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An Evolving Man PodcastHome Alone vs UK Boarding School Culture: The Psychology of Separation | Piers CrossThis week I rewatched Home Alone — and realised it can be viewed as a surprisingly powerful study of child development, attachment, and the psychology of separation.Kevin is eight years old — an age that matters deeply in the UK context, because it has historically been an age when many children began boarding school. In this short reflection, I explore key moments in the film through a boarding-school lens, drawing on the work of Joy Schaverien and Nick Duffell.We reflect on:why “not knowing the basics” at eight is devel...
2025-12-2415 min
An Evolving Man PodcastThe Mother Wound & Boarding School | Rupture, Repair, and the Cost of Separation | Piers CrossIn this reflective episode, Piers Cross explores boarding school, the mother wound, and the lasting impact of early separation from parents — particularly as Christmas approaches.Inspired by a powerful public conversation between Amelia White and her mother, Piers reflects on how boarding school disrupts natural attachment, prevents rupture and repair, and often leaves relationships with parents — especially mothers — emotionally distant.Drawing on personal experience, clinical insight, and the work of Nick Duffell, Joy Schaverien, Suzanne Zeedyk, and Alex Renton, this episode explores why so many former boarders live far from home, struggle to trust...
2025-12-1714 minAn Evolving Man Podcast"I Was Terrified!" Fear and Boarding School | Piers CrossFor the link to Nicky Moxey and Dr Linda Devereux's book Worlds Away From Home: https://amzn.eu/d/9sE6I0jFear is one of the most overlooked experiences in boarding school life. In this episode, Piers reflects on his own memories of fear and explores why so many ex-boarders still carry hypervigilance and survival patterns into adulthood. Drawing on research from Suzanne Zeedyk, Nick Duffell and Emma Seppälä, along with real stories from former boarders, Piers explains how fear shapes the nervous system — and how we can begin to heal. A c...
2025-11-1917 minAn Evolving Man PodcastAI, Neuroscience & Boarding School: Why Emotional Intelligence Is the Future | Piers CrossWhat do AI, neuroscience, and boarding schools have in common?In this reflective solo episode, Piers Cross explores how artificial intelligence mirrors the left-brain dominance of elite education — and why the real revolution ahead is emotional, not technological.Drawing on thinkers like Arthur Brooks, Daniel Goleman, and Nick Duffell, Piers unpacks why empathy, adaptability, and emotional intelligence are the skills that will define successful leaders in an AI-driven world.If you’ve ever wondered how education, trauma, and technology intersect, this episode offers a fresh, compassionate lens on t...
2025-11-1210 minAn Evolving Man PodcastBoarding School Survivors Conference 2025 – Join Us in LondonThe Boarding School Survivors Conference 2025 (formerly Boarding School Concern) takes place on 1st November in London (Euston). I’ll be speaking and showing our documentary Boarding on Insanity with a live Q&A.Speakers include Dr Suzanne Zeedyk, Dr Linda Devereux, Nicky Moxey, and Nick Duffell, among others. It’s an extraordinary event for anyone exploring the long-term impacts of early separation, boarding school syndrome, and healing through community and understanding.🎟️ For tickets and full details, visit: https://boardingschoolconcern.uk/ --- Piers...
2025-10-2902 minAn Evolving Man PodcastCensored Letters: What Boarding School Taught Us About Self-Silencing | Jeremy Paxman | Piers CrossIn this episode, I reflect on letter writing at boarding school — and what those censored, monitored, or ignored letters reveal about the emotional isolation many children experienced.Drawing on the writings of Nick Duffell, Jeremy Paxman, and Karen Wilson, as well as my own childhood letters from the 1980s, I explore how boarding schools conditioned children to hide their real feelings.This conversation touches on censorship, shame, and the lifelong habit of self-silencing — but also offers hope for healing and reconnection.A heartfelt invi...
2025-10-1508 min
The Rom Com RewriteNotting HillIt's just a film standing in front of two podcasters asking them to take it lovingly apart and put it back together better. Notting Hill Year: 1999 Written by: Richard Curtis Directed by: Roger Michell Stars: Julia Roberts, Hugh Grant Show notes: We really get into this one - and for 'this one' read Richard Curtis films in general and their male leads in particular. 26 years after its release there is much that is good about this film and also much to fix. If you would...
