-1837 minPause Purpose Play
Pause Purpose PlayAccepting compliments, receiving praise and being proud of yourselfIn this Pause Purpose Play podcast episode, I discuss the challenge of accepting compliments and feeling proud without feeling icky', especially for perfectionistic, high-achieving women. I touch upon the cultural and personal barriers to embracing one's achievements and discuss my personal journey with pride and vulnerability, including my reflections on receiving the award and feeling out of place yet proud at the ceremony. I also share my intention behind the podcast to help women see their own light and strengths. Finally, I announce the upcoming round of her Burn Bright program, emphasising my ethical approach to participant selection and...
2024-04-1114 minPause Purpose Play
Pause Purpose PlayReducing rushing to feel better and be more productiveIn this episode, I address the common habit of rushing through life, particularly among individuals with ADHD and busy parents. I discuss the negative impacts of constantly being in a rush, such as increased stress, reduced productivity, and potential dangers. I emphasise the importance of slowing down to improve effectiveness, focus, and mental health. I also talk about Neurodiversity Awareness Week, the concept of neurodivergence, and how rushing is often glorified in modern society. The episode delves into strategies for reducing the need to rush, including pausing to assess what's helpful or harmful, and the benefits of rest and...
2024-04-0417 minPause Purpose Play
Pause Purpose PlayWorkplace wellbeing with Ross McIntoshIn this podcast episode, Ross, a specialist in Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) in the workplace, discusses the principles of ACT and its application in both professional and personal settings. ACT, a practical and experiential form of therapy, is explored through its foundational skills of noticing, being active, and open, aimed at enhancing psychological flexibility. Ross shares insights into how these skills help individuals navigate the relentless modern workplace, reduce burnout, and lead more fulfilling lives by aligning actions with personal values. Through metaphors like 'passengers on the bus,' Ross illustrates how to manage internal dialogue and foster...
2024-03-2856 minPause Purpose Play
Pause Purpose PlayMy Spacious Adventure 3 - The Insights PieceIn this third part of the Spacious Adventure series on the Pause Purpose Play podcast,I discuss my return from Vietnam, and the need to retain insights and habits cultivated during travel. I highlight understanding one's emotions upon return, resisting guilt or negativity, and practising compassion for oneself. I share the importance of avoiding immediate immersion back into the grind but gradually easing back and giving time to process the adventure, thereby adding more richness to one's daily life. I also provide tips for soothing systems and practices to retain emotions and experiences from travel. I reveal my nomination...
2024-03-0724 minPause Purpose Play
Pause Purpose PlayDealing with comparison culture at ChristmasIn the previous episodes I have talked about festive perfectionism and festive burnout – basically from doing all the things, and trying to do them perfectly.  This week, I want to continue the theme by thinking about comparison culture at Christmas. If you feel upset after you’ve seen other people’s pretty Christmas photos, with their kids in matching pyjamas and being all smiles in front of the tree, whilst your kids are murdering each other in the background in your own house, and you draw a deep sigh about the chaos, then this is for you...
2023-12-1410 minPause Purpose Play
Pause Purpose PlayAvoiding Festive Burnout by Stopping People PleasingThe festive season is a period often riddled with people-pleasing pressures - no wonder you might feel close to burnout.  So, today we're unpacking strategies for maintaining your well-being, amidst the hustle and bustle of holiday commitments.  If you're feeling overwhelmed with the endless to-dos and social expectations that come with this time of year, this episode is for you.  We'll explore how to set boundaries, prioritize self-care, and say 'no' when needed, ensuring you enjoy the festivities without sacrificing your peace of mind.  Get ready to learn how to navigate the...
2023-11-3012 minPause Purpose Play
Pause Purpose PlayPermission to Look After Yourself When You’re IllToday, we’re delving into the importance of self-care, especially when you're not feeling your best.  In this episode, we're exploring how to balance your needs with your daily demands. I’m offering practical advice on giving yourself permission to rest and recover.  Whether it's a common cold or a more pressing health issue, we must listen to our bodies and adjust our activities accordingly.  So, get ready to learn how to care for yourself in a way that respects your body and your busy schedule.   Here are the...
