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Lessons in Resilience5 tips for tackling end of term overwhelmFeeling the overwhelm as the end of term approaches?
You're not alone.
It’s the same feeling I get at the end of the working day,
in the run-up to the weekend and especially as we near the end of term.
Juggling work, family, and everything else doesn’t just feel like a lot. It IS a lot.
But fear not: in this last episode of series 3 you’ll find 5 tips to help tackle that overwhelm.
Hope you find them...2024-03-2604 minLessons in ResilienceA love letter to my friendsInspired by a weekend with my uni mates, this episode is all about friendship.
What we spend our time doing and talking about may have changed (a bit), but after 28 years of knowing each other, what I love most about our time together is how it makes me feel (well, that…and the inevitable retelling of our funniest stories).
It’s no wonder that connection is a key component of resilience.
So get listening to find out more about the power of friendship and connection, and how to get...2024-03-1804 minLessons in ResilienceTake back controlIn this episode, I'm talking about a topic that often arises in client sessions (and my own life) - control.
From feeling powerless, and overwhelmed by others' opinions, to trying (and failing) to keep on top of EVERYTHING, it's often a struggle to find the middle ground.
But there is one. And in this episode I'll help you find it, by inviting you to think about what's within your control, and how to let go of the rest.
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2024-03-1104 minLessons in ResilienceGriefThis is the episode I've wanted to make since starting the podcast - and it's the one I've put off recording more than any other.
Because it's the most personal - you can hear it in my voice.
But I hope that sharing the lessons I've learned about grief over the past 20 years will offer some comfort to others - and remind them they're not alone.
Episode resources:
Cruse – bereavement charity – https://www.cruse.org.uk
Cou...2024-03-0409 minLessons in ResilienceHow do I help my child to be more resilient?Ever wondered how to build resilience in your kids? You're not alone.
None of us were taught this stuff in school and most of us are just trying to figure it out as we go along.
So in this episode of Lessons in Resilience, I'm thinking about some answers and sharing 4 tips to help you help your kids (and yourselves along the way).
The Instagram accounts I mention in this episode are:
@drbeckyatgoodinside @dr.siggie @theteencoach @powerthoughtsnc and @annamathur
Want m...2024-02-2605 minLessons in ResilienceMind the GapWelcome back to Series 3 of Lessons in Resilience! It's lovely to be back.
In this first episode of the new series, I'm talking about the power of the pause - and how to lengthen the gap between thinking or feeling, and responding.
Listen in to find out more about this one simple tool to build resilience, calm, and a sense of control.
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...2024-02-1906 minLessons in Resilience5 ways to ease the festive build-upIn this last episode of series 2, I’m ditching all the usual pre-Christmas questions about presents, holiday plans and finishing work.
What I really want to know is: how are you feeling?
If you're anything like me and most people I talk to, it's a combo of knackered, sluggish, ill (you/ your kids/ both), and fighting a strong urge to hunker down on the sofa with some Quality Street, preferably alone.
Turns out, there's a reason. According to a study (tune in
to find out more), it’s...2023-12-1105 minLessons in Resilience4 tips for coping with change, challenge and uncertaintyWhat do you have in your toolkit to help you manage difficult times?
This week’s episode is for anyone navigating change, challenge or uncertainty – and I’d say that’s a fair few of us. It can affect every part of our lives and in those moments, ‘bouncing back’ doesn’t often feel like something we’re capable of.
So how do we cope? How do we manage those tough times and find a way through them?
Listen here for 4 tips to help you deal with the difficult and f...2023-12-0405 minLessons in ResilienceVoice mattersIn this episode I’m getting loud about voice.
Why does voice matter? In the workplace, 90% of what gets you noticed is image and exposure, NOT performance (annoying, isn't it?). But our voice isn't just about talking or telling other what we're doing - it ensures we're sharing and hearing a range of perspectives. And that's as important in the workplace as it is in the classroom.
