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The Dervish and the MermaidFinal episode: Pace and Kyeli’s 10 House Rules Podcasting five years, it’s been swell! But now we are saying farewell. Let’s talk about why We’re saying goodbye With many more stories to tell. A last parting gift, our ten jewels, Ten easy-to-memorize tools For living intentionally And unconventionally: They’re what we call our House Rules. Pace & Kyeli’s House Rules Resilience, Not Perfection How About Now? It’s Always OK to Ask; It’s Always OK to Say No Always Mumble Never Hurry Never Wait Just Keep Crying Grown-Ass Wome...2018-11-0852 min

The Dervish and the MermaidWhat if nobody cares about my art? Kyeli helps Pace deal with her attachment to other people being moved by her creation. Before my creation is hatched, I’m already hella attached. If nobody cares To sample my wares, My plan might as well stay unhatched. bitching vs. venting game jams Compass Rose September Safari Games The Usual Error Time & Again internal motivation vs. external motivation “How do I want to feel while working on this?” “How do I want to feel once I’ve released this into the world and nobody gives a shit?” Thanks for listenin...2018-10-1854 min

The Dervish and the MermaidSchrödinger’s Kitten When you’re watching a kitten be cute But your camera’s not all set to shoot By the time that you’re ready The cat has already Moved on, and so you follow suit. So unless one is very astute It is hard to get proof absolute Of a cute little cat. So why does just that Doom weird shit into disrepute? Radical Wholeness, with Philip Shepherd pseudoskepticism physics envy: wanting softer sciences to be more like physics Kyeli’s 7th grade science story: “You stayed ope...2018-09-2040 min

The Dervish and the MermaidTo follow your heart you need a compass, not a map If you just live your life off the cuff, You might feel you’re not up to snuff. If you “Find Your Path Now” Then you’re worthy somehow, But otherwise you’re not enough. This is an insidious lie! A path’s not a thing you can buy. Don’t fall for that trap: It’s compass, not map. Your path is a how, not a why. Myth #5: It’s unlikely I’ll ever find true fulfillment, so I might as well settle for good enough. Why You’re T...2018-05-1036 min

The Dervish and the MermaidThe elephant in the bathroom The strong status quo makes you hesitant. “It’s not my place” is the impediment. But you can’t be intentional And default conventional So go on, relocate that elephant! Kyeli tells the story of when she rearranged a restaurant’s bathroom and what it taught her about Maslow’s Hierarchy of needs, complacency, and empowerment. Thanks for listening to The Dervish and the Mermaid! If you enjoyed this episode, please review us on iTunes and send your friends to PaceSmith.com. That’s also where you can download m...2018-04-2624 min

The Dervish and the MermaidHating men vs. hating the patriarchy A fantasy realm is made worse By not being somewhat diverse. I speak of The Sims, And with pseudonyms About these issues we’ll converse. Kyeli feels like a bad feminist for creating a male sim in a male-dominated profession. At the root is the difference between hating men and hating the patriarchy. Thanks for listening to The Dervish and the Mermaid! If you enjoyed this episode, please review us on iTunes and send your friends to PaceSmith.com. That’s also where you can download my free...2018-03-0158 min

The Dervish and the MermaidThe universe is a meaningless uncaring void (but whatevs) We didn’t believe this a month ago. But now, thanks to Zoloft and Lexapro, we kinda do! And what’s worse, we’re not even bothered by this. Here’s what it’s been like. I wager you might be surprised To hear Pace and Kyeli advise To give up intervening ‘Cause life has no meaning. Thanks so much, SSRIs. Thanks for listening to The Dervish and the Mermaid! If you enjoyed this episode, please review us on iTunes and send your friends to PaceSmith.com. That’s also...2018-02-1525 min

The Dervish and the MermaidTwo dumb reasons for making New Year’s Resolutions Pace and Kyeli each dodge a bullet of making a New Year’s resolution for a misguided reason. Hint: It has to do with being an Enneagram 3 and 4, respectively. (We didn’t manage to record this episode before the new year, but it’s never too late to wholeheartedly abort if you’re doing something for the wrong reason.) You’re fabulous at DDR. You once were a bit of a star. How much of this spin Is about who you’ve been And how much about who you are? Pa...2018-01-1120 min

The Dervish and the MermaidPace and Kyeli’s words of the year for 2018 2018 is nigh here; Let’s focus on being right here. We’ve always preferred To choose just one word To set our intent for the year. Pace’s previous words of the year: acceptance, annihilation, surrender, pantry, easy mode, warm bread with butter on it Kyeli’s previous words of the year: courageous, open, mermaid, epic, loud How “warm bread with butter on it” has shaped Pace’s 2017 How “loud” has shaped Kyeli’s 2017 Pace’s word of the year for 2018 Kyeli’s word of the year for 2018 Words of the year for 2017, 2016, 2015 Sou...2017-12-2847 min

The Dervish and the MermaidBulldozer and Doormat More detail (including live roleplay examples!) about the bulldozer/doormat pattern, in which one person dominates (often subconsciously) and one person submits (often subconsciously). Pace runs the bulldozer pattern and Kyeli runs the doormat pattern. I’m bent on achieving a goal. I’ll build up some steam, then I’ll roll. But don’t be afraid; If I am obeyed, I won’t have to take your control. A steamroller’s coming right at! I’d better get down and lie flat. I’m all out of steam, ...2017-11-0941 min

The Dervish and the MermaidWe got creeped by a creeper, and what it taught us about politeness, rape culture, and gender roles Kyeli and I were accosted by a creepy stalker recently, and so we want to talk about politeness, being a “nice girl,” placating, salespeople, creepers, and other folks who violate the social contract. “Buy this vacuum from me ’cause it’s cheaper,” Says the salesperson. Now go deeper: We respond so politely ‘Cause rude is unsightly, But then you’re polite to a creeper! the story of the creeper politeness as placating rape culture and gender roles Thanks for listening to The Dervish and the Mermaid! If you enjoyed this episode, pl...2017-11-0245 min

The Dervish and the MermaidBlood, more racism, laughter, and kindness: IEA 2017 part 3 of 3 This is it! Here is everything else I learned at IEA 2017. Some fabulous speakers on scene, A focus on practice: that’s keen. We’re still old and white, But there’s a lot we got right at IEA 2017! Part 1: Wholeness and sensing with the belly center (learned from Philip Shepherd) Part 2: HeartMath and racism (IEA 2017 part 2 of 3) Sandra Maitri “Once a tiger tastes blood, it can’t rest until it tastes it again.” -Claudio Naranjo “Move through your personality instead of transcending it.” -Sandra Maitri T...2017-09-1955 min

The Dervish and the MermaidWeird stuff we’ve experienced, part 1 Kyeli and I have experienced (seen, heard, and felt) some pretty weird shit in our lives: hearing voices, seeing a hovering can opener, telekinesis, knowing things we couldn’t have known via any of our five senses, predicting the future, seeing a UFO, and much more. These are our own stories, so we know they’re true. This is part of our effort to collect stories from people we trust, in an attempt to figure out what the heck is going on, in a way that includes both openness and rigor. When you see things you...2017-08-171h 00

The Dervish and the MermaidProphecy and Allergy Why sensitive people are not what the world wants, but exactly what the world needs. In each generation exist Some sensitive folks in our midst. If they’re born in the past, They are killed or outcast, But today they are merely dismissed. Neophiles and neophobes, Robert Anton Wilson Finding Your Way in a Wild New World by Martha Beck Joan of Arc, Jesus, and the Dalai Lama – getting burned at the stake, or not Prophet of Size 6 Prophecy and allergy: two sides of the same coin Kyeli saw a UFO P...2017-07-2700 min

