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Neuroinclusion#101 "Autistic Women Emerging" with Nigel RisingI am excited to welcome Nigel Rising, Esq. (she/her) to my "Neuroqueering" podcast today for a lively conversation about the late in life diagnosed/discovered autistic experience, including how autism effects relationships and the new ways we interact with the world post diagnosis. With a special lens on the autistic woman and non-binary experience, we discuss queer partnership dynamics, friendships, and increased suicide rates and what Nigel plans to do about it. Nigel shares her experience as a brown woman in therapy and what inspired her to create the first ever AutisticaPalooza, a conference...
2024-04-1029 minNeuroinclusion#33: "IFS (Internal Family Systems) therapy effectiveness for neurodivergent minds"In today's "Neuroqueering" podcast, Ellie Carn (she/they), psychotherapist, and host Pasha Marlowe (she/they), marriage and family therapist and coach, explain what IFS (Internal Family Systems/"parts" work) is and why it is so effective for neurodivergent minds, especially those with ADHD and autism. Ellie begins with an overview and history of IFS then describes what the therapeutic process of parts work looks like. Ellie shares how traditional therapy models are often pathologizing and ableist, whereas, IFS is beneficial for neurodivergent people as it is empowering, playful, guided by the client, and creates space to "meet c...
2024-01-3033 minNeuroinclusionEp. #32 "Building Psychological Safety Nets at Work"In psychologically safe workplaces, people feel safe voicing their opinions about conflict and mistakes-without the fear of negative consequences. Leaders need to be brave-brave enough to invite open and honest feedback. Leaders need to hear what’s really going on, so dysfunctional and unhealthy patterns can be interrupted and problems can be solved. But only when the most vulnerable team members, those with the most intersecting marginalized identities, feel free enough to express their thoughts and feelings, is an organization psychologically safe enough for everyone to thrive.In this episode, Pasha talks abou...
2024-01-1714 minNeuroinclusion#31 AuDHD BURNOUT: How to Prepare for and Recover from Big Events and Sensory OverloadAuDHD burnout is real! This episode (or is it a comedy routine?) is for anyone ADHD or autistic with a big event like a family gathering or conference coming up. Allow me to share ways to rock, ruin, and recover from your experience. From tips on traveling to recovering from sensory overload to how NOT to pee on your shoes, this conversation is raw, relatable, and hilarious, especially if you belong to a neurodivergent family! Want to try Magic Mind productivity shots? You are in luck! Get the limited 56% off their...
2023-12-1012 minNeuroinclusion#30 "Framework to Support Neurodivergent and Queer People" with Pasha MarlowePart 2 of the Neuroqueering and Neurobelonging discussionThis episode provides practical tools and a complete framework for supporting neurodivergent and queer people. The skills you learn today will help ALL leaders (parents, teachers, coaches, and therapists) be neurodiversity-affirming and gender- affirming. Pasha shares the framework that was presented at the international ADHD conference that includes intersectionality, asking, affirming, and advocating. Concepts of psychological safety, non-apparent disability, inclusive design, and safe space are explored. Pasha states "Unless you intentionally include, you will unintentionally exclude" and encourages people to "drop the disorder" from our language. If you...
2023-12-1018 minNeuroinclusion#29 "Neurobelonging, the Neurodiversity Paradigm, and Best Practices for Supporting Neuroqueer Folks-Part 1" with Pasha MarlowePasha Marlowe is on her way to the international ADHD conference to present "Neuroqueering: Beyond the Intersection of Neurodiversity and Queerness". She shares best practices for supporting neurodivergent and queer communities in part 1 of this highly actionable episode. Pasha answers questions such as:"What is neuroqueer?""What is the neurodiversity paradigm?""What is the difference between fitting in, belonging, and neurobelonging?"She also discusses how 1/2 of GenZ identifies as neurodivergent and will change the landscape of the workforce. Finally, she shares a framework and best practices for caring for and supporting the neuroqueer, ne...
2023-11-2723 min
Neuroinclusion#28 "Microaggressions and Subtle Acts of Exclusion" with Rae NelsonJoin Pasha Marlowe (she/her) and Rae Nelson (they/them), a DEIB leader and Human Resources Generalist, for a vulnerable and mind-shifting conversation about microaggressions and subtle acts of exclusion. Rae describes the 3 types of microaggressions and gives examples of each. They explain intention vs impact, implicit bias, and inclusive design through the lens of intersectionality, queerness, and non-apparent disability, and neurodiversity. The most impactful part of the conversation was when Pasha and Rae both shared personal and vulnerable stories about their past microaggressions and how those experiences inspired their work as activists an...
2023-10-2539 minNeuroinclusion#27 "Intense Leaders" with Leela SinhaLeela Sinha (ze/zir) joins me today to talk about zir work with the Intensives Institute and what it means to be an intensive. I have always identified as an intense person, so the intensive framework spoke to me. Leela shares that ze created the intensive framework because it makes people feel "less broken". So many of us intensives feel like we are "too much". We do not deal in small feelings. We are risk takers, innovators, and leaders. We go hard and come back for more. Often this causes conflict, especially in relationships, which Leela speaks to...
2023-10-2344 minNeuroinclusion#26 "Depathologizing and Neuroqueering Neurodivergence" with Pasha MarloweThis episode is short, but mighty! Pasha unpacks neuroqueering, neuronormativity, heteronormativity, and the current pathologizing language of neurodivergence. She talks about needing a paradigm shift, away from the pathology paradigm and towards the neurodiversity paradigm, which uses neurodiversity-affirming and strength-based language. Pasha encourages listeners to go beyond adopting less pathologizing language and make meaningful shifts in mindset and behavior. Somehow, in 9 minutes, she also works pigs and pancakes into the conversation. Hello, AuDHD!This is a small sample of Pasha's presentation on neuroqueering, which she is presenting at the 2023 Annual ADHD Conference. To book Pasha as a s...
2023-09-1509 minNeuroinclusion#25 "Midlife Emergence and the Messy Middle" with Jen BerlingoJen Berlingo (she/her) is a coach, thought-leader, and best-selling author of the book "Midlife Emergence". She and I talk about how we unmask and unravel truths as we shed social, cultural, and familial layers. Like Jen and I experienced, many women and non-binary folx are living heterofacing lives and feeling like their marriages are "fine" or "good enough on paper". The thought of leaving to explore their sexuality feels scary and, sometimes, selfish. And yet, the whispers of knowing turn into screams and they start fantasizing about the paths not taken. They want more-more truth, more c...
2023-08-2336 minNeuroinclusion"Masking Our Queerness and Neurodivergence" with Jillian AbbyJillian Abby, AKA @queerabby, author of "Perfectly Queer", and I share a conversation about coming out late in life queer and/or neurodivergent, the messy middle, the words we use when we talk about divorce and diagnosis, and how coming out often feels, but is NOT selfish. We challenge timeline narratives and social norms. According to who's time are we coming out "too late" or staying "too long" in our current relationships? According to who is this the "right way of thinking or loving"?Jill and I share our coming out stories and we normalize how COVID, t...
2023-07-2038 minNeuroinclusion#24 "Neurodivergent and Queer Menopause" with Ali HendryAli Hendry, holistic relationship coach, host of the Relationship Room podcast, and columnist for Diva Magazine, joins me today for a spicy conversation about menopause! More specifically, sex and menopause through the lens of queerness and neurodivergence. This is the conversation you need to hear! Ali explores different ways to eat and exercise during menopause and WHY the belly fat increases. Finally, an answer! She shares her brilliance on how people can be more empathetic partners to those experiencing menopause, including scenarios where both partners are going through menopause at the same time. In her uniquely app...