2023-11-2317 minPause Purpose Play
Pause Purpose PlayHumour, Resilience, and the Rollercoaster of Motherhood With Emily-Jane ClarkWelcome to this episode where humour, resilience, and the rollercoaster of motherhood take centre stage.  Today, we're thrilled to have the incredibly talented Emily-Jane Clark, a comedy TV writer and author, whose witty perspective on life's ups and downs is both refreshing and relatable.  Emily's journey through postnatal depression, anxiety, and OCD, coupled with her unique approach to tackling these challenges through humour, offers not only laughter but a deep sense of connection.  In this episode, we delve into how humour can be a powerful tool in dealing with life's complexities. Get...
2023-11-1648 minPause Purpose Play
Pause Purpose PlayGood Enough is not Failure“Good enough” is not a curse word.   “Good enough” is not a sign of failure.  “Good enough” is workable.  “Good enough” will set you free.  In today’s episode, we’re reflecting on how much time we’ve wasted on things that don't really matter. All because we didn't allow ourselves permission to do things just “good enough”.  Join me today as we discuss how “good enough” will save you time, energy, and potentially money. Here are the highlights: (1:41) Imperfections and self-compassion (6:28) Avoiding burnout for female entrepre...
2023-11-0917 minPause Purpose Play
Pause Purpose PlayHow low is Your Energy Battery?When thinking about your capacity, consider looking at your energy levels as a battery.  This is all about energy management. You don’t want to be running on empty.  You want to be at capacity, doing all the things that matter most to you.  This is especially important if you feel overwhelmed or rundown.  So, join me as we discuss what drains your battery and energy.    Here are the highlights: (1:58) Energy management for busy people (6:20) Burnout prevention for ambitious women (8:02) Managing energy and self...
2023-11-0216 minPause Purpose Play
Pause Purpose PlayMorning Routines - What to do Instead of Putting Pressure on YourselfWomen come to me saying they have no energy.  We have demands on our time, pressures on our capacity, drains on our energy and expectations on our performance.  No wonder we feel frantic and overwhelmed when we juggle that much.  That's why I don’t do morning routines. But there are things we can do instead. So, join me as we discuss energy, nervous system activation, and how to soften rigid rules into something more manageable.    Here are the highlights: (1:42) Managing energy levels in ADHD
2023-10-2613 minPause Purpose Play
Pause Purpose PlayPermission to Make Progress Over PerfectionAre you a perfectionist? Perhaps you put a lot of pressure on yourself? Maybe you’re feeling overwhelmed with lots on your plate? There are many ways the pressure of perfection can affect us.  So today, I’m discussing letting go of that pressure.  Join me, as we give ourselves permission to make progress over perfection.    Here are the highlights:  (1:10) Perfectionism and inner work (4:49) Overcoming perfectionism and burnout (8:29) Perfectionism and progress (11:18) Improving relationships, health and wealth   Find out more...
2023-09-2815 minPause Purpose Play
Pause Purpose PlayLetting go of Overworking and People Pleasing With Natalie CostaPeople pleasing, setting boundaries, trusting yourself.   These are just a few topics I’m touching on today.   I’m joined by Natalie Costa, an award-winning coach, speaker, author and founder of Power Thoughts.   So, if you’re someone who has a mean inner critical voice, or you’re a bit of an overworker, then this episode is for you.    Join us.    Here are the highlights: (2:18) This episode is for YOU (7:27) Bringing toxic work culture into your own business (1...
2023-09-1441 minPause Purpose Play
Pause Purpose PlayThe Societal Pressure Of Perfection With Thomas CurranToday's episode is all about the pressure of perfectionism! I'm joined by Thomas Curran, a psychology professor at the London School of Economics and the author of The Perfection Trap. Thomas has spent a lot of time uncovering how societal pressures are a big driving force of perfectionism. Today, Thomas explains how personality traits are linked to perfectionism and how this can impact mental health. We’ll delve into some of the pressures that lead to it and debunk misconceptions surrounding perfectionism and look at how it affects our lives and overall performance. Hi...
