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Peace and Parenting: How to Parent without PunishmentsPeace and Parenting: How to Parent without PunishmentsCase Study: Rethinking Discipline and Natural ConsequencesAre you finding it difficult to stay calm in tense situations? Just picture navigating through parenthood without using punishments or rewards, focusing solely on establishing a strong connection. I'm Michelle Kenney, and today, I'm excited to be joined by the insightful and authentic Destini Ann, who is a certified parenting coach, author, and TEDx Speaker.Destini and I explore the importance and challenges of self-regulation. We discuss how this approach may not yield immediate results and address misconceptions about natural versus logical consequences. We also highlight the significance of proactive parenting. Destini's insights emphasize...2024-07-0230 minPeace and Parenting: How to Parent without PunishmentsPeace and Parenting: How to Parent without PunishmentsPeace and Parenting TrailerHey fellow parents, I’m Michelle Kenney, a former yeller, recovering perfectionist, and a reformed control freak. For the last 20 years, I have been helping parents find more calm and peace at home. I do this by helping them move away from yelling, threats, and bribes and into more connection with their kids.Every Tuesday & Thursday I release a new episode with practical tools, and evidence-based research to help parents navigate conflict, set boundaries and foster positive family dynamics. Find an episode topic that speaks to you and check it out, I would love to help you fi...2023-04-2000 minPeace and Parenting: How to Parent without PunishmentsPeace and Parenting: How to Parent without PunishmentsConnection Is About the Quality of Time Not the QuantityIf you were born in the ’80s or ‘90’s you were more than likely raised using shame and threats and punishments. This is no fault of our parents they were doing what they thought was right but this model doesn’t foster a great parent-child relationship. Coming in with empathy and understanding when our kids make mistakes infuses more connection into the relationship. And guess what, it’s not about the amount of time we spend with our child that builds a deep, meaningful, rich relationship it’s about the quality of time.I am rolling o...2023-03-0912 minPeace and Parenting: How to Parent without PunishmentsPeace and Parenting: How to Parent without PunishmentsHow I Use Tantrums to ConnectToday I want to give you some ways to use those moments when your child is having a tantrum or big feelings as a way to connect with them. If we can use these moments well by giving them space and showing them self-regulation. It will teach them so much and do wonders for your relationship in the years to come.Understanding Big Emotions CourseI am rolling out a new parenting mastermind this spring to help parents like you experience more connection, more love, and less frustration with the children they...2023-03-0714 minPeace and Parenting: How to Parent without PunishmentsPeace and Parenting: How to Parent without PunishmentsConnection Is Better Than CorrectionMany of us grew up with our parents teaching us lessons through correction, we would make a mistake or do something wrong and our parents would come in with phrases like ”You shouldn’t have done that” or “That was wrong”. In this episode, I'll show you how you come in with connection instead and why this goes further towards building relationship with our kids.I am rolling out a new parenting mastermind this spring to help parents like you experience more connection, more love, and less frustration with the children they love. There are a limite...2023-03-0213 minPeace and Parenting: How to Parent without PunishmentsPeace and Parenting: How to Parent without PunishmentsWhy We Shouldn’t Say “You Hurt My Feelings” to Our KidsI recently made a post on Instagram where I told parents they should not say to their kids “You hurt my feelings” whenever they say something mean or unkind. This post garnered a lot of comments so I thought I would unpack it further in today’s episode. The parent-child relationship differs from our other relationships, we have to give our kids space to have big feelings and say things without shaming them and making it about us and how we feel.Working with individuals and couples is my most favorite work. We dive deeply...2023-02-2823 minPeace and Parenting: How to Parent without PunishmentsPeace and Parenting: How to Parent without PunishmentsCan Connective Parenting Be ManipulativeI have had parents suggest that connective parenting can be construed as distracting or manipulative, I think there are times when this could be true, so today I want to share with you how you can avoid this and make coming in with connection and play a way to better the relationship before trying to better the behavior.   Working with individuals and couples is my most favorite work. We dive deeply into the ideas of connection and unravel the struggles of each individual family I work with. It’s a transformational paradigm shift each and eve...2023-02-2313 minPeace and Parenting: How to Parent without PunishmentsPeace and Parenting: How to Parent without PunishmentsHow to Reduce Sibling RivalryAs parents, we often think that we need to step in between sibling arguments and rescue the child who is the victim of this aggressive behavior from their sibling, Today on the show I want to talk about using connection and empathy instead of shame and how this shift in how I handled these situations with my kids eventually helped them to think more clearly and even work things out without me.   Check out my Siblings, not Rivals course here... https://courses.peaceandparentingla.com/workshop   Working with individuals and co...2023-02-2116 minPeace and Parenting: How to Parent without PunishmentsPeace and Parenting: How to Parent without PunishmentsParenting Is an Endeavor in Changing Our Behavior Not Our KidsWe might think that it’s our role as parents to modify and correct the behavior of our kids, and we often do that by using rewards and punishments. But this is an archaic principle developed from lab tests with rats. Today Michelle talks about how being a parent is more about relationship management, and changing our own behavior and self-regulation is the key to influencing our kid's behavior.   Working with individuals and couples is my most favorite work. We dive deeply into the ideas of connection and unravel the struggles of each individual family I w...2023-02-1616 minPeace and Parenting: How to Parent without PunishmentsPeace and Parenting: How to Parent without PunishmentsHow Special Time Builds Connection With Your ChildIf you’ve been listening to Peace and Parenting for a while you’ll have heard Michelle talk about “Special Time”. Today she unpacks the benefit it has for both your kids and you, and some of the rules and pitfalls around creating these special moments of connection with your kids. And if you have teens there are some great tips in here for how to do this with those more reluctant ages.   Working with individuals and couples is my most favorite work. We dive deeply into the ideas of connection and unravel the struggles of each i...2023-02-1422 minPeace and Parenting: How to Parent without PunishmentsPeace and Parenting: How to Parent without PunishmentsWhen Our Kids Make MistakesAs parents, we naturally resort to correction, yelling, punishments, and even shame when our kids make mistakes. But these actions often convey that our love for them depends on their behavior. Listen in today as Michelle helps you understand how to show your kids unconditional love when moments get tough.   Working with individuals and couples is my most favorite work. We dive deeply into the ideas of connection and unravel the struggles of each individual family I work with. It’s a transformational paradigm shift each and every time. I have seen families undergo huge cha...2023-02-0916 minPeace and Parenting: How to Parent without PunishmentsPeace and Parenting: How to Parent without PunishmentsMichelle’s Story and the Birth of Peace and ParentingMichelle shares the story behind Peace And Parenting and how a moment in the family pool lead to her discovering connected parenting. She threw away the star charts, rewards, and punishments and began connecting with her kids and it changed her life and the relationship she has with her kids.   Working with individuals and couples is my most favorite work. We dive deeply into the ideas of connection and unravel the struggles of each individual family I work with. It’s a transformational paradigm shift each and every time. I have seen families undergo huge cha...2023-02-0727 minPeace and Parenting: How to Parent without PunishmentsPeace and Parenting: How to Parent without PunishmentsUsing Special Time and Roughhousing to Prevent Sibling RivalryHaving trouble with your kids fighting during playtime? In today’s episode, Michelle answers questions from one of her followers and gives us all tips for dealing with that one child who has gone offline and how she uses special time and roughhousing to get them back online again.   