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Building a Creative Life with Pam ValeStop Decorating Your Home And Start Designing For How You Want To Feel with Guest Talor StewartIf this way of noticing resonates, subscribing free or paid lets it arrive when it’s written.In this episode, I’m joined by architect and author Talor Stewart to talk about something we all live inside of but rarely stop to question: our homes. We explore how conscious home design shapes creativity, well-being, and relationships, and why small, intentional shifts in our environment can have a profound impact on how we feel and live.Talor shares insights from his book Conscious Home Design, along with practical, science-backed ways to create spac...
2026-02-171h 04
Relationship Dishep 136 / When Therapy Works: Trust, Accountability, and Showing Up for Each Other (with Dr. Rotem Regev)What does it look like when couples therapy actually works? In this special episode of Relationship Dish, Pam and Iona are joined by Dr. Rotem Regev, a certified Emotionally Focused Therapist, to share real stories of couples who did the work—and found their way back to trust, connection, and understanding. Together, they explore the deeper question underneath most relationship conflicts. Whether couples come in fighting about money, parenting, or in-laws, the core issue is almost always the same: Are you there for me? Can I trust you? Are you emotionally accessible when I need you?
2026-02-0458 min
Relationship Dishep 135 / Narcissism in Relationships: The Traits, the Patterns, and the Trap of "Passion""Narcissist" has become a buzzword—and that can get messy fast. In this episode of Relationship Dish, Pam and Iona aren't diagnosing anyone… but they are digging into narcissistic traits and how they show up in real relationships, from subtle emotional neglect to full-blown "nothing is ever my fault" dynamics. Iona shares from personal experience—and her graduate school research—about growing up in a covertly narcissistic family system, where self-absorption, emotional abuse, and unmet needs shaped the blueprint for love. Pam opens up about her first relationship with someone who was thin-skinned, validation-hungry, and unable to take res...
2026-01-2154 min
Relationship Dishep 134 / Relationship Pet Peeves: From Toothpaste Splatter to Taking ResponsibilityIs it the big stuff that wears down relationships or the tiny, everyday annoyances? In this fun, honest episode of Relationship Dish, Pam and Iona dish about relationship pet peeves, from minor irritations to major triggers—and even guess what their partners would say drives them crazy. Pam shares her frustrations "yes, but" responses, reckless driving, and the ever-controversial topic of lying (is a "white lie" ever okay?) Iona opens up about interruptions, feeling unseen at social events, being held to an impossible standard because she's a therapist, and why "ten minutes" rarely means ten minutes. ...
2026-01-0759 min
Podcast Editors MastermindIs A.I. Making Us Less Valuable? Hot Takes From 2025 and Podcast Editor PredictionsThere have been SIGNIFICANT changes in our industry this past year.A.I. is being added to everythingAcross-the-board price increases on the tools we useThe loss of Todd Cochrane and Niel Guillarte, plus the separation of some very influential people from the companies they helped buildOur panel of pros reflect on 2025, talk about how A.I. isn't making us undervalued, and we share predictions for Podcast Editors in 2026.Our conversation with Pam Cameron, Jay Yow, and Chad Parizman highlights the need for podcast producers to adapt - and embrace - changes while maintaining...
2025-12-3042 min
Relationship Dishep 133 / Emotional Maturity: How to Stop Losing Your Sh*t and Start Owning ItWhat does it really mean to be emotionally mature—and why is it so damn hard sometimes? In this episode of Relationship Dish, Pam and Iona dive deep into the difference between having big feelings and acting on them. They unpack how emotional maturity isn't something you automatically get with age; it's something you build through awareness, accountability, and a refusal to keep blaming others for your unhappiness. Iona admits her parents weren't exactly models of maturity, and shares a story about a couple she couldn't help in therapy because they kept reenacting their emotional immaturity right the...
2025-12-1759 min
Relationship Dishep 132 / The Push-Pull of Love: Why We Want Intimacy but Fear ItEver long for a deep, loving relationship—then find yourself backing away the moment it gets real? In this relatable episode of Relationship Dish, Pam and Iona unpack the quiet ambivalence that makes so many of us crave intimacy while unconsciously resisting it. Pam gets candid about her own fears of losing herself in love—how past experiences and a "one-red-flag rule" have kept her from getting too close. Iona shares the story of a client who says he wants a family but keeps choosing unavailable partners. Together, they explore how early wounds teach us to hi...
2025-12-0346 min
Relationship Dishep 131 / Gratitude and the Blocks to Joy: Learning to Trust the Good StuffGratitude sounds simple, but for many of us, it's complicated. In this deeply honest episode of Relationship Dish, Pam and Iona explore how early emotional wounds can make it hard to feel gratitude, joy, or even trust the good in our lives. Iona opens up about how her father's emotional unpredictability made her wary of happiness itself—how gratitude once felt unsafe, even dangerous. Over time, a daily gratitude and meditation practice helped her dismantle those defenses and finally let the light in. Pam shares how her own mother created similar barriers, and how she now finds gen...
2025-11-1951 min
Baby WordplayToddler Phonics: Getting to Know /s/WELCOME TO a new season from Miss Pam - TODDLER PHONICS!In this season Miss Pam uses rhythms and rhymes, games, songs, stories, movement and more to help you feel confident in supporting your toddler's reading path and build their strong oral language skills.I created Toddler Phonics to help your older toddler build the foundational skills that are essential for learning to read:sound discrimination: identifying speech sounds and words.sound manipulation: changing sounds by altering speed and volume; breaking down and swapping soundsblending soundsTeaching young children these foundation skills early...
