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Strong Men In GodWant More Empathy? There’s An App For That.Believe it or not, there’s a great app that will help you build your emotional vocabulary, intelligence and strength.That, in turn, will allow you to have more empathy for your wife.When you know what you’re feeling, it will be a lot easier to relate to what your wife is feeling.You’ll be able to share your emotions (be known), and understand your wife’s emotions (know her).That’s what emotional intimacy is!
2024-01-2502 minStrong Men In GodHow To Develop More Empathy For Your WifeMaybe your wife has told you that you don’t have much empathy.As a high achieving man, that’s likely true.We have often learned to shut down our emotions in order to “get things done.”While this helps in business, it creates major issues in our marriage.Learn how to stop telling people to “get over it…”And start practicing the empathy that leads to emotional intimacy, deep friendship and love in your marriage…...
2024-01-2319 min
Bedell Frazier Investment CounsellingTGI-XMAS'Twas the night before ChristmasFrom coast to coast,Not a creature was stirringNot even a cable news hostThe stockings were hungBy the chimney with careWith hopes that this rallyStill will be thereArtificial Intelligence is a game-changerIt's affectionately known as "AI"The Magnificent 7 are the early winnersTheir stocks soared to the skyWar spread around the globe againIt comes both cold and hotGlobal alliances keep getting testedIt's a dangerous...
2023-12-2201 min
For The Nation PodcastExploring Challenges in Men's Development and Mental Health | Mike Frazier | FTN Ep. 42Strap yourself in for a mind-expanding journey as we host Mike Frazier, a dynamic author, speaker, entrepreneur, and podcast host. He brings to the table a wealth of knowledge on mental health in the workplace, a pressing issue in the era of AI and remote work. Unearthing the importance of open mental health conversations, especially among men, Mike and his innovative initiative 'YokayBro' promise to bring a refreshing perspective to the table.In this episode, we navigate the increasingly common terrain of remote work and its impact on talent management. As Mike shares his inspiring journey of...
2023-07-251h 14Strong Men In GodFAQs About The Program [Strong Men Strong Marriages]If you’re thinking of joining Strong Men Strong Marriages before the deadline (TOMORROW, April 27th at midnight pacific)...You might have a few questions.I answer some of the most common ones in this episode.However, here are the main questions you need to ask yourself to decide to join:Do I want to become a stronger, more attractive man, while living true to Christian principles?Do I want to rewire my brain to...
2023-04-2614 minBedell Frazier Investment CounsellingThe Year 2022 - Good Riddance; Hello 2023!2022 comes to an end. Good riddance. It was an eventful year, in global proportions, and a really tough one for investors. Here's a bit of a summary of what went down in 2022:It started out well for the Bulls but proved to be a huge fake out. The first trading day of 2022 resulted in a historic day for the US Stock Market. It hit another fresh, all-time high. That was a theme throughout 2021. Apple became the first company in history to reach a $3 Trillion value. Asset prices across the country soared. Euphoria was rampant. Then it reversed...
2022-12-3109 minStrong Men In GodIntimacy Intensive 1 - The 3 Mistakes You’re MakingOver the next few weeks we’ll be doing a short “intimacy intensive” course.This will help you to start the new year with improved intimacy with your wife.Today we’re going to talk about the 3 problematic approaches that men take when they want more intimacy with their wife.-The Mosquito Method-The Pout Method-The “You Owe Me” MethodAll three of these are based on neediness and weakness, and will eventually lead to LESS pass...
2022-01-1118 minStrong Men In GodCOVIDI’ve been sick in bed with COVID all this week, so today I’m going to refer you to a different podcast.The Joe Rogan Experience - #1747 - Dr. Peter A McCullough Dr. McCullough is a renowned physician and has testified in congress regarding COVID treatment.In this episode, you’ll hear Dr. McCullough’s concern about the glaring lack of treatment for COVID-19.You’ll also hear why he believes masks don’t really make sense, and how you can n...
2022-01-0403 minStrong Men In GodWARNING Re: New Year's ResolutionsYou’re probably setting some goals for the new year right now.But, before you do, listen to this episode.You may be setting goals for all the WRONG reasons…Which will SABOTAGE your success…Or make your success less sweet.Watch on YouTube here. Dr. MikeP.S. Want a better, more intimate marriage with your wife? Come join The Strong Man System. It will...
2021-12-2820 minStrong Men In GodGetting To Know JesusIt’s Christmas this week and a great time to get to know Jesus better.Over the past few months, I feel like I’ve finally started to understand Jesus better.Instead of trying to EARN my salvation and “try to be like Jesus,”I’ve started to focus on letting Him into my life.I feel more free, easy and abundant than I ever have.And that’s available to you too.
2021-12-2125 minStrong Men In GodHow To Feel Good EnoughWhen I ran track in middle school, my coach told me…“Imagine there’s a big dog chasing you.”That DID motivate me to run faster (especially since I had been attacked by a dog a few years earlier).For high achieving men, the “dog” motivating them to “run faster” is often the feeling of not being good enough.They reach for higher and higher levels of financial and professional success, hoping to finally feel they have “arrived.”And th...
2021-12-1430 minStrong Men In GodHow To Control Your TemperIf you’re a human male, you’re going to get mad sometimes.But, how you handle that anger will have a BIG impact on how attractive you are to your wife... And how you’re viewed by everyone else.Learn how to stop the “volcano method”(Acting like everything is fine and then exploding over something small)And the “coping method”(Escaping anger and other negative emotions with alcohol, drugs...
