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In All HonestyHow Can You Be Accountable To Yourself?This week we're addressing one of the most requested topics on In All Honesty: practicing self-accountability!How do you ensure that you're practicing accountability without punishing or bullying yourself? Michelle Elman is exploring how to keep yourself accountable but from a place of self-love rather than self-discipline.During this episode, Michelle emphasises the importance of being true to your word, setting realistic goals, being honest about your capabilities and the benefits of maintaining integrity in both your personal and professional lifeWant to know practicing authentic self-love can lead to fulfilling your promises...2025-06-0324 minIn All HonestyCan You Be Friends With Colleagues? (feat. Lucy Ellis)Making friends in the workplace can be trickier than friendships in the wild - and that's exactly what this weeks episode of In All Honesty is all about.We're joined by Lucy Ellis - the founder of Lucy's Book Club (as well as Michelle's former publicist, and current friend). Lucy has navigated multiple workplace dynamics (from PR agencies to working in fitness) and has faced all of the hurdles to making friendships.On this weeks episode of In All Honesty, Michelle and Lucy talk about the difficulty of transitioning work relationships to friendships, struggling with...2025-05-2737 minIn All HonestyWhy I Struggled Becoming A Mother (feat. Sarah Hoover)Motherhood is not smooth for most women, despite the picture-perfect image projected on social media. But, what if your postpartum depression gets so bad that you find yourself lost at sea (metaphorically) without anybody advocating for you?Described as "a long overdue reality check" by Oprah Daily, Sarah Hoover's new book "The Motherload" is a motherhood memoir that dares to ask what happens when “what to expect when you’re expecting” turns out to be months of rage, anguish, brain fog and a total surrender of sex, career, and identity.On this weeks episode of In All...2025-05-2039 minIn All HonestyHow To Talk About Sex and DisabilityMichelle's history with body image and her surgery scars is well-documented; on this episode of In All Honesty, she is lifting the lid on the complex interaction of telling someone new about your scars... the first time you are intimate with them.Reflecting on her journey since her first YouTube video in 2014 on the subject, Michelle shares insights from how she came to terms with her scars and built the confidence to not let them get in the way of her romantic relationships. From University experiences to adult interactions, Michelle shares the moments that gradually led to...2025-05-1332 minIn All HonestyHow To Start Meditating (feat. Anne-Sophie Fluri)Meditation is often misunderstood and misused - but in this episode of In All Honesty, Michelle is joined by a neuroscientist turned meditation expert to debunk the myths and teach us how we can bring meditation into our daily lives.Anne-Sophie has spent the past decade understanding how the brain works and how we can leverage that knowledge to improve focus, resilience, and performance. She has also developed apps that aim to improve our skills across meditation, sleep and mental fitness.On this episode of In All Honesty, Michelle and Anne-Sophie dive into the different...2025-05-0646 minIn All HonestyShould You Stay After They Cheat? (feat. Paul C. Brunson)If your partner cheated on you... would you stay? What are the circumstances that you should consider staying in?On this weeks episode of In All Honesty, Michelle is joined by relationship expert and TV/podcast host Paul C. Brunson to talk all things infidelity!Michelle shares her experience with infidelity and chats to Paul about all of the various traumas and triggers that cheating can get tied into. They discuss the tell-tale signs of a potential cheater and the impacts that cheating can have on both sides of the equation - the perpetrator and...2025-04-2922 minIn All HonestyHow To Stop Revolving Your Life Around MenKeep finding yourself in a circle of wanting independence but finding that your diary is controlled by some woman's son? On this week's episode of In All Honesty, Michelle is introducing the concept of decentering men from your life.From childhood experiences with male caregivers, to patriarchal conditioning, there are many reasons why women tend to prioritise male relationships over others (including, their relationship with themselves). Michelle is giving you all of the tips and tricks for breaking the cycle so you can focus on personal growth, setting boundaries and living without men's validation.Elsewhere...2025-04-2227 minIn All HonestyHow To Win An ArgumentWe are all likely to face conflict in our daily lives - how we deal with it is what matters the most. In this episode of In All Honesty, Michelle is diving into the intricacies of handling conflict.Drawing from personal experience, she emphasises the importance of productive communication, debunking misconceptions about conflict resolution, and Michelle provides practical advice on maintaining calm, avoiding name-calling, and setting clear intentions in confrontations.The episode also covers techniques for addressing past hurts, recognizing and adjusting aggressive behaviour, and employing written communication as a tool for managing sensitive conversations.2025-04-1532 minIn All HonestyHow To Set Goals To Succeed (feat. Shivani Pau)Setting goals is a crucial part of personal development - but how do you set yourself up to achieve your goals? Not all goal setting is made the same!On this week's episode of In All Honesty, Michelle is joined by speaker, coach and the host of the 'A Millennial Mind' podcast, Shivani Pau, to talk all about goal achievement and setting yourself up to win.Michelle and Shivani talk about their journeys into podcasting and personal development, methods for self-therapy and the importance of focusing on your unique strengths. Plus, Shivani talks through her...2025-04-0845 minIn All HonestyAre You In A Situationship? Leave It Now!Whilst Michelle is preparing herself for serious relationships again, she is talking all about why she hates situationships so much!There is a difference between casual relationships and situationships - and one of them often involves more respect and communication than the other. On this week's episode of In All Honesty, Michelle talks about the confusion and manipulation often found in situationships and the need for transparency and self-respect in relationships.She also answers a listeners question around navigating new aspects of their sexuality and setting boundaries whilst dating.Don’t forget to su...2025-04-0131 minIn All HonestyHow To Feel Your FeelingsThis week's episode of In All Honesty is all about the practical steps to help you truly feel your emotions... rather than just thinking about them!Michelle Elman is taking us on a guided tour of how we feel emotion within our bodies. Starting off by delineating the difference between feelings in the body and thoughts in the brain, go on a coached journey with Michelle as she explores breathing exercises and visualisation techniques to help you address pain points.Along the way, Michelle tackles overthinking, how to engage with your feelings without over-analysing them...2025-03-2528 minIn All HonestyWhy Is Friendship In Your 30s So Hard? (feat. Holly Bourne)Does friendship get harder when you're older? And if it does, why? On this week's episode of In All Honesty, Michelle is joined by acclaimed British author Holly Bourne to talk all about adult friendships.Holly is the author of the bestselling novel "Am I Normal