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Psychology of Dating PodcastFeeling Guilty for Self-Care? Why It Matters in Dating and BoundariesDo you feel guilty taking time for yourself? You're not alone—and this internal conflict can have a big impact on your dating life. In this episode, we explore why self-care isn’t selfish, but essential, especially when it comes to setting boundaries, maintaining emotional availability, and showing up with clarity in relationships.✨ Dating Coaching Program – Now EnrollingStarts July 9. Learn more → nadineneukirch.com🎁 Free Guide: Top 3 Mindset Shifts in DatingDownload → nadineneukirch.com💌 Submit your dating questions → nadineneukirch.comThanks for tuning in...2025-08-1110 minPsychology of Dating PodcastToo Many Dates? When Your Love Life Becomes OverloadedCan there be such a thing as too much dating? In this episode, we explore the often-overlooked impact of overloading your dating life—how seeing too many people too quickly can lead to emotional burnout, decision fatigue, and even prematurely ending connections that had potential.I’ll break down how a high volume of dates can actually disconnect you from the emotional experience of dating, stop you from tuning into your own needs, and turn something meaningful into something mechanical.✨ Dating Coaching Program –Learn more → nadineneukirch.com🎁 Free Guide: Top 3 M...2025-08-0406 minPsychology of Dating PodcastDating Starts With You: What It Really Means to Build a Relationship With YourselfBefore we focus on finding the right partner, it’s essential to ask—how strong is your relationship with yourself? In this episode, we unpack what it truly means to build a relationship with yourself from a psychological perspective.In this episode:- Learn how self-awareness, self-respect, and internal safety lay the foundation for dating with confidence and clarity. - How your inner world can shape who you’re drawn to, how you show up in relationships, and your ability to set healthy boundaries.✨ Dating Coaching Program – Learn more → nadineneukirc...2025-07-3112 minPsychology of Dating PodcastBefore You Fix It, Name It: Clarifying Your Dating StrugglesAre you stuck in the same dating pattern—but not sure what exactly needs to change? Before you jump into solutions, take a step back: have you clearly defined the problem?In this episode, we explore how identifying what’s truly within your control in dating can help you move forward with clarity and purpose.✨ Dating Coaching Program – Now Enrolling Starts July 9. Learn more → nadineneukirch.com🎁 Free Guide: Top 3 Mindset Shifts in Dating Download → nadineneukirch.com💌 Submit your dating questions → nadineneukirch.comThanks for tuni...2025-07-0210 minPsychology of Dating PodcastShould I Keep Going or Let It Go? How to Follow Through in DatingShould you keep seeing them—or call it quits? In this episode, we explore how to navigate early dating with clarity and confidence.You’ll learn:When to stay open and keep exploring a connectionHow to follow through with connections on dating apps and in personHow to make decisions that align with your values—not just your anxiety✨ Dating Coaching Program – Now Enrolling Starts July 9. Join here → nadineneukirch.com🎁 Free Guide: Top 3 Mindset Shifts in Dating Download → nadineneukirch.com💌 Submit your dating questions → nadinene...2025-06-3010 minPsychology of Dating PodcastUnderstanding the Impact of Complex Trauma on Dating & RelationshipsWhy does dating feel so overwhelming when all you want is a healthy connection? In this episode, we explore how complex trauma can shape the way you approach dating and relationships—and what healing can look like.You’ll learn:Common ways complex trauma shows up in datingHow your nervous system may confuse safety with dangerWhy emotional avoidance, over-functioning, or shutdowns aren't “bad” behavior—but protective patternsWhether you’ve experienced emotional neglect, relational trauma, or simply want to date more consciously, this episode offers compassionate insight to help you move forward....2025-06-2523 minPsychology of Dating PodcastHelp! I'm Overthinking This TextNot sure what to text back? Feeling anxious while waiting for a reply or wondering if you're coming on too strong?In this episode:How to pace texting without overextendingManaging anxiety while waiting for repliesWhen overthinking = avoiding real communication✨ Dating Coaching Program – Now Open Starts July 9. Join here → nadineneukirch.com🎁 Free Guide: Top 3 Mindset Shifts in Dating Download → nadineneukirch.com💌 Submit your dating questions → nadineneukirch.comThanks for tuning in to The Psychology of Dating Podcast. If you fou...2025-06-2417 minPsychology of Dating PodcastHow To Be Present In Dating & Reduce Mind-ReadingMeeting new people in dating can be anxiety provoking, frustrating, boring, confusing, and many other emotions. It is normal for the human brain to try and make sense of new people and made judgments and assumptions about them. This however, takes us away from being in the moment and can increase suffering and misinterpretation. In this episode:- Learn about the mindfulness skill of 'Observe' from DBT therapy and how this can be applied to datingFREE Guide on Top 3 Mindset Shifts in Dating:https://www.nadineneukirch.c...2025-06-2316 minPsychology of Dating PodcastDating In Your MidlifeAre you in your midlife and contemplating dating? People often have many fears and barriers about dating as they grow older, with thoughts such as; "All the good people are taken", "I'm not attractive anymore", "The apps are only for younger people". Most difficult thoughts however are not grounded in facts, but rather judgments and fears. In this episode you will learn tips to shift your mindset and approach dating in your midlife with increased confidence.FREE Guide on Top 3 Mindset Shifts in Dating:https://www.nadineneukirch.comSubmit a dating t...2025-06-1611 minPsychology of Dating PodcastMindset Hacks to Help You Get Back On The Dating AppsDo you find yourself hot and cold with use of the dating apps. You go on them for a few months and then feel disheartened and quit for another few months? Is you mindset one of defeat and hopelessness; "They don't work, they are too boring, it's impossible to get matches"In this episode:- Identify your mindset for use of dating apps and learn how to clarify what are facts vs judgment/fear/opinions. - 3 key judgments about the use of apps explored and mindset reframes coveredFREE Guide2025-04-1417 minPsychology of Dating PodcastEmotion Regulation: How To Manage Difficult Emotions In DatingDo you experience intense and overwhelming emotions where you become impulsive or feel out of control in dating? Or do you feel numb and disconnected from your emotions in dating? You may be experiencing emotion dysregulation. In DBT therapy there are skills to regulate emotions, feel more in control of your emotional experience and reduce unnecessary suffering. This episode explores the basics of what emotion regulation is.FREE Guide on Top 3 Mindset Shifts in Dating:https://www.nadineneukirch.comREGISTRATION NOW OPEN FOR *** ONLINE DATING COACHING PROGRAM Feb 2025***2025-03-2424 minPsychology of Dating PodcastWhat To Do When You Have Conflicting 'Parts' Of You In DatingHave you ever found yourself doubting your decisions in dating? Making one choice and then feeling