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Midlifing209: Nobody has ever died from an infection beforeSend us Fan MailSimon meets up with an old academic friend and it sparks a conversation between Lee and Simon about having a plan B (which might involve collaborating with TikTok). Things covered: Lee's Apple Watch, meeting a proper academic, having a Plan B, going to the cinema, doxing, a letter from TikTok, content moderation, PTSD from content moderation, generating dance content, Lee's grant winning capabilities, Bob and Lee's Plan B (involves houses), Lee's Mum's hospital visit, real midlifing content, Lee's Mum's health, the Silent Generation, clown face emoji, silly cows (gendered), passing...
2024-12-0427 minMidlifing189: Still in the process of being nurturedSend us Fan MailSimon and Lee talk about no longer being children.Things they discuss: Lee deals with some parent issues, tries out his Australian accent, Simon had dinner with friends and talking about no longer being children, dying from a broken heart, family lineage, a line from Shakespeare's Hamlet, not being nurtured as children, being loved by parents, Lee's Mum wanting udder cream, face and hand cream, the active ingredients of udder cream, the Dark Web, Lee still being a child, a 1.1kg pot of udder cream, Lee solves the udder cream problem...
2024-07-1719 minMidlifing187: A little bit of pre-marital sex to borderline orgySend us Fan MailIt's hard to describe what this one's about. Just listen. Things they discuss: Lee cutting half a yew tree (that has grown a lot), Simon's 40th at Riverford Farm, being old and unimportant academics, the foundations of Bob and Lee's house, youse as plural pronoun, the inaccuracy of language, splitting infinitives and Star Trek, mooching versus smooching (a clunk and Freudian slip by Simon), practice research, a soporific version of Midlifing (mixed in with practice research), Edward S. Casey's bimble, send Midlifing a text message, learning a language by listing all...
2024-07-0324 minMidlifing102: A rich rich ragúSend us Fan MailLee and Simon discuss the abstraction of languages, the courage of migrants, and the mangle of wokeness.Get in touch with Lee and Simon at info@midlifing.net or @midlifingpod on Instagram. Related links (and necessary corrections):Lusophone: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/LusophoneSuella Braverman: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Suella_BravermanPriti Patel: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Priti_PatelRon DeSantis victory speech: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rwuvPNfo9BIBraverman and tofu-eating wokerati: https://www.theguardian.com/uk-news/2022/oct/21/suella-braverman-tofu-capital-malton-tofooNight of the Living Dead: https://en.wikipedia...
2022-11-1628 minMidlifing101: Welcome to 101 everybodySend us Fan MailLee and Simon are back (due to popular demand; well, not really, more like out of a habit they couldn't quite break). They catch up all over the place and also talk about making big changes later in life.Get in touch with Lee and Simon at info@midlifing.net or @midlifingpod on Instagram. Related links (and necessary corrections):Terrifier 2: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Terrifier_2Nuoro: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/NuoroDead Calm: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dead_Calm_(film)BMX Bandits: https://en.wikipedia.org...
2022-11-0924 minMidlifing100: That wasn't Tammy Wynette that was meSend us Fan MailIn this bumper episode Lee and Simon talk through what they've learned (about each) over the last 99 episodes (plus a few other things). Get in touch with Lee and Simon at info@midlifing.net or @midlifingpod on Instagram. Related links (and necessary corrections):Gen Z never learned to read cursive: https://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/2022/10/gen-z-handwriting-teaching-cursive-history/671246/Liz Truss and hitting the ground: https://www.huffingtonpost.co.uk/entry/liz-truss-hit-the-ground_uk_62d81f2ee4b000da23facac2BBC local radio interviews with Liz Truss: https://www.theguardian.com...
2022-10-0551 minMidlifing99: Roll titlesSend us Fan MailThings get a little strange this week. It carries on from Episode 98 in a conversation about comedy and class, but the best bits don't even belong to Lee and Simon. Get in touch with Lee and Simon at info@midlifing.net or @midlifingpod on Instagram. Related links (and necessary corrections):The comic strip presents: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_The_Comic_Strip_Presents..._episodesVictoria Wood Things Would Never Have Worked: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zB0yS7eAhRoVictoria Wood meta sketch: https://www.youtube.com...
2022-09-2827 minMidlifing98: Eric Serra is going to be so happySend us Fan MailIn an attempt to reach brand new levels of banality, Lee and Simon talk about nothing in particular (but different than the week before) before trying to remember Natalie Portman's name and a bunch of other film things. They end up in a conversation about taste and just how personal it really is.Get in touch with Lee and Simon at info@midlifing.net or @midlifingpod on Instagram. Related links (and necessary corrections):David Beckham queuing to see Queen lying-in-state: https://www.theguardian.com/uk-news/video/2022/sep/16/david-beckham-joins-queue-for-queens-lying-in-state-videoShe...
2022-09-2125 minMidlifing97: He's no Mads MikkelsenSend us Fan MailSimon and Lee talk about benevolent dictatorships and what they are supposed to be feeling while living in a country in mourning.Get in touch with Lee and Simon at info@midlifing.net or @midlifingpod on Instagram. Related links (and necessary corrections):Finnish Prime Minister Sanna Marin dancing: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=V-XwhH-_lVcTheresa May dancing queen: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tbCDFNRA-WoBoris Johnson dancing at his wedding: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=J0cViVgWfJQLars Mikkelsen: https://www.imdb.com/name/nm0586565/William Wycherley's...
2022-09-1425 minMidlifing96: Which one of you bitches is my mother?Send us Fan MailLee and Simon talk about making and responding to mistakes.Get in touch with Lee and Simon at info@midlifing.net or @midlifingpod on Instagram. ---The Midlifing logo is adapted from an original image by H.L.I.T: https://www.flickr.com/photos/29311691@N05/8571921679 (CC BY 2.0)Get in touch with Lee and Simon at info@midlifing.net. ---The Midlifing logo is adapted from an original image by H.L.I.T: https://www.flickr.com/photos/29311691@N05/8571921679 (CC BY 2.0)
2022-09-0726 minMidlifing95: A potato of doubt in your headSend us Fan MailLee and Simon talk about dealing with the news (or not dealing with it), enemies and helplessness.Get in touch with Lee and Simon at info@midlifing.net or @midlifingpod on Instagram. Related links (and necessary corrections):Psilocybin: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/PsilocybinFantastic Fungi: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Fantastic_FungiFrance - friend or foe: https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-politics-62687295Gene Knudsen Hoffman on the enemy: https://newconversations.net/communication-skills-library-of-articles-and-teaching-materials/gene-knudsen-hoffman-articles/an-enemy-is-one-whose-story-we-have-not-heard/---The Midlifing logo is adapted from an original image...
2022-08-3124 minMidlifing94: He threw himself on the grenade that is an iPhoneSend us Fan MailSimon and Lee discuss monogamy.Get in touch with Lee and Simon at info@midlifing.net or @midlifingpod on Instagram.---The Midlifing logo is adapted from an original image by H.L.I.T: https://www.flickr.com/photos/29311691@N05/8571921679 (CC BY 2.0)Get in touch with Lee and Simon at info@midlifing.net. ---The Midlifing logo is adapted from an original image by H.L.I.T: https://www.flickr.com/photos/29311691@N05/8571921679 (CC BY 2.0)
2022-08-2423 minMidlifing93: Thumbs up for your traumaSend us Fan MailSimon briefly talks about having to talk about how good he is, before they both fearlessly (or perhaps fearfully) dip their toes into one instance of the culture war. Get in touch with Lee and Simon at info@midlifing.net or @midlifingpod on Instagram.Related links (and necessary corrections):Gloria & Lil's Cafe: https://www.gloriaandlils.co.ukMika 'Grace Kelly' challenge: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kYU3CqoJIx0Research on masturbation and shota: https://www.theguardian.com/uk-news/2022/aug/11/manchester-university-phd-masturbating-to-comics-of-young-boysShota: https://thewordcounter.com/meaning-of-shota/Clark Moustakas and loneliness...