2025-11-0907 min
Relationship Dishep 130 / Daddy Issues (and Mommy Issues): How Our Parents Shape Our Love LivesEver wonder why you're drawn to people who feel a little too familiar? In this revealing episode of Relationship Dish, Pam and Iona unpack how the dynamics we learned from our parents quietly shape who we love—and how we relate. From Pam's emotionally distant father who lived "neck-up," to Iona's unpredictable, larger-than-life dad whose approval could feel like winning the lottery, both hosts explore how early attachment wounds create blueprints for attraction. Your brain, they explain, is literally wired to seek out what it knows—even if what it knows is dysfunctional. So how do w...
2025-11-0543 min
The St. Louis Girl PodcastPam and Lauren Stewart Discuss Lessons in Courage and Bravery: The Alice EffectFortunate to have a friend in Lauren who shares insightful ideas, asks
relevant questions, and encourages me to think through situations, I was
happy to talk with her about strategies for dealing with toxic people we
sometimes have to be around. Not wanting to pander to their inappropriate
behavior, we spoke about The Alice Effect.
The reality is that we can find ourselves in a situation where somebody is
making it a less happy place for us. We can choose to be the bigger
person, keep our energy level high and not let people bother us, talk to
someone if...
2025-10-3019 min
Relationship Dishep 129 / 10 Ways to Keep Love Alive: Season Finale SpecialIt's the Relationship Dish season finale—and Pam and Iona are closing things out with their top 10 best tips for building and maintaining a healthy, connected romantic relationship. From repairing after a rupture to setting boundaries, from learning to share your deepest feelings to finding joy and fun together, they cover the core practices that make love last. Along the way, they get real about the traps that sabotage intimacy—ego, assumptions, and unspoken resentments—and the small shifts that can open the door to closeness instead. Whether you're new to the podcast or have been f...
2025-09-241h 01
Relationship Dishep 128 / Ego vs. Intimacy: What's Really Getting in the Way of ConnectionAre you feeding your ego—or your intimacy? In this thought-provoking episode of Relationship Dish, Pam and Iona unpack the subtle but powerful forces that quietly sabotage closeness in relationships. Drawing on ideas from David Burns's Feeling Good Handbook, they explore how conflict, blame, defensiveness, self-pity, and the need to be "right" can feel addictive—meeting hidden cravings for power, superiority, or even adrenaline—while pushing true intimacy further away. Iona gets candid about how her traumatic family background once wired her to seek the rush of conflict, while Pam highlights the toxic trap of arroga...
2025-09-1052 min
Relationship Dishep 127 / The Power of "We": Balancing Togetherness and Individuality in LoveWhat does it really mean to be a we in a relationship—and how do you balance it with your own I? In this insightful episode of Relationship Dish, Pam and Iona dig into the delicate art of collaboration, compromise, and connection. Iona shares how therapy (and a lot of practice) helped her have a wonderful holiday trip with her husband—addressing bumps in the road through true partnership and communication. Meanwhile, Pam reflects on her past marriage, where two I's gradually grew apart instead of working together to nurture a shared we. From the infl...
2025-08-2751 min
Disability DisruptersInterview with Nick Ruane - Disability advocate and leaderRead transcriptNick Ruane
Nick Ruane has a long history of community involvement, advocacy, leadership, and disability activism.
Nick has a Master of the Arts (with Honors) in Political Science and Government from Victoria University.
He is a board member for New Zealand Riding for the Disabled and was co-chair of the Wellington Accessibility Advisory Group for 5 years, giving advice to Council on Accessibility.
He is currently the Workbridge Group Foundation Advisor, advising on establishing a Philanthropic giving program, establishing a small grant program, and re-launching the Foundation website.
He also posts about disability politics...
2025-07-3148 min
Relationship Dishep 126 / Making It Right: How to Repair After a Relationship RuptureFights happen, but what really matters is what comes next. In this raw and revealing episode of Relationship Dish, Pam and Iona explore the often-missed art of repair—the intentional process of healing after conflict. Whether you grew up in a home where repair was modeled or swept under the rug, chances are no one taught you how to do it well. From repeating old parent/child dynamics to the all-too-human urge to "make them suffer" before softening, Iona shares a personal story of how her early wounds show up in moments of disconnect with her partner—and h...
2025-07-231h 02
Relationship Dishep 125 / Can This Relationship Be Saved? What Couples Therapy Can (and Can't) DoThinking about couples therapy? Wondering if it can really fix what's broken—or if you're just signing up for weekly battles on a therapist's couch? In this episode of Relationship Dish, Pam and Iona pull back the curtain on what actually happens in couples therapy, what brings most couples through the door, and why it only works if both partners are willing to show up—messy feelings and all. They share revealing stories of clients who sabotaged the process by refusing to take responsibility (hello, emotional affairs and unacknowledged shame), and why no magical apology can heal betr...
2025-07-0955 min
Relationship Dishep 124 / The Boundary Breakdown: What's Really Getting in the Way?We all say we want healthy boundaries—but actually setting them? That's where things get messy. In this raw and revealing episode of Relationship Dish, Pam and Iona go beyond the surface-level how-to's and explore the deeper emotional blocks that keep so many of us stuck in people-pleasing, self-abandonment, and silent resentment. They share personal stories of how their childhoods shaped their boundary struggles—from families that labeled limits as "unloving" to patterns of emotional neglect and over-functioning. You'll learn the crucial difference between "I can't" and "I won't," how anxiety disguises itself as selflessness, and why the...