Yet?" which was praised for its realistic portrayal of OCD, as well as "How Do You Like Me Now?". She was shortlisted for the 2018 YA Book Prize from The Bookseller. Her latest novel "So Thrilled For You" is out now at all good bookstores.In this episode, Michelle and...2025-03-1848 minIn All HonestyWhat You Need To Know About Female Health (feat. Dr Nighat Arif)We are diving into women's health on this week's episode of In All Honesty, as Michelle is joined by expert Dr Nighat Arif, a GP specialising in women's health and family planning with over 15 years of experience (you might have also seen her on TV on shows such as This Morning!).We're covering everything from the importance of advocating for yourself in the healthcare system (especially as a marginalised individual), the stigmas surrounding women's health and the systemic biases that exist.Dr. Nagat also shares her insights on menstrual pain, UTI and thrush prevention, the...2025-03-1154 minIn All HonestyWhat Is PTSD and How Does It Affect Me?Trigger Warning: This episode discusses trauma and PTSD, with mentions of sexual assault.We're diving into an area we haven't spoken about on In All Honesty yet... This week, Michelle is diving into her personal journey with complex PTSD (C-PTSD), rooted in her extensive medical trauma from 15 surgeries before the age of 19.During the episode, Michelle tells her story of identifying her PTSD and offers both insights and advice for dealing with trauma and the varying perceptions of it. She also has her practical advice for support and has a story around the hard-to-predict ways...2025-03-0434 minIn All HonestyCould You Be In An Open Relationship? (feat. Ruby Rare)When a conversation around monogamy was brought up on a date Michelle recently went on, it opened her mind to whether she could live a non-monogamous or polyamorous lifestyle.On this weeks episode of In All Honesty, Michelle is joined by author, podcaster and award-winning sex and relationships expert Ruby Rare to discuss the nuances of open relationships and polyamory.The conversation spans from the societal views of non-monogamous relationships to confronting jealousy and cheating. Michelle also shares her curiosity and poses questions to Ruby around communicating in these types of relationships, and the self-discovery...2025-02-2547 minIn All HonestyShould You Get Married Before Having a Baby? (feat. Steph Elswood)We often talk about subverting society's traditional (and, oftentimes, patriarchal) rules here on In All Honesty, and this week we're shifting the lens to the societal pressures surrounding marriage, pregnancy and personal milestones. Michelle is joined by sober and plant-based living creator Steph Elswood who has documented her life on social media for many years. But, when she announced her pregnancy recently, she was met with unexpected backlash because she hasn't gotten married to her boyfriend of 7 years first!In this week's episode, Steph shares her journey with pregnancy in the social media age, and...2025-02-1844 minIn All HonestyHow To Love Valentine’s DayIt's our first Valentine's Day as our In All Honesty family... and Michelle is talking about how to make Valentine's Day work for you!After a busy January filled with dating, Michelle has shifted her priorities for February. In this episode, she talks about the highs and lows of dating, handling experiences of rejection and the importance of taking breaks to process emotions. She also emphasises the value of platonic love and shares stories of memorable Valentine's Days filled with friendships and self love.This Valentine's Day - prioritise yourself, and set some time aside...2025-02-1132 minIn All HonestyHow To Break Free From Diet Culture & Live Intuitively (feat. Alice Liveing)Having just escaped the start of the year (and all of its messaging around becoming a better version of you...), on this weeks episode of In All Honesty, Michelle is joined by author, podcaster and personal trainer Alice Liveing for a candid conversation about breaking free from diet culture!Alice has been creating health and fitness content on social media for over a decade, and along the way she has learnt first-hand about how outdated the wellness world can be. She shares many of those tips on this episode, as well as her journey from 'Clean Eating...2025-02-0439 minIn All HonestyAm I Getting Drunk Too Often? (feat. Millie Gooch)Looking to redefine your relationship with alcohol? On this weeks episode of In All Honesty, Michelle Elman is joined by Sober Girl Society founder Millie Gooch to talk all things sobriety and social pressures!After heavily drinking during University and working in nightlife jobs, Millie made the bold decision to go completely sober whilst she was in University. Now, she uses her platforms to help other young people embrace a healthier relationship with alcohol - which doesn't always mean complete sobriety!Michelle and Millie share insights on how to best navigate the societal and cultural...2025-01-2838 minIn All HonestyHow To Embrace Ageing & Learn To Love Your BodyAfter Michelle had her natural forehead lines pointed out to her on social media, it prompted a lot of renewed thoughts around ageing and challenging societal beauty norms. This week's episode of In All Honesty is about exactly that - learning to embrace ageing and love your body!Michelle talks about her feelings around going grey and how it has sparked thoughts around the privilege of ageing. She also responds to a listener message about diet culture and how to love yourself whilst actively working to lose weight.Along the way, we touch on tips...2025-01-2130 minIn All HonestyShould You Tell A Friend When You Hate Their Partner? (feat. Megan Crabbe)It's a tricky situation... Your friend is in a relationship but you can't stand their partner. To say or not to say, that is the question! And on this weeks episode of In All Honesty, Michelle is joined by her bestie Megan Crabbe to explore the when's and how's of breaking the news... or not!Acclaimed author and content creator, Megan Crabbe is the author of Body Positive Power (and you might also catch her featured in Michelle's new book, Bad Friend). Michelle and Megan have been friends through their own challenging relationships, so did they tell...2025-01-1433 minIn All HonestyAnger, Infidelity, Lost Friendships + More (Listener Q&A)It's a new year of In All Honesty and we're kicking it off by answering your listener-submitted voice messages!From a mother's concerned message about her baby's potential surgeries, to a listener tackling her partners prior infidelity head on, as well as rekindling old friendships and learning how to best manage your response to anger - Michelle doesn't just share her advice as a multi-board accredited life coach, she also shares her own lived experience and stories.As with all parts of life, open conversations and prioritising your personal growth triumphs above all......2025-01-0726 minIn All HonestyHow To Set Goals For 2025 The Smart WayThe end of the year can be a good time to set yourself a Yearly Review. We're not saying "New Years Resolutions"... but, inspired by her own life coach, this week on In All Honesty Michelle is looking back on 2024's accomplishments and challenges and setting herself new goals for 2025.Along the way, Michelle is sharing anecdotes about the unique nature of last years goals and she teaches us on how to make smart goals for the year ahead - taking into consideration our own personal evolutions, mindset shifts and realistic habits.Goal setting is...2024-12-3126 minIn All HonestyI’m Spending Christmas Alone!It's the most wonderful time of the year... just not for everybody. Whilst a lot of