Working with individuals and couples is my most favorite work. We dive deeply into the ideas of connection and unravel the struggles of each individual family I work with. It’s a transformational paradigm shift each and every time. I have seen families undergo huge changes that...2023-02-0225 minPeace and Parenting: How to Parent without PunishmentsPeace and Parenting: How to Parent without PunishmentsUnderparenting is EssentialBeing a parent is hard. There are so many responsibilities, errands, extracurricular activities, pick-ups, drop-offs, and bills to pay, not to mention your other relationships to maintain. Today Michelle gives you a reason to underparent, to sit on the couch and watch a movie or have that second bowl of dessert. It's actually a necessary part of becoming a connected parent.   Working with individuals and couples is my most favorite work. We dive deeply into the ideas of connection and unravel the struggles of each individual family I work with. It’s a transformational paradigm shi...2023-01-3112 minPeace and Parenting: How to Parent without PunishmentsPeace and Parenting: How to Parent without PunishmentsAgreeable Kids Have Feelings TooSometimes it seems as if one or more of our kids doesn't have feelings, or is okay with anything. As if they are so easy in nature that nothing bothers them. Maybe that is true to some degree. Perhaps they are more easygoing personalities, but what if those feelings are there and just need a place to come out and space to be seen and heard?   Having trouble sleeping? I have been using both the Sleep Ez Natural Support capsules and the Aromatherapy Lavender Spray from Botanic Choice to help me relax and let go o...2023-01-2615 minPeace and Parenting: How to Parent without PunishmentsPeace and Parenting: How to Parent without PunishmentsStrong-Willed, Highly Sensitive KidsStrong-willed kids are often sensitive, like my sweet Esme. These kids will make parenting using conventional ideas very challenging. Good for them to push back against the ideas of control and manipulation. Their internal workings tell them these tactics are attacks on their psyche. The problem is they come out fighting and then the circle of behavior begins with little hope of getting it to stop except through connection. Let's dive in and see just exactly how we can help these lovely beings.   Having trouble sleeping? I have been using both the Sleep Ez Natural S...2023-01-2412 minPeace and Parenting: How to Parent without PunishmentsPeace and Parenting: How to Parent without PunishmentsBeing the Safe Container for Your ChildThe feelings our children display can be difficult for us to endure. However, when we do with calm, we show them we are safe and able to be their container. As life moves on we are cementing this idea. When things are hard where will they come? But only if we can illustrate we are actually safe.   Having trouble sleeping? I have been using both the Sleep Ez Natural Support capsules and the Aromatherapy Lavender Spray from Botanic Choice to help me relax and let go of the day. Botanic Choice is a trusted brand s...2023-01-1913 minPeace and Parenting: How to Parent without PunishmentsPeace and Parenting: How to Parent without PunishmentsHow to Respond to DisappointmentsOften we say our child is upset when they “don’t get their own way” but is it that simple and are they “allowed to have feelings around disappointment? Aren’t we upset when things don’t go our own way? Isn’t it true we feel disappointed or defeated? Just because they are little doesn’t mean they aren’t “allowed” to have those feelings too.   Having trouble sleeping? I have been using both the Sleep Ez Natural Support capsules and the Aromatherapy Lavender Spray from Botanic Choice to help me relax and let go of the day. Botanic...2023-01-1712 minPeace and Parenting: How to Parent without PunishmentsPeace and Parenting: How to Parent without PunishmentsWhy Is Connective Parenting for All KidsConnective parenting is for all kids because it draws from the ideas of unconditional love and relationship instead of rewards and punishments. All children and all people thrive with connection and do not do well with punishment, belittlement, or harshness. Who wants to be treated in these ways and what does this type of treatment do to a child's brain? Find out all the answers in this week's podcast.   Having trouble sleeping? I have been using both the Sleep Ez Natural Support capsules and the Aromatherapy Lavender Spray from Botanic Choice to help me relax a...2023-01-1211 minPeace and Parenting: How to Parent without PunishmentsPeace and Parenting: How to Parent without PunishmentsDo We Believe We Aren’t Good Enough ParentsDo we actually believe we aren’t good enough parents because we weren’t good enough kids?  Were our mistakes punished and pointed out in order to make us feel bad and do we feel bad now when we mess up, chastise ourselves and hold ourselves to unattainable standards like the ones our parents held us to? I believe this could be a big part of the parent shaming cycle that never ends but continues outside of our childhood. Let’s reframe this idea.   Having trouble sleeping? I have been using both the Sleep Ez Natural...2023-01-1012 minPeace and Parenting: How to Parent without PunishmentsPeace and Parenting: How to Parent without PunishmentsConnection Is Vital in ParentingThe brain functions well with connection and is at ease when they feel good about the people that are around. Especially children and babies. The limbic system looks to connect with other limbic systems in order to feel safe. Our children are constantly looking to make connections in order to establish a deep connection with a caretaker to ensure they are taken care of. They are provided shelter, sustenance, and protection. Maintaining connections for children is vital to their existence. Listen to this week's episode as Michelle more deeply explains.   Having trouble sleeping? I have b...2023-01-0512 minPeace and Parenting: How to Parent without PunishmentsPeace and Parenting: How to Parent without PunishmentsI Was My Daughter’s First BullyThis realization of being a bully didn’t come to Michelle early on in parenting, but as she reflects she now sees her behavior as a young mom resembled that of bullying. The yelling, threats, bribes, and shame aren’t something any child should have to live with, and really no person. Do we want to show up in our loving relationships in this way or would we rather come to them with love and understanding? It can be hard when society and often our own families are telling us otherwise.   Having trouble sleeping? I have...2023-01-0314 minPeace and Parenting: How to Parent without PunishmentsPeace and Parenting: How to Parent without Punishments7 Things to Help You Be a More Connected ParentThere are some things that we can keep top of mind when we are thinking about being a connected parent. Michelle gives you a short list to help outline just what it means to be a connected parent and how we can reframe our thoughts and minds to stay on our path of coming with unconditional love and guidance as opposed to being the judge and jury.   Active Threads is a female-run company with two moms at the helm. I love supporting working moms like myself when I can, so as a gift to my l...2022-12-2211 minPeace and Parenting: How to Parent without PunishmentsPeace and Parenting: How to Parent without PunishmentsAnxiety Around Parenthood with Guest Sheryl PaulThere is much anxiety around being a parent. So much so that it can be paralyzing or have us believing we are “messing” up our kids or otherwise ruining them. There’s a place to give ourselves grace and to also recognize where some of those anxieties stem from Join Michelle and the Lovely Sheryl Paul from @wisdomofanxiety as she shares her deep wisdom around parenting and anxiety.   Connect with Sheryl on Instagram @wisdomofanxiety or on her website https://conscious-transitions.com/   I’m answering live parenting questions every week for the members of...2022-12-2033 minPeace and Parenting: How to Parent without PunishmentsPeace and Parenting: How to Parent without PunishmentsFixing Things With Our Partners and Our Kids With Guest Dr. Tracy DAre we wired to fix things with our kids and perhaps with our partners as well? Does this place us in a position to miss the feelings which might be mulling around and go straight to this idea that we cannot allow our loved ones to suffer, as it might be too difficult for us? Dr. Tracy D collaborates on a joint podcast where she and Michelle discuss how these ideas show up both in our partnerships and our parenting.   