2022-08-1727 minMidlifing92: Here's someone who promised us the worldSend us Fan MailLee recounts how he went to London to go clubbing and how it filled him with joy.Get in touch with Lee and Simon at info@midlifing.net or @midlifingpod on Instagram. Related links (and necessary corrections):Branko: https://www.youtube.com/results?search_query=branko+lisboaThe Jazz Cafe London: https://thejazzcafelondon.comQuote by Maximilian (1843) as cited by Levi-Strauss and here attributed to Crow's Heart: https://mahtobay.com/history/TikTok algorithm is pretty basic: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nfczi2cI6Cs---The Midlifing...
2022-08-1027 minMidlifing91: A testament to forgivenessSend us Fan MailSimon and Lee discuss trust, friendship and taste.Get in touch with Lee and Simon at info@midlifing.net or @midlifingpod on Instagram. Related links (and necessary corrections):David Whyte's Consolations: https://davidwhyte.com/pages/consolationsMagnetic fridge poetry: https://boredhumans.com/fridge_poetry.phpUFC fighter Paddy Pimblett discussing men's mental health: https://youtu.be/19IPBCxh9ls---The Midlifing logo is adapted from an original image by H.L.I.T: https://www.flickr.com/photos/29311691@N05/8571921679 (CC BY 2.0)Get in touch with Lee...
2022-08-0325 minMidlifing90: Which necessitates a certain level of structural jiggery-pokery (Part 2 of 2)Send us Fan MailThis is part 2 of a two-part conversation about encountering aspects of ourselves we don't like or understand, gossip, ruining dinner parties, and parental interventions.Get in touch with Lee and Simon at info@midlifing.net or @midlifingpod on Instagram. Related links (and necessary corrections):Quote about gossip:Graeber and Wengrow describe "extremely human activities" like "gossiping, arguing, playing games, dancing or travelling for pleasure." (from Dawn of Everything, Chapter 4).---The Midlifing logo is adapted from an original image by H.L...
2022-07-2727 minMidlifing89: Which necessitates a certain level of structural jiggery-pokery (Part 1 of 2)Send us Fan MailSimon and Lee pootle around and end up in a two-part conversation about encountering those parts of ourselves we don't like or understand, gossip, ruining dinner parties, and parental interventions.Get in touch with Lee and Simon at info@midlifing.net or @midlifingpod on Instagram.Related links (and necessary corrections):1755 Lisbon earthquake: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/1755_Lisbon_earthquakePortuguese colonial empire: https://www.portugal.com/history-and-culture/the-portuguese-colonial-empire/---The Midlifing logo is adapted from an original image by H.L.I.T: https://www.flickr.com...
2022-07-2025 minMidlifing88: Making myself sound less righteous in the editSend us Fan MailLee and Simon discuss a situation in which Simon's nephew Finn responds to a homophobic statement. Get in touch with Lee and Simon at info@midlifing.net or @midlifingpod on Instagram. Related links (and necessary corrections):UK Equality Act (2010): https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Equality_Act_2010Owen Jones "Chavs: The Demonization of the Working Class" (review): https://www.theguardian.com/books/2011/jun/08/chavs-demonization-owen-jones-review---The Midlifing logo is adapted from an original image by H.L.I.T: https://www.flickr.com/photos/29311691@N05/8571921679 (CC BY 2.0)
2022-07-1329 minMidlifing87: Who are you? (Part 2 of 2)Send us Fan MailLee and Simon address the question, "Who are you?".Get in touch with Lee and Simon at info@midlifing.net or @midlifingpod on Instagram. Related links (and necessary corrections):There are none!---The Midlifing logo is adapted from an original image by H.L.I.T: https://www.flickr.com/photos/29311691@N05/8571921679 (CC BY 2.0)Get in touch with Lee and Simon at info@midlifing.net. ---The Midlifing logo is adapted from an original image by H.L...
2022-07-0626 minMidlifing86: Who are you? (Part 1 of 2)Send us Fan MailIt's embarrassing, but Simon and Lee start with toilet and work related issues before eventually getting to the heart of things (You'll need to be patient with them). Where often they respond to things that are going on, or talk about things they do, in this two-parter they address the question, "Who are you?".Get in touch with Lee and Simon at info@midlifing.net or @midlifingpod on Instagram. Related links:Tick removal card: https://www.lifesystems.co.uk/products/insect-repellents/tick-removal-toolPortable bidet: https://culoclean.com...
2022-06-2925 minMidlifing85: It's too lateSend us Fan MailLee and Simon lean warily into a discussion about art (and shit poetry).Get in touch with Lee and Simon at info@midlifing.net or @midlifingpod on Instagram. Related links:Palm Treo: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Palm_TreoNena 99 Luftballoons: https://www.nena.de/de/discografie/99-luftballons-0Marco Ranieri: http://marcoranieri.org/about-Marco-Ranieri Carl Andre's pile of bricks: https://www.theguardian.com/artanddesign/jonathanjonesblog/2016/sep/20/carl-andre-equivalent-viii-bricksJohn Berger's Ways of Seeing: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ways_of_SeeingDoggerel: https...
2022-06-2227 minMidlifing84: Three trains and two busesSend us Fan Mail This week Lee and Simon talk about creativity, making things and understanding their experiences of generosity in different places in the world.Get in touch with Lee and Simon at info@midlifing.net or @midlifingpod on Instagram.---The Midlifing logo is adapted from an original image by H.L.I.T: https://www.flickr.com/photos/29311691@N05/8571921679 (CC BY 2.0)Get in touch with Lee and Simon at info@midlifing.net. ---The Midlifing logo is adapted from an original image by H...
2022-06-1525 minMidlifing83: One set of ears (Part 2 of 2)Send us Fan MailPart 2 of a 2 part episode. Lee and Simon respond to some contrasting feedback from Episode 81 and get even further into the weeds of men, women and control.Get in touch with Lee and Simon at info@midlifing.net or @midlifingpod on Instagram.---The Midlifing logo is adapted from an original image by H.L.I.T: https://www.flickr.com/photos/29311691@N05/8571921679 (CC BY 2.0)Get in touch with Lee and Simon at info@midlifing.net. ---The Midlifing logo is adapted from...
2022-06-0830 minMidlifing82: One set of ears (Part 1 of 2)Send us Fan MailPart 1 of a 2 part episode. Lee and Simon respond to some contrasting feedback from Episode 81 and get even further into the weeds of men, women and control. Note that L and S were later granted permission by the first listener to include their response in the recording.Get in touch with Lee and Simon at info@midlifing.net or @midlifingpod on Instagram.Related links:Mac Rental Company: https://www.macrentalcompany.co.ukTrixie Mattel: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Trixie_MattelObi-Wan Kenobi: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki...
2022-06-0127 minMidlifing81: And now for the weatherSend us Fan MailSimon and Lee discuss the terrible romantic idea that 'no' will become a 'yes', and the differences between wooing and harrassing. Lee then describes a moment of shame and Simon says 'wow' a lot.Get in touch with Lee and Simon at info@midlifing.net or @midlifingpod on Instagram.Related links:Tre Piani by Nanni Moretti: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Three_FloorsRiccardo Scamarcio: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Riccardo_ScamarcioAlba Rohrwacher: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Alba_RohrwacherEvery Breath You Take lyrics: https://www.musixmatch.com/lyrics...
2022-05-2527 minMidlifing80: I don't find halloumi upsettingSend us Fan MailLee and Simon get off to a rocky technical start before having a conversation about mistakes, being given notes, Wagatha Christie, judging others, Thich Nhat Hanh's Teachings on Love, and a conversation with a drunk young man.Get in touch with Lee and Simon at info@midlifing.net or @midlifingpod on Instagram.Related links:Douglas Wright Dance Company: http://douglaswright.netWagatha Christie: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Wagatha_ChristiePeter Andre chipolata story: https://www.independent.co.uk/news/uk/home-news/peter-andre-rebekah-vardy-wagatha-trial-b2077529.htmlThich Nhat Hanh's "Teachings on Love": https...