2025-06-251h 06
Relationship Dishep 123 / Fun Is Not a Luxury: Why Joy Is Essential in Your RelationshipSure, you've done the hard work—therapy, repair, tough conversations. But now what? In this feel-good episode of Relationship Dish, Pam and Iona dive into something couples often forget to prioritize: fun. From day trips to date nights, puzzles to pub nights, they explore how joy acts as a deposit in your relationship bank account—and why it's crucial for long-term connection. Pam shares honestly about the lack of joy in her past relationship and what lights her up now, while Iona talks about prioritizing fun with her husband after their daughter left home. They offer real-life idea...
2025-06-1140 min
Relationship Dishep 122 / Sorry Not Sorry: The Courage (and Craft) of a Real ApologyWhat does a real apology sound like—and why is it so damn hard to get one? In this episode of Relationship Dish, Pam and Iona dive into the delicate art of apologizing. After Iona arrives very late to the recording, she offers a genuine, no-excuses apology—and it sparks a deeper conversation about how we repair emotional ruptures in relationships. They explore the difference between heartfelt accountability and hollow placation, why calling someone "too sensitive" doesn't count, and how many of us (even the most polite Canadians!) are still learning to feel our feelings—and express them c...
2025-05-2851 min
Relationship Dishep 121 / Is Your Relationship Haunted by Ghosts of the Past?Ever feel like you're arguing with your partner's past self—or like they're stuck seeing you as who you used to be? In this candid and insightful episode of Relationship Dish, Pam and Iona explore the "ghosts" that haunt our relationships—old dynamics, traumas, and one-dimensional perceptions that get projected onto our partners and shape how we relate. From confirmation bias to emotional overfunctioning, they unpack how unresolved experiences (from childhood and from earlier stages of the relationship itself) can distort the present—and block growth. Iona shares a personal story about her pattern of going into Superw...
2025-05-1447 min
Relationship Dishep 120 / Making Peace with Anger (Without Exploding)In this episode, Pam and Iona unpack how childhood experiences with explosive anger shaped their adult relationships—and their own relationship with anger. From avoiding conflict to striving for perfection, they explore what happens when we bury our feelings to keep the peace, and how that can backfire. With honesty and humor, they show how learning to sit with emotions like annoyance can lead to healthier, more direct communication. Because as Iona says, "Anger doesn't have to look like your mother."
2025-05-0153 min
Relationship Dishep 119 / Who Are You Showing Up As—Parent, Child, or Partner?In this episode, Iona and Pam dig into the powerful dynamics of over- and under-compensating in relationships and how these patterns often reflect parent-child ego states. Drawing from personal stories and therapeutic insights, they explore how mindfulness, validation, and understanding our triggers can help us shift into an adult state—where real intimacy and connection can thrive. Whether it's soothing your nervous system or showing appreciation in playful ways, it all starts with noticing how you're showing up.
2025-04-1649 min
Relationship Dishep 118 / Childhood Wounds in Adult RelationshipsDo your childhood wounds still have a seat at the table in your relationships? In this episode of Relationship Dish, Pam and Iona dive into how early emotional experiences shape our adult love lives—often in ways we don't realize. They explore how childhood traumas, attachment wounds, and subconscious patterns can lead to conflict, insecurity, or emotional distance. Tune in for insights on recognizing these patterns and, most importantly, how to heal them to create healthier, more fulfilling relationships.
2025-04-0244 min
Relationship Dishep 117 / Face Your FeelingsIn this episode, therapists Iona and Pam explore how facing—and honoring—your feelings is the key to clear communication and successful negotiation in relationships. They discuss why recognizing and processing emotions, rather than avoiding them, leads to deeper understanding, stronger connections, and more meaningful conversations. Tune in to learn how embracing your emotions can transform the way you relate to others.
2025-03-1950 min
Relationship Dishep 116 / Is It Possible to Have an Amicable Divorce?This week, Iona and Pam dish about whether or not it's possible to have an amicable divorce or breakup. What if only one of you wants to end the relationship? What if you have kids? What if those kids are still young, and your ex brings a new partner into the family? If you're thinking about—or maybe even in the midst of—a divorce and hoping for minimal damage, this episode is for you.
2025-03-0555 min
Relationship Dishep 115 / You've Lost That Lovin' Feeling—What Now?Iona and Pam dish about what people really mean when they say that they've "fallen out of love" with their partner. It can sound so nebulous, scary, and final, and no one really knows how to deal with it! This week, the therapists dig into the logistics of what that statement really means and what to do to avoid it altogether in a relationship. They also destigmatize the phrase so listeners can understand it and deal with it in helpful ways that can actually bring back that lovin' feeling. Both therapists have dealt with this issue before in their...
2025-02-201h 00
Relationship Dishep 114 / Are You Overriding Your Instincts?Are you overriding your instincts—and potentially putting your safety in jeopardy—to make others feel comfortable? Listen in this week as the therapists dish and dive into their personal experiences with feeling unsafe and vulnerable as women. The conversation explores how their childhood experiences of feeling powerless and voiceless have impacted their ability to assert themselves in potentially dangerous situations as adults. Pam and Iona also discuss how the societal pressure for women to be "easygoing" and not "make a fuss" can override their intuition and put them at risk. They emphasize how this dynamic of femal...
2025-01-1546 min
Relationship Dishep 113 / What Are You Afraid Of?Listen in this week as the therapists dish and dive about their fears and vulnerabilities. Pam shares that she struggles with a fear of humiliation, especially related to her intelligence and competence. She recounts past experiences of being publicly embarrassed as a child, which have shaped her tendency to avoid vulnerability in order to protect her self-worth. Iona talks about how negative occurrences ignite her fear of everything falling apart or disappearing—and how our childhood experiences can rewire our brains to be overly fearful of certain situations as adults. Both discuss how fe...