people find the festive season enjoyable, it can also be an incredibly stressful, traumatic and lonely time for many people around the world - and Michelle Elman is one of those people.On this week's episode of In All Honesty, Michelle talks about her long-standing disdain for Christmas. She explores how she coped with the festivities around her ex... but how, now she is single, she is taking the time to build a Christmas that works for her.From...2024-12-2425 minIn All HonestyWhy Friendship Breakups Hurt (feat. Christina Demosthenous)What does it take to be a good friend? And when does it become time to break-up with a friend who isn't treating you right? That's what Michelle's new book Bad Friend: Why Friendship Breakups Hurt and How to Heal is all about and this week she is joined by her Editor Christina to talk all about it.On this weeks episode of In All Honesty, Michelle and Christina share the story of the friendship which was born out of this book, plus how to balance professional relationships and respecting your own self-worth. Christina and Michelle also...2024-12-1731 minIn All HonestyThe Difference Between Dating In Your 20s vs 30sThere is a lot of fear-mongering around being single in your 30s... so when Michelle found herself newly single at 30 years old, she was shocked to discover that it was actually the opposite. There were so many benefits to dating in your 30s!On this weeks episode of In All Honesty, Michelle talks about the differences between two decades of dating and how her experience has been re-entering the dating world. She also shares practical tips for those who are worried about re-entering the dating world with a past as well as her experiences with men on so...2024-12-1035 minIn All HonestyAre You Burnt Out or Overscheduled?The feeling of burn out has become all too familiar, especially after the pandemic. But, are we actually burnt out... or do we just not know how to balance our schedules properly? That was Michelle's realisation after a recent coaching session, where she realised that there were practical ways to fix how she was feeling.On this weeks episode of In All Honesty, Michelle addresses the importance of integrating rest and play into your schedule (especially for introverts!) and how to create boundaries to prevent burn-out. She also has the signs you need to look out if...2024-12-0326 minIn All HonestyHe Cancelled On Me!Are you right to feel angry and frustrated if your date cancels on you at the last minute? Well, Michelle Elman thinks so... and after experiencing this herself just this week, she's talking all about cancellations and time-wasters on In All Honesty.Michelle tackles the lack of accountability in dating and has practical tips on how to deal with people who aren't serious on dating apps. She also addresses a listener's question about struggling to maintain interest in dating app conversations and provides advice to takeaway.If you're feeling frustrated at the recent antics of...2024-11-2625 minIn All HonestyFacing A Career Crisis? (feat. Hannah Witton)What would you sacrifice to find happiness? On this weeks episode of In All Honesty, Michelle is joined by OG YouTuber and former sex-ed content creator Hannah Witton who quit her YouTube channel with over 800K subscribers in order to find a career path that satisfied her and the life that she wanted.Michelle and Hannah discuss braving a career change and knowing when it's time to pivot. They discuss the challenges and rewards of switching careers, the impact of motherhood on professional decisions and managing the financial and emotional shift that comes with such a huge...2024-11-1943 minIn All HonestyThe Truth About LonelinessWe're going through a loneliness epidemic - in 2022, 49.6% of adults in the UK reported feeling lonely occasionally, sometimes, often or always. But, what do you if you feel like you have no shoulders to cry on or ears to chew off?On this week's episode of In All Honesty, Michelle shares her own feelings of isolation after her break-up, and explores how society often leaves people dependent on romantic relationships. She shares the importance of reaching out to friends, maintaining relationships and how friendship dates can help to heal a wound.Plus Michelle has a...2024-11-1227 minIn All HonestyShould You Share Your Partner Online? (feat. Chiara King)It's one of the most stressful decisions in modern dating: When should you hard launch your partner on social media? On this weeks episode of In All Honesty, Michelle is joined by content creator and podcaster Chiara King. Michelle and Chiara launched both of their boyfriends on social media at different stages of the relationship... and there's a lot to learn from the outcomes!Michelle and Chiara discuss their shared journeys through their break-ups, the dilemmas of 'hard launching' vs. 'soft launching' partners online and the high stakes of maintaining private relationships amidst public scrutiny. They also...2024-11-0526 minIn All HonestyHow To Be Successful On Your Own TermsFinding professional opportunities stressful? Need some advice on which career path to take? On this week’s episode of In All Honesty, Michelle is sharing her tips on being successful, the importance of career values and embracing educational rejection.Michelle speaks on her experience of being rejected from Oxford University and how this led her to where she is today. Michelle is on a mission to help steer you into the right path by prioritising your values first before taking a leap into that new opportunity.Don’t forget to subscribe and don’t miss new ep...2024-10-2930 min
King of Hearts by Chiara KingNavigating Infidelity & Restoring Wellbeing Post Break-Up (feat. Michelle Elman)We have our first repeat guest on King of Hearts! Best-selling author and five-board accredited life coach Michelle Elman first appeared on the podcast in March 2024 to talk about the important of keeping relationships private and respecting your boundaries. Well... a lot of life has happened since then!In April 2024, Michelle revealed that she had called her own engagement off... after finding out that her partner had repeatedly cheated on her. Now, having both gone through big break-ups this year, Michelle and Chiara sit down to reflect on their own journeys of heartbreak and recovery....2024-10-2334 minIn All HonestyInsecure About Photos Of Yourself? Learning To Embrace Your ImageDo you find yourself opting out of photo opportunities? Always offering to be the person taking the photo... rather than being the one in it? On this week's episode of In All Honesty, Michelle is sharing her journey of overcoming body confidence struggles and learning to embrace photos as valuable memories.With practical advice on how to view photos positively (as well as a reality check on how other people see photos of you vs your own self-criticism), Michelle is on a mission to help you embrace spontaneity, learn to love your body... and ultimately, make sure...2024-10-2225 minIn All HonestyWhen Is It Too Soon To Date Again After A Breakup? (feat. Honey Ross)Ready to get back on the dating scene? Or, is it all a bit too soon? On this weeks episode of In All Honesty, Michelle is joined by writer, campaigner and podcast host Reel Talk Honey Ross as they reflect on both leaving long-term relationships at the same time, and where they find themselves in the healing and recovery process.Honey and Michelle leant on each other during their respective break-ups; in this conversation they share how they navigated entering new chapters in their dating lives, emphasising the importance of a supportive network. They also share the...2024-10-1529 minIn All HonestyShould You Text Your