2023-08-171h 04Pause Purpose Play
Pause Purpose PlayAllowing Time For Change To HappenWhat happens when perfectionists come to the realisation that they want to change?   In this episode, I want to explore perfectionism and why it takes time to change. I also explore how patience is key to sustainable and long-lasting change.   Here are the highlights: (01:00) Patience is key. (2:56) What gets in the way of living a meaningful life? (4:57) Finding a new path to the jungle. (7:02) Give yourself time. (12:39) Shedding the skin.   Michaela's book, The Lasting Connection, can be found her...
2023-06-2218 minPause Purpose Play
Pause Purpose PlayThis is How Your Marriage Ends, With Matthew FrayToday I'm joined by relationship coach and author, Matthew Fray.  Matthew wasn’t always a writer. It all started with a blog post. Matthew wrote one post online about how his wife left him because he left dishes by the sink.   But it wasn’t really about the dishes. Join us today to hear how Matthew leans on the lessons of his own divorce to help others avoid making the same mistakes that he did.    Here are the highlights: (3:11) Matt’s blog (5:13...
2023-06-1439 minPause Purpose Play
Pause Purpose PlayTolerating Fear of Failure and Making MistakesToday we’re looking at fear of failure and making mistakes. This is a big one. We all hate it. We all try to avoid it.  Recently, failure has become more discussed and socially accepted. We see podcasts and books on the topic, yet we don't feel less cringy when we mess up. So, join me for this episode as I outline my tips on tolerating the fear of failure and making mistakes.    Here are the highlights: (2:05) What is the problem? (4:13) Get comfortable with...
2023-05-2510 minPause Purpose Play
Pause Purpose PlaySustainable ProductivityToday we’re thinking about performance, pacing, permission and pressure.  Lots of P words.  I like P words.  Ask yourself, why does your productivity and performance fluctuate?  Why do you procrastinate?    Well, join me for today’s episode because I'm bringing you my three tips on sustainable productivity.   Here are the highlights: (1:57) Pressure doesn’t equal productive (4:37) Pacing before burnout (7:39) Consistency is key (9:19) Meditation goals   Find out more about my book, The Lasting Connection at www.thethomasc...
2023-05-1911 minPause Purpose Play
Pause Purpose PlayMy WHY And Purpose Is My Vulnerability This is the story of my why and my vulnerability. Purpose often comes from a story of pain and today I want to tell you about mine. I hope that the experiences I’ve gone through will remind you that you are not alone! You too can start to live your purpose and start to feel free! Here are the highlights: (02:21) Purposeful work (03:22) The worried well! (03:39) Vitality and joy (03:59) Good girl conditioning (04:54) I couldn't do it anymore! Find out more about my book, Th...
2023-05-1807 minPause Purpose Play
Pause Purpose PlayThe Negative Self-Talk From Your Inner CriticIf you have a strong inner critical voice, then this episode is for you! Sometimes, your inner critic can be full of fear and doubt. It can be angry or subtle, driving a commentary in the back of your mind. In whatever form it takes, the inner critic is difficult to ignore. Today, we'll talk about the forms it takes, why you have it, how it protects you, and what to do about this voice. Here are the highlights: (05:00) Mantras of meanness (05:55) What shape does it take? 
2023-05-1811 minPause Purpose Play
Pause Purpose PlayTrailerWelcome to the Pause Purpose Play podcast.  This podcast is for you if you're a high-striving, ambitious working woman. If you want to burn bright without the stress of juggling work with life.  It’s about stepping out of overthinking and embracing imperfection for more fun and freedom.    So, join me to hear my tips on navigating this tricky life using pause, purpose and play.    Here are the highlights:  (00:28) Burning bright  (00:49) Pause Purpose Play  (1:00) What to expect (1:20) Taking the...