2025-10-1057 minAn Evolving Man Podcast"You're Gay!" Homophobia and Homosexuality in Boarding Schools | Stephen Fry | Piers CrossWhat happens when a generation of children are raised to fear softness, sensitivity, and touch?In this solo reflection, I look at the unspoken culture of homophobia and repression in boarding schools — where words like “you’re gay” became weapons of humiliation. Drawing from Boarding School Syndrome by Joy Schaverien, Trauma, Abandonment & Privilege by Nick Duffell, and reflections from Stephen Fry, I explore how this culture shaped our sense of identity, sexuality, and emotional expression.This conversation isn’t about sexuality alone — it’s about how we learned to disconnect from the lover within
2025-10-0809 min
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2025-09-0500 min
This Trusted Place with John-Paul Davies: Mental Health, Therapy & Becoming a TherapistS9 | E9 Boarding School Syndrome Explained: Trauma, Healing & Hope | Nick DuffellSend us a textIn this episode, I’m joined by Nick Duffell, psychotherapist, psycho-historian and author, known for his pioneering work with people who attended boarding schools.We explore:• Nick’s background and the 1994 film 'The Making of Them'• His latest book 'The Unmaking of Them: Clinical Reflections on Boarding School Syndrome'• What “Boarding School Syndrome” means and how it shows up in adult life• How boarding schools have been normalised in British society• The impacts on intimacy, emotions and relationships• The different typologies of survivors and how therapy can help
2025-08-2756 minAn Evolving Man PodcastEton vs Marlborough | Which Boarding School Should Prince George Go To? | Piers CrossShould Prince George follow his father to Eton College — or his mother to Marlborough College? Or should he avoid boarding altogether?In this episode, I explore the debate currently surrounding Prince William and Kate Middleton’s choice of school for their son, who has just turned 12. Drawing on stories from both Eton and Marlborough, as well as insights from neuroscience and decades of research into “boarding school syndrome,” I share why this decision carries far more weight than simply prestige or tradition.In this video, I cover:Kate Middleton’s difficult start at Down Ho...
2025-08-2714 minAn Evolving Man PodcastWhen Your Parents Went to Boarding School – How It Shapes You | Reflections on Boarding School SyndromeWhat happens when your parents — not you — went to boarding school? How might their experiences shape your childhood, and the adult you become?In this reflective episode, I explore the hidden ways parental boarding school experiences can ripple through generations. Drawing on personal stories, research, and dozens of podcast interviews, I share how traits like emotional distance, overwork, and repression can often be traced back to the complex trauma of boarding school.We discuss:The symptoms of Boarding School Syndrome in parentsHow these patterns affect family relationshipsWhy your parents might say they “loved it” — and what’s...
2025-08-1310 min
Legalise Freedom Dot ComLF171 Laurie Endicott Thomas - Control, Coercion and State EducationGET FULL ACCESS TO ALL LEGALISE FREEDOM CONTENT HERE
Laurie Endicott Thomas discusses her book Not Trivial - How Studying the Traditional Liberal Arts Can Set You Free.
Why are there so many problems within our modern education system? In theory, our schools should be better than they've ever been, but growing numbers of people are embarking on their adult lives as functionally illiterate. Despite the best efforts of educators, much of the system is thus increasingly unfit for purpose. This has enormous implications for society in general, and politics in particular. Is this by...
2025-06-111h 33Legalise Freedom Dot ComLF171 Laurie Endicott Thomas - Control, Coercion and State EducationGET FULL ACCESS TO ALL LEGALISE FREEDOM CONTENT HERE
Laurie Endicott Thomas discusses her book Not Trivial - How Studying the Traditional Liberal Arts Can Set You Free.
Why are there so many problems within our modern education system? In theory, our schools should be better than they've ever been, but growing numbers of people are embarking on their adult lives as functionally illiterate. Despite the best efforts of educators, much of the system is thus increasingly unfit for purpose. This has enormous implications for society in general, and politics in particular. Is this by...
2025-06-111h 33
Tidings podcast Archives - Hazel KahanNick Duffell: how British boarding schools shape children, leaders and the country itselfNick Duffell, noted psychotherapist and author calls us from London to speak about the psychological impact of elite British boarding schools on not only the young mostly boy boarders, but on adult ex-boarders, their families and, as ”wounded leaders” on the nation itself. (WPKN July 10, 2024 and WPKN podcast) More about Nick and boarding […]
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2025-06-1029 min
Hazel KahanNick Duffell: how British boarding schools shape children, leaders and the country itselfNick Duffell, noted psychotherapist and author calls us from London to speak about the psychological impact of elite British boarding schools on not only the young mostly boy boarders, but on adult ex-boarders, their families and, as ”wounded leaders” on the nation itself. (WPKN July 10, 2024 and WPKN podcast) More about Nick and boarding […]
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2025-06-1029 min
Tidings with Hazel KahanNick Duffell: how British boarding schools shape children, leaders and the country itselfNick Duffell, noted psychotherapist and author calls us from London to speak about the psychological impact of elite British boarding schools on not only the young mostly boy boarders, but on adult ex-boarders, their families and, as ”wounded leaders" on the nation itself. (First broadcast on WPKN July 10, 2024)More about Nick and boarding school syndrome in psychotherapeutic practice and The Making of Them as book and as film.