Ex? (feat. Sofie Hagen)Texting your ex... a useful healing device or a one-way ticket to the pits of emotional hell? That's the topic of debate on this weeks episode of In All Honesty as Michelle is joined by author, podcaster and comedian Sofie Hagen to explore what happens when we 'give in' to the devil on our shoulder and send that first "Hey, what you up to?".Sofie, whose latest book "Will I Ever Have Sex Again?" is out now, believes in confronting the urge head-on... if you want to text your ex, then do it! Michelle couldn't feel any...2024-10-0829 minIn All HonestyHow To Heal From HeartbreakYou've been through the biggest break-up of your life... where do you go from here? On this week's episode of In All Honesty, Michelle is sharing the details of her post-break-up healing process including the techniques she has used to deal with the intense emotions that come with heartbreak.From the practical methods for emotional release (including somatic processing) to the importance of setting boundaries with friends, how to identify grief and knowing the places to reach out for support, Michelle is opening up her tool-kit for recovery.Don't forget to subscribe and don't miss...2024-10-0123 minIn All HonestyDating Apps, Catfishes & Love Is Blind UK (feat. Tom Stroud)It's the first guest episode of the new era of In All Honesty - and we're joined by the man who divided the nation: Love Is Blind UK's Tom Stroud.Tom split the internet on the Netflix reality show over a debate about splitting the bill on the first date, but now he's sharing the details of his life after the dating show including his experiences using dating apps. Michelle and Tom explore the pros and cons of the apps and along the way we hear an unbelievable story about catfishing and come face-to-face with the pressures...2024-09-2430 minIn All HonestyI Got Engaged... And Then Broke Up Within 24 HoursIt's the first episode of this brand new era for In All Honesty... and Michelle is getting more honest than ever before and revealing the truth behind the headlines about her post-engagement break-up.She's opening up her diary and spilling it all: from the proposal all the way to the Instagram DM that changed her life. Michelle tells the true story of wedding bells to nightmare as she discovers her partner had cheated on her and how she navigated the days, weeks and months since.Don't forget to subscribe and don't miss new episodes every...2024-09-1725 minKing of Hearts by Chiara KingMichelle Elman on Offline Relationships & Being A Selfish RomanticBest-selling author and five-board accredited life coach Michelle Elman joins Chiara King this week on King of Hearts. Michelle is known as the "Queen of Boundaries" and she's cutting through it all this week to deliver some no-nonsense insight and advice.Chiara and Michelle cover everything from the importance of keeping relationships private and offline, how to handle a long-distance relationship and the myth of having a "dateable" look.Don't forget to subscribe and keep in the loop every Wednesday!Thank you to our sponsors...Factor’s delicious, re...2024-03-2043 min
In All HonestyHow To Break The Habit of CriticismDo you criticise others a lot?Do you find it difficult to have intimacy?Do you tend to see the bad before the good?Then this episode is for you.In this episode, Michelle talks about why criticism is so destructive for your personal relationships and why it breaks both trust and intimacy. She discusses why criticism is a habit and share with you how to break that habit. She talks you through how to focus on the bigger picture in order to ignore unnecessary conflict and shows you how to...2022-12-1416 minIn All HonestyHow To Change Your Mood In A MinuteDo you get nervous before a job interview?Would you love to be more confident public speaking?Do you wish you had more control over your mood?Then this episode is for you.In this episode, Michelle shares her top secret way she prepares for public speaking, live TV interviews and any big work moments. It's a technique which can calm your nerves and boost your confidence and minutes and she takes you through it step by step. Alongside the impact it has had before big work moments, she also uses...2022-12-0717 minIn All HonestyListen To This If You Have A TemperDo you have a big temper?Do you find it difficult to stay calm in conflict?Do you get heated really quickly?Then this episode is for you.In this episode, Michelle shares three quick tips that you can use in the moment when you lose your temper. She talks about how our relationship with anger is warped and the way we discuss it in society isn't helpful. She discusses how you can give yourself permission to feel angry and how you can slow down so you can choose your reaction.2022-11-3011 minIn All HonestyThe Best Work Boundary I Have HeardDo you find it hard to let yourself rest?Do you struggle to stop working?Are you guilty of doing one small task on your day off?Then this episode is for you.In this episode, Michelle shares a workplace boundary that her friend told her about and why it's such a brilliant company policy. She shares with you her policy on 100% work and 100% rest and how watching 6 hours of TV allowed her to have the most productive day she's had in a while. She talks about how different methods of...2022-11-2315 minIn All HonestyThe Phrase I Hate Most In The WorldDo you feel forced to be more positive?Do you feel pressure to make meaning out of trauma?Do you find it hard to see the good?Then this episode is for you.In this episode, Michelle talks about the phrase she hates most in the world and how it's laced with toxic positivity. She discusses how toxic positivity doesn't help use especially in the context of trauma and shares the phrase that she hates most and why it's unhelpful to say to people going through a tough time. She shares...2022-11-1615 minIn All HonestyOne Question To Gain Confidence and Combat FearDo you find it hard to do something new?Do you worry about asking for favours?Do you want to feel more confident in work?Then this episode is for you.In this episode, Michelle shares with you one question she used to help her do the scariest part of being an author. She talks you through how embodying someone else can be a really useful tool and discusses how other people can help drive that motivation. She shows you how you can use comparison to your benefit and shares the...2022-11-0916 minIn All HonestyWhy You Should Let Yourself GoDo you worry about what you look like?Have you been told you've let yourself go?Do you feel sad for no reason?Then this episode is for you.In this episode, Michelle talks about what 'letting yourself go really means'. She talks about how your external appearance can reflect how you are feeling internally and how that can actually liberate you. She discusses what to do when you feel sad for no reason and how to sink into that feeling and stop worrying about how you are perceived by others...2022-11-0216 minIn All HonestyGym Intimidation Is So Unnecessary!Do you get too intimidated to go to the gym?Do you worry people are judging you when exercising?Do you struggle to know how gym machines work?Then this episode is for you.In this episode, Michelle talks about an experience in the gym where someone laughed at her while she was trying to figure out how the machine works. She discusses how gym intimidation leads to people not entering the gym for the first time and she shows you how she fueled it into her workout and how you...2022-10-2615 minIn All HonestyStop Making Fast Friendships!Do you make friendships really quicky?Do you find they rarely last?Do you want to know how to make friendships more sustainably?Then this episode is for