The Dervish and the MermaidAn introduction to the awesomeness of the Enneagram What is the Enneagram, and how can it help you live a wholehearted life? Goodness and love brightly shine, Value and depth are divine. Clarity sees, Guidance brings ease, Freedom, strength, wholeness make nine. What is the Enneagram? How can the Enneagram help you? The usual error A very brief summary of each of the 9 Enneagram types Kyeli’s story of how the Enneagram saved her life Pace’s story of how the Enneagram saved our marriage The 3 Centers Thanks for listening to The Dervish and the Merm...2017-06-0800 min

The Dervish and the MermaidAll the things! Pace & Kyeli (The Dervish and the Mermaid) give an overview of all the topics they’re passionate about, and why. Finding your life’s right direction, Feminism, self-reflection, Wholeheartedness, bridging… Well, if we’re abridging, It really boils down to connection. Thanks for listening to The Dervish and the Mermaid! If you enjoyed this episode, please review us on iTunes and send your friends to PaceSmith.com. That’s also where you can download my free ebook, Find Your Path Now. It’ll help you stop living on autopilot...2017-05-3100 min

The Dervish and the MermaidWCML 125: Remove limitations by snapping your fingers and become unstuck by talking If your mom turned you into a coward, Then maybe it’s high time you flowered. If that pattern still lingers, Then just snap your fingers, And BOOM! You become more empowered. Remove externally-imposed limitations just by snapping your fingers (yes, this is as awesome as it sounds and is not at all bogus) Pace’s story of how this helped her become more observant Kyeli’s store of how this helped her become smarter Get unstuck by talking (to a person, to yourself, or by writing/typing) Thanks for listening to the...2017-05-1828 min

The Dervish and the MermaidWCML 123: Curvy Yoga: Love Yourself & Your Body a Little More Each Day, with Anna Guest-Jelley Anna Guest-Jelley will say That yoga cares not what you weigh. Get her book on your shelf And start loving yourself A little bit more every day. Anna was on our podcast about a year ago, WCML 090: Curvy Yoga and Loving Your Body, with Anna Guest-Jelley. Here’s what’s new in her world in the past year. “real selfies” 20 Years, 65 Diets, No Results Presence (body acceptance that actually involves, y’know, your body) Get Curious Challenge What You Know Affirm (Trust me, this is way more practical than it sounds) Practice (with kindn...2017-04-201h 01

The Dervish and the MermaidWCML 122: I used to love something, but now I don’t. Is it my path, or not? I used to love X, now it’s stale. Does this mean that I’m off the right trail? Or maybe I care So much that it scares me to try, because then I might fail. Kyeli used to love writing, but lately she’s not feeling the love. She wants to know if writing is on her path but she’s resisting it so much that it’s disconnected her from the love, or if the love is just old and stale and not rekindlable. Questions to ask to tell the d...2017-04-0642 min

Wild Crazy Meaningful EnneagramWCME 067: The Spiritual Psychology of Type Three, The Performer (part 1) Enneagram Study Group: Pace and Kyeli dive into The Spiritual Dimension of the Enneagram, by Sandra Maitri. bridging the spirituality and psychology of Type Three, the Performer. Previous episodes in this series: WCME 031: Introduction to the Spiritual Dimension of Type Three (Essential Law, Essential Harmony, Essential Hope) Our previous podcast about Gurdjieff’s Law of Three: WCML 070: Wild Crazy Meaningful Day Job If you enjoyed this episode, would you be so kind as to leave us a review? You can find us by going to the Podcast page in iTunes and se...2017-02-0148 min

The Dervish and the MermaidWCML 115: Pace and Kyeli’s words of the year for 2017 2017 is nigh here; Let’s shift to a much lower gear. We’ve always preferred To choose just one word To set our intent for the year. Pace’s previous words of the year: acceptance, annihilation, surrender, pantry, easy mode Kyeli’s previous words of the year: courageous, open, mermaid, epic How easy mode has shaped Pace’s 2016 How epic has shaped Kyeli’s 2016 Pace’s word of the year for 2017 Kyeli’s word of the year for 2017 WCME 022: A conversation with Danielle, a 5 (Investigator) Previous podcasts WCML 077: Pace and Kyeli’s words of the year...2016-12-2944 min

The Dervish and the MermaidWCML 114: Living a wholehearted life If to thine own self you are true, If there’s nothing you wish to undo, You won’t fall apart. You’ll have your whole heart, And that means you’ll have your whole you. all 9 limericks” “God doesn’t care about the size of your cookies.” -Kyeli WCML 087: “If you’re not going to devote yourself to it 24/7/365, why bother?” a kyriarchical memeplex! Thanks for listening to Wild Crazy Meaningful Life! If you enjoyed this episode, please review us on iTunes and send your friends to WildCrazyMeaningfulLife.com. That’s also where yo...2016-12-1542 min

The Dervish and the MermaidWCML 113: Caging the Beast Within: What if you’re secretly a bad person who fakes being a good person? I must keep the beast under guard, In a cage always minded and barred. If the beast were set free, I fear I would be As awful as Jean-Luc Picard. A bad person + a conscience = a good person A selfish person + a filter = a considerate person A selfish person is a kind person who is not getting their needs met Praetor Shinzon from Star Trek: Nemesis (it was a movie, Kyeli was right) The upward spiral Thanks for listening to Wild Crazy Meaningful Life! If you enjoyed this episode, please review...2016-12-0140 min

The Dervish and the MermaidWCML 105: High-demand groups, part 2 of 2 (with Emma and Kelly) Emma, with whom we’ll consult, Is a lovely and awesome adult. And if you’re concerned, She’ll share what she learned From spending six years in a cult. (And Kelly I rashly insult.) A high-demand group is a group that makes high demands on your time and attention, also sometimes your money, your beliefs, or even your body. Some of them are cults. Some of them are business development programs. Some of them are relationships. Here are four stories of very different high-demand groups, how to spot one, and ho...2016-08-111h 13

Wild Crazy Meaningful EnneagramWCME 054: The Spiritual Psychology of Type Four, The Romantic (part 3 of 3) Enneagram Study Group: Pace and Kyeli dive into The Spiritual Dimension of the Enneagram, by Sandra Maitri, bridging the spirituality and psychology of Type Four, including: WCML 098: Shame (and how to heal from it) “my emotions are the whole story” being the eye of the hurricane WCML 086: If social media doesn’t light you up, ditch it! how to sneak past the museum curator how to burn the painting Previous episodes in this series: WCME 027: Introduction to the Spiritual Dimension of Type Four (Essential Origin) WCME 052: The Spiritual Psychology of Type Four, The Romantic (part 1...2016-08-031h 00

The Dervish and the MermaidWCML 104: High-demand groups, part 1 of 2 (with Emma and Kelly) Emma, with whom we’ll consult, Is a lovely and awesome adult. And if you’re concerned, She’ll share what she learned From spending six years in a cult. (And Kelly I rashly insult.) A high-demand group is a group that makes high demands on your time and attention, also sometimes your money, your beliefs, or even your body. Some of them are cults. Some of them are business development programs. Some of them are relationships. Here are four stories of very different high-demand groups, how to spot one, and ho...2016-07-281h 28