guilt afterwards or criticising yourself? One part of you wants to go on a date and the other part of you fears rejection and wants to avoid the apps?In this episode:- Explore the impact of conflicting 'parts' of yourself in dating- Strategies to befriend these parts, understand their fears and needs and make effective choicesFREE Guide on Top 3 Mindset Shifts in Dating:https://www.nadineneukirch.com2025-03-1019 minPsychology of Dating PodcastTips For Managing ConflictConflict can be healthy and to be expected in a relationship. The important part of conflict is how we navigate it.In this episode:- Learn how can attachment fears can be triggered in a relationship - Tips to settle your nervous system when in conflict- Tips to clarify your goals when resolving conflictFREE Guide on Top 3 Mindset Shifts in Dating:https://www.nadineneukirch.comREGISTRATION NOW OPEN FOR *** ONLINE DATING COACHING PROGRAMS***For more information or to register v...2025-02-1817 minPsychology of Dating PodcastQ & A for Use Of Dating AppsPart of my dating coaching program involves running weekly groups. Each week participants ask dating questions and receive personalised coaching on areas they are unsure or stuck in for dating. This episode answers 3 questions from the latest coaching group:- How long should you spend on the dating apps?- What is the best time to be messaging someone on the apps?- How many dates should you go on per week?FREE Guide on Top 3 Mindset Shifts in Dating:https://www.nadineneukirch.com2025-02-0912 minPsychology of Dating PodcastHow To Increase Pleasant Emotions In Dating - ABC PLEASE SkillWhen people are feeling stuck in dating they can experience an imbalance in their emotions, an increase in challenging emotions such as fear, sadness, anger, shame, and guilt. In Dialectical Behaviour Therapy (DBT) there is a skill to help people accumulate pleasant emotions called 'ABC PLEASE'. This episode explores the use of this skill in the context of dating. FREE Guide on Top 3 Mindset Shifts in Dating:https://www.nadineneukirch.comREGISTRATION NOW OPEN FOR *** ONLINE DATING COACHING PROGRAM Feb 2025***For more information or to register visit:https://ww...2025-01-1317 minPsychology of Dating PodcastWhy I Loved Dating In COVID-19 Lockdown And What I Learnt About Authentic DatingWhat does authentic dating actually mean? This episode looks at key aspects of authentic dating including aligning with your values and goals, honesty, embracing imperfections, and vulnerability. REGISTRATION NOW OPEN FOR *** ONLINE DATING COACHING PROGRAM Feb 2025***For more information or to register visit:https://www.nadineneukirch.comFREE Guide on Top 3 Mindset Shifts in Dating: https://www.nadineneukirch.comThanks for tuning in to The Psychology of Dating Podcast. If you found this episode helpful, please follow, rate, and share it with someone navigating the dating world. ...2025-01-0610 minPsychology of Dating PodcastHow To Make Your New Years Resolutions Stick?If you are feeling stuck in dating, altering habits can significantly increase satisfaction and confidence. However habits can be very hard to form. How can people change a behaviour or reframe their thinking in a way that lasts long term? This episode explores key tools to build new habits, including positive reinforcement, looking for skill deficits, expecting failures, and building from small to big. REGISTRATION NOW OPEN FOR *** ONLINE DATING COACHING PROGRAM Feb 2025***For more information or to register visit:https://www.nadineneukirch.comFREE Guide on Top 3 Mindset Shifts in Dating: http...2024-12-3022 minPsychology of Dating PodcastChanging Thoughts To Change Your Dating ExperienceThis episode looks at ways to reduce unnecessary suffering in dating caused by thinking. It explores the difference between a neutral dating circumstance and the automatic judgments and criticisms that can alter the way you view and feel about a situation. *** ONLINE DATING COACHING PROGRAM Feb 2025***For more information or to register visit:https://www.nadineneukirch.comFREE Guide on Top 3 Mindset Shifts in Dating: https://www.nadineneukirch.comThanks for tuning in to The Psychology of Dating Podcast. If you found this ep...2024-12-2115 minPsychology of Dating PodcastFinding Love After A Breakup And Getting Back Together - Hazel's StoryIn this Episode Nadine's cousin Hazel shares the challenges and highs in her long term relationship with her now fiancé. Topics include; dating a man who is shorter, from friends to romantic, breakdown of a relationship and cheating, dating someone narcissistic, self-love and personal growth, rebuilding trust, being 'all in' and tips to help a long term relationship thrive. FREE Guide on Top 3 Mindset Shifts in Dating: https://www.nadineneukirch.comHave a question or topic you'd like to hear on this podcast? Message Nadine via the contacts page here:https://www.n...2024-12-1158 minPsychology of Dating PodcastConversation With Georgia Grace - Certified Sex And Relationship Practitioner And Somatic TherapistThis episode is an interview with Georgia Grace, who is a Certified Sex and Relationship Practitioner And Somatic Therapist. Georgia shares expertise from her area, including:- What is Somatic therapy and Sexology- What is covered in Georgia's new book- Tools to communicate during sex, saying no and making requests- Common barriers to communication- Consent, trauma, and sexInformation on Georgia Grace:- Websites: https://www.georgiagrace.co/about https://itsnormal.com/pages/about-normal- Instagram: georgia grace (@gspot._)- Book: https://www.amazon...2024-11-1849 minPsychology of Dating PodcastMenstrual Cycle, Hormones, and DatingWhat are the impacts of the hormones Oestrogen and Progesterone which occur in different phases of the menstrual cycle? How can these impact your dating experience?In this episode:- Consider impacts of different physiological states and hormones and how you can become aware of them to enhance your dating experiencesFREE Guide on Top 3 Mindset Shifts in Dating: https://www.nadineneukirch.comHave a question or topic you'd like to hear on this podcast? Message Nadine via the contacts page here:https://www.nadineneukirch.comThanks fo...2024-11-1214 minPsychology of Dating PodcastFast Acting Skills To Tolerate Distress: DBT TIPP Skills Including Practice of Paced Breathing & Progressive Muscle RelaxationIn this episode learn about the DBT distress tolerance skills that are fast acting to help manage distress. TIPP is an acronym for the skills of (extreme) Temperature, Intense Exercise, Paced Breathing, & Progressive Muscle Relaxation. Learn about the science behind these skills and how to practise in this episode. If you would like to skip ahead to the practice of Paced Breathing, & Progressive Muscle Relaxation go to 17 minutes and 50 seconds. Eist, H. I. (2015). DBT Skills Training Manual, Marsha M. Linehan (2015) New York: The Guilford Press. 