Active Threads is a female-run company with two moms at the helm. I love supporting w...2022-12-1530 minPeace and Parenting: How to Parent without PunishmentsPeace and Parenting: How to Parent without PunishmentsA Daily ResetI had a client ask for a daily reset and so here it is. Ten things to think about that can help you reframe your day as you begin to parent, or perhaps before you pick them up or as you are embarking on a long vacation, or just whenever.    I’m answering live parenting questions every week for the members of my Instagram subscription community plus we have a private chat and exclusive videos. It’s only $4.99 a month, you can join on my Instagram page and become more connected to your kids. IG...2022-12-1311 minPeace and Parenting: How to Parent without PunishmentsPeace and Parenting: How to Parent without PunishmentsLet’s Be Honest… Parenting Is HardLet’s be honest parenting is really hard and sometimes impossible. This week I keep it real with you and tell you all the things that have me stumped. It doesn’t mean I love my kids less, but it does mean that I struggle just like you, and to be honest there are days I want to run away. There are days I wish they were grown and there are days when it is more challenging than I ever imagined.   I’m answering live parenting questions every week for the members of my Instagram subscri...2022-12-0812 minPeace and Parenting: How to Parent without PunishmentsPeace and Parenting: How to Parent without PunishmentsCo-Regulation vs Self-RegulationThere's much discussion about regulation. How do I get my child to self-regulate? How do I get them to learn about their emotions and learn emotional regulation? Can I teach it to them and what is the best way? Many folks want to explain and teach breathing techniques and ways to name their feelings. But co-regulation is where it's really at. Co-regulation is where kids really internalize the idea of maintaining their cool.   I’m answering live parenting questions every week for the members of my Instagram subscription community plus we have a private chat and...2022-12-0612 minPeace and Parenting: How to Parent without PunishmentsPeace and Parenting: How to Parent without PunishmentsRespect…How Do We Get ItRespect is something society tells us our children "need" to have for us. Kids are expected to respect their elders and "be" respectful. Much of the respect I see is respect that is forced and not the kind that is earned. My children need to earn my respect and me theirs. We live in a reciprocal relationship that is based on mutual respect. Isn't that what we want in our other loving relationships? Why would this one be any different?   Active Threads is a female-run company with two moms at the helm. I love supporting w...2022-12-0113 minPeace and Parenting: How to Parent without PunishmentsPeace and Parenting: How to Parent without PunishmentsIs Punishment RevengeYep, I said it, and I believe it. Punishment is revenge in a very real way. We don’t punish children for any other reason except we want them to “pay” for what they did. It’s not our fault, as our parents did the same thing. If we look at our own childhood we can remember what it felt like and how punitive and unkind it came across. Is this what we want for our kids?    My gift to you this holiday season is 20% off all my on-demand programs plus my monthly membership. This includes H...2022-11-2910 minPeace and Parenting: How to Parent without PunishmentsPeace and Parenting: How to Parent without PunishmentsInstilling GratitudeHow do we teach our children gratitude? Is it through direct instruction or lessons on being grateful? Do we point out all the things in their lives that they should be grateful for, or make them regurgitate things they are grateful for at the Thanksgiving Table? What is being grateful anyway and how do we show our children we are grateful for them? Have a listen and maybe gain a different perspective.    My gift to you this holiday season is 20% off all my on-demand programs plus my monthly membership. This includes How to Stop Yelling, Si...2022-11-2411 minPeace and Parenting: How to Parent without PunishmentsPeace and Parenting: How to Parent without PunishmentsThe New Apology: Making AmendsI’m sorry might not be enough! It may not convey the real message that we both want to express when we feel remorse and we want our children to also express when they feel true remorse. Let me help you cultivate a more dynamic and heartfelt apology that feels better and is undoubtedly more helpful.   My gift to you this holiday season is 20% off all my on-demand programs plus my monthly membership. This includes How to Stop Yelling, Siblings, Not Rivals, Understanding Big Emotions, and A Guide to Cooperation. To learn more about these pro...2022-11-2210 minPeace and Parenting: How to Parent without PunishmentsPeace and Parenting: How to Parent without PunishmentsIt’s Not Too Late for Any RelationshipMany sweet parents ask me if it’s too late for them and their children. If they have damaged the relationship so much that it is irreparable. Let me reassure you today that it is not! Life is messy and full of mistakes and that is what makes it all a human experience.   I’m answering live parenting questions every week for the members of my Instagram subscription community plus we have a private chat and exclusive videos. It’s only $4.99 a month you can join on my Instagram page and become more connected to your ki...2022-11-1711 minPeace and Parenting: How to Parent without PunishmentsPeace and Parenting: How to Parent without PunishmentsWhat Does Fight, Flight or Freeze Do to the Mind and BodyThe fight, flight, or freeze response is to keep us safe. Our bodies and mind go into overdrive. But what if that overdrive is activated time and again? Are there physical and emotional implications? What can we do to keep ourselves and our children calm instead of igniting a fear response both in them and in us?   Want to make yelling a thing of the past? Are you tired of apologizing for becoming upset and losing your cool? You can come to parenting with more love and connection by learning my three-pronged approach to yelling i...2022-11-1511 minPeace and Parenting: How to Parent without PunishmentsPeace and Parenting: How to Parent without PunishmentsGiving Responsibilities to Our ChildrenBedtime, bathtime, and homework become very sticky places at times between us and our children. We often struggle here where maybe we don’t need to. Isn’t the goal to have self-sufficient kids who know how to take care of themselves? But how will they learn when they feel hungry, tired, or dirty if we are constantly micromanaging these chores?   I’m answering live parenting questions every week for the members of my Instagram subscription community plus we have a private chat and exclusive videos. It’s only $4.99 a month you can join on my Instag...2022-11-1015 minPeace and Parenting: How to Parent without PunishmentsPeace and Parenting: How to Parent without PunishmentsIs It Too Late to Change The Way I ParentIs it too late? This is a question parents ask often about changing the way in which they parent. Am I too late? Can I make a difference with an older child and what can I do to cultivate a relationship with an adult kid? I answer these questions and touch on the idea of manners as I talk with my lovely guest Jennifer, a mother of three kids.    Working with individuals and couples is my most favorite work. We dive deeply into the ideas of connection and unravel the struggles of each individual family I...2022-11-0816 minPeace and Parenting: How to Parent without PunishmentsPeace and Parenting: How to Parent without PunishmentsCo-parenting Plan With Lesa KoskiDivorce can be quite difficult for us and our children. Coming up with a plan is essential to keeping the divorce focused on the kids and not our conflict. Lesa Koski joins me as a mediator and attorney who gives us some ways to help ease tensions between us and our soon-to-be exes.    I was recently a guest on Lesa's podcast Doing Divorce Different, check out the episode here. You can also check out her website here https://www.lesakoski.com/   Working with individuals and couples is my most fav...2022-11-0324 minPeace and Parenting: How to Parent without PunishmentsPeace and Parenting: How to Parent without PunishmentsIs Focusing on School and Sports Success ImportantWhen we place emphasis on succeeding in sports or activities are we doing our child a disservice? Isn’t the point of sports and extracurricular activities to have fun and enjoy? What about school? Aren’t we there really to learn, to socialize? When the pressures become too great they can have a negative impact on our children.   