2025-06-0729 min
Leaders in Conversation with Anni TownendThe Dynamics of Power and Vulnerability – a conversation with Nick Duffell, psychotherapist, trainer, author and campaigner who has pioneered therapeutic work with ex-boarders, and specialist training for psychotherapistsLeaders in Conversation is the podcast in which leaders share their life and leadership stories; weaving together the people, places and experiences that have shaped their values, beliefs, passion and purpose to encourage and inspire you to be even more confident and courageous in your leadership.ABOUT THIS EPISODEI had the pleasure of meeting Nick through a mutual colleague, Thurstine Basset. Together they were writing a book entitled ‘Trauma, Abandonment and Privilege’ and invited me to contribute something of my own experience. I was delighted to be asked by Nick to review his most rece...
2025-05-1431 minAn Evolving Man PodcastBoarding on Insanity: David Cameron Wanted To Serve So Why Did He Do The Opposite? | Piers CrossToday I draw upon the works of James O'Brien and David Cameron to explore how when David set out on his political journey he wanted to support families. Why then did he do the opposite and make huge welfare cuts and bring in the austerity measures. I look at the psychology of why this might be and draw upon Dr Gabor Mate and Nick Duffell to explore this. For the documentary Boarding on Insanity: https://www.boardingoninsanity.com/ For the Observer article: https://www.theguardian.com/education/2025/apr/20/breaking-our-spirits-was-the-plan-the-lifelong-impact-of-having-gone-to-boarding-school For the Mumsnet article: htt...
2025-04-2312 min
Monumental PodcastE29 - Nick Duffell - Understanding Ex-Boarding School Men's MarriagesIn this powerful episode, Pete Hunt sits down with Nick Duffell, psychotherapist, author, and pioneer of work around boarding school trauma. They explore why so many high-achieving men with these privileged backgrounds feel emotionally stuck, the hidden impact of early survival strategies, and how intimacy becomes one of life’s greatest challenges. A raw and essential listen for men navigating midlife, relationships, and identity.Timestamps 00:00 – Introduction 01:29 – Why relationships are so hard for men 04:46 – Boarding school and emotional shutdown 07:52 – The missing emotional training 11:15 – Listening as a lost skill 15:08 –...
2025-04-0155 minAn Evolving Man PodcastLondon Premiere in 3 Days | My Wife's Funeral in 3 Weeks | Piers Cross Today I talk about two important events. One is my wife, Michelle Dawn Silcox's, funeral. And the other is the Boarding On Insanity documentary premiere in 3 days time, 1st March in London: https://www.riocinema.org.uk/movie/boarding-on-insanity-qa/ I also talk about the webinars starting on the 5th March with special guests, Prof Joy Schaverien, Dr Suzanne Zeedyk and Dr Warren Larkin. And then on the 10th March we will be interviewing Zena Me, Martin Lloyd-Elliott and Nick Duffell. To register for those events you can do so here...
2025-02-2609 minAn Evolving Man PodcastBoarding On Insanity Documentary With Gabor Mate Update Jan 2025 | Launch Day Nearing | Piers CrossThe new documentary, Boarding On Insanity featuring many experts including Dr Gabor Mate, Dr Suzanne Zeedyk, Nick Duffell and Prof Joy Schaverien is nearing completionhttps://www.piers-cross.com/boarding-school-filmThe film explores the question, Are our leaders traumatised?And the trauma? Boarding school.Many of the world's leading business and political figures have attended these schools from Mark Zuckerberg to Donald Trump and from Richard Branson to Boris Johnson.What is the impact of going to these schools?We explore the stories of those who went...
2025-01-1506 min
From Therapy to Social ChangeExploring boarding school trauma and its impact on leadership and societyCW: Suicide, trauma, abandonment, sexual abuse, alcoholism, rape, slavery, self-harm, homophobia.What happens when privilege, trauma, and leadership intersect within the walls of a boarding school? We invite you to join our compelling conversation with Tom Greaves, Piers Cross, and Jonny Lovett, as they unravel their personal journeys through the labyrinthine world of boarding education. This episode challenges the notion of resilience, questioning whether the experiences of isolation, bullying, and the emotional voids left by early separation can be classified as trauma. We explore the ways these experiences shape leaders, with figures like Boris Johnson and Donald...