504 pp.: DBT Skills Training Handouts and Worksheets: Marsha M. Linehan (2015...2024-11-0428 minPsychology of Dating PodcastCan I Change The Person I Am Dating?Can people change? And if so which aspects of personality, characteristics, circumstances can change?This episode covers:- Stages of change based on Motivational Interviewing therapy- Questions to ask yourself about someone changing- How to shift the focus to what you can change to build greater agency in your circumstances FREE Guide on Top 3 Mindset Shifts in Dating: https://www.nadineneukirch.comHave a question or topic you'd like to hear on this podcast? Message Nadine via the contacts page here:https://www.nadineneukirch.com2024-10-2820 minPsychology of Dating PodcastProcessing Past Memories To Improve Your Current Dating Experiences: What Is EMDR Therapy?EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitisation Therapy) is an established therapy with a strong evidence base. This therapy can help people to process past traumatic/distressing memories and move forwards with their lives. In this episode:- Learn about EMDR therapy and how this could help your dating experiencesFREE Guide on Top 3 Mindset Shifts in Dating: https://www.nadineneukirch.comHave a question or topic you'd like to hear on this podcast? Message Nadine via the contacts page here:https://www.nadineneukirch.comThanks for tuning in to The...2024-10-2113 minPsychology of Dating PodcastWhen To Stop Looking & 'Settle' With SomeoneThis episode explores two key concepts in dating: - The importance of mindset in dating, and the difference between scarcity and abundance mindset- Two key factors to help you identify when to stop looking and invest in the current relationship you have foundFREE Guide on Top 3 Mindset Shifts in Dating: https://www.nadineneukirch.comHave a question or topic you'd like to hear on this podcast? Message Nadine via the contacts page here:https://www.nadineneukirch.comThanks for tuning in to The Psychology of Dat...2024-10-1413 minPsychology of Dating PodcastSigns Someone You Are Dating Is NarcissisticDo you experience chronic anxiety with the person you are dating? Feel like you are walking on eggshells or are 'not good enough'? These can be symptoms of dating someone with Narcissism. This episode outlines common signs the person you are dating has narcissism, what to look out for in their behaviour and how you feel.FREE Guide on Top 3 Mindset Shifts in Dating: https://www.nadineneukirch.comHave a question or topic you'd like to hear on this podcast? Message Nadine via the contacts page here:https://www.nadineneukirch.com2024-10-1015 minPsychology of Dating PodcastHealing Inner Child: A Guided Meditation For Triggered EmotionsThis guided meditation uses a 'parts work' therapy approach. Explore triggered emotions and the child/young part these feelings may be related to. Steps to soothe these parts. This episode may be helpful in conjunction with episode 57, 'Am I Triggered Or Is This A 'Red Flag'.FREE Guide on Top 3 Mindset Shifts in Dating: https://www.nadineneukirch.comHave a question or topic you'd like to hear on this podcast? Message Nadine via the contacts page here:https://www.nadineneukirch.comThanks for tuning in to The Psychology of...2024-08-1916 minPsychology of Dating PodcastI Have What I Want In Dating But I'm Anxious/Stressed/Low Mood, Why Is This?Have you dreamed of obtaining a goal in dating/relationships, reached this goal, and then had unexpected difficult emotions like anxiety or stress? This episode explores common fears and challenges people experience when they obtain a dating goal and helpful reframes for the stress or anxiety. FREE Guide on Top 3 Mindset Shifts in Dating: https://www.nadineneukirch.comHave a question or topic you'd like to hear on this podcast? Message Nadine via the contacts page here:https://www.nadineneukirch.comThanks for tuning in to The Psychology of Dat...2024-08-1211 minPsychology of Dating PodcastHow Often Should I See Someone I'm Dating?How often should you see someone you are dating? This is a common question asked by people who see Nadine for coaching or psychology sessions. Once a week? More or less? Will I scare them away?In this episode:- Discussion on what can happen if you see someone too much or too little in dating- Circumstances you may want to see someone more or less- Learn about 'A' and 'H' frame relationships from Davidson's theory of relationships 1991 FREE Guide on Top 3 Mindset Shifts in Dating: https://www.na...2024-08-0520 minPsychology of Dating PodcastDate Ideas: What Activity To Do On Your Next Date?This podcast will go through an extensive list of date activity ideas, whether they are active, at home, entertainment, getaways and more. FREE Guide on Top 3 Mindset Shifts in Dating: https://www.nadineneukirch.comHave a question or topic you'd like to hear on this podcast? Message Nadine via the contacts page here:https://www.nadineneukirch.comThanks for tuning in to The Psychology of Dating Podcast. If you found this episode helpful, please follow, rate, and share it with someone navigating the dating world. Wan...2024-07-1516 minPsychology of Dating PodcastWhen & How To Clarify Labels In Dating: e.g. become exclusive or keep it casualHow do you know when to ask someone to date you exclusively? When is the right timing? What do you say? What types of labels can you ask for? How do you know when to tell someone you want casual?This episode covers everything you need to know about labelling when dating.FREE Guide on Top 3 Mindset Shifts in Dating: https://www.nadineneukirch.comHave a question or topic you'd like to hear on this podcast? Message Nadine via the contacts page here:https://www.nadineneukirch.comTh...2024-07-0820 minPsychology of Dating PodcastHow To Do A Video DateDo you want to meet more people for dates and reduce dating burnout? Video dates are a quick and efficient way to initially connect with people from dating apps. In this episode you will learn step by step how to conduct a video date: rationale, how to ask someone on a video date, how to end a video date, common pitfalls.FREE Guide on Top 3 Mindset Shifts in Dating: https://www.nadineneukirch.comHave a question or topic you'd like to hear on this podcast? Message Nadine via the contacts page here:...2024-06-2413 minPsychology of Dating PodcastWhen To Take A Break From Dating & What To Do In That BreakDating can become ineffective if you are experiencing dating burnout, a major life stressor, or a major blocker such as heartache. In this episode:- Learn about signs and symptoms to take a break from dating- Tips what to do on your dating break- How to know when to start dating againFREE Guide on Top 3 Mindset Shifts in Dating: https://www.nadineneukirch.comHave a question or topic you'd like to hear on this podcast? Message Nadine via the contacts page here:https://www...2024-06-1717 minPsychology of Dating PodcastNavigating 9 Years Of A Long Distance Relationship - Interview With JasmineHow to make a long distance relationship work? In this episode Jasmine shares her experience of navigating a 9 year long relationship between Australia and the UK. She shares key challenges and tips to help a long distance relationship thrive. Topics include; how to build trust, how to stay connected, the importance of personal development, and forming goals with your partner. FREE Guide on Top 3 Mindset Shifts in Dating: https://www.nadineneukirch.comHave a question or topic you'd like to hear on this podcast? Message Nadine via the contacts page here:...2024-06-1056 minPsychology of Dating PodcastAm I Triggered Or Is This A 'Red Flag'?When you experience extreme emotions in dating it can be hard to know if this is a trigger from your past experiences, or if this is a 'red flag' for the relationship you are in. In this episode:- Learn about