Working with individuals and couples is my most favorite work. We dive deeply into the ideas of connection and unravel the struggles of each individual family I work with. It’s a transformational paradigm shift each and every t...2022-11-0113 minPeace and Parenting: How to Parent without PunishmentsPeace and Parenting: How to Parent without PunishmentsWhat to Do When Our Child Says NoCooperation is the number one complaint I hear from parents. What do we do if they do not do as I ask? How do I get the to say yes and what do I do when they say no? We use connection, but how. Listen in as I give you some pointers and if you want to you can take my course Guide to Cooperation to learn all the tools of connection along with the ins and outs of cooperation and hearing they ever coveted yes!   Here's another episode I did about transitioning out of t...2022-10-2711 minPeace and Parenting: How to Parent without PunishmentsPeace and Parenting: How to Parent without PunishmentsWhen Our Children Struggle Do We Internalize ItSometimes when our kids struggle we blame ourselves and hold ourselves accountable. We believe it’s our fault especially when there are big ugly feelings. Can we instead be present and grounded in those feelings and bear witness to help them come through and help them know those big ugly feelings are totally normal? This builds grit and emotional regulation.    Today’s episode is sponsored by Tosi Snacks. Tosi was founded by a mother-daughter duo who wanted to make satisfying, plant-based, and gluten-free snacks with organic, real-food ingredients. Perfect for breakfast when you’re running out the...2022-10-2512 minPeace and Parenting: How to Parent without PunishmentsPeace and Parenting: How to Parent without PunishmentsGentle Parenting Doesn’t Create SnowflakesGentle parenting or conscious parenting if done right does not create children who are “snowflakes”. What is a snowflake anyway and how can we both come to our kids with kindness and avoid creating adults who cannot withstand upsetting and hard moments in life? Could our overparenting be hindering us, and what about underparenting? Goodness, there’s too much to discuss.    Today’s episode is sponsored by Tosi Snacks. Tosi was founded by a mother-daughter duo who wanted to make satisfying, plant-based, and gluten-free snacks with organic, real-food ingredients. Perfect for breakfast when you’re running out...2022-10-2012 minPeace and Parenting: How to Parent without PunishmentsPeace and Parenting: How to Parent without PunishmentsHow to Respond to Misbehavior With ConnectionWhen our child misbehaves the first thing to do is to make it stop and our next thought is to correct, scold or punish. Why? Because this is precisely what our parents would do and what society tells us will “work” to get the behavior to cease. Let me offer you a reframe and a different thought which could totally transform your home. No more punishments necessary.    Today’s episode is sponsored by Tosi Snacks. Tosi was founded by a mother-daughter duo who wanted to make satisfying, plant-based, and gluten-free snacks with organic, real-food ingredients. Perfect...2022-10-1811 minPeace and Parenting: How to Parent without PunishmentsPeace and Parenting: How to Parent without PunishmentsMisconceptions of Connective ParentingConnective/conscious and gentle parenting is often perceived as permissive. Many people believe children will grow up unruly and unable to identify right from wrong and lack the skills to overcome upsetting moments. Listen in as I discuss why none do this is true.    Working with individuals and couples is my most favorite work. We dive deeply into the ideas of connection and unravel the struggles of each individual family I work with. It’s a transformational paradigm shift each and every time. I have seen families undergo huge changes that forever impact their relationships. My O...2022-10-1314 minPeace and Parenting: How to Parent without PunishmentsPeace and Parenting: How to Parent without PunishmentsWhat About the Compliant ChildIs our more amiable child really easy going or could there be reasons that they are easygoing? Are they affected by the interactions they witness, is their temperament different than those kids who are fighting to be heard and understood and how can we insure they have a voice later in life and aren’t people pleasers? Listen in and get a new perspective.    Working with individuals and couples is my most favorite work. We dive deeply into the ideas of connection and unravel the struggles of each individual family I work with. It’s a tran...2022-10-1112 minPeace and Parenting: How to Parent without PunishmentsPeace and Parenting: How to Parent without PunishmentsWhat Do We Do When Our Kids Are Unsafe and Won’t ListenThey ran across the street and didn’t even look, they almost did it on purpose. Now what? I want to come to them with connection but how? The 16-year-old goes to the party and drinks, they don't listen to me now what? Listen in and find out the answer to this important question. We can both come to them with connection and keep them safe.    Working with individuals and couples is my most favorite work. We dive deeply into the ideas of connection and unravel the struggles of each individual family I work with. It’s...2022-10-0613 minPeace and Parenting: How to Parent without PunishmentsPeace and Parenting: How to Parent without PunishmentsWhat to Do When We Yell With Parent Guest KatieWhat are the first signs of yelling or becoming dysregulated and what can we do to help keep ourselves calm in those hard moments? What is behind the urge to yell, and what techniques can we use as the first defense against yelling? Is our own well-being directly linked to how well we parent and is COVID still lurking in our psyche? Listen in as I discuss these issues with my lovely guest Katie a mom of three girls.    Enjoy today’s episode? Please share it with a friend or leave a rating and a revi...2022-10-0420 minPeace and Parenting: How to Parent without PunishmentsPeace and Parenting: How to Parent without PunishmentsWe Are Not Our ParentsWe overly stress about the trauma we might be causing our children. We often believe every misstep and slip up will “ruin” our kids. I hear this often from my clients and on Social Media. But the trauma we went through as children is not the same as what our kids are experiencing with us. Let me put your mind at ease in this podcast episode.    Working with individuals and couples is my most favorite work. We dive deeply into the ideas of connection and unravel the struggles of each individual family I work with. It’s a...2022-09-2912 minPeace and Parenting: How to Parent without PunishmentsPeace and Parenting: How to Parent without PunishmentsNatural and Logical ConsequencesEven I have a difficult time figuring out what the heck everyone is talking about. It’s not just punishments anymore. Now we have logical consequences and natural consequences and regular consequences? Do I have that right, they are all different? I am finding it more and more confusing. I attempt to make a distinction in this episode. Let me know what you think. Leave us a rating and tell us your thoughts on this episode.    Working with individuals and couples is my most favorite work. We dive deeply into the ideas of connection and unra...2022-09-2716 minPeace and Parenting: How to Parent without PunishmentsPeace and Parenting: How to Parent without PunishmentsOur Child’s Inner Voice Can Be Derived From How We Speak and ActEven if we are doing away with punishments we can still have a critical attitude when it comes to our children. Those criticisms and judgments might stick deeper than all of the positive things we are experiencing with our kids each day. Our mind processes positive and negative things differently. Unfortunately, the negative things become our focus. When they do, can they get stuck in our inner speak? How can we help our kids gain positive inner speak?   Working with individuals and couples is my most favorite work. We dive deeply into the ideas of c...2022-09-2210 minPeace and Parenting: How to Parent without PunishmentsPeace and Parenting: How to Parent without PunishmentsScarcity and How It Plays Out in ParentingWhat does scarcity have to do with parenting? Are there moments in our parenting where we are creating more desire where we don’t necessarily need to be? Do things that feel scarce end up being more sought after just because they are scarce? How can we make things a bit easier for ourselves in order to unwind this tight string?   