2023-05-1801 minPause Purpose Play
Pause Purpose PlayFrom overthinking to taking actionWhy is that you overthink your every decision? You consider every angle, so you end up not taking action? Or you take action only when you have to, to meet a deadline? Maybe you want to dot all the i's and cross all the t's, until it's perfect? What is overthinking costing you, in terms of energy levels and productivity? Could you be spending that time more wisely? Last episode, I mentioned that I will be talking about procrastination today. And this is such a big topic, that I decided to make it a series...
2023-04-0613 minPause Purpose Play
Pause Purpose PlayBeing kind, caring and compassionate to othersDo you know anyone in your life that you think could do with being a bit kinder to themselves? Someone who could do with slowing down a bit or maybe not working so hard? Responding to others with compassion can not only help them to feel better, but it also helps us feels better - as doing good, feels good. It can also help us to be more compassionate to ourselves.   In this short solo episode, I look at what treating others with kindness, care and compassion does to our brains, and I i...
2023-03-3009 minPause Purpose Play
Pause Purpose PlayChanging habits by embracing failure with graceChange is hard. Have you decided to change any of your habits this year? Want to be healthier in some way, or shave off some of your annoying sides? Well, my friend: If nothing changes, nothing changes.  In this solo episode, I look at how we can change our habits by embracing failure, so make sure you have a pen and paper handy, because I have six tips for changing habits for you at the end.   To watch my free masterclass for ambitious female entrepreneurs, How to Burn Bright Without Burning Out...
2023-03-2308 minPause Purpose Play
Pause Purpose PlayThe Power of Pausing, with Chris JohnsonCan a little pause really make a big difference? What does pausing add to our lives - and why don’t you want to do it? I’ll be discussing this and more with my guest today, Chris Johnson. Chris Johnson, PsyD., is the founder of Q4 Consulting, Inc. and the Core Presence Institute™. Her passion is cultivating exemplary leaders, collaborative teams, healthy workplaces, and thriving communities. In this episode we talk about -  Making peace with pausing, accepting that you need to rest Why pausing is important for us in our work The double...
2023-03-1652 minPause Purpose Play
Pause Purpose PlayFollow your passion sustainably to avoid burnoutFollow your passion! But do so sustainably, so you're not flirting with burnout. As it is easy to overdo it when you are passionate about making an impact. Too much of a good thing is still too much.  This short solo episode covers: Tips for following your passion sustainably, the importance of downtime for a purposeful life, and how you make wise decisions about protecting your capacity and harnessing your energy, to better utilise your potential. Remember: if you burn out, you cannot burn bright. To watch my...
2023-03-0915 minPause Purpose Play
Pause Purpose PlayHow to step out of the rat race at workDo you work too many hours or push yourself to achieve things even at your own detriment? You want to be successful, but maybe you’re not clear on what success looks like for you, and confuse it with what the patriarchal definition of productivity looks like – clocking up at least 40 hours a week. This solo episode was an experiment – recording an Instagram live mini training onto the podcast at the same time, with any free flow imperfections that brought, so turn the volume down a bit for better audio.  The session focused...
2023-03-0224 minPause Purpose Play
Pause Purpose PlayRest, feminism, activism and the patriarchy, with Keri JarvisAre you passionate about changing the world? About bridging the gender pay gap, or otherwise minimising the marginalisation of women? About doing good in the world, wanting to help others? Perhaps you want to do SO MUCH, that you get so overwhelmed you end up taking no action at all? Then listen up, as whatever impact you want to have, you need to consider how you minimise the negative impact on yourself in the process, to avoid burnout. In this episode, I speak to inspirational Keri Jarvis, who is a Developmental Coach, Intersectional Feminist & Community...
2023-02-2359 minPause Purpose Play
Pause Purpose PlayStepping Out of the Burnout CycleWorking mothers are more vulnerable to burnout today, juggling the demands of work with caring responsibilities.   I know what it's like to run a business and to navigate two young kids. It's not easy, and it's not perfect.   I hope that this solo episode will help you realise and recognise some of the patterns in yourself which might mean that you're on the path towards burnout, or help prevent you from replicating patterns of previous burnout.   To avoid hitting burnout and creating a work/life balance serving bot...