2025-01-011h 05
Relationship Dishep 112 / Dating with DifferencesListen in this week as the therapists dish and dive about navigating the differences between you and your partner. How alike—or unalike—can you be in a successful relationship? And can shared values overcome opposing political views? What if you're raising kids together? Pam and Iona explore how differences in upbringing, personality, and life experiences can impact your relationship. They emphasize the significance of respect, curiosity, and commitment to resolving conflicts, and agree that values like integrity, family, and community are crucial. They also touch on the challenges of dealing with trauma and the necessity of pers...
2024-12-1844 min
Relationship Dishep 111 / Navigating Life TransitionsListen in this week as the therapists dish and dive about navigating life transitions. Iona shares her personal experiences with her daughter's departure to university and its impact on her relationship. Pam opens up about her journey through dating and the lessons she's learned about attachment and intimacy as she navigates her own transitions.
2024-12-0455 min
Ride Like a MotherPam McIntyre | Prospect Shopping 101 | Earning Superior Roping Title | Ranch Mom LifeEver wondered what it's like to have your Stud horse earn a Superior Rope Horse title and work with World Champions like Bobby Lewis and other Pro Ropers? Well Pam McIntyre speaks from experience on this subject. Her and her family raise rope horses, have commercial cattle and sell ranch dogs.
Needless to say she has A LOT of experience raising, breeding and selling horses. In this episode she shares her perspective and gives us some great tips on:
~What to discuss with a breeder about buying a prospect. ~What to consider when you're...
2022-04-2135 min
Pam and Gina PodcastSingle & Surviving Valentine's Day with Mental Health Counselor Shannan Stewart!Heyyyy Fran,
On a special day like Valentine's Day we want all of our listeners to feel extra loved. Today's episode will dive into how to survive the big pressures and expectations of social media on this love day. We dive into navigate the pressures of social medias expectations, how to keep your confidence up as a single, and what self-care is. Our guest host, Shanna Stewart, is a mental health counselor who specializes in family and marriage therapy. She gives the 4-1-1 on how to keep your self-esteem high and focus on YOU during a h...
2022-02-1442 min
Cafe con PamDutidú with Marie Claire Vasquez Durán & Maria Victoria AbreuListeners this week we have a conversation with Marie Claire Vasquez Durán and Maria Victoria Abreu.~ Este es un episodio en español ~Marie Claire Vasquez and Maria Victoria Abreu, both born and raised in Santo Domingo, Dominican Republic, studied Economics at the Pontificia Universidad Católica Madre y Maestra (PUCMM), and as adults emigrated to the United States, each pursuing their own personal and professionals goals.Marie Claire went to California, earning a master's degree in International Policy Studies from Stanford University, and then a PhD in the same area of study, fro...
2021-07-0559 min
Salty LanguageBaby YachtThis week Bryan and Tony discuss life, Mother's Day, dad bods, OnlyFans, clapping cheeks, GTA 5, God of War, vegetarian food, Venom 2 trailer, Pam and Tommy first pics, beardless Seth Rogen, Tawny Kitaen, Revisionist History on wealth hoarding, Adult Swim movies, a SUATMM, our QoftheW, and more! Salty Merch: https://www.teepublic.com/user/saltylanguagepods Our Patreon: Patreon.com/saltylanguage Links: 1. Vegetarian chili https://www.allrecipes.com/recipe/72508/the-best-vegetarian-chili-in-the-world/ 2. Guys with lip fillers https://www.google.com/search?q=guys+with+lip+fillers&client=safari&hl=en&sxsrf=ALeKk01ZJOvNqvYrxtqZlR5zw8SBH67bRA:1620871440495&source=lnms&tbm=isch&sa=X&ved=2ahUKEwiHlL...
2021-05-132h 30
as we pressep 20 "gospel-centered parenting: grace, modeling and finishing well" with bill and pam mutzBill and Pam Mutz, parents of 12 and grandparents of 27, join me as we pick back up on our conversation on parenting and grandparenting in light of the gospel. They are sharing about how they are learning the balance of being engaged grandparents while also yielding to their children. They also are discussing the importance of family fun, our legacy and how can we live our days in light of this focus. They emphasize the importance of letting our children fail while they are in the home and extending grace to both ourselves and our children on our journey as...
2021-03-231h 00
as we pressep 19 "gospel-centered parenting: life, marriage and raising arrows" with bill and pam mutzHow can we balance work, activities outside the home and service to others while also being tuned into the hearts of our kids? How does the Lord use his word to guide us in our role as parents? As our children began to marry, is there a process in learning to let them go….how do we navigate through this or better yet, how does the Lord lead us? Bill and Pam Mutz join me on today’s episode as we dive into life, marriage and raising children with a focus on becoming “difference makers” for the sake of...
2021-03-0946 min
AGEISTDr. Pam Peeke: Healthspan and Taking Control With EpigeneticsYou have power when it comes to your health. Physician, author, thought leader, and prolific TED speaker Dr. Pam Peeke explains how our choices affect our genes, and presents the “three m’s” for increasing healthspan: mind, mouth, muscle. She shares the epigenetic benefits of finding joy, moving your body, and prioritizing sleep and offers straightforward advice for becoming your own health advocate.“Take that whole idea of lifespan and pitch it...the goal is to just have the most kickass healthspan you can for as long as you can.”https://drp...
2020-11-241h 03
YahdLife - How your roots influence who you are.Episode 007: Pam HallWe know her through collaboration with many of the great musical talents of the 70s, 80s and 90s but this legendary songstress is a powerhouse on her own. With humility and through bursts of laughter, Pam Hall gives us insight into her heart for music, the stops along the road of her full career and a sneak peek into what’s next. Tune in as this artiste comes front and center to share her story .