differences between past triggers and 'red flags'- Skills to self-regulate and communicate your needsFREE Guide on Top 3 Mindset Shifts in Dating: https://www.nadineneukirch.comHave a question or topic you'd like to hear on this podcast? Message Nadine via the contacts page here:https://www...2024-05-1315 minPsychology of Dating PodcastBuild Resilience In Dating: Savouring Pleasant EventsResilience in dating helps you bounce back from difficult experiences, be able to access balanced thinking, and more easily regulate emotions. This episode looks at the strategy 'savouring pleasant events' to build up a bank of positive experiences in your life and increase resilience along your dating journey. FREE Guide on Top 3 Mindset Shifts in Dating: https://www.nadineneukirch.comHave a question or topic you'd like to hear on this podcast? Message Nadine via the contacts page here:https://www.nadineneukirch.comThanks for tuning in to The Psychology of...2024-05-0721 minPsychology of Dating PodcastManaging Jealousy - Insights From RubyJealousy is a common emotion experienced in dating and relationships which many find challenging. In this episode my friend Ruby shares her experience with jealousy, including her journey with non-monogamous relationships. She shares key strategies to embrace jealousy as a useful tool. Topics include: effective communication, managing uncertainty and anxiety, self-soothing, role of hormones, and seeing a therapist. Resources mentioned in this episode:Podcasts:- The Evolving Love Podcast - Abbey and her husband Liam. Conversations exploring Non-monogamy, conscious relationships and sexuality. - 28ish Days Later- BBC Podcast exploring the science and history of...2024-05-0137 minPsychology of Dating PodcastBalance Your Thinking: Take That Person Off The PedestalIt can be common in dating for our brain's to have biased thinking; either putting someone on a pedestal and not seeing the early 'red flags', or discounting someone who could have great potential. In this episode:- Learn a quick and simple technique to balance your thinking in datingFREE Guide on Top 3 Mindset Shifts in Dating: https://www.nadineneukirch.comHave a question or topic you'd like to hear on this podcast? Message Nadine via the contacts page here:https://www.nadineneukirch.comThanks for tun...2024-04-2209 minPsychology of Dating PodcastCreate Your Dating ExperienceIt is common to find dating difficult, however it is less common for people to know exactly what they would like to be different in their dating experience (besides meeting their 'perfect' person!). In this episode learn strategies to create an enjoyable dating experience rather than passively waiting for things to change.FREE Guide on Top 3 Mindset Shifts in Dating: https://www.nadineneukirch.comHave a question or topic you'd like to hear on this podcast? Message Nadine via the contacts page here:https://www.nadineneukirch.comThanks for tuning in...2024-04-1510 minPsychology of Dating PodcastMind Reading & DatingIt is common for people to 'mind read' in dating. That is, assume what others are thinking and take this as fact. This unhelpful thinking pattern can hinder your dating experience, leading to increased judgements of others, misunderstandings, and missed opportunities. In this episode:- Learn about dating situations where 'mind reading' can occur- Learn 3 steps to reduce the impact of 'mind reading'FREE Guide on Top 3 Mindset Shifts in Dating: https://www.nadineneukirch.comHave a question or topic you'd like to hear on this podcast? Mes...2024-04-0814 minPsychology of Dating PodcastPre-Date Meditation: Managing Fear Of FeelingsDo you experience difficult feelings before a date? Anxiety, Anger, Hopelessness, Confusion?In this episode:- Rationale for practising equanimity to emotions- Pre-date meditation to get used to feelings related to worst-case and best-case of going on your next dateFREE Guide on Top 3 Mindset Shifts in Dating: https://www.nadineneukirch.comHave a question or topic you'd like to hear on this podcast? Message Nadine via the contacts page here:https://www.nadineneukirch.comThanks for tuning in to The Psychology of Dating Podcast....2024-04-0118 minPsychology of Dating PodcastHow To End A DateA common challenge in dating is how to end a date. Maybe you're too worried about hurting the other person's feelings, or maybe you like the person so much you don't want it to end, but the date drags on and ultimately this can lead to dating burnout. In this episode:- Learn about common challenges in ending dates- Tips what to say to end a date- Tips on how to set up a shorter dateFREE Guide on Top 3 Mindset Shifts in Dating: https://www.nadineneukirch.com2024-03-2613 minPsychology of Dating PodcastHow To Solve Problems In DatingNumerous issues and problems can arise in dating. For example; how to have a difficult conversation, where do I go for the next date, how do I manage my anxiety in dating, how do I get more dates?Problem solving is a skill which can be learnt and refined. In this episode:- Learn about the Dialectical Behaviour Therapy (DBT) skill called 'Problem Solving', to help you achieve your dating goalsEist, H. I. (2015). DBT Skills Training Manual, Marsha M. Linehan (2015) New York: The Guilford Press. 504 pp.: DBT Skills Training Handouts and W...2024-03-1818 minPsychology of Dating PodcastReduce Dating Burnout: Impacts of MaskingDating burnout can include feeling fatigued, hopeless and anxious. In this episode the impact of masking behaviours is explored as a key contributor to burnout. Masking involves concealing true emotions, thoughts, behaviours to conform to social pressures or a perceived ideal. Learn steps to shift masking behaviours in order to attract people who do not judge your true self. FREE Guide on Top 3 Mindset Shifts in Dating: https://www.nadineneukirch.comThanks for tuning in to The Psychology of Dating Podcast. If you found this episode helpful, please follow, rate, and sh...2024-03-1116 min
Women's Dating And Confidence PodcastPsychology & Dating w/ Nadine NeukirchIn this episode, my former client, and now friend- and dating coach comes on to have a conversation about what we have learned about dating through our own experiences and through coaching. Learn more about Nadine!https://www.nadineneukirch.com/Enroll/ join the waitlist for coaching:www.ambergrubenmann.com/coachingSchedule a free coaching session with Amber here: https://calendly.com/amberelaineg/free-recorded-coachingFollow me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ambergrubenmannGet the free guide Copy And Paste Texts For When He Is Pulling Away Or...2024-03-0849 minPsychology of Dating Podcast3 Lessons For Dating From A Yoga Teacher TrainingNadine completed a one month intensive yoga teacher training in India 2015. This episode explored 3 key lessons from the experience and how this can relate to improving dating outcomes. Themes covered in this episode:- comparisons- expectations and mindset- impact of environmentFREE Guide on Top 3 Mindset Shifts in Dating: https://www.nadineneukirch.comThanks for tuning in to The Psychology of Dating Podcast. If you found this episode helpful, please follow, rate, and share it with someone navigating the dating world. Want more su...2024-02-1926 minPsychology of Dating PodcastHow To Stay Focused On Your Dating Goal: Goal SettingForming clear goals in dating