2021-12-0725 minStrong Men In GodWhat To Do When Your Wife Has Depression, Anxiety or PTSDAbout 1 in 10 women suffer from depression.About 1 in 4 suffer from anxietyAbout 1 in 4 have been through sexual trauma.If your wife is suffering from depression, anxiety or PTSD, she’s not alone.And neither are you.Supporting a wife who is struggling with depression, anxiety or PTSD can be very difficult.Today I’ll share the most helpful tips that have helped me and my wife as she has deal...
2021-11-3034 minStrong Men In GodThe Power Of GratitudeFor some people, the holidays are a time of joy.For others, they are very difficult.If you’re struggling in your marriage, you may be separated from your wife or children.It can be easy to slip into sadness, anger and resentment… or into bad habits to try to get rid of these feelings.But, there is an antidote that can help.And that’s gratitude.And that’s not ju...
2021-11-2323 minStrong Men In GodHow To Get Your Backbone Back In MarriageMany of us try to avoid conflict.It’s uncomfortable to disagree with someone (to their face).But, KNOWING what is important to you…And STANDING UP for that…Even and ESPECIALLY when others disagree with you…Is what having a backbone is all about.In marriage, you need to have the backbone to stand up FOR your wife (by protecting her).You also need to...
2021-11-1627 minStrong Men In GodHow To Seduce Your WifeMany men are sexually frustrated in their marriage.They tell their wife they want to have more sex, but she just doesn’t seem interested.She says that she doesn’t want to feel “pressured” or “obligated” to have sex.So, men will back off and not bring up sex at all, hoping it will relieve the pressure…While their own sexual frustration builds higher and higher.What’s the solution?As a husban...
2021-11-0922 minStrong Men In GodDo It Yourself vs Do It With JesusJesus said:“"I am the true vine...Remain in me, and I will remain in you. No branch can bear fruit by itself; it must remain in the vine. Neither can you bear fruit unless you remain in me. I am the vine; you are the branches. If a man remains in me and I in him, he will bear much fruit; apart from me you can do nothing.” John 15:1-5In The Strong Man System, we are trying to build strength across these areas:Sp...
2021-11-0225 minStrong Men In GodHow To Stop Acting Like A BabyMen come to me in very difficult situations.They are in a separation or in the divorce process.Their wife has been unfaithful to them.They have been unfaithful to their wife and feel terrible about it.These are MAJOR issues and VERY difficult.They are the equivalent of being hit by an emotional bus.And when this happens, we ARE in a younger emotional state.
2021-10-2627 minStrong Men In GodHow To Ask For What You Want In Marriage... In 3 Simple StepsWe all have things we would like our wife to do for us.We want more attention, appreciation or affection.We want to have sex more often.We want our wife to spend less money, cook more, clean more, or spend more time with our family (or less time with hers).Why isn’t our wife doing the things we want?Often it’s because we’re not ASKING for what we want in an EFF...
2021-10-1928 minStrong Men In GodWhat The Strong Man System Can Do For YouMost men come to The Strong Man System wanting to change their outside situation.They want their wife to come back.They want to stop a separation or divorce.They want to restore trust after infidelity.They want a better sex life.And, The Strong Man System CAN help them do this.Just not in the way they think at first.Here’s what a...
2021-10-1234 minStrong Men In GodMarriage Counseling vs Marriage CoachingCounseling and coaching are often confused.When would you choose a marriage counselor vs a marriage coach?For the most part, it’s about choosing an approach that fits with your beliefs, values and preferences.In this episode, we cover some of the main marriage counseling schools of thought…As well as the coaching method…And finally my personal approach to marriage coaching.Watch on YouTube here.
2021-10-0526 minStrong Men In GodFixing Marriage Communication: A Real Life ExampleMost people say the biggest problem in their marriage is communication.But, most people can’t figure out how to FIND and FIX their marriage communication problems.Today I’m going to share with you my favorite tool to fix marriage communication…And share a real life example so you can see how to use this tool.Listen on Strong Men Strong Marriages here. Watch on YouTube here.Dr. Mike
2021-09-2824 minStrong Men In GodHow To Manage Your High Achieving BrainWhat do you want to accomplish in your marriage?In your career?With your money?As a high achieving man, you’re used to setting goals and reaching them.But why is it that when you reach them, you STILL don’t feel fulfilled?Why do you immediately start seeking the NEXT big goal?Why do you tend to spend money or pick a fight with your wife or get...
2021-09-2125 minStrong Men In GodDon't Ask: What Do You Do For Me?Have you ever asked your wife… “What do you do for me?”So have I. And so have most of my clients.How did it go for you?Did your wife become more loving and connected?Or angry, hurt or guilty?Learn why this question is terrible…And what to do instead to have your wife start doing more for you…In today’s episode....
2021-09-1417 minStrong Men In GodLDS Faith Crisis In MarriageMy wife and I were both born and raised members of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints.A few years back, my wife started to have some questions about the Church.This was VERY hard on me… to the point that I thought if she wasn’t going to be a member of the Church, it would be better if we got divorced.Fast forward to now, we have both evolved in our faith and belief in God…And...