Wild Crazy Meaningful EnneagramWCME 053: The Spiritual Psychology of Type Four, The Romantic (part 2 of 3) Enneagram Study Group: Pace and Kyeli dive into The Spiritual Dimension of the Enneagram, by Sandra Maitri. bridging the spirituality and psychology of Type Four, as well as: how Freudian psychology doesn’t apply to many modern families how the lack of knowledge of the Enneagram, plus the usual error, has influenced the history of psychology physics envy hope can be envy in disguise “Hopelessness is hope buried in depression.” -Kyeli Previous episodes in this series: WCME 027: Introduction to the Spiritual Dimension of Type Four (Essential Origin) WCME 052: The Spiritual Psychology of Type Four, The Ro...2016-07-2051 min

Wild Crazy Meaningful EnneagramWCME 052: The Spiritual Psychology of Type Four, The Romantic (part 1) Enneagram Study Group: Pace and Kyeli dive into The Spiritual Dimension of the Enneagram, by Sandra Maitri, bridging the spirituality and psychology of Type Four, as well as nature vs. nurture and self-worth vs. entitlement. Previous episodes in this series: WCME 027: Introduction to the Spiritual Dimension of Type Four (Essential Origin) If you enjoyed this episode, would you be so kind as to leave us a review? You can find us by going to the Podcast page in iTunes and searching for “wild crazy meaningful enneagram”. Thanks! Your review helps more people discover the...2016-07-0650 min

The Dervish and the MermaidWCML 100: What have we learned in the past 3 years? We’ve stumbled, we’ve triumphed, we’ve blundered. We’ve held hands, we’ve learned, and we’ve wondered. Today, here’s the best of 3 years, all compressed, To celebrate podcast 100! How have we grown spiritually over the past 3 years? How has our business changed over the past 3 years? Kyeli’s epic healing journey treasure hunt How has our attitude toward decluttering changed over the past 3 years? Is there anything we regret about the past 3 years? How has Kyeli’s “self love through selfies” practice changed over the past 3 years? How has our use of social...2016-06-091h 08

Wild Crazy Meaningful EnneagramWCME 049: The Instinctual Variants of the Enneagram, with Aine Ni Cheallaigh and Kelly Kingman Our guests today: Aine and Kelly. As clever as Machiavelli. But minus the treason. And that’s just one reason They’re famous from here to New Delhi. Aine Ni Cheallaigh teaches us about the instinctual variants of the Enneagram, and we figure out Kelly, Kyeli, and Pace’s instinctual stacks. Highlights: The 3 instinctual variants: Self-Preservation, Sexual, and Social we are animals “Your personality sits on top of your instincts” the goal is balance the instincts at higher levels “Putting yourself in the way of good” Links: The Wisdom...2016-06-081h 03

Pathfinding – Pace SmithWCML 097: What’s New with Pace and Kyeli? A miraculous dream, a shamanic vision, and an imminent move, for starters…Due to imminent landlord romancing, Our location will soon be advancing. There might be extremes From miraculous dreams, But we’re probably moving to… WCML 056: The cycle of guidance Kyeli’s miraculous dream nurashkijerrahi.org “Don’t let the hurt of the past prevent the growth of the future.” -Ellie di Julio Kyeli’s shamanic vision What to do […]2016-05-1959 min

The Dervish and the MermaidWCML 097: What’s New with Pace and Kyeli? A miraculous dream, a shamanic vision, and an imminent move, for starters… Due to imminent landlord romancing, Our location will soon be advancing. There might be extremes From miraculous dreams, But we’re probably moving to… WCML 056: The cycle of guidance Kyeli’s miraculous dream nurashkijerrahi.org “Don’t let the hurt of the past prevent the growth of the future.” -Ellie di Julio Kyeli’s shamanic vision What to do when you get intense guidance but don’t know how to act on it? Where to live? Kyeli can drive! Thanks for listening to Wild Crazy Meaningful Life! If you enjoyed this episode, please...2016-05-1959 min

Wild Crazy Meaningful EnneagramWCME 044: The Spiritual Psychology of Type Nine, The Peace-Seeker (part 3 of 3) Enneagram Study Group: Pace and Kyeli dive into The Spiritual Dimension of the Enneagram, by Sandra Maitri. bridging the spirituality and psychology of Type Nine. the emptiness becomes spaciousness Previous episodes in this series: WCME 036: Introduction to the Spiritual Dimension of Type Nine (Essential Love) WCME 039: The Spiritual Psychology of Type Nine, The Peace-Seeker (part 1) WCME 041: The Spiritual Psychology of Type Nine, The Peace-Seeker (part 2) If you enjoyed this episode, would you be so kind as to leave us a review? You can find us by going to the Podcast page in iTunes...2016-05-0441 min

The Dervish and the MermaidWCML 094: MasterHeart: Like a mastermind but, you know, heartier. First, find a good place to host it, And purchase a butt-ton of post-its. Your woes that frustrate We’ll now illustrate And together, we’ve soon diagnosed it. Pace and Kyeli pull back the curtain and reveal their MasterHeart process, and how you can create your own MasterHeart group. Then, as an example, we go through Pace’s recent MasterHeart session, where she worked on burnout and identity. How to create your own MasterHeart Pace’s MasterHeart: recovering from burnout the danger of workaholism the fear of dying normal “I follow m...2016-04-2854 min

Wild Crazy Meaningful EnneagramWCME 043: Tarot and Enneagram, with Theresa Reed (part 2 of 2) Theresa Reed sure knows her Tarot. Her knowledge is sharp as an arrow. The Enneagram and Tarot we’ll cram Like two dudes who wear one sombrero. Pace, Kyeli, and Theresa discuss the correspondences between the Tarot and the Enneagram. In part 2 of 2, we cover the Major Arcana from XIII (Death) to XXI (The World). WCME 042: Tarot and Enneagram, with Theresa Reed (part 1 of 2) The best online Enneagram test we know of is here. For each Tarot card in the Major Arcana, which Enneagram type corresponds best wi...2016-04-2748 min

Wild Crazy Meaningful EnneagramWCME 042: Tarot and Enneagram, with Theresa Reed (part 1 of 2) Theresa Reed sure knows her Tarot. Her knowledge is sharp as an arrow. The Enneagram and Tarot we’ll cram Like two dudes who wear one sombrero. Pace, Kyeli, and Theresa discuss the correspondences between the Tarot and the Enneagram. In part 1 of 2, we cover the Major Arcana from 0 (The Fool) to XII (The Hanged Man). How is this helpful if you know the Enneagram but not much about Tarot? How is this helpful if you know Tarot but not much about the Enneagram? Vicki Mattingly’s Tarot/Enneagram Correspondences Majo...2016-04-2048 min

Wild Crazy Meaningful EnneagramWCME 041: The Spiritual Psychology of Type Nine, The Peace-Seeker (part 2) Enneagram Study Group: Pace and Kyeli dive into The Spiritual Dimension of the Enneagram, by Sandra Maitri, bridging the spirituality and psychology of Type Nine. a spiritual version of “What the Thinker thinks, the Prover proves” fuzzy oneness Previous episodes in this series: WCME 036: Introduction to the Spiritual Dimension of Type Nine (Essential Love) WCME 039: The Spiritual Psychology of Type Nine, The Peace-Seeker (part 1) If you enjoyed this episode, would you be so kind as to leave us a review? You can find us by going to the Podcast page in iTunes and searc...2016-04-1342 min

