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Do I Really Hate Men?Ep. 61 Kids & Separation: What Happens to Our Children During Divorce? w/ Nadine PittamEp. 61 Kids & Separation: What Happens to Our Children During Divorce? w/ Nadine Pittam In this episode, Ang welcomes back Nadine Pittam, a BACP-accredited psychotherapist and host of the podcast "This Won’t Fix You." Nadine returns to the podcast once more to discuss the emotional and psychological impact of divorce on children, drawing from her professional experience and her own childhood. The conversation explores the importance of boundaries, emotional validation, and understanding behavioral changes in children during family separation. Nadine offers practical advice for parents navigating this challenging transition, emphasizing honest communication, maintaining routines, and allowing children to...2025-06-2545 min
This Won't Fix YouPrioritising Myself or My Relationship: B-SideIf you've ever found yourself bitching about somebody, this episode is for you! Find a new way of seeing everyone else's behaviours.Send me a text (Note: I can't reply, but I will read your comment and might respond to your message in a future episode)Support the showNadine’s links: Podcast: www.thiswontfixyou.comCounselling: www.nadinepittam.comInstagram: thiswontfixyou Do you like and value what I do here? Show your appreciation by visiting my Buy Me A Coffee page where you can ...2025-04-2016 min
The Sober Freedom Podcast: Inspiring and Supporting Your Alcohol Free JourneyE13 - Why the Pain? with Nadine Pittam, Counsellor & PsychotherapistIn this powerful and compassionate episode, Lisa and Christal are in conversation with Nadine Pittam, a counsellor, psychotherapist, to explore what really lies beneath our drinking habits. Together, we dig into the deeper emotional roots of alcohol use—and the liberation that comes from finally facing the pain that alcohol has been masking. So often, alcohol isn’t the problem—it’s the solution we’ve turned to in order to silence discomfort, override our feelings, and survive in a world full of social expectations. But what happens when we stop drinking alcohol and all those emotions...2025-04-1143 minThis Won't Fix YouPrioritising Myself or My Relationship: A-SideRelationships (all relationships: friendships, family relations as well as intimate relationships) have a dynamic energy that is constantly in flux. Meg Harper and I talk about this ever-present tension between protecting ourselves as individuals (perhaps at the expense of a relationship) and protecting our relationship(s) perhaps at the expense of ourselves. We start with a quote from Marisa G Franco’s book: Platonic, which is all about attachment styles and how they influence the ways we operate in relationships.Meg Harper's website: https://megharper.co.uk/Send me a text (Note: I can't reply, bu...2025-02-2852 minThis Won't Fix YouTrigger Warning B-SideTrauma. This episode I build on Gabor Mate's metaphor that a trigger is just one part of what causes people problems. It distinguishes between "small t" and "Capital T" trauma. The latter is defined as experiences too terrifying for the psyche to process.I talk about the "Window of Tolerance" model, featuring three zones: a green band (regulated state), orange bands (increasing disregulation), and red bands (hyper-arousal and hypo-arousal). The therapeutic approach emphasises keeping clients within their tolerance window, using the EMDR therapy metaphor of "building a bigger boat" to handle trauma gradually.This episode...2025-02-1419 minThis Won't Fix YouTrigger Warning A-Side'Being triggered' is so much more in our awareness than ever before. How do we identify our triggers and what can we do and what can we reasonably ask others to do to help us manage them? Psychotherapist, Emma McDermott, and I chat about it.Send me a text (Note: I can't reply, but I will read your comment and might respond to your message in a future episode)Support the showNadine’s links: Podcast: www.thiswontfixyou.comCounselling: www.nadinepittam.comInstagram: thiswontfixyou Do...2025-01-2451 minThis Won't Fix YouDrama Triangle - Relationship Games We Don't Know We're Playing: B-SideEpisode Key Points:The Drama Triangle fundamentally revolves around controlFocus on the Rescuer role as the most socially celebrated and potentially toxic positionRescuers often believe their worth is tied to how much they help othersSigns You Might Be a Rescuer:Feeling exhausted by constant requests for helpGetting frustrated when people don't take your adviceFinding others' suffering difficult to bearBelieving your goodness is measured by how effectively you helpKey