2021-09-0735 minStrong Men In GodWhy You Need To RestWhen you lift weights, you create small tears in your muscles.If you keep lifting weights without resting, these tears just get bigger, making you WEAKER over time.That’s why it’s IMPERATIVE that you REST and eat well if you’re trying to build muscle.The muscle REGROWS bigger and stronger while you REST.The same is true of building spiritual, mental, emotional and sexual strength…And the interpersonal skills of trust, communic...
2021-08-3119 minStrong Men In GodStop Procrastinating Your Apology To Your WifeMen WAIT to apologize to their wife.They FEAR that bringing up all their flaws will make things WORSE.Or, they’re too PRIDEFUL to see their mistakes (or how bad the mistakes are).Both of these responses REPEL your wife instead of attracting her.Instead:OWN your mistakes COMPLETELY and HONESTLY (requires you to set aside your pride)TELL your wife your mistakes and understand the PAIN they caused (trust me, you’re not going to surp...
2021-08-2422 minStrong Men In GodWhy You Should Treat Your Wife Like Your PetWhen your dog is hungry, do you…A. Tell your dog it’s not time to eat yet and why he shouldn’t be hungryB. Tell your dog you’re hungry too and he should be more considerateC. Tell your dog that you have needs too and he shouldn’t be so selfishD. Try to talk your dog out of wanting foodE. Get the dog some foodUnfortunately, we often use A-D when our wife needs something from us.When you...
2021-08-1717 minStrong Men In GodThe Top 5 Traits To Attract Your WifeWhen it comes to ATTRACTING your wife to you, it’s more about who you ARE than what you DO.That’s why I could give you all the “right lines” to say, but it would still “not work” to win your wife back.She would (correctly) say: Don’t tell me. SHOW ME!There are 5 MAIN TRAITS that are ATTRACTIVE to your wife…And that make you feel AMAZING as a man.And, they’re based on the Biblical traits that God embodies in Exodus 34:6-7.Whether you’re a C...
2021-08-1021 minStrong Men In GodHow To Repair Your Marriage... No Matter How Bad It Is...What does it take to make a marriage work?Really just 3 things.Trust. Communication. And Intimacy.You need to diagnose which of these is broken…And then figure out how to repair it.You’ll learn tips to repair broken trust, poor communication and low intimacy in today’s episode.Watch on YouTube here.Dr. MikeP.S. If you want to learn EXACTLY how to rebuild trust (even after infidelity), have expert communication, and passionate intimacy in YOUR marriage, and you're a high a...
2021-08-0320 minStrong Men In GodShe Doesn't Love Me Anymore - Steps To Regain LoveYour wife is telling you she doesn’t love you anymore.What does that mean?She doesn’t want to share a life with you.She’s not sexually attracted to you.She doesn’t feel safe with you.In response, you’re trying to prove to her that she SHOULD love you…Which ALWAYS backfires.Learn how to start to REGAIN that love in today’s e...
2021-07-2723 minStrong Men In GodHow To Work On Yourself... FASTThese days it’s popular to say “I’m working on myself.”Your wife might even be saying “You need to work on yourself.”But what does that even mean?To me, it’s about building up your spiritual, mental, emotional, physical and sexual strength.It’s also about building up your communication skills so you know how to get to win-win with your wife (and others).And, with your wife, learning how to create fun, flir...
2021-07-2016 minStrong Men In GodHow To Show Your Wife You Are Changing“Don’t tell me, SHOW me!”This is what your wife says when you tell her that you are going to change.Most men go about this the wrong way.They try to show their wife they are changing by doing more dishes, buying more gifts, or sending lots of text messages saying they’re sorry.NONE OF THESE WORK.Because they’re not addressing the CORE issues that drove your wife away.Learn what those core issues are…How to change them…And how to SHO...
2021-07-1319 minStrong Men In GodWhen Your Wife Ignores Your TextsA member of The Strong Man System recently asked what to do when your wife ignores your text messages.It is VERY difficult when this happens.But, it's also an OPPORTUNITY.Your response will show your TRUE COLORS as a man and a husband.Will you respond with ANGER? With DESPERATION?This will show her that she is RIGHT in creating more distance from you.That you are emotionally IMMATURE and UNSAFE.Or, will you respond with UNDERSTANDING and CALM?This will show...
2021-07-0616 minStrong Men In GodHow To Think About SexAs a man, you think about sex a lot.But, the WAY you’re thinking about it is causing problems.Often men think that they can “earn” sex from their wife.They try to earn sex “helping out” around the house. Cooking, cleaning, taking care of kids.They try to earn sex by doing the love languages. Spending time with her, saying nice things to her, buying her gifts.Basically, they try to create a sort of “debt” for their wife.They think “I’ve done so much for you, now...
2021-06-2919 minStrong Men In GodSave Your Marriage: The 3 FATAL MISTAKES High-Achieving Men Make... And What To Do InsteadYou’re a high achieving man who is used to success in his life.But now, your marriage is on the brink of failure.Infidelity. Separation. Faith crisis. “I love you but I’m not in love with you.” Divorce talks or filing. Your wife’s interest in another man.You want to FIX this and WIN HER BACK!Unfortunately, this “get after it” approach... That has worked so well in many areas of your life…Does NOT work when it comes to winning your wife back.Learn why in...
2021-06-221h 03Strong Men In GodHow To Listen Without Trying To Fix ItAs high achieving men, we’re used to fixing problems. And we’re good at it.So, when our wife comes to us to talk about a problem, we naturally want to try and fix it.Unfortunately, this often backfires.She feels like we don’t really understand her.And we’re frustrated because she doesn’t want to hear our (expert) advice.Today you’ll learn what to do INSTEAD of trying to fix her problem.So that when she comes to you feeling frustrated or upset, you’l...