Working with individuals and couples is my most favorite work. We dive deeply into the ideas of connection and unravel the struggles of each individual family I work with. It’s a transformational paradigm shift...2022-09-2012 minPeace and Parenting: How to Parent without PunishmentsPeace and Parenting: How to Parent without PunishmentsRushing and Being LateRushing and being late can stress our parenting and our kids, not to mention us. What works when we are late and how can we mitigate the stress and angst we are experiencing and also place on our kids in moments which are difficult? Have a listen and see what you think. Working with individuals and couples is my most favorite work. We dive deeply into the ideas of connection and unravel the struggles of each individual family I work with. It’s a transformational paradigm shift each and every time. I have seen families undergo huge ch...2022-09-1514 minPeace and Parenting: How to Parent without PunishmentsPeace and Parenting: How to Parent without PunishmentsUnderstanding Big EmotionsComing alongside my own children when they were having huge feelings was never easy, but it got so over time. I learned to be supportive during the upheaval and it ultimately helped everyone including myself. In my course: Understanding Big Emotions, I teach you how to do the same. Click here to take this online, on-demand, hour-long course.    Leave us a rating and tell us your thoughts on this episode.    Working with individuals and couples is my most favorite work. We dive deeply into the ideas of connection and unravel the stru...2022-09-1308 minPeace and Parenting: How to Parent without PunishmentsPeace and Parenting: How to Parent without PunishmentsHow Do We Teach Our Children EmpathyWe all want our children to be empathic, but how do we teach it, and is it teachable or do we leave it up to nature? I am solo this week answering a question from my podcast editor and his wife. I think we all have this question…how do we make sure our children care about other people? Listen in as I give some ideas that might be helpful to you too.   Working with individuals and couples is my most favorite work. We dive deeply into the ideas of connection and unravel the struggles of...2022-07-2513 minPeace and Parenting: How to Parent without PunishmentsPeace and Parenting: How to Parent without PunishmentsPeace and Parenting with Mr. ChazzIf you don’t know Mr. Chazz you should! He is a preschool teacher turned parenting expert with some helpful and incredible insights into raising kids consciously. Have a listen and get his unique perspective and thoughtful responses around helping kids with tough behaviors.  Connect with Mr. Chazz on Instagram @mrchazz   Working with individuals and couples is my most favorite work. We dive deeply into the ideas of connection and unravel the struggles of each individual family I work with. It’s a transformational paradigm shift each and every time. I have seen famili...2022-07-1853 minPeace and Parenting: How to Parent without PunishmentsPeace and Parenting: How to Parent without PunishmentsJulian Sarafian Tells Us His Journey of His Educational and Professional “Success”Julian Sarafian is a young attorney who has the pedigree we all wish for our children or should we? Julian succumbed to many of the pressures society places on children to do more and be better. To the detriment of his mental health and happiness. Michelle and he discuss his journey and help us reframe what success really is in 2022. If you'd like to connect with Julian you can do so here... IG: @juliansarafian TikTok: @juliansarafian Linkedin: @juliansarafian Discord Community: https://discord.com/invite/4AGYgCPyet -- 2022-07-1128 minPeace and Parenting: How to Parent without PunishmentsPeace and Parenting: How to Parent without PunishmentsLong Time IG Follower Gabrielle and I Keep it Real About ParentingWe are expected to parent perfectly, have well-behaved kids, take care of the house and everything else. This is so unrealistic and unattainable. Gabrielle and I keep it real, say it like it is, and are honest about the fact that we mess up, parenting is hard and some days it’s fine to say you don’t want to do it or Special Time! Let’s be honest, 20 minutes of Lego can be excruciating.   Working with individuals and couples is my most favorite work. We dive deeply into the ideas of connection and unravel the str...2022-06-2734 minPeace and Parenting: How to Parent without PunishmentsPeace and Parenting: How to Parent without PunishmentsMichelle Answers Parenting Questions with IG Follower SarahSarah, a mom of two girls, wants to help her oldest with control and needs to direct her baby sister. We also discuss issues around getting dressed and ways to implement the “good” kinds of choice and control. Join me with mama Sarah and dive into the principles of connection and the effectiveness of Special Time.    Working with individuals and couples is my most favorite work. We dive deeply into the ideas of connection and unravel the struggles of each individual family I work with. It’s a transformational paradigm shift each and every time. I have s...2022-06-2039 minPeace and Parenting: How to Parent without PunishmentsPeace and Parenting: How to Parent without PunishmentsParenting Questions with Comedian Alyce ChanComedy is connective and can bring together communities. Alyce brings us comic relief shamelessly in her incredible IG (@momcomnyc) and onstage. And now I get to dive in with her about her parenting struggles, particularly around what to do when your child hits you? Are you promoting hitting by allowing it? Should we punish? Listen in as funny lady Alyce and I discuss.    Working with individuals and couples is my most favorite work. We dive deeply into the ideas of connection and unravel the struggles of each individual family I work with. It’s a tran...2022-06-1334 minPeace and Parenting: How to Parent without PunishmentsPeace and Parenting: How to Parent without PunishmentsPunishments Vs LimitsIt can get confusing when it comes to trying to set limits without the use of punishments or rewards. How do we get our kids to do “x’ and what happens if they don’t? What can we “do” instead of using a punishment or a reward? Do we just let them do whatever they want and stand by and watch? No. Have a listen and get some helpful ideas.    Working with individuals and couples is my most favorite work. We dive deeply into the ideas of connection and unravel the struggles of each individual family I wor...2022-06-0615 minPeace and Parenting: How to Parent without PunishmentsPeace and Parenting: How to Parent without PunishmentsHow to Raise Self Sufficient KidsAll of us want the same thing. Well adjusted kids who can take care of themselves on every level, and hopefully take care of themselves better than we do! But how? How do we make sure they learn all the lessons, make meaning of all the experiences and know right from wrong while still embodying who they are and how to “be” in this world. It’s no easy feat and it certainly doesn’t come without its challenges. This week I will discuss just that!   Want to make yelling a thing of the past! Are you t...2022-05-3012 minPeace and Parenting: How to Parent without PunishmentsPeace and Parenting: How to Parent without PunishmentsWhat to do When Your Child Says Something UnkindIt can be unhinging for us to hear our child say something mean. We can go down a rabbit hole of thinking our child is disrespectful and will end up in jail because of the things they say. Re-framing this idea and coming to our kids with more connection might be the only way we can unravel this hard parenting moment. This week's podcast will help you find more perspective when it comes to the unkind things our child says.    Want to make yelling a thing of the past! Are you tired of apologizing for be...2022-05-2312 minPeace and Parenting: How to Parent without PunishmentsPeace and Parenting: How to Parent without PunishmentsHow to Navigate Homework and GradesHomework and grades can become such a struggle in our homes. How can we help our kids be successful and also take responsibility for their grades and homework? Is it possible to take a step back and still have kids who want to succeed at school? How can we instill self-motivation and pride without being the warden of grades and homework? Join me on the podcast as I give you real-life examples and ways to come to homework and grades with more connection and less coercion.    Want to make yelling a thing of the past! Ar...2022-05-1614 minPeace and Parenting: How to Parent without PunishmentsPeace and Parenting: How to Parent without PunishmentsMichelle Answers More Parenting QuestionsKatie, a mother of 2 gets advice from Michelle about using special time with her girls, when is the best time of day for this to get the most out of it, and how to navigate the uniqueness of each child. Join me and Katie as I answer all of her parenting questions through the lens of positive parenting.   