Wild Crazy Meaningful EnneagramWCME 039: The Spiritual Psychology of Type Nine, The Peace-Seeker (part 1) Enneagram Study Group: Pace and Kyeli dive into The Spiritual Dimension of the Enneagram, by Sandra Maitri. bridging the spirituality and psychology of Type Nine. Previous episodes in this series: WCME 036: Introduction to the Spiritual Dimension of Type Nine (Essential Love) If you enjoyed this episode, would you be so kind as to leave us a review? You can find us by going to the Podcast page in iTunes and searching for “wild crazy meaningful enneagram”. Thanks! Your review helps more people discover the awesomeness of the Enneagram. And if you’d like...2016-03-3035 min

The Dervish and the MermaidWCML 087: “If you’re not going to devote yourself to it 24/7/365, why bother?” I got rid of Facebook’s banality, And started to face my mortality. With nothing to numb, I’ve got to find some- thing that counts as my core speciality. Kyeli discusses her mid-life crisis with Pace, and faces some hardcore limiting beliefs. mid-life crisis ticking off all the tickyboxes on the culturally sanctioned to-do list the war on boredom is the introspection killer rephrasing dabbler -> multipotentialite the culture of achievement The One True Calling Myth The Work by Byron Katie retraining “If you’re not going to devote yourself...2016-03-1054 min

Wild Crazy Meaningful EnneagramWCME 038: Introduction to the Spiritual Dimension of Type Seven (Essential Work, Essential Plan, Essential Wisdom) With Sevens, we talk about how They love to anticipate wow. But the ultimate plan Is not something that can Be foreseen; it exists in the now. Enneagram Study Group: Pace and Kyeli dive into The Spiritual Dimension of the Enneagram, by Sandra Maitri. In this episode we introduce the Essential Ideas of Type Seven: Essential Work, Essential Plan, and Essential Wisdom. The Divine Animator WCML 087: “If you’re not going to devote yourself to it 24/7/365, why bother?” If you enjoyed this episode, would you be so kind as to lea...2016-03-0934 min

The Dervish and the MermaidWCML 086: If social media doesn’t light you up, ditch it! As an intentionality zealot, I have some big news and I’ll tell it. I like Facebook, but I’ve been stuck in a rut: I want it like a rat wants a pellet. There are 2 ways to live an interesting life: 1. Fill your life up with awesome things 2. Empty your life of things that drain you You need a balance of both. WCML 035.5: Authentic Connection vs. the Facebook “Like” button, with Schmutzie aka Elan Morgan Passion Planner TwitWipe You can find Kyeli on Instagram, and that’s i...2016-03-0343 min

Wild Crazy Meaningful EnneagramWCME 037: Introduction to the Spiritual Dimension of Type Eight (Essential Truth) There’s something you lost in your youth. Let’s search for its clues like a sleuth. If you’re a Type Eight, Your essence innate Is remembering Essential Truth. Enneagram Study Group: Pace and Kyeli dive into The Spiritual Dimension of the Enneagram, by Sandra Maitri. In this episode we introduce the Essential Idea of Type 8: Essential Truth. “From one angle, we are animals with highly developed brains, and from another, we are windows on the universe. Both are true.” -Sandra Maitri If you enjoyed this episode, would you be so...2016-03-0218 min

The Dervish and the MermaidWCML 085: Choosing self-love over weight loss Losing weight is a painful offender; It can drain you regardless of gender. It isn’t sustainable; It’s nigh unattainable, So let’s choose self-love, and surrender. Kyeli’s body epiphany “11 Reasons Your ‘Concern’ for Fat People’s Health Isn’t Helping Anyone” or as Kyeli says, “N reasons concern trolls need to shut their fucking faces” Tess Holliday Fat!So? by Marilyn Wann The Body Sacred by Dianne Sylvan Lessons from the Fat-O-Sphere Thanks for listening to Wild Crazy Meaningful Life! If you enjoyed this episode, please review us on iTunes and send your f...2016-02-2538 min

Wild Crazy Meaningful EnneagramWCME 036: Introduction to the Spiritual Dimension of Type Nine (Essential Love) When young, Nines detached from reality, Hiding behind their neutrality. Their ears stuffed with cotton, The truth they’ve forgotten Is that Love is true universality. Enneagram Study Group: Pace and Kyeli dive into The Spiritual Dimension of the Enneagram, by Sandra Maitri. In this episode we introduce the Essential Idea of Type 9: Essential Love. “If your compassion does not include yourself, it is incomplete.” -Jack Kornfield If you enjoyed this episode, would you be so kind as to leave us a review? You can find us by going to the...2016-02-2437 min

The Dervish and the MermaidWCML 084: Day Made: The Daymaker Saga, with Alex Franzen When you make someone’s day, you can change their life and change the world. Alex Franzen’s a writer with attitude. Her kindness outweighs her exactitude. She’s got fantastic fashion sense And butt-tons of passion, since She keeps her heart grounded in gratitude. The story of Daymaker David Wagner Life As a Daymaker a Sufi story about the ant in the cement Kyeli’s mysterious friend fester’s quest turning toward each other rooibos The Five Love Languages Prometheus Rising quarter experiment Holy Cow by David Duchovny You can fi...2016-02-1849 min

Wild Crazy Meaningful EnneagramWCME 035: Introduction to the Spiritual Dimension of Type One (Essential Perfection) When you look at the world for inspection There’s plenty to flag for objection. But zoom out your sight To a deep view of right, And you’ll find Essential Perfection. Enneagram Study Group: Pace and Kyeli dive into The Spiritual Dimension of the Enneagram, by Sandra Maitri. In this episode we introduce the Essential Ideas of Type One: Essential Perfection “Look past the nuts into the hot fudge.” – Pace Smith Sayong Loses Horse When there’s something you can’t stand about yourself and you keep trying to change, but fa...2016-02-1727 min

Wild Crazy Meaningful EnneagramWCME 034: Introduction to the Spiritual Dimension of Type Two (Essential Will, Essential Freedom) “This isn’t what I wish to be; I make my own choice based on me.” You’ll hold back until You give up free will, And so doing, you become free. Enneagram Study Group: Pace and Kyeli dive into The Spiritual Dimension of the Enneagram, by Sandra Maitri. In this episode we introduce the Essential Ideas of Type Two: Essential Will and Essential Freedom. “When I’m at my best, God has Her hand up my ass.” – Pace Smith Oboeists dissing bassoon players Elizabeth Gilbert: Your elusive creative genius If you enjoyed...2016-02-1047 min

The Dervish and the MermaidWCML 081: Playing the SuperConditions game, with Dyana Valentine To help you achieve your ambitions, Make use of your predispositions. To be at your best, Let’s go on a quest To discover your SuperConditions! ringtones What is a SuperCondition? strategic sacrifice excavating truth the conscious structure of my best life organized for chaos The 5 pieces of the SuperConditions model what Kyeli learned that will help her achieve her writing goals WCML 009: Superconditions for greatness I’m Not Sorry Your Problem is not the Problem You can find Dyana and her SuperConditions game at DyanaValentine.com. Than...2016-01-2857 min

The Dervish and the MermaidWCML 077: Pace and Kyeli’s words of the year for 2016 Pace’s previous words of the year: acceptance, annihilation, surrender, pantry Kyeli’s previous words of the year: courageous, open, mermaid How “pantry” contributed to 2015 sucking Pace’s word of the year for 2016 Kyeli’s word of the year for 2016 Links: WCML 039: Pace and Kyeli’s words of the year for 2015 our low point of 2015 hard mode Thanks for listening to Wild Crazy Meaningful Life! If you enjoyed this episode, please review us on iTunes and send your friends to WildCrazyMeaningfulLife.com. That’s also where you can download my free eBook, Find Your Path Now. I...2015-12-3128 min