2023-07-0844 minNeuroinclusion#22 "Low Functioning Society" with Mattia MaureeMattia Maurée (@audhdflourishing) is a disabled, non-binary, and trans AuDHD coach, hypnotherapist, writer, and composer. They discussed neuroqueering, intersectionality, depathologizing language, ableism, and PDA (rather than "pathological demand avoidance", many autistics have reclaimed this term as "persistent drive for autonomy"). We had a fascinating conversation about the harm of functioning labels for humans, and explored labeling societies as "high" or "low" functioning. Through our lens as neurodivergent and disabled entrepreneurs, we unpacked money, capitalism, psychological safety, somatic healing, and rest as resistance.Follow Mattia @audhdflourishing and enjoy both of their podcasts, "AuDHD Flou...
2023-07-0539 minNeuroinclusion#21 "Neuroqueering Heteronormativity, Attraction, and Kink" with Whitni MillerWhitni Miller (she/her), CEO of BDEMoves, sex educator and pleasure coach joins me for a spicy conversation! We talk about heteronormativity and share our personal coming out (and coming in) stories. Whitni shares fascinating new perspectives on attraction, attachment styles, monogamy, and trauma. We end with a conversation that made me BLUSH as we neuroqueered BDSM, kink, dungeons, and munches. You'll have to listen to find out what all that means. Enjoy! To reach Whitni, visit https://bde-moves.com/ or follow her @bde.moves on IG and TTSupport th...
2023-05-2555 minNeuroinclusion#20 "Queering Neuronormativity and Heteronormativity" with CO-HOST Sonny Jane Wise!Introducing the world's best co-host for the "Neuroqueering" podcast, Sonny Jane Wise (@livedexperienceeducator and the author of the upcoming book "We are ALL Neurodiverse"). Coming to you from Australia tomorrow and Maine today, Sonny and Pasha invite you to engage in this expansive conversation on queering neuronormativity and heteronormativity and how unmasking all of our truths is a healing and revealing process. It's not just about our brains! Neurodivergence is about functioning differently from neuronormativity and social norms, not only divergent ways of thinking. The hosts share their experiences as to when and how they unp...
2023-04-0127 minNeuroinclusion#19 "Embracing the Neurodivergent Umbrella and Neurodiversity Paradigm" with Sonny Jane WiseSonny Jane Wise, the Lived Experience Educator, is a multiply neurodivergent advocate and the author of their upcoming book "The Neurodivergent Umbrella". They come to us today from Australia with brilliant thoughts and feelings about the neurodiversity paradigm, the difference between neurodiversity and neurodivergence, and why neurodivergence is far more about our mindbodies and how we function than how our brains are wired. We share ideas about reducing pathologizing language, challenging the DSM, supporting self-diagnoses, and why there should be less gatekeeping and more umbrellas with regards to the intended inclusivity of neurodivergence. Sonny shares their visions of...
2023-02-1529 minNeuroinclusion#18: "Shift Your Neurodivergent Mindset" with Jaime MessinaIf you could use some Boston-style, no BS advice about how to love on your neurodivergent self, shift your mindset, and live the life you desire, have a listen to this episode with Jaime Messina, mindset and empowerment coach. Jaime explains why and how our brains brain as they do and how their primary purpose is to keep us safe. Because our brains can't tell the difference between what we are imagining and what is happening at real time, we have the ability to shift our mindset and, in turn, shift our lives. She offers clear and...
2023-02-0826 minNeuroinclusion#17: "Impact of ADHD and RSD on Relationships"Pasha Marlowe, MFT, AuDHD and Neuroqueer Coach, specializes in coaching neurodivergent couples where one or both is ADHD and/or autistic. Her online program "Same Bed, Different Brains" has helped many couples move from the brink of divorce to a place of deeper understanding, acceptance, and intimacy. Pasha's coaching and teaching style is collaborative, inclusive, queer-friendly, sex and trauma informed, and often humorous. In this "hard love" episode, Pasha reveals personal and professional insights on the impact of ADHD and RSD (Rejection Sensitivity Dysphoria) on a relationship. She explores common dynamics seen in neurodivergent couples, such as the...
2023-02-0336 minNeuroinclusion#16: "Broadening DEI Work to Include Intersectional Identities and Neurodiversity" with Jessi PurdyJessi Purdy is an activist, public speaker, and the CEO of FIC Human Resource Partners, an organization that fosters inclusive cultures through policy, training, and discussion. Her identity as a panromantic, asexual, transwoman is central to her life and work. In this episode, Jessi and I discuss how DEI work is broadening to include intersectional identities and neurodiversity, including recognizing neurodivergent people as assets to an organization, as long as they are able to function authentically and are not confined by neurotypical standards and expectations. Jessi offers advice to organizations on how they can use the...
2023-01-2533 minNeuroinclusion#15: "ADHD, Anxiety, and How to Stop Worrying" with Sandy WoznickiJoin Pasha Marlowe, Neuroqueer Coach and Sandy Woznicki, Stress and Anxiety Coach, for a conversation on ADHD, Anxiety, and why we worry. We talk about the correlations and differences between ADHD and anxiety and how the conditions often manifest as ruminations, intrusive thoughts, and hyperfocusing. Sandy explains how anxiety is fear based and why worrying to problem solve is not a useful strategy. She suggests strategies such as being mindful and present, changing your inner monologue, and building a habit-belief structure. You can watch all of our episodes on youtube https://www.youtube.com/c/Pa...
2023-01-1833 minNeuroinclusion#14: "Neuroqueering Sex and Surrogate Partnership" with Michelle Renee Michelle Renee is a surrogate partner, professional cuddler, and full-spectrum intimacy guide for human connection, working inside the complete spectrum of intimacy, from platonic to erotic. In collaboration with a therapist, surrogate partners help clients who struggle with intimacy, body shame, sexual dysfunction, new gender or sexual identify, and relationships. They help their clients communicate their needs better, teach sensate focus, and offer experiences like mirroring to become more comfortable with their bodies. Michelle talks about queering sex, moving away from the traditional ways of talking about or exploring sex. She even gives some great tips...
2023-01-0738 minNeuroinclusion#13 "Pleasure Through Unmasking and Bodyfulness" with Dr Rachel AllynDr. Rachel Allyn, is a licensed clinical psychologist specializing in relationships and and the author of the book "The Pleasure Is All Yours". She is back on my podcast for a 2nd time, this time talking about intimacy and bodyfulness through the lens of neurodiversity. We discussed the impact of hormones, menopause, unmasking, sensory issues, and bodyfulness on our ability to give and receive pleasure and comfort. Dr. Allyn and I share our personal stories of how menopause affected our ADHD journeys and how those challenges inspired our work. To follow or reach out to Dr...
2022-12-3129 minNeuroinclusion#12 "Queering Time" with Kai NorthcottEnjoy this beautiful and inspiring conversation about how we can queer time and have the experience of living with our natural rhythms in natural time, rather than clock time. Kai Northcott (they/them/xe/xem) helps neurodivergent professionals design their time to improve executive function. Kai has explored opposite ends of many spectrums, including that of time after an extended period of living in the outdoors.The natural cycles of each day and each year provide an 8-part model that we can use as a blueprint t...
2022-12-2720 minNeuroinclusion#11 "Work Smarter, Not Harder with ADHD" with Aron Croft of Hidden ADHDAron Croft, MS, is a Harvard-educated coach and the owner of Hidden ADHD. He specializes in inattentive ADHD and helps ADHD minds move beyond the struggle of motivation and willpower and tap into the power of momentum. Aron encourages us to be in alignment, work smarter not harder, and to realize what fuels us and keeps us in the flow. He generously shares his "3S Activation" method and the brain hacks he teaches his group coaching clients. Hint: You want to connect with people that you care about and that care about you. To learn abo...