But here's the thing – not everyone feels confident using their voice. So creating a space where everyone feels heard isn't just an individual task...2023-11-2705 minLessons in Resilience5 ways to dial down perfectionismIn this episode, I'm talking about the pressure we put on ourselves to be perfect that leads to overthinking, overworking, panic, procrastination - and sometimes stops us from taking even the smallest step forward.
Instead, let's focus on a growth mindset - a chance to shift our thinking, practise the idea that the goal isn't perfection (it doesn't exist), and develop a mindset that embraces learning (even from mistakes), progress, and daring to try (even when things get tricky).
Listen in for 5 tips to dial down perfectionism:
Challenge...2023-11-2005 minLessons in ResilienceJust say noIn this episode, I’m talking about people pleasing, inspired by some
excellent advice from the kids from Grange Hill - children of the 80's, this'll take you back!
Saying no is hard - especially those of us who spend our days taking care of others and prioritising their needs. It might seem easier to say yes in the moment, but constantly putting others first can lead to frustration and losing touch with what really matters to us.
By daring to say no, we can start to prioritise ourselves an...2023-11-1304 minLessons in Resilience5 ways to take control of your careerAfter a couple of less than supportive experiences of coaching at work, it was working with a brilliant career coach after I left teaching that gave me the time, space and independent listening ear to think about what I wanted for the next stage of my
professional life - something I hadn’t thought about for a long time.
Now career coaching is one of the bits of my work that I love the most.
So in this episode, I’m talking about careers, and sharing 5 lessons to help you figure...2023-11-0605 minLessons in ResilienceDon't call me resilientIn this first episode of Series 2 I’m sharing words that might sound surprising from a resilience coach.
Listen in to find out why labels like resilient, strong and positive aren’t always helpful - and what we can say instead to ourselves and others we know who are feeling weighed down by them.
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ht...2023-10-3004 minLessons in Resilience5 tips for managing the summer holidaysWondering how the hell to juggle work, kids and your collective sanity and wellbeing over the next couple of months?
This one's for you.
In this last episode of the series, I'm sharing 5 summer holiday tips - something you can use as a one-off now to plan ahead now, or as a weekly check-in - to help you manage work, kids, and life over the next few weeks.
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Sign up for my weekly newsletter The Res...2023-06-2606 minLessons in Resilience5 ways to grow your own confidenceIn an ideal world, we’d all be surrounded by friends, family, colleagues and bosses who support and encourage us, valuing and appreciating us when we’re doing us a good job.
But that’s not always the case.
So this episode is all about how we can grow our own confidence, without relying on others to do it for us.
I’m sharing 5 ways to take back control, be kinder to yourself - and channel your inner Heather Small.
Want more tips for...2023-06-1906 minLessons in ResilienceWhat's the difference between belonging and fitting in?In this episode, I’m talking about the difference between belonging and fitting in – and why values are part of my Core 4 of resilience.
Listen for 5 ways to focus on what matters most to you.
Hope you find them useful.
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Head...2023-06-1205 minLessons in Resilience5 ways to deal with your inner criticIn this episode, I’m here to talk about your inner critic – the one who puts a downer on your plans, questions your ability and can leave you incapable of taking even the tiniest step forwards.
I’ll help you realise you’re not alone in having one (it’s one of the commonest topics in my 1:1 client sessions) and offer 5 ways to deal with your “Itty Bitty Sh*tty Committee”.
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...2023-06-0507 minLessons in Resilience5 reasons why we need to pauseIn this episode, I’m talking about the power of the pause – and why we need it.
I’m sharing 5 reasons why it’s vital we take time to rest, and offering suggestions for how to build in pauses (even when life is busy).
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Head to my website2023-05-2907 minLessons in ResilienceWho's on your bench?This episode is all about your bench – the people you choose to support you (and give you the occasional kick up the bum).
I’ll be encouraging you to think about the different people in your life – the radiators and drains, the role models and blockers –
and who you want to invite to join you on your bench.