2024-10-241h 35An Evolving Man PodcastSome of Our Leaders Disdain For The Everyday Person. Why?Why do some of our political, business, and societal leaders seem to have such disdain and in some cases almost hatred for the everyday person?Where might these attitudes come from?Where does the sense of entitlement, and even looking down on those that they serve arise from?I was reading Jeremy Paxman's autobiography A Life in Questions last night. I came across a passage where he talks about his prep boarding school.He sees the headmaster's son set light to the moors. Once the police come the son b...
2024-10-1611 minAn Evolving Man PodcastThe 5 Basic Components of Great Leadership | Piers CrossWhat are the 5 basic components of great leadership? Last week I talked about why boarding school doesn't create good leaders drawing upon the work of Nick Duffell's Wounded Leaders and Kouzes and Posner's The Leadership Challenge: https://youtu.be/VNMQpTyO1h8 Today I wanted to explore the work of Warren Benis in his book on Becoming A Leader. What are the 5 key ingredients that all good leaders have? I also share some of the work of Simon Sinek in his book Leaders Eat Last. What helps you become a great...
2024-09-2508 minAn Evolving Man Podcast5 Reasons Science Shows Boarding School Creates Poor Leaders | Piers CrossToday I draw upon the work of leadership experts James Kouzes and Barry Posner in their book The Leadership Challenge and Nick Duffell in his book Wounded Leaders. What are 5 reasons according to science that those who go to boarding school make bad leaders? Based on the article by Nick Duffell in the Guardian in 2014: https://www.theguardian.com/education/2014/jun/09/boarding-schools-bad-leaders-politicians-bullies-bumblers I talk about the lack of love, emotional intelligence, flexibility of the brain, not being able to interpret facial signals and others. Any questions please do let me know.
2024-09-1814 min
An Evolving Man PodcastBoarding School Survivors & The Importance of Group Work - AEM #106 Nick DuffellWhy is group work so important for boarding school survivors on the path to recovery?If being seen was dangerous as a child at these public schools why is it so helpful to be seen in a group setting as we heal?Today Nick Duffell who is one of the founding voices in the Boarding School Survivors movement talks about group work.He talks about why we heal in group settings and how the group dynamics works.He explores the process of surviving at boarding schools and the process of how...
2024-08-301h 08An Evolving Man PodcastThe Importance of Group Work For Healing Childhood Trauma | Boarding School SyndromeToday I wanted to talk about a recent conversation I had with Nick Duffell the author of Wounded LEaders and The Making of Them.Nick has been running group workshops for many years. https://www.boardingschoolsurvivors.co.uk/events-and-workshops/He first began offering these 4 day workshops in 1989/90 and has run them every year since.He offers them for both men and women.Today I talk about the importance of group work.I talk about the men’s circles that I run and the benefits I have found from attending th...
2024-08-2811 minAn Evolving Man PodcastMilitary's Unethical Brainwashing Techniques: Sounds Like Boarding School...I was listening to ex-Navy Seal Jocko Willink talk about leadership a few days ago. In the talk he shared some unethical ways of controlling people. https://youtu.be/qcEiBIuJ5xg?si=cAy6SyJq8hSjJEijFour things:1. Enforcing sleep deprivation2. Isolation from friends and family3. Inducing guilt4. Hero Syndrome manipulation.As I listened I started to think of the biographies I have read, my clients and my own experience of boarding school.Today I share some stories of King Charles, some words of p...
2024-08-1410 minAn Evolving Man PodcastThe Link Between The Lack of Touch and ViolenceTouch And Violence“In the 1960s, anthropologist James Prescott carried out a very large scale study of child rearing and violence across different societies. He foun dthat those societies which gave less touching and affection to young children, had by far the most violence amongst adults."It's clear that the more tender and warm are the lives of children, the safer and more loving they will be as adults.” Steve Biddulph, Raising BoysIn the UK at the moment there is a lot of violence on the streets.I read the abov...
2024-08-0707 min
An Evolving Man PodcastThe Path of Recovery From Trauma, Abuse & Boarding School Syndrome | AEM #99 Bryn EdwardsWhat is the path of recovery from childhood trauma, abuse and boarding school syndrome?What does it look like? Today I am talking with Bryn Edwards about his journey of recovery. Bryn went to boarding school from age 8-18. He was a complier. 1st XV Rugby, and sportsman.He also talks about colonisation and how that links to boarding school.He talks about the difference between trauma and abuse. And he shares his ideas around the inner indigenous (a subject Nick Duffell explores in Wounded Leaders) and what we can do t...
2024-07-051h 29
An Evolving Man PodcastComplex PTSD - What Is The Outer Critic? How Does It Differ From The Inner Critic? | Piers CrossWhat is the outer critic especially in terms of childhood trauma, complex PTSD and boarding school syndrome?How does the outer critic come to the fore? And what is the outer critic's link to the inner aspect?Today I wanted to offer some reflections about how this part of our psyche plays out.I quote from Pete Walker and his book, Complex PTSD and also from Nick Duffell's Wounded Leaders and his take on dissociation.If you have learned to dissociate from the unwanted parts of yourself you will have a...