2021-06-1522 minStrong Men In GodThe Nice Guy, The Bad Boy and The Strong ManIn the book "The Noble Art of Seducing Women" by Kezia Noble, she identifies 3 types of men.The nice guy.The bad boy.And the good man.For us, we'll call the third the Strong Man.These same guys show up in marriages.The nice guy puts his wife above himself in ALL ways, hoping that someday she will return the favor with attention, appreciation and affection (sex).
2021-06-0819 minStrong Men In GodHow To Create Emotional Safety In MarriageWomen typically want two things in a marriage: security and romance.Being an emotionally safe person provides security.It lets her know that you value her. That you will be there for her. That she matters to you.Learn how to provide this emotional safety and sense of security in today’s episode.Also, see why you can’t wait for your spouse to be perfectly “emotionally safe” before you bring up difficult issues.Watch on...
2021-06-0118 minStrong Men In GodHow To Stop Worrying About Your MarriageRight now you’re worried about the future of your marriage.Will you get divorced?Will you get separated?Will your wife have another affair?You think your life will basically be over if these things happen.And that makes you try to STOP these things from happening… using EXTREME measures.Changing yourself. Doing the 5 love languages. Spying on her. However, these actions are motivated by FEAR. And FEAR is not ATTRACTIVE to your wife.It drives her AWAY. And makes all these negat...
2021-05-2521 minStrong Men In GodWhen She Says She Needs SpaceWhen your wife says she “needs space,” what does that actually mean?It means she needs space from your NEGATIVE and UNATTRACTIVE thoughts and behaviors.Learn the top 3 negative things she needs space from…And how to CHANGE them…In this episode.Watch on YouTube here. Summary-DO NOT use the “no contact” rule, as this will create MORE distance between you and your wife-Be friendly...
2021-05-1829 minStrong Men In GodHow To Sell Your Wife On The New YouYou want to show your wife you’re changing.But you’re going about it all wrong.It’s not about maximizing the good and minimizing the bad.It’s not about making the “pros” outweigh the “cons.”It’s about DIAGNOSING your problems and TREATING them.It’s about being BRUTALLY HONEST about your shortcomings to yourself and your wife.ONLY then can she start to trust you…And h...
2021-05-1122 minStrong Men In GodI Love You But I’m Not In Love With YouWomen want two things in a marriage.Security and romance.If you’re hearing “I love you but I’m not in love with you,” she’s missing one or both of these things.Learn how to provide BOTH security AND romance in this episode.So you and your wife can both feel “in love” with each other again.Watch on YouTube here. Summary:-Security is provided by having a str...
2021-05-0424 minStrong Men In GodWhy "Being One" In Marriage Is A ProblemThe movies, church, and society teach us to “be one” in a marriage.But, we often misunderstand what this means.We become TOO blended with our wife.We become overly focused on “making her happy” and winning her approval (attention, appreciation and affection).A good marriage is like a good meal.Pasta and shrimp taste GREAT together.But if you put them in a blender and drink it…
2021-04-2720 minStrong Men In GodHow To End Resentment In Your MarriageResentment is a COMMON feeling in marriage.But, most people don’t know where it comes from or what to do about it.Overall, it comes from feeling like you are LOSING in your marriage…While your wife is WINNING.If you feel like you’re doing more than your fair share…Doing things you don’t really want to do…Or denying yourself things you really want…...
2021-04-2022 minStrong Men In GodHow To Put The Past In The Past And Move ForwardA lot of men complain that their wife can’t seem to move past their mistakes.They just keep bringing up the past.Whether they’ve made big mistakes like an affair, or smaller mistakes like not listening to their wife…They just want to forget about it and move forward.They get frustrated when they make the changes their wife wants to see…But their wife doesn’t seem to appreciate those changes.This lack of appreciation can cause them to stop trying, which just makes things wor...
2021-04-1320 minStrong Men In GodHow To Put On The Armor Of GodSatan is attacking men, marriages and families CONSTANTLY.Every day, 130 people commit suicide. Of those, 90 are men.50% of marriages end in divorce. 40-80% of married people are unhappy in their marriage.42% of Americans are obese.The average savings for people age 20-40 is $2,000.Satan’s goal is to make us WEAK and MISERABLE.God wants us to be STRONG,JOYFUL and INDEPENDENT.We defend ourselves and defeat Satan by putting on the armor of God.Learn how to do that in practical, tactical wa...
2021-04-0628 minStrong Men In GodMarriage Basic Training: The 5 Essential Skills For A Happy MarriageYou want a happy marriage. One where you wake up feeling like the luckiest man alive.Where you go to work feeling strong and confident, because you know your wife has your back.Where you come home to a wife who smiles and jumps into your arms when you come home.Where you sit down to a dinner of laughter and connection with your family.After dinner, you sit and talk with your wife a...
2021-03-301h 01Strong Men In GodHow Satan Is Trying To Destroy Your MarriageRemember, Satan’s goal is to make us miserable.If you’re feeling miserable in your marriage right now, Satan is winning!Satan is on a mission to destroy your marriage, and he uses certain tactics to do it.The more we are aware of these tactics, the better we can combat them.Learn what some of them are, and how to counteract them, in this episode.Watch on YouTube here. ...