you.In this episode, Michelle talks about how fast friendships are a recipe for disaster and why intensity plays a key role. She talks about how to build relationships more sustainably and shares Brené Brown's theory about the marble jar. She discusses why you might feel a need to overshare and where the desire to form friendships quickly stems from and why it's n...2022-10-1914 minIn All HonestyHappiness Is Not A GoalDo you want to feel happier in life?Do you worry that others have a happier life than you do?Do you feel guilty if you don't feel grateful?Then this episode is for you.In this episode, Michelle talks about happiness and why believing we deserve to be happy can have a downside. She talks about how the pressure to be happy can actually mean you ignore other emotions and why we need to allow ourselves access to all emotions. She discusses how toxic positivity can have a negative impact...2022-10-1215 minIn All HonestyStop Testing Your Relationships!Do you stop texting your friends to see if they will notice?Do you have difficulty asking your partner for what you need directly?Do you often think 'the grass is greener' when in a relationship?Then this episode is for you.In this episode, Michelle talks about why testing your relationships doesn't work. She talks about how shows like Love Island and The Ultimatum are not good demonstrations of commitment and that it is not indicative of the real world in terms of loyalty and fidelity. She discusses how running...2022-10-0514 minIn All HonestyWhen You Need To Mind Your Own BusinessDo you think your friends are making the wrong decision?Do you find it hard to keep your opinions to yourself?Do you want to know how to set boundaries around repeating the same conversation?Then this episode is for you.In this episode, Michelle talks about how we need to let the people in our lives make their own mistakes. She talks about how repeating your opinion over and over again is bad boundaries and shows you a better approach so that you can support the people in your life...2022-09-2815 minIn All HonestyWhat's The Difference Between A Boundary And An Ultimatum?Do you believe setting a boundary is a threat?Do you give ultimatums when you don't get your way?Do you struggle to compromise?Then this episode is for you.In this episode, Michelle talks about ultimatums and what the difference is between giving an ultimatum and setting a boundary. Michelle talks about how compromises often leave both parties unsatisfied and gives you a better option. She also discusses how you can get your needs met by looking under the surface level need.For more information, follow Michelle at...2022-09-2110 minIn All HonestyHow To Know If You Need Too Much External ValidationDo you rely on external validation a lot?Do you need compliments to feel secure?Do you think you are needy to ask for reassurance?Then this episode is for you.In this episode, Michelle talks about how external validation and internal validation affect us. She discusses how you can do both and why external validation isn't a bad thing. She talks you through her personal experiences of learning how to build internal validation and why external validation isn't as reliable.For more information, follow Michelle at @MichelleLElman on...2022-09-1411 minIn All HonestyWhy You Need Boredom In Your LifeDo you get bored easily?Do you take your boredom as a sign that you are dissatisfied with life?Do you struggle to finish what you've started?Then this episode is for you.In this episode, Michelle talks about how boredom creates room for creativity and why it's necessary in order to be successful in life, relationships and your goals. She discusses how boredom is an emotion and if you aren't able to utilise it, you will be tempted to leave a good thing. She talks through personal experiences and why...2022-09-0711 minIn All HonestyAre You A High or Low Reactor?Do you feel disappointed when someone does react the way you want?Do you find yourself getting annoyed at people for things you used to love in them?Do you assume people don't care about you?Then this episode is for you.In this episode, Michelle talks about how your reactions aren't always a good indicator of what you are feeling inside. She discusses the differences in how people express themselves and why it's important to understand this difference to not take it personally. She talks through personal experiences and why...2022-01-2017 minIn All HonestyYou Do Not Need Your Parents' ApprovalDo you still worry about letitng down your parents?Do you find it hard to make decisions without other people's inputDo you struggle to see your own opinion as important?Then this episode is for you.In this episode, Michelle talks about waiting for your parents' approval will limit you and how it can impact your life if you aren't conscious of the fact that you are still searching for it. She discusses the importance of trying to not change people and gives tips on how to place your own...2022-01-1815 minIn All HonestyGet A Hobby You Are Rubbish AtAre you a perfectionist?Do you worry about looking silly?Do you feel guilty if you aren't being productiveThen this episode is for you.In this episode, Michelle makes a case for why you need a hobby you are bad at and why it changed her life in so many ways. She talks about the different hobbies she has found and why being intentional about not improving your skill or trying to progress in any way is the key to it. She discusses how it changes your mentality around productivity...2022-01-1319 minIn All HonestyHow To Be Fearless + Why That Shouldn't Be The GoalDo you wish you were more fearless?Do you find yourself declining opportunities because you are scared?Would you like to know the secret to managing fear?Then this episode is for you.In this episode, Michelle talks about how there is a myth around fearlessness that doesn't serve us and creates an unrealistic goal. She talks about how she overcomes fear herself and the tools and mentalities she used in order to do scary things like her TedX talk. She discusses how she has natvigated fear in her own career...2022-01-1120 minIn All HonestyListen To This On Your Worst DaysDo you have days where you struggle to get out of bed?Does your self-care go out the window when you have bad mental health?Do you need a way to simplify looking after your basic needs?Then this episode is for you.In this episode, Michelle talks about how Honey Ross introduced to a really basic way to look after your self-care when life gets hard and how taking a tip from The Sims helped her cope in the pandemic. She talks about how Sims in the perfect example of...2022-01-0617 minIn All HonestyTop Writing Tips From An AuthorDo you think you are a bad writer?Would you like to be an author someday?Are you curious about how you get a book deal?Then this episode is for you.In this episode, Michelle talks about how she got book deals for Am I Ugly? and The Joy of Being Selfish and how the writing process differs when you submit a book on proposal vs. a full manuscript. She talks about what she does when she feels she is creatively stuck and how she prevents writer's block and how...2022-01-0431 minIn All HonestyYou Are Allowed To Be Asleep By MidnightDo you want an alternative to New Years resolutions?Do you dread staying up for NYE?Do you want to know how to make the most of 2022Then this episode is for you.In this episode, Michelle talks about what she does at the end of every year to take all the lessons and learning from this year into the next. She shares why yearly reviews have become a lovely ritual for her and why she places less importance on being awake at midnight and that the mentality that how