2022-05-1827 minMidlifing79: A low-digit odd numberSend us Fan MailLee and Simon go on a weird trip together and talk about furniture, moving, photographing dead people and consumer capitalism. They also try to remember each other's birthdays.Get in touch with Lee and Simon at info@midlifing.net or @midlifingpod on Instagram Related links:Chet Hanks (known professionally as Chet Hanx): https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Chet_Hanksnominative determinisn: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Nominative_determinismMan and van: https://www.comparethemanandvan.co.ukGimme Shelter (documentary): https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gimme_Shelter_(1970_film) Altamont: The Rolling Stones, t...
2022-05-1123 minMidlifing78: Eternal bosom of hot loveSend us Fan MailMoving house, disassembling emotions, being in relationships, more on the scam (is it or isn't it?), and thinking about other people having sex. Get in touch with Lee and Simon at info@midlifing.net or @midlifingpod on InstagramRelated links:Relate campaign: https://www.homecare.co.uk/news/article.cfm/id/1647938/relate-campaign-joy-sex-later-life-intimate-images-older-peoplePrisoners of Geography by Tim Marshall: https://earthbound.report/2016/08/17/book-review-prisoners-of-geography-by-tim-marshall/Angela Raynor and Basic Instinct: https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-politics-61228236---The Midlifing logo is adapted from an original image by H...
2022-05-0427 minMidlifing77: Throw it in, seal it upSend us Fan MailLee and Simon talk about being scammed, being back out in the wild, and hand gel.Get in touch with Lee and Simon at info@midlifing.net or @midlifingpod on InstagramRelated links:nothing more serious than a speeding ticket: https://www.independent.co.uk/news/uk/politics/boris-johnson-partygate-fine-police-b2064208.htmlRwanda asylum plan: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Rwanda_asylum_planAkshata Murty’s non-domicile tax status: https://www.independent.co.uk/news/uk/politics/rishi-sunak-wife-tax-green-card-b2062534.htmlThis too shall pass: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/This_too_shall_pass...
2022-04-2724 minMidlifing76: Some kind of beautiful kimonoSend us Fan MailLee and Simon talk about judgement, cynicism, hope, forgiveness, communities of the spirit, and surprises.Get in touch with Lee and Simon at info@midlifing.net or @midlifingpod on InstagramRelated links:Lisbon tree planting: https://www.theportugalnews.com/news/2022-03-29/lisbon-to-plant-two-trees-for-every-one-felled/66082Milan's urban forestry: https://www.treehugger.com/milan-urban-forestry-greening-project-5201037Ben Rawlence's The Treeline: https://blackmountainscollege.uk/the-treeline/Nick Cave on cynicism and hope: https://www.theredhandfiles.com/do-you-still-believe-in-us/we are not our thoughts: https://medium.com/@marjoriedadhich/you-are-not-your-thoughts-8dc916959e53Trello: http://trello.comintroversion / extroversion: https...
2022-04-2028 minMidlifing75: The heron that shits on the iceberg of your lifeSend us Fan MailThis is another strange one. Simon starts with a lie and they go from there to talk about, well, mid-life, merch, getting caught up in the ambitions of children and a not-quite-existential moment.Warning: parts of this episode might not make sense if you haven't listened to Episode 74. Get in touch with Lee and Simon at info@midlifing.net or @midlifingpod on InstagramRelated links:Oliver Spencer clothing: https://oliverspencer.co.ukecru: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/EcruOn circlusion (25 December 2020): https://www.midlifing.net/1480717/6984637-on-circlusion Wework...
2022-04-1330 minMidlifing74: Coming to you live from purgatorySend us Fan MailSimon and Lee wander all over the show: smart speakers, Bridgerton (spoiler alert – Antony and Kate get it on), getting cut, listener questions (and feedback), making horse lips and cosmetic surgery.Get in touch with Lee and Simon at info@midlifing.net or @midlifingpod on InstagramRelated links:Ezra Miller injunction: https://abcnews.go.com/Entertainment/wireStory/actor-ezra-miller-ordered-stay-hawaii-couple-83793977Bridgerton: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/BridgertonBrad Pitt in Thelma and Louise: https://www.theringer.com/movies/2020/5/21/21266834/thelma-and-louise-brad-pitt-masculinityWho else might have played Brad Pitt's role in Thelma and Louise: https://ww...
2022-04-0625 minMidlifing73: A cloth ear for comedySend us Fan MailSimon and Lee start with some follow up and listener feedback and get stuck there. Get in touch with Lee and Simon at info@midlifing.net or @midlifingpod on Instagram.Related links:Sniffari: https://www.telegraph.co.uk/pets/news-features/sniffaris-training-treats-raise-happier-dog/rethink.org: https://www.rethink.org/advice-and-information/carers-hub/suicidal-thoughts-how-to-support-someone/man cave: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Man_cavelowkey shitty: https://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=Lowkey%20shitty---The Midlifing logo is adapted from an original image by H.L.I.T: https://www...
2022-03-3026 minMidlifing72: Thrusting show titles at meSend us Fan MailLee and Simon get stuck in an acronym loop while discussing perceived value and worth at work (and in life). Then they move onto talking about dicks on TV and in films.Get in touch with Lee and Simon at info@midlifing.net.Related links:Steel Magnolias: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Steel_MagnoliasIt was Bette Midler in Beaches! "That's enough about me": https://youtu.be/9IJvgD7c1KoP&O Ferries sackings: https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/business-60792039Three poisons of...
2022-03-2327 minMidlifing71: Are we just going to get into this?Send us Fan MailSimon and Lee talk about depression, suicide and asking for help.UK: https://www.samaritans.orgUSA: https://suicidepreventionlifeline.orgAustralia: https://www.lifeline.org.au NZ: https://www.lifeline.org.nzWorldwide: https://www.who.int/health-topics/suicideGet in touch with Lee and Simon at info@midlifing.net.Related links:The Sorrows of Young Werther: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Sorrows_of_Young_WertherNot saying 'committed suicide': https://www.irmi.com/articles/expert-commentary/language-matters-committed-suicide13 Reasons Why: https://www.imdb...
2022-03-1625 minMidlifing70: Don't kill the pig JefreySend us Fan MailLee and Simon talk about their responsibility to keep up with the news, and what news to keep up with.Get in touch with Lee and Simon at info@midlifing.net.Related links (and necessary corrections):Moustafa Bayoumi in the Guardian: https://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2022/mar/02/civilised-european-look-like-us-racist-coverage-ukrainewhat Russia wants in Ukraine: https://kottke.org/22/03/why-russia-is-invading-ukrainered top newspapers: https://wordhistories.net/2017/03/02/red-top/red circle of shame: https://partner.studentbeans.com/blog/gen-z-trends/circle-of-shame/Tucker Carlson and Ketanji Brown Jackson's LSAT score...
2022-03-0926 minMidlifing69: I realised you are right about everythingSend us Fan MailLee and Simon struggle with the news and talk about responsibility for things that are too big. They also respond to some relieving questions from a listener, and weigh in briefly on Tom Hardy and Charlize Theron.Get in touch with Lee and Simon at info@midlifing.net.Related links (and necessary corrections):The Marvelous Mrs. Maisel: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Marvelous_Mrs._Maiselminority rule (Nassim Nicholas Taleb): https://medium.com/incerto/the-most-intolerant-wins-the-dictatorship-of-the-small-minority-3f1f83ce4e15#.z5ry4bucqLayla Moran naming 35 oligarchs: https://www.democraticunderground...
2022-03-0225 minMidlifing68: Incidents and accidents, hints and allegationsSend us Fan MailSimon and Lee start with a little bit of ambition-related follow up, before slipping into a conversation about retirement, the future and the intrinsic value of doing things.Get in touch with Lee and Simon at info@midlifing.net.Related links (and necessary corrections):Paul Simon, Graceland (1986) - Lee wins! - https://it.wikipedia.org/wiki/Graceland_(album)Brene Brown dealing with Joe Rogan situation: https://www.hollywoodreporter.com/business/digital/brene-brown-spotify-update-1235089635/Storm Eunice: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Storm_EuniceAnthropocene: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/AnthropoceneCarbon shadow...