2021-03-2328 minStrong Men In GodIs Masturbation A Sin?This is a big question for many members of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints.But, it's the wrong question.Today I'm joined by Daniel Burgess, DanielABurgess.com, a Marriage and Family Therapist and member of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints.We review some of the Church's teachings about sexuality and masturbation over time, which Daniel has studied extensively and reported about on his website.But, in our personal work and work with clients, we've discovered that the question "is masturbation a sin" leads you down...
2021-03-1835 minStrong Men In GodThe Top 5 Apology MistakesMost men think apologizing means saying “I’m sorry” and moving on.But that’s a big mistake.And it’s that attitude that will keep you “in the doghouse” and keep you from regaining your wife’s love and trust.Learn what an apology is, and the common mistakes men make when trying to apologize, in this episode.Watch on YouTube here.Summary:-An apology includes seeing what you did that hurt your wife...
2021-03-1622 minStrong Men In GodHow To Flirt With Your WifeFlirting can be one of the most fun things you can do in a relationship.But often, we forget to do it after we’ve been married a while.Or, we may have never been very good at it.In this episode, you’ll learn the principles and techniques of flirting with your wife.So you can bring fun, excitement and romance into your marriage.At the end of the day, flirting is about brin...
2021-03-0922 minStrong Men In GodThe Top 5 Communication Mistakes In MarriageCommunication is the #1 problem that men, women and couples complain about.In working with people, I’ve discovered the top 5 communication mistakes that lead to poor communication (and poor connection) in marriage.If you can avoid these mistakes…And learn the #1 communication skill…You’ll be on your way to a happier, more passionate and more intimate marriage.Watch on YouTube here. https://youtu.be/o6v30cuJ8HcSummary...
2021-03-0225 minStrong Men In GodThe Two Questions Your Wife Is Asking After You Hurt HerThe reason you’re not as connected to your wife as you’d like to be is because you’ve hurt her in some way.That might be an obvious way, like an affair.Or it may be a more subtle way, like neglecting her over time or serving her with “strings attached” (mosquito behaviors).Either way, you have created disconnection by hurting her.Most men try to fix this by trying to tell their wife they’re sorry and to move...
2021-02-2322 minStrong Men In GodAre You Married To A Narcissist Or Sadist?Are you married to a narcissist or a sadist?Probably.But so is your spouse!In this episode, you’ll learn what narcissism and sadism REALLY are…How YOU most likely have BOTH of these traits…And what to do about it.Watch on YouTube here. Summary:-Narcissism is needing to be “one up” on your spouse-It’s also understanding...
2021-02-1629 minStrong Men In GodValentine's Special - 3 Kinds Of Love In MarriageLove. A word that can mean SO many different things.And confusion about what kind of love belongs in marriage causes LOTS of marriage problems.In this episode we’ll discuss the 3 most valuable types of love in marriage…And how to develop them.Listen on Strong Men Strong Marriages here. https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/strong-men-strong-marriages/id1513290707Watch on YouTube here. https://youtu.be/mlqgP2r9XTkSumm...
2021-02-0935 minStrong Men In GodBetter Sex In Marriage In 3 Simple StepsIs your married sex life not quite what you’re hoping for?Is it happening less often than you’d like, or does it just seem the same all the time?If so, there are three simple steps that you can use to create better sex in your marriage.Learn about them in this week’s episode.Watch on YouTube here. Summary:-Take ownership of your own sexuality-Anticipation is your friend
2021-02-0218 minStrong Men In GodWhere Is Your Treasure?“Where your treasure is, there will your heart be also.” Matthew 6:21What is most important to you?You might say it’s God or your family…But what do you spend the most time THINKING about?When I looked closely, I didn’t like what I found.I spent most of my time thinking about:Making moneyMyselfBut, I found that I could CHOOSE where my treasure w...
2021-01-2614 minStrong Men In GodHow You Are Manipulating Your WifeWe are always manipulating the people around us.We want something FROM them…Or FOR them.We want to “move” them into certain positions.Emotional dependence on us or emotional resilience.Sexual obligation or sexual choice.Religious obligation or religious choice.This week I got an in-depth view of how I manipulate my wife, kids and friends… and I didn’t like what I saw.
2021-01-1919 minStrong Men In GodWho Decides If You Are A Good Husband?If your answer is an immediate “my wife…” you might be missing something important.At the end of the day, if you are relying on the opinion of others to tell you if you’re good enough…You are on unstable ground.The truth is that YOU get to decide:What a good husband (and a good man) isWhether you will live up to that or notOf course your wife can give you feedback on how you’re...
2021-01-1219 minStrong Men In GodWhy Being A Husband And Father Isn’t EverythingThis title was hard for me to write.Being a husband and father are two of the most important roles that I have as a man.But, those roles are not ALL of who I am.And, even if I do poorly in those roles...Or walk away from them all together...(Gulp)I still have value.This was a BIG breakthrough for me...
2021-01-0522 minStrong Men In GodThe Secret To Achieving Your Goals In 2021What are your New Year’s resolutions?A better marriage?To lose weight?Make more money?Stop a bad habit?We’ll get into why these goals may NOT get you what you’re looking for…And how to find an infinite source of power to achieve your goals.Summary:-WHY do you want to achieve your goals?-If it’s because...