Want to make yelling a thing of the past! Are you tired of apologizing for becoming upset and losing your cool? You can come to parenting with more love and connection by learning my 3 pronged approach to y...2022-05-0929 minPeace and Parenting: How to Parent without PunishmentsPeace and Parenting: How to Parent without PunishmentsFamilial Roles Play a Part in ParentingThe role we take on in our nuclear family may easily transfer into our parenting, and often informs the ways in which we treat our children. Subconsciously we may perpetuate these roles without fully recognizing what they are or where they come from. Largely because children in our society are viewed as immediately “being” wrong and therefore we may jump to these conclusions without even recognizing it’s happening. Join me this week as I talk about my own roles and how those have plagued my parenting as well.    Want to make yelling a thing of the p...2022-05-0211 minPeace and Parenting: How to Parent without PunishmentsPeace and Parenting: How to Parent without PunishmentsThe Case Against AdviceAdvice may seem like a good idea when our children are struggling, but maybe it isn’t. Unsolicited advice can often fall on deaf ears or worse cause conflict with our children. I play out some scenarios that might help you understand the pitfalls of advice-giving this week on the podcast.   Working with individuals and couples is my most favorite work. We dive deeply into the ideas of connection and unravel the struggles of each individual family I work with. It’s a transformational paradigm shift each and every time. I have seen families undergo huge...2022-04-2517 minPeace and Parenting: How to Parent without PunishmentsPeace and Parenting: How to Parent without PunishmentsMichelle Answers Parenting Questions (Part 2)Continuing on from last week's episode Tara, a mother of 3 brings her questions about her 12-year-old daughter. How do we begin to parent without control and punishments when our child is older? What can we do to unravel conventional parenting and come with more connection? Join me and Tara as we discuss ways to cultivate connection with our preteens and older kids. I answer all of her parenting questions through the lens of positive parenting. Working with individuals and couples is my most favorite work. We dive deeply into the ideas of connection and unravel t...2022-04-1825 minPeace and Parenting: How to Parent without PunishmentsPeace and Parenting: How to Parent without PunishmentsMichelle Answers Parenting Questions (Part 1)Tara, a mother of 3 brings her questions about her 12-year-old daughter. How do we begin to parent without control and punishments when our child is older? What can we do to unravel conventional parenting and come with more connection? Join me and Tara as we discuss ways to cultivate connection with our preteens and older kids. I answer all of her parenting questions through the lens of positive parenting.   Working with individuals and couples is my most favorite work. We dive deeply into the ideas of connection and unravel the struggles of each individual family I...2022-04-1115 minPeace and Parenting: How to Parent without PunishmentsPeace and Parenting: How to Parent without Punishments6 Phrases Which Should be Eliminated From Parenting“Use your words” and other phrases have me thinking deeply. Where do they come from and what do they mean? Can we reframe and rethink those ideas and perhaps leave them for the generations past. This week I discuss some of the big offenders, giving some alternatives and finding ways to be more supportive with our children.   Working with individuals and couples is my most favorite work. We dive deeply into the ideas of connection and unravel the struggles of each individual family I work with. It’s a transformational paradigm shift each and every time. I...2022-04-0418 minPeace and Parenting: How to Parent without PunishmentsPeace and Parenting: How to Parent without PunishmentsWhat’s Brain Science Got to do With it?Brain Science is at the heart of all things Parenting with Connection. The inner workings of the brain help us better understand behavior. When we use it as our guide it helps us understand why Connective Parenting works so well and what the benefits are all around as compared to Conventional Parenting. Brain Science gives us the underpinning of tangible facts which help guide our everyday interactions.   TODAYS THE LAST DAY! Understanding your child's big emotions and learning how to be there for them during those upsets is a learned skill. Learning to set limits, a...2022-03-2815 minPeace and Parenting: How to Parent without PunishmentsPeace and Parenting: How to Parent without PunishmentsConscious Parenting Has Limits… They Are Just DifferentIt has been said that parenting with connection lacks limits because it fails to use punishments or rewards, but limits do not need to be set using these methods and can in fact use empathy and understanding instead. Limits can also be used to create a place for a child to offload feelings and process emotions. This can only happen with empathy as opposed to punishments.    How do we dole out punishments and when we do, do they actually work, or are we chasing our tail in hopes of finding ways to “get” our kids to “be...2022-03-2113 minPeace and Parenting: How to Parent without PunishmentsPeace and Parenting: How to Parent without PunishmentsThe Difference Between Connective and Conventional ParentingConnective parenting can be confusing. What is it? What are the values and how can I get my children to be good people by just being nice? Well, there’s a bit more to it and maintaining and promoting the child-parent relationship is the most important aspect of Connective Parenting. Whereas conventional methods rely on control and punishments. How does it feel to be in a relationship where you feel controlled?    Understanding your child's big emotions and learning how to be there for them during those upsets is a learned skill. One we likely didn't lear...2022-03-1411 minPeace and Parenting: How to Parent without PunishmentsPeace and Parenting: How to Parent without PunishmentsConnective Parenting is HardConnective parenting isn’t all roses! No parenting is, let’s just keep it authentic shall we? There are extra pressures with parenting against the grain. We are learning and relearning so many new things, we are fighting against what society says we should and we are exhausted from listening to big ugly feelings. I know how it feels I am right there with you and let me reassure you just because it’s hard doesn’t mean it isn’t working or you are not on the right track. You are there, you are getting there and it is worth i...2022-03-0710 minPeace and Parenting: How to Parent without PunishmentsPeace and Parenting: How to Parent without PunishmentsIs Saying I am Proud of You Hazardous?I am proud of you, was something I always wanted to hear from my parents, but why? Why did I crave it so much? Was it because I felt the unconditionality of their love and is this what we want for our kids? Or would we rather them know we love them just the same when they mess up or when they do well. How can we promote internal pride and acceptance as opposed to setting them up to look for external acceptance? Listen in and get the lowdown.   Have you ever felt alone in y...2022-02-2812 minPeace and Parenting: How to Parent without PunishmentsPeace and Parenting: How to Parent without Punishments10 Ways to Connect With Your TeenHaving a teen is as hard as having a newborn! All the firsts and all the angst, let’s face it the stakes are really high and we parents worry tremendously about our children and the teen years can really exacerbate our worry and stress. What I know works is connection, but many times parents pull away from their teens because the teens are trying to find their own way too. When I lean into being with and understand my teens they respond with more kindness and the ability to self-regulate more readily. Listen in as I give you 10 wa...2022-02-2123 minPeace and Parenting: How to Parent without PunishmentsPeace and Parenting: How to Parent without PunishmentsWelcome ’Life is but a Dish’ Creator Laney SchwartzBeing the nurse, counselor and chauffeur are enough! Adding on cooking and life as a parent can seem overwhelming. Instead of thinking of cooking as an elaborate endeavor that takes hours of planning and endless amounts of time, think of it as a place to connect. Laney Schwartz from Life is but a Dish joins us and gives us some mealtime hacks that will keep the focus on connection instead of food prep.   Helpful Links: Life is but a Dish - Kitchen Starter Bundle   Have you ever felt alone in...2022-02-1419 minPeace and Parenting: How to Parent without PunishmentsPeace and Parenting: How to Parent without PunishmentsHow I Learned to Forgive Myself When I MisstepI began parenting with the idea of being the perfectly attached mom. But what none of the books told me was how to respond to my children when things were hard, when strong wills were introduced and kids said no. I resorted to yelling and that yelling led me to self-loathing which created a cycle I could not stop until I found connective parenting. Come along on my journey today of self-love and forgiveness and find out how this ultimately benefited my sweet girls.  