2023-02-0913 minPause Purpose Play
Pause Purpose PlayPerfectionism and Burnout in Female EntrepreneursIn this episode, you’ll learn more about why striving for perfect in your business burns you out – and what to do about it. We’ll cover three big problems female entrepreneurs face when juggling their business with their home life – and also think about three common patterns of perfectionism which make make business owners struggle.   Sign up to my free webinar How to Burn Bright without Burning Out on 10th February https://thethomasconnection.lpages.co/burnbright/ Find me at www.thethomasconnection.co.uk Instagram: www.instagram.com/the_thomas_co...
2023-02-0214 minPause Purpose Play
Pause Purpose PlayAnother chance to hear - From toxic productivity to joy, with Tamu ThomasAll work and no play, does that bring you joy? In a culture where toxic productivity is praised and rewards you with achievement, it’s hard to stop and appreciate beauty, to find everyday joy.    In this episode, I speak with Tamu Thomas about how difficult it is to let go of toxic productivity, and move towards everyday joy and moments that matter instead. By letting the joy in, we also let the pain in.    Tamu Thomas is a Qualified Social Worker & Somatic Coach. She helps high-achieving women feel emotionally safe so the...
2023-01-261h 00Pause Purpose Play
Pause Purpose PlayAnother chance to hear - Healing attachment trauma, with Thais GibsonHow do we heal difficult experiences from our childhood? And how to they impact us as adults, in our relationships? How do painful childhood experiences shape our attachment styles? In this, my most popular episode, I talk to Thais Gibson about attachment styles, trauma and the unconscious mind keeping a score of what we've been through, giving rise to protective behaviours, which can ultimately still be changed.  Thais Gibson is an author, speaker and co-creator of the Personal Development School, best known for her contributing work and research on Attachment Theory and the im...
2023-01-191h 06Pause Purpose Play
Pause Purpose PlayCorporate pressures - stay or leave, with Fiona KearnsWhen is enough enough? If you find yourself burnt out from the corporate environment, trying to be all things to all people, should you stay or should you leave? Is it worth holding on and hope for thing to improve, or are the gestures that organizations make towards mental health awareness not enough? These are the issues I’ll be tackling today with my guest, Fiona Kearns.  Fiona Kearns is a business psychologist who helps people get rid of self doubt, to feel confident about playing huge in life and work. She loves the thrill of helping cli...
2022-12-151h 06Pause Purpose Play
Pause Purpose PlayThe Zones of Comfort, Confidence, Challenge and CompassionDo you feel overstretched by constantly reaching for your stretchy goals? Are you scared to retreat to your comfort zone for fear of playing it small? In this episode, I explain the zones of comfort, confidence, challenge and compassion, and how moving between them when you need to, can help you reach your goals without burnout. This is going to be a short episode, but if you're able to get a pen and paper out, try to jot down a few things as you're listening., because this could be potentially life changing. If you can...
2022-12-0811 minPause Purpose Play
Pause Purpose PlayHow to Eat Better Without Aiming for a Perfect Diet, with Thalia PellegriniAre you hooked on the idea of the perfect diet? If only you could eat right, everything else would fall into place? This week’s guest, nutritional therapist Thalia Pellegrini, believes that you can give up striving for the perfect diet, and learn to nourish yourself instead. In this episode we talk about: The pressure from the nutrition industry to have a perfect diet - what even IS a perfect diet? Thalia’s experience of becoming a mother and how she navigates children and sugar What happens when we eat too much sugar, plus managing blood suga...
2022-12-011h 04Pause Purpose Play
Pause Purpose PlayOverworking and ProductivityIn this episode of Pause Purpose Play, Michaela explores why overworking doesn't make you more productive. Why more doesn’t always mean more. Why overworking and powering through so often leads to burn out. If you have been doing really long hours, maybe working on the weekends pushing through into the evenings, this episode is for you.   Find out more and join the waitlist for Burn Bright at https://thethomasconnection.co.uk/burn-bright/ Find me at www.thethomasconnection.co.uk Instagram: @the_thomas_connection Facebook: www.facebook.com...