2020-12-2918 minStrong Men In GodWhat Will You Give Jesus For Christmas?Merry Christmas my friends!Sometimes we forget that we're celebrating a birthday on Christmas... Jesus's birthday!And, it's customary to give someone a gift on their birthday.But what do you give the Man who LITERALLY has everything?We'll talk about that today.Watch on YouTube here.Summary:-As far as I can tell, Jesus mainly asked for one thing: If ye love me, keep my commandments...
2020-12-2218 minStrong Men In GodJesus - The Ultimate ManAs we strive to become better men, our ultimate example is Jesus Christ.I’ve spent the last few weeks studying and trying to understand the character of Jesus, and I’d like to share what I’ve learned.I also invite you to use these next few weeks to study Jesus as your example of manhood, and see where you can become more like Jesus, The Ultimate Man.Watch on YouTube here. Summary:-Jesus was a great l...
2020-12-1520 minStrong Men In GodHow To Give Your Wife A Great Christmas GiftGift giving at Christmas can be stressful... but it doesn't have to be.Use these strategies to give your wife a meaningful and thoughtful gift.One that will be remembered and cherished... instead of forgotten next year.Listen on Strong Men Strong Marriages here: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/strong-men-strong-marriages/id1513290707Watch on YouTube here. https://youtu.be/9KwC4qAnL7cSummary:-Ask her directly-Ask her friends
2020-12-0821 minStrong Men In GodHow To Be Emotionally Strong - My Simple 3 Step FormulaAs men we sometimes think that emotional strength means rarely feeling emotion.We push negative emotions down until we explode with anger.Or we try to numb negative emotions with food, pornography, video games, alcohol or other things.Fortunately, there are three simple steps that you can use to become TRULY emotionally strong…Feel in complete CONTROL of your emotions…And stop trying to “fix” the negative emotions of your wife or others.
2020-12-0121 minStrong Men In GodHow To Have A Better Sex Life With Your WifeRight now your sex life isn't where you'd like it to be.You've tried the usual things. Helping more around the house, buying her gifts, trying to speak her love language, spending less time with friends and work and more time at home.You’re getting frustrated that all your efforts are not being recognized.You’re barely getting a “thank you,” much less a wife who is eager to go to bed with you.And telling her you’r...
2020-11-2451 minStrong Men In GodWhat To Do When Your Wife Is Depressed And AnxiousWhat To Do When Your Wife Is Depressed And AnxiousWhen your wife is depressed and/or anxious, it can be hard to know what to do to help her.Today I have a special guest, Lizzie Langston.She is an LDS postpartum coach, helping women overcome depression and anxiety that often follows having a baby.We discuss how we as husbands can help our wives as they struggle with depression and anxiety.Watch...
2020-11-1731 minStrong Men In GodHow To Be More ConfidentTo be a strong and loving leader of your home, you need to be confident.Confidence feels great, feels strong, and is ATTRACTIVE to your wife and others.But, how do you become more confident?There are 3 main steps:1. Be someone who can be relied on. A man of your word. Keep the promises you make.This includes saying "no" more than you say "yes" so that your "yes" is more valuable.2...
2020-11-1020 minStrong Men In GodHow To Be More ManlyWhat does it mean to be a real man?I've been trying to answer that question my whole life.This week, we'll look at two examples.One is the type of man we want to be (Nephi)...The other is the type of man we do NOT want to be (Laman and Lemuel)Watch you YouTube here. Summary:-Faith vs Fear. COMMITTING to a result BEFORE knowing all the "how."-Persistence vs Giving Up-Asking For Help vs Not...
2020-11-0323 minStrong Men In GodWhat Does God Think About You?When it comes to creating a strong, joyful and intimate marriage, there are 3 relationships that need to be built.1. God's relationship with you/your relationship with God2. Your relationship with yourself3. Your relationship with your wifeToday we're going to examine God's relationship with you... meaning...What are God's thoughts and feelings about you?If you feel like you're trying to earn God's approval (and the approval of others)...And...
2020-10-2723 minStrong Men In GodThe 3 Levels Of Sex In MarriageDo you wish you had a better sex life with your wife?Do you have a hard time bringing up sex with your wife…Or does she often say “no” or “I’m too tired” when you do finally ask?In this episode, you’ll learn WHY your sexual advances are unattractive to your wife…And how to make them much MORE attractive…And likely to get a “yes.”Summary:-There are 3 levels of sex in marriage-Physical - orgasm-focused-Emotional - validation-focused
2020-10-2019 minStrong Men In GodHow Calling Your Wife Out Can HELP Your MarriageDid you know what your wife WANTS you to call her out?Maybe not consciously, but unconsciously, she wants you to show STRENGTH and LEADERSHIP in your marriage.And that means, when it's appropriate, calling out her inappropriate behavior (in a strong and loving way)...DISAGREEING with her at times (in a strong and loving way)...And passing other "strength tests" she throws your way.(You’ll learn what a few of more of them are in this episode).Like any strength building, it's uncomfortable at first......
2020-10-1318 minStrong Men In GodReligious Differences In Marriage - How They Can Be A GOOD ThingIf you and your wife have different religious beliefs, it can be SCARY.A lot of experts will tell you that this can be a big cause for PROBLEMS in marriage.BUT, it can also be an incredible OPPORTUNITY.For MORE intimacy and connection.In fact, you may find that discussing and understanding these differences brings MORE intimacy than almost anything else.Learn how this can happen in this episode.And, if you're ready to have the BEST relationships you have EVER had with God (if you...