2022-02-2326 minMidlifing67: Walt Whitman is robbing from the bibleSend us Fan MailSimon and Lee start talking about how the pandemic has shown their characters and Lee suspects he has joined the great resignation.Get in touch with Lee and Simon at info@midlifing.net.Related links (and necessary corrections):Kath and Kim 'look at me': https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gSMmxyGeEb4I am legion and we are many: https://biblehub.com/mark/5-9.htmWhitman, 'I contain multitudes': https://poets.org/poem/song-myself-51Exorcist 'Your mother is in here': https://youtu.be/LHnDyOr0DfI
2022-02-1626 minMidlifing65: A one in one out policySend us Fan MailLee and Simon deal with the fallout from episode 64 when some (faithful) listeners demand a public apology. They then talk about forgiveness. Get in touch with Lee and Simon at info@midlifing.net.Related links (and necessary corrections):Apple cider vinegar and hair: https://www.healthline.com/health/apple-cider-vinegar-hairOlive oil and hair: https://www.healthline.com/health/beauty-skin-care/olive-oil-hair-careRichard Serra: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Richard_SerraWhat am I, chopped liver?: https://knowyourphrase.com/what-am-i-chopped-liver---The Midlifing logo is adapted from an original image...
2022-02-0226 minMidlifing64: The half-life of friendshipsSend us Fan MailLee and Simon talk about making new friends.Get in touch with Lee and Simon at info@midlifing.net.Related links (and necessary corrections):making new friends as an adult: https://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2022/jan/18/theres-no-easy-way-to-make-new-friends-as-an-adult-and-sometimes-our-friendships-can-feel-like-a-chorehamsters, covid and Hong Kong: https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/world-asia-china-60095060frolleague: https://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=frolleaguereminiscence bump: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Reminiscence_bumpparasocial interaction: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Parasocial_interaction---The Midlifing logo is adapted from an original image by H.L...
2022-01-2624 minMidlifing63: The insurmountable problem of world messinessSend us Fan MailLee and Simon talk about Conrad the seagull and (unrelated) how ambitions seem to change in mid-life. Get in touch with Lee and Simon at info@midlifing.net.Related links (and necessary corrections):Marie Kondo sparking joy: https://konmari.com/marie-kondo-rules-of-tidying-sparks-joy/Bad Batch: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Star_Wars:_The_Bad_BatchSeagull development: https://animalwhoop.com/about-seagulls-and-seagull-babies/Seoul Olympics: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/1988_Summer_Olympicswhakapapa: https://teara.govt.nz/en/whakapapa-genealogy---The Midlifing logo is adapted from an original image by H.L...
2022-01-1925 minMidlifing62: I am not sure that biting hard on a stick will do it for meSend us Fan MailLee and Simon indulge in a personality test (separately and together).(Sorry about Simon's crackly audio)Get in touch with Lee and Simon at info@midlifing.net.Related links (and necessary corrections):Jon Kabat-Zinn: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Jon_Kabat-Zinndon't know mind: https://jackkornfield.com/practice-dont-know-mind/Novak Djokovic as political pawn to Scott Morrison: https://www.abc.net.au/news/2022-01-06/novak-djokovic-the-unlikely-hostage-in-petty-political-saga-/100741720Florence Griffith Joyner: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Florence_Griffith_JoynerScarJo: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Scarlett_JohanssonBennifer: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki...
2022-01-1225 minMidlifing61: Chicken stepsSend us Fan MailLee and Simon take Midlifing outside for a walk, and treat listeners to bonus airplanes, wind, traffic and heavy breathing. In the conversation, they try and answer the question, "What are you good at?" Get in touch with Lee and Simon at info@midlifing.net.Related links (and necessary corrections):Gary Lineker: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gary_LinekerCristiano Ronaldo: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cristiano_RonaldoRauhnacht: https://www.invest-in-bavaria.com/en/blog/post/a-ghoulishly-beautiful-tradition-rauhnachtin-bavariaLisbon housing and money: https://www.theguardian.com/world/2021/dec/22/luxury-homes-short-lets-and-shacks-inside-lisbons-housing-crisisFour Thousand Weeks: https...
2022-01-0529 minMidlifing60: That's what balaclavas are for SimonSend us Fan MailIn between Christmas and New Year things get spooky when Lee confesses his undying (and somewhat middle class) love for M. R. James' ghost stories. Be afraid, be mildly afraid.Get in touch with Lee and Simon at info@midlifing.net.Related links (and necessary corrections):M. R. James: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/M._R._JamesThe Mezzotint: https://www.bbc.co.uk/sounds/play/p06w5x96Oh, Whistle, and I'll Come to You, My Lad: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/%27Oh,_Whistle,_and_I%27ll_Come...
2021-12-2923 min
Midlifing59: Part 2 - "Seems," madam? Nay, it is; I know not "seems."Send us Fan MailIn part two of a two-part episode, Simon and Lee complete their reconstructed argument (about violence against women and responsibility) that was edited out of Episode 57 ("Trying to get back to normal"). They then reflect on part two as a way to wrap around the reconstruction. "Confused," madam? Nay, it is; I know not "confused."Get in touch with Lee and Simon at info@midlifing.net.Related links (and necessary corrections):suicides in the UK: https://www.ons.gov.uk/peoplepopulationandcommunity/birthsdeathsandmarriages/deaths/bulletins/suicidesintheunitedkingdom/2018registrationsby-law: https://en...
2021-12-2233 min
Midlifing58: Part 1 - "Seems," madam? Nay, it is; I know not "seems."Send us Fan MailIn part one of a two-part episode, Simon and Lee attempt to reconstruct a heated argument (about violence against women and responsibility) that was edited out of Episode 57.Get in touch with Lee and Simon at info@midlifing.net.Related links (and necessary corrections):The Shining: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Shining_(film)Palm Springs: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Palm_Springs_(2020_film)Groundhog Day: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Groundhog_Day_(film)Yusaku Maezawa goes to space: https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/world-asia-59544223Wine and...
2021-12-1529 minMidlifingTrying to get back to normalSend us Fan MailThis week's episode begins with a failure, descends into a very boring discussion of airline seating before being warmed up by Lee's new heating system. In other words, Simon and Lee are united in the same timezone (physically, not psychically). Get in touch with Lee and Simon at info@midlifing.net.Related links (and necessary corrections):economy 7 (refers to the number of hours, not when it finishes): https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Economy_7sophomore slump: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sophomore_slumpgynocentrism: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gynocentrismfirst...
2021-12-0825 minMidlifing98th percentile kidney sizeSend us Fan MailSimon and Lee dig into Lee's gallbladder before thinking through Simon's NZ buffer between being home and, well, being home home. Get in touch with Lee and Simon at info@midlifing.net.Related links (and necessary corrections):Simon's glamorous podcasting setup: https://www.skellis.net/midlifing/setupadventure racing: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Adventure_racingLee's gallbladder scan: https://www.skellis.net/midlifing/gallbladderThere are known unknowns: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/There_are_known_knownsJet planes: https://lolliesnz.co.nz/lollies-nz/lolliesnz/gummy/pascall-jet-planes/World famous in NZ: h...
2021-12-0126 minMidlifingLike two little piss holes in the snowSend us Fan MailA hypothetical drunken situation (and necessary use of the subjunctive) forms the basis of some spoonerisms and a conversation about death cleaning and things that matter. Also, Simon talks to a newly deaf chocolate bunny.Get in touch with Lee and Simon at info@midlifing.net.Related links (and necessary corrections):Swedish death cleaning: https://www.realhomes.com/advice/swedish-death-cleaningLee and Jeffrey celebrating the end of another Midlifing episode recording: https://www.skellis.net/midlifing/episode-end---The Midlifing logo is adapted from an original image...
2021-11-2425 minMidlifingClutching my pearls in horrorSend us Fan MailSimon and Lee talk about instability, letting go of cynicism, and being profligate with love.Get in touch with Lee and Simon at info@midlifing.net.Related links (and necessary corrections):casket vs coffin: https://www.legacy.com/advice/what-is-the-difference-between-a-coffin-and-a-casket/pīwakawaka (fantail): https://www.doc.govt.nz/nature/native-animals/birds/birds-a-z/fantail-piwakawaka/Simon's eulogy for Gabrielle: https://www.skellis.net/midlifing/eulogyPatere: https://maoridictionary.co.nz/search?idiom=&phrase=&proverb=&loan=&keywords=paterePatere performed by Lisl Prendergast for Gabrielle Anne Eastwood Ellis (16 January 1937 - 4 November 2021). It was t...