helps you stay focused on what is important to you. Goal setting can increase the time and effort you spend in building skills and strategies to overcome dating hurdles. In this episode:- Learn about SMART goals and the benefitsHave a dating question or topic you'd like to hear about on this podcast? Send Nadine a message via the contacts page on her website:https://www.nadineneukirch.com/contactThanks for tuning in to The Psychology of Dating Podcast. If you found this...2024-02-1210 minPsychology of Dating PodcastManaging LonelinessLoneliness is a universal human emotion that can commonly occur in dating. In this episode:- Learn about the definition and function of loneliness- Strategies to help manage feelings of loneliness and increase feelings of connectionFREE Guide on Top 3 Mindset Shifts in Dating: https://www.nadineneukirch.comThanks for tuning in to The Psychology of Dating Podcast. If you found this episode helpful, please follow, rate, and share it with someone navigating the dating world. Want more support? Download my free guide: “Top 3 Mind...2024-02-0514 minPsychology of Dating PodcastHow To Heal From A BreakupFeeling heartbroken? Lonely, sad, angry, numb. Breakups can bring up intense overwhelming emotions and rumination.In this episode:- Learn about actions that can exacerbate heartbreak- Learn about strategies to healthily process breakup emotions and thoughtsFREE Guide on Top 3 Mindset Shifts in Dating: https://www.nadineneukirch.comThanks for tuning in to The Psychology of Dating Podcast. If you found this episode helpful, please follow, rate, and share it with someone navigating the dating world. Want more support? Download my free guide: “Top 3 Min...2024-01-2919 minPsychology of Dating PodcastWhat To Do If They Haven't Replied To Your MessageHave you suddenly been ghosted by someone, left waiting for a reply to a message, unsure if you should contact them or wait? Not knowing how to respond when someone pulls away can create intense anxiety, anger, or other uncomfortable emotions.In this episode:- Learn key tips to decide when and if you should contact someone if you're waiting on a message- Understand how to clarify your needs, soothe your emotions, and assert yourselfHave a dating question or topic you'd like to hear about on this podcast? Send Nadine a...2024-01-2216 minPsychology of Dating PodcastHow To Enjoy Use Of The Dating AppsHave you felt disheartened/overwhelmed with use of dating apps? It can be common for people to feel burnout with the apps and want to quit using them altogether. This however limits opportunities to meet people and reach your ultimate dating goal.In this episode:- Listen to common challenges with dating apps- Learn about factors within your control to shift your dating experience on the apps which could create more enjoyment/satisfaction FREE Guide on Top 3 Mindset Shifts in Dating: https://www.nadineneukirch.comThanks for tuning in to...2024-01-1523 minPsychology of Dating PodcastConfidence In Your Dating Decisions- Dan's Coaching ExperienceThis episode features special guest Dan, a former client who shares his key transformations and learnings from 9 months of coaching. In this episode Dan shares insights into:- Expectations and realities of coaching - Power of tuning into your emotions in dating- Benefits of slowing down dating decisions- Managing the fear of rejecting othersFREE Guide on Top 3 Mindset Shifts in Dating: https://www.nadineneukirch.comThanks for tuning in to The Psychology of Dating Podcast. If you found this episode helpful, please follow, rat...2024-01-0830 minPsychology of Dating PodcastHow To Take The Pressure Off Yourself In Dating- Factors Within & Outside Of Your ControlDo you feel a sense of pressure in dating? Feeling disheartened, worried you are 'failing' or 'not getting it right'? Building skills and focusing on what you are doing in dating is highly beneficial, however, it is also important to acknowledge factors outside of your control.In this episode:- Learn about benefits and downsides of perfectionism- Learn about factors within your control in dating- Learn about factors outside of your control in datingFREE Guide on Top 3 Mindset Shifts in Dating: https://www.nadineneukirch.comThanks f...2023-12-2519 minPsychology of Dating PodcastTop Dating Coaching Advice- Interview With Dating Coach Amber GrubenmannThis episode features special guest Amber Grubemann. Amber is a confidence and dating coach for women across the globe, helping people move from casual to exclusive relationships. In this episode:- Amber and Nadine share how they know each other, from personal coaching, to business coaching, to friends- Amber shares her top tools to help people in dating & Nadine shares hers. Including the '5 Elements' to know when to continue or end a connection, self-validation, and assertiveness skillsFind out more about Amber:- Women's Dating and Confidence Podcast: https://podcasts...2023-12-1844 minPsychology of Dating PodcastHow to Meet People in PersonDo you have a desire to meet someone in person? Feeling tired of the dating apps? Unsure where to start and how to approach someone?In this episode:- Learn about key places and events where you can meet people- Learn skills in starting conversation & reframing rejection when you ask someone outFREE Guide on Top 3 Mindset Shifts in Dating: https://www.nadineneukirch.comThanks for tuning in to The Psychology of Dating Podcast. If you found this episode helpful, please follow, rate, and share it with s...2023-12-1116 minPsychology of Dating PodcastDon't Dismiss the 'Nice but Boring' PersonHave you had a pattern of knowing someone who is nice, consistent, kind....yet you find the connection boring, no spark, just don't feel it? Yet the people you are highly attracted to end up being avoidant, hot/cold, love bomb, and don't work out.In this episode:- Consider how to best decide if it would be helpful to keep dating the 'nice' person, or end the connection- 4 tips how to help you decideFREE Guide on Top 3 Mindset Shifts in Dating: https://www.nadineneukirch.comThanks for t...2023-12-0420 minPsychology of Dating PodcastSelf-Blame vs Blame of OthersSome people can have a default setting of going into self-blame when faced with a difficult dating situation, and others can have a reflex to automatically blaming others. These extreme ways of thinking and interpreting situations can increase difficult feelings and reduce ability for change.In this episode:- explore the impacts of self-blame- explore the impacts of blaming others- consider ways to increase flexibility in thinking and take and give appropriate responsibility in dating scenariosFREE Guide on Top 3 Mindset Shifts in Dating:https://www.nadineneukirch...2023-11-2709 minPsychology of Dating PodcastHow to Validate Yourself & OthersValidation is a key skill to strengthen relationships, reduce conflict, and help build a sense of self.In this episode:- definition of validation and self-validation- links between validation and dating- steps to validate yourself and othersEist, H. I. (2015). DBT Skills Training Manual, Marsha M. Linehan (2015) New York: The Guilford Press. 504 pp.: DBT Skills Training Handouts and Worksheets: Marsha M. Linehan (2015) New York: The Guilford Press. 