Insights:Society celebrates selflessness without teaching healthy boundariesHelping without limits can disempower othersTrue support involves inviting others to find their own solutionsCo-dependency occurs when...2025-01-1023 minThis Won't Fix YouDrama Triangle - Relationship Games We Don't Know We're Playing: A-SideMost of us communicate in ways which are unhealthy at least some of the time. This episode, Nadine sits with Richard Chadwick to discuss the Drama Triangle, especially how the unhelpful roles of Rescuer, Victim and Persecutor are embedded in our culture and in our psyches. I challenge you to not recognise yourself in here somewhere!Richard Chadwick is a therapist working in the north west and online. You can view his BACP profile here.Send me a text (Note: I can't reply, but I will read your comment and might respond to your...2024-12-1340 minThis Won't Fix YouMirrors of the Soul; What is Equine Therapy: B-SideIn this special B-side episode, host Nadine hands the reins over to equine practitioner Alex Gulland. Alex walks you through the process of a first session in equine therapy, from initial client assessments, to a serene body scan amidst nature, and finally incorporating therapy with horses. Alex brings you to Silver Birch Animal Therapy Farm, detailing the therapeutic benefits of working with horses and what clients can expect. Alex Gullands's Linkswww.contentedpeople.co.ukwww.silverbirchanimaltherapycic.co.ukMusic credithttps://artlist.io/Send me a text (Note: I...2024-11-2919 minThis Won't Fix YouEmotional Mirrors Of The Soul, Benefits of Equine Therapy: A-SideHow much do we know what is going on inside our bodies? How much do we ever really know about what we give off that other people around us are picking up on unconsciously (or consciously!)? This episode, Equine Practitioner, Alex Gulland and I talk about how horses can be seen as emotional mirrors to our internal worlds. Horses, being prey animals, are incredibly sensitive to our energy, our stress levels and our emotions generally. Alex shares how powerful it can be for people to work therapeutically with horses. I am sure you will be able to...2024-11-1547 min
Do I Really Hate Men?Feel Your Feelings - How Psychotherapy Can Help You Overcome TraumaThis week on the show Ang is joined by Nadine Pittam, accredited psychotherapist and host of the “This Won’t Fix You”. Nadine specialises in working with clients who experience intense feelings of love and are prone to obsessions, or more commonly referred to as ‘love addicts’. The majority of Nadine’s work centres around helping people come to terms with the loss of a loved one, the very definition of divorce. In this interview with Ang, Nadine addresses what physiotherapy actually is, its benefits and shares some fascinating insights on how we feel about our feelings. KEY TAKE...2024-11-0649 minThis Won't Fix YouManaging Difficult Emotions: B-SideEmotions, even so-called negative emotions, can be helpful if we see them as guides. Emotions like guilt and ager can be helpful if they lead to positive change. So how do we know whether what we are feeling is helpful or unhelpful? It's essential to differentiate between guilt that prompts growth and guilt that is rooted in shame. Similarly, self-perception and societal judgements complicate how we view our actions and worth.As always, reflecting on our emotions with curiosity rather than judgement is key. Send me a text (Note: I can't reply, but I will re...2024-11-0117 minThis Won't Fix YouManaging Difficult Emotions: A-Side“Emotions don’t kill you.” A discussion between Nadine and Oakland DBT therapist Jonny Cragg about how taking emotional inventories (in a therapeutic modality called DBT) tailor therapeutic skills to emotional intensity. High emotions need robust interventions, while moderate ones require cognitive strategies. Mindfulness in DBT helps manage emotions and communication. However, challenges include accurately observing emotions and applying strategies consistently. The approach is effective but needs practice and awareness, particularly for those with conditions like ADHD or borderline personality disorder. DBT focuses on present-moment regulation and techniques for immediate control, though deeper trauma may require...2024-10-1845 min
Counselling Tutor314 – Perspectives and Definitions of TraumaLanguage and the Therapeutic Relationship - Research Projects and What to Research
In Episode 314 of the Counselling Tutor Podcast, your hosts Rory Lees-Oakes and Ken Kelly take us through this week's three topics:
Firstly in 'Ethical, Sustainable Practice', we look at understanding the diverse perspectives and definitions of trauma.
