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Quit Porn | Restoration Soul CareTake Your Brain Back from Porn Addiction: How to Rewire It NOWSend a textContinually going to pornography makes you less human. Your brain has been hijacked by porn. But neuroscience proves you can take it back.In this episode, Nick and I break down the brain science behind porn addiction—and how to reverse it. Real, actionable steps you can start TODAY to rewire your neural pathways toward genuine freedom.What you'll discover:🧠 Why porn addiction is an intimacy disorder (and how your brain's attachment system keeps you stuck)🔄 The replacement principle: Getting healthy dopamine without porn👥 B...
2026-02-1942 min
Quit Porn | Restoration Soul CareWhy Olympic Glory Couldn't Silence His Guilt (And What Christian Men Can Learn)Send a textA Norwegian Olympic athlete shocked the world by confessing an affair on live TV—right after winning bronze. Why? The guilt was heavier than the medal.If you're a Christian man wrestling with pornography, sexual sin, or patterns you can't seem to break, this episode is for you. We unpack the difference between guilt and shame, why confession alone doesn't always bring freedom, and the biblical path to actually putting down your burden.In this episode:The Norwegian biathlete's viral confession and what it reveals about male gu...
2026-02-1623 min
Restoration Soul Care: Quit Porn PodcastWhy Christian Men Can't Quit P0rn - It's Not What Your Church Told YouMost men don't wake up wanting to destroy their integrity. They wake up tired, lonely, and overwhelmed—carrying more than they know how to hold. Pornography doesn't start as rebellion. It starts as relief.In this episode, Michael is pulling back the curtain on why porn feels so powerful, how it hijacks your brain's bonding systems, and why shame keeps you stuck. This isn't another guilt-driven sermon. This is neuroscience + gospel—clear, grounded, and hope-forward.You'll learn:• Why loneliness activates the same survival circuits as hunger and thirst• How pornography disciples your desires without you realizin...
2026-02-1020 min
Quit Porn | Restoration Soul CareWhy Christian Men Can't Quit P0rn - It's Not What Your Church Told YouSend a textMost men don't wake up wanting to destroy their integrity. They wake up tired, lonely, and overwhelmed—carrying more than they know how to hold. Pornography doesn't start as rebellion. It starts as relief.In this episode, Michael is pulling back the curtain on why porn feels so powerful, how it hijacks your brain's bonding systems, and why shame keeps you stuck. This isn't another guilt-driven sermon. This is neuroscience + gospel—clear, grounded, and hope-forward.You'll learn:• Why loneliness activates the same survival circuits as hunger and thirst• How pornography disciple...
2026-02-1020 min
Restoration Soul Care: Quit Porn PodcastQuit Porn with These 5 Micro Habits: The SEEDS FrameworkBreaking free from pornography doesn't require willpower—it requires a system. In this episode, I break down the SEEDS Framework: 5 small, daily habits that rewire your brain off high dopamine dependence and toward lasting freedom.In this episode, you'll learn:The 5 elements of the SEEDS Method (Spiritual/Social Connection, Education, Exercise, Diet, Sleep)Why "complexity is the enemy of execution"How to start so small you can't failThe neuroscience behind dopamine resetPractical action steps for each habitThis isn't a quick fix, but if you commit to these micro-habits consistently, you WILL make real progress....
2026-02-0516 min
Quit Porn | Restoration Soul CareQuit Porn with These 5 Micro Habits: The SEEDS FrameworkSend a textBreaking free from pornography doesn't require willpower—it requires a system. In this episode, I break down the SEEDS Framework: 5 small, daily habits that rewire your brain off high dopamine dependence and toward lasting freedom.In this episode, you'll learn:The 5 elements of the SEEDS Method (Spiritual/Social Connection, Education, Exercise, Diet, Sleep)Why "complexity is the enemy of execution"How to start so small you can't failThe neuroscience behind dopamine resetPractical action steps for each habitThis isn't a quick fix, but if you commit to these micro-habits consistently, yo...
2026-02-0516 min
Restoration Soul Care: Quit Porn PodcastThe Hidden Brain Damage of Porn: What 10 Years of Use Does to Your DopamineEver wonder why quitting porn feels impossible? In this episode, Michael and Nick break down the actual brain science behind porn addiction—from dopamine crashes to why normal life starts feeling boring.You'll discover:The 4-stage addiction cycle keeping you trappedHow porn literally changes your brain structure (visible on scans!)Why you need more extreme content over timeThe shocking connection between porn use and narcissismWhy boredom feels unbearable after prolonged useThis isn't just theory—it's the neuroscience that informs their proven recovery coaching model. Whether you're struggling yourself or trying to understand someone who is...
2026-02-0331 min
Quit Porn | Restoration Soul CareThe Hidden Brain Damage of Porn: What 10 Years of Use Does to Your DopamineSend a textEver wonder why quitting porn feels impossible? In this episode, Michael and Nick break down the actual brain science behind porn addiction—from dopamine crashes to why normal life starts feeling boring.You'll discover:The 4-stage addiction cycle keeping you trappedHow porn literally changes your brain structure (visible on scans!)Why you need more extreme content over timeThe shocking connection between porn use and narcissismWhy boredom feels unbearable after prolonged useThis isn't just theory—it's the neuroscience that informs their proven recovery coaching model. Whether you're struggling yourself or tryi...
2026-02-0331 min
Restoration Soul Care: Quit Porn PodcastCan AI Replace Your Therapist? Why ChatGPT Can't Heal Porn AddictionUsing AI like ChatGPT for porn addiction recovery? You might be stuck in the illusion of progress—getting smarter about your struggles without actually changing. This episode reveals why AI can't replace real accountability and what actually leads to lasting transformation in recovery.If you're using AI as your therapist, coach, or accountability partner, you need to hear this. Michael Kamber breaks down the critical difference between information and transformation, explaining why recovery requires more than just understanding your patterns—it demands real human connection, embodied presence, and relational accountability that AI simply cannot provide.This...