2024-06-2610 min
An Evolving Man Podcast"The Principal Effect of Boarding School Is A Problem With Emotions" | Piers CrossToday I talk about our relationships to emotions at boarding school.I talk about how we repress them. And the cost of this on our psyches.I quote from the interview I did a couple of days ago with a clinical psychologist and Nick Duffell.I also quote from Daniel Kupfermann's book Don't Be So Senstive.The Emotion Feeling Wheel: https://www.davidhodder.com/wp-content/uploads/2018/10/Emotion-Feeling-Wheel-1-1.jpg Podcast #97 with Dr Nathan Baumann goes live on Friday 21st June: https://youtu.be/qDmX4FfSF3U Men's Ci...
2024-06-1912 min
An Evolving Man PodcastThe Blood Scandal | The British Legacy of Coverups | Piers CrossI have felt pretty shocked listening to reports about the Blood Scandal.I was horrified to hear what had happened at the boarding school, Treloar's where many people died.It is another cover up.Grenfell Tower, Windrush, Post Office Enquiry, Hillsborough...Repeated calls for justice and recognition were ignored for years.In today's podcast I talk about cover ups and the psychology of where many of our leaders learned to cover up, to hide, to mask the truth.I draw upon the briliant work of Caroline Elkins...
2024-05-2215 minAn Evolving Man PodcastAttachment Theory & Boarding School - Ambivalent Anxious Attachment - Secure | AvoidantToday I make some reflections about attachment and how it relates at boarding school. I have been reading Isobel Ross' new book called Almost Boys ( I am interviewing her next Monday). https://www.amazon.co.uk/Almost-Boys-Psychology-Co-ed-Boarding-ebook/dp/B0CRLF8M6L/ref=sr_1_1?crid=Q4B2UE3HXS3K&keywords=almost+boys+isobel+ross&qid=1706691785&sprefix=isobel+ross%2Caps%2C469&sr=8-1 She talks about attachment theory and especially anxious ambivalent attachment. I also draw upon the work of Dr Diane Poole Heller and her book The Power of Attachment, Nick Duffell and...
2024-01-3113 min
An Evolving Man Podcast“My Parents Dumped Me in a Foreign Orphanage” AEM #84 | Andrew Kavchak | Westminster School | BoardingWhat is the impact of taking a child age 13 away from their family for a year and putting them in a boarding school?And during that year the child only sees their parents once for Xmas?What would happen to that child especially if they were put into one of the top boarding schools in the UK, Westminster?Today I am speaking with author Andrew Kavchak who shares his own experience of living away from his parents for a whole year at Westminster.He shares his loneliness, how it felt like...
2024-01-121h 16
An Evolving Man PodcastThe Psychology of the British Raj & The British Empire - Review of RRR - Indian Film Review of RRR - Indian Film - The Psychology of the British Raj & The British Empire's Cruelty Today I wanted to offer some reflections about the Indian Telugu film, RRR, directed by Rajamouli, featuring Ram Charam and NT Rama Rao Jr. I watched this film at the weekend and today wanted to offer some reflections about the psychology of the British Raj which we see played out in the film. The story of the film starts with the British Governor played by Ray Stevenson and his wife who buy a young girl from a vi...
2023-12-0810 minAn Evolving Man PodcastRecovery From Trauma - Persecutor to Challenger From Codependent to Empowered Today I wanted to offer some more reflections about trauma recovery. In my own life I used to persecute myself a lot. As Pete Walker in his book Complex PTSD says, we can often have a very strong inner critic. This was me. Today I share some of the teachings of David Emerald from his book, The Power of TED, The Empowerment Dynamic. A few months ago I recorded the first part about Victim to Creator: https://youtu.be/9b75WXHtyLs Today I share the second part. What is the persecutor? What...
2023-11-0809 minAn Evolving Man PodcastThe Symptoms of Boarding School Survivors & Boarding School Syndrome Today I wanted to share some of the symptoms of boarding school syndrome. I draw upon the work of Prof Joy Schaverien and Nick Duffell. I also draw on my 8 years of clinical work with ex-boarders. What are some of the commons symptoms of having been to public school? You might not have had any specific trauma and yet being in the boarding school environment is considered a developmental trauma. How might this manifest as an adult? I also talk about the Boarding School Survivors conference: https://www.bss...