Then in 'Practice Matters', Rory speaks with Nadine Pittham about how our use of language can develop and strengthen the therapeutic relationship.
And lastly in 'Student Services', Rory and Ken talk about research projects, and more specifically, what should you research?
Perspectives and Definitions of Trauma [starts at 03:19 mins]
Working with...2024-10-1200 min
Counselling Tutor podcast314 - Perspectives and Definitions of TraumaIn Episode 314 of the Counselling Tutor Podcast, your hosts Rory Lees-Oakes and Ken Kelly take us through this week’s three topics: Firstly in ‘Ethical, Sustainable Practice’, we look at understanding the diverse perspectives and definitions of trauma. Then in ‘Practice Matters’, Rory speaks with Nadine Pittam about how our use of language can develop and strengthen the therapeutic relationship. And lastly in ‘Student Services’, Rory and Ken talk about research projects, and more specifically, what should you research? 2024-10-121h 00
The How To Podcast Series - Revolving Guest Co-Hosts, Podcast Tips and A Community for PodcastersE312 - CO-HOST - Nadine Pittam - Two Sides To Podcasting, Can A Podcast Fix You, What is the Tone of Your PodcastEpisode 312 - CO-HOST - Nadine Pittam - Two Sides To Podcasting, Can A Podcast Fix You, What is the Tone of Your Podcast
This Won't Fix You
I am a psychotherapist, and I am also the host of a podcast called This Won't Fix You.
Being a psychotherapist means I encounter loads of really interesting ways of looking at life. Granted, it’s often ways of looking at life’s struggles… but anyway, it occurred to me one day that if I could find a way to share some of them it might be int...2024-10-0946 minThis Won't Fix YouGravity - Surviving Overwhelming Pain: B-SideThis episode discusses the importance of confronting unresolved pain, as we see with Dr. Ryan Stone in Gravity. Avoiding pain can lead to emotional shutdown and inauthentic living. Therapy helps by revisiting past traumas, breaking rigid coping mechanisms, and allowing individuals to process and integrate their feelings. Through this process, we can heal, rediscover joy and reclaim control over our lives. While difficult, facing buried pain with therapeutic guidance leads to emotional growth and authentic self-connection.Send me a text (Note: I can't reply, but I will read your comment and might respond to your me...2024-10-0413 minThis Won't Fix YouGravity - Surviving Overwhelming Pain: A-SideIf you, like most people, enjoyed the episode on Frozen (Conceal; Don’t Feel: A-Side) then buckle up because Anoushka Beazley is back with an exploration of the film Gravity. We talk about grief, loss, loneliness, and Anoushka brings her unique and tender insight to help us all understand what it’s like when we are trying to survive the crisis of loss.Anoushka’s website: https://www.manderlaytherapy.com/Send me a text (Note: I can't reply, but I will read your comment and might respond to your message in a future episode...2024-09-2048 min
This Won't Fix YouWhat you need to know...New series on its way! Here's what you need to know.Send me a text (Note: I can't reply, but I will read your comment and might respond to your message in a future episode)Support the showNadine’s links: Podcast: www.thiswontfixyou.comCounselling: www.nadinepittam.comInstagram: thiswontfixyou Do you like and value what I do here? Show your appreciation by visiting my Buy Me A Coffee page where you can show your gratitude! Subscribe in...2024-09-1200 minThis Won't Fix YouMeet The Host, with Nadine and LucyThis is a brief one-off segment recorded during this summer break where the host of The Wilderness of Creativity, Lucy Colgan, and I have a chat about who we are, why we run the podcasts and a few more things besides... I promise you the dice I was rolling was not the dangerous boulder it appears to be!!! It was just a 5mm cube, but it sounds enormous!! I hope you enjoy it as much as we did.See you for the next series in September.NadineSend me a text (Note: I c...2024-09-0613 min