The Dervish and the MermaidWCML 076: Hang out and chill with Pace and Kyeli Hang out and chill with Pace and Kyeli. No agenda, just chatting about what’s new and a few things you didn’t know about us. Thanks for listening to Wild Crazy Meaningful Life! If you enjoyed this episode, please review us on iTunes and send your friends to WildCrazyMeaningfulLife.com. That’s also where you can download my free eBook, Find Your Path Now. It’ll help you stop living on autopilot and start living the wild, crazy, meaningful life you were meant to live! 2015-12-2446 min

Wild Crazy Meaningful EnneagramWCME 025: A conversation with Kyeli, a Four (The Artist)We talk with our very own Kyeli about her experience of being a Four. Thank you, Kyeli, for sharing what it’s like to be you! If you enjoyed this episode, would you be so kind as to leave us a review? You can find us by going to the Podcast page in iTunes and searching for “wild crazy meaningful enneagram”. Thanks! Your review helps more people discover the awesomeness of the Enneagram. And if you’d like to discover how the Enneagram could help YOU, sign up for an Enneagram Explorat...2015-12-0958 min

The Dervish and the MermaidWCML 073: The future of gender What the heck is gender anyway, and what is it going to be fifty years from now? What is gender? intersex Gender identity vs. gender presentation vs. gender role “I identify as Captain America on weekends.” What comes after feminism? “A lesbian is a woman who’s attracted to women and is old.” “What gender is your lawn, Kyeli?” “Ladies and gentlemen” App Camp for Girls “Pants and skirts for all! And kilts! Because kilts have pockets.” Links: The Superior Worf Hypothesis Wild Crazy Meaningful Day Job Thanks for listening to Wild Crazy Meaningful Life! If you enjoyed t...2015-12-0358 min

Wild Crazy Meaningful EnneagramWCME 024: Introduction to the Spiritual Dimension of Type Five (Essential Transparency, Essential Omniscience) Enneagram Study Group: Pace and Kyeli dive into The Spiritual Dimension of the Enneagram, by Sandra Maitri. In this episode we introduce the Essential Ideas of Type Five: Essential Transparency and Essential Omniscience. Ego-Stinginess Essential Transparency, Essential Omniscience The Man Who Mistook His Wife for a Hat, by Oliver Sacks “soul-skin” The CIA psychic division the meaning of life After explaining the meaning of life, we can finally explain what the limerick means If you enjoyed this episode, would you be so kind as to leave us a review? You can find us by going to the...2015-12-0239 min

The Dervish and the MermaidWCML 072: Facing down your fear Kyeli faced down her fear twice recently. Why is it awesome to face your fear… and how did she do it? The Visit, by M. Night (spoiler-free) our Creep Agreement What would you tell your 13-year-old self, Kyeli? scared vs. terrified Kyeli faces her fear of the basement Why is it awesome to face down your fear? Face your animal fear on an animal level Kyeli faces her fear of the farmhouse the woman with the calcified amygdala impatience as a force for personal growth “Why are all these dogs in my showroom?” -Pace How did you do...2015-11-2638 min

The Dervish and the MermaidWCML 071: Wild Crazy Meaningful Wives Today is Pace and Kyeli’s 10th anniversary! This is the story of how we met, dated, and got married. LiveJournal and the bi poly kinky pagan gamer geeks “Your life really sucks.” the application process polyamory and the triad our sex life Witchcamp and being a 13-year-old girl our son Dru the pollipop The Usual Error the triad divorce The Mango Juice Incident Thanks for listening to Wild Crazy Meaningful Life! If you enjoyed this episode, please review us on iTunes and send your friends to WildCrazyMeaningfulLife.com. That’s also where you can...2015-11-1943 min

Wild Crazy Meaningful EnneagramWCME 021: Introduction to the Spiritual Dimension of Type 6 Enneagram Study Group: Pace and Kyeli dive into The Spiritual Dimension of the Enneagram, by Sandra Maitri. In this episode we introduce the Essential Ideas of Type Six: Essential Strength and Essential Faith. Even if you’re not a Six and don’t care about learning the spiritual dimension of Type Six, listen to the first 20 minutes anyway because we talk about Essence in general and what this whole “spiritual” thing means anyway. What is Essence? What is this whole “spiritual” dimension anyway? We say “Essential Idea” instead of “Holy Idea” to avoid the religious baggage of the word...2015-11-1141 min

The Dervish and the MermaidWCML 068: Wild Crazy Meaningful Death, with Caitlin Doughty Caitlin Doughty, author of Smoke Gets In Your Eyes (And Other Stories From the Crematorium) and founder of the Order of the Good Death, talks about bringing death back into our lives. How did our culture get dissociated from death? How can we get reacquainted with death, and why is that important? How did you find your unique calling? What motivates you to keep going when things get tough? Do you get tired of skulls? I assume people send you skulls and the like; does it get old? How do you know a death option is legit...2015-10-2949 min

Wild Crazy Meaningful EnneagramWCME 019: Spiral Dynamics and the Enneagram, with Deborah Ooten Spiral Dynamics puts the Enneagram into context: the context of your culture and your consciousness. If you have trouble seeing yourself in the usual descriptions of the nine Enneagram types, maybe it’s because you’re not looking at the right color of the spiral… What is Spiral Dynamics? Spiral Dynamics can help you see yourself in the Enneagram How Spiral Dynamics can help you understand other people and other cultures Spiral Dynamics explains why you feel like you’re crazy (or like everyone around you is crazy) “I really like beef, and I don’t really like polar b...2015-10-2855 min

The Dervish and the MermaidWCML 066: Big Magic, by Elizabeth Gilbert Kyeli recently read the book Big Magic, by Elizabeth Gilbert. It’s the best book on creativity she’s ever read, and here are some of our takeaways: Creativity comes from outside you, not within “Nothing precious, all things sacred.” -Alanis Morissette Being the river vs. pushing the river The E-Myth “Do what you love” vs. “Do what you love for a living” The trope of the suffering artist Buzzed Bunny (warning: far more offensive than the usual offensive shit we link to) “I choose joy over grit.” You can purchase Big Magic on Amazon or anyplace you like be...2015-10-1539 min

The Dervish and the MermaidWCML 065: How to have awkward conversations about race without being afraid of fucking up, with Ericka Hines Kyeli asks, “How can I, as a sensitive white person, have conversations about race without being afraid of fucking up?” Ericka Hines, a professional at this sort of thing, answers. “Be humble, and be prepared to fumble.” -Ericka Hines Ericka and Pace have an actual awkward conversation about race intent vs. impact Being color-blind: “I don’t see color, I only see humans” What is privilege, and how do you know if you have it? Kyeli’s story of the KKK license plate Pace’s story of “Why are all my clients white?” be sensitive but not tentative ...2015-10-0858 min

The Dervish and the MermaidWCML 062: Wild Crazy Meaningful Road Trip, Week 3 What we’ve learned from having arguments with reality, experiencing spiritual art, and living in someone else’s home for a week. Kyeli’s hip injury and accepting your limitations “Having an argument with reality” Kyeli’s adventure at the Renaissance Faire The pieces that most moved us at The Detroit Institute of Art Don’t underestimate the importance of the little things in your home environment and your routine What are you optimizing for? Thanks for listening to Wild Crazy Meaningful Life! If you enjoyed this episode, please review us on iTunes and send your...2015-09-1741 min