2022-12-2223 minNeuroinclusion#10 "Parenting Our Queer Children With Courage and Curiosity " with Dr. Tarryn MacCarthyDr. Tarryn MacCarthy is a mom to 3 queer kids, an orthodontist, a happiness mindset coach, podcast host, and visionary. She eloquently and vulnerably shares her journey of raising and advocating for her queer children. Just in time for the holiday season, we talk about navigating coming out and conversations about sexuality and gender with extended family, teachers, therapists, friends, partners and ourselves. Encouraging open conversations about sex, sexuality, and gender, we share tips to bringing up issues of queerness on a daily basis with curiosity, rather than shame or fear. Tarryn explores her own past subtle internalized tr...
2022-12-1631 minNeuroinclusion#9 "Imposter Syndrome in Neurodivergent and Queer Communities" with Lou SzodyComing to you from Colorado Springs in the wake of the Club Q shooting, Lou Szody of Unconditional ADHD coaching, leads with vulnerability and unconditional acceptance and explains how "when something happens to one person in our community, it happens to all of us". We discuss how imposter syndrome and trauma triggers are prevalent in the neuroqueer community and how we can advocate for ourselves better and ask for the accommodations we need. To help families and survivors of Club Q:https://www.coloradogives.org/donate/COHealingFundhttps://www.gofundme.com/f/support-for-the-club-q-families-and-survivors...
2022-12-0534 minNeuroinclusion#8 "Queering Giftedness" with Dr. Matt ZakreskiDr. Matt Zakreski (who was fortunate enough to have Maya Angelou as a professor!) is a doctor of psychology, professor, speaker, and the creator of the Neurodiversity Collective. In this episode, Dr. Matt joins me for a spirited conversation about giftedness, ableism, privilege, sex/intimacy, and the unique challenges of twice and thrice exceptional kids. Students who consistently require intensive intervention (special education) and intensive enrichment (gifted education) beyond the general classroom are traditionally referred to as 2e students. Gifted education considers other learning exceptionalities to include, but not limited to autism, ADHD, and dyslexia. The 3e...
2022-12-0141 minNeuroinclusion#7: "Midlife Women Gone Wild, Neurodivergent, and Queer and Ready to Burn Things Down"A spontaneous and raw solo episode packed with vulnerability and courage. This is my most personal and favorite episode yet and one that I believe will speak to midlife women who are considering "burning it all down" (systems, institutions, careers, marriages) in the name of justice, authenticity, and pleasure!If you or someone you love has gone through deep transformation over these past years and has moved through anxiety, trauma, hormonal changes, and identity changes, this episode is for you. And if you, like me, came out recently as neurodivergent (ADHD/Autism) and queer/LGBTQIA+ and are...
2022-11-2019 minNeuroinclusion#6 "The Opposite of Compassion is Comparison" with Patrick DodsonPatrick Dodson, philosopher, coach, counsellor, author, and Ted Talk speaker, joins me (all the way from New Zealand) to discuss diversity and differences from the lens of identity, multiple-intelligences, and compassion. He describes inside-out orientation and shares identity mind-mapping tools to help you celebrate your diversities more and improve your sense of agency. To learn more about Patrick, visit http://www.patrickdodson.co.nz (questionnaire you can use with family/friends) or https://www.dodsoncoaching.nz. You can also read his books "The Identity Project" and "The Kitchen Sink".pashamarlowe.comSupport the sho...
2022-11-1441 minNeuroinclusion#5 "Unmasking Masking" with Dylan AlterDylan Alter (they/them) is a queer theorist, farmer, previous lawyer, and teacher. They are also the person who introduced me to the concept of neuroqueering! Dylan explains their theory on the challenges of accessing meds, adult ADHD, masking, cultural diplomacy, and more. This episode was cut short at the end as our zoom froze, so pardon the unconventional editing. That's neuroqueering, ADHD, and embracing the mess for you! To reach Dylan, visit neuroqueer.org (website and IG)Connect with Pasha:GROUP COACHING starts on Nov. 7, 2022: https://pashamarlowe...
2022-11-0826 minNeuroinclusion#4 - "Embodying Neuroqueer Joy" with KJ KelschKJ Kelsch (they/them) is a neurology-focused mobility restoration specialist & strength coach based at J Bodyworks in San Francisco. They're passionate about helping queer, trans, non-binary & neurodiverse people of all stripes embody their superpowers through therapeutic, empowered movement. In today’s episode, KJ and Pasha talk about embodiment through the lens of neurodiversity. KJ encourages us to embrace our differences, move the way our body craves to move, and navigate the environment as we choose. They remind us how important sleep, rest, and staying in our neuroqueer joy is. Learn more about KJ:IG: ...
2022-11-0226 minNeuroinclusion#3 - Pleasure, Humor, and Rest as ActivismPasha shares her journey from grief to neuroqueering by way of humor, rest, and pleasure activism. These radical forms of activism teach us to consciously choose to experience pleasure, to explore rest as resistance, and to heal through laughter in the community. Show notes:[1:51] Diving deeper into the meaning of neuroqueering[5:20] Looking back to when I started my first podcast: Let Pleasure Be The Measure[8:14] Comedy is a challenge for me, but it gives me a new perspective and breeds connection[10:54] Defining pleasure activism[13:19] When pleasure and rest become fuel or a...
2022-10-2616 minNeuroinclusion#2 - Coming Out Again and Again with Eric TiversI always knew I wanted Eric Tivers, ADHD Rewired host, to be my first Neuroqueering guest. Eric epitomizes everything I love about the open-heartedness of neurodiverse and queer communities. We talked about how we came out as queer in our hetero-facing relationships, how we see our sexuality through the lens of our neurodivergence, and how gender feels ever fluid and evolving for us. Somehow, we ended up talking and singing like muppets. That’s neuroqueering for you! Hope you feel less alone and pee laughing listening to this episode.Reach Eric Tivers at:Website: https://www.ad...
2022-10-1947 minNeuroinclusionWelcome to Neuro Queering: Beyond the Intersection of Neurodiversity and QueernessThe word NEUROQUEER goes beyond the intersection of neurodiversity and queerness. Neuroqueering is the practice of queering (subverting, defying, disrupting, liberating oneself from) neuronormativity and heteronormativity simultaneously. Through the lens of the neurodiversity paradigm and the social model and in conversations with neurodiversity-affirming professionals, we are going to challenge, rethink, and reframe systems and institutions. What I love about neuroqueering is that it is also about being in our pleasure, tapping into our curiosity and creativity. This podcast is hosted by Pasha Marlowe (she/her), MFT, Neuroqueer/AuDHD Coach, queer autistic and adhd woman, mama bear to 3, an...
2022-10-1205 minNeuroinclusion#1 - The Neurodiversity Paradigm vs. Pathology Paradigm and Why Words MatterWords are tools. Our language helps shape our thoughts and perceptions of ourselves and others. In this episode, we will learn how to stop pathologizing neurodivergence by embracing the neurodiversity paradigm, which states there is no “normal” or “right” style of the human brain or mind, any more than there is no “normal” or “right” ethnicity, sexuality, gender, or culture. Also, a brief introduction to what it means to neuroqueer. Show notes:[1:03] Hello, I AM…[3:34] What is a paradigm?[4:40] What are the pathology and neurodiversity paradigms?[7:09] The neurotypicals and the neurodivergent[9:15] What is neurodivergence...
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Neuroinclusion#65 "A Bittersweet Goodbye" The Final EpisodeThe new NEUROQUEERING Podcast launched today. Check out the first episode. THIS IS THE FINAL "Let Pleasure Be the Measure Podcast". After 65 episodes and 10K downloads in 34 countries, Pasha has decided to say goodbye to the "Let Pleasure Be the Measure" podcast. Her international ADHD coaching practice has taken off and she is going to focus on serving the neurodiverse community. In this episode, she summarizes her experiences over the last couple years and how the "Let Pleasure Be the Measure" podcast came to be. She shares updates on her son's health, marriage, sexuality, and career. It...
