Shows
NeuroprovocateursAphrodite SynestheteWelcome to Neuroprovocateurs, the podcast all about neurodiversity and self acceptance. Want to hear all about how neurodiversity affects culture, relationships, sexuality and identity? You’ve come to the right place.On this episode, hosts Jessica Stoya and Pam Shaffer chatted with artist Steve Cleff his Aphrodite graphic novel and visual art project where he explores the goddess’ various forms and her cultural significance. He highlights his relationship with Aphrodite Mixus, representing the synthesis of different elements, and Aphrodite Pandemos, associated with political harmony. Steve's work is influenced by his synesthesia, where he associates colors with sounds and...
2025-08-2859 min
NeuroprovocateursMusic, Catharsis and CatsWelcome to Neuroprovocateurs, the podcast all about neurodiversity and self acceptance. Want to learn all about how neurodiversity affects culture, relationships, sexuality and identity? Are you ADHD, autistic, Audhd, or just a garden variety goblin person? You’ve come to the right place.In this episode, hosts Pam Shaffer, Jessica Stoya and Laurie Penny delve into the emotional and sensory aspects of music, the science behind it, and its universal appeal. Co-hosts Jessica Stoya and Laurie Penny ask questions that highlight the multifaceted impact of music on emotions and its role in personal expression and therapy, as Pa...
2025-08-1457 min
NeuroprovocateursAutistic vs AntagonisticWelcome to Neuroprovocateurs, the podcast all about neurodiversity and self acceptance. Want to hear all about how neurodiversity affects culture, relationships, sexuality and identity? You’ve come to the right place.On this episode, hosts Pam Shaffer and Laurie Penny discuss neurodivergence, social cues, and cultural differences. They explore how neurodivergent individuals are perceived and treated in different cultures, noting that British culture tolerates harm over weirdness, while American culture valorizes individualism. They delve into the evolutionary advantages of neurodivergence, emphasizing the importance of questioning social norms and how it can shape cultural evolution. Pam shares a pe...
2025-07-3156 min
NeuroprovocateursPornopticonWelcome to Neuroprovocateurs, the podcast all about neurodiversity and self acceptance. Want to hear all about how neurodiversity affects culture, relationships, sexuality and identity? You’ve come to the right place.On this episode, Jessica Stoya, Laurie Penny and Pam Shaffer discuss the evolving concept of ethical pornography, its shift from the former concept of feminist pornography, and the challenges of defining and maintaining ethical standards in the adult industry. They explore the historical context of porn itself, the role of informed consent, and the impact of social media and cultural shifts on ethical practices in the se...
2025-07-1751 min
NeuroprovocateursBalancing Art and SurvivalWelcome to Neuroprovocateurs, the podcast all about neurodiversity and self acceptance. Want to hear all about how neurodiversity affects culture, relationships, sexuality and identity? You’ve come to the right place.Erika Ishii, a multifaceted artist, discusses their diverse career, including voiceover roles in video games like "Dragon Age" and "Apex Legends," and the podcast "Worlds Beyond Number." They highlight the importance of systems and support, particularly financial stability, in managing ADHD and their creative endeavors. Erika emphasizes the significance of representation in media, sharing their experiences with empathy and the impact of their work on audiences. Th...
2025-06-2654 min
NeuroprovocateursAre You My Mommy?Welcome to Neuroprovocateurs, the podcast all about neurodiversity and self acceptance. Want to hear all about how neurodiversity affects culture, relationships, sexuality and identity? You’ve come to the right place.Ever feel like your favorite podcast host is actually your best friend? In this episode, hosts Jessica Stoya and Pam Shaffer discuss the concept of parasociality, defined as one-way relationships formed through media where people feel connected to someone they either don’t actually know or only know tangentially outside of the media they create. They both explore how parasocial relationships can manifest in various contexts, incl...
2025-06-1257 min
NeuroprovocateursDid I do gender correctly?Welcome to Neuroprovocateurs, the podcast all about neurodiversity and self acceptance. Want to hear all about how neurodiversity affects culture, relationships, sexuality and identity? You’ve come to the right place.In this episode, we delve into the complexities of perception, femininity, and personal identity. Laurie Penny and Pam Shaffer discuss their experiences with body image, eating disorders, and the pressure to conform to societal norms. Jessica Stoya shares her journey in the porn industry, emphasizing the liberating feelings that came from having control over her image and the challenges of being perceived. They all explore the co...
2025-05-2959 min
NeuroprovocateursBeing PerceivedWelcome to Neuroprovocateurs, the podcast all about neurodiversity and self acceptance. Want to hear all about how neurodiversity affects culture, relationships, sexuality and identity? You’ve come to the right place. On our third episode, Pam Shaffer and Jessica Stoya discuss the complexities of perception, both in personal and professional contexts. Jessica shares the unique challenges that come with being a publicly perceived person across multiple cultures with stories ranging from the deeply personal to the utterly absurd such as the need to constantly change outfits in photos to appease the algorithms. They explore the impact of pu...
2025-05-1459 min
NeuroprovocateursWhat's a Vibe?Welcome to Neuroprovocateurs, the podcast all about neurodiversity and self acceptance. Want to hear all about how neurodiversity affects culture, relationships, sexuality and identity? You’ve come to the right place.Our second episode explores the complexities of neurodivergence and social interactions. Laurie Penny discusses the challenges of being neurodivergent in a neurotypical world, highlighting the difficulty in understanding and communicating emotions while Jessica Stoya shares her experience of moving to Serbia, where ADHD behaviors are more accepted. Pam Shaffer talks about the intersection of gender and neurodivergence, noting how her ADHD traits are perceived differently due to...
2025-05-0147 min
NeuroprovocateursUnboxing The Manic Pixie Dream GirlWelcome to Neuroprovocateurs, the podcast all about neurodiversity and self acceptance. Want to hear all about how neurodiversity affects culture, relationships, sexuality and identity? You’ve come to the right place.In our first episode, hosts Pam Shaffer, Jessica Stoya, and Laurie Penny discuss their experiences with neurodivergence, creativity, and cultural expectations. We explore the concept of the "Manic Pixie Dream Girl" trope and its impact on our lives, and (spoiler alert) noting how societal perceptions often limit our authenticity and sense of self (sound familiar to you?) We also delve into the challenges of transitioning beyond ti...
2025-04-1743 min
Sluts and Scholars250 NeuroProvocateurs with Pam Shaffer This episode features Pam Shaffer. Pam is a Licensed Marriage and Family psychotherapist and the founder of Best Self Psych. She also hosts the Why Not Both Podcast and the newly launched NeuroProvocateurs podcast. We talk about how ADHD and neurodiversity can show up in sex and relationships as well as offer tools, tips, and education on things like Dopamine’s role in the body, sensory differences, what actually is neurotypical? Is anyone actually neurotypical? This is a super honest conversation from two sex therapists who have ADHD. FREE EVENT: Join me at Thriving in Purpose...
2023-06-011h 04