2021-11-1628 minMidlifingAll roads lead to the same placeSend us Fan MailThis is a strange one. Simon and Lee talk about the death of Simon's mother Gabrielle, eulogies, and racism. These things are not connected. Also, Simon's recording crackles in sadness (or something went wrong with his setup).Get in touch with Lee and Simon at info@midlifing.net.Related links (and necessary corrections):King Lear and Cordelia (more than words can wield the matter): https://www.bard.org/study-guides/more-than-word-can-wield-the-matterCritical Race Theory: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Critical_race_theoryYorkshire County Cricket Club racism scandal: https://www.theguardian...
2021-11-1024 minMidlifingWas it something about the burger that triggered you?Send us Fan MailSimon thinks he might be losing his sense of humour. Lee comes to the rescue. One of them cries into his beer.Get in touch with Lee and Simon at info@midlifing.net.Related links (and necessary corrections):Aotearoa Pale Ale: https://www.tuatarabrewing.co.nz/beer/aotearoa-pale-ale/Jenny Morris "Aotearoa": https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=phJ1kOBhQfMThe Three Marriages by David Whyte: https://davidwhyte.com/products/the-three-marriages-reimaging-work-self-and-relationshiptime millionaire: https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2021/oct/12/time-millionaires-meet-the-people-pursuing-the-pleasure-of-leisureuncanny: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Uncanny---The Midlifing...
2021-11-0326 minMidlifingFingers crossed it works out this timeSend us Fan MailSimon and Lee talk about a shaky landing, get lost in a sea of terrible old movies, then discuss apologies.Get in touch with Lee and Simon at info@midlifing.net.Related links (and necessary corrections):Text message from Air New Zealand regarding the weather: http://skellis.net/midlifing/weatherVideo of airplanes landing at Wellington airport (not for the fainthearted): https://youtu.be/m0jnahV81AUAirplane!: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Airplane!Disaster films: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_disaster_films Leslie Nielson taking pee while...
2021-10-2727 minMidlifingThat's a spicy meatball as they say nowhereSend us Fan MailSimon and Lee talk tattoos and shame. Get in touch with Lee and Simon at info@midlifing.net.Related links (and necessary corrections):demob: https://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/demobASMR: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/ASMRmukbang: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/MukbangSimon's waffle podcast setup: http://skellis.net/midlifing/waffleshame: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Shame---The Midlifing logo is adapted from an original image by H.L.I.T: https://www.flickr.com/photos/29311691...
2021-10-2025 minMidlifingI have never seen anyone go around it like youSend us Fan MailIntroducing Lear B. Miller. Simon and Lee try to have a regular conversation but Simon's state of disrepair gets in the way. Eventually they talk about his blue wrist band of freedom. Confused? Yes, so are they. Get in touch with Lee and Simon at info@midlifing.net.Related links (and necessary corrections):Frances Haugen (Facebook whistleblower): https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Frances_HaugenYale Law conversation about Facebook Files with Shoshana Zuboff, Tristan Harris, Frances Haugen and Meetali Jain (who was the person Simon couldn't remember): https://yalelaw.h...
2021-10-1324 minMidlifingOh future boy you are making my life so complicatedSend us Fan MailSimon leaves the Wild West and Lee leaves a party: COVID, isolation, and panic attacks. Get in touch with Lee and Simon at info@midlifing.net.Related links (and necessary corrections):Feijoa Frenzy: https://www.newworld.co.nz/shop/product/5012429_ea_000nwMIQ: https://www.miq.govt.nzET: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/E.T._the_Extra-TerrestrialET lockdown scene (MIQ in NZ is not really like this, but you get the idea): https://cms-assets.theasc.com/ET-19476-copy.jpgTime it takes to get over jetlag: https://www.epainassist.com...
2021-10-0626 min
Midlife MasteryRebooting and Midlifing It (with Rachael Lee)Ready for a midlife reboot? Rachael Lee, author of the blog Midlifing It, made the decision to not live someone else’s version of her life. Rachael shares the small changes any of us can make as well as her own huge change of relocating from Oregon to La Paz, Mexico.…
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2021-09-2934 minMidlifingA strange sort of trainer wheel situationSend us Fan MailSimon and Lee talk about being caught between bureaucracy and grief when a previously imagined scenario becomes real.Get in touch with Lee and Simon at info@midlifing.net.Related links (and necessary corrections):Rosemary Lee (choreographer): https://www.artsadmin.co.uk/profiles/rosemary-lee/Raymond Tallis: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Raymond_TallisMIQ: https://www.miq.govt.nzEmergency allocation request: https://www.miq.govt.nz/travel-to-new-zealand/secure-your-place-in-managed-isolation/emergency-allocation-requests/The Midlifing episode when Simon says he wouldn't travel in such a situation: https://www.midlifing.net/1480717/9001033-you-could-be-in-new-zealand-or-you-could-be-around-the-corner---
2021-09-2925 minMidlifingIt has not been hung very long but who am I to judge?Send us Fan MailSimon and Lee are asked to talk about conspiracy theories but take a long time to get to them, and then realise they have very little skin in the game (but for very different reasons). They end up at self-consciousness and not changing anything.Get in touch with Lee and Simon at info@midlifing.net.Related links (and necessary corrections):sonhos: http://portuguesediner.com/tiamaria/sonhos-portuguese-dreams/Thames Path: https://www.thames-path.org.ukDartington College of Arts: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dartington_College_of_ArtsMarina Abramović: https://en.w...
2021-09-2232 minMidlifingAs he gazed with that slack-jawed look of a teenagerSend us Fan MailSimon and Lee try to talk about food and what food means.Get in touch with Lee and Simon at info@midlifing.net.Related links (and necessary corrections):Curious about the Queen tweeting bit?: https://twitter.com/RoyalFamily/status/1436820368514338818Food poverty in the UK: https://www.bda.uk.com/resource/food-poverty.htmlLa cucina povera: http://www.scordo.com/food/la-cucina-povera-the-kitchen-of-the-poor.htmlThe Angel (Dartmouth): https://www.theangeldartmouth.co.ukShrove Tuesday: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Shrove_TuesdayAlice Waters: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Alice_WatersMasterclass videos: https://www.masterclass...
2021-09-1526 minMidlifingDangerously close to our specialismsSend us Fan MailLee and Simon talk about attitudes and habits towards the body in decline. Get in touch with Lee and Simon at info@midlifing.net.Related links (and necessary corrections):winnowing: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Winnowingpicked up the ball and ran with it: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/William_Webb_Ellisgender theory: https://www.encyclopedia.com/international/encyclopedias-almanacs-transcripts-and-maps/gender-theoryincel: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/IncelJamie Lewis Hadley: http://www.jamielewishadley.comlive art: https://www.tate.org.uk/art/art-terms/l/live-artJosé Limón: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Jo...
2021-09-0827 minMidlifingAs in men and womenSend us Fan MailSimon and Lee struggle with a question about who carries other people's emotions, who doesn't, and why this is so. Get in touch with Lee and Simon at info@midlifing.net.Related links (and necessary corrections):Steve Jobs' 2005 commencement speech at Stanford (not his resignation letter): https://news.stanford.edu/2005/06/14/jobs-061505/Succession (TV Series): https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Succession_(TV_series)Toxic masculinity: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Toxic_masculinityMunchausen syndrome by proxy: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Factitious_disorder_imposed_on_anotherThe Revenant: https://en...
2021-09-0126 minMidlifingIt turns out I like a wet martiniSend us Fan MailSimon and Lee talk about making things with love. Recorded using Simon's 52 year old mouth and listened to with his 53 year old ears. Get in touch with Lee and Simon at info@midlifing.net.Related links (and necessary corrections):Pet Shop Boys 'West End Girls': https://youtu.be/p3j2NYZ8FKsSuperman logo: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Superman_logoMichael Sandel 'The Tyranny of Merit' (TED talk, not the book): https://www.ted.com/talks/michael_sandel_the_tyranny_of_meritJacob Wren 'Authenticity is a Feeling': https...