2022-04-2013 minNeuroinclusion#63 "All Experiences Are Beautiful Experiences" with Michael VukelicWelcome Michael Vukelic, success coach, speaker, and author of "Let Go Of the Shit Show". Many A-ha moments here, friends. My Aha was when Michael said "We are taking in and experiencing exactly what we want to experience." Yes, even those hard moments. He beautifully and brilliantly teaches us in this episode: *How you can move through the world with less fear *How you can let go of the fear and find your pleasure *How the mind is reacting and creating our lives*Why we have to become stronger than our ol...
2022-01-2840 minNeuroinclusion#62 "Laugh Till Tears Run Down Your Legs" with Carla WhiteThis is not your daughter's podcast! This one is for midlife women who have been through life's SHITASTROPHIES and have come out the other side with a sense of humor and a fierce zest for life. Get ready to laugh about death, chronic overthinking, and wordle! And a bonus braless dance party at the end! Yes, you can ALWAYS watch my episodes on YouTube as well! You are going to love Carla White! Carla is a wellness expert, a humourist (with a U since she is from Canada), and speaker. She previously worked i...
2022-01-2851 minNeuroinclusion#61: "The Vibration of Love" with Stephanie and Jennifer PagewiseJennifer and Stephanie PageWise are Quantum Relationship Coaches who work with the LGBTQ+ community. Their mission is to bring more love to the world, one relationship at a time. They focus on creating holy relationships through teaching self-love, boundaries and communication. The foundation of their work is encouraging clients to find their authentic selves based on their unique spiritual path. Stephanie and Jennifer, a married couple themselves, have identified the major components that go wrong in relationships and have developed tools to help people learn the ways to have true intimacy and build rock-solid relationships. W...
2021-12-1433 minNeuroinclusion#60 "Toasters In the Bathtub" with Meredith Steele/@babiesofsteeleHANDS DOWN, my new favorite episode! I want Meredith Steele (IG @babiesofsteele) to come to laugh and pee at my house everyday. She's from central coastal Maine and so am I. She likes coffee and animals and so do I. She can't do tech and neither can I. So, already we should be best friends, right? But, we also share deeper connections. We both have struggled through mental illnesses and suicidal ideation. We both believe in releasing our truths to decrease shame. We both get fan mail and packages...
2021-11-2055 minNeuroinclusion#59 "Divorce, Dating, and ADHD" with Natalie NolanIn today's episode we are talking about relationships, parenting, divorce, dating, and sex through the lens of ADHD.Lucky you! You get Pasha Marlowe, a Marriage and Family Therapist and ADHD coach AND Natalie Nolan, an ADHD divorce coach, in one episode!First we share our family journeys from ADHD diagnosis and management to the demise and rebuilding of relationships. Natalie explains how ADHD affected her marriage and was one of the aspects that led to her divorce. She and I talk about the parent/child marriage dynamic, parenting, repeated relationship patterns, desire discrepancies, people...
2021-11-2047 minNeuroinclusion#58 "If We Are Not Known, We Are Alone" with Shari Foos, MFTShari Foos is a Marriage and Family Therapist and the founder of The Narrative Method. She and I have a vulnerable and lively discussion about our shared experiences as therapists, children with trauma, storytellers, and humorists. Shari's work is fascinating and in complete alignment with my philosophy and passions. This was a thrill for me to connect with another human on such a deep level. In this episode, you will learn about the power of a story from a new perspective. Shari first explains the difference between Narrative Therapy, Narrative Method, and Narrative Medicine, all of...
2021-11-1437 minNeuroinclusion#57-"Your empowered NO and expansive YES" with Sherysse MorrisNote: There is a brief audio issue where you will hear an echo ("pussy, pussy, pussy") and feedback, but it is quickly resolved. Thank you for your understanding. Did I mention I hate tech and fired my editor? LOL! My guest today is Sherysse Morris, a pleasure goddess and a feminine embodiment coach. She and I begin by diving into our love of pussy-the book, of course. Pussy: A Reclamation by Regena Thomashauer unleashed something in both of us and we have both created careers around the theme of the book-pleasure. Sherysse shares how the book he...
2021-10-1538 minNeuroinclusion#56 "Coming Out and Coming In" with Nancy ShadlockNancy Shadlock is a coming out coach and the host of The Coming Out Chronicles podcast. Interestingly, her work life began as a youth pastor and spiritual director. From her conservative Christian upbringing with missionary parents to coming out at 33, Nancy shares her unique path to finding her truth in the LGBTQ+ community. She has been an important part of my own coming out story, so I can speak to Nancy's abilities to hold sacred space for our secrets and deepest knowings. My favorite take away from working with her is the need to come out by coming in, co...
2021-09-2828 minNeuroinclusion#55 "Curiosity over Criticism" with Tracey O'ConnellTracey O'Connell, M.D. is an educator and a coach who primarily works with LGBTQ+ teens and families. She has been collaborating with Brene Brown's organization, Daring Way, and works as a Daring Way facilitator. The key components of these teachings are leading with courage, shame, vulnerability, authenticity, self-compassion, and resilience. These universal human themes provide a container for any mental health work, but are specifically useful for the LGBTQ community. In this episode, Tracey and I talk about how LGBTQ youth are often more "woke" and aware than non-marginalized youth. "They are the wisest, most trustworthy, a...
2021-09-2840 minNeuroinclusion#52 "The Pleasure, Hilarity, and Ache of Empty Nesting" with Christine MaziarzThis is an empowering, entertaining, and hilarious episode! Christine is an empty nest coach and the host of the Your Empty Nest Coach podcast. Her focus in on coaching parents before they empty nest, with the goal of the parent feeling whole on their own. Christine is such a pleasure. She is brilliant, compassionate, and funny. Plus, she laughs at all of my jokes, so I talk WAY too much during this episode. She and I have a heart warming conversation about how the whole family empty nests and grieves, including the pets. I share how...
2021-09-1740 minNeuroinclusion#54 Bri McCorkell "Sensual Sobriety" Bri McCorkell is a mama, a woman in recovery, a warrior freed from addiction, and a sensual soul reclaiming her pleasure and light. She is also an intuitive healer, embodiment mentor and spiritual teacher who helps women and mamas all around the globe discover their Divine Blueprint, activate their full power and recreate a life that is truly theirs. Pleasure and pain abound in this raw and empowering episode about sensuality and sobriety. Bri and I talk about the moments on the bathroom floor when we scream "enough" to the moments where we stand naked, in our vu...
2021-09-1256 minNeuroinclusion#53 Lucia Pavone "Somatic Sexual Healing"Lucia Pavone is a pleasure instigator, permission grantor, rule breaker, international speaker, somatic sex educator and sensuality mentor. As a modern day temple priestess, she is passionate about supporting people to embody their sexuality, love their juicy bodies, free themselves from shame, heal sexual traumas and have a sex life worth bragging about.This was an eye-opening conversation about breaking the cycles of ancestral pleasure and sexuality patterns, somatic sexual healing, womb space trauma, body scanning, larynx-cervix connection, pleasure activism, clitoral atrophy, magic mushrooms, and how to incorporate men into the pleasure conversation. Beyond issues of erectile dysfu...
2021-09-1254 minNeuroinclusion#51-"Midlife Dating, Body Shame, and 3 Different Types of Orgasms?!"Felicia Burnett is a midlife dating and relationship coach. She helps people improve their dating skills by identifying what (and who!) they are looking for and demystify the dating process so they can get off to the right start in their next relationship—without repeating the same mistakes and patterns that have frustrated them in the past. Felicia has been single, married, and divorced, so she has a personal and professional understanding of love and loss. She went on 100 first dates to meet her latest partner and came out realizing her own part in the damaging relationship patterns of...