2026-01-2716 min
Quit Porn | Restoration Soul CareCan AI Replace Your Therapist? Why ChatGPT Can't Heal Porn AddictionSend a textUsing AI like ChatGPT for porn addiction recovery? You might be stuck in the illusion of progress—getting smarter about your struggles without actually changing. This episode reveals why AI can't replace real accountability and what actually leads to lasting transformation in recovery.If you're using AI as your therapist, coach, or accountability partner, you need to hear this. Michael Kamber breaks down the critical difference between information and transformation, explaining why recovery requires more than just understanding your patterns—it demands real human connection, embodied presence, and relational accountability that AI simp...
2026-01-2716 min
Quit Porn | Restoration Soul CareWelcome to the Restoration Soul Care PodcastSend a textRestoration Soul Care is a podcast for Christian men, women, and leaders who want to quit pornography—and want to understand why they’re stuck, not just how to stop.Porn isn’t a willpower issue.And freedom isn’t found through shame, silence, or trying harder.Each episode explores what’s really happening beneath the behavior: the brain, the nervous system, attachment, loneliness, desire, and the spiritual longings porn tries to meet. We bring together neuroscience, psychology, and Scripture to talk honestly a...
2026-01-2101 minRestoration Soul Care: Quit Porn PodcastWelcome to the Restoration Soul Care PodcastRestoration Soul Care is a podcast for Christian men, women, and leaders who want to quit pornography—and want to understand why they’re stuck, not just how to stop.Porn isn’t a willpower issue.And freedom isn’t found through shame, silence, or trying harder.Each episode explores what’s really happening beneath the behavior: the brain, the nervous system, attachment, loneliness, desire, and the spiritual longings porn tries to meet. We bring together neuroscience, psychology, and Scripture to talk honestly about sexual brokenness—and the restorin...
2026-01-2101 min
Quit Porn | Restoration Soul CareWhy Is Quitting Porn So Hard? Brain Chemistry Explained SimplySend a textWhy can't you quit porn, no matter how hard you try? If you've been stuck in the cycle of pornography addiction and feel like something's wrong with you, this episode explains what's really happening in your brain. Discover the brain science behind porn addiction and learn why willpower alone isn't enough to break free.This episode is for men struggling with pornography who want to understand why quitting feels impossible and what actually works for lasting recovery. Coaches Michael Kamber and Nick Buddha break down the neuroscience of porn addiction in simple...
2026-01-2036 minRestoration Soul Care: Quit Porn PodcastWhy Is Quitting Porn So Hard? Brain Chemistry Explained SimplyWhy can't you quit porn, no matter how hard you try? If you've been stuck in the cycle of pornography addiction and feel like something's wrong with you, this episode explains what's really happening in your brain. Discover the brain science behind porn addiction and learn why willpower alone isn't enough to break free.This episode is for men struggling with pornography who want to understand why quitting feels impossible and what actually works for lasting recovery. Coaches Michael Kamber and Nick Buddha break down the neuroscience of porn addiction in simple terms, explaining how dopamine, serotonin...
2026-01-2036 min
Quit Porn | Restoration Soul CareThe Year of Grace: Real Recovery From Porn Starts With IdentitySend a textNew year, same struggle? You’re not alone—and you’re not hopeless.In this episode, Michael Kamber and Nick Buda talk to the guy who’s exhausted from repeating the porn cycle and starting over every January. We unpack the real engine behind “try harder” recovery: toxic shame—the voice that doesn’t say you did something bad, but you are bad. And we get practical about what actually breaks its grip: grace, identity, and connection.You’ll learn:The difference between healthy sh...
2026-01-1347 minRestoration Soul Care: Quit Porn PodcastThe Year of Grace: Real Recovery From Porn Starts With IdentityNew year, same struggle? You’re not alone—and you’re not hopeless.In this episode, Michael Kamber and Nick Buda talk to the guy who’s exhausted from repeating the porn cycle and starting over every January. We unpack the real engine behind “try harder” recovery: toxic shame—the voice that doesn’t say you did something bad, but you are bad. And we get practical about what actually breaks its grip: grace, identity, and connection.You’ll learn:The difference between healthy shame and toxic shame (and how to...
2026-01-1347 min
Quit Porn | Restoration Soul CareTHIS Is How You Quit Porn in 2026Send a text👉 Ready to get started? Book a Discovery Call Now.If trying harder actually worked, you wouldn’t still be stuck.In this episode, we break the lie that porn use is random or just a willpower problem. It’s not. It’s a pattern—and patterns can be learned, interrupted, and changed.This isn’t about more rules, more shame, or white-knuckling another January. It’s about understanding what’s actually driving your behavior so real recovery can happen.👉 Ready to get s...
2026-01-0627 minRestoration Soul Care: Quit Porn PodcastTHIS Is How You Quit Porn in 2026👉 Ready to get started? Book a Discovery Call Now.If trying harder actually worked, you wouldn’t still be stuck.In this episode, we break the lie that porn use is random or just a willpower problem. It’s not. It’s a pattern—and patterns can be learned, interrupted, and changed.This isn’t about more rules, more shame, or white-knuckling another January. It’s about understanding what’s actually driving your behavior so real recovery can happen.👉 Ready to get started? Book a Discover
2026-01-0627 minRestoration Soul Care: Quit Porn PodcastWhy Relapse Keeps Happening (And How to Actually Learn From It)Don't waste your relapse...what can you learn from it? In this episode of the Restoration Soul Care Podcast, Michael Kamber and Nick Buda break down why porn use, relapse, and compulsive behaviors keep repeating—and why trying harder rarely works. If you’re stuck in shame, white-knuckling sobriety, or wondering why you keep going back despite your best intentions, this conversation reframes the entire recovery process.Free Resources• Quit Porn Quick Start Guide👉 https://rscky.com/quickstart• Join the free RSC Skool Community👉 https...