you...2021-12-3014 minIn All HonestyStop Judging Your Year As Good Or BadDo you believe there are good or bad people?Do you think you aren't judgemental?Have you been saying this is a bad year?Then this episode is for you.In this episode, Michelle talks about how the labels 'good' and 'bad' could be negatively impacting your perceptions. She discusses how these are judgements and why we have a system in our brain that will prevent us from seeing the whole picture. She gives you a quick exercise to broaden your awareness and shows how these snap decisions start in childhood.2021-12-2814 minIn All HonestyYou Are Allowed To Hate ChristmasDo you dread Christmas?Do you compare your family to others?Does your Christmas meal always end in a fight?Then this episode is for you.In this episode, Michelle reassures you that you aren't alone if Christmas isn't your thing and the holiday period is tough for you to get through. She talks about how you can make this weekend a more peaceful time of the year and shows you ways to redefine this time of year to make it work for you.For more information, follow Michelle...2021-12-2315 minIn All Honesty7 Beliefs That Helped Me In My Lowest LowsAre you currently going through a rough time?Have you ever wondered if you will ever stop crying?Are you finding it really hard to keep the faith that life will get better?Then this episode is for you.In this episode, Michelle shares the beliefs and mindsets she uses in her own life when life is throwing you hurdles one after another and you don't know how you are going to survive it. She talks about how these mentalities are things she accumulated over years in life coaching herself and...2021-12-2119 minIn All HonestyBody Positive Movement + How To Love Exercise Without Hating Your BodyDo you want to exercise without hating your body?Is it hard to understand how someone can actually love exercise?Can body positivity and fitness co-exist?Then this episode is for you.In this episode, Michelle talks about how she went from hating movement to loving exercise. She gives you practical tips to change your relationship with exercise from one of punishment, compensating calories and self-hatred to moving from a place of fun and genuine enjoyment. She talks about her pivotal mindset shift as well as the things she had to...2021-12-1634 minIn All Honesty3 Ways You Might Be Breaking IntimacyDo you struggle to build intimacy?Is it hard for you to show appreciation?Have you found that you feel less connected to the people in your life?Then this episode is for you.In this episode, Michelle shares the three things that she is unlearning in her own life that leads to intimacy and connection being broken in all relationship. She discusses how people in your life can either be positive motivation to repeat similar behaviours or negative motivation to choose something different and shares three specific ways you can...2021-12-1420 minIn All HonestyWhat Body Confidence Really Looks LikeDo you wish you were body confidence?Do you think body positivity means being positive about your body?Do you think body neutrality is a more realistic goal?Then this episode is for you.In this episode, Michelle talks about the difference between body confidence and body positivity and why labels can often confuse your own body image. She discusses how she is often held up as the 'end result' of body positivity and why this is flawed in so many ways. She talks about what the goal of body confidence...2021-12-0928 minIn All HonestyWhat I Learnt From A Funeral + Telling People How Much You Care When They Are Still AliveIs telling people how you feel about them a scary prospect?Do you struggle to know how to compliment people?Would you like the people in your life to feel more appreciated?Then this episode is for you.In this episode, Michelle talks about how a funeral made her evaluate whether she'd told the people she cares that she loves them. She talks about how to give a compliment and why specific compliments have a different impact. She shares her two ethos in life around telling people about the parts of...2021-12-0718 minIn All HonestyCriticism Is Not Love + Healing Childhood ShameDid you hear the phrase 'I'm only telling you for your own good' as a child?Were you told 'if I can't tell you, who will'?Do you find it hard to make mistakes without shaming yourself?Then this episode is for you.In this episode, Michelle talks about criticism and how it affects your self-esteem. She talks about why when a parent specifically criticises us, we are unable to separate it from our behaviour and see it as our behaviour. Michelle also talks about how being constantly criticised will affect...2021-12-0218 minIn All HonestyWhat Procrastination Really Means + Why Quitting Is Part Of SuccessAre you a big procrastinator?Do you just believe you are lazy?Were you taught that never quitting was the key to success?Then this episode is for you.In this episode, Michelle explains why the podcast is undergoing a little bit of a change and adapting to a more casual approach. She talks about how procrastination is a word often used to distract from the real problem and the four actual reasons someone might procrastinate. She talks about how to get out of creative slump and why quitting is an...2021-11-3024 minIn All HonestyApologies: Why do I not believe people when they apologize?Why do I not believe people when they apologize?How do I forgive myself and know I won't do it again?Should I continue to persist when someone doesn't accept your apology?How do I ask for an apology for something that happened ages ago?In this episode, Michelle answers questions on apologies and explains what a good apology involves. She discusses apology languages and why she doesn't completely agree with this model but how it is helpful to construct your own apologies. She talks about the phrase "if they were...2021-07-0743 minIn All HonestyRed Flags: Is it a red flag if they never ask about me?Is it a red flag if they never ask about me?What are the warning signs for emotional unavailability?Are there any clues that someone is going to ghost?In this episode, Michelle answers questions on red flags and defines what a red flag is. She explains the actual meaning of red flags and why this word should not be used to describe everything. She discusses how the idea of foreseeing every red flag is flawed and why we need to have a balance of being aware of red flags and not being...2021-06-3053 minIn All HonestyBreakups: How do I know I made the right decision?Can you still stay friends if one person likes the other and it's not reciprocated?Should you end it if they don't want kids and you do?How do you know your breakup was the right decision?In this episode, Michelle answers questions on breakups and discusses the importance of making sure breakups are clean breaks. She talks about whether you actually should stay friends after a break-up and why it really doesn't matter who breaks up with who. She discusses why breakups should be a discussion and not a finite conversation and...2021-06-2339 minIn All HonestyFamily: If I cut them out, will I regret it when they die?If I cut family out, will I regret it when they die?What can you do when family treat me like I'm stupid?Is it OK to set boundaries over emails and text?In this episode, Michelle answers questions on family relationships and discusses how we should hold the same standards of treatment in our familal relationships than any other relationship in our life. She talks about how the media has perpetuated this idea of "perfect families" and how Christmas enhances this idea. She shows how to set boundaries within family relationship and...2021-06-1643 minIn