2021-09-1257 minNeuroinclusion#50 My 50th! A paradoxical SOLO episode with Pasha MarloweI am going unscripted, unfiltered, and raw for my 50th podcast episode!Pasha, in a rare SOLO episode, goes EVERYWHERE and leaves little unsaid. She talks about how she is working to embrace her paradoxical, anxious, and quirky self.Introducing the art of Kintsugi, Pasha explains how our scars and imperfections are where the light comes in and how you can reframe traumas into gifts.She vulnerably reveals stories about her times in college, balls, sex, surgery, PTSD, self worth, parenting, cars, math, illness, play, marriage, infidelity, sexuality, body shame, self loathing, e...
2021-09-0333 minNeuroinclusion#49 Sarah Zimmerman "HAKUNA MY TATAS"This hilarious episode, "Hakuna My Tatas", is a chance for you to feel deeply seen and, at the same time, feel like an inconspicuous fly on the wall as two bosom buddies gab about boobs, marriage, and men...but mostly boobs. They cause all the worries!Meet my friend Sarah Zimmerman! She is a freelance writer, author, blogger, humorist, and co-moderator of the wildly popular Untamed FB book group. She is also one of the wittiest people I know and, I brag, a graduate of my ROAR therapeutic comedy program. I'm going to pretend I helped h...
2021-08-031h 10Neuroinclusion#48 "Belong WITH, Not TO" with Tracie JaeTracie Jae is the Quiet Rebel. She believes the world can be a better place if we focus on human to human interaction. As the Lead Rebel for the Quiet Rebel, she curates authentic, grace-filled conversations centered on difficult subjects. Her current offering is a national, growing and ongoing conversation on race and culture known as the 100 Voices Project. In this powerful episode, we talked about a WIDE variety of topics from systemic racism and equity o marriage and divorce to bubbles and pie. Despite all the hard advocacy work we need to be doing, Tracie also re...
2021-08-0347 minNeuroinclusion#47: "Pelvic Wisdom, Birth Stories, and Incontinence" with Dr. Emily WilsonDr. Emily Wilson is a pelvic floor physical therapist and the founder of Pelvic Wisdom in Portland, Maine. She specializes in prenatal and postnatal psychology, spiritual trauma, and birth healing. Her passion is in helping women heal from the "taboo" conditions associated with the pelvic floor that our culture doesn't like to talk about. This episode is packed with pelvic wisdom! Yes, we talk about incontinence, strengthening AND softening the pelvic floor, and how we can reclaim our pleasure (and maybe spend less time on the toilet). And we go deeper. We talk about cyclical patterns of b...
2021-08-0340 minNeuroinclusion#46 "Playing With Our Trauma" with Nina GarciaNina Garcia is a DRAMA THERAPIST! That's a thing and I am so glad Nina is doing this powerful work. Drama therapy offers a framework, a safe container to explore and express all of our emotions and traumas. We had a fascinating conversation about being powered vs empowered. These ideas will challenge you (hooray for learning and unlearning!) Hint: We want more empowered responses:) Nina and I talk trauma, PTSD, safety, identity, intimacy, mental health, stigma, and neurodiversity. She shares a personal story and why identity is particularly important for her to work and play with. ...
2021-07-2250 minNeuroinclusion#45 "Pleasure Activism and Bodyfulness" with Dr. Rachel AllynDr. Rachel Allyn is a holistic psychologist, relationship and sex therapist, yoga teacher, and author of the new book The Pleasure Is All Yours. In this podcast episode, Dr. Allyn and I discuss pleasure activism, pleasure practices, and how reclaiming our pleasure is an act of rebellion. We talk about the limiting beliefs, societal constructs, and judgements that block our path to pleasure and bodyfulness, a practice that connects our nature wisdom with our physical, psychological, and social needs. By weaving together historical and cultural commentary, humorous and poignant anecdotes, and experiential tools backed by sc...
2021-07-2142 minNeuroinclusion#44 Nicole Fevrier Davis "Embodied Enlightenment"Welcome, Nicole Fevrier Davis, the psychic trainer! Nicole and I bonded quickly. Both of us are personal trainers and mind-body fitness experts. I identify as a holistic personal trainer and Nicole as a psychic trainer. We both believe that fitness and wellness go far beyond the body, mind, and spirit as we know it. Fascinatingly, just as I seamlessly incorporate therapeutic comedy and pleasure practices into my fitness work, Nicole weaves energy healing, psychic readings, and angel messages into hers. Nicole explains the ornate and intricate system of our soul and body connection. Through psychic rea...
2021-07-1142 minNeuroinclusion#43 Sandee Sgarlata "Choosing Happiness In the Face of Grief"I had the pleasure of speaking with Sandee Sgarlata, Author of "Happiness Solved", host of the "Happiness Solved" Podcast, and America's Happiness Coach. We talked about happiness, obviously, but also grief, because that's how life is. Sandee's happiness work was inspired by trauma, which I could relate to. I find it so beautiful when we can transform pain into purpose and pleasure. Sandee shares her experience of losing her older brother when she was 12 and how her grief led her down a path of PTSD, anxiety, and drug use. Just as I worried that pleasure wa...
2021-06-2031 minNeuroinclusion#42 Sarah MacLaughlin "Raising Humans With Heart"Sarah MacLaughlin is a phenomenal friend, social worker, parent educator, and author. Her latest book, "Raising Humans With Heart", is about raising whole-hearted children from our personal heart space as adults with our unique history and lens. In this episode, we dive into universal parenting topics, such as how to navigate boundaries, conflict resolution, self care, sexuality, inclusion, and play. I especially enjoyed Sarah's perspective on the boundary dance-how parents can set firm and kind boundaries and change our minds with authority. We discussed how to bring more pleasure, play, and self care into our liv...
2021-06-2032 minNeuroinclusion#41 Ali Hendry "Are jealousy and passion good bedfellows?"Ali Hendry is a holistic relationship coach, corporate trainer, and performer based in the UK. She currently works with womxn, especially those that identify with the LGBTQ+ community. Ali believes that when we approach life with compassion and curiosity, we cultivate happiness and holistic wellness. We had a thoughtful conversation about inclusion, holistic philosophy, therapy, passion, jealousy, friendships, fear of abandonment, embodied emotions, and relationship contracts. We delved into the juicy topics of jealousy, envy, and compersion and how they play out in friendships, monogamous, and non-monogamous relationships. I was particularly intrigued by the idea of...
2021-06-1636 minNeuroinclusion#40-Jillian Bolanz: "The Pleasure of Cyclical Living"Jillian Bolanz is an intuitive life coach who helps women achieve a deep connection to their inner truth by living in alignment with the seasons and sabbats, the moon cycle, and divine feminine embodiment, so they can live their life in flow, not force. This was a fascinating and empowering conversation about cyclicality, motherhood, witches, and archetypes. Turns out that I am a wise wild woman archetype (somewhere between being a mother and being a crone) so it makes sense that I would focus on pleasure and play at this time in my life! And Jillian is a...
2021-06-1256 minNeuroinclusion#38-Judy Corasaniti "The common denominator is YOU!"Judy is the author of "Bridge of Hope", an international speaker, and a dancing mindfulness facilitator. With her Masters in Business Administration, she also teaches Economics and Finance....but don't let that fool you, as it did me (math and I don't get along). Judy can talk money, trauma, duality, and sports in the same breath. She lights up with pleasure when we talk about vulnerability as much as she lights up when we talk about statistics. She is my favorite type of client and friend-someone willing to unpack all the shit, then repack it over and over...
2021-05-2739 minNeuroinclusion#39-Sophie Luxton "Victimhood to Pleasurehood"The pleasure revolution is alive and well! Where are you on the "aliveness" scale? Even if you are moving through grief, trauma, or homeschooling, you are very much alive and present to your human experience. But can we create room for PLEASURE, even on difficult days? You bet! We need to move from victimhood to pleasurehood (yes, I made up that word as a combination of pleasure and motherhood) and take our power back! Sophie Luxton is the creator of the SPIRITUAL STRIPTEASE and has declared herself the Mistress of Epic Self Care. She break...