2025-12-2345 min
Quit Porn | Restoration Soul CareWhy Relapse Keeps Happening (And How to Actually Learn From It)Send a textDon't waste your relapse...what can you learn from it? In this episode of the Restoration Soul Care Podcast, Michael Kamber and Nick Buda break down why porn use, relapse, and compulsive behaviors keep repeating—and why trying harder rarely works. If you’re stuck in shame, white-knuckling sobriety, or wondering why you keep going back despite your best intentions, this conversation reframes the entire recovery process.Free Resources• Quit Porn Quick Start Guide👉 https://rscky.com/quickstart• Join the free RSC Sk...
2025-12-2345 min
Quit Porn | Restoration Soul CareLove Addiction vs Porn Addiction (And Why “Sex Addict” Might Be the Wrong Label) | w/ Rodney VaughnSend a textIn this episode of the Restoration Soul Care Podcast, Michael Kamber sits down with fellow recovery coach Rodney Vaughn to talk about a category most people miss: love addiction—and why a lot of men get slapped with the label “sex addict” when the real issue is an intimacy disorder and a deep hunger for validation.If you’ve ever said “I’m a porn addict” but your story is more about chasing attention, flirting, emotional dependence, or bouncing from relationship to relationship, this one will land.
2025-12-1834 min
Restoration Soul Care: Quit Porn PodcastLove Addiction vs Porn Addiction (And Why “Sex Addict” Might Be the Wrong Label) | w/ Rodney VaughnIn this episode of the Restoration Soul Care Podcast, Michael Kamber sits down with fellow recovery coach Rodney Vaughn to talk about a category most people miss: love addiction—and why a lot of men get slapped with the label “sex addict” when the real issue is an intimacy disorder and a deep hunger for validation.If you’ve ever said “I’m a porn addict” but your story is more about chasing attention, flirting, emotional dependence, or bouncing from relationship to relationship, this one will land.
2025-12-1834 min
Quit Porn | Restoration Soul CareQuit Porn for Good: Why Celebration Matters More Than Willpower (Part 4)Send a textIn recovery, you don’t just need a plan. You need fuel.A lot of guys try to quit porn by grinding harder, white-knuckling longer, and only talking about relapse, failure, and “how bad it’s gotten.” And honestly? That works for about five minutes—until you’re exhausted, discouraged, and back in the shame cycle.In Part 4 of our Community Series, Michael and Nick talk about the most overlooked ingredient in porn recovery: celebration.Because if your recovery journey has...
2025-12-0934 min
Restoration Soul Care: Quit Porn PodcastQuit Porn for Good: Why Celebration Matters More Than Willpower (Part 4)In recovery, you don’t just need a plan. You need fuel.A lot of guys try to quit porn by grinding harder, white-knuckling longer, and only talking about relapse, failure, and “how bad it’s gotten.” And honestly? That works for about five minutes—until you’re exhausted, discouraged, and back in the shame cycle.In Part 4 of our Community Series, Michael and Nick talk about the most overlooked ingredient in porn recovery: celebration.Because if your recovery journey has no joy, no wins, no gra...
2025-12-0934 min
Quit Porn | Restoration Soul CareBetrayal Trauma After Porn: What Wives Go Through (and What Husbands Must Do Next) | Lindsay BlairSend a textIn this episode, Michael sits down with Lindsay Blair, a Christian counselor and coach in the Cross Point Soul Care Network, to talk about betrayal trauma—what it is, why it hits so hard, and what real healing actually looks like after porn use, sexual acting out, or an affair.This is the conversation most couples need but rarely get: what a wife experiences in the aftermath, why she can feel “crazy” (and isn’t), and what husbands need to understand if they want to rebuild safety and trust instead...
2025-12-0239 min
Restoration Soul Care: Quit Porn PodcastBetrayal Trauma After Porn: What Wives Go Through (and What Husbands Must Do Next) | Lindsay BlairIn this episode, Michael sits down with Lindsay Blair, a Christian counselor and coach in the Cross Point Soul Care Network, to talk about betrayal trauma—what it is, why it hits so hard, and what real healing actually looks like after porn use, sexual acting out, or an affair.This is the conversation most couples need but rarely get: what a wife experiences in the aftermath, why she can feel “crazy” (and isn’t), and what husbands need to understand if they want to rebuild safety and trust instead of making things worse.
2025-12-0239 min
Quit Porn | Restoration Soul CareHow to Build a Support System to Quit Porn: Care, Compassion, and Connection (Part 3)Send a textMost people assume the opposite of pornography is discipline, accountability, or willpower.But isolation isn’t broken by pressure — it’s healed by care.In Part 3 of our community series, we talk about the missing ingredient in most porn recovery plans: genuine, sacrificial care inside real Christian community. Not surface-level friendship. Not “checking the box” accountability. But the kind of love that shows up, stays present, and helps carry the weight when life collapses.We unpack why recovery fails when community is functional...
2025-11-1838 min
Restoration Soul Care: Quit Porn PodcastHow to Build a Support System to Quit Porn: Care, Compassion, and Connection (Part 3)Most people assume the opposite of pornography is discipline, accountability, or willpower.But isolation isn’t broken by pressure — it’s healed by care.In Part 3 of our community series, we talk about the missing ingredient in most porn recovery plans: genuine, sacrificial care inside real Christian community. Not surface-level friendship. Not “checking the box” accountability. But the kind of love that shows up, stays present, and helps carry the weight when life collapses.We unpack why recovery fails when community is functional but not relational, and why shame...