422 pp.FREE Guide on Top 3 Mindset Shifts in Dating:https://www.nadineneukirch.comThanks for tuning...2023-11-2015 minPsychology of Dating PodcastSense of Self & DatingA limited sense of self can lead to increased relationship challenges and a feeling of being directionless. A limited sense of self can also lead to increased anxiety in dating, difficulties making decisions, and high reliance on external validation. In this episode:- learn key components of what makes up a sense of self- learn about impacts of a limited sense of self for dating- origins of limited sense of self- steps to build a sense of selfCurious about a topic of question to be covered on t...2023-11-1318 minPsychology of Dating PodcastGratitude: Benefits & PracticeIt is common for the human brain to have a negativity bias, focusing on worries, worst case scenarios, and general negative thoughts. This negativity bias can also be experienced in dating. Gratitude is one practice which may increase appreciation for life and help the mind access alternate thoughts.In this episode:- Learn about studies on gratitude practice and the effects- Guided meditation on gratitude FREE Guide on Top 3 Mindset Shifts in Dating: https://www.nadineneukirch.comThanks for tuning in to The Psychology of Dating Podcast. If...2023-11-0613 minPsychology of Dating PodcastEmbracing DifferencesIt is common for the people we date to have differences, in values, hobbies, routines, interests. How can you know whether this is a dealbreaker or if it can benefit the relationship?In this episode:- Learn about challenges with automatically ruling out a relationship if there are differences- Explore strategies to identify if the differences are workable or a dealbreaker- Learn strategies to get your own needs met and support your partner with their differencesFREE Guide on Top 3 Mindset Shifts in Dating: https://www.nadineneukirch.com2023-10-3014 minPsychology of Dating Podcast6 Common Mistakes Using Dating AppsDating apps are a large part of the dating experience in the modern day. While the apps can be useful ways to connect and meet new people, there are common mistakes people make when using them which can lead to dating burnout.In this episode:- Learn about 6 common mistakes people make when using the apps- Learn about techniques to increase effectiveness of the apps to connect and go on datesFREE Guide on Top 3 Mindset Shifts in Dating: https://www.nadineneukirch.comThanks for tuning in to The Ps...2023-10-2319 minPsychology of Dating Podcast5 Senses Grounding: A Strategy For Anxiety or StressOur minds can often be thinking about the past or future, looping in rumination or worry thoughts, which increases emotional distress. 5 Senses Grounding is a psychology strategy to help anchor the mind to the present moment, and can be used to manage anxiety or stress in dating. In this episode:- Listen to a guided mindfulness meditation on 5 senses grounding exerciseWrite to Nadine (Clinical Psychologist/Dating Coach) with a topic or question you'd like to hear about on this podcast:https://www.nadineneukirch.comThanks for tuning in to The P...2023-10-1611 minPsychology of Dating PodcastUnhelpful Thinking StylesThere are 10 types of unhelpful thinking styles from Cognitive Behaviour Therapy (CBT), these can frequently come up in dating. This limits perspectives in situations, creates biased thinking, and can create increased emotional distress or unhelpful behaviours. In this episode:- Learn about the 10 unhelpful thinking styles from CBT- Hear examples from the thinking traps and how they relate to datingWrite to Nadine (Clinical Psychologist/Dating Coach) with a topic or question you'd like to hear about on this podcast:https://www.nadineneukirch.comCBT handout on unhelpful thinking...2023-10-0918 minPsychology of Dating Podcast'Good Enough' Partner- Understanding The Traps Of PerfectionismIn dating people can pursue perfectionism, for themselves and others, in the pursuit of their ideal relationship. Perfectionism however can have adverse consequences, including increased guilt, feeling inadequate, doubt, and stress. In this episode:- Learn about the costs of perfectionism and benefits of 'good enough partner'- Steps to cultivate being a 'good enough' partner and searching for a 'good enough' partnerFREE Guide on Top 3 Mindset Shifts in Dating:https://www.nadineneukirch.comThanks for tuning in to The Psychology of Dating Podcast. If...2023-10-0217 minPsychology of Dating PodcastHow To Motivate Yourself In DatingDating and finding the relationship you desire is a journey, we don't how long it will take, and it is most helpful to be consistent and motivated. Motivation can help people overcome barriers and challenges in dating, and improve the dating experience. In this episode:- Learn about 3 motivation states-Learn how to use rewards and self-care to improve motivationFREE Guide on Top 3 Mindset Shifts in Dating:https://www.nadineneukirch.comThanks for tuning in to The Psychology of Dating Podcast. If you found this e...2023-09-2508 minPsychology of Dating PodcastPolyvagal TheoryPolyvagal Theory is a way to help understand the states of your nervous system, and it's automatic survival functions and physiological responses. In dating you may experience moments of joy, fear, anger, or hopelessness and low mood. Polyvagal theory may help you understand how to identify and shift your nervous system states and emotions, to feel more calm and connected in your dating experience. In this episode:- Learn about Polyvagal Theory and the 3 main nervous system states- Apply this knowledge to your dating life to help soothe your nervous systemMore...2023-09-1819 minPsychology of Dating PodcastCope Ahead PlanningDating situations can commonly bring up anxiety, stress, or apprehension. Worry about the situation can be a common automatic coping strategy, however not the most effective. In Dialectical Behaviour Therapy (DBT) there is a skill called 'Cope Ahead Planning' which can help the mind switch from worry to problem solving. In this episode:- Learn about the impacts of worry and anxiety- Learn about 'Cope Ahead Planning' to prepare and problem solve skills you can use in anxiety provoking situations.Eist, H. I. (2015). DBT Skills Training Manual, Marsha M. Linehan (2015) New York...2023-09-1111 minPsychology of Dating PodcastOpposite Action To EmotionsEvery emotion we experience has an action urge. For example, when feeling afraid the urge is the avoid or run away, when feeling excited the urge is to approach a situation. Sometimes these urges are not effective to act upon, when the emotion (or intensity of the emotion) does not match the situation, or acting on the urge does not help with your long term goals. In this episode:- Learn about emotions and their urges- Learn about the Dialectical Behaviour Therapy (DBT) skill called 'Opposite Action', to act opposite to an emotion urge t...2023-09-0417 minPsychology of Dating PodcastManaging RuminationPainful or uncomfortable dating situations can trigger rumination, repetitive negative thoughts. Rumination can increase anxiety, depression, and stress. In this episode:- Learn about the function of rumination- Learn skills to manage ruminationFor more information on coaching or psychology sessions:https://www.nadineneukirch.comGet your FREE guide: Top 3 Mindset Shifts in Dating:https://www.nadineneukirch.comThanks for tuning in to The Psychology of Dating Podcast. If you found this episode helpful, please follow, rate, and share it with someone navigating the d...2023-08-2810 minPsychology of Dating Podcast'GIVE Skill' How To Keep & Maintain Healthy RelationshipsHow to show care, interest, and kindness to those you are dating? In Dialectical Behaviour Therapy (DBT) the 'GIVE skill' helps people focus on keeping or maintaining healthy relationships. In this episode:- Learn about the DBT 'GIVE skill', be gentle, act interested, validate, and easy manner- Apply this GIVE skill to your dating situationsEist, H. I. (2015). DBT Skills Training Manual, Marsha M. Linehan (2015) New York: The Guilford Press. 