All HonestySex: How Do You Have The Consent Conversation Without Turning Them Off?How do you have a consent conversation without turning them off?What do you do when penetration just doesn't work?Can you have a casual relationship without moving too quickly?In this episode, Michelle answers questions on sex and discusses how we focus too much on the penis and penetration in sex. She talks about how we need to prioritise female pleasure more and why the consent conversation is simply boundary setting. She talks about why so many women find penetration uncomfortable and why the normalisation of sex hurting for women stems from...2021-06-0942 minIn All HonestyLife Changes: What If I Can't Cope With The Responsibility?When you change a lot, is it normal to want to change your friends?How do you stop worrying about future responsibility coming into your life?And what do you do when you aren't sure who you are anymore?In this episode, Michelle answers questions on life changes and asks that we notice the distinction between the adjustment process vs a settled change. She talks about how changes in your life may result in unexpected changes in the relationships and dynamics with the people in your life. She talks about the changes we...2021-06-0243 minIn All HonestyInfidelity: Once A Cheater, Always A Cheater?How do you trust a new partner when the last one cheated on you?Is it true that "once a cheater, always a cheater"?And how do you end it with someone if the trust is broken for good.In this episode, Michelle answers questions on infidelity and talks about why what constitutes as cheating will change for every person. She talks about how cheating and infidelity relates to boundaries and whether people really can change. She talks about the lasting impact cheating can have on a relationship and why staying in a...2021-05-2637 minIn All HonestySelf Worth: How Do I Stop Self Sabotaging Myself?What do you do when you feel like you can never do enough personal development?How do you stop self-sabotaging your own success?And what do you do if you feel like an imposter when you are confident?In this episode, Michelle answers questions on self worth, what it is and how to build your own. She talks about how a lot of the self worth conversation is very lofty and why people need practical advice in order to actually create the changes in their life. She talks about imposter syndrome is an...2021-05-1941 minIn All HonestyPerfectionism: How Do I Address My Fear Of Failure?In this episode, Michelle answers questions on what to do if you feel like your friends expect you to be perfect, how do you handle someone else's perfectionism affecting you in group projects and how to heal how fear of failure so it doesn't affect your life anymore. She talks about how she believes perfectionism is used as a protection from the ego and how the term 'perfectionist' is used to push others down and feel better about yourself. She discusses how a number of things are hiding behind the term 'perfectionism' and gives you her evidence and proof...2021-05-1241 minIn All HonestySingle Life: Am I Happy Single Or Too Scared To Date?In this episode, Michelle answers questions on how to handle jealousy at other people happy in love, whether people actually do change their mind about wanting a marriage and kids and when being single is just a disguise for not wanting to make yourself vulnerable to date. She talks about why she had a period of being consciously single and how that benefitted her life and why if you wouldn't date yourself, you still have things to work on before you are ready for a relationship. She gives you tips on how to be happy single and talks about...2021-05-0542 minIn All HonestySlowing Down: How Can I Rest Without Feeling Guilty?In this episode, Michelle answers questions on how to cope in a pandemic when we have so much time on our hands, what to do if you find yourself stressing about using your free time productively and how to stop feeling the constant need to be busy. She talks about how we as a society have glorified being busy for so long and why that has resulted in the pandemic being such a shock to so many people. She gives you tips on how to learn to rest without guilt and talks about how an absence of rest often...2021-04-2836 minIn All HonestyBody Positivity: How Do I Love My Body When It Is Stopping Me From My Life?In this episode, Michelle answers questions on how to love your body when it is in so much pain, how do you adjust when your body is stopping you from living your dream life and whether it is worth it to lose weight for insurance to cover your surgery. She goes into the difference between body positivity and body confidence and discusses how to love your body through chronic illness. She gives you tips on how to be more vocal within the body positive movement and why it's important to make your version of body positivity intersectional. She also...2021-04-2143 minIn All HonestyCutting People Out: What Do I Do If They Act Differently Around Other People?In this episode, Michelle answers questions on how to cut someone out, what to do if this person treats you differently to your other friend and whether you are allowed to cut someone out for giving you the silent treatment. She goes into how to handle it when people don't believe you and where to draw the line if someone is making up lies about you. She gives you tips on how to have that final conversation and what happens when there are mutual relationships and how when they get involved it results in triangulation. She also discusses a...2021-04-1436 minIn All HonestyGrief: How Do I Stop The Regrets?In this episode, Michelle answers questions on how you grieve someone who is still alive, whether feelings of grief for an old therapist confuses feelings for a new therapist and what do you do if you wish you had spent more time together. She gives you tips on how to process grief and whether it's possible to move on from grief or whether moving on "with" grief is healthier and explains that grief is an emotion that can arise around any loss and not just bereavement. She also discusses a scene in Breaking Bad in processing feelings around anticipatory...2021-04-0739 minIn All HonestyBONUS: Pick-Up Artists And Men Who Hate WomenIn this special bonus episode, Michelle discusses how she found out about pick-up artists, why that relates to her training as a life coach and how neuro-linguistic programming are related to both. She goes back through her life and recalls moments that she now recognises as pick-up artist techniques and how the book "Men Who Hate Women" has opened up an important conversation that needs to be had. The increased awareness around this secret community is essential for changes to take place and be able to recognise when it is happening in your own life so she shares a...2021-01-1336 minIn All HonestyRomantic Relationships: What Do I Do If My Husband Won't Talk About Kids?In this episode, Michelle answers questions on what to do if you want kids but your partner gets angry everytime you bring the conversation up, whether it's acceptable to be jealous of your partner's friend and if money is a legitimate reason to end a relationship. She gives you tips on how to have productive arguments within a relationship and talks about how romantic relationships often brings up our shadow self and uses an example from her own life to demonstrate how we can use it as an opportunity to heal and grow. She also discusses a scene in...2020-12-1632 minIn All HonestyLoneliness: How Do I Help My Partner Feel Less Alone When I am Gone?In this episode, Michelle answers questions on how to manage the fear of making new friends, what to do