2020-10-0619 minStrong Men In GodWin Your Wife Back Workshop Part 2 - How To Get The BEST Relationships You've EVER Had... In 90 Days Or LessIn part 1 of the workshop, we learned that the main problem is that your wife is not ATTRACTED to you right now.That’s why she wants a divorce or separation, “loves you but is not in love with you,” or is interested in someone else.We learned that STRENGTH is what ATTRACTS women.Spiritual, mental, emotional, physical and sexual strength.We started learning HOW to build that up.And how to become an EXPERT...
2020-09-2952 minStrong Men In GodWin Your Wife Back Workshop Part 1 - 5 Steps To GUARANTEE Yourself A Strong, Joyful and Intimate MarriageFor many of you listening to this podcast, your marriage is NOT where you want it to be right now.You may be…-Recovering from infidelity (yours or hers)-Hearing “I love you but I’m not in love with you”-Facing potential divorce or separation (or are already in that process)-Having little to no sex in your marriage-Having BIG trouble with communicationNo matter WHAT is going on in your marriage right now…...
2020-09-2237 minStrong Men In GodThe Counterintuitive Way To Get More Attention, Appreciation And Affection From Your WifeHow do you get your wife to pay more attention to you?Appreciate you more?Kiss, hug and have sex with you more?Some couples therapists will say "just ask for it."This seems like it would work... BUT IT DOESN'T.You know because you're already trying this.Learn what to do INSTEAD... that ALWAYS works... in this episode.Watch on YouTube here
2020-09-1522 minStrong Men In GodMarriage Communication Tool - The Sentence AfterExperts say up to 93% of communication is non-verbal.That's why "saying the right words" or focusing on "communication skills" in marriage almost always FAILS.Instead, what will make the most IMPACT in your communication is evaluating your INTENTIONS in what you are saying.And, a great way to find these is to ask yourself..."What is the sentence AFTER?"For example, when you say to your wife "I'm trying to understand you..."
2020-09-0818 minStrong Men In GodWhat Is Success In Marriage?You think it’s…Good sex. Being appreciated. Being valued. Being loved.And, a successful marriage does include ALL of those things.BUT…Your wife CAN NOT give those to you.These things MUST come from something DEEPER and more SOLID than your wife’s words and actions.And you CAN feel those things… even WITHOUT your wife.You can feel full, valued, loved and apprec...
2020-09-0120 minStrong Men In GodYou Are Worth Choosing - How To Stop Needing Your Wife’s ValidationA lot of the men I work with are looking for VALIDATION from their wives.Now, they will call it different things.They will say "I just want my wife to care" or "I just want my wife to have sex with me" or "I just want my wife to reach out to me when she doesn't need something."But, when it comes down to it, they are asking for their wife to VALIDATE their sense of self-worth.I...
2020-08-2519 minStrong Men In GodWhy Physical Strength Matters - What I Learned From Dunking A BasketballAs I’ve thought about how to help my clients better, I realized that I neglected something VERY important…Developing your physical strength and fitness.Find out why in this week’s episode:Watch on YouTube here.Summary:When you work on a physical goal, MANY good things happen…-Your overall health and energy improve-Your mind works more easily and quickly-You are able to find purpose and mean...
2020-08-1820 minStrong Men In GodMy Negative Marriage Pattern - And What I'm LearningIn case you thought a great marriage is always perfect...You're wrong!In this episode I share a negative pattern that has plagued our marriage for YEARS...And what I did to FINALLY start breaking free from it.Hint: It has to do with me feeling like a MARTYR in my marriage.Watch on YouTube here.Summary:-When I feel like a martyr in...
2020-08-1121 minStrong Men In GodHow To Be More Sexually Attractive To Your Wife - Interview With Dr. Jennifer Finalyson-Fife"Your wife can prop up your ego or your penis, but not both."Today I have a VERY special treat for you all!Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife!If you're not familiar with her work, she is a licensed therapist who specializes in relationships and sexuality.She is one of the people I respect and admire very much and who has helped me understand why focusing on STRENGTH is SO IMPORTANT when it comes to sexual attraction.In this interview you will learn:-How the female sexual response works... and...
2020-08-0444 minStrong Men In GodHow To Get Your Wife (And Others) To Do More Of What You WantMost people come to me because they’re not happy in their marriage.They’re not getting enough of what they want from their wife.BUT, they usually are NOT doing the MOST EFFECTIVE things to get their wife (or others) to do more of what they want.Learn the BEST and MOST EFFECTIVE ways to influence others to do more of what you want in this episode.Watch on YouTube here. Summary:-COMPLAINING will NOT get you more...
2020-07-2821 minStrong Men In God5 Lessons Learned From 15 Years Of MarriageWe just celebrated our 15th wedding anniversary at an amazing party with family and friends that are also family.You’ll hear a few tips on how to throw a great party…And 5 of the biggest lessons that I’ve learned through these 15 years.Watch on YouTube here Summary:1 - Decide and then get spiritual confirmation2 - Have faith and let people help3 - Happy wife happy life is a lie4 - Intimacy requires bravery5 - You have to know the bitter to know the swee...
2020-07-2121 minStrong Men In GodFaith In Marriage - How To Keep Going When The Going Gets ToughDo you feel like you're trying hard in your marriage...But it's making NO difference?Is your wife INDIFFERENT about your changes...Or even HOSTILE about them?In this episode, we'll discuss how you can use FAITH to continue to "do good to them that hate you."Watch on YouTube hereSummary:-Doing good is like planting a seed-Continuing to do good is like...