2020-09-3025 min
Relationship Dishep 110 / Quick TIP Creating Positive CyclesWe are on a much needed break between seasons 4 and 5. We leave you with a 5 min reminder tip to stay open and vulnerable in your relationship with your loved one and with the important people in your life.
2020-03-2506 min
Relationship Dishep 109 / Quick TIP VulnerabilityWe are on a much needed break between seasons 4 and 5. We leave you with a 5 min reminder tip to stay open and vulnerable in your relationship with your loved one and with the important people in your life.
2020-03-1805 min
Relationship Dishep 108 / Narcissism It's All About MeListen in this week as the therapists dish and dive about narcissism. Iona gets a rude awakening about how she's behaved in her relationship and this starts a conversation about people with narcissistic tendencies. Pam weighs in on her experiences and together they dive into some interesting and enlightening literature on the subject.
2020-03-1145 min
Liquid LunchLiquid Lunch 176: Pam Catoe from craftbeerautin.com
Recorded 3-5-20. CraftBeerAustin.com’s Pam Catoe joins the show from Austin to discuss the 20 Austin area brewery Pink Boots Society, International Women’s Day brew day and series of beer releases and events to benefit beer education. Kennedy succesfully chugs, Josh gives verbal hugs and you don’t want your traditional beer to get bugs.
2020-03-061h 01
Relationship Dishep 107 / Men In Relationships PART 2Listen in this week for part 2 of our interview with therapist Alistair Moes, as he shares his knowledge about men, their feelings and their relationships. Alistair has run anger management workshops for both men and women for over 25 years and has much to teach us about men and their feelings.
2020-03-0430 min
Relationship Dishep 106 / Men In Relationships PART 1Listen in this week for part 1 of an interview where the therapists talk with Alistair- a therapist and colleague who's worked for years specifically with men and their anger issues. Learn how the men in his practice have learned to deal with their anger and their needs in relationships and where their issues originally stemmed from. If you've struggled with anger in your life, don't miss parts 1 and 2 of this fascinating interview.
2020-02-2629 min
Relationship Dishep 105 / The WithdrawerListen in this week as the therapists dish and dive about The Withdrawer. Behind every good pursuer is a good distancer. Iona is married to one and Pam is one, so its a charged topic. Learn how they each cope in their own marriages and learn what it is that the withdrawer is truly feeling underneath the cool exterior. It'll surprise you how much is under there. Also, learn what the distancer really longs for and how the pursuer can give it to them, if they don't retreat into withdrawal. Understand your stance in t...
2020-02-1951 min
Relationship DishValentines Day GreetingsWe would like to wish you a very Happy Valentines Day from us at Relationship Dish. Love the one you're with, and most importantly love yourself to help love others more. Iona and Pam
2020-02-1400 min
Relationship Dishep 104 / The PursuerThis week the therapists dish and dive about the pursuer position in the cycle. Iona is a pursuer and Pam is married to one, so there is plenty of fodder to go around! Learn what the pursuer really needs, feels and longs for and how their stance can sabotage themselves and their partner. The more I pursue, the more you withdraw! Learn how to break out of this conflict, voice what you need and get what you need from your partner.
2020-02-1244 min
Relationship Dishep 103 / When Couples Grow ApartListen in this week as Iona and Pam dish and dive about growing apart from their partners. It can happen to the best of us but how do we know if it's just a phase or something more permanent? Pam and Iona weigh in on their own experiences and learn how to tell the difference and how to stop the disconnection dead in its tracks.
2020-02-0549 min
Relationship Dishep 102 / The Husbands part 1As a special treat to celebrate our recent 100th episode, this week the therapists interview Eric, Pam's husband, to find out what impact the podcast has had on him, the relationship and Pam. We learn what's changed for Eric as a result of his partner's podcast journey and how their relationship has grown over the past 2 years. We also hear what's remained the same and what Eric's learned about himself through the eyes of the podcast. Finally, listeners get to hear from the other side!
2020-01-2951 min
Relationship Dishep 101 / HypochondriaListener pick! Just in time for cold and flu season... Listen in this week as the therapists discuss hypochondria. Ever worry if the headache you have is really a tumour? Or if the cough you have is more nefarious than you think? Many of us, of course, wonder from time to time, but to obsess constantly about these long shots is the pain of hypochondria. Pam and Iona discuss how it has personally touched their lives and the lives of those they care about. Learn what it is and how to manage it...
2020-01-2253 min
Relationship Dishep 100 / Guilt, what is it good for? Absolutely everything!Listen in this week as the therapists dish about healthy guilt. Is that a thing? You betcha! Sometimes feeling healthy guilt is really useful. Pam and Iona dish about their healthy guilt and the fallout they've experienced of not truly feeling it. Dive into the literature about healthy guilt and learn its vital role in our lives, if we'll accept it!
2020-01-1543 min
Relationship Dishep 99 / Self RegulationHappy new year! What better way to start 2020 than with learning how to regulate your emotions so that you can maintain your relationships! Listen in as the therapists dish about their own struggles with discharging emotions in their relationships and the damage it's done. Then learn what the literature says about the window of tolerance and how to keep ourselves within it so we can stay true to our own emotions while keeping the connection with our partners. A juggling act and a fine balance!
2020-01-0844 min
Relationship Dishep 98 / Falling in Love. New Years Version Replay.Happy New Year and Happy Holidays, Here is a replay of one of our favourite episodes, Falling in Love. Sometimes we have to do away with the image we create of our partner, so we can meet and fall in love with who this person really is. They learn that this is not a selfish thing, that another person is not out on this earth to fill all of our fantasies, but rather to be loved for who they truly are. Listen in and decide if you're willing to fall in love wi...