Have you ever felt alone in your parenting, as if you were the o...2022-02-0713 minPeace and Parenting: How to Parent without PunishmentsPeace and Parenting: How to Parent without PunishmentsHow to Respond to a Child When They Believe Something is UnfairLife, as we know, is not fair, but are we trying to shield our children from fairness or are we diving deeply into acknowledgment and acceptance instead? Isn’t the ideal of everything being equal and unrealistic thought and trying to even every instance into fairness doing our children a disservice? How do we help them accept unfairness and still support them in their feelings when they feel wronged? Listen in as I go into more depth around helping our kids cope with unfairness.    Have you ever felt alone in your parenting, as if you were...2022-01-3108 minPeace and Parenting: How to Parent without PunishmentsPeace and Parenting: How to Parent without PunishmentsHow to Respond to Our Children When We MisstepThis week on the podcast I describe how I have tried to make repairs when I have behaved in ways that I know are not acceptable. We are all human and making mistakes is inevitable and also part of how we learn to do better. Modeling effective apologies and making amends is the best way we can teach our children how to take responsibility for their actions. If we can take responsibility for ours they will learn this is the way to interact in the world and this is how we gain and give forgiveness. There are many good...2022-01-2409 minPeace and Parenting: How to Parent without PunishmentsPeace and Parenting: How to Parent without Punishments6 Reasons Not to Take Your Child’s Words or Behavior PersonallyNot taking our child’s behavior personally can be extremely challenging. Not only does it restimulate our own unmet needs but on some level, we might believe what they are saying is true or that they really believe we are “mean” or understand that the off-track behavior is meaningful rather than just a behavior. In this episode, I reframe those ideas and give some alternative thoughts around taking our child's unwanted behaviors and words personally. I’ll give you 6 reasons why you shouldn’t and the outcomes if you don’t.   Have you ever felt alone in your...2022-01-1710 minPeace and Parenting: How to Parent without PunishmentsPeace and Parenting: How to Parent without PunishmentsWays to Make 2022 Better For You and Your FamilyThis year, I want to prioritize myself. I want to make my care at the top of my list. These are simple things we overlook which can really improve our overall mood. I know when I do this I feel better, do better in all aspects and am all around happier. But it’s not easy! It’s one of the most difficult things in parenting I believe. This happiness breeds happiness in my household and in turn trickles down to my children. The “doer” in me fights against this notion and largely throws me off my game! I have to...2022-01-1012 minPeace and Parenting: How to Parent without PunishmentsPeace and Parenting: How to Parent without Punishments2021 Inventory: What I Have Learned and What I am Still Working OnI have had many revelations around my parenting this year. Like every year there are also many places I still need to work. For me parenting really is an inside-out endeavor. The more committed I am to working on my inner growth and maturity the more progress I see. Paradigm shifts and mindset changes give me the biggest growth. This week I give you mine,  hoping that you can glean some support around my growth and where I need to improve.   Working with individuals and couples is my most favorite work. We dive deeply into th...2022-01-0617 minPeace and Parenting: How to Parent without PunishmentsPeace and Parenting: How to Parent without PunishmentsWhy I Don’t Use DisciplineDiscipline can be a confusing word in the world of conscious parenting. Is it guidance and coaching or do most of the world view it as harsh punishments? In my world with my daughters, I do not subscribe to any type of punishment or discipline. In this podcast, I tell you why and give you a compelling argument as to why you should consider doing away with harsh parenting altogether. In reality, it does us no favors and can actually cause more of the behaviors we find ourselves punishing our children for.   Working with individuals a...2021-12-2018 minPeace and Parenting: How to Parent without PunishmentsPeace and Parenting: How to Parent without PunishmentsParent Question: How Do I Help My Child with Her Social Life with IG Follower RegineRegine is an Instagram follower who came to me with a real question about her daughter’s social life. I think we have all been there...when we want to just have a little chat with the 8-year-old kid who is being unkind to our child. You know, just let them know you are watching! Somehow it’s likely not the right move, but what is? What can we do for kids and support them through the social ups and downs? What is too much intervention and what is just enough?   Helpful Links: Guide...2021-12-1326 minPeace and Parenting: How to Parent without PunishmentsPeace and Parenting: How to Parent without PunishmentsWhy is Parenting so Hard with Guest Claudia DolinMy best friend joins me in a real conversation about just how hard parenting actually is, and why some days we just want to run away never to return! She and I often lament about the struggles in motherhood, where we find our own personal hurdles and how we can help ourselves to help our children find more peace for everyone. It is not easy and we are the first to admit that we certainly don’t have it all figured out, but we try to do better and help each other along the way! Join Claudia and I th...2021-12-0627 minPeace and Parenting: How to Parent without PunishmentsPeace and Parenting: How to Parent without PunishmentsExamining the Toxins in our Environment with Dr. Organic MommyOur environment can highly impact our children. Do you know what’s in your laundry soap, water, or even the air in your home? I certainly didn’t and Dr. Natasha Beck sheds light on how we can make changes to more positively impact the environment we share with our children. Dr. Organic Mommy is a wealth of information and she shares the top 5 things we should be aware of.    Helpful Links: 5 Ways to Detox Your Home Dr. Organic Mommy Website   Peace and Parenting are offering some amazing...2021-11-2929 minPeace and Parenting: How to Parent without PunishmentsPeace and Parenting: How to Parent without PunishmentsThanksgiving HelloHappy Thanksgiving and happy Thursday! We are moving to Mondays, so be on the lookout for a new episode with Dr. Natasha Beck otherwise known as Dr. Organic Mommy this Monday. Listen to a sneak peek and take advantage of our Black Friday Sale! All of my on-demand courses are 25% off now through Cyber Monday. This will be the lowest price all year. Click here to find out more:  Peace and Parenting are offering some amazing Black Friday deals this holiday season! As a gift to you, we are offering 25% off all programs - How to Stop Yelling On-Demand W...2021-11-2510 minPeace and Parenting: How to Parent without PunishmentsPeace and Parenting: How to Parent without PunishmentsWhat is The Parent Compass with guests: Cynthia Muchnick and Jenn CurtisThe highly competitive world of academics can become consuming when our children reach adolescence. The pressure children feel and endure highly impacts their wellbeing and the relationship we share with them.    Finding ways to be supportive without usurping the critical learning moments in this delicate time can be difficult for us parents. Listen in as the authors of The Parent Compass recount their experiences while helping students prepare for and engage in life after High school.    Helpful Links: The Parent Compass Book Futurewise Consulting   --   Are you ready to change your family dynamic through connective parenting? Work with me one on...2021-11-1828 minPeace and Parenting: How to Parent without PunishmentsPeace and Parenting: How to Parent without PunishmentsConnected Grandparenting with Michelle’s DadJoin me in a very special episode where my dad Chuck (AKA Papa) describes what he’s changed about his parenting/grandparenting techniques, and how he has embraced the ideas of Peace and Parenting. We talk about how he feels it's working for him as a grandparent and the most challenging aspects of interacting with more peace.   