The Wilderness of CreativityBeyond the Wilderness, with Lucy Colgan & Nadine PittamBONUS EPISODEWell, here we are; the summer holidays has finally come to an end, and what a whirlwind it has been! This bonus episode is co-hosted with fellow first time podcaster, Nadine Pittam. Nadine (@thiswontfixyou) is a BACP Accredited therapist who shares in the immense relief and joy of her clients as they navigate through their darkest moments and begin to uncover a newfound sense of peace. Life can be difficult, and we all encounter our share of challenges, but having someone completely committed to our well-being can make all the difference. ...2024-08-2418 min
This Won't Fix YouQuick Announcement Aug 2024Links to podcasts mentioned in the announcement:On Attachment: https://www.onattachment.com/Sideways: https://grahamlandiwellbeing.co.uk/sideways-podcast/We Can Do Hard Things: https://wecandohardthingspodcast.com/Where Should We Begin: https://www.estherperel.com/podcastWilderness of Creativity: https://the-wilderness-of-creativity.captivate.fm/Essential Teachings Eckhart Tolle: https://teachings.eckharttolle.com/eckhart-tolle-essential-teachings-the-podcast-premieres-friday-may-21st-on-own/Uncanny: https://the-wilderness-of-creativity.captivate.fm/Have a relaxing break, everyone!See you in the AutumnNadineSend me a text (Note: I can't reply, but I will read your comment and might...2024-08-2307 minThis Won't Fix YouBeing Curious: B-Side - Jung's Shadow TheoryThere are things that influence us which lie deep in our subconscious. This episode is about some of those. They are psychological backseat drivers. We all have a shadow, and into our shadow we stuff all the parts of ourselves we wish weren't true. And we stuff them in so well that we don't even know they're there. But they affect our thoughts, feelings and behaviours.This episode is all about that! And I think it's a belter.As always, the things I discuss here are of a reasonably challenging nature, but I do stay away from...2024-08-0923 minThis Won't Fix YouBeing Curious About Yourself: A-SideTherapist, Emma McDermott, and I talk about how we can only really be curious about ourselves, especially the darker parts of ourselves, when we have the luxury of being stable.When we have the luxury to be able to reflect, we are empowered to make real changes in our lives, changes that make us stronger, rather than changes which simply remove the obstacles which cause us pain.Emma's Linkshttps://www.bacp.co.uk/therapists/382326/emma-mcdermott/ManchesterNadine's Linkswww.nadinepittam.comSend me a text (Note: I can't...2024-07-2645 minThis Won't Fix YouAnxiety and The Monster In The Cupboard: B-SideDelving in more detail into the difference between red flags and anxiety, as discussed by Meg and I on the A-Side.I talk a lot about a model, a graph, in this episode. You can have a look at the graph by visiting the podcast page of my website. Seeing the graph will almost certainly aid your understanding of what I am talking about!Send me a text (Note: I can't reply, but I will read your comment and might respond to your message in a future episode)Support the show2024-07-1223 minThis Won't Fix YouAnxiety and The Monster In The Cupboard: A-SideMeg and I talk about fear, and how much of our fear (maybe all of it) is generated by the mind itself as we try to predict the future, project the best version of ourselves out into the world and avoid pain. We all strive to find happiness, but most of us are seeking it somewhere outside of ourselves. But we are rewarded for our striving, so we just pile on more anger at ourselves when we can't control our fear.Meg and I also try to establish the difference between fear which is helpful f...2024-06-2852 minThis Won't Fix YouOne Task Of Mourning: B-SideThis episode explores how therapy might help you to process your grief... It is the B-Side to the One Task Of Mourning A-Side which was released two weeks previously.Send me a text (Note: I can't reply, but I will read your comment and might respond to your message in a future episode)Support the showNadine’s links: Podcast: www.thiswontfixyou.comCounselling: www.nadinepittam.comInstagram: thiswontfixyou Do you like and value what I do here? Show your appreciation by visiting my...2024-06-1418 minThis Won't Fix YouOne Task Of Mourning: A-SideHow our loss of a person, either through death or separation, is also a loss of the way we related to that person – which is ultimately a loss of a part of us. Or let me put