2023-10-2509 min
An Evolving Man PodcastAEM #77 Sarah Ockwell-Smith - “Because I Said So!” | Childism | Why Society Is Childist & How To Break The Cycle of DiscriminationIn this episode with bestselling parenting author, Sarah Ockwell-Smith, we talk about childism.What is childism? Sarah shares that childism is the “unconscious discrimination of children in our world – and why it impacts everybodyWhy are we childist as a society? Why do we not take care of our children especially in terms of discipline and sleep regimes?Sarah talks about her new book, “Because I Said So!” about the history of childism and .She also shares her thoughts about boarding school. Is boarding school childist?---Sarah Oc...
2023-10-111h 01
Monumental PodcastE7 - Inside Boarding School Minds with Psychotherapist & Author Nick DuffellIn this episode we delve into the groundbreaking work of Nick Duffell, a renowned expert in the psychological impact of boarding schools. With professional qualifications spanning systemic Family Therapy, Psychosynthesis, Psychoanalysis and Somatic Therapy, Nick has emerged as the trailblazer psychotherapist in understanding the experiences of numerous boarding school pupils.He has authored several influential books, such as "The Making of Them" (which was endorsed by the British Medical Journal) and "Wounded Leaders,". Both these books challenge societal norms and perceptions surrounding the boarding school experience. Of course, for this alternative view, Nick is...
2023-10-1045 minAn Evolving Man PodcastGabor Mate - The Myth of Normal, Wounded Leaders & Boarding School Been reading #GaborMate 's excellent book #mythofnormal. I talk today about the overlap between his chapter about our leaders "the traumatized leading the traumatized" and Nick Duffell's wounded leaders. David Cameron: Age 7 talking about his time at boarding school: 'The food was spartan. I lost a stone in weight during a single term. There was one meal that consisted of curry, rice – and maggots.’ Richard Branson: BBC Interview: https://www.dailymotion.com/video/x8mig8c 11.13“I know that my parents sent me to boarding school because they thought that that was the best t...
2023-09-1510 min
The Wildheart Diaries with Lisa ParkesBoarding School Syndrome: Healing Hidden Trauma with Helen JenkinsToday on The Wildheart Diaries, we kick off season 3 with a special guest and old school friend, Helen Jenkins. I'm delighted to chat to Helen about her work as a therapist whose area of expertise is Boarding School Syndrome. Together we discuss how growing up in cruel and hostile environments severely impacts your self-worth and your ability to feel your feelings. We also talk about our approach to healing and reminisce about our school days when we first met. Pour yourself a cuppa and listen in!
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2023-09-151h 00
An Evolving Man PodcastBoarding School Trauma and Recovery Workshop - Syndrome, SurvivorsOn Saturday August 12th 10-5pm I am running an online workshop for ex-boarders (male and female) and therapists around the subject of boarding school and the path of recovery.The morning session will be talking about some of the leading research into trauma, neglect and boarding school. The afternoon session will be exploring some of the leading edge techniques that I use with my clients. Some of the areas we will be exploring are:- What is trauma?- What are the 3 types of trauma...
2023-07-2603 min
An Evolving Man PodcastThe Psychology of Boris Johnson - Narcissism, and TraumaToday I wanted to share some reflections about Boris Johnson. With the resignation of Boris Johnson last week I wanted to share some thoughts from a psychological perspective.Why is Boris the way he is?Could any of his behaviours be due to childhood trauma and specifically Boarding School Syndrome? Here I quote from the likes of Prof Joy Schaverien, Dr Judith Herman, Nick Duffell, Peter Levine PhD, Jennifer Freyd PhD and Richard Grannon. What is Narcisstic Personality Disorder (NPD)? And is Boris a narcissist? And what can...
2023-06-1418 minAn Evolving Man PodcastBetrayal Trauma & Jennifer Freyd PhD, If Boarding School is a Betrayal, Is It A Trauma?Today I am looking at betrayal trauma and the work of Jennifer Freyd PhD. What is betrayal trauma? And why is betrayal the key element that makes an experience become traumatic especially in childhood? I read some of the words of Joy Schaverien PhD and Nick Duffell from his book Wounded Leaders. They talk about how for some boarding school is a betrayal. So if it is a betrayal is it then a trauma? Some exploration of betrayal trauma and the journal article: https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/10...
2023-05-3112 minAn Evolving Man PodcastThe 3 Types of Trauma | Part 2 | Developmental Trauma | Gabor Mate | Complex PTSD (CPTSD) What are the 3 types of trauma? Today I talk about developmental trauma. This comes from the work of Gabor Mate who is one of the world's leading voices on trauma. Last week I talked about shock trauma. This week I am talking about developmental trauma. What is it? I give some examples of what this type of trauma is and I also quote some of the words of Nick Duffell and Thurstine Basset in Trauma, Abandonment and Privilege, Prof Joy Schaverien from her 2021 paper called Boarding School Syndrome Revisited and Pe...