2025-11-1838 min
Quit Porn | Restoration Soul CareA Pastor's Perspective on Pornography with Kyle IdlemanSend a textHow to break free from pornography and sexual brokenness through the renewal of the mind.In this episode of the Restoration Soul Care Podcast, Michael Kamber and Nick Buda sit down with Kyle Idleman, teaching pastor at Southeast Christian Church and author of Every Thought Captive and Not a Fan.Together they dig into one of the most critical topics facing the Church today: how to break free from pornography and sexual brokenness through the renewal of the mind. Kyle brings decades of pastoral experience and...
2025-11-1130 min
Restoration Soul Care: Quit Porn PodcastA Pastor's Perspective on Pornography with Kyle IdlemanHow to break free from pornography and sexual brokenness through the renewal of the mind.In this episode of the Restoration Soul Care Podcast, Michael Kamber and Nick Buda sit down with Kyle Idleman, teaching pastor at Southeast Christian Church and author of Every Thought Captive and Not a Fan.Together they dig into one of the most critical topics facing the Church today: how to break free from pornography and sexual brokenness through the renewal of the mind. Kyle brings decades of pastoral experience and deep biblical insight to a...
2025-11-1130 min
Restoration Soul Care: Quit Porn PodcastRejection vs Regret; One WILL Keep You Stuck in PornRejection stings for a day. Regret owns you for years.If you’re tired of hiding, this episode hands you the lens—and the guts—to choose freedom.Episode SummaryShort, punchy solo from Michael on the trade-off we all face: the short-term pain of rejection vs. the long-term weight of regret—especially in porn recovery and relational healing. We hit shame (healthy vs. toxic), integrity vs. approval, and why connection—not white-knuckling—is the exit ramp.What You’ll LearnHow fear of exposure (toxi...
2025-11-0412 min
Quit Porn | Restoration Soul CareRejection vs Regret; One WILL Keep You Stuck in PornSend a textRejection stings for a day. Regret owns you for years.If you’re tired of hiding, this episode hands you the lens—and the guts—to choose freedom.Episode SummaryShort, punchy solo from Michael on the trade-off we all face: the short-term pain of rejection vs. the long-term weight of regret—especially in porn recovery and relational healing. We hit shame (healthy vs. toxic), integrity vs. approval, and why connection—not white-knuckling—is the exit ramp.What You’ll LearnHow fear...
2025-11-0412 min
Quit Porn | Restoration Soul CareAnnouncement and Update 10/7/2025Send a textA quick update from Michael about what's coming up!
2025-10-0706 min
Restoration Soul Care: Quit Porn PodcastAnnouncement and Update 10/7/2025A quick update from Michael about what's coming up!
2025-10-0706 min
Restoration Soul Care: Quit Porn PodcastThe Accountability Trap (Part 2): When “Getting Caught” Becomes the PlanMost guys think “accountability” means one question: “Did you look at porn this week?”And if they’re honest, it usually turns into one of two dead ends:Shame-fueled accountability — you’re scared to report a relapse, so you behave… for a while.The “getting caught” cycle — eventually the embarrassment wears off, relapse becomes expected, and your whole system collapses.In Part 2 of our community series, we expose the accountability trap: when your recovery plan quietly becomes avoiding consequences instead of building real transformation.
2025-09-2438 min
Quit Porn | Restoration Soul CareThe Accountability Trap (Part 2): When “Getting Caught” Becomes the PlanSend a textMost guys think “accountability” means one question: “Did you look at porn this week?”And if they’re honest, it usually turns into one of two dead ends:Shame-fueled accountability — you’re scared to report a relapse, so you behave… for a while.The “getting caught” cycle — eventually the embarrassment wears off, relapse becomes expected, and your whole system collapses.In Part 2 of our community series, we expose the accountability trap: when your recovery plan quietly becomes avoiding consequences...
2025-09-2438 min
Restoration Soul Care: Quit Porn Podcast5 Emotions Keeping You Stuck in Porn - LonelyLoneliness isn’t weakness—it’s a signal that you were made for connection. It shows up as heaviness in the body, withdrawal in the mind, and the ache of not being known. Scripture makes it clear: loneliness isn’t sin; it was present even in Eden before the fall. The danger is when we ignore it—turning to isolation, porn, or surface-level distractions that only deepen the ache. But when we name it, loneliness can lead us toward intimacy with God and others. The invitation is simple: reach out, be honest, and remember—you don’t have to do this alone...
2025-09-1623 min
Quit Porn | Restoration Soul Care5 Emotions Keeping You Stuck in Porn - LonelySend a textLoneliness isn’t weakness—it’s a signal that you were made for connection. It shows up as heaviness in the body, withdrawal in the mind, and the ache of not being known. Scripture makes it clear: loneliness isn’t sin; it was present even in Eden before the fall. The danger is when we ignore it—turning to isolation, porn, or surface-level distractions that only deepen the ache. But when we name it, loneliness can lead us toward intimacy with God and others. The invitation is simple: reach out, be honest, and remember—you don’t ha...