Wild Crazy Meaningful EnneagramWCME 013: How to use other personality typing systems to get leverage on your Enneagram type, with Kelly Crowther MBTI (Myers-Briggs) and Carl Jung’s cognitive functions Who’s in the driver’s seat, who’s in the passenger seat, and who are those 3 and 10 year olds in the back seat? Myers-Briggs + Enneagram predicts that Pace struggles with filling out forms and Kyeli struggles with systems How astrology relates to the Enneagram “If it’s not resonating, let’s retype you” A brief overview of the 8 cognitive functions “The Enneagram is about how we feel, the cognitive functions are about how we think, and astrology is about what we’ve come to do.” -Kelly Crowther And here are all the resou...2015-09-1656 min

The Dervish and the MermaidWCML 061: Wild Crazy Meaningful Road Trip, Week 2 Our adventures from Yellowstone to Milwaukee! “I don’t want to be a spectator; I want to be a witness.” -Kyeli “There is room in our hearts for both sorrow and joy.” -Pace Smuggling our cat into the mall Honey Boo Boo Crack Hotel “Everything is either awesome, or is going to make an awesome story.” -Pace Thanks for listening to Wild Crazy Meaningful Life! If you enjoyed this episode, please review us on iTunes and send your friends to WildCrazyMeaningfulLife.com. That’s also where you can download my free eBook, Find Your Path Now. It’ll...2015-09-1053 min

The Dervish and the MermaidWCML 060: Wild Crazy Meaningful Road Trip, Week 1 Our travelogue from Week 1 of our #wildcrazymeaningfulbeacon road trip! Blue Mountain Scenic Byway Great Purge 3.0 The Duck of the HMS Skywhale “When things are good, look for ways to make them awesome!” -Pace Smith Our Lady of the Rockies Snowdrift fences Lure Me Inn and Kick Me Out Testicle Festival Always drive as if everything you own is in the car Links: WCML NEWS FLASH Tetrapod by Bignic Kyeli on Instagram Pace on Instagram Thanks for listening to Wild Crazy Meaningful Life! If you enjoyed this episode, please review us on iTunes and send your...2015-09-0344 min

The Dervish and the MermaidWCML 058: Technically accessible but not really A glimpse into Kyeli’s life: what it’s like to be disabled. Presented in the spirit of fostering understanding and compassion. the usual error What it’s like for Kyeli to go to a restaurant that claims to be accessible but isn’t really What it’s like for Kyeli to go to a movie theater with wheelchair seating What it’s like for Kyeli to wait in a waiting room My picture of Kyeli making the ridiculous sink gesture came out unusably blurry, sorry. How to be a good ally: Be flexible, because what’s an inconveni...2015-08-2058 min

Wild Crazy Meaningful EnneagramWCME 009: Empowered living, with Nancy Markow Nancy Markow will teach you the “four friends” technique for self-empowerment! BVD (Blame, Victim, Defense) Your “four friends”: 2 arms (wings), 2 legs (stress and security points). Your four friends are the four types you are connected to on the Enneagram figure. Your two arms are your neighbors on the circle, and your two legs are the types you’re connected to via the inner lines. walking the “type rope” we go around the circle from 1 to 9, embodying the awesomeness of each type Pace on the spot: working the four friends technique with an actual example How to remember to use this te...2015-08-1956 min

The Dervish and the MermaidWCML 056: The cycle of guidance What is guidance and how can you access it? Guidance isn’t specific to any religion or spiritual path. the worst metaphor ever Kyeli and Pace laugh for 90 seconds Phase 1 of the cycle: Our spiritual road trip honeymoon Phase 2 of the cycle: Where to move (take 1) Phase 3 of the cycle: Where to move (take 2) “Guidance is a gift, not a GPS.” -Pace Smith “Trust your intuition, even if it’s wrong.” -Kyeli Internalizing guidance Thanks for listening to Wild Crazy Meaningful Life! If you enjoyed this episode, please review us on iTunes and send your friends to WildCrazyMea...2015-08-0657 min

The Dervish and the MermaidWCML 055: The unbearable fakeness of meaning Pathfinding is all about living a meaningful life. But is it possible to think you’re living a meaningful life, and be wrong? Is meaning entirely in the eye of the beholder, or is there a difference between true meaning and fake meaning? And if so, how can you tell the difference? Pace and Kyeli disagree! Why it’s important to distinguish true meaning from fake meaning Is meaning created or discovered? -lessnesslessness In “The Matrix”, was Neo right to wake others up without their consent? The brain says: “Pattern = Meaning” Conspiracy theory: Xenu, Freemasons, The Trilateral C...2015-07-3055 min

The Dervish and the MermaidWCML 052: Standing strong in the face of opposition, with Lisa Robbin Young It’s hard to give up “success” by everyone else’s standards to choose success by your own standards. Here’s how Lisa did it. Highlights: The story of how Lisa almost died “God is in me, as me.” -Eat, Pray, Love Is a near-death experience a requirement for transformation? how to know if the hard you’re struggling with is your hard or someone else’s hard new level, new devil “Do I fight for love, or do I let fear win?” -Lisa Robbin Young Kyeli’s story of standing strong in the face of oppositio...2015-07-0956 min

The Dervish and the MermaidWCML NEWS FLASH: True Confessions: What’s REALLY been going on for the past few months Highlights (or lowlights, as the case may be): Things have been hard. Here’s what’s been going on. “Don’t pity me!” The Wreck of the HMS Skywhale The Noodle Incident Why it’s hard to talk about it Depression lies The moment Kyeli began to turn things around The moment Pace began to turn things around THE GRAND REVEAL What we mean when we say “trial run” A nice surprise for you! Links: Danielle Cornelius To subscribe or listen to past episodes of Wild Crazy Meaningful Life, visit WildCrazyMeaningful.com. 2015-06-251h 08

The Dervish and the MermaidWCML 051: Love Like You Don’t Share a Bathroom with Patty Newbold Highlights: Assume Love Miller’s Law Pace, why do you put your empty coffee cup next to the sink? Kyeli, how could you have bought me the shampoo that I asked you to get for me? Patty got stuck in the bathtub You can assume love and still take care of your own protection. look for the third alternative Compromise = “I’m willing to take some pain as long as the person I love the most gets the same amount of pain.” “Expect to be loved, and expect that all the ways you thought you would...2015-06-1849 min

The Dervish and the MermaidWCML 048: Your insurance claim adjustor is not your friend When getting an insurance settlement Some secrets and methods are prevalent. So here’s what you need to know to proceed with your insurance claim – (That’s irrelevant!) Highlights: how this is related to living a wild crazy meaningful life the story of Kyeli’s claim the script that insurance adjustors follow false friendship verbal bullying “That’s irrelevant!” Who’s to blame? The adjustor or the system that encourages the adjustor? The CEO or the laws that encourage the CEO to care only about profits? What to do when politeness is us...2015-05-2148 min

The Dervish and the MermaidWCML 049: Wild Crazy Meaningful Friendships, with Kylie Bellard Let’s talk about friends old and new: Which to ditch, which to pursue. Today’s special guest Has oft effervesced; We have not one Kylie, but two! Highlights: friendship shame/taboos “A good friendship is important enough to risk awkwardness.” -Pace Smith The Ratchet Effect: “You can deepen, but not shallowen” deconflating friendship internet friends vs. in-person friends Pace’s takeaway: the usual error in regards to the word “friend” Kyeli’s takeaway: know what your friendship style is and communicate that with your friends Kylie’s takeaway: break social norms in your f...2015-04-2357 min