504 pp.: DBT Skills Training Handouts and Worksheets: Marsha M. Linehan (2015) New York: The Guilford Press. 422 pp.FREE Guide...2023-08-2111 minPsychology of Dating PodcastEmbrace Pain & Follow Your DreamsIn dating it is natural to encounter uncomfortable thoughts and feelings- anxiety, low mood, burnout, fear of rejection, fear of putting effort in and it not working out. In Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) there is a skill called the 'Choice Point', the choice to make decisions based on trying to avoid pain (which ultimately doesn't work), or make decisions based on your values and dream, and embracing the pain that comes with it. In this episode:- Learn about the consequences of trying to avoid pain in dating- Learn about the 'Choice Point...2023-08-1417 minPsychology of Dating PodcastBoring vs Interesting MessagesAre you ever tired of the conversations on dating apps? Feeling bored, fatigued of the same conversations and questions?In this episode:- Learn about the difference between a boring vs interesting message- Learn components of an interesting message to cultivate yourselfFREE Guide on Top 3 Mindset Shifts in Dating:https://www.nadineneukirch.comThanks for tuning in to The Psychology of Dating Podcast. If you found this episode helpful, please follow, rate, and share it with someone navigating the dating world.2023-08-0711 minPsychology of Dating PodcastRejection Part 2: How to Manage Fear of Rejecting OthersRejection can be a difficult emotion to manage. People can not only have a fear of being rejected, but also of doing the rejection. If you have a fear of ending connections with others, you may engage in behaviours incongruent with your values, such as ghosting someone or not being fully honest. You may also limit yourself in dating, such as avoid going on dates.In this episode:- Learn about key components of fear of rejecting others- Skills to manage this fear of rejecting othersFREE Guide on Top 3...2023-07-3117 minPsychology of Dating PodcastRejection Part 1: How To Manage Being RejectedFear of being rejected is common in dating. Fear of rejection can lead to increased self-criticism, overgeneralisation, and assuming the worst of ourselves or the dating situation, "No-one will ever love me" "I'll never find a good match""I'm too flawed". In this episode:- Learn about key impacts from fear of rejection and how this can hold you back in dating- Learn about the function of 'rejection'- Skills to manage and soothe the experience of rejectionFREE Guide on Top 3 Mindset Shifts in Dating:https://www.n...2023-07-2426 minPsychology of Dating PodcastHow To Maintain Self-Respect: FAST SkillHaving self-respect involves pride, self-love, and knowing your worth. If you have healthy self-respect, then confidence increases and it makes it easier to reach you goals in dating. With healthy self-respect, we treat ourselves more kindly, and others treat you with more respect. Or we more clearly know it is not a healthy relationship. In this episode:- Learn about the importance of self-respect in dating- Introduction of the 'FAST' skill from Dialectical Behaviour Therapy. This skill is about keeping and maintaining healthy self-respectEist, H. I. (2015). DBT Skills Training Manual, Marsha...2023-07-1715 minPsychology of Dating PodcastMaintaining Standards: The Importance Of Speaking UpIt can be common in dating to have fears about speaking up and naming dynamics that make you uncomfortable. People can assume they are 'too needy or sensitive', worry they will 'scare' people away, or have beliefs they need to 'play the game' and not let someone else know how much they were impacted by an action.In this episode:- Learn about the impacts of not asserting yourself in dating, how this reduces self-respect and respect from others- Identify key barriers to assertivenessFREE Guide on Top 3 Mindset Shifts in Dating: 2023-07-1009 minPsychology of Dating PodcastOverscheduling: Marathon Not A SprintOverscheduling and Underscheduling can be common habits of dating. That is, going on so many dates you begin to feel exhausted and neglect other aspects of your life, or quit dating altogether limiting your ability to meet your dating goals. In this episode:- Learn about the impacts of of overscheduling and underlying reasons we may do this- Build habits to maintain consistency in dating to help you reach your relationship goalsFREE Guide on Top 3 Mindset Shifts in Dating: https://www.nadineneukirch.comInformation on coaching and ps...2023-07-0317 minPsychology of Dating PodcastHow To Define 'Success" In DatingWhat you define as 'success' in dating, can dramatically impact how pressured, stressed, and disheartened you feel, OR create feelings of pride, empowerment, and energy in the dating process. In this episode:- Listen to common unhelpful definitions of 'success' in dating and the impacts- Learn about helpful goal posts to define achievement and success as you go through the dating processFREE Guide on Top 3 Mindset Shifts in Dating: https://www.nadineneukirch.comInformation on coaching and psychology sessions:https://www.nadineneukirch.comThanks for tu...2023-06-2619 minPsychology of Dating PodcastRadical Acceptance: How To Reduce Suffering In Situations You Cannot ChangeIt is common to find it hard to let go of painful dating situations, even though they happened in the past, and you cannot change them. When we have pain in life, and do not accept this, then we experience suffering. Pain we cannot change, suffering we can. In this episode:- Learn about the signs of non-acceptance, when your mind and body tries to fight realty- Learn about the skill 'Radical Acceptance" from DBT Therapy, to help reduce unnecessary suffering when we experience pain in life and datingEist, H. I. (2015). D...2023-06-1924 minPsychology of Dating PodcastUntangling Biases- Core Mindfulness SkillsIt is common in dating to have judgments and biases that obscure dating experiences. For example, people may make up stories about how a person is, based on a few photos and words on an app, and make quick judgments if they would be a helpful match or not. In this episode:- Understand how biases influence dating, particularly when using dating apps- Learn 6 core mindfulness skills from Dialectical Behaviour Therapy (DBT) to increase non-judgmental awareness and see reality as it is. Core mindfulness skills including the 'WHAT' skills (observe, describe, participate), and the...2023-06-1219 minPsychology of Dating PodcastBoundary SettingBoundary setting can be challenging in dating, people may neglect their emotions and needs and over-extend themselves with others. Ultimately this increases emotional suffering, such as stress, anxiety, frustration, and resentment. Lack of boundaries decreases the chance of a healthy fulfilling relationship. In this episode:- Learn about types of boundaries: including time, emotional, and physical boundaries-Learn about the costs of no boundaries and the benefits of setting boundaries-Tips on how to set boundariesFor more information on coaching or psychology sessions:https://www.nadineneukirch.comGet y...2023-06-0519 minPsychology of Dating PodcastLoving KindnessDifficulties in dating can build up hurt, resentment, and feelings of rejection. We can take these difficult feelings into dating experiences, creating biases and judgments, even for new dates.Wishing others happiness not only brings joy to those around us, but also to ourselves. Increased kindness and compassion can calm the nervous system, and help reduce stress hormones which increase biases and judgments. In this episode:- Learn about the effects of loving kindness in dating vs judgment and criticism.