2025-09-1623 min
Restoration Soul Care: Quit Porn PodcastLoneliness Is Fueling Your Porn Cycle—Here’s the Fix (Part 1)Most people try to quit porn by “trying harder.” More willpower. More rules. More isolation. And it keeps failing for the same reason: porn thrives in loneliness.In this first episode of our 4-part series on building community, we get practical about the real fix: relational support that actually holds weight in your life—not a random check-in group you keep at arm’s length, but a community you’re integrated into.We break down the foundation of that kind of community: trust—and the three ingredients that build it:
2025-09-1041 min
Quit Porn | Restoration Soul CareLoneliness Is Fueling Your Porn Cycle—Here’s the Fix (Part 1)Send a textMost people try to quit porn by “trying harder.” More willpower. More rules. More isolation. And it keeps failing for the same reason: porn thrives in loneliness.In this first episode of our 4-part series on building community, we get practical about the real fix: relational support that actually holds weight in your life—not a random check-in group you keep at arm’s length, but a community you’re integrated into.We break down the foundation of that kind of community: trust—and the three in...
2025-09-1041 min
Restoration Soul Care: Quit Porn Podcast5 Emotions Keeping You Stuck in Porn - Shame👉 Download the free 5 Triggers Guide hereShame doesn’t just say you messed up—it says you are the mess. It fuels secrecy, isolation, and addiction. But it’s not the voice of God.In This EpisodeThe difference between guilt and shame.How shame shows up in your body and relationships.The core need underneath shame: belonging.What Scripture shows us about God’s response to shame.Why shame never leads to transformation.👉 Download the free 5 Triggers Guide here
2025-09-0317 min
Quit Porn | Restoration Soul Care5 Emotions Keeping You Stuck in Porn - ShameSend a text👉 Download the free 5 Triggers Guide hereShame doesn’t just say you messed up—it says you are the mess. It fuels secrecy, isolation, and addiction. But it’s not the voice of God.In This EpisodeThe difference between guilt and shame.How shame shows up in your body and relationships.The core need underneath shame: belonging.What Scripture shows us about God’s response to shame.Why shame never leads to transformation.👉 Download the free 5 Triggers Guide here
2025-09-0317 min
Restoration Soul Care: Quit Porn Podcast5 Emotions Keeping You Stuck in Porn - FearReady for the Triggers Guide? Download it at rscky.com.Fear isn’t weakness. It’s not the enemy. It’s a signal—and most of the time, it’s pointing to what you care most about. But if you don’t face it, it will run your life in the background, driving you right back to porn. In this episode, we expose the real fear beneath the urge and give you a better way to respond.🔥 What You’ll Hear:Why fear is actually trying to protect you—not paralyze...
2025-08-2822 min
Quit Porn | Restoration Soul Care5 Emotions Keeping You Stuck in Porn - FearSend a textReady for the Triggers Guide? Download it at rscky.com.Fear isn’t weakness. It’s not the enemy. It’s a signal—and most of the time, it’s pointing to what you care most about. But if you don’t face it, it will run your life in the background, driving you right back to porn. In this episode, we expose the real fear beneath the urge and give you a better way to respond.🔥 What You’ll Hear:Why fear is actually tryin...
2025-08-2822 min
Restoration Soul Care: Quit Porn Podcast3 Mistakes Christians Make When Trying to Quit Porn (And What Actually Works)Most people don’t stay stuck in pornography because they don’t want freedom. They stay stuck because they keep using strategies that feel responsible… but don’t actually heal anything.In this episode of the Restoration Soul Care Podcast, Michael and Nick break down three things we did terribly wrong at the beginning of our recovery—and why those approaches keep Christian men and women trapped in the porn cycle. We’re not sharing this to shame you. We’re sharing it because once you can name what doesn’t work, you can finally start do...
2025-08-2642 min
Quit Porn | Restoration Soul Care3 Mistakes Christians Make When Trying to Quit Porn (And What Actually Works)Send a textMost people don’t stay stuck in pornography because they don’t want freedom. They stay stuck because they keep using strategies that feel responsible… but don’t actually heal anything.In this episode of the Restoration Soul Care Podcast, Michael and Nick break down three things we did terribly wrong at the beginning of our recovery—and why those approaches keep Christian men and women trapped in the porn cycle. We’re not sharing this to shame you. We’re sharing it because once you can name what doesn’t work...
2025-08-2642 min
Restoration Soul Care: Quit Porn Podcast5 Emotions Keeping You Stuck in Porn - AngerDownload the Free Guide HereAnger isn’t the enemy—it’s a messenger. In this episode, we unpack the truth about anger: where it comes from, what it’s trying to protect, and how most men either explode, implode, or numb it out. You’ll learn why anger is actually a signal that something important is being threatened—and how to respond with power instead of destruction. We look at how Jesus expressed righteous anger and why yours doesn’t have to be sinful either. If you’ve ever been told to just “calm down” or “be nice...
2025-08-2118 min
Quit Porn | Restoration Soul Care5 Emotions Keeping You Stuck in Porn - AngerSend a textDownload the Free Guide HereAnger isn’t the enemy—it’s a messenger. In this episode, we unpack the truth about anger: where it comes from, what it’s trying to protect, and how most men either explode, implode, or numb it out. You’ll learn why anger is actually a signal that something important is being threatened—and how to respond with power instead of destruction. We look at how Jesus expressed righteous anger and why yours doesn’t have to be sinful either. If you’ve ever been told to jus...
2025-08-2118 min
Restoration Soul Care: Quit Porn Podcast“I Deserve Punishment”: The Hidden Self-Contempt Behind Porn AddictionIf you’re a Christian and you keep going back to pornography, there’s a good chance the real engine underneath the cycle isn’t lust—it’s toxic shame.In this episode of the Restoration Soul Care Podcast, Michael and Nick talk about the heavy but crucial topic of self-hatred / self-contempt and how it quietly fuels porn addiction, relapse, isolation, and the inability to receive love. We break down the difference between guilt vs. shame, explain why shame can be a neutral signal but toxic shame becomes destructive, and show how this “I am bad” iden...