The Dervish and the MermaidWCML 046: Losing your way with Gemma Stone It’s easy to doubt and bemoan When crashing into the unknown. But sometimes the wreck Is part of the trek, Says the lovely and wise Gemma Stone. Being off path is part of the path. Highlights: Gemma’s 25th birthday epiphany clean fear, messy fear, and pathfear losing your way loving being off path Pace losing her way: playing video games Gemma losing her way: chocolate and orgasms Kyeli losing her way: miscarriage and getting hit by a car “There’s purpose in pain; there are lessons in the m...2015-04-0957 min

The Dervish and the MermaidWCML 042: Life, the universe, and everything The meaning of life? Here’s a clue: What’s true depends on your worldview. Despite such deep thought, We simply cannot Know the answer… and it’s 42. In this episode, we talk about the meaning of life, the true nature of the universe, and freakishly delicious croissant-doughnut hybrids. Highlights: Douglas Adams and 42 your mom the Ottoman Empire the meaning of life questions vs. answers how to tell true meaning from fake meaning (e.g. conspiracy theory, cults) the ethics of selling meaning the true nature of the universe...2015-02-1244 min

The Dervish and the MermaidWCML 039: Pace and Kyeli’s words of the year for 2015 2015 is nigh here, With oodles of options unclear. We’ve always preferred To choose just one word To set our intent for the year. Highlights: Kyeli’s previous words of the year: courageous, open Pace’s previous words of the year: acceptance, annihilation, surrender Choose what you’ve been given Core Desired Feelings Kyeli’s word of the year for 2015 Pace’s word of the year for 2015 Links: Soul Mantras by Liz Lamoreux the poopsplosion story To subscribe or listen to past episodes of Wild Crazy Meaningful Life, visit...2014-12-1839 min

The Dervish and the MermaidWCML 037: Connection abuse It’s awesome to show your affection To customers, with one objection That I must stipulate: Do not manipulate; Do not abuse your connection. Connection can be super helpful for your business – it can help build your reputation by word of mouth and great reviews. But if you abuse that connection with your customers, it can turn sour for both the business owner and the customer. Highlights: How healthy connection can help your business What is connection abuse and how can you recognize it? A near-the-line case of conn...2014-10-0948 min

The Dervish and the MermaidWCML 035.5: Authentic Connection vs. the Facebook “Like” button, with Schmutzie aka Elan Morgan For two weeks, a self-imposed strike From clicking the button marked “Like.” Now Schmutzie’s agreed To speak of her feed And chat with a queer and a dyke. Schmutzie has been experimenting with not clicking the “Like” button on Facebook, and inspired by her, Kyeli and I have too. Here’s what we’ve noticed about our Facebook feeds, our connections, our illusions of connections, and vulnerability. And Instagram, because why not. Highlights: Schmutzie’s “don’t click Like” experiment How it affected her feed How it affected her co...2014-09-041h 02

The Dervish and the MermaidWCML 032: The Epic Struggle of Good vs. Lazy Good vs. evil is hazy. The true struggle’s good vs. lazy. So cut yourself slack If you’re feeling the lack Of meaningful, wild, and crazy. Have you ever been hard on yourself for being “too lazy?” You’re not giving yourself enough credit – the epic struggle of our time is not good vs. evil, it’s good vs. lazy. Highlights: Good vs. evil Good vs. lazy The surprising antidote to laziness Kyeli’s epic struggle with laziness Be lazy like a cat! Your inner Puritan Links: The...2014-06-1944 min

The Dervish and the MermaidWCML 030: The Reverse Haggle For this one, we did not rehearse. We two will, unfiltered, converse. We’re going to fight And haggle – not quite: Like haggling, but in reverse. Pace and Kyeli discuss the fate of the Wild Crazy Meaningful Life podcast – live! We put all our communication skills to the test, especially the Reverse Haggle, where each person negotiates for the “opposing” person’s needs. It’s a very powerful negotiation technique when used with someone you trust. Highlights: Don’t lead with a fait accompli Win-win or no deal The Reverse Hagg...2014-04-2451 min

Wild Crazy Meaningful LifeWCML 030: The Reverse HaggleFor this one, we did not rehearse. We two will, unfiltered, converse. We’re going to fight And haggle – not quite: Like haggling, but in reverse. Pace and Kyeli discuss the fate of the Wild Crazy Meaningful Life podcast –2014-04-2451 min

The Dervish and the MermaidWCML 025: The Superior Worf Hypothesis Prepare for a deep exploration Of partnership and conversation, Surrender and tears, Attraction and fears: What we did on our spiritual staycation. Part 2 of what we learned on our spiritual staycation: “my life”, E-Prime, the Sapir-Whorf hypothesis, spiritual partnership, and our biggest takeaway from our spiritual staycation. (Hint: It has to do with Seafarers of Catan.) Links: A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle Spiritual Partnership by Gary Zukav The Usual Error by Pace and Kyeli Captain Picard sings “Let It Snow” To subscribe or listen to past episodes...2013-12-1850 min

The Dervish and the MermaidWCML 023: The ups and downs of spiritual energy Pace tends toward low-energy spirituality, like meditation. Kyeli tends toward high-energy spirituality, like singing, dancing, and raising energy. This is a conversation about what we can each learn from each other. Highlights: The 21-day Remembrance Challenge WCML 022 – The Instinctual Variants of the Enneagram, with Aine Ni Cheallaigh and Kelly Kingman The origin of lawns Schlitterbahn Are you a comfort addict? WCML 012 – Spiritual awakening To subscribe or listen to past episodes of Wild Crazy Meaningful Life, visit WildCrazyMeaningful.com. 2013-12-0441 min

The Dervish and the MermaidWCML 022: The Instinctual Variants of the Enneagram, with Aine Ni Cheallaigh and Kelly Kingman Our guests today: Aine and Kelly. As clever as Machiavelli. But minus the treason. And that’s just one reason They’re famous from here to New Delhi. Aine Ni Cheallaigh teaches us about the instinctual variants of the Enneagram, and we figure out Kelly, Kyeli, and Pace’s instinctual stacks. Highlights: The 3 instinctual variants: Self-Preservation, Sexual, and Social we are animals “Your personality sits on top of your instincts” the goal is balance the instincts at higher levels “Putting yourself in the way of good” Links: The Wisdom...2013-11-201h 01

The Dervish and the MermaidWCML 021: Gifting and the power of saying no Ah, gifts. So many expectations, so much potential for disappointment and hurt feelings. We’ve got some radical ideas about gifting, and we disagree with each other. Be sure to listen to this one before the holidays! Highlights: Kyeli’s gift story Pace’s gift story the usual error compromising between different love languages Kyeli and Pace roleplaying an example of saying no to an unwanted gift the pantry permission to disappoint each other To subscribe or listen to past episodes of Wild Crazy Meaningful Life, visit WildCrazyMeaningful.com. 2013-11-1349 min

The Dervish and the MermaidWCML 017: Take no harm. Do no shit. Act with love. Lately there’s been a saying going around “Do no harm. Take no shit.” It’s an add-on to the Wiccan Rede “An ye harm none, do what ye will” to emphasize the importance of not letting others harm you. But Kyeli wants to take it one step further… Highlights: The Wiccan Rede, the Thelemic Rede, and the “Kyeli Rede” The Kyeli Rede: Take no harm. Do no shit. Love and power Ignore all moral codes and make up your own. What could possibly go wrong? How this relates to last week’s podcast on magick...2013-09-1839 min