- Guided Loving-Kindness Meditation (to skip to the meditation go to 7mins 35 secs)2023-05-2926 minPsychology of Dating PodcastAssertiveness Skills: DEAR MAN ScriptIn Dialectical Behaviour Therapy (DBT) there is an assertiveness skill 'DEAR MAN', this acronym helps structure what to say when you would like to get an objective, your needs met, or say 'no' to an unwanted request. In this episode:Learn how to apply the assertiveness skills of DEAR MAN:- Describe the situation- Express how you feel- Assert your needs- Reinforce- Mindful of your goal- A2023-05-2213 minPsychology of Dating Podcast5 Pillars for Nervous System Health: Self-CareOur nervous systems impact every aspect of health, both emotional and physical. A stabilised nervous system can reduce dating burnout and anxiety, and increase energy and clear thinking. In this episode:Learn about 5 core self-care act to stabilise nervous system health: - sleep - regular meals - social support - physical activity - activities that provide enjoyment & achievementRecommended physical activity by the Heart Foundation Australia:https://www.heartfoundation.org.au/heart-health-education/physical-activity-and-exerciseFREE Guide on Top 3 Mindset Shifts in Dating:https://www.nadineneukirch.comThank...2023-05-1514 minPsychology of Dating PodcastHow to Tolerate UncertaintyDating is full of ambiguous and uncertain situations, Do they like me? Do I like them? Will this be a long term relationship? Why did they end it?It is common to try and control situations outside of our control to reduce the discomfort of uncertainty, however, ultimately this increases suffering in dating. In this episode: - Learn about the costs of not being able to tolerate uncertainty- Build skills in tolerating uncertaintyFREE Guide on Top 3 Mindset Shifts in Dating:https://www.nadineneukirch.comQuote...2023-05-0816 minPsychology of Dating PodcastAccessing Your 'Wise Mind' StateIn Dialectical Behaviour Therapy (DBT) they describe 3 mind states: 'Wise Mind', 'Reasonable Mind' & 'Emotion Mind'. Understanding these different states of mind can increase understanding of your decisions in dating, impulsive or pragmatic, and increase ability to make effective choices based on both your emotions and the facts of the situation. In this episode:- Learn the signs of 'Wise Mind', 'Reasonable Mind' & 'Emotion Mind'- Strategies to access your 'Wise Mind' stateFREE Guide on Top 3 Mindset Shifts in Dating:https://www.nadineneukirch.comEist, H. I. (2015). DBT Skills Training Ma...2023-04-2919 minPsychology of Dating PodcastPeople Pleasing - Healthy vs UnhealthyPeople pleasing frequently comes up in dating, this shapes how people act and who they attract. People who over people-please neglect their own needs and hinders their ability to feel secure and safe being themselves in a relationship. In this episode:- Learn about healthy vs unhealthy people pleasing- Impacts of people pleasing on dating experiences- Strategies to reduce people pleasingFor more information on coaching or psychology sessions:https://www.nadineneukirch.comGet your FREE guide: Top 3 Mindset Shifts in Dating:https://www.nadineneukirch.com2023-04-1916 minPsychology of Dating PodcastMindfulness Meditation for Dating Anxiety/StressIn this episode:- Learn about the signs of dating anxiety/stress- Rationale for mindfulness meditation- Guided Meditation for anxiety/stress (if you'd like to go straight to the meditation tune in at 6min 55 secs)FREE Guide on Top 3 Mindset Shifts in Dating:https://www.nadineneukirch.comThanks for tuning in to The Psychology of Dating Podcast. If you found this episode helpful, please follow, rate, and share it with someone navigating the dating world. Want more support? Download my free guide: “Top 3 Mi...2023-04-1516 minPsychology of Dating Podcast"It's not Working", "It's a Waste of Time"- Managing Doubt ThoughtsDoubt thoughts are part of the process of dating. People frequently experience thoughts such as "It's not working", "I'm wasting my time", which can increase dating anxiety and burnout. This can lead to people ceasing effective dating steps- ultimately leading them further from their relationship goal. In this episode:- Learn about the function of doubt thoughts and the key challenges with these thoughts- Reframe doubt thoughts to increase effectiveness in datingFREE Guide on Top 3 Mindset Shifts in Dating:https://www.nadineneukirch.comThanks for tuning in to T...2023-04-1408 minPsychology of Dating PodcastDialectics & DatingWhen people experience difficulties in dating they can have 'non-dialectical' thinking. This includes rigid, black and white, and all-or-nothing thinking, which can create intense emotions and lead to unhelpful actions in dating. In this episode:- Learn about dialectical and non-dialectical thinking and the impacts- Learn 4 key strategies from Dialectical Behaviour Therapy (DBT) which increases dialectical thinkingFREE Guide on Top 3 Mindset Shifts in Dating, and information on coaching and psychology sessions:https://www.nadineneukirch.comEist, H. I. (2015). DBT Skills Training Manual, Marsha M. Linehan (2015) New York: The G...2023-04-0218 minPsychology of Dating PodcastAttachment Styles & DatingAttachment styles influence how we think and behave in relationships. Our primary relationships from childhood create blueprints for how we engage in future relationships, particularly with people we date. In this episode:- Learn 3 key attachment styles and how they relate to dating dynamics: Anxious, Avoidant & Secure- Identify strengths and challenges for each attachment style- Identify skills that are useful for each attachment style in datingFor more information on coaching or psychology sessions:https://www.nadineneukirch.comGet your FREE guide: Top 3 Mindset Shifts in Dating:2023-04-0114 minPsychology of Dating PodcastChallenge Unhelpful Beliefs in Dating: Behavioural ExperimentsUnhelpful and rigid beliefs in dating take people further away from their dating goals. Often without conscious awareness, these beliefs can influence people's thoughts, feelings, and actions when trying to find a relationship. In this episode:- Learn how unhelpful/rigid beliefs impact your dating- Apply the technique of 'behavioural experiments' to increase flexible thinking and reduce barriers to your dating goalsFREE Psychology of Dating Guide: Top 3 Mindset Shifts in Dating:https://www.nadineneukirch.comThanks for tuning in to The Psychology of Dating Podcast. If y...2023-04-0112 min