2023-05-0309 min
An Evolving Man PodcastAEM #48 – Matthew Green – Collective Trauma Healing, Climate Change, & Wounded LeadersWhat does trauma have to do with our current global challenges? Is there a link between trauma and the difficulties that we currently face? Today I speak with Matthew Green who is a climate journalist with an interest in collective trauma healing. How do we heal?Matthew Green is a former Reuters climate and Financial Times correspondent and has reported from more than 30 countries. He is now global investigations editor at DeSmog, a nonprofit climate news service. He is also a co-host of the Collective Trauma Summit 2022 and a student on Thomas Hübl’s two...
2022-11-0456 min
Another Ki Random PodcastBoarding School SyndromeOn this podcast, we talk about Boarding School Syndrome, first coined through the work of the psychotherapist Nick Duffell. In the therapeutic work that he was doing with ex-boarders from the early 1990s, he found that there were common traits that these clients were presenting and so those who have “survived” boarding school became the boarding school survivors. Joy Schaverien, expanded on this work in her book, Boarding School Syndrome where she talks in more depth about the trauma of the 'privileged' child.
We talk about the trauma of boarding school and David shares some strange 'positives' for s...
2022-10-2135 min
An Evolving Man PodcastAEM #44 Amelia White - Coeducational Boarding Schools - Trauma, Patriarchy, How They Differ, Syndrome, How Do They Differ From Single Sex Boarding Schools?On today's podcast I am excited to be speaking with Amelia White. In this episode she talks about co-educational boarding schools and the impact they have on girls and boys. How does it differ from single sex boarding schools? Amelia is a specialist in this area and has trained with Nick Duffell.Why this podcast will be probably the most fascinating so far is that not only did Amelia go to the same boarding school as me, but we were on the same year! We reconnected last year when we realised that we are doing the same...
2022-09-091h 02
Carrie FraisPsycho-historian Nick Duffell is the guest on Notes on Leadership with Carrie Frais & Kristin BerryBroadcaster Carrie Frais & leadership coach Kristin Berry delve deep into the boarding school experience in Britain with author and psycho historian Nick Duffell. This revealing, insightful, and sometimes provocative interview analyses how these educational institutions shape modern leaders, not just in the UK but across the world. Nick also talks about how potentially damaging this style of leadership - which prizes rationality and minimises emotions can be, but he also looks at how a growing movement can take us forward into a world which needs to be more collaborative and how we can create a system that future generations...
2022-02-261h 03
An Evolving Man PodcastAEM Podcast #21 Nick Duffell - Boarding School Survivors - Homesickness/ Disassociation/ Intimate RelationshipsToday I speak with Nick Duffell who is one of the leading experts in the field of boarding school trauma about intimate relationships, disassciation and homesickness.Nick Duffell is a psychotherapist and trainer in private practice who pioneered therapeutic work with ex-boarders and specialist training for psychotherapists. He is the author of The Making of Them, Trauma Abandonment and Privilege and Wounded Leaders.Here are some of the questions I asked him:1. I would love you to share your own journey of boarding school and what drew you into the work that you...
2021-10-221h 17
A Quest for Well-BeingHealing The Wound Of Yesterday— "Throughout the world, the human heart is frequently associated with place, with land. This in turn is either identified with – or the breeding ground for – soul, which gives meaning and binds individuals into a community." Valeria Teles interviews Nick Duffell — the author of "Wounded Leaders: British Elitism and the Entitlement Illusion: A Psychohistory." Having practiced psychotherapy for 35 years, Nick Duffell is a psychohistorian committed to bridging the gap between psychological and political thinking and an Honorary Research Associate at UCL. He is particularly interested in promoting a depth psychology perspective of issues that affect our public l...
2021-05-2845 min
Bryn Edwards at The WA Real#198 Australian Boarding School Trauma – Christine JackFollowing on from the highly acclaimed episode #164 with Nick Duffell about the reality and dynamics of Boarding School Syndrome, this week I traced the impact in Australia with Christine Jack.
Christine has spent 35 years in teacher education and educational history, authoring the book ‘Recovering Boarding School Trauma Narratives’.
In this conversation Christine tracks how the concept of boarding school came from England to Australia, as a colony of the British Empire, and then the ensuing impact within our education system and beyond.
Again, it was another great conversation about how difficult it is to p...
2021-05-2356 min
Brendon Marotta ShowNick Duffell On The Wounded Leaders From Elite Boarding Schools That Shaped The World (#014)Nick Duffell talks about the wounded leaders produced by the elite boarding school system and how their psychology has shaped the world. Nick also shares how leaders can change their psychology, integrate these experiences and better connect with the people they serve. Topics Discussed In This Episode:[1:13] Nick’s work in psychohistory and his interest in elite boarding schools[9:18] How elite boarding schools were intentionally designed [16:05] Historical transitions in British society and how it impacted elite systems [20:53] Questioning the foundation of privilege in elite systems [26:00] Nick’s clinical work and the types of personalities in boar...