2021-05-2648 minNeuroinclusionEpisode 37: Laura Zam-"Soulful Sexual Healing"Episode 37: "Soulful Sexual Healing" Laura Zam, the author of "The Pleasure Plan", is a trauma professional and pleasure warrior.The daughter of a Holocaust survivor, Laura feels the responsibility to live a full life of purpose and pleasure, in honor of those who's lives were taken from them. She married at 46, after 3 decades of searching for love and healing from past trauma and sexual abuse. She relentlessly sought out healing professionals and tried 30 different healing modalities, including an interactive masturbation workshop with the one and only pleasure educator, Betty Dodson, which she describes in exquisite detail. H...
2021-05-1739 minNeuroinclusion#36-Holly Hartman "Have an Affair with Yourself"Holly Hartman is the best selling author of "I AM: How to Release the Shame of Narcissistic Abuse", a Life Transformation and Recovery Coach, Domestic Violence Advocate, and Podcaster. She and I talk about the importance of solo dating, having an affair with yourself, whether you are single or in partnership. Solo dating is an act of self discovery and act of heroic self love. Like me, Holly learned to love herself from a grief place. Our pain is our purpose. Her catalyst moment was the experience of domestic violence. She explains her journe...
2021-05-1232 minNeuroinclusion#35-Maureen Darling "Inherited Wisdom"Maureen Darling and I are therapists and coaches, so we see pleasure through the lens of what is therapeutic for our clients. This episode covers a broad range of topics from inherited wisdom and trauma to learning to receive pleasure. We normalize mental health issues and neurodivergence as well as interventions such as medication. Maureen describes how women often have difficulty recognizing individual gifts and abilities, especially during times of anxiety and depression. She talks about helping women "connect the dots", weaving in wisdom and experiences from the past and the present to create a life that feels both...
2021-05-0830 minNeuroinclusion#34-Amy Angelilli "Pleasure is Laughter Yoga, Improv, and Playing With Yourself!"I CRAVE conversations like this to raise my vibrations. I imagine you may need a little pleasure and joy pick me up as well. This episode with Amy Angelilli, CEO of the Adventure Project, is a whole-hearted conversation about the gifts of laughter yoga, improvisation, and play. Play is transformational and allows you to become the best version of yourself. Amy shows you how simple and fun improv games can change your perspective and remind you of who you are. No, you don't have to be funny. Dare to be dull!Amy and I talk abo...
2021-05-051h 00Neuroinclusion#33-Regan Figg "Pleasure is Practicing Sensuality"Regan Figg is a Pleasurepreneur and Feminine Embodiment Coach based in Australia. Her accent alone makes this an episode a pleasure to listen to! Regan and I share a beautiful conversation about women in their ultimate power, motherhood, and how to create space for pleasure and connection. She shares the moment when she let go of outside guidance, dropped into her body, and surrendered to the pain and pleasure of birthing. Regan mindfully creates harmony in her business and family life by being clever with her time and practicing the art of sensuality. I found mysel...
2021-05-0151 minNeuroinclusion#32-SAMANTHA RAMSDELL-"TUNE IN to Your Inner Voice"Samantha Ramsdell is a friend and a brilliant comedian/performer, recently seen on the Ellen show and followed by over 1 million Tik Tok fans. She was named "One of the top 5 internet comedians to follow" and, get this, her hometown is MAINE! But what I admire most about Sam is NOT the enormous mouth that made her rich and famous, but her enormous heart. The woman behind the mouth, who was bullied because of her mouth, that turned her greatest pain into her greatest asset. She took back her power-bravely and beautifully. Samantha and I are kindred s...
2021-04-2740 minNeuroinclusion#31: Mollie Birney-"Pleasure is Presence, Parenthood, and Pancakes"Mollie Birney, MA, and Pasha Marlowe, MFT, talk about their journey blending therapy, coaching, and motherhood and how they bring pleasure practices into all aspects of their lives. Between talking about babies and pancakes, this pleasurable episode made me lactate and drool. Mollie shares vulnerably, clearly, and courageously about how she met her husband in recovery, struggled with an eating disorder, and got sucked into the thought that her worth was wrapped up in her ability to produce and serve. She beautifully describes how she now brings presence and more grace into her parenting, marriage, and self care pra...
2021-04-2633 minNeuroinclusion#30-GARY WARE-"PLAY SAVES LIVES, RELATIONSHIPS, AND BUSINESSES" Gary Ware is quite simply one of my favorite people on the planet. To know him is to love him.In this episode, Gary and I talk about how PLAY unexpectedly saved both of our lives. You have probably heard that the opposite of play is depression and perfection. Yes, And...We go quickly and deeply into conversation about our painful and pivotal catalyst moments that lead us to a place where we value PLAY and pleasure. Gary is masterful at encouraging companies/schools to use play to improve productivity, collaboration, and engagement. We discuss ho...
2021-04-2348 minNeuroinclusion#29 - Kelli Tennant - “Threesomes: Fearing Abandonment and Surrendering to Pleasure”So, I did the scary and brave thing, Y’all. I asked Kelli Tennant to be on my podcast and she said YES! Yes, this is the same Kelli Tennant who was a college athlete and famous sports reporter who covered the Lakers and Dodgers. Yes, THE Kelli Tennant of “The Kelli Show” and the “Yes, Babe” podcast. Yes. The Kelli of the IG Pleasure Channel with 31.5K followers. Yes. The one with all the sexy, half-naked photos that make you drool. Yes. Kelli Tennant who is an Intuitive Facilitator, Reiki and Hypnosis Practitioner, Women’s Circle Facilitator...
2021-04-2153 minNeuroinclusion#28 - Pantea Kalhor - "The TRAUMA, FERTILITY, and CREATIVITY Connection"Today’s episode is a whole-hearted conversation about trauma, infertility, and how creativity can be a surprising and pleasurable path to our healing. I certainly resonated with how creativity could feel life-saving, as my therapeutic comedy work proved more effective than decades of traditional medicine and therapy. As a #1 bestseller author, Certified PTSD, CBT, and Fertility coach, Pantea Kalhor explains how she could conceive naturally over forty of age after over 2 years of struggling with fertility issues, unsuccessful fertility treatments, and been diagnosed with unexplained infertility. She started her research to find the root cause of her is...
2021-04-1935 minNeuroinclusion#27 - Leigh Kellis and Pasha Marlowe - “Have Your Cake and Eat it Too!”If you have ever been to Maine, you have likely eaten lobster, a whoopie pie, and a HOLY DONUT. In today’s episode “Have Your Cake and Eat it Too”, I am thrilled to bring you the founder of the Holy Donut empire, Leigh Kellis, as she reveals her new book “The Love Diet” AND details of our collaborative pleasure retreats, starting summer 2021. This episode will make you DROOL and DESIRE! We talk about food, sex, and love. We talk about self-worth, wanting, and wanting more. We talk about having our cake and eating it too...maybe with a donu...
2021-04-1731 minNeuroinclusion#26 - Jeff Harry - “The Opposite of Perfection is PLAY!”Jeff Harry is an International Speaker & Positive Psychology Play Whisperer at Rediscover Your Play. He has worked with Google, Microsoft, Southwest Airlines, Adobe, the NFL, Amazon and Facebook, helping their staff to infuse more play into the day-to-day. Jeff was selected by Engagedly as one of the Top 100 HR Influencers of 2020 for his organizational development work around addressing toxicity in the workplace. His playwork has been featured in the New York Times, AJ+, SoulPancake, the SF Chronicle, and CNN.Jeff believes that we already have many of the answers we seek, and by simply unleashing our...