2022-11-2413 minPause Purpose Play
Pause Purpose PlayBe Less Busy, Create More Impact with Chris LovettIf you’re overwhelmed by busy-ness and the need to do all the things, then this episode is for you.   In this episode of Pause Purpose Play, Michaela chats with Chris Lovett about the benefits of minimalism in life and work - and how breaking up with 'busy' helps you create more impact through renewed focus. We cover: Minimalism is about having only valuable items and experiences Value and use rather than joy Improved productivity and focus Passing things on/doing good gives you a dopamine kick Ripple effects of the act of lett...
2022-11-171h 09Pause Purpose Play
Pause Purpose PlayAnother Chance to Hear - Balance and Bold Boundaries, with Naketa Ren ThigpenDo you say no? Can you set boundaries?  This re-released episode is one of my most listened to, because setting boundaries to protect your energy is so difficult.   I talked to Naketa Ren Thigpen, about how setting boundaries helps us create balance in our lives.  Naketa R. Thigpen, LCSW, is the go-to relationship advisor for fast-scaling married women entrepreneurs and power couples seeking to balance love and success without dimming or apologizing for their spirited ambition. We talk about 3:55 Being a recovering perfectionist 6:30 Naketa's life experience...
2022-10-0656 minPause Purpose Play
Pause Purpose PlayPausing to Protect Your Energy and FocusTaking a break is hard. I have had a podcast break. I’ve been working on something behind the scenes: Burn Bright, my high touch group coaching programme for ambitious women who want to make an impact, with less impact on themselves. I am all about finding balance over burnout – no more late nights working to clear your to do list, no more ‘doing all the things, all at once’ and feeling so wired that you struggle to switch off even when you’re NOT working. As I needed to create this programme fully embo...
2022-09-2911 minPause Purpose Play
Pause Purpose PlayTaking a Break Mid LaunchStopping when you’re really busy is hard - there is just too much to do! Right? But if you’re getting overwhelmed, to the point where you’re not actually getting anything done (hello procrastination!), that’s the time for you to take a break. To protect your energy and ultimately also help you reach your goals better when you return from the break.    You’ll be more productive when you are rested, and have bigger impact.    In this short solo episode, I share some vulnerability around how I had to take...
2022-08-1815 minPause Purpose Play
Pause Purpose PlayBreaking the Mould, with StarlingBeing a pioneer, doing things differently and breaking the mould of what is expected of you can be linked with both success AND big feelings of worry around failure. In this episode, I talk to pop princess and coach Harriet Starling, better known as Starling, about how how we can follow our purpose in a sustainable way without the burnout. We talked about how receiving criticism meant she has ‘made it’ - and feeling worthy even when the music industry fed her messages around not being enough. In this episode, you’ll also hear Starling’s amazin...
2022-07-2846 minPause Purpose Play
Pause Purpose PlayThe Dark Side of DriveIf you’re ambitious, like me, you may have a long to-do list and plenty of goals you want to reach. Being ambitious is fine, I am all for having drive and passion, or a big picture vision you want to fulfil. In this short solo episode, I talk about the dark side of your drive and ambition – the ways it has a negative impact on you. I cover: Perfectionism as an umbrella term and a set of behaviours The clinical problems linked to perfectionism how our creativity comes from a place of r...
2022-07-2111 minPause Purpose Play
Pause Purpose PlayHow to Burn Bright, Not Burn OutToo busy for self-care… Too many things on the to-do list… Work is never ending… Dealing with the mental load… No wonder you’re overwhelmed and frazzled. There are lots of pressures on you, coming from every angle, but there are also pressures coming from within you. Internalised high standards around always achieving more, always doing your best, never cutting corners, never failing. You may feel like you have tried LOADS of things, and yet still feel stuck in perfectionism, procrastination and overwhelm. Constantly trying to be productive means you are never switching off, never...