2021-05-181h 09
心理开花Vol281寄宿学校综合征Vol.281寄宿学校综合征在中国，大部分儿童都在走读制学校学习，但是也有不少儿童很小就开始在寄宿制学校生活，甚至有些家长会不惜重金将自己的孩子送往国外的寄宿学校。那么，寄宿学校对于儿童心理发展会有怎样的影响呢？英国一位心理治疗师Joy Schaverien提出了“寄宿学校综合征”（Boarding School Syndrome）这个术语，用来描述寄宿学校生活给儿童心理发展带来的消极结果。另一位英国心理学家Nick Duffell指出，关键不在于寄宿学校是否会损害儿童发展，因为这无法量化计算。他认为，关键在于每个上寄宿学校的儿童都要幸存这段生活，他们是如何幸存下来的，这些应对方法又如何影响他们成年后的生活，这才是问题的关键。在今天的节目中，我们将会去了解寄宿学校都可能会给儿童带来什么样的影响。 欢迎收听！ 本期节目中包含的音乐：royalty free music@ Kevin MacLeod (http://incompetech.com) 心理开花，听晴妮和大家聊聊各种各样的心理学问题，让我们的心理乐开花 节目音频由心理开花电台原创，未经授权请勿转载或转成文字发布～查看节目原文：https://www.ximalaya.com/album/318561/413400738
2021-05-1025 min
Leaders in Conversation with Anni TownendAnni Townend in Conversation with Thurstine Basset, Author on Boarding School SurvivalThe trauma, abandonment and privilege of boarding school with Thurstine Basset“We have had to overcome that sense that if you complain, you're just a privileged whinger, and that nobody wants to hear from privileged whingers,” Thurstine BassetFor the latest episode of the Leaders in Conversation Podcast with Anni Townend, Anni talks to Thurstine Basset, a boarding school survivor, author and mental health champion. Thurstine has co-authored a number of books on mental health including most recently Trauma, Abandonment and Privilege: A guide to therapeutic work with boarding school survivors with...
2021-05-0543 min
Mortification of SpinLearning from the Smyth-Fletcher AbuseLearning from the Smyth-Fletcher Abuse
Carl flies solo today as he speaks with the Rev. Dr. Peter Sanlon, an old friend and a minister in the Anglican Church in the UK. Their conversation is a somber one dealing with a horrific scandal of abuse that has emerged in the past couple of years involving a prominent Anglican minister, the Reverend Jonathan Fletcher. The full report of the abuses made public just a week ago is challenging to understand when reviewed on this side of the Atlantic, due to its cultural and religious context. Peter provides background information and explains the c...
2021-03-3138 min
Unlock This Must-Listen Full Audiobook — Perfect While Traveling.The SIMPOL Solution by John Bunzl, Nick DuffellPlease visithttps://thebookvoice.com/podcasts/2/audible/224730to listen full audiobooks.
Title: The SIMPOL Solution
Author: John Bunzl, Nick Duffell
Narrator: John Bunzl, Nick Duffell
Format: mp3
Length: 8 hrs and 17 mins
Release date: 08-24-20
Ratings: 5 out of 5 stars, 1 rating
Genres: Globalization
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2020-08-248h 17
Bryn Edwards at The WA Real#164 Surviving Boarding School: The trauma at the core of the British & Commonwealth Pysche – Nick DuffellThis week, I on a personal journey and deep dive into Boarding School Syndrome with one of the world's leading experts, Nick Duffell.
Whether you, or a loved one, attended boarding school or not, there is a lot to take on board and consider in this conversation.
Why?
Because to understand boarding school survivorship is to understand:
one of the core fundamental elements of the British psyche that also spreads across what was the Empire and is now a Commonwealth
a very clean example of early developmental trauma and the defence mechanism...
2020-08-161h 25
Lateral ConversationsLateral Converations
My guests today are John Bunzl and Nick Duffell. They both wrote a book called the 'Simpol Solution' ... simply put, its a new and one could say worldcentric approach to dealing with worlds problems, that is a new way about how the nation-states could find a new way of cooperating that is beneficial to everybody. The most vital point here is that it´s all in the hands of the voters. Great idea! Enjoy this episode of Lateral Conversations.Sign up to SIMPOL here
“Dieses Buch, gemeinsam mit der SIMPOL-Organisation, schenkt den Wählern auf der g...
2018-05-3000 min