2025-08-1947 min
Quit Porn | Restoration Soul Care“I Deserve Punishment”: The Hidden Self-Contempt Behind Porn AddictionSend a textIf you’re a Christian and you keep going back to pornography, there’s a good chance the real engine underneath the cycle isn’t lust—it’s toxic shame.In this episode of the Restoration Soul Care Podcast, Michael and Nick talk about the heavy but crucial topic of self-hatred / self-contempt and how it quietly fuels porn addiction, relapse, isolation, and the inability to receive love. We break down the difference between guilt vs. shame, explain why shame can be a neutral signal but toxic shame becomes destructive, and show h...
2025-08-1947 min
Restoration Soul Care: Quit Porn Podcast5 Emotions Keeping You Stuck in Porn - SadnessDownload the Guide HereMost of us avoid sadness like the plague. We numb it, bury it, or try to outrun it — and in the process, we cut ourselves off from what it’s trying to tell us. In this first episode of our Triggers Guide series, Michael and Nick unpack why sadness isn’t a weakness to “get over” but a vital signal pointing to loss, love, and connection.You’ll hear how avoiding sadness fuels addictive cycles, why Jesus’ invitation to “mourn with those who mourn” is a path to healing, and pr...
2025-08-1226 min
Quit Porn | Restoration Soul Care5 Emotions Keeping You Stuck in Porn - SadnessSend a textDownload the Guide HereMost of us avoid sadness like the plague. We numb it, bury it, or try to outrun it — and in the process, we cut ourselves off from what it’s trying to tell us. In this first episode of our Triggers Guide series, Michael and Nick unpack why sadness isn’t a weakness to “get over” but a vital signal pointing to loss, love, and connection.You’ll hear how avoiding sadness fuels addictive cycles, why Jesus’ invitation to “mourn with those who mourn” is a...
2025-08-1226 min
Quit Porn | Restoration Soul Care4 Biblical Principles to Break Free from Porn AddictionSend a textFour biblical principles from Ephesians that create lasting porn addiction recovery: Redeemed, Replacement, Resolute, Reliant. More than behavior management—true transformation through Christ.Struggling with porn addiction? Discover four biblical principles from Ephesians that create lasting transformation beyond behavior management. Michael and Nick (recording on the porch!) break down the 4 R's: Redeemed (new identity in Christ), Replacement (put off porn, put on real intimacy), Resolute (not even a hint of sexual immorality), and Reliant (daily dependence on God and community). Learn why perfection isn't the goal—participation is. Plus: why two weeks of s...
2025-08-0530 min
Restoration Soul Care: Quit Porn Podcast4 Biblical Principles to Break Free from Porn AddictionFour biblical principles from Ephesians that create lasting porn addiction recovery: Redeemed, Replacement, Resolute, Reliant. More than behavior management—true transformation through Christ.Struggling with porn addiction? Discover four biblical principles from Ephesians that create lasting transformation beyond behavior management. Michael and Nick (recording on the porch!) break down the 4 R's: Redeemed (new identity in Christ), Replacement (put off porn, put on real intimacy), Resolute (not even a hint of sexual immorality), and Reliant (daily dependence on God and community). Learn why perfection isn't the goal—participation is. Plus: why two weeks of sobriety isn't healing, the dama...
2025-08-0530 min
Restoration Soul Care: Quit Porn PodcastWhy Guys Don't Quit Porn: Bargaining, Self-Deception & Recovery Q&AWhy do guys say they want to quit porn but never do the work? Michael and Nick answer recovery questions about self-deception, bargaining, and surrender. Why do most guys say they want to quit porn but never do the work? Michael and Nick reunite to tackle listener questions about pornography recovery, exploring the gap between saying you want to quit and actually surrendering. Discover the hidden relational benefits porn provides (safety, significance, affirmation), how bargaining keeps you stuck, signs of self-deception, and why confession dumps on spouses cause more harm. Plus: betrayed spouse perspective...
2025-07-2957 min
Quit Porn | Restoration Soul CareWhy Guys Don't Quit Porn: Bargaining, Self-Deception & Recovery Q&ASend a textWhy do guys say they want to quit porn but never do the work? Michael and Nick answer recovery questions about self-deception, bargaining, and surrender. Why do most guys say they want to quit porn but never do the work? Michael and Nick reunite to tackle listener questions about pornography recovery, exploring the gap between saying you want to quit and actually surrendering. Discover the hidden relational benefits porn provides (safety, significance, affirmation), how bargaining keeps you stuck, signs of self-deception, and why confession dumps on spouses cause more...
2025-07-2957 min
Restoration Soul Care: Quit Porn PodcastPrayer Not Working for Porn Addiction? Stop Spiritual BypassingYou've prayed for God to fix your porn problem but you're still stuck. Learn why prayer alone isn't working and what spiritual bypassing really means. You've prayed, begged, and bargained with God to take away your porn problem—but you're still stuck. This episode unpacks why prayer alone isn't working and introduces the concept of spiritual bypassing: using Christian language and practices to avoid pain instead of healing through it. Discover why polished, emotionally-disconnected prayer keeps you trapped in shame, and learn what raw, honest prayer actually sounds like. Plus, understand why healing requires community—God doesn't bypa...
2025-07-2522 min
Quit Porn | Restoration Soul CarePrayer Not Working for Porn Addiction? Stop Spiritual BypassingSend a textYou've prayed for God to fix your porn problem but you're still stuck. Learn why prayer alone isn't working and what spiritual bypassing really means. You've prayed, begged, and bargained with God to take away your porn problem—but you're still stuck. This episode unpacks why prayer alone isn't working and introduces the concept of spiritual bypassing: using Christian language and practices to avoid pain instead of healing through it. Discover why polished, emotionally-disconnected prayer keeps you trapped in shame, and learn what raw, honest prayer actually sounds like. Plus, understand why he...