Are you ready to change your family dynamic through connective parenting? Work with me one on one and together we’ll hone in on the sources of discontent and chaos, and find solutions that are specific to your famil...2021-11-1120 minPeace and Parenting: How to Parent without PunishmentsPeace and Parenting: How to Parent without PunishmentsParenting through Divorce with Children with Kate Anthony from The Divorce Survival GuideIn this episode, Michelle is joined by Kate Anthony, a certified divorce coach who helps women deal with the difficulties of divorce with children.  In this candid conversation, the duo uncovers myths about relationship separation and lends advice for parenting through divorce.     When we can keep our children at the "center" instead of the middle of divorce we help our kids process the messiness of separation, custody and visitation. It isn't easy to make a decision around ending your marriage especially with children, but we can emerge on the other side with love, connectedness and a family that still feels like...2021-11-0530 minPeace and Parenting: How to Parent without PunishmentsPeace and Parenting: How to Parent without PunishmentsMy Desire to Be a Good Mom Led Me to Forsake My ChildrenGrowing up, I was taught that to be a good kid-- you needed to behave and follow instructions, or else society would label you a bad kid. So naturally, when I began my journey in motherhood, I stepped into it with that same kind of mindset. I fell into the hole of believing that society’s opinion was my benchmark for being a good mother-- because I had well-behaved kids controlled by star charts and shame.It wasn't until I made peace with my own childhood that I realized I needed to break the cycle with my ow...2021-10-2912 minPeace and Parenting: How to Parent without PunishmentsPeace and Parenting: How to Parent without PunishmentsTeens and Punishments with DJ Inspire“It takes a village to raise a child.” is an old saying I’m sure many of you have heard. We’re so worried about the judgment of other parents that when our kids misbehave, we spend more energy fighting them when that same energy should be spent on connecting with our kids and raising them. So in this episode, I’m excited to be joined by DJ Johnson, a fellow parenting coach and my first guest dad on the podcast. With a specialty in working with teens, he’ll share with us his personal parenting philosophies and how he’s...2021-10-2224 minPeace and Parenting: How to Parent without PunishmentsPeace and Parenting: How to Parent without PunishmentsWhat Changes a Child’s BehaviorWe parents have been taught that our children’s behavior must be corrected through punishments and manipulations, and sadly, this has been accepted as the default mode of parenting. And when compounding other stressors in lives, it becomes so easy to unconsciously fall back on that out of desperation to change their behavior. So I want to talk about where we should focus when it comes to our children’s behavior. Looking inward and self-reflecting on our own behavior is a critical factor in transforming our relationship with our children into a healthier one. You’d be s...2021-10-1513 minPeace and Parenting: How to Parent without PunishmentsPeace and Parenting: How to Parent without PunishmentsHow We Can Help Cultivate Our Kids’ Interests and Identities with Guest NaviaWith schools slowly opening back up too, it might be a period of uncertainty and anxiety for our kids-- especially for the little ones who are coming into kindergarten or middle school for the first time. It’s a time where they’re trying to figure out their own interests, hobbies, and identities, alongside their own peers while simultaneously dealing with academics and social interactions. These are some of the concerns fellow mother and this week’s guest, Navia, shared with me. I’ll be sitting down with her to answer her questions on how she can help her...2021-10-0823 minPeace and Parenting: How to Parent without PunishmentsPeace and Parenting: How to Parent without PunishmentsTaking Steps Towards Connective Parenting: Questions from Guest CarolinaEven when you have the best of intentions as parents and try to do everything right, it’s completely normal to mess up every now and then. What matters is the continuous and conscious process of becoming a better parent for our kids.  This week, I’m joined by Carolina. She has recently begun moving towards a positive parenting approach for her daughter alongside her girlfriend whose been co-parenting alongside her, but there have been some bumps along the way. I’ve dedicated this episode to help smooth out those bumps and do my best to answer her par...2021-10-0120 minPeace and Parenting: How to Parent without PunishmentsPeace and Parenting: How to Parent without PunishmentsHow to Be Empathetic When Our Kids Are Being Defiant with Guest LizDefiant and strong-willed children are something I’m sure we’ve all experienced. Whether it’s as toddlers or teenagers, it’s a tale as old as time in the book of parenting. Sometimes when this defiance is targeted towards you or their siblings, it can lead to further conflict so you want to find a way to properly nip that in the bud.   As a mother of two young girls, my guest, Liz, is no stranger to these frustrations so she and I will discuss her dynamics with her daughters, how to manage conflict and negative emotions i...2021-09-2428 minPeace and Parenting: How to Parent without PunishmentsPeace and Parenting: How to Parent without PunishmentsHarsh Parenting Creates Children Who Make More MistakesWhen your child makes a mistake, you want to help them process and understand their mistake without the use of shame, punishments, or making them feel like you’re disappointed in them.  Harsh parenting does absolutely no favors for us or our kids, and as a parent who used to subscribe to that kind of parenting, I want to take the time to talk about this, and share how shifting my mindset towards a more conscious and connective one has done more good for my family than any punishment has. There are no shortcuts to con...2021-09-1714 minPeace and Parenting: How to Parent without PunishmentsPeace and Parenting: How to Parent without PunishmentsHow to Get More Cooperation with Michelle Kenney Carlson M. EdIf you are an exhausted parent looking to find more cooperation and peace in your household while avoiding becoming tangled in the game of asking your kids the same thing over and over then you have come to the right place!To get started with cooperation-centered parenting, click here to check out my Guide to Cooperation; where you can learn to put your relationships with your kids first-- not control! -- Support this podcast through my partnership with Hand in Hand Parenting. Find useful parenting material and the Booklets I...2021-04-2703 minPeace and Parenting: How to Parent without PunishmentsPeace and Parenting: How to Parent without PunishmentsThe Case Against Mindfulness Jars and Cool-Down CornersAt some point in your child’s life, they will experience things which may cause overwhelm, and we won't be able to prevent them from feeling these tough emotions. However, we can be the safe place for them to be when things are tough.  Having deep empathy for our children and allowing them to fully emote helps those feelings pass, be processed so our child can move forward and be the cooperative kind kid they are meant to be. Mindfulness Jars, Cool Down Corners and Breathing Techniques may "get" kids to calm down, but at wha...2021-01-2214 minPeace and Parenting: How to Parent without PunishmentsPeace and Parenting: How to Parent without PunishmentsSuccess Story! Mother of 2 Sonya Tells Us Her Secrets to Making Peace and Parenting an Everyday RealityIntroducing a new series of episodes we'll be sprinkling in: parent stories.  This week, mom of two, Sonya, joins us to talk about her experience working with her inner child to heal and come to parenting more connected.  She took a class from Michelle and used  journaling to find more peace in her family life.Use Michelle's journaling guide to get you started. Listen to her story and join our private Facebook community group to connect with even more parents! Interested in learning how to balance parenting and technology? Join my Plugged in Parenting seminar on Apr...2020-10-1518 minPeace and Parenting: How to Parent without PunishmentsPeace and Parenting: How to Parent without PunishmentsPotty TrainingTraining our kids to pee and poop in the toilet can be a daunting task! Between the two of us, we've been through it four times and Michelle has helped numerous families through the process. Listen in for our take on it and all the ways we've found that make connection well worth the time! Michelle's Guide to Cooperation is a great aid for potty training and so much more and here is the link to an article that may be helpful in getting started!  Interested in learning how to balance parenting and technology? Join my P...2020-07-0214 min