2020-01-0141 min
Relationship Dishep 97 / The Critic. Xmas Version Replay.Merry Christmas and Happy Holidays, Here is a replay of one of our favourite episodes. The Critic. This week the therapists dish and dive about that critical voice in their heads, their inner critics. They look at where they come from and how we can learn to manage them so they don't take over our lives. Listen in and learn how to beat those negative voices!
2019-12-2544 min
Relationship Dishep 96 / Second Time Around. Part 2This week the therapists continue their interview with a couple who are beating the odds! Typically divorce rates for second marriages are even higher than for firsts. But not for this couple! Listen in and learn how they've persevered against toxic ex partners, blended families and outside responsibilities to keep and nurture the love they found with each other the second time around. Our final in a special 2 part episode.
2019-12-1827 min
Relationship Dishep 95 / Second Time Around. Part 1This week the therapists interview a couple who are beating the odds! Typically divorce rates for second marriages are even higher than for firsts. But not for this couple! Listen in and learn how they've persevered against toxic ex partners, blended families and outside responsibilities to keep and nurture the love they found with each other the second time around.
2019-12-1130 min
Relationship Dishep 94 / Who do you want to be when you grow up?Listen in this week as the therapists dish and dive about adult growth and development. Why is it that so many adults believe that once you're of drinking age, that you're done developing? Adults must continue to grow and mature until death or else stagnation ensues! Learn how to grow and mature in your adult years so you can have the best possible relationships with self and others!
2019-12-0452 min
Relationship Dishep 93 / All the Single Ladies Part2Listen in this week as the therapists conclude their conversation with the single ladies. Learn from them how to have a happy and full filling life, with or without a partner and understand how they find joy and meaning in their day to day lives.
2019-11-2732 min
Relationship Dishep 92 / All the Single Ladies Part1Listen in this week as the therapists talk with two single women about their lives and loves. Learn how they thrive in a "couples' world" and understand where and how they find meaning in their lives. What relationships matter most to them? What fulfills them? What teaches them about themselves? Part 2 will continue next week. Don't miss it!
2019-11-2037 min
Relationship Dishep 91 / Low Level Forces That Compete With IntimacyThis week the therapists dish and dive about the low level forces that can compete with intimacy. They look at their own relationship struggles and learn how things like pride, the search for objective truth and power struggling can arm wrestle with the intimacy you share with your partner. Learn how to spot and conquer these forces before they damage your relationship.
2019-11-1338 min
Relationship Dishep 90 / Falling into SAD (Seasonal Affective Disorder)This week the therapists dish and dive about Seasonal Affective Disorder aka SAD. With the fall time change upon us, many of us struggle with having less daylight hours. Pam and Iona weigh in on the issue of seasonal depression and come up with some great preventative measures to keep you from feeling down during the darkest months of the year.
2019-11-0642 min
Relationship Dishep 89 / When The Universe Throws You a Curve BallThis week the therapists dish and dive about getting blindsided; when the universe throws you a curveball. Iona weighs in on her recent experience of being knocked off her feet with unexpected bad news and realizes how excessive worry does not protect her or control any further reverberations. Pam weighs in on some of the curveballs that life's thrown at her, and looks at how she's navigated through without actually dealing with her feelings. They dive into the literature about how to deal with the unexpected in a healthier and more productive manner. Life throws u...
2019-10-3045 min
Relationship Dishep 88 / My Mother MyselfThis week the therapists weigh in on their relationships with their mothers....cue scary music! They wonder how they're like them, different from them and how they've been generally influenced by their mothers. They then dive into the literature on the mother daughter relationship to determine if they are destined and predisposed to become their mothers, or if they can live and mother as they choose.
2019-10-2348 min
Relationship Dishep 87 / Breaking up is Hard to DoListen in this week as the therapists answer a listener's question: How do you know when to leave a relationship? Pam and Iona discuss the reasons for having left or stayed in their own relationships through the years, then dive into some literature that can help guide the decision whether to stay or to go.
2019-10-1648 min
Relationship Dishep 86 / One is the Loneliest NumberThis week, as a special thanksgiving episode, the therapists dish and dive about loneliness. Pam and Iona discuss the difference between being alone and being lonely and reminisce about times in their lives when they've felt lonely. They dive into the literature and learn that there's a difference between being alone and feeling lonely. They're not the same! Listen in and learn.
2019-10-0937 min
Relationship Dishep 85 / Have You Any Dreams You'd Like to SellThis week Pam and Iona weigh in on dreams. Listen in as they share some of the more exciting, reoccurring and cryptic dreams they've had over the years. Then they dive into the literature about dreams and share some of the most interesting psychological ways to interpret dreams. Do dreams really come from the unconscious, bringing with them valuable insight into our psyches, or are they just random, meaningless movies we get to watch while we sleep? Listen in and learn!
2019-10-0246 min
Relationship Dishep 84 / The Stigma of Couples CounsellingThis week the therapists dish and dive about couples counselling. Both of them have attended and benefitted from couples counselling over the years but also understand that sadly, it can be quite stigmatized in our society. They dive into the literature and understand why it's been such a stigma, both socially and culturally, and offer some ideas to help you get over these obstacles so that you can have your best and most loving relationship.
2019-09-2547 min
Relationship Dishep 83 / Value of Admitting our ImpulsesThis week the therapists dish and dive about some of the impulses they have and what they do with them. It seems that both therapists have some pretty dark impulses in their relationships and aren't always sure how to proceed. As they dive into the literature, they learn why these impulses are both useful and informative. Learn how to work with your impulses in a safe and productive way.