If you’re in need of a coach on your bench, to give you time, space and support to focus on your needs, drop me a message (details below) and we can book in a free 30...2023-05-2205 minLessons in Resilience5 tips for when you're feeling overwhelmedIf you’re feeling overwhelmed – by work, family, life in general – this one’s for you.
In this episode I’m sharing 5 tips to help you manage those moments when it all feels
too much, move past stuckness, and show up in the world the way you want to
again.
Want more tips for building resilience?
Sign up for my weekly newsletter The Resilience Toolkit: http://eepurl.com/gmPlQz
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https://m.facebook.com/groups/ResilientWomenUK
Connect w...2023-05-1506 minLessons in ResilienceWelcome to Lessons in ResilienceWelcome to Lessons in Resilience, the podcast series that talks about what resilience really looks like.
I'm your host, resilience coach Pam Cottman, and each episode I'll be sharing tips and techniques to help you build a kinder, more realistic toolkit for coping with change, challenge, self-doubt, stress: all the inevitable ups and downs of life.
The first episode will be out in May so follow Lessons in Resilience to make sure you don’t miss it. 2023-04-2101 min
How DOES she do it?!My story so far, with Jo FerroneToday the tables are turned and Jo is a guest on her own podcast! In this unique episode, Resilience Coach Pam Cottman is the one asking the questions as Jo shares her story for the first time. Pam is an amazing guest host and Jo felt privileged to have this opportunity. Sharing her journey from corporate career to motherhood and how her own experiences helped shape How DOES she do it?! as it is today. The conversation includes: - Why her corporate career was cut abruptly short - How Jo overcame...2021-12-1046 minHow DOES she do it?!How are you really…?A mini-sode today made up of an open & transparent conversation between Jo and Pam Cottman. This originally formed the beginning of tomorrow’s episode (which in itself is ‘different’ as Pam steps in as guest host, interviewing Jo! You’re going to LOVE it!), but Jo felt this short conversation required a platform of its own, as she believes many women are feeling stretched and tired right now, but might assume they’re the only one. If that sounds like you, then listen on… Together we’re stronger – reach out and connect with a business frien...2021-12-0913 minHow DOES she do it?!Choosing The Path That Lights You Up, with Pam CottmanThis week’s guest is Pam Cottman, a resilience coach, trainer, speaker and a mum of two boys. Pam tells the story of how she rose to become a school assistant headteacher, with a specific focus upon the personal and professional development of young people, her colleagues and her teams through teaching, mentoring and coaching. A passionate believer in unlocking untapped potential, Pam set up her own business in 2018 and is now an ICF accredited coach supporting individuals, schools and organisations to reach their potential by building resilience. During our conversation, we touch upon; - He...2021-08-2051 min
Self(ish)Series 2 - Episode 3: Pam Cottman - Eat the Frog and Resilience.Today Aimee and Fi are talking to Pam Cottman, This week we are joined by the brilliant a resilience coach and trainer. Pam was just one of those guests that gets your brain ticking, with a million questions and a million thoughts. Both of us came away with a lot of things to think about...
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ReframeS1E8 Building Resilience with Pam CottmanHow to build resilience in ourselves and our children.Today we are talking to expert resilience coach Pam Cottman. Rose first met Pam through an Instagram event where she was delivering a workshop on building resilience and it was Pam’s warm, authentic, and a rather brilliant way of holding the room’s attention that made her workshop by far the best of the day.We can’t wait to share her work with you today. We underestimate the power of building our own resilience. In how we approach all sorts of areas of our lives...2020-09-1548 min
Reframe FoodS1E8 Building Resilience with Pam Cottman
How to build resilience in ourselves and our children.
Today we are talking to expert resilience coach Pam Cottman. Rose first met Pam through an Instagram event where she was delivering a workshop on building resilience and it was Pam’s warm, authentic, and a rather brilliant way of holding the room’s attention that made her workshop by far the best of the day.
We can’t wait to share her work with you today. We underestimate the power of building our own resilience. In how we approach all sorts of areas of our lives...2020-09-1548 min