2025-07-2522 min
Restoration Soul Care: Quit Porn PodcastThe Dark History of Pornography: How We Got Here as a CultureHow did we become a porn culture? This episode explores the historical timeline and influential voices that created the sexual mold pressing in on us today from history. From pre-Industrial Revolution family values to today's pocket pornography, understand the deliberate forces that dismantled God's design for sexuality.What You'll Learn:God's Original Design: The biblical progression of sexuality—God → gender → relationship → marriage/family → sexual intercourse (Genesis 1-2)Historical Timeline: How the Industrial Revolution, modernism, obscenity law battles, and digital technology progressively sexualized American cultureKey Influencers: The impact of Freud, Darwin, Marx, Alfred Kinsey, Hugh Hefner, and court case...
2025-07-1843 min
Quit Porn | Restoration Soul CareThe Dark History of Pornography: How We Got Here as a CultureSend a textHow did we become a porn culture? This episode explores the historical timeline and influential voices that created the sexual mold pressing in on us today from history. From pre-Industrial Revolution family values to today's pocket pornography, understand the deliberate forces that dismantled God's design for sexuality.What You'll Learn:God's Original Design: The biblical progression of sexuality—God → gender → relationship → marriage/family → sexual intercourse (Genesis 1-2)Historical Timeline: How the Industrial Revolution, modernism, obscenity law battles, and digital technology progressively sexualized American cultureKey Influencers: The impact of Freud, Darwin, Marx, Alfred Kin...
2025-07-1843 min
Restoration Soul Care: Quit Porn PodcastSobriety Isn't Healing: Why 90 Days Clean Doesn't Mean You're FreeThe most dangerous lie in porn recovery: 'Just one more clean week and I'll be free.'You hit 90 days sober. Your wife thinks you're fixed. You're terrified you're one bad day away from relapsing.Here's the truth: Sobriety without transformation is just delayed relapse. You can white-knuckle your way through 90 days and still be the same broken man who started—just more exhausted and afraid.In this episode, Michael dismantles the sobriety myth and reveals what actually creates lasting freedom from pornography. It's not about racking up clean days. It's about becoming a...
2025-07-1136 min
Quit Porn | Restoration Soul CareSobriety Isn't Healing: Why 90 Days Clean Doesn't Mean You're FreeSend a textThe most dangerous lie in porn recovery: 'Just one more clean week and I'll be free.'You hit 90 days sober. Your wife thinks you're fixed. You're terrified you're one bad day away from relapsing.Here's the truth: Sobriety without transformation is just delayed relapse. You can white-knuckle your way through 90 days and still be the same broken man who started—just more exhausted and afraid.In this episode, Michael dismantles the sobriety myth and reveals what actually creates lasting freedom from pornography. It's not about racking up cl...
2025-07-1136 min
Restoration Soul Care: Quit Porn Podcast10 Brutally Honest Truths About Overcoming Porn AddictionThese 10 truths will either set you free or make you quit this podcast. Either way, you need to hear them.You've tried filters, accountability apps, and sheer willpower. You're still stuck. Here's why—and here's what actually works.In this solo episode, Michael breaks down 10 brutally honest truths you must accept if you're going to make real progress in overcoming porn addiction. No fluff. No quick fixes. Just the hard realities that separate guys who stay stuck from guys who break free.These aren't feel-good platitudes. They're the truths Michael learned through his ow...
2025-07-0430 min
Quit Porn | Restoration Soul Care10 Brutally Honest Truths About Overcoming Porn AddictionSend a textThese 10 truths will either set you free or make you quit this podcast. Either way, you need to hear them.You've tried filters, accountability apps, and sheer willpower. You're still stuck. Here's why—and here's what actually works.In this solo episode, Michael breaks down 10 brutally honest truths you must accept if you're going to make real progress in overcoming porn addiction. No fluff. No quick fixes. Just the hard realities that separate guys who stay stuck from guys who break free.These aren't feel-good platitudes. They're the tr...
2025-07-0430 min
Quit Porn | Restoration Soul CarePorn Isn't Your Problem—It's Your Coping Mechanism: Here's WhySend a textPorn isn't random. It's pointing to something specific in your story.You've tried filters. Accountability partners. Sheer willpower. And you're still stuck.Here's why: You're treating the smoke instead of the fire. Pornography isn't your biggest problem—it's your loudest symptom. It's a coping mechanism for pain you haven't learned to process, needs you don't know how to meet, and wounds you've been avoiding for years.In this episode, we break down why behavior modification always fails and what actually drives unwanted sexual behavior. We explore how your at...
2025-06-2752 min
Restoration Soul Care: Quit Porn PodcastPorn Isn't Your Problem—It's Your Coping Mechanism: Here's WhyPorn isn't random. It's pointing to something specific in your story.You've tried filters. Accountability partners. Sheer willpower. And you're still stuck.Here's why: You're treating the smoke instead of the fire. Pornography isn't your biggest problem—it's your loudest symptom. It's a coping mechanism for pain you haven't learned to process, needs you don't know how to meet, and wounds you've been avoiding for years.In this episode, we break down why behavior modification always fails and what actually drives unwanted sexual behavior. We explore how your attachment style, family patterns, and un...
2025-06-2752 min
Restoration Soul Care: Quit Porn PodcastYou Can't Heal What You Won't Feel: Understanding Emotions in Porn RecoveryYour anger isn't sin. Your loneliness isn't weakness. Your fear isn't failure. They're invitations.Pornography doesn't just numb your pain—it disconnects you from the emotions that could actually lead to healing.In this episode, we break down why emotions aren't problems to manage, but gifts designed to connect you with your deepest relational needs. We explore how anger, fear, loneliness, and even guilt are actually your body's way of telling you what you're longing for—and why ignoring those feelings keeps you stuck in the cycle.What we cover:Why emotions are...