if your partner feels lonely every time you leave and what to do if you already feel lonely and your friends keep cancelling. She gives you tips on how to process loneliness and heal from it as a childhood wound and explains the difference between alone and lonely. She also discusses a scene in Dawson's Creek and how to honour someone's vulnerability when they reveal something they are embarrassed about.For more information, follow Michelle on Instagram, TikTok...2020-12-0932 minIn All HonestyGhosting: Why Do I Take Ghosting So Personally?In this episode, Michelle answers questions on what to do when a friend ghosts you, how you stop ghosting from affecting your self esteem and what to do when ghosting makes you doubt that the relationship even happened. She gives you tips on how to heal from the rejection and hurt that ghosting can cause and talks about how we need to take control of the parts we can control and why ghosting is the biggest turn off. She also discusses a scene in Emily In Paris when she tells her boyfriend she is moving to Paris and how...2020-12-0237 minIn All HonestyCareer: How Do I Tell My Boss To Stop Calling Out Of Hours?In this episode, Michelle answers questions on how to find your first job after graduation, what to do if your health affects your ability to work your dream job and how do you set boundaries with a boss who doesn't understand you are off the clock when you leave the office. She gives you tips on how to write a CV with a difference and talks about how the pressure for your first job to be the right job is too high and how to change your mentality around starting from the bottom in middle-age.For more...2020-11-2535 minIn All HonestyEmotions: What Do You Do If You Can't Feel Your Emotions?In this episode, Michelle answers questions on what to do if you can't feel your emotions, how do your resolve childhood memories if you can't remember what happened and how do you stop crying when everything is going wrong. She gives you tips on how to process emotions and she shares why the way society talks about emotions is wrong and why we need to change the stereotype that emotions mean weakness.For more information, follow Michelle on Instagram, TikTok and Twitter @MichelleLElmanSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice...2020-11-1838 minIn All HonestyFriendships: What To Do When My Friend Stops Confiding in Me?In this episode, Michelle answers questions on what to do when your friend stops sharing information with you, whether men and women can be just friends and how to have a conversation with a friend about your relationship if they want space. She gives you tips on how to find new friends (even in the middle of a pandemic!) and she shares how as a society we should be talking about the significance of a friend breakup, as often as we talk about romantic relationships ending.For more information, follow Michelle on Instagram, TikTok and Twitter @MichelleLElman2020-11-1145 minIn All HonestyUncertainty: How Do I Feel More In Control?In this episode, Michelle answers questions on what to do when it feels like your whole life has stagnated, how do you feel more in control when everything in the world is uncertain and how can you help yourself if you feel uncertain because you are stuck with no options. She gives you tips on how to ride the wave of uncertainty and how to create certainty in uncertain moments. She also shares how her certainty in her writing career gave her the boldness to email Ariana Huffington herself!For more information, follow Michelle on Instagram, TikTok...2020-11-0434 minIn All HonestyBoundaries: Can I Set Boundaries If They Have Bad Mental Health?In this episode, Michelle has a special announcement to help you navigate boundaries! She answers questions on how to manage guilt around setting boundaries, what to do when the person you are setting boundaries with has bad mental health and how to respect someone else's boundaries when your boundaries aren't being respected. She gives you tips on how to set boundaries and shares how to open the conversation of boundaries in a calm way and the language you can use to set your own boundaries.For more information, follow Michelle on Instagram, TikTok and Twitter @MichelleLElman2020-10-2837 minIn All HonestyDating: Why Do I Need External Validation From Men?In this episode, Michelle answers questions on what to do when you are losing hope in the dating game, how to stop relying on the external validation of men and whether it's a good idea to specify if you only want a guy who needs a car. She gives you tips on how to change your dating app profiles and shares the importance of putting full body pictures, and how it can go wrong if you aren't honest on your dating apps.For more information, follow Michelle on Instagram, TikTok and Twitter @MichelleLElmanSee Privacy...2020-10-2137 minIn All HonestyFatphobia: How Do I Help Others Understand?In this episode, Michelle answers questions on why we are so focused on a baby's weight, how to educate others on fatphobia when they don't want to listen and how to change fatphobic language. She gives you tips on how to address your own internalised fatphobia, shares important statistics on fatphobia and recommends books to help you educate yourself.For more information, follow Michelle on Instagram, TikTok and Twitter @MichelleLElmanSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.2020-10-1433 minIn All HonestyAnger: Why Do I Feel Guilty When I'm Angry?In this episode, Michelle answers questions on why anger is such a stigmatised emotion, how you can express anger without hurting others and why anger is the only negative emotion that creates energy. She gives you tips on how to processed unresolved anger, explains why negative emotions are not negative, and makes an important distinction between rage and anger, as well as anger and aggression.For more information, follow Michelle on Instagram, TikTok and Twitter @MichelleLElmanSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.2020-10-0739 minIn All HonestyLong Distance Relationships: Is it Mean To Say You Don't Want The Distance?In this episode, Michelle answers questions on whether long distance relationships can work, can you start a new relationship with distance and is it a good idea to move across the country for a partner. She gives you tips on how to make distance work, how long distance is sometimes used as an excuse and talks about the practical issues that arise when you don't live in the same area as your partner.For more information, follow Michelle on Instagram, TikTok and Twitter @MichelleLElmanSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy...2020-09-3035 minIn All HonestyAnxiety: Why Do We Get More Anxious At Night?In this episode, Michelle answers questions on how to manage anxiety in big life events, can we all get anxiety and why do anxious thoughts increase at night time. She explains the relationship between fear and anxiety, why you can't experience in the present and some quick tips to help in the middle of an anxiety attack.For more information, follow Michelle on Instagram, TikTok and Twitter @MichelleLElmanSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.2020-09-2336 minIn All HonestyWelcome To In All HonestyMichelle Elman introduces her brand new podcast and gives you a little taste of what's to come. In All Honesty is the podcast where you can get the honest answers you didn't know you needed.To join in on a future episode, email Michelle your question at inallhonesty@mindsetforlife.co.ukFor more information, follow Michelle on Instagram, TikTok and Twitter @MichelleLElmanSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.2020-09-1103 min