2021-08-2526 minMidlifingI have got my message machine readySend us Fan MailLee and Simon decide to run for parliament and spend the episode sorting out their political manifesto. Vote here. Get in touch with Lee and Simon at info@midlifing.net.Related links (and necessary corrections):Source of the Thames: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Thames_Headdogs are barking: https://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=Dogs%20are%20barkingwicked problem: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Wicked_problemstrike me pink: https://idioms.thefreedictionary.com/strike+me+pinkThe Extended Mind by Annie Murphy Paul: https://anniemurphypaul.com/books/the-extended-mind/Marcus Rashford...
2021-08-1826 minMidlifingYou could be in New Zealand or you could be around the cornerSend us Fan MailLee and Simon have a hypothetical and very real conversation about being with loved ones. Recorded 1 August 2021.Get in touch with Lee and Simon at info@midlifing.net.Related links (and necessary corrections):Latin in UK schools (a few of them): https://www.theguardian.com/education/2021/jul/31/latin-introduced-40-state-secondaries-englandDawn Butler thrown out of chamber for calling UK PM a liar: https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-politics-57927398A Few Good Men (film): https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/A_Few_Good_MenA Few Good Men (play): https...
2021-08-1124 minMidlifingA nice light baritone edging towards a tenorSend us Fan MailPrompted by some listener feedback in which Lee and Simon are accused of nearly jumping the shark, they decide to come clean about their ambitions and reach out to you, yes you, their listeners. Also, who are we kidding, these show notes are not written by someone else. Get in touch with Lee and Simon at info@midlifing.net.Related links (and necessary corrections):jumping the shark: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Jumping_the_sharkmaking lawyer money (Cal Newport and Jordan Harbinger): https://open.spotify.com/episode/3TRgvpqazAj5...
2021-08-0427 minMidlifingThe me that is now asking the her that is thenSend us Fan MailLee expresses some concerns about the UK's "Freedom Day" and has an excellent strategy to prevent people dropping by. They touch on the 1976 film Logan's Run which leads to a conversation about assisted dying. We also find out if Simon's nephew Finn is polite or just not a glutton.Get in touch with Lee and Simon at info@midlifing.net.Related links (and necessary corrections):Camo software for using phone as webcam: https://reincubate.com/camo/Freedom Day: https://www.independent.co.uk/news/business/analysis-and-features/freedom-day-coronavirus-restrictions-lockdown-end-b1886862.htmlLogan's...
2021-07-2826 minMidlifingOverdue Part 1 - A stand up sauna for oneSend us Fan MailPart 1 of 2 of Overdue has Lee and Simon talking about protests, diverse crowds, trust in institutions and feeling out of place. Get in touch with Lee and Simon at info@midlifing.net.Related links (and necessary corrections):white power symbol and ok gesture: https://www.npr.org/2019/09/26/764728163/the-ok-hand-gesture-is-now-listed-as-a-symbol-of-hateboiled egg hack: https://www.thespruceeats.com/how-to-make-perfect-7-minute-eggs-4768157lifehacker: https://lifehacker.com/wikihow: https://www.wikihow.com/Main-PageInception: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/InceptionLaurence Olivier statue at Southbank (playing Hamlet, it clearly isn't a dagger he was seeing before him...
2021-07-0727 minMidlifingUniquely qualified if not an expertSend us Fan MailLee and Simon become agony aunts (or uncomfortable uncles) for one episode. Perhaps this is the start of a dramatic rise into the top 1% of all podcasts?Get in touch with Lee and Simon at info@midlifing.net.Related links (and necessary corrections):Sourdough starter: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sourdough#StarterBobby Baker: http://bobbybaker.com/Shattered Anatomies: https://www.adrianheathfield.net/project/shattered-anatomiesBakery in Auckland using Simon's starter (without payment): http://www.4and20.co.nz/Top 1 percent of all podcasts tweet: https://twitter.com/jackbutcher/status/1405883978435993603Corbetron...
2021-06-3026 minMidlifingWe're not saying we didn't inhaleSend us Fan MailSimon holds a sports quiz for Lee (without beer). What could possibly go wrong? Get in touch with Lee and Simon at info@midlifing.net.Related links (and necessary corrections):Kinsey scale (0-6): https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Kinsey_scaleCristiano Ronaldo and water: https://www.theguardian.com/football/video/2021/jun/16/drink-water-ronaldos-coca-cola-snub-costs-company-billions-videoPaul Pogba and Heineken: https://www.theguardian.com/football/2021/jun/16/paul-pogba-moves-sponsors-beer-from-view-at-euro-2020-news-conferenceMan of La Mancha: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Man_of_La_ManchaSuspension of Ollie Robinson (cricketer), with distracting comments by Oliver Dowden (the person we couldn't...
2021-06-2326 minMidlifingLike a bidet for your mouthSend us Fan MailJust to be clear, Midlifing is not a side hustle. Lee and Simon talk about hobbies. Get in touch with Lee and Simon at info@midlifing.net.Related links (and necessary corrections):pain de mie: https://www.tasteatlas.com/pain-de-miepullman tin: https://www.bitchinfrommelanieskitchen.com/2021/04/how-to-bake-a-pullman-loaf-in-a-pullman-bread-pan.htmlChorleywood bread process (1961, not the 1950s): https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Chorleywood_bread_processfood stuck in teeth as you get older: https://moorefamilydentist.com/food-stuck-teethwaterpik: https://www.webmd.com/oral-health/what-is-waterpikAnnie are you OK? https://youtu.be/LzAGAA6t2FYmirror, signal, manoeuvre...
2021-06-1629 minMidlifingWe've got a great show lined up for you todaySend us Fan MailSimon is dealing with a cold and Lee is empathetic. Special guests (not literally): Kermit the Frog, Animal, Mr Miyagi, someone throwing glasses in a cocktail bar in Lisbon, Ian Ellis, Doctor Emmett "Doc" Brown, and Thom Yorke.Get in touch with Lee and Simon at info@midlifing.net.Related links (and necessary corrections):Muppets Christmas Carol Marley and Marley: https://youtu.be/VsiKOJOXMJUmate (link from James in NZ): https://www.smh.com.au/national/mate-what-s-the-history-of-our-most-treasured-salutation-20210513-p57rhk.htmlThese are not the droids you're looking for: https://youtu...
2021-06-0925 minMidlifingHeart attacks can present in a variety of waysSend us Fan MailSimon and Lee talk about being beginners, selling bones, and the Dao of butchering a cow. They also finally use the word behove.Get in touch with Lee and Simon at info@midlifing.net.Related links (and necessary corrections):Simon's apron: https://www.skellis.net/midlifing/apronFAST (stroke symptoms): https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/FAST_(stroke)Mnemonic: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mnemonicheart attack symptoms: https://www.cdc.gov/heartdisease/heart_attack.htmjointing a chicken (example video): https://youtu.be/ZfBCQ0KdkNoYuk Hui: http://www.digitalmilieu.net/yuk...
2021-06-0225 minMidlifingAhoy there matiesSend us Fan MailLee and Simon talk about flags and t-shirts as absurd shorthands for far more nuanced ideas. Oh, and they talk about the word dude, Barbra Streisand's cloned dogs and a beautiful beautiful hug.Get in touch with Lee and Simon at info@midlifing.net.Related links (and necessary corrections):dude: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dudemate: https://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=Matefella: https://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/fellaguys: https://www.thefreedictionary.com/guysgip: https://www.thefreedictionary.com/gipKeanu Reeves and Alex Winter in Bill and Ted's...