2025-06-2055 min
Quit Porn | Restoration Soul CareYou Can't Heal What You Won't Feel: Understanding Emotions in Porn RecoverySend a textYour anger isn't sin. Your loneliness isn't weakness. Your fear isn't failure. They're invitations.Pornography doesn't just numb your pain—it disconnects you from the emotions that could actually lead to healing.In this episode, we break down why emotions aren't problems to manage, but gifts designed to connect you with your deepest relational needs. We explore how anger, fear, loneliness, and even guilt are actually your body's way of telling you what you're longing for—and why ignoring those feelings keeps you stuck in the cycle.What we c...
2025-06-2055 min
Restoration Soul Care: Quit Porn PodcastPorn Addiction as a Relational Disorder: What Genesis Reveals | Part 2You can't heal in isolation. You were created for connection—but loneliness is now an epidemic.In Part 2 of our series on relational disorders, we tackle the practical question: How do you actually build deep, meaningful relationships when you've been hurt, isolated, or don't know where to start?We explore why over 70% of married men rely solely on their spouse for emotional connection, the neuroscience of loneliness, and whyurfing through social media will never meet your relational needs.What we cover:The loneliness epidemic: Why isolation is literally killing usHow to deepen re...
2025-06-1336 min
Quit Porn | Restoration Soul CarePorn Addiction as a Relational Disorder: What Genesis Reveals | Part 2Send a textYou can't heal in isolation. You were created for connection—but loneliness is now an epidemic.In Part 2 of our series on relational disorders, we tackle the practical question: How do you actually build deep, meaningful relationships when you've been hurt, isolated, or don't know where to start?We explore why over 70% of married men rely solely on their spouse for emotional connection, the neuroscience of loneliness, and whyurfing through social media will never meet your relational needs.What we cover:The loneliness epidemic: Why isolation is li...
2025-06-1336 min
Quit Porn | Restoration Soul CarePorn Addiction as a Relational Disorder: What Genesis Reveals | Part 1Send a textPorn isn't your only problem. Your struggle is rooted in something deeper: relational wounding.In this episode, we unpack why pornography is a relational disorder, not just a moral failure. We explore how disconnection, mistrust, and unmet relational needs drive unwanted sexual behavior—and why behavior modification will never be enough.What we cover:Why we're created by relationship for relationship (Genesis 1-3)How loneliness and relational pain fuel porn useThe difference between "hero" and "martyr" coping strategiesWhy pornography promises relational reward without relational riskYour five core relational needs an...
2025-06-0634 min
Restoration Soul Care: Quit Porn PodcastPorn Addiction as a Relational Disorder: What Genesis Reveals | Part 1Porn isn't your only problem. Your struggle is rooted in something deeper: relational wounding.In this episode, we unpack why pornography is a relational disorder, not just a moral failure. We explore how disconnection, mistrust, and unmet relational needs drive unwanted sexual behavior—and why behavior modification will never be enough.What we cover:Why we're created by relationship for relationship (Genesis 1-3)How loneliness and relational pain fuel porn useThe difference between "hero" and "martyr" coping strategiesWhy pornography promises relational reward without relational riskYour five core relational needs and how they shape your st...
2025-06-0634 min
Quit Porn | Restoration Soul CareWhy Men Stay Trapped in Porn Addiction for Years (And How to Break Free)Send a textWhy do so many men stay trapped in porn and sexual addiction for years—even decades.We’re not talking about willpower or accountability software. We’re talking about the wounds, patterns, and unspoken messages picked up early in life that drive unwanted behavior. You’ll hear us break down one of the key frameworks we use with clients to help them understand the addiction cycle—and why real freedom starts way deeper than behavior management.Whether you’re in recovery, just starting to get honest, or trying to understand how pornogra...
2025-05-3035 min
Restoration Soul Care: Quit Porn PodcastWhy Men Stay Trapped in Porn Addiction for Years (And How to Break Free)Why do so many men stay trapped in porn and sexual addiction for years—even decades.We’re not talking about willpower or accountability software. We’re talking about the wounds, patterns, and unspoken messages picked up early in life that drive unwanted behavior. You’ll hear us break down one of the key frameworks we use with clients to help them understand the addiction cycle—and why real freedom starts way deeper than behavior management.Whether you’re in recovery, just starting to get honest, or trying to understand how pornography actually affects men—this conversat...
2025-05-3035 min
Restoration Soul Care: Quit Porn PodcastWhy Porn Addiction Keeps Coming Back: The Hidden Story Behind Your Struggle | Episode 1You’re not just battling porn. You’re battling the story underneath it.In this kickoff episode, Michael and Nick lay the groundwork for everything that follows — the emotional, spiritual, and psychological roots of unwanted sexual behavior.Forget behavior management. This episode digs into why you actually struggle, why it keeps coming back, and what must be rebuilt at the foundation level to experience real, lasting change.In this episode, we unpack:Why behavior change without story work always failsThe 3 core layers that keep men stuckHow trauma, shame, and discon...
2025-05-2727 min
Quit Porn | Restoration Soul CareWhy Porn Addiction Keeps Coming Back: The Hidden Story Behind Your Struggle | Episode 1Send a textYou’re not just battling porn. You’re battling the story underneath it.In this kickoff episode, Michael and Nick lay the groundwork for everything that follows — the emotional, spiritual, and psychological roots of unwanted sexual behavior.Forget behavior management. This episode digs into why you actually struggle, why it keeps coming back, and what must be rebuilt at the foundation level to experience real, lasting change.In this episode, we unpack:Why behavior change without story work always failsThe 3 core layers that keep men st...
2025-05-2727 min