2022-07-1410 minPause Purpose Play
Pause Purpose PlayThe Pros and Cons of PerfectionismRemember trying to turn one of your weaknesses into a strength for a job interview, and casually saying “I’m a perfectionist”, as if it’s a good thing? You could say that there are a lot of good things which perfectionism can be associated with. There are also a lot of drawbacks to it, and the same parts of perfectionism which serves you well in life, can also end up costing you your health and relationships. Tune into this short solo episode about the pros and cons of perfectionism, to see how it affec...
2022-06-3010 minPause Purpose Play
Pause Purpose PlayHow to Sleep Better (By Not Trying) with Dr. Guy MeadowsSweet sleep - a good night’s sleep refreshes you, a bad one frustrates you. If you lie in bed tossing and turning, worrying about how knackered you’ll be in the morning without the perfect night’s sleep, then this episode is for you.   I spoke to Dr Guy Meadows about how to get a good night’s sleep, how to stop struggling against ‘bad sleep’, and what to do when you just can’t sleep due to young children or anxious thoughts.    Dr Guy Meadows is a leading figure in the area of ch...
2022-06-2356 minPause Purpose Play
Pause Purpose PlayWhy perfectionists struggle with meditationHave you tried meditation, but can't make it a habit? Do you struggle to 'get it right'?  Over my years of working with high-striving, perfectionistic women, I've found that they often share a pattern of wanting to meditate, but finding it hard to keep up. In this episode I talk about why that can be, and how you can meditate without making it complicated or difficult for yourself.   www.thethomasconnection.co.uk/calm to download my free guide to taking a break before you break I'm releasing some sl...
2022-06-1613 minPause Purpose Play
Pause Purpose PlayTrusting offers of helpAccepting help is hard, asking for it even harder. Do you trust that those who offer it to you, actually want you to take them up on it? What stops you from trusting offers of help?  I recently shared on socials about having gastroenteritis, and my baby too, and linked it to a discussion about asking for and accepting help. On my poll sticker, 80% of you answered that you struggle to accept help offered.   The difficult thoughts and feelings showing up when someone offers to help you come from the inner cr...
2022-06-0209 minPause Purpose Play
Pause Purpose PlayUnwanted Intrusive Thoughts and Maternal Rage, with Dr. Caroline BoydHave you lost your temper with your children, having felt a rage you never knew before you had kids? Then feeling intensely guilty afterwards, feeling like a ‘bad mum’ and thinking you’ve failed for getting so angry?  Or you love your child so much, but can’t get rid of those strange thoughts you have popping in about hurting them? What if you would just drop the baby, or hit your child? If you have experienced this, you might have had ‘maternal rage’ or intrusive thoughts about harm coming to your children. You’re not alone, and...
2022-05-1948 minPause Purpose Play
Pause Purpose PlayAsking for helpAccepting help can be hard. Doing everything on your own is harder.  It's especially hard to ask for help for perfectionists, caught up in all or nothing thoughts about how they must manage everything, always be strong, never show cracks in the facade. Always carry things for others, not letting them carry things for you. In this short solo episode I will tell you how a broken toe is a sign that I need to accept help, and even ask for it. In my book, The Lasting Connection, I talk about the five A...
2022-05-1210 minPause Purpose Play
Pause Purpose PlayNurture Your Child’s Emotional Intelligence, with Anne LaneSo much pressure to be the perfect parent. Never losing it, always calm and gentle. This narrative isn't helpful for the modern parent - you haven't failed, you are human! Our children are the future, the next generation - no wonder we want to do right by them. So how do we nurture their emotional intelligence without breaking under the pressure? Dr Anne Lane is a clinical psychologist and family therapist. Anne’s new book ‘Nurture Your Child’s Emotional Intelligence: 5 Steps to Help Your Child Cope with Big Emotions and Build Resili...