2020-07-1418 minStrong Men In GodHow To Fight In Marriage… And Come Out Stronger For ItHow To Fight In Marriage… And Come Out Stronger For ItDo you have conflicts in marriage that leave you feeling STUCK?Do you have the same arguments about sex, money, parenting, religion, in-laws or cleaning over and over?Would you like to break FREE of that cycle?You'll learn how in this episode.Watch on YouTube here Summary:-Feeling DISTANT from your spouse activates your lower, "cro...
2020-07-0723 minStrong Men In GodHow To Get Better Communication In MarriageAre you struggling with communication in your marriage?Do you feel like you just don't understand your wife, or that she just doesn't understand you?In this episode, you'll find out EXACTLY how to reach the DEEPEST levels of communication.This type of communication brings the PASSION and INTIMACY back into your marriage...Even if that spark has been missing for YEARS.Summary:-There are 3 levels of communication in marriage...-Level 1: Superficial communication (business items)-Level 2: Emotional communication (sharing of feelings, hopes, dreams, fears, getting to...
2020-06-3030 minStrong Men In GodShort Circuiting Pornography Use - The Problem And The Shockingly Simple 3 Step SolutionIf you are using pornography more than you would like, there is a perfectly logical explanation.And, if you would like to STOP or CUT BACK on your pornography use, there is a simple 3 step solution that you can follow.If you are interested in working through a program to implement these skills and ELIMINATE pornography from your life, contact me.Watch here: https://youtu.be/_ALjaYZOldQSummary:-Your brain has learned to use pornography and masturbation...
2020-06-2337 minStrong Men In GodA Better Life AFTER Divorce - Interview With Jeff TobinA lot of men come to work with me when they are very near divorce.They may already be separated, their wife may be threatening divorce, or they may be in the divorce process.The men I work with want their wife back. They have seen the error of their ways.But, sometimes, despite their best efforts and strength building, their wife chooses to divorce.This can be extremely difficult. It can feel like all their work was in vain.BUT, fortunately, divorce is NOT the end....
2020-06-1930 minStrong Men In GodWhen You Feel Trapped In Your Marriage - How To Feel Free AND Stay MarriedSometimes it can seem like you have 2 options in your marriage:Stay married and miserable or…Get divorced and finally be free.Luckily, there is a third option.That is to feel FREE AND stay married.There are 3 marriage traps that make us feel stuck.You’ll learn what they are and how to break out of all 3 in this episode.Summary:-Tra...
2020-06-1630 minStrong Men In GodAm I A Sex Addict? How To Deal With Sexual Urges For Other WomenAs men, we have sexual urges MANY times throughout the day.For some of us, we have used pornography as a way to deal with negative emotion… which brings on more negative emotion… which makes us want to use pornography even more.This cycle could accurately be called a sexual addiction.Is there a way to break out of it?And are there ways to use our sexuality for good?The answer is: YES!
2020-06-0924 minStrong Men In GodWhat To Do When Your Wife Wants To LeaveWhen your wife tells you she wants to leave, it can be DEVASTATING.Luckily, there are specific strategies that you can use to get through this…AND feel STRONG and CONFIDENT again.These same things are also the things MOST LIKELY to win her back.MikeSummary-Allow yourself to FEEL the negative emotions-Realize that you CAN feel strong and confident… no matter what she’s doing-Try to UND...
2020-06-0227 minStrong Men In GodHow To Solve ANY Marriage Problem... My #1 Coaching ToolNo matter WHAT is happening in your marriage, whether it’s..-Infidelity-I love you but I’m not in love with you-Poor communication-Conflicts about sex-”I’m not sure why I feel the way I feel…” This tool will help you know EXACTLY...1. What is CAUSING the problem in your marriage2. What you can do to solve itThis is the #1 tool I use with my clients (and on myself).
2020-05-2728 minStrong Men In GodHow to Win Back Your Wife's Trust and Love - Even After InfidelityIf you have lost your wife's trust or love...Either by something BIG (like an affair)...Or by not doing the "little things" over time...There is a PROVEN strategy to win back that trust and love.And, there is ONE phrase that can SPEED UP that process.Summary:-Trust and love are LOST by breaking promises, big or small-Trust cannot be GIVEN-You have to EARN...
2020-05-2327 minStrong Men In GodWhat To Do When You Lose Your JobWe are in unique times with the Coronavirus pandemic.Many people are losing jobs or having their hours reduced.It has even affected the most stable jobs... including my work as a psychiatrist.Here is my journey through my thoughts and fears about losing work... and how I got to a place of peace.If you enjoy the episode, make sure to leave a review in iTunes and share with a friend, so we can create stronger men and stronger marriages across the world.And, if you are ready...
2020-05-2128 minStrong Men In GodHow To Stop REPELLING Your Wife... The Tale Of The Mosquito And The DictatorIs your wife EXCITED to see you every day?Does she tell her friends how great you are?Does she tell your boys to be just like you, and your daughters to marry someone just like you?If not, you may be acting like a DICTATOR or MOSQUITO… and not even know it.See how you might be REPELLING your wife… and how to fix it in this episode.Summary:-When you don’t have a strong sense of self-worth, you tend to try to borrow it from y...
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