2019-09-1843 min
Relationship Dishep 82 / The Kindness of Strangers a Tribute to 911This week the therapists dish on the kindness of strangers as they remember the anniversary of the 9/11 attacks. Within the darkness that unfolded, there were many stories of human connection, vulnerability and love. One particular story is the Gander, Newfoundland story in which a small town opened their hearts, resources and wallets to almost 7,000 stranded passengers from around the world. Listen in and learn why those acts of kindness have both emotional and physical benefits for us all and what can get in the way. Love even when it's foolish to do so.
2019-09-1143 min
Relationship Dishep 81 / Back to School Ugh.It's back to school time and this week the therapists dish and dive about the anxiety they experience around this time of year. Why, even as adults, do we experience back to school jitters and anxiety? Well, the literature shows that we're not alone. Listen in and learn how you can ride through the early days of September with less anxiety and more joy!
2019-09-0444 min
Relationship Dishep 80 / Why the Bad Outweighs the Good.This week the therapists look at how and why we get more stuck in our negative emotions and experiences than in our positive ones. Pam and Iona both have a tendency toward negative bias- recalling and ruminating about negative experiences more so than the joyful ones. Through their dive into the literature, they learn why this is adaptive yet shortsighted and unbalanced. Listen in and learn how you can have a more joyful life.
2019-08-2841 min
Relationship Dishep 79 / Therapy.. What is it Good For?Listen in this week as the therapists wonder if therapy is helpful after all. They discuss the different types of therapy models out there and determine just how useful each one is. Listen in so you can make informed choices about your own therapy!
2019-08-2149 min
Relationship Dishep 78 / Overfunctioning Listen in this week as the therapists dish and dive about over functioning. Pam and Iona both learned to over function to control and distract themselves from chaotic situations in their lives. They discuss the price of over functioning and the toll it can take on your life. Learn how to recognize over functioning as a coping mechanism in your own life before you burn out!
2019-08-1442 min
Relationship Dishep 77 / JealousyThis week the therapists dish and dive about jealousy. Iona's had an episode of feeling very jealous, which catches her off guard. Pam weighs in on how those ugly feelings have raised their head repeatedly throughout her relationship as well. Listen in as they dive into the literature about the function of jealousy and learn how to reign in that wild beast.
2019-08-0744 min
Relationship Dishep 76 / Trauma part 2. The whole body tragedy.This week the therapists finish their discussion about trauma with a dive into the literature about trauma. We learn about the different types of trauma, how it develops and how to treat it. Not all trauma is created equal and the more you know, the more you can do to manage, move past and even grow from the trauma in your own life.
2019-07-3148 min
Relationship Dishep 75 / Trauma part 1. The whole body tragedy.This week the therapists dish extensively about their own experience with trauma and the ongoing impact these traumas have had on their lives. There is no dive this week folks, just juicy dishing! Stay tuned for next week's dive into the trauma literature. Season 4 is here, and it's going to be great! Iona and Pam
2019-07-2438 min
Relationship DishSeason 4 Welcome!Season 4 is here, and it's going to be great! Join us on a new season where we Dish and Dive on topics sure to peak your interest. Iona and Pam
2019-07-2301 min
Relationship DishAppetizer 4 / Your Partner is your clientHi listeners, we're still on our break between season 3 and 4 but in the meantime we're going to leave you with a quick appetizer today. Try treating your partner as you would treat your client, and see your relationship as something alive and ongoing. We will be back next week to launch season 4 on July 24th with new exciting episodes that are sure to give you the dish you are looking for in your relationship. Iona & Pam, Relationship Dish
2019-07-1701 min
Relationship DishAppetizer 3 / The Balance to Stand AloneHere is a quick little 1 minute Appetizer for you about The balance and courage to stand alone. We're taking a 2 week break while preparing to launch season 4 and will return July 24th with new exciting episodes that are sure to give you the dish you are looking for in your relationship. Iona & Pam, Relationship Dish
2019-07-1000 min
Relationship Dishep 74 / AddictionsThis week the therapists weigh in on the issue of addiction, in its many forms. Listen in as they discuss their own addictions and the addictions of their family members and friends. Dive into the literature with them as they navigate through the various diagnostic and treatment models to find the right one for you.
2019-07-0344 min
Relationship Dishep 73 / InfidelityThis week the therapists dish and dive about affairs and infidelity. Listen in as they dish about their own experiences with infidelity and affairs (spoiler alert, it's not pretty) and the impact they've had on their lives. Learn from the literature how to deal with it, get past it or get out of it if it happens to you!
2019-06-2647 min
Relationship Dishep 72 / The CriticThis week the therapists dish and dive about that critical voice in their heads, their inner critics. They look at where they come from and how we can learn to manage them so they don't take over our lives. Listen in and learn how to beat those negative voices!
2019-06-1946 min
Relationship Dishep 71 / FatherhoodIt's Fathers Day and This week the therapists dish and dive about fathers! They look at the fathers of their own children and compare them to their own fathers, they dive about the importance of fathers and how a good relationship with father actually helps kids thrive all throughout life.
2019-06-1246 min
Relationship Dishep 70 / EnmeshmentThis week the therapists dish and dive about enmeshment. They wonder if they are at times, enmeshed with their partners. Listen in as they dish about their own issues and explain what enmeshment is and how to deal with it so it doesn't run your life!
2019-06-0543 min
Relationship Dishep 63 / Depression Part 1Listen in this week when Pam and Iona dish and dive about depression as part 1 of a special 2 part series. The therapists talk about how depression has touched their own personal lives and those of their loved ones and how their relationships with depressed family members have impacted them over the years. They dive into some literature on depression to help better understand it. The series continues next week with some treatment options. There is hope!