2022-05-051h 02Pause Purpose Play
Pause Purpose PlayAcccepting ’good enough’How do you feel about the phrase ‘good enough’? I’m willing to bet that you don’t like it. Because you don’t FEEL good enough Because you don’t want to BE good enough – you want to be perfect, amazing, excellent, remarkable and so on.   Listen to the end of this short episode and I will offer you something which will help.   Find out more about my upcoming group coaching for women who struggle with perfectionism and not feeling enough by messaging me - www.thethomasconnection.co.uk/contact-us/
2022-04-2811 minPause Purpose Play
Pause Purpose PlayFrom toxic productivity to joy, with Tamu ThomasAll work and no play, does that bring you joy? In a culture where toxic productivity is praised and rewards you with achievement, it’s hard to stop and appreciate beauty, to find everyday joy.    In this episode, I speak with Tamu Thomas about how difficult it is to let go of toxic productivity, and move towards everyday joy and moments that matter instead. By letting the joy in, we also let the pain in.    Tamu Thomas is a Qualified Social Worker & Somatic Coach. She helps high-achieving women feel emotionally safe so the...
2021-11-251h 00Pause Purpose Play
Pause Purpose PlayBeauty and perfection, with Amanda ThomasDo you feel the pressure to look perfect and or feel bad about the way you look? Perhaps you wish you looked like the perfect models or influencers on social media? Today's guest is Amanda Thomas, a fashion, beauty and portrait photographer shooting for fashion and beauty brands and ambitious big thinkers. She is passionate about how beauty comes from within and radiates out, and believes that rather than filters and retouching, tapping into a positive frame of mind is what makes you look beautiful. We talk about 3:02 Amanda's photography career 4:42 Nurturing...
2021-04-2845 minPause Purpose Play
Pause Purpose PlayConnecting to your body, with Dr Sula WindgassenHow connected are you to your body? This week, I'm excited to welcome Dr Sula Windgassen, who is not only my guest, but also the newest member of The Thomas Connection. Dr Sula Windgassen works in the NHS as a health psychologist, providing psychological interventions for a range of physical health conditions including IBS, inflammatory bowel disease, multiple sclerosis and painful bladder syndromes. Sula has experienced the impact of persistent bladder and pelvic symptoms herself, and is a passionate advocate for women’s health.    We talk about 4:10 Sula's own heal...
2021-02-2552 minPause Purpose Play
Pause Purpose PlayCalm the overwhelmDo you recognise the signs of overwhelm in your life?  Do you know what to do to slow down? Do you know what's getting in the way of you taking better care of yourself? In this episode I explore the physical and mental signs that you might be suffering from overwhelm, and with the help of a visual metaphor, the stress bath tub, discuss methods to cope with stress without reaching the point of overwhelm and burnout. Helping you to follow your ambition without drowning in it.  Find my downloadable resource 'C...
2020-12-0319 minPause Purpose Play
Pause Purpose PlayRush less, pause moreNotice how hard it is to slow down, in a world which promotes rushing We are caught in an illusion that rushing saves us time, makes us more productive and wins us greater success – in fact, it’s the polar opposite. In this episode, I'm going to bust some productivity myths around rushing and set you straight on why it helps to rush less.  I'd love you to join in with my challenge to rush less, pause more, by sharing your photo on Instagram with the hashtag #pausepurposeplaypodcast and tagging me, @the_thomas_conne...
2020-11-1909 minPause Purpose Play
Pause Purpose PlayStop the struggle (or This too shall pass)A tricky lesson from Eastern philosophy is about the impermanence of things, of how everything changes rather than stays the same. This is a hard pill to swallow in the Western world, where we focus so much of our time and efforts around chasing and clinging onto happiness. Especially now, as we have spent almost half a year in the global pandemic of the Corona virus. But these lessons are valid regardless of what pain or hardship we find ourselves in. Join Michaela Thomas this week, as she talks about how hard it...
2020-09-0309 minPause Purpose Play
Pause Purpose PlayThe Secret to Getting Ahead, is Getting StartedIt's hard to get started. When we fear something, we are more likely to procrastinate. The inner critical voice shows up and has an opinion. It’s fearful of failure, so naturally it would show up when we're trying to do something new. Something which means stepping out of the comfort zone. If you only look at where you currently are, and seeing all that you haven’t yet mastered, you’re likely to feel daunted. Stuck. Overwhelmed. Looking up at the next mountain towering over you. But life isn’t just one mountain, it’s a mounta...
2020-08-0712 min