2021-04-1349 minNeuroinclusion#25 - Rebecca Weiner - “You Are Enough”If you are a parent, teacher, or human, PLEASE give yourself the gift of listening to this episode. You will leave feeling seen, heard, and known. You will release shame and judgment. You will hear that your best is enough. Believe it. Give yourself that grace. There is pleasure in living the human experience while being held in a safe and empathetic space. Rebecca Weiner is a dynamic educator, parent coach, and creator of Learn Play Grow Educational Consulting. She uses a strength-based approach to enrich learning through play, support children with diverse...
2021-04-1244 minNeuroinclusion#24 - Emily Aborn - “Go To The Mattresses For Yourself”Emily Aborn is a content writer, the owner of the She Built This community, and a WICKED FUNNY friend. This episode will feel like you are at a slumber party with a couple of your best girlfriends, talking about marriage, work, animals, self-care, and of course, PLEASURE. Emily talks about how she enjoys pleasure through all of her senses (especially sound), movement, and playing jeopardy. Our conversation is also an accurate behind-the-scenes perspective of what it is like to be an entrepreneur and podcast host while learning to be our own best client. Just as...
2021-04-1041 minNeuroinclusion#23 - Ari Tuckman -”ADHD+Dishes=Sex!”Ari and Pasha have a lively conversation about sex and intimacy when one or both partners has ADHD. Pasha embarrassingly, and not surprisingly, overshares about her own marriage, as both she and her husband live with ADHD. Ari refers to his fascinating 2015 study on sex and ADHD and outlines key principles for great sex life. He suggests being as intentional about your sex life as you are in your exercise routine. Keep reminding yourself, he says, that the first few sets of weights don’t necessarily feel good, but after a while, you get into it. Likewise, th...
2021-04-0737 minNeuroinclusion#22 - Janice Burt- ”No More Playing Small”Janice is one of my favorite inspirational speakers. She wears her heart on her sleeve and is so deeply in touch with her emotional body, she is often close to tears when she speaks. Janice goes directly to the places that scare her and enjoys busting through her limiting beliefs, trying radical things like working through body shame by entering a bodybuilding competition or working through her beliefs about her sense of humor by joining a comedy group. We have a fascinating conversation about competition, comparison, people-pleasing, trauma responses, and female friendships. We laugh about how neither...
2021-04-0538 minNeuroinclusion#21 - My Next Husband Will be a LesbianPasha is back with another solo episode. Deep breaths...this one is intimate and expansive. She reveals secrets about her recent coming out process and her new book “My Next Husband Will be a Lesbian”. While sharing radical truths is empowering and liberating, it is also vulnerable, courageous, and terrifying. Despite it all, Pasha is ready to expose the “messy middle” as she reads the first chapter of her book, a personal account of her sexual revelations. If lines like “fantasies of scissoring plague me” freak you out, you may not want to listen to or watch this episode...
2021-04-0321 minNeuroinclusion#20 - Jo Visser - “Dry Vulvas, Puffy Knees, and Queefs...Oh, My!”Jo Visser is a perimenopause/menopause coach and a comedian who enjoys wearing f*ck you boots and matching knickers (she’s so proper). This episode is a hootenanny! Jo and I basically normalize everything uncomfortable, odd, and gross about being a menopausal woman in this juicy conversation. We laugh our asses off about sex (and the lack thereof), anxiety, and incontinence. We talk about being less apologetic and more inclusive. We talk about embracing our flaws and celebrating our worthiness. You WILL feel a sense of relief, empowerment, and belonging after hearing th...
2021-03-3139 minNeuroinclusion#19 - Lori Varsames - “EAT, PLAY, LOVE”Lori Varsames, Personal and Professional Coach, lives a life of pleasure and adventure in Sonoma, CA. I basically drooled throughout this podcast as she talked about her beautiful home, her partner (who is an adventure guide!), and her experiences in Italy, France (as a bicycle guide!), and New Mexico. Lori is embracing midlife in the time of a pandemic with a sense of deep curiosity and gratitude. She is exploring the Italian language, horticulture, cooking, slow eating, and savoring wine. Life is a feast, after all! Eat.PLAY...Love! Lori defines pleasure as “living into your joy” and d...
2021-03-2934 minNeuroinclusion#18 - Meredith Richardson - “The Queen Saves Herself”Meredith Richardson, whose story was featured in Newsweek, is a midlife empowerment coach who used to work as a mediator. She talks about her catalyst moment, a terrifying attack and attempted kidnapping, and how she was able to bring her attacker to justice. After the attack, she divorced, left the country to wander the world, write a memoir, learn new languages, and create a new career for herself. To describe Meredith as empowering is an understatement! We talk about how to bring pleasure into our days, even when we are often triggered by past traumas. We go...
2021-03-2745 minNeuroinclusion#17 - Kirsten Milliken - “ADHD SUPERPOWERS!”What didn’t we talk about? We both have ADHD superpowers, after all.Enjoy this conversation about moving, creating space, meeting new friends, sticky notes, and anything NEW! We talk about letting go of shame about medications, learning abilities, and the way our brain works. Let’s learn to celebrate our uniqueness! Of course, there are different ways that ADHD presents, so it is important to note how it affects our relationships and social/sexual lives. My favorite part of the conversation is when we talk about using play to treat trauma and perfectionism and how to...
2021-03-2438 minNeuroinclusion#16 - Laughter Through TearsPasha’s first episode is raw and vulnerable. She explains why laughter through tears is her favorite emotion and her painful catalyst moment is revealed. She bravely shares details of her son’s chronic illness and how behind the scenes of the pleasure podcast is often quite messy and dark. She talks about how to sprinkle pleasure on even the hardest of days and describes her own personal pleasure practices (no, it is NOT yoga, baths, and masturbation). She shares the secret of why she was sad AND glad the pandemic happened when it did. Pasha tells the...
2021-03-2335 minNeuroinclusion#15 - Rachelle Ugalde - “Stand Tall, Tits Out!”“STAND TALL, TITS OUT”Rachelle Ugalde, host of “Real Talk” podcast, Life and Success Coach, and mother of 3 joins me for a whole-hearted conversation about vulnerability, visibility, and body shame. Rachelle bravely tells the story of her struggle with anxiety and depression, including fears of losing her mind. At her moment of deepest despair, she reached out to her husband and asked for help. She reminds us that no matter how gorgeous we are or how “perfect” our life appears, we can still be struggling and we must ask for help and find ways to shar...
2021-03-2039 minNeuroinclusion#14 - Jen Palko - “PLEASURE is an Inside Job”Join me for a soulful conversation with soulpreneur and author, Jen Palko, as we dive deep into issues around addiction, the law of attraction, and shame. Jen courageously reveals her journey of coming out later in life (and Catholic) while battling shame and a self-help book addiction. Through her compassion for those struggling with addiction and her experience in drug/alcohol rehab centers, Jen wrote the book “12 Step Guide for the Self-Help Book Addict”. She has a uniquely spiritual and soulful perspective on healing from the inside out. Enjoy. Jen Palko is a soulpreneur, content creator, and auth...
2021-03-1738 minNeuroinclusion#13 - Allison Wonders Gars - “Let The PLEASURE JUICES Flow!”What happens when two comedians play with their vulva (puppets)? The pleasure juices flow! Allison and I are talking creative juices AND orgasmic juices. We are starting a pleasure revolution, specifically for midlife women who are ready to be seen and heard. It is the year of the talking vulva, extra lubricant, and fingerless vibrators. Bring on the big magic and the big laughs as we release all kinds of tension in this episode! Allison Wonder Gars is a comedian, ted talk speaker coach, and pleasure professional. Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/allisonwondersEmail...