it this way, when we lose someone we must grieve the unique soul of the person we have lost. We grieve the soul connection.And though grief can’t be neatened up, we can observe it, look at it as a series of tasks: the 4 tasks of mourning written by J William Worden:To accept the reality of the loss...2024-05-3142 minThis Won't Fix YouConceal; Don't Feel: B-SideFollowing the last episode where Anoushka and I discussed the film Frozen, this episode looks at narratives: how the stories that are told about us become something that we can't help but react to.I talk a little about IFS (Internal Family Systems) therapy - in particular the term Exile, which is a way of naming the parts of ourselves that are not welcome in our families.There's a brief series of questions at the end which, if you like, can take you a little deeper into your own narratives. If you choose to take...2024-05-1718 minThis Won't Fix YouFrozen: Conceal; Don't Feel, The: A-SideThis episode, we talk about the film Frozen and the dangers of suppression and the power of expression! We talk about how narratives that are spun about us, and the way experiences are framed in our lives – especially our childhoods – are key points influencing who we become. It’s about the impact of being told we have too much power. It’s about how we heal when we have received messages that tell us to conceal, calm down, or be less of ourselves. It’s not always the incident itself that causes the trauma, sometimes it’s more how the...2024-05-0344 minThis Won't Fix YouWhen The Fire Goes Out: B SideWhy do we get stuck? What makes it difficult to move on or through something? What narratives are at play in our psyche which we have utterly subscribed to which colour all our experiences?This episode I look at how we get stuck because we don't trust ourselves.Send me a text (Note: I can't reply, but I will read your comment and might respond to your message in a future episode)Support the showNadine’s links: Podcast: www.thiswontfixyou.comCounselling: www.nadinepittam.com2024-04-1816 minThis Won't Fix YouWhen The Fire Goes Out: A SideWhat happens when we get bored? I mean bored with work or bored with people? And what can we do about it? Maybe you feel frustrated with your current relationship or work situation, and you want to rekindle the interest you had in the early fiery days of your new love. Our society, fuelled by our media, feeds our desire for a quick fix, it feeds our obsessions with romance. We think passion is outside us, something that happens to us and lands in us, but this episode looks...2024-04-1843 minThis Won't Fix YouI'm Fundamentally Flawed: B-SideEssentially this goes into more detail about shame - what happens when we do begin to share some of our truths, in particular, what happens if we share something and the other person can't hold it with compassion, can't hold it with care, and you are plunged into shame?Send me a text (Note: I can't reply, but I will read your comment and might respond to your message in a future episode)Support the showNadine’s links: Podcast: www.thiswontfixyou.comCounselling: www.nadinepittam.comIn...2024-04-1808 minThis Won't Fix YouI'm Fundamentally Flawed: A-SideBRIEF SUMMARY If you struggle to own all parts of you, if there are some parts of yourself or your past that you think are just not suitable for public consumption then this episode is for you. Personal Development Coach, Katie Bunting, and I talk about the metaphor “Stick A Flag In It”. We are basically talking about how owning all aspects of ourselves is not only essential for growth, happiness, connection and even a healthy sex life. Sometimes we have all felt that who we are is not wh...2024-04-1842 minThis Won't Fix YouTrailer: This Won't Fix YouHello. I am so excited to be finally bringing this podcast to the world. What follows here in this short episode is an outline of what you can expect from the podcast going forward. As I say in the intro to each episode, the show is “a curation of interesting metaphors, models and images discovered or manifested in my work as a psychotherapist”. So if I’ve read or heard a funky idea, I’ll lift it from the book or the talk or the session, and offer it to you. It’s like I’ve run a highli...2024-04-0201 min