The Dervish and the MermaidWCML 016: Magick and science Magick vs. science… FIGHT! Actually, let’s not fight. Can’t we all get along? Maybe we can, if we distinguish between two meanings of the word “science”. There’s science as a way of learning about the world (the scientific method), and then there’s science as a belief that the scientific method is the only way to learn about the world (measurementism). Highlights: wrap density avoision 4 reasons why we’re afraid to publish this podcast measurementism dogma and paradigm Pace’s story of her paradigm shift Pace breaks science against 1 to 1,048,576 odds Watch out, or your...2013-09-1147 min

The Dervish and the MermaidWCML 015: Pace and Kyeli’s business breakup Pace and Kyeli tell the behind-the-scenes tale of what led up to their recent business breakup. Highlights: Pace addresses the Shocking Subject Line Debacle The Spoon Theory The Parable of the French Fries don’t settle for mediocrity! To subscribe or listen to past episodes of Wild Crazy Meaningful Life, visit WildCrazyMeaningful.com. 2013-09-0444 min

The Dervish and the MermaidWCML 014: Coming out as yourselfWith Tara Swiger: When you present yourself online, how much do you share about your family, your partner, yourself? If you undershare, people might not really see you. If you overshare, you may distract people, or worse, “vulnerability vomit” all over them. Either way, people are going to make assumptions, and how are those assumptions going to affect you? How much can you reveal and still feel safe? How little can you reveal and still be authentic? It’s basically a process of coming out… as yourself. Highlights: being a feminist vegan Christian “vulnerability vomit” “Wh...2013-08-281h 04

The Dervish and the MermaidWCML 013: Criticism in relationships In this podcast we answer a question from “T” about handling criticism in her relationship: I know you’re clearly very good at communication in relationships and I have a question. I’ve been with my partner for 5 and a half years. We’re in our mid-twenties and we’re both women. For years, I’ve felt she criticizes me – mostly when it comes to chores and things like that. I can handle a little, but eventually I started to constantly feel anxiety about what “I’d do wrong” next. At the beginning of our relationship, I...2013-08-2143 min

The Dervish and the MermaidWCML 011: Fat and Fabulous! With Vivienne McMaster: All three of us are fat and fabulous. We love ourselves just the way we are, and on this podcast we talk about different paths to self-love, regardless of the shape of your body. We’ve each read a lot of books on size acceptance and we have a lot to say about them – and on self-acceptance in general. Highlights: You are worthy of love Pace’s story of body acceptance OMG queer boxing Pace reads an excerpt from her upcoming book (Can you tell Pace is the one taking...2013-08-071h 01

The Dervish and the MermaidWCML 010: The Enneagram With Aine Ni Cheallaigh: An overview of the Enneagram, our favorite personality typing system and so much more. We go through each of the nine types, their strengths and weaknesses, and some ways you can use the Enneagram to know yourself better, to better understand those around you, and to grow. The 9 types: 1: The Reformer (example: Mark Silver) 2: The Helper (example: Julica Hermann) 3: The Achiever (example: Pace) 4: The Individualist (example: Kyeli) 5: The Investigator (example: our son) 6: The Loyalist (example: our godson) 7: The Enthusiast (example: Kelly Kingman) 8: The Challenger (example: Dyana Valentine) 9: The...2013-07-3157 min

The Dervish and the MermaidWCML 009: Superconditions for greatness With Dyana Valentine: Dyana dreams for a living; she’s a professional oracle. We dig into how that works, and then we explore superconditions. What are your superconditions for greatness? What are the pillars of your “why” that allow you to do your best work – or distract you with shininess? Highlights: “Permission to see you” as a prerequisite for working with you An oracle, but not a slave: Dyana’s Mutual Satisfaction Agreement Superconditions for greatness Dyana helps Pace find one of her superconditions – live! (spoiler: it’s “excavating truth”) Kyeli’s story of mistaking her w...2013-07-2451 min

The Dervish and the MermaidWCML 008: Do what you love the most With Johnny B. Truant: Remove all the obstacles in the way of doing the thing you love the most. Set up the infrastructure to allow you to do ONLY THAT. Outsource the parts you don’ t love the most, or collaborate with others who have complementary strengths. Johnny tells his story of how he’s gotten to the point where he now writes 40,000 words per week, and loves it. His collaborators write the story architecture and do the editing, so he gets to focus on exactly what he loves the most: writing a rough draf...2013-07-171h 04

The Dervish and the MermaidWCML 007 – Living a Post-Perfectionist Life With Julica Hermann: Where does perfectionism come from, why does it suck so much, and how can we heal from it? How is perfectionism related to shame, vulnerability, and control? Kyeli, in a courageous example of vulnerability, talks about her punctuation perfectionism and her dictation difficulties: feeling ashamed of being disabled and not wanting anyone to know how bad it really is. Highlights: Pace’s perfectionism origin story perfectionism ends when it’s (1) too much, or (2) too empty original sin the body compass, and how to tell whether you’re getting guidance from y...2013-07-1049 min

The Dervish and the MermaidWCML 006 – Fun, fulfilling, aligned The 3 levels of awesomeness: fun (body/mind), fulfilling (heart), and aligned (soul). You can have fun without it being fulfilling, and you can have fulfillment without being aligned, but once you’re aligned, it all clicks into place. Highlights: What “insephinous” means and how you can avoid it Pace’s “calling” to work in artificial intelligence – was it a true calling? Kyeli has a live epiphany about the triple soul Pace takes 2 bold stances: anti-killing and pro-heart Feeling worthy of love for who you are, not for what you do “We spend the fir...2013-07-0323 min

The Dervish and the MermaidWCML 004 – Living in an Instagrammed world With Liz Lamoreux: What’s the truth behind the glimpses you see into our lives on Instagram, on Facebook, on our blogs? What are our responsibilities as content consumers? What are our responsibilities as content creators – to avoid stepping on our readers’ toes? To be authentic? – and what does that even mean? We don’t have a lot of answers, but please join us in the conversation! Highlights: Pace drags the karaoke machine out of the creepy stairway to nowhere so Kyeli can sing “Instagram Girl” to the tune of Madonna’s “Mat...2013-06-191h 00

The Dervish and the MermaidWCML 003 – Live a meaningful life! We help spiritual world-changers live wild crazy meaningful lives. Our first 3 episodes will be about each of these: wild, crazy, and meaningful. This time: Meaningful. Living a meaningful life means following your heart’s calling. Living a meaningful life means choosing your own meaning, not living by anyone else’s. Living a meaningful life means saying goodbye to those pangs of self-doubt and ennui, those disturbing moments of “What the hell am I doing with my life?” Living a meaningful life means feeling fulfilled every day, knowing deep down in your bones that you...2013-06-1355 min

The Dervish and the MermaidWCML 002 – Live a crazy life! We help spiritual world-changers live wild crazy meaningful lives. Our first 3 episodes will be about each of these: wild, crazy, and meaningful. This time: Crazy. Living a crazy life is what it may look like from the outside when you live a wild life, because you’re no longer acting in a way that makes everyone around you feel comfortable. But on the inside, it doesn’t feel crazy at all – it feels peaceful, adventurous, creative, free. It’s not really about “crazy” at all – it’s about the usual error. It’s about compa...2013-06-0541 min