2019-04-1740 min
Relationship Dishep 62 / Sibling RelationshipsListen in this week as the therapists dish and dive about siblings. Why are these relationships, the ones we have with the people who are the closest biologically to us, so often fraught, painful or just plain disappointing? Pam and Iona discuss their own sibling relationships and unpack the issues from their own families of origin that may explain some of the difficulties they've struggled with over the years.
2019-04-1035 min
Relationship Dishep 61 / Self-CareThis week the therapists dish and dive on self care. Is it really necessary to care for the self or is it just frivolous at best, selfish at worst? Listen in as Pam and Iona struggle through the questions of self care; why is it necessary, are they allowed, is it a one size fits all and what does it even look like. Learn some handy tips about self care for yourself, so you can give more of your best self to those you love!
2019-04-0344 min
Relationship Dishep 60 / Repair Listen in this week as the therapists dish and dive about how to fully repair after a tiff. Pam has had an issue with Eric in the kitchen (where else??) and learns how to find her part, own it and take responsibility for it without taking it all on. Iona's has an issue with Steve and also owns her piece and realizes what she needs from Steve; for him to cleanly own his part without being defensive. Knowing what you need, owning your part and understanding your family of origin triggers all seem to play a ro...
2019-03-2747 min
Relationship Dishep 59 / ForgivenessThis week the therapists dish and dive on forgiveness. Iona struggles to forgive Steve for his wrongdoing and in so doing, realized that the she was the only person she was hurting by holding onto her anger. Pam also finds it challenging to forgive Eric because well, does that mean she also has to forget? Learn the difference between forgiving and forgetting. Stop getting stuck and start letting go!
2019-03-2046 min
Relationship Dishep 58 / All The Things I Can't Control.This week the therapists grapple with the things they can and can't control in their partners and in their relationships. Iona's husband is having some issues with his family of origin and she wants to protect him from the fallout, but he refuses to let her. She feels frustrated and her anxiety cannot be soothed by controlling the situation, because he won't cooperate! Pam also has a family member in her life who creates anxiety for her husband. She puts boundaries up around him in the same way that Steve puts boundaries up around Iona. Pam and S...
2019-03-1336 min
Relationship Dishep 50 Thriving, Surviving, or Just Staying Alive Welcome to season 3 everyone! This week listen in as the therapists open the new season with a dish and a dive about the difference between surviving and thriving. Iona talks about being stuck in survival mode for so long that she doesn't even notice that some of her responses in her marriage are still coming from that place, even though there is no evidence that she is in any emotional danger. Pam weighs in on the issue and finds that her responses in her marriage can also be survival based. It takes an awareness of the price they pay for the...
2019-01-1639 min
Relationship DishSeason 3 Welcome!Hey dishers, we're back with Season 3! We have some exciting new episodes for you, so please listen in on Jan 16 for our season 3 debut! and as always Happy coupling! Iona & Pam
2019-01-1600 min
GradebookPam Stewart says goodbye. 'We are, in Florida, at an all-time high.'Pam Stewart was counting down the days to her Jan. 8, 2019, retirement. Then suddenly she accepted an added year to her term as Florida education commissioner. Within weeks, she just as abruptly resigned, paving the way for incoming Gov. Ron DeSantis to get his hand-picked replacement, former House Speaker Richard Corcoran, into the seat. With the winter holidays and her final day in office approaching, Stewart figured she'd have some time to wind down and navigate toward life after government service. But she kept working straight through, offering a 15-minute window for a conversation with reporter Jeff Solochek about how...
2018-12-2700 min
Relationship Dishep 49 You Say You Want a ResolutionHappy holidays! This week the therapists dish and dive about New Years resolutions. What makes them stick? What makes them slide? Listen in as Pam and Iona share some of their relationship resolutions for 2019 and learn what to do to make 'em stick.
2018-12-2638 min
Relationship Dishep 046 Two Ships passing in the NightThis week the therapists dish and dive about feeling in their relationships, like two ships that pass in the night. Pam and Iona worry that this is not a good thing and look for the reasons how this could be. They then dive into the literature on what helps couples to feel and stay connected and learn how important it is to turn that ship around at the first sign of trouble!
2018-12-0533 min
Relationship Dishep 045 Powerlessness - the ties that bind usThis week the therapists dish and dive on powerlessness. Iona laments about her lack of power in getting her husband to do certain things and Pam dishes about her lack of power to get what she needs from her man. The therapists then dive into the literature and learn that while they may not have power around certain issues, they do have something even more valuable....choice!
2018-11-2833 min
Relationship Dishep 044 Compromise- how much is too much? This week the therapists dish and dive on compromising in our relationships. How much is too much? How do we know when we are settling versus compromising? The therapists learn that it is important to know what we value and to prioritize our values so we know if we are accepting too much. Pam and Iona talk about their own needs and how they've compromised them over the years in order to stay in relationship with others. Listen in as they offer some valuable tips for recognizing what matters most.
2018-11-2135 min
10 Minutes to a Better HomeschoolClaire Stewart: Seeking Joy Every DayOn this episode of Homeschool Snapshots, we enjoy a delightful conversation with Claire Stewart. Claire thoroughly enjoys spending time with her children as they learn through the huge feast she sets before them. She even admits to being the biggest kid of all!Come and listen how Claire tailors each child's education to fit their needs without making herself crazy. She also shares a little bit about her family's homeschooling journey while she was sick with cancer.I had so much fun talking with Claire and hope you will enjoy our conversation as much as...
2016-10-2536 min