2021-03-1332 minNeuroinclusion#12 - Libby Bunten - “PLEASURE in TERROR and THRILL"I begin this episode by courageously reading from my personal diary about the day Libby inspired me to release years of body shame. We talk about the impact of one woman’s self approval and how a simple act of brave visibility can liberate many. We laugh about how alike we are in finding pleasure in things that both thrill and terrify us. “We teach best what we need most”, says Libby, who works in feminine leadership, and is working on becoming certified as an erotic blueprint coach and Jedi Sex Master. She has a superpower of being...
2021-03-1050 minNeuroinclusion#11 - Kim Ward - “SUICIDE, SEX, AND GOAT VAGINAS”Kim Ward is a master-level transformation coach, published author, and extraordinarily compassionate and hilarious human. This episode is “pee in your pants” funny and “take your breath away” heartbreaking. You will feel like you are in the room laughing and crying with us. Kim is “filterless” and fearless, which I adore. You will be inspired by vulnerable conversations about leadership, playing small, death, suicide, sex, and humor. You will also hear about goat vaginas, so enjoy that uproarious bit. Kim is raw, wild, and authentic, just as you would expect a goat gynecologist to be! Website: Life...
2021-03-0639 minNeuroinclusion#10 - Joli Hamilton - “PLEASURE, JEALOUSY, and COMPERSION”Joli is a mom of 7, has a PhD in Depth Psychology and works as a research psychologist, sex educator, and relationship coach. Her Ted Talk “The Opposite of Jealousy” is a must watch. What a fascinating conversation this was! Joli talked about how when we liberate pleasure, we can liberate ourselves from systems of oppression. She talks openly about her non-monogomous relationship and straight privilege. I shared my path, recently coming out as bisexual, which lead to a powerful conversation about shame and our willingness to be witnessed. My favorite part was learning about what comper...
2021-03-0347 minNeuroinclusion#9 - Jennifer Weissner - "RAISING SEXUALLY HEALTHY CHILDREN"Got kids and some unresolved shame of your own? Did you know that 75% of children wish they could talk to their parents about sex?Do you need some guidance on how to hold space for “taboo” conversations?Well, drop everything and listen to this podcast. Jennifer Wiessner is a widely sought-after sex therapist and I was so fortunate to have her on my podcast where she shared decades of wisdom about raising sexually healthy children. Her mission is to reduce shame, bring sexuality out of the darkness, and encourage parents to talk to their kids...
2021-02-2745 minNeuroinclusion#8 - Kit Murray-Maloney - "Ancient Pleasure Practices"The journey from trauma to pleasure can be excruciating at times. How can we slowly bring embodied practices and even ancient practices into our homelife? Kit Murray Maloney shares her beliefs on solo sex, orgasm, and yoni (vaginal) steaming saunas in this whole-hearted and compassionate conversation. For twenty years Kit Maloney has been an activist, academic, and entrepreneur committed to channeling her passion for gender equity into a celebration of women and yoni bodied folks embodied health and healing. She’s earned a Master's degree in Gender and Social Policy from the London School of Economics and ha...
2021-02-241h 02Neuroinclusion#7 - Angela Locashio - PLEASURE “Taboos”This was an expansive conversation with Angela Locashio, Clinical Sexologist. She and I have the unique perspective of life in the military (Angela a current military wife, Pasha prior in her first marriage) and other constructs that hold us back from full expression of self. We talk about moving through the stress cycle to prevent illness and pain, pleasure “taboos”, and the idea that you can’t have pleasure in the bedroom if you can’t find pleasure outside of the bedroom. Angela Locashio - Mama Pistachio - (she/her) is a Trauma-informed Educator, Certified...
2021-02-2038 minNeuroinclusion#6 - Megan Jo Wilson - “Skydiving, Basketballs, and Vibrators”THIS IS A BIG MOMENT FOR ME! MEGAN JO WILSON IS ON MY PODCAST! If anyone is curious how I became so empowered and brave, listen to this episode and meet MY PERSONAL COACH, Megan Jo Wilson. She is a phenomenal coach, a brilliant musician, a fierce mama, and a dear friend. She is the CEO of Megan Jo Wilson’s Rockstar Camp (which I am a graduate of, I brag), the leader of the No More Playing Small challenge (which I kicked ass in, I also brag), and the author of “Who the Fuck...
2021-02-1759 minNeuroinclusion#5 - When Pleasure "BUBBLES OVER" with Alexander JamesWho better to interview on the weekend of my fantastically fun coming-out party and my first book (eek!), than the FABULOUS Alexander James?! You are in for 45 minutes of pleasure, laughter, and effervescence! I highly recommend watching the interview on my youtube channel as well, to fully witness our colorful energy and enthusiasm. https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHIKCBH-7r-wwkvzRlVJGFA Alexander is known as the Queer Carl Jung and the Pioneer of Quantum Healing Coaching. He bubbles over with vibrancy, style, and intuitive wisdom. I could have talked to Alexander for h...
2021-02-1345 minNeuroinclusion#4 - Pleasure is Freedom to Expand and Work Anywhere Around the WorldYou are in for a treat when you listen to this interview with guest Nicola Doherty. Nicola has lived and worked in 66 different countries as a freelancer and she coaches others to do the same! Yes, she has figured out a way to do what I believe so many DREAM of, to be able to work and travel the world! That takes bringing pleasure to the workplace a whole new meaning! This lively conversation is all about possibilities, inclusion, expansion, and freedom! Plus, she has the sweetest accent ever. Enjoy. Where to find Nicola Doherty:FB...
2021-02-1030 minNeuroinclusion#3 - Pleasure is Gratitude, Connection, and Temper TantrumsPasha Marlowe, laughter and pleasure coach, talks to therapist and life coach, Jessica Martin about all things pleasure. They talk about speaking your secrets and desires out loud to release shame and how laughter and pleasure is your birthright. Jessica explains why pleasure goes hand in hand with gratitude, connection, and possibilities. You will even learn how to access pleasure through temper tantrums and laundry! Enjoy this lively and sensual conversation. Jessica Martin is a licensed mental health counselor and certified life coach who embraces the concept of collective wisdom. She collaborates with some of the many...
2021-02-0655 minNeuroinclusion#2: Pleasure Is...Power, Presence, And PolyamoryJoin Pasha Marlowe and her favorite sexologist, Krista Haapala, for a wholehearted conversation about accessing pleasure on difficult days, claiming our power and worth through body worshipping, being present to the simple pleasures in life, and the many options of inviting pleasure into our sex lives, including multiple partnering. Pasha also shares how grieving her son’s illness was a catalyst to her pleasure practices as she faced mortality and decided to reclaim her desires. More about Krista Haapala:As a consciousness guide, Krista supports humans of every stripe in creating fiercely fulfilling embodied li...
2021-01-3034 minNeuroinclusion#1: Pleasure PandemicWelcome to the first episode of Let Pleasure Be The Measure with me, Pasha Marlowe. I am so looking forward to talking to you about topics that I am passionate about. This podcast will allow you to open yourself up to pleasure and play, to focus on yourself, and to fill your own cup. I want to create a community of women and empower them to be seen, heard, and known --- freely! I hope you are as excited as I am, so make sure to subscribe and share this podcast with your friends and family.S...
2021-01-2318 minNeuroinclusionTrailer: Let Pleasure Be The Measure!Let Pleasure Be The Measure Support the showHIRE PASHA to SPEAK at your next training event or conference.Or hire her as your personal coach (1:1 and couples) https://pashamarlowe.com/To reach Pasha (and please do, as she loves to connect with listeners!): email pasha@pashamarlowe.comhttps://pashamarlowe.com/https://www.linkedin.com/in/pashamarlowe/https://www.instagram.com/neuroqueercoach/https://www.tiktok.com/@neuroqueercoachhttps://linktr.ee/pashamarlowe An easy way to support Pasha and her mission: https://w...
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