2021-05-2626 minMidlifingDialling down the coolnessSend us Fan MailSimon and Lee discuss irrelevance ... and pigs and other mammals.Get in touch with Lee and Simon at info@midlifing.net.Related links (and necessary corrections):A humongous loaf of bread: https://skellis.net/midlifing/humongousNirvana, "Smells Like Teen Spirit": https://youtu.be/hTWKbfoikegNirvana playing "School" at Reading in 1991 (awesome dancing): https://youtu.be/wkr1pK17avQGeneration X: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Generation_XGeneration Y / Millennials: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/MillennialsWhy the Hybrid Workforce of the Future Depends on the ‘Geriatric Millennial’: https://index.medium.com/why...
2021-05-1924 minMidlifingI get involved in the sniffSend us Fan MailLee and Simon start with Jef's deep sniffs. They then move into a brief career as film reviewers before digging into a conversation about perfectionism, being a fraud and the Pomodoro technique. Get in touch with Lee and Simon at info@midlifing.net.Related links (and necessary corrections):The Truman Show (bumping into the edge of the world): https://youtu.be/Gn5kuDdeGzsBas Jan Ader, In Search of the Miraculous: https://hyperallergic.com/336146/in-search-of-bas-jan-ader-the-artist-who-disappeared-at-sea/Peter Weir (still alive): https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Peter_WeirThe Cars That Ate...
2021-05-1225 minMidlifingTwo people monologuing about themselves near one anotherSend us Fan MailSimon and Lee discuss itchy feet, talking side by side and starting a cult.Get in touch with Lee and Simon at info@midlifing.net.Related links (and necessary corrections):The Year Earth Changed: https://youtu.be/XswV_yqPq28Itching, shingles and cerebrospinal fluid (not for the faint-hearted): https://www.newyorker.com/magazine/2008/06/30/the-itchNew Zealand OE: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Overseas_experiencearse-end of the world: https://www.oxfordreference.com/view/10.1093/acref/9780195563160.001.0001/acref-9780195563160-e-47rumspringa: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Rumspringatourist gaze: https://wallaceandjames.com/term-tourist-gaze-originates-john-urrys-aptly-named-book-tourist-gaze/David Koresh...
2021-05-0527 minMidlifingSomething you will only ever get right once in your lifeSend us Fan MailSimon and Lee discuss their shop-owning fantasies and how real they really are. But the conversation jags into death and dying and those four emails you need to get done before your bucket gets kicked.Get in touch with Lee and Simon at info@midlifing.net (and/or send in your "How much do you hate Lee?" numbers).Related links (and necessary corrections):Tracking down Ted Lasso's shortbread: http://david-smith.org/blog/2021/04/21/breadcrumbsWim Hof breathing technique: https://www.wimhofmethod.com/breathing-techniquessnookered: https://www...
2021-04-2836 minMidlifingThe blood clot oneSend us Fan MailLee and Simon meander into a conversation about freedom, vaccinations, not pushing elderly people out of the queue and new memories on your telephone. Get in touch with Lee and Simon at info@midlifing.net.Related links (and necessary corrections):Blood clots and vaccines: https://www.independent.co.uk/voices/pill-blood-clots-vaccine-covid-astrazeneca-b1818613.htmlFreedom march sticker: https://www.skellis.net/midlifing/nite-for-freedoVaccine passports: https://www.independent.co.uk/travel/news-and-advice/vaccine-passport-travel-holiday-how-to-get-b1818530.htmlraises my hackles: https://idioms.thefreedictionary.com/raises+my+hacklesDeborah Hay: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Deborah_HayBoris Johnson...
2021-04-2131 minMidlifingIf you fall I will catch youSend us Fan MailLee and Simon talk about a different set of neighbours: the ones that sing songs out of tune throughout the night.Get in touch with Lee and Simon at info@midlifing.net.Related links (and necessary corrections):wimple: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Wimplejaundice: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Jaundiceegg whites for curly hair: https://www.naturallycurly.com/curlreading/ingredients/136481Branko on Soundcloud: https://soundcloud.com/brankoofficialBranko and Anna Moura sing Vinte Vinte: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eORRKrcJ8...
2021-04-1431 minMidlifingTeaching boys to close their curtainsSend us Fan MailWhile doing the dishes Simon sees something he'd rather not and Lee and he end up in a conversation about men, masturbation and misogyny. Get in touch with Lee and Simon at info@midlifing.net.Related links (and necessary corrections):Wet rot wood treatment: https://handymantips.org/identify-and-treat-wet-rot/Ship of Theseus: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ship_of_Theseushouse flipping: https://investfourmore.com/house-flipping-101/bodger: https://www.thefreedictionary.com/bodgerrugged up: https://idioms.thefreedictionary.com/rugged+upun casino (Italian): https://en.bab.la/dictionary/italian-english/un-casinoRaynaud syndrome: https...
2021-04-0732 minMidlifingFinding pleasureSend us Fan MailLast week's episode was only the preamble to a conversation about pleasure. Simon and Lee talk about making things, hedonism, cooking scones and ... incinerating children in a volcano.Get in touch with Lee and Simon at info@midlifing.net.Related links (and necessary corrections):Don't Dream It, Be It (Rocky Horror Picture Show): https://youtu.be/8wLArncKxagDo what challenges you not what makes you happy: https://rizzarr.com/do-what-challenges-you-not-what-makes-you-happy/Donna Haraway: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Donna_HarawayAnthropocentrism: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/AnthropocentrismClimate science and having children...
2021-03-3125 minMidlifingHallmarks of competenceSend us Fan MailA lovely opening gambit about the difference between competence and skill turns Lee and Simon's pre-show natter into the show itself. Get in touch with Lee and Simon at info@midlifing.net.Just three related links:Christian Marclay's The Clock: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Clock_(2010_film)Surgeon Simon Bramhall signing his initials on livers: https://www.theguardian.com/uk-news/2017/dec/13/surgeon-admits-marking-his-initials-on-the-livers-of-two-patientsDigital poverty: https://www.digitalpoverty.co.uk---The Midlifing logo is adapted from an original image by H.L.I.T: https://www...
2021-03-2424 minMidlifingMaking a virtue out of necessitySend us Fan MailLee and Simon take too long getting to the three questions, which in themselves are the start of a chat about community. Also, Lee edited out all Simon's mentions of Bruce Springsteen.Get in touch with Lee and Simon at info@midlifing.net.Related links (and necessary corrections):We don't know whether we got it right about things that are random vs things that are arbitrary, but we know we shouldn't have even tried to talk about: "randomness is not haphazardness; it is a measure of uncertainty of...
2021-03-1027 minMidlifingThere is no promise to the futureSend us Fan MailOnce they get past psychoneuroendocrinology, being attuned to panic, and the definition of sonder, Simon and Lee talk about being in love (not necessarily with each other). Get in touch with Lee and Simon at info@midlifing.net.Related links:tornare vs ritornare: https://hinative.com/en-US/questions/3943098saudade: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Saudadeflop sweat: https://www.dictionary.com/browse/flop-sweatBroadcast News (film): https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Broadcast_News_(film)Broadcast News flop sweat scene: https://youtu.be/RR9TFbqAScQBetween Us (Bob and Lee's book): https://w...
2021-03-0332 minMidlifingOne person's Star Wars is another person's cheeseSend us Fan MailLee and Simon talk about bubble-bath ... not for the entire episode but probably more than is necessary. Then they talk about the nature of fandom (but only get there via Lee's undertaker friend).Get in touch with Lee and Simon at info@midlifing.net.Related links (and necessary corrections):Matey bubble bath (for clean fun): https://youtu.be/YqL-2wmF7dwUngulates: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/UngulateSix Feet Under (TV show): https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Six_Feet_Under_%28TV_series%29The Green Funeral Company: http://www.thegreenfuneralcompany...
2021-02-2428 minMidlifingYou dial it up and then it unwindsSend us Fan MailStuff. Lee and Simon talk about stuff, and then deviate towards discussing the way culture can be changed. Then, somehow they end up back at Armie Hammer. Bloody Armie Hammer! It all means they can no longer avoid talking about cancel culture and the divisions in our political and social worlds. Get in touch with Lee and Simon at info@midlifing.net.Related links (and necessary corrections):The Story of Stuff animation: https://youtu.be/9GorqroigqMThe Story of Stuff wikipedia: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Story_of...
2021-02-1725 minMidlifingWe don't feel like we always have something to addSend us Fan MailLee and Simon respond to some listener questions, but definitely not their feedback. The show ends when Simon realises that he's not going to be a secret witch for much longer.Get in touch with Lee and Simon at info@midlifing.net.Related links (and necessary corrections):object permanence: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Object_permanencemacroeconomics: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Macroeconomicsa bit more on Armie Hammer: https://www.msn.com/en-gb/entertainment/movies/armie-hammer-dropped-by-talent-reps-amid-alleged-graphic-message-scandal/ar-BB1duv5WEvan Rachel Wood as Dolores Abernathy on Westworld: https...
2021-02-1026 minMidlifingWe need a bigger towelSend us Fan MailSimon and Lee attempt to tackle shame but get bowled over by Ted Lasso who suggests they meet people with curiosity.Get in touch with Lee and Simon at info@midlifing.net.Related links (and necessary corrections):Something about embodiment: https://www.dancemagazine.com/embodiment-dance-2646793771.htmlBread Ahead Bakery: https://www.breadahead.com/Tips for laminated dough: https://www.kingarthurbaking.com/blog/2018/11/26/how-to-make-croissantsTaekwando: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/TaekwondoBaddha Konasana: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Baddha_KonasanaBrene Brown on shame vs guilt: https://brenebrown.com/blog/2013/01/14/shame-v-guilt...
2021-02-0329 minMidlifingA totally stink conversation about being out of controlSend us Fan MailA conversation about being out of control starts off all middle class, veers wildly out of control and Simon and Lee end up struggling past thirst tweets.Get in touch with Lee and Simon at info@midlifing.net.Related links (and necessary corrections):How to pronounce stracciatella: https://youtu.be/K9JpVi_FanEGroundskeeper Willie has a Sardinian accent in the Italian version of The Simpsons: https://italicsmag.com/2020/08/03/sardinian-case-for-language-diversity/Bonce: https://www.collinsdictionary.com/dictionary/english/bonceThe Notebook is not a rom-com Simon: https://ew.com/movies/2019/02/06/what-is-a-rom-com...
2021-01-2731 minMidlifingWhenever I opened my mouth everybody else shut upSend us Fan MailLee and Simon talk about being heard and privilege. It gets beautifully messy and ends in shame, and then ice-cream.Get in touch with Lee and Simon at info@midlifing.net.Related Links:Stelarc's Ear on Arm: http://stelarc.org/?catID=20242Maxwell Smart shoe phone: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Shoe_phone Being heard and being loved (David Augsburger): https://www.skellis.net/blog/being-heardAcademic parent episode (on feedback): https://www.midlifing.net/1480717/6791131-they-re-your-worms-you-didn-t-tell-us-where-you-kept-themEcosia: https://www.ecosia.org/Poverty Safari (review): https://www.theguardian.com/books/2018/aug/30/p...
2021-01-2027 minMidlifingThe most frequent causes of deliberate acts of injusticeSend us Fan MailSimon and Lee sometimes publish episodes out of order and this is one of those times. They take you all the way back to the year 2020 (when this episode was actually recorded) in order to discuss their 2021 understanding of ambition and potential.Get in touch with Lee and Simon at info@midlifing.net.Related Links:Sign on door: https://www.skellis.net/midlifing/signVideo of arborist at work at Simon's place: https://www.skellis.net/midlifing/arboristStrictly Come Dancing: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Strictly_Come_DancingBack to...
2021-01-1328 minMidlifingWe hold ourselves responsible but at the same time let ourselves offSend us Fan MailHappy Gregorian New Year faithful (and unfaithful) listeners! In this episode Lee describes a video of Simon's immanent obsolescence before they both dig into the nature of responsibility in the middle of a pandemic, or even just in normal times. Remember those halcyon days? Get in touch with Lee and Simon at info@midlifing.net.Related Links:Brexit: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Brexit Our Tune: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Our_TuneSimon Bates: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Simon_BatesThe Hunger Games Mockingjay Call: https://youtu.be/p...
2021-01-0629 min
MidlifingA double loss twiceSend us Fan MailIn this special New Year's minisode Lee and Simon respond to a listener's question about the boom of knowing when you are properly grown-up. They nearly treat the question entirely earnestly but, as you would expect, get ever so slightly derailed. Happy New Year!Get in touch with Lee and Simon at info@midlifing.net.Related Links:grief: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Griefalzheimer's society: https://www.alzheimers.org.ukList of English-language euphemisms for death: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_English-language_euphemisms_for_deathimprovisation: https://en...
2021-01-0113 min
MidlifingIt hurts so much to hear you say that (part 2 of 2)Send us Fan MailOne thing Simon and Lee haven't talked about over the last fourteen years: deflection, friendship and a quiet and long withdrawal. Mourning something that has never been.Get in touch with Lee and Simon at info@midlifing.net.Related Links:miscarriage: https://www.nhs.uk/conditions/miscarriageexponential function: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Exponential_functionMeghan Markle The Losses We Share: https://www.nytimes.com/2020/11/25/opinion/meghan-markle-miscarriage.htmlTurkish lira: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Turkish_liratriggering: https://dictionary.cambridge.org/dictionary/english/triggeringJoanne "Bob" Whalley (2014), The unborn undead. Studies...
2020-12-3026 min
MidlifingOn circlusionSend us Fan MailA Christmas Day minisode from Lee and Simon, and it's all about – well, mostly about – circlusion. Merry Christmas!Get in touch with Lee and Simon at info@midlifing.net.Related Links:noise-cancelling headphones: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Noise-cancelling_headphonesSony WH1000XM2 Over Ear Noise Cancelling Headphones (unboxing video): https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iTCZRYfeQZYItalian COVID-19 colour zones: https://www.theguardian.com/world/2020/nov/09/italy-faces-10000-covid-deaths-in-a-month-with-no-lockdown-medicsAustralian temperature colours: https://www.theguardian.com/environment/damian-carrington-blog/2013/jan/08/australia-bush-fires-heatwave-temperature-scalekink shaming: https://www.psychologytoday.com/intl/blog/kink-outside-the-box/202008/kink-shaming-how-did-we-get-herePrince and the Revo...
2020-12-2514 min
MidlifingIt hurts so much to hear you say that (part 1 of 2)Send us Fan MailSimon and Lee talk about legacy and how we want to be remembered. Simon crosses a line.Get in touch with Lee and Simon at info@midlifing.net.Related Links:bequeath: https://dictionary.cambridge.org/dictionary/english/bequeathsynology: https://www.synology.com/en-uk/products/DS1520+data rot (Simon was wrong about this; it does have to do with reading and writing of physical storage devices): https://www.partitionwizard.com/clone-disk/bit-rot.htmlconsumerism vs materialism: https://centegrity.com.au/materialism-vs-consumerism-why-we-buy-so-much-stuff/One Man and His Shoes (review...
2020-12-2327 min
MidlifingThey’re your worms you didn't tell us where you kept themSend us Fan MailThere comes a time in anyone's life when preparing food for worms is a warning that things are about to go bad. Lee and Simon tackle feedback and Lee confesses that he cuts out the good bits. Get in touch with Lee and Simon at info@midlifing.net.Related Links:Stollen: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/StollenWorm composting: https://www.rhs.org.uk/advice/profile?PID=726Simon's finger: https://www.skellis.net/midlifing/nailGip: https://www.collinsdictionary.com/dictionary/english/gipHow to use a chef's knife...
2020-12-1629 minMidlifingI got the giggles so badly I was reminded of being at churchSend us Fan MailLee and Simon fall into a hole caused by a crisis of faith and end up getting stuck. If you don't know how to talk about something at least talk about it together. People mentioned: Jesus Christ, Gabrielle Eastwood-Ellis, Simon's former tennis coach Simon, Bill Gates, Philip K. Dick, Sean Connery, Indiana Jones, Norman Miller, Bono and Irene Miller.Get in touch with Lee and Simon at info@midlifing.net.Related Links:belief systems: https://medium.com/intercultural-mindset/belief-systems-what-they-are-and-how-they-affect-you-1cd87aa